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I personally feel this poem should not be reserved only to husbands. There are so many others too who put the*"conditions applied"* tag to a women. A father , a brother, and even a mother should think how to judge the female in their family. _*Equality starts @ home*_.
So, she did mention ki 'ye two way street' hai. Also, it is factual to out society, that control is more associated with men, than with women, which is why she said this.
I would like to add a point to the above statement.. woman themselves shouldn't limit themselves either..I have seen many women (frd of mine) who limit themselves or don't have big dreams ..they simply like family life n want to be housewife...again it's a choice but sometimes the other woman who r carrier oriented gets a bad name because of the so called housewife...n I do feel woman r also a enemy of woman not just man/husband/bro/father...just my thought
@@tanvygupta9181 well I won't disagree but there multiple small reasons for that, cos I myself like control as well..at the same time I won't want to harm the person..in any which way...but sometimes you can't cover all bases..
@@CreativeReaper90s ya whatever you are saying is very true, I myself being a women is been put many restrictions from my aunt and women's of village itself, etc. They first need to change their mindset they are the one who is staying or simply willing to stay under there husband. They are the one who treat son and daughter different, seriously speaking my aunt herself when there is some non veg items , or some special or even curry , cooking in their home the more quantity is always surved to her husband or sons. I mean they never demanded it she herself made that rule, which clearly shows not behaving equal as herself.
Our PM is praised for giving up family life for sake of "serving the country." Did anyone consider what his wife's dreams were for her life? This man who could not refuse his parents went ahead and married a woman then abandoned her at her brother's home. What did she get - no divorce, no alimony, no money for her upkeep, no apology, no request to consider remarrying. It is like she is dead, like she does not even exist. When the topic comes up people say she doesn't mind. But has anyone asked her for her side of the story? When a journalist managed to get to the village primary school where she teaches and asked her for her side of the story, the principal of the school made a few phone calls and then rushed in and led her away. Who do you think it is that does not want her side of the story to be heard? If a woman abandoned a man without divorcing him would she get the same respect that the PM of India is getting? Could we get more patriarchal or hypocritical than this?
@@statesman01 Exactly. Speaks volumes when the Prime Minister of the country is not questioned for his mistreatment of his wife. I once had a teacher (most kids hated her) who justified in class that she supported PM Modi and BJP because Modi didn't have any family ties and would prioritize his country. Still can't get over the fact that she was a woman, an economics teacher and had such opinions. I hated her even more when she would make annoyed/irritated face if someone took a leave or wants to leave early for menstrual cramps. My friend was legit crying and puked twice due to her excessive period pain and this lady is 'annoyed' by it. Even my male classmates were annoyed by her attitude when they could all clearly see how my friend was suffering.
@R k Dude, yeh paintra/tactic mere pe nahi chalega. Don't turn me into a Muslim because I'm not. Nor are Modi and his wife. And don't change the topic to make it seem that Muslim women have it worse. This is not about Hindus or Muslims. This video and my comment is about the hypocrisy of Indian men exactly like you and Modi. Look at you! You are unable to even accept that a man you consider as a hero has in fact cruelly treated his wife/ardhangini like dirt, has selfishly ruined a human life and has ensured that her voice and her story are never heard because that suits him. Unfortunately, Indian men only seem to see the pain of such a woman when she happens to be his sister or daughter. Modi's wife is married under the Hindu Marriage Act and not the Shariah law. She cannot marry again because he abandoned her but did not divorce her. The Hindu Marriage Act does not allow remarriage without divorce.
@R k Wohi to baat hai... he and his gang have made sure that we will never get to hear her story. Her brother and his family have without any doubt been threatened so they keep quiet. Arre the principal of her school is there to do chowkidaari of her when she is at work. Who do you think gave him that responsibility? You ask - why she didn't choose to marry? But he is the supposedly the great man. Why didn't he tell her that you do not deserve to have your dreams broken for sake of min? Let me find another man for you and make sure you are well settled. If he is so great why didn't he take the first step, why didn't he encourage her to educate herself more than just a 10th grade education and a PTC diploma? And please don't give me all your BS about him "sacrificing for dharma". GRIHASTASHRAM is an essential aspect of every human being's lives according to our dharma. Even great sages of Hinduism had a family. And if he had such great aims of sacrificing for the country he should have had the courage to say "no" to his parents and leave home before they married him. Abandoning a blameless woman for your own ambitions CAN NEVER be seen as "sacrifice". Ma-baap ko "na" bolne ki himmat nahi lekin ek aurat ki zindagi barbaad karna to simple si baat hai. I ask you once again - If a woman abandoned a man without divorcing him would she get the same respect that the PM of India is getting? As I said teri behen ya beti ki zindagi is tarah barbaad karke koi desh bhakt hone ka excuse bana leta to tu uske haath pair tod deta. BTW logic ya rational argument nahi hai isi liye tujhe gali dene ki zaroorat pad rahi hai.
@R k us zamane mein pati ki chhodi hui aurat se koi aadmi shadi karne ko ready nahi hota tha..aur samaj bhi aisi aurat ko thukrata hi tha..samaj ka ye ghatiya roop shayad aapko pata nahi
People always say that, "you are lucky to have a husband who "gives" you so much freedom", and they mean it as a compliment. Glad my husband always responds saying that he didn't give me any freedom, she was always a free person, it isn't something that he has to give or take.
@@redpilled4872 exactly that's the whole point though isn't it? have you ever thought about why that is? women weren't even aware of their capabilities for literal centuries. we just kept listening to everything that was told to us, believed it when we were told that we were intellectually inferior and that's how our society started providing us these roles of being subservient for the rest of our lives and we accepted them because we truly believed ourselves to be inferior. that is the story of our grandmothers and great grandmothers but somehow, due to the evolution of thought process we started thinking for our self. we started realizing that we are capable of so much more. so don't you worry, that percentage will keep decreasing generation after generation. (also btw its 85% not 95%)
Listening to this, I have a parallel audio at the back of my mind. When I express my independence of going out with friends or something similar, my would be husband says, "haan aur mai tujhe jaane/karne deta hoon na". I feel so enraged. Those are the times I feel I am not made for marriage.
Hey, I don't know you, but I think you should talk to him about how it makes you feel before getting married. I've seen relationships break over things like this. He probably doesn't understand the implications of what he's saying and how it affects you.
Leave aside men, even women don't understand this basic concept " tum tene wale hote kon ho", we are so programmed to behave a certain way & give an authoritarian position to men in life.
Exactly, patriarchy is what conditions men to suppress their emotions "boys don't cry" and all that bs. It is harming men just as much as it harms women
Yes. Boys don't cry, boys can't be bullied, can't be raped or face domestic violence, men shouldn't do housework, men can't stay home, men can't be gentle or soft spoken and should be rowdy and tough. Boys should not let women dominate etc. They only put stereotypes on men and women and doesn't let them be themselves, but be more like what society expects.
What I miss is the mention of men’s wear n his skills n his culture n sanskar r never talked about... men mostly have topic like mard ban control me rakh they don’t carry samman or culture they don’t NEED to wear dhoti to prove they r Indian but women have to wear saree or else Indian sanskar r gone 🤷♀️
@Aman Gupta when u wear something out of interest it is a choice. When u change a serious issue and make a sex joke out of it just to make the problem seem small, it means u r part of the problem
@Aman Gupta no problem when it isnt an interference in a discussion about my rights and my existence. When it is insensitive and said in an insensitive place, i find it patronising rather than humourous.
@Aman Gupta this was a video about this specific topic. I did not come to your birthday party and discuss my rights. I do not start talking about my rights "koi bhi jagah" unless it is relevant
Yes,it is true. This is the double standard of modern husbands,who claims to be liberal and upholder of equality but in reality they are not. Underneath this lies the concept of power,which exists in every human relationship. So,to call for absolute equality in practice is an utopia. At best, we can have value of equality and mutual respect.
You have used the right word Power. The psychological basis of Power is that when you give someone Power, he starts enjoying the application Power over others. Husbands over wives, Parents over Children, Police over Public etc.
Either you take the power or let her take the power. If your matured enough you will know when you should take power and when not to. If both try to take power at same time on every thing then you won't be together.
I don't understand why it is wrong to have a say what your wife can wear? If a woman has the right to ask her husband to come back home before 8pm, then why can't men have a right over women?
Just like women don't tell men to follow traditions and wear dhoti and kurta pajama, the same way men also don't tell women to wear sarees when they are utterly uncomfortable in some jobs. Why should a women tell her husband to come back early?? They both will come back home when their jobs are done. Both will come at their respective times. I don't understand why somebody will dictate the others regarding their professional life.
Although I agree with most of what see said, but will like to make a quick remark on "skirt or saree" which she mentioned. Females have full right to live however they want, which includes putting their butts and cleavage on display, walk in bikini, return home with male friends at 2:00am after boozing and clubbing, hugging, kissing, male friends and so on. A man has absolutely NO RIGHT to ask his wife to change, BUT HE HAS ALL THE RIGHT TO CHOSE TO LEAVE HER, AND FEMINISTS SHOULD RESPECT the MAN'S CHOICE as gracefully as they respect a females's choice. (Feminist should not add "ifs and buts" here, or give sneaky excuses to shame the man or force him to bottle it up).
Wife returning at night with male friends 😀 hugging, kissing. Courts have made adultery legal for women 😂. It's always men suffer in marriage, love doesn't exist these days. He has all the right to leave her with Huge Financial loss, Property loss, depression, Jail time, Job loss, Suicidal.
Bhai ye hindu aurte hi harbar kyu itni ultra feminist hoti hai meri hindu friend Muslim lover se shadi Krna chahti hai mere mana krne ke baad. I told her that you'll lost your family and it's not worth it.
Sorry brother, but i think u didn't get what she actually wanted to convey. Saree is considered to be only worn by women whereas other modest clothing which includes jeans, skirts, kurtis, salwaar and others( cause I don't think 95% of the wome here demand this and not what u said showing skin). Just like u won't be comfortable wearing dhotis to work and prefer shirts and jeans. Women to want comfortable clothing as saree isn't suiting for all professions. Glad if u understand.
@mardkodardnhihota I don't think it's much to do with freedom but Indian kangaroo court & law. In other countries (incl. west) if your wife commits adultery, you have no obligation to alimony or maintenance.
