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  • @melissac8582
    @melissac8582 Рік тому +213

    'So if you listen to the average person for their average advice, you will end up like the average person'!!!! So true. Margarita's advice never fails💯

    • @mudskipper6702
      @mudskipper6702 Рік тому

      Actually it is a contradiction or Paradox or inescapable Zen Koan

  • @plaguedocta817
    @plaguedocta817 Рік тому +247

    Im 17 y/o. I’m taking sociology in HS, today we learned “lookin glass self” the concept- we perceive & change ourselves depending on what society thinks of us. I’m happy too say I have not changed for anyone- for society, I dress goth, white face, dark makeup, dark clothes, bird nest hair. Get looks but those make me feel better. Means I’m different, people take their time too talk about me, weither good or bad. Be yourself guys, like she said no one is gonna remember you anyway, do as you please. Have a lovely day

    • @mikepiccolo32
      @mikepiccolo32 Рік тому +6

      Yet your not because the majority are looking like you

    • @chibisoda7083
      @chibisoda7083 Рік тому +10

      ​@@mikepiccolo32where do you live that the majority dresses goth? I know it's trendy right now but I wouldn't necessarily call it the majority.

    • @mikepiccolo32
      @mikepiccolo32 Рік тому +1

      @@chibisoda7083 Are you cool ?Do you listen to Aerosmith?

    • @rose-sk2qv
      @rose-sk2qv Рік тому +3

      Well I'm from the 80s lol so I don't really get surprised or look at anyone, and I don't care what someone looks like, back then punks, skid heads, new romantics, and mods were all around I admired the punks they went through a lot of thought to get their look just right always clean tidy well groomed

    • @plaguedocta817
      @plaguedocta817 Рік тому +2

      @@mikepiccolo32 not necessarily, not where I am from. They dress a little alt, not fully traditional goth.

  • @Pai_chan3
    @Pai_chan3 Рік тому +77

    Indeed. You can build 20 years of approval and lose it in one day, it's genuinely pointless. Thank you Margarita, love you !

    • @2raw2war2
      @2raw2war2 Рік тому +3

      Reminds me of a line a book that has stuck with me…
      ”One ah shit
      wipes out every atta boy.”

  • @maxter1060
    @maxter1060 Рік тому +45

    Key point you made at the end - you could be working to please someone for years, do one wrong thing, and they'll abandon you in a heartbeat. When you self-validate, every mistake is a new opportunity for growth and self-reflection, and you'll never abandon yourself in that way

  • @outerspace7079
    @outerspace7079 Рік тому +12

    “I care if I like me”💗

  • @XOChristianaNicole
    @XOChristianaNicole Рік тому +22

    My mother use to say “You’re a psycho,” when I called her out on things, and was right. I, finally, learned to respond with “I may be, though, that doesn’t imply I am wrong.”

    • @DivyaSingh-so6vb
      @DivyaSingh-so6vb 3 місяці тому

      Well that's funny😂😂
      hope she got your message her reaction must be epic in the moment

  • @toddjacksonpoetry
    @toddjacksonpoetry Рік тому +19

    "It is of no consequence what others think of you. What matters is what you think of them." - Gore Vidal.

  • @VforVanity10
    @VforVanity10 Рік тому +6

    "You will be failing at smth you didn't even want for yourself in the first place!." Ouch, thaaat resonated big time...

  • @seaofsolace
    @seaofsolace Рік тому +19

    It has to be talked about more. That going against the social expectations is lonely sometimes but you find yourself. The same way they say that it is lonely at the top and it is ok. Marching to the beat of your own drums is worth it.

