(VIDEO) "I need a husband, I will sponsor the marriage" - 39 year old Nigerian lady cries out
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- Опубліковано 3 сер 2024
- A 39-year-old woman has taken her search for a husband to new heights because she is approaching ‘’menopause'' and all her friends are married.
In a video shared on X, the lady lamented that she has been single for a long time and does not wish to remain in that situation any longer.
She even offered to sponsor the wedding herself, urging interested men to approach her.
“I need a husband, I’m tired of singleness. I am 39-years-old. Very soon I will enter menopause. Please I need a husband in my life. No matter what you are doing, I am going to marry you,” she said in part.
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When are we going to be honest and speak about the other side of this issue? Single women also yearn for companionship, aside from the way society pressures them, they personally feel that void. And this is a valid feeling! It isn’t going to be filled or replaced by confidence or self esteem! God created us to want companionship and it’s not fair to call people out for expressing this desire. I agree that there’s a need to have enough self awareness and esteem to show your want or availability in a better way than what the lady has done, but the truth must be told that loneliness is real!!! I write from experience, married now for 14yrs but I know how it felt before that happened.
Hmmmm
perhaps people will come out to shout down all these masquerading as strong women for openly criticising such honest lady. They make big statements in the open, but do worse things than the lady in secret
It is really sad that this woman has to down such a rabbit hole. Marriage doesn't define a person, it is better to be happily single than to be in an unhappy marriage. Don't lower your standards. PS. The title of the video should be ...''sponsor the wedding' not the marriage.
There is no such thing as happily single...Go and ask people...
@@LoveAndLoyalty9884 Very correct 👌.
Many people didn't understand this situation, it's not easy at that age, in our communities.
But she should be very careful and prayerful about it, not be desperate to have any man.
It may lead to additional pain for her.
@@LoveAndLoyalty9884Thank you! No human being is meant to be alone. It’s not fun being alone. Let’s stop glamorising being alone.
@@oluades.3770So on point 👌🏾
@@LoveAndLoyalty9884 that's not true. Your brain has been wired to believe such. I used to think like that when I was in my 20s. Not now that I am older.
That's what makes her happy 😊 no one has the right to judge her. Every human has what makes them happy for her is getting a husband
Singleness is not a disease. Low Self Esteem is. This woman is not well. 🙃
Wow, you concluded that she’s unwell because she vocalised her feelings of loneliness?? She may be desperate hence her choice of words or saying she’ll have anyone marry her but she’s also a lonely person and we need to be kinder in responding to these things. I don’t know how old you are but imagine being alone in your mid 40s, not because you choose to but because no one had felt the need to share their life with you? It’s not a great place to be, I can tell you freely. And it doesn’t always only involve lack of self esteem.
@@dumadan7561 My dear, the only One, any human being on this earth should be desperate for, or crying out for is God. So I repeat my statement: "The woman is not well."
@@gracenmercy1085 I was going to respond with something equally as unkind as you’ve described the woman but I had a rethink. Go right ahead and bask in your ignorant view.
The aunties taking on the show, should have stayed unmarried and see how it feels
For you to get to the point where you are not moved by the opinions and expectations of people and society for your life,
You need to find the purpose for your life and pursue it.
Finding the purpose of your life means finding God, your Creator.
And God's Word says that you should seek first the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness, and every other thing will be added unto you.
The society should be kind in their words, this will make the world a better place.
I am praying for this lady to get a good man to marry her. If she is a marriage material, God will definitely give her an excellent husband. May the Lord Almighty God give her a good man who will make her happy❤. I am writing from Ghana.
she was bold enough to cry out , i think it isn't anyone's place to judge or criticize her but to rally around her to help her match make her
I am 27years and I've been single all my life...... singlehood is one of pressurized season especially for women but I've come to understand that marriage is not the total sum up of a woman........ marriage is just one of those things just like education, career and all
And if marriage is not yet in the picture, there's so much to God has put in you that you can become
I really understand that woman pain and It's my prayer that she will receive strength to find dignity in herself
Please, dont blame society...abeg, abeg....This things are just natural....Even if nobody pressures you, naturally, you will pressure yourself...its not society abeg...
We come in pairs. Let some people keep deceiving themselves. She also wants children, females have a biological clock
@@ola...o1009Thank you for this honesty. People are giving views that are a bit jaded and unreal.
You are absolutely spot on!