No one will marry such feminist who are ending chivalry, destroying the ability to commit and promoting live in culture. All women should respect man☝️
Difficult to do in practice... Children observe the situation their mothers are in and imitate the scenario in their later life... Both parents participation to teach is necessary.
Yes we should raise our daughters too in the same way so that do not treat their husbands like shit...it involves giving him his space too.. Also we.should.teach our daughters too the same way we should teach our sons that misinterpretation of what opposite gender Actually feels is not an opportunity to depict your own so called empowerment narratives..
@@hukilnubian4400 not all women suffer more..and not some men ...it is sole narrative and reason why we have so biased laws which is cause of many male sucides. Many men suffer more then many Women...the actual figures won't be out because it can topple many Corrupt practices in the name of gender appeasement... The only difference is.male.bashing now is a cool.thing for media 😎.
Its the time, not women but society has to adjust. Patriarchy has to adjust. And that can only happen if we teach our sons to wash dishes, to learn cooking, to do dusting. Because change is the only constant we know. Change Thinking.
Sons and daughters chaahiye hi nehin...inko laana hi nehin. Naa to wo apply kie hai naa darwaaje me dastak dete hai.....bas hum apnaa apniyat me aur gurur me equity ke khoj me mast rehenaa hai.... Hai naa....
@@imatomic1999. it's not 6-9 issue. Its the framework issue. The framework that this poem refers to is of individualism. Strict individualism. No feelings. Its only of self aggrandising ever growing prosperity at the expense of every thong that not mine. Me and me and my snd mine...right. Jay Ho individualism ki. People learn by experience. As of now , individualism is supreme. Let that be....🙏🙏
Oh hero shaadi hui kya teri or middle class hain kya tu ..paisa kitna kamata hai biwi wo raand hain jo waqt aane pe pati ki gaand tod deti hain milta hain yaar aake us bistar pe jo dahej mein laayi apne yaar se thukwaane ko dahej ka naam de tod deti hain usko duniya jo bechara maar chuka 100 baar ek pal jeene ko
@abin sebastian people become toxic when their rule is threatened. A society where they will tell their daughters to be shakuntala devi, Indira nooyi and what not. but want the daughter in law to change herself the instant she is married, be a good bahu, cook and pop out babies. That's it. What they wear, eat, walk, where they go has to be pre approved by them.
The hypocrisy is girls want their brother to look after their parents but when it comes to in laws. I just want to lead a peaceful life alone even if in the same home ALONE. Bloody Assholes.
First of all, toxic men asking me not to marry or having double standards. Yes I am married and to an non toxic person. It's not like get married and suffer or not marry at all. There are two sides of every coin but reality states which side is more prevalent. The poet never said anything about not living with parents nor did I. Point is let the woman be a person she is. Abhivyakti ki azadi. She will easily accept the family the way it is only when she's being accepted for who she is. Everytime why she has to adjust. And no sane female is just expects her brother to take care of her parents. If he does or not, her responsibility never diminishes. If she has right to parents assets then she has responsibility to take care of them. She'll do it irrespective of what brother does. What about the couple who don't have son? Are they not taken care of in old-age?? @abin my comment was for only who does that..it doesn't mean all men or families are like that.
I don't understand why a lady who finds her husband a hypocrite doesn't leave him and still keeps on going along with the same life. If 90% of men are hypocrite then there wives knowing them as hypocrites and still going along with their hypocrite husbands are bigger hypocrites and their staying with their hypocrite husbands cannot make them "sanskari" like if a lady is able to cook it cannot be called her "sanskar" as the poet says.
🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Thank you for pointing out. That's exactly the problem. Women cannot choose who they marry and at the same time, they also don't have much say in a divorce unless, serious abuse is involved. It's STUPID and fucked up here.
@@shreeloves "much say in divorce" ??? you living in 1970 ??? Men losing their entire property and becoming homeless due to divorce. Women literally steals 50% of husband's wealth... Marriage -----> Divorce ----> Alimony. Repeat that's what women are doing these days. Women have made serious business out of divorce settlements. It's STUPID & fked up for MEN.
The fact that somebody gives a woman the 'permission' to do something, says a lot about who is in the position of 'authority' and who is in the position of 'submission'. Don't mistake it to be being 'big-hearted' or 'liberal'
Can a man take one day leave from office without permission of boss? Every person take permission from higher authority it's a rule. Can a man buy grocery as per his choice? Men ask his wife what to buy from grocery store.
@@ultimate6243 lol boss is his employer, he works for an organisation/institution. A husband is not a wife's employer, they are partners. Secondly a husband is free to not ask for what to bring in groceries if he knows what items they are running short of or needed in the kitchen.
Someone sud send this to my MIL, because this is exactly how she thinks of her our relation, that her son is godsend and that I'm lucky to get him. She had the audacity to tell me this and to think, i dint have the guts to respond to that!! To say the least he hasnt even offered me a glass of water when im ill in the last 9 years, let alone stand up for me in my defense. And this is who is Godsent!!!
This is the only reason why am scared to death to get married. When I think of the word MIL itself, I get chills through my spine. Are you still adjusting with such kind of human behaviour?
Oh my love❤️ hugs for you. And if someone is afraid of such mils please make yourself stronger and choose a better person as husband before getting married. Who knows how to take sides with right, not always with mother or wife. Donot expect a person will change after marriage, no one does
Aapke culture ke logo ko bhi covid me zyada baahar nahi nikalna chahiye, responsible log hai aapke culture waale. Baaki vaise toh mai ek udti chidhiya hoon, ummeed hai aapke culture ke logo ko bhi freely rehna aata hai.
If you want to do whatever you like, then you should not get married because there are some hidden terms and conditions. Jyada problem h to divorce le lo, husband se ye expect kyon krti ho ki wo badal jaye.
Why don't u understand that respecting each other is the main pillar of marriage??? Both men and women should equally take part in decision, earn and do household stuffs. They should both take responsibility. You parents and teachers always teach u to respect everyone, then why don't u respect and give freedom to ur wives. U don't wear dhotis to work why do u expect them to always wear saris. Jeans and kurtis aren't indecent. U don't ask her permission to continue working then why should she. The whole point is that we are free individuals. And marriage is a constitution which u enter to equally divide ur responsibilities. Hope u understand brother
@@andrea-kg9yx Yes sister....I understood your point. I don't have any problem with women rights. Just saying that agar koi ek cheez aapke partner ko pasand nhi h, to wahi krne ki zid kyon krna
We people have been raised in such a way that we don't even realise how wrong this is. Our mothers didn't get this opportunity. We are fortunate enough that we have it and thus should change such mindset and not raise our children like this. This one poem is enough to understand how wrong and unjust patriarchy is.
R k, this was just an opinion. I wrote something which I actually see. Yeah it's true that women are worshipped in Hinduism but you cannot deny the fact that patriarchy exists. Even if it's a western concept, it does exist and has always been existing. It has just got the name. I haven't read or taken reference from anywhere. This is purely a from a lay person's perspective. Anyways, thanks for your suggestion!
This poem is every bit beautiful. Talks about the evils we have all normalised. I would be lying if I say I have not seen my elders judge an aunt who loves dressing up. It's always bugged me and I always think how she must feel behind closed doors for being ridiculed just because she likes to dress a certain way and another one because she loves putting up her pictures on WhatsApp status updates. Strong message in simple words. Again, there will be people who will ridicule 'feminists' in the comments 'cause they think what was described here is not a problem. I hate how much we have normalised it in our society. This must change. And what I see here is a beautiful step ahead 💜
@Faizan Askari The way you use 'have balls' for courage and 'You're being a pussy' for being scared says it all. There is nothing to wonder about the message of this poem if you're someone who understands that women have had it bad and deserve better. Me and every feminist is using our innate potential of being strong for the fellow women and LGBTQIA whose strength has been taken away owing to continual oppression. You don't like seeing us be strong now, do you? Darwin's theory is survival in nature not in society. Think. Speak.
Absolutely true. I saw how you're putting your views beautifully in the comment section. People looking at these comments will definitely see how the people against this poem are wrong and why they are wrong. Thankyou for doing that. You're a part of a big fight and one day the woman free from patriarchy will thank you unknowingly for contributing to her freedom. Keep going like this don't stop. I will too make people look at the right argument. Feminist hatters will keep on suppressing us with words. We won't let them.
@@Avril67345I saw all your replies too and I respect you for the sass girl. You rock 💜 Thank you so much for saying what you said. Made me feel maybe my efforts here weren't all in vain. Let's keep fighting.
Weird for such an independent women to continue to live in such a bad relationship. Court bhi deti hai madam, women ko divorce mein preference. Uss inequality se koi problem nahi aapko?
I hope you're saying genuinely because patriarchal man atleast have the ability to commit and they made some rule but atleast keep marriage rather than getting divorced like western man.
Since the past 3 months i have been thinking about this, and today looking at this is heartfelt. Thank you for such a nice poem, truly this is the situation my mother faces today.
Work together is the only solution . Both should earn money and both should take care of their households and social life . Balance is everything . Not all men are bad and cruel neither all women are saints and sanskari . We should not generalise things . Poem was great for those who are actually suffering from these inequalities . 🙏
true not all the men are bad and ruling. some really encourage you to be a better person and help u grow as an individual. it's not about gender but about wrong perception. no gender is bad neither men nor women. both should be equally respected and treated well.
@sanatani Indian I agree with you on this . Obviously things like these do happen in our society and we should raise a voice against all of it . I am not denying it at all .
To all the men who are reading this. Marriage is a bond between you and the woman whom you should consider your equal. Respect is mutual Understanding is mutual Don't try and counter the fact that in many families, women indeed are only "allowed" by us(men) in whatever they want to do or be. It's an abuse to try and change or restrict an individual's choices. And there's no denying that abuse happens in both ways (men are being suppressed too) But the scale in which women, especially in our country are being "allowed" to go with their individual choices is huge. And this needs to change. The end goal is EQUALITY, but to attain that, to tip the scales to balance, WE need to boost the side which requires more attention. (WE - both men and women) That's where feminism comes in and I'm proud that I'm a man and I'm a feminist. And to all the people hating on this poem, I don't know what "psuedo-feminist" content you found in this. If you truly strive for equality, stop thinking yourself as the supreme person of the family and start valuing individuals. There's no more leader of the house formula, I am educated and so is she, I earn and support the family and so does she, I do the chores and so does she. Family is unity and to be a unit, there has to equality in both (men and women) of your thoughts and actions.
