You are so lucky! Through 80 surgeries, head to toe, I had no friend of family present during my recovery. They just did not care. As a result, I lost my two sons, who call me a freak. Today is my 77th Birthday,with not a greeting in site. Your sites are ameriorating tome,and I thank you. Mattiene.
As a trans female, I can verify that being born as a girl in the first place would have made my life so much better psychologically, economically, and socially. Yes self acceptance is a must for trans folk, but denial isn't helping yourself or anybody else. Make do with what you got and love what you get.
I wish I was a woman but I refuse to transition. Even without my family's views (very Christian and conservative) and the cost I know that I nor anybody else would see me as anything but a man. Its not enough for me just to look like one so for me its just not worth it. Especially considering how my family would react and just how much money I'd have to spend on surgery. While it bothers me mentally I just have to live with it. Fine if transition works for you but I don't believe any amount of surgery will ever change what I am.
Don't be afraid to voice your own opinions Maya. This is your channel and do what you want with it girl! As a pre-transition trans girl, I can honestly so you're a role model for me 💗
Oh my goodness this video was so good!!! I really appreciated your insight and opinion about being "privileged" to pass as a trans woman. I think you made a lot of great points and I totally agree that even if you "pass" as a women more than some other trans women you still experience a lot of not all the same struggles as every trans person. Thanks for just sharing what you think even if you know that some might not agree.
You were meant to be a woman. You seem so naturally beautiful and feminine. You’re not overly flamboyant. You’re not overly dramatic. Your face is not caked on with five hours of make-up. You are a beautiful woman. I wish you the best
it's good that you've been trying to educate yourself and getting out of the bubble you're used to.. a lot of people do that and it's so detrimental to society so props to you!!
What you said about passing being the goal is exactly where I am right now... I'm male but I feel like I would be so much happier female.... Long story obviously, but I wish I could have long, beautiful hair, I wish I could wear female clothes, I wish I could look beautiful like a woman, I wish I could express the way I am, which is more feminine, without feeling weird about it and "butching it up" everyday of my life to the point I don't even know how I act normally anymore... But that being said, I don't wont to transition if I would still look relatively male when I start presenting female .... I'm experimenting now as a 19 year old and in college but I'm really concerned because I have so much to move past before I can halt my body from maturing more (I'm really lucky that my body has taken a lot longer to get through puberty). Anyways I don't think I'll transition if I don't pass to be honest, I would want SRS and very minimal facial feminization surgery, I don't mind having a big nose as long as it looks feminine on my face... if that makes sense.. not even the perfect feminine model, but just believable as a female... Anyways thank you for the videos they've been helping me so much. I actually just recently put the pieces together and realized I'm most likely trans but I've been experiencing dysphoria my whole life... I just never really thought about it until recently (I'm taking my time with the decision though, I can wait at least a month and make sure I know I'm trans instead of acting on impulse and regretting a decision for the rest of my life...) sorry this was probably long and complicated lol....
This sounds so much like my life's story. I only found out when I was 19 what was up after having been confused for basically all my life, and I hit boy-puberty when I was 14 and it was relatively mild, concerning how my body turned out. I have known my whole life basically something was not right, but I had no idea what it was and that it actually had a name. A year after I started growing my hair longer I was perceived to be female for the very first time, but because I had absolutely no idea what to do next or what I envisioned my place in the female role to be I took basically 10 years to start the medical transition part (I transitioned socially earlier, but still) and I pretty much regret starting that late. Don't be worried about acting on an impulse: there are good mental healthcare professionels (well, depends on where you life maybe) that are very much able to seperate people that have not thought this through enough and the people who do. There will always be people who might not have the right reasons for transitioning and the mental healthcare professionals are there to stop people from making a decision they might regret heavily in the future. Try to see if you can find a local support group for some information.