Which loneliness? Doesn't she have friends? I pity her when she falls into the hands of the wrong person. By then, she will realize that singlehood is also a blessing
Let's not blame the society here. This has to do with someone's happiness, there are many who condemn marriage and there are many who will give all just to get married. Let's not blame the society here. I myself, a young man of twenty four, feel I should get married now but when I look at my pocket, I just lie low. Because of hardship and poverty caused by our political class we're now having to see certain things which we ought to do as irrelevant and unnecessary.
24, you have a whole life ahead of you. Establish yourself first cos with the current economic climate you need to be independent. Use this time to get to know and love yourself.
Na your type de influence the younger ones to make wrong decisions@@deeron1554
@@deeron1554please tell him. At 24, you should be living your life, building your self to be whole and complete self so that the universe can attract a complete woman to you. Also, understand who you are and what your needs are.
It's what she wants, and not all about societal pressure.
When people talk about society pressure I can't relate because I was raised to understand that people will always talk either good or bad they'll always have something to say don't let what they'll say deprive yourself the happiness of life,I come to this life alone and am going alone so nobody can pressure me 😅
The society could be exhibiting toxic positivity; what she wants is what she wants her feelings should not be invalidated. It's good to go into marriage with enough dose of confidence and self esteem , it doesn't mean marriage cannot erode these attributes. Moreover, she must be exposed and educated and I therefore believe she has exhausted her options. May God answer her prayers.
The lady is only telling the public she's under pressure but that doesn't mean guys aren't wooing her
Well done Zainab! Way to deflect 😂
She is real. Being single isn't natural and how life should be. The bible said many women will beg a man to have his name.
God bless that Zainab for her comments
You have looked at it from other angles except her happiness. If that's what she wants desperately its not society.
It is about time for single ladies to love themselves. This is important for her to eventually find the love of her life. And as a mature woman of that age, she should have build her own identity outside of social validation.
Ramatu, for some women marriage is an achievement for them. For example, when you look at the Abraham Maslow hierarchy of need, the level of self actualisation for some women, it is marriage. They think they have achieved alot.
This very important discussion highlights that certain mindset needs to change when it comes when women getting married. Some family member needs to have different new and fresh awareness that not grown daughter time married then what know. Every woman's footsteps are ordered differently from others. Women knowing who and what good mental and emotional wellbeing is very important. This lady feels overwhelmed and not sure. Listened to heart and mind and sit in silence to find your answers, and don't settle for what life you want, you are important. At this moment stay say from the noise of everyone, and find yourself and make a wish that the man you will marry will respect you and love, you each other peace and joy 🙏🙏💪🤌😇👍👀🎼🔊
If only she knew
Her link pls !
Is not pressure. She is real. There are many women out there. The chances of many women are low because of the number of women out there
Jennifer Lopez is the same. That feeling has a name. Is something psychological
Is not easy to be alone
You are assuming she was pressured. Forget the issue of pressure, being single is not an easy thing a lot of people are pretentious about being single. You don't necessarily have to be pressured to feel the way she felt. You are not thinking of whether she has a motive behind what she did. Please stop being judgemental.
Low self esteem
That "celebrity" guest Zainab. Was talking a lot but not saying ANYTHING.
What a waste of time.
Just any type of man?
Why now?
It's not normal ooo
Aoothu bilahi minar shaytani rajeem!!!
Bunch of irresponsible co host. What kind of advertisement is here in a decent society. Ladies of no reputation are gagging up to discuss weak affairs.
She actually needs baby not to take care of her during the old age not husband 😂
Many ways to have kids. What of the means of getting the kid or kids?? At some age u can't do anything about having kids. We are Africans. We no be oyinbo.
There are a million plus 1 spinsters. Why carry it on your head nah? Wetin be dat?
Women are terrible advisers!!!😂
Agree
It's wrong for you lot to be analysing men but not have a man sit with you to correct some of your perceptions.
You people are still tampering with her psychology with all these words coming out of you. Common!
marriage is an achievement... let no one deceived you! Ish: 4:1 is playing on
Please sister ramatu can you improve on your dressing.
Haba. That is not nice. Ramatu looks beautiful and is elegantly dressed every time she is on the show.
Her dressing is always beautiful.
@@gracenmercy1085 I don’t say is not beautiful I am just saying she should represent her culture well by covering her head properly.
@@user-tx5dv5ji1pYou have you own wife nd female relatives, go nd cover them up and leave women from other families alone