I think a lot of Mandii takes,opinions and the things she want or don’t want in life as far as kids and marriage especially is rooted in trauma. I really hope she find someone that shows her what true love is and soften her.
She has owned that, too. If we actually witness Mandii be loved proper...a lot can change. Including her desire for kids. I hope to see her be loved right, but I think it also means her being less self-absorbed. She is too self-absorbed for a real one right now. She also needs time. She should take it.
Wow, dude really left a profound scar on Mandii. You can hear the trauma, hurt, and distrust. I'm glad she is intentionally staying single. Once a relationship is meant to happen, it will.
Mandi I feel you on that ex I’m still replaying the good times with him knowing he broke my heart. It all part of healing and this will pass don’t worry you doing great job keep it up! And grief sometimes makes u do that reflection too. Stay strong libra sis
54:53 Weezy I love how you keep giving Mandii hope but she can’t hear it over her trauma. It’s okay hopefully those willing, open and ready will receive the love you feel in your relationship.
2:23 there's a philosopher who wrote about this some centuries ago, I think his name is Søren Kiekegaard, and he said (in my simplified version), that the value of a compliment increases proportionally to the distance between the complimenter and the complimented object/person. He exemplified it by saying that you complimenting yourself is probably a 1, and your mom complimenting you could be a 2, but the farthest compliment is literally a stranger who doesn't owe you a dang thing AND is in a similar or higher status to which you aspire.
Being single by choice is definitely real. Some people truly enjoy the freedom of their personhood, ALONE. Their singleness is a feature about themselves not a flaw. They aren’t “waiting” for their person, they’re enjoying their lives by themselves because that’s what they WANT to do. And some people choose to be single just for a season of life and know they will look for a partner later in life. But that’s still a choice. Being single is not a prison sentence for everyone 😭 it’s their own decision. Some people love and enjoy themselves so much they genuinely don’t want a partner. We all have different wants and needs 🫶🏾 plus sooo much relationship love exists outside of just a romantic partner!
agreed. But also to add: life is not “by yourself” when your single! People have friends, families, and kin of all kinds. Romantic partnership doesn’t define what makes you alone or not alone!!
Yea , solo episodes FOREVER!! I love watching and growing with yall! The growth is soooo amazing to watch and really let's yall listeners/ watchers know it's possible in all areas of your life. Aw, this Pod is so special & dear to me . I love yall Mani & Weezy ❤🫶🏾✨️
Compliments hit harder from people who don’t need /want anything from you. You know it’s true. Them braces are very cute on you lol … you’re gonna look so bomb with straight teeth!
Right! It seem like Mandi gets argumentative or tries to debate most of Weezy’s points. Like she kno dang well a compliments hit different when the worse is not obligated
12:10 Thank you Mandii for being so real. Narcs sadly are very hard to move on from because the highs are so, so, so high. So of course you can miss the good parts, or even sometimes in a healthy relationship, miss the highs with the narc because healthy highs may not be so intense. So often those recovering feel shame for missing the unhealthy partner, so don't open up or get support. It's not about never missing them, it's about being healed enough to know those moments will pass, and where you are now is better on the whole
I have met a lot of people while single that I very much could’ve been interested in pursuing a romantic relationship, but I 100% was choosing to be single by choice by not pursuing thatperson. Choosing to be single is understanding that there are good people around, and you could absolutely have a romantic relationship, but you aren’t necessarily going to do that based on your own needs. Some people need to be in a relationship. Some people really don’t. I’m one of those people, but I do love my man.
Single is still considered a relationship status and shouldn’t be invalidated. So Mya being Sologamous just prioritizes the constant relationship with self.
Totally agree with Mandi on this one. Weezy's whole argument is based on the assumption that every woman wants to be in a relationship, which is not true at all. That's her truth, not everyone elses. She also says that we shouldn't assume all relationships are going to be bad, if thats so, we also should not assume that all relationships are going to be good. Its like Mandi said, you can be perfectly happy or miserable, single or in a relationship.
Definitely agree w Mandi on this 1. All the married ppl I thought were happy I have come to find out are miserable. Being single is definitely lonely at times but the peace is so much more worth it for me.