  • @joshuasaintcloud
    @joshuasaintcloud Рік тому +50

    When i tell you i watch your videos almost everyday ? Because one you are telling me about myself and also I’m learning and growing and I’m not even gonna lie to you i am a black man who suffers from anxiety and anxious attachment and also seeking approval from others because i was raised in a household where i got criticized everyday so it affected my life heavy. But watching your videos these past few weeks/ month I’ve noticed a change in my mindset, mood, relationship and attitude. So thank you margarita 🌷

  • @carmencatalina9086
    @carmencatalina9086 Рік тому +16

    Freeing myself of people’s opinions cause they are mediocre and want me to stay stuck cause they hate im trying and having chance especially my toxic family and I’m listening to my intuition and my spiritual beliefs and myself period. I feel free and at ease. Taking baby steps to reprogram myself and felt this video. Thanks for posting your truth and inspiration. ❤

  • @thatrunningirl
    @thatrunningirl Рік тому +12

    I recently started running to podcasts, instead of music. Been a runner for 18 years. WOW. What a game-changer listening to these podcasts while striving towards your running goals! Or any goals! SO. MUCH. VALUE.

  • @Sharon-jg9ls
    @Sharon-jg9ls Рік тому +17

    Needed this! Getting the silent treatment right now from my bf. I owned my mistakes and know I should walk away, but keep caring about being mean or his opinion of me.

    • @jello4323
      @jello4323 Рік тому

      Silent treatment is mental abuse

    • @anonymousnation5235
      @anonymousnation5235 Рік тому +10

      You can care about him from a distance. You don't need to be in his life just because you love him. Silent treatment is a punishment and if you don't walk away, you will be rewarding him for punishing you and he'll keep repeating this behavior. And the time will come when you will be overwhelmed and snap at him. That's when he'll call you crazy and make it all your fault.
      So it's best to silently walk away now. And never look back. Show him that his petty punishment won't work on you.

    • @therealscot2491
      @therealscot2491 5 місяців тому

      What if silent treatment is a punishment for something bad she actually done?​@@anonymousnation5235

  • @joycechua559
    @joycechua559 Рік тому +4

    Hi Margarita Nazarenko, I am very much grateful that I have found someone like you in the youtube platform. You have saved my life and help me get out of self-hate and depression. Keep doing this type of content. :)

  • @shelly6176
    @shelly6176 3 місяці тому +1

    You are definitely not a sell out. I love your videos. They help me so much. I respect you that you work with brands you truly love. Thank you so much for your wisdom. ❤

  • @mrscandicebell
    @mrscandicebell Рік тому +5

    This is a sword I'll fall on, I've said it before, but I'll say it again, I love the way you put it that I gotta get my sh!t together. It's not in a judgmental, non caring way. And you don't talk us to death 😅. 30mins of saying the same thing different ways like other channels. Thank you 🙏🏾 🥹 you give me the spark that I can be better

  • @andratoilee
    @andratoilee Рік тому +16

    Really really needed to hear this after having a desperately paranoid evening - I’m always seeking the approval of my colleagues when I don’t need to. Thank you 🙏

  • @LOVEAapjes
    @LOVEAapjes 6 місяців тому +2

    I really love this advice. It’s just so hard to know WHAT i want.

  • @starrchild1972
    @starrchild1972 Рік тому +2

    This video came right on time. I realize that I spent waaayyyyy to much time explaining myself to people. No more…

  • @annettemoorshead7019
    @annettemoorshead7019 Рік тому +13

    We love you, Margarita! Always just what we need to hear when we need to hear it!! ❤❤❤

  • @witchescauldron
    @witchescauldron Рік тому +8

    This is such a lightbulb moment for me! So simple yet very powerful xx

  • @justinabartosik
    @justinabartosik Рік тому +7

    Thank you so much for your work, Margarita. Over the last couple of months I listened to all your podcasts and youtube videos. And on a daily, I also watch your instagram content. It really has changed many of my negative beliefs, helped me to create my own identity and create the vision for my life. All the best for you and your lovely family x

  • @shrinkshy
    @shrinkshy Рік тому +1

    This video is SO on point - a colleague was asked to leave due to a disciplinary & seeing the opportunity I asserted myself to ask for the transfer (which is also a promotion / allow better work life balance) they loved the idea ans it was granted without second thought I’ve had to deal with criticism from my ex manager for leaving them but also grappling with my own self judgment of what ppl might think of me but your video made me realise I’ve worked super hard in my career and am seen as trustworthy and reliable so when the opportunity arose I should NOT be apologetic to assert myself in the workplace or worry what ransoms may think of me. Also a man would NEVER even question asking for a promotion or securing the deal.