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Women's empowerment is not a mercy that should be searched outside. We were empowered from birth. It is within every human being. We have to understand that and make sure our daughters know that.
A friend of mine told me that her parents gonna get her marry soon. I asked her that you are just 21 nd you are still studying so then what about the job what about your self dependency. Nd her answer really made me upset she said whatever the other party will decide after the marriage. I said you should take a stand for yourself no. She said i can't do anything हमेशा से यही होता रहा है और मैं कोई अलग नहीं हूँ! 🤷♀🤦♀ Come on girls you need to take a stand for yourself. Otherwise things will never change 🤷♀
I saw this video first on Facebook and omg when I read the comments, I was literally shocked they all were cursing her and trashing this on basis of "culture"
Men be like: I ALLOW her to earn and wear modern clothes. I HELP her in housework and childcare. I didn't FORCE her to leave her parents alone in order to stay with mine. I am such a great husband 🥰
Sorry to say but I disagree with this poem. I ask and sometimes agree with the opinion of my husband because I love him. He also does the same. we often underestimate the hardship of man in the family. we agree to eachothers opinion just to coexist peacefully together and there is nothing wrong in that. If he is not asking you to quit your job, giving you the freedom to sleep late where he is waking up before you, asking your opinions on things, it will be stupid to ask him who is he to allow me to do all these. Answer is he is my husband and he has every right to speak to me about issues 🙏
Lol y'all never ever can be men, who's this invisible boggyman taking your opportunities in the most female empowered era of humanity? learn biology first.
Oh my..she did not leave any aspect of marital life. She covered every nook and corner of it.Kudos to you Lady. But i also believe that change must also come more importantly from ladies who are integral aspect of men as there mother, sister, aunt etc.
It's so surprising how women are brainwashed to think otherwise. I just argued with my mom who didn't agree with this vid. She's been a single mother for 5years and still thinks that women shouldn't be a rebel. She's providing for me and my bro and my father's sister, singlehandedly. It's sad to see someone who can't accept her capabilities and strength.
@@gameboii6338 if you dont understand hindi why are even watching this vid? And no, I'm surrounded by women who are like this. I just have a free thinking mind, thanks to my dad who made sure to let me know that I'm no less than my brother and I deserve everything he does, if I work for it. I just realize that my genitals can't decide what kind of freedom I get or what kind of person I am.
Yar din bana diya sunkeee❤ this poem is just sooo true and i wish that husbands also would feel the same when they would listen to it as we today's women's generation feel but alas they will not because we all are humans and jaha jiska jyada profit hae woh us riwaj ko follow karega he😞
@@corona5334 and also tum speaker ki personal life me mat jao no one gave u that right she is delivering her thoughts thru poem if like it like or dislike bake bakwas apne pass he rakho
@@corona5334 Bro leave about what Twitter face book or any social tweets .... Femisnism is just equality for both mens and women's.. Such small basic thing what to get offended in this
I cannot say anything about the topic of patriarchy and individualism. Bcoz I am boy and this is my mum's phone which i take whenever I want but whwn I take of my father's its for just 2- 3 hours. This video helped me realized that even simply handling a phone for many hours just bcoz I am not scold and handling a phone for a limited bcoz I 'm scolded. I don't know I will still try to use both of my parents' phones in a fixed and 'equal' time. But, still i am not been able to express myself clearly but as a teenage boy I am clear about the thoughts of equalitu, justice, freedom, feminism and individualism!☺️
@@dev73275 sorry u misinterpreted its same as you. But, both are open minded to some extent, but my mom is much stricter and my father has more anger but its occassional, if i do anything. 😅
Her speech resembles my current state of life and war which I am continuously fighting against forceful orders and conditions to live my life. I hope someday I find some way out to live my life on my own terms and conditions.
Both of you can divorce and steal your husband's money... that's what women do these days... love doesn't exist. Marriage ---> Divorce ----> Alimony. REPEAT.
Parents teach their daughters how to 'be 'from day 1. Let's not forget that. How many parents think their son should learn to cook or mend their own clothes??
That's why I m staying single. Not gonna marry anyone. I have rejected all marriage proposals and men get confused why I rejected them. Because they think how can any girl reject me ...I have looks, money, house, car and good job. But they don't understand that this attitude itself is what making me run away from them.
@no hymen no diamond not in my country atleast... our gender ratio is skewed. There are 40million men more than women. Men in my community struggle to get a wife. So even divorced women/widows can marry a single man(never married).
Not all women are like her. You can't live alone forever because when you'll reach 35, 40 you'll realise. There are very good women who doesn't fall in the trap of feminism and disrespecting their husband who subsidise the house, take care of kids and financial welfare of house they'll deserve respect no complain and bla bla like her. I'm scared women like her will destroy traditional family system and promote promiscuousity in the name of feminism.
What I cannot understand, when an Indian woman has a decent job and is equal to her husband, her EGO EXPANDED. AND THUS,her face and heart is devoid of LOVE and COMPASSION for humanity. SORRY JI🙏
Nailed it. Yes - it's two way. (In a society where husbands publically announce that they fear their wives, and everyone, literally everyone, knows it's a joke.)
@@nayab6129most of them wantedly say it despite its opposite my father always complains too but in reality its my mom dealing with physical and mental abuse. Keepy crying cz these Indian Men nvr want to accept truth
For Men who think of marrying a feminist .....bro rest in peace before marraige only because after marraige forget both rest and peace😍😍😍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 Good luck☕☕
Your society talk but my society work, I'm belongs to a village a middle class family, my father is not literate but he is educated I have been seeing him respect and love for my mother ,I have seen him washing clothes with her, I have seen him pressing her forehead when she gets headache, I have seen him cooking for us and still he is cooking sometimes along with his job, about my mother she proud of her being who is she, wearing sindur, bangles is pride of her because she knows the value of that, she is like friend to my father and with us also, when you are literate these stupid thoughts comes to mind, you have to be educated to be a Bharatiya woman
finallyyyyy someone said it!! i did Hurt when someone said... bdo ka mnn rkhne k liy srr pe kpda le lene m kya problem hai ! moreover... i have no problem whatever u wear in front of me..just dressup "properly" for outside. it hurts💔
In that case, I guess, you are completely rejecting the fact that they may be young intellectuals who exercise their freedom of having an opinion, and thus, after properly thinking after what the woman narrator has said, finally decide to oppose her statements. But let us all just pretend that we are making a light hearted comment and had no intent of forming an "apparently" negative opinion about the dislikers. Let us all just pretend that we live in the 21st century wherein Indian men are NOT systematically targeted under the hood of "feminism" by elite women who exercise their opinion and marry them (usually) not for their "heart", or "goodness", but whether they earn a 7 figure salary at the least (talking about arranged marriages and a few love ones too), and then express dis-satisfaction over the men who exercise their opinion and ask for a "virgin wife". Finally, let us all just pretend that the system WAS NOT biased towards men earlier and IS NOT increasingly becoming biased towards women. What we had dreamt of, as independent citizens of this country was a land which enforces Article 15 of the constitution to its fullest. And what we get in return is either high forms of patriarchy in Northern and North-Western parts of India, or "priviledged women" COMPLAINING about their husbands if their husbands ask them to wear bangles and ghunghat in the name of traditions, but will not take a second to re-think about the tens of lakhs of money they spend in their weddings which span for 5-6 days following all traditions and customs (mehendi, sangeet, etc), on the first place. Let us all just accept the fact that India had to correct itself from the horrible patriarchal society that it had (and still has), but WE, collectively, over-corrected ourselves. ---------------------------------------------------------------- I intend to NOT harm anybody's sentiments by this reply of mine. If I have hurt someone's sentiments, I shall apologize unconditionally. Stay safe. Take care brother. :)
No body knows who disliked it...or The one who liked it too can belong to father and grandfather community as well... It's called PERSPECTIVE..😀 Off course they malign men supporting for such cause and they r misinterpreted by media many times.. Kudos to constant male bashing and blaming by them 😎😎..we r proud of it nowadays..
@@ArdhenduChakraborty621 yes absolutely...just like they r judged.on basis of outfit and beauty and other things.. We..r judged by them with 7 digit figure of salary and status and looks and outfits and everything 😂.. The point is there r not many male.poets writing about it and narrating it..😂
I am 18 yrs old boy....... After seeing this type of content..... i have started to believe.... If you love someone and want to see someone happy... You should not marry her.
Um how do you come to that conclusion bro? I would say you should respect your partner and start learning basic human skills like cooking cleaning and other basic things. And refrain from judging your partner. And keep your relationship with your parents separate from the relationship with your partner. Everyone has different positions and values in your life. Don't mix them up. Learn to set boundaries and you are ready to go 🤝
Nice thought bro, I had grown, where I was always taught boys and girls are equal. But after seeing the hipocracy of nowadays governance and media, I am feeling devastated.
But the last line was a hypocrite.......she also disrespected whole men......just like her last line was in type of don't fly together sister women can do everything and let's do it without anyone ............whole poem is such beautiful and the last line she made joke?????????
Really awesome poetry👏👏👏 it covers almost 80 percent of men in today's time. Rest 20 percent are men who really support a woman in an educated way of human behaviour.
@@krawaamforever4226 if women don't support men then I think men too will be inside their homes doing nothing. It's basically totally wrong. Both going to work, earning and supporting each other. Marriage is about equally making decisions. And one doesn't support the other then who the hell comes to support in the marriage? Consider a woman chooses to be a housewife, she supports her husband by doing every house related stuffs. If a woman decides to work, she equally shares financial responsibility (which shouldn't only be imposed on men as the society considers it to be) and help each other in housework
@@fanaticcoder3320 it only happens in cases the wome decides to be a housewife. If women are not restricted and given their freedom for work I don't think she will demand anything but will buy her stuffs herself. And plz don't bring gifting ur significant other into this cause that's a gesture of love which is shown by bothe sides.
@@themusicmaniac17 there is hypocrisy and inequality in patriarchy and we need to make a lot of changes in the marriage thingy (and it will be totally different from the so called Hindu practice that we are used to) I think we should find a way to stay with parents from both the households , because not every parents have savings to live rest of their lives on their own. And there is the work thing, I want both wife and husband to have Jobs but I wonder how to solve the children - work problem, I have noticed my cousin who is left all alone at home after school while his parents are at work. But I have also seen couples working out this problems and being fine. All my 3 uncles and 2 aunties don't live with grandma and grandpa so... My father is the only one taking care of them.