Single by choice isn’t real?…what? First of all we put WAY too much importance on being in romantic relationships. But if you meet someone who is “perfect” and you decide to date them, at that point, you are then choosing to be in a relationship. That does not negate the fact that for a period of time you chose to be single. I’ve been in situations where I was casually dating and guys have asked me to be their girlfriend and I said no. They were great people that I enjoyed spending time with, but I didn’t want to put in the energy and effort required to maintain a relationship at that time. At the end of the day, a relationship takes work and there have been points in my life where I was in my selfish era and could not be bothered
I’ve been in a happy and healthy relationship now marriage for 7 years and it still surprises me lol Like Mandii I was super jaded from my experiences and others but it is possible!
Never comment but always reading comments. Seeing Mandii cry is heavy but i hope saying out thus aloud and allowing yourself that space is not easy work. Thank you for sharing this part of your experience in life with death.
Deepest condolences to Mandii during this challenging time. May your friend R.I.P. IRT the CBAN 🥷🏿, I hope you give yourself grace. Let the feelings come and go. This too shall pass.
Reading the comments and watching this episode, I feel Mandi’s pain. She was going through a lot in this episode. And podcasts are meant to express your experiences. This was what she felt during her experience. Grief is so so hard. The fact that she was able to get over wanting to be alone and even went to record and vent, is what she needed. Go Mandi! Great show ladies.
Mandii you’re evolving. That’s why you feel this way. Everytime something big is coming, this type of feeling comes in. Chin up babe. It’s our season. #LibraSeason ❤ sending you healing energy mama.
Mandi "something went bad" is also temporary. Many relationships have a lot of moments, but society makes people only see those "bad" moments. Lots of people will not stay in a relationship long enough to see the other side because of accessibility and comparing things to others. I truly believe Mandi is healing, and im happy she is. Love you ladies❤
This episode is why I LOVE this pod. So much deeper than sex & such divine impactful conversations. I relate to Mandii so much right now and inspired by Weezy for where she is in her new relationship. Thank you ladies for sharing your lives with us, it’s so appreciated & I hope y’all both know how special you are to us!! ❤️
Its so refreshing to see Mandii be so real with herself even when it hurts. And her co-host is a gem as well. I just wish women who end up hurt like this finds the one person who can help them find their happy place again. A hurt woman is a hard thing to watch. Make a nigga wanna cry bruh…. Much love to the women bruh ❤
Condolences on your loss Mandii. Sending love and light. 🤍 Congratulations on your move to a new city. I’m so excited and happy for your transition. May this transition heal and bring you so much happiness during this time. I appreciate you for sharing with us on how you’ve been feeling. Means a lot. I look forward to seeing you and wheezy both. ❤ more love, life and blessings.
So sorry for your loss Mandii, appreciate your vulnerability❤❤❤ It’s crazy how grief works. We all know there’s different stages to grief- from relationships, from jobs, etc. The anxiety from moving to a different state is something else!! The thought of leaving what you know and go to a place you’ve visited to now becoming a resident hits different!! You got this mama!!!❤❤ Love the growth from you both❤❤
Mandi as someone who’s had a hard time in love I feel you and see you. Also many of the things you’re sharing sounds like a trauma response - there are good people in the world, healthy connections in the world. Endings don’t mean that good relationships aren’t worth trying. And there will be ups and downs no matter how healthy bc humans are complex. Yes a lot of people struggle but that isn’t everyone. But it requires inner changes to go outside of what we know and what we’ve past experienced.
Lord Mandii I know how you feel girl!!!! I got a lot of trauma from my ex too but one thing I realize now is that even though I went through that, I’m not denying myself love from someone else. I have to also take accountability and admit I allowed that behavior. The blessing is though now I know the patterns of someone who doesn’t have good intentions for me and remove myself from that bs expeditiously to save myself when I hadn’t before.
MANDIIIIIII SISSSSS YOUR UPDATE WAS SO RELATABLE!!! THANK YOU FOR SHARING!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND THIS ALL WILL PASS, YOU HAVE FOUGHT BIGGER DEMONS, TOOK DOWN BIGGER MONSTERS! WE GOT THIS BOO!
