TK Kirkland Breaks Down Why Men Shouldn't Be Stepfathers (Part 8)
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In a recent discussion with Vlad, TK Kirkland shared his views on why men should avoid taking on the role of stepfathers. TK and Vlad explored the idea that men can frequently become overwhelmed by the pressures and responsibilities of becoming a stepfather, leading to emotional, financial and psychological strain. TK discussed the case of a friend who found himself depressed and financially burdened after taking on his girlfriend's children, highlighting the pitfalls of such a situation and suggesting that men can naïvely enter into these relationships, driven by desire and infatuation without considering the full extent of the commitment. Vlad concurred, reflecting on his own uncomfortable experience dating a woman with a child. They conclude that many people are fearful of being alone or meeting new partners, leading to a cycle of damaging relationships and stepping into roles they are not equipped for. - Розваги
Most women with kids aren't looking for love, they're looking for help
Right
Damn
Interesting
Yup, they prey on certain men. I had one woman already try to be slick and ask me to translate something for her and then asked me to exchange numbers so I can help her with her son and his friend and understand what’s going on between them and even said we can go grab a few drinks and go back to her place and try to figure this out…😂😂 I told her that’s her problem and use google translate. I’m good.😂
%1000
Being a step dad is the most thankless job in the world
Even if you get praise for it why would you wanna raise another man’s kids.
You don't think that if a man falls in love with you he doesn't love your kids? Why would he put himself in that position? Lots of men aren't obsessed with what other guy fucked their girl before, like this jealous dude. Everyone has a past.
Tell that Shaquille O'neal
@@Laoriginal718 I never understand the stigma around this shit. It's your own choice you could literally be saving a kids life.
@@palk9It’s not even a stigma. It’s only recently that people have become vocal about it not being within a man’s best interest. If you want to be a stepdad, fine.
Sooner or later that little bastard is gonna say,
"You ain't my real daddy!"
Lol
😂😂😂😂😂
Facts 🗣️🗣️🗣️
All Day Everyday
The second he or she says that relationship is OVER!! 😅😅😅
This is why I’m 35 with no kids. I’m never giving up that leverage. I love to walk away on my own terms
You going to be an old ass dad but I feel u
Smart man!
Keep it that way my G.
Go overseas and find a wife . Don't waste ya time here.
The Us has no values .
When you see homosexuality and all kinds of abominations being pushed in society , to children.
This ain't the place to have and raise a family .
Family laws are destructive to mens lives and helps to foster the degeneracy that is permeating through society today .
@@shyne1308 😂
God bless you king. 😍
Mr. Lonely
People won’t like this truth but he’s right. Being a step dad is all responsibility with almost no authority. It’s all risk.
It's false cause no guarantee ur own kids will love you some people kids murder they bio parents
Being a step parent in general is a waste of time. As a childfree woman I don’t even entertain men with kids. And I tell men who don’t have kids to leave women with kids alone. Childfree people should only date childfree people.
@Laoriginal718
Problem is 80% of the time the woman initiates separation and the courts also side with her for custody.
Women with kids often create the situation.
100% this.
@@Laoriginal718It’s not a waste of time. It’s just not for YOU. It’s not for me either, but there are plenty of situations where it works out just fine. Or may even be the perfect situation
As a dude with no kids and a lot of internal dilemmas, I needed to hear this
💯 same
Facts
Word 💯
bruh! truu
Be wary of heeding the advice of a man who has NEVER been married but is a baby daddy many times over. Any single woman who deals with TK Kirkland faces similar questions of responsibility. And she'll most likely have to accept that he is not the marrying kind, so she'll be single for life!
Being a step dad is like playing another man's saved game
That’s diabolical
So it be a good thing ….if he left the game with only one level to beat. 🤔
Lmfaooooo
Only if the biological is a loser.
@@esils but you didn't get to play 95% of the game but still paid full price 😂
Man we can’t even have our own kids no more cause women already come with em now😭😭😭😭😭
So stay single. Never settle. Do not date someone with a child if you don’t have any children.
@@Laoriginal718 too late I’m just another bd lol I had one for a long time but she didn’t want any.
@@Laoriginal718 agreed. We gotta stop being so desperate.
Facts
Bro it’s some out here that want what you want but I’m telling you. The best things you can do. Is seek GOD for a woman and not have sex before marriage. This is how I met my last and the best decision I’ve ever made dating wise
My dad was always around. My step dad was not obligated to do anything for me. My dad verbally told him this but, for some reason my step dad and myself built a unbreakable bond. They are both gone and I cry the same for both of them!! I was blessed to have two dads!!! My dad never disappeared out of my life. My parents were married and got divorced. They both moved on and were grown about the situation. My dad taught me how to drive and my step dad taught me how to fix my ride!!! Best of both worlds!!!!!
