it’s true that the term “trauma bond” has been super misunderstood on the internet. a large mass of people have thought that it meant being able to bond over similar traumas / going through trauma together. but actually the term refers to the abusive cycle between a narcissist and their victim! open conversations and learning is awesome but collectively, we need to learn not to jump at people for being misinformed. it’s super easy to misunderstand things and that’s not your fault! i’m sorry someone was so rude to you about that.
Pile 3 - He always ends the convo first and has repeatedly ghosted for like two years. Every time I message him he responds immediately but then just poof…. I’m not making another first move. I’ve already made like 20. nudging is not an option anymore but I still would be open if he came in. It’s awful 😭
P2 was more accurate than I like admitting 😅 Our relationship was always a double-edged sword. I was actually tempted to reach out because memories of them always tug at my heart but this message was the reality check I needed. ❤
Group 1 👋 We repeat the same cycle with him again and again for years. The difference is this year i went on a self growth journey and healing and pulled my energy back after he went on a ghost mode. Had to deal with stuff myself and grow and look at things from another perspective and let him deal with his stuff too. If he reach out as you saw i will tell you 😊❤
Oh my gosh again!!!! Pile 3 here!!! I've been pushing him away for the past three weeks! I yelled at him because I was tired of his hot and cold energy, breadcrumbing, etc. Low and behold, he reached out to me today, dipping his toes in the water. He mentioned one of my stories on Snapchat where he thought I looked very hot 😂 this reading also tied in with the other two readings where I was trying to find out info about another man, but HE keeps popping through all the readings!!
Pile2. This pile is definitely resonates my feelings, every word was spot on, every line represents me and my efforts towards this relation. Definitely he has to put effort, i have chosen to focus on my ambition.
Trauma bond - and u didn’t use it incorrectly- you’re using it with the correct context because trauma bonding breaking up making up or (toxic cycles) is the definition of what that is it’s psychological conditioning to get you okay with pain or certain behaviors and is typically formed in a narcissistic/empathetic relationship because they share the shadow attribute of attachment or abandonment wounds
@@rogreywolf8371 to be fair 90% of the time it’s being circulated incorrectly as just two ppl bonding over trauma… which is the improper use. And those of us who have to use it correctly in our work gently have to point that out cause we actually know how to use it. I see no issue with that. Popularity and accuracy aren’t the same thing.
@@Bluecentric except…you really don’t have to point it out. There are differences in how things are used colloquially and in a technical term. You really don’t have to point it out.
Group 3: Well, that was like a damn personal reading. Crazy. Lots of endings I think lately. I think I’ve maybe walked away for good. But it’s only a free wks out of an over 2 yr relationship so I’m still deciding how done I am. Anyway, thank you. PS. Last time I saw him it was at the state fair. lol
Also as well I watched pile 1 yesterday for another person and you mentioned them reaching out around an event and end of the month… I just got asked to go to baseball game this Saturday with my parents which right at the end of the month. So that’s cool! I’m curious to see if that’s when he reaches out!
3 .. i miss him ..he's a crush ..been quite cold n hot at times. . haven't spoken much ..like we barely even say hi to each other ..but he's on my mind 24&7 that's its hurting now ..and i am currently crushing ..even before selecting the pile i was nervous because i don want to hear something i guess i shud accept.. i reallly wish he likes me back , makes a move towatds me ! 😢😢😢😢
Pile 2❤ and not too much on her because I see a lot of crabby crabs 🦀 whinning about things not resonating because “you would never” this isn’t about you , based on the title … and if you or the other person struggles with severe stubbornness this could be why they feel or you feel they should reach out first but in real time it’s from their perspective.and if that doesn’t work for you move on versus watching “when they will reach out “ some people just respect boundaries some don’t feel like they should reach out if you made it clear that you don’t wanna talk to them 🤷🏼♀️ and if she reflects that it’s still work needing to be done hell I don’t want them reaching out anyways 😂 stop projecting and saying it doesn’t resonate it does 😂 if things don’t apply let them fly 😭
Pile 3. Spot on! The last few times free he was liking my photos I had to like his story then he reached out… it’s happened a few times. He alwyss leave me on read tho… not this time I did it. Only because his snaps were dry and he didn’t seem into chatting after the sexting so I dropped it. Then he proceeded to Iike a fee of my things on social media but eh. He made me upset the other time for falling through on a plan and I believe he may feel that energy from me the last time we spoke/sexting 2 weeks after that incident, my energy is def different. He knows if it goes too long without physical meet up I lose interest, I made that known last time. So that may be why he’s nervous next time.