Exactly 👏👏👏kuch logonko dekha he mene ladki kitni sundar rhti he,bohot pade likhi rhti he sab me husband se jyada achi hoti he lekin husband ko devta jaise samman dena hota he..woh kuch bhi kre sehna hota he👎👎abhi bhi he yeh pratha
@@karshnaren1609 then also girl should obey her husband..n his whole family..jo doorke rishtedaar rehte he husband ke woh bhi aake bolenge..sun na padega🙄😬
karshnaren they will start earning equal to men once the parents stop preferring the son’s education over daughter’s, and daughters are also given equal share in property. But despite Supreme Court’s ruling, still there’re hardly any households that have started giving equal share of property to daughters. In 90% of households, they’re given basic education and are married off to a guy with a stable job, along with dowry that again goes to the guy. So all monetary benefits are given to men in our society. How do you expect your sisters to earn equal to you when you’re exploiting most of their rights and resources?
@@PY-vh6in you have said the truth. Parents hardly prefer spending money on girl education. They get them basic degrees like b.sc and m.sc and then get them married to a well settled man.
Thanks for opening my eyes.. I will be more vigilant b4 marriage.. b4 kundali will check the ideology of girl.. because I am trad man and I love that..
Cursing men has become fashion nowadays. Some women find it cool and way to get attention. A women treats other women bad. For e.g Dowry the In laws wherein the mother of a groom is the in most cases is the main perpetrator. Ever traveled in a woman's compartment in Mumbai's local, you will find even if there is old lady standing not a single lady will stand to give her seat.(most of the times) And in men's compartment we stand after sitting to give chance to the next person to seat. Yes bad men exist so does bad women.
@@shoumileeray157 Ahh.. the Feminist use the word Misogynistic as their defense for everything. Many women once married always want their husband to leave their parents and live separately. I guarantee out of 100 99 would never want to live in a joint family. So woman don't cry crocodile tears. Life is a circle you get what you did.
People will do that all the time but it depends on you whether you want to be affected by their words, if you feel that you are right then why be bothered from another individual.
@no hymen no diamond world was not built by men alone. Women built it too. Only thing is women are not given credits, appreciated for what they did and women didn't get recognition. But if you have a fragile ego you are not gonna accept it. Also women weren't allowed to go out, get education and work. They were forced to be housewives. After so many restrictions, women have contributed equally to this society. It's like you cut a bird's wing and then you complain why this bird can't fly. Grow up kiddo.
It's not just the men, it's the women who have allowed themselves to be enslaved. Putting husbands on a pedestal has been a training and women are too shy to shake that conditioning off. They take it as their birth right and the women are more than eager to be doused in servitude. It is also too difficult for a lot of women to fathom and accept that a woman should also be left to her device and allowed every privilege a man enjoys and more. Great poem, Anamika Joshi. Much appreciate. Thank you.
bruh it's not easy to erase centuries of brainwashing. patriarchy isn't just a word. it's a real concept and it has a major impact. women have been forced into roles and are still being oppressed so how dare you say that it's their fault that they are treated this way
True..ye haq diya kisne inko... aur haq deke jatate bhi hai.. applaud😅..very beautiful video..ty for touching the true core of this little me in every woman.
Brilliant!! The content is so real and grounded and the touch of humor would probably make it more palatable to the patriarchs and those pro-patriarcy.
Who the hell then tols you to get married and had a family... If you want no responsibility and so called full independence... You should had left home at age of 0 month and lived your own why your father mother and family have struggled and cared for you and waked the night to get you a better sleep.
@Akanksha bali .... 🙏. Meeting of soul doesn't happen on day one. It takes dacades to develop. Any partner who thinks on the pattern of ( I , Me , Myself) need to remain "Independent" .
This was just so good and apt to what actually happens in every household in India and across!! It’s high time that a woman’s identity is not measured by how well she cooks, how well she cleans the home etc. We all deserve equal love and respect.
BeautifuIly expressed ! I think when this awareness that we get as wives continues to guide us as mothers, we will have such men(as in the poem) as husbands and fathers ! We raise men they are not born with qualities(good/bad/ugly) !
It's better to be single than marrying someone with that mentality
True
Bilkul sahii , every thing went down the drain
True 👍
Guess what! Arranged marriages society is filled with such leftover men
san priya I’m not getting married as well my parents are thankfully supportive
I personally feel this poem should not be reserved only to husbands.
There are so many others too who put the*"conditions applied"* tag to a women.
A father , a brother, and even a mother should think how to judge the female in their family.
_*Equality starts @ home*_.
Exactly Diya
So, she did mention ki 'ye two way street' hai. Also, it is factual to out society, that control is more associated with men, than with women, which is why she said this.
I would like to add a point to the above statement.. woman themselves shouldn't limit themselves either..I have seen many women (frd of mine) who limit themselves or don't have big dreams ..they simply like family life n want to be housewife...again it's a choice but sometimes the other woman who r carrier oriented gets a bad name because of the so called housewife...n I do feel woman r also a enemy of woman not just man/husband/bro/father...just my thought
@@tanvygupta9181 well I won't disagree but there multiple small reasons for that, cos I myself like control as well..at the same time I won't want to harm the person..in any which way...but sometimes you can't cover all bases..
@@CreativeReaper90s ya whatever you are saying is very true, I myself being a women is been put many restrictions from my aunt and women's of village itself, etc. They first need to change their mindset they are the one who is staying or simply willing to stay under there husband. They are the one who treat son and daughter different, seriously speaking my aunt herself when there is some non veg items , or some special or even curry , cooking in their home the more quantity is always surved to her husband or sons. I mean they never demanded it she herself made that rule, which clearly shows not behaving equal as herself.
And yet, we hear sisters say all the time, " Im so lucky my husband lets me wear jeans.... He treats me as his equal".
Nah the question is would you accept a guy who wants to wear a dress ?
Exactly why they need their husband's permission
Yup
Like who is je to allow you
You do you!
@@HS-714 hell yeah.
@@ayushisingh3427 what do you mean?
She has exposed more than 90% of men I've seen around me. I hope both men and women introspect and see how wrong the whole system of patriarchy is.
Our PM is praised for giving up family life for sake of "serving the country." Did anyone consider what his wife's dreams were for her life? This man who could not refuse his parents went ahead and married a woman then abandoned her at her brother's home. What did she get - no divorce, no alimony, no money for her upkeep, no apology, no request to consider remarrying. It is like she is dead, like she does not even exist.
When the topic comes up people say she doesn't mind. But has anyone asked her for her side of the story? When a journalist managed to get to the village primary school where she teaches and asked her for her side of the story, the principal of the school made a few phone calls and then rushed in and led her away. Who do you think it is that does not want her side of the story to be heard? If a woman abandoned a man without divorcing him would she get the same respect that the PM of India is getting?
Could we get more patriarchal or hypocritical than this?
@@statesman01 Exactly. Speaks volumes when the Prime Minister of the country is not questioned for his mistreatment of his wife. I once had a teacher (most kids hated her) who justified in class that she supported PM Modi and BJP because Modi didn't have any family ties and would prioritize his country. Still can't get over the fact that she was a woman, an economics teacher and had such opinions. I hated her even more when she would make annoyed/irritated face if someone took a leave or wants to leave early for menstrual cramps. My friend was legit crying and puked twice due to her excessive period pain and this lady is 'annoyed' by it. Even my male classmates were annoyed by her attitude when they could all clearly see how my friend was suffering.
@R k Dude, yeh paintra/tactic mere pe nahi chalega. Don't turn me into a Muslim because I'm not. Nor are Modi and his wife. And don't change the topic to make it seem that Muslim women have it worse. This is not about Hindus or Muslims. This video and my comment is about the hypocrisy of Indian men exactly like you and Modi. Look at you! You are unable to even accept that a man you consider as a hero has in fact cruelly treated his wife/ardhangini like dirt, has selfishly ruined a human life and has ensured that her voice and her story are never heard because that suits him. Unfortunately, Indian men only seem to see the pain of such a woman when she happens to be his sister or daughter.
Modi's wife is married under the Hindu Marriage Act and not the Shariah law. She cannot marry again because he abandoned her but did not divorce her. The Hindu Marriage Act does not allow remarriage without divorce.
@R k Wohi to baat hai... he and his gang have made sure that we will never get to hear her story. Her brother and his family have without any doubt been threatened so they keep quiet. Arre the principal of her school is there to do chowkidaari of her when she is at work. Who do you think gave him that responsibility?
You ask - why she didn't choose to marry? But he is the supposedly the great man. Why didn't he tell her that you do not deserve to have your dreams broken for sake of min? Let me find another man for you and make sure you are well settled. If he is so great why didn't he take the first step, why didn't he encourage her to educate herself more than just a 10th grade education and a PTC diploma?
And please don't give me all your BS about him "sacrificing for dharma". GRIHASTASHRAM is an essential aspect of every human being's lives according to our dharma. Even great sages of Hinduism had a family.
And if he had such great aims of sacrificing for the country he should have had the courage to say "no" to his parents and leave home before they married him. Abandoning a blameless woman for your own ambitions CAN NEVER be seen as "sacrifice". Ma-baap ko "na" bolne ki himmat nahi lekin ek aurat ki zindagi barbaad karna to simple si baat hai.
I ask you once again - If a woman abandoned a man without divorcing him would she get the same respect that the PM of India is getting? As I said teri behen ya beti ki zindagi is tarah barbaad karke koi desh bhakt hone ka excuse bana leta to tu uske haath pair tod deta.
BTW logic ya rational argument nahi hai isi liye tujhe gali dene ki zaroorat pad rahi hai.
@R k us zamane mein pati ki chhodi hui aurat se koi aadmi shadi karne ko ready nahi hota tha..aur samaj bhi aisi aurat ko thukrata hi tha..samaj ka ye ghatiya roop shayad aapko pata nahi
People always say that, "you are lucky to have a husband who "gives" you so much freedom", and they mean it as a compliment.
Glad my husband always responds saying that he didn't give me any freedom, she was always a free person, it isn't something that he has to give or take.
Woah 👏👏👏👏that's how it should be
Thats how husbands should react ....instead of being happy that they r praised
bcoz 95% Indian women are dependent on husband they are not independent. Indian marriages are male led not female led.
@olivia for ya ✨ Human responsibility like earn you own money?
