Ironically, it was my cheating ex that convinced me... she made tons of excuses, but during the excuses, she let slip a gem. "I feel like you don't need me... like you would be just fine without me." I realized... she was right... she didn't bring anything into my life that I needed. And I have stayed single.
I just got broken up with but I'm actually not upset by it. While I was with her trying to impress I kept getting thoughts like I wish I was doing something else instead of trying to get laid so I think I'm good for now I'd rather be single relationship is too much work
Ive written and rewritten this a few times, this is what i got, They all cheated, from 18 to 30 every, single, one cheated minus short flings, a 5yr, 3 yr and 4 yr relationship destroyed.. One of em man, i paid all of our bills for years bc she got sick, i loved that one bad, when she got back to work , yup, started getting thrown around, she swore on my brother that died, and wed been good friends since we were kids when it happened, Life long friendships ruined in two families, she got knocked up, wasnt mine. It was the bus boys at her job. Guys check their fones, they lie. If they wont show u, leave, that very second, trust ur gut, these girls are for the streets
I can feel where you're coming from. I don't need to check their phones to know that lying is their default state. But take solace in one fact: they never cheat UP. If she left you for Leonardo DiCaprio, you would understand it. But she got knocked up *_by a busboy._* You are far better off.
I want to not be alone. But I can’t trust people anymore due to things that happened in my past that I don’t want to share. I so want companionship, a relationship even, but it’s near impossible for me to trust someone that can betray my trust and I can’t do that anymore - so I will be alone until I find someone or I find personal peace.
One thing not mentioned is that now in the 2020's....its not a big deal to be single. So grateful for that. All my experiences with women in the past is me paying for everything during the relationship and no reciprocation at all.
majority of the stories hold the same narrative so in short: its not worth the effort, women are entitled and dont bring anything to the table, men like their peace and dont need women to make them happy, the chances of finding a woman worth dating are very slim if they arent already taken, not settling and overall just a very bad roi
The fact of the matter, for me at least, is that it was never up to me. Not only have I been rejected my entire life, but I've also been *surrounded* by men, including my brothers, who are just garbage people but have had absolutely ZERO issues getting into relationships, burning those relationships to the ground and either being forgiven by their partners or just moving on to find someone else. My, now former, best friend is a serial cheater, he has never had a problem finding women, not one. And the thing is none of the people in my life are super good looking guys either, but they've been with a variety of women, from slender women to bigger ones. Meanwhile, I get turned down by every woman I have ever talked to. I'm almost 40 and I'm going to be alone, I just had to get used to it.
ive also realized the only reason theyre getting women left and right is because theyre assholes and women like that and they also dont care what women they get as long as shes a woman which makes the pool of potential mates to abuse to literally half the world if that guy wanted a life partner and get married settle down and have a family watch the number dwindle to 0
Bro. You're missing a dark truth about women. When they want to fuck you, your morality is never in question. The truth is that women are just as fucked up as guys are. Stop putting them up on a pedestal.
I prefer Love over being alone, but women no longer offer Love in a relationship. I prefer a loyal partner over being alone, but women no longer offer loyalty in a relationship. I prefer reciprocity over being alone, but women no longer reciprocate in a relationship. I prefer having a monogamous life partner over being alone, but women no longer value monogamy or traditional long term relationships. I don’t prefer to be alone, but I will choose genuine loneliness over a woman who makes me feel alone, Every. Time.
I just think about how im essentially jumping through hoops just to "earn" more hoops to jump through. It takes far less effort for me to make myself happy than it does to make a woman happy. Why work harder to make someone else happy at my own expense, when I could just put half that effort into making myself happy? Logically it makes the idea of pursuing a relationship feel foolish. I'd have to work twice as hard just to make myself twice as miserable. Why would anyone do that?
It's just the peace of mind. It feels like sitting atop a mountain, overseeing everything and just seeing and understanding the bigger picture. And i live in the Netherlands; if i need "company" i pay for an hour. Besides, marriage is an outdated institute.