Man I feel the same way, and you would not know it meeting me. I'm very much a typical straight dude with a really hot wife, but I agree on many of your points. My wife is 26 and she models, and I just kind of wish I could have her body and I enjoy imagining what life would be like had I been born female. I know I'd be a lot happier in general if I was female for some reason.. I'm not saying I'm unhappy at all, it's just this deep thought I have on a constant basis. idk, it's rather confusing and depressing at the same time.
I really liked what you said about "I don't identify as 'trans', I identify as a woman." That's really powerful to me for some reason lol. Love the vid!
Of course you can express your opinions, this is your channel after all :) And if people stop subscribing, maybe they weren't there for you in the first place.
The point of your transition might be to pass and for people to perceive you as a cis woman but many trans people just want to be comfortable with themselves. Fuck passing! transitioning exists so we can live life!
Very insightful. I admit I am learning a lot about transgenderism, not just from you but from others' experiences. Thank you so much for your perspective. That said, I thought you mentioning the ideological diversity among the LGBT community to be fascinating, though it wouldnt surprise me if the majority of that community is very liberal. I mostly identify as libertarian myself. I would strongly support someone who not only champions tolerance for the LGBT community, but also champions economic freedom as well. Unfortunately we dont have a viable candidate in 2020 that can do both, which is sad.
if someone offered me two pills..one to not be trans and just have male thoughts..one to make my body 100% female..I would definitely take the female pill
Loĺ the fucking thing, I'm a female born female but I have severe crohn's disease and have had my lg bowel removed and so I have an ostomy, this why it caught my attention is because I dress the exact same way to disguise my ostomy! I hope that wasn't ignorant for me go make the connection! Just found you thru Steph I love her and think your great thank you for educating me and everyone else! Much love from down the 401 in oshawa!
Tunics are really great too for avoiding tucking! Edit: I also totally agree with the whole idea of passing being the goal. I also wouldn't have done it without thinking I would pass.
I think the ultimate disappointment trans people feel come from the fact that no matter how much surgery, or hormones, makeup or clothes, they will never have been born the gender they are striving for. They strive for that ultimate feeling of contentment, but can never truly reach the level they would feel if the dysphoria was part of the equation. Though some can be happy with the way things turn out, I believe ultimately those that have the worst time are the ones that think that all their efforts will make that circle complete, but can't cope with the reality that that one key detail will never be realized. Bless those that struggle with this issue daily.
On the topic of dating a trans person, im a cis male but i honestly don't see dating a trans person as a big deal, ive never met a trans person and ive never been in the position to date a trans person but i understand it and im accepting of it, i think if that situation ever came to be id be fine with dating a trans woman, i just don't personally think it's a big deal and it sucks that some people think it is.
Maya! I do encourage you to post videos about your opinions. I do 100% agree that the LGBT community has a SJW tint over it from outsiders perspectives and I would love to hear maybe your slight controversial thoughts. It would be awesome to have some more diverse points on UA-cam. I'm slowly trying to do the same. Cheers.
NickCamryn very handsome. I didn't even know you were a girl until I scrolled your video's. but I question Every transgender: why are you trying so hard to be who you're not and not who You are?" why not be happy and contented with the way God and nature made you? changing who you were biologically born as, injecting yourself with things that to not belong in you and mutilating your born parts, is like mocking yourself. telling yourself that you're not good enough the way you were born. be comfortable with who you REALLY are and not what you FEEL you are.
The human society needs to be more together and loving in general. It definately is not just a trans issue. It's a human condition unfortunately. sending love your way
Hardcore Libertarian here. We fully support you and encourage you to just be you. You're an individual, never conform to the collective. Be who you are, and that's what you're doing. You're beautiful. Liberty For All.
Totally agree with your stance re born cis. I've learned so much through being trans and I wonder if I'd have been a less caring and empathetic character otherwise.
You are one of my favourite youtubers. You come from the same region as me and I find your voice, speech pattern, wording, and slang so calming to listen to. Aside from that I genuinely enjoy hearing what you have to say content wise. I've been living provinces away from home for the past couple years and your videos are my favourite thing for easing homesickness. The way you tell a story is just so familiar and that dry subtle humour paired with classic Canadian manners just gets me laughing.
