hey, too bad I couldn't go that day, i really did want to go, but my parents weren't so sure. hopefully next time we can go skate. also, I relate to a lot of what you said, especially now that my cousin moved away who I used to skate with and my other cousin quit. i miss having people to skate with, but often I can find people or kids at the skatepark to skate with so it's more fun. sometimes i end up sorta skating with guys or whoever I don't know but even though we don't know each other we still have fun being near each other in the skatepark environment. However, that's only my sessions that have happened. Not having friends to skate with was one of the reasons i just got bored of skating and lost a lot of motivation for around 6 months. It especially sucks when you see other skaters having this crazy day that look like it from a movie (ex meadowscott lol) and you feel like you're missing out on life,. Recently though, after i visited my cousin (Wowserpancakes) again at the end of May, we both go more motivated to skate again and we uploaded our skate clips to our channels. That motivates us to keep skating to be able to keep making videos and beat each other in our subscriber count haha (I'm winning). We should try to collab again soon forsure. edit: i keep thinking of more things to say, but anyways besides just skateboarding, i have always had more boyish interests and hobbies so skateboarding is just one of the many things i struggle to find in common with other girls. I'm a big gamer (i hate that word) and i've very competitive with it, i like skiing and snowboarding which are also more niche sports, i've done karate, and i like lots of more male audience shows and movies. im a big tomboy, but i still like girl things, but it's hard to find others I can do things with. edit: idk if our different religions will prevent that, but as a Christian, I have nothing against you for being a Muslim, God gave all people free will to choose him so its not my right to force anyone into my religion. thats why a lot of Christians get hate because they come off as condescending and rude
Thank you for the long comment and it’s totally okay that you couldn’t go. This video was one I had planned to make before so it’s not just cuz of you if that’s what you thought. And I totally can see how you lost motivation when ur cousin moved away. That rlly sucks and so yeah I do the same, I kinda just skate and talk to random people (when there is people) and that’s all I can rlly do since I don’t have friends. it’s nice and helps with loneliness a bit. but having a deeper friendship is always more fulfilling. I also totally get the watching these people like Meadow Scott having these crazy fun skate days like a coming of age movie and u feel like you are missing out. That’s why I want to make videos that kinda give the same energy (as best I can with only being one person in it usually lol) so maybe I can look back at it and see that life wasn’t all that bad i guess?? it’s also fine if my skate friends aren’t ALL Muslim. I just mostly prefer girls generally but some Muslims would be good lol. And I don’t have anything against you as a Christian. We are all supposed to respect each others’ views and it’s also not up to me to force my religion on you either. So it’s all good. Plus my grandma is Christian too. Anyway thanks for coming to my yap sesh lol and congrats on hitting 2k by the way!! 🔥🔥
Hey little skater, I'm a skater girl too. I started skating about 3 years ago and have progressed much this year doing tricks in my garage and on a very small ramp I bought on amazon. So I started going to my local skatepark, which is quite far from my home. However, when my parents found out that there is nobody at the skatepark and that it's not in a well frequented area of the city, they don't want me to go there anymore because they think it's dangerous. So I think I will Just keep on doing tricks in my garage even if it's not as good as the skatepark. I love your videos and i will keep on watching your progression 💪🍀, good luck!
Thanks for watching and I’m glad you like my videos! That’s sad that you can’t go to the skatepark anymore. I would be so bummed. But you can progress a lot on your own and it’s great that you keep going! Maybe you can make some more obstacles for your garage so you can learn even more things sorta like you would at a skatepark. Keep shredding!! 👊
I always wanted to start skateboarding but i never got the chance to, skating is not very popular in my country, you cant even find a skateboard to buy. as i got older especially when i hit 20 last year i kinda lost hope on everything, i never got to achieve anything i dream of and i feel like its too late to start now. i really like sports and i never got to do anything for various reasons, but i made it my mission to never give up on my dream to skateboard. i finally got the chance to order a skateboard all the way from America around last week and I'm really excited for it to arrive and start skating, i just hope i don't give up on it because we don't really have places to skate and i don't really have a chance to really just go outside. finding your channel kinda gave me motivation to keep going and to go for it no matter what, and one day i will make all my dreams come true...
