Without discussing it with him (unless you want him to sweet talk you out of it), pack what's left of your dignity and belongings out of that man's life... Give yourself time before you enter into another relationship, and this time, don't sell yourself short to any man that comes to you.
She's afraid to be by herself. Probably was taught having a piece of a man is better than no man, so she puts up with it. She's thinking no one else may want her. It doesn't matter how attractive a person is on the outside if they feel less than on the inside. Confidence comes from within, not what others think about you!
MsMalika64 she’s past her expiration date, no man is gonna really want her if she decides to leave the man she’s with and she ones that. Men do not benefit from being married to women. Period.
Yeah just stringing someone along knowing that y'all don't want the same thing is garbage. He's just comfortable and she's allowing it. Make him uncomfortable, leave and be at peace with yourself. Let him string someone else along
@Allen Reynolds oh no I didn't miss that. She said that when she threatened to leave then he went ring shopping so that said it all. If she didn't mention that and only mentioned about him saying "she gotta change her attitude" then I would've definitely questioned her attitude and what's the real reason. Some use that "he ain't doing his job" excuse when there's 2 sides to every story.
If he doesn’t want marriage, he should have mentioned in the very beginning! Marriage is a value to her and I don’t think she wants to compromise it because it is a core value for her.
Rachele Gilbert Free and Funny Facebook Ecard: Men say" Why buy the whole cow, when I can get the milk for free". Women say "Why buy the whole pig, just for a little sausage" . LOL.
I wouldget rid if the man and start putting up a plot of land and house seperate. I would do EXACTLY as he said and "change my attitude" with an attitude of separation and independence. I want to be married but not to someone who in so many ways and words expressing they don't want to be married to me. The worst husband and father in the world is one who never wanted to be one in the first place.
@@Pinky_PiieShe couldn't leave because she felt she needed him.She was afraid to be without a man and number one..SOUL TIE. That's a demonic stronghold established thru premarital sex. She needs Christ in her life ASAP.
Exactly her problem. Why is she calling him a " man-friend" in the first place? First and foremost, put a title on it ...which is boyfriend and girlfriend. And she's wondering why he won't marry her? You're his "friend". He could leave her home and go on to marry another woman. It happens all the damn time. That s I don't play house. Either we are in or not, and have your own place till we determine the direction of our courtship. Period!!!!
Me: I want to get married, I'm in this relationship with the purpose of being married. Him: You have an attitude Me: We're not compatible. I wish you the best. Ciao! NOT I'm moving in with you, wasting 11 years on you, being bitter and frustrated with you, trying to force marriage upon you. NO! She was the fool. I don't even entertain men who are hesitant about marriage because it's important to me. And don't let anybody shame you for wanting to be married. They are going to be all up in my replies talking about marriage ain't for everybody (well it's for me, if it's not for you, we can't be together), it's just a piece of paper (so is a $100 bill but nobody is refusing to have that), he can be committed to you without marriage (yes but not to the extent I want), it's a financial trap for men (It is risky for men the way courts are set up, that's the reason why if you wanna take up that risk, then it shows you love me and trust me)...
Loving one another at a specific moment in time does not mean you love one another in many years. Marriage can result into a financial trap for men specifically AFTER marriage. Avoiding marriage doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love, trust or want to spend money on you. It may just mean he doesn't want to spend money on you after YOU walk out. More than a quarter of marriages (and ~three quarters of divorces) end up in the woman initiating the divorce with the man. Isn't it therefore fair to have marriage with a clearly defined prenup? You can also prove him your love and show him your trust by marrying him as a one-packaged deal without ever needing his financial security without him. It can go both ways. I'm not telling you to give up that core value of yours. If you require a regular marriage, I'd advise you and any other woman to discuss this with their boyfriends early on. If the man avoids giving a clear response, you can walk away and avoid wasting your time on him.
She threatened to leave and then didn't leave, big mistake. I knew someone in this position, pushed the guy into marriage after many years, marriage lasted just one year, lady move on!