I believe single by choice is real because there is no guarantee that you're going to find "your" person in this lifetime. Weezy keep talking about if you find a great guy, you wouldn't be single but are you settling to be with someone just to be with someone because what's great to someone else may not be great to you. Of course most people want to be married & spend their lives with a partner. But Weezy mentioned not wanting to let someone go. That means you're settling. So some people are single by choice because they are not settling for the options they have.
I think the underlying issue w/the logic of Weezy’s objection to single by choice is that there is an assumption that people who are single by choice actually want partnership and are just waiting. I think there are people who do not want partnership at all. To say that Mya wouldn’t be single if her perfect partner came along also means she would have to want partnership all along. I don’t think Mya or Tracy Ellis Ross have ever expressed a desire for partnership and who is to say they haven’t already met a great man and still were not moved because they actually want to be alone? If that’s the case, they are single by choice.
Yeah, Weezy was thinking only from her perspective. There are people single by choice who aren’t waiting for anyone. Even if the “perfect partner” appears, some people simply prefer to be single. It does happen.
This conversation about single by choice is so valuable! Both of your perspectives provide growth and healing opportunities for listeners. Thank you for sharing this with us! Also Mandii is going to be better than okay whether she chooses singleness or a relationship. She is doing the work to help herself make positive relationship choices moving forward. Which is what we all need to do. And I love how Weezy is providing conversation to Mandii in ways that are meant to show compassion while giving her room to ponder 💕
Mandii you made me cry. I’m going through the same type of sadness from actually losing the person I loved. And I have guilt plus missing him and the good times. I see life so differently now. It’s mind blowing. I know its a bit different but I’m with you and your not alone in how you feel 🥹🫂. Thanks for always being transparent and vulnerable it’s so strong and comforting to see. ❤ love you both. Keep pushing through 🫶🏽
I love it when yall have guests, but it's something about episodes with just yall!! It's refreshing to hear stories about wheezy in her new/healthy relationship. Mandi, my condolences to you and your friends family xoxo may he RIP
Sending love and comfort to Mandii. It is entirely ok to not have everything figured out in the moment as far as moving or not or anything for that matter. Love is complicated, life is complicated, its your journey. I'd say the thing my therapist tries to drive in my head is give yourself grace ❤
Love Mandi. But healthy happy relationships do exist. I think Mandi is speaking from a trauma response but I also think she is aware of that trauma response. I’ve been with my husband 10 years and we are happily married. No arguments ! He my best friend and I wouldn’t trade him for nothing in this world.
I'm glad that Mandii said something about her friend and grief 😢 because u saw her posts and I felt really bad for her about it! ❤please still go to therapy, and don't feel guilty about thinking about your ex this is all natural. ❤
I think two things can be true at the same time. I feel like sometimes that needs to be the consensus, instead of them arguing in circles lol There is actually being single by choice and then there’s the facade of being single by choice.
I feel Mandy man.. I’ve been dealing with grief since 2022.. my bestfriend my brotha who did his podcast at WtfMedia passed back in June 2022 my other bestfriend right after in Dec 2022 , my aunt Jan 2023 all three of my dogs and this year I lost my mom back in August that im still dealing with and my grandma just two days ago.. life has been rough for us libras ♎️
I think I’m having a disconnect with Weezy’s side because all choice is conditional and exists within a context. Even if I’m making a choice because the conditions aren’t right for a relationship, that’s still a choice because I could choose to dive in to a relationship that doesn’t work/doesn’t make sense for me. Maybe I’m thinking too hard about it lol because choice/agency can be an illusion, but making the best decision for what you have at your disposal isn’t disempowering at all to me.
49:38 your relationship is going to mirror how you live your life . 51:04 you can have a healthy and happy relationship and have difficult times , just like you are single and are feeling blah you experience that in a relationship as well lol it's life.
Everything is fleeting in life. You can't be happy or even healthy at all times. It's impossible. And just because you have low moments doesn't make it all bad.
The reason y’all Mom’s picked you up in Orlando is because there was intel that they would strike Disney. I was supposed to start an internship at Disney that day and onboarding was cancelled because they closed the park. I believe that was one of only a handful of times that they closed.
Random compliments feel better because deep down you know the person didnt have to do it (compliment you) in the first place and its a bit of self validation. They could have kept it to themselves and you wouldnt even know about it but they felt you deserve to know how beautiful or good you looked.