@@redpilled4872 exactly that's the whole point though isn't it? have you ever thought about why that is? women weren't even aware of their capabilities for literal centuries. we just kept listening to everything that was told to us, believed it when we were told that we were intellectually inferior and that's how our society started providing us these roles of being subservient for the rest of our lives and we accepted them because we truly believed ourselves to be inferior. that is the story of our grandmothers and great grandmothers but somehow, due to the evolution of thought process we started thinking for our self. we started realizing that we are capable of so much more. so don't you worry, that percentage will keep decreasing generation after generation. (also btw its 85% not 95%)
omg what content believe it or not guys this is the story of every household in india
Not only in India, Bangladesh too.
Won't say every household mate but ya for sure a major chunk
Not only india Pakistan tooo.
Let’s not generalize
@@nishchaysrivastava6251 of course but the subtle masculinity is immensely prevalent i don't think we can deny that too
Listening to this, I have a parallel audio at the back of my mind. When I express my independence of going out with friends or something similar, my would be husband says, "haan aur mai tujhe jaane/karne deta hoon na". I feel so enraged. Those are the times I feel I am not made for marriage.
Pl tel those words one English. I don't understand hindi
@@dharshinithilagar4415 he says "yes of course, and I let you go/do things." I mean who is he to "let" me? Its so irritating
Hey, I don't know you, but I think you should talk to him about how it makes you feel before getting married. I've seen relationships break over things like this. He probably doesn't understand the implications of what he's saying and how it affects you.
@@leanna8611 you are right. Maybe he doesn't even know how I feel. Yeah talking would be a good start
Go be a lesbian then. Better for both men and women.
She didn't say anything about having a child as early as possible and the moral responsibility and obligation by default of the mother is expected.
Leave aside men, even women don't understand this basic concept " tum tene wale hote kon ho", we are so programmed to behave a certain way & give an authoritarian position to men in life.
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It's Fundamental Mentality of Human .... Such Case is persistent in terms kids & parents
We've been made the watchdogs of Patriarchy
You know my friend thinks it's okay that a child will always carry his father's surname and not of his mother 😥
@ɹɐɯnʞ ɐʌ!ɥs wow, I think you're from South India, right?
Women educating men why they should avoid getting married with a woke feminist.
Yep
Educating women they should not marry a narrow-minded mysogynist
I felt this is an answer to the mum and sons from Indian Matchmaking..
yes yes yes
Spot on
Indian matchmaking?
Exactly!!
In matrimonial sites usually the woman has all the selection power we as guys can only choose from the options available to us...just so u know...
As a boy, I believe partiarchy in the long run is making life worse for mens too.
Exactly, patriarchy is what conditions men to suppress their emotions "boys don't cry" and all that bs. It is harming men just as much as it harms women
@@akutenshi6946 Also that boys and men don't get harassed or sexually abused. Total nonsense
Yes. Boys don't cry, boys can't be bullied, can't be raped or face domestic violence, men shouldn't do housework, men can't stay home, men can't be gentle or soft spoken and should be rowdy and tough. Boys should not let women dominate etc. They only put stereotypes on men and women and doesn't let them be themselves, but be more like what society expects.
@@DGLeo482 You deserve an Oppa who will treat you with love ,respect and who makes you his equal 🤗🤗🤗 lots of Sarang.
@@angtasp3640 omg I'm not a koreaboo but thanks I guess 😂😂
Aisi aurat sabse rich husband maangti hai
Phir wo maarta hai to poem likhti hai 😂
You don't want to follow marriage customs, wear churi, mangal sutra, sindoor...
It's problem from your side. Don't cry if you get rejected everywhere.
If you have a problem then wear them yourself 😂
@@anupamaMall I ll definitely follow all costoms from my side
@@anupamaMall why would he wear the dresses of women?
What I miss is the mention of men’s wear n his skills n his culture n sanskar r never talked about... men mostly have topic like mard ban control me rakh they don’t carry samman or culture they don’t NEED to wear dhoti to prove they r Indian but women have to wear saree or else Indian sanskar r gone 🤷♀️
Belive me, I was about to comment the same. Today boys even don't prefer dhoti even in their marriages.
@Aman Gupta when u wear something out of interest it is a choice. When u change a serious issue and make a sex joke out of it just to make the problem seem small, it means u r part of the problem
@Aman Gupta no problem when it isnt an interference in a discussion about my rights and my existence. When it is insensitive and said in an insensitive place, i find it patronising rather than humourous.
@Aman Gupta this was a video about this specific topic. I did not come to your birthday party and discuss my rights. I do not start talking about my rights "koi bhi jagah" unless it is relevant
@Aman Gupta newspaper utha ke dekh bhai. Extinct hone par hi dar lagna chahiye kya.
Yes,it is true. This is the double standard of modern husbands,who claims to be liberal and upholder of equality but in reality they are not.
Underneath this lies the concept of power,which exists in every human relationship. So,to call for absolute equality in practice is an utopia. At best, we can have value of equality and mutual respect.
You have used the right word Power. The psychological basis of Power is that when you give someone Power, he starts enjoying the application Power over others. Husbands over wives, Parents over Children, Police over Public etc.
@@rawatmm t
Either you take the power or let her take the power. If your matured enough you will know when you should take power and when not to. If both try to take power at same time on every thing then you won't be together.
Acc. to me its appropriately shown in Dil dhadakne do movie.. the issue of priyanka's character and her husband.
@Gaurav thank god im not like that. I appreciate myself here
I don't understand why it is wrong to have a say what your wife can wear? If a woman has the right to ask her husband to come back home before 8pm, then why can't men have a right over women?
Just like women don't tell men to follow traditions and wear dhoti and kurta pajama, the same way men also don't tell women to wear sarees when they are utterly uncomfortable in some jobs. Why should a women tell her husband to come back early?? They both will come back home when their jobs are done. Both will come at their respective times. I don't understand why somebody will dictate the others regarding their professional life.
Although I agree with most of what see said, but will like to make a quick remark on "skirt or saree" which she mentioned. Females have full right to live however they want, which includes putting their butts and cleavage on display, walk in bikini, return home with male friends at 2:00am after boozing and clubbing, hugging, kissing, male friends and so on. A man has absolutely NO RIGHT to ask his wife to change, BUT HE HAS ALL THE RIGHT TO CHOSE TO LEAVE HER, AND FEMINISTS SHOULD RESPECT the MAN'S CHOICE as gracefully as they respect a females's choice. (Feminist should not add "ifs and buts" here, or give sneaky excuses to shame the man or force him to bottle it up).
Wife returning at night with male friends 😀 hugging, kissing. Courts have made adultery legal for women 😂. It's always men suffer in marriage, love doesn't exist these days.
He has all the right to leave her with Huge Financial loss, Property loss, depression, Jail time, Job loss, Suicidal.
Bhai ye hindu aurte hi harbar kyu itni ultra feminist hoti hai meri hindu friend Muslim lover se shadi Krna chahti hai mere mana krne ke baad. I told her that you'll lost your family and it's not worth it.
Sorry brother, but i think u didn't get what she actually wanted to convey. Saree is considered to be only worn by women whereas other modest clothing which includes jeans, skirts, kurtis, salwaar and others( cause I don't think 95% of the wome here demand this and not what u said showing skin). Just like u won't be comfortable wearing dhotis to work and prefer shirts and jeans. Women to want comfortable clothing as saree isn't suiting for all professions. Glad if u understand.
@mardkodardnhihota
I don't think it's much to do with freedom but Indian kangaroo court & law.
In other countries (incl. west) if your wife commits adultery, you have no obligation to alimony or maintenance.
And they ask why they can't find a man to get married 🤣 means they can't bring anything to the table and simply don't question the incompetence.
No one will marry such feminist who are ending chivalry, destroying the ability to commit and promoting live in culture. All women should respect man☝️
Truth
I have seen this
Let all the mothers facing this bring up their sons in such a way that they don't treat their future wives this way.....
Difficult to do in practice... Children observe the situation their mothers are in and imitate the scenario in their later life... Both parents participation to teach is necessary.
Yes we should raise our daughters too in the same way so that do not treat their husbands like shit...it involves giving him his space too..
Also we.should.teach our daughters too the same way we should teach our sons that misinterpretation of what opposite gender Actually feels is not an opportunity to depict your own so called empowerment narratives..
That's my mother. Respect for her.
@@sachinkapse110 true man. Although women suffer more, some men do too.
@@hukilnubian4400 not all women suffer more..and not some men ...it is sole narrative and reason why we have so biased laws which is cause of many male sucides.
Many men suffer more then many Women...the actual figures won't be out because it can topple many Corrupt practices in the name of gender appeasement...
The only difference is.male.bashing now is a cool.thing for media 😎.
Its the time, not women but society has to adjust. Patriarchy has to adjust. And that can only happen if we teach our sons to wash dishes, to learn cooking, to do dusting. Because change is the only constant we know. Change Thinking.
patriarchy and matriarchy should both vanish. HUMAN-ity should flourish
Sons and daughters chaahiye hi nehin...inko laana hi nehin. Naa to wo apply kie hai naa darwaaje me dastak dete hai.....bas hum apnaa apniyat me aur gurur me equity ke khoj me mast rehenaa hai.... Hai naa....
@@manojsatapathy4122 sahi bola bhai. sab apne apne sthan pe thik hai.ye sb feminism ke naam pa equality chahte hain
@@imatomic1999. it's not 6-9 issue. Its the framework issue. The framework that this poem refers to is of individualism. Strict individualism. No feelings. Its only of self aggrandising ever growing prosperity at the expense of every thong that not mine. Me and me and my snd mine...right. Jay Ho individualism ki. People learn by experience. As of now , individualism is supreme. Let that be....🙏🙏
Oh hero shaadi hui kya teri or middle class hain kya tu ..paisa kitna kamata hai biwi wo raand hain jo waqt aane pe pati ki gaand tod deti hain milta hain yaar aake us bistar pe jo dahej mein laayi apne yaar se thukwaane ko dahej ka naam de tod deti hain usko duniya jo bechara maar chuka 100 baar ek pal jeene ko
Some of the comments here just make this video all the more important and moving. Kudos to the poet.
@abin sebastian people become toxic when their rule is threatened. A society where they will tell their daughters to be shakuntala devi, Indira nooyi and what not. but want the daughter in law to change herself the instant she is married, be a good bahu, cook and pop out babies. That's it. What they wear, eat, walk, where they go has to be pre approved by them.