Pile 3 clown is fitting 😂 I have to laugh he is an attention seeker always cheating. I realized early on so I started dating others. I did let him know the last time I saw him, it just wasn't going to work and I am interested in new connections only. He still tried but I don't feel the attraction
Pile 3 Where do I start lol? So, this is about my ex with whom I broke up almost a month ago. He's younger than me and I was the one initiating breakup for a while because I was bothered by his lack of communication skills. However, I've reached out to him after we broke up because I realized how much I actually care and he agreed to meet up. He had to reschedule meeting due to some family stuff allegedly. We have been texting and I got pissed off because he followed some girl on IG lol. I knew her and he doesn't follow many people, so I was really curious how did he came across her. He explained that they hanged out randomly with other people the other night, and that he thought she was interesting due to her work. Apparently he didn't see anything bad in it because she wasn't attractive and he thought she was way older. He unfollowed her even though I didn't ask for it. Later that day I went out in a club and my friend and I really had great time with some guys we met that night. His friend was standing next to us and was watching the whole time. My friend went out with one of the guys, which left me alone with the other one. After a while we decided to go outside to look for them, and there was my ex standing in front of club with some guys. He looked straight at me while I walked out of the club with random guy. I just looked away not even saying hello because it was too awkward. I didn't get involved with the guy physically in any way, but I guess it looked like it in the momen. Next day we were supposed to meet up and he didn't reach out. I've texted him to see if we're seeing each other or not, and he unfollowed me and decided to ghost my message which I've deleted of course. No contact since then and had hard time processing everything. Now I'm better and decided not to watch readinga like this, but this one popped out in notifications. I think he stills care because just two days before breakup he said that he loves me and would do everything for me, but I've done my part lol. If you want, come and get it and I'll think about it this time.
pile 2 STOPPP i REFUSSEEE to make the first move. even if i ghosted he has to be the one to come back cuz i'm sick of going back to these men that don't know how to chase a gem. also i feel called OUTTT cuz i be wondering how i can like run into him LMAO. it's interesting how you mentioned work though. we don't work together but he always memorized my work schedule. bruh this dum ahh mf needa just make that move or imma block him cuz im sick of waiting. SMH
Thank you for this reading. 🤍 Yesterday was tough but I asked my guides for strength and to help me let this go. I feel bad if my person is feeling the same way, bc it is not easy! But, we gotta keep pushing. So I pray all the best for them but the ball stays in their court. It would be such a waste to rinse and repeat. I have to focus my time on something more productive than that. I’ll still be tuning in when you post though. Wishing you an amazing week, Shadowplay! 🤍
I really hope you don’t get a lot of shit from people who are triggered by what you say or want to correct your way of expression. It’s clear your extremely talented at what you do and I’d hate for you to continually self-censor because people won’t take responsibility for their own emotions. You’re not a psychologist and people shouldn’t have that expectation. What’s important is the underlying message not the precision in which you deliver it. Anyway, keep on truckin!🚛✌🏻✌🏻🚛
The so called check in on this person is to see when they will reach out to me NOT when I should reach out bc that won’t be happening EVER..he ghosted me so the ball is in his court so I can check in whenever I please to see if he has came to his senses yet . If the reading was titled when should I reach out I would’ve never watched it. Pile 2
it’s true that the term “trauma bond” has been super misunderstood on the internet. a large mass of people have thought that it meant being able to bond over similar traumas / going through trauma together. but actually the term refers to the abusive cycle between a narcissist and their victim! open conversations and learning is awesome but collectively, we need to learn not to jump at people for being misinformed. it’s super easy to misunderstand things and that’s not your fault! i’m sorry someone was so rude to you about that.
Not you just posting after I’ve had this question on my mind for the last week, never been this early
@@bellthebooknerd no same !! I literally been in the same boat bc I got ghosted randomly when I did nothing wrong
Samee omg
Teaaa😭
the two clowns sticker representing group three is on point 😂
Pile 3 - He always ends the convo first and has repeatedly ghosted for like two years. Every time I message him he responds immediately but then just poof…. I’m not making another first move. I’ve already made like 20.
nudging is not an option anymore but I still would be open if he came in. It’s awful 😭
Please move on.... delete his number. Don't even bother blocking. You will never hear from him again. He is just an attention wh*re.
P2 was more accurate than I like admitting 😅 Our relationship was always a double-edged sword. I was actually tempted to reach out because memories of them always tug at my heart but this message was the reality check I needed. ❤
Group 1 👋 We repeat the same cycle with him again and again for years. The difference is this year i went on a self growth journey and healing and pulled my energy back after he went on a ghost mode. Had to deal with stuff myself and grow and look at things from another perspective and let him deal with his stuff too. If he reach out as you saw i will tell you 😊❤
Pile no 1: 1:27
Pile no 2: 22:08
Pile no 3: 40:08
Very fitting for the clowns to be pile 3 😉
Based on certain comments I see that some of the clowns belong to pile 2 🥲
Based on some comments I think we might all be 🤡's 😬🤭🤣
@@shadowplaytarot😂😂😂😂😂🥴
Tears of a clown..🤡
You right. Let me get my shit together cause the energy is matching and reflection of my beliefs.