I know its hard to have people the that they all wish to be born. But your cute to have a great journey like this. And you're a fine female looking women. As long as we all of us and all of your supporters still love you. Remember what does gigi says. She will always love who you really are, and we can still help you forever.
I don't think there is any issues with "passing" per say, as long as it is something you are personally needing, for yourself. The problem for a while was that a part of the community was making it be everything to the point where it becomes hypocritical. To say that a woman is someone that looks, acts, and even dresses a certain way takes away women's rights and is even sexist.
When people see at first glance that you were born as a human male (when you actually want to be a human female) then they treat u very different. So passing is quite important, i think.
i have always supported the lgbt+ community, but i have always felt ignorant when it comes to the trans community. thank you for teaching me so much about your life and journey. i have learned so much thru you, and it's helped a lot with my friend being his transition from f to m. thank you!
What some call privilege, I call being fortunate and/or lucky. One should not feel ashamed or guiity about being so blessed. One other thing, you are so beautiful!!!
There are two main reasons that people transition: 1) for external validation from others seeing a trans person as the correct gender, and 2) for internal validation, so that the person that we see in the mirror matches the person what we really truly are. I want to transition for the second reason. I don't care if anyone else thinks I'm a man or a woman, I just want my body to match who I am inside.
I really liked your comment...that people who surround themselves with people who all have the same outlook, the same opinions, the same political beliefs...and I think that can get unhealthy because they just form this echo chamber was very thoughtful and wise. What a better world this would be if everyone truly looked at all sides of an issue with an open mind.
Green apple,I hate no one,I want to make that clear. Why do I want to be a woman,has nothing to do with any one I have to be happy with my self,and I am not. I smile,having cerves,and breast development.I was the unwanted child,my mother hated me tried to end my life before I was born. I don't expect any one to understand. I have served two tours in the Persian Gulf,so I know what you are going through, I wish I could take you back home,were you belong,you are not safe there.
Congratulations on graduating from college just being able to stand up on stage and accept your diploma is an honor but to realize what you went through during college something special. I currently attending Eastern Florida State College in Florida prosuing my Associates Degree in Business Administration and I could not ever imagine going through that process and attending college that must have been one hell of a journey in life congrats on your success and never stop prosuing you future. you should never half to hide who you are if someone loves you they will accept you from the beginning regardless. Then you never half to worry about getting hurt later if that person leaves and walks out that's totally on them.
Do you ever experience prejudice looking the way you do? I live in a very friendly LGBT community but I'm afraid to venture out "all gussied up." Do most of the side effects come from the spirenolactone?
I love hearing civil discourse on Transgenders issues. I respect your views. I'm post op myself and like to hear others in the communities views. I don't approve of bullying in any form. We need civilized discussions not negativity and bashing.. Thank you for all your posts. Very information and I think extremely honest.
I thought your explanation about your feeling of being born as a woman instead and the reason you transitioned to begin with, can be helpful to others who are thinking about transitioning themselves.
I have made a number of "joking" comments on some of your videos. I hope they did not come across as mean or hateful, but I suspect that some, or perhaps all of them, are hurtful. If so, I want to apologize sincerely. I do very much appreciate this Q and A video - it addressed a lot of real questions that I have, and I appreciate you doing this. I wish you the best.
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Agreed. The stigma and "taboo" around trans-dating is unfortunate. Personally, I would prefer upfront honesty because the LGBTQ+ community does not bother me. But understandable fear of abuse & hate prevents this any initial openness.
Me too. I think the vast majority of girls like us do. The way I had always thought about things is that I was born with a birth defect down there that I had repaired. The dosages get much smaller after the bottom surgery.
You should talk politics! Everyone gets a certain amount of backlash when taking a moderate stanse, but all opinions that do not fall at the far ends of the political spectre are super valuable these days.