Congrats on getting your first skateboard! That must be so exciting since it is so hard to get a skateboard in your country. Even if there isn't much area to skate outside, find a way to skate inside if you can so you won't give up. It isn't too late to start now and if you can do everything in your power to find a place to skate whether inside or outside, you can do it and progress! If there is a will, there is a way. So go for it and have fun! I am glad my channel gave you motivation to keep going and I know one day you can make all your dreams come true if you don't give up!
Hey little skater, I totally get how you feel. It's tough when your friends don't share the same passion for skating as you do. I find myself often skating alone because my friends don't skate as frequently as I do. They always say "next time" or comment, "you're skating again?" It can be frustrating. And I can't skate with girls around my age, I think you know why. Im also not old enough to drive so I constantly try to get my parents to drive me so im mostly left skating alone in my neighborhood. Im still really greatful to be able to skate. Keep pushing yourself and enjoying every moment on your board. Don't let friends or anyone stop you. 🔥👊
Thank you sm! I am glad you could relate with me. And yeah, it seems most girls who get into skating don't seem as excited about it. I know that is a generalization but every time I find a girl who 'likes to skate' they are never into it as much as me. i rlly dont know why. Learning tricks is so fun. And I totally get the whole nagging your parents to drive you so your stuck in your neighborhood. I was like that too before I got my license but I still am not allowed to go by myself so I totally understand. But you keep shredding too! Go skate and have as much fun as you can despite not having friends!
Heyy i totally relate to this video keep up the good work! Finding friends skating is difficult especially when it depends on the area. I only have skate friends for comps in other states lol. I totally get no having motivation when you don’t have friends to skate with but I would say don’t give up! Friends do come eventually but it usually takes a compliment like nice board or sick trick to get people talking. I would also say don’t force yourself to skate if you aren’t feeling it because it just ends up ruining the experience completely. If every time you skate you get bummed Because of empty parks you probably start to get burned out and that sucks. So i recommended taking like a week off or longer if you really aren’t feeling it. Like I just took a 8 month break lol because i was sooooo burned out and it definitely helps. It reminded me why I loved riding so much and how much work i need to do to be better again lol.UA-cam and social media will 100% motivate you to keep skating so your definitely on the rise. Anyway sorry for the rant lol but your videos are sicckkk and keep it uppp 🤙
No no thank you for the rant! I love to hear everyone’s thoughts. I’m glad you like my videos and that you could relate to this one. I don’t think friends are my main motivation for skating cuz I started doing it alone so I don’t think I will ever give up! but I certainly think friends make it so much more fun. And yeah, if I’m feeling too bummed about not having friends and empty parks I get why you would say to take a break so it doesn’t ruin the experience but for me it hasn’t rlly ruined the experience but maybe I’m just not burned out enough lol. Ofc I do take breaks but like after three days I am like man I gotta skate! I love to do tricks so much that I don’t want to lose them. Taking breaks rlly show me how much I love to skate and that it isn’t always about friends. Having to make content also helps motivate me to skate. Also I’m glad you said that friends come eventually cuz that gives me some hope for some homies one day! Keep shredding!
I know its hard to have friends in person but I think ur channell is a great place for community especially among girl/muslim/hijabi skaters. Alot of people do youtube collabs overseas and it wont replace the experience of real life friends but it could still be cool!
