It is funny but it is when I am in a crowd that I experience loneliness most. I am so alienated in crowds. I enjoy spending time with one person rather than in a group or crowd. I know that is not right, but crowds of people cause me to feel a severe emptiness. If I am alone and I cry that's ok, but I can't just break down in tears with other people and when I am mourning a loss as I am now, it is easier for me to go somewhere alone with the Lord and spend time with Him.
That's what I really enjoyed when I drove an 18 wheeler. I totally hated being with a trainer because you can't do what you want, you have to compromise. They prefer this truck stop over that one, they like/ have to stop a lot for snacks or restroom breaks, etc... Freedom is being by yourself and doing what you want, when you want, no compromising.
I am alone, and I prefer it, I never get lonely, I miss people who I loved who have died, like my partner, Bob, my friends, and my family, who are all gone. You have to love the space you are in, and that is your mind.
Katherine, Excellent!! Yes, you have to love your own mind-space. great way to put it. I'm so sorry for your losses. :-) and wish you the best, Carolyn
I recently moved to a very rural, isolated area in the southern Sierra Nevada mountains. I am delighted to find "my kind" here -- people who, like you are comfortable with themselves as company and content with belonging to a far-flung and loosely-knit community. Btw, as a kid, I used to prowl the Mojave Desert with my rockhound dad. I remember the Quartzite powwow when it was just a couple of campers pulled up alongside the road, people selling agate and quartz out of them.
I spent over 2 years RVing all over the country by myself. Happiest times of my life. It can get a little lonely, but you get to meet new people almost every day and that helps. I really miss that lifestyle. Every evening I had a nice fire outside where I could sit, have some coffee and just relax. When my little one grows up I may just go back to that lifestyle. And BTW, your videos are very informative and interesting, so keep up the good work!
I prefer to be by myself and not having to be anyone I am not. A dog is a great companion without the judgment and my life has been alone and FREE. The freedom of a loner is an absolute freedom most folks have never experienced.
I grew up with 3 brothers and all their friends traipsing through the house. Lots of people & lots of noise. But I was a loaner from an early age. I was a wallflower watching what was going on at home except when they sucked me in with unpleasant events. Also, I had drunks in the family. Before my parent's divorce, my dad was a mean alcoholic. When my brothers reached their teens, they became drunks from then on. When we moved out, a gathering at mom's for Christmas broke out into fights. I always wanted to be alone. But I married at 18 anyway. It didn't last long & I stayed single a few years & remarried with 2 kids when I thought I was ready & that didn't last long. I've stayed alone since & I'm about to 63. I am happiest living alone. Always have been. That's why your videos are so helpful for me.
I completely understand your wanting to being alone, I myself take people in small doses, I enjoy my solitude and peace of mind and do appreciate people when I'm in their company but, a little goes a long ways for me. I always had to pace myself in the company of others, some people notice it and I guess other don't care enough to notice, which is okay with me. Since I've turned 70 I really appreciate my solitude. Stay blessed.
Rick Gauger Rick, it is not ADD. Introverts are like this. They need alone time to recharge their batteries you might say. Extroverts recharge in crowds of people. There is nothing wrong with either one.
i can be just alone in a huge city surrounded by people in the regular world. Its self imposed...Pain is inevitable but suffering optional. Great video TY
Carolyn, this video is like therapy for many people. Thank you for posting it. You’ve helped a lot of people more than you even know. This video is very therapeutic, thank you for posting it. 👍🙂❤️💕🙏
Hi Carolyn, thank you so much for so much courage and humility exposing or sharing your vulnerability, your loneliness, and your humanity (i.e. being "human") with the YT community. After losing a 30-year marriage to cancer and several shipmates to war, loneliness has been more fear than reality. You have given me hope that there are still some "good honest and genuine" people out there. Thank you for your words of encouragement, Happy Holidays, Ciao, L (Veteran)
lancelot - first, thank you for your service to our country! We appreciate the sacrifices you've made... Secondly I am sorry you've experienced so much loss... I know loss.. :-( Yes, the world is full of good people... I hope the new year finds you surrounded by many of them! - Best, C
You are very kind and sweet; your videos not only carry your "love" for the RV community but you are also setting a great example of kindness, altruism, and generosity towards fellow humans. You have spent many hours of research, notes, and work producing these informative videos; it is people like you who make a positive difference in this world. May Peace be with you Carolyn and thank you for your considerate comments, it means a lot to me, Ciao, L
You're a very intelligent and commutative person Carolyn. Truly enjoy listening and watching your life experiences. Alone time can reveal many unanswered questions, the fear is definitely overwhelming but the payoff is so worth it. keep up the great vlogs, many us need to see and hear more people like you. Cheers !
David, Wow.. just wow. I am flattered and humbled by your comment. Thank you for the very kind words and encouragement. It means a lot. And yes, those unanswered questions... *sigh*. Some get answered and some remain a big mystery, but at least they get acknowledged, right? I appreciate you watching and taking the time to comment. Thank you!
finding someone you have a mutual respect for no matter what gender they are is good for you, You will always have a good friend and I find the worst loneliness to me is feeling lonely in your own home with your family around you yet feeling very lonely, So in saying that it must have been a challenge to start with Carolyn but look where you are today and the experiences you have sometimes daily but you will never be alone again with all your new friends everywhere stay safe xx.....
You depend on YOU and no one else in most cases. Guard life is very similar. It'll make you stronger as an individual. You are absolutely right about taking others in small doses too. Defrag time is precious.
Carolyn I love to live alone and I am never lonely. I can't be with a group of people for more than a couple of hours without wanting to retreat to my house or camper for an hour break to be alone. I totally relate to your life but I think I would like to travel with a group from time to time on the road. Great video topic..I thoroughly enjoyed it and look forward to your next one.
Carolyn, I'm from Florida, and traveled and hiked the west coast this spring by myself and loved it! It was very scary at first, but I soon learned to relax and just enjoy life! Now I'm planning on converting a van and living on the road for an extended period of time! You are truly an inspiration to me !
Marsha - I'm so excited for you!!! A van is such a smart way to go, you can go more places and be stealthier - and the gas mileage is better. Oh my gosh, you're going to have an amazing time!! I wish you the best! Stay in touch, would love to hear about your journey! - Carolyn
Couldn’t agree more. A couple of quotes for reflections. “Stepping out of the busyness, stopping our endless pursuit of getting somewhere else, is perhaps the most beautiful offering we can make to our spirit.” - Tara Brach. "I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity.” Einstein
Thank you for this post. You opened up a topic many of us avoid...and are afraid to admit while in this rv life. Loneliness. Loners On Wheels, since 1969, is a gathering place for folks like us. Just another option for meeting like minded folks. Take care.
Well done, Carolyn, and thank you. I've viewed a lot of videos about solo RVing and you covered some new ideas that I haven't heard before. While loneliness isn't a major concern for me, I do feel much better about pursuing this idea after watching your video.
you are my new hero! Thank you for sticking up for me on that mean guy's comment on the shower video.. I can't believe the nasty comments some people throw at me. I tried to take the high road with him the first time around, but after seeing your exchange, I let him have it. It's so hard to bit my tongue so much. Anyway. Thank you for what you wrote to him - AND for 'getting' that video! And thanks for your kind remarks on this one too... I appreciate you! - C
Loved this, Carolyn. The book "Quiet" is highly recommended. Our society pathologizes alone time/introversion but that's where the juiciness lies. Doing the hard personal work has life-long rewards and allows one to truly enjoy life to it's fullest. Thanks for sharing so openly and honestly.
I showed this video to my wife, all she said was "you and Her are very much the same" I think us social introverts have a hard time finding center and we do need both alone and social interaction. thank you for your videos and insight.
Dan, that's funny! Yes, I know I need social interaction. I've been on an inner journey for a while now and kinda got comfy there, but probably time to come out and experience the world again... :-) Thanks for sharing.
most introverts don't have huge problems with people, but they don't get or become energized being around people like extroverts do. Realizing there is nothing wrong with being an introvert (different from the majority) is the challenge IMO.