  • @rehammua
    @rehammua Рік тому +7

    I really needed this ❤️ how can I break free finally

  • @hn1405
    @hn1405 Рік тому +2

    "How about I plotted it this way" we both moved our heads the same way at same moment 😅🥰

  • @veronicab15
    @veronicab15 Рік тому +1

    Nice video on how to be stuck up and ruin your relationships! As if people are not narcissistic or egotistical enough today as it is.

  • @sunshine2343able
    @sunshine2343able Рік тому +2

    I’m trying so hard to control my emotions! I love your come back! Lol👏👏👏

  • @lilcutie5082
    @lilcutie5082 Рік тому +1

    It's scary how relevant this video is to me. I've been improving as a person and getting all these you've changed comments. I'm done explaining myself. And I'm done living for others and regretting. It's my life and I'm going to live it how I please

  • @marianaj8
    @marianaj8 Рік тому +1

    Margarita, you have been doing a fantastic work here. Seriously.
    After I began my self knowledge, my personal development, get obsessed with me, my ancestry, I lost a lot of friends.
    They were nice people, but I wasn’t vibing with them anymore; we were no longer sharing the same perspective, feelings and lifestyle. I didn’t want to gossip, to mock others, to complain etc.
    And meeting your channel, you podcast, I felt “okay, this is ma people!”. So, thank you very, very much. Hopefully, I will find my people off-line too!

  • @SL3DApps
    @SL3DApps Рік тому +2

    M33 and have very high standards on myself and others. The mental prowess and thought pattern behind everything you say is extremely impressive for a woman/man/human/etc. I’m in awe from a philosophical standpoint and every video you put out is genuinely teaching others how to handle complex destructive thoughts in a straightforward manner.
    You could honestly do world tours with venue bookings where you hold your teachings to others and I’m confident people would show up to hear you.

  • @esj1315
    @esj1315 Рік тому

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 good for you I’m so tired of people getting so butt hurt anytime somebody makes money or has success. Like isn’t that the goal for people that you like to be successful and have money? If not, it’s just gonna be all the people that you don’t like that don’t stand for what you agree with having money. 🤦🏼‍♀️

  • @HeyNewMomma
    @HeyNewMomma Рік тому +5

    I have been anticipating your next video! Yay! Your wisdom is so needed! And I've been doing therapy on better help for 2 months now and love it! Literally working to find my self!

  • @mariagabbott
    @mariagabbott Рік тому +1

    I have followed you for years and haven't watched your videos for a while until recently. I'm loving your transformation! I've always thought of you as down to earth (even when you did luxury videos), so of course you give good advice

  • @plaguedocta817
    @plaguedocta817 Рік тому +4

    Margarita, I truly love watching your videos, as a young girl it’s really helps me understand life a bit better. Thank you THANK YOU!🥰

  • @treelady5560
    @treelady5560 Рік тому +1

    I'm very grateful that I found your channel. Your wisdom is golden. ✨️ Thank you so very much. 🙏

  • @pinaypride4784
    @pinaypride4784 7 місяців тому

    I need to work on my self. Thank you for giving the information about better help. I needed this.

  • @natalieconde3809
    @natalieconde3809 7 місяців тому

    I love all your videos and I’m so glad that I stumbled on you and your sessions
    They have changed me
    And I’m glad I hopped out the box!
    I love you for your dedication and honesty

  • @victoriaholden7774
    @victoriaholden7774 Рік тому +2

    OMG this is solid gold! I honestly feel this is truth! ❤

  • @anonymousnation5235
    @anonymousnation5235 Рік тому +4

    Not everyone trying to fit in is seeking approval.

  • @apurvabachal4483
    @apurvabachal4483 7 місяців тому

    I agree with you, manifestation is REAL! -thank you for your videos

  • @mrsundercover7095
    @mrsundercover7095 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow i love u so much! Thank u for the bomb advice, as a young woman i really appreciate you

  • @Rob-bv6ew
    @Rob-bv6ew Рік тому +1

    I am resentful that I never stood up to bullies, that I allowed myself to be empowered, controlled, manipulated. I resent that I had to adapt and adapt and adapt in order to stay employed for 17 years to pay bills because company politics. I resent that people are not fired when they should be because politics. I probably need to take all that resentment and build a campfire and watch it burn while I focus on the good stuff. A work in progress.