If she leaves him, then what? At her age , it's not easy finding another man, especially a man who wants to marry her. I think she should just stay with him and be happy that she has someone instead of leaving him and feeling entitled to be married. Marriage is a status symbol to many women anyway
Tommy T don’t play the age card! There a lot of wonderful older single man. She can find love at any age that’s faith she just needs to believe in timing and on God! Nothing is impossible. Yes it will take her some time to heal from her past and get her confidence back. But she will be fine. I rather it take me a long time to find the right one then be stuck in a relationship with someone for 11 years who didn’t even want to be married to me. She’s better off being single. Then being in a relationship which gives her a lot of heart ache.
never said she had a bad attitude and like lets be honest with ourselves we all know women dont exactly tell the story they tell the feeling of hearing the story
Hey the 2 are very different, marriage & bf/gf. If the woman is in fact very testy & she challenges & power struggles alot, you need the ability to break up if needed. Especially if there's kids
Kathleen johnson it’s called a excuse! I wouldn’t have fall for that damn excuse. Man are full of excuse you need to use your brains to deal with all these games they play. If I even so much as sense a man taking me for granted or trying to manipulate me I run! I’m not wasting my time on a no good man who is trying to use me and take my good years until something better comes along for him.
Can someone please explain to me how the conversation to move in goes? I’m divorced and going into my second marriage. No one has ever asked me to move in. I won’t even make dinner for a man I’m not in a committed relationship with.
This is so true, I played house for years with my man. We were together for 23 years I got a ring after 19 years together. Still engaged every time I speak about a date he says you need to act right, in other words his not ready . We have kids together and my baby son says ma how come you don’t have daddy’s last name. I said to him ask your dad, dad couldn’t answer him. Sad but it’s time to move on.. I am a great woman to him.
Like Steve always say, men will treat us the way we allow them. If we have confidence, we will stick out for what we want knowing that we don’t have to settle for anything less. However, some men sense that vulnerability and lack of confidence and they use it to manipulate. Telling her that she needs to change basically, so she is good enough to be his regular thing but needs improvement to be his wife, huh. He is no damn good.
Four and half years with him, lived with him for a year and 3 months, told him I wanted to get married, he told me he will marry me until his business gets started (that is going to take over 3 years), then he told that he wanted kids before marriage and if I felt like I was wasting my time him, then maybe I should find someone else. He told me that with no emotion at all. I left him
So let me get this straight...she has an “attitude” that’s not good enough to marry.....buuuut it’s pleasing enough for him to live with and be with her for 11 years. 🤔 FOH. Sister ma’am you need to pack your bags and move to Maryland like you said you were gonna do. As long as you let the WRONG one occupy that space...there will be no room for the RIGHT one to come in and be the man that you want/need.
@@danilaroche1156 the word also says that you should be a virgin before marriage and submit to your husband. Do you personally also practice those things?
@@daphnesmith1812 yes sis, I'm preparing to run as far as I can away from him with my three kids. Now he's begging and claiming he would change. Now he wants a second chance when I have completely made up my mind to end the miserable, backward and depressing marriage I have put myself from such a young age.
Before you can love or allow someone to love you; FIRST, you MUST LOVE and VALUE YOURSELF and your SELF WORTH. You have wasted so much time on a guy who saw you not love and value yourself and you made it easy for him to keep hanging around. Honey move on, he is not worth it.
horrible advice but some women too blind to see it. Its no point in being married for the man. My parents arent married and they been together since they were 16, he never left, cheated or treated her wrong. My grandmother was never married to my grandfather and when he passed she never married her current male friend who she met years later and never had any issues with either. My aunt is married and her husband is anywhere but home, ive only seen the guy 3 times and they been married for 10 years. When people finally realize being married is pointless and stop caring about what people think about your relationship will be the same time they will be in a stable relationship
It's just plain selfish. This man and many others just use women and erode our self esteem. We need to tell them to 'get lost' and believe in ourselves more. Steve is right but sadly for many of us the first man that treated us badly was our dad and if our mother went along with it and him treating her badly too..then we have to change our whole perception of what is normal in relationships and life. It spills over into every aspect of our lives. ..at work and friendships. Same is true for men who had bad mothers. They say that Love is the best gift a parent can give a child....nope...it's Self Esteem and confidence. After all most abuse parents say they love their children.
I wanna read some men’s comment, and see if there are replies like “women expect too much” and “doesn’t know sacrifices” cuz there’s also another lady with almost the same situation who went and ask steve. Boy, some of the replies i read were so absurd lol
11years with a man who wants to married attitude n not your heart, your attitude is part of who you are.you deserve better,you deserve happiness take a 11seconds to leave him and the next minutes,11days,11weeks,11months and 11 years,you are going to enjoy being happy with a real man who loves you just the way you are.
