We love you Sharla! I'm so sorry you're going through this but you are such a strong person and we know you will be ok. It will take a long time but we will be here when you need us.
Videos like these help remind us that you're a real person with real feelings. I can tell from the outpouring of love and support you're getting that your fans feel like they know you personally. We hurt when you hurt, and we will be happy with whatever makes you happy. It's like a one-sided video pen-pal relationship 😊
Couple misc. thoughts and advice: -Don't let anyone criticize you for being happy. You don't need to pander to such petty, salty people. -Korea isn't going anywhere, you can always go back when you feel more up to it. -Sometimes great relationships don't last forever. What's important is how you've grown and the good times you had, there's no use clinging to things that only used to make you happy. It's hard now, and some parts might take longer to heal than others, but this will be good for you in the long run.
Oh, Sharla... I am so sorry for everything you’re going through. I’m sure you already know this but it’s going to be okay. It’s okay that it didn’t work out. And it’s wonderful that he updates you about Maro & Luna. I started tearing up when your voice cracked and I just wish there was something I could write or say to help. But you suddenly looked relieved and bright when you started talking about Morioka, I think you made the right decision. We’re all here to support you and I can’t wait to watch & learn more about Morioka and the rest of Japan from you 💛 Sending you love always
They are cheery, happy, and beautiful when new. Always reaching for the sky. Slowly they stop floating as hard, and eventually start sinking and shriveling up. They can burst when you least expect it. No one can escape balloon death. Everything will end eventually. Despite knowing they will end, cherish balloons when you have them. It is better to have ballooned and lost than never to have ballooned at all. Natsuki was more profound in his statement than I thought.
I agree, best friends really do help in the healing process. I think you should go visit or have her over Taylor and give her lots of love. I love both of your channels so much. I’ve gone through a breakup once years ago and it was very hard.
I agree with Mariana, take a trip and have some girl time! I'm not sure if you guys are as close as you used to be, but friends should stick it through with each other no matter distance or life circumstances.
Hugs. This is definitely a tough situation. I think since both of you were unhappy, it takes a lot more courage to find happiness elsewhere, than to be comfortable in a situation that is familiar. You're so strong Sharla. I can see you back on the saddle and finding new adventures in no time. Can't wait to see you again in the summer💜
Love is a complicated thing. You can love someone very dearly, want the best for them, and know they return those feelings, but you both can still understand that your lives can not work together, no matter how much you want it to. My parents' marriage ended in this way, and it was hard on all of us, but life does move on, not that you will never have times when you're sad, but that you can come to a place of resolve. Eventually happiness finds you again. It may not be the way you expect, but if you acknowledge all of your feelings, and talk things out with someone you trust (whether it be a friend, therapist, or any other neutral party), life will be good again. Though you will see things in a way you could have never done so before. I know this is a year late, but I hope you can already see some of these things coming true for you. From my own experience, I can say, it is very important to take care of yourself. So take care. With love from the US.
@@sunnyside7369 a lot of cultures set up arranged marriages. Love develops over time. Going into relationship with passion romantic love usually doesn't work out unless the couple can turn that passion into a working functional marriage.
@@zamuelwartower459 Arranged marriages are a scam. You still live in the 17th century obviously. In an arranged marriage both partners (especially the man) runs to complain to the parents when something goes wrong. If 1 gets sick, do you really care? Do you care from the bottom of your heart? When your parents die (yes they won't live forever) will you care about your partner and stick with them? The most important thing in a marriage is compatibility. Full Stop. The End. The only way you can get compatibility is out of love, compassion and affection. If you look at it like a contract like you do - it will fail or you will simply be with a "roommate" forever.
It’s so selfless of you to leave your cats behind so they’re in good hands. I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through not only with the break up but with losing your pets, I’ve only had my guinea pigs for roughly 2 months but I already can’t see my life without them. Hope you get the happiness you deserve 💕
It happens to the best of us, but so sorry you are so saddened. I'll be 71 tomorrow and I've been married three times. Each time I thought it was forever. You are young, smart and beautiful. Your whole life is in front of you. Make the most of it, time flies. Oh, and a new start could mean new companionship. Check shelters and give away ads. Save a couple of lives and some wonderful fur babies. Not as replacements, but as new companions.
You're so pretty and sweet and deserve to be happy. I lost my 3 cats in a breakup after 11 years. That stuff cuts deep and although we heal, we live with the scars. Keep your head up beautiful.
I'm Japanese. I'm sorry that my English isn't good. I'm sorry to hear your situation, at the same time I remembered my experience. I got divorced two years ago, I moved back to Kumamoto from Kyoto where I'd lived with my ex-partner and my cat. I was really hurt, and felt like I would never be healed from isolation and missing my cat forever. But I was helped by my family and friends in my hometown. People around me adviced me to change environment, so I went for a travel to the areas where I'd not visited ever, challenged new things, and then finally got a new job. Recently I began to have a new cat which was stray. Even now sometimes I miss my ex-cat and a past marriage life, but at the same I begin to feel I'm getting more tough than before. You have a family and friends in Canada and Japan. I believe you can go through. Time will solve everything. Though I'm a stranger through internet, I will always be with you, and support you.
So sorry to hear about your relationship. Having been through a divorce (15 year relationship) and having to leave behind 2 cats I loved, I don't know your personal pain, but I've sadly been down that road. My pet advice, don't try to "replace" them right away. Take some time, find peace with yourself first. When you find yourself in a good place again, then consider it. And Shar... don't be dissappointed in yourself. You didn't fail. Life just moves in mysterious ways sometimes. You didnt fail. Much love.
seeing you this sad is breaking my heart i'm wishing you the best and sending you all the strength and a big big hug ♥️ you've not disappointed any of us, your happiness and wellbeing goes before anything else and we're all looking forward to all the videos about northern Japan!!
I now live in Japan because of your videos. You have made such an impact on my life and I can’t thank you enough. Seeing you like this makes me feel like you’re a close friend who is hurting.. despite the fact that we’ve never talked to each other. I can’t imagine how you are feeling. I wish I could offer advice and words of comfort. But I feel that is out of my place... but I just wish you nothing but the best. This is a season of growth and I’m excited to be able to watch you grow as a person. Thank you for all that you’ve done. ❤️
Sharla... take it one day at a time. You will have a lot of new memories along with the old memories. You are a very giving person & sorry about the cats not being with you physically. Love u hun 💞
Sending you positive vibes always! You were so strong to keep up a bright face during all of this, and I hope things get easier soon. I can't wait for your Japan content and for you to find your own path and continue to grow! Wishing you the best, truly 🙏
I had a fiance of eight years before we split up. I know how your heart is hurting right now. I gave up two dogs when I moved out. Deep breaths and every day will get easier, but in the tiniest of increments. I AM SO SORRY. Know that as long as they're happy and healthy, that heartache will get easier too. The future welcomes you with open arms, Sharla!
Sharla, I rarely comment - there are so many things one could say, and most of then have already been said, but I'll give it a try. Firstly, sorry that things didn't work out, but it's better than staying together and being miserable. I had a relationship for 7 or so years (with cats) that disintegrated. It was a long time coming, but finally happened when I was away in a different country. I never saw the cats again, and my heart was broken. But I survived, and so will you. I will keep checking up on you - look after yourself and don't worry about us so much. We're not going away - we're all here for you. 🙏
Lovely comment and just to add to this idea, Sharla did a video once about helping at a shelter so that could be an option. My friend started volunteering at a cat shelter after hers died and she really enjoys it.
I’ve been studying Japanese for the past two months and just stumbled onto tour channel last week. I must say this video hits so close to home for me. I just finalized my divorce paperwork, we were also together for 7 years. You have quickly become such a motivational force in my life! I just wanted to say thank you so much for you content. ❤️
sigh now i'm going down that path. Sharla shot this in 2019 and I never would've guessed watching her recent videos. yeah maybe she only shoots on happy days or she's good at making herself look happy but honestly it gives me hope at a time when it seems there's none. ONWARD AND UPWARD! :')
Im in the same boat, 240 straight days studying Japanese using the Duolingo app. Sharla's have helped me learn also. Iam getting divorced too, Jan 4, 2024 would've been 11 years. 😢
I followed you because of Japan. I stayed with you because of you, not because of where you lived. Don't forget to give yourself time to heal. Keep busy, but let yourself heal too.
Hearing your shaky voice hurts so much considering how much of an impact you have had on my life. I’ve always thought of you as having the perfect life, because sometimes I forget that people on the internet have problems too. I’m so genuinely sorry that you have to go through this, but I (along with everyone else) knows that you’re strong enough to make it through. Stay strong Sharla, we are all here for you and if you need to take a break, the support will still be here waiting for you 😊❤️
I was thinking about this video today in light of your recent happy life news, and wanted to go back and watch it again. I remember when I first watched this, you seemed so sad, though you were trying to put a positive spin on things - I was sad for you that this part of your life had ended, but at the same time still happy that you had found your way back to Japan. To me, you always seemed most comfortable and happy in your Japan content. Flash forward several years now, and despite the shit things that have happened in the world in the meantime, I'm so glad for you that your heart has had the opportunity to heal and that you've seemingly found authentic happiness again - and also that you were able to get Maro back with you! The end of one story was the beginning of another 🙂I'm glad we can look back on this chapter now and know that. You deserve happiness and good things - keep chasing the dream
I never comment, but I feel like I have to do it now. It breaks my heart seeing you cry. But its okay. Cry. Be sad. Be devastated. And someday you can let go of it and be happy again. Also, don't feel stressed about the fact that there wont be any more videos from Korea. We want to see YOU. It doesnt matter if its Korea, Japan, China or Canada. We will enjoy you no matter what time and place. :) Hugs from Munich, Germany..