Your step dad was a beta male. End of story.
Happy for you, God Bless you,i met my wife in 2020,we got married in 2021,she has a daughter in Cali and a son who live with her,he rejected me immediately,I showed him nothing but love,he started to be disrespectful so I had to straighten him out,to this day he doesn't talk to me,i told him he has the best of both worlds cause he has to fathers that love him,he doesn't appreciate me now but I think he will when he gets older,he's 14 now
🙏🏼🙏🏼✔️✔️
I'm happy and say for you.. My daddy is my best friend. I had a step-grand and a gpa, so I feel you.
@@keithchambers4072Probably not bro. You can’t make someone pretend with you. You’ve known this boy since he was what 10? Also no one likes being told how to feel especially from someone they don’t want around them. It’s not his fault for not liking you that’s his right and you should have been very aware of this potential when marrying a single mom
My step-dad showed me love and was involved. Now I return that love and I'm involved. It all depends on how you were raised. Especially if your intelligent enough to know all men weren't created equal. Never size life up from generalizations.
Exceptions don't make the rule.... that is a one in a million occurrences, from a man's point of view the juice isn't worth the squeeze
Man fuck that
@@rightbackentertainment4590 The fact that you said exceptions don't make the rule is the saddest part of your whole point honestly. Sorry for whatever ya went through situationally, to have this assessment but hopefully you overcome it. It's not the exception, it's a societal issue that needs addressing. Do you want to understand how you raise a man? Don't lie, you say what you do and do what you say, yeah it's hard work, but how are you going to teach those concepts now without living them in parallel? Women it's the same thing, but this is where you need a woman to do the same thing, since we look to our parents to understand and emulate if we grow. Raising children is literally in our genetic code, the key is to understand there are zero shortcuts, will always be zero shortcuts.
The reason the lady said love and be involved is because of course you're involved if you love that person why wouldn't you be? The answer here is insecurities, deep held shame and all that other stuff if you want to know the theory. It all breaks down to trust, and commitment to upholding this trust.
I went to private school so I know folks who got entire estates for their 16th but the poison of a gift given in guilt at something that is truly priceless will always manifest. For how big and important our parents were or whatever they did, when my old man said "you're my kid, I'll be there," then showed up, that is what mattered. Looking back now I understand the pride I felt but also I see the turmoil in some peers eyes as they start wondering what they're worth and what the bargain is...
I truly hope that one day you read a comment like this and can feel a sense of happiness for whomever this is, and just agree.
I was raised by a awesome stepfather who taught me to be a good father and husband
This is rare,bro.
This happens all the time.
There are exceptions to every rule.
The relationship between you and him is different than the relationship between him and her. That's what he's talking about. Would YOU do it??
Poor guy
My Brother Dated A Girl When She Had little Children, He Broke Up the Girl After Raising The Kids, He Feels Like Their Dad, The Kids See Him as Just Some Guy That Dated Their Mother in the Past 💯
He feels like their dad? 😂😂😂😂 they don’t share a drop of his dna.
@@Laoriginal718
That's right.
That's why it should be avoided.
@@Laoriginal718 He Doesn't Feel Like Their Father, After Raising Them He Feels Like Their Dad.
Delusion men are dangerous
@@Laoriginal718You get attached to kids being in a relationship with a single mother sometimes. It happened to me as well when i was 18 dated a girl who had a 1 year old child so we had to take him with us everywhere and we developed a strong bond id watch him while she was at work feed him change his diapers put him to sleep all that. After a year his father got out of prison and we broke up and it killed me because that meant the baby was gone as well. You live and learn… then you get cold 😂
Hitting a single mother raw is crazy behavior in 2024 don't do it.😂😂
Learned my lesson in 2023
Too late
Done it too many times. However I usually found the career minded ones, not the lazy ones who want help.
The career minded ones like child support too@@RevealedFilms
Lol dead ass cause I stay hitting my BM while her bf think we just link up about our kids 😂😂😂
I’ve been a stepfather for almost 20 years and still enjoying it. God bless everyone else situation!
Why are you celebrating raising another man’s child sorry fam but that’s the biggest simp flex smh
I see you riding the grave train fam
God bless you
@@OPEN_ROAD1800. i don’t know what that means but ok
We get it, once a simp always a simp.
