68 Bits of Unsolicited Advice

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  • It’s my birthday. I’m 68. I feel like pulling up a rocking chair and dispensing advice to the young ‘uns. Here are 68 pithy bits of unsolicited advice which I offer as my birthday present to all of you.
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  • @q_p-q_p
    @q_p-q_p Рік тому +546

    Struthless sent me here and I’m happy they did

  • @wallemmedia
    @wallemmedia Рік тому +1010

    # 68 Bits of Unsolicited Advice #
    1. Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.
    2. Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.
    3. Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.
    4. Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.
    5. Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them “Is there more?”, until there is no more.
    6. A worthy goal for a year is to learn enough about a subject so that you can’t believe how ignorant you were a year earlier.
    7. Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.
    8. Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.
    9. Don’t trust all-purpose glue.
    10. Reading to your children regularly will bond you together and kickstart their imaginations.
    11. Never use a credit card for credit. The only kind of credit, or debt, that is acceptable is debt to acquire something whose exchange value is extremely likely to increase, like in a home. The exchange value of most things diminishes or vanishes the moment you purchase them. Don’t be in debt to losers.
    12. Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes.
    13. Extraordinary claims should require extraordinary evidence to be believed.
    14. Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you.
    15. Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.
    16. Don’t be the best. Be the only.
    17. Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.
    18. Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works.
    19. The purpose of a habit is to remove that action from self-negotiation. You no longer expend energy deciding whether to do it. You just do it. Good habits can range from telling the truth, to flossing.
    20. Promptness is a sign of respect.
    21. When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario.
    22. Trust me: There is no “them”.
    23. The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested.
    24. Optimise your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.
    25. To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.
    26. The Golden Rule will never fail you. It is the foundation of all other virtues.
    27. If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it.
    28. Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth.
    29. To make mistakes is human. To own your mistakes is divine. Nothing elevates a person higher than quickly admitting and taking personal responsibility for the mistakes you make and then fixing them fairly. If you mess up, fess up. It’s astounding how powerful this ownership is.
    30. Never get involved in a land war in Asia.
    31. You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further.
    32. Show up. Keep showing up. Somebody successful said: 99% of success is just showing up.
    33. Separate the processes of creation from improving. You can’t write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyse at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don’t select. While you sketch, don’t inspect. While you write the first draft, don’t reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement.
    34. If you are not falling down occasionally, you are just coasting.
    35. Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
    36. Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.
    37. This is true: It’s hard to cheat an honest man.
    38. When an object is lost, 95% of the time it is hiding within arm’s reach of where it was last seen. Search in all possible locations in that radius and you’ll find it.
    39. You are what you do. Not what you say, not what you believe, not how you vote, but what you spend your time on.
    40. If you lose or forget to bring a cable, adapter or charger, check with your hotel. Most hotels now have a drawer full of cables, adapters and chargers others have left behind, and probably have the one you are missing. You can often claim it after borrowing it.
    41. Hatred is a curse that does not affect the hated. It only poisons the hater. Release a grudge as if it was a poison.
    42. There is no limit on better. Talent is distributed unfairly, but there is no limit on how much we can improve what we start with.
    43. Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete.
    44. When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation.
    45. Before you are old, attend as many funerals as you can bear, and listen. Nobody talks about the departed’s achievements. The only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving.
    46. For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life.
    47. Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe, and a skill you can get better at. It’s the one skill in life that benefits from ignoring what everyone else knows.
    48. When crisis and disaster strike, don’t waste them. No problems, no progress.
    49. On vacation go to the most remote place on your itinerary first, bypassing the cities. You’ll maximize the shock of otherness in the remote, and then later you’ll welcome the familiar comforts of a city on the way back.
    50. When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter.
    51. Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it.
    52. If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.
    53. Art is in what you leave out.
    54. Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.
    55. Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.
    56. How to apologise: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.
    57. Don’t ever respond to a solicitation or a proposal on the phone. The urgency is a disguise.
    58. When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict.
    59. Eliminating clutter makes room for your true treasures.
    60. You really don’t want to be famous. Read the biography of any famous person.
    61. Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time.
    62. A vacation + a disaster = an adventure.
    63. Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford.
    64. Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarrassment.
    65. Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is.
    66. I’m positive that in 100 years much of what I take to be true today will be proved to be wrong, maybe even embarrassingly wrong, and I try really hard to identify what it is that I am wrong about today.
    67. Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore all the many problems we create; you just have to imagine improving our capacity to solve problems.
    68. The universe is conspiring behind your back to make you a success. This will be much easier to do if you embrace this pronoia.

