Teenagers are treated like little kids but are told to act like adults. Why are we treated like we don't have problems but are expected to act grown up and older
I was so anxious I couldn't distinguish my thoughts from reality and when I told my dad he was so surprised, almost like excited and then laughed in the most insulting way I have ever heard him and yelled "OH YOU'RE JUST MAKING EXCUSES NOW ARE YOU SERIOUS?? TELL ME ABOUT THAT AGAIN WHEN YOU'RE 40" seriously, after that he wonders why I don't open up to him.
My friend's mother a couple days ago ranted horribly about my friend not taking initiative to do stuff around the house being selfish and what not whilst she struggled because her mother recently died. My friend was so hurt because she was grieving herself about the loss of her nan and seeing that on Facebook with lots of parents and adults attacking her saying "this generation is lazy" and "useless at helping round the house." made her brake down crying Infront of a stranger during her walk. Adults expect us to help them but also tell us we're not allowed to do half the things they complain that they do for us. In reality, my friend is absolutely willing to help but it's a simple matter of asking. I absolutely don't believe she deserved being told off on Facebook when she literally had the most difficult job, teaching her 4 year old sister and her secondary school sister during a pandemic
I cannot possibly relate to this more, this is literally my life. My parents have literally stated that they treat me like a child yet want me to act like an adult. I hate it. So much.
As a teen, I strongly disagree. Behave like adults? Sure. But if you understand literally anything that's happening around you, you don't get the typical kid treatment. Unless you lived in some ____ed community.
Beacuse they are transitioning into adulthood but are still children. Meaning they have to start taking responsibility for themselves but also not over step boundries.
my parents: ur problems don’t matter. you are too young to be feeling like this. i bet you just want attention. i can’t say anything cause it will just end up in them yelling at me and me running to my brothers for comfort but they just start laughing.
it's sad that most parents assume that children can't have mental health problems, can't be sad, can't have feelings.. they expect that their children are perfectly fine because of their life. because oh trust me, your kids just don't tell you.
@@theartsyspace6299 good luck and much loveee. Be safe okiee. Do your research online and I truly recommend you to do your best and find even a mental health discord server that I could share here. Believe me there are solutions but also I've to let you know that no matter how hard you try there will be sockets that we can't fulfill because we are kids and our society and families aren't enough educated to be able to have the needed care. But be honest again with your mommy. Don't give up on that and also don't give up on yourself 😊🤗. Your mommy probably is thinking that you are kidding because hearing that this is what my kids situation is at the moment is harmful to me (herself) but say that you are not kidding and that I'm honest about it mom.
I can confirm. I'm 19 yo and just a month ago I had the courage to tell my grandma (I live with my grandparents) about all my internal struggles since I was 7-8 years, about my low self-steem and that I don't feel drawing as satisfactory as before. She didn't wanted to believe me and I think she still doesn't, even if she herself went to a psicologyst, like if she's the only one that can have mental issues. Fortunately I'm going to one monthly rn. Still, that moment really broke me, I feel I can't trust her anymore.
i read this somewhere a long time ago: _"teenagers are the most misunderstood people on the planet. they're expected to act like adults, but are treated like kids."_
I felt that. my physics teacher said " it's crazy, you guys are going to be out in the real world doing taxes and stuff in less then a year, but you still have to ask to go to the bathroom, and sometimes the teachers say you can't. "
Dantdt33-0 You don’t know what our minds put us through on a daily basis. Some of us can’t get out of bed. Some of us feel neglected and put down. Some of us have debated suicide like me. You don’t know until you go through it as a teen yourself. Maybe not everyone’s life is all sunshine and rainbows like how maybe yours is. I’m not saying you haven’t gone through tough times, but some of us are really struggling. People like you telling us “It’s just a phase” makes us afraid to speak up. It only make it worse. You think we don’t know there are bigger issues? Of course we know. We have people like you telling us that on a daily basis. It’s not helping bring us up. I’m truly sorry you feel that way. Maybe you should talk a walk in one of our shoes before you make a comment like this.
Dantdt33-0 mm yeah ok so next time I’m having a panic attack or major anxiety that puts so much pressure on myself I can’t breath, I’ll remember. I’m just an “edgy teenager”. I’ll remember why I never tell anyone.
@@dantdt4693 just bcs you THINK that some of their problems isn't THAT BIG doesn't mean it's any better... big or not it doesn't mean that it can't hurt people's feelings, you're not them so you can't understand them
@@mrsauce7972 your are reading my mind right now. It makes me feel a lot better when I know that I’m not the only one who deals with this stuff. One of my “close friends” gets so mad when I say something like “your a picky eater” and then calls me ugly and makes fun of my body shape and gives me the you do it too and it’s just a joke don't be a snowflake.
@@Brooklynnbrooklynnbrooklynn I feel you ☠️. I have a friend who will say no offense towards you so often whenever insulting you and expects you to be fine with anything bad they do to you. Then gets super upset whenever you say anything bad even in a joking way towards them.
@@maiatongue9075 wanna talk about it? Have a great day! God Bless! Stay strong, stay safe and take care of yourselves! Wishing everyone the best! Jesus loves you! May the Holy Spirit guide you! 😇 💗🕊 Cheers to a better year buddy! 💞🥂🍻
Dwight K. Schrute when i told my mom that i don't want to live anymore expecting help, she said it was normal for a teen to exaggerate with their feelings... so yeah i feel that
Being a teenager sucks, it’s almost like a survival game. Most of us leave our teenage years with scars, but we end up surviving and moving on. Some aren’t as lucky. The thing is, teenagers are extremely chaotic. If a teen doesn’t find a way to have peace once in a while, they’ll just go mad.
I don't understand how parents don't learn from the mistakes of their own parents. It's like they just continue this legacy of bitterness and frustration
Its that they're raised that way. They pick it up from their parents, and because its what they grew up in, they're almost the same. The common joke of "I'm becoming my parents" seen on TV stem from this. People's childhood affects them so much.
my bio mother had an abusive relationship w/her dad & she's overcorrected by being smothering & homeschooling her kids- some are just monsters some make mistakes some try to be good but end up malicious because they refuse to change when they are failing
parents understand that once they were children they did mistakes and think I won't let my children do like that but do they ever understood that there parents must have done a mistake in understanding them but they don't
I think the biggest thing parents don't consider is that we aren't in their generation.. they keep on thinking that the times right now are still the same. Dear parents, Our problems are different from yours.Thats all I can say..
Yup super true😢😢😢 That's why when I become a parent I promised myself I will never tell anything harsh/bad to my kid because I know how much it hurts but don't get me wrong I love my mom she is the best but she when shes angry she says harsh things to me and I always made it a big deal cause I am a very emotional and sensitive person
Keerthi Sankaramanchi I didn’t know people who were apart of videos like this actually watched them. Thank you for having the courage. I’m a teen too and could relate to a lot of these. I have my own secret
My mom tells me all the time, she wished she never had me and that she could live a better life without me... But that doesn't mean she doesn't love me... It's just, sometimes parents lose control because it's so hard to raise a child and say things offensive... We all do when we're mad... She's trying so hard to be a perfect mother... So please, if any of your parents tell you this, don't take it by heart, they love you and really really want you, no matter how serious they look... Try to see it from her pov, and you'll understand
My darkest secret: I was texting with my best friend and told her she should go to bed since it was in the middle of the night. Two days after that My entire school got a paper saying that my best friend has passed away. She died in her sleep that night because of cancer in her brain that nobody knew about. I know it's not my fault but I can't help but feel guilty about it. It haunts me every night.
It's not you fault! Maybe you think that, but what would happen if you didn't tell that? The same, so it's not your fault! In this situation I don't think it's anyone fault.
It's definitely not your fault. Nobody can predict death in this world. I can understand what you are feeling, maybe I would have felt the same if it would have happened with me. But, you know, it's okay! Pray for her soul and forgive yourself.
She is with you, maybe hugging you or leaning in your shoulders, just that you can't feel it because it's her soul. She probably wants to thank you for all the time you spent with her, and that's what friendship is about. Even when we departure from this body, the friendship never ends. The soul of our loved ones stay with us.
People telling me: "Your teenage years are the best of your life" Scares the hell outta me, cuz how bad is life gonna get? Edit: We all need an alien invasion to get tf outta here (or free therapy)
You can have a bad childhood or teenage years but every day is a new chance. Your life can get better. Everyone said the same thing to me too, i was miserable in the past. But now im so much better and happy. Dont listen them and live your life.
Don't worry, it's not true at all. These years have been hard for me so it scares me too, but then I think...what about tomorrow? Teenage years are hard, and people constantly tell me that it's gonna be worse, but why thinking in years? Good things can happen even tomorrow morning, adults should teach us to appreciate them even if they aren't life-changing
It's not the best of your life, but you can do everything without worrying about job, kids, taxes, debts and things like that. You just have to study and be happy with your friends. When you become an adult everything changes, you will have new challenges and you will enjoy different things. It's not that it becomes worse. So for now don't think about what your life will be when you will be an adult, just worry about being happy now
@@seakay5697 ya and sometimes u say u don't like something like 4 years ago and then ur mind changes after those years and when ur eating tht thing, somebody's going to come and be like “Why r u eating that?U said u don't like it” and when i say i do now they say “No,u don't” like it's OUR MIND and I'm pretty sure u haven't insert a chip in my mind that u can hear my thoughts right?
“You’re In high school, you have nothing to worry about.” - My Mother. It’s such a cliché to say your parents don’t understand as a teenager, but they just don’t.
I’m not even a teenager but my sister goes through this a lot. And some of the time ur parents are putting pressure on YOU to be perfect. It’s like if you don’t meet their standards you will be failure. And then they say u are worried about nothing. btw I am 1O
A lots of parents say that, forgetting how hard theor teenage years must've been for them... But we teenagers must stick together.. (thank God for internet, this whole comment section is an example of how teenagers can help other people like them and give them advice) I know things aren't always easy but you'll get through it! ❤️
Baby Yoshi you seem like an incredibly intelligent (both academically and emotionally) 10 year old, and I wish you the best of luck in your future studies. I bet you’ll ace it.
Telling someone "why are you depressed? Look at how great your life is" is the same as saying "why do you have asthma? Look at all this air" hello everyone, I've seen so many comments that says I took this from the internet and yes, I took this quote from the internet. i just wanted to put this here because I've seen a lot of people disrespecting people with depression and saying "just be happy there's a lot of things that can make you happy" but no it's not that easy. i used to have depression and sh-ing myself a lot but I'm really glad to say that I'm doing fine right now. and if someone is going through hard times right now just a reminder that i love you so much, you're strong, you got this! you are worth living, you exist for a reason, i love you. for the people who said " don't compare asthma with depression, it's a different thing" it is a different thing but it represents depression in "someone who doesn't have depression's" eye. it is not a choice to be depressed, no one wants to be depressed. i am truly so sorry if this seems rude in any way but i don't want people to think that I'm disrespecting people with asthma by comparing it with depression. I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense. thank you. :)
At least they asked. Some ppl in my life get away from me when they see me upset or sad, and ofc that's after they tell me some really hurting things like: "Why did you change? This is not you".. I think it's all the same thing. And that's why lately I tend to be alone..
Lily Casanova true, they think what they’re doing is always right and never wrong. And I hate that. Always forcing me into situations I don’t want to be in. I can thank my older brother though. He’s 21 and even though he is an adult he can understand me. And he made a bunch of appointments for me. He did things that adults would do if they just understood what I was going through. They think teenagers like me have no problems in this world but we do we got to school everyday and meet people, we get bullied, we get hurt. we’re still growing, being a teenager is where we start to understand people and society. Life is not all carefree for us. I can definitely say that adults sometimes have it harder but that doesn’t mean that we don’t.
my parents tell me they hate me --- and all because i lash out sometimes and am moody :( but im a goody-two shoes and am really nice person if only they saw and understood. They think im worse than everyone else but i don't have SM and am actually scared of them etc
"My friends all think that I'm happy 24/7 yet I am miserable every minute of every day. I feel like an outsider. I always make sure they are ok, yet no one asks me if I am." I really felt that.
I really feel bad for people who feel trapped with their own feelings. As an adult, getting therapy costs money and theres stigma. But as a student in Canada, (at least where i am) i can say that going to a counseler is free and you can do it very secretly. But it also is hard to know that people still wouldnt want to because of anxiety and that "just going" isn't as easy as it sounds. I feel for these people.
Quick tip; If someone says they are going to commit suicide, have depression, etc. IMMEDIATELY believe them. It doesn't matter if they're known for lying, or if they have never shown any signs. The consequence of you being wrong about them faking is MUCH worse than you being wrong about them telling the truth.
Hmmm, I see so many people making jokes about depression and suicide that I don't know what to believe anymore. I don't joke around with that cuz it's serious. I myself have it but I don't feel like I can trust any human bc everybody judges everybody all the time. So I tell my guinea pigs instead bc they can't tell humans and they don't judge me. And whenever I feel worthless then when I come home and see them, I realize that "no, they need me. They need me to feed them". So yeah. It's really hard to see if ppl are actually struggling with depression or not bc ppl often joke about it, which is really frustrating. And my bullies joke about it a lot and honestly - I will sound like a terrible person for this - But I don't care if they're serious or not. They have the whole school's students and even some teachers in their palm bc of the fear they make everyone feel. I really don't care what will happen to them. I feel JOY whenever they cry bc of smth. Plus they are 2-faced. Whenever the leader of MALE bullies is not there, two of the boys go and are friends with my friend who is a nerd but whenever the leader comes, they start bullying him.
@@kamibucholz6718 thats usually what i do at school. I noticed a friend made those jokes a lot, and more... extreme jokes. Not the common ones, but the ones like, "well ill be dead before then anyway," and i asked him if he was okay and all he said was that he would never commit suicide because he doesnt wanna let his family down. I really wanted to help him, but he pushed me away.
i remember playing roblox and talking to some online daters saying they had depression i tried to help and speaked from experience but only wanted attention from her lego bf.
i find it funny how adults say “it gets better” but also say “being an adult is much harder than being a teen”. when does it get better then? i don’t know what to believe bc i’ve heard both from every adult i’ve tried to talk to abt mental health.
Nothing changes our perspective becomes more stronger when we become adult We handle the situation more strongly. Its just during the path of becoming adult We come across many people which teaches you that you are not alone suffering which gives you a positivity to keep going!
Both are true, my lass. It gets harder but better. Well YOU get better. Adulthood is about survival. And fearing for your family's survival. You are not sheltered anymore. And you get no chance to be weak as you do now, because being weak can come at the cost of your family's survival, well being. BUT you do not complain. You continue your happiness. If there are hardship you grit your teeth and continue gritting and gritting till it gets better. You can't sit sit at one corner and cry all the time as we teenagers have that privilege. They can't suicide and let down family. But guess what? They continue to live. They continue to go through highs and lows. They go on and on. They NEVER complain. If you fear this, you fear life itself. Be strong and brave.
yikes this right here is what I think is causing it to go down a spiral. Even though they deserve to realise their wrongs and feel guilty maybe, they should be forgiven if they’re truly and deeply sorry which is what I’m getting here. I mean starving yourself and cutting shouldn’t be an option and I feel like it’s very insensitive to talk like that about a person who might be suicidal
I hate how my mom tells me that i should open up and that we should talk more, but whenever I do, she just keeps whatever I tell her in her head so whenever she gets mad at me she can bring up what i told her and make examples and excuses about that. I don't know if what I just wrote makes any sense, but I just wanted to tell someone.