Kevin Samuels said this as well that being a step father can be a very unappreciated job and the man is expendable
That's why he dead and his daughter didn't like him😂
@@ronald8071
But he's got a multitude of men in the millions that would never forget him.
@@radonspace2098 and millions more that never heard of him now what else u got
@@ronald8071if I remember correctly, his daughter was his stepdaughter. So if that’s true, that ironically proves his point.
@@ronald8071 That's some shyt a beta-simp would say.
I saw a video of a man who was married to a single mom and he raised the little girl like she was his,bought her car, sent her to school etc. And when the girl got older and got married she wanted her real dad to walk her down the aisle.
Is that the one who wanted his money back for paying for the wedding too?
What the living hell!!?!
@@brittneyrussell5629 I think so
Smh thats cold
Yeah I remember that story and they was mad at him for feeling a way
Lost my dad early thats why i admire my stepdad he took over financially and gave me the support i needed
Rest in peace but this is one of the only viable reasons to become a step parent
@@Kirtymonmano if your biological pops ain’t 💩 that’s all the reason for a real man to step in stop the bs trauma filled hurt azz narrative
🙏🏽
Marrying a single mom was, by far, the worst mistake in my life - and I was in Afghanistan and Iraq....
😂😂😂
Yikes….all female nature is the same bro. Never do anything like this fellas. We live and learn
Someone was clapping her cheeks while you was gone
@@hemme100 I wasn’t stupid enough to be married during that time of my life …
@TheCrusher72 fucc I couldn't imagine putting my life on the line while she's at at home sleeping around
As a step father of a 14yr old, since she was 2. I agree. I love her and all but it feels like we still forcing a relationship and soon she's gonna stray away because I'm not her real dad
Take it from me, let her.....
She sure will
Obviously u not a good dad then
Why did you put yourself in that situation to begin with and why don’t you just leave? 🤦🏽♀️
@@SNPDemonfalse shaq refused to see his bio dad cause he loved his step dad
Man moral of the story is don't get played like a piano
Yeah, a smart man can date a single mother and keep himself away from the bullshit.
One of the realest things my father told me that when it comes to women you have to know and understand the difference between being in love with her and loving what you do with her
This
Hitting ANY WOMAN raw is crazy. I've been with at least 60 Women in my life. Went raw with 4 of them. Stay focused Kings
NEVER DO IT!!!! It’s a bad deal. Women will disagree because they benefit from it, but Men always take a loss. Don’t ever think your Woman or situation is different. When the relationship ends, you ain’t nothing to her or the Step Kid.
YUP!
They just using you !
@@dappa311until you have a kid with one then you are tied for life. You the woman and her kids. Cause your kid is kin to her kids.
Even if you have a child with her, you still ain't nothing to her.
@@billionaire33They'll actually try to have a baby with you to lock you in
@@BIGBG74 yep
This is so real. Just left a relationship with a single mother. Too much stress.
Don’t ever get into a relationship with someone who has a child again.
Way too much stress
Was it because she was a single mother or her in genral?
@@elliot2177single mother
How many kids you have?
My stepfather was the only father I had. Thank you 🙏
STRAIGHT UP. People talking like this had no male figure in their life, it’s obvious.
Never be responsible for another man’s responsibility and a women’s mistake
Smh that’s were all eating Vag😂
You calling gods creations MISTAKES???. bro change ur name in yt bro you is embarrasing😅
@@alphamsmokesSo you think men should be responsible for another man’s child?
They are mistakes
@@paulangus3880You sound like one of those mistakes, lol
Thank goodness my stepdad was there for me and my sister . We love and respect him forever he did for us. We have just as much respect for him as our biological father. So to each its own.
Exactly I hate this damn topic. I have 0 idea who my biological dad is. But grateful for the man who did raise my brothers and I who we call dad.
@@mustanggang5.0 I hate it as well.
Your step dad was a beta male. End of story.
The exception doesn’t define whole world
@@mustanggang5.0ask your mother why she have kids by a man that you don’t know. Seems like your mom made bad decisions with her coochie.
NEVER mess with single moms. You are a bank account, nothing more.
Shit the dating pool after thirty ain't nothing but baby mama's but there's some college girls that's graduating in June issa whole new team TK voice
That’s why they try to shame you for dating younger woman! Don’t do it. Woman in there 30s is a trap!
Every June is when single men after 30 should start scouting… got it.