  • @buttertoof
    @buttertoof Рік тому +2309

    "never get involved in a land war in asia" got me 🤣 Love the advice, Kevin. Really needed this today

    • @WillTheBassPlayer
      @WillTheBassPlayer Рік тому +69

      One thing that is slightly less well known is to never go in against a Sicilian when death is on the line!!

    • @johnglenn2539
      @johnglenn2539 Рік тому +13

      Never believe state agencies without critically thinking first.

    • @polishka7529
      @polishka7529 Рік тому +3

      oh shoot, I heard "land work" and thought "didn't plan to do that but ok"

    • @buttertoof
      @buttertoof Рік тому +2

      @@polishka7529 lmaoo yeah he just wants us to hire someone to cut our grass, thats all

    • @carlagoncalves531
      @carlagoncalves531 Рік тому

      the only advice i didn't get. Why is that

  • @ConnieVeenuhs
    @ConnieVeenuhs Рік тому +323

    "Don't be the best, be the only" is seriously something I'll never forget

    • @HelloKurse
      @HelloKurse Рік тому +1

      That one hit me hard...

    • @teaguejelinek4038
      @teaguejelinek4038 Рік тому +3

      the only inner-city waxing salon

    • @lemur7546
      @lemur7546 Рік тому +3

      I don’t think I fully get what he meant by that. Can someone explain?

    • @dele2222
      @dele2222 Рік тому +3

      @@lemur7546 In essence, the phrase is a call to action to think outside the box, be innovative, and find a way to stand out in a crowded market.

    • @colatf2
      @colatf2 Рік тому +9

      Don’t be the best human, be the only human. I’ll take that to heart 👍

  • @LFPAnimations
    @LFPAnimations Рік тому +25

    The bit about separating creator from editor is hugely underrated. A lot of times my editor brain has stopped me from making something.

  • @user-nl8uf6zn2f
    @user-nl8uf6zn2f Рік тому +148

    I am a Japanese junior high school student. I still can't speak or listen to English well. However, I found that using a translation app and using subtitles was a very nice story. Thank you for your wonderful advice. I'll try it little by little

    • @kayleeson509
      @kayleeson509 Рік тому +14

      Your written English is excellent! Congratulations on your hard work.

  • @kingkramer
    @kingkramer Рік тому +336

    "Never trust all-purpose super glue" was a good one, both literally and metaphorically!

    • @ieatrocks8976
      @ieatrocks8976 Рік тому +1

      WRONG!

    • @samtallen0
      @samtallen0 Рік тому +4

      Would you please explain the metaphor?

    • @brukts3361
      @brukts3361 Рік тому +19

      @@samtallen0 Things and solutions that can do anything often do everything equally poorly. Specialize your tools and solutions to the problem at hand.

    • @samtallen0
      @samtallen0 Рік тому +1

      @@brukts3361 thanks

    • @e-zee8298
      @e-zee8298 Рік тому +1

      Literally more importantly. All purpose glue is never all purpose!!!

  • @shelleycharlesworth5177
    @shelleycharlesworth5177 Рік тому +2

    GREAT advice! I am 75 now and I would add:
    .................
    Learn to meditate
    Notice the world around you when you walk-put your phone away.
    Stop eating processed foods - learn to prepare healthy simple food.

  • @mohmj6815
    @mohmj6815 Рік тому +5

    5:50 "never get involved in a land war in asia". Thanks for that advice. I was just about restore the former glory of the Mongolian empire but now I think I'll stay home.

  • @bkinstler
    @bkinstler Рік тому +159

    I am 57, but I can always appreciate the refresher course.
    Also, one suggested addition: if you know something well that’s been valuable to you, teach it to someone else.

    • @ManFromTheFizz
      @ManFromTheFizz Рік тому

      Wow very interesting! What sort of situations do you think it would apply in?

    • @jjonesl0rdbizn3ss75
      @jjonesl0rdbizn3ss75 Рік тому +1

      Not only will what you taught be valuable to the person you taught it to, but you will also have a greater mastery of the subject.

    • @AlbertBalbastreMorte
      @AlbertBalbastreMorte Рік тому +3

      Finally! 69!

    • @bkinstler
      @bkinstler Рік тому

      @@AlbertBalbastreMorte props to you. Can’t believe I didn’t notice.