Yep, exactly. That was an eye opener for me; realizing that people drain me and I get re energized by being alone.. huge shift for me. Thanks for the comment - Carolyn
I just stumbled across your videos a few days ago and I really enjoy watching them! I am stuck in an apartment with three kids so I am vicariously living thru your videos! Lol thanks for sharing your life with such! Be safe!
I am a motovloger and normally watch and make UA-cam motovlogs, but recently I have been interested in a RV. I started my research and came across the RV UA-cam community and find all this so very fascinating. I even started watch all your videos from the very beginning. Thanks for responding to my last comment. Stay safe....
Carolyn, I love this video. Thank you. A person can be alone and very lonely in her own traditional home, only it costs a lot more and you can't pull up stakes and get away from the neighbors. So, thanks!
Wow!! I truly appreciate your video. I'm a 2x divorcee with one broken engagement. I Turn 50 in two weeks. I went thru a lot of work via therapy and prayer. My son is almost 21. I relate to your video. Thank you.
Great video Carolyn. I learned very quickly that even though my travel trailer slept four and I enjoyed the company of others while camping I preferred to be alone in my own space. I quit inviting folks to come along unless they have their own camper or tent. I am looking forward to going full-time and traveling alone I am sure I will enjoy community too. I have always enjoyed being around others but I like my alone time ,it is good and healthy. People that don't spend alone time have no idea what the benefits are. Thanks again Carolyn, safe travels. Cheryl
Cheryl - Great story! Made me smile, love how you realized you didn't need to fill that trailer with people (people who probably drained you). I kind of emptied my 'trailer'; a few years back of all the people who sucked the life out of me.. realized I was making and holding onto 'friends' just fo the sake of having friends, but they weren't good for me.. Sounds like you're there too and respecting yourself and your process! Good for you. Glad you're happy! - C
Thank you for this insight and the resources. I share many of your traits, and as I am starting on this solo journey late in life, listening to others share what may be on the road ahead is comforting.
Thank you so much for your videos!!! You really add a lot to this community. You bring up points to ponder and really add a huge amount of reality to this subject. Thank you!
Sarah- It's an honor to read that you feel I am adding to this wonderful community!! You are very kind for taking the time to share your thoughts... thank you so much!
I'll never be alone on the road as long I can connect to Carolyn's RV Life! Besides, there is LOTS of Spirit energy all around you. You can never be alone in Nature.
Thanks for taking this on. It's something that people have a hard time discussing. I too am an introvert. When I drove long haul I was concerned that I could go for days not really talking with anyone and I was fine with it. I have to make an effort to socialize and it takes effort to build community. As I get older (I'm 56), community has become more important to me. I still love living alone and having a lot of alone time, but I've gotten better about connecting. I agree with you that counseling and working on self awareness is good for just about everyone.
Love being alone in quiet and nature - away from all people. Been living 'alone' for the past 12 years, maintaining my own home, etc ... always with 2 dogs and a cat though so it may be different once these last two animals are gone. I doubt it but think that finding an RV community would be important. So great info once again. I plan to spend some time in an area where I can join like minded people and where I can finally relax and heal after too much stress.
Thanks! Your thoughts on loneliness are exactly how I feel. Since I'm a born comic and love people, my friends claim I'm in denial regarding my preference to be alone. I'm eventually moving to a remote part of AZ on the NM border and initially, I'll probably live in a 5th wheel or maybe an RV. Although I've never lived in an RV, I did live on my boat for three years - the New England winters were challenging! I loved the privacy and ability to move my home to great new locations, so I already know I can handle the small accommodations and inconveniences such as fetching water and doing laundry. Anyway, thanks for the great info and sharing. Once I get out to AZ I'll let you know; you can drop anchor on my land if you're in the area anytime!
Veprjack - i get you!! My therapist keeps reminding me that humans are social beings, every time I say I want to disappear into the woods alone. I've learned over the years, the secret is to guard myself and my life more carefully and only let in the people who deserve it instead of anyone who asks! That has helped me find a few wonderful people whom I love and trust - AND actually enjoy being with!! I hope the same is true for you. I appreciate your offer and will keep that in mind in my travels. Have a wonderful holiday - and stay tuned for my Christmas vid (tomorrow I hope) I have a feeling you'll like that too! :-) - C
I always wanted to live the RV life for a while when I was young, in my 20s and 30s, but I made a few wrong choices and ended up with a wife who simply thought I was crazy for even thinking about it. I kept pressing the issue and she got pregnant (I think on purpose) and then when the kids started coming, RVing was off the table. I envy you guys who actually went our and did it. Good on ya!!
This video really hit the spot for me. I am planning to travel solo (with my two dogs) starting next fall and have often contemplated how I will deal with all of the alone time. Like you I'm an introvert and actually enjoy being alone, but traveling alone for an extended period seems a whole different ballgame. Your video really helped, appreciate your insights and suggestions. Thanks Carolyn!
Kathy- You will do great! Like I said, find community in a group of like-minded souls so that even on the extended alone-times you know you are not alone. I've discovered being lonely and feeling alone are two different things. And as long as I know I have people who care about me and think about me, don't have to feel alone. Good luck to you. You'll be out there giving your dogs (and you) the best life you can imagine in no time! Thanks so much for watching. Take Care.
Thanks so much, Carolyn. I really appreciate your words and encouragement. BTW - I also love Bob Wells' channel and have been following him regularly. I was born and raised in San Francisco and still have many friends and family there, but have lived in Alaska for 30 plus years now. Funny how you're a former Bay Area-ite and I know Bob is a former Alaskan. It's a small and connected world we live in. Anyway, thanks again and all the best to you!
As a trucker I know how you feel about loneliness. I do much better by myself then with crowds. Its always nice to be around people for short periods of time but after that I'm ready to hit the road again.
Yes!!! I just finished editing an upcoming video about escaping the city after Thanksgiving and hitting the open road.. what a feeling! Thanks for watching!
Looking back on some of your videos. I'm a loner myself, and I feel alot of ways you do. My parents in there 80's don't understand I like to be alone, but I'm social when around other people. Parents feel they have to be doing something everyday with church, clubs etc. And worry about me. I have recently lost my husband and a year before that our house burned down. So Im back in my RV on property building a house we started. When all is settled I would like to go on the road some. I also have an Econo Van. I camped a lot when I was younger, And For about 10 years was gone to dog shows camping every weekend. Which I don't do any more after I was married for 13 years. But I appreciate your talk and wisdom. Was wondering when you will get another dog!!! Hugs to you.. Love following your adventures.
@@CarolynsRVLife she always tried to teach me to be okay with being alone, playing alone, telling me it's okay to not need to be around people. It didn't really sink in until a few years ago, actually. Life is weird.
Thanks Carolyn. That was interesting. I think its a great life for people who are good at finding things they love doing and like their own company. Also people who look on life as a bit of an adventure. ^j^
I've had this idea long before I started finding the people and resources like your channel, saving up grabbing a class a rv after I absorb a lot of what I need to know and going nomad. I have a great dislike of society and I never fit in but the point is I love the solitude, my gf might come with when I do one day as I have quite a bit of time before things would be ready to hop out and do this. Always wanted to go away from society and so call retire from it, travelling and being out in the middle of nowhere has always attractive to me. Just feels like I'm destined for it, it's tugging me along I just need to work save and prepare for it is all. Seeing people living my idea is inspirational and bolsters my desire for it, living the life. :)
I enjoyed your insights on being alone. I like people, but prefer to enjoy them in small doses. What is scary to me is the thought of having to be with someone!
I love my alone time. But alone for 24/7 I think I would get lonely and maybe a little bored with no one to talk to. But overall, being a nomad does appeal to me.
Loliness & boredom, to me, is a state of mind! Being a very cerebral person, and having a strong sense of self, I love being alone! You're right though, not everyone can handle being "in their on head" 24/7...Its true when they say that all things in life are relative! This is a great video, and Im very glad you posted it-thank you for sharing your thoughts & views on this subject...Cheers!
Carolyn's RV Life You're welcome Carolyn! I've been subscribed to you for awhile now, but I think this is the first time Im commenting...Happy Holidays to you & yours!