Woman!! We don’t watch for Korea or Japan - we watch for YOU 🥰 Don’t worry, just do you. With being a content creator, it might feel like you can’t let us down - but it’s your life - the ups and the downs. You can’t always be happy, and you don’t need to feel obligated to share anything with us. Everyone is human and you need space and time to adjust ♥️ I’m so sorry you’re going through this heartbreak, but just remember: even if it doesn’t feel like it, you’ll get through this. We’re here with you, shouting our support from around the world. And keep in touch with friends and family - that will help. Sending lots of love from Ottawa, Ontario!!
I know I am 2 years late, but honestly, hearing you talk about this made me really want to give you a big warm hug and tell you this too shall pass. Just hang in there. I'm just glad you finally got one of your cats back (saw it in one of your videos).
Oh Sharla I had a feeling this was going on, but didnt say anything in the comments. 😔 It'll be okay hun. I actually just broke up with my boyfriend of 8 years recently so I understand. It's amazing how you can spend so much of your life with one person and think you'll be with them forever. But sometimes your lives end up going in different directions and you part with that person. Its painful, but it will be okay. You thank God for the time spent with them and look forward to what life brings next. I honestly wish you the best and I'm sending you virtual hugs. Take care, we are all here for you. ❤
When you said you were disappointed in yourself for not making Korean videos it broke my heart even more. You're going through an incredibly though time in you're life right now and you're doing what's best for you. Don't feel guilty what so ever, just try and focus in yourself and what makes you happy. I just want to give you a big hug. I know it's really difficult now but it will get better I promise. Xxx
Hey dude, I haven’t watched your videos and I know I’m a year late but hope things are going well for you now. I’ve seen you in some Abroad in Japan videos and seeing foreigners in japan thriving like you guys were and are inspired me to take a chance to try moving to japan once I’ve got my bachelors degree, so thank you for inspiring me. I guess I was just moved to say that I hope things are better now! Keep pushing forward, my friend. I’m rooting hard for you.
I came out of a 11.5 year relationship last year, and I also had to leave my beloved home and furbabies behind. I miss them like hell, every single day. My best advice is to bring some new kitties into your life. You have so much love to give, and any cat would be lucky to have you as a fur mumma. I have some new kitties in my life, and they have made a huge difference in the aftermath of my break-up. Be kind to yourself. xoxox❤
You say this is the first time in a long time that you've made decisions by yourself for yourself. Revel in that freedom. It is beautiful and wonderful in itself. Go to the store, buy your favorite snacks because you can, go see a movie on your own in the dead of night because you can and take up three seats by yourself lounging down in the most comfortable position possible. Be you. Be free. You're brilliant and amazing. And I know it will be hard. It will be hard now, and maybe forever in some small way to be without them. But you are complete as you are, and you can do anything. Go. Be free. Evolve into the fierce Sharmelion, or Sharizard you were always meant to be.
I felt sorry for your divorce but the cats part got me, it made me cry. My mom has two cats, I love them so much but I don't live with them so I understand you! I hope you'll get better soon.
The silver lining there is that they're being taken good care of it seems. They're with someone who also loves them. As difficult as it is for Sharla...
I know this is a few years old, but Sharla you’re an inspiration to me. I’m currently getting through a breakup of 4 years with a wonderful man. It ended amicably and we both still have so much love for one another but like you, we weren’t making each other happy anymore. At least not in the ways we genuinely needed. We have a cat together, but he will be holding onto her. It breaks my heart because I love her so damn much, but I know she’ll be okay with him. I have NO IDEA how you were so strong during this time. I keep coming back to this video because your strength (I mean moving to another country, at the time losing your cats, and any other private matters of course) gives me the strength to believe that I’ll be okay too. I’m glad to see that you’re happy now with your life, with Chris, and with Maro and Tuna of course :) 💛
Aww sending you all the love Jennifer, I hope things go as smoothly as possible and you can take comfort in the fact your baby will be in good hands ❤️
Sharla! Don't apologize😭. Always hoping for the best for you! Its always really hard to let go of someone you've shared a major part of your life with, always look towards the future! As long as there's life there's hope!!! Hugs from America!!🙌
*Never apologize for real life. Your personal things are your own and not for us to consume so even if you never told us what's happening that is entirely your right as a person. As far as your cats, pets get attached to their humans not their homes, so if you truly feel they will be happier with you then don't worry about moving them again. I'm sorry for what you're going through. I promise that even though it doesn't feel like it now you WILL be okay.*
@@vahleeb This just simply isn't true, at least with my cats. My three cats have moved with me a few times and after a few days they are back to normal (curious and affectionate).
Kayla Marshall "after a few days".... Key words there...now translate that into "human years"... Fact is, while there seems to be some room for varriance based on individual personality, most likely cats are more attached to the territory than to their owners. Now you can test wether or not a cat's more hooked into a place or a person if you're moving down the road or a couple of hours drive at the most, but to schlep them from Korea to Japan is just selfish and inconsiderate for the cats... Remember, from the cat's perspective, she's the one that left the house... They still have their territory and their other owner around. I'm pretty sure that's how Sharla calculated things when deciding to leave them in Korea. Back to your case, if you had to move house altogether, then you had to move, there's no avoiding that, but don't kid yourself that during those "few days" while they were adjusting to the new place it wasn't hell on earth for them cats. www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2016/03/14/cats-do-not-need-their-owners-scientists-conclude/
Oh my... I did notice a difference lately, something really seemed amiss... I even wondered if maybe the cycling trip was a way for you to find some zen and peace for whatever was going on in your life. There is no shame in keeping personal issues personal. Nor is there any shame in trying to be happy and positive on camera even when you feel like crap. :( I really wish there was something that I could do to help you feel better! On the topic of Maro and Luna... It is so evident how much you care about them. You are such a strong and compassionate person to think about what is best for them even when it means they won't be with you... it hurts like hell... but no matter what they will always be your precious babies, no amount of distance will ever change that. I know they love you as much as you love them! Take all the time you need, and make sure to cry all the tears you can. Holding it in never helped anyone! Love you so much Sharla, I will always support you!
I've watched your newer videos, but haven't dug into your older ones. This is so refreshingly honest. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I hope you've been able to find peace. Thanks for sharing this part of you. 💜
“For the first time in a very long time, that decision was entirely up to me”. I don’t think most people realize what a heavy statement this is, or what a scary process it can be. Best of luck to you, Sharla. You can do it. ❤️
So sorry Sharla! Japan is your base of support and I hope you can find strength and find a future while you are back in Japan. We support you, really enjoy your videos and hope for better times for you! Sending you are our love and support!
Posting here coz it's the top comment. I'm fairly new to the channel, here since Sharla was in Abroad in Japan's videos. The divorce sucks. And I'm guessing the different cultural backgrounds add some friction. But I'm also glad she's having a change of scenery. Best wishes.
I'm sorry for freeloading on your post, Marianna, but there's something I just have to say: I know this is hard. There's really no right answer, and Maru and Luna will be fine either way. I personally would have fought for them, but either way, I absolutely do not think you've made the wrong choice. What you need is another life to be with you to shower in love. If it can't be Maru and Luna, then you need a new kitty. This is not for anyone else but you. It's what you need. I know it can seem hard to love something else when you feel like this. But when you go to the shelter, and see a kitty who really needs you. It can give you a new purpose in life. Maru and Luna are happy, and that's because of you. But there are more kitties that are stuck in little cages, that only you can save. Find yourself a kitty. You have to. Not even for the kitty, but for yourself. Much love to you, Sharla. You are beautiful, inside and out. Please please take care of yourself. I'm not in Japan anymore, so I can't really be much help from over here. But if there's anything I can do, let me know.
This is the realest vlog I’ve ever watched. No bullshit. Only honesty. I hope you can move on and transition easily. Don’t feel pressured to put out a vlog if you don’t feel up to it.
Sharla, please do whatever you can to take care of yourself! We will always support you. And don't worry about your videos--I watch these videos for you, not necessarily for Japan and Korea. You are a great person and I wish the best for you.
You are such a beautiful person with so much light. It brings me much inspiration and to see this rawness and vulnerability it just adds to the connection I feel when I watch your videos. I'm newish to your channel been binging your videos for the last three weeks and I just got to this part in your life's journey. My heart goes out to you.
My heart is breaking for you Sharla. As a long time viewer, I felt something was up, but your personal life is really none of our business. Thanks for the update though. I hope you both find happiness.
Sharla I'm a 22 y/o male from Palestine. While I'm not your target audience from what I've seen, I hope it all gets better very soon. Missing the cats is pretty shit I feel you, I have a male cat which I see once every few months because of college. While video chats from time to time help, I adopted a new dog and I actually train it for a blind person in the future and being alone in a new environment is hardddd. But I think that you got used to it from your time in Japan. What helped me is raising this dog and taking care of him
I cried with you while watching this. I'm so glad you have Maro back with you now. When I'm feeling stressed or upset, I enjoy watching your videos because you really are so fun and cheerful.
Hi Sharla. I too am old enough to be your mum. I enjoy watching your videos very much. I love seeing the Japanese and Korean culture and lifestyle through your eyes. I am not in the position to visit these countries myself so I get to experience it through you. You are braver than you think. It takes courage to leave a relationship. Many do not have that courage. To make the move back to Japan and go out and do what you love while leaving your beloved furkids behind shows what a strong independent woman you are. It will take some time to get over this, it may always hurt a little, but you have such wonderful memories that the two of you shared and that have built the person you are. Chin up, one day at a time. You've got it. Big hugs
16 years ago, my long-term relationship went decidedly south, and I had to learn to live without someone very important to me, and without our two cats. It was very difficult, but I knew, as you do, that my former partner really cared for them, and I wan't going to be petty, and insist that they come with me. They'll be ok, and you'll be ok, it just takes a while. I haven't seen you like this since you were a brunette- and that was quite a while ago! You were so diffident, then, and really pretty introverted, and I don't expect you'd have had the strength to do what you're doing now, all those years ago. I think you've become a much stronger person, and I'm glad for you, on that account. Take care of yourself- I don't mean that in the ordinary, everyday way, but really take some time for yourself to grieve and consider where you're going. We will, on this side of the camera, wait for you to do the difficult work of getting really settled and finding a way to be happy, again. Hugs, as many as you need...