In which you’re gonna turn into baby mamas
The 304s gonna be upset about this take 😂
It's true if you don't have kids. If you have kids then you just a hypocrite
@@johnnybeatmaker330true
So
@@johnnybeatmaker330facts. Childfree ppl should ONLY date other childfree people.
@@johnnybeatmaker330it’s not the same little boy. Men and women are different. Women would have kids by a man that’s has a bunch of kids. Most men especially with options WILL NOT. Men can get a different women pregnant everyday but a women is done for those 9 months. Men can have kids till we are in our 80s and up! A women eggs starts going down once she turns 30. WE ARE NOT THE SAME 🤡
There’s so many single mothers out here though……… they are running rampant
It’s almost impossible to find a woman out here that’s intelligent and worth dating with no kids.
And? Leave them alone. Avoid people with kids at all cost.
@@Laoriginal718💯
It's usually chicks you wouldn't expect and they're not even getting wifed.
YES THERE IS😈😂🤣
I've been thru the stepdad drama. You can devote decades to your stepchildren, but if you break up with the mother, you go from being "Stepdad" to my "My Mother's Ex-Boyfriend". Everything you did for 20 years go right into the garbage.
It really be like that sadly 🤷🏾♂️! But if you made an impact in them kids life? Trust me they’ll be looking for you regardless if you’re not with their mother. I do believe they’re some kids who wouldn’t care for the relationship but just like the fact that there’s a man that gives a fuck about them. Sorry for that experience you went through
@@91DefiniteGood luck because the woman can plant all the false seeds in their mind regardless
Yup! Not worth it whatsoever.
@@YoungBlazeyeah that’s true you right about that
Spot on. I tried it, i just kept having dreams of they dad chilling in Hawaii with no problems and I’m taking his kids to get a haircut.’😂😂 fuck that
LMAO
😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
.... And if he manages to not pay child support one day he will send an extra ticket for the kid to come visit.... Only for 1 week...Then send his kid back to you with an attitude wondering why you don't own a beach house
I love being by my self..sad but true
Being a step father acquires a man to be mature and going above and beyond in the relationship. Respected is earned and not given.
Fuck those kids
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T.K. was talking like he sitting around a campfire with the flashlight under his chin telling a horror story.😂😂😂 @5:04
😂😂😂
TK is a savage for this.
He’s not a savage he’s just being honest.
@@Laoriginal718 he definitely is. Almost 50% of children in this county are being raised by stepdads. It’s actually the norm now.
@@Laoriginal718nah this is real talk! What is the upside of being a step father?
@al-jameljohnson8805 no it’s not smh…bad information
@@al-jameljohnson8805why is it a issue if the fathers aren’t in the life
I agree with the title. But key to not being a step dad is never dating a women with kid(s). Why even put yourself in a position to fall for someone with a kid(s).
Woman 👩
Women 👩👩👩
Well in my case those was the only ones who showed me interest
@@JustMalcolm914 start traveling fam. I'm 3 books in...
@@GOILL need money n in debt
@@JustMalcolm914 well my brotha much positive energy for you to get financial stable. As for me even at 46, 47 in 2 months. I'm still not considering a single Mom as an option.
We will continue to be behind because of thinking like this.
Why?
No you're confusing the laws of man that enters into the conversation and relationship some of this is just common sense bro
I can definetly see the wisdom in what he's saying. Me personally, I enjoyed raising step kids. I have my own as well......but I enjoyed helping bring up a person. Taking all of our kids on vacations, teaching them life lessons, and helping them through the difficult times. Parenthood and step parenthood were up there with the most gratifying expierences in life for me and seeing the adults they blossomed into. It isn't for everyone but I wouldn't trade it for anything.