Yeah! For sure! I am hoping my channel can reach Muslim/Hijabi/girl skaters as well as many others so that skaters and non skaters who don’t have friends don’t feel alone. I hope to do some collabs in the future through the internet or Irl. It’s not the same as friends but it would definitely help and give me the feeling of having purpose! Thanks for the encouragement! 🔥🔥🔥
yo little skater. There seem to be so many “I am 20-40 years old and I have no friends” videos on youtube with millions of views and likes as well as a lot of commenters that relate with it. This kind of makes me think that it’s not just me and maybe I’m not entirely to blame that I don’t have any real friends since so many people feel that way nowadays. However, honestly, almost everyone I know in real life seems to have them. And my family pities me big time that I don’t (I hate this so much haha). I kind of gave up, to be honest? I’m not like you. I don’t go out there and keep trying. I want to express just how admirable I think it is that you do. For me, it’s so inexpressibly challenging and depressing to do that. It’s incredible that you persevere and I hope the people you meet will finally see how cool you are. I don’t want it to seem like I think I know you. I’ve only seen what you put out here on yt and that’s it. But from what I have seen, you seem like a really nice, funny, and thoughtful person. I don’t know if I am coping hard or if I’m actually ok with not having friends. I’m probably coping hard lol. I try to tell myself that there are many things that make me happy in life which I think is true. I’m curious and I actually like studying for my degree (and studying in general). I have music. I have chess. I have gym. I also have some “more degenerate” hobbies like videogames, movies/tv shows, and youtube. All of these make me happy on my own. I don’t really think I feel all that lonely? Although what you said at 7:35 is kind of true for me too. When I’m reminded of how nice life could be, even though I don’t think my life is horrible (actually I think it’s quite nice or at least decent), I become slightly devastated hahaha In 5 years from now, I see myself living alone. I will have a dog or a cat tho, that’ll be cool. I’ve never had a pet. I’ll have a nice PC. I’ll be doing a job I enjoy. Preferably, it will be work from home. I’ll have a car. Nothing too fancy, just something I can drive around in for fun. I still won’t have a real friend or a lover. I will be distant from my family. It all probably sounds pretty depressing to anyone who’d read this. And I guess it is but hopefully not for me. I wonder if my “dream” will become a reality. And I wonder, if it does, if I will be depressed and curse my younger self.
First of all, thanks for the long comment and all the good things you have said about me in it. Means alot really. AND that first point you made about people in real life having friends but you don't. That is LITERALLY me and I don't get why I am not like them. But I try not to pity myself though it gets hard sometimes. I get why you gave up. I also gave up for such a long time. But I realized, that if I give up, that hole still needs to be filled and no amount of coping will fix it. So I am trying again, with more productive hobbies this time and being a more developed person (I hope? lol). But I do believe you like the things you said you liked such as gym and chess, but I think you might still be coping like I was. Ofc I don't know you, you know yourself best. But you may be going through the same thing as me. Your hobbies make you happy like skating and stuff makes me happy. But they might also be acting as something to distract you from the true issue that needs to be fixed. But that is just my thought because that is how it is for me. But I won't give up even though I have wanted to multiple times. Besides, so many people have friends, what makes us any different? We deserve it too! But that is just what I think. Thank you for your thoughts!
Thanks for replying and giving me your honest thoughts on whether I'm coping or not lol. I appreciate that. I know I probably am coping but I just don't feel as strong anymore to keep going. Maybe/hopefully one day I will be again. I feel like I have been tryharding for quite a while and I literally feel like *nothing* improved. So, this summer, I'm just chilling ig. One thing I thought I might do in half a year or so (as that's when I will have an opportunity to) is to go see a therapist or psychiatrist or whatever. I kind of feel like there's likely something off with my brain. At least a little bit? Maybe that's what hindering me. I usually don't like to think this way as if the thing is something that's out of my control, then I don't have the power to do much about it on my own (even tho I am literally not even trying to do anything lately lol). But if there actually is something wrong, then I should absolutely go see a therapist. So it might be worth a shot I guess. Have you ever thought about doing that? I'm not trying to imply anything, I swear hahaha. You seem very mentally sound and stable, I'm just curious. One last thing, of all the realest friendships that I have had in the past, they all kind of began in the most organic way. I did not specifically seek those friendships or try to do some activity/go to some event to try and meet people. They just kind of happened spontaniously? I'm sure it happens even not spontaniously so, not trying to say otherwise. I'm just saying. I guess I'm just rambling at this point lol. I would totally get if you don't respond or even read this. I like putting it out there tho, for myself at least.