1. I just like being alone 2. I can't be asked with the hassle 3. I have a collection of horror stuff that I don't want anyone trying to tell me to get rid of or break any of it in an argument 4. I really don't want to get to know any family and have to do Christmas and Birthdays etc 5. I don't trust modern girls 6. I'm sick of society and just want to watch movies and play games
If I’m going to date someone, it has to be a woman I’ll enjoy being around outside of the bedroom with similar values and not always out to compete with or control me. It shouldn’t be too much to ask for, but it is. Most of society is obscenely selfish and lacks self control, making it impossible to find anyone around my own age to be with. So rather than screw myself over to get a very short lived pleasure followed by a potentially long term nightmare, I’d rather not play this rigged game at all. I still have friends and things to do, so it’s not all bad.
Because I don’t want to waste money, nor wanting to be ntred. Also, man in couples usually get fatter than single man, and a slim body is one of my good physical traits.
Because I'm not yet ready to financially divest myself of my concerns in the US but there's a less than zero chance I get involved with a woman here. I know where to find quality women and I'll go to those places when I am able to expatriate. Probably another 3 years or so. Women in the US are so undesirable and delusional and the entire legal system is so insanely corrupt that I don't even have the desire to engage with them at all. Women here will marry a man they have no interest in, just to have access to the resources, security, and stability he provides. This includes settling for a man because the man she actually wants, won't commit to her. Then they'll cheat (because they never cared about the guy) and file for divorce, demanding half the assets she had no role in earning (quite the opposite, in fact. She's been spending heavily since the wedding began being planned). Marriage in the West (and especially in the US) is the absolute worst financial and emotional decision a man could possibly make, bar none. You take on a parasite that offers you nothing positive but when you try to remove it, it costs you half of your vitality. Once you realize that there is nothing you can do as a man to prevent this (prenups are thrown out every day for being "unfair" or "signed under duress"), aside from not engaging, you learn that being alone is far more peaceful and offers a great deal of serenity that no modern woman can even fathom. If I work 20 hours and make five figures from doing so, I am not going to hold that against myself and say I work too much. I'm going to enjoy the freedom that additional income offers me. I can go a week without seeing a woman and not immediately start looking for someone else to smash. In my experience, most modern women can't do that. If she doesn't see you for three days, she's entertaining four or five other men while professing how much she misses you.
Laughing at the incel who is only interested in super young women who can give him all kinds of things while speaking so lowly about all other women- I wonder why he’s single /s 🤣 Most of these men certainly deserve it. May they let go of the bitterness and TRULY find peace
the world has generally been the same for majority of history and there are more toxic women in recent times but its not nearly as much as people think its blown out of proportion and a lot more men have become man children and with economic hard times and polarized politics its generally difficult to agree and amass fortune you'd be lucky to make middle class if you start from scratch which most young guys are, while it is a problem that has surged in recent times its not nearly as bad as its made out to be, in my experience for every toxic girl theres a beautiful graceful woman its just a matter of searching in the right places and being the guy she'd want but its not just men or women its circumstance too im single because i cant give the kind of woman i want what she deserves but i will eventually im only 20 i have time and a plan but id rather wait to earn a good woman than get in a shallow relationship with some girl usually just ends up being a stressful mess when i do i can use a lot more energy in better ways by staying single until i have something to offer on a side note i havent really had any trouble getting a girlfriend majority of the time girls ask me out and everytime ive asked for a number ive gotten it but none of em have really worked out for me part of thats my fault and im workin on it but this time i think i have it once im finished i think i can do it and keep it
Ironically, it was my cheating ex that convinced me... she made tons of excuses, but during the excuses, she let slip a gem. "I feel like you don't need me... like you would be just fine without me."
I realized... she was right... she didn't bring anything into my life that I needed. And I have stayed single.
I have this crazy unrealistic standard of "she cant make my life worse by being in it." And that is apparently some astronomical ask.
When you go out to eat by yourself and its only 25 bucks instead of 70 and an argument
Bro out here spreading the gospel frfr
Peace, but also because I haven’t been approached by women, nor said yes to my advances.
I just got broken up with but I'm actually not upset by it. While I was with her trying to impress I kept getting thoughts like I wish I was doing something else instead of trying to get laid so I think I'm good for now I'd rather be single relationship is too much work
If I'm going to be alone, I'd rather do it by myself than while in a relationship.
