@@EFP.Elviria that's what happened to me when I used to pray for patience. I fo sho got tested many times over the years. I still have a ways to go but I am definitely more patient than I ever was when I was younger.
Whew! You are so right Tony & I never thought about it like that. In the past, things started off very sweet in the beginning. I was told I was like an angel. Then the cheating and lying started. I was being so desperate & trying so hard to make it work that I became combative & argumentative. I can’t believe I used to actually argue with men about them cheating, begging them to love me and be faithful. Thank God for growth!
I wish mothers would raise their sons better though, so their future wives won’t have to bite their tongue so much to maintain “peace”. Because women are held to these high standards of going to get the “bacon” AND coming home to be a wife, cook, cleaner, mom, etc. They don’t get much of a “pass”. Like what if the guy actually doesn’t know the basic things? I guess that’s what you meant by then leave, instead of nagging.
This is a good message. I’ve never thought about being the friend and building organically. I didn’t know any better. Now that I know better, I can do better 😊
What Tony says if you can't say Ouch, say Amen!!! Guilty as CHARGED in so MANY AREAS!!!🤦🏾♀️ Thanks for Deliverance! I was guilty of Pretty Privilege & my ex would say that I ALWAYS ACTED like the teacher! He would tell me, you NOT FUN NO MORE! He said I would ALWAYS HIGHLIGHT WHAT HE WAS DOING WRONG VS. HIM TRYING!🤦🏾♀️ After watching this video, I owe him a BIGGGG APOLOGY! Thanks @TonyGaskins... BTW, I'm currently on Chapter 5 of a Woman's Influence.
Listennnnnn 😂😂😂😂😂 I love me some Tony Gaskin but let’s be real I cannot take him serious all the time. The stuff he says be having me on the floor 😂😂😂😂😂 hollering!!!! It’s the fact that he say some of this stuff with a straight face and be dead serious!!! Like the big girl bringing the bean dip or the woman who have a nose like her daddy 😂😂😂😂 this man is more that a relationship coach, he needs to add comedian to the list 😂😂😂😂
In order to submit unto him he has to have submitted unto the lord himself. I'm not submitting to a lost demonic soul. Too many of them exist. I've been the submissive woman, the reciprocity wasn't there. I let god be God and let men be men but I can't heal narcissists.
This was so good. A woman needs to have a backbone or she becomes a doormat. I’m glad my ex situationship taught me I can still be me, but never again play about me
Whats sad to me is , woman who live with their boyfriends, no car to drive around herself etc its a recipe for disaster, you are not his wife and the men are looking elsewhere , its sad like tony said , a man will use you until he finds a replacement. I am glad im independent it makes our choices better, because we have own car and home so there is no control.
I think the thing a women needs most is to vet men better and understand a man looking for a wife (slave/servant) is out here in mass numbers. But a man who Is seeking to BE a good husband is rare. More grown boys out here than grown men. Must know the difference. Also, there is more to life ladies than acquiring a husband. Society tells women we are nothing without a husband, but if he is not a good man, he cannot be a good husband. TG is on point. Learn to walk away when those red flags are there. You see them. Stop ignoring them.
It’s true. The only men I’ll openly argue and debate with are my brothers. They still do get mad at me but a lot of times they’re stubborn and only see things from the male perspective so being silent doesn’t help anyone. Yes, I don’t curse nor raise my voice but I’ll be that “combative” woman. However a husband is a WHOLE different game. I can choose my husband but I can’t choose my sibling.
Male friends can be potential husbands so I would steer clear of them. Half half is good at times you can make a point but most times it’s better to stay chill.
This is interesting because I’ve noticed that the chics I see getting married more often are the Big chics. The BBWs. And to some pretty decent men too. The dudes be nice looking.
“They get to know her for who she really is. She learned how to kick it with the boys. And they see her like a sister”. The Brothers treat her with so much respect. “They look out for her”. Not deliberately put her in harm’s way. Not spreading filthy rumors about her trying to sleep with them like male European strangers do. To try to take away the respect the guys have for you that is built-in because a Brother knows you don’t disrespect a quality BW and laugh. That’s not even our culture. 😭😭😭”Because they’re not thinking of her sexually they really get to know her. So they don’t need to interview other people about her. Or take a guess at who she really is or make assumptions. The beauty of commonality”. I remember so well the respect they had for before the European males showed up. 😢
“Around these type of women a man doesn’t have to have his guard up”. He knows instinctively he can trust her and he doesn’t insult her character. 😢I remember. “He gets to kick back, laugh, chill talk about the game or celebrity stuff, etc.”. Or anything for that matter. “Her humility”. They always said that about me. 😭They knew who I was. Same. Same. They didn’t tell people that’s not who she really is and you can’t trust her and she just sits around badmouthing other people. I can’t even imagine Brothers doing that to me. Not without European help and interference. 😢A BW’s name and reputation is her everything. Guess who knows that instinctively? “She knows how to coexist with Brothers”. Yup. Still do.