Nah dude I always try to respond everyone! But yeah, you are welcome! I’m glad you read what I sent and I think seeing a therapist even if you are not sure if something is actually wrong is still a good thing! I think therapy could help anyone whether they have a mental illness or not so there shouldn’t be a stigma attached to it. I’ve thought about trying it out just cuz why not but I’ve not gotten a chance. Even if something was wrong, I’m not one to pin everything on it and use it as an excuse to not try anything or do anything. But if something is wrong with us a little bit, that shouldn’t stop us completely! But I totally get what you said about not feeling like pursuing friendship. Rejections are draining and if you just wanna chill a little bit and not try for a while that’s fine too! But you are right. Most friendships happen spontaneously and so it’s not like I’m asking around for people to be friends with me cuz that’s not usually how it works? I just try to put myself in situations where a spontaneous friendship is more likely cuz it won’t happen sitting in my house lol. Unless I find a rlly cool online friend which I have found one that I met spontaneously. We just can’t meet irl so I would like some irl friends too haha.
I see! You are totally right that if something is wrong with us a little bit, that shouldn’t stop us completely. I agree with that. I guess what I was trying to say was that, on the one hand, I secretly want there to be something wrong with my brain so that it's not my fault that I'm like this. On the other hand, I actively try not to believe in that as, somehow, I feel like I have more autonomy that way. Idk how to explain it, really. Btw, when I was in kindergarten, I remember straight up asking people to be your friend was actually a thing hahaha. And it worked! Kind of? Also yep. Sitting in the house is not a great friendship generator lol. So putting yourself in situations where a spontaneous friendship is more likely is the way to make it happen 😭😭
Recently discovered your content on IG huge fan of what you do and your skating it's really unfortunate that religious reasons prevent you from being able to become friends with males cuz although skateboarding is very inclusive now a days and more girls skate they are still very few and far between so making friends with dudes is your best shot at making skate homies unfortunately. I would love to be your skate friend love your approach to the sport and your dedication to progressing keep on shredding! 💪
Thank you so much! I am glad that you like my content enough to come over here from IG! And yeah it is rlly hard to find female skate friends but I won't give up cuz I know I can find them one day. Like you said they are just far and few between despite skating being more inclusive these days. You keep shredding too homie! 👊
Little Skater you have a good mindset on matters & i like that quality about you🤙 But your beliefs (along with everyone else in the world🌎) can stop you from doing many things😞 Why does Meadow Scott make skater friends easily? How come she can talk to boys and you cant? What about her makes you any different? They’re a lot of beliefs in the world, a lot of opinions (then who’s right? 👍Who’s wrong?👎) “You must not talk to the opposite sex”🙊 “You gotta pray to this mountain”🏔️ “You gotta worship a cow”🐮 “You must to wear this”🧕 “You have to disown your family if blah blah blah” 😵💫 but there is only ONE TRUTH that is a FACT. ✅And its that there is 1 GOD. 👑OUR FATHER. We are all his CHILDREN 🧑🧒🧒💛. And we are all BROTHERS AND SISTERS. 💖 Its not about religion. Its about a RELATIONSHIP. ❤️❤️ Everyone’s trying to connect to something… 🌌🔭 a relationship with God wont complicate your life, it will actually make it E-Z-er 😌 Because thats whats TRUE and RIGHT and the NATURAL way of LIFE🌱✅ Religions and traditions will be tested in time⏳ with these opinions you will eventually be confronted with complication’s. Will you withstand the storms without the anchor? 👑⚓️🪨 ✌️&💖
im christian too, but that comment was all over the place haha, i think they were just trying to say that ive you believe in God then your life will become easier and better, and give you more peace in your life lol
Haha yeah that’s kinda what I thought...And yeah believing in God definitely gives me hope that there will always be good coming in life and it makes hard times easier to bear for sure. But I’m just expressing some of my frustrations with the video.