Anyone man who would drop you because you're trans is not a man at all. You're a beautiful, smart, woman inside and out in all the ways that really matter.
Your so awesome, I'm very proud of you. If it was me I would accept you totally. Your so open and proud, I wish I could come out as Bisexual but that's the only sexuality that my family doesn't except. Stay positive your awesome!
FYI hrt doesn't give you additional risks over people who have those hormones you're taking naturally. Also if you had srs and your testicles are removed hrt is necessary for good health. Cool video for the rest!
Maya, first, thanks for all the videos you make. Thanks to you, I know more about trans people than I would have otherwise. I'm a man, non-trans, and as such I end up wondering about things, but not asking. I always feel like asking a trans person questions about their life would be prying, as their life is theirs and really isn't any of my business. So then I end up just wondering. That's why your channel is so helpful. It makes it easier to understand more about what life is like for trans people. I find you to be very courageous to talk about this topic in a public forum like this. I do have a question, which you may answer if you wish to, but certainly are not obligated to. I've experienced when a trans person comes out and lets people know that they're trans. I've seen it both when the born-male person is still male and plans a transition to female and tells his coworkers. I've also experienced when a born-male woman has already transitioned and then she tells people. Each time it's been a big surprise. I've had no idea that that's what was going on until the person tells me. In the one case, the person was still in male form. In the other case, she had already transitioned and was very convincing as female. The result: surprise. Is it okay to admit the truth, in other words, "I'm very surprised; I had no idea"? That was the absolute truth each time, but I could see how that could be taken as a put-down. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I don't see surprise as necessarily a bad thing. I only mean that I did not know, and was not expecting that. However, ultimately I'm willing to accept people the way that they are. If needing to change to another gender is what the person needs, I'm good with that. It's their life. I want others to accept me the way that I am, and so I want to extend that same courtesy to others, including trans people. My concern with a surprised reaction is that they might interpret that as not accepting them, and that's not what I would want. I want them to feel accepted. If you wish to reply with any insight, I would really respect your view. Thanks.
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being trans is amazing and It's made me who I am but honestly I would want a completely working female body like I wouldn't want my life to be different tho cause at the end of the day I love my life and all the people in it and wouldn't change that.
I really enjoyed watching your Q&A. I share your thoughts about being transgender in so many ways. I almost wanted to get a bit political in this post explaining all the ways that I agree with you, but I think I'll just limit myself to saying that I agree with you on pretty much everything you said in this video. You are far younger than I am, but your courage truly inspires me and I actually love your beauty videos too. I wish you only the best Maya, and I hope you have an awesome time in Iceland.
if i realise that the person i am on a date with is a trans woman should i let them bring it up or would it save them a lot of worry as i am bi i tend to be more aware of trans people than a straight guy would
I have never been on hormones but I have had plenty of experience with medication. In my case namely for anxiety, depression, schizophrenia, autism and more recently high blood pressure. Side affects I had experienced are insomnia, chronic fatigue, weight gain and the like.
I so wish I was born female. It would have solved alot of problems i had / have I'd love nothing more than to be a real woman periods,babies and all. I get that women complain about all of this like omg we are the one that endures the pain of child birth and cramps from periods and having to wear stupid bras blah blah blah. Yeah well maybe I want to be able to complain about it all also! Maybe stop acting like it a course and embrace it somewhere there is someone out there that would switch you bodies in a blink of an eye. Sorry I started something and my rant got out of hand I'm stopping now
So it doesn't matter whether trans, normal, black or white. Privileged people will always tell you to not talk about privilege, because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Kind of good to know, how normal you are at this point. Btw. I don't think that the question about "passing as a woman" was meant as negatively as you understood it. The person just asked, whether you're thankful or happy about your privilege.
