I’m with Stacey on this one…I’d want someone to tell me no matter how painful it would be but Mamá has valid points…there are circumstances that have to be considered and that could be a reason to not tell someone. I think ultimately…cheating is never the right solution in a relationship.
First of all I want to say that you and your mom have beautiful hearts. I think every situation is different, & at the end of the day you know your friends. I can say that my friends know that I would want to know the truth, even if it’/ going to hurt me. I’d be more inclined to telling my friends about their husbands infidelity if I found out for multiple reasons but especially for the sake of their safety. It sounds extreme but when you exchange bodily fluids with someone you are taking a risk. And I believe that if your spouse is doing this with others, you have the right to know. Then they can make the decision for themselves. Imagine if you didn’t tell them and later on they got and STD or STI, I would feel guilty that I knew and didn’t speak up. If you are emotionally, physically, mentally, etc invested in someone you have the right to know the truth. Regardless, if you do find out someone is cheating & you decide to tell their spouse, please be kind and remember that this is someone’s life and heart. Even if they decide to go back to the cheater, be there for your friend without judgement & let them know you are there for them.
So sorry to hear that all of you also have a toxic parent. Sending you love & light ✨ I cut my mother off when I got pregnant. Going on almost 3 years now.
That's hypocricy, and cruel not to tell the woman being cheered, she would be in risk of having STD, she is the one who should make the decision on whether or not to continue the relationship.
My husband once had an alarm go off on his phone and it read “ remind her that you love her” i didn’t know how to take it because to me it comes natural to remind him how loved he is. And I asked him about it and he said it’s easy to get comfortable and expect you to know I love you but that reminder will keep me on my toes if I haven’t shown you any appreciation in a while I need to step my game up and I loved that. He wasn’t raised in a loving family. He just was shown to work and provide and that’s it.
As a María who was cheated on I was truly invested in this topic! Due to this personal experience I would say that I would have preferred to be informed rather than not…and why I too would be that friend to let you know if I knew something was wrong. I wholeheartedly believe that as women we need to uphold and respect each other if we are aware that the man is married and take the responsibility to not meddle in that relationship. This act would be the essence of quiérete mucho respétate más❣️✨
I love that you can sit down and have conversation with momma, I struggle with being the mom to my mom on trying to correct her on the way she chooses her life choices . Due to my grandma not being a mental provider for my mom .
Loooove this podcast.. mama Diaz bringing the wisdom. As a woman kids or not I'd like to know. Because, if a man is going to cheat kids or not. I wouldn't ever keep my kids away from him or talk bad about him to the kids. But you'd make my life easier and help me remove myself from the equation. Your mom is absolutely right, We women do have an intuition and it's usually right on. Love the podcast Stacey!
I would have to disagree with your mom saying she would not tell the married friend the partner is cheating because she would feel like she is destroying the family. She may be the one to deliver the news but at the end of the day, the unfaithful person is the one who destroyed their own family. Personally, if my friends partner told me they were being unfaithful to my friend I would tell him you either tell them now or I will. Honesty is more important over anything and if it were the other way around I would love to know the truth than to live a “picture perfect” lie of a life. Once the friend is presented with the reality of their partners actions, it is up to them to determine whether they want to work towards their family or split up.
I am curious to know why the guy felt comfortable enough to tell on himself to the BFF. She should ask him, “why r you telling me this information and what do you want me to with this information?” Maybe he’s too coward to tell on himself and wants someone else to tell on him.
Very hurtful situation here but my grandma did not tell my mom that my dad was cheating on her with my moms own sister. Younger sis got pregnant by my dad and my grandma knew and didn’t tell my mom. My cousin/brother is now the same age as me. I can see why my grandma didn’t wanna tell my mom what was going on cause both her daughters were prganant by the same man. But my mom felt so betrayed that she didn’t talk to my grandma for like 10 years. I would say, if u know something, just say it. If I knew something I wouldn’t put myself in the situation where I’m betraying my friend. That would make me feel for guilty. If my friend wants to get mad at me cause I told her about her cheating husband then that’s on her. Not on me.
Why wouldn’t you tell your friend. That’s weird AF to keep it a secret. 1. He is telling you because he either wants you to be the one to break it to his wife/gf 2. He is telling you to test the waters to see if maybe you’re willing to cheat with him too (weird AF) there are too many scandalous friends it’s a thing. 3. Tell her!!! Imagine finding out that you’re best friend knew and she kept it from you that’s betrayal. If you want to pretend it’s not happening it’s delusional, you’re delusional. It’s up to the wife/gf to decide where she wants to go from there.
If me and this friend are really good friends, we had that conversation already about if I see or know something about your man, do you want to know, if she tells me yes, I will not hesitate.! I personally would want to know, married or not pregnant or not, kids or not. Let me decide if I want to continue with the cheater or not .