I'm not a regular viewer; I don't know you very well. That said, for the situation, I think you've done the right thing for yourself and for those you care about. *No one* should be disappointed with you. No apologies needed; life happens. My only advice would be consider adopting another pet at some point in the coming weeks or months. You might be tempted to feel guilty, but it wouldn't be trying to replace Maro & Luna; you'll love them the same. However, having a companion will be helpful for healing and will help you move on from tragedy and heartbreak. Even though I don't know you well, I can tell that whoever the lucky critter is will be loved well.
@@TheConnsterMonster I'll do so. I've visited Korea briefly a few times, and have *_tried_* to learn the language. I found her and Tokyo Lenses videos pretty interesting and I think I would enjoy visiting Japan, even just briefly. I just need to heal up enough to be able to travel again.
Its so hard to leave someone after such a long time, even if you know its for the best. I broke up with my boyfriend after 10 years. Because we where not making each other happy. Its was the hardest decision I ever made. Even though I knew it was for the best. I knew it was not fair for both of us to stay together because its familiar. It will take time, but it will get better. It said a lot about your personality that you are strong enough to do what's best for your pets. I don't have any advice on that matter unfortunately.. I wish you all the best
I could tell by your face in the thumbnail right away that you were sad. I'm sorry you're both going through this tough time. It will take time & no one can tell you how to feel. Hope you get the love & support you need for your well being. Its ok not to be ok. I was married to my daughters father for 20 years & 2 years before dating, so when I walked away from it, it wasn't like a switch you could turn off. I loved him for a while after. I just had to love me too. I pray you get through this & find your happy again! Lots of love from SC, USA ~Jennifer
So sorry to hear about this. Welcome back to Japan. Surrounding yourself with friends, keeping strong and remember life had twists and turns that keep us who we are. Be well girl 🤟 hope to see you at the Hanami too 🇨🇦
Please don’t apologize for taking time to talk about this. It’s really none of our business. But since you shared this with us, please take care of yourself? I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I am Wishing you such good things and love. I look forward to your new Japan adventures. I know good things will happen from now on, you seem very sweet and I think you will be rewarded for this. 💕💕💕be well. About your cats, after a long term relationship break up that didn’t end well and he kept one of my cats. I guess she lived/lives with his family, which was ok..but it hurt so bad. I am so glad your ex is nice about the cats. It gets easier being away from your pet, but they will always be in your heart. Again please take care and your UA-cam family loves you.
Im so sorry you’re going through this. But I really do hope that good things come your way. You don’t have to apologize about not talking about personal situations. Some good advice for pets I believe would be for you to perhaps volunteer at a shelter or something similar where you can interact with cats, I know it’s not your own but it might help you process how you can help other kitties and how your cats are doing good where they are now. All my love and good vibes Sharla. Your videos bring me happiness and i can only hope that you receive that happiness tenfold. Take care.
The great thing about volunteering at a shelter too is not only do you get to interact with a cat, but you might also find one that you connect with that you want to take it home with you. It'll never replace the ones she lost but there's nothing wrong with adding new pets to your life and family :)
7 years is a long time and I know how much it hurts to lose the ones you love and things you love. Stay strong and lean on your friends and family. Trust me. You can never make a copy of your pet but you can find a new companion. It's not the same but it goes a long way, honey. Stay strong. We love you so much, wish the best for you. You are the one we want.
Yo Sharla, First of all, it hurts to watch this.. Let me tell you why. My wife has been talking about you 24/7 and loves your videos. And often shows them to me (they are great, I'm a follower now, sorry for being late!) and she actually many times says "aww they are like us and awww someday we will be doing that" etc etc. Which is sweet. We have been together since we were kids and now we are a bit over 30 and the only babies we got are our fur babies. We got 2 cats and a dog. My wife told me about this video and she was literally crying and explaining how terrible it is to see you in tears (I agree, it's sad and I'm sorry this is happening to you..) And the fact that drifting apart from someone you love might happen to any of us.. I right away thought if it was myself in this situation, I honestly could not imagine the pain... Well, sadly this happens a lot to couples but the difference is that not many people have this huge community of followers and friends to help you back up when you're down. Time heals indeed but me and my wife want to wish you the very best of the best on your future endeavors and we will be there following you when you RISE BACK UP like a PHOENIX! ＼ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ／
I am so sorry.. it's so hard to see you crying even if we don't know each other. I'm watching your videos for a while and I'm usually not commenting them but now I just want to tell you that I am so sorry..You're a strong woman and you can get through this. Try to be around people you love as much as you can. And to be honest, allow yourself to cry if you feel like you have to. That always helped me getting better. And don't force yourself into much vlogging now, you need time to heal. I hope there will be some kind of soulution for you and your cats.. the most important thing is that they are safe and happy. But it would also helped you if they were with you right now I totally understand that :/. Sending love from Germany.
Hey Sharla, been watching your videos for a while. I just wanted to send you my support for what you’re going through. I too got a divorce from my husband at 30 who id been with for 13 years, married for 6. We were best friends and I still loved him in many ways but our lives were moving in different directions and sometimes you’re so used to a particular dynamic with a person that it’s hard to work through the issues and find a compromise, no matter how much you love each other. I changed so much between my 20’s and 30’s and we just weren’t right anymore for the long term - thinking about things like starting a family etc. It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made and I was so sad for a very long time but having come out the other side now, I know it was the right decision and I’m happier with my life now than I’ve ever been. I know that I’m now with the right person for my future and would not change anything for the world. Hoping that you come out the other side and feel the same way.
My father always says “No matter where my kids are, as long as I know they're doing well, I'm fine.“ Pets are kids (that's why I dont like the term “owner“. You cant own a living being). We adopt them and take responsibilty. You are showing your responsibility by making their well-being a priority. This is the strenght of parenting. Please adopt more animals :) It's not a replacement because living beings cant be replaced. There are so many animals in shelters waiting for someone loving like you. Maro and Luna are safe and loved, no matter where life takes you. That's all that matters and a good basis to proceed in your life. You will find a loving human partner along the way, too :) If you want to 🙏
Sharla you are the definition of grace and class. I hate seeing you so sad, You have lots of support from people all over the world that care about you!
I started watching your video with a friend of mine and I was so heartbroken seeing you hurt, she asked me if you were a friend of mine. I said "Kind of, yeah." You are so very dear to us, Sharla. We hurt with you. If there's anything we can do for you, please reach out to us. We love you ❤️
She mentioned that people must have guessed by now. What did she mean by that? How'd people see that coming? She's always so happy, I never thought something like this was happening
@@SolotaireKid I mean I was wondering when she was gone for MONTHS to film in Japan how her husband wasnt upset she was gone so much. It made me wonder if they were going through something g
@@SolotaireKid Because she hasn't really talked much about him recently. She's been in Japan a lot recently as well. I think some people put two and two together. She did say she was waiting for emotions to die down which I can understand.
@@applehearts996 hmm, fair enough. I can't even imagine how a 7 year relationship must do to someone. 2 years in, and i get scared if i dont hear from my girlfriend. this is something else. best wishes to her
Oh my gosh Sharla I feel for you so much right now... I left the UK a few years ago and had to leave my cat, Tigger, with my Dad. I've had Tigger since I was 5 years old, and now I'm 19. Over the years he became my best friend and leaving him in the UK I was absolutely heartbroken. What helped me cope was constantly reminding myself that he's in good hands with my Dad, and that I'm fortunate to still see him through pictures and videos. Even though I miss him so very much, I know he is happy and cared for well. After 6 months of grieving, I adopted 2 kittens, Meeko and George, and they have filled my heart with joy, so that might help you as well. However, I still think about Tigger every single day and wonder what he's doing. Know that getting a new pet doesn't mean abandoning or replacing old ones, you're giving an animal a wonderful home. You're so brave and I'm proud of you for being selfless and doing what was best for Maro and Luna. Keep pushing forward, you're amazing!!
I absolutely agree, she needs to adopt a new kitty. Not just for the kittie's sake, but for her own. Maru and Luna are ok now, and it's because of her. It's because she adopted them, and found them a wonderful home with a man who will take care of them, even if he isn't the right man for her. But for her own sake, she needs another kittie around. Mine died after being with me for 22 years - almost my whole life. It's the hardest thing in the world to part like that. But you need new life to shower love on. You need new hope. Not for the cat, but for yourself. Save a kittie's life to save your own life. You owe it to yourself, Sharla. We're all rooting for you girl. I'm literally crying with you right now. But I know how strong you are. Get some new kitties and show us how amazing your home is. How amazing your kitties are, and how amazing North Japan is. We'll be waiting, for as much time as you need.
Sharla, this came up on my TL... 5 years later... and I just want to say that life has a way of bringing you what is intended for you, and I am so so happy to see the amazing things life has brought you now❤
Hey Sharla.. I’m so very sorry that you’re dealing with this. It was heartbreaking seeing the pain you feel over this situation but please don’t feel the need to apologize. I understand about the pets. My husband and I split after a year of marriage (4+ years together) and had 2 small dogs and 3 cats. It was so horrible to have to say goodbye to any of them but it was best to leave our pups in his care. Even after years I would think of them and cry but it was comforting, like you said, to know they were well taken care of: I’m afraid there’s not much to fill that void. It’s so honorable to think of their needs over your emotions and I admire that. I started watching your videos about 14-15 months ago and have found so much joy in them. You’re one of the many reasons I wish to visit Japan! Please do your best to keep your head up! You will find more happiness than you could imagine right now. All the best! 😘
Sorry to hear that, look at it as one door closes another will open. I've been there I know the feeling when my 18 year relationship ended. It took me almost 3 years to get over it looking back I realized I wasted 3 years of mylife ,my advice is to keep busy, travel, explore, hang out with friends and enjoy life it will help get your mind off and help you move forward. 🙌🙏
You’re face lit up when you spoke about Japan and the Northern region. Looking forward to you inspiring me to travel there. I’ve not been North of Mito in Ibaraki Prefecture but really want to. Best wishes. You will grow stronger!