I love your resilience and your channel (and subscribed via another account) ...and this video in particular...I left a bling bling banking career to care for my elder German Shepherd and took up gardening/orchard to keep busy during my homebound days. "who knew" I repeated a thousand times as I discovered how abundant, intelligent, loving, fierce and sexy Mother Nature is...and how abundant, intelligent, etc we ALL are...my "science project" in my backyard is becoming a sanctuary...and I wish you..."The Peace of Wild Things".... "When despair grows in me and I wake in the night at the least sound in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds. I come into the peace of wild things who do not tax their lives with forethought of grief. I come into the presence of still water. And I feel above me the day-blind stars waiting for their light. For a time I rest in the grace of the world, and am free." Wendell Berry
Grow Whild - ah, how beautiful your life sounds!! good for you.a nd thank you for the lovely poem. Very fitting! I wish you continued happiness and peace in the new year! - Carolyn
Carolyn just wanted you to stay encouraged because these video especially this one has definitely encouraging.......I'm more excited now to become a full time RV. Keep up the good work.......
There are many cool things about being alone. 1. You don't have to worry about how you look. 2. You can fart whenever you want. 3. You make all your decisions without having to clear it with anyone. 3. It makes you a more responsible intelligent individual.
Wow! Today You helped me find myself!! I've Always been a loner, & I Love it! Been one My entire Life!! Even in relationships!! I Love being alone,but I'm Never Ever Lonely!! I feel as you do in one of our videos... As you said about being around people,& during shopping etc.. I'm 60 now! & I wish to reboot my life! Especially after a 30 yr. relationship to someone who doesn't want to share dreams of living!! My therapist says to Move Forward!! & Live it life for you!! He's Right!! I've been living my life for others Most of my life!! I've got not many years left to enjoy and no family really that'll Miss Me!! I love my dogs,my kids with tails.. Who's Love IS Guaranteed!!! So I'm OK!! & I wish to travel our Amazing America!! So, you're My Hero!! You planted a Very Needed seed of thoughts in my head (life)!! I've Very much Really enjoyed it videos... Both funny & educational!! Smart Woman You Are!! And I Must admit that women taught me more in my life than men!! I hope we meet somewhere on the roads of travel soon !!!! :-):-):-):-):-):-):-):-):-):-) thankyou !! You Schooled this old guy! God's blessings to you & it kid with tail :-):-):-):-)
Taurus- It's never too late to reboot your lfe!! I can relate - I gave too many years to people who neither earned nor deserved what I gave... and not it is time for ME - and sounds like it's time for YOU> YOU only live once and I learned the hard way, when the chips fall the only person who has your back is YOU. Let that seed grow!!! good luck to you and thank you for being a part of my adventures!!! - Carolyn
I am pretty much a loner myself. I love my solitude. Always friendly and love to stop everywhere and talk to people, but I love my space! I would very much enjoy getting an RV someday and do what you are doing. It has to have a carrier for my motorcycle...which by the way I enjoy riding alone.
I love your channel .I was sick for three years but im,coming back and I have bought an rv because of you .life is meant to enjoyed .I can't wait to get on the road just need a bigger truck maybe ill see you out there ,best wishes in proud of you as a person your not afraid of anything .
I'm so glad I found your channel. I too will be hitting the road alone soon. And getting your insight on the rv life from a woman's perspective is so helpful. So......Thank You!!!!
wm c barker if you haven't experienced the company of the Holy Spirt you can't comprehend it. You can't tell someone else about it. They just don't understand. Also you have to like yourself a lot. Be comfortable with who you are. There is nothing wrong with wanting company. I am never board. That helps cus I don't need to be entertained. Not everyone likes to be alone but I do. I also like people but with the Holy Spirt and a strong curious streak I do fine on my own.
Carolyn, great information!! some years ago i was camping and i was very lonely, and i wrote this short poem. ''The barren field stands with grace the dry well still has its place the setting sun sets never still this is so because it owns no will.''
Thanks for this. Years ago, in the lowest place in my life, I wanted to turn my back on the world and live on a shoestring in an RV. If there had been your videos, I might have done it. Fortunately, the VA rescued me, and with less stress I realized that RV life would have made me worse, not better. I love Winnemucca, and I'm glad there's no Starbucks there! Pretty good cafe though. Also a damn good man there dedicated to helping veterans and the young boys who often go astray in that desert place. Thanks and I wish you luck.
New Subscriber. You Tube recommended your videos as I watch other RV channels. When I retire in 4 years I plan to live this lifestyle. I've watched a few of your videos now and I am really enjoying them and love your tips for the solo women traveler. I too prefer to be alone. But like you, I would want to travel with a pet. The unconditional love a pet provides is priceless. I've always had cats but I'm thinking a small dog may be better for the RV Life. There is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. I feel a pet would bridge that gap for me. Thank you again for sharing. Be safe.
Thanks for another enlightening video. Divorced after 15 yrs I prefer the solitude and adventure of RV life over daily incompatibility. However, I'm always game for a rendezvous with good people.
well....well....well.... thank you for that insight!!! i've been thinking about just those issues for some time now. it's nice to know that i'm not the only one with those questioning thoughts. hmmmmmm, your commentary puts a whole new perspective on "taking the leap" into venturing off alone. cheers!
I'm so glad I've come across your channel. You've been a true inspiration to me. I don't feel quite as "weird" after watching this video. It seems like the mainstream society makes people that want to be alone most of the time like they should be ashamed of how they're living their life or like they're doing something that is wrong.
Brian - You aren't weird.. Think about what the media feeds us - advertising and TV are all about happy families, groups of friends, couples buying and consuming their products. They never show loners enjoying a coke or a single woman being happy with her hair care products, or a single man and his dandruff shampoo, it's always about using a product to hook up.. So they feed us the lie that we all should be consumed with relationships and for those of us who have shitty families and struggle with relationships, we end up feeling like there's something wrong with us because our lives don't look like what it 'should'. sorry went off on a rant... yes, we are social animals and need some human interaction. But the fact is some of us need less than others. You are not weird. You are you. And you are wonderful and perfect just for being the human being you are! Thank you for watching. Glad this video resonated with you. Take care of yourself and I hope to see you out here someday!- C
Carolyn, great information. I too get re-energized being alone and people drain me. I to can be personable and people don't believe I am an introvert. I can also go a long time not seeing people. I to live my dogs. Love the saying our best friend doesn't talk for a reason. Lol Thanks, Cindy
Me four, trouble is I'm in the UK so can't take advantage of much of the info. Also, we don't have any warm states I can go to in the winter. Still plenty of great info from Carolyn though, thank you Carolyn.
GeordieFX hi. Me 4 Even though not yet living in a van. work full time and live alone ... used to dread holidays because too much solitude made me down but that's history now. I really could grow into the mad old woman in the woods quite happily😊. the way C describes herself could easily be me ... introvert who likes people in small doses, and appears extroverted. I quite like being like this though it can be frightening. my dogs are a help. I'm in the UK too and feel this van life must be SO different over here. specially now in winter. and hard to find free camping too. but I mean to go for this sometime maybe once I retire if I can afford it. so I'm kinda researching as much as I can and like UA-cam for some of the down to earth warts and all experiences shown I wish you luck and warmth ... maybe one day we'll et on the road. ☺
That's true, the weather is bearable in southern Europe in winter. Not as warm as in the southern states though. The language difference is a slight irritation and post brexit only being allowed to stay in each country for 3 months at a time. Still, far from unsurmountable, I could park up in Gibraltar indefinitely for example.
Just found your channel and what an amazing peace out there. I can relate, and the RV life is so alluring to me. I daydream about it all the time. lol I can't stand the daily routine and grind.
I crave alone time. After 2 long-term relationships I can't wait to be permanently ALONE. Don't think I ever want to share my life again. Don't get me wrong, I like going out to dinner with friends as much as the next person...but I could use some years of alone right now. It's all about being able to entertain yourself, with hobbies, etc. Also a pet makes life special too.