Love this set up. It’s super cozy. It’s more the vibe for a mother daughter hang out sesh ☺️ Love your mom’s POV on everything. She’s so knowledgeable, and just because her English is not perfect, it does not mean she’s not knowledgeable! My mom is Vietnamese, and her English is broken but super understandable and it reminds me so much of your mom ♥️ love your dynamic so much.
I saw my sister-in-law cheating on my brother-in-law (my husband’s brother) and I told my husband what I saw and we came to an agreement that WE weren’t going to be the ones to cause a possible divorce in that marriage. Later on my brother in law found out on his own and we were just there to support him. We decided not to say anything because luego uno queda mal, después andan allí beso y beso y queda uno como chismoso. Al final del día el problema es de DOS y en esa pareja falta mucho: respeto, comunicación, fidelidad. Uno no es el del compromiso…
Porque no hacen algunos episodios en español? Your mom speaks great in English, but I feel Que se expresaría mejor en español. She’s wonderful quiero escuchar su sabiduría en español 😊
Se desenvuelve muy muy bien en inglés! También me encantaría un episodio en español. Así como una tía spitting truths. It always hits home in Spanish 🤣
I agree! Plus I don’t like that she corrects her mom 😭 I’m sure we all understand her mom, and that Stacey doesn’t mean it to be rude. Pero a mi me hace sentir mal jajaja idk why it’s uncomfortable to me, maybe because English is my 2nd language and I’m already self conscious and to have someone correct me I’d feel so bad. Lol and probably even more if it’s done on a podcast 😥 but that’s just me
The beginning of this video was so beautiful and as I’m listening to you guys talk about one day Mom not being here breaks my heart. My mom was in the ER this whole weekend, thankfully she was sent home yesterday night. I try to remain post and I feel like I love to think positive but as I went home and slept without mom being home I started imagining life without her and I fell asleep crying. I know the day will come but as your mom said I will cherish and think about today. I have my mom today and I will love and appreciate her until life will allow me to. I feel that I am one of the few who can say has a healthy relationship with their mother. She is my best friend and my rock. I am so blessed and thankful 🙏💖
As someone who recently got cheated on, I would have greatly appreciated if someone told me. I found out 6 months postpartum. He was cheating on me even before I got pregnant. I was with this person for ~10 years. I cannot understand how people can’t just end things before trying to mess with other people. I am going to therapy atm but it’s been a hell of a journey.
What your mom did for you in that moment that you were so down is what parents need to be doing with their kids! Parents show us love, hug us, listen to us. Just a simple hug says so much with no words. The more I get older I realize how much we do need our parents love. Many problems would be solved if parents just hugged us even for one moment.😢😢😢 sometimes we just need a hug from our parents and feel protected in our most vulnerable times
As the friend I would say something I would prefer to have my conscious in peace knowing I told Maria in a way because I care about her and love her other than wanting to hurt her and her knowing that throughout any situation she can always rely on me whether she decides to stay with him or not. If she does than obviously im still going to care for her and im not going to be petty when her man is there because its not my relationship its hers.
I strongly believe in being an honorable friend. If someone came to me with a confession like that, I would give them a timeframe of confessing and if they don’t than I will. Because they have now involved me in it. Por ejemplo: te doy una semana para que le digas a mi amiga Maria, sino yo tendré que decirle porque me compartiste esta información y merece saber. Pero te doy la oportunidad que salga de ti. I totally agree on it being different if she’s pregnant though. Definitely a hard situation to be in.
I love this, i think this is the best way, if i was getting cheated on i would love to know specially if many people found out or know, so i don't look stupid loving him in public & still sticking up for him 😢
I would ask him, - and what are you going to do? -why do you tell me? You should be talking to her in case you want to break the relation. On the other hand if you want to keep your relation don’t tell it around, neither me . Go to a psychology and try to find out the reason for risking a solid relation by cheating on her.
Am I the only one confused by the fact that he reached out to the friend? That seems sketchy in itself that he would feel comfortable in telling her... if my friend's man reached out to me privately, I would be like tf?
Love the new setup! I felt you Stacey when you said you got emotional at Costco. Sometimes, all of a sudden it hits us where we miss our loved one. You're so blessed to have this opportunity to have these videos with your wise and beautiful Mother. Make the most of every moment! This episode's topic is very controversial - you have to have 100% facts before going to the friend to give that information. Otherwise, it can backfire on you for trying to break up a relationship based- the messenger ends up being the bad one.
I am definitely the friend that no matter what I will tell you and support whatever decision you take. “Mi pecho no es Bodega” Also loving the new set up and also how great the audio is getting better!🎤 it’s almost crip clear ✨
From experience a friend was more mad at me for not saying what I didn’t even was sure what was happening between her boyfriend with another girl. She stayed with the guy still but yet stopped talking to me 😅
This episode hits home 😢 I was getting cheated on and no one told me anything. When I found out my friend got cheated I told her and I end up being the bad friend 😢 she stopped talking to me.