I think splitting hairs is happening with “I am single by choice” wording. That statement is like a general truth, and conditions apply because life be life-ing 😅 For example, If I am a gym rat and I claim “I stay in the gym,” but there's no gym for one week because of XYZ and wasn't able to go, that doesn't mean I don't stay in the gym no more lol. It’s like in simple present tense, conditions may change here and there but that’s the belief/value. Maybe there should be a clearer sentence but that's what I think is happening.
I was Mandii 10yrs ago. I had trauma from my past relationship, lasted for only 1yr and 5mths, i was so negative about relationships, i stayed single for 6yrs until i found my husband right now, this is our 4th yr. So it will probably take a while for Mandii to heal, could be 6yrs or less or more.
I've been single by choice and abstinent for the last 8 years and it has definitely been by choice I don't want anyone at the moment I've come across a lot of really good men that I just simply don't want cuz I'm choosing me right now I get it
Relationships can be healthy even when they end. They can be healthy in bad moments/boring moments when both parties are honest, accepts that phase and decide to ride it out together committed to each other. That’s healthy! Have I had that? No! BUT I’ve seen that though. Also women can meet great men and STILL choose to be single. Some women are like that too. We gotta make space for everyone.
Omg mandi thanks for the education!! Lmao this is crazy! And whats so funny is that on tiktok there was a trans woman that basically came on to say like hey ladies shera and ashley dalton are completely right be feminine and look tf good and thats why these straight men are coming to us trans women because we go above and beyond to smell good and look good and all that xo
57:00 - okay, I was completely disagreeing with Weezy until she made this clarification 😂 yes, if you’re single but actively dating - the purpose is to find some type of relationship. Like you are looking for something, but yea there’s plenty of women I know that have literally just stopped dating all together and prioritize other things. Those women have made a choice to do that and it’s not always due to heartbreak.
I think a lot of Mandii takes,opinions and the things she want or don’t want in life as far as kids and marriage especially is rooted in trauma. I really hope she find someone that shows her what true love is and soften her.
Perfectly expressed
same I was just going to say this.
felt his, im the same way
She has owned that, too.
If we actually witness Mandii be loved proper...a lot can change. Including her desire for kids. I hope to see her be loved right, but I think it also means her being less self-absorbed. She is too self-absorbed for a real one right now. She also needs time.
She should take it.
Wow, dude really left a profound scar on Mandii. You can hear the trauma, hurt, and distrust. I'm glad she is intentionally staying single. Once a relationship is meant to happen, it will.
Yea it’s so heavy on her. She still needs a lot of healing.
I was saying the SAME thing , you can see it in her she just needs to heal and the right love will reach her soon ❤
She might have some ptsd. There was one point when Weezy was talking and Mandi was responding: she seemed to be having a flashback
Mandi I feel you on that ex I’m still replaying the good times with him knowing he broke my heart. It all part of healing and this will pass don’t worry you doing great job keep it up! And grief sometimes makes u do that reflection too. Stay strong libra sis
Whoevers idea it was to add sound effects needs an award.
Facts 😂😂😂
36:20 😂😂
I was so caught off guard 😂😂😂
54:53 Weezy I love how you keep giving Mandii hope but she can’t hear it over her trauma. It’s okay hopefully those willing, open and ready will receive the love you feel in your relationship.
2:23 there's a philosopher who wrote about this some centuries ago, I think his name is Søren Kiekegaard, and he said (in my simplified version), that the value of a compliment increases proportionally to the distance between the complimenter and the complimented object/person. He exemplified it by saying that you complimenting yourself is probably a 1, and your mom complimenting you could be a 2, but the farthest compliment is literally a stranger who doesn't owe you a dang thing AND is in a similar or higher status to which you aspire.
This is so dope! - W
Being single by choice is definitely real. Some people truly enjoy the freedom of their personhood, ALONE. Their singleness is a feature about themselves not a flaw. They aren’t “waiting” for their person, they’re enjoying their lives by themselves because that’s what they WANT to do. And some people choose to be single just for a season of life and know they will look for a partner later in life. But that’s still a choice. Being single is not a prison sentence for everyone 😭 it’s their own decision. Some people love and enjoy themselves so much they genuinely don’t want a partner. We all have different wants and needs 🫶🏾 plus sooo much relationship love exists outside of just a romantic partner!