Rebeca Martinez i hope things get better for you xxx try speaking to a friend or another family member about how you feel. Also try telling your mother that you are upset/hurt by what she is doing. Perhaps it may change her behaviour. Things will get better 💗 I care about you, and you are valuable, and loved. ( also idk if u believe in God but I just want to let you know that God is near to hear our troubles and trials. He said to cast( give to Him) all our burdens on Him because He cares for us. Speak to Him as a friend. He hears, cares, and will help you through every situation😊)
@@spaghetti6105 Thank you so much for the advice but I have tried speaking to my mom about it and she kind of "apologizes" and then does it again. I have talked to my friends about it but I just feel awkward and I feel like I'm just being annoying and wasting their time. I was raised in a catholic household but I myself don't really believe in God. I kind of do I guess but that's just because I ha e lots of anger towards him mostly for giving me life. Anyways, thank you for your comment it made my day :)
no cuz seriously though. to this day i still think about the times i got sexually assaulted by the girls in my middle school and no one believed me and kept laughing at me and thought i was crazy for standing up for myself and trying to stop them 🧍🏼♂️
Parents already do a lot for their kids but they can’t govern you. If you have a problem you have to come to them and not all the time your parents will give you the right answer. Everything you do in life is up to you.
If the parents were there, it would most likely change what the people were saying, as most of the secrets were about problems they have had with their parents.
@Nathalie Bryngelsson My mom used to work 2 jobs all day so I practically never see her and she would disappear for 4 days at it’s worst. When she got home it was straight to asleep and there was only her because like most people these days my parents are split up. When I got the chance to talk to her on the days she had off but my mother is a very honest person and she would say the same thing your mom says. It wasn’t because she didn’t care it’s just that we didn’t waste time with dancing around our feelings and it was frustrating when I wanted all that hugs and kisses but that’s not what I need. My mom knew if you had a problem only you can solve it and she wanted to teach me that with anything in life you got to solve it. If you need help ask for it, be straight forward, and if you don’t get that help you can’t just shut down waiting for someone to notice the puppy dog eyes you’ve been carrying. First step of becoming self reliant is understanding yourself. Spend time with you. It sounds weird but your mind is more powerful than you realize. Go through old memories that you loved the most and just be in that moment. Everyone says this but write your feelings down because it truly allows you to release your thoughts just as effectively as a real person. You are not going to have hugs, kisses, and friends by your side all the time and eventually you are stuck in a hole that you feel like you can’t get out of unless you get the motivation to climb. No one encourage and no one can throw you a rope for the easy way out. Even if it makes your fingers bleed you got to get out of that hole. Parents should be more active with their child but situation like me and maybe you where our parents wasn’t or couldn’t be there for us we can’t just say “Well if they can’t help me then no one can.” Find a hobby or something because the more time you spend with yourself the more you will know who you are and that’s something no one can tell you. Barely saw my mom and I thought she was asleep or on tv and didn’t care about me but I realized she was only working this hard for me and not herself. She was physically destroying her body just to help me and now I have to use that to become the man I want to be and hopefully in your life you will find out that all your struggles are to become the woman/man you want to be.
@@stillvillian good comment, good opinion but i can not agree to 100% Children need much more other things And it is better to explain yourself and Your behaviour You have to see the world Also through the eyes from a child or another human being Your mum was/is for sure a good mum but you can not do it always in the same way like her Every child need other things in life
Someone commented “dear future parents, plz don’t put too much pressure on your children” or something similar. Just wanted to say WE are future parents. We can be better. Let’s be better. We owe it to ourselves.
Nova no. That’s not how it is. Your mother may have failed, but now you know how it feels, and you can be a better parent to your children. You can help them if they end up having issues, because you will know how it feels and you can help them in the right way.
Parents: “you can talk to us about anything” Me: “can I go see a therapist, I’m having mental health issues” Parents: “what are you depressed or stressed about? Your life is perfect, you don’t do anything”
I kind of related to this. Sometimes my parents joke around I need a therapist because I’m so crazy,(I worry a lot about the simplest things, I’m not gonna say anxiety because I haven’t been diagnosed), and then I’ll say yeah maybe I do or something, but then they’ll just leave it at that and won’t talk to me about it more. Anyways I went to the doctors the other day and she noticed how I was acting and she asked if I’d like someone to talk to, like a therapist. Moral of the story is I actually need a therapist even though my parents thought I didn’t.
I think people react this way because they are scared of saying the wrong thing. They want to seem strong. They might even be embarrassed that they don't know how to help. Probably they are worried that they have failed you in some way. Parents make the same mistakes as everyone else, and just as scared as everyone else.
and then there r people like my parents, "Mental health issues do not exist. Its all just in you head. So stop complaining because you r a very lucky generation."
when i told my parents once that i was super sad and everything they just got mad and said “we are not bad parents, we raised you well, why would u say that?”
The biggest problem of this generation is the parents, they just believe that they're right and by the way they were raised that they should also raise us that way. " You have everything that you need in your life, be happy". If that was true, why can't I tell you about my problems? My insecurities? It just doesn't feel right to talk to you about myself, my life.
Your insecurities are problems that YOU create for yourself. This is why teens shouldn't have phone access because they're going to be exposed to these things. The internet is a scary place, so avoid it. If your parents cannot help you, seek help from someone else.
@@george-xx3mu Teens get insecure not always because of the internet, I’m a teen too and I have full access to the internet and I don’t feel insecure and when teens feel insecure, it’s a parents job to help them out cuz it could cause problems to their futures. I have difficult parents who can’t help me and tell me that it’s “nothing” or I’m just “overreacting”. Getting over insecurities is not easy, but find the right person to help u is even harder.
@@tuub1281 there's gonna be a hecka Coronababies (basically our baby boom) after this, idk man, I think taking care of them would be kinda wise. Especially with all the crazy tech they're gonna have at their disposition... but idk man🤷🏻♀️👌🏻😂
The fact that many adults dismiss this as teens being “edgy” and “hormonal” is disgusting. Someone mentally stable does not attempt suicide/self harm/starve themselves for attention. They are real issues
Well, hellø there, felløw human! Legit i was self harming for 6 yrs, and recently my parents found out by accident, and they were like “if u want attention do it in a more normal way”. If i was asking for attention i wouldnt hv hidden it for 6 damn yrs😂
Well, hellø there, felløw human! And theyve always said they knw me the best but they dont even knw to wht extent my eating disorder is... they just think i wna be skinny lol parents smh they never rly truly care
exactly or when parents say “every teen is going through this at this point” “it’s apart of growing up” “you all are hormonal” i don’t think crying everyday and feeling so alone and numb is hormonal
Well, hellø there, felløw human! My mom called my wrong in the head, disgusting, and majorly depressed because I wear hoodies and sweatpants, cover my window with a blanket because it makes my room hot and i have LED lights even tho im mentally stable but she was acting like i was wrong when i was crying to her telling her im not
@@noirnothing4389 you can't expect them to understand or care if you hide it like that. obviously, they don't know the extent of your pains and they have made no move to ask because they don't think it's problematic. you can't expect someone, even as close as your parents, to see something you don't show/tell thme. so change starts with yourself. it hurts a lot when your parents don't care, but at the end, the person who should care about you the most is yourself. so make amends to end this cycle of internal pain. it's fine if your parents don't understand your pains now, because once you get out of it, you'll be the most amazing hero you've never known. and its your parents' loss that they never knew that's it. self-satisfaction.
may miau you should report them if your comfortable with that of course. Don’t let anyone treat you like that. Your feelings are your truth, just be yourself and find people who will accept you for you
may miau mental abuse is still abuse, it just hurts in a different way. I’m sorry that had happened to you. And no matter how many times you have heard it.. it just takes time to heal and people who truly care
I remember when an old lady told me teens can’t be depressed because they haven’t “experience life enough”. Yet I was standing there with depression, anxiety, and panic disorder. It felt like a slap in the face saying get over it.
Aves aryanna .. I am so sorry that you had to hear such an insensitive remark. Depression has no age. Please stay strong and please remember you have people who care about you. I love you and pray for you.
im sorry that happened to you. That lady is probably one of those old heads who think this generation is soft and entitled. I will remember you in my prayers
Screw her.... Ignore what she said old people these days think they're always right . Not always though. no offense to the sweet grannies, grandpas and generally sweet human beings who really do understand or at least try to do so. I'm just saying that lady doesn't know what she's talking about because I bet that when she was a teen she may or may have not experienced depression, anxiety etc. And if yes she probably is telling the same thing she heard as a teen from either her parents and/or grandparents.
She was right at some point, yes we haven't experience life enough yet, but it doesn't mean we can't be depressed. Being depressed isn't all about feeling stressed because pf daily life problems, or realizing that life sucks at some piont of our life. Depression can start with overthinking a thought to become a mental illness, or so many other reasons that teens struggle with for example low self-esteem it's not their fault that they don't love themselves but it"s their famillys who don"t notice that their kid is having a hard time and trying to comfort them, not all teens get depressed and not everyone with depression is broken hearted, and not every teen with depression is doing it for attention or having some hormone changes, parents should be aware of these things, and life isn''t easy for us as adults see it.
I just want to tell you taht everything will be okay... I know you must have heard that same line a lot of times... but after every hardship there is always ease... thats the rule of life.
Its funny how teen depression isent taking as seriously as adult depression. When mostly the only reason adults get depression is because They didnt do anything about the problems They had in the past. - teen
my mom grew up in the communist regime,and sometimes i believe that has trauma from her childhood,but she wont go to a psychologist,because she thinks that if you go to one,youre mentally ill....
I’m desperately liking/replying to all the comments because I’m afraid that someone in the comments is gonna feel alone. _No one should ever feel alone._
this hits hard - 'Heal your wounds before being a parent, Or your child has to heal from having you as a parent' ALL THESE WORDS ARE SO RELATABLE TO ME THAT I DONT HAVE ANY WORDS TO TELL.
Thing's will get better bb. They don't deserve to be in your happy place. You will strive and look back on the past and remember them as stepping stones to joy.
I don't exactly know what has happened but usually parents are a problem to teenagers because of the generation gap and all...it's not serious problem unless they abuse you or something We teenagers just feel like that our parents are the root of all our problems
It’s sad how teen depression is taken as a joke, a phase, a form of attention seeking, etc. Yet, adult depression is taken seriously. The only reason adults have depression because they had problems when they were younger. Probably had teen depression as well & it was never solved.
Yeah, I'm a teen, and when I try to talk to my parent abt something (my feelings) they put me off and don't think much of it. I've just given up abt talking to them abt my personal life.
@@avriellefrigon4336 I’m so sorry to hear. Have you maybe tried journaling or talking to yourself when alone? I do that & I find it to help a bit. This is just a suggestion of course. You don’t have to try if you don’t want to. I hope you’re able to find someone in the future to talk about your personal life about with. God bless you, your heart & soul.
"We'll be there for you forever, no matter what." No. No, Mom and Dad. How can you say that when I am drowning in a pool of sorrows yet you act like everything is okay. No, Everything is not fine. I told you about how I feel and you think that it's the hormones. I told you, Mom. I told you and I said that I haven't told anyone because I didn't want to be a burden. Yet what do you do? You tell my little brother and dad. I get lectured by dad about how you shouldn't feel this way, you're so lucky blah blah blah. Dad, I can't control these emotions. Please stop. I feel like I'm sinking in the ocean yet you two don't help me out. You scream, "JUST BREATHE!" even though I'm underwater. Please, I need help..
I feel you, don't give up! you got this and just know that its going to be okay. I know, hard to believe and honestly its not believable until you got there. That one point where you KNOW its okay and you just yeeted all these things into a big ass hole :D Well anyways, don't give up, I believe in you. I know those feelings. Might not be the exact same because I'm not you but I get it. I have problems too and I'm also struggling really hard but I'm still here and will stay here because I know its going to get better I just have to hold on and BOOM! trust me when you are in the darkest corner of the world there will only be one way since you kinda hit the end so its going back up now! sorry for this mega long comment but I hope it gets better for you and I'm sending ghost hugs over for some support I hope it will help xD One last time, ya got this ^^
I think I can help you. The most important thing is that you *don't have to act okay* DON'T DO IT. that's the thing that makes them think you're okay. Just act as your mood. You're happy? Be happy. You're sad? Be sad. You're angry? Be angry. Tell them what you feel because no it telling them so will separate you more and more. When they see you like that they will start worrying about you. They'll start doing things to make you happy (if they're parents) and they'll ask you if you're good. Please, please don't think that all the fault is your parents', because sometimes we are also guilty for not saying anything. Or else, how would they figure out?
that was me...thank you..i guess... i’m not gonna lie it’s really hard and was hard to even anon admit it...hard to type this comment honestly because i’ve repressed the memory so deep. but just wanted to say thank you
Skai of course. My older sister was molested by her father and the topic breaks my heart every time I think about it. I am SO sorry you went through that. No one deserves that treatment.
I get you I often think about telling my parents but always end up not bc I’m scared and my mind tells me I’m overreacting, but I know it will get better for you bc even if it seems like you are in this forever you wrote this comment this is at least letting out some of the pressure to be fine and ik we will both get through it hold on please💗
Parents do not have the perspective that teenagers have because they grew in somewhat different times, so a lot of modern culture is alien to them. This is why everyone needs a best friend of roughly the same age, since they will be more likely to understand them. If you have any problem, tell your best friend(s), they are more likely to understand you.
@@bella8993 and you know that it won't ever happen 🙃i wish i have good relation with my parents but my father ........ (i dont wanna say anything about him, his one of our problem and myself)
when teenagers act like a responsible adult they get called 'boring' and are told 'you're a child what would you know' but then when we act our age we get told to 'stop being childish' and 'you're not a child anymore grow up', and that just hurts and makes us confused/ frustrated.
Peach I understand this a lot, I’m more on the withdrawn side and I’m “responsible” because (I read this in a book and it really represents how I feel) I don’t give myself chances to be irresponsible and have slip-ups because I’m scared of getting hurt. So I’m always told that I should go out more and live a little or that I shouldn’t study all the time, but than when I actually listen and don’t study as much and get a lower grade or go on a crazy theme park ride I get disappointed and disapproving looks from my parents and they tell me that I don’t do anything and am just on my phone, or I get scolded for being immature and not thinking.
When it comes to sexual harassment, it is NEVER, I repeat, NEVER right to blame the victim. It is NOT their fault, so don't try to put the blame on them.
K Shih i was blamed. i was sexually assaulted in the 8th grade. it was behind my school. when i finally gathered up the courage to talk to a teacher. and you know what she said to me? “what were you wearing?”. like everyone else, i was wearing a dress because it was a school dance. she told me i shouldn’t have done that and i needed to be more careful. that was the point where i stopped wearing revealing clothing. my self esteem went downhill. i attempted suicide multiple times. some days i have to leave class bc the anxiety i have about people seeing me is crippling. it’s been almost 2 years and i’m still breathing but coping is a daily struggle for me.