  • @shanagirl33
    @shanagirl33 Рік тому +4

    Love this, Margarita! Thank you for always sharing your wisdom 🤍

  • @VictoriaHatzson
    @VictoriaHatzson 11 місяців тому

    I genuenly need your videos in my life.

  • @Centauryproxima
    @Centauryproxima Рік тому +1

    Thanks for your book suggestion ‘Attached’ in one of your videos, it’s changed my perspective after my breakup two weeks ago.

  • @tessabellarini
    @tessabellarini Рік тому

    I’m so glad you touched on this, I find it BIZARRE when people react that way once someone is sponsored. Every single one of us is a consumer, what is so wrong about advertising & advocating for a brand you truly appreciate & enjoy?

  • @crystallizedworld
    @crystallizedworld Рік тому +8

    You know what is funny? I recently realized that if you tell anyone that you would like to try something new, for example a try going on a new career path. 9 out of 10 people will tell you “oh this is going to be so hard for you, not many people succeed in this, if I were you I wouldn’t try this.” And you rarely have people who say “yeah, go fo it, good for you, good luck!”. Why can’t people just mind their own business. These “advices” are not really advices, people are trying to hold you back and I always wonder why.

  • @johnlazo4034
    @johnlazo4034 Рік тому +1

    Hi, Margarita,
    I love your videos and content; they have positively impacted my life. Please continue to make videos with tips and advice regarding becoming more confident and secure. I would love it if you made specific videos on self-validation and self-soothing. Cheers!

  • @user-ek7yc9fh7y
    @user-ek7yc9fh7y 10 місяців тому

    Your videos provide great perspective on many things. It is a wonderful reminder to do what is right for you. No one else is living your life. Trust yourself. Even if you fail. At least you tried. You learn from it. It doesn't mean you shouldn't try again:)

  • @liyana8556
    @liyana8556 Рік тому +1

    Can't like this video enough!!! Happy for you to onboard better help as a sponsor x

  • @estrojen8755
    @estrojen8755 Рік тому

    congratulations on your new sponsor!!! i needed this so bad.... cryin on the treadmill 😂 thank you thank you thank you! Sell what's from truly within to win!

  • @anitapius6225
    @anitapius6225 9 місяців тому

    Standing ovation for this 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @katerynamukhina8067
    @katerynamukhina8067 25 днів тому

    You are so inspirational!

  • @samaahasssan
    @samaahasssan Рік тому

    this video is so moving in every positive way possible, you’ve somehow encouraged the beast of courage that i thought was covered in anxiety and worries. thank you so much

  • @XOChristianaNicole
    @XOChristianaNicole Рік тому

    That’s so intriguing! When I heard you say you were working with Better Help - I wondered if you were familiar with the controversies, surrounding ‘em; as well as the response, in the comments..
    And then, to hear you say “I PLOTTED it” - and that be what this video is about?
    I couldn’t love it more.
    That’s exactly what I tell myself, when I reflect on things that I hold some semblance of shame for (which, isn’t much, surprisingly- being raised in a family full of nearly only women, which, included a narcissism diagnosis).
    Everything in my life I have plotted and schemed, in one way or another.
    Even when my life is less than ideal, on the outside - I know it’s exactly what’s necessary to achieve my goals, and live the life I desire to live.

  • @svilenaninetta9838
    @svilenaninetta9838 2 місяці тому

    Bravo Margarita 👏👏👏👏

  • @kellycrazie8589
    @kellycrazie8589 Рік тому +1

    really love your inputs!!! thank you SO much for finding really the best explanations for how we can actually really believe in these truths such as "don't care for what others think" :)

  • @crndenver
    @crndenver Рік тому

    Omg, this almost made me cry. Thank you so much for this video❤ so inspiring and loving 🙏🏼

  • @s.0007
    @s.0007 10 місяців тому

    This video resonated with me on whole different level, and gave me a whole different outlook on life. Wow thank you

  • @dominiqueg4767
    @dominiqueg4767 Рік тому

    The timing of this video in my life is GOLD ✨😍 thank you!