Ive written and rewritten this a few times, this is what i got,
They all cheated, from 18 to 30 every, single, one cheated minus short flings, a 5yr, 3 yr and 4 yr relationship destroyed.. One of em man, i paid all of our bills for years bc she got sick, i loved that one bad, when she got back to work , yup, started getting thrown around, she swore on my brother that died, and wed been good friends since we were kids when it happened, Life long friendships ruined in two families, she got knocked up, wasnt mine. It was the bus boys at her job.
Guys check their fones, they lie. If they wont show u, leave, that very second, trust ur gut, these girls are for the streets
I can feel where you're coming from. I don't need to check their phones to know that lying is their default state. But take solace in one fact: they never cheat UP. If she left you for Leonardo DiCaprio, you would understand it. But she got knocked up *_by a busboy._* You are far better off.
I feel you, man. Women are toxic. All. Not some. Just varying degrees. Stay single and keep your peace and happiness.
I want to not be alone. But I can’t trust people anymore due to things that happened in my past that I don’t want to share. I so want companionship, a relationship even, but it’s near impossible for me to trust someone that can betray my trust and I can’t do that anymore - so I will be alone until I find someone or I find personal peace.
Writing out your trauma could be therapeutic. And your story could help someone else.
Because.. it’s better that way.
Because they have yet to show me that they're worthy of my time, attention or love.
Also they told men to stay away so we listened.
I literally have no choice other than to be single.
Yeah the Ontario housing market here in Canada is wild, literal crack houses going for 600-800k when they’re barely 90k homes
One thing not mentioned is that now in the 2020's....its not a big deal to be single. So grateful for that. All my experiences with women in the past is me paying for everything during the relationship and no reciprocation at all.
It Always works like this. When you want a women you can't get one. When you don't look you get one. This doesn't mean not to go outside and do stuff
majority of the stories hold the same narrative so in short: its not worth the effort, women are entitled and dont bring anything to the table, men like their peace and dont need women to make them happy, the chances of finding a woman worth dating are very slim if they arent already taken, not settling and overall just a very bad roi
Yup
Beyond the physical, anything a girlfriend can offer you is something she will give more of for less if you keep her as a friend instead.
The fact of the matter, for me at least, is that it was never up to me. Not only have I been rejected my entire life, but I've also been *surrounded* by men, including my brothers, who are just garbage people but have had absolutely ZERO issues getting into relationships, burning those relationships to the ground and either being forgiven by their partners or just moving on to find someone else. My, now former, best friend is a serial cheater, he has never had a problem finding women, not one. And the thing is none of the people in my life are super good looking guys either, but they've been with a variety of women, from slender women to bigger ones. Meanwhile, I get turned down by every woman I have ever talked to. I'm almost 40 and I'm going to be alone, I just had to get used to it.
ive also realized the only reason theyre getting women left and right is because theyre assholes and women like that and they also dont care what women they get as long as shes a woman which makes the pool of potential mates to abuse to literally half the world
if that guy wanted a life partner and get married settle down and have a family watch the number dwindle to 0
Bro. You're missing a dark truth about women. When they want to fuck you, your morality is never in question. The truth is that women are just as fucked up as guys are. Stop putting them up on a pedestal.
I prefer Love over being alone, but women no longer offer Love in a relationship.
I prefer a loyal partner over being alone, but women no longer offer loyalty in a relationship.
I prefer reciprocity over being alone, but women no longer reciprocate in a relationship.
I prefer having a monogamous life partner over being alone, but women no longer value monogamy or traditional long term relationships.
I don’t prefer to be alone, but I will choose genuine loneliness over a woman who makes me feel alone, Every. Time.
I have the same mindset as most of these guys.
This so easy, women are toxic. Keep the bear ladies😂😂
I just think about how im essentially jumping through hoops just to "earn" more hoops to jump through. It takes far less effort for me to make myself happy than it does to make a woman happy. Why work harder to make someone else happy at my own expense, when I could just put half that effort into making myself happy? Logically it makes the idea of pursuing a relationship feel foolish. I'd have to work twice as hard just to make myself twice as miserable. Why would anyone do that?
It's just the peace of mind.
It feels like sitting atop a mountain, overseeing everything and just seeing and understanding the bigger picture.
And i live in the Netherlands; if i need "company" i pay for an hour.
Besides, marriage is an outdated institute.