  • @Eva--Valentina
    @Eva--Valentina Рік тому +101

    "Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarrassment" already mastered that one, Sir - if the baby needs to nap, it has to nap, no matter if the baby's 20 years old.

  • @yawner1154
    @yawner1154 Рік тому +199

    “following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about” is so painfully true and I wish I knew it ten years ago

    • @Papa_hot
      @Papa_hot Рік тому

      what happened

    • @mikewillsmusic
      @mikewillsmusic 10 місяців тому

      Yeah I also wanna know what happened. Share the goods man, spill the tea!

    • @cho-gyelwangmo3450
      @cho-gyelwangmo3450 3 місяці тому

      What does it mean I did not get it😢

  • @TenTenJ
    @TenTenJ Рік тому +12

    “While making don’t edit. The creative mind must be unleashed.” You’re a genius.

  • @niktaa
    @niktaa Рік тому +1603

    Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.
    Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.
    Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.
    Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.
    Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them “Is there more?”, until there is no more.
    A worthy goal for a year is to learn enough about a subject so that you can’t believe how ignorant you were a year earlier.
    Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.
    Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.
    Don’t trust all-purpose glue.
    Reading to your children regularly will bond you together and kickstart their imaginations.
    Never use a credit card for credit. The only kind of credit, or debt, that is acceptable is debt to acquire something whose exchange value is extremely likely to increase, like in a home. The exchange value of most things diminishes or vanishes the moment you purchase them. Don’t be in debt to losers.
    Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes.
    Extraordinary claims should require extraordinary evidence to be believed.
    Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you.
    Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.
    Don’t be the best. Be the only.
    Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.
    Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works.
    The purpose of a habit is to remove that action from self-negotiation. You no longer expend energy deciding whether to do it. You just do it. Good habits can range from telling the truth, to flossing.
    Promptness is a sign of respect.
    When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario.
    Trust me: There is no “them”.
    The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested.
    Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.
    To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.
    The Golden Rule will never fail you. It is the foundation of all other virtues.
    If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it.
    Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth.
    To make mistakes is human. To own your mistakes is divine. Nothing elevates a person higher than quickly admitting and taking personal responsibility for the mistakes you make and then fixing them fairly. If you mess up, fess up. It’s astounding how powerful this ownership is.
    Never get involved in a land war in Asia.
    You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further.
    Show up. Keep showing up. Somebody successful said: 99% of success is just showing up.
    Separate the processes of creation from improving. You can’t write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyze at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don’t select. While you sketch, don’t inspect. While you write the first draft, don’t reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement.
    If you are not falling down occasionally, you are just coasting.
    Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
    Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.
    This is true: It’s hard to cheat an honest man.
    When an object is lost, 95% of the time it is hiding within arm’s reach of where it was last seen. Search in all possible locations in that radius and you’ll find it.
    You are what you do. Not what you say, not what you believe, not how you vote, but what you spend your time on.
    If you lose or forget to bring a cable, adapter or charger, check with your hotel. Most hotels now have a drawer full of cables, adapters and chargers others have left behind, and probably have the one you are missing. You can often claim it after borrowing it.
    Hatred is a curse that does not affect the hated. It only poisons the hater. Release a grudge as if it was a poison.
    There is no limit on better. Talent is distributed unfairly, but there is no limit on how much we can improve what we start with.
    Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete.
    When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation.
    Before you are old, attend as many funerals as you can bear, and listen. Nobody talks about the departed’s achievements. The only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving.
    For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life.
    Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe, and a skill you can get better at. It’s the one skill in life that benefits from ignoring what everyone else knows.
    When crisis and disaster strike, don’t waste them. No problems, no progress.
    On vacation go to the most remote place on your itinerary first, bypassing the cities. You’ll maximize the shock of otherness in the remote, and then later you’ll welcome the familiar comforts of a city on the way back.
    When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter.
    Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it.
    If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.
    Art is in what you leave out.
    Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.
    Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.
    How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.
    Don’t ever respond to a solicitation or a proposal on the phone. The urgency is a disguise.
    When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict.
    Eliminating clutter makes room for your true treasures.
    You really don’t want to be famous. Read the biography of any famous person.
    Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time.
    A vacation + a disaster = an adventure.
    Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford.
    Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarrassment.
    Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is.
    I’m positive that in 100 years much of what I take to be true today will be proved to be wrong, maybe even embarrassingly wrong, and I try really hard to identify what it is that I am wrong about today.
    Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore all the many problems we create; you just have to imagine improving our capacity to solve problems.
    The universe is conspiring behind your back to make you a success. This will be much easier to do if you embrace this pronoia.

