THE SAD REALITY OF BEING A FILIPINO
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- Опубліковано 29 лис 2024
- Dating a young Filipina in the Philippines will get your neighbors and people around you to comment on your relationship. Get ready to be labeled by so many things: being judged by people and giving unwanted comments about your relationship.
Dont be looking for a sugar daddy, use your brain and your strength , nakakahiya ka sa mga foreigner at pinapakita mo yong Filipino heritage .
LMFAO 😂 did you ever watch the whole video?
Brains and strength are used WITH or WITHOUT a sugar daddy. It changes nothing for most girls. Love is love. Some young people are old beyond their years, some old people are young below their years. There are no rules in love , that is a fact. Our souls are all the same age. ..just our bodies are varied.
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No where in Mia's video did she tell anyone to look for a sugar daddy. What's an embarrassment to Filipino heritage is you @allanbalbuena3659 leaving a comment based on the thumb nail pic and not watching any of the video. Maybe you should take your own advice and "use YOUR brain".
I was sad when you and Paul separated. I'm happy that he reconsidered his future, and I think he made a great decision. My Khmer girlfriend is 31 years younger than me. I don't give a damn if others dislike our relationship, because it's ours, not theirs.
Nice video Mia! It's good to be reminded of the suffering that words can inflict. I'm happy for both of you!
It's easier to pull others down than it is to put in the work to pull yourself up. I've said a few times, I think one of the hardest things for a Filipina with a foreigner, is NOT the culture and language differences, it's being able to look past all her own people (That have so much pride in Filipino's) trying to pull her down. Another is remaining humble, not letting those people anger her into trying to show them she is better than they are. I think most of the talking about your relationship is coming from jealousy and envy, that it's not them, when many of them would have jumped at the chance for that relationship if they had the chance. Maybe when people talk about you having a "Sugar Daddy" as you walk by them, just look at them and simply say "Jealous?" and keep walking. PERCEPTION, how you see something/someone, your eyes are not for thinking, they lie to you on a constant basis, let your brain do the thinking as it's intended to do.
For such an ALLEGED religious country, they sure don't follow the morals and values of that religion and the faith they PRETEND to have. They exhibit Cardinal Sins like gluttony, greed, envy, and pride.
- Matthew 7:1 “Judge not, that you be not judged.
- James 4:11 "Do not speak evil against one another, brothers."
- James 1:26 "If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person's religion is worthless."
- Romans 16:17-18 "I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive."
This is quite true, unfortunately.
My own Filipina treats people respectfully no matter their status, has very amazing integrity as any other humanbeing I could find these days yet also has renown and many demands as her local town recently exposed, corrupt Mayor.
The p4oblem I found during our speration online was an employer , old bat, telling her to seek a rich old foreigner. Not waste time on me with a skillset and mindset that could survive anything, be loyal (three times beauty queen that she is anyway), and make sure from proven initiatives our future family will survive and even thrive with variously lower costs there, no matter what happ3ns to usd.
Well, that plus I am 6 foot plus, outsmart devious men and well... respect God's word.
The hypocricy is real there. She told me of all the minutae of the typical habits there and to be honest, I feelmmany generate their own suffering. The only reason I chose her over very few other Filipinas that are absolutely perfect in every way and other than her qualifications and beauty, is a sincere respect of God's Word yet not really understanding it. She knows Greek classics better than me though and goodness seems to gravitate toward her a lot due I think to her faith. A rightgeous man God will provide a prudent wife. Truth via the rare Filipina and wow I got extra...
She understands totally what is going on, a local election, the pollies give money to each home in hope of favour of election etc.. However, all the stories and events, I still feel that Filipinosmare God's people. They just don't understand that using God's word and doing the opposite is a sure ticket to hell.
Two other filipinas I met in the past were a police officer and a camgirl who understood I am a real man and wanted to learn the real nitty gritty there. Neither ever asked me for moeny. Both educated me A LOT about how things really work there. Before I met my wife to be.
Judge as you like. If you want gold in a wife and not a risky, very risky other predetermination there,... pray a little and see what you can experience, too.