Is definitely tough but at the end is no one’s responsibility to be the messenger. I would ask not to get me involved and ask them to have that conversation with the partner directly and not me.
Aww 5:39 I cried. I lost my dad to cancer 10 years ago, and 3 years ago I lost my mom my best friend and I felt that when you said your mom won’t be here for you to hug or go talk to one day and that’s exactly how I feel. It’s such a horrible feeling and I cry everyday thinking about how I don’t have my parents anymore and I’m only 41 😢. It’s hard but enjoy your momma to the fullest 😘😘😘
I think I would ask the guy straight up “where are you trying to get with this? What do you want me to do?? You want me to tell my friend or what? Regardless she’s gonna know” y ay haber que hace mi amiga con esa información. Yo de perdido hice mi parte 😅
Yes what if they guy is trying to test the friend and see if they both can have something as well. The girl with the question didn't give enough information to be able to know exactly what to think or say
I would say tell your friend but approach it in a different way. Tell her that her partner shared this, you don’t know any details but whatever her decision you support her. If she gets upset at least you said what you needed to say and your conscious is clear.
My mom got cheated on when I was 16. Her and I caught my dad cheating on her at my aunts house, his sister. My aunt knew the whole time and never told my mom. It wasn’t just that time he did it with many women
I would give the cheater the opportunity to confess to his partner before I would consider telling my friend about it. I was cheated on & my friend knew about it for months before she decided to tell me & I honestly have not been able to trust her again because she knew for months & she knew we were having issues & she chose to keep it a secret for months until she chose to tell me. I appreciate her telling me, but why till months later, I would have respected her if she would have given him the ultimatum to tell me & confess instead of waiting
Back in 2019 when my grandma passed away. ( my moms mother ) it made me realize I need to spend more time with my mom. Take pictures with her or take her to new places. We never know when our last day on earth is.
I agree with your mom. I wouldn’t tell. If it comes to light then fine but to protect the friendship and mental state I would keep quiet. I love your moms insight. Stacey what is the way we should address your mom. Something cute and warm because she gives off so much warmth and love through her voice.
Me gusta cuando tu mami habla en español se expresa mejor !!!! Yo si le digo a mi amiga porque eso es girl code. Ya se mi deja de hablar pues okay está bien pero estaría libre de cargar eso conmigo. Si a mi me ponen los cuernos me gustaría que mi amiga o otra persona me lo dejara saver con proof obvio. Para mi I wouldn’t break un marriage just bc I tell her. The marriage is broken the moment the wife or the husband commit adultery. Some women never find out and wish someone who knew would of came forward with that information so she could of left him long ago and gave herself that place like fooled me once y esta aquí.
I think it depends on the situation but I lean more on telling the person who being cheated on. Again, depends on closeness, environment, maturity and more.
I really enjoy this podcast. Your moms perspective and wisdom has been very beneficial to me. I appreciate both of your inputs and thank you for the knowledge you’re bringing out to women. Dios realmente las a bendecido 💜
I feel like there's no situation where it's valid period he cheated you should get out bc he could of communicated what where he's needs and if those we're met than get out that relationship same with women and I would stay out of my friends relationship I've learned the hard way 😂
I've been keeping the affair my sister did to my brother in law for about 10 years. I do feel like a horrible person, the worse thing is that my mom and husband also know about this. My nephew was a baby when this happened and I didn't say anything, now they are still married with 3 kids.
No Diga nada, tarde o temprano se dara cuenta la persona... Y tristemente muchas de ellas se hacen las ciegas y no lo quieren ver, sabiendo que esta pasando. 💔💔💔
I really think the guy that was cheating was telling the friend and volunteering that information so she could go tell the gf and he could end their relationship.
***Answer: I think it's weird the guy felt that he could tell her friend he probably wants to know how she thinks possibly interested in the friend to see her reaction I've seen that before.... and the friend should of told the guy you better tell my friend or I will and not entertain that topic with him...that's what a real friend should do.
If you have proof, I’d say tell your friend. You never know if the friend will believe you or not without proof. $hit some people wouldn’t believe it even if you have proof. I had an experience. My friend called and told me it was urgent come over to her house. A few of my friends were there when I arrived, and they told seen him with someone else. I didn’t doubt them, we had that type of relationship where I knew they wouldn’t lie about anything like that. Besides, I had suspected my husband (at the time) was cheating on me. That’s when I started preparing myself mentally and financially to leave.
I love the new vibes of the podcast setting its giving positive and comfortable vibe like a safe place to connect with us.❤ I agree with both of you guys it's very hard to tell someone that the person they are with cheated on them. Even though that friend have the urge to tell them that they are getting cheated on yes it's hard to tell them because we don't know their situation. I wish the best for that person should or shouldn't tell them that their friend is getting cheated on. I love hearing your guys podcast in the morning.❤🌞 Have a wonderful day.❤️🙏
In my opinion I would tell the guy that he needs to tell her himself or I will tell her. I think my friend would be upset with me if I knew all along that her man was cheating and didn’t tell her.