My mom: You have to start talking to me Me: I'm anxious all the time and always feel like I'm going to throw up bc of my anxiety. I'm so scared of people and I can never talk in class. It affects my grades. My mom: Just talk it's not that hard
Just in case your anxiety starts to get worse: save up money or get money and book a trip to Ireland I promise you are going to feel like a carefree bird amongst endless green pastures and everyone there is really nice and speaks english, the veiws there is remarkable.
My secret: i dont know what i am doing in life and what my future holds and its suffocating to think about the disappointment ill cause everyone around me when they finally know what a failure i am
I feel like I have to make others happy with going to school, finding a good job,.... But you have to know that you have to put yourself first. So do what makes you happy☺️
*"Whenever my parents compared me to other children because of how much better they're I think I wanted to vanish or run away because I think they deserve a better child"* _I've never related to something so much like this._
Exactly! Parents thinks if we compare our kid then out of competition my kid will try harder to be best! No it is the biggest demotivating thing to do! You are insulting their capabilities And insulting their individuality’s
@@PersistInTheMind The fact that someone cares enough to say that it gets better can be enough to give someone hope to get through dark times. It should give You hope as well. If there are people on a youtube comment section who care, then there are people who care about You out there somewhere as well. It is possible to find these people. You should never give up.
i used to hide from my parents when i'm stressed and crying because i don't want tgem to worry about me. But once i accidentally bursted into tears before them and they scolded me for being childish and not resistant like "how are you going to survive in the society" "you've got no troubles now" "look at all of your classmates studying 15 hours a day you don't even have to study for 10 hours" so afterwards i stopped caring and cried before them just the same. Edit: thanks for the likes and kind comments
@Keira Buckley But they are all hurting, deep inside. They wonder what is wrong, but in the end, we are all fighting the same battles of life. If only we could relate to each other in the moment . . .
Its so accurate. Now what i do is, i just lock myself in the washroom, cry my heart out and then wash my face and come back as if nothing happened. Maybe thats the only thing i can do.
My secret: I’m a people pleaser because i was constantly conditioned to believe that my own feelings don’t matter as long as everyone else is happy. But no one can always be happy. And I can’t give people the answers sometimes. But when I can’t, it makes me feel bad. Like I didn’t do my best because they’re not happy still. And I’ll beat myself up for not being able to keep people happy.
I’m A Tiny Tiger I get it, the need to please those around you, but know it’s not worth it if it’s making you feel this way. You deserve happiness too love 💖 your feelings are valid.
I can relate to this so much, i give them want they want even tho i know it'll hurt me, i just can't see other people being sad just because i didn't give the answer they want
Hello, I was once like that for pretty much my teenage life and never considered myself as important as the people around me, I realised that the most important person to me later on when the same people who i would technically die for only saw me as a lesser person because of how i treated myself in their presence. All I'm saying is, love yourself first, the world is cruel enough to a point that no one will do the same for you. and most importantly, stay happy
I used to be like this I felt like I didn’t really have anything going on in my life so I just wanted to bring joy to other people but after a while people started taking me for granted and I just felt like crap I know it’s hard but you have to put yourself first remember you’re the main character in your story
I’m constantly in fear that my personality isn’t enough. That I just annoy everyone. I don’t like talking about all the little things because it seems like I’m complaining and being dramatic. Edit: spelling
Never fear to be you and focused on your happiness and not what people think and there is no such thing annoying the people who loves you if they love you they would want to share more and more and whine and talk about even stuff that doesn't matter just bc they love to hear from you. I hope you stay positive ❤️
Same, everyone knows me as the drama queen. They actually laugh at it and it's not teen but adults. I laugh with them but my heart is broken. I don't how act anymore. If I become serious, they'll talk how serious I am, of I be myself, happy, joy, funny, etc., they'll end thinking I'm drama queen. I kinda feel like I'm the problem.
My grandfather was treated for a heart attack and when he came home he invited me and my mother to voisit him. I did not go because i struggled with anorexia and did not want to go visit him because we always ate something sweet at his house - he died suddenly the next morning... i never told anyone
I’m sorry for your loss but you can’t blame yourself for anything. I’m sure if he knew the reason he’d fully understand and no matter what I’m sure he loved you
You know the number one universal rule almost all teenagers learned over time? Just don’t open up or explain yourself, because no one really cared in the first place
“Why are you not eating?” “Why are you eating that?” “Why are you talking to them?” “Why are you being disrespectful to them?” “Why aren’t you looking me in the eye?” “Why are you looking me in the eye?” “I don’t like your friends.” “I wish my kid was one of your friends.” “Why are your grades so bad?” “What are you hiding from me?” “Why are you always sad?” “Why are you acting like this as a teenager?”
Well I have a cousin man I hate her she copies me all the time whenever she tried to copy me I'd stay quiet but my mother and sister told me to speak up but when when the day I started speaking up they were like stop talking to her like that she's your cousin and bleh bleh if it weren't for my uncle I'd not even look at her I don't know what to do I have an awesome cousin he's 13 and I'm 12 he's really nice we have loads of fun together he's the only one I can talk to about my problem his name is Ali welp everybody has their own issues sooooooo I hope y'all have a great time
"Those Teenagers who cry themselves to sleep at night were once children with light in there eye's and hope in there hearts" - unknown Omg thankyou guys so much I never thought I could get 11k likes, god is so good
😭 so true i remeeber being bright saying i want to do charity and change the world to a loving place ,i read novels and enjoyed life but now im a person who cries my self to sleep and ask8ng myself wen am i going to die
parents: “you’re beautiful the way you are!” always parents: *judge you for being yourself* and that’s why people change, people change for others, cause they want to be liked by others. this happened to me and to millions of other teens and young adults. this hurt, cause you lose your Old You, you lose your original self. you avoid the real you cause you want to be liked.
They do it like I'm some object that can be replaced. A thing that has no feelings or hopes or dreams. I think it's because they probably didn't achieve everything they wanted as a kid and now they want my life to be better than theirs. The problem is, by doing so they're giving pressure to the child. Not to mention being extremely toxic.
when i was younger, my best friend's (at the time, we don't really talk anymore) mom would always be like "oh see she has an a+ why can't you study to be like her?" or "she got a b+ and you got an a! finally!" and it always felt like her goals were to be better than me and i swear whenever her mom said that in front of me i just wanted to get out of there because how is it possible that i am only there to be compared to her?
My secret: I always make jokes about my dad like "he's just going to the store to get some milk" I say I don't care that he left.. but I really do. I despise him like why did he have to leave. almost all of my other sibling have a father that actually takes care of them but, he had to leave me. My mother makes it worse when she says I'ma have daddy issue later on, it hurts tbh. My other sibling complain about their father. Deep down I'm jealous. Atleast they have someone to call dad.
True I complain about my dad just because I resent him But even so I'm sorry I can relate to the pain of why someone would leave. I hope you find your better place and just because your dad left dosent mean you'll have daddy issues.
I have a dad but I wish I didn't. I still feel the exact way you do. I'm still making peace with myself about his unfortunate presence in my life and I hope you can find peace and happiness within you in relation to your dad's absence in your life, as hard as that is. I don't know why your mum thinks you'll have daddy issues later on because if you come to terms with with you, you can't experience such issues as they won't hold you down anymore.
@@hyoriittai5411 I can relate to that on a personal level. My dad left when I was young; I want to become a dad more than anything in the world, but I'm afraid that I'll screw it up because I have no reference to go off of. I always feel a tinge of jealousy and curiosity when I visit my cousins or friends and see them talking with their dad. They have a vital element of their childhood that I never got.
I understand your struggle. I havent had a dad for 14 years. Im 20 currently and trying to forgive him without closure. You're not alone, please continue to be strong 🖤
I felt that, I have 4 other siblings - 3 from the same dad and one from another. They could spend time with their dads and write a whole paper about them, I always joked about how he went to get milk, but sometimes found myself thinking if I would be different if i knew about him in my life. My mom 'thinks' she knows my dad, but there's 3 different candidates, and I know of them via Facebook but they aren't living the best of lives either. So idk if I would wanna know him, I don't think I will as I'm nearing becoming an adult and have more important things to do.
"I can't talk to my friends, they wouldn't understand. But they are the only people i have." Hearing this made me feel less alone, knowing that someone else is going through the same thing.
Katelyn Hefner don't ever feel sad about it. You are never alone. Remember this if you ever feel you are alone, you are actually not. There would definitely be someone feeling the same. I DO AS WELL:)
I do feel like that way sometimes but I like to remind myself that they not worth my sadness because they don't care anyways and thus I always tell myself never to trust anyone so easily. Honestly I just try working on myself try to love myself as much as possible so in that way I know my worth enough not to stay, trust or even go sad over people who don't value me enough to appreciate the efforts I make for them.
It’s sad to think that your friends may be going through a lot and you may not know. Makes you wonder how they’re doing, especially during this pandemic. I haven’t seen my friend IRL in more than one year. I miss them.
When people say "You need to tell your parents that you want to harm yourself!" I scoff, because my parents found out through my diary. They screamed. They yelled. They got angry. They got upset. They got dissapointed. They got emotional. They got questionable. They got suspicious. They blamed themselves. Then they blamed me. Then it was no one's fault, apparently. Then they talked behind my back. They threatened to swnd me to a mental hospital. They yelled some more. They kept me up all night. They wouldn't let me sleep. My BRAIN wouldn 't let me sleep. Sleep means vulnerability. At least for me. It leaves time for your head to get the better of you, only to wake up figuring out that precious land of wonder was just a dream. That you jave been maxe for a fool and brought back viciously to reality. In the end, My parents "took care" of the problem. Not really, I still feel the same. But I know, at the end of the day, my parents still love me and I'm grateful for that. I wish you the best for whatever you are going through, stranger.
I know this probably should be a separate comment, but I found that the topic is just so similar. In a weird way I get what you say, but at the same time I know it's a completely different type of a problem. In my family, when the topic of self-harm comes up, my parents (or whoever it is) would ask me if I do it; and I would say 'no' because it's practically the truth. I don't cut, I don't starve myself or overeat. But I consider it. I want to hurt myself, I think of all the things I could do without leaving a mark on my skin and sometimes I follow through. But it's never permanent. So I say 'no' and feel like a liar, and then if they ask if I'm sure I show them my forearms, smile and say that they can look for themselves. End of the story. Yet there are times when I wonder if I should tell them - they're just moments, after which I always come to the conclusion that I'm exaggerating and that I would be doing it just for the attention. I fear that if I indeed got professional attention, it would be like 'oh, so you just feel edgy sometimes. Well, the solution would be to go outdoors more often, get away from the Internet for a while and it will be all dandy! Now, go away so we can deal with people who have real problems'. And like yourself, I know that my parents love me. I also know that if I truly hurt myself, they would get me the help I need. I'm sorry I pinned this under your comment if it bothers you, but I felt as if you would relate. I can always delete this if you tell me to, or if this upsets you, or whatever. Either way, I wish you will get everything right, in the end.
@@lynxdefier5425 No need to delete your reply, I actually like to hear other peoples stories. It helps me to cope with pain knowing I'm not the only one going through stuff. Thank you for sharing. I hope your situation gets better.
@M a L i Y a H :3 sis I'm sorry to say this but I can tell they're not open-minded, and has little to no Emotional Intelligence. It's extremely evident that they didn't step on your shoes, they're not good at managing emotions, and lastly, they're selfish, because they only cared for their own reputation.
Same. My parents yelled at me and when i didnt tell them the "reason" for harming myself they try to make themselves the victim and say its their fault bla bla, and i had to apologize to them.
My secret: I never had a childhood I never had a a supporting family and felt loved, I was abused, neglected, raped and molested by everyone who I trusted my own family. But today I am sooo happy I have my own family who finally loves me and no ones alone it's hard but someone will be there for you if they truly care.
the fact that, even our parents were once at our age dealing with the same struggles as we are right now, and still they fail to understand our mental health is horrible!
That might be true but we will never know because not everyone goes through the same things, they probably don’t understand it solely because they’ve never gone through it.
@@KilledUm Yeah...but 99% of the teenagers go through this....so they possibly might have gone through it ...I mean we never know .....and I think u could be right....we teenagers are treated like children but are expected to behave like grown ups...and this isn't fair u know...
According to me , Seeing all the depressing comments around us urges us further to become suicidal , moreover nowadays even if your not depressed , you somehow try to find a way to get deprresed so that you can get attention and sympathy from others , which is pretty common in teens now in my opinion.
TW: suicide One memory that will forever taint the image of my family was when my mother said my younger brother should have died when he attempted suicide. She said I was the better child, and it’s crushing that she’s ruined our relationship before it could even start. It’s been ten months since then, and he has yet to properly look me in the eyes.
@@giovanarocha3136 i agree, and I really hate her for that. I got my brother’s number from my step dad the other night, and I’ve invited him to lunch. I just hope he doesn’t think I’m tricking him. I just really want my brother
@@giovanarocha3136 will do. Thanks for the encouragement! Edit: he left lunch early cause he said he wasn’t feeling well. I tried to make a new appointment but I think he just needs some space rn
Me: "I think I've been having panic attacks bc I just randomly get shaky and I feel really scared for no reason and I don't know what to do." My mom: "What is there to panic about?" Me: "Idk. Nothing I guess." My mom: "Exactly, you need to stop worrying so much and get out of your head. You're making yourself sick." Me in my head: I know.. that's the problem tho. I don't know how.
It is like telling homeless women to buy a house, i know how you feel. I got psychotic depression, anxiety and paranoia thanks to my family and society. Used drugs, didn't work for me. Hope you will get better soon.
my mom gets stressed easily and so do I, but with her, I try not to stress her so I don’t talk to her about topics like these anymore. however it does hurt when she says that, I get her point but I just don’t know how not to. it’s like saying “hey mom I’m thirsty” “the dont be thirsty”
Yup one of the parts of anxiety is "worrying about nothing and everything". In my case it'll often be when i see people who are not in my close friends group, i'll start panicking the f out. And when i talk to people about that that they'll ask "why thought? There's nothing to be scared of." And im like IK!!! Ik there's nothing to be scared of and its just people.
I have so many panic attacks too. They mostly happen at school because of homework and also when my friends are talking to each other and might not be talking to me. I feel guilty about it because I know it’s great that they are friends. I look at everyone and see that they are cool and social while i feel like I complete outsider. Every night I procrastinate because I don’t feel happy doing my homework. I talk about my struggle with doing it and people tell me to stop complaining and to just focus and do it. I try and I end up getting a headache or something. Around 10 pm-1 am I’ll finally be done with homework then I sleep. Then once I wake up I get ready for school then go and after school I do homework and that’s really my life for 9 months out of the year. It’s brought so many anxieties in my life. I’m tired all the time. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. Ok I’m going to be done venting :))))))))) ahh
Exactly. They talk about their hardships and I understand that it was hard for them. But what really pains me is that they think we have no problems at all. Maybe our problems may not seem big to them, but they need to understand that different people have different emotional capacities. Telling us how their lives was so much harder than ours is won't make our life any better.