Well...am I the only straight guy here who loves listening to Maya's trans journey and her daily life experience and also fallin flat for her because she's beautiful,smart and so charming. Anyone else??? Or is just me??
ppl say I'm passable but I feel like I sound and act masculine . I hate it. I'm mid transition living both genders for now 4-5 months on hrt. having a hard time making the jump and living my life as I know I should. any suggestions. ? much love and peace . xoxo
In high school I came out as gay and it wasn't until college I figured out that I was transgender. Really surprised at the amount of bias against transgender individuals from the other parts of the LGBTQ rainbow. Dammit people we need to stick together!
I would be afraid for you if you ever had a live debate with Blair white. She can be very mean in her debates and comments on other trans people. But would still love to see you go one on one with Blair white on a live chat talking about trans issues.
Maya is very intelligent. I'm sure she could hold her own against blaire but she said it herself: she doesn't know a lot about politics. Blaire's whole channel and existence is dedicated to that stuff.
I have been watching you for a couple of months on UA-cam you are wonderful I'm just starting to come out I am 46 years old I am a truck driver I do flatbed work it is so hard for me to do what you're doing would you have any Commons to help me come out while I'm working I am pretty feminine and I have a very very deep voice and I'm trying to change it so hard to pass for a female
Just in case you didn't know, some trans girls/women DO get vocal surgery. Some say it's kind of risky but if you search online you can find a lot of really good before/after results to listen to! This is another trans UA-camr with really great videos AND a comprehensive transitioning manual for just $8! Really indispensable if you're even considering it! Best of luck! :)
Regarding passing, some folks say that shouldn't be the goal because of the rise in gender nonconforming identities. Some would say prioritizing passing reinforces the tyranny of the binary. They also say there are as many genders as there are different fingerprints. From that perspective gender begins to unravel the more we think about it as it applies to us, we gender nonconforming folks. The most common trans narrative to make it into the mainstream's consciousness is the one where someone is born in the wrong body but transitions and feels whole agaiin. And (as a transfemme author I recently read put it) it was with a lot of blood and tears that that narrative got to where it is today which is why even if that doesn't apply to us we still support those folks 100%. You all are still our trans syblings and we'd fight by your side all the same. However, new narratives are emerging in which folks (I am one of them) say, "I no longer identify with the gender assigned to me at birth, but I don't quite feel like the opposite gender either. No, I am somewhere comfortably in the middle." Since we no longer identify with the gender assigned to us at birth we are still TRANS. (I identify as transfemme, pronouns: they/them/their.) Gender nonconforming folks just want to be their authentic selves too. They don't feel the need to be either/or, man/woman. But again, if our trans brothers and sisters do want to be a man or a woman we support that!! That's why folks are "mehing" when it comes to the notion of passing.
Drop the "privileged" false mindset. You are here because only you can perform the task/s that are before you. Hold your head up and don't apologize for what life has handed you.
Related 2 question 2. If someone does not want srs orvcant afford it for a very long time or whatever your reasoning but wants off of spiro(I mean who doesnt) look into an orchiectomy. It's the surgical removal of the testicles. So you'll no longer need spiro. I know I intend on getting it haha
As I get older, (mid-30's) I find myself not caring at all anymore about cis/trans. Frankly, I'm into the feminine form in general, but the actual parts involved don't matter to me anymore. I used to be strictly cis attracted but I've come to find with age and experience in relationships that if you provide the companionship, support, loyalty and love every single person on this earth wants to have (though some deny themselves that), then you're more of a woman to me than some onlyfans girl selling her body to the lowest bidder through her internet connection who has a shallow and meaningless lifestyle that will only last until their beauty inevitably fades away with age. Not simping at all, it's just an honest fact. Maya is a great example of why I just don't care anymore about cis/trans. Again, not trying to profess some unrequited love here, she's just a great example of why I stopped giving a shit. And she's far from the only example I could use... Pre-op/Post-op, Maya's someone I would TOTALLY date based on her personality and point of view in these videos. She's got better perspective, more experience with serious life decisions and more maturity than most cis girls her age and I'm FAR more attracted to those qualities than just the surface beauty. Though that's not any sort of issue in any way with her either... She's the total package. Okay, maybe there was a tiny simp in there somewhere, but I'm just sayin, if I found a girl cis or trans with her qualities who was single and closer than 6,000mi. away, I'd be working HARD to get with her.