Hi ladies 💐, well it depends, one of my cousins said they saw our aunt's husband kissing a lady somewhere in the city, and she asked us if she should tell the aunt. Aunt's sisters said no, because they didn't want to be responsible for break of a marriage and a family. On the other hand, this aunt once said to us, she would not want to know if she was ever cheated on. They have three kids and they do everything together as a family and they seam to be happy. So, it depends on the situation and on a person too.
I think if she’s your best friend and she knows que no hay malas intenciones to mess up her relationship you can have a one on one with her but it’s hard because if she tries to work things out with her man it’s almost always the case that the man makes the gf stop talking to the friend because she was “trying to break them up” so you can be a good friend and tell her but you can also risk losing that friendship😭
This is a hard situation por que aveses uno sale cagado si dice hey your husband is cheating on you. Mucha veses LA gente no cre y pues sale perdiendo uno
But this girls situation makes me question why the man went to the gfs friend and told her that? Like why did he feel so comfortable telling her? She’s her best friend he’s risking her telling her maybe algo quería con ella? We need more context haha
I think I agree with Stacey because at the end of the day they did it to themselves, so if you tell and they separate it’s not on you. If they didn’t want their partner to find out then they should have never done it. It’s tough because a lot of times they may stay together anyway and then you’re left to be the chismosa but who cares at least it’s not on your conscious that you withheld information of betrayal.
I think your opinion might change once you have a girl daughter because you’re essentially siding with the man by not telling his current partner that she’s getting cheated on. And I would tell the pregnant wife if she was cheated on in case she want to aborted obviously if she’s pro-choice. This is why you know your friends, so varies in every situation. As a woman I’ll always be on the woman’s side with proof. I think it’s more of the Hispanic think that if they get cheated on they still stay married that’s why a lot of American divorce rates are up because Americans just leave if my future husband cheats on me and claims it was an accident there’s no accident in that. If I had a kid with him, I’ll still leave because I respect myself and love myself enough to find better and have a better role model for my child not a stinky cheater. Also, you’re not destroying the family!! HE DID once he cheated. Lmao I don’t understand this mindset. Also girl you guys should make this in Spanish!!
If it hasn’t happened to you, you shouldn’t have an opinion about it. Igual como cuando no tienes hijos no debes opinar acerca de ser mamá o como hacer las cosas.
I think if I was put in this situation I would sit the man down and say that he needs to tell my friend or that I’m going to tell her. I’d give him a timeline too. But you are risking losing the friendship and see if that’s a risk you want to take.
Yo creo que en lo personal yo no diria nada. Tuve una amistad donde le dije a mi mejor amiga Que su ex andaba mandadome mensajes y quede mal. Segun ella yo le queria bajar a sus novios. Antes de ser mama pensaba Como Stacey, Pero ahora tambien cambie 😂❤️
I’m with Stacey on this one…I’d want someone to tell me no matter how painful it would be but Mamá has valid points…there are circumstances that have to be considered and that could be a reason to not tell someone. I think ultimately…cheating is never the right solution in a relationship.
First of all I want to say that you and your mom have beautiful hearts. I think every situation is different, & at the end of the day you know your friends. I can say that my friends know that I would want to know the truth, even if it’/ going to hurt me. I’d be more inclined to telling my friends about their husbands infidelity if I found out for multiple reasons but especially for the sake of their safety. It sounds extreme but when you exchange bodily fluids with someone you are taking a risk. And I believe that if your spouse is doing this with others, you have the right to know. Then they can make the decision for themselves. Imagine if you didn’t tell them and later on they got and STD or STI, I would feel guilty that I knew and didn’t speak up. If you are emotionally, physically, mentally, etc invested in someone you have the right to know the truth. Regardless, if you do find out someone is cheating & you decide to tell their spouse, please be kind and remember that this is someone’s life and heart. Even if they decide to go back to the cheater, be there for your friend without judgement & let them know you are there for them.
Can you do an episode on having a toxic parent? I know there’s other people in the same situation as me! Love the podcast 🫶🏼
Im one of them. My mother is a pathological liar So I feel ya ❤
Omg my mom is the same way...2.5 years, I stopped talking to her because of it
Yes please. I have cut off both my toxic parents, going on 9 months ❤
So sorry to hear that all of you also have a toxic parent. Sending you love & light ✨ I cut my mother off when I got pregnant. Going on almost 3 years now.
@@cherielpuckettyour baby will appreciate you doing this 💕 I wish my mom would’ve done so w my toxic grandma.
That's hypocricy, and cruel not to tell the woman being cheered, she would be in risk of having STD, she is the one who should make the decision on whether or not to continue the relationship.