Oh my gosh again!!!! Pile 3 here!!! I've been pushing him away for the past three weeks! I yelled at him because I was tired of his hot and cold energy, breadcrumbing, etc. Low and behold, he reached out to me today, dipping his toes in the water. He mentioned one of my stories on Snapchat where he thought I looked very hot 😂 this reading also tied in with the other two readings where I was trying to find out info about another man, but HE keeps popping through all the readings!!
Pile2. This pile is definitely resonates my feelings, every word was spot on, every line represents me and my efforts towards this relation. Definitely he has to put effort, i have chosen to focus on my ambition.
Group 2. You: "this person is a ding dong" me: laughs while nodding. Spot on 👌😂😂
Trauma bond - and u didn’t use it incorrectly- you’re using it with the correct context because trauma bonding breaking up making up or (toxic cycles) is the definition of what that is it’s psychological conditioning to get you okay with pain or certain behaviors and is typically formed in a narcissistic/empathetic relationship because they share the shadow attribute of attachment or abandonment wounds
2. really love the color of your nails, first part of the reading is spot on.
Pile 3 ugh it’s so exhausting dealing with this person I let this person just be free !!
Absolutely wild that the person felt the need to school you on “trauma bonding” as if that’s not an already circulated terminology. 🥴
@@rogreywolf8371 to be fair 90% of the time it’s being circulated incorrectly as just two ppl bonding over trauma… which is the improper use. And those of us who have to use it correctly in our work gently have to point that out cause we actually know how to use it. I see no issue with that. Popularity and accuracy aren’t the same thing.
@@Bluecentric except…you really don’t have to point it out. There are differences in how things are used colloquially and in a technical term. You really don’t have to point it out.
Thanks; love your set up
Accurate channeling
Wtfffff how was this so accurate 😂😂 I think I am in love with you ❤❤
Pile 3. Lmfao omg !! 😱 why are you telling the truth girl!!!! 😂😂😂
Group 3: Well, that was like a damn personal reading. Crazy. Lots of endings I think lately. I think I’ve maybe walked away for good. But it’s only a free wks out of an over 2 yr relationship so I’m still deciding how done I am. Anyway, thank you. PS. Last time I saw him it was at the state fair. lol
Pile 2- deeply needed to hear this.
Also as well I watched pile 1 yesterday for another person and you mentioned them reaching out around an event and end of the month… I just got asked to go to baseball game this Saturday with my parents which right at the end of the month. So that’s cool! I’m curious to see if that’s when he reaches out!
3 .. i miss him ..he's a crush ..been quite cold n hot at times. . haven't spoken much ..like we barely even say hi to each other ..but he's on my mind 24&7 that's its hurting now ..and i am currently crushing ..even before selecting the pile i was nervous because i don want to hear something i guess i shud accept.. i reallly wish he likes me back , makes a move towatds me ! 😢😢😢😢
Pile 2❤ and not too much on her because I see a lot of crabby crabs 🦀 whinning about things not resonating because “you would never” this isn’t about you , based on the title … and if you or the other person struggles with severe stubbornness this could be why they feel or you feel they should reach out first but in real time it’s from their perspective.and if that doesn’t work for you move on versus watching “when they will reach out “ some people just respect boundaries some don’t feel like they should reach out if you made it clear that you don’t wanna talk to them 🤷🏼♀️ and if she reflects that it’s still work needing to be done hell I don’t want them reaching out anyways 😂 stop projecting and saying it doesn’t resonate it does 😂 if things don’t apply let them fly 😭
3- i found out he is definitely married and has a baby. I cant speak to him anymore. He got caught red handed.
Yes men cheat at any opportunity if inclined. They could be genuinely happy with their wives etc and still look for variety. This is the harsh truth.
Pile #3 resonates lol I’m stubborn I don’t want to give any signs maybe I will
Not you calling out Group 3! 😂 I genuinely gasped! 💀
Pile 3. Spot on! The last few times free he was liking my photos I had to like his story then he reached out… it’s happened a few times. He alwyss leave me on read tho… not this time I did it. Only because his snaps were dry and he didn’t seem into chatting after the sexting so I dropped it. Then he proceeded to Iike a fee of my things on social media but eh. He made me upset the other time for falling through on a plan and I believe he may feel that energy from me the last time we spoke/sexting 2 weeks after that incident, my energy is def different. He knows if it goes too long without physical meet up I lose interest, I made that known last time. So that may be why he’s nervous next time.