I had to move to different part of the country when my marriage ended. We had 2 dogs together and they both stayed with my partner. It was hard but wouldn’t have been fair to the dogs. At that time, I started a new job and traveled for work. I was on the road 6 days a week and honestly I traveled so much I didn’t even see the point of renting or buying a place when I was “home” I was in a hotel. I’m in a different career now and have a place, which gave me time to adopt the sweetest dog and eventually my cat too. It sucked at first. It will get better. Do what’s best for your kitties and in time you will know what’s best for you. You have countless fans that support you and we all want what’s best for you. 🖤
Sharla.. The sheer strength and courage you portrayed by allowing yourself to be vulnerable and display such raw emotion in this video is incredible. I truly hope you know that you have a mountain of support behind you and though we're from all over the world, we are here and we love you. Regarding the decision you made for Maro and Luna, that would have taken a lot of compassion and bravery. It's never easy to lose the ones you love, even in furry form, but they are not lost completely. Unfortunately time is usually the key factor in healing these internal wounds, but I hope you can find comfort in knowing that they are just a video call away. Thank you for sharing such intimate details of your life with us. I'm wishing you all the happiness and joy in the world. ♥
I watched this video when you first posted it back in March. I found myself wanting to watch this video because I remember how admirable your strength was about the situation. Now that my very first relationship has ended, which was a serious long-term relationship, I’m feeling the exact same way. We bought a puppy together. I raised her from sickness. So it’s hard saying goodbye. She was always happier with him so I figured it would be best for her to stay at his place. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing something that is super intimate. Going through the exact same thing I can’t imagine how much it took out of you to share this with everyone. Thank you for helping me find some strength in myself.
I don't know how it is handled in Japan. But in Germany you can volunteer at animal shelters and cuddle and play with the cats or walk dogs. It's great. The Pets get much needed love and attention and they always cheer me up :)
It'll be okay, sharla. I went through a 5 year break up myself. It's a process to be yourself without being part of Us, for a bit. You'll come through it and you'll feel better and find happiness. I would suggest getting a dog. I'm a cat lover too, but a dog will help you get out of the house and stay active and not retreat into work and just staying home. I'm not disappointed in you. You're not a TV show. You're a person. Good luck, Sharla.
I'm very sorry hear that. I can almost feel your pain. Stay strong Sharla💖. Love will find you again. You have a lot of support. Remember you are loved so much. It hurts to also see you hurting over your pets💖💖. I send you hugs, caring loving energy your way!! 💖🙏
I'm so sorry to hear how things worked out. My heart was breaking watching you so upset. Maro and Luna will be well looked after, it must have been the hardest decision. Please don't think for a second that you have disappointed us. You need to focus on yourself and your healing. Take it a day at a time hun, it will slowly get easier.
I had to leave my cat, Esme, after a terrible break up with my ex. It is hard but keep up the video chats with them. :( I'm really sorry about the fact you have to be away from your furbabies like this.
Heartbroken for you Sharla... 100% mandatory advice -- FIND ANOTHER KITTY ASAP. You have to have somewhere to focus your love and caring, otherwise it will feel so empty. Rescue a little one and give it a great life with you. Love and happiness coming your way... xoxo
So many people feel like they're betraying their old pets or just replacing them, and that's not how you should feel about a new pet. Time truly is the best fix.
@@little.tricks People heal and do better in different ways. It might be the right thing for Sharla to do or it might not be. So don't shame someone for simply giving an idea.
@@missgothika Well she travelled a lot when previously living in Japan though it's always possible that primarily her ex was watching the cats during those times. I still think there will a heart-warming reunion at some point once she re-establishes herself. She sounds pretty committed to staying in Japan and I'm sure that it's literally starting all over again in some ways.
I know this is an older video but re: the being happy all the time - your spark and happiness is one of the reasons I subscribed to your channel. There's so much joy and vivacity. I am relatively new to your channel so I'm catching up on older vids - I am so sorry you've gone through this and I hope things are smoother by now. Keep your happiness as best you can, esp in these times.
I found you when I didn't understand English. I struggled watching your videos at first but that changed really quickly. I'm very grateful to you. You can't imagine how much you have inspired me and helped me in my teens. You have not just helped me improving my english but you taught me a lot of things about life and Japan. You made me happy and smiley when I was feeling really down. You just motivated me to study harder, to have a dream , to fight for it and to be strong with all the troubles you may have. At first I was watching your videos just because of Japan but then I started admiring you and I was really enjoying your personality and everything so I decided to follow your videos and your journey wherever it takes. Agh! I'm sorry, I'm not really good at expressing myself. I just wanted to say that I love you so much, I hope you can start over again. I really just want your happiness and all the good things in the world for you. I hope you can be your cats again, even though it takes a while and take your time to recover, to try new things , to meet new people and to spend time with the loved ones. Thank you so much for everything. I really aprecciate all your hard work so much. Love you! I wish you all the best luck in everything💕
I hope things have gotten better for you my dear. It is never easy adjusting to a completely different environment and not being surrounded by a comfort you once knew all too well. Even though you drifted apart at the end, knowing that person was still nearby left it feeling not real...but once you know they are gone it's a very heart wrenching, empty feeling no one is ever prepared for. The comfort of pets is one thing people look forward to, and the fact that you have to work through that as well shows how strong, and capable of a woman you are. Know that you are not alone, time WILL heal all wounds. Maybe not today, nor next week, or even next month....but one day you will wake up and the hurt in your heart will feel lifted. I believe in you and all that you do. Please continue to work hard and know that we all care about you too. ❤️
I think the hardest part after so long together is staying in touch and still being friends. It's sooo hard in the beginning with all the raw emotions, but looking back all these years later still being friends with my ex is the best thing I could ask for. He's the perfect best friend because he already knows all there is to know. It's still hard sometimes, but worth the trouble to get there. As for the pet situation, I was the one with the cat and I know it may not work out as well, but he was able to come see him here and there and it really perked my cat up to see him still. Doing the video calls is probably the best way for that to continue on a regular basis to appease your fur babies. For you though, I would suggest going to the pet cafe's or a shelter to just get some animal time in, being able to hug another cat (even if it's not your own) really can help. Also, never apologize for what you need to do to help yourself! It's first and foremost always about you and what you need, not us. We're just bystanders that love to watch your videos, and if that means we have to wait, then we have to wait. Take all the time you need to find yourself and things you love again
Sharla, oh girl :( I am so so sorry you had to go through all of this, I can't even imagine to know what you are feeling~ I hope that nothing but happiness and joy comes to you soon
@@aikaterineillt9876 Almost never? Sorry for your bad experiences, but I don't think 99% of relationships are because of superficial things, like looks and cars.
I’ve read every single one of your comments. Thank you so much ;-;♥️
Sharmander I hope you feel better soon
Sharmander Love you so much! Favorite UA-camr by far and looking forward to you showing us (me!) around northern Japan!
We love you Sharla! I'm so sorry you're going through this but you are such a strong person and we know you will be ok. It will take a long time but we will be here when you need us.
Videos like these help remind us that you're a real person with real feelings. I can tell from the outpouring of love and support you're getting that your fans feel like they know you personally. We hurt when you hurt, and we will be happy with whatever makes you happy. It's like a one-sided video pen-pal relationship 😊
Sharla stay strong..
Couple misc. thoughts and advice:
-Don't let anyone criticize you for being happy. You don't need to pander to such petty, salty people.
-Korea isn't going anywhere, you can always go back when you feel more up to it.
-Sometimes great relationships don't last forever. What's important is how you've grown and the good times you had, there's no use clinging to things that only used to make you happy. It's hard now, and some parts might take longer to heal than others, but this will be good for you in the long run.
Danica you're comment is perfect and I agree with you 100%.😊
Oh, Sharla... I am so sorry for everything you’re going through. I’m sure you already know this but it’s going to be okay. It’s okay that it didn’t work out. And it’s wonderful that he updates you about Maro & Luna. I started tearing up when your voice cracked and I just wish there was something I could write or say to help. But you suddenly looked relieved and bright when you started talking about Morioka, I think you made the right decision. We’re all here to support you and I can’t wait to watch & learn more about Morioka and the rest of Japan from you 💛 Sending you love always
Hey look. It's the mermaid skateboard girl.
"Life is Balloons!" - Natsuki
They are cheery, happy, and beautiful when new. Always reaching for the sky. Slowly they stop floating as hard, and eventually start sinking and shriveling up. They can burst when you least expect it. No one can escape balloon death. Everything will end eventually. Despite knowing they will end, cherish balloons when you have them. It is better to have ballooned and lost than never to have ballooned at all.
Natsuki was more profound in his statement than I thought.
@@Jeremy_Fisher barz
@@Hi-xu9xn lol no
@@Hi-xu9xn That escalated quickly.
That quote is too deep as you age. It has a psychedelic-enlightening energy to it. Hehe
your attitude about things and strength consistently inspires me. I hope you both find happiness.❤️ Love you
TAYLOR I LOVE YOU
Mariana C I totally agree.. Sharla needs her best friend now more than ever. Please give her love and friendship in her times of turmoil ❤️
josh room1919 Boi what?
I agree, best friends really do help in the healing process. I think you should go visit or have her over Taylor and give her lots of love. I love both of your channels so much. I’ve gone through a breakup once years ago and it was very hard.
I agree with Mariana, take a trip and have some girl time! I'm not sure if you guys are as close as you used to be, but friends should stick it through with each other no matter distance or life circumstances.
Shame on anyone who criticizes you for “being happy all the time”. Hang in there Sharla.
Tony Liu Yeah seriously! They’re just unhappy and jealous people.
Yes, what rat bags those people are!