That is the true beauty and reality of the real Filipina. My filipina is even richer than me and she knows it and never mentions it as she knows my plans and God willing, I hope to bring a lot of grace there. The west is done. Real traditional and good values exist yet every country has hypocrites and ... .
Thanks.
Ok, bit of a haphazard post above but I will reduce the advice from two years and hundreds of conversations with Filipinas to this:
Lead with your wallet, expect to get rolled.
Your integrity as a man, somehow, will lead you to a golden Filipina. I had three to choose from as potential wives. Out of hundreds.
I am not special, I am not rich, I am just considered a decent man. Think about that.
I wish all good men seeking a good wife and all sincere filipinas seeking a good man all the best under God.
The Filipina I married knew I was no sugar daddy, I told her what my situation was, her family may have thought I was, but not from anything i said or did while I was staying with them. I got my wife to the U.S., it took awhile. I helped her get her nursing degree here and she is doing very well by her own doing. She helps her family and we have two beautiful daughters now after 14 years. She really was the best thing to happen to me in my life. I doubt that she thinks the same, but she is a wonderful woman nevertheless. She is also faithful to a fault, something that is very rare for an American woman in this day and age.
60 here, and my Filipina love is 31. we just ignore the haters. all we can do!!!
I’m 27 years older than my Filipina and my wife actually got a sugar daddy and she is the best partner and mother ever. She has been in the US for 8 years and works hard for our future
I'm American and your english is better than mine.
I love your honesty, your wit, on talking about this topic, wishing you all the best and merry Christmas
I have long ago stopped caring what others think about me or my lifestyle.
Szép, és okos vagy! Nagyon hasonlít a gondolkodásod a Magyar értelmes emberekéhez!♥🤍💚
My Filipina girlfriend is 14 years younger but it is our hearts and minds that connected of all the people we encountered as it just clicked and fit together. Her family has been so wonderful and supportive as we are also lucky she has a small group of long term friends and they too have been so instrumental as i feel they all accepted me and we keep those gossipers out of our circle. Great video as it is more harder on the Filipina then the foreigner and shows you both have a good outlook.
Hello Mia, Great to see you on a vlog again...MERRY CHRISTMAS HUN.
Happy holidays!
Always a good perspective from you Mia. Thank you for making these videos. Your perspective is much needed and appreciated for others who may react differently.
Well done . Enjoyed the vlog
I think Mia is the most beautiful Philippina that I have had the pleasure of seeing something of. Her personality is beyond splendid and she radiates a very queenly vibe of noble confidence. Her husband is obviously an extremely happy man. I have heard however that the Philippinos are like crabs in a bucket. They always snatch down any who may try to escape. I wish to personally thank sweet Mia for her poise and character and wish her the best life possible and I pray that whomever trys to destroy what she has will get a serious judgement from God upon their own lives. I wish I was much younger to be able to know all these detailed bits of knowledge she offers and get over there as I had originally planned in my mid 30's and a couple guys I know have done. They are happy men with their choice and I blew it by staying in the USA for too long. But God has reasons for guiding our steps if you let him. God bless this couple and may they be happy in their lifestyle and company. What a woman ! WOWZERS !!!
God bless you Mia and wish you both a happy life together. Controlling our thoughts can be hard at times, so it’s impossible to control others thinking no matter how wrong.
Sounds like fun
You and Paul are an awesome couple.
You work and play well together.
People won't realize how tuff it is just to be together, ie, all the government hoops you have to jump through.
You have to build extra trust in one another its great when you get there.
All the best.
I’m pure Filipino born in Manila moved to the US when my folks moved here in 1969. Once they bought a house my sister and I accompanied with our Lola age 8 and 7 had to moved to the US. I can relate to the things you mentioned .
My Filipina and I were in a LDR since 2015 went to see her 2 twice and it would have been three times but Covid hit in 2020 I wanted to talk to her folks to see if I could marry her. Unfortunately her parents and Lola didn’t like me due to the 27 years age gap and slowly they manipulated her to break up the relationship. We were together 6 years and I gave her money for her dorm, food, utilities but she also worked as an accountant for an apparel company but not enough since she’s support her family. The father is a security guard and the mother a housewife. I was 2 years older than the father and 1 year older than her mother. I told her in the beginning of our relationship that eventually you will chose me or your parents. Oh well I will always love her and have fond memories of our relationship.