    • @jreverie7018
      @jreverie7018 Рік тому +62

      Woah thanks for typing all this out

    • @counthobbula8377
      @counthobbula8377 Рік тому +12

      @@jreverie7018 transcript

    • @SilverTheFlame
      @SilverTheFlame Рік тому +1

      Thanks

    • @atypicalmatias
      @atypicalmatias Рік тому +16

      "Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom."
      I am chronical people-pleaser. Don't give me hope.

    • @o_enamuel
      @o_enamuel Рік тому +6

      The text makes it seem bigger. No complaint

  • @danielreidy1918
    @danielreidy1918 Рік тому +847

    This is one the most valuable 15mins available, and yet through the magic of the internet...it is free. Thanks Kevin 🙏

  • @joeyhathaway8447
    @joeyhathaway8447 Рік тому +1

    Man, that blurred-out backdrop of what appears to be a personal office looks like a 𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩 place to create!

  • @joeydevilliers1752
    @joeydevilliers1752 Рік тому +8

    A person who's willing to share good advice like this freely, is a gem.

  • @baileescott401
    @baileescott401 Рік тому +8

    Struthless made a video inspired by this, lovely video

  • @StandbyCymbalist
    @StandbyCymbalist Рік тому +6

    I'm 114, and this advice has changed my whole paradigm. I can't wait to see what future successes I gain from this young Amish man. (Also, despite what they say, the Wild West was truly a wild time, I was there)

  • @Hipsresurfaced
    @Hipsresurfaced Рік тому +121

    Thanks Kevin, I'm about to turn 70, and this collection of simple, great life advice reminds me that my life experience is a gift to be shared.

    • @ManFromTheFizz
      @ManFromTheFizz Рік тому +1

      That last bit is one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard : )

  • @duvessa2003
    @duvessa2003 Рік тому +11

    This unsolicited advice is not just for young people. I will listen to it repeatedly. 😊

  • @klf153
    @klf153 Рік тому +24

    I'm 79 and found huge value here -- whoever said being old equals being wise in all ways misled all of us! Thank you, Kevin!

    • @sobersky3716
      @sobersky3716 Рік тому +1

      That's the thing: getting older doesn't necessarily make us wiser. Nevertheless, what truly makes us wiser is our determination to continue learning.

  • @cdpalmo
    @cdpalmo Рік тому +2

    i wrote everything down in my notebook and i will memorize each along 68 days of 2023, thank you so much

  • @FluffyBaozii
    @FluffyBaozii Рік тому +2

    This man just spoke the consolidated spark notes for every self help and business/personal development book ever written

  • @NotReallyAEvilMorty
    @NotReallyAEvilMorty 2 роки тому +10

    You could easily charge 100k for this wisdom, yet you’re doing it for free. One day I hope to inspire the way you do!
    Bless your soul good sir.

  • @garybruington6759
    @garybruington6759 3 роки тому +3

    Love every one of these Kevin - so glad I found you! I'll be following you, thanks and be well, Gary

  • @yugantbeniwal
    @yugantbeniwal 11 місяців тому +2

    69. NO ONE can comprehend all that wisdom by watching that video even twice or thrice.

  • @mohammedbarhoum2713
    @mohammedbarhoum2713 Рік тому +2

    Being on a long bus trip, sitting beside the window, gazing at the horizon, and listening to your much-needed advice... It can't get any better than that.

  • @geekdoh
    @geekdoh 4 роки тому +100

    I read your list before this video was out and I loved it. And I love it even more now that you have read it out loud. Words to live by. Thank you.

  • @StrategicRescue
    @StrategicRescue Рік тому +5

    Kevin, right off the bat, your first bit of advice is something I TOTALLY believe in and actually live by. "Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe." Incredible. But this is one that is REALLY hard to do. I paused the video after I head that because it resonated with me so much. I am going to meditate on it and listen the other 67 later.

  • @EddieInTech
    @EddieInTech 3 роки тому +1

    Been a fan of yours for years Kelly, happy you are starting to post on a UA-cam. I hope you keep posting these great advice videos.