Sue - oh my gosh, that's exactly how I feel! I have been so happy and content to be on my own.. And I LOVE the freedom and serenity I now have. I don't want to give that up. It was great to find someone I am compatible with, who I enjoy traveling with but I still have to be by myself at least half the time... It's a good life, actually! Thanks for sharing yourself! Best, Carolyn
Great advice. Our motor home is made by Forrest River and they have a forum and gatherings. We've never attended but do enjoy reading the forum. I believe most RV manufacturers do have forums and probably get togethers. So your viewers could look into it. Thanks for all your hard work. We enjoy it 👍
meditation and mindfulness might really help.. we are never really alone. you have yourself and you are connected to your surroundings. making that connection might help when it gets a little too quiet...
i loved camping out in different state parks with my popup camper, i had an ambulance buddy that had a customized van,he would go camping in, we both decided to campout together,his van pulled my popup so we had our space plus did alot together,we did that for years til the popup was falling apart,parked it and bought a major tent,and we did it for 34 years...:)
Yep, I knew I'd like your page. Thank you for the information, I like to be alone more than I like being around hoards of people. But I like knowing that if I need to, I can go hang out with people who understand why I want to live this life.
Thanks TI! Love your last sentence.. "People who understand why I want to live this life.." it is nice to have people who "get' you, isn't it? _ Thanks again for watching - c
I am alone and have just downsized to a smaller home in the historic town of Granbury TX. I also bought a Motorhome thinking I would travel some through the USA making friends, roasting marshmallows by the campfire, drinking wine and singing Kum-Ba-Ya! So far I have taken one trip through New Mexico for a month and a half. I did meet some lovely people, but I learned the RV Park world is not what I am looking for. For the most part, people have traveling companions, and they all crawl back into their RVs after 7:00 and it is just like living in a trailer park.Nothing social about it. So far the groups I have encountered were kinda clicky and not interested in new members. Thats OK, at least it was obvious before I joined. I think I might like the idea of caravan-ing with some folks? I am going to forget the RV Parks next time ( although the hook ups are nice for air-conditioning in the summer) and try the State and National Parks. I am thinking if I am going to be alone anyway, I may just sell the RV and be at home with all the comforts. I am 64 years old and do not mind being alone, but would like to enjoy the company of others while on the road. M
yescandles ... . RV parks sound just wrong so I think you'd be better elsewhere anyway. and maybe RVing alone is not for you, but I hope you keep trying. in my many years as a miss fit I have learned being alone is no bad thing, and though I like people I prefer small doses. without being cynical I've learned to keep my expectations low but stay open at heart to enjoy whatever folk have to give. when I do that it is great. I read a LOT, keep dogs who are amazing .... work them a little bit .... use the Internet quite a bit. still work full time but spend a lot of time alone so I've dealt with this for a long time and worked on it. I wish you well and hope you find enough of the right kind of companionship for you. good luck. i
yescandles You struck a "note" lol! With me. I love making scents. I looked at your page and watched your "I've Been Tagged! 5 Interesting Things About Me" It was nice to see you have two of my favorite songs in your playlist, i.e. "Sweet Holy Spirit" and "Vindicate Me," I leaned on them heavily during my personal struggles. You sound so sweet, perhaps you just weren't "paired" up and that made everyone uncomfortable, they just didn't know how to "slot" you. Sad, but you're on the right channel here! :) p.s. I usually come back and "delete comments" For Safety.
Thank you for your comment and for checking out those old vids! I am headed to the Vintage RV Rally coming up very soon. I will see how the Vintage Rving group is. They all seem very helpful and kind. They are sure interested in their RVs! Thank you again Lisa!
yay!! I'm so glad to find another female van/rv dweller!! I hope you are at the RTR this year and I get the opportunity to meet you! I really enjoy your videos, lots of good info.
Hey Gypsy! I will most definitely be at the RTR! Can't wait. I went to the summer RTR in Flagstaff and there were just a few single solo women.. and then it was cut short, so I didn't even get to know them very well. Looking forward to the next one- and will be awesome to meet you too! Thanks for watching. - Carolyn
great video and thanks for sharing. I love the solitude this lifestyle provides. I'm also introverted (infj) and my wife is extroverted (ESFP) and we can both get what we need living this way.
I watch your video and I thought you was speaking about my life. you have just opened my eyes about the way I have been feeling. I lost my wife to cancer in June of 2015. an the feelings that fit me to a "T" I have been living in my RV cents dec 1 of 2015. I have been just living from day to day with no purpose. you have turn the light on. thanks
Bike Rider, I hope that you have turned the light on and are finding your way out of the dark. It's not always easy - I spent years in some very dark places. I wish all the best - and hope you find the happiness you deserve. - C
I love that you are being open about this issue. I too like people but in small doses. I think for me I would need to be connected to the internet in order to keep the isolation down.
Yes, being connected online does help a lot. It's a whole different ballgame when I don't have internet. I usually only do that for a few days at the most. Thanks for watching!
Its easier to be lonely while alone than to be lonely in a crowd.
It is funny but it is when I am in a crowd that I experience loneliness most. I am so alienated in crowds. I enjoy spending time with one person rather than in a group or crowd. I know that is not right, but crowds of people cause me to feel a severe emptiness. If I am alone and I cry that's ok, but I can't just break down in tears with other people and when I am mourning a loss as I am now, it is easier for me to go somewhere alone with the Lord and spend time with Him.
Best part about traveling alone....you don't have to accommodate anyone's schedule and you can do what you want, when you want.
Yes!!! I love that part too!
Absolutely! Seriously, that's a major benefit.
That's what I really enjoyed when I drove an 18 wheeler. I totally hated being with a trainer because you can't do what you want, you have to compromise. They prefer this truck stop over that one, they like/ have to stop a lot for snacks or restroom breaks, etc... Freedom is being by yourself and doing what you want, when you want, no compromising.
@@CarolynsRVLife Carolyn is awesome
My favorite part!
I am alone, and I prefer it, I never get lonely, I miss people who I loved who have died, like my partner, Bob, my friends, and my family, who are all gone. You have to love the space you are in, and that is your mind.
Katherine, Excellent!! Yes, you have to love your own mind-space. great way to put it. I'm so sorry for your losses. :-) and wish you the best, Carolyn
Katherine Miller god bless,,,,bless your heart
Yes!!! That is the work
GBY!!😘
Carolyn you are Spot on. Be yourself Don't change. You realize when you need to interact with people and when it's OK to be by yourself.Thank You🙂👍
" To sit in that loneliness"...what a great phrase...it says so much..!!
I recently moved to a very rural, isolated area in the southern Sierra Nevada mountains. I am delighted to find "my kind" here -- people who, like you are comfortable with themselves as company and content with belonging to a far-flung and loosely-knit community. Btw, as a kid, I used to prowl the Mojave Desert with my rockhound dad. I remember the Quartzite powwow when it was just a couple of campers pulled up alongside the road, people selling agate and quartz out of them.
Very well said Carolyn. I am not traveling alone but enjoy my alone time. Peace & quiet are my happy place👍🏻
Linda - good for you for finding your happy place! Enjoy! Thanks for watching - Carolyn
I spent over 2 years RVing all over the country by myself. Happiest times of my life. It can get a little lonely, but you get to meet new people almost every day and that helps. I really miss that lifestyle. Every evening I had a nice fire outside where I could sit, have some coffee and just relax. When my little one grows up I may just go back to that lifestyle. And BTW, your videos are very informative and interesting, so keep up the good work!
I am the exact same way. I prefer the tranquility of being alone, but I also love meeting kind, like minded people. Very nice video Carolyn!
"Like minded people" - yes! REally helps make this journey special and wonderful. Thank you! - C
I prefer to be by myself and not having to be anyone I am not. A dog is a great companion without the judgment and my life has been alone and FREE. The freedom of a loner is an absolute freedom most folks have never experienced.