@@ramisac.4544 Exactly, and to be real, how would anyone even know who's life is harder to deal with? They're not us, and we're not them, and they didn't grow up in our generation and we didn't grow up in theirs. You can't accurately compare something you have not experienced. Being a teen does not make your pain invalid, and being a adult does not mean you should forget what it was like to be a Kid. We should try to Emphasize with each other, and connect the gap that is between generations, because the older you get you realize that you never stop learning, and you can learn from both a baby, and a elderly person.
ShoeGun i have this exact issue. you are completely valid and there ARE people out there just like this who understand. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. it’s very confusing and isolating.
This is Soo true..it's hard to talk to someone.same in my case I want to say you are not alone..you know sometime strangers will be the person you can open up to instead of close friends in my case
there are actually two different ways out of this. 1) search for coaching/courses/workshops on bettering social interaction (they do exist) and learn from them, maybe even consider counseling/therapy to determine if your lack of social adjustment may stem from something deeper. Or 2) be patient and keep being you, sooner or later you will find people who are either similar to you or emotionally intelligent enough to understand that's just how you are and be perfectly OK with it. Trust me, at this point half my social circle are outcasts who used to be friendless and rejected. Life is weird like that
When I was a teenager, I was in the closet. One day, a boy was trying to kiss me and touch me in certain areas, and I told him that I was gay and wasn’t interested. Then he went and told a bunch of my peers to get back at me for not wanting to do things with him. Soon enough, everyone in my grade knew. I started starving myself. I considered attempting suicide, but I luckily didn’t thanks to a dream that I had. I basically dreamt of what life for my family would be like without me, and they all seemed really upset that I had died. So, I didn’t ever attempt suicide. I’ve never told anyone that I had suicidal thoughts. Thank you, whoever you are, for reading this. If you are considering attempting suicide, please don’t end your life. It’s precious. The people around you love you, and will support you if you need help. Please don’t end your life.
That is amazing. I always wish people who committed suicide could see how if affected their family and friends. Even the whole community. It’s so important for people to see. So many bad things happen to people and it’s just important to be able to know you are loved and have people you can talk to. 💕💕
My little brother ended his life so that he would make his bullies feel guilty. That's it. He committed suicide to guilt trip his bullies. I miss him so much. I hate edits in comments but I have had the same self harming thoughts as my brother when I was bullied. My dad used to abuse me, and I would think about cutting myself so that he wouldn't do it again. I used to give speeches in schools about suicide and self harm, but now I cant because of quarantine. A parent told me that after I talked to the students, her son actually put down his ideas of self harm(he was suicidal) and she was so grateful. I'm happy that I was able to save other people from hurting themselves even if I couldn't save Ezra(that was my brother's name and my sons name). Thank you for all the kind replies.
Monalisa pls don’t, dont let anyone cause or be the root of your problems, don’t let revenge get you to make a decision you can’t never take back. you matter to so many people and after reading your story i’ll think about your situation and i’ll hope that you are better now.
I am so sorry for your loss dear stranger. I know what you go through and how bad it hurts. I am sure your brother was a wonderful person and I wish he rests in peace. I also hope you have a network of support that can help you through these hard times. The best way to honour those we have lost is to live our lives to the fullest and to remember them. Remember everything good that he was when he was alive. Be proud of him. He dealed with a lot of pain for a long time and it was too much for him to handle in the end.
Everyone always tells me to do what I enjoy, but the truth is, I don’t even know what I enjoy anymore. I don’t even know who I am or am meant to be. Sometimes I just want to disappear
Hey love. ik you don't know me or anything, but im right here. you ever want to chat about anything to get it off your plate, i can give you my insta. I know what it is like to feel like that, to not know who you are, or wtf's going to happen in your life. and it hurts like hell. but yeah you aren't alone feeling like that and I just wanted to let you know.
You are not alone. You are never alone and it’s hard but if you need someone to talk to I can be that someone. I care about you and I never want you to disappear.
same. i don't know anymore what would make me happy. i don't have dreams. i wish i could disappear so that no one would remember me. but it's good to know that i'm not alone with this. i really don't know what to do and it scares me.
it's okay. Just keep breathing. It's normal not to know what you want to do, or not to know if you want to do anything at all. It sucks. It's hard. Sometimes all we can do is keep on living and see what the future holds,, And when that's hard, we'll have to cling onto each other and help each other... stay strong.
The best part about all this? Gen Z will be the best parents, cuz they have experienced these situations beforehand and know how to support their children:)
@@ikeepscreamingbutgodwontan3132 in some generation its seen more.....taking into consideration some people who say they understand when they understand nothing....and the person who is experiencing this behavior can neither leave them or be with them.....can neither live...nor die.....because this condition is such that it seems like its nothing to others but actually its really something.......nothing is worse than hanging in between....and that is what this 'some generation' people are feeling and made to feel nowadays
Guys, when someone shares something traumatic with you, please try to hold back from immediately sharing your own story. I get that you want to show that you can relate, but a lot of the time, it shifts the focus to you, instead of the one who just became vulnerable to you. It’s okay to share, too. But just... not immediately after. It makes me feel so worthless everytime people do this to me...
I feel similarly. It’s also important to remember that not all of our peers are adequate as therapists. Sometimes they share their own experiences to relate and make us feel like we’re not alone😢
Hi, Generic Channel. I’ve never relied on my friends for therapy and I never will. I’m sure you know that confiding in the one or two people you trust is part of being human. That’s what I was speaking to.
I just posted a comment and started by saying I'm not trying to make this about me but it's how I go through something so I hope it will be helpful. I was addressing it to the teen who said they don't know their identity... I would have loved to ask why they feel that way but it was anonymous...
I hate when people get sappy with me. I am an amazing listener and have saved even saved a girls life. But I get so narcissistic when people share their sappy stories since I’ve usually gone through worse and don’t need help... I feel ashamed that I don’t have any sympathy or respect toward them
Teenagers are treated like little kids but are told to act like adults. Why are we treated like we don't have problems but are expected to act grown up and older
I was so anxious I couldn't distinguish my thoughts from reality and when I told my dad he was so surprised, almost like excited and then laughed in the most insulting way I have ever heard him and yelled "OH YOU'RE JUST MAKING EXCUSES NOW ARE YOU SERIOUS?? TELL ME ABOUT THAT AGAIN WHEN YOU'RE 40" seriously, after that he wonders why I don't open up to him.
Thank you for this comment. I never knew how to describe why I was so uncomfortable opening up to my parents and this comment sums up why.
@@kei8620 i feel for you. Thats horrible and nobody deserves that. Its time peoples mindset towards mental health changed.
My friend's mother a couple days ago ranted horribly about my friend not taking initiative to do stuff around the house being selfish and what not whilst she struggled because her mother recently died. My friend was so hurt because she was grieving herself about the loss of her nan and seeing that on Facebook with lots of parents and adults attacking her saying "this generation is lazy" and "useless at helping round the house." made her brake down crying Infront of a stranger during her walk. Adults expect us to help them but also tell us we're not allowed to do half the things they complain that they do for us. In reality, my friend is absolutely willing to help but it's a simple matter of asking. I absolutely don't believe she deserved being told off on Facebook when she literally had the most difficult job, teaching her 4 year old sister and her secondary school sister during a pandemic
Yeah I stopped trying to explain myself 😂, I mean way speak if no one is truly listening.
"Teens are treated like kids and are expected to behave like adults"
-Unknown
I cannot possibly relate to this more, this is literally my life. My parents have literally stated that they treat me like a child yet want me to act like an adult. I hate it. So much.
All the comments state facts but this one is surely my life
As a teen, I strongly disagree. Behave like adults? Sure. But if you understand literally anything that's happening around you, you don't get the typical kid treatment. Unless you lived in some ____ed community.
509th like
Beacuse they are transitioning into adulthood but are still children. Meaning they have to start taking responsibility for themselves but also not over step boundries.
I *hate* it when parents don't believe their children.
Literally same, why tf did adults have kids in the first place if they will not believe them?
@@GigiGigiGigi i mean they dont have to believe everything their kids say
as if children believe what adults say
i tell my mom im depressed but she just shrugs me off and tells me that idk the meaning of depression
my parents: ur problems don’t matter. you are too young to be feeling like this. i bet you just want attention.
i can’t say anything cause it will just end up in them yelling at me and me running to my brothers for comfort but they just start laughing.
it's sad that most parents assume that children can't have mental health problems, can't be sad, can't have feelings.. they expect that their children are perfectly fine because of their life. because oh trust me, your kids just don't tell you.
@@theartsyspace6299 good luck and much loveee. Be safe okiee. Do your research online and I truly recommend you to do your best and find even a mental health discord server that I could share here. Believe me there are solutions but also I've to let you know that no matter how hard you try there will be sockets that we can't fulfill because we are kids and our society and families aren't enough educated to be able to have the needed care. But be honest again with your mommy. Don't give up on that and also don't give up on yourself 😊🤗. Your mommy probably is thinking that you are kidding because hearing that this is what my kids situation is at the moment is harmful to me (herself) but say that you are not kidding and that I'm honest about it mom.
@@BrightNexus410 more love to you too❤️❤️ and yea Im gonna do some research online too💙 Ur support really meant alot🥺🤗
Yeah my parents don't know to
I can confirm. I'm 19 yo and just a month ago I had the courage to tell my grandma (I live with my grandparents) about all my internal struggles since I was 7-8 years, about my low self-steem and that I don't feel drawing as satisfactory as before. She didn't wanted to believe me and I think she still doesn't, even if she herself went to a psicologyst, like if she's the only one that can have mental issues. Fortunately I'm going to one monthly rn. Still, that moment really broke me, I feel I can't trust her anymore.
Me too I am fifteen and I was really stressed and I started to cry and my parents found out and my dad said that girls my age should even be stressed.
"Every child deserves a _home_ , but not every home deserves a _child_ "
...
Fr
Oh my god
fr tho
True
Some parents don't understand how damaging they can be to their kids.
I totally agree with you and we need to put that out in the world so that more people can know about this and we can put an end to this.
Yes true
yeah. It's so hard for me to be mad at them because they don't even realise...
so true.
They forget what being a kid is like
i read this somewhere a long time ago:
_"teenagers are the most misunderstood people on the planet. they're expected to act like adults, but are treated like kids."_
That really hit close to home for me.
I felt that. my physics teacher said " it's crazy, you guys are going to be out in the real world doing taxes and stuff in less then a year, but you still have to ask to go to the bathroom, and sometimes the teachers say you can't. "
Dantdt33-0 You don’t know what our minds put us through on a daily basis. Some of us can’t get out of bed. Some of us feel neglected and put down. Some of us have debated suicide like me. You don’t know until you go through it as a teen yourself. Maybe not everyone’s life is all sunshine and rainbows like how maybe yours is. I’m not saying you haven’t gone through tough times, but some of us are really struggling. People like you telling us “It’s just a phase” makes us afraid to speak up. It only make it worse. You think we don’t know there are bigger issues? Of course we know. We have people like you telling us that on a daily basis. It’s not helping bring us up. I’m truly sorry you feel that way. Maybe you should talk a walk in one of our shoes before you make a comment like this.
Dantdt33-0 mm yeah ok so next time I’m having a panic attack or major anxiety that puts so much pressure on myself I can’t breath, I’ll remember. I’m just an “edgy teenager”. I’ll remember why I never tell anyone.
@@dantdt4693 just bcs you THINK that some of their problems isn't THAT BIG doesn't mean it's any better... big or not it doesn't mean that it can't hurt people's feelings, you're not them so you can't understand them
“I feel like an outsider, I ask people if their okay but no one asks me if I am” relatable
I feel like I give so much but they give nothing but backhanded compliments and insults that they expect me not to take offense to.
@@Brooklynnbrooklynnbrooklynn EXACTLY. Then theres the people who say no offense whenever they insult you and expect the same thing, its so annoying.
@@mrsauce7972 your are reading my mind right now. It makes me feel a lot better when I know that I’m not the only one who deals with this stuff. One of my “close friends” gets so mad when I say something like “your a picky eater” and then calls me ugly and makes fun of my body shape and gives me the you do it too and it’s just a joke don't be a snowflake.
@@Brooklynnbrooklynnbrooklynn I feel you ☠️. I have a friend who will say no offense towards you so often whenever insulting you and expects you to be fine with anything bad they do to you. Then gets super upset whenever you say anything bad even in a joking way towards them.
@@mrsauce7972 yep and it’s those kind of people who will expect you to bend over backwards to help them but would never do the same for you
“they deserve a better child.” no you deserve a better parents
totally right
i have good parents but i still disappoint them
I have a house. Not a home.
@@maiatongue9075 wanna talk about it?
Have a great day!
God Bless! Stay strong, stay safe and take care of yourselves! Wishing everyone the best! Jesus loves you! May the Holy Spirit guide you! 😇 💗🕊
Cheers to a better year buddy! 💞🥂🍻
@@gingfreecss3808 my family sucks it's a long story lmao
Parents don’t actually understand how their words can affect their children
Teachers too
I only remember the bad things that they said when I was younger
@@gokcesonmez5609 I'm so sorry.
You were brave then and still. Have faith in yourself bud ❤️
They do but they do it on purpose.
It’s like the phrase “the axe may forget, but the tree will always remember”
Everyone stating facts, I'm tired of liking comments
Ikr😂😂
omg yh
And you just added your comment to our list🌚
Well, here we go again 😂
Fr
” You can’t be depressed! You have everything you need in your life ”
_This hurts._
I felt that really deep
It actually just makes you feel worse.
It honestly just makes you feel worse
It makes you feel guilty.
Thats what I say to myself sometimes.. because I just dont understand me.
Adults downplay our emotions but exaggerate our actions. Being a teenager sucks. Even when you're otherwise lucky in life...
Dwight K. Schrute bru i was like when did i comment that but i agree with this completely
Dwight K. Schrute when i told my mom that i don't want to live anymore expecting help, she said it was normal for a teen to exaggerate with their feelings... so yeah i feel that
Nathalie B aw I’m sorry, you always have people that feel the same way as you and are here to support you, even if it’s only over the internet
Being a teenager sucks, it’s almost like a survival game. Most of us leave our teenage years with scars, but we end up surviving and moving on. Some aren’t as lucky.
The thing is, teenagers are extremely chaotic. If a teen doesn’t find a way to have peace once in a while, they’ll just go mad.
I must be lucky to have a good parent
I don't understand how parents don't learn from the mistakes of their own parents. It's like they just continue this legacy of bitterness and frustration
Hope we don't be the same
Its that they're raised that way. They pick it up from their parents, and because its what they grew up in, they're almost the same. The common joke of "I'm becoming my parents" seen on TV stem from this. People's childhood affects them so much.
that is exactly why I don't want kids...I don't wanna hurt them.
my bio mother had an abusive relationship w/her dad & she's overcorrected by being smothering & homeschooling her kids-
some are just monsters some make mistakes some try to be good but end up malicious because they refuse to change when they are failing
parents understand that once they were children they did mistakes and think I won't let my children do like that but do they ever understood that there parents must have done a mistake in understanding them but they don't
I think the biggest thing parents don't consider is that we aren't in their generation.. they keep on thinking that the times right now are still the same.