@@MsAldil You bring up an issue with an "I" statement about how something made you feel or affected you. Don't assume he had bad intentions. If he cares about you, he'll clarify his intentions or correct a misunderstanding and he'll care how he made you feel...and likely apologize for that. Then you kindly/respectfully (not in an annoyed/condescending tone- check your body language too) make a request for what you want him to do going forward, NOT what you don't want him to do. And THANK him when he does it, even for the simple things...even if you think it's what he's "supposed" to do. Appreciation, with eye contact, and a little smooch goes a long way with men. Starting with "you😡 did this/that" makes him stop listening and go on the defense, especially if you add "always" or "never." And they perceive telling them what NOT to do as condescending as if they are a child...and if you do it repeatedly (aka nagging) he might even ignore you and keep doing it to spite you. If he's in his feelings, he won't say "I don't like how you're speaking to me. I don't know who you think you're talking to like that." These are a few communication techniques I have learned over the last few years.
The fact that he dated you for 4 years without marrying you was the big red flag. It was a relationship of convenience until he found something new. In the future don’t wait that long to see if a man will marry you
You can stay silent and supposed he wants you as a wife. That is a grown boy. A man is open to kind, non hostile suggestion. If you have to get in his face, if it means saving his life, do it.
Wow, dropping new gems I've never heard put in this perspective...i.e. a woman planning to make a man marry her, and the man will stay to show her the game when he feels backed into a corner. Unbelievable 🙄
But Tony I’m peaceful and communicate and try to get to know them and NEVER try to dates these men’s pockets yet they still ghost me and try to have me chase them! 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
He sets a great example of how a husband should be. I want my husband to be this way with me. God blessed Tony and his wife with each other. I can’t wait to hear the rest of his message on this topic.I’m sure it will be 🔥
It's true. I became a wife because I learned how to pick my battles. Not nitpick about everything. If he voiced that I was doing too much I would shut it up. Is it really worth arguing about the small things? They don't want to hear all that, especially if they're trying and working hard. The sooner I learned the sooner I became a wife.
@@Figment-t8k What's not rewarding about it? Being married is an accomplishment. The fact that two people chose one another to live out the rest of their days together in a happy relationship. It's plenty rewarding since you asked.
“Boli Whopper” is my new favorite word😂. But Tony told no lies. I used to have the how did she get married attitude,and then I realized you never know what happens behind closed doors. I have learned to just focus on being patient and waiting for the spouse God has for me.
Tony you just described me lol how do you know this? 😂😂 I've always been the plus size friend. Every man has always said they like that I know how to talk to men. I don't do too much but I know how to be social when needed. I've definitely fell for a few male friends in the past & they didn't feel the same but it was always crazy bc they'd do things for me like a bf would do. I got treated better by male friends than how some get treated by their bfs.
Although I have a nice body and beautiful eyes, I have my Daddy’s nose (well really my Grandmas lol) and I was chose over a lot because of that, especially in high school and in my 20’s. I’ve been the “friend” to a lot of guys then later when things don’t work out with miss perfect in the face, they come to me wanting a relationship and marriage. I’m not married because I told them all no when they were ready to settle with me lol. I do agree it’s best to have a friendship first before anything, that’s what keeps the union strong.
Tony.... You stupid 😂😂. But listening to you, I know exactly why I'm not married. I like my space. I love being by myself. I'm just looking for that other person that likes being by themselves with someone else. I'm not sure what that is yet.
The mind games of it all is so exhausting and nauseating. The more videos I listen to the more impossible things seem smh 🤦🏽♀️. You can be everything and still not enough. I just pray God fills the void and takes the desire away 🥹.
So true. I pick my battles with Hubby. Sometimes I get on my own nerves so I learned to shut up basically. lol. You can feel when you’re doing way too much and it becomes nagging. Picking your battles is crucial in a marriage. No one is perfect no matter how good they look they still have flaws. God bless you TG and your family 🙏🏼
And no I don't put up with jack. It's called being mature enough to communicate. And having a mutual respect for one another. Neither partner arguing over petty things.