hey, too bad I couldn't go that day, i really did want to go, but my parents weren't so sure. hopefully next time we can go skate. also, I relate to a lot of what you said, especially now that my cousin moved away who I used to skate with and my other cousin quit. i miss having people to skate with, but often I can find people or kids at the skatepark to skate with so it's more fun. sometimes i end up sorta skating with guys or whoever I don't know but even though we don't know each other we still have fun being near each other in the skatepark environment. However, that's only my sessions that have happened. Not having friends to skate with was one of the reasons i just got bored of skating and lost a lot of motivation for around 6 months. It especially sucks when you see other skaters having this crazy day that look like it from a movie (ex meadowscott lol) and you feel like you're missing out on life,. Recently though, after i visited my cousin (Wowserpancakes) again at the end of May, we both go more motivated to skate again and we uploaded our skate clips to our channels. That motivates us to keep skating to be able to keep making videos and beat each other in our subscriber count haha (I'm winning). We should try to collab again soon forsure.
edit: i keep thinking of more things to say, but anyways besides just skateboarding, i have always had more boyish interests and hobbies so skateboarding is just one of the many things i struggle to find in common with other girls. I'm a big gamer (i hate that word) and i've very competitive with it, i like skiing and snowboarding which are also more niche sports, i've done karate, and i like lots of more male audience shows and movies. im a big tomboy, but i still like girl things, but it's hard to find others I can do things with.
edit: idk if our different religions will prevent that, but as a Christian, I have nothing against you for being a Muslim, God gave all people free will to choose him so its not my right to force anyone into my religion. thats why a lot of Christians get hate because they come off as condescending and rude
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Thank you for the long comment and it’s totally okay that you couldn’t go. This video was one I had planned to make before so it’s not just cuz of you if that’s what you thought. And I totally can see how you lost motivation when ur cousin moved away. That rlly sucks and so yeah I do the same, I kinda just skate and talk to random people (when there is people) and that’s all I can rlly do since I don’t have friends. it’s nice and helps with loneliness a bit. but having a deeper friendship is always more fulfilling.
I also totally get the watching these people like Meadow Scott having these crazy fun skate days like a coming of age movie and u feel like you are missing out. That’s why I want to make videos that kinda give the same energy (as best I can with only being one person in it usually lol) so maybe I can look back at it and see that life wasn’t all that bad i guess??
it’s also fine if my skate friends aren’t ALL Muslim. I just mostly prefer girls generally but some Muslims would be good lol. And I don’t have anything against you as a Christian. We are all supposed to respect each others’ views and it’s also not up to me to force my religion on you either. So it’s all good. Plus my grandma is Christian too.
Anyway thanks for coming to my yap sesh lol and congrats on hitting 2k by the way!! 🔥🔥
Hey little skater, I'm a skater girl too. I started skating about 3 years ago and have progressed much this year doing tricks in my garage and on a very small ramp I bought on amazon. So I started going to my local skatepark, which is quite far from my home. However, when my parents found out that there is nobody at the skatepark and that it's not in a well frequented area of the city, they don't want me to go there anymore because they think it's dangerous. So I think I will Just keep on doing tricks in my garage even if it's not as good as the skatepark. I love your videos and i will keep on watching your progression 💪🍀, good luck!
Thanks for watching and I’m glad you like my videos! That’s sad that you can’t go to the skatepark anymore. I would be so bummed. But you can progress a lot on your own and it’s great that you keep going! Maybe you can make some more obstacles for your garage so you can learn even more things sorta like you would at a skatepark. Keep shredding!! 👊
my parent dont really like me going to skateparks either, but i still manage to go, hopefully one day you can skate freely
I always wanted to start skateboarding but i never got the chance to, skating is not very popular in my country, you cant even find a skateboard to buy. as i got older especially when i hit 20 last year i kinda lost hope on everything, i never got to achieve anything i dream of and i feel like its too late to start now.
i really like sports and i never got to do anything for various reasons, but i made it my mission to never give up on my dream to skateboard.
i finally got the chance to order a skateboard all the way from America around last week and I'm really excited for it to arrive and start skating, i just hope i don't give up on it because we don't really have places to skate and i don't really have a chance to really just go outside.
finding your channel kinda gave me motivation to keep going and to go for it no matter what, and one day i will make all my dreams come true...