THANK. YOU.
agreed. But also to add: life is not “by yourself” when your single! People have friends, families, and kin of all kinds. Romantic partnership doesn’t define what makes you alone or not alone!!
Love this response 👏🏽
Mandi has alot of growing up to do still. Great show tho ladies.
Yea , solo episodes FOREVER!! I love watching and growing with yall! The growth is soooo amazing to watch and really let's yall listeners/ watchers know it's possible in all areas of your life. Aw, this Pod is so special & dear to me . I love yall Mani & Weezy ❤🫶🏾✨️
Compliments hit harder from people who don’t need /want anything from you. You know it’s true. Them braces are very cute on you lol … you’re gonna look so bomb with straight teeth!
Right! It seem like Mandi gets argumentative or tries to debate most of Weezy’s points. Like she kno dang well a compliments hit different when the worse is not obligated
12:10 Thank you Mandii for being so real. Narcs sadly are very hard to move on from because the highs are so, so, so high. So of course you can miss the good parts, or even sometimes in a healthy relationship, miss the highs with the narc because healthy highs may not be so intense. So often those recovering feel shame for missing the unhealthy partner, so don't open up or get support. It's not about never missing them, it's about being healed enough to know those moments will pass, and where you are now is better on the whole
I have met a lot of people while single that I very much could’ve been interested in pursuing a romantic relationship, but I 100% was choosing to be single by choice by not pursuing thatperson. Choosing to be single is understanding that there are good people around, and you could absolutely have a romantic relationship, but you aren’t necessarily going to do that based on your own needs. Some people need to be in a relationship. Some people really don’t. I’m one of those people, but I do love my man.
Mandy: Don’t make this a clip
Editor: 👀👀 watch dis
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Single is still considered a relationship status and shouldn’t be invalidated. So Mya being Sologamous just prioritizes the constant relationship with self.
Totally agree with Mandi on this one. Weezy's whole argument is based on the assumption that every woman wants to be in a relationship, which is not true at all. That's her truth, not everyone elses. She also says that we shouldn't assume all relationships are going to be bad, if thats so, we also should not assume that all relationships are going to be good. Its like Mandi said, you can be perfectly happy or miserable, single or in a relationship.
Definitely agree w Mandi on this 1. All the married ppl I thought were happy I have come to find out are miserable. Being single is definitely lonely at times but the peace is so much more worth it for me.
Single by choice isn’t real?…what? First of all we put WAY too much importance on being in romantic relationships. But if you meet someone who is “perfect” and you decide to date them, at that point, you are then choosing to be in a relationship. That does not negate the fact that for a period of time you chose to be single. I’ve been in situations where I was casually dating and guys have asked me to be their girlfriend and I said no. They were great people that I enjoyed spending time with, but I didn’t want to put in the energy and effort required to maintain a relationship at that time. At the end of the day, a relationship takes work and there have been points in my life where I was in my selfish era and could not be bothered
Mandi you look good with the door knockers. Its giving 90s vibe.
when Weezy said ITS ENOUGH 😂 with the sexualities lmaooo
I’ve been in a happy and healthy relationship now marriage for 7 years and it still surprises me lol Like Mandii I was super jaded from my experiences and others but it is possible!
Never comment but always reading comments. Seeing Mandii cry is heavy but i hope saying out thus aloud and allowing yourself that space is not easy work. Thank you for sharing this part of your experience in life with death.
Deepest condolences to Mandii during this challenging time. May your friend R.I.P.
IRT the CBAN 🥷🏿, I hope you give yourself grace. Let the feelings come and go. This too shall pass.
Reading the comments and watching this episode, I feel Mandi’s pain. She was going through a lot in this episode. And podcasts are meant to express your experiences. This was what she felt during her experience. Grief is so so hard. The fact that she was able to get over wanting to be alone and even went to record and vent, is what she needed. Go Mandi! Great show ladies.
Mandii you’re evolving. That’s why you feel this way. Everytime something big is coming, this type of feeling comes in. Chin up babe. It’s our season. #LibraSeason ❤ sending you healing energy mama.