I can't understand how people can be so cruel, where is the compassion in this world.
Tony Liu I know, who wants to video themselves when they feel sad or in a bad mood??
Hugs. This is definitely a tough situation. I think since both of you were unhappy, it takes a lot more courage to find happiness elsewhere, than to be comfortable in a situation that is familiar. You're so strong Sharla. I can see you back on the saddle and finding new adventures in no time. Can't wait to see you again in the summer💜
Hi jackie
Love is a complicated thing. You can love someone very dearly, want the best for them, and know they return those feelings, but you both can still understand that your lives can not work together, no matter how much you want it to. My parents' marriage ended in this way, and it was hard on all of us, but life does move on, not that you will never have times when you're sad, but that you can come to a place of resolve. Eventually happiness finds you again. It may not be the way you expect, but if you acknowledge all of your feelings, and talk things out with someone you trust (whether it be a friend, therapist, or any other neutral party), life will be good again. Though you will see things in a way you could have never done so before.
I know this is a year late, but I hope you can already see some of these things coming true for you.
From my own experience, I can say, it is very important to take care of yourself.
So take care. With love from the US.
David your a good man.
This is why you shouldn't get married for love.
@@zamuelwartower459 so for what/how should one get married then?
@@sunnyside7369 a lot of cultures set up arranged marriages. Love develops over time. Going into relationship with passion romantic love usually doesn't work out unless the couple can turn that passion into a working functional marriage.
@@zamuelwartower459 Arranged marriages are a scam. You still live in the 17th century obviously. In an arranged marriage both partners (especially the man) runs to complain to the parents when something goes wrong. If 1 gets sick, do you really care? Do you care from the bottom of your heart? When your parents die (yes they won't live forever) will you care about your partner and stick with them? The most important thing in a marriage is compatibility. Full Stop. The End. The only way you can get compatibility is out of love, compassion and affection. If you look at it like a contract like you do - it will fail or you will simply be with a "roommate" forever.
It’s so selfless of you to leave your cats behind so they’re in good hands. I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through not only with the break up but with losing your pets, I’ve only had my guinea pigs for roughly 2 months but I already can’t see my life without them. Hope you get the happiness you deserve 💕
It happens to the best of us, but so sorry you are so saddened. I'll be 71 tomorrow and I've been married three times. Each time I thought it was forever. You are young, smart and beautiful. Your whole life is in front of you. Make the most of it, time flies.
Oh, and a new start could mean new companionship. Check shelters and give away ads. Save a couple of lives and some wonderful fur babies. Not as replacements, but as new companions.
You're so kind and uplifting.
happy early birthday!
You're so pretty and sweet and deserve to be happy. I lost my 3 cats in a breakup after 11 years. That stuff cuts deep and although we heal, we live with the scars. Keep your head up beautiful.
I'm Japanese. I'm sorry that my English isn't good. I'm sorry to hear your situation, at the same time I remembered my experience. I got divorced two years ago, I moved back to Kumamoto from Kyoto where I'd lived with my ex-partner and my cat. I was really hurt, and felt like I would never be healed from isolation and missing my cat forever. But I was helped by my family and friends in my hometown. People around me adviced me to change environment, so I went for a travel to the areas where I'd not visited ever, challenged new things, and then finally got a new job. Recently I began to have a new cat which was stray. Even now sometimes I miss my ex-cat and a past marriage life, but at the same I begin to feel I'm getting more tough than before. You have a family and friends in Canada and Japan. I believe you can go through. Time will solve everything. Though I'm a stranger through internet, I will always be with you, and support you.
Beautiful comment. ♡
PS. Don't worry, your English is excellent.
Your English is great!
Ganbare!!!
such a nice comment! and your english is good, it will improve a lot the more you practice ^^
So sorry to hear about your relationship. Having been through a divorce (15 year relationship) and having to leave behind 2 cats I loved, I don't know your personal pain, but I've sadly been down that road.
My pet advice, don't try to "replace" them right away. Take some time, find peace with yourself first. When you find yourself in a good place again, then consider it.
And Shar... don't be dissappointed in yourself. You didn't fail. Life just moves in mysterious ways sometimes. You didnt fail. Much love.
seeing you this sad is breaking my heart i'm wishing you the best and sending you all the strength and a big big hug ♥️
you've not disappointed any of us, your happiness and wellbeing goes before anything else and we're all looking forward to all the videos about northern Japan!!
I now live in Japan because of your videos. You have made such an impact on my life and I can’t thank you enough.
Seeing you like this makes me feel like you’re a close friend who is hurting.. despite the fact that we’ve never talked to each other. I can’t imagine how you are feeling. I wish I could offer advice and words of comfort. But I feel that is out of my place... but I just wish you nothing but the best. This is a season of growth and I’m excited to be able to watch you grow as a person. Thank you for all that you’ve done. ❤️
Sharla we love you and we just want you to be happy!!! Please focus on yourself and making yourself feel better! ♡♡♡
Sharla... take it one day at a time. You will have a lot of new memories along with the old memories. You are a very giving person & sorry about the cats not being with you physically. Love u hun 💞
This exactly! Self care and allowing yourself to feel and grieve the relationship and move on.
Can I just say we are all so happy to see Sharla smile again, now that she has Tuna now as well! And Chris to take care of Maro and Tuna.
Sending you positive vibes always! You were so strong to keep up a bright face during all of this, and I hope things get easier soon. I can't wait for your Japan content and for you to find your own path and continue to grow! Wishing you the best, truly 🙏
I had a fiance of eight years before we split up. I know how your heart is hurting right now. I gave up two dogs when I moved out. Deep breaths and every day will get easier, but in the tiniest of increments. I AM SO SORRY. Know that as long as they're happy and healthy, that heartache will get easier too. The future welcomes you with open arms, Sharla!
Sharla, I rarely comment - there are so many things one could say, and most of then have already been said, but I'll give it a try.
Firstly, sorry that things didn't work out, but it's better than staying together and being miserable. I had a relationship for 7 or so years (with cats) that disintegrated. It was a long time coming, but finally happened when I was away in a different country. I never saw the cats again, and my heart was broken. But I survived, and so will you.
I will keep checking up on you - look after yourself and don't worry about us so much. We're not going away - we're all here for you. 🙏
Also, adopt more cats (especially ones in the community) it'll give you a good reason to get out of the house.
Lovely comment and just to add to this idea, Sharla did a video once about helping at a shelter so that could be an option. My friend started volunteering at a cat shelter after hers died and she really enjoys it.
I’ve been studying Japanese for the past two months and just stumbled onto tour channel last week. I must say this video hits so close to home for me. I just finalized my divorce paperwork, we were also together for 7 years. You have quickly become such a motivational force in my life! I just wanted to say thank you so much for you content. ❤️
Aww I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been through something similar. Welcome to my channel, glad to have you here🥺💜
sigh now i'm going down that path. Sharla shot this in 2019 and I never would've guessed watching her recent videos. yeah maybe she only shoots on happy days or she's good at making herself look happy but honestly it gives me hope at a time when it seems there's none. ONWARD AND UPWARD! :')
Im in the same boat, 240 straight days studying Japanese using the Duolingo app. Sharla's have helped me learn also. Iam getting divorced too, Jan 4, 2024 would've been 11 years. 😢
sharla's vlogs have helped me with learning Japanese.
Oh goodness Sharla. Bless your heart honey. Praying for your heart to heal. We love you Sharla. Maro and Luna will be okay. ❤❤❤
I followed you because of Japan. I stayed with you because of you, not because of where you lived. Don't forget to give yourself time to heal. Keep busy, but let yourself heal too.
TheLyzard IAm facts
Korea ruined their relationship.
@@sayjaibao01188 lol wut
Hearing your shaky voice hurts so much considering how much of an impact you have had on my life. I’ve always thought of you as having the perfect life, because sometimes I forget that people on the internet have problems too. I’m so genuinely sorry that you have to go through this, but I (along with everyone else) knows that you’re strong enough to make it through. Stay strong Sharla, we are all here for you and if you need to take a break, the support will still be here waiting for you 😊❤️
I was thinking about this video today in light of your recent happy life news, and wanted to go back and watch it again. I remember when I first watched this, you seemed so sad, though you were trying to put a positive spin on things - I was sad for you that this part of your life had ended, but at the same time still happy that you had found your way back to Japan. To me, you always seemed most comfortable and happy in your Japan content. Flash forward several years now, and despite the shit things that have happened in the world in the meantime, I'm so glad for you that your heart has had the opportunity to heal and that you've seemingly found authentic happiness again - and also that you were able to get Maro back with you!
The end of one story was the beginning of another 🙂I'm glad we can look back on this chapter now and know that. You deserve happiness and good things - keep chasing the dream
I never comment, but I feel like I have to do it now. It breaks my heart seeing you cry. But its okay. Cry. Be sad. Be devastated. And someday you can let go of it and be happy again. Also, don't feel stressed about the fact that there wont be any more videos from Korea. We want to see YOU. It doesnt matter if its Korea, Japan, China or Canada. We will enjoy you no matter what time and place. :)
Hugs from Munich, Germany..
You should find a reason or excuse to visit Rachel and Jun. They just moved and could use company. Then and their cats.
Woman!! We don’t watch for Korea or Japan - we watch for YOU 🥰 Don’t worry, just do you. With being a content creator, it might feel like you can’t let us down - but it’s your life - the ups and the downs. You can’t always be happy, and you don’t need to feel obligated to share anything with us. Everyone is human and you need space and time to adjust ♥️ I’m so sorry you’re going through this heartbreak, but just remember: even if it doesn’t feel like it, you’ll get through this. We’re here with you, shouting our support from around the world. And keep in touch with friends and family - that will help. Sending lots of love from Ottawa, Ontario!!
Same,💛💛💛💛💛💛
Well said
I know I am 2 years late, but honestly, hearing you talk about this made me really want to give you a big warm hug and tell you this too shall pass. Just hang in there. I'm just glad you finally got one of your cats back (saw it in one of your videos).