"if you don't respect your wife, I respect your wife for u" perIODDDD she ate w that
My husband once had an alarm go off on his phone and it read “ remind her that you love her” i didn’t know how to take it because to me it comes natural to remind him how loved he is. And I asked him about it and he said it’s easy to get comfortable and expect you to know I love you but that reminder will keep me on my toes if I haven’t shown you any appreciation in a while I need to step my game up and I loved that. He wasn’t raised in a loving family. He just was shown to work and provide and that’s it.
As a María who was cheated on I was truly invested in this topic! Due to this personal experience I would say that I would have preferred to be informed rather than not…and why I too would be that friend to let you know if I knew something was wrong. I wholeheartedly believe that as women we need to uphold and respect each other if we are aware that the man is married and take the responsibility to not meddle in that relationship. This act would be the essence of quiérete mucho respétate más❣️✨
Love your podcast, so insightful love listening to your mom shes like a friend, i wld also like to hear your mom fully express herself in spanish
Yes Stacey's mom i agree👏🏻 When a married guy tries to be flirty with me I just start asking him hows his wife & kids are doing 😆
I love that you can sit down and have conversation with momma, I struggle with being the mom to my mom on trying to correct her on the way she chooses her life choices . Due to my grandma not being a mental provider for my mom .
Loooove this podcast.. mama Diaz bringing the wisdom. As a woman kids or not I'd like to know. Because, if a man is going to cheat kids or not. I wouldn't ever keep my kids away from him or talk bad about him to the kids. But you'd make my life easier and help me remove myself from the equation. Your mom is absolutely right, We women do have an intuition and it's usually right on. Love the podcast Stacey!
I love your podcast Stacy. ❤❤❤❤
I would have to disagree with your mom saying she would not tell the married friend the partner is cheating because she would feel like she is destroying the family. She may be the one to deliver the news but at the end of the day, the unfaithful person is the one who destroyed their own family. Personally, if my friends partner told me they were being unfaithful to my friend I would tell him you either tell them now or I will. Honesty is more important over anything and if it were the other way around I would love to know the truth than to live a “picture perfect” lie of a life. Once the friend is presented with the reality of their partners actions, it is up to them to determine whether they want to work towards their family or split up.
I am curious to know why the guy felt comfortable enough to tell on himself to the BFF. She should ask him, “why r you telling me this information and what do you want me to with this information?” Maybe he’s too coward to tell on himself and wants someone else to tell on him.
Very hurtful situation here but my grandma did not tell my mom that my dad was cheating on her with my moms own sister. Younger sis got pregnant by my dad and my grandma knew and didn’t tell my mom. My cousin/brother is now the same age as me. I can see why my grandma didn’t wanna tell my mom what was going on cause both her daughters were prganant by the same man.
But my mom felt so betrayed that she didn’t talk to my grandma for like 10 years.
I would say, if u know something, just say it.
If I knew something I wouldn’t put myself in the situation where I’m betraying my friend. That would make me feel for guilty. If my friend wants to get mad at me cause I told her about her cheating husband then that’s on her. Not on me.
Why wouldn’t you tell your friend. That’s weird AF to keep it a secret.
1. He is telling you because he either wants you to be the one to break it to his wife/gf
2. He is telling you to test the waters to see if maybe you’re willing to cheat with him too (weird AF) there are too many scandalous friends it’s a thing.
3. Tell her!!! Imagine finding out that you’re best friend knew and she kept it from you that’s betrayal.
If you want to pretend it’s not happening it’s delusional, you’re delusional. It’s up to the wife/gf to decide where she wants to go from there.
If me and this friend are really good friends, we had that conversation already about if I see or know something about your man, do you want to know, if she tells me yes, I will not hesitate.! I personally would want to know, married or not pregnant or not, kids or not. Let me decide if I want to continue with the cheater or not .
Yes 👏🏻👏🏻
Love this set up. It’s super cozy. It’s more the vibe for a mother daughter hang out sesh ☺️
Love your mom’s POV on everything. She’s so knowledgeable, and just because her English is not perfect, it does not mean she’s not knowledgeable! My mom is Vietnamese, and her English is broken but super understandable and it reminds me so much of your mom ♥️ love your dynamic so much.
Yes, even the couches look comfortable.. the other sofas seem hard and small
I saw my sister-in-law cheating on my brother-in-law (my husband’s brother) and I told my husband what I saw and we came to an agreement that WE weren’t going to be the ones to cause a possible divorce in that marriage. Later on my brother in law found out on his own and we were just there to support him.