  • @JustOrgil
    @JustOrgil 2 роки тому +7

    Each of these is golden. I am writing them down as I know they will serve me well in life.
    I bought your book Inevitable when I was 21. I also loved your 1000 true fans essay that I read it 20-30 times over the years. Now I’m turning 26 and you sir have generously given so much value to me so far. Thank you 🙏

  • @micmicbungee355
    @micmicbungee355 Рік тому +3

    "Learn how to learn from those who disagree with you or even offend you and see if you can find truth in what they believe in" this advice is so on time. Since I just argue with someone in my church today, my day was ruined cause I was offended by their rude behavior. Glad that I got to hear this before I go to sleep. At least I can sleep in peace now ✌️

  • @mbirkn
    @mbirkn 4 роки тому +7

    Thank's for the advice Kevin. I found a lot of the bits very helpful. I've listened to you in a number of podacasts and it's always a joy to hear your humble and thoughtful opinions and insights. Your advice is both inspiring, thoughtful and calming seen through the eyes of a 22 year old (me). So again thank you.

  • @celinepomerleau2163
    @celinepomerleau2163 2 роки тому +2

    A lot of these truly hit home for me. Thank you for sharing grand optimist ! ❤️

  • @davidneves6428
    @davidneves6428 Рік тому +12

    Please make another one. I ask everyone I know with more life experiences than me what their most important life lesson they’ve learned is, and you summed in up in one UA-cam video. Good job and keep going

  • @johnwenning2661
    @johnwenning2661 4 роки тому +13

    Happy Birthday Kevin Kelly and thanks for your thoughts. I really loved this list, especially, "Trust me, there is no Them". I just finished reading the book "What Is Populism?" and a piece of that puzzle is othering or theming. I'll be revisiting this list from time to time.

  • @addieblanchard2228
    @addieblanchard2228 Рік тому +14

    Bless you! This might be one of the most heartfelt and meaningful videos I’ve watched on UA-cam in the last 15 years. I can see the thoughtfulness care and, most importantly, wisdom. You wisdom will not soon be forgotten but instead cherished. You were more than helpful, but cathartic to hear. A calming voice to make sense of the world through our own learning and experience. This 26yo can’t thank you enough for putting this into the world. ❤

  • @tarikay93
    @tarikay93 Рік тому +1

    The most important rule is left out: Allow yourself to make mistakes. Learn from them. Don't try to be perfect.

  • @ShinyCartographer
    @ShinyCartographer Рік тому

    Thank you, and a belated happy birthday to you!

  • @eunbidraws3778
    @eunbidraws3778 Рік тому +3

    My Dad sent this to me this morning, I’m so grateful for him and the wonderful advice you shared. Thank you!

  • @k.c3905
    @k.c3905 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for creating this video. It has brought a great comfort in a time of uncertainty. All of your advice I found either well needed to be heard, or worthy of a good chuckle.

  • @kenmacinnis
    @kenmacinnis Рік тому +1

    Thanks, Kevin. I'll come back to this from time to time, because even listening to it in the background never fails to have the bit of wisdom I need today jump out at me.

  • @alec3256
    @alec3256 Рік тому +9

    this makes me feel hopeful about my progress, I used to be an angsty teen who believed they knew everything. now I see that the most intelligent people are the ones who can admit they don't know anything. I will for sure be watching this video again in the future

  • @chrisgj8578
    @chrisgj8578 Рік тому +6

    That was so great, straight to the point. This man looks so kind, he HOPES HE WAS HELPFUL, thank you Mr. Kevin Kelly, we all wish prosperity and peace towards you!!

  • @Crabtree14
    @Crabtree14 Рік тому +5

    Thank you SO very much! As a father of 3 amazing girls, I’ll pass these along to them as well! Much gratitude, Kevin!!

  • @alexbrown1050
    @alexbrown1050 Рік тому

    Thank you Kevin. Your words were so inspiring and sometimes amusing. I was really surprised by a few, they had a huge impact on me. I need to watch this a few more times, thank you again.

  • @dunyanaser5745
    @dunyanaser5745 Рік тому

    This advice is just pure necessity as it tells us to be happy and root for yourself. I absolutely love it and hope to share it to spread these wonderful messages ❤

  • @charliehopes5661
    @charliehopes5661 Рік тому +10

    “Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don't know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is to master something, anything. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually, you'll discover where your bliss is.”
    This one I'm gonna print in all caps and hang in my bedroom lol.
    It's simple to understand and quite logical, but it's hard to apply.
    As a student who struggles to find a passion in life, and more generally, a path, this gave me hope and a little boost. Thank you sir for your wisdom.
    P.S.: I'm in my early twenties, and I'm kinda proud to have figured out most of the things he said. The challenge now is to follow his words haha.