I am alone not lonely
I grew up with 3 brothers and all their friends traipsing through the house. Lots of people & lots of noise. But I was a loaner from an early age. I was a wallflower watching what was going on at home except when they sucked me in with unpleasant events. Also, I had drunks in the family. Before my parent's divorce, my dad was a mean alcoholic. When my brothers reached their teens, they became drunks from then on. When we moved out, a gathering at mom's for Christmas broke out into fights. I always wanted to be alone. But I married at 18 anyway. It didn't last long & I stayed single a few years & remarried with 2 kids when I thought I was ready & that didn't last long. I've stayed alone since & I'm about to 63. I am happiest living alone. Always have been. That's why your videos are so helpful for me.
I completely understand your wanting to being alone, I myself take people in small doses, I enjoy my solitude and peace of mind and do appreciate people when I'm in their company but, a little goes a long ways for me. I always had to pace myself in the company of others, some people notice it and I guess other don't care enough to notice, which is okay with me. Since I've turned 70 I really appreciate my solitude. Stay blessed.
Me too. You may be ADD.
For me, I love solitude. I can think clearly when I'm alone. But I also enjoy traveling with a family member or a close friend.
Rick Gauger Rick, it is not ADD. Introverts are like this. They need alone time to recharge their batteries you might say. Extroverts recharge in crowds of people. There is nothing wrong with either one.
i can be just alone in a huge city surrounded by people in the regular world. Its self imposed...Pain is inevitable but suffering optional. Great video TY
Carolyn, this video is like therapy for many people. Thank you for posting it. You’ve helped a lot of people more than you even know. This video is very therapeutic, thank you for posting it. 👍🙂❤️💕🙏
Hi Carolyn, thank you so much for so much courage and humility exposing or sharing your vulnerability, your loneliness, and your humanity (i.e. being "human") with the YT community. After losing a 30-year marriage to cancer and several shipmates to war, loneliness has been more fear than reality. You have given me hope that there are still some "good honest and genuine" people out there. Thank you for your words of encouragement, Happy Holidays, Ciao, L (Veteran)
lancelot - first, thank you for your service to our country! We appreciate the sacrifices you've made...
Secondly I am sorry you've experienced so much loss... I know loss.. :-(
Yes, the world is full of good people... I hope the new year finds you surrounded by many of them! - Best, C
You are very kind and sweet; your videos not only carry your "love" for the RV community but you are also setting a great example of kindness, altruism, and generosity towards fellow humans. You have spent many hours of research, notes, and work producing these informative videos; it is people like you who make a positive difference in this world. May Peace be with you Carolyn and thank you for your considerate comments, it means a lot to me, Ciao, L
You're a very intelligent and commutative person Carolyn. Truly enjoy listening and watching your life experiences. Alone time can reveal many unanswered questions, the fear is definitely overwhelming but the payoff is so worth it. keep up the great vlogs, many us need to see and hear more people like you.
Cheers !
David, Wow.. just wow. I am flattered and humbled by your comment. Thank you for the very kind words and encouragement. It means a lot.
And yes, those unanswered questions... *sigh*. Some get answered and some remain a big mystery, but at least they get acknowledged, right?
I appreciate you watching and taking the time to comment. Thank you!
finding someone you have a mutual respect for no matter what gender they are is good for you, You will always have a good friend and I find the worst loneliness to me is feeling lonely in your own home with your family around you yet feeling very lonely, So in saying that it must have been a challenge to start with Carolyn but look where you are today and the experiences you have sometimes daily but you will never be alone again with all your new friends everywhere stay safe xx.....
You depend on YOU and no one else in most cases. Guard life is very similar. It'll make you stronger as an individual. You are absolutely right about taking others in small doses too. Defrag time is precious.
Carolyn I love to live alone and I am never lonely. I can't be with a group of people for more than a couple of hours without wanting to retreat to my house or camper for an hour break to be alone. I totally relate to your life but I think I would like to travel with a group from time to time on the road. Great video topic..I thoroughly enjoyed it and look forward to your next one.
Lynn - I'm glad to hear you could relate to my story and this video. I wish you the best in your travels! - Carolyn
Carolyn, your videos are my favorite. I love the openness and authenticity.
Carolyn, I'm from Florida, and traveled and hiked the west coast this spring by myself and loved it! It was very scary at first, but I soon learned to relax and just enjoy life! Now I'm planning on converting a van and living on the road for an extended period of time! You are truly an inspiration to me !
Marsha - I'm so excited for you!!! A van is such a smart way to go, you can go more places and be stealthier - and the gas mileage is better. Oh my gosh, you're going to have an amazing time!! I wish you the best! Stay in touch, would love to hear about your journey! - Carolyn
Couldn’t agree more. A couple of quotes for reflections. “Stepping out of the busyness, stopping our endless pursuit of getting somewhere else, is perhaps the most beautiful offering we can make to our spirit.” - Tara Brach. "I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity.” Einstein
Thank you for this post. You opened up a topic many of us avoid...and are afraid to admit while in this rv life. Loneliness. Loners On Wheels, since 1969, is a gathering place for folks like us. Just another option for meeting like minded folks. Take care.
Thanks for the reminder of LOW. I'd heard of that group but forgot to mention. Happy travels! - C
Well done, Carolyn, and thank you. I've viewed a lot of videos about solo RVing and you covered some new ideas that I haven't heard before. While loneliness isn't a major concern for me, I do feel much better about pursuing this idea after watching your video.
you are my new hero! Thank you for sticking up for me on that mean guy's comment on the shower video.. I can't believe the nasty comments some people throw at me.
I tried to take the high road with him the first time around, but after seeing your exchange, I let him have it. It's so hard to bit my tongue so much. Anyway. Thank you for what you wrote to him - AND for 'getting' that video!
And thanks for your kind remarks on this one too... I appreciate you! - C
Loved this, Carolyn. The book "Quiet" is highly recommended. Our society pathologizes alone time/introversion but that's where the juiciness lies. Doing the hard personal work has life-long rewards and allows one to truly enjoy life to it's fullest. Thanks for sharing so openly and honestly.
I'll check the book out! thank you!
I showed this video to my wife, all she said was "you and Her are very much the same" I think us social introverts have a hard time finding center and we do need both alone and social interaction. thank you for your videos and insight.
Dan, that's funny! Yes, I know I need social interaction. I've been on an inner journey for a while now and kinda got comfy there, but probably time to come out and experience the world again... :-)
Thanks for sharing.
most introverts don't have huge problems with people, but they don't get or become energized being around people like extroverts do. Realizing there is nothing wrong with being an introvert (different from the majority) is the challenge IMO.
Yep, exactly. That was an eye opener for me; realizing that people drain me and I get re energized by being alone.. huge shift for me. Thanks for the comment - Carolyn
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I just stumbled across your videos a few days ago and I really enjoy watching them! I am stuck in an apartment with three kids so I am vicariously living thru your videos! Lol thanks for sharing your life with such! Be safe!
I am a motovloger and normally watch and make UA-cam motovlogs, but recently I have been interested in a RV. I started my research and came across the RV UA-cam community and find all this so very fascinating. I even started watch all your videos from the very beginning. Thanks for responding to my last comment. Stay safe....
Carolyn, I love this video. Thank you. A person can be alone and very lonely in her own traditional home, only it costs a lot more and you can't pull up stakes and get away from the neighbors. So, thanks!
Excellent points! I appreciate your comment! Thank you for watching
Wow!! I truly appreciate your video. I'm a 2x divorcee with one broken engagement. I Turn 50 in two weeks. I went thru a lot of work via therapy and prayer. My son is almost 21. I relate to your video. Thank you.
You can't know (or find) yourself without some alone time. Talking like you do on YT is good therapy. Got 3000 friends listening ! Thanks for sharing.
I completely agree with you... Love my alone time. :-) thank you very much for your kind remarks. All the best - Carolyn
Thank you for making this vid. Your honesty really shines through, and is truly an inspiration. Keep living your life on your own terms.
Carolyn - You said too many words that hit home in this video.
My mind is reeling...
tedibair I want too do this too but on a Motorcycle
Carolyn, thanks for sharing your stories... it's a lonely place to be as a leader or pioneer at times, but it's all worth it...
Awww very kind of you. Thank you!