We decided not to say anything because luego uno queda mal, después andan allí beso y beso y queda uno como chismoso. Al final del día el problema es de DOS y en esa pareja falta mucho: respeto, comunicación, fidelidad. Uno no es el del compromiso…
Así mismo es!!!!👏👏👏👏
Your husband's sister in law cheated on your brother in law*
Girl yesss that's what I'm saying I learned to stay out of ppl business 😂special relationships
I love this mother daughter dynamic. You should bring on Amy as a special guest ❤️
Porque no hacen algunos episodios en español? Your mom speaks great in English, but I feel Que se expresaría mejor en español. She’s wonderful quiero escuchar su sabiduría en español 😊
Yes !! I was gonna write a comment similar to this, I feel like she would express herself better
Se desenvuelve muy muy bien en inglés! También me encantaría un episodio en español. Así como una tía spitting truths. It always hits home in Spanish 🤣
Yes or they can do one episode in English one in Spanish and so on
Yes I agree ! Iva a commentar lo mismo 😊
I agree! Plus I don’t like that she corrects her mom 😭 I’m sure we all understand her mom, and that Stacey doesn’t mean it to be rude. Pero a mi me hace sentir mal jajaja idk why it’s uncomfortable to me, maybe because English is my 2nd language and I’m already self conscious and to have someone correct me I’d feel so bad. Lol and probably even more if it’s done on a podcast 😥 but that’s just me
I would wanna know, but idk if I’d feel comfortable telling somebody 😅
The beginning of this video was so beautiful and as I’m listening to you guys talk about one day Mom not being here breaks my heart. My mom was in the ER this whole weekend, thankfully she was sent home yesterday night. I try to remain post and I feel like I love to think positive but as I went home and slept without mom being home I started imagining life without her and I fell asleep crying. I know the day will come but as your mom said I will cherish and think about today. I have my mom today and I will love and appreciate her until life will allow me to. I feel that I am one of the few who can say has a healthy relationship with their mother. She is my best friend and my rock. I am so blessed and thankful 🙏💖
As someone who recently got cheated on, I would have greatly appreciated if someone told me. I found out 6 months postpartum. He was cheating on me even before I got pregnant. I was with this person for ~10 years. I cannot understand how people can’t just end things before trying to mess with other people. I am going to therapy atm but it’s been a hell of a journey.
I love Stacey's headphones. It matches her podcast vibe.
What your mom did for you in that moment that you were so down is what parents need to be doing with their kids! Parents show us love, hug us, listen to us. Just a simple hug says so much with no words. The more I get older I realize how much we do need our parents love. Many problems would be solved if parents just hugged us even for one moment.😢😢😢 sometimes we just need a hug from our parents and feel protected in our most vulnerable times
As the friend I would say something I would prefer to have my conscious in peace knowing I told Maria in a way because I care about her and love her other than wanting to hurt her and her knowing that throughout any situation she can always rely on me whether she decides to stay with him or not. If she does than obviously im still going to care for her and im not going to be petty when her man is there because its not my relationship its hers.
I strongly believe in being an honorable friend.
If someone came to me with a confession like that, I would give them a timeframe of confessing and if they don’t than I will. Because they have now involved me in it.
Por ejemplo: te doy una semana para que le digas a mi amiga Maria, sino yo tendré que decirle porque me compartiste esta información y merece saber. Pero te doy la oportunidad que salga de ti.
I totally agree on it being different if she’s pregnant though. Definitely a hard situation to be in.
I love this, i think this is the best way, if i was getting cheated on i would love to know specially if many people found out or know, so i don't look stupid loving him in public & still sticking up for him 😢
Love that y’all upload on Mondays, always looking for something to listen when I start my week☺️
I would ask him, - and what are you going to do?
-why do you tell me? You should be talking to her in case you want to break the relation.
On the other hand if you want to keep your relation don’t tell it around, neither me . Go to a psychology and try to find out the reason for risking a solid relation by cheating on her.
This is definitely turning into one of my favorite podcast! 💗🤍
LOL, when your mom said "where's Maria". My unserious self said "Se Fue, Maria se fue"
😂😂😂😂 classic
Love how wise your mom is with words .
Love this podcast
Am I the only one confused by the fact that he reached out to the friend? That seems sketchy in itself that he would feel comfortable in telling her... if my friend's man reached out to me privately, I would be like tf?
Yeah maybe even wants with her.
I think she deserves to know regardless, todo sale a la luz and when she finds out you knew that will be messed up.
Thank you for opening your hearts & being vulnerable 😘
Love the new setup! I felt you Stacey when you said you got emotional at Costco. Sometimes, all of a sudden it hits us where we miss our loved one. You're so blessed to have this opportunity to have these videos with your wise and beautiful Mother. Make the most of every moment! This episode's topic is very controversial - you have to have 100% facts before going to the friend to give that information. Otherwise, it can backfire on you for trying to break up a relationship based- the messenger ends up being the bad one.
I am definitely the friend that no matter what I will tell you and support whatever decision you take. “Mi pecho no es Bodega”
Also loving the new set up and also how great the audio is getting better!🎤 it’s almost crip clear ✨
From experience a friend was more mad at me for not saying what I didn’t even was sure what was happening between her boyfriend with another girl. She stayed with the guy still but yet stopped talking to me 😅
stacy cracking up is the best! when they're just making up the cheating scenario.
This episode hits home 😢 I was getting cheated on and no one told me anything. When I found out my friend got cheated I told her and I end up being the bad friend 😢 she stopped talking to me.
