oh yes i too will take a pleasurable experience/hobbie and make it into something that must be completed to perfection to the point that it becomes a chore. Music for me is my escapism i love 80s to sit close my eyes is amazing but even that i have to be in the right chair right room right time got to love eating disorder minds!!
I'm fortunate in that I have great exemplars in my mom and boyfriend when it comes to creative arts: they start at any random point and go forth piece-meal, no schedules set and flexible with time dedication (sorry about the english there).. Now, putting that into practice for myself often feels impossible, but I still force myself to act "as if" I'm someone else and do the opposite of what my insecure gut tells me. So what if the end result is crap. I tell myself it's all in line with the trajectory of "Creating" and that in itself is invaluable.
I love the concept of creating in itself being more than enough! So simple in its truthfulness, and yet such a polar opposite to what has historically been held in my mind as I'm (metaphorically) muscling my way through any given project or amount of time that I've told myself I have to do xyz "fun" activity.
What I do is make lists of the things I want more of in my life and just have the vague goal/intention to incorporate more of them and remind myself when I'm bored/aimless of them. (I relate a lot btw!!)
YES! It's so easy to fall down random time waster rabbit holes when bored, so I can totally see how having a list on hand with suggestions would be super helpful. Thank you for the great tip ☺️
oh man I DEFINITELY do that with things I enjoy. I have yet to figure out a way through that tendency of mine, so I'm just as much in the thick of it as you are. 💀
oh yes i too will take a pleasurable experience/hobbie and make it into something that must be completed to perfection to the point that it becomes a chore. Music for me is my escapism i love 80s to sit close my eyes is amazing but even that i have to be in the right chair right room right time got to love eating disorder minds!!
Isn't it frustrating and depressing, realizing that yet again something "fun" has been warped into a nonpaying job? 😆😬
@@rachaelerinrecovers6099 absolutely even small things become a rule a task a job all to be completed to perfection! x
I'm fortunate in that I have great exemplars in my mom and boyfriend when it comes to creative arts: they start at any random point and go forth piece-meal, no schedules set and flexible with time dedication (sorry about the english there).. Now, putting that into practice for myself often feels impossible, but I still force myself to act "as if" I'm someone else and do the opposite of what my insecure gut tells me. So what if the end result is crap. I tell myself it's all in line with the trajectory of "Creating" and that in itself is invaluable.
I love the concept of creating in itself being more than enough! So simple in its truthfulness, and yet such a polar opposite to what has historically been held in my mind as I'm (metaphorically) muscling my way through any given project or amount of time that I've told myself I have to do xyz "fun" activity.
What I do is make lists of the things I want more of in my life and just have the vague goal/intention to incorporate more of them and remind myself when I'm bored/aimless of them. (I relate a lot btw!!)
YES! It's so easy to fall down random time waster rabbit holes when bored, so I can totally see how having a list on hand with suggestions would be super helpful. Thank you for the great tip ☺️
oh man I DEFINITELY do that with things I enjoy. I have yet to figure out a way through that tendency of mine, so I'm just as much in the thick of it as you are. 💀
They say that identifying it is the first step, so at least we've started the journey 😉😂
Oh my gosh, a fellow over-thinker! 😅
You're in good company!!