Dear parents,
Our problems are different from yours.Thats all I can say..
Thank you . It's nice know someone who gets it
Finally someone
@@aashikhar5782 yeah
Finally found something like that
generation whyy
The most hurtful things were said to us by our own parents
true
Yup super true😢😢😢
That's why when I become a parent I promised myself I will never tell anything harsh/bad to my kid because I know how much it hurts but don't get me wrong I love my mom she is the best but she when shes angry she says harsh things to me and I always made it a big deal cause I am a very emotional and sensitive person
Imma light things up a bit but the most hurtful thing my parents had said to me was
"There's food at home"
Get over it you softie
@@bearcody1224 is this a joke or.......
Even though this was anonymous... imagine the courage it took to write these down
Jolanta Bird they’re strong
It was really hard....harder to type this comment and my stomach dropped so much just hearing mine read. i still honestly feel ill..
Yeah....must've took alot
i seriously couldn’t have.
Keerthi Sankaramanchi I didn’t know people who were apart of videos like this actually watched them. Thank you for having the courage. I’m a teen too and could relate to a lot of these. I have my own secret
Depression is like drowning, while everyone else is shouting at u to breathe.
😭 relatable on so many levels
true
relate
Soooo true:-\ .....oh yeah I purple you💜💜💜 BTS 4 life!!!
That’s so good.
The one with they "deserve a better child" hit me hard
Yeah it hit me too. I was just like: +1 person, +1.
Knows the feeling
YES
IT'S HARD SOMETIMES.
My mom tells me all the time, she wished she never had me and that she could live a better life without me... But that doesn't mean she doesn't love me... It's just, sometimes parents lose control because it's so hard to raise a child and say things offensive... We all do when we're mad... She's trying so hard to be a perfect mother... So please, if any of your parents tell you this, don't take it by heart, they love you and really really want you, no matter how serious they look... Try to see it from her pov, and you'll understand
But I believe they deserve a better parents
I'm so scared for my future kids because what if they are crying at 3 am to the point where they can barely breath and I have no idea
If you're an open minded and trusted they will come to you with most, if not all of their problems
Just let them know that you are there and that you care about them.
Consider not having kids and sparing them from the possibility of that pain
@@DooBeeDooBeeDoBah if that was the case no one would have kids
@@DooBeeDooBeeDoBah Geez dude😂
“When my parents compare me to another kid I wish I can just run away or vanish because they deserve a better child”
anqelity i just feel like that every single day.... But i got no one to talk to.
Stella Gracie you can talk to me I’m always here for anyone 💓
anqelity that is so nice you're such an angle. Thanks for being so kind.❤
oh, don't say that!! you deserve more. just from other replies, you seem like such an angel!! you guys can always talk to me!!!
Stella Gracie talk to me :) i deal w that same issue as well
the pressure put on teens in today's world is so untalked about tbh
Like what
Toxic like the need to look perfect?
Toxic toxic also academic pressure from parentd
@@user-gv5xq5lb9t that's teens putting pressure on each other
Toxic damn u really living up to ur name
My darkest secret:
I was texting with my best friend and told her she should go to bed since it was in the middle of the night. Two days after that My entire school got a paper saying that my best friend has passed away. She died in her sleep that night because of cancer in her brain that nobody knew about.
I know it's not my fault but I can't help but feel guilty about it. It haunts me every night.
It's not you fault! Maybe you think that, but what would happen if you didn't tell that? The same, so it's not your fault! In this situation I don't think it's anyone fault.
It's definitely not your fault. Nobody can predict death in this world. I can understand what you are feeling, maybe I would have felt the same if it would have happened with me. But, you know, it's okay! Pray for her soul and forgive yourself.
bless you and your friend. im sorry.
She is with you, maybe hugging you or leaning in your shoulders, just that you can't feel it because it's her soul. She probably wants to thank you for all the time you spent with her, and that's what friendship is about. Even when we departure from this body, the friendship never ends. The soul of our loved ones stay with us.
It's not your fault,
I'm so sorry for your loss🕊️❤️
People telling me: "Your teenage years are the best of your life" Scares the hell outta me, cuz how bad is life gonna get?
Edit: We all need an alien invasion to get tf outta here (or free therapy)
Yeah it's like "Wait, hold the Frick up, there is MORE of this crap!?!"
Same, but I think most people say that because nostalgia is a liar. Also it really just depends
You can have a bad childhood or teenage years but every day is a new chance. Your life can get better. Everyone said the same thing to me too, i was miserable in the past. But now im so much better and happy. Dont listen them and live your life.
Don't worry, it's not true at all. These years have been hard for me so it scares me too, but then I think...what about tomorrow?
Teenage years are hard, and people constantly tell me that it's gonna be worse, but why thinking in years? Good things can happen even tomorrow morning, adults should teach us to appreciate them even if they aren't life-changing
It's not the best of your life, but you can do everything without worrying about job, kids, taxes, debts and things like that. You just have to study and be happy with your friends. When you become an adult everything changes, you will have new challenges and you will enjoy different things. It's not that it becomes worse.
So for now don't think about what your life will be when you will be an adult, just worry about being happy now
Who else hates when people tell you what you like and don’t like.
Me
Me,like,it's OUR OWN life and only WE should know who we r,who/what we like
@@suzaanmaharjan8169 yea
THIS and its always something I like didn't really even like but mentioned 3 years ago ahha
@@seakay5697 ya and sometimes u say u don't like something like 4 years ago and then ur mind changes after those years and when ur eating tht thing, somebody's going to come and be like “Why r u eating that?U said u don't like it” and when i say i do now they say “No,u don't” like it's OUR MIND and I'm pretty sure u haven't insert a chip in my mind that u can hear my thoughts right?
“You’re In high school, you have nothing to worry about.” - My Mother. It’s such a cliché to say your parents don’t understand as a teenager, but they just don’t.
Willie Earles :(
I’m not even a teenager but my sister goes through this a lot. And some of the time ur parents are putting pressure on YOU to be perfect. It’s like if you don’t meet their standards you will be failure. And then they say u are worried about nothing. btw I am 1O
A lots of parents say that, forgetting how hard theor teenage years must've been for them... But we teenagers must stick together.. (thank God for internet, this whole comment section is an example of how teenagers can help other people like them and give them advice)
I know things aren't always easy but you'll get through it! ❤️
Baby Yoshi you seem like an incredibly intelligent (both academically and emotionally) 10 year old, and I wish you the best of luck in your future studies. I bet you’ll ace it.
Georgia Hildenbrand Thank u so much! I really hope to be a scholar!
"You're not ugly, you're just born in a judgemental society"
quote by namjoon!
edit: sorry abt the misinformation, i dont think namjoon has actually said the quote anywhere and an fan just spread it around
credit namjoon bestie
The useless quote again
@@foodislife6505 Please Stop.
@@foodislife6505 the useless people again, and tell me how is it useless?
Telling someone "why are you depressed? Look at how great your life is"
is the same as saying "why do you have asthma? Look at all this air"
hello everyone, I've seen so many comments that says I took this from the internet and yes, I took this quote from the internet. i just wanted to put this here because I've seen a lot of people disrespecting people with depression and saying "just be happy there's a lot of things that can make you happy" but no it's not that easy.
i used to have depression and sh-ing myself a lot but I'm really glad to say that I'm doing fine right now. and if someone is going through hard times right now just a reminder that i love you so much, you're strong, you got this! you are worth living, you exist for a reason, i love you.
for the people who said " don't compare asthma with depression, it's a different thing" it is a different thing but it represents depression in "someone who doesn't have depression's" eye. it is not a choice to be depressed, no one wants to be depressed.
i am truly so sorry if this seems rude in any way but i don't want people to think that I'm disrespecting people with asthma by comparing it with depression. I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense. thank you. :)
frr, like don't be so inconsiderate just cuz u don't know what it's like
I remembered that one vine(?)
Is it bad I laughed lol. But your right people shouldn’t say
forreal. "why are you blind? you have eyes!" chile anyways
At least they asked. Some ppl in my life get away from me when they see me upset or sad, and ofc that's after they tell me some really hurting things like: "Why did you change? This is not you"..
I think it's all the same thing. And that's why lately I tend to be alone..
Teens struggle a lot, and some parents don’t understand that
no printer just fax
I know right! I sometimes ask myself "were my parents even teenagers? "
Lily Casanova true, they think what they’re doing is always right and never wrong. And I hate that. Always forcing me into situations I don’t want to be in. I can thank my older brother though. He’s 21 and even though he is an adult he can understand me. And he made a bunch of appointments for me. He did things that adults would do if they just understood what I was going through. They think teenagers like me have no problems in this world but we do we got to school everyday and meet people, we get bullied, we get hurt. we’re still growing, being a teenager is where we start to understand people and society. Life is not all carefree for us. I can definitely say that adults sometimes have it harder but that doesn’t mean that we don’t.
my parents tell me they hate me --- and all because i lash out sometimes and am moody :( but im a goody-two shoes and am really nice person if only they saw and understood. They think im worse than everyone else but i don't have SM and am actually scared of them etc
@@fmjjjjn7510 It's so easy for someone who's been a teenager and can see the light ahead to dismiss those issues, which is really sad.
wow I’ve never felt so safe and protected in a comment section ever ..
The feeling is mutual 🖤
you should check out the comments to Twenty One Pilot songs... stay alive friends
same 💛
❤️❤️❤️
ok boomer
Fun fact : we all are teens and there is no parent in this video
Woah that was heavy in the way i saw it
I'm a parent.
@@molliemarissa6189 cool
You can't assume that, I have multiple friends who had kids in their teens
Nope ..we r all the future parents so there are parents here
"My friends all think that I'm happy 24/7 yet I am miserable every minute of every day. I feel like an outsider. I always make sure they are ok, yet no one asks me if I am."
I really felt that.
Me too.
Samee😢
Same..
Whats sad is i would always help ppl but now i have no friends since going to hs. All i want is for someone to try.
I really feel bad for people who feel trapped with their own feelings. As an adult, getting therapy costs money and theres stigma. But as a student in Canada, (at least where i am) i can say that going to a counseler is free and you can do it very secretly. But it also is hard to know that people still wouldnt want to because of anxiety and that "just going" isn't as easy as it sounds. I feel for these people.
Quick tip; If someone says they are going to commit suicide, have depression, etc. IMMEDIATELY believe them. It doesn't matter if they're known for lying, or if they have never shown any signs. The consequence of you being wrong about them faking is MUCH worse than you being wrong about them telling the truth.
Hmmm, I see so many people making jokes about depression and suicide that I don't know what to believe anymore. I don't joke around with that cuz it's serious. I myself have it but I don't feel like I can trust any human bc everybody judges everybody all the time. So I tell my guinea pigs instead bc they can't tell humans and they don't judge me. And whenever I feel worthless then when I come home and see them, I realize that "no, they need me. They need me to feed them". So yeah.
It's really hard to see if ppl are actually struggling with depression or not bc ppl often joke about it, which is really frustrating. And my bullies joke about it a lot and honestly - I will sound like a terrible person for this - But I don't care if they're serious or not. They have the whole school's students and even some teachers in their palm bc of the fear they make everyone feel. I really don't care what will happen to them. I feel JOY whenever they cry bc of smth. Plus they are 2-faced. Whenever the leader of MALE bullies is not there, two of the boys go and are friends with my friend who is a nerd but whenever the leader comes, they start bullying him.
Sometimes the only way people can communicate those suffocating feelings is if they make a joke about it and hope you catch on.
@@kamibucholz6718 thats usually what i do at school. I noticed a friend made those jokes a lot, and more... extreme jokes. Not the common ones, but the ones like, "well ill be dead before then anyway," and i asked him if he was okay and all he said was that he would never commit suicide because he doesnt wanna let his family down. I really wanted to help him, but he pushed me away.
@@kamibucholz6718 I honestly would help my friends and others but never would I help my bullies. They're the reason I and many others have depression.
i remember playing roblox and talking to some online daters saying they had depression i tried to help and speaked from experience but only wanted attention from her lego bf.
i find it funny how adults say “it gets better” but also say “being an adult is much harder than being a teen”. when does it get better then? i don’t know what to believe bc i’ve heard both from every adult i’ve tried to talk to abt mental health.
Nothing changes our perspective becomes more stronger when we become adult
We handle the situation more strongly.
Its just during the path of becoming adult
We come across many people which teaches you that you are not alone suffering which gives you a positivity to keep going!
@Talitha Untono this is life not heaven three will always be some hardtime but it will teach us alot
It can get better now. Work on finding joy in the small things. Focus on bettering yourself.
Both are true, my lass. It gets harder but better. Well YOU get better.
Adulthood is about survival. And fearing for your family's survival. You are not sheltered anymore. And you get no chance to be weak as you do now, because being weak can come at the cost of your family's survival, well being.
BUT you do not complain. You continue your happiness. If there are hardship you grit your teeth and continue gritting and gritting till it gets better. You can't sit sit at one corner and cry all the time as we teenagers have that privilege. They can't suicide and let down family.
But guess what? They continue to live. They continue to go through highs and lows. They go on and on. They NEVER complain.
If you fear this, you fear life itself. Be strong and brave.
brain grows.
Here’s a hug for everyone who needs it. I love you~
Hug back for you
Hug back ♥️
*hugs*
Hugs
hugs (づ￣ ³￣)づ love youuu
I feel terrible for all of these people.
i don't feel bad for the bully. they deserve that guilt. they ended someones life. why shouldn't they be ashamed?
yikes this right here is what I think is causing it to go down a spiral. Even though they deserve to realise their wrongs and feel guilty maybe, they should be forgiven if they’re truly and deeply sorry which is what I’m getting here. I mean starving yourself and cutting shouldn’t be an option and I feel like it’s very insensitive to talk like that about a person who might be suicidal
I think what they meant was overall feeling bad for the situation not necessarily they people who weren’t there for them.
You guys ever think about how maybe "Fan of most things" might be talking about the people reading the secrets?
I don’t feel bad for the bullies. I hadn’t watched the video up to that point when I wrote this comment.
I hate how my mom tells me that i should open up and that we should talk more, but whenever I do, she just keeps whatever I tell her in her head so whenever she gets mad at me she can bring up what i told her and make examples and excuses about that. I don't know if what I just wrote makes any sense, but I just wanted to tell someone.
Keep strong. It's hard and it'll get harder, no deying but you know what you can get through it. Just believe in yourself.💜🌸
Rebeca Martinez i hope things get better for you xxx try speaking to a friend or another family member about how you feel. Also try telling your mother that you are upset/hurt by what she is doing. Perhaps it may change her behaviour. Things will get better 💗 I care about you, and you are valuable, and loved. ( also idk if u believe in God but I just want to let you know that God is near to hear our troubles and trials. He said to cast( give to Him) all our burdens on Him because He cares for us. Speak to Him as a friend. He hears, cares, and will help you through every situation😊)
Ik exactly wym bro
you understand me
@@spaghetti6105 Thank you so much for the advice but I have tried speaking to my mom about it and she kind of "apologizes" and then does it again. I have talked to my friends about it but I just feel awkward and I feel like I'm just being annoying and wasting their time. I was raised in a catholic household but I myself don't really believe in God. I kind of do I guess but that's just because I ha e lots of anger towards him mostly for giving me life. Anyways, thank you for your comment it made my day :)
parents are the worst bullies of all.