Don’t Mandi, at her big ole age, SLEEP with 21 year olds…..?💀
🤭
Like wtf do she be talking about😂 wish weezy would’ve said something about that
Mandi "something went bad" is also temporary. Many relationships have a lot of moments, but society makes people only see those "bad" moments. Lots of people will not stay in a relationship long enough to see the other side because of accessibility and comparing things to others. I truly believe Mandi is healing, and im happy she is. Love you ladies❤
This episode is why I LOVE this pod. So much deeper than sex & such divine impactful conversations. I relate to Mandii so much right now and inspired by Weezy for where she is in her new relationship. Thank you ladies for sharing your lives with us, it’s so appreciated & I hope y’all both know how special you are to us!! ❤️
Its so refreshing to see Mandii be so real with herself even when it hurts. And her co-host is a gem as well. I just wish women who end up hurt like this finds the one person who can help them find their happy place again. A hurt woman is a hard thing to watch. Make a nigga wanna cry bruh…. Much love to the women bruh ❤
Mandi that relationship was toxic and it takes time to heal. Be patient with yourself and give yourself grace love. You got this. ❤
"What does your friends have to do with you?" Thank you for saying that weezy make your own judgement of the ppl you meet
Condolences on your loss Mandii. Sending love and light. 🤍
Congratulations on your move to a new city. I’m so excited and happy for your transition. May this transition heal and bring you so much happiness during this time.
I appreciate you for sharing with us on how you’ve been feeling. Means a lot. I look forward to seeing you and wheezy both. ❤ more love, life and blessings.
So sorry for your loss Mandii, appreciate your vulnerability❤❤❤
It’s crazy how grief works. We all know there’s different stages to grief- from relationships, from jobs, etc.
The anxiety from moving to a different state is something else!! The thought of leaving what you know and go to a place you’ve visited to now becoming a resident hits different!!
You got this mama!!!❤❤
Love the growth from you both❤❤
Mandi as someone who’s had a hard time in love I feel you and see you. Also many of the things you’re sharing sounds like a trauma response - there are good people in the world, healthy connections in the world. Endings don’t mean that good relationships aren’t worth trying. And there will be ups and downs no matter how healthy bc humans are complex. Yes a lot of people struggle but that isn’t everyone. But it requires inner changes to go outside of what we know and what we’ve past experienced.
Lord Mandii I know how you feel girl!!!! I got a lot of trauma from my ex too but one thing I realize now is that even though I went through that, I’m not denying myself love from someone else. I have to also take accountability and admit I allowed that behavior. The blessing is though now I know the patterns of someone who doesn’t have good intentions for me and remove myself from that bs expeditiously to save myself when I hadn’t before.
Omg weez! I’ve been saying this!! Like we are soooo consumed w the bad toxic shit that people think that it’s normal. I agree w you on this topic!! Xo
MANDIIIIIII SISSSSS YOUR UPDATE WAS SO RELATABLE!!! THANK YOU FOR SHARING!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND THIS ALL WILL PASS, YOU HAVE FOUGHT BIGGER DEMONS, TOOK DOWN BIGGER MONSTERS! WE GOT THIS BOO!
I believe single by choice is real because there is no guarantee that you're going to find "your" person in this lifetime. Weezy keep talking about if you find a great guy, you wouldn't be single but are you settling to be with someone just to be with someone because what's great to someone else may not be great to you. Of course most people want to be married & spend their lives with a partner. But Weezy mentioned not wanting to let someone go. That means you're settling. So some people are single by choice because they are not settling for the options they have.
Mandi your outfit is sooo cute, loving the fur top!
I think the underlying issue w/the logic of Weezy’s objection to single by choice is that there is an assumption that people who are single by choice actually want partnership and are just waiting. I think there are people who do not want partnership at all. To say that Mya wouldn’t be single if her perfect partner came along also means she would have to want partnership all along. I don’t think Mya or Tracy Ellis Ross have ever expressed a desire for partnership and who is to say they haven’t already met a great man and still were not moved because they actually want to be alone? If that’s the case, they are single by choice.
I think this is true but you can't forget that people change their minds in the drop of a hat.
Yeah, Weezy was thinking only from her perspective. There are people single by choice who aren’t waiting for anyone. Even if the “perfect partner” appears, some people simply prefer to be single. It does happen.