  • @zephyr707
    @zephyr707 4 роки тому +5

    a tiny bit of me selfishly wishes you had turned 68 a few decades prior so I could have read/heard these when I was also younger ;), but I'm very happy that you have many more years to impart such useful wisdom, thank you!

  • @colin6218
    @colin6218 Рік тому

    I’m so happy this came across my page today, thank you for sharing! I’m glad I was here to listen.

  • @eleniaristeidou502
    @eleniaristeidou502 Рік тому

    Thank you. Thank you thank you. This is the most condensed knowledge Ive ever seen. As someone who is always afraid that the passion (theatre) which I followed and am now doing my masters at , is gone, the advice about mastering something and then seeing where it takes you is invaluable

  • @mukhtardost8723
    @mukhtardost8723 4 роки тому +115

    Truly priceless nuggets of wisdom! Thank you so much, Kelly, and God bless you with even more wisdom, health, and wealth for years to come.

  • @sarahroberts3667
    @sarahroberts3667 4 роки тому +30

    I teach high school reading. We are going to spend some time and work through these when we get back to school. Great points of discussion. Thank you!!

  • @mariellapignataro1055
    @mariellapignataro1055 Рік тому +1

    All great advice, a video to watch multiple times to catch what you’ve missed ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you!

  • @anaecoenzyme3408
    @anaecoenzyme3408 Рік тому

    Totally love it, for giving us the advice as a present on Your birthday! Happy birthday! I decided to listen to this unsolicited advice, because someone 68 is on UA-cam, making professionally looking video, that's amazing! I'm 28, happy birthday from Singapore! Thank you for this ☺️

  • @cheekypercy5413
    @cheekypercy5413 Рік тому +21

    Thank you for this I try to talk to the older people in my life for advice and their opinions before it’s too late. The value of knowledge accumulated over someone’s lifetime is incredible.

    • @301cameosis
      @301cameosis Рік тому

      Very Smart

    • @MrCmon113
      @MrCmon113 Рік тому

      I abduct them and make them write down what they've learned.

  • @JohnDavid-kc9kt
    @JohnDavid-kc9kt 4 роки тому +69

    I will be writing one of these every day on my whiteboard if/when we ever get back to school. Great advice for young people and great conversation starters. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

  • @BlakesPipes
    @BlakesPipes Рік тому +1

    Thank you from a 49 year old that has been through a lot these last 3 years. Keep trucking to my future self. Nice job

  • @cantiohorse
    @cantiohorse Рік тому

    Thank you so much for posting this!! It means more than you will ever know.

  • @RedHeadForester
    @RedHeadForester Рік тому +38

    Ooh, this is good! At 27 years old, I'm happy to say I've already learned a reasonable portion of these, either by paying attention, listening, or by making mistakes. There are also some that I know, and I know I don't follow as I should.
    There are some absolute gems in this video, and it's very well presented. A good tip for anyone presenting almost anything to anyone is to punctuate with something funny every once in a while to keep people's attention, as demonstrated beautifully here!
    I think a couple of these will be going on my wall for next time I hit a low spot.

  • @leopallanck1787
    @leopallanck1787 4 роки тому +108

    I just heard your interview on Freakonomics and really enjoyed listening to your thoughts. Your advice may be targeted to young people, but I'm 61 and I definitely feel I benefited from listening to this. I especially enjoyed listening to your views on the internet, and on conspiracy theorists. I see the positives from the internet, I was sort of on the fence about whether the negatives (e.g., job losses vs. job creation, conspiracist forums, etc.) outweighing the positives, but I really like your take on this, which I actually agree with. I'm also no fan of conspiracy theories, which I feel are largely forces of evil. I'm not personally religious (I'll decide that matter shortly after my death), but I also like your spiritual views. Anyway, thanks for sharing your views!

    • @logan7882
      @logan7882 Рік тому +4

      it's nice to see someone else with the same opinion on conspiracy theories, i reallly dislike them

    • @anothersomeone7008
      @anothersomeone7008 Рік тому

      Me to from freakonomics and later struthless

    • @addieblanchard2228
      @addieblanchard2228 Рік тому +1

      “I’ll decide that matter shortly after my death” same! I love that.