I like Blaire White, I don't agree with everything she says, but I'm glad you took the time to check her out. Some other transgender UA-camrs who cover political issues that would be considered to be right leaning are Theryn Mayer, Danica Lee and Melissa Karlee. Theryn and Danica are both Canadian and Melissa is American. There's an ex-Jehovah's Witness transwoman who does some political content as well, her name is Laura Engram and goes by JWTgirl. I'm an ex-Jehovah's Witness and find her content interesting.
You are so lucky! Through 80 surgeries, head to toe, I had no friend of family present during my recovery. They just did not care. As a result, I lost my two sons, who call me a freak. Today is my 77th Birthday,with not a greeting in site. Your sites are ameriorating tome,and I thank you. Mattiene.
O my god thats extremely sad. Im sorry that your children think u are a freak. I hope your situation has gotten better
As a trans female, I can verify that being born as a girl in the first place would have made my life so much better psychologically, economically, and socially. Yes self acceptance is a must for trans folk, but denial isn't helping yourself or anybody else. Make do with what you got and love what you get.
adamboardz i always wonder what it would be like if I were born a male. I sometimes wish I was... idk
I really wish I was a girl
me too
let do it together we can be come girl together if you want to
IT would been easier but there also negatives like have periods every month and child birth.
This is so irrelevant but that Cupid's bow/upper lip highlight is gr8 and glowy asf
Yaas, thanks for noticing the little details! ;)
I'm like hypnotized. Seh's so gorgeous.
I wish I was a woman but I refuse to transition. Even without my family's views (very Christian and conservative) and the cost I know that I nor anybody else would see me as anything but a man. Its not enough for me just to look like one so for me its just not worth it.
Especially considering how my family would react and just how much money I'd have to spend on surgery. While it bothers me mentally I just have to live with it. Fine if transition works for you but I don't believe any amount of surgery will ever change what I am.
Same. I want to be a girl but I don’t want anyone to know that I even remotely transitioned at all, I wish I were just born the way I wished.
Excuse me, can I ask? why do you want to be a woman
What about hormones? It could help the dysphoria.
Don't be afraid to voice your own opinions Maya. This is your channel and do what you want with it girl! As a pre-transition trans girl, I can honestly so you're a role model for me 💗
How's your transition coming Olivia?! I can't wait to see some posts about it. Love you girl!
I am Thai, I also want to be born as a woman. Because I feel that women's lives are really better than men's.
They are by far
Oh my goodness this video was so good!!! I really appreciated your insight and opinion about being "privileged" to pass as a trans woman. I think you made a lot of great points and I totally agree that even if you "pass" as a women more than some other trans women you still experience a lot of not all the same struggles as every trans person. Thanks for just sharing what you think even if you know that some might not agree.
You were meant to be a woman. You seem so naturally beautiful and feminine. You’re not overly flamboyant. You’re not overly dramatic. Your face is not caked on with five hours of make-up. You are a beautiful woman. I wish you the best
it's good that you've been trying to educate yourself and getting out of the bubble you're used to.. a lot of people do that and it's so detrimental to society so props to you!!
What you said about passing being the goal is exactly where I am right now... I'm male but I feel like I would be so much happier female.... Long story obviously, but I wish I could have long, beautiful hair, I wish I could wear female clothes, I wish I could look beautiful like a woman, I wish I could express the way I am, which is more feminine, without feeling weird about it and "butching it up" everyday of my life to the point I don't even know how I act normally anymore...