Thanks Mia for honestly and bravely sharing your experiences here. We can all respect the things you speak here...even though you may receive some backlash from your fellow Filipinas and Filipinos.
Good vid Mia. I hope your husband is doing well.
My age gap is seven years with my Filipina. I noticed some of the best stories of successful marriages in past of the west are about that. I hope to have that too, even more.
Real love can not be conquered. Christ taught us that. My Filipina saved me from pride, ignorance and seriously difficult circumwtqnces of being angry with fellow men. Only peace came from her lips and calmed and even tempered my soul. I am a well read and internationaally experienced man. The entire world is not enough for my Filipina's pure love.
I hope some deserving men find that with their Filipina, too.
I appreciate the honesty and enjoy the clips. Thank you.
Very well said Mia. We have run into this behaviour also.
Good, hard hitting video Mia...you touch many hot buttons. Let the judging people be turned into the 'less economically privileged' and then say how they feel, how they think. I predict they change 180!
A very intelligent young lady. Her husband is undoubtedly a happy man.
Great job Mia! Sad how people react. Good subject.
My Filipina had a way of shutting those types up. If she'd hear that sugar daddy stuff she'd tell them "He is really sweet, and he's got a really BIG bananna..."😂
Another great video Mia. My fiancée is from Pampanga and we are equal in our relationship. She does not view me as her "sugar daddy." If this is how other people view our relationship, I consider that their problem, not ours.
Well said, and my girlfriend and I are dealing with this now and cannot find anything in our relationship we would change but our age gap. We decided that was not a good enough reason to not be together.
This Dynamic you are discussing is called " HYPERGAMY", and is not unique to the Philippines. Almost every woman in the world wants to marry up or at least ( last resort ) across in social status. Keep the content rolling Mia, its a good discussion !
Love how you put this topic together with some humor and clips. I think it’s really important to keep in mind that other people will always be judgement and opinionated. Especially on those sharing parts of their lives publicly on social media. Those that have been around and watched some of the videos that you both made, enjoy them. Personally I think that Paul and you are both very much in love and committed to each other, as much as any couple could possibly be. But as you said others that don’t know shit about you both will try to make their life’s seem better by assuming the worst about others. It’s crudely immature and says more about that person that is judging you than the person that they are judging.
There is a good psychological defense against worrying about what people
say. It's the philosophy of stoicism. Become what you want to be, and then
you'll know what you are. Then what people say will become just water
off a duck's back for the most part.
Great video. I think it's because you are beautiful, and they are just jealous. I am bringing my fiancé to USA and I'm sure I will hear stuff. I really don't care what they say. Can't let it bother you as long as you are in love. If the people are not talking about your relationship, theyll find something else to talk bad about. Thanks for video
The crab mentality. I like that saying because it is soooo true!
Have an amazing weekend Mia, take care and God bless you 🙏 😊
very well said !!!!!!!!!! salamat po
These videos are very helpful thanks
I stopped caring what people think of me years ago. The bottom line is haters are gonna hate and a lot of people are jealous of what others have.
I'm in an age-gap relationship myself and can certainly agree with all your observations. Now if we could only figure out why they do that, but then, that would take away all the fun of speculating their motives. 🤣 It must have taken several hour to find all the 'clips' to insert. Nice touch.
Just keep in mind that they hate us cuz they ain't us keep moving forward king/queen
Well kind of good to know that something or gossip and judgment like this can or maybe maybe??? But everywhere women and women are different and individuals not to be Pre-judged !!!!
Great topic Mia! I remember walking thru Cebu a few times where we have run into local Filipino men. I've heard this one a few times....."hey Joe! It's ok when you Kanos come to Philippines to marry our ugly women but it's not ok if you marry our pretty ones." Has Paul heard that one yet?
That's right sugar. Maybe it's a compliment. Sugarfree is for later in life... Because Paul's so buff and gwapo right now.😅
Love hearing your perspectives. My Asawa's 23 and I'm 65, but I look younger than Paul. I hear the online chisms though. It's easier for me to ignore it, because I'm not a vlogger.
Remember... there's both angry, hateful, mean people in the world and kind, loving, caring people. But it's the same world... and It's our choice how to live our lives.