    • @0FFICERPROBLEM
      @0FFICERPROBLEM Рік тому

      Outright labeling conspriacy theories as something evil, or ridiculous, is dangerous. It should also be painfully obvious as a ploy by those who wish not true conspiracies to be revealed.

    • @leopallanck1787
      @leopallanck1787 Рік тому

      @@0FFICERPROBLEM OK, fair enough. But, let's be honest about this: conspiracy theorists almost invariably reject a plausible explanation in favor of a much less likely explanation. Therefore, any one conspiracy theory is unlikely to be correct. So anyone who embraces more than one conspiracy theory at a time is only loosely tethered to reality (the more conspiracy theories someone embraces, the more delusional they are). Unfortunately, that very situation defines many people (e.g., the same people who believe in QAnon also believe in the 'deep state', and they think the 2020 election was stolen, and they also believe the COVID vaccines are more dangerous than the virus, etc.). What ALL of those conspiracy theories have in common is that there is NO concrete proof that they are true. I have no problem if someone believes in a conspiracy theory-the problem is that a large fraction of Americans believe in many conspiracies simultaneously, and I do believe that is a big problem for America and American democracy.

  • @annapuczyowska8772
    @annapuczyowska8772 Рік тому

    Thank you so much, that was an honor and a pleasure!

  • @PeterBaker-pg7qq
    @PeterBaker-pg7qq Рік тому

    Thank you, Kevin! You have been very helpful. I appreciate that you care enough to share your obviously hard-won truths with us.

  • @1272nik
    @1272nik 4 роки тому +3

    I really enjoyed this - a lot of excellent adivce. Thanks, Kevin!

  • @getstarted7168
    @getstarted7168 3 роки тому +7

    Glad I found this (throughTim Ferris). Thanks for sharing your wisdom. "Nothing is as powerful as an idea whose time has come" -- Victor Hugo.

  • @kjetilgrosland
    @kjetilgrosland Рік тому

    Much much gold here! Thank you for putting your time and energy into sharing your gold!

  • @Hamppariranskis
    @Hamppariranskis Рік тому +1

    These are the ones that struck a chord with me:
    -pros are just amateurs who can gracefully recover from their mistakes
    -fess up to your mistake immediately
    -don't be the best. Be the ONLY
    -everyone else is shy too. Everyone else ia waiting for YOU to introduce yourself, send them an email, ask them out on a date etc.
    -while you create don't inspect. Write freely first, edit later
    -you are what you do. Not what you think, hope, feel, vote for etc. You are what you do on a daily basis.
    -it's hard to cheat an honest man.
    -hate will only burn you, not the person you hate. Get rid of it as quickly as possible
    -if you get an issue, cherish it. No problems no progress
    -master something. One thing, it will guide you to another thing

  • @SeveredEternity
    @SeveredEternity Рік тому +5

    The first one just hit me right where it hurts. I just had a close friend of 12 years turn against me and im still trying to find out the whole reason why, i feel betrayed and angry but this gentleman right here gave me the best advice that not even my family could give me..and for that, i appreciate him. Thank you Kevin, your a Saint, truly Godsend.
    Edit: fixed grammatical errors

  • @zephyr707
    @zephyr707 4 роки тому +3

    on your freakonomics interview (which was great btw) your discussion of "them" is something I've always agreed with and said to friends who buy into conspiracy theories, but I will admit that PRISM really shocked me!

  • @anthonyhaycox1561
    @anthonyhaycox1561 Рік тому

    Many thanks for such sage advice - I love listening through all of the ‘life tips’ you gave us there.

  • @srib.7357
    @srib.7357 Рік тому

    Wow! Thank you Mr. Kelly.

  • @DJ-uk5mm
    @DJ-uk5mm Рік тому +4

    Any advice for a 68 year old?

    • @JerjerB
      @JerjerB 2 місяці тому +1

      Keep on keeping on. I admire anyone who survives life!
      From a 39 year old

  • @milkand1
    @milkand1 Рік тому +3

    I came from struthless

  • @SrFructuoso
    @SrFructuoso Рік тому

    Thanks for your time Kevin! Enjoyed the video from beginning to end!

  • @marvbarv3969
    @marvbarv3969 11 місяців тому

    Thanks Kevin, I really appreciate your advice!