Oh Sharla I had a feeling this was going on, but didnt say anything in the comments. 😔 It'll be okay hun. I actually just broke up with my boyfriend of 8 years recently so I understand. It's amazing how you can spend so much of your life with one person and think you'll be with them forever. But sometimes your lives end up going in different directions and you part with that person. Its painful, but it will be okay. You thank God for the time spent with them and look forward to what life brings next. I honestly wish you the best and I'm sending you virtual hugs. Take care, we are all here for you. ❤
I'm so sorry hun. Just know you have us as your UA-cam family! You are far from alone, don't forget that!!! 💜
When you said you were disappointed in yourself for not making Korean videos it broke my heart even more. You're going through an incredibly though time in you're life right now and you're doing what's best for you. Don't feel guilty what so ever, just try and focus in yourself and what makes you happy. I just want to give you a big hug. I know it's really difficult now but it will get better I promise. Xxx
Hey dude, I haven’t watched your videos and I know I’m a year late but hope things are going well for you now. I’ve seen you in some Abroad in Japan videos and seeing foreigners in japan thriving like you guys were and are inspired me to take a chance to try moving to japan once I’ve got my bachelors degree, so thank you for inspiring me. I guess I was just moved to say that I hope things are better now! Keep pushing forward, my friend. I’m rooting hard for you.
Thanks man I really appreciate the kind words😊🙏🏻
I came out of a 11.5 year relationship last year, and I also had to leave my beloved home and furbabies behind. I miss them like hell, every single day. My best advice is to bring some new kitties into your life. You have so much love to give, and any cat would be lucky to have you as a fur mumma. I have some new kitties in my life, and they have made a huge difference in the aftermath of my break-up. Be kind to yourself. xoxox❤
You say this is the first time in a long time that you've made decisions by yourself for yourself.
Revel in that freedom. It is beautiful and wonderful in itself. Go to the store, buy your favorite snacks because you can, go see a movie on your own in the dead of night because you can and take up three seats by yourself lounging down in the most comfortable position possible. Be you. Be free.
You're brilliant and amazing. And I know it will be hard. It will be hard now, and maybe forever in some small way to be without them. But you are complete as you are, and you can do anything.
Go. Be free. Evolve into the fierce Sharmelion, or Sharizard you were always meant to be.
beautiful advice
Sharizard!!! Love it.
Omg you're comment made me tear up. I want to evolve too 😭
I wish the same Sharla, just couldn't put in such helpful words!
I felt sorry for your divorce but the cats part got me, it made me cry. My mom has two cats, I love them so much but I don't live with them so I understand you! I hope you'll get better soon.
The silver lining there is that they're being taken good care of it seems. They're with someone who also loves them. As difficult as it is for Sharla...
I know this is a few years old, but Sharla you’re an inspiration to me. I’m currently getting through a breakup of 4 years with a wonderful man. It ended amicably and we both still have so much love for one another but like you, we weren’t making each other happy anymore. At least not in the ways we genuinely needed.
We have a cat together, but he will be holding onto her. It breaks my heart because I love her so damn much, but I know she’ll be okay with him. I have NO IDEA how you were so strong during this time. I keep coming back to this video because your strength (I mean moving to another country, at the time losing your cats, and any other private matters of course) gives me the strength to believe that I’ll be okay too. I’m glad to see that you’re happy now with your life, with Chris, and with Maro and Tuna of course :) 💛
Aww sending you all the love Jennifer, I hope things go as smoothly as possible and you can take comfort in the fact your baby will be in good hands ❤️
Thank you, Sharla 💛
Sharla! Don't apologize😭. Always hoping for the best for you! Its always really hard to let go of someone you've shared a major part of your life with, always look towards the future! As long as there's life there's hope!!! Hugs from America!!🙌
Agreed and well said 👍
Gosh what a great comment! I love that "as long as there's life, there's hope" bit 💖
*Never apologize for real life. Your personal things are your own and not for us to consume so even if you never told us what's happening that is entirely your right as a person. As far as your cats, pets get attached to their humans not their homes, so if you truly feel they will be happier with you then don't worry about moving them again. I'm sorry for what you're going through. I promise that even though it doesn't feel like it now you WILL be okay.*
Eruanne I agree ❤️
Amen!!
Cats don't work that way. They are attached to territory a lot. Never move a cat unless it's permanent.
@@vahleeb This just simply isn't true, at least with my cats. My three cats have moved with me a few times and after a few days they are back to normal (curious and affectionate).
Kayla Marshall "after a few days".... Key words there...now translate that into "human years"... Fact is, while there seems to be some room for varriance based on individual personality, most likely cats are more attached to the territory than to their owners. Now you can test wether or not a cat's more hooked into a place or a person if you're moving down the road or a couple of hours drive at the most, but to schlep them from Korea to Japan is just selfish and inconsiderate for the cats... Remember, from the cat's perspective, she's the one that left the house... They still have their territory and their other owner around. I'm pretty sure that's how Sharla calculated things when deciding to leave them in Korea.
Back to your case, if you had to move house altogether, then you had to move, there's no avoiding that, but don't kid yourself that during those "few days" while they were adjusting to the new place it wasn't hell on earth for them cats.
www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2016/03/14/cats-do-not-need-their-owners-scientists-conclude/
Oh my... I did notice a difference lately, something really seemed amiss... I even wondered if maybe the cycling trip was a way for you to find some zen and peace for whatever was going on in your life. There is no shame in keeping personal issues personal. Nor is there any shame in trying to be happy and positive on camera even when you feel like crap. :( I really wish there was something that I could do to help you feel better!
On the topic of Maro and Luna... It is so evident how much you care about them. You are such a strong and compassionate person to think about what is best for them even when it means they won't be with you... it hurts like hell... but no matter what they will always be your precious babies, no amount of distance will ever change that. I know they love you as much as you love them!
Take all the time you need, and make sure to cry all the tears you can. Holding it in never helped anyone! Love you so much Sharla, I will always support you!
I've watched your newer videos, but haven't dug into your older ones. This is so refreshingly honest. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I hope you've been able to find peace. Thanks for sharing this part of you. 💜
You’re so strong ♥️♥️♥️ it’s a tough chapter in your book, but it’s not the end of your story.
I hope Japan is kind to you like it was in the past. I’m glad to hear that you have a support system where you are now💚
“For the first time in a very long time, that decision was entirely up to me”.
I don’t think most people realize what a heavy statement this is, or what a scary process it can be. Best of luck to you, Sharla. You can do it. ❤️
It’s also a very courageous decision 💕
So sorry Sharla! Japan is your base of support and I hope you can find strength and find a future while you are back in Japan. We support you, really enjoy your videos and hope for better times for you! Sending you are our love and support!
Sending you positive vibes and wishing you all the best back in Japan ❤️
Posting here coz it's the top comment.
I'm fairly new to the channel, here since Sharla was in Abroad in Japan's videos. The divorce sucks. And I'm guessing the different cultural backgrounds add some friction. But I'm also glad she's having a change of scenery. Best wishes.
I'm sorry for freeloading on your post, Marianna, but there's something I just have to say:
I know this is hard. There's really no right answer, and Maru and Luna will be fine either way. I personally would have fought for them, but either way, I absolutely do not think you've made the wrong choice. What you need is another life to be with you to shower in love. If it can't be Maru and Luna, then you need a new kitty. This is not for anyone else but you. It's what you need. I know it can seem hard to love something else when you feel like this. But when you go to the shelter, and see a kitty who really needs you. It can give you a new purpose in life. Maru and Luna are happy, and that's because of you. But there are more kitties that are stuck in little cages, that only you can save. Find yourself a kitty. You have to. Not even for the kitty, but for yourself. Much love to you, Sharla. You are beautiful, inside and out. Please please take care of yourself. I'm not in Japan anymore, so I can't really be much help from over here. But if there's anything I can do, let me know.
This is the realest vlog I’ve ever watched. No bullshit. Only honesty. I hope you can move on and transition easily. Don’t feel pressured to put out a vlog if you don’t feel up to it.
i was going to say that too, but I scrolled down and saw your comment. Yea, and in a day and age of fake, this is so real (I agree with you too).
Sharla, please do whatever you can to take care of yourself! We will always support you. And don't worry about your videos--I watch these videos for you, not necessarily for Japan and Korea. You are a great person and I wish the best for you.
You are such a beautiful person with so much light. It brings me much inspiration and to see this rawness and vulnerability it just adds to the connection I feel when I watch your videos. I'm newish to your channel been binging your videos for the last three weeks and I just got to this part in your life's journey. My heart goes out to you.
Hell no, girl, Japan or Korea, we’re here for you! Sending hugs.
My heart is breaking for you Sharla. As a long time viewer, I felt something was up, but your personal life is really none of our business. Thanks for the update though. I hope you both find happiness.
Sharla I'm a 22 y/o male from Palestine. While I'm not your target audience from what I've seen, I hope it all gets better very soon. Missing the cats is pretty shit I feel you, I have a male cat which I see once every few months because of college. While video chats from time to time help, I adopted a new dog and I actually train it for a blind person in the future and being alone in a new environment is hardddd. But I think that you got used to it from your time in Japan. What helped me is raising this dog and taking care of him
I cried with you while watching this. I'm so glad you have Maro back with you now. When I'm feeling stressed or upset, I enjoy watching your videos because you really are so fun and cheerful.
Hi Sharla. I too am old enough to be your mum. I enjoy watching your videos very much. I love seeing the Japanese and Korean culture and lifestyle through your eyes. I am not in the position to visit these countries myself so I get to experience it through you. You are braver than you think. It takes courage to leave a relationship. Many do not have that courage. To make the move back to Japan and go out and do what you love while leaving your beloved furkids behind shows what a strong independent woman you are. It will take some time to get over this, it may always hurt a little, but you have such wonderful memories that the two of you shared and that have built the person you are. Chin up, one day at a time. You've got it. Big hugs
16 years ago, my long-term relationship went decidedly south, and I had to learn to live without someone very important to me, and without our two cats. It was very difficult, but I knew, as you do, that my former partner really cared for them, and I wan't going to be petty, and insist that they come with me. They'll be ok, and you'll be ok, it just takes a while.