Great video Carolyn. I learned very quickly that even though my travel trailer slept four and I enjoyed the company of others while camping I preferred to be alone in my own space. I quit inviting folks to come along unless they have their own camper or tent. I am looking forward to going full-time and traveling alone I am sure I will enjoy community too. I have always enjoyed being around others but I like my alone time ,it is good and healthy. People that don't spend alone time have no idea what the benefits are. Thanks again Carolyn, safe travels. Cheryl
Cheryl - Great story! Made me smile, love how you realized you didn't need to fill that trailer with people (people who probably drained you). I kind of emptied my 'trailer'; a few years back of all the people who sucked the life out of me.. realized I was making and holding onto 'friends' just fo the sake of having friends, but they weren't good for me.. Sounds like you're there too and respecting yourself and your process! Good for you. Glad you're happy! - C
Thank you for this insight and the resources. I share many of your traits, and as I am starting on this solo journey late in life, listening to others share what may be on the road ahead is comforting.
Thank you so much for your videos!!! You really add a lot to this community. You bring up points to ponder and really add a huge amount of reality to this subject. Thank you!
Sarah- It's an honor to read that you feel I am adding to this wonderful community!! You are very kind for taking the time to share your thoughts... thank you so much!
I'll never be alone on the road as long I can connect to Carolyn's RV Life! Besides, there is LOTS of Spirit energy all around you. You can never be alone in Nature.
Thanks for taking this on. It's something that people have a hard time discussing. I too am an introvert. When I drove long haul I was concerned that I could go for days not really talking with anyone and I was fine with it. I have to make an effort to socialize and it takes effort to build community. As I get older (I'm 56), community has become more important to me. I still love living alone and having a lot of alone time, but I've gotten better about connecting. I agree with you that counseling and working on self awareness is good for just about everyone.
Thank you for sharing a bit of yourself with me. I appreciate that very much!
Well said.
Love Bob. He is an awesome guy! Glad to hear you two are friends.
Yeah, he is a pretty cool guy. Glad to call him 'friend'. Thanks for watching!
Love being alone in quiet and nature - away from all people. Been living 'alone' for the past 12 years, maintaining my own home, etc ... always with 2 dogs and a cat though so it may be different once these last two animals are gone. I doubt it but think that finding an RV community would be important. So great info once again. I plan to spend some time in an area where I can join like minded people and where I can finally relax and heal after too much stress.
Thanks! Your thoughts on loneliness are exactly how I feel. Since I'm a born comic and love people, my friends claim I'm in denial regarding my preference to be alone. I'm eventually moving to a remote part of AZ on the NM border and initially, I'll probably live in a 5th wheel or maybe an RV. Although I've never lived in an RV, I did live on my boat for three years - the New England winters were challenging! I loved the privacy and ability to move my home to great new locations, so I already know I can handle the small accommodations and inconveniences such as fetching water and doing laundry. Anyway, thanks for the great info and sharing. Once I get out to AZ I'll let you know; you can drop anchor on my land if you're in the area anytime!
Veprjack - i get you!! My therapist keeps reminding me that humans are social beings, every time I say I want to disappear into the woods alone. I've learned over the years, the secret is to guard myself and my life more carefully and only let in the people who deserve it instead of anyone who asks! That has helped me find a few wonderful people whom I love and trust - AND actually enjoy being with!! I hope the same is true for you. I appreciate your offer and will keep that in mind in my travels. Have a wonderful holiday - and stay tuned for my Christmas vid (tomorrow I hope) I have a feeling you'll like that too! :-) - C
Sometimes being alone is all the therapy you need.
I always wanted to live the RV life for a while when I was young, in my 20s and 30s, but I made a few wrong choices and ended up with a wife who simply thought I was crazy for even thinking about it. I kept pressing the issue and she got pregnant (I think on purpose) and then when the kids started coming, RVing was off the table. I envy you guys who actually went our and did it. Good on ya!!
Thank you.. I hope someday you can realize your dream!
This video really hit the spot for me. I am planning to travel solo (with my two dogs) starting next fall and have often contemplated how I will deal with all of the alone time. Like you I'm an introvert and actually enjoy being alone, but traveling alone for an extended period seems a whole different ballgame. Your video really helped, appreciate your insights and suggestions. Thanks Carolyn!
Kathy- You will do great! Like I said, find community in a group of like-minded souls so that even on the extended alone-times you know you are not alone. I've discovered being lonely and feeling alone are two different things. And as long as I know I have people who care about me and think about me, don't have to feel alone. Good luck to you. You'll be out there giving your dogs (and you) the best life you can imagine in no time! Thanks so much for watching. Take Care.
Thanks so much, Carolyn. I really appreciate your words and encouragement. BTW - I also love Bob Wells' channel and have been following him regularly. I was born and raised in San Francisco and still have many friends and family there, but have lived in Alaska for 30 plus years now. Funny how you're a former Bay Area-ite and I know Bob is a former Alaskan. It's a small and connected world we live in. Anyway, thanks again and all the best to you!
yes, I am often amazed at the random things that link us.. We are connected in some big and mysterious way! Take care, carolyn
As a trucker I know how you feel about loneliness. I do much better by myself then with crowds. Its always nice to be around people for short periods of time but after that I'm ready to hit the road again.
Yes!!! I just finished editing an upcoming video about escaping the city after Thanksgiving and hitting the open road.. what a feeling! Thanks for watching!
Looking back on some of your videos. I'm a loner myself, and I feel alot of ways you do. My parents in there 80's don't understand I like to be alone, but I'm social when around other people. Parents feel they have to be doing something everyday with church, clubs etc. And worry about me. I have recently lost my husband and a year before that our house burned down. So Im back in my RV on property building a house we started. When all is settled I would like to go on the road some. I also have an Econo Van. I camped a lot when I was younger, And For about 10 years was gone to dog shows camping every weekend. Which I don't do any more after I was married for 13 years. But I appreciate your talk and wisdom. Was wondering when you will get another dog!!! Hugs to you.. Love following your adventures.
...one other thing...am absolutely in awe (after reading some of comments) from those who think sooo well of you/your vids!!!
My Mom always said, "It's better to live alone than wish you did." And, "I may be alone, but I'm not lonely!" LOL So true!
Your mom was smart! I love that quote!
@@CarolynsRVLife she always tried to teach me to be okay with being alone, playing alone, telling me it's okay to not need to be around people. It didn't really sink in until a few years ago, actually. Life is weird.
Thanks Carolyn. That was interesting. I think its a great life for people who are good at finding things they love doing and like their own company. Also people who look on life as a bit of an adventure. ^j^
I agree CelticAngel!
I like being alone just me and my dog. And now he is gone 5 days now. I feel so sad and alone without my buddy.
You are a very nice lady, with courage and a with a sense of adventure. Thankyou for sharing and being so honest in your videos.
You are so brave to share your life like this. You are so amazing !
I've had this idea long before I started finding the people and resources like your channel, saving up grabbing a class a rv after I absorb a lot of what I need to know and going nomad. I have a great dislike of society and I never fit in but the point is I love the solitude, my gf might come with when I do one day as I have quite a bit of time before things would be ready to hop out and do this. Always wanted to go away from society and so call retire from it, travelling and being out in the middle of nowhere has always attractive to me. Just feels like I'm destined for it, it's tugging me along I just need to work save and prepare for it is all. Seeing people living my idea is inspirational and bolsters my desire for it, living the life. :)
I enjoyed your insights on being alone. I like people, but prefer to enjoy them in small doses. What is scary to me is the thought of having to be with someone!
I love my alone time. But alone for 24/7 I think I would get lonely and maybe a little bored with no one to talk to. But overall, being a nomad does appeal to me.
Thank you Carolyn, so agree and feel the same as you. Thank you for the confirmations.
Loliness & boredom, to me, is a state of mind! Being a very cerebral person, and having a strong sense of self, I love being alone! You're right though, not everyone can handle being "in their on head" 24/7...Its true when they say that all things in life are relative! This is a great video, and Im very glad you posted it-thank you for sharing your thoughts & views on this subject...Cheers!