I like the single life its so easy wouldn’t change it anytime soon
1. I just like being alone
2. I can't be asked with the hassle
3. I have a collection of horror stuff that I don't want anyone trying to tell me to get rid of or break any of it in an argument
4. I really don't want to get to know any family and have to do Christmas and Birthdays etc
5. I don't trust modern girls
6. I'm sick of society and just want to watch movies and play games
If I’m going to date someone, it has to be a woman I’ll enjoy being around outside of the bedroom with similar values and not always out to compete with or control me. It shouldn’t be too much to ask for, but it is. Most of society is obscenely selfish and lacks self control, making it impossible to find anyone around my own age to be with. So rather than screw myself over to get a very short lived pleasure followed by a potentially long term nightmare, I’d rather not play this rigged game at all. I still have friends and things to do, so it’s not all bad.
It's less trouble than getting cheated on, and any woman I get involved with will cheat on me. So I avoid them.
Because I don’t want to waste money, nor wanting to be ntred.
Also, man in couples usually get fatter than single man, and a slim body is one of my good physical traits.
Its the only choice when you are socially excluded due to genetic deformity 🤷🏼♂️
Amen
Because I'm not yet ready to financially divest myself of my concerns in the US but there's a less than zero chance I get involved with a woman here. I know where to find quality women and I'll go to those places when I am able to expatriate. Probably another 3 years or so. Women in the US are so undesirable and delusional and the entire legal system is so insanely corrupt that I don't even have the desire to engage with them at all. Women here will marry a man they have no interest in, just to have access to the resources, security, and stability he provides. This includes settling for a man because the man she actually wants, won't commit to her. Then they'll cheat (because they never cared about the guy) and file for divorce, demanding half the assets she had no role in earning (quite the opposite, in fact. She's been spending heavily since the wedding began being planned). Marriage in the West (and especially in the US) is the absolute worst financial and emotional decision a man could possibly make, bar none. You take on a parasite that offers you nothing positive but when you try to remove it, it costs you half of your vitality. Once you realize that there is nothing you can do as a man to prevent this (prenups are thrown out every day for being "unfair" or "signed under duress"), aside from not engaging, you learn that being alone is far more peaceful and offers a great deal of serenity that no modern woman can even fathom. If I work 20 hours and make five figures from doing so, I am not going to hold that against myself and say I work too much. I'm going to enjoy the freedom that additional income offers me. I can go a week without seeing a woman and not immediately start looking for someone else to smash. In my experience, most modern women can't do that. If she doesn't see you for three days, she's entertaining four or five other men while professing how much she misses you.
not gonna have a grown entiteled toddler in my place that also wants to have all of my money
I keep getting jacked on my dates so I keep a Taurus on me DO NOT DATE IN THE CITY
Laughing at the incel who is only interested in super young women who can give him all kinds of things while speaking so lowly about all other women- I wonder why he’s single /s 🤣 Most of these men certainly deserve it. May they let go of the bitterness and TRULY find peace
I was gonna say the same thing he really said most women are toxic and all they can offer him is kitty 💀
@@c.o5614 what does that even mean lol couldnt he just buy a cat himself 😂
the world has generally been the same for majority of history and there are more toxic women in recent times but its not nearly as much as people think its blown out of proportion and a lot more men have become man children and with economic hard times and polarized politics its generally difficult to agree and amass fortune you'd be lucky to make middle class if you start from scratch which most young guys are, while it is a problem that has surged in recent times its not nearly as bad as its made out to be, in my experience for every toxic girl theres a beautiful graceful woman its just a matter of searching in the right places and being the guy she'd want but its not just men or women its circumstance too
im single because i cant give the kind of woman i want what she deserves but i will eventually im only 20 i have time and a plan but id rather wait to earn a good woman than get in a shallow relationship with some girl usually just ends up being a stressful mess when i do i can use a lot more energy in better ways by staying single until i have something to offer
on a side note i havent really had any trouble getting a girlfriend majority of the time girls ask me out and everytime ive asked for a number ive gotten it but none of em have really worked out for me part of thats my fault and im workin on it but this time i think i have it once im finished i think i can do it and keep it
@@ultimatewafflegaming1018 You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and the woman you choose will be lucky 🤌