Unfortunately, I disagree with the phrase, "Age is just a number". Paul wasn't seeking a relationship with a 50 year old Filipina. Men marry for age and beauty. Women want security. Often women project onto others what they don't have using character assassinations. They can't find a man or settled for a man themselves and project their envy at you. Envy is what drives people, not hate.
I am not one for the love and dating thing, but, I really liked this video. In fact, I love it. It was needed. People love to project onto others. All the things she said, I've heard before...and I always wondered why a person can't do what he or she likes without miraculously offending others that should not even matter in their lives...People that have their own lives too.
When I go on dates in Asian countries, I still exspect them to split the bill.
Very nice video. I wish there was more than just on like that I could give it.
🙏🏿All the best to you and your husband.👍🏿
As an Indian I have lived in Angeles City and know the racism there.
Who am I to judge another person happiness in life? I found it best to enjoy life while letting others to do the same. People all over the world enter relationships/marriage having many different reasons. All that matters is you and your partner are happy together creating a beautiful life. Never let others destroy your peace you have created no matter where you live.
If it's love, then it's love....and if its between a man and woman then thats all that matters...agree with you sis....at least i know where my future wives coming from...
Greetings!
I would like to know from you the following please:
Does the passport of the Philippines give your Filipina wife or girlfriend access to other Asian countries easily?
Can your spouse get a tourist visa to Vietnam, Thailand, Malaysia, Cambodia, Laos, Indonesia etc. without any issues or is it a huge concern for the average Filipina?
There is this one thing that bothers me about retiring in the Philippines... and that is why would one even consider retirement there when the medical care is at best very complicated and can possibly jeopardize one's life.
Thank you for your time.
Every interaction is transnational in life. Choose the right investments.
Just remember, haters are going to hate. When people say stuff like that. Answer with this. If you're so smart how come you are not a billionaire? That shuts them down quickly. Thank you and have a nice day.
An foreigner needs to be aware of this. Sounds like gossip is a big thing in the Phillipines. It is a conundrum. I don't blame females who want to improve their lives. They improve the man's life also. Lonliness is a killer. Western women are spoiled and impossible. I would ignore the negativity. You seem like a really nice person. Your husband is a lucky fellow. We all get labelled in one way or another. Too bad the judgy people can't mind their own business.
Maybe your husband already told you this, but it's the same everywhere else...no matter the country or culture...90% of the population would think like that and judge others without even knowing them...
The key to make it through this is in fact not to associate with this kind of people especially in the circle of your friends... choose your friends carefully among like-minded people...
In the world there are open minded people and the then the others...
I’m 62 years old I marry to a Vietnamese she’s 35 years old so is a big age gap ,she was 28 and I was 56 years old when we got married and now we have two beautiful children,I don’t see my self as a sugar daddy
People who label people or ones who spend their lives trying to bring others down are just miserable and not worth the attention..They want to try and make people as miserable as they are..If someone says oh your a sugardaddy i say yes ty..Leaves them confused
I remember you mentioning the coffee shop incident before in another video people nowadays just want to be negative
I am 60 and my Filipina girlfriend is 39 and has experienced crab mentality in her village.
Never argue with a fool because no one else can tell the difference.
I understand your point but to a certain degree I can understand the frustration of attractive Filipeano men losing beutiful potential female brides to in some cases unattractive foreign men twice their age... just because those men have more financial security and so she looks past appearances and in some cases personality. All those people aren't totally wrong in their stereotyping, even Filipeano mothers are encouraging their daughters to find foreigner men because they know of the financial benefits that would follow for them as well.
It’s very hard to ignore idiots!
It must irritate them that you are happy.
I chose my wife because she has a good heart. These people who irritated you are just evil.
They will never have the life you have! Be happy! They are not! Oh. My wife is a Filipina, married 49yrs.
Out of all the relationship differences, the one most condemned and vilified is one where there is an age gap between an older man and a younger woman. Two men together, two women together, two different religions together, two different races together, even a human with an animal together ... all those are OK. It is much worse here in the USA, where quite a few people will see it as their moral obligation, not just to make stupid comments, but also to try to break apart the relationship. This condemnation has no logic, just personal hateful bias. All the people I've seen making these types of hateful comments have miserable lives mired in identity politics or virtue signaling. If this kind of relationship does not work, then why can a man father children well into his 70s? Seems as though both God and biology approve.