  • @gopikaa.s6617
    @gopikaa.s6617 Рік тому +3

    Margarita. You embody this. I’ve taken your courses. I’ve had the pleasure of speaking to you. You’re a walking- talking example of Love yourself in the healthiest manner possible. On a side note ~ I loved the Virgo energy in this video 🙈💕

    • @Margarita.Nazarenko
      @Margarita.Nazarenko Рік тому

      Wow, thank you

    • @ReginaMichaletos
      @ReginaMichaletos Рік тому

      Fellow Virgo here and I agree! I recently took the online Feminine Principles course and loved it. The deer, horse and cow analogy blew my mind, so strikingly accurate!

  • @extremotionaltrouffas
    @extremotionaltrouffas Рік тому +1

    Great lecture. Just what I needed right now. Thank you a bunch. Kisses from Greece. 😘

  • @lululemon6647
    @lululemon6647 Рік тому

    My god the words were amazingly said! Very powerful video! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

  • @annam.4184
    @annam.4184 Рік тому

    Straight to the point. Thank you great advice! Congratulations on having sponsor for this video, great job!

  • @Brendaglam24
    @Brendaglam24 10 місяців тому

    It was hard to stop but this video really mind blowing you really help me stop caring now ❤💖

  • @Lady.Luck.
    @Lady.Luck. 11 місяців тому

    Wow I love your content. This was what I needed to hear

  • @btwthblood
    @btwthblood Рік тому

    I could listen to you all-day

  • @shallusharma7196
    @shallusharma7196 11 місяців тому

    I casually asked my trainer out after we finished our program, I feel regret now. I truly was impressed by him felt the vibe. Once our professional setup was over I indirect made a move. He subtly suggested that I will have to let you know. I feel like bit shame. Why is that? How do feel in my power again. Did I do wrong?

  • @tanyatsatskas2085
    @tanyatsatskas2085 Рік тому

    This is exceptionally brilliant and thoughtful. Thank you Goals!

  • @olgaglazova3185
    @olgaglazova3185 Рік тому

    Thank you Margarita, спасибо Маргарита 🌸

  • @MihadGesey
    @MihadGesey Рік тому

    Hi ive just subscribed to your channel and the first thing that caught my attention is how raw you are with your emotions and im starting to learn how to manifest my feminine energy and listening to helps me put things in to perspective and valids what im feeling and going through mainly what i need right now because all my life ive been a people pleaser so im trying get out of that habit and im tired of doing and giving my all only to get the short end of the stick...my best wishes to growing your channel and your future endeavours 😊

    • @MihadGesey
      @MihadGesey Рік тому

      @Tel3greeme-Margarita_Nazarenko sorry I didn't have telegram I just downloaded it so I would need your contact info which isn't wise to ask in the comment section lol😇💙

  • @oonar5791
    @oonar5791 Рік тому

    Thank you for these words, really helped me ! Greeting from Paris :)

  • @CQBMIND
    @CQBMIND Рік тому

    I just love this woman. So smart. 💗

  • @jeaninecooks
    @jeaninecooks Рік тому +1

    thank you for this ❣

  • @meghan3835
    @meghan3835 Рік тому

    Thank you mam❤

  • @Moonlight-ey5md
    @Moonlight-ey5md 11 місяців тому

    you are amazing !!! this is powerful

  • @sunshine2343able
    @sunshine2343able Рік тому +1

    Thanks!

  • @SamFoxStrong
    @SamFoxStrong 5 місяців тому

    This is gold

  • @littleiodine9480
    @littleiodine9480 Рік тому

    Beautiful, insightful message!

  • @MissGlueckT
    @MissGlueckT Рік тому

    Love and support to you! Thank you for your cool, inspiring, out of the box thinking.

  • @shambhavipataskar3699
    @shambhavipataskar3699 Рік тому

    Thank you Margarita. ❤

  • @PaulaFernandez-i4s
    @PaulaFernandez-i4s 11 місяців тому

    Great video Margarita! I love your content. 😍

  • @Warriorsaffiliated
    @Warriorsaffiliated Рік тому

    Yes!!! Started tough! :)

  • @aminuumar2522
    @aminuumar2522 Рік тому

    Your videos are quite amazing. I fall in love with your channel.