Ooooo Lord! All them whys had me exhausted! Chile it's time to just leave it alone! I tell my friends that but they wanna stay and turn it into a power struggle. Plus, they aren't married to these men....
IF YOU GOT TO ASK HIM WHY HE WONT STAY ON THE PHONE WITH YOU WHILE YOU DRIVING HOME, CLEARLY MEANS HE DONT GIVE A DERN A DERN ABOUT YOU OR YOUR SAFETY IN MY OPINION. A MAN WHO TRULY LOVES YOU WANTS TO MAKE SURE YOU OK- PERIOD!
I needed this reminder to just chill and have fun with each other more. I can be too serious and goal-minded sometimes. I think we're "close" friends, but not "best" friends yet. We are vulnerable with each other; we have a lot of deep serious talks across so many topics/issues. We laugh and have fun too, but we def need more of those times in the memory bank.
So why were my grand mothers and aunties & mother done wrong by their husbands, they submitted, they elevated their husbands and were cheated on. I guess they needed to choose better 🙄
We also have to get away from, she ain't got a man as though there is something wrong with her. She don't got a man. So? God will give you who He chooses. He ain't lookin at you as though something is wrong with you?
This is such a good message brother Gaskins because people marry for the inside - meaning that is where the true soul mate is found. Yes we all appreciate things on the outside, but the greatest source is on the inside AMEN!!!
That’s why I’m my man’s ONLY FRIEND when it comes to women!!! I know ow these type of women snd you’re speaking facts but most of the time they want that man anyway!
Doesn't matter how other women are, it matters how faithful your man is. Look at Job's story. Job said he doesn't even look at other women lustfully. That is a man of faith and respect. That's how a husband should be and his wife should be at ease knowing that he is faithful to her.
@@Raynarare yes I’m sure because I’m single!😂😂I know women like this. The women that’s the homie to all the guys cooking and staying under them all the time studying and getting whatever she want out of them true story!😂
So true…my husband kept saying the word submit yesterday and yep it sounded like a curse word. I hate that word for some reason. Not saying I won’t submit but I really dislike the word itself.
That’s because it is a disrespectful word the way men use it. They say it like they are telling a dog to submit. A HUMAN listens out of love and respect. A man telling you to submit shows his control issues and ego
I had a situationship with a guy who was very handsome, but I quickly realized how much of a user he was. I am not “that girl”, kind of nerdy so he thought he was going to use me and abuse me. I kicked him to the curb. That relationship cured my ugly duckling syndrome for sure. The “it” guys and girls are some of the most entitled and selfish people to be with, get someone average and you will be happier.
Tony I’m curious. What about the men that DO nit pick at everything? My ex husband used to do that. He was very clean. Do you think that means he’s gay? I’m not a dirty person. Would love your thoughts on nit picking men.
Tony always says that there are exceptions to the rule , take what you need and toss out the rest . May even be possible that such a man was feminine or just the way he was brought up .
I don’t think that him being very clean equates to him being gay. He could have been brought up with that level of standard. I’m a woman, and I am also very clean and like my environment just as clean. I know and understand how this can be overwhelming for someone who is the opposite. It could also be something regarding trauma - some of it is for me.
my ex was the same exact way, and i suspect him of being gay as well. He even got mad at me and said i needed to pay him 400 dollars because i refused to go to a sam smith concert.
Maybe he is a godly man. Cleanliness is next to godliness!! Being a clean man does not make a man gay. I know many Christian men that are clean because they are brought up in a clean home and taught cleanliness is godliness!
I‘m the girl with her litteral daddy‘s nose. From now on, I have to be humble and accept to go through the friendzone. I cuted off a guy I liked because he was not making our friendship something more. Getting away to protect my heart was not the problem but the way it happened. Next time, knowing how I‘m perceived now, I will understand men’s behaviors better. I used to think that I was the J-Lo’s daughter girl. But now I‘m ready to know I‘m not. Plus I‘m a Christian so I dress modestly, I am in my twenties so I don’t quiet have the money yet to buy the best products. I think I have to accept where I still am, stop rushing and stressing for a husband, focus on being happy now, while making the right choices for the future. To all the big nose, fat,big mouth, beard Ladys ✊🏾 we are together 😊
If a guy doesn’t feel like he measures up as well he will act in the same manner. I noticed when my ex would test me and try to be disrespectful at times but I told him quickly I’m not having it. I let him know as well I don’t have no leash on you so feel free to do what you like. It was about control for him so I left him and never looked back
Hi Tony , question: what happens if the woman use to teach him, but decided to stop doing that and just support him, is there still a open possibility for him to see the woman has his wife?