That means she wasn’t a real friend
@@karinamendiola7667 that’s correct unfortunately I thought she was
Yay! Got to happy when I saw this new podcast! Excited to listen
Las dos lo están haciendo increíble! Your mom is a natural, I could never! This has become one of my top 3 podcasts so quickly. ❤
Is definitely tough but at the end is no one’s responsibility to be the messenger. I would ask not to get me involved and ask them to have that conversation with the partner directly and not me.
Aww 5:39 I cried. I lost my dad to cancer 10 years ago, and 3 years ago I lost my mom my best friend and I felt that when you said your mom won’t be here for you to hug or go talk to one day and that’s exactly how I feel. It’s such a horrible feeling and I cry everyday thinking about how I don’t have my parents anymore and I’m only 41 😢. It’s hard but enjoy your momma to the fullest 😘😘😘
I think I would ask the guy straight up “where are you trying to get with this? What do you want me to do?? You want me to tell my friend or what? Regardless she’s gonna know” y ay haber que hace mi amiga con esa información. Yo de perdido hice mi parte 😅
Yes what if they guy is trying to test the friend and see if they both can have something as well. The girl with the question didn't give enough information to be able to know exactly what to think or say
I Love the set up
I would say tell your friend but approach it in a different way. Tell her that her partner shared this, you don’t know any details but whatever her decision you support her. If she gets upset at least you said what you needed to say and your conscious is clear.
Conscience*
My mom got cheated on when I was 16. Her and I caught my dad cheating on her at my aunts house, his sister. My aunt knew the whole time and never told my mom. It wasn’t just that time he did it with many women
I would give the cheater the opportunity to confess to his partner before I would consider telling my friend about it. I was cheated on & my friend knew about it for months before she decided to tell me & I honestly have not been able to trust her again because she knew for months & she knew we were having issues & she chose to keep it a secret for months until she chose to tell me. I appreciate her telling me, but why till months later, I would have respected her if she would have given him the ultimatum to tell me & confess instead of waiting
the lighting looks soooo good!
Back in 2019 when my grandma passed away. ( my moms mother ) it made me realize I need to spend more time with my mom. Take pictures with her or take her to new places. We never know when our last day on earth is.
I agree with your mom. I wouldn’t tell. If it comes to light then fine but to protect the friendship and mental state I would keep quiet. I love your moms insight. Stacey what is the way we should address your mom. Something cute and warm because she gives off so much warmth and love through her voice.
This view is sooo much better! So much brighter!
I like the living room set up, feels more homey 💖
Absolutely love the new set up!
Me gusta cuando tu mami habla en español se expresa mejor !!!!
Yo si le digo a mi amiga porque eso es girl code. Ya se mi deja de hablar pues okay está bien pero estaría libre de cargar eso conmigo. Si a mi me ponen los cuernos me gustaría que mi amiga o otra persona me lo dejara saver con proof obvio. Para mi I wouldn’t break un marriage just bc I tell her. The marriage is broken the moment the wife or the husband commit adultery. Some women never find out and wish someone who knew would of came forward with that information so she could of left him long ago and gave herself that place like fooled me once y esta aquí.
Very well said 👏 👍 I agree 💯
I think it depends on the situation but I lean more on telling the person who being cheated on. Again, depends on closeness, environment, maturity and more.
I just finished the last podcast and now I get this notification! Love you both ❤
Me gustarían unos episodios en español/Spanglish! Asi como si fuera talking with my mom and tias!
I really enjoy this podcast. Your moms perspective and wisdom has been very beneficial to me. I appreciate both of your inputs and thank you for the knowledge you’re bringing out to women. Dios realmente las a bendecido 💜
I love ❤️ the podcast especially w mom so much good advice
I feel like there's no situation where it's valid period he cheated you should get out bc he could of communicated what where he's needs and if those we're met than get out that relationship same with women and I would stay out of my friends relationship I've learned the hard way 😂
Love ALL your episodes ♥️🙏🏻👏🏻
I've been keeping the affair my sister did to my brother in law for about 10 years. I do feel like a horrible person, the worse thing is that my mom and husband also know about this. My nephew was a baby when this happened and I didn't say anything, now they are still married with 3 kids.
Where did you get your jeans???
No Diga nada, tarde o temprano se dara cuenta la persona... Y tristemente muchas de ellas se hacen las ciegas y no lo quieren ver, sabiendo que esta pasando. 💔💔💔
I really think the guy that was cheating was telling the friend and volunteering that information so she could go tell the gf and he could end their relationship.
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I think it's weird the guy felt that he could tell her friend he probably wants to know how she thinks possibly interested in the friend to see her reaction I've seen that before.... and the friend should of told the guy you better tell my friend or I will and not entertain that topic with him...that's what a real friend should do.
If you have proof, I’d say tell your friend. You never know if the friend will believe you or not without proof. $hit some people wouldn’t believe it even if you have proof.