@@themusicmaniac17 then don't marry and u will do by ur choice.
Yes there are some odd rules but it doesn't mean that u will do as u wish and husband is no one to u
The hypocrisy is girls want their brother to look after their parents but when it comes to in laws. I just want to lead a peaceful life alone even if in the same home ALONE. Bloody Assholes.
First of all, toxic men asking me not to marry or having double standards.
Yes I am married and to an non toxic person. It's not like get married and suffer or not marry at all. There are two sides of every coin but reality states which side is more prevalent. The poet never said anything about not living with parents nor did I. Point is let the woman be a person she is. Abhivyakti ki azadi.
She will easily accept the family the way it is only when she's being accepted for who she is. Everytime why she has to adjust. And no sane female is just expects her brother to take care of her parents. If he does or not, her responsibility never diminishes. If she has right to parents assets then she has responsibility to take care of them. She'll do it irrespective of what brother does. What about the couple who don't have son? Are they not taken care of in old-age??
@abin my comment was for only who does that..it doesn't mean all men or families are like that.
I don't understand why a lady who finds her husband a hypocrite doesn't leave him and still keeps on going along with the same life. If 90% of men are hypocrite then there wives knowing them as hypocrites and still going along with their hypocrite husbands are bigger hypocrites and their staying with their hypocrite husbands cannot make them "sanskari" like if a lady is able to cook it cannot be called her "sanskar" as the poet says.
🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Thank you for pointing out. That's exactly the problem. Women cannot choose who they marry and at the same time, they also don't have much say in a divorce unless, serious abuse is involved. It's STUPID and fucked up here.
@@shreeloves "much say in divorce" ??? you living in 1970 ??? Men losing their entire property and becoming homeless due to divorce. Women literally steals 50% of husband's wealth...
Marriage -----> Divorce ----> Alimony. Repeat that's what women are doing these days. Women have made serious business out of divorce settlements.
It's STUPID & fked up for MEN.
The fact that somebody gives a woman the 'permission' to do something, says a lot about who is in the position of 'authority' and who is in the position of 'submission'. Don't mistake it to be being 'big-hearted' or 'liberal'
Try BDSM. You will understand the importance of submission 😎😂
@@pacifist8891 😂😂👍
@@pacifist8891 and its a GOD level L*
Can a man take one day leave from office without permission of boss?
Every person take permission from higher authority it's a rule.
Can a man buy grocery as per his choice? Men ask his wife what to buy from grocery store.
@@ultimate6243 lol boss is his employer, he works for an organisation/institution. A husband is not a wife's employer, they are partners. Secondly a husband is free to not ask for what to bring in groceries if he knows what items they are running short of or needed in the kitchen.
Don't Marry then. Simple
When parents put pressure of having grandchildren then tell them
Someone sud send this to my MIL, because this is exactly how she thinks of her our relation, that her son is godsend and that I'm lucky to get him. She had the audacity to tell me this and to think, i dint have the guts to respond to that!!
To say the least he hasnt even offered me a glass of water when im ill in the last 9 years, let alone stand up for me in my defense. And this is who is Godsent!!!
This is the only reason why am scared to death to get married. When I think of the word MIL itself, I get chills through my spine. Are you still adjusting with such kind of human behaviour?
Oh my love❤️ hugs for you.
And if someone is afraid of such mils please make yourself stronger and choose a better person as husband before getting married. Who knows how to take sides with right, not always with mother or wife. Donot expect a person will change after marriage, no one does
That’s what she is saying why should he stand for ur defence. U should stand for ur own defence
@@MultiShalz true. Choosing a better partner plus being strong enough for your own defense. Both is important
Lol, how about you send this to your mil yourself... So capable but don't HV the guts to stand for yourself....
Me sitting alone in my room- *Hoots and whistles and claps*
Je baat tanne bahar nahi nikalna chaiye!
Ghar me beth ke jo man chahe wo kar! Mhaare culture ki ideal example hai tu.
Aapke culture ke logo ko bhi covid me zyada baahar nahi nikalna chahiye, responsible log hai aapke culture waale.
Baaki vaise toh mai ek udti chidhiya hoon, ummeed hai aapke culture ke logo ko bhi freely rehna aata hai.
@@swarnimajain4279 Chewtiya ladki
@@pacifist8891 woh chutiya ladki kaise bani?
I am not married but this gave me shivers. I've seen this too much, too many times.
You should not marry ya phir lesbian ban ja.
@@pacifist8891 thank you for your very unnecessary suggestion sir/ma'am. :)
@@shysensei2348 Well I think necessary hai.
@@shysensei2348 Thaare ko suggestion dena.
@@pacifist8891 even she is not straight, she won't give a damn about ur entire family tree 👍
Entire womanhood rejects you ( fake id) ..
If you want to do whatever you like, then you should not get married because there are some hidden terms and conditions. Jyada problem h to divorce le lo, husband se ye expect kyon krti ho ki wo badal jaye.
Why don't u understand that respecting each other is the main pillar of marriage???
Both men and women should equally take part in decision, earn and do household stuffs. They should both take responsibility.
You parents and teachers always teach u to respect everyone, then why don't u respect and give freedom to ur wives.
U don't wear dhotis to work why do u expect them to always wear saris. Jeans and kurtis aren't indecent.
U don't ask her permission to continue working then why should she.
The whole point is that we are free individuals. And marriage is a constitution which u enter to equally divide ur responsibilities.
Hope u understand brother
@@andrea-kg9yx Yes sister....I understood your point. I don't have any problem with women rights. Just saying that agar koi ek cheez aapke partner ko pasand nhi h, to wahi krne ki zid kyon krna
I feel sorry for her husband and son
Why do you feel Sorry? She didn't say anything wrong
I feel sorry for you 🙂
Sorry for about you
Such kinda stupid feminist will not get husband first of fall.
" if there is no love then there is exploitation ,both husband and wife use each other " ....jiddu krishnamurthy
We people have been raised in such a way that we don't even realise how wrong this is. Our mothers didn't get this opportunity. We are fortunate enough that we have it and thus should change such mindset and not raise our children like this. This one poem is enough to understand how wrong and unjust patriarchy is.
R k, this was just an opinion. I wrote something which I actually see. Yeah it's true that women are worshipped in Hinduism but you cannot deny the fact that patriarchy exists. Even if it's a western concept, it does exist and has always been existing. It has just got the name. I haven't read or taken reference from anywhere. This is purely a from a lay person's perspective. Anyways, thanks for your suggestion!
@R k tumhare jese logo ki hi bat ho rhi ha 🥱
This poem is every bit beautiful. Talks about the evils we have all normalised. I would be lying if I say I have not seen my elders judge an aunt who loves dressing up. It's always bugged me and I always think how she must feel behind closed doors for being ridiculed just because she likes to dress a certain way and another one because she loves putting up her pictures on WhatsApp status updates. Strong message in simple words. Again, there will be people who will ridicule 'feminists' in the comments 'cause they think what was described here is not a problem. I hate how much we have normalised it in our society. This must change. And what I see here is a beautiful step ahead 💜
True that
@Faizan Askari The way you use 'have balls' for courage and 'You're being a pussy' for being scared says it all. There is nothing to wonder about the message of this poem if you're someone who understands that women have had it bad and deserve better. Me and every feminist is using our innate potential of being strong for the fellow women and LGBTQIA whose strength has been taken away owing to continual oppression. You don't like seeing us be strong now, do you? Darwin's theory is survival in nature not in society. Think. Speak.
@Faizan Askari Maine toh phirse kuch bola hee nahi aveyin khat rahe ho
Absolutely true. I saw how you're putting your views beautifully in the comment section. People looking at these comments will definitely see how the people against this poem are wrong and why they are wrong. Thankyou for doing that. You're a part of a big fight and one day the woman free from patriarchy will thank you unknowingly for contributing to her freedom. Keep going like this don't stop. I will too make people look at the right argument. Feminist hatters will keep on suppressing us with words. We won't let them.
@@Avril67345I saw all your replies too and I respect you for the sass girl. You rock 💜 Thank you so much for saying what you said. Made me feel maybe my efforts here weren't all in vain. Let's keep fighting.
Weird for such an independent women to continue to live in such a bad relationship. Court bhi deti hai madam, women ko divorce mein preference. Uss inequality se koi problem nahi aapko?
@Amandeep Wahi par baccha to biwi lekar chala jayega fir baap se alag karwa dega... aajkal 50 percent women toxic hai
Patriarchy is Beautiful. Make patriarchy great again.
I hope you're saying genuinely because patriarchal man atleast have the ability to commit and they made some rule but atleast keep marriage rather than getting divorced like western man.
Since the past 3 months i have been thinking about this, and today looking at this is heartfelt. Thank you for such a nice poem, truly this is the situation my mother faces today.
Heard it 3 times and every time it feels so right.. to the point.
Teko problem hai kuch! Docter ko dikha de.
@@pacifist8891 Teri ko kyu pareshani ho rhi.. tu mat sun..
@@themusicmaniac17 Tum bekar me shor mat karo na. Attention seeking feminists 😡
kitna kaali he tu ?
Work together is the only solution . Both should earn money and both should take care of their households and social life . Balance is everything . Not all men are bad and cruel neither all women are saints and sanskari . We should not generalise things . Poem was great for those who are actually suffering from these inequalities . 🙏
On point 👌🙂
true not all the men are bad and ruling. some really encourage you to be a better person and help u grow as an individual. it's not about gender but about wrong perception. no gender is bad neither men nor women. both should be equally respected and treated well.
@sanatani Indian I agree with you on this . Obviously things like these do happen in our society and we should raise a voice against all of it . I am not denying it at all .
Ok fine. We know that and now could you make a poem out of it and recite? 😛
@@foreveryours1930 claymore.
Feel free to walk away from the marriage and refuse alimony. Husband will also be happy.
This is such a negative attitude
Such people can never stay in a relationship. RIP to anyone who marries such a person
Talking about yourself because any girl who marries you will be miserable for life. You deserve to end up alone in life
To all the men who are reading this.
Marriage is a bond between you and the woman whom you should consider your equal.
Respect is mutual
Understanding is mutual
Don't try and counter the fact that in many families, women indeed are only "allowed" by us(men) in whatever they want to do or be. It's an abuse to try and change or restrict an individual's choices. And there's no denying that abuse happens in both ways (men are being suppressed too)
But the scale in which women, especially in our country are being "allowed" to go with their individual choices is huge. And this needs to change.