Honestly, this so confusing for me. I have no idea how to be all of those without the other things. I don’t know how to balance all of it. But I think with the right man it works. Idk. No disrespect but I have no clue how to do this.
Girl, all you can be is the best version of yourself. Nobody can be perfect and that's ok. Just be empathetic and respectful and that will take you far.
You know I am a widow and I just started being worried about my daughter not seeing a father figure in her everyday life. One thing you made me realize is that your wife was raised by a single mom and she is doing okay. I would love to know the wisdom imparted on her that made her who she is as a woman. I am deeply troubled by not having words of wisdom for her but ai just play your videos in an earshot of her so that it will resonate with her to have standards when dealing with all people.
I LITERALLY just finished praying 🙏🏾 to GOD to remove the spirit of combativeness! Thanks for the confirmation.
You gotta practice it sis! Now be ready for situations to come your way to test you 😊
@@red_edj EXACTLY!!! 👍🏾 I’m trying sis!! I’m going to keep trying until I pass the test!
@@EFP.Elviria that's what happened to me when I used to pray for patience. I fo sho got tested many times over the years. I still have a ways to go but I am definitely more patient than I ever was when I was younger.
Whew! You are so right Tony & I never thought about it like that. In the past, things started off very sweet in the beginning. I was told I was like an angel. Then the cheating and lying started. I was being so desperate & trying so hard to make it work that I became combative & argumentative. I can’t believe I used to actually argue with men about them cheating, begging them to love me and be faithful. Thank God for growth!
God bless you!! I struggle with that once upon of time and said thank god he walked away!!
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My current situation
I wish mothers would raise their sons better though, so their future wives won’t have to bite their tongue so much to maintain “peace”. Because women are held to these high standards of going to get the “bacon” AND coming home to be a wife, cook, cleaner, mom, etc. They don’t get much of a “pass”.
Like what if the guy actually doesn’t know the basic things? I guess that’s what you meant by then leave, instead of nagging.
“Baby come out with one eye” threw me off 🤣🤣🤣
I swear I wasn’t supposed to laugh so hard at that.💀💀😭😭
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This is a good message. I’ve never thought about being the friend and building organically. I didn’t know any better. Now that I know better, I can do better 😊
What Tony says if you can't say Ouch, say Amen!!! Guilty as CHARGED in so MANY AREAS!!!🤦🏾♀️ Thanks for Deliverance!
I was guilty of Pretty Privilege & my ex would say that I ALWAYS ACTED like the teacher! He would tell me, you NOT FUN NO MORE! He said I would ALWAYS HIGHLIGHT WHAT HE WAS DOING WRONG VS. HIM TRYING!🤦🏾♀️
After watching this video, I owe him a BIGGGG APOLOGY!
Thanks @TonyGaskins... BTW, I'm currently on Chapter 5 of a Woman's Influence.
Listennnnnn 😂😂😂😂😂 I love me some Tony Gaskin but let’s be real I cannot take him serious all the time. The stuff he says be having me on the floor 😂😂😂😂😂 hollering!!!! It’s the fact that he say some of this stuff with a straight face and be dead serious!!! Like the big girl bringing the bean dip or the woman who have a nose like her daddy 😂😂😂😂 this man is more that a relationship coach, he needs to add comedian to the list 😂😂😂😂
In order to submit unto him he has to have submitted unto the lord himself. I'm not submitting to a lost demonic soul. Too many of them exist.
I've been the submissive woman, the reciprocity wasn't there. I let god be God and let men be men but I can't heal narcissists.
I agree. You can't submit to unGodly men. They will lead you down a pit.
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This was so good. A woman needs to have a backbone or she becomes a doormat. I’m glad my ex situationship taught me I can still be me, but never again play about me
Speak bruh. 😎
I destroyed my relationship and everything that you’re saying is true.
Whats sad to me is , woman who live with their boyfriends, no car to drive around herself etc its a recipe for disaster, you are not his wife and the men are looking elsewhere , its sad like tony said , a man will use you until he finds a replacement. I am glad im independent it makes our choices better, because we have own car and home so there is no control.