Can't deny.
not really
AGREED
Not all but they can be oblivious
@@joshuajohn13 that's what I'm saying
It hurts when a stranger in internet understand you more than your own family and friends...
❤
True
no cuz seriously though. to this day i still think about the times i got sexually assaulted by the girls in my middle school and no one believed me and kept laughing at me and thought i was crazy for standing up for myself and trying to stop them 🧍🏼♂️
It incredible how parents don't come to this type of videos.
Parents already do a lot for their kids but they can’t govern you. If you have a problem you have to come to them and not all the time your parents will give you the right answer. Everything you do in life is up to you.
If the parents were there, it would most likely change what the people were saying, as most of the secrets were about problems they have had with their parents.
they just not show up maybe
@Nathalie Bryngelsson My mom used to work 2 jobs all day so I practically never see her and she would disappear for 4 days at it’s worst. When she got home it was straight to asleep and there was only her because like most people these days my parents are split up. When I got the chance to talk to her on the days she had off but my mother is a very honest person and she would say the same thing your mom says. It wasn’t because she didn’t care it’s just that we didn’t waste time with dancing around our feelings and it was frustrating when I wanted all that hugs and kisses but that’s not what I need. My mom knew if you had a problem only you can solve it and she wanted to teach me that with anything in life you got to solve it. If you need help ask for it, be straight forward, and if you don’t get that help you can’t just shut down waiting for someone to notice the puppy dog eyes you’ve been carrying.
First step of becoming self reliant is understanding yourself. Spend time with you. It sounds weird but your mind is more powerful than you realize. Go through old memories that you loved the most and just be in that moment. Everyone says this but write your feelings down because it truly allows you to release your thoughts just as effectively as a real person. You are not going to have hugs, kisses, and friends by your side all the time and eventually you are stuck in a hole that you feel like you can’t get out of unless you get the motivation to climb. No one encourage and no one can throw you a rope for the easy way out. Even if it makes your fingers bleed you got to get out of that hole.
Parents should be more active with their child but situation like me and maybe you where our parents wasn’t or couldn’t be there for us we can’t just say “Well if they can’t help me then no one can.” Find a hobby or something because the more time you spend with yourself the more you will know who you are and that’s something no one can tell you. Barely saw my mom and I thought she was asleep or on tv and didn’t care about me but I realized she was only working this hard for me and not herself. She was physically destroying her body just to help me and now I have to use that to become the man I want to be and hopefully in your life you will find out that all your struggles are to become the woman/man you want to be.
@@stillvillian good comment, good opinion but i can not agree to 100%
Children need much more other things
And it is better to explain yourself and Your behaviour
You have to see the world Also through the eyes from a child or another human being
Your mum was/is for sure a good mum but you can not do it always in the same way like her
Every child need other things in life
Someone commented “dear future parents, plz don’t put too much pressure on your children” or something similar.
Just wanted to say WE are future parents. We can be better. Let’s be better. We owe it to ourselves.
yes bruh, best comment :)
Yess
Thanks. Someone needed to say this
yes i will never be like these people
Nova no. That’s not how it is. Your mother may have failed, but now you know how it feels, and you can be a better parent to your children. You can help them if they end up having issues, because you will know how it feels and you can help them in the right way.
Parents: “you can talk to us about anything”
Me: “can I go see a therapist, I’m having mental health issues” Parents: “what are you depressed or stressed about? Your life is perfect, you don’t do anything”
I kind of related to this. Sometimes my parents joke around I need a therapist because I’m so crazy,(I worry a lot about the simplest things, I’m not gonna say anxiety because I haven’t been diagnosed), and then I’ll say yeah maybe I do or something, but then they’ll just leave it at that and won’t talk to me about it more. Anyways I went to the doctors the other day and she noticed how I was acting and she asked if I’d like someone to talk to, like a therapist. Moral of the story is I actually need a therapist even though my parents thought I didn’t.
I think people react this way because they are scared of saying the wrong thing. They want to seem strong. They might even be embarrassed that they don't know how to help. Probably they are worried that they have failed you in some way. Parents make the same mistakes as everyone else, and just as scared as everyone else.
SO RELATABLE 😭
and then there r people like my parents, "Mental health issues do not exist. Its all just in you head. So stop complaining because you r a very lucky generation."
when i told my parents once that i was super sad and everything they just got mad and said “we are not bad parents, we raised you well, why would u say that?”
The biggest problem of this generation is the parents, they just believe that they're right and by the way they were raised that they should also raise us that way. " You have everything that you need in your life, be happy". If that was true, why can't I tell you about my problems? My insecurities? It just doesn't feel right to talk to you about myself, my life.
The parents are BY FAR ain’t the biggest problem with gen z. They are a small part of it, but certainly not the biggest
Your insecurities are problems that YOU create for yourself. This is why teens shouldn't have phone access because they're going to be exposed to these things. The internet is a scary place, so avoid it. If your parents cannot help you, seek help from someone else.
@@george-xx3mu Teens get insecure not always because of the internet, I’m a teen too and I have full access to the internet and I don’t feel insecure and when teens feel insecure, it’s a parents job to help them out cuz it could cause problems to their futures. I have difficult parents who can’t help me and tell me that it’s “nothing” or I’m just “overreacting”. Getting over insecurities is not easy, but find the right person to help u is even harder.
@@venomousviper3691 as a gen z, damn people like to blame anyone but themselves around here.
@@george-xx3mu no we aren't
It SUCKS that these generations have gone through so much, but at least the future generations will have more comprehensive adults...
Haha nice joke.
@@tuub1281 there's gonna be a hecka Coronababies (basically our baby boom) after this, idk man, I think taking care of them would be kinda wise. Especially with all the crazy tech they're gonna have at their disposition... but idk man🤷🏻♀️👌🏻😂
@@leslielegoff522 I wouldn't last a week in the 80's so i consider myself lucky.
Yeah, having 2 dads or moms is finally going to be normal, i hope
Hey, do u mind if I post this on Twitter? It feels nice (well, for me I guess) and I wanted to share it to people.
The fact that many adults dismiss this as teens being “edgy” and “hormonal” is disgusting. Someone mentally stable does not attempt suicide/self harm/starve themselves for attention. They are real issues
Well, hellø there, felløw human! Legit i was self harming for 6 yrs, and recently my parents found out by accident, and they were like “if u want attention do it in a more normal way”. If i was asking for attention i wouldnt hv hidden it for 6 damn yrs😂
Well, hellø there, felløw human! And theyve always said they knw me the best but they dont even knw to wht extent my eating disorder is... they just think i wna be skinny lol parents smh they never rly truly care
exactly or when parents say “every teen is going through this at this point” “it’s apart of growing up” “you all are hormonal” i don’t think crying everyday and feeling so alone and numb is hormonal
Well, hellø there, felløw human! My mom called my wrong in the head, disgusting, and majorly depressed because I wear hoodies and sweatpants, cover my window with a blanket because it makes my room hot and i have LED lights even tho im mentally stable but she was acting like i was wrong when i was crying to her telling her im not
@@noirnothing4389 you can't expect them to understand or care if you hide it like that. obviously, they don't know the extent of your pains and they have made no move to ask because they don't think it's problematic. you can't expect someone, even as close as your parents, to see something you don't show/tell thme. so change starts with yourself. it hurts a lot when your parents don't care, but at the end, the person who should care about you the most is yourself. so make amends to end this cycle of internal pain. it's fine if your parents don't understand your pains now, because once you get out of it, you'll be the most amazing hero you've never known. and its your parents' loss that they never knew that's it. self-satisfaction.
Kindergarden, first nickname “broken doll” other one “frankensteins monster”, that is so messed up... be proud of those battle scars
Mine was black chubbs
Mines was witch because of how foreign I looked to the kids there lol
@Dude Bro I'm not even joking
those names would be kinda cool if she owned them and reclaimed them
If i'd be her, i'd joke about it sayin' that i fought many rathalos and other monsters.
I literally bursted into tears when she said ' they deserve a better child'
gosh that hit hard
“You have no right to be sad or depressed. You didn’t grow up poor or with abusive parents, you had it easy you ingrate”
Felt that
I grew whit an mental/psychological abusive mother
Even the psychologist told me to get over it because she didn't hit me
may miau you should report them if your comfortable with that of course. Don’t let anyone treat you like that. Your feelings are your truth, just be yourself and find people who will accept you for you
may miau mental abuse is still abuse, it just hurts in a different way. I’m sorry that had happened to you. And no matter how many times you have heard it.. it just takes time to heal and people who truly care
@@starweaver777 If only they realized that....
imagine if they asked teenagers "are you actually okay" imagine the responses they would receive
No I’m not ok
Dead stares and short yesses?
Yeah all th 14 year old girls who listened to billie eyelash
@Rainbow Master you know im14andthisisdeep is like jaiden smith quotes and stuff to make fun of the dipshits who think they are deep lol
omg they’d hear quite a story. a very long story.
I remember when an old lady told me teens can’t be depressed because they haven’t “experience life enough”. Yet I was standing there with depression, anxiety, and panic disorder. It felt like a slap in the face saying get over it.
Aves aryanna .. I am so sorry that you had to hear such an insensitive remark. Depression has no age. Please stay strong and please remember you have people who care about you. I love you and pray for you.
im sorry that happened to you. That lady is probably one of those old heads who think this generation is soft and entitled. I will remember you in my prayers
i have panic disorder too. I cannot believe she said that to you.
Screw her....
Ignore what she said old people these days think they're always right .
Not always though.
no offense to the sweet grannies, grandpas and generally sweet human beings who really do understand or at least try to do so.
I'm just saying that lady doesn't know what she's talking about because I bet that when she was a teen she may or may have not experienced depression, anxiety etc.
And if yes she probably is telling the same thing she heard as a teen from either her parents and/or grandparents.
She was right at some point, yes we haven't experience life enough yet, but it doesn't mean we can't be depressed. Being depressed isn't all about feeling stressed because pf daily life problems, or realizing that life sucks at some piont of our life. Depression can start with overthinking a thought to become a mental illness, or so many other reasons that teens struggle with for example low self-esteem it's not their fault that they don't love themselves but it"s their famillys who don"t notice that their kid is having a hard time and trying to comfort them, not all teens get depressed and not everyone with depression is broken hearted, and not every teen with depression is doing it for attention or having some hormone changes, parents should be aware of these things, and life isn''t easy for us as adults see it.
being the eldest daughter in a broken asian poor family is torture itself.
i dont have anything to say exactly .
I just want to tell you taht everything will be okay... I know you must have heard that same line a lot of times... but after every hardship there is always ease... thats the rule of life.
Relatable
Uhm, everything will be fine, don't worry,be happy and eventually everything will work out
Its funny how teen depression isent taking as seriously as adult depression. When mostly the only reason adults get depression is because They didnt do anything about the problems They had in the past. - teen
Don't mind me but I think it's the other way around
my mom grew up in the communist regime,and sometimes i believe that has trauma from her childhood,but she wont go to a psychologist,because she thinks that if you go to one,youre mentally ill....
@@georgiana1147 Is your mom Khmer?
@@eljahihamgottin4540 no,she s romanian
@@georgiana1147 Oh, because my mom's family was born during the Khmer Rouge. Which was also a communist regime.
"why don't you talk to me about things?" - parents
"pfft you're making that up" - also parents
and also parents; Depression is nothing, it is the cause of your hormones during the teen period
"It's that damn phone!"
"You have nothing to be stessed about"
My mom legit asks why I never talk to her or tell her anything
But last time I did she got upset for feeling the day I did
I told my mum about my panic attacks and she told me it was just hormones.
I’m desperately liking/replying to all the comments because I’m afraid that someone in the comments is gonna feel alone.
_No one should ever feel alone._
Quel Gamer Mancato Aw thanks 😊
Thats so sweet
The hero we don’t deserve
Thank you. I’m catching myself feeling the same way and was really touched by your comment. It meant more than you can know.
Twistmygrinder I’m glad my comment helped. I’m always here for anyone who needs to talk :)
this hits hard -
'Heal your wounds before being a parent,
Or your child has to heal from having you as a parent'
ALL THESE WORDS ARE SO RELATABLE TO ME THAT I DONT HAVE ANY WORDS TO TELL.
When they tell you to talk to your parents...
...But your parents are the problem 😔
Thing's will get better bb. They don't deserve to be in your happy place. You will strive and look back on the past and remember them as stepping stones to joy.
Felt
Felt 😕
Ify ✨
I don't exactly know what has happened but usually parents are a problem to teenagers because of the generation gap and all...it's not serious problem unless they abuse you or something
We teenagers just feel like that our parents are the root of all our problems
It’s sad how teen depression is taken as a joke, a phase, a form of attention seeking, etc. Yet, adult depression is taken seriously. The only reason adults have depression because they had problems when they were younger. Probably had teen depression as well & it was never solved.
Yeah, I'm a teen, and when I try to talk to my parent abt something (my feelings) they put me off and don't think much of it. I've just given up abt talking to them abt my personal life.
@@avriellefrigon4336 I’m so sorry to hear. Have you maybe tried journaling or talking to yourself when alone? I do that & I find it to help a bit. This is just a suggestion of course. You don’t have to try if you don’t want to. I hope you’re able to find someone in the future to talk about your personal life about with. God bless you, your heart & soul.
@@OneWithManyNames I do talk to myself, I've been doing that for year. It kinda helps. Thx for ur blessing
@Nikki At least we're not alone
people before being a teenager can also have depression but no one understands me
So everyone is crying on the inside, huh...
what
ruth wdym what 🤦🏻♀️
Hal D why is that funny
@@louisaprice4168 sarcasm 🤦♀️
@@TheAliceP I mean what as in what. like literally the word what.
"We'll be there for you forever, no matter what."
No. No, Mom and Dad. How can you say that when I am drowning in a pool of sorrows yet you act like everything is okay. No, Everything is not fine. I told you about how I feel and you think that it's the hormones. I told you, Mom. I told you and I said that I haven't told anyone because I didn't want to be a burden. Yet what do you do? You tell my little brother and dad. I get lectured by dad about how you shouldn't feel this way, you're so lucky blah blah blah. Dad, I can't control these emotions. Please stop. I feel like I'm sinking in the ocean yet you two don't help me out. You scream, "JUST BREATHE!" even though I'm underwater. Please, I need help..
I feel you, don't give up! you got this and just know that its going to be okay. I know, hard to believe and honestly its not believable until you got there. That one point where you KNOW its okay and you just yeeted all these things into a big ass hole :D Well anyways, don't give up, I believe in you. I know those feelings. Might not be the exact same because I'm not you but I get it. I have problems too and I'm also struggling really hard but I'm still here and will stay here because I know its going to get better I just have to hold on and BOOM! trust me when you are in the darkest corner of the world there will only be one way since you kinda hit the end so its going back up now! sorry for this mega long comment but I hope it gets better for you and I'm sending ghost hugs over for some support I hope it will help xD One last time, ya got this ^^
I think I can help you. The most important thing is that you *don't have to act okay*
DON'T DO IT. that's the thing that makes them think you're okay. Just act as your mood. You're happy? Be happy. You're sad? Be sad. You're angry? Be angry. Tell them what you feel because no it telling them so will separate you more and more. When they see you like that they will start worrying about you. They'll start doing things to make you happy (if they're parents) and they'll ask you if you're good. Please, please don't think that all the fault is your parents', because sometimes we are also guilty for not saying anything. Or else, how would they figure out?