Yes, an older Western man brings support and financial security, which is what women value. A younger Filipina brings youth and beauty, which is what men value. But that's just the beginning. For me, my Filipina brings kindness, a good heart, and good character ... all of which are seriously lacking in Western women. From what I know, I doubt a relationship-minded Filipina would put up with an abusive or physically undesirable man just for the money.
Even if that's true who cares as long as she's happy and he's happy
I am a Splenda daddy … I not that rich 😂😂😂 … They can label me all they want as long as they know we are extremely happy … But you are right there is a lot of judging … And I am just 48 , I can’t imagine how it is with ones that are 62 or 65 what they have to deal with…. Anyway I live my best life and if others want to waste their time judging then have at it…
Chismis is a national pastime…..no need to react to other’s ignorance…. Sana All po !! 🇺🇸🫶🏻🇵🇭
Truth is truth…. Not everyone is gonna like it.
I miss your videos Mia....I hope you are okay......
I saw 👀 this firsthand in The Philippines 🇵🇭 in previous travels.
Similar. American media people such as Candace Owens and Megyn Kelly shame Leonardo DiCaprio, who is in his 40s, for dating only women who are from age 18 to 24 years old. Similar shaming happens when Sir Mick Jagger has a new girlfriend 🙄 and a kid from her! 🙄🙄
The shaming you encounter is from Filipinos who became "modern". This is as bad as what happens in Canada 🇨🇦 and here in the USA 🇺🇸. I hate it! 😡
There are only Sad Realities if you go along with it.
Chismes (gossiping) is a Pinay national sport. Watching other people…& especially couples , talking bad about them. My much younger GF & I were walking near a Phil traffic cop who said to her “ you have a total pakete (package) lover boy, lolo (grandpa) kuya (brother) and 5/6 no payback (5/6 is village $$$$ loan shark). Good fun & national sport….talking bad about others who have more success or $$$$ than YOU.
An attempt to insert logic, reason and reality into Socail media? Brave!!
Mia, a Phd. in relationships, I wonder how many years one would spend in a University to earn that degree, more than a brain surgeon I'm sure. I can save someone a lot of time, the women are always right. I have a friend I've known since elementary school and he prefers being a sugar daddy because he doesn't want to get married and risk his fortune with a lady here in the U.S. and I agree. They were in NYC and he bought her a $1500.00 pair of shoes, he says it's cheaper than a divorce. I'm sure here in the U.S. there must be a course in how to marry and divorce for a profit. lol
Looking good Mia. 🥰
oh boy, i am 60 and my Filipina wife is ONLY 2 years younger than myself. Generally i do not like large age gaps BUT if that is what makes them happy then so be it. You seem to be intelligent and very well spoken, would you marry a foreigner that has a very low income or even no money? The answer to that would be no. Why do very young and sexy Filipinas choose do be with old, fat and ugly guys? i really do feel sorry for some of you girls and all because you are trying to help the rest of your family. The first question that a Filipina asks is, HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU HAVE? I have been in Asia since 2007 and i think i have a good idea of how most Asian GIRLS work. You only have to ask all Asian women what their dream is and the answer is to have a western boyfriend. lets turn it around...How many foreign women want to marry a Filipino?
A topic most expats and Filipinas have dealt with. I myself have had it with my relatives and their opinions as well as my gal who's had extended family all of a sudden either want money or given their disapproval (When money wasn't given). To say it's about money is hypocrisy when in the west all women marry up financially and I'm sure it's the same in PI as well. It's nature. A man wants a beautiful woman and the woman wants security. If the two find each other, it's great, not bad.
I know that gossip happens I'm totally aware of it but I ignore it best I can, but my partner i onow it gets to her more. We don't have a huge age gap... the thing annoying me most is the rich foreigner mentality 🙄🤦♂️
Honestly, i wouldnt get angry if i was married to a young, beautiful Filipina and someone called me a sugar daddy. I would just laugh at them. Heck i would feel like i had just won a huge lottery jackpot if i could be with a woman like that.