  • @Myshelleallen
    @Myshelleallen 11 місяців тому

    You are so amazing !!!

  • @prik4727
    @prik4727 Рік тому

    Your ideas are very unique. I respect you for that. Also your smile gives me major Scarlett Johansson vibes!

  • @Warriorsaffiliated
    @Warriorsaffiliated Рік тому

    They want u back in the box so true lovin this

  • @jlina
    @jlina Рік тому

    SO glad you included hammock lying! yes 🔥

  • @ivanadrama
    @ivanadrama Рік тому

    Can you please make a video about friendships. You are who you hang out with... cutting people out of your life who you wish not to be like etc...

  • @rose-sk2qv
    @rose-sk2qv Рік тому

    I don't care who you promote, don't mean that as it sounds, I mean in terms of I'm watching because I'm interested in your view and thoughts

  • @festaa7908
    @festaa7908 Рік тому

    This video, makes me feel shamed of how I think who I am, even now I was out looking how to type some words, so people can attack me how it's not grammatically correct, if it's not comment down below so I can learn more. Thank you for advice I appreciate it, lot's of love and success in life♥♥

  • @-bhnsvwy5841
    @-bhnsvwy5841 Рік тому

    margarita you difienetly should make a podcast on spotify
    I can hear you all day
    With all love itw❤

  • @Foofie2005
    @Foofie2005 Рік тому

    Brilliant advice! As Always ⭐️⭐️⭐️❤️

  • @soniakim9089
    @soniakim9089 Рік тому

    Thank you Margarita ♥♥♥

  • @Marion-tz5hb
    @Marion-tz5hb Рік тому

    Needed to hear this! Thanks

  • @Blondiee777
    @Blondiee777 Рік тому +1

    I'm 33. I've lead my life on my terms not really caring what people thought about my career choices, where I live, how I dress, who I date etc. Unfortunately it's lead to me feeling extremely lonely and misunderstood.

    • @sonyaestelle6998
      @sonyaestelle6998 Рік тому

      So sorry to hear that, I've had something similar happen to me, turns out most of my doing things "unconventionally" was trauma response from shitty childhood. I've tried to create a balance now where I pick and choose which parts of my life I want to do according to the people around me and which parts I want to do my way.

    • @Blondiee777
      @Blondiee777 Рік тому

      @@sonyaestelle6998 Ah thank you. Sorry to hear you may have gone through something similar. I wonder if its a response to my childhood too. Im the only child of a Single Mother. I'm not a psychologist but I think my Mum had NPD of some sort. She had no friends or partner of her own. Her life was me and her career.
      I got taken along to everything with her. To the hobbies she enjoyed (ballroom dancing and burlesque dancing!!) Taken everywhere like I was her best mate and told things you would only tell a partner. I moved out at 23 and didn't look back. She hated that. We now haven't spoken in 3 years as she was so over bearing and critical of me. I couldn't take it anymore.
      When you say parts of your life according to the people around you - Could you expand a little if you don't mind? Maybe I could learn something lol. Thanks!

  • @cyndriana
    @cyndriana 10 місяців тому +1

    Did you know that Better Help sells their users information to advertisers to make more money? On top of the many people saying that a lot of therapists on the platform are unqualified and that the company charged them before they could be matched with a therapist? I'm saying this because you say that you *truly* *truly* admire Better Help. It's inconsistencies like these that make people say that influencers are sell outs.

    • @Margarita.Nazarenko
      @Margarita.Nazarenko 10 місяців тому +2

      Thanks for the info. I will look into it. Clearly I am talking about my experience but I will look into the bigger picture. X

  • @KyraMcKinney
    @KyraMcKinney Рік тому

    Needed this, thank you! 💗

  • @TheSassyKlassyChick
    @TheSassyKlassyChick Рік тому

    I love this video. Thank you.

  • @tequilachanel7312
    @tequilachanel7312 Рік тому +1

    Amen to this video 🙌🏾