No no no. He’s playing games with her mind. The only attitude he wants her to change is the one she has about wanting marriage. Now he has her thinking there’s something wrong with her. SMH...
Steve love you man, you are really shining as a man and I wish you even more more success in your journey! Hope I get to show you my cooking skills one day!!
Beautiful lady but she needs to learn the difference between a man and a male. A male will treat her exactly how she's been getting treated. A man will step up to the plate and put a ring on it to make the woman of his dreams happy.
What’s the difference if they get married or not. They been together for 11 years. Has he been a good partner? If so than what’s the difference? Why involve the state in your personal life? Marriage is so engrained in our heads it’s sad. I think he’s a smart man.
Find someone who wants what you want,that way you don't have to talk them into it,beg for it or wait for them to decide what they want,because your life,your time is valuable to you!If they value your life and your time they won't waste it on excuses.
I think by her ALREADY deciding to live with him, he basically got what he wanted so he sees no sense in getting married. If she's offering the service for free, he won't see the sense in paying for it.
The fact that a man wants to manipulate you into changing your "attitude" before he'll marry you is abusive to begin with. That man is gaslighting you and wasting your time. If you had such a bad attitude that he claims he cant stand, trust me he wouldn't still be with you after 11 years and wouldn't be faking ring shopping. He's breadcoming you with any little thing that tickles your fancy and doing the bare minimum just to keep you around. You're jst a safe bet for him and trust me, men love to manipulate and control and destroy lives of women and children. You have to want better for yourself like Steve said.
Good that she did tell him about her intentions clear to the man before dating and now, he is talking crab about changing attitude but has been with her for 11yrs. What a jerk 😳
Exactly. When you marry them they loose interest in you. And love should never be conditional on signing a contract. If it is, let her go and enjoy the protection of the state.
The way Steve be preaching I'm ready to walk away from a man I don't even have 😁
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If he doesn't like your attitude why did he stay with you for 11 years??
Exactly!
Thando Khumalo that’s exactly my thought!!
Exactly running game!!!
uDla mahala o guy
Right!!
With your man-friend? 11 years? Oh girl no 🤦🏾♀️
RIGHT!!!! Smh... unbeliveable how some women get caught up in sentimentality.. WHyyyyy😩 come on nahhhh MANNNN
Without discussing it with him (unless you want him to sweet talk you out of it), pack what's left of your dignity and belongings out of that man's life...
Give yourself time before you enter into another relationship, and this time, don't sell yourself short to any man that comes to you.
You so right! I am quoting you" girl please"
I think she said "man friend" cause she's TOO old to have a boyfriend. I don't like the term BF either and I'm in my 30's lol
@LAVICHA WILSON I guess a man knows if he wants to marry the woman earlier than 4 years
She's afraid to be by herself. Probably was taught having a piece of a man is better than no man, so she puts up with it. She's thinking no one else may want her. It doesn't matter how attractive a person is on the outside if they feel less than on the inside.
Confidence comes from within, not what others think about you!
Well said !
MsMalika64 I agree that’s why I said , she not going no where.
I couldn't agree more! She's in the low self-esteem department. It's time to level up woman.
MsMalika64 nice one
MsMalika64 she’s past her expiration date, no man is gonna really want her if she decides to leave the man she’s with and she ones that. Men do not benefit from being married to women. Period.
Sounds like he doesn’t want to marry her. She needs to move on to Maryland and be done with it.
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Her husband is waiting for her in Maryland.
That’s her choice.
He does not want to marry her. It does not take 11 years for him to propose.
Yeah just stringing someone along knowing that y'all don't want the same thing is garbage. He's just comfortable and she's allowing it. Make him uncomfortable, leave and be at peace with yourself. Let him string someone else along
Nice to read this from a man.
Words of wisdom!❤
I agree to your point.another mans poisoned is another man's food.
Well said !!!
@Allen Reynolds oh no I didn't miss that. She said that when she threatened to leave then he went ring shopping so that said it all. If she didn't mention that and only mentioned about him saying "she gotta change her attitude" then I would've definitely questioned her attitude and what's the real reason. Some use that "he ain't doing his job" excuse when there's 2 sides to every story.
Eleven years and no marriage !! wow
nizar krari just a wow! What a waste of everything!