I think the thing a women needs most is to vet men better and understand a man looking for a wife (slave/servant) is out here in mass numbers. But a man who
Is seeking to BE a good husband is rare. More grown boys out here than grown men. Must know the difference. Also, there is more to life ladies than acquiring a husband. Society tells women we are nothing without a husband, but if he is not a good man, he cannot be a good husband. TG is on point. Learn to walk away when those red flags are there. You see them. Stop ignoring them.
“Y’all stuff stank too” 😂😂😂
It’s true. The only men I’ll openly argue and debate with are my brothers. They still do get mad at me but a lot of times they’re stubborn and only see things from the male perspective so being silent doesn’t help anyone. Yes, I don’t curse nor raise my voice but I’ll be that “combative” woman. However a husband is a WHOLE different game. I can choose my husband but I can’t choose my sibling.
What about male friends? Can we be combative with them
Male friends can be potential husbands so I would steer clear of them. Half half is good at times you can make a point but most times it’s better to stay chill.
You are right. Grown man or grown boy.
She got her daddy’s nose… “she smelling everything” 😂😂😂 CRAZY WORK TG
This is interesting because I’ve noticed that the chics I see getting married more often are the Big chics. The BBWs. And to some pretty decent men too. The dudes be nice looking.
Not the comedian with those eyes😅.I was literally eating and when you said that I spit my food out..
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Not daddy nose 😂😂😂 I got big eyes like my mom so I understand 😂
Lol I sadly got my dad's feet🥲😂
@@amaragrace94 🤣🤣
“They get to know her for who she really is. She learned how to kick it with the boys. And they see her like a sister”. The Brothers treat her with so much respect. “They look out for her”. Not deliberately put her in harm’s way. Not spreading filthy rumors about her trying to sleep with them like male European strangers do. To try to take away the respect the guys have for you that is built-in because a Brother knows you don’t disrespect a quality BW and laugh. That’s not even our culture. 😭😭😭”Because they’re not thinking of her sexually they really get to know her. So they don’t need to interview other people about her. Or take a guess at who she really is or make assumptions. The beauty of commonality”. I remember so well the respect they had for before the European males showed up. 😢
“Around these type of women a man doesn’t have to have his guard up”. He knows instinctively he can trust her and he doesn’t insult her character. 😢I remember. “He gets to kick back, laugh, chill talk about the game or celebrity stuff, etc.”. Or anything for that matter. “Her humility”. They always said that about me. 😭They knew who I was. Same. Same. They didn’t tell people that’s not who she really is and you can’t trust her and she just sits around badmouthing other people. I can’t even imagine Brothers doing that to me. Not without European help and interference. 😢A BW’s name and reputation is her everything. Guess who knows that instinctively? “She knows how to coexist with Brothers”. Yup. Still do.
I was all of that with my 4 year relationship , peace and bigest cheerleader and he ended it for someome else 🤷🏿♀️
Did you hold him accountable? Or he probably thought you would never leave.
@@Didi-fr5ic how do u hold him accountable without combating?
@@MsAldil You bring up an issue with an "I" statement about how something made you feel or affected you. Don't assume he had bad intentions. If he cares about you, he'll clarify his intentions or correct a misunderstanding and he'll care how he made you feel...and likely apologize for that. Then you kindly/respectfully (not in an annoyed/condescending tone- check your body language too) make a request for what you want him to do going forward, NOT what you don't want him to do. And THANK him when he does it, even for the simple things...even if you think it's what he's "supposed" to do. Appreciation, with eye contact, and a little smooch goes a long way with men.
Starting with "you😡 did this/that" makes him stop listening and go on the defense, especially if you add "always" or "never." And they perceive telling them what NOT to do as condescending as if they are a child...and if you do it repeatedly (aka nagging) he might even ignore you and keep doing it to spite you. If he's in his feelings, he won't say "I don't like how you're speaking to me. I don't know who you think you're talking to like that."
These are a few communication techniques I have learned over the last few years.
A man that truly wants you wouldn’t have dragged you along for 4 years.
The fact that he dated you for 4 years without marrying you was the big red flag. It was a relationship of convenience until he found something new. In the future don’t wait that long to see if a man will marry you
Boom baby come out wit one eye 😂😂😂. Now Tony !
“Having your daddy nose will set you back and a man be like she smelling everything” got me weak 😂😂
OMG, he is so right!