This is scary on point
Pile 3- I’d love to give a nudge, but if his friends find out then rumors will go around school that I’m stalking and obsessive over him :,(
Pile 3 clown is fitting 😂 I have to laugh he is an attention seeker always cheating. I realized early on so I started dating others. I did let him know the last time I saw him, it just wasn't going to work and I am interested in new connections only. He still tried but I don't feel the attraction
Pile 3 Where do I start lol? So, this is about my ex with whom I broke up almost a month ago. He's younger than me and I was the one initiating breakup for a while because I was bothered by his lack of communication skills. However, I've reached out to him after we broke up because I realized how much I actually care and he agreed to meet up. He had to reschedule meeting due to some family stuff allegedly. We have been texting and I got pissed off because he followed some girl on IG lol. I knew her and he doesn't follow many people, so I was really curious how did he came across her. He explained that they hanged out randomly with other people the other night, and that he thought she was interesting due to her work. Apparently he didn't see anything bad in it because she wasn't attractive and he thought she was way older. He unfollowed her even though I didn't ask for it. Later that day I went out in a club and my friend and I really had great time with some guys we met that night. His friend was standing next to us and was watching the whole time. My friend went out with one of the guys, which left me alone with the other one. After a while we decided to go outside to look for them, and there was my ex standing in front of club with some guys. He looked straight at me while I walked out of the club with random guy. I just looked away not even saying hello because it was too awkward. I didn't get involved with the guy physically in any way, but I guess it looked like it in the momen. Next day we were supposed to meet up and he didn't reach out. I've texted him to see if we're seeing each other or not, and he unfollowed me and decided to ghost my message which I've deleted of course. No contact since then and had hard time processing everything. Now I'm better and decided not to watch readinga like this, but this one popped out in notifications. I think he stills care because just two days before breakup he said that he loves me and would do everything for me, but I've done my part lol. If you want, come and get it and I'll think about it this time.
Happy Monday! #3 Not blocked I thought they were mad at me lol
This resonates. He is not as mature as me also because he is so much younger. But he is quite smart for his age. He also ghosted me first😂
Thanks so much!!! Have a great week. 🎉
pile 2 STOPPP i REFUSSEEE to make the first move. even if i ghosted he has to be the one to come back cuz i'm sick of going back to these men that don't know how to chase a gem. also i feel called OUTTT cuz i be wondering how i can like run into him LMAO. it's interesting how you mentioned work though. we don't work together but he always memorized my work schedule. bruh this dum ahh mf needa just make that move or imma block him cuz im sick of waiting. SMH
Hehe. I checked to see if you posted and you literally just did barely a minute ago 😄
Thank you for this reading. 🤍 Yesterday was tough but I asked my guides for strength and to help me let this go. I feel bad if my person is feeling the same way, bc it is not easy! But, we gotta keep pushing. So I pray all the best for them but the ball stays in their court. It would be such a waste to rinse and repeat. I have to focus my time on something more productive than that. I’ll still be tuning in when you post though. Wishing you an amazing week, Shadowplay! 🤍
Group 1: 1:27
Pile 3 thank you 🩷🩷🙏🩷
Pile 3❤
Pile 1,3 its so accurate 😂 thank you 💓
Pile 3 claiming it
Pile3, I wanna move on now!
So resonating ❤😊
So glad!💕
I want a new beginning ❤
Thank you universe❤️🙏
Pile 3
Pile 2❤
Hehe lil miss psychologist 🥰🥰 I love youuu .
🤭
Pile 1 and 2, I don’t want them 😂
group 3 ugh
🌱Group 3❣️- thank you. 🙏🏼
You’re welcome 😊
I really hope you don’t get a lot of shit from people who are triggered by what you say or want to correct your way of expression. It’s clear your extremely talented at what you do and I’d hate for you to continually self-censor because people won’t take responsibility for their own emotions. You’re not a psychologist and people shouldn’t have that expectation. What’s important is the underlying message not the precision in which you deliver it. Anyway, keep on truckin!🚛✌🏻✌🏻🚛
She did reach out but it was too late
Mama Megs, I think your caption needs to be updated? 😅 It's missing your usual pre-amble
Thank you so much for letting me know! I just fixed it! I appreciate you looking out 😊💗
@@shadowplaytarot of course! Anything for you 💕
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You did not tell when
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The so called check in on this person is to see when they will reach out to me NOT when I should reach out bc that won’t be happening EVER..he ghosted me so the ball is in his court so I can check in whenever I please to see if he has came to his senses yet . If the reading was titled when should I reach out I would’ve never watched it. Pile 2
Ok 🤭
lol, go be triggered somewhere else dude
@@shadowplaytarotyou are a sweetheart you know that right❤
Pile 2 did not resonate. I would never reach out or go where he is. If anything he likes my posts and stories he is going to reach out.
I Love that for you 💕
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