The end goal is EQUALITY, but to attain that, to tip the scales to balance, WE need to boost the side which requires more attention. (WE - both men and women)
That's where feminism comes in and I'm proud that I'm a man and I'm a feminist.
And to all the people hating on this poem, I don't know what "psuedo-feminist" content you found in this. If you truly strive for equality, stop thinking yourself as the supreme person of the family and start valuing individuals.
There's no more leader of the house formula, I am educated and so is she, I earn and support the family and so does she, I do the chores and so does she. Family is unity and to be a unit, there has to equality in both (men and women) of your thoughts and actions.
Wonderfully written.. very few men in this country and world understand things like you do. Kudos👏
@@rishitabiswas2388 thank you ma'am
Beautiful. Unbelievable that this comes from a man. Kudos!!
@@nivethachandrasekaran5919 thanks ma'am
Thank you so much
After a long time I heard someone speak MY Heart. Thanks for taking our thoughts out there
This is exactly what feminism is... That I believe and follow from the depth of my heart❤️❤️❤️❤️
Then ...this kind of Mentalities are SOOO QUALIFIED To live in FORESTS
Such that .... No animal CLAIM about another ANIMAL
Feminist hipocracy
Feminism
😡 Women don't need Men
😡 Women don't need a Man's Permission
😡 Women don't need a Man's Protection
A Women just need a Man's:
👑 Money
👑 Status
👑 House
👑 Car
👑 Alimony
👑 Maintenance
👑 50% Property
👑 Child Custody
👑 Child Support
👑 Enjoy with Extramarital Boyfriend (It's her Choice)
🤡 Modern Hypocrite Women ☕
Women's empowerment is not a mercy that should be searched outside. We were empowered from birth. It is within every human being. We have to understand that and make sure our daughters know that.
She delivered a strong message with elegance and wit 💯💯✨✨✨
A friend of mine told me that her parents gonna get her marry soon. I asked her that you are just 21 nd you are still studying so then what about the job what about your self dependency. Nd her answer really made me upset she said whatever the other party will decide after the marriage. I said you should take a stand for yourself no. She said i can't do anything हमेशा से यही होता रहा है और मैं कोई अलग नहीं हूँ! 🤷♀🤦♀
Come on girls you need to take a stand for yourself. Otherwise things will never change 🤷♀
or tum besharam mahilaye court mein meintenance ki bheek mangti ho 😂
May god don't give these type of wife to any husband but give the husband she described
Huh!! Seriously
I saw this video first on Facebook and omg when I read the comments, I was literally shocked they all were cursing her and trashing this on basis of "culture"
Men be like: I ALLOW her to earn and wear modern clothes. I HELP her in housework and childcare. I didn't FORCE her to leave her parents alone in order to stay with mine. I am such a great husband 🥰
Must be a stupid husband who allows all this
Almost everyone's mother faces this but none wants to change.
For sure
@peeminist kyuki krishna ji na kha tha Parivartan he jeevan na param satya hai
@@ashanasinha671 krishna ne ye bhi kaha tha woman are of neech birth.
Aj mujhe samj aya kyon.
No not mine
@@americanmink8744krishna never said such things incel. Your mom must be regretting not going for that abortion
Sorry to say but I disagree with this poem. I ask and sometimes agree with the opinion of my husband because I love him. He also does the same. we often underestimate the hardship of man in the family. we agree to eachothers opinion just to coexist peacefully together and there is nothing wrong in that. If he is not asking you to quit your job, giving you the freedom to sleep late where he is waking up before you, asking your opinions on things, it will be stupid to ask him who is he to allow me to do all these. Answer is he is my husband and he has every right to speak to me about issues 🙏
U confusing " mutual" with adjustments favouring one side
It's 2023 and Rant is considered poetry. Women ☕
This poem has more woman empowerment than both the latest unintelligent women centered movies - Shakuntala and Gunjan put together 👍
are you calling shakuntala devi unintelligent?!!
@@Kazuya2002 No she is calling the movie unintelligent.
@@mochimedia6359 ahh she only means the portrayal of those women in the movie.!
@@Kazuya2002 Yes.
@Akanksha bali I didn't say the movie was bad. I was just explaining the comment.
Believe it or not guys but we women are responsible at some point because we give men the opportunity to stop us from reaching greater heights .
Lol y'all never ever can be men, who's this invisible boggyman taking your opportunities in the most female empowered era of humanity? learn biology first.
Wtf...???sare govt. Aur private jobs me quota le liya, IITs aur IIMs me reservation bhi le liya
Ab aur kya chahiye????
Oh my..she did not leave any aspect of marital life. She covered every nook and corner of it.Kudos to you Lady.
But i also believe that change must also come more importantly from ladies who are integral aspect of men as there mother, sister, aunt etc.
It's so surprising how women are brainwashed to think otherwise. I just argued with my mom who didn't agree with this vid. She's been a single mother for 5years and still thinks that women shouldn't be a rebel. She's providing for me and my bro and my father's sister, singlehandedly. It's sad to see someone who can't accept her capabilities and strength.
True..single mother hoke kitna struggle kiye honge..itna taakat he usme fir bhi aise kyu sochte he😔
Maybe you are brainwashed to rebel?
@@gameboii6338 koyi aake hampe hamla kare aur hame sehte rehna he kya sir rebel nhi hona uss time pe?
@@Truthshouldwin English?
@@gameboii6338 if you dont understand hindi why are even watching this vid?
And no, I'm surrounded by women who are like this. I just have a free thinking mind, thanks to my dad who made sure to let me know that I'm no less than my brother and I deserve everything he does, if I work for it.
I just realize that my genitals can't decide what kind of freedom I get or what kind of person I am.
Yar din bana diya sunkeee❤ this poem is just sooo true and i wish that husbands also would feel the same when they would listen to it as we today's women's generation feel but alas they will not because we all are humans and jaha jiska jyada profit hae woh us riwaj ko follow karega he😞
@@corona5334 of course women's have to be independent financially so that the can use/spend the money wisely wherever they want.
@@corona5334 I think u have been into some tough time so please don't generalize and go and educate yourself first
@@corona5334 and also tum speaker ki personal life me mat jao no one gave u that right she is delivering her thoughts thru poem if like it like or dislike bake bakwas apne pass he rakho
@@corona5334 first of all educate yourself on what feminism is n then will have a conversation.. Buzz offf
@@corona5334 Bro leave about what Twitter face book or any social tweets .... Femisnism is just equality for both mens and women's.. Such small basic thing what to get offended in this
I cannot say anything about the topic of patriarchy and individualism. Bcoz I am boy and this is my mum's phone which i take whenever I want but whwn I take of my father's its for just 2- 3 hours. This video helped me realized that even simply handling a phone for many hours just bcoz I am not scold and handling a phone for a limited bcoz I 'm scolded. I don't know I will still try to use both of my parents' phones in a fixed and 'equal' time. But, still i am not been able to express myself clearly but as a teenage boy I am clear about the thoughts of equalitu, justice, freedom, feminism and individualism!☺️
@@dev73275 sorry u misinterpreted its same as you. But, both are open minded to some extent, but my mom is much stricter and my father has more anger but its occassional, if i do anything. 😅
I totally agree
My mother is punjabi wears only suits , not sarees
Even tho my father is South Indian I’m thankful my father is so supportive
It is to work on fileds with Suit than saree
Fact about most of the husbands now a days
Dislikes from husbands who are these hypocrites
Her speech resembles my current state of life and war which I am continuously fighting against forceful orders and conditions to live my life. I hope someday I find some way out to live my life on my own terms and conditions.
I'm in the same position...so don't worry u will be on your own one day...
Both of you can divorce and steal your husband's money... that's what women do these days... love doesn't exist.
Marriage ---> Divorce ----> Alimony. REPEAT.
Parents teach their daughters how to 'be 'from day 1. Let's not forget that. How many parents think their son should learn to cook or mend their own clothes??
Love this poem.... love her expression
That's why I m staying single. Not gonna marry anyone. I have rejected all marriage proposals and men get confused why I rejected them. Because they think how can any girl reject me ...I have looks, money, house, car and good job. But they don't understand that this attitude itself is what making me run away from them.
@no hymen no diamond not in my country atleast... our gender ratio is skewed. There are 40million men more than women. Men in my community struggle to get a wife. So even divorced women/widows can marry a single man(never married).
Not all women are like her. You can't live alone forever because when you'll reach 35, 40 you'll realise. There are very good women who doesn't fall in the trap of feminism and disrespecting their husband who subsidise the house, take care of kids and financial welfare of house they'll deserve respect no complain and bla bla like her. I'm scared women like her will destroy traditional family system and promote promiscuousity in the name of feminism.
@@zia4550 what they get by doing this? Just waste their whole life for others
What I cannot understand, when an Indian woman has a decent job and is equal to her husband, her EGO EXPANDED. AND THUS,her face and heart is devoid of LOVE and COMPASSION for humanity. SORRY JI🙏
Pls don't generalize based on ur personal experiences
Nailed it. Yes - it's two way.
(In a society where husbands publically announce that they fear their wives, and everyone, literally everyone, knows it's a joke.)
Men who express fear because of their wives are joking?
@@nayab6129most of them wantedly say it despite its opposite my father always complains too but in reality its my mom dealing with physical and mental abuse. Keepy crying cz these Indian Men nvr want to accept truth
For Men who think of marrying a feminist .....bro rest in peace before marraige only because after marraige forget both rest and peace😍😍😍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Good luck☕☕
Your society talk but my society work, I'm belongs to a village a middle class family, my father is not literate but he is educated I have been seeing him respect and love for my mother ,I have seen him washing clothes with her, I have seen him pressing her forehead when she gets headache, I have seen him cooking for us and still he is cooking sometimes along with his job, about my mother she proud of her being who is she, wearing sindur, bangles is pride of her because she knows the value of that, she is like friend to my father and with us also, when you are literate these stupid thoughts comes to mind, you have to be educated to be a Bharatiya woman
Allow her to breathe..so she holds you high..💐
finallyyyyy someone said it!! i did Hurt when someone said... bdo ka mnn rkhne k liy srr pe kpda le lene m kya problem hai ! moreover... i have no problem whatever u wear in front of me..just dressup "properly" for outside. it hurts💔
Every woman is a feminist, until you hand them the bills or the prenuptial agreement.
Bibi ko job quit karne bologe to wo pay kaha se karegi?