Congrats on getting your first skateboard! That must be so exciting since it is so hard to get a skateboard in your country. Even if there isn't much area to skate outside, find a way to skate inside if you can so you won't give up. It isn't too late to start now and if you can do everything in your power to find a place to skate whether inside or outside, you can do it and progress! If there is a will, there is a way. So go for it and have fun! I am glad my channel gave you motivation to keep going and I know one day you can make all your dreams come true if you don't give up!
@@thelittleskater01 thank you very much!!
@@bluesketch3874 Ur welcome! 🔥🔥🔥
Hey little skater, I totally get how you feel. It's tough when your friends don't share the same passion for skating as you do. I find myself often skating alone because my friends don't skate as frequently as I do. They always say "next time" or comment, "you're skating again?" It can be frustrating. And I can't skate with girls around my age, I think you know why. Im also not old enough to drive so I constantly try to get my parents to drive me so im mostly left skating alone in my neighborhood. Im still really greatful to be able to skate. Keep pushing yourself and enjoying every moment on your board. Don't let friends or anyone stop you. 🔥👊
Thank you sm! I am glad you could relate with me. And yeah, it seems most girls who get into skating don't seem as excited about it. I know that is a generalization but every time I find a girl who 'likes to skate' they are never into it as much as me. i rlly dont know why. Learning tricks is so fun. And I totally get the whole nagging your parents to drive you so your stuck in your neighborhood. I was like that too before I got my license but I still am not allowed to go by myself so I totally understand. But you keep shredding too! Go skate and have as much fun as you can despite not having friends!
You're amazing Keep Shreddin,
Thanks yo! You too🔥✌️
Heyy i totally relate to this video keep up the good work! Finding friends skating is difficult especially when it depends on the area. I only have skate friends for comps in other states lol. I totally get no having motivation when you don’t have friends to skate with but I would say don’t give up! Friends do come eventually but it usually takes a compliment like nice board or sick trick to get people talking. I would also say don’t force yourself to skate if you aren’t feeling it because it just ends up ruining the experience completely. If every time you skate you get bummed Because of empty parks you probably start to get burned out and that sucks. So i recommended taking like a week off or longer if you really aren’t feeling it. Like I just took a 8 month break lol because i was sooooo burned out and it definitely helps. It reminded me why I loved riding so much and how much work i need to do to be better again lol.UA-cam and social media will 100% motivate you to keep skating so your definitely on the rise. Anyway sorry for the rant lol but your videos are sicckkk and keep it uppp 🤙
No no thank you for the rant! I love to hear everyone’s thoughts. I’m glad you like my videos and that you could relate to this one. I don’t think friends are my main motivation for skating cuz I started doing it alone so I don’t think I will ever give up! but I certainly think friends make it so much more fun. And yeah, if I’m feeling too bummed about not having friends and empty parks I get why you would say to take a break so it doesn’t ruin the experience but for me it hasn’t rlly ruined the experience but maybe I’m just not burned out enough lol. Ofc I do take breaks but like after three days I am like man I gotta skate! I love to do tricks so much that I don’t want to lose them. Taking breaks rlly show me how much I love to skate and that it isn’t always about friends. Having to make content also helps motivate me to skate. Also I’m glad you said that friends come eventually cuz that gives me some hope for some homies one day! Keep shredding!
I know its hard to have friends in person but I think ur channell is a great place for community especially among girl/muslim/hijabi skaters. Alot of people do youtube collabs overseas and it wont replace the experience of real life friends but it could still be cool!
Yeah! For sure! I am hoping my channel can reach Muslim/Hijabi/girl skaters as well as many others so that skaters and non skaters who don’t have friends don’t feel alone. I hope to do some collabs in the future through the internet or Irl. It’s not the same as friends but it would definitely help and give me the feeling of having purpose! Thanks for the encouragement! 🔥🔥🔥
I love you girl
Thank youuuu
Keep doing what you love, and if the homies show up: even better. Someday 🤞
And keep making videos ❤❤
Exactly! 🙌 and I will :) we will see what the future holds!!!
yo little skater. There seem to be so many “I am 20-40 years old and I have no friends” videos on youtube with millions of views and likes as well as a lot of commenters that relate with it. This kind of makes me think that it’s not just me and maybe I’m not entirely to blame that I don’t have any real friends since so many people feel that way nowadays. However, honestly, almost everyone I know in real life seems to have them. And my family pities me big time that I don’t (I hate this so much haha).