I had an experience. My friend called and told me it was urgent come over to her house. A few of my friends were there when I arrived, and they told seen him with someone else. I didn’t doubt them, we had that type of relationship where I knew they wouldn’t lie about anything like that. Besides, I had suspected my husband (at the time) was cheating on me. That’s when I started preparing myself mentally and financially to leave.
I love the new vibes of the podcast setting its giving positive and comfortable vibe like a safe place to connect with us.❤ I agree with both of you guys it's very hard to tell someone that the person they are with cheated on them. Even though that friend have the urge to tell them that they are getting cheated on yes it's hard to tell them because we don't know their situation. I wish the best for that person should or shouldn't tell them that their friend is getting cheated on. I love hearing your guys podcast in the morning.❤🌞 Have a wonderful day.❤️🙏
Very well said 👏👏 i agree 💯
I love this set up
Love the headphones!!!! ❤
Mom podcast is the best 👑✨️
Soy la única que pensó en “La Comadre” 😢
Si eres
In my opinion I would tell the guy that he needs to tell her himself or I will tell her. I think my friend would be upset with me if I knew all along that her man was cheating and didn’t tell her.
I truly enjoyed this episode made me feel like I was right next to you guys talking about it love your podcast ❤
Your guyses relationship is beautiful!
Pueden hacer un podcast en español? Me encanta como tu mamá se espresa en español también🥰
This happened to me once. I told my friend and then lost the friendship because he then got upset I told on him. I would mind my business honestly.
Hi ladies 💐, well it depends, one of my cousins said they saw our aunt's husband kissing a lady somewhere in the city, and she asked us if she should tell the aunt. Aunt's sisters said no, because they didn't want to be responsible for break of a marriage and a family. On the other hand, this aunt once said to us, she would not want to know if she was ever cheated on. They have three kids and they do everything together as a family and they seam to be happy. So, it depends on the situation and on a person too.
I think if she’s your best friend and she knows que no hay malas intenciones to mess up her relationship you can have a one on one with her but it’s hard because if she tries to work things out with her man it’s almost always the case that the man makes the gf stop talking to the friend because she was “trying to break them up” so you can be a good friend and tell her but you can also risk losing that friendship😭
Love this podcast❤
This is a hard situation por que aveses uno sale cagado si dice hey your husband is cheating on you. Mucha veses LA gente no cre y pues sale perdiendo uno
Keep the podcasts coming 🥹🤍
Please make your Mom a co-host. I love her perspective 🥹
But this girls situation makes me question why the man went to the gfs friend and told her that? Like why did he feel so comfortable telling her? She’s her best friend he’s risking her telling her maybe algo quería con ella? We need more context haha
I totally agree!
Tema de salirte de un matrimonio si eres ama de casa sin años de trabajo y pagan muy poco
I look forward to these 😭
I think I agree with Stacey because at the end of the day they did it to themselves, so if you tell and they separate it’s not on you. If they didn’t want their partner to find out then they should have never done it.
It’s tough because a lot of times they may stay together anyway and then you’re left to be the chismosa but who cares at least it’s not on your conscious that you withheld information of betrayal.
I think your opinion might change once you have a girl daughter because you’re essentially siding with the man by not telling his current partner that she’s getting cheated on. And I would tell the pregnant wife if she was cheated on in case she want to aborted obviously if she’s pro-choice. This is why you know your friends, so varies in every situation. As a woman I’ll always be on the woman’s side with proof. I think it’s more of the Hispanic think that if they get cheated on they still stay married that’s why a lot of American divorce rates are up because Americans just leave if my future husband cheats on me and claims it was an accident there’s no accident in that. If I had a kid with him, I’ll still leave because I respect myself and love myself enough to find better and have a better role model for my child not a stinky cheater. Also, you’re not destroying the family!! HE DID once he cheated. Lmao I don’t understand this mindset. Also girl you guys should make this in Spanish!!
If it hasn’t happened to you, you shouldn’t have an opinion about it. Igual como cuando no tienes hijos no debes opinar acerca de ser mamá o como hacer las cosas.
She has a kid 🤣🤣 boyyy
La Stacey ya se enojo jajaja como k no me va a decir ama
Stacey , me encantaría ver episodios en español !❤
I think if I was put in this situation I would sit the man down and say that he needs to tell my friend or that I’m going to tell her. I’d give him a timeline too. But you are risking losing the friendship and see if that’s a risk you want to take.
I love the setup! But i feel like the closeup shot of yall is a bit too close
I know Amy is going to be mad yall talk about her dad lol
Why I don't follow Amy..just curious
Hablen en español creo que la mayoría de tu audiencia entendería l. Or Spanglish
Yo creo que en lo personal yo no diria nada. Tuve una amistad donde le dije a mi mejor amiga Que su ex andaba mandadome mensajes y quede mal. Segun ella yo le queria bajar a sus novios.
Antes de ser mama pensaba Como Stacey, Pero ahora tambien cambie 😂❤️