@@dollymagojo7130 Right ! I mean he's been tryna change his attitude for 11 years and she waiting wow
If he doesn’t want marriage, he should have mentioned in the very beginning! Marriage is a value to her and I don’t think she wants to compromise it because it is a core value for her.
@@yasminmohamed9461 exactly what am sayin ! it's not a value just for her it should be for everyone .
@LAVICHA WILSON should have been mentionned frm the begining tho
Steve Harvey does give good advice. What he saids is true
He does actually was deep what he said
He was on 🔥 today.
👏👏👏👏Instead of changing your attitude you ought to change your address 👏👏👏 love it Steve 💪
😮Changing my time my cellphone my address especially changing myself 🙏🏾 Thank MR. STEVE HARVEY, GoodBy BRANDON HERNANDEZ 🎷👕🧭🚨🎒⛑🧳🚪2023 04/2023!
11 years? He's not going to marry you, he's comfortable
😏"...The 11 years of misery stops for you, when you say stop..." 😏
Lol females think a ring = committing
Why but the cow, when the milk is free!
Even if the milk is free, if he likes the cow he would buy it.
TheSnowFoxParty I would hope so!
Why have one cow when you can have the whole farm?
Rachele Gilbert Free and Funny Facebook Ecard: Men say" Why buy the whole cow, when I can get the milk for free". Women say "Why buy the whole pig, just for a little sausage" . LOL.
@Paul Hogue if it is not producing good milk why you drinking..
Who knew a comedian could be so real and serious
Most of them are. It’s been said most comedians in real life are very serious people
Steve is a clown
If both of you want different things don’t be with him/her Simple! Don’t play games out here!
She's such a sweetie. I hope that she finds her inner confidence. Move on..
You can tell from her body language she ain't moving on, she expected advice in how to change her "attitude"
I wouldget rid if the man and start putting up a plot of land and house seperate. I would do EXACTLY as he said and "change my attitude" with an attitude of separation and independence. I want to be married but not to someone who in so many ways and words expressing they don't want to be married to me. The worst husband and father in the world is one who never wanted to be one in the first place.
Guys will get away with what you let them get away with.
Oh lord ya hit de nail pun de head 100% true
Karen Hardie I mean a lot of men don’t even want to get married to begin with, so if she knew this why didn’t she leave years ago?
@@Pinky_PiieShe couldn't leave because she felt she needed him.She was afraid to be without a man and number one..SOUL TIE. That's a demonic stronghold established thru premarital sex. She needs Christ in her life ASAP.
@thelovelylife7451you’re a blatant liar look at the declining marriage rate
@thelovelylife7451why would a man get married in 2024
Leave the man friend a husband friend is wating for you,just stop waisting your good attitude .
True that #word
Exactly her problem. Why is she calling him a " man-friend" in the first place? First and foremost, put a title on it ...which is boyfriend and girlfriend. And she's wondering why he won't marry her? You're his "friend". He could leave her home and go on to marry another woman. It happens all the damn time. That s I don't play house. Either we are in or not, and have your own place till we determine the direction of our courtship. Period!!!!
This question she asked and the conversation she just had with Steve is one she should have had with herself 8 years ago.
@Not At This Time yea that might be beneath that happy floaty image she projecting
Why eight years?
@@Roda45Crossfit because they've been in the relationship for 10+ years.
Thank you, I now see the light!
Me: I want to get married, I'm in this relationship with the purpose of being married.
Him: You have an attitude
Me: We're not compatible. I wish you the best. Ciao!
NOT I'm moving in with you, wasting 11 years on you, being bitter and frustrated with you, trying to force marriage upon you. NO! She was the fool. I don't even entertain men who are hesitant about marriage because it's important to me. And don't let anybody shame you for wanting to be married. They are going to be all up in my replies talking about marriage ain't for everybody (well it's for me, if it's not for you, we can't be together), it's just a piece of paper (so is a $100 bill but nobody is refusing to have that), he can be committed to you without marriage (yes but not to the extent I want), it's a financial trap for men (It is risky for men the way courts are set up, that's the reason why if you wanna take up that risk, then it shows you love me and trust me)...
I couldn't have said it better every👏🏾☺️
Flower Petal so true girl I keep it moving if they don’t want marriage and kids.