Don’t sweat the small stuff! I learned that all too late it seems
Great advice & yr funny as hell! 🤣😅🎯💯
Having your daddy's nose can set you back🤣🤣🤣
You can stay silent and supposed he wants you as a wife. That is a grown boy. A man is open to kind, non hostile suggestion. If you have to get in his face, if it means saving his life, do it.
Keep teaching TG Ouch ❤
Wow, dropping new gems I've never heard put in this perspective...i.e. a woman planning to make a man marry her, and the man will stay to show her the game when he feels backed into a corner. Unbelievable 🙄
But Tony I’m peaceful and communicate and try to get to know them and NEVER try to dates these men’s pockets yet they still ghost me and try to have me chase them! 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Says a lot about the man who sticks around just to “break” the woman and ghost her. Why he won’t just walk away🤷🏾♀️
lol O PEN 😂😂😂😂
😂 Tony I just had a baby 😅 thank god she’s healthy! Wauw
I agree
Are we talking about Schuler’s 👀 😅
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@@mi3helle707 OOP 😂 i thought so, thought i would ask.
@@mostdefmodest lol I love Schuler but them eyeballs do be eyeballing 😂
Lol @ barbarian. 😅
Preach! With all my skin care, curling irons ect.😂😇
Not a barbarian🎉
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One thing I can say about Mr TG when his wife calls it’s SEE YA✌🏾✌🏾love it!😂❤
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That’s the way it should
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Yeah I think that’s cute lol .
He sets a great example of how a husband should be. I want my husband to be this way with me. God blessed Tony and his wife with each other. I can’t wait to hear the rest of his message on this topic.I’m sure it will be 🔥
Amen it was created by GOD that way.....He's living the dream
It's true. I became a wife because I learned how to pick my battles. Not nitpick about everything. If he voiced that I was doing too much I would shut it up. Is it really worth arguing about the small things? They don't want to hear all that, especially if they're trying and working hard. The sooner I learned the sooner I became a wife.
And what is rewarding about all of that?
@@Figment-t8k What's not rewarding about it? Being married is an accomplishment. The fact that two people chose one another to live out the rest of their days together in a happy relationship. It's plenty rewarding since you asked.
My grandma used to say someone has to know when to shut up.
“Boli Whopper” is my new favorite word😂. But Tony told no lies. I used to have the how did she get married attitude,and then I realized you never know what happens behind closed doors. I have learned to just focus on being patient and waiting for the spouse God has for me.
I want to be married but I don't want to become a slave... Just my opinion...😅
Marriage isn’t slavery but it’s is two people making a choice to always serve each other.
I feel you on this. I seen it growing up. I just feel like I would have a nervous breakdown 😬
Well, I don't have kids.. They require a lot.
Kingdom Marriage by Tony Evans is a great book 📖 to read.
Nah, men marry who in front of them when all their buddies getting hitched.
The small stuff only matters when large issues exist. When disrespect and dishonor are present, it’s best to leave quietly.
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THIS!!!!
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This!!!!
Best way to get your point across!!!!
Tony you just described me lol how do you know this? 😂😂 I've always been the plus size friend. Every man has always said they like that I know how to talk to men. I don't do too much but I know how to be social when needed. I've definitely fell for a few male friends in the past & they didn't feel the same but it was always crazy bc they'd do things for me like a bf would do. I got treated better by male friends than how some get treated by their bfs.
That is beautiful sister. Keep being a good person and GOD will richly reward you. AMEN
never chase a man!!! Never. Sad situation
Although I have a nice body and beautiful eyes, I have my Daddy’s nose (well really my Grandmas lol) and I was chose over a lot because of that, especially in high school and in my 20’s. I’ve been the “friend” to a lot of guys then later when things don’t work out with miss perfect in the face, they come to me wanting a relationship and marriage. I’m not married because I told them all no when they were ready to settle with me lol. I do agree it’s best to have a friendship first before anything, that’s what keeps the union strong.
Tony.... You stupid 😂😂. But listening to you, I know exactly why I'm not married. I like my space. I love being by myself. I'm just looking for that other person that likes being by themselves with someone else. I'm not sure what that is yet.
This was a hard message to receive but I'm glad that I'm able to not take it so personally that I miss the message.
The mind games of it all is so exhausting and nauseating. The more videos I listen to the more impossible things seem smh 🤦🏽♀️. You can be everything and still not enough. I just pray God fills the void and takes the desire away 🥹.
Agreed! Ive asked God to take the desire away too. It's no hope for me.