I haven't seen you like this since you were a brunette- and that was quite a while ago! You were so diffident, then, and really pretty introverted, and I don't expect you'd have had the strength to do what you're doing now, all those years ago. I think you've become a much stronger person, and I'm glad for you, on that account. Take care of yourself- I don't mean that in the ordinary, everyday way, but really take some time for yourself to grieve and consider where you're going. We will, on this side of the camera, wait for you to do the difficult work of getting really settled and finding a way to be happy, again.
Hugs, as many as you need...
I'm not a regular viewer; I don't know you very well. That said, for the situation, I think you've done the right thing for yourself and for those you care about. *No one* should be disappointed with you. No apologies needed; life happens. My only advice would be consider adopting another pet at some point in the coming weeks or months. You might be tempted to feel guilty, but it wouldn't be trying to replace Maro & Luna; you'll love them the same. However, having a companion will be helpful for healing and will help you move on from tragedy and heartbreak. Even though I don't know you well, I can tell that whoever the lucky critter is will be loved well.
You should watch the other videos. She's adorable! Thanks to her I'm now obsessed with Japan and would love to visit.😀
@@TheConnsterMonster I'll do so. I've visited Korea briefly a few times, and have *_tried_* to learn the language. I found her and Tokyo Lenses videos pretty interesting and I think I would enjoy visiting Japan, even just briefly. I just need to heal up enough to be able to travel again.
Its so hard to leave someone after such a long time, even if you know its for the best. I broke up with my boyfriend after 10 years. Because we where not making each other happy. Its was the hardest decision I ever made. Even though I knew it was for the best. I knew it was not fair for both of us to stay together because its familiar. It will take time, but it will get better. It said a lot about your personality that you are strong enough to do what's best for your pets. I don't have any advice on that matter unfortunately.. I wish you all the best
I could tell by your face in the thumbnail right away that you were sad. I'm sorry you're both going through this tough time. It will take time & no one can tell you how to feel. Hope you get the love & support you need for your well being. Its ok not to be ok. I was married to my daughters father for 20 years & 2 years before dating, so when I walked away from it, it wasn't like a switch you could turn off. I loved him for a while after. I just had to love me too. I pray you get through this & find your happy again! Lots of love from SC, USA ~Jennifer
So sorry to hear about this. Welcome back to Japan. Surrounding yourself with friends, keeping strong and remember life had twists and turns that keep us who we are. Be well girl 🤟 hope to see you at the Hanami too 🇨🇦
Has a date been announced for Hanami yet?
Please don’t apologize for taking time to talk about this. It’s really none of our business. But since you shared this with us, please take care of yourself? I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I am Wishing you such good things and love. I look forward to your new Japan adventures. I know good things will happen from now on, you seem very sweet and I think you will be rewarded for this. 💕💕💕be well. About your cats, after a long term relationship break up that didn’t end well and he kept one of my cats. I guess she lived/lives with his family, which was ok..but it hurt so bad. I am so glad your ex is nice about the cats. It gets easier being away from your pet, but they will always be in your heart. Again please take care and your UA-cam family loves you.
Oh Sharla. I’ve been on a hiatus and out of the loop. I’m so sorry to hear 😢
Aw thank you~ and welcome back😌🙏🏻
Im so sorry you’re going through this. But I really do hope that good things come your way. You don’t have to apologize about not talking about personal situations. Some good advice for pets I believe would be for you to perhaps volunteer at a shelter or something similar where you can interact with cats, I know it’s not your own but it might help you process how you can help other kitties and how your cats are doing good where they are now. All my love and good vibes Sharla. Your videos bring me happiness and i can only hope that you receive that happiness tenfold. Take care.
The great thing about volunteering at a shelter too is not only do you get to interact with a cat, but you might also find one that you connect with that you want to take it home with you. It'll never replace the ones she lost but there's nothing wrong with adding new pets to your life and family :)
You deserve the world Sharla. Happiness is on its way to you🌱💕
Ohhhhh Sharla I’m so sorry. Sending you so so much support and love.
Pixielocks yes sopport
7 years is a long time and I know how much it hurts to lose the ones you love and things you love. Stay strong and lean on your friends and family. Trust me. You can never make a copy of your pet but you can find a new companion. It's not the same but it goes a long way, honey. Stay strong. We love you so much, wish the best for you. You are the one we want.
Yo Sharla,
First of all, it hurts to watch this.. Let me tell you why. My wife has been talking about you 24/7 and loves your videos. And often shows them to me (they are great, I'm a follower now, sorry for being late!) and she actually many times says "aww they are like us and awww someday we will be doing that" etc etc. Which is sweet. We have been together since we were kids and now we are a bit over 30 and the only babies we got are our fur babies. We got 2 cats and a dog. My wife told me about this video and she was literally crying and explaining how terrible it is to see you in tears (I agree, it's sad and I'm sorry this is happening to you..) And the fact that drifting apart from someone you love might happen to any of us.. I right away thought if it was myself in this situation, I honestly could not imagine the pain... Well, sadly this happens a lot to couples but the difference is that not many people have this huge community of followers and friends to help you back up when you're down. Time heals indeed but me and my wife want to wish you the very best of the best on your future endeavors and we will be there following you when you RISE BACK UP like a PHOENIX! ＼ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ／
I am so sorry.. it's so hard to see you crying even if we don't know each other. I'm watching your videos for a while and I'm usually not commenting them but now I just want to tell you that I am so sorry..You're a strong woman and you can get through this.
Try to be around people you love as much as you can. And to be honest, allow yourself to cry if you feel like you have to. That always helped me getting better. And don't force yourself into much vlogging now, you need time to heal.
I hope there will be some kind of soulution for you and your cats.. the most important thing is that they are safe and happy. But it would also helped you if they were with you right now I totally understand that :/.
Sending love from Germany.
Ha eine Deutsche Hoch lebe Japan
@@hallohallo5760 Pan selbst macht viele Videos und ist mein Erik zusammen (aka Gronkh ;) )
pan
Pan, da hast du echt recht. liebe grüße
@@SniperWolf665 ach das weiß ich doch baka
I’ve never seen you so sad and it breaks my heart... if there’s anything we can do for you, let us know! We love you and please be strong!!!
Hey Sharla, been watching your videos for a while. I just wanted to send you my support for what you’re going through. I too got a divorce from my husband at 30 who id been with for 13 years, married for 6. We were best friends and I still loved him in many ways but our lives were moving in different directions and sometimes you’re so used to a particular dynamic with a person that it’s hard to work through the issues and find a compromise, no matter how much you love each other. I changed so much between my 20’s and 30’s and we just weren’t right anymore for the long term - thinking about things like starting a family etc. It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made and I was so sad for a very long time but having come out the other side now, I know it was the right decision and I’m happier with my life now than I’ve ever been. I know that I’m now with the right person for my future and would not change anything for the world. Hoping that you come out the other side and feel the same way.
My father always says “No matter where my kids are, as long as I know they're doing well, I'm fine.“ Pets are kids (that's why I dont like the term “owner“. You cant own a living being). We adopt them and take responsibilty. You are showing your responsibility by making their well-being a priority. This is the strenght of parenting. Please adopt more animals :) It's not a replacement because living beings cant be replaced. There are so many animals in shelters waiting for someone loving like you. Maro and Luna are safe and loved, no matter where life takes you. That's all that matters and a good basis to proceed in your life. You will find a loving human partner along the way, too :) If you want to 🙏
Sharla you are the definition of grace and class. I hate seeing you so sad, You have lots of support from people all over the world that care about you!
I started watching your video with a friend of mine and I was so heartbroken seeing you hurt, she asked me if you were a friend of mine. I said "Kind of, yeah."
You are so very dear to us, Sharla. We hurt with you. If there's anything we can do for you, please reach out to us. We love you ❤️
My sister always said: your friend from Japan. 😊
She mentioned that people must have guessed by now. What did she mean by that? How'd people see that coming? She's always so happy, I never thought something like this was happening
@@SolotaireKid I mean I was wondering when she was gone for MONTHS to film in Japan how her husband wasnt upset she was gone so much. It made me wonder if they were going through something g
@@SolotaireKid Because she hasn't really talked much about him recently. She's been in Japan a lot recently as well. I think some people put two and two together. She did say she was waiting for emotions to die down which I can understand.
@@applehearts996 hmm, fair enough. I can't even imagine how a 7 year relationship must do to someone. 2 years in, and i get scared if i dont hear from my girlfriend. this is something else. best wishes to her
you have big balls making such a video! thank you for being so open and honest with your viewers. I hope you feel better by now!
Hard topic to talk about publicly, very brave of you
Youre so strong Sharla. Im so sorry about Maro and Luna. Take your time.
Oh my gosh Sharla I feel for you so much right now... I left the UK a few years ago and had to leave my cat, Tigger, with my Dad. I've had Tigger since I was 5 years old, and now I'm 19. Over the years he became my best friend and leaving him in the UK I was absolutely heartbroken.
What helped me cope was constantly reminding myself that he's in good hands with my Dad, and that I'm fortunate to still see him through pictures and videos. Even though I miss him so very much, I know he is happy and cared for well.
After 6 months of grieving, I adopted 2 kittens, Meeko and George, and they have filled my heart with joy, so that might help you as well. However, I still think about Tigger every single day and wonder what he's doing. Know that getting a new pet doesn't mean abandoning or replacing old ones, you're giving an animal a wonderful home.
You're so brave and I'm proud of you for being selfless and doing what was best for Maro and Luna. Keep pushing forward, you're amazing!!