Loving one another at a specific moment in time does not mean you love one another in many years. Marriage can result into a financial trap for men specifically AFTER marriage. Avoiding marriage doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love, trust or want to spend money on you. It may just mean he doesn't want to spend money on you after YOU walk out. More than a quarter of marriages (and ~three quarters of divorces) end up in the woman initiating the divorce with the man. Isn't it therefore fair to have marriage with a clearly defined prenup? You can also prove him your love and show him your trust by marrying him as a one-packaged deal without ever needing his financial security without him. It can go both ways. I'm not telling you to give up that core value of yours. If you require a regular marriage, I'd advise you and any other woman to discuss this with their boyfriends early on. If the man avoids giving a clear response, you can walk away and avoid wasting your time on him.
Yeah...maybe marriage isn't for me 😂
You got to think that! Change your mind, change your life!
She threatened to leave and then didn't leave, big mistake. I knew someone in this position, pushed the guy into marriage after many years, marriage lasted just one year, lady move on!
Not only she should leave him, but also learn and know her worth. She is far too powerful and valuable to be in that kind of relationship ever again.
If she leaves him, then what? At her age , it's not easy finding another man, especially a man who wants to marry her. I think she should just stay with him and be happy that she has someone instead of leaving him and feeling entitled to be married. Marriage is a status symbol to many women anyway
@@tommyt264 People her age marry all the time.
human being thank you
Tommy T don’t play the age card! There a lot of wonderful older single man. She can find love at any age that’s faith she just needs to believe in timing and on God! Nothing is impossible. Yes it will take her some time to heal from her past and get her confidence back. But she will be fine. I rather it take me a long time to find the right one then be stuck in a relationship with someone for 11 years who didn’t even want to be married to me. She’s better off being single. Then being in a relationship which gives her a lot of heart ache.
its amazing, men I mean, she has a bad attitude so cant be married but doesn't have a bad attitude to be in a relationship with her.. gosh man
never said she had a bad attitude and like lets be honest with ourselves we all know women dont exactly tell the story they tell the feeling of hearing the story
You have a point!
Hey the 2 are very different, marriage & bf/gf. If the woman is in fact very testy & she challenges & power struggles alot, you need the ability to break up if needed. Especially if there's kids
Kathleen johnson it’s called a excuse! I wouldn’t have fall for that damn excuse. Man are full of excuse you need to use your brains to deal with all these games they play. If I even so much as sense a man taking me for granted or trying to manipulate me I run! I’m not wasting my time on a no good man who is trying to use me and take my good years until something better comes along for him.
Can someone please explain to me how the conversation to move in goes? I’m divorced and going into my second marriage. No one has ever asked me to move in. I won’t even make dinner for a man I’m not in a committed relationship with.
This is so true, I played house for years with my man. We were together for 23 years I got a ring after 19 years together. Still engaged every time I speak about a date he says you need to act right, in other words his not ready . We have kids together and my baby son says ma how come you don’t have daddy’s last name. I said to him ask your dad, dad couldn’t answer him. Sad but it’s time to move on.. I am a great woman to him.
11 YEARS that she would never get back.
Like Steve always say, men will treat us the way we allow them. If we have confidence, we will stick out for what we want knowing that we don’t have to settle for anything less. However, some men sense that vulnerability and lack of confidence and they use it to manipulate. Telling her that she needs to change basically, so she is good enough to be his regular thing but needs improvement to be his wife, huh. He is no damn good.
Love you Steve absolutely so right .....😚❤️
This man is soo smart!
Always spitting wisdom. Bless him ❤
She better move in with her sister in Maryland!!! Eat some crab legs and lobster!!! Ayieeee any DMV (DC MD VA) FOLK HERE!!
Four and half years with him, lived with him for a year and 3 months, told him I wanted to get married, he told me he will marry me until his business gets started (that is going to take over 3 years), then he told that he wanted kids before marriage and if I felt like I was wasting my time him, then maybe I should find someone else. He told me that with no emotion at all.
I left him
She has been strung along by a narcissist for so long. Poor woman.
So let me get this straight...she has an “attitude” that’s not good enough to marry.....buuuut it’s pleasing enough for him to live with and be with her for 11 years. 🤔 FOH. Sister ma’am you need to pack your bags and move to Maryland like you said you were gonna do. As long as you let the WRONG one occupy that space...there will be no room for the RIGHT one to come in and be the man that you want/need.