  • @OGRH
    @OGRH Рік тому

    I LOVE THIS! I powerfully identify with several of these already, but we can always get powerful new insight. This video earned an instant sub, and is going straight to my "best" archives, where I keep my most coveted mental weapons!
    "When, after all of your hard work & perseverance, you've finally reached the point where you know everything there is to know about something, you are no longer of any use to anyone on the subject or anything else for that matter."
    Thank you for the excellent content!

  • @joshuashayfunk
    @joshuashayfunk Рік тому

    That was really wonderful Kevin, thank you for sharing your wisdom and your heart. I’m sure it will help many people!

  • @WatercolorJoy
    @WatercolorJoy Рік тому

    I agree with all of this, thank you so much, and happy late birthday! 🎂

  • @twyjoshy7796
    @twyjoshy7796 Рік тому

    Thank you Kevin :) happy birthday

  • @spca3boyy
    @spca3boyy Рік тому

    Thanks so much Kevin, it's greatly appreciated!

  • @krispyykremee9594
    @krispyykremee9594 3 роки тому

    Thank you, Kevin. This is much appreciated.

  • @wonderwoman5528
    @wonderwoman5528 Рік тому

    Going to save this to my favourites. This advice is gold and timeless. Thank you very much for sharing. Will be watching this again when I need to. All the best

  • @levijessop1744
    @levijessop1744 Рік тому

    This is a very great video ! Thank you for taking the time to share this with us.

  • @leothomasjohnson6698
    @leothomasjohnson6698 Рік тому +2

    This is gold. I’m 19 and trying to start a business and It’s hard learning how to learn, every bit of this video can be applied to my current life and it’s genuinely shifted my path, thank you Kevin.

  • @bpeg88
    @bpeg88 Рік тому

    This is so so so so so wonderful. Tons of gratitude 🙏🏽 for this wise man

  • @BlueBeeThemeMusic
    @BlueBeeThemeMusic Рік тому

    Rambling is great. There's so much in these. Thank you for your paying attention on this crazy life.

  • @jonnysaccount1149
    @jonnysaccount1149 3 місяці тому

    I'm back once again, this time 9 months later, for some much needed wisdom yet again. I've only realized that most of my philosophies and moral codes come straight from this video. I've only just realized how much of an effect it has had on me. Thank you once again, Kevin. I'll probably be back in a few months again to remind myself what truly matters in life.

  • @sbaumgartner9848
    @sbaumgartner9848 Рік тому

    Love it! Worth listening to over and over again. This unsolicited advice isn't just for the young'uns. We seniors can get more out of each remaining day by following this advice.

  • @juliafiske3622
    @juliafiske3622 3 роки тому +1

    I listened to this on the radio. Had to watch again and I am sure again. Thoroughly enjoyed you pointing out my errors! Happy birthday and thank you for making me smile and laugh on a rainy Sunday afternoon.

    • @MsPielady
      @MsPielady 3 роки тому

      LOL, I tuned in late and wrote down the website so I could listen to the whole thing...perfect for a rainy Sunday afternoon :)

  • @jasonburguess
    @jasonburguess Рік тому

    Thanks for this, I really needed it. Hope you have a wonderful day

  • @crystalhr89
    @crystalhr89 Рік тому

    Ive never had this much insight provide ever by my living father or grandfather. Thanks so much for sharing ! Truly appreciated!

  • @keen2461
    @keen2461 Рік тому

    68 bits of awesomeness. Thank you for sharing.

  • @jancattron2849
    @jancattron2849 Рік тому

    The perfect birthday gift...
    EVERY
    YEAR.
    Thank you!

  • @sydneydmoody
    @sydneydmoody Рік тому

    Thank you for this. This video makes me feel very happy , grateful, and hopeful.

  • @Estwing22
    @Estwing22 Рік тому

    Profound.
    Your words are a gift.
    Thank you.

  • @Busterfilms1
    @Busterfilms1 Рік тому

    Just now seeing this. Loved seeing you, Kevin - and hearing your wisdom. I will be in touch!

  • @tommyrocker33
    @tommyrocker33 Рік тому

    Thank you sir, I've been making my own similar list over the last decade and have to say, you done a far better job. Well said, all the best.

  • @wisdom-for-life
    @wisdom-for-life Рік тому +2

    Great idea! Honestly, everyone should do this as they get older.. Help the youngins out! Thanks for all the great advice.

  • @avroml
    @avroml Рік тому

    Sir, you're a gem! Happy 70th birthday to you!