A LEADER WILL LEAD
I’m 28 and it seems like all people my generation want to do is coparent . Lol everyone cool with breaking the family up. I’m good man I just want my family to be my family. All my kids from one woman
I'm 28 and thats exactly what I want too. But look around you. Those days are over, our generation is degenerate and selfish. There will be very few strong families in the future. Single parent households in most of the world are between 3 and 7 %. Except in western societies like the US, Canada, UK where its like 23%. At this point in our society 1 in every 4 children will only have 1 parent in the home😢 at this point my options are to give up and coparent, or get extremely lucky and hope I find a woman with the same values as me. But those kinds of women are rare, so I'm not deluded enough to think there's one guaranteed out there for me. We're toast bro 😂 this isn't a society for true romantics
@@reggiestockton8166bro it’s bad out here . Now don’t get me wrong I have a lot of fun we young that what we supposed to do. But I’ll be real I don’t want to fall in this cycle my whole life. Marriage and kids are things I want but I won’t lower myself down as a man or happy wife happy life my way into something . She gotta show me too 🤷🏾♂️
@@reggiestockton8166u spoke nothing but facts. The west is fucked. Your average women has a body count of 10
And you will never know even the ones you think are good girls. Have to find a God fearing women
@@reggiestockton8166 Please NEVER co parent with a chick. Trust me. I'm 29 and it'll be a mistake trying to raise someone else's responsibility. Yes we live in the era of 304s posting half naked and naked content on social media but have hope there's still (like you said) tradional women out there. They're just rare like finding a mewtwo
@@IndigoUchiha26 True. I've been trying to catch Mewtwo since like 1999 with no luck 🤣 if its that hard to find a good woman then I quit 🤣
There's nothing wrong with a man not wanting a step kid. Plain and simple.
It’s not it depends on his intentions, I’m telling you you got some men who act and play cool for alittle while but will change on a child that’s not theirs after having children with their mother or father.
@@91DefiniteI think it boils down to type of individual The man is and how emotionally and financially mature the mother is trust me it's so women out here like this and they also have kids that could be amazing it's just understanding the boundaries and expectations I don't see it being drastically devastating
@@YoungBlaze I'm not judging men who take in single mothers. I'm only saying there is nothing wrong with the opposite.
I don’t deal with men that have kids because I don’t have any. I think people with no kids should date each other and that people with kids should date each other. Even IF this were the norm the step parent situation would still exist. The only way the step parent problem goes away is if no one ever broke up, everyone waited until marriage before having kids, an individual decides to remain alone or no one ever died. The only thing you can really do is try to pick the best partner, be the best partner you can be, and hope for the best.
Facts 💯!
FACTS! No way I would take that risk in raising someone else's child. No fawking way.
No facts plus u don't have kids I can tell 😂
@@ronald8071 And that suppose to be a slight? 🤣I sure don't and my wallet thanks me!!!
@@underground27 lol u broke dude people with money don't mention it
@@ronald8071 even more of a reason not to be playing step daddy!
@@underground27 u don't get no pussy anyway unless you tricking
Personally, I don't think I could date someone who's still tied to their ex in any capacity. Maybe I'm insecure, but the thought of you still keeping in contact with someone that you now have a soul tie with feels like I'm intruding on a dead marriage where both parties are separated. Plus I don't like putting resources and interest into a kid that's not mine whose father is more than likely still active in his life. I honestly think you should marry the person if you have a child together. You're basically tied to life with that person for "better or worse" anyway.
Now this is spot on
Marrying someone you have a child with, to some guys, may sound good on the surface if the child or children don't have siblings from other men. If a woman also has other kids by a different father, then those children can legally become his "by default" and his money, assets, resources, and legacy becomes all the children's and potentially their real dad's and their dad's side of the family after a stepfather dies and if his biological child or children with his wife die (unless otherwise legally and appropriately stipulated). It may not sit well with some stepfathers to have another man or men (or their side of the family) potentially benefit from all his hard work or any money, resource, assets, and money the stepfather has left after death. Hopefully, if a man marries a woman with other children who are not his, then he can live with his decision.
Don't marry anyone you're not in love with, even if you have kids with them. It won't work because you'll be unhappy.
Being a step father ain’t for the weak I recommend not fucking with it speaking from experience I love my step kids but it ain’t reciprocated
I appreciate your honesty. I’ve also experienced this.
Tru. The best comment I seen so far. They don't understand, appreciate, and realize
Some stepparents be the reason why kids grow up traumatized cause they abuse them while their mother or father let certain shit slide. And wonder why they ass is now distance from them and disbelieve your truth saying whoever they married really didn’t love you and it’s clear as day they never did.
@@91Definiteyour experience stop projecting through the comments . If my kids or step kids mad I whoop, be mad , hate me. I could careless I run the ship and make sure they have the essentials
I agree towards the end.. most ppl are afraid to be alone. I been alone for years love the peace and quiet
It's not for everyone
"You let him hit it raw, now you have second thoughts. ".....
Now you’re a single mom (or dad) now you’re a single mom (or dad).
@@Laoriginal718 no don't go twisting the lyrics. This is about you single moms
@@arighteousname5882Bro she don’t have kids lol. At least I think so from her previous comments.
@@MISOGANY OK so what?
@@MISOGANY so what? The song is about SINGLE MOMS
I am 34 with no kids & I feel every word his saying .