11 years!!! Maryland here i come.
.you are so beautiful sister. Leave his ass!!
He ain't lying.💯
I was forced to open my eyes and accept that cold reality marriage is a trap for men.
Thats not what the word says. It states " He that findeth a wife, findeth a treasure and obtains favor of the Lord". You sound anti women.
@@danilaroche1156 the word also says that you should be a virgin before marriage and submit to your husband. Do you personally also practice those things?
I'm divorced. I do believe wife should submit and yes I'm abstinent.
He’s not going to marry you honey. Move on. ❤️
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Steve is real good to help women!!!
Nahhhh. Hit the road jack!
You are a authentic GEM 💎, STEVE and We LOVE and APPRECIATE the LIGHT that YOU are in this world 🌎 🙏🏽💚😇
Same 15 years I have been married to a no good no use of a man since I was 22 now 35 waste of my time. Black women please loooooook properly.
Ideal Faith Run.
@@daphnesmith1812 yes sis, I'm preparing to run as far as I can away from him with my three kids. Now he's begging and claiming he would change. Now he wants a second chance when I have completely made up my mind to end the miserable, backward and depressing marriage I have put myself from such a young age.
Just be careful.. for you and the kids...and counseling
"You need to change your address" . . . Mr Hightower ladies and maggots . . . the ultimate savage . . . 🙏
Before you can love or allow someone to love you; FIRST, you MUST LOVE and VALUE YOURSELF and your SELF WORTH. You have wasted so much time on a guy who saw you not love and value yourself and you made it easy for him to keep hanging around. Honey move on, he is not worth it.
11 years???? Girl that’s way too long! Peace OUT!
This is why u don't move in with a man that's not your husband
But living together you're performing wifey duties😂you're already married mum😆
Nope, she's his warm body and convenience. No more, no less. Steve is 100% right.
Most states by law you are technically married after 7 years together.
she looked hurt but its what she needed to hear
Uncle Steve you the whole truth and nothing but the truth! Thank you for sharing
That was excellent advice, Steve!
horrible advice but some women too blind to see it. Its no point in being married for the man. My parents arent married and they been together since they were 16, he never left, cheated or treated her wrong. My grandmother was never married to my grandfather and when he passed she never married her current male friend who she met years later and never had any issues with either. My aunt is married and her husband is anywhere but home, ive only seen the guy 3 times and they been married for 10 years. When people finally realize being married is pointless and stop caring about what people think about your relationship will be the same time they will be in a stable relationship
JESUS CHRIST! SHE DESERVES SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT PLAY WITH HER FEELINGS, A TRUE MAN!
GOD GUIDES THIS LADY TO BE FREE OF THAT LIE!
Steve gives the best advice.
It's just plain selfish. This man and many others just use women and erode our self esteem. We need to tell them to 'get lost' and believe in ourselves more. Steve is right but sadly for many of us the first man that treated us badly was our dad and if our mother went along with it and him treating her badly too..then we have to change our whole perception of what is normal in relationships and life. It spills over into every aspect of our lives. ..at work and friendships. Same is true for men who had bad mothers.
They say that Love is the best gift a parent can give a child....nope...it's Self Esteem and confidence. After all most abuse parents say they love their children.
Powerful msg
For real! Very good advice Steve. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
That man is smart. Marriage is B.S.
I dont know if forcing a man to marry you is the way to go
Yeah like no matter how much you love him.. you can’t force him find someone who will
I agree. They could marry but he may resent her. She should leave.
“Instead of changing your attitude, you outta change your address”... 👏👏👏
I wanna read some men’s comment, and see if there are replies like “women expect too much” and “doesn’t know sacrifices” cuz there’s also another lady with almost the same situation who went and ask steve.
Boy, some of the replies i read were so absurd lol
I love when Steve hands you truth from a man's point of view and holds back nothing. Women need to hear the truth.
He rolls the ball 🏀, I roll it back, he rolls the ball ,then I pick it up and hold it .Guess what ? Game over ( insert mind blown emoji here ) 🤯🤯🤯
11years with a man who wants to married attitude n not your heart, your attitude is part of who you are.you deserve better,you deserve happiness take a 11seconds to leave him and the next minutes,11days,11weeks,11months and 11 years,you are going to enjoy being happy with a real man who loves you just the way you are.
if you have a bad attitude and disposition or disrespectful most men aren't going to want to marry that
@@shorts26 that's your opinion,that just the way it is take it or leave it.no one is perfect
@@shorts26 if she has such a bad attitude why would he stay for 11 years?