This conversation about single by choice is so valuable! Both of your perspectives provide growth and healing opportunities for listeners. Thank you for sharing this with us! Also Mandii is going to be better than okay whether she chooses singleness or a relationship. She is doing the work to help herself make positive relationship choices moving forward. Which is what we all need to do. And I love how Weezy is providing conversation to Mandii in ways that are meant to show compassion while giving her room to ponder 💕
Mandii you made me cry. I’m going through the same type of sadness from actually losing the person I loved. And I have guilt plus missing him and the good times. I see life so differently now. It’s mind blowing. I know its a bit different but I’m with you and your not alone in how you feel 🥹🫂.
Thanks for always being transparent and vulnerable it’s so strong and comforting to see. ❤ love you both. Keep pushing through 🫶🏽
I love it when yall have guests, but it's something about episodes with just yall!! It's refreshing to hear stories about wheezy in her new/healthy relationship. Mandi, my condolences to you and your friends family xoxo may he RIP
Feeling for you Mandi! Sending you love from Dallas
The more I listen to you both the more I realize I’m the Baltimore Weezy 😂😂 in terms of views on topics.
Wait, what weezy am I?!!! - W😂
@@WHOREibleDecisions girl, I forgot where you’re from/ where you live. You’re the Florida Weezy 😂😂
Mandii looks like GOLD
Great episode. Love these women🥹🙏🏽🤍
I'm ready for the Sims content!!!! If you need a builder you got me!
&& do!!!! -M
Did Eddin add sound effects?? I hollered @ the ooohs! 🤣🤣
Doesn’t single by choice mean that you’d rather be single than in a relationship that is misaligned?
I loooove y’all vibes lately❣️
Sending love and comfort to Mandii. It is entirely ok to not have everything figured out in the moment as far as moving or not or anything for that matter. Love is complicated, life is complicated, its your journey. I'd say the thing my therapist tries to drive in my head is give yourself grace ❤
Well I'm the headline so love this episode already
I can relate to the being in the funk too Mandi 💕and yaaaaaas sims !
Love Mandi. But healthy happy relationships do exist. I think Mandi is speaking from a trauma response but I also think she is aware of that trauma response. I’ve been with my husband 10 years and we are happily married. No arguments ! He my best friend and I wouldn’t trade him for nothing in this world.
Awh poor Mandi , sending love 🤍🤍
Love these solo episode so much! Sending love and healing to you Mandi
I'm glad that Mandii said something about her friend and grief 😢 because u saw her posts and I felt really bad for her about it! ❤please still go to therapy, and don't feel guilty about thinking about your ex this is all natural. ❤
sending you healing wishes mandii
Awww Mandii, prayers for your grief journey
Your top is also amazinggggg!
I think two things can be true at the same time. I feel like sometimes that needs to be the consensus, instead of them arguing in circles lol There is actually being single by choice and then there’s the facade of being single by choice.
I LOVE THIS EPISODE 😭😭😭
I feel Mandy man.. I’ve been dealing with grief since 2022..
my bestfriend my brotha who did his podcast at WtfMedia passed back in June 2022 my other bestfriend right after in Dec 2022 , my aunt Jan 2023 all three of my dogs and this year I lost my mom back in August that im still dealing with and my grandma just two days ago.. life has been rough for us libras ♎️
Adhd here lol I made it to the end i just sped yall up & worked and watched tiktok at the same time.
“When did we eat chocolate 🍫 “. 😂😂😂😂😂
It’s ok Mandi. Thank you for expressing yourself It will come in waves. It’s ok. Let it out. Don’t get too lost and keep smiling. Wheezy great advice.
Mandii was speaking very clearly about Meek Millz!!!!
I think I’m having a disconnect with Weezy’s side because all choice is conditional and exists within a context. Even if I’m making a choice because the conditions aren’t right for a relationship, that’s still a choice because I could choose to dive in to a relationship that doesn’t work/doesn’t make sense for me. Maybe I’m thinking too hard about it lol because choice/agency can be an illusion, but making the best decision for what you have at your disposal isn’t disempowering at all to me.
Its not a choice when no one wants you for a relationship.
@@BennyBlancoNL true! not what I was talking about but true!