Roberto - Very well written. A strong sense of self is necessary for spending quality time alone. Thank you for watching and commenting! - Carolyn
Carolyn's RV Life You're welcome Carolyn! I've been subscribed to you for awhile now, but I think this is the first time Im commenting...Happy Holidays to you & yours!
I'm very glad you decided to comment. Nice hearing from you. Take care! - C
roberto abrams
I love your resilience and your channel (and subscribed via another account) ...and this video in particular...I left a bling bling banking career to care for my elder German Shepherd and took up gardening/orchard to keep busy during my homebound days. "who knew" I repeated a thousand times as I discovered how abundant, intelligent, loving, fierce and sexy Mother Nature is...and how abundant, intelligent, etc we ALL are...my "science project" in my backyard is becoming a sanctuary...and I wish you..."The Peace of Wild Things"....
"When despair grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting for their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free."
Wendell Berry
Grow Whild - ah, how beautiful your life sounds!! good for you.a nd thank you for the lovely poem. Very fitting! I wish you continued happiness and peace in the new year! - Carolyn
Carolyn just came across your clips and love them, bravo and a big pat on the back Best regards London U.K
Carolyn just wanted you to stay encouraged because these video especially this one has definitely encouraging.......I'm more excited now to become a full time RV. Keep up the good work.......
Vickie - Yay!! That's why I do this. So glad you get your comment! good luck and way to go! - C
There are many cool things about being alone. 1. You don't have to worry about how you look.
2. You can fart whenever you want. 3. You make all your decisions without having to clear it with anyone.
3. It makes you a more responsible intelligent individual.
You are so brave and you have so Much courage!!! Keep rockin it out there in the wild. I admire your spirit and grit!!!!!!!!
Silver. - what a very kind thing to say.. I appreciate your comment very much!! Thank you!
Wow! Today You helped me find myself!! I've Always been a loner, & I Love it! Been one My entire Life!! Even in relationships!! I Love being alone,but I'm Never Ever Lonely!! I feel as you do in one of our videos... As you said about being around people,& during shopping etc.. I'm 60 now! & I wish to reboot my life! Especially after a 30 yr. relationship to someone who doesn't want to share dreams of living!! My therapist says to Move Forward!! & Live it life for you!! He's Right!! I've been living my life for others Most of my life!! I've got not many years left to enjoy and no family really that'll Miss Me!! I love my dogs,my kids with tails.. Who's Love IS Guaranteed!!! So I'm OK!! & I wish to travel our Amazing America!! So, you're My Hero!! You planted a Very Needed seed of thoughts in my head (life)!! I've Very much Really enjoyed it videos... Both funny & educational!! Smart Woman You Are!! And I Must admit that women taught me more in my life than men!! I hope we meet somewhere on the roads of travel soon !!!! :-):-):-):-):-):-):-):-):-):-) thankyou !! You Schooled this old guy! God's blessings to you & it kid with tail :-):-):-):-)
Taurus- It's never too late to reboot your lfe!!
I can relate - I gave too many years to people who neither earned nor deserved what I gave... and not it is time for ME - and sounds like it's time for YOU> YOU only live once and I learned the hard way, when the chips fall the only person who has your back is YOU.
Let that seed grow!!! good luck to you and thank you for being a part of my adventures!!! - Carolyn
I am pretty much a loner myself. I love my solitude. Always friendly and love to stop everywhere and talk to people, but I love my space! I would very much enjoy getting an RV someday and do what you are doing. It has to have a carrier for my motorcycle...which by the way I enjoy riding alone.
I love your channel .I was sick for three years but im,coming back and I have bought an rv because of you .life is meant to enjoyed .I can't wait to get on the road just need a bigger truck maybe ill see you out there ,best wishes in proud of you as a person your not afraid of anything .
Excellent video, thanks Carolyn! Love all your links and blog. More, please!
I'm so glad I found your channel. I too will be hitting the road alone soon. And getting your insight on the rv life from a woman's perspective is so helpful. So......Thank You!!!!
Very happy to hear you found this helpful. Good for you and congrats!!! Have a great time out there living your life YOUR way! - C
thank the Holy Spirit /Great Spirit for all blessings and Creation and you never be alone.
wm c barker if you haven't experienced the company of the Holy Spirt you can't comprehend it. You can't tell someone else about it. They just don't understand.
Also you have to like yourself a lot. Be comfortable with who you are.
There is nothing wrong with wanting company. I am never board. That helps cus I don't need to be entertained. Not everyone likes to be alone but I do. I also like people but with the Holy Spirt and a strong curious streak I do fine on my own.
Carolyn, great information!! some years ago i was camping and i was very lonely, and i wrote this short poem. ''The barren field stands with grace the dry well still has its place the setting sun sets never still this is so because it owns no will.''
Pete - Awesome poem! Thank you for sharing it! - Carolyn
I love being alone. ...I love silence and stillness. ...peace. ....it's bliss.
Yes, it certainly is! Nature + solitude = Perfection! :-)
Thanks for this. Years ago, in the lowest place in my life, I wanted to turn my back on the world and live on a shoestring in an RV. If there had been your videos, I might have done it. Fortunately, the VA rescued me, and with less stress I realized that RV life would have made me worse, not better. I love Winnemucca, and I'm glad there's no Starbucks there! Pretty good cafe though. Also a damn good man there dedicated to helping veterans and the young boys who often go astray in that desert place. Thanks and I wish you luck.
Rick Gauger: You are a good man. The world needs more men willing to give back to the community.
You did a great job handling this topic. ..you gave mr a lot of great insights on being alone. ..Thanks
Thank you Robert! =-
Just found your videos and just wanted to say I think you are Awesome and I wish you nothing but safe and happy travels.
Jhodges- that is very kind. Welcome and thank you for being a part of my journey!!! - C
New Subscriber. You Tube recommended your videos as I watch other RV channels. When I retire in 4 years I plan to live this lifestyle. I've watched a few of your videos now and I am really enjoying them and love your tips for the solo women traveler.
I too prefer to be alone. But like you, I would want to travel with a pet. The unconditional love a pet provides is priceless. I've always had cats but I'm thinking a small dog may be better for the RV Life. There is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. I feel a pet would bridge that gap for me.
Thank you again for sharing. Be safe.
Thanks for another enlightening video.
Divorced after 15 yrs I prefer the solitude and adventure of RV life over daily incompatibility. However, I'm always game for a rendezvous with good people.
Mike - same here! Love good, kind, interesting, free-spirited people. They truly make me happy! - Thanks for being one of them! :-) Carolyn
Have fun Carolyn, thanks for the great videos.
Thank you so much! - C
well....well....well.... thank you for that insight!!! i've been thinking about just those issues for some time now. it's nice to know that i'm not the only one with those questioning thoughts. hmmmmmm, your commentary puts a whole new perspective on "taking the leap" into venturing off alone. cheers!
Steve, - Glad this was able to provide insight and inspiration! Do it!! take the leap - it's awesome!!! :-)
thank you for watching!
I'm so glad I've come across your channel. You've been a true inspiration to me. I don't feel quite as "weird" after watching this video. It seems like the mainstream society makes people that want to be alone most of the time like they should be ashamed of how they're living their life or like they're doing something that is wrong.
Brian - You aren't weird.. Think about what the media feeds us - advertising and TV are all about happy families, groups of friends, couples buying and consuming their products. They never show loners enjoying a coke or a single woman being happy with her hair care products, or a single man and his dandruff shampoo, it's always about using a product to hook up.. So they feed us the lie that we all should be consumed with relationships and for those of us who have shitty families and struggle with relationships, we end up feeling like there's something wrong with us because our lives don't look like what it 'should'.
sorry went off on a rant...
yes, we are social animals and need some human interaction. But the fact is some of us need less than others.
You are not weird. You are you. And you are wonderful and perfect just for being the human being you are!