I understand you exactly
You are loved ok never forget that I LOVE YOU, you are special never give up.
You will understand them once you have your children.
the woman that admited to being molested broke my heart. People like her go through so much crap and it's not fair and not right.
that was me...thank you..i guess...
i’m not gonna lie it’s really hard and was hard to even anon admit it...hard to type this comment honestly because i’ve repressed the memory so deep. but just wanted to say thank you
Skai of course. My older sister was molested by her father and the topic breaks my heart every time I think about it. I am SO sorry you went through that. No one deserves that treatment.
Emily Danielle Evil people do evil things..I hope she is able to heal, like i hopeful can one day
How do you know it’s a girl?
@@swarma_b33f haha yeah
People are always like: Just tell your parents, its going to be fineeee
But its not
I get you I often think about telling my parents but always end up not bc I’m scared and my mind tells me I’m overreacting, but I know it will get better for you bc even if it seems like you are in this forever you wrote this comment this is at least letting out some of the pressure to be fine and ik we will both get through it hold on please💗
the worst is when you can’t tell them because you know them and what they believe.
r/iam14andthisisdeep
Parents do not have the perspective that teenagers have because they grew in somewhat different times, so a lot of modern culture is alien to them. This is why everyone needs a best friend of roughly the same age, since they will be more likely to understand them.
If you have any problem, tell your best friend(s), they are more likely to understand you.
@@bella8993 and you know that it won't ever happen 🙃i wish i have good relation with my parents but my father ........ (i dont wanna say anything about him, his one of our problem and myself)
when teenagers act like a responsible adult they get called 'boring' and are told 'you're a child what would you know' but then when we act our age we get told to 'stop being childish' and 'you're not a child anymore grow up', and that just hurts and makes us confused/ frustrated.
Yes
I understand that it happens alot to me
Peach I understand this a lot, I’m more on the withdrawn side and I’m “responsible” because (I read this in a book and it really represents how I feel) I don’t give myself chances to be irresponsible and have slip-ups because I’m scared of getting hurt. So I’m always told that I should go out more and live a little or that I shouldn’t study all the time, but than when I actually listen and don’t study as much and get a lower grade or go on a crazy theme park ride I get disappointed and disapproving looks from my parents and they tell me that I don’t do anything and am just on my phone, or I get scolded for being immature and not thinking.
Call them out film their bluf. Works for me
yesss, its soo confusingg
“Parents always compare us to people”- everyone
When it comes to sexual harassment, it is NEVER, I repeat, NEVER right to blame the victim. It is NOT their fault, so don't try to put the blame on them.
K Shih i was blamed. i was sexually assaulted in the 8th grade. it was behind my school. when i finally gathered up the courage to talk to a teacher. and you know what she said to me? “what were you wearing?”. like everyone else, i was wearing a dress because it was a school dance. she told me i shouldn’t have done that and i needed to be more careful. that was the point where i stopped wearing revealing clothing. my self esteem went downhill. i attempted suicide multiple times. some days i have to leave class bc the anxiety i have about people seeing me is crippling. it’s been almost 2 years and i’m still breathing but coping is a daily struggle for me.
Tai Mitchell bruh that’s disgusting, of all the possible responses, I can’t believe someone what actually ask what you were wearing
@@taimitchell9576 😢know that you are loved ❤by your family friends and evry person you trust
hayZmation i was so confused. i truly trusted that teacher and that’s all she could say.
killer gamer thank u🥺🥺
My mom: You have to start talking to me
Me: I'm anxious all the time and always feel like I'm going to throw up bc of my anxiety. I'm so scared of people and I can never talk in class. It affects my grades.
My mom: Just talk it's not that hard
or: "iT's ThaT dAmN phOnE"
it is your mom is dumy i feel your pain
Stfu kid
Im on meds for my anxiety and it's gotten so much better. Seek professional help, it does alot. Please.
Just in case your anxiety starts to get worse: save up money or get money and book a trip to Ireland I promise you are going to feel like a carefree bird amongst endless green pastures and everyone there is really nice and speaks english, the veiws there is remarkable.
My secret: i dont know what i am doing in life and what my future holds and its suffocating to think about the disappointment ill cause everyone around me when they finally know what a failure i am
You're not a failure. ❤️
Lets be failures together😊
I understand. ❤️
You are loved by so many, dont give up. Ik I dont know u well but ilysm, keep pushing u got this♡♡
I feel like I have to make others happy with going to school, finding a good job,....
But you have to know that you have to put yourself first.
So do what makes you happy☺️
My biggest fear is that one day my kid will be crying themselves to sleep every night and I won't know about it.
*"Whenever my parents compared me to other children because of how much better they're I think I wanted to vanish or run away because I think they deserve a better child"*
_I've never related to something so much like this._
just a quick reminder that you're beautiful
Exactly! Parents thinks if we compare our kid then out of competition my kid will try harder to be best!
No it is the biggest demotivating thing to do!
You are insulting their capabilities
And insulting their individuality’s
@@aiden___6404 Thank you, that's a nice thing to say 😊.
@@ketki-_- Right. Sometimes I think they forget people have different talent.
Sooo true.
We are suicidal people telling others suicidal people that it gets better.
Because we don't want anyone else to go through this. It hurts.
True
we want to give someone else what we cannot give ourselves: hope
Never tell someone it gets better never cause u can’t make promises I can’t keep MY PLEASE
@@PersistInTheMind The fact that someone cares enough to say that it gets better can be enough to give someone hope to get through dark times. It should give You hope as well. If there are people on a youtube comment section who care, then there are people who care about You out there somewhere as well. It is possible to find these people. You should never give up.
i used to hide from my parents when i'm stressed and crying because i don't want tgem to worry about me. But once i accidentally bursted into tears before them and they scolded me for being childish and not resistant like "how are you going to survive in the society" "you've got no troubles now" "look at all of your classmates studying 15 hours a day you don't even have to study for 10 hours"
so afterwards i stopped caring and cried before them just the same.
Edit: thanks for the likes and kind comments
This could not be any more relatable
@Keira Buckley
But they are all hurting, deep inside. They wonder what is wrong, but in the end, we are all fighting the same battles of life. If only we could relate to each other in the moment . . .
Its so accurate.
Now what i do is, i just lock myself in the washroom, cry my heart out and then wash my face and come back as if nothing happened. Maybe thats the only thing i can do.
OH MY GOD THATS HORRIBLE
@@listeningtomusicistalentidgaf I don't tape my mouth. I just open all the faucets. Everything else is the same with me too.
I love my mom so much, she’s literally my therapist and I know I can trust her and tell her everything.
You're lucky 🌌
You are very lucky
you are very lucky
Ay me too. My mom's my best friend, and I'm never embarrassed around her in public.
I'm sure your mom's happy, proud, and grateful for you. Thanks for appreciating her
My secret:
I’m a people pleaser because i was constantly conditioned to believe that my own feelings don’t matter as long as everyone else is happy. But no one can always be happy. And I can’t give people the answers sometimes. But when I can’t, it makes me feel bad. Like I didn’t do my best because they’re not happy still. And I’ll beat myself up for not being able to keep people happy.
I’m A Tiny Tiger I get it, the need to please those around you, but know it’s not worth it if it’s making you feel this way. You deserve happiness too love 💖 your feelings are valid.
I’m A Tiny Tiger Same my mom tells me people like us carry the world on our shoulders that helped me
I can relate to this so much, i give them want they want even tho i know it'll hurt me, i just can't see other people being sad just because i didn't give the answer they want
Hello, I was once like that for pretty much my teenage life and never considered myself as important as the people around me, I realised that the most important person to me later on when the same people who i would technically die for only saw me as a lesser person because of how i treated myself in their presence. All I'm saying is, love yourself first, the world is cruel enough to a point that no one will do the same for you. and most importantly, stay happy
I used to be like this I felt like I didn’t really have anything going on in my life so I just wanted to bring joy to other people but after a while people started taking me for granted and I just felt like crap I know it’s hard but you have to put yourself first remember you’re the main character in your story
I’m constantly in fear that my personality isn’t enough. That I just annoy everyone. I don’t like talking about all the little things because it seems like I’m complaining and being dramatic.
Edit: spelling
Never fear to be you and focused on your happiness and not what people think and there is no such thing annoying the people who loves you if they love you they would want to share more and more and whine and talk about even stuff that doesn't matter just bc they love to hear from you. I hope you stay positive ❤️
Bc u are
sadly I can relate to this 😔💔
Same, everyone knows me as the drama queen. They actually laugh at it and it's not teen but adults. I laugh with them but my heart is broken. I don't how act anymore. If I become serious, they'll talk how serious I am, of I be myself, happy, joy, funny, etc., they'll end thinking I'm drama queen. I kinda feel like I'm the problem.
Its so easy to prescribe easy solutions like "just find someone who'll listen" without knowing how hard that is. All i can say is that i feel for you.
My grandfather was treated for a heart attack and when he came home he invited me and my mother to voisit him. I did not go because i struggled with anorexia and did not want to go visit him because we always ate something sweet at his house - he died suddenly the next morning... i never told anyone
reetta malin i feel you
reetta malin its ok to just focus on your own health sometimes
I’m sorry for your loss but you can’t blame yourself for anything. I’m sure if he knew the reason he’d fully understand and no matter what I’m sure he loved you
there’s no way you could’ve known. i’m really sorry you went through that
its not your fault. no way u could have known that. u weren't being selfish and he knows it, remember that
You know the number one universal rule almost all teenagers learned over time? Just don’t open up or explain yourself, because no one really cared in the first place
I have one friend who really understands. Am really grateful for that.
@@spaceboundlad2622 very lucky
No one gives a damn
“Why are you not eating?”
“Why are you eating that?”
“Why are you talking to them?”
“Why are you being disrespectful to them?”
“Why aren’t you looking me in the eye?”
“Why are you looking me in the eye?”
“I don’t like your friends.”
“I wish my kid was one of your friends.”
“Why are your grades so bad?”
“What are you hiding from me?”
“Why are you always sad?”
“Why are you acting like this as a teenager?”
...hi mom...
😒
Everything is judged by people and they get sassy when people say that theyre judgy smh
Well I have a cousin man I hate her she copies me all the time whenever she tried to copy me I'd stay quiet but my mother and sister told me to speak up but when when the day I started speaking up they were like stop talking to her like that she's your cousin and bleh bleh if it weren't for my uncle I'd not even look at her I don't know what to do I have an awesome cousin he's 13 and I'm 12 he's really nice we have loads of fun together he's the only one I can talk to about my problem his name is Ali welp everybody has their own issues sooooooo I hope y'all have a great time
My friends lol.
Oh wait... Don't have any
i hope to never grow and be the parent that makes their teenager feel unheard or misunderstood...
That's literally every teens worst fear 😩😭
o Steph o O-Just try to remember your teenage years. Try to remember how you feel now and treat them how you want to be treated.
"Those Teenagers who cry themselves to sleep at night were once children with light in there eye's and hope in there hearts"
- unknown
Omg thankyou guys so much I never thought I could get 11k likes, god is so good
😭 so true i remeeber being bright saying i want to do charity and change the world to a loving place ,i read novels and enjoyed life but now im a person who cries my self to sleep and ask8ng myself wen am i going to die
@@aether5525 first of all you're A bright and beautiful person and if someone tells you different there lying. God bless you ❤
@@myaduhart3370 thnk u 😊
@@myaduhart3370 yh but with a different account lmao
Omg I just teared up
parents: “you’re beautiful the way you are!”
always parents: *judge you for being yourself*
and that’s why people change, people change for others, cause they want to be liked by others. this happened to me and to millions of other teens and young adults. this hurt, cause you lose your Old You, you lose your original self. you avoid the real you cause you want to be liked.
yeah , happened to me a thousands of times .
For me, the worst thing a parent can do is to compare them to to other kids just don't. How hard can it be?!?
They do it like I'm some object that can be replaced. A thing that has no feelings or hopes or dreams. I think it's because they probably didn't achieve everything they wanted as a kid and now they want my life to be better than theirs. The problem is, by doing so they're giving pressure to the child. Not to mention being extremely toxic.
Every time they compare me, I compare them with other better parents.
when i was younger, my best friend's (at the time, we don't really talk anymore) mom would always be like "oh see she has an a+ why can't you study to be like her?" or "she got a b+ and you got an a! finally!" and it always felt like her goals were to be better than me and i swear whenever her mom said that in front of me i just wanted to get out of there because how is it possible that i am only there to be compared to her?
Brown parents are constantly comparing you to other people😂😔
My grandma compares me to my cousins and I hate it
My secret: I always make jokes about my dad like "he's just going to the store to get some milk" I say I don't care that he left.. but I really do. I despise him like why did he have to leave. almost all of my other sibling have a father that actually takes care of them but, he had to leave me. My mother makes it worse when she says I'ma have daddy issue later on, it hurts tbh. My other sibling complain about their father. Deep down I'm jealous. Atleast they have someone to call dad.
True I complain about my dad just because I resent him
But even so I'm sorry I can relate to the pain of why someone would leave.
I hope you find your better place and just because your dad left dosent mean you'll have daddy issues.
I have a dad but I wish I didn't. I still feel the exact way you do.
I'm still making peace with myself about his unfortunate presence in my life and I hope you can find peace and happiness within you in relation to your dad's absence in your life, as hard as that is. I don't know why your mum thinks you'll have daddy issues later on because if you come to terms with with you, you can't experience such issues as they won't hold you down anymore.
@@hyoriittai5411 I can relate to that on a personal level. My dad left when I was young; I want to become a dad more than anything in the world, but I'm afraid that I'll screw it up because I have no reference to go off of. I always feel a tinge of jealousy and curiosity when I visit my cousins or friends and see them talking with their dad. They have a vital element of their childhood that I never got.
I understand your struggle. I havent had a dad for 14 years. Im 20 currently and trying to forgive him without closure. You're not alone, please continue to be strong 🖤
I felt that, I have 4 other siblings - 3 from the same dad and one from another. They could spend time with their dads and write a whole paper about them, I always joked about how he went to get milk, but sometimes found myself thinking if I would be different if i knew about him in my life. My mom 'thinks' she knows my dad, but there's 3 different candidates, and I know of them via Facebook but they aren't living the best of lives either. So idk if I would wanna know him, I don't think I will as I'm nearing becoming an adult and have more important things to do.
"I can't talk to my friends, they wouldn't understand. But they are the only people i have." Hearing this made me feel less alone, knowing that someone else is going through the same thing.
Katelyn Hefner don't ever feel sad about it. You are never alone. Remember this if you ever feel you are alone, you are actually not. There would definitely be someone feeling the same. I DO AS WELL:)
same :)
I‘m feeling the same way :)
I do feel like that way sometimes but I like to remind myself that they not worth my sadness because they don't care anyways and thus I always tell myself never to trust anyone so easily. Honestly I just try working on myself try to love myself as much as possible so in that way I know my worth enough not to stay, trust or even go sad over people who don't value me enough to appreciate the efforts I make for them.