I’m 32 with no kids, and I’m the only son out of my moms three sons
32 no kids I tried getting this girl pregnant sep 8th 2023 she had a kid a few weeks ago may 3rd but it's not mine at 34 weeks this bih must of been a few weeks pregnant b4 f******* me it's crazy I've never felt shiddy
Women shouldn’t be step moms too.
Women are not required to take care of a mans seed GTFOH
If you don't have kids don't settle for men with kids, you have every right. Let people with kids date each other.
@@illgoat i guarantee any man that you want already has a child
I hear you but the truth is that it’s much easier for women bc the kid is usually with their mother most of the time. She doesn’t have to deal with the kid on a day to day basis like a man does when he dates a single mom.
@@Firefighter-zc5hu I'm a man. I'm in my early 30s and I don't have kids yet. I'm dating a woman in her mid 20s and she also doesn't have kids. It's difficult but it's possible to meet a partner without kids
I enjoy being a step father to my 3 ❤
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@OPEN_ROAD1800.Boy he's in for a ride awakening
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That’s dope bro 💪🏾
I hope it works out for you bro.
Taking care of someone else’s kids is wild , fuck all that .
Man, thank God my grand parents got wild personalities, they adopted my mother! 😄 bless them.
My BM tried to replace me with the new dude. I had to go through a lot. I tried to be cordial. Dude was talkin shit about me to my daughter. My BM wanted my daughter to call him step dad and all. I wasn’t having that at all. BM gets mad at me but fast forward a few years and they’re not together and now she a single mom with 3 kids and 2 baby daddy’s and she shares not 1 last name with any of the children🤦🏾♂️ I told this would happen and I was actually wanted to be a family that’s how I was raised. My parents were married for 54 years, Grandparents on mom’s side were married for 70 plus years until my grandma passed. Same thing on my father’s side. I was young and should’ve looked at her family life. Mom and dad not married so how does she know anything about keeping a family together she doesn’t cuz she’s never seen it with her family. Both of her sister got different baby daddy’s I should seen the red flags but no I was “in love” but never again
Crazy i liked this, i screen shotted this.
You learned a valuable lesson. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way bro.
Acknowledging the lesson learned is major!
2 long....4 lines max
You gotta always look at they upbringing, look at the way the moms behave and you will know who your dealing with.
If the dad is there, look at his role , is he a Alpha or a lap dog beta male.
Ran by the wife.
She comes from a single mother lead home, she will be of that mindset .
What they see is what they often times emulate.
Iv'e heard tons of women say , if my mother could do it, so can I .
Women like that you run from.
At the end of the day she's not your child...the kid can rspect and listen to you but she will always look at you as step dad not the real dad..nothing wrong with that..just play your role as the step father..dont expect no loyalty from the kid
I am a woman with a daughter. I have zero desire whatsoever to invite any man around my daughter. I will never understand why ppl think all single women wanna take that risk, we don’t.
Explain this LOUDER.
I think the issue though is that you're still human and you still desire love or affection and eventually you will find a guy that could possibly be around you and your daughter but then the bigger issue is will he step up to the job unless you just want to be forever single
Can never raise another mans seed
Never ever ever ever😂
U don't have kids I can tell
@@jasonrich4664u don't have kids I can tell😂
Both y'all ain't getting pussy so nobody wants u raising they kids anyway
@@ronald8071how does that diminish what they said moron. You obviously don’t have brain.
My brother passed last year November and I noticed that his stepson was not at his funeral.
Sorry to hear that man but that’s sad
@@OPEN_ROAD1800. Thanks Bruh one love.
Nice piece! Good Intel on the topic!
Thank You TK. Nice perspective, I feel that
He's definitely right!! Don't be a stepfather! And I'm not talking to anyone who's already in that role because that's your decision and I've been there which I'm not gonna go back! They also didn't mention that sometimes the kids get older and think they're stronger than you then as a man you need to he ready to defend yourself and show them who's boss. Then the kids could turn on you after all you've done for them and the father could be dead or not around and those kids will still respect him because that's their biological father. Not to mention if the biological fathers around, he's always gonna cause division in your relationship or household because he has a kid that you're taking care of and the woman that you care for and it's just best to get your own woman and start your own family. And i don't wanna hear that bs shaming language from a woman saying not all women are like that because i didn't say that. And i don't wanna hear no cape wearing tampon boy telling me I'm wrong because i know better!!
Last sentence got me dead lol 😂😂😂
@@KORANHORACIO 😆 🤣 yeah man there's a lot of cape wearing tampon boys out there!