Thank you for watching. Glad this video resonated with you. Take care of yourself and I hope to see you out here someday!-
C
Carolyn, great information. I too get re-energized being alone and people drain me. I to can be personable and people don't believe I am an introvert. I can also go a long time not seeing people. I to live my dogs. Love the saying our best friend doesn't talk for a reason. Lol
Thanks, Cindy
Cindy - I know isn't that doggy quote awesome!? It's good to know what makes us happy and energizes us! Take care, carolyn
your never alone when you love yourself and enjoy your own company
Thanks again. You have just given me hope and I feel 1 foot closer to doing this as well. I think I'm doing some binge watching, lol.
2bczar4u Same here with the binge watching. Just stumbled on this ch. an hour ago. Loving it so far.😄
Me four, trouble is I'm in the UK so can't take advantage of much of the info. Also, we don't have any warm states I can go to in the winter. Still plenty of great info from Carolyn though, thank you Carolyn.
GeordieFX hi. Me 4 Even though not yet living in a van. work full time and live alone ... used to dread holidays because too much solitude made me down but that's history now. I really could grow into the mad old woman in the woods quite happily😊. the way C describes herself could easily be me ... introvert who likes people in small doses, and appears extroverted. I quite like being like this though it can be frightening. my dogs are a help.
I'm in the UK too and feel this van life must be SO different over here. specially now in winter. and hard to find free camping too.
but I mean to go for this sometime maybe once I retire if I can afford it. so I'm kinda researching as much as I can and like UA-cam for some of the down to earth warts and all experiences shown
I wish you luck and warmth ... maybe one day we'll et on the road. ☺
That's true, the weather is bearable in southern Europe in winter. Not as warm as in the southern states though. The language difference is a slight irritation and post brexit only being allowed to stay in each country for 3 months at a time. Still, far from unsurmountable, I could park up in Gibraltar indefinitely for example.
Thanks raleighman3000, and likewise to you.
Just found your channel and what an amazing peace out there. I can relate, and the RV life is so alluring to me. I daydream about it all the time. lol I can't stand the daily routine and grind.
I crave alone time. After 2 long-term relationships I can't wait to be
permanently ALONE. Don't think I ever want to share my life again.
Don't get me wrong, I like going out to dinner with friends as much as
the next person...but I could use some years of alone right now. It's all about being able to entertain yourself, with hobbies, etc. Also a pet makes life special too.
Sue - oh my gosh, that's exactly how I feel! I have been so happy and content to be on my own.. And I LOVE the freedom and serenity I now have. I don't want to give that up. It was great to find someone I am compatible with, who I enjoy traveling with but I still have to be by myself at least half the time... It's a good life, actually! Thanks for sharing yourself! Best, Carolyn
So seriously enjoying these earlier videos 💞
Great advice. Our motor home is made by Forrest River and they have a forum and gatherings. We've never attended but do enjoy reading the forum.
I believe most RV manufacturers do have forums and probably get togethers. So your viewers could look into it. Thanks for all your hard work.
We enjoy it 👍
Nancy, - yes there are a ton of groups out there. You're only alone as much as you want to be! - Thanks again for watching! - C
meditation and mindfulness might really help.. we are never really alone. you have yourself and you are connected to your surroundings. making that connection might help when it gets a little too quiet...
i loved camping out in different state parks with my popup camper, i had an ambulance buddy that had a customized van,he would go camping in, we both decided to campout together,his van pulled my popup so we had our space plus did alot together,we did that for years til the popup was falling apart,parked it and bought a major tent,and we did it for 34 years...:)
Steve, Sounds like fun times and fond memories. Thanks for sharing them! - Carolyn
My cousin has an RV park in Quartzite! I'm planning to visit her this coming winter.
awesome! Enjoy!
You're never alone ♡
Yep, I knew I'd like your page. Thank you for the information, I like to be alone more than I like being around hoards of people. But I like knowing that if I need to, I can go hang out with people who understand why I want to live this life.
Thanks TI! Love your last sentence.. "People who understand why I want to live this life.." it is nice to have people who "get' you, isn't it? _ Thanks again for watching - c
Great video. First time I've seen one on that topic. Unique. Keep it up.
Steven, wow. Well that is certainly nice to hear... Thank you!!! - Carolyn
I am alone and have just downsized to a smaller home in the historic town of Granbury TX. I also bought a Motorhome thinking I would travel some through the USA making friends, roasting marshmallows by the campfire, drinking wine and singing Kum-Ba-Ya! So far I have taken one trip through New Mexico for a month and a half. I did meet some lovely people, but I learned the RV Park world is not what I am looking for. For the most part, people have traveling companions, and they all crawl back into their RVs after 7:00 and it is just like living in a trailer park.Nothing social about it. So far the groups I have encountered were kinda clicky and not interested in new members. Thats OK, at least it was obvious before I joined. I think I might like the idea of caravan-ing with some folks? I am going to forget the RV Parks next time ( although the hook ups are nice for air-conditioning in the summer) and try the State and National Parks. I am thinking if I am going to be alone anyway, I may just sell the RV and be at home with all the comforts. I am 64 years old and do not mind being alone, but would like to enjoy the company of others while on the road. M
yescandles ... . RV parks sound just wrong so I think you'd be better elsewhere anyway.
and maybe RVing alone is not for you, but I hope you keep trying.
in my many years as a miss fit I have learned being alone is no bad thing, and though I like people I prefer small doses. without being cynical I've learned to keep my expectations low but stay open at heart to enjoy whatever folk have to give. when I do that it is great.
I read a LOT, keep dogs who are amazing .... work them a little bit .... use the Internet quite a bit. still work full time but spend a lot of time alone so I've dealt with this for a long time and worked on it.
I wish you well and hope you find enough of the right kind of companionship for you. good luck.
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Thank you!
yescandles You struck a "note" lol! With me. I love making scents. I looked at your page and watched your "I've Been Tagged! 5 Interesting Things About Me" It was nice to see you have two of my favorite songs in your playlist, i.e. "Sweet Holy Spirit" and "Vindicate Me," I leaned on them heavily during my personal struggles. You sound so sweet, perhaps you just weren't "paired" up and that made everyone uncomfortable, they just didn't know how to "slot" you. Sad, but you're on the right channel here! :) p.s. I usually come back and "delete comments" For Safety.
Thank you for your comment and for checking out those old vids! I am headed to the Vintage RV Rally coming up very soon. I will see how the Vintage Rving group is. They all seem very helpful and kind. They are sure interested in their RVs! Thank you again Lisa!
yescandles I hope you find your "Tribe!" You sound like a truly sweet-natured guy. Hook up into Bob's RTR maybe asap? I'm rooting for you! Be Safe! :)
yay!! I'm so glad to find another female van/rv dweller!! I hope you are at the RTR this year and I get the opportunity to meet you! I really enjoy your videos, lots of good info.
Hey Gypsy! I will most definitely be at the RTR! Can't wait. I went to the summer RTR in Flagstaff and there were just a few single solo women.. and then it was cut short, so I didn't even get to know them very well. Looking forward to the next one- and will be awesome to meet you too! Thanks for watching. - Carolyn
great video and thanks for sharing. I love the solitude this lifestyle provides. I'm also introverted (infj) and my wife is extroverted (ESFP) and we can both get what we need living this way.
Jason Emanuel
Hey Jason, thank you for your comment. Sounds like you and your wife have it dialed in, As an INTP I get it! :-) - All the best, have fun! -Carolyn
Great video! Thanks for sharing your tips on dealing with loneliness in the wilderness. 🙂
You're very welcome. Thank you for watching !- C
I watch your video and I thought you was speaking about my life. you have just opened my eyes about the way I have been feeling. I lost my wife to cancer in June of 2015. an the feelings that fit me to a "T" I have been living in my RV cents dec 1 of 2015. I have been just living from day to day with no purpose. you have turn the light on. thanks
Bike Rider, I hope that you have turned the light on and are finding your way out of the dark. It's not always easy - I spent years in some very dark places. I wish all the best - and hope you find the happiness you deserve. - C
I love that you are being open about this issue. I too like people but in small doses. I think for me I would need to be connected to the internet in order to keep the isolation down.
Yes, being connected online does help a lot. It's a whole different ballgame when I don't have internet. I usually only do that for a few days at the most. Thanks for watching!