The ones who disliked it, wud be the fathers' or grandfathers' community...
There may be some women too
@@poojasathe2502 true...
In that case, I guess, you are completely rejecting the fact that they may be young intellectuals who exercise their freedom of having an opinion, and thus, after properly thinking after what the woman narrator has said, finally decide to oppose her statements.
But let us all just pretend that we are making a light hearted comment and had no intent of forming an "apparently" negative opinion about the dislikers.
Let us all just pretend that we live in the 21st century wherein Indian men are NOT systematically targeted under the hood of "feminism" by elite women who exercise their opinion and marry them (usually) not for their "heart", or "goodness", but whether they earn a 7 figure salary at the least (talking about arranged marriages and a few love ones too), and then express dis-satisfaction over the men who exercise their opinion and ask for a "virgin wife".
Finally, let us all just pretend that the system WAS NOT biased towards men earlier and IS NOT increasingly becoming biased towards women. What we had dreamt of, as independent citizens of this country was a land which enforces Article 15 of the constitution to its fullest. And what we get in return is either high forms of patriarchy in Northern and North-Western parts of India, or "priviledged women" COMPLAINING about their husbands if their husbands ask them to wear bangles and ghunghat in the name of traditions, but will not take a second to re-think about the tens of lakhs of money they spend in their weddings which span for 5-6 days following all traditions and customs (mehendi, sangeet, etc), on the first place.
Let us all just accept the fact that India had to correct itself from the horrible patriarchal society that it had (and still has), but WE, collectively, over-corrected ourselves.
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I intend to NOT harm anybody's sentiments by this reply of mine. If I have hurt someone's sentiments, I shall apologize unconditionally.
Stay safe. Take care brother. :)
No body knows who disliked it...or
The one who liked it too can belong to father and grandfather community as well...
It's called PERSPECTIVE..😀
Off course they malign men supporting for such cause and they r misinterpreted by media many times..
Kudos to constant male bashing and blaming by them 😎😎..we r proud of it nowadays..
@@ArdhenduChakraborty621 yes absolutely...just like they r judged.on basis of outfit and beauty and other things..
We..r judged by them with 7 digit figure of salary and status and looks and outfits and everything 😂..
The point is there r not many male.poets writing about it and narrating it..😂
The Untold Story of modern wife (woman & girl )💯💯
Cultures should not be forced, they are ought to be accepted by consent of the person.
Feminism is now about Ego not Equality.
"Tum toh vo avtaar ho jo saula somvaar k baad bhi koi nhi pa skta"🤣🤣🤣
I am 18 yrs old boy....... After seeing this type of content..... i have started to believe.... If you love someone and want to see someone happy... You should not marry her.
Um how do you come to that conclusion bro?
I would say you should respect your partner and start learning basic human skills like cooking cleaning and other basic things. And refrain from judging your partner. And keep your relationship with your parents separate from the relationship with your partner. Everyone has different positions and values in your life. Don't mix them up. Learn to set boundaries and you are ready to go 🤝
Nice thought bro, I had grown, where I was always taught boys and girls are equal. But after seeing the hipocracy of nowadays governance and media, I am feeling devastated.
But the last line was a hypocrite.......she also disrespected whole men......just like her last line was in type of don't fly together sister women can do everything and let's do it without anyone ............whole poem is such beautiful and the last line she made joke?????????
So beautiful and enlightening poem.
Really awesome poetry👏👏👏 it covers almost 80 percent of men in today's time. Rest 20 percent are men who really support a woman in an educated way of human behaviour.
And how many women support and respect men? Maybe 0.0001% lol
@@krawaamforever4226 404 not found. Women are always give this, give that, also that, that too .... as long as you can give you are good.
@@krawaamforever4226 if women don't support men then I think men too will be inside their homes doing nothing. It's basically totally wrong. Both going to work, earning and supporting each other. Marriage is about equally making decisions. And one doesn't support the other then who the hell comes to support in the marriage?
Consider a woman chooses to be a housewife, she supports her husband by doing every house related stuffs.
If a woman decides to work, she equally shares financial responsibility (which shouldn't only be imposed on men as the society considers it to be) and help each other in housework
@@fanaticcoder3320 it only happens in cases the wome decides to be a housewife. If women are not restricted and given their freedom for work I don't think she will demand anything but will buy her stuffs herself.
And plz don't bring gifting ur significant other into this cause that's a gesture of love which is shown by bothe sides.
Thank you❤️...
Hats off mam.....ek truth ko aapney kitney achey se words Mai piroya hai.....
All those "kilsi hui ruh" advising women to not to marry if you want live like human.
It's better you guys remain Bachelor. Problem solved.
@Wolfie 07 Lagta hai usi group se ho...
@Wolfie 07 and she is married.
@@themusicmaniac17 there is hypocrisy and inequality in patriarchy and we need to make a lot of changes in the marriage thingy (and it will be totally different from the so called Hindu practice that we are used to)
I think we should find a way to stay with parents from both the households , because not every parents have savings to live rest of their lives on their own.
And there is the work thing, I want both wife and husband to have Jobs but I wonder how to solve the children - work problem, I have noticed my cousin who is left all alone at home after school while his parents are at work. But I have also seen couples working out this problems and being fine. All my 3 uncles and 2 aunties don't live with grandma and grandpa so... My father is the only one taking care of them.
@Wolfie 07 💩
@Wolfie 07 Yes. Demanding equal treatment is attitude.
Exactly 👏👏👏kuch logonko dekha he mene ladki kitni sundar rhti he,bohot pade likhi rhti he sab me husband se jyada achi hoti he lekin husband ko devta jaise samman dena hota he..woh kuch bhi kre sehna hota he👎👎abhi bhi he yeh pratha
It's reason is that girl is less/no earning person,
Don't marry a higher earning man, marry a Equal.
@@karshnaren1609 then also girl should obey her husband..n his whole family..jo doorke rishtedaar rehte he husband ke woh bhi aake bolenge..sun na padega🙄😬
karshnaren they will start earning equal to men once the parents stop preferring the son’s education over daughter’s, and daughters are also given equal share in property. But despite Supreme Court’s ruling, still there’re hardly any households that have started giving equal share of property to daughters. In 90% of households, they’re given basic education and are married off to a guy with a stable job, along with dowry that again goes to the guy. So all monetary benefits are given to men in our society. How do you expect your sisters to earn equal to you when you’re exploiting most of their rights and resources?
@@PY-vh6in you have said the truth. Parents hardly prefer spending money on girl education. They get them basic degrees like b.sc and m.sc and then get them married to a well settled man.
Anonymous A Exactly. Still many ‘men’ have the audacity to talk crap about a woman’s earnings! Shameful creatures!
Thanks for opening my eyes.. I will be more vigilant b4 marriage.. b4 kundali will check the ideology of girl.. because I am trad man and I love that..
Cursing men has become fashion nowadays. Some women find it cool and way to get attention. A women treats other women bad. For e.g Dowry the In laws wherein the mother of a groom is the in most cases is the main perpetrator. Ever traveled in a woman's compartment in Mumbai's local, you will find even if there is old lady standing not a single lady will stand to give her seat.(most of the times) And in men's compartment we stand after sitting to give chance to the next person to seat. Yes bad men exist so does bad women.
agreed that bad women exist too but the point of the video was to point out misogynistic husbands. read the room and get the context bruh
@@shoumileeray157 Ahh.. the Feminist use the word Misogynistic as their defense for everything. Many women once married always want their husband to leave their parents and live separately. I guarantee out of 100 99 would never want to live in a joint family. So woman don't cry crocodile tears. Life is a circle you get what you did.
People will do that all the time but it depends on you whether you want to be affected by their words, if you feel that you are right then why be bothered from another individual.
@no hymen no diamond world was not built by men alone. Women built it too. Only thing is women are not given credits, appreciated for what they did and women didn't get recognition. But if you have a fragile ego you are not gonna accept it. Also women weren't allowed to go out, get education and work. They were forced to be housewives. After so many restrictions, women have contributed equally to this society. It's like you cut a bird's wing and then you complain why this bird can't fly. Grow up kiddo.
Totally agree bro, nowadays it's become fashion to curse men for even stupid things. 😔😔😔😔
It's not just the men, it's the women who have allowed themselves to be enslaved. Putting husbands on a pedestal has been a training and women are too shy to shake that conditioning off. They take it as their birth right and the women are more than eager to be doused in servitude. It is also too difficult for a lot of women to fathom and accept that a woman should also be left to her device and allowed every privilege a man enjoys and more. Great poem, Anamika Joshi. Much appreciate. Thank you.
bruh it's not easy to erase centuries of brainwashing. patriarchy isn't just a word. it's a real concept and it has a major impact. women have been forced into roles and are still being oppressed so how dare you say that it's their fault that they are treated this way
Then dont get married get a job first work hard for your self ,make money , buy house and then you can become independendent women .
It's not that simple when your parents force u
No words, just tears shed of my eyes 😢
True..ye haq diya kisne inko... aur haq deke jatate bhi hai.. applaud😅..very beautiful video..ty for touching the true core of this little me in every woman.
Lwda ka feminist 😡
Brilliant!! The content is so real and grounded and the touch of humor would probably make it more palatable to the patriarchs and those pro-patriarcy.
I thought it was Parvathy Thiruvoth from thumbnail. !!
Ya bro seriously
Who the hell then tols you to get married and had a family... If you want no responsibility and so called full independence... You should had left home at age of 0 month and lived your own why your father mother and family have struggled and cared for you and waked the night to get you a better sleep.
The same thing this women will say a day to her father and mother .. mujhe janam dene wale tum hote kaun ho ?
@@lovehard8420 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just wow😍😍More power to you girl. Loved it😘
Incredible
Very independent lady. Doesn't need a husband. Should not get married. Rise high in career and remain a spinster.👍
@Akanksha bali .... 🙏.
Meeting of soul doesn't happen on day one. It takes dacades to develop. Any partner who thinks on the pattern of ( I , Me , Myself) need to remain "Independent" .
This was just so good and apt to what actually happens in every household in India and across!! It’s high time that a woman’s identity is not measured by how well she cooks, how well she cleans the home etc. We all deserve equal love and respect.
BeautifuIly expressed ! I think when this awareness that we get as wives continues to guide us as mothers, we will have such men(as in the poem) as husbands and fathers ! We raise men they are not born with qualities(good/bad/ugly) !