I kind of gave up, to be honest? I’m not like you. I don’t go out there and keep trying. I want to express just how admirable I think it is that you do. For me, it’s so inexpressibly challenging and depressing to do that. It’s incredible that you persevere and I hope the people you meet will finally see how cool you are. I don’t want it to seem like I think I know you. I’ve only seen what you put out here on yt and that’s it. But from what I have seen, you seem like a really nice, funny, and thoughtful person.
I don’t know if I am coping hard or if I’m actually ok with not having friends. I’m probably coping hard lol. I try to tell myself that there are many things that make me happy in life which I think is true. I’m curious and I actually like studying for my degree (and studying in general). I have music. I have chess. I have gym. I also have some “more degenerate” hobbies like videogames, movies/tv shows, and youtube. All of these make me happy on my own. I don’t really think I feel all that lonely? Although what you said at 7:35 is kind of true for me too. When I’m reminded of how nice life could be, even though I don’t think my life is horrible (actually I think it’s quite nice or at least decent), I become slightly devastated hahaha
In 5 years from now, I see myself living alone. I will have a dog or a cat tho, that’ll be cool. I’ve never had a pet. I’ll have a nice PC. I’ll be doing a job I enjoy. Preferably, it will be work from home. I’ll have a car. Nothing too fancy, just something I can drive around in for fun. I still won’t have a real friend or a lover. I will be distant from my family. It all probably sounds pretty depressing to anyone who’d read this. And I guess it is but hopefully not for me. I wonder if my “dream” will become a reality. And I wonder, if it does, if I will be depressed and curse my younger self.
First of all, thanks for the long comment and all the good things you have said about me in it. Means alot really. AND that first point you made about people in real life having friends but you don't. That is LITERALLY me and I don't get why I am not like them. But I try not to pity myself though it gets hard sometimes.
I get why you gave up. I also gave up for such a long time. But I realized, that if I give up, that hole still needs to be filled and no amount of coping will fix it. So I am trying again, with more productive hobbies this time and being a more developed person (I hope? lol). But I do believe you like the things you said you liked such as gym and chess, but I think you might still be coping like I was. Ofc I don't know you, you know yourself best. But you may be going through the same thing as me. Your hobbies make you happy like skating and stuff makes me happy. But they might also be acting as something to distract you from the true issue that needs to be fixed. But that is just my thought because that is how it is for me. But I won't give up even though I have wanted to multiple times. Besides, so many people have friends, what makes us any different? We deserve it too! But that is just what I think. Thank you for your thoughts!
Thanks for replying and giving me your honest thoughts on whether I'm coping or not lol. I appreciate that. I know I probably am coping but I just don't feel as strong anymore to keep going. Maybe/hopefully one day I will be again. I feel like I have been tryharding for quite a while and I literally feel like *nothing* improved. So, this summer, I'm just chilling ig.
One thing I thought I might do in half a year or so (as that's when I will have an opportunity to) is to go see a therapist or psychiatrist or whatever. I kind of feel like there's likely something off with my brain. At least a little bit? Maybe that's what hindering me. I usually don't like to think this way as if the thing is something that's out of my control, then I don't have the power to do much about it on my own (even tho I am literally not even trying to do anything lately lol). But if there actually is something wrong, then I should absolutely go see a therapist. So it might be worth a shot I guess. Have you ever thought about doing that? I'm not trying to imply anything, I swear hahaha. You seem very mentally sound and stable, I'm just curious.
One last thing, of all the realest friendships that I have had in the past, they all kind of began in the most organic way. I did not specifically seek those friendships or try to do some activity/go to some event to try and meet people. They just kind of happened spontaniously? I'm sure it happens even not spontaniously so, not trying to say otherwise. I'm just saying. I guess I'm just rambling at this point lol.