So true. I pick my battles with Hubby. Sometimes I get on my own nerves so I learned to shut up basically. lol. You can feel when you’re doing way too much and it becomes nagging. Picking your battles is crucial in a marriage. No one is perfect no matter how good they look they still have flaws. God bless you TG and your family 🙏🏼
💯 totally agree
"Mature Men marries the "Cool Girl"....the woman who brings "Positive Emotional Energy" into his Life......
I know something when a woman is bitter, cold, no sweet, no chill her man had to do a lot with it. They are just boy that don’t take accountability.
Ooooh makes sense
She got a husband because she gone put up with anything 😂😂👏
And no I don't put up with jack. It's called being mature enough to communicate. And having a mutual respect for one another. Neither partner arguing over petty things.
Ooooo Lord! All them whys had me exhausted! Chile it's time to just leave it alone! I tell my friends that but they wanna stay and turn it into a power struggle. Plus, they aren't married to these men....
I don’t have energy for me me me drama i like peace and follow Almighty Creator law love ✨🙏✨❤️
I got my daddy nose 😂 but long hair balances it out! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
“I’m sick and tired of this wrinkle!” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 This whole video was so good.
I know that part made me laugh lol when he said now he look likes skeleton 💀 from Tales of the crips lol
Well I ask my guy what does he like about me he told me my personality.
IF YOU GOT TO ASK HIM WHY HE WONT STAY ON THE PHONE WITH YOU WHILE YOU DRIVING HOME, CLEARLY MEANS HE DONT GIVE A DERN A DERN ABOUT YOU OR YOUR SAFETY IN MY OPINION. A MAN WHO TRULY LOVES YOU WANTS TO MAKE SURE YOU OK- PERIOD!
I needed this reminder to just chill and have fun with each other more. I can be too serious and goal-minded sometimes. I think we're "close" friends, but not "best" friends yet. We are vulnerable with each other; we have a lot of deep serious talks across so many topics/issues. We laugh and have fun too, but we def need more of those times in the memory bank.
So why were my grand mothers and aunties & mother done wrong by their husbands, they submitted, they elevated their husbands and were cheated on. I guess they needed to choose better 🙄
Those were different times. Men really haven't changed much, our tolerance for the foolishness is what changed 🤷🏾♀️
My grandfather was a man's man R.I.P. love forever 😔🤗
Mine too. They just don't make them like that anymore 🥹
@@keptbygrace6221 they do you just have to wait for the right one
Can someone send me that 7 layer dip recipe? 😊
lord they got Tony saying “no diddy”😂😂😂😂
My ex husband just said.., why did you let me slide? I was like what? Oh you were testing and trying me so now he is ex and he was a boy.
We also have to get away from, she ain't got a man as though there is something wrong with her. She don't got a man. So? God will give you who He chooses. He ain't lookin at you as though something is wrong with you?
This is such a good message brother Gaskins because people marry for the inside - meaning that is where the true soul mate is found. Yes we all appreciate things on the outside, but the greatest source is on the inside AMEN!!!
“No Diddy… No Diddy nah “ 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Lol
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That’s why I’m my man’s ONLY FRIEND when it comes to women!!! I know ow these type of women snd you’re speaking facts but most of the time they want that man anyway!
Doesn't matter how other women are, it matters how faithful your man is. Look at Job's story. Job said he doesn't even look at other women lustfully. That is a man of faith and respect. That's how a husband should be and his wife should be at ease knowing that he is faithful to her.
@@Raynarare yes I’m sure because I’m single!😂😂I know women like this. The women that’s the homie to all the guys cooking and staying under them all the time studying and getting whatever she want out of them true story!😂
So true…my husband kept saying the word submit yesterday and yep it sounded like a curse word. I hate that word for some reason. Not saying I won’t submit but I really dislike the word itself.
That’s because it is a disrespectful word the way men use it. They say it like they are telling a dog to submit. A HUMAN listens out of love and respect. A man telling you to submit shows his control issues and ego
Exactly Tony!! That's why I have never had any regrets about leaving guys alone. They are grown boys. That's what I had and I divorced them.
I had a situationship with a guy who was very handsome, but I quickly realized how much of a user he was. I am not “that girl”, kind of nerdy so he thought he was going to use me and abuse me. I kicked him to the curb. That relationship cured my ugly duckling syndrome for sure. The “it” guys and girls are some of the most entitled and selfish people to be with, get someone average and you will be happier.