@@summerrain6125 bcoz he is blind
C'mon u can't be that naive
No no no. He’s playing games with her mind. The only attitude he wants her to change is the one she has about wanting marriage. Now he has her thinking there’s something wrong with her. SMH...
Narcissism... sounds like one.
Thank you 🙏🏻 Steve I’m taking ur advice because I trust what you say
Truth be told he may be married already.
I don’t think she’s going anywhere and that’s why he keeps treating her like that.
Steve love you man, you are really shining as a man and I wish you even more more success in your journey! Hope I get to show you my cooking skills one day!!
ABSOLUTELY 💯
YOU DESERVE BETTER 👏 💗
PREACH PASTOR STEVE
‘You’ve got to think that’ yes! Self love 😊
Its not your attitude need change its your address a man who loves you will love your attitude
Why she acting like she a 10/10 and he doesnt have the right to be SURE about marriage?
I love: Hey Steve show.
Amazing this.
Beautiful lady but she needs to learn the difference between a man and a male. A male will treat her exactly how she's been getting treated. A man will step up to the plate and put a ring on it to make the woman of his dreams happy.
What’s the difference if they get married or not. They been together for 11 years. Has he been a good partner? If so than what’s the difference? Why involve the state in your personal life? Marriage is so engrained in our heads it’s sad. I think he’s a smart man.
Living with someone is not the same as being a wife. You know that already. She needs to be smarter and move on with her life.
They want the state involved cause they know the courts in their favor, it ruins good guys!
@@direwolf1977exactly
Move on!
My cousin Kara’s boyfriend didn’t want marriage. She finally found someone who wants to commit
@Jima berrma thank you I will message him now,same problem here
engagement ring will not tell me to move to his place..if he wants me to move to his place MARRY ME!
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Lmao 11 years. Girl you’re crazy
Another lonely single lady. Keep listening to Steve
Find someone who wants what you want,that way you don't have to talk them into it,beg for it or wait for them to decide what they want,because your life,your time is valuable to you!If they value your life and your time they won't waste it on excuses.
NEEDED THIS
His telling her to change her attitude? No he needs to change his attitude and start packing and home out ASAP!
11 yrs that's stupid, why on earth would she waste her time with a man who doesn't want to be married smh. That's insane! Drop the 0 and get a hero!
I really need this video ❤
Very true uncle Steve
Marriage is not a life goal.
For u bye
If marriage isn't a life goal then having only a boyfriend/ girlfriend definitely isn't.
I think by her ALREADY deciding to live with him, he basically got what he wanted so he sees no sense in getting married. If she's offering the service for free, he won't see the sense in paying for it.
What do men benefit by getting married?
Absolutely nothing.
The fact that a man wants to manipulate you into changing your "attitude" before he'll marry you is abusive to begin with. That man is gaslighting you and wasting your time. If you had such a bad attitude that he claims he cant stand, trust me he wouldn't still be with you after 11 years and wouldn't be faking ring shopping. He's breadcoming you with any little thing that tickles your fancy and doing the bare minimum just to keep you around. You're jst a safe bet for him and trust me, men love to manipulate and control and destroy lives of women and children. You have to want better for yourself like Steve said.
Good that she did tell him about her intentions clear to the man before dating and now, he is talking crab about changing attitude but has been with her for 11yrs. What a jerk 😳
He may only have trust issues and not a bad guy !
@@dbigtime10bt I think it worse than trust issues
I got married after a year in 3 months!
Ha hahha I like that.... instead of changing ur attitude change ur address 😂😂😂
l don’t get the concept of being committed/compromising to someone for so long for them to one day say after 11yrs of marriage “I’m not happy”
Exactly. When you marry them they loose interest in you. And love should never be conditional on signing a contract. If it is, let her go and enjoy the protection of the state.
It’s called future faking!!! He knew marriage was important to you then used that info dangling it like a carrot!!! Steve was right ITS A GAME!!!
Why getting married anyway? So you can give her half of your stuffs.
Steve is so wise.
A 11 YEARS...Damn time don't wait on nobody...She problem didn't realize how time just passed her by...