I would totally get if you don't respond or even read this. I like putting it out there tho, for myself at least.
Nah dude I always try to respond everyone! But yeah, you are welcome! I’m glad you read what I sent and I think seeing a therapist even if you are not sure if something is actually wrong is still a good thing! I think therapy could help anyone whether they have a mental illness or not so there shouldn’t be a stigma attached to it. I’ve thought about trying it out just cuz why not but I’ve not gotten a chance. Even if something was wrong, I’m not one to pin everything on it and use it as an excuse to not try anything or do anything. But if something is wrong with us a little bit, that shouldn’t stop us completely!
But I totally get what you said about not feeling like pursuing friendship. Rejections are draining and if you just wanna chill a little bit and not try for a while that’s fine too! But you are right. Most friendships happen spontaneously and so it’s not like I’m asking around for people to be friends with me cuz that’s not usually how it works? I just try to put myself in situations where a spontaneous friendship is more likely cuz it won’t happen sitting in my house lol. Unless I find a rlly cool online friend which I have found one that I met spontaneously. We just can’t meet irl so I would like some irl friends too haha.
I see! You are totally right that if something is wrong with us a little bit, that shouldn’t stop us completely. I agree with that. I guess what I was trying to say was that, on the one hand, I secretly want there to be something wrong with my brain so that it's not my fault that I'm like this. On the other hand, I actively try not to believe in that as, somehow, I feel like I have more autonomy that way. Idk how to explain it, really.
Btw, when I was in kindergarten, I remember straight up asking people to be your friend was actually a thing hahaha. And it worked! Kind of? Also yep. Sitting in the house is not a great friendship generator lol. So putting yourself in situations where a spontaneous friendship is more likely is the way to make it happen 😭😭
real, especially the pc, gym, and end part lol
Recently discovered your content on IG huge fan of what you do and your skating it's really unfortunate that religious reasons prevent you from being able to become friends with males cuz although skateboarding is very inclusive now a days and more girls skate they are still very few and far between so making friends with dudes is your best shot at making skate homies unfortunately. I would love to be your skate friend love your approach to the sport and your dedication to progressing keep on shredding! 💪
Thank you so much! I am glad that you like my content enough to come over here from IG! And yeah it is rlly hard to find female skate friends but I won't give up cuz I know I can find them one day. Like you said they are just far and few between despite skating being more inclusive these days. You keep shredding too homie! 👊
Little Skater you have a good mindset on matters & i like that quality about you🤙
But your beliefs (along with everyone else in the world🌎) can stop you from doing many things😞
Why does Meadow Scott make skater friends easily?
How come she can talk to boys and you cant?
What about her makes you any different?
They’re a lot of beliefs in the world, a lot of opinions (then who’s right? 👍Who’s wrong?👎)
“You must not talk to the opposite sex”🙊
“You gotta pray to this mountain”🏔️
“You gotta worship a cow”🐮
“You must to wear this”🧕
“You have to disown your family if blah blah blah” 😵💫
but there is only ONE TRUTH that is a FACT. ✅And its that there is 1 GOD. 👑OUR FATHER. We are all his CHILDREN 🧑🧒🧒💛. And we are all BROTHERS AND SISTERS. 💖
Its not about religion. Its about a RELATIONSHIP. ❤️❤️
Everyone’s trying to connect to something…
🌌🔭
a relationship with God wont complicate your life, it will actually make it E-Z-er 😌
Because thats whats TRUE and RIGHT and the NATURAL way of LIFE🌱✅
Religions and traditions will be tested in time⏳ with these opinions you will eventually be confronted with complication’s.
Will you withstand the storms without the anchor? 👑⚓️🪨
✌️&💖
Umm I’m not sure what you mean by all that hehe 😅
im christian too, but that comment was all over the place haha, i think they were just trying to say that ive you believe in God then your life will become easier and better, and give you more peace in your life lol
Haha yeah that’s kinda what I thought...And yeah believing in God definitely gives me hope that there will always be good coming in life and it makes hard times easier to bear for sure. But I’m just expressing some of my frustrations with the video.