@@KORANHORACIOright like damn 😂
i always said i’d fw someone with kids but not relationship wise, someone told me i was childish for that but🤷🏽♂️
Pretty that person has a few kids
Don’t deal with someone who has kids AT ALL. Avoid them like Covid.
What's the point in wasting your time on them then?
Dont listen to them, single moms be givin it up still. just use a condom and be friends. no need to become stepdad, plenty of single mothers sleep around
@@shyne1308 cause i always let them know from jump, we can have fun together just not long term relationship wise
Appreciate the wise words, really helpful
I really appreciate you TK
I'm here for it !
If YOU want to be a stepdad, fine, but please know what you’re getting into. Don’t let anyone say you’re less of a man because you don’t want to or it’s the right thing to do. The problem I see is that people place this “honorable” tag on it to convince you to do it.
Women: If you don't wanna take care of my kids you ain't shit. Also you should be paying my bills.
Exactly !!! My son can’t date nobody with kids
how old are you?
@@w_redeyelmao
When Kevin Samuel’s made this point people revolted but it’s absolutely true! As a step parent you take on all of the responsibility but none of the benefits and yes it’s possible you’ll have a lifelong relationship with the kids but it’s not probable today.
Not true do u think biological kids give a damn bout they parents no
@@ronald8071 you must be the simp TK is talking about 😂
@@ronald8071 That's what happens when they're shitty parents.
I keep seeing this comment but what 'benefits' do you get from your own kid that you don't get from a step kid ?
@@palk9 exactly
You're a star, keep shining bright!
This was very insightful. Made me solidify my stands even more. I'm not ready for this, I'm working on me now, leave me the heck alone.
Lol uhhhh I told Kesha to back off...you good now boss man
This is glorious conversation. Sooooo true. Value your position value your money. It really matters for your quality of life.
I have a step daughter raised her since she was 3,she's 14 now and I love her
Awesome!
I’m a step daughter myself. Trust me… you’re saving her life. My step dad saved mine. In this cold axx world where a young girl is automatic prey, you’re doing something noble and it’s going to pay off.
I was falling for a girl with 3 kids, she was my type but ultimately I had to reason with myself and back off. I love kids but the chances of step kids respecting your authority as they age is pretty low.
Hard decision. Knew someone who was in a similar boat. She used to “me” a lot in conversations he told me. Always talked about her kids and what was best for her and her kids. Plus he used to tell me she was super emotional and started to compare him on occasion to her baby daddy. Told my friend you know what you gotta do 😂😂
how can a chick with 3 kids be your type
@@rockstarjoe5725 maybe they shared things in common or certain body type or personality
Especially now days these kids have access too learn alot of bad shyt
I realize since I deleted Instagram, all that bullshit from Instagram is popping up on my UA-cam.
lol same
😭😭😭😭 me too
Yes I don't know how many cat and dog eating popcorn videos I can stomach
@@YoungBlaze 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
100% agree with this take
Ohio to Jersey is about 5 hours…not 15. It’s just PA in between, not the Atlantic Ocean.
Bro really said 15 hours that’s how you know who live out west vs on the east 😂
That's cap! It's not 15 but it dam sure isn't 5 😂
@@SnakeyD8468 I’ve done it plenty of times when I used to drive to Michigan. The Poconos makes it longer than it looks, but it’s straight Route 80 the whole way and if you’re going under 85mph you’ll have 18 wheelers passing you. It’s really 4 hours to cross PA but I built in an extra half hour on each end, to be generous.
@@SnakeyD8468drove from Jersey City to Cleveland a few times. Took like 6hrs...
@@morelife6508 yup…and Jersey City is on the coast, an hour east of the PA border and Cleveland is a little bit into Ohio. Border to border is about 4.
The last part is touching but is so God true
This is not accurate. My step dad requested to be released in hospice at my house and I said ok. He wanted to be around me and my boys to die. I was more than happy to give him the peace he deserved. He was a great dad to me and grandfather to my sons. We love and miss you Pops! ❤️
Yo man i love this clip. Salute to vlad and TK.
Not loving a human being that you created is whyyyiiiidd to me
agree
No cap. I was so confused when he said that 😂😂😂😂
It is wild especially if they look like you
@@91Definite frfr 💯
I think the issue is not the person not loving their seed I think it's that they don't love the responsibility and/or the woman who is their baby mother which creates excuses for them to do the bare minimal
Her kids were grown. My wife got Cancer before our divorce. We stopped the process and I just took care of her 7 months before her passing. Her kids stole money and were disrespectful. I would do it again.( Live a women and her children) But not like before. And only I would understand.