I am married to an Asian and never hear anything like that. I am an American and my wife was once married to a prince. We get no one mouthing off. We never go to where clowns are. Never to a bar, never.
Kamusta Mia, magandang umaga po
Sugar daddy. Responce : Are you jealous. Best thought is show that you did not hear it.
Mia, you know that people see you with Paul and express like that because they see you and feel or think they want to BE you.
You have to wonder just how many of the ones talking about you are just jealous of your relationship.
You are beautiful!!!
Hi.Dear Mia. I envy that lucky Devil that was able to get you off the market. Ive been in the Philippines awhile. Haven't found my beautiful age gap Filipina yet. When I find her, then I will have escaped poverty. Of spirit, broken 💔 heart, loneliness
I am 60 Mia and I am with a Filipina in her mid 30's am I a sugar Daddy? or maybe I am a normal male who is attracted to younger fertile females as my sex has done since the dawn of time. Also I couldn't careless what a bunch of feminists or jealous jerks think. We have one life and I intend to enjoy mine. TC all
OMG. You girl remind it to me crazy store. I had restaurant for leaving at 🇺🇸 USA. The guy asked my waiter to be her sugar daddy. However, the guy was more than double at her age of waiter. I was ready to fight with him body to body. But sugar daddy is good can get any thing what he wants. Because it is long distance relationship to come over there.
Seems like they’re actually jealous that they don’t have a “ Sugar Daddy” in their life.
😢
Hate to say it but I think the Philippines is slowly and surely being influenced by the west. Almost every Filipina I run into on social media uses pronouns now which I was surprised by.
I'm not sure if they're filling it out because it's there or if they're really embracing the west ideologies. Social media seems to be ruining them just like it ruined us. I give it another 20 years and men won't be talking about meeting Filipinas anymore.
I'm an expat in the Philippines and l suspect you are right...
How is that a sad reality of being a Filipino? You have no justification to be sad. I'm experiencing the Real 😢Sad Reality of being alone without the Right Filipina in my life.
Are you in the Philippines?
Listen to what she said in the beginning...everyone 's experiences are going to be different.
And what have you done to make that happen? I saved up for my trip, met someone online, came and met her, it didn't work out with her, but I met someone else who happened to be her cousin. Today is my birthday and I have met the extended family family and even the cousin who I arranged to meet was there. I spoke with her and she said she was happy for us. I've never met anyone with a heart like my filipina! I'm good to go! What are you going to do? Get off the couch and get here to the Philippines! You WILL meet someone who will accept you if you accept her!
Consider Cambodia
My advice to filipinas who marry a foreigner or even a rich filipino, do not talk to your friends or relatives about your finances, how much monies your husband has. It puts your life at risk as well as will bring out the leeches within your family circle, asking you for monies always. Keep your affairs to yourself. Tell them, you husband is poor and you have only enough to pay for your bills.
When that happens just give them little finger sign...
I confess I had a hard time watching this video. It's really hard listening to the patent idiocy of people around us, judging left and right. It's why one of my strongest rules in life is to avoid gossip and gossipers. Hope I don't have to avoid UA-cam for the gossip and bitterness such a technological soapbox gives voice to. I really admire you for being here and raising the level of awareness about things, and confronting unkindness. You've always been the level-headed smart one of the content creators I listen to. It pains me to hear the hurt in your voice as you report and react to the unthinking cruelty. I pray you develop a thicker skin, so the "dark side" of life rolls off your back like water off a duck. Cos these people will always be with us, lurking in the shadows or pouncing. But these things are small, really, and shouldn't distract us from the blessings of the life we live, that you live. I honor that.
Luv to be a sugar Daddy, but reality am an old married guy with a teaspoon of sugar, just also can’t rise to the occasion it’s all fantasy on my part. What to do, just keep watching vids I guess, was in the Phil’s 5 yrs ago, couldn’t find great food the only motivator in my life right now besides a good massage.
Nice video Mia short and 😊sweet
2k per month okay?
Plus, you're going to have this. After all, gossip may be the number one national sport. Not basketball or soccer, it's gossip. 🤣🤣
I could never become a 'sugar daddy'...I'm a diabetic,but very sweet.😂