Currently has 90 day fiancé on pause while watching this thanks to weezy always bringing the show up 😂😂😂 I miss her doing the accents
Mandi was barely able to get out a full thought without an interruption. This episode felt a lil more chaotic than usual
You ladies look great! Great episode ❤❤
49:38 your relationship is going to mirror how you live your life . 51:04 you can have a healthy and happy relationship and have difficult times , just like you are single and are feeling blah you experience that in a relationship as well lol it's life.
Mandi needs to learn how to listen! She just be loud and wrong 🤦🏾♀️
Mandi looks GREAT!!!! 😮😊
Everything is fleeting in life. You can't be happy or even healthy at all times. It's impossible. And just because you have low moments doesn't make it all bad.
The reason y’all Mom’s picked you up in Orlando is because there was intel that they would strike Disney. I was supposed to start an internship at Disney that day and onboarding was cancelled because they closed the park. I believe that was one of only a handful of times that they closed.
Random compliments feel better because deep down you know the person didnt have to do it (compliment you) in the first place and its a bit of self validation. They could have kept it to themselves and you wouldnt even know about it but they felt you deserve to know how beautiful or good you looked.
awwww mandi,,, we love you … & I am sending you love and peace from afar! ❤
Mandii is so right about ppl
I didn’t know they drop on Sundays . Yayyyyyyyy
Yup, midnight Eastern time into Monday
She gotta pick how she wanna heal. Either isolation or socially.
This is a fact. Imo it should be both.. for some time. They both go hand in hand
way easier said than done..
You’ll learn to love the braces!! They’re cute!
Mandi looks so pretty. Both of y’all do and I really enjoyed this episode
Mandii 😢😢😢😢😢, you have alot going on. You need a moment to breathe. And as women we always think about the toxic ex
39:38 THE SOUND EFFECTS 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭OH MY
I love Mandiis look todayyyy
‘Not with your black arse’ wheezy made me spit out my drink
I think splitting hairs is happening with “I am single by choice” wording. That statement is like a general truth, and conditions apply because life be life-ing 😅 For example, If I am a gym rat and I claim “I stay in the gym,” but there's no gym for one week because of XYZ and wasn't able to go, that doesn't mean I don't stay in the gym no more lol. It’s like in simple present tense, conditions may change here and there but that’s the belief/value. Maybe there should be a clearer sentence but that's what I think is happening.
they both made good points
Sending u lots of love Mandii ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I was Mandii 10yrs ago. I had trauma from my past relationship, lasted for only 1yr and 5mths, i was so negative about relationships, i stayed single for 6yrs until i found my husband right now, this is our 4th yr. So it will probably take a while for Mandii to heal, could be 6yrs or less or more.
I've been single by choice and abstinent for the last 8 years and it has definitely been by choice I don't want anyone at the moment I've come across a lot of really good men that I just simply don't want cuz I'm choosing me right now I get it
Just moved. Back home squatting. Same Funk Manny.NOTHING MAKES SENSE IN LIFE FR‼️
Relationships can be healthy even when they end. They can be healthy in bad moments/boring moments when both parties are honest, accepts that phase and decide to ride it out together committed to each other. That’s healthy! Have I had that? No! BUT I’ve seen that though. Also women can meet great men and STILL choose to be single. Some women are like that too. We gotta make space for everyone.
“When did we eat chocolate?!!” 😂
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Girl me too Mandi. you not alone
11:15 ❤❤❤❤ send love ❤️❤❤❤
Omg mandi thanks for the education!! Lmao this is crazy! And whats so funny is that on tiktok there was a trans woman that basically came on to say like hey ladies shera and ashley dalton are completely right be feminine and look tf good and thats why these straight men are coming to us trans women because we go above and beyond to smell good and look good and all that xo
I definitely feel Mandi rn!!
57:00 - okay, I was completely disagreeing with Weezy until she made this clarification 😂 yes, if you’re single but actively dating - the purpose is to find some type of relationship. Like you are looking for something, but yea there’s plenty of women I know that have literally just stopped dating all together and prioritize other things. Those women have made a choice to do that and it’s not always due to heartbreak.
I missed yall!!! I started watching old eps 😭 I need to get my money up so I can sub to patreon
Mandi seems so defensive and hurt. I hope she feels better. Weezy was very patient n a good friend