Orrr (hear me out)…
Stop accepting being treated like trash. There are some really attractive people that are very nice and trustworthy!
Absolutely the truth, and it doesn’t matter how much melatonin they have in their skin
*melanin?
Speak Brotha Tony!!💯
Tony not the baby coming out with one eye lol
Tony I’m curious. What about the men that DO nit pick at everything? My ex husband used to do that. He was very clean. Do you think that means he’s gay? I’m not a dirty person. Would love your thoughts on nit picking men.
Tony always says that there are exceptions to the rule , take what you need and toss out the rest . May even be possible that such a man was feminine or just the way he was brought up .
I don’t think that him being very clean equates to him being gay. He could have been brought up with that level of standard. I’m a woman, and I am also very clean and like my environment just as clean. I know and understand how this can be overwhelming for someone who is the opposite. It could also be something regarding trauma - some of it is for me.
my ex was the same exact way, and i suspect him of being gay as well. He even got mad at me and said i needed to pay him 400 dollars because i refused to go to a sam smith concert.
Maybe he is a godly man. Cleanliness is next to godliness!! Being a clean man does not make a man gay. I know many Christian men that are clean because they are brought up in a clean home and taught cleanliness is godliness!
He may have cleanliness OCD which is such a good flaw to have 😭
Not w one eye 😭😭😭
Great advice. Thank you for sharing what others are not sharing !
Def using "boli whopper" from this moment forward 😂
I‘m the girl with her litteral daddy‘s nose. From now on, I have to be humble and accept to go through the friendzone. I cuted off a guy I liked because he was not making our friendship something more. Getting away to protect my heart was not the problem but the way it happened.
Next time, knowing how I‘m perceived now, I will understand men’s behaviors better. I used to think that I was the J-Lo’s daughter girl. But now I‘m ready to know I‘m not. Plus I‘m a Christian so I dress modestly, I am in my twenties so I don’t quiet have the money yet to buy the best products.
I think I have to accept where I still am, stop rushing and stressing for a husband, focus on being happy now, while making the right choices for the future.
To all the big nose, fat,big mouth, beard Ladys ✊🏾 we are together 😊
Tony, you are my big brother
Who left the Cheez Its open to go stale isn’t a Kingdom question
Yes it is 🤣
If a guy doesn’t feel like he measures up as well he will act in the same manner. I noticed when my ex would test me and try to be disrespectful at times but I told him quickly I’m not having it. I let him know as well I don’t have no leash on you so feel free to do what you like. It was about control for him so I left him and never looked back
You just Wrote a Screen Play 😊
Have you considered going to law school? You would make an amazing attorney!
Hi Tony , question: what happens if the woman use to teach him, but decided to stop doing that and just support him, is there still a open possibility for him to see the woman has his wife?
If he sees that you have changed he will 💯 appreciate it. Give the complaints to God ❤ so you have an outlet when you are triggered + safe space
This video right here the one Tony..
SUBMIT IS NOT A CURSE WORD- ITS A PART OF GOD'S WORD & HE (GOD) ALSO SAYS, SUBMIT YE TO ONE ANOTHER
😂😂😂😂 Tony is hilarious!!! The adlibs and 🙄 ‘s take be out! 🤣😭
Honestly, this so confusing for me. I have no idea how to be all of those without the other things. I don’t know how to balance all of it. But I think with the right man it works. Idk. No disrespect but I have no clue how to do this.
Girl, all you can be is the best version of yourself. Nobody can be perfect and that's ok. Just be empathetic and respectful and that will take you far.
It takes practice 🙂
You know I am a widow and I just started being worried about my daughter not seeing a father figure in her everyday life.
One thing you made me realize is that your wife was raised by a single mom and she is doing okay. I would love to know the wisdom imparted on her that made her who she is as a woman. I am deeply troubled by not having words of wisdom for her but ai just play your videos in an earshot of her so that it will resonate with her to have standards when dealing with all people.
Say what it is that GOD'S WILL 🙏🏾 🙌 😌 ✨️ 💯 👏 will have you to say!!!!!!!!
🎶 🗣️What have you done for me lately 🎶 🎵
Oooh, oooh, yeah 😅
Hey Tony. 😅 Watching from Chicago 😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
Ok sir!! I’m on my back in my bed not feeling well and I just bursted out laughing. Y’all stuff stank too! I’m weak over here!!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I knew a friend in college who wouldn't look twice at a woman under 250 lbs.