I absolutely agree, she needs to adopt a new kitty. Not just for the kittie's sake, but for her own. Maru and Luna are ok now, and it's because of her. It's because she adopted them, and found them a wonderful home with a man who will take care of them, even if he isn't the right man for her.
But for her own sake, she needs another kittie around. Mine died after being with me for 22 years - almost my whole life. It's the hardest thing in the world to part like that. But you need new life to shower love on. You need new hope. Not for the cat, but for yourself. Save a kittie's life to save your own life. You owe it to yourself, Sharla. We're all rooting for you girl. I'm literally crying with you right now. But I know how strong you are. Get some new kitties and show us how amazing your home is. How amazing your kitties are, and how amazing North Japan is. We'll be waiting, for as much time as you need.
Sharla, this came up on my TL... 5 years later... and I just want to say that life has a way of bringing you what is intended for you, and I am so so happy to see the amazing things life has brought you now❤
Please don't feel like you have disappointed us. We are here for you
Hey Sharla.. I’m so very sorry that you’re dealing with this. It was heartbreaking seeing the pain you feel over this situation but please don’t feel the need to apologize. I understand about the pets. My husband and I split after a year of marriage (4+ years together) and had 2 small dogs and 3 cats. It was so horrible to have to say goodbye to any of them but it was best to leave our pups in his care. Even after years I would think of them and cry but it was comforting, like you said, to know they were well taken care of: I’m afraid there’s not much to fill that void. It’s so honorable to think of their needs over your emotions and I admire that. I started watching your videos about 14-15 months ago and have found so much joy in them. You’re one of the many reasons I wish to visit Japan! Please do your best to keep your head up! You will find more happiness than you could imagine right now. All the best! 😘
Maybe its just me but you seemed more happy in Japan. Even when you went back to visit after moving to korea. Wish you the very best.
Sorry to hear that, look at it as one door closes another will open. I've been there I know the feeling when my 18 year relationship ended. It took me almost 3 years to get over it looking back I realized I wasted 3 years of mylife ,my advice is to keep busy, travel, explore, hang out with friends and enjoy life it will help get your mind off and help you move forward. 🙌🙏
You’re face lit up when you spoke about Japan and the Northern region. Looking forward to you inspiring me to travel there. I’ve not been North of Mito in Ibaraki Prefecture but really want to. Best wishes. You will grow stronger!
I had to move to different part of the country when my marriage ended. We had 2 dogs together and they both stayed with my partner. It was hard but wouldn’t have been fair to the dogs. At that time, I started a new job and traveled for work. I was on the road 6 days a week and honestly I traveled so much I didn’t even see the point of renting or buying a place when I was “home” I was in a hotel. I’m in a different career now and have a place, which gave me time to adopt the sweetest dog and eventually my cat too. It sucked at first. It will get better. Do what’s best for your kitties and in time you will know what’s best for you. You have countless fans that support you and we all want what’s best for you. 🖤
Sharla.. The sheer strength and courage you portrayed by allowing yourself to be vulnerable and display such raw emotion in this video is incredible. I truly hope you know that you have a mountain of support behind you and though we're from all over the world, we are here and we love you.
Regarding the decision you made for Maro and Luna, that would have taken a lot of compassion and bravery. It's never easy to lose the ones you love, even in furry form, but they are not lost completely. Unfortunately time is usually the key factor in healing these internal wounds, but I hope you can find comfort in knowing that they are just a video call away. Thank you for sharing such intimate details of your life with us. I'm wishing you all the happiness and joy in the world. ♥
Melissa O .beautifully said 💗
I watched this video when you first posted it back in March.
I found myself wanting to watch this video because I remember how admirable your strength was about the situation.
Now that my very first relationship has ended, which was a serious long-term relationship, I’m feeling the exact same way.
We bought a puppy together. I raised her from sickness. So it’s hard saying goodbye. She was always happier with him so I figured it would be best for her to stay at his place.
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing something that is super intimate. Going through the exact same thing I can’t imagine how much it took out of you to share this with everyone. Thank you for helping me find some strength in myself.
I don't know how it is handled in Japan. But in Germany you can volunteer at animal shelters and cuddle and play with the cats or walk dogs. It's great. The Pets get much needed love and attention and they always cheer me up :)
In japan they do have cat cafés! So she can cuddle cats over there :)
Not sure about dogs but an animal shelter could be her best bet
Hang in there Sharla, breaks up are rough. Especially when it involves furry family members.
furry family members?
@@Numero103 pets.
It'll be okay, sharla. I went through a 5 year break up myself. It's a process to be yourself without being part of Us, for a bit. You'll come through it and you'll feel better and find happiness. I would suggest getting a dog. I'm a cat lover too, but a dog will help you get out of the house and stay active and not retreat into work and just staying home. I'm not disappointed in you. You're not a TV show. You're a person. Good luck, Sharla.
I'm very sorry hear that. I can almost feel your pain. Stay strong Sharla💖. Love will find you again. You have a lot of support. Remember you are loved so much. It hurts to also see you hurting over your pets💖💖. I send you hugs, caring loving energy your way!! 💖🙏
I'm so sorry to hear how things worked out. My heart was breaking watching you so upset. Maro and Luna will be well looked after, it must have been the hardest decision. Please don't think for a second that you have disappointed us. You need to focus on yourself and your healing. Take it a day at a time hun, it will slowly get easier.
I had to leave my cat, Esme, after a terrible break up with my ex. It is hard but keep up the video chats with them. :( I'm really sorry about the fact you have to be away from your furbabies like this.
Heartbroken for you Sharla... 100% mandatory advice -- FIND ANOTHER KITTY ASAP. You have to have somewhere to focus your love and caring, otherwise it will feel so empty. Rescue a little one and give it a great life with you. Love and happiness coming your way... xoxo
So many people feel like they're betraying their old pets or just replacing them, and that's not how you should feel about a new pet. Time truly is the best fix.
@@little.tricks People heal and do better in different ways. It might be the right thing for Sharla to do or it might not be. So don't shame someone for simply giving an idea.
If she felt stable enough for a new cat, she’d just have her own 2 again. I expect they return once reestablished in Japan long term
I'm still watching but maybe their decision also was because she travels a lot and they'd be alone?
@@missgothika Well she travelled a lot when previously living in Japan though it's always possible that primarily her ex was watching the cats during those times. I still think there will a heart-warming reunion at some point once she re-establishes herself. She sounds pretty committed to staying in Japan and I'm sure that it's literally starting all over again in some ways.
I know this is an older video but re: the being happy all the time - your spark and happiness is one of the reasons I subscribed to your channel. There's so much joy and vivacity. I am relatively new to your channel so I'm catching up on older vids - I am so sorry you've gone through this and I hope things are smoother by now. Keep your happiness as best you can, esp in these times.
I feel the same way about her. Her attitude is charming and relaxing I really enjoy her videos and she seems like a super sweet person
Thank you for the kind words🥺❤️
I found you when I didn't understand English. I struggled watching your videos at first but that changed really quickly. I'm very grateful to you. You can't imagine how much you have inspired me and helped me in my teens. You have not just helped me improving my english but you taught me a lot of things about life and Japan. You made me happy and smiley when I was feeling really down. You just motivated me to study harder, to have a dream , to fight for it and to be strong with all the troubles you may have. At first I was watching your videos just because of Japan but then I started admiring you and I was really enjoying your personality and everything so I decided to follow your videos and your journey wherever it takes. Agh! I'm sorry, I'm not really good at expressing myself. I just wanted to say that I love you so much, I hope you can start over again. I really just want your happiness and all the good things in the world for you. I hope you can be your cats again, even though it takes a while and take your time to recover, to try new things , to meet new people and to spend time with the loved ones. Thank you so much for everything. I really aprecciate all your hard work so much. Love you! I wish you all the best luck in everything💕
we're sorry to hear you're going through a difficult time :( the area that you've moved to sounds like a lovely place for some new life experiences
You earned alot of respect for not giving details of your husbands situation.
I hope things have gotten better for you my dear. It is never easy adjusting to a completely different environment and not being surrounded by a comfort you once knew all too well. Even though you drifted apart at the end, knowing that person was still nearby left it feeling not real...but once you know they are gone it's a very heart wrenching, empty feeling no one is ever prepared for. The comfort of pets is one thing people look forward to, and the fact that you have to work through that as well shows how strong, and capable of a woman you are. Know that you are not alone, time WILL heal all wounds. Maybe not today, nor next week, or even next month....but one day you will wake up and the hurt in your heart will feel lifted. I believe in you and all that you do. Please continue to work hard and know that we all care about you too. ❤️
I think the hardest part after so long together is staying in touch and still being friends. It's sooo hard in the beginning with all the raw emotions, but looking back all these years later still being friends with my ex is the best thing I could ask for. He's the perfect best friend because he already knows all there is to know. It's still hard sometimes, but worth the trouble to get there.
As for the pet situation, I was the one with the cat and I know it may not work out as well, but he was able to come see him here and there and it really perked my cat up to see him still. Doing the video calls is probably the best way for that to continue on a regular basis to appease your fur babies. For you though, I would suggest going to the pet cafe's or a shelter to just get some animal time in, being able to hug another cat (even if it's not your own) really can help.
Also, never apologize for what you need to do to help yourself! It's first and foremost always about you and what you need, not us. We're just bystanders that love to watch your videos, and if that means we have to wait, then we have to wait. Take all the time you need to find yourself and things you love again
You've gone through enough to evolve into Sharmeleon!!
Bryton Jenkins Sharizard!
Sharla, oh girl :( I am so so sorry you had to go through all of this, I can't even imagine to know what you are feeling~ I hope that nothing but happiness and joy comes to you soon
“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”
- Oscar Wilde
Unfortunately that’s almost never the case for most couples
@@aikaterineillt9876 Almost never? Sorry for your bad experiences, but I don't think 99% of relationships are because of superficial things, like looks and cars.
@@amara560 HAHAHAHA SO YOUNG
This is a misquote he didn’t say it..
There were no cars in his time, he did not say this.