I feel the same way :(
my friends see my mom as a cool mom, but they don’t know what happens behind closed doors.
It’s sad to think that your friends may be going through a lot and you may not know. Makes you wonder how they’re doing, especially during this pandemic. I haven’t seen my friend IRL in more than one year. I miss them.
"My parents deserve a better child"
I tell this to myself everyday
mine do...
that hits me hard
Ya a few months ago my dad said that both me and my sister were a disappointment to him. I can never forget that
When they also deserve better parents.
When people say "You need to tell your parents that you want to harm yourself!" I scoff, because my parents found out through my diary. They screamed. They yelled. They got angry. They got upset. They got dissapointed. They got emotional. They got questionable. They got suspicious. They blamed themselves. Then they blamed me. Then it was no one's fault, apparently. Then they talked behind my back. They threatened to swnd me to a mental hospital. They yelled some more. They kept me up all night. They wouldn't let me sleep. My BRAIN wouldn 't let me sleep. Sleep means vulnerability. At least for me. It leaves time for your head to get the better of you, only to wake up figuring out that precious land of wonder was just a dream. That you jave been maxe for a fool and brought back viciously to reality. In the end, My parents "took care" of the problem. Not really, I still feel the same. But I know, at the end of the day, my parents still love me and I'm grateful for that.
I wish you the best for whatever you are going through, stranger.
I know this probably should be a separate comment, but I found that the topic is just so similar. In a weird way I get what you say, but at the same time I know it's a completely different type of a problem.
In my family, when the topic of self-harm comes up, my parents (or whoever it is) would ask me if I do it; and I would say 'no' because it's practically the truth. I don't cut, I don't starve myself or overeat. But I consider it. I want to hurt myself, I think of all the things I could do without leaving a mark on my skin and sometimes I follow through. But it's never permanent.
So I say 'no' and feel like a liar, and then if they ask if I'm sure I show them my forearms, smile and say that they can look for themselves. End of the story. Yet there are times when I wonder if I should tell them - they're just moments, after which I always come to the conclusion that I'm exaggerating and that I would be doing it just for the attention.
I fear that if I indeed got professional attention, it would be like 'oh, so you just feel edgy sometimes. Well, the solution would be to go outdoors more often, get away from the Internet for a while and it will be all dandy! Now, go away so we can deal with people who have real problems'.
And like yourself, I know that my parents love me. I also know that if I truly hurt myself, they would get me the help I need.
I'm sorry I pinned this under your comment if it bothers you, but I felt as if you would relate. I can always delete this if you tell me to, or if this upsets you, or whatever.
Either way, I wish you will get everything right, in the end.
@@lynxdefier5425 No need to delete your reply, I actually like to hear other peoples stories. It helps me to cope with pain knowing I'm not the only one going through stuff. Thank you for sharing. I hope your situation gets better.
@@rinrxl thanks, I also hope things turn out well for you.
@M a L i Y a H :3
sis I'm sorry to say this but I can tell they're not open-minded, and has little to no Emotional Intelligence. It's extremely evident that they didn't step on your shoes, they're not good at managing emotions, and lastly, they're selfish, because they only cared for their own reputation.
Same. My parents yelled at me and when i didnt tell them the "reason" for harming myself they try to make themselves the victim and say its their fault bla bla, and i had to apologize to them.
My secret:
I never had a childhood I never had a a supporting family and felt loved, I was abused, neglected, raped and molested by everyone who I trusted my own family. But today I am sooo happy I have my own family who finally loves me and no ones alone it's hard but someone will be there for you if they truly care.
I am so happy for you❤
that's great.
Same but my family still doesn't care about me 😭
Good for you❤️❤️❤️
♥️♥️
the fact that, even our parents were once at our age dealing with the same struggles as we are right now, and still they fail to understand our mental health is horrible!
That might be true but we will never know because not everyone goes through the same things, they probably don’t understand it solely because they’ve never gone through it.
@@KilledUm Yeah...but 99% of the teenagers go through this....so they possibly might have gone through it ...I mean we never know .....and I think u could be right....we teenagers are treated like children but are expected to behave like grown ups...and this isn't fair u know...
@Golden Styles actually if they did have these issues they would have understood, but they don't so it shows that they took things for granted.
@@sushreeswain1554 might be..
This must be one of that most depressed, and saddest generation yet. I wonder why..
Hannah Barnes this generation hasn’t lived through anything major except for maybe 9/11
@@LM-ix7pk idk this pandemic seems pretty major.
According to me , Seeing all the depressing comments around us urges us further to become suicidal , moreover nowadays even if your not depressed , you somehow try to find a way to get deprresed so that you can get attention and sympathy from others , which is pretty common in teens now in my opinion.
@LM A pandemic?
Social media. The bigger the world around you, the easier it is to get lost
The teenagers that cry themselves to sleep at night, once had hope in there eyes
*their
Kyle_mk17 oh wow now it’s spelling bee 🙄
@@mrskaren7063 it’s a*
@@mrskaren7063 oh wow stfu
@@mrskaren7063 you go to the preschool spelling bee or something?
"teens don't have real problems " - understand that this speech is the cause of many real problems
My parents literally live by the idea that if you're under 25 you don't have real problems
TW: suicide
One memory that will forever taint the image of my family was when my mother said my younger brother should have died when he attempted suicide. She said I was the better child, and it’s crushing that she’s ruined our relationship before it could even start. It’s been ten months since then, and he has yet to properly look me in the eyes.
i dont want to disrespect here , but your mom is too much .
your mom shouldn't have had kids, because that is the worst thing you can say to a child or teenager
@@giovanarocha3136 i agree, and I really hate her for that. I got my brother’s number from my step dad the other night, and I’ve invited him to lunch. I just hope he doesn’t think I’m tricking him. I just really want my brother
@@weentersoldier4576 tell you're brother that for me that im genuinely glad he's alive. Im sure he has a great life ahead of him!
@@giovanarocha3136 will do. Thanks for the encouragement!
Edit: he left lunch early cause he said he wasn’t feeling well. I tried to make a new appointment but I think he just needs some space rn
Me: "I think I've been having panic attacks bc I just randomly get shaky and I feel really scared for no reason and I don't know what to do."
My mom: "What is there to panic about?"
Me: "Idk. Nothing I guess."
My mom: "Exactly, you need to stop worrying so much and get out of your head. You're making yourself sick."
Me in my head: I know.. that's the problem tho. I don't know how.
It is like telling homeless women to buy a house, i know how you feel. I got psychotic depression, anxiety and paranoia thanks to my family and society. Used drugs, didn't work for me. Hope you will get better soon.
my mom gets stressed easily and so do I, but with her, I try not to stress her so I don’t talk to her about topics like these anymore. however it does hurt when she says that, I get her point but I just don’t know how not to. it’s like saying “hey mom I’m thirsty” “the dont be thirsty”
Yup one of the parts of anxiety is "worrying about nothing and everything". In my case it'll often be when i see people who are not in my close friends group, i'll start panicking the f out. And when i talk to people about that that they'll ask "why thought? There's nothing to be scared of." And im like IK!!! Ik there's nothing to be scared of and its just people.
I have so many panic attacks too. They mostly happen at school because of homework and also when my friends are talking to each other and might not be talking to me. I feel guilty about it because I know it’s great that they are friends. I look at everyone and see that they are cool and social while i feel like I complete outsider. Every night I procrastinate because I don’t feel happy doing my homework. I talk about my struggle with doing it and people tell me to stop complaining and to just focus and do it. I try and I end up getting a headache or something. Around 10 pm-1 am I’ll finally be done with homework then I sleep. Then once I wake up I get ready for school then go and after school I do homework and that’s really my life for 9 months out of the year. It’s brought so many anxieties in my life. I’m tired all the time. Physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Ok I’m going to be done venting :))))))))) ahh
Feel you sis, the same here. Al thought I do know the cause, I still do not know how to make it stop
Older folks talk about how “entitled” our generation is and how “easy” we have things.
Maybe they should watch this.
Exactly. They talk about their hardships and I understand that it was hard for them. But what really pains me is that they think we have no problems at all. Maybe our problems may not seem big to them, but they need to understand that different people have different emotional capacities. Telling us how their lives was so much harder than ours is won't make our life any better.
@@ramisac.4544 Exactly, and to be real, how would anyone even know who's life is harder to deal with? They're not us, and we're not them, and they didn't grow up in our generation and we didn't grow up in theirs. You can't accurately compare something you have not experienced. Being a teen does not make your pain invalid, and being a adult does not mean you should forget what it was like to be a Kid. We should try to Emphasize with each other, and connect the gap that is between generations, because the older you get you realize that you never stop learning, and you can learn from both a baby, and a elderly person.
They had a physical hardship and battle physically our battle is inside of us.
They’ll say the same thing
I think growing up in our
Generation is harder than ever.
I don't like talking to people. I either talk too much or too little so they end up leaving me and I have no one to talk to. I have trust issues now.
ShoeGun i have this exact issue. you are completely valid and there ARE people out there just like this who understand. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. it’s very confusing and isolating.
I'm here
Exactly why I have no friends
This is Soo true..it's hard to talk to someone.same in my case I want to say you are not alone..you know sometime strangers will be the person you can open up to instead of close friends in my case
there are actually two different ways out of this. 1) search for coaching/courses/workshops on bettering social interaction (they do exist) and learn from them, maybe even consider counseling/therapy to determine if your lack of social adjustment may stem from something deeper. Or 2) be patient and keep being you, sooner or later you will find people who are either similar to you or emotionally intelligent enough to understand that's just how you are and be perfectly OK with it. Trust me, at this point half my social circle are outcasts who used to be friendless and rejected. Life is weird like that
I wish i have the courage to write my deepest secret like them.
Samee but stay strongg
When I was a teenager, I was in the closet. One day, a boy was trying to kiss me and touch me in certain areas, and I told him that I was gay and wasn’t interested. Then he went and told a bunch of my peers to get back at me for not wanting to do things with him. Soon enough, everyone in my grade knew. I started starving myself. I considered attempting suicide, but I luckily didn’t thanks to a dream that I had. I basically dreamt of what life for my family would be like without me, and they all seemed really upset that I had died. So, I didn’t ever attempt suicide. I’ve never told anyone that I had suicidal thoughts. Thank you, whoever you are, for reading this. If you are considering attempting suicide, please don’t end your life. It’s precious. The people around you love you, and will support you if you need help. Please don’t end your life.
Coyote you deserve so much love. Be who you are and be PROUD. We want you on this earth, you deserve to be here
Sarahlovescookies 123 thank you. 😊
❤️. Hope things get better.
That is amazing. I always wish people who committed suicide could see how if affected their family and friends. Even the whole community. It’s so important for people to see. So many bad things happen to people and it’s just important to be able to know you are loved and have people you can talk to. 💕💕
I hope you are happy now!! I wish you all the happiness and peace you deserve!! Best of luck in everything you do!❤️
My little brother ended his life so that he would make his bullies feel guilty.
That's it. He committed suicide to guilt trip his bullies. I miss him so much.
I hate edits in comments but I have had the same self harming thoughts as my brother when I was bullied. My dad used to abuse me, and I would think about cutting myself so that he wouldn't do it again. I used to give speeches in schools about suicide and self harm, but now I cant because of quarantine. A parent told me that after I talked to the students, her son actually put down his ideas of self harm(he was suicidal) and she was so grateful. I'm happy that I was able to save other people from hurting themselves even if I couldn't save Ezra(that was my brother's name and my sons name). Thank you for all the kind replies.
im so sorry for your loss. im sure he was a great person
May he rest in peace, I'm very sorry i hope you are okay
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Monalisa pls don’t, dont let anyone cause or be the root of your problems, don’t let revenge get you to make a decision you can’t never take back. you matter to so many people and after reading your story i’ll think about your situation and i’ll hope that you are better now.
I am so sorry for your loss dear stranger. I know what you go through and how bad it hurts. I am sure your brother was a wonderful person and I wish he rests in peace. I also hope you have a network of support that can help you through these hard times.
The best way to honour those we have lost is to live our lives to the fullest and to remember them. Remember everything good that he was when he was alive. Be proud of him. He dealed with a lot of pain for a long time and it was too much for him to handle in the end.
Everyone always tells me to do what I enjoy, but the truth is, I don’t even know what I enjoy anymore. I don’t even know who I am or am meant to be. Sometimes I just want to disappear
Hey love. ik you don't know me or anything, but im right here. you ever want to chat about anything to get it off your plate, i can give you my insta. I know what it is like to feel like that, to not know who you are, or wtf's going to happen in your life. and it hurts like hell. but yeah you aren't alone feeling like that and I just wanted to let you know.
You are not alone. You are never alone and it’s hard but if you need someone to talk to I can be that someone. I care about you and I never want you to disappear.
I feel the same....i don't know what to do
same. i don't know anymore what would make me happy. i don't have dreams. i wish i could disappear so that no one would remember me. but it's good to know that i'm not alone with this. i really don't know what to do and it scares me.
it's okay. Just keep breathing. It's normal not to know what you want to do, or not to know if you want to do anything at all. It sucks. It's hard. Sometimes all we can do is keep on living and see what the future holds,, And when that's hard, we'll have to cling onto each other and help each other... stay strong.
The best part about all this?
Gen Z will be the best parents, cuz they have experienced these situations beforehand and know how to support their children:)
So mental issues and all work generational wise???
@@ikeepscreamingbutgodwontan3132 stfu I see you in every comment
@@ikeepscreamingbutgodwontan3132 in some generation its seen more.....taking into consideration some people who say they understand when they understand nothing....and the person who is experiencing this behavior can neither leave them or be with them.....can neither live...nor die.....because this condition is such that it seems like its nothing to others but actually its really something.......nothing is worse than hanging in between....and that is what this 'some generation' people are feeling and made to feel nowadays
@@aashikhar5782 is there a problem with that???
@@ikeepscreamingbutgodwontan3132 yep
Guys, when someone shares something traumatic with you, please try to hold back from immediately sharing your own story. I get that you want to show that you can relate, but a lot of the time, it shifts the focus to you, instead of the one who just became vulnerable to you.
It’s okay to share, too. But just... not immediately after. It makes me feel so worthless everytime people do this to me...
I feel similarly. It’s also important to remember that not all of our peers are adequate as therapists. Sometimes they share their own experiences to relate and make us feel like we’re not alone😢
True. But like she said, your friends arent your therapists
Hi, Generic Channel. I’ve never relied on my friends for therapy and I never will. I’m sure you know that confiding in the one or two people you trust is part of being human. That’s what I was speaking to.
I just posted a comment and started by saying I'm not trying to make this about me but it's how I go through something so I hope it will be helpful. I was addressing it to the teen who said they don't know their identity... I would have loved to ask why they feel that way but it was anonymous...
I hate when people get sappy with me. I am an amazing listener and have saved even saved a girls life. But I get so narcissistic when people share their sappy stories since I’ve usually gone through worse and don’t need help... I feel ashamed that I don’t have any sympathy or respect toward them