Respect.
Sorry to hear that, at least she had a good man beside her 💯!
@@91Definite Thank You! 🙏🏿
Thank You Vlad. As a lifelong fan of hip hop and sports, I absolutely love your channel.
TK spittin facts, game, and knowledge. I've had that job, trust me, you can literally not get shit outta being a stepdad. It's thankless, frustrating, and usually unappreciative. It's tough. Preach brotha TK.
I’m not a step dad…I stepped up- sucker simp😂😂
If your dad walked out just say that
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@@palk9 sorry fam they didn't. you must be a step dad, just say that.
@@rioblazezo7731 your this angry online and you had your father in your life ? Fucking hell that guy must have been a real asshole...you could have done with a step dad bro
Great point on this, I'm dating someone who has children, once she says we should live together, I'm like no, bcuz there are alot of more reasons than what TK is saying
Why are you even dating someone with kids? 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@Laoriginal718 bcuz I really thought she had it all figured it our, turns out that she didnt
@@RonnieDeuce25 women never have it figured out on their own lmao. They ALL need guidance in this life from a man.
She’s looking for security she knows as a single mother her options are low. She don’t love you. That’s not the case for all single mothers but it’s a high percentage
@@Laoriginal718 why does it bother u
TK is dropping some gems.
One of the realist short lectures I’ve ever heard. I’m 43 now and was in that position twice in my life. Thank God I didn’t have children with either of those women and after I turned 35 I finally learned this through trial and error, in addition to hearing and listening to people like this guy.
I understand completely what TK is saying. For me tho, it’s not so much about the kid but about the baby daddy. Whether you like it or not you gonna have to deal with him on some level. And you gotta worry about ya woman dealing with another man (especially if he a bozo). Not to mention, if he’s a dead beat he can decide @ anytime that he wants to be in the child’s life & there’s really nothing you can say as the step father bc that’s his biological kid!
Yeah you speaking facts! The reason they would come back? Is cause word get around, and they don’t like the fact they babymomma with a better dude than he is. Sometimes I wish these niggas would take the L 💯! Just admit like “yeah, my babymomma found somebody better than me. Instead of me hating on the guy I should be thanking him when I ain’t had my shit together cause my children had some kind of man there when I wasn’t.” Those kind of men hardly exist these days unless they 50 years old
I’m a step dad and I just don’t agree I get respect for both my boys. These titles we put on our self are cursed that’s I don’t allow them to call me dad just my name it’s sad to say people these days are very selfish and think about self just to end up by yourself
They are not my boys.
@@krislegendswell who's boys are they?
TK always giving young men real game.
This is more than Real Talk this is Real Life conversation!!! Salute TK 🫡
In the 90s, I met a woman with a 2 year old daughter. We have been married for 26 years now. Our daughter is now a successful 28 year old woman who loves me and calls me 3 times a week. She visits me for all my birthdays.
Can I visit you as well? You seem cool
Listen to this man Bro !! Pure wisdom 👌🏽
Thank you TK......Thank you....
One of the most important videos dropped this year
He's speaking the 100% truth.
Naw it's false
NNNNOOOOOO,.. ACTUALLY,.. HE'S NNNOOOOOTTTT!!!
I WILL SCHOOL UUU, A LITTLE LATER!!!
I was stepfather before everything I did and provided went unappreciated by my wife and my stepson. I got validation when he was 16 and uttered the words you are not my dad, and I said you are right. I'm not your father and I know that.From that day on I was done. I was trying to show him how real man moves in this world he didn't know his real father.
Your biological child can disown you after giving them everything under the sun. You don’t have to be stepdad but you can be a role model for any child in your neighborhood, family, or close friends. This is why black men will continue to be the weakest link. A stepfather does not make you a simp. You don’t want be a stepfather to someone’s else’s child then make sure you’re there to support yours through life and death.
All my aunts and uncles all 8 of my grandparents children end up going to court to fight each other over money once my grands were gone. Before passing a few had stole and said they wasn’t gonna pay back. The disrespect. It can come from your very seed this narrative is wild. Especially once a kid learn they biological parent ain’t standing on nothing.
I don't usually comment on these interviews but TK spit some real game 💯 preach!!
I needed a man like this in my life in my 20's. I really missed out on life dating women with kids.
You ain’t the only one who wish he had this kind of game to be taught growing up
Powerful words!