But that being said, I don't wont to transition if I would still look relatively male when I start presenting female .... I'm experimenting now as a 19 year old and in college but I'm really concerned because I have so much to move past before I can halt my body from maturing more (I'm really lucky that my body has taken a lot longer to get through puberty). Anyways I don't think I'll transition if I don't pass to be honest, I would want SRS and very minimal facial feminization surgery, I don't mind having a big nose as long as it looks feminine on my face... if that makes sense.. not even the perfect feminine model, but just believable as a female...
Anyways thank you for the videos they've been helping me so much. I actually just recently put the pieces together and realized I'm most likely trans but I've been experiencing dysphoria my whole life... I just never really thought about it until recently (I'm taking my time with the decision though, I can wait at least a month and make sure I know I'm trans instead of acting on impulse and regretting a decision for the rest of my life...)
sorry this was probably long and complicated lol....
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Good luck!!! 💜
@G Why? I'm not judging you, I'm just curious. I'm opposite to you btw, we could switch lol
This sounds so much like my life's story. I only found out when I was 19 what was up after having been confused for basically all my life, and I hit boy-puberty when I was 14 and it was relatively mild, concerning how my body turned out.
I have known my whole life basically something was not right, but I had no idea what it was and that it actually had a name.
A year after I started growing my hair longer I was perceived to be female for the very first time, but because I had absolutely no idea what to do next or what I envisioned my place in the female role to be I took basically 10 years to start the medical transition part (I transitioned socially earlier, but still) and I pretty much regret starting that late.
Don't be worried about acting on an impulse: there are good mental healthcare professionels (well, depends on where you life maybe) that are very much able to seperate people that have not thought this through enough and the people who do.
There will always be people who might not have the right reasons for transitioning and the mental healthcare professionals are there to stop people from making a decision they might regret heavily in the future.
Try to see if you can find a local support group for some information.
me too i wish i was female i like to wear female clothes my mom doesnt know yet
Man I feel the same way, and you would not know it meeting me. I'm very much a typical straight dude with a really hot wife, but I agree on many of your points. My wife is 26 and she models, and I just kind of wish I could have her body and I enjoy imagining what life would be like had I been born female. I know I'd be a lot happier in general if I was female for some reason.. I'm not saying I'm unhappy at all, it's just this deep thought I have on a constant basis. idk, it's rather confusing and depressing at the same time.
Please never stop vlogging no matter what you do.
I really liked what you said about "I don't identify as 'trans', I identify as a woman." That's really powerful to me for some reason lol. Love the vid!
I feel the exact same way as you do Maya because I too also would love to be born as a female too.
Of course you can express your opinions, this is your channel after all :) And if people stop subscribing, maybe they weren't there for you in the first place.
The point of your transition might be to pass and for people to perceive you as a cis woman but many trans people just want to be comfortable with themselves. Fuck passing! transitioning exists so we can live life!
Very insightful. I admit I am learning a lot about transgenderism, not just from you but from others' experiences. Thank you so much for your perspective.
That said, I thought you mentioning the ideological diversity among the LGBT community to be fascinating, though it wouldnt surprise me if the majority of that community is very liberal.
I mostly identify as libertarian myself. I would strongly support someone who not only champions tolerance for the LGBT community, but also champions economic freedom as well. Unfortunately we dont have a viable candidate in 2020 that can do both, which is sad.
if someone offered me two pills..one to not be trans and just have male thoughts..one to make my body 100% female..I would definitely take the female pill
Me too
Loĺ the fucking thing, I'm a female born female but I have severe crohn's disease and have had my lg bowel removed and so I have an ostomy, this why it caught my attention is because I dress the exact same way to disguise my ostomy! I hope that wasn't ignorant for me go make the connection! Just found you thru Steph I love her and think your great thank you for educating me and everyone else! Much love from down the 401 in oshawa!
Tunics are really great too for avoiding tucking!
Edit: I also totally agree with the whole idea of passing being the goal. I also wouldn't have done it without thinking I would pass.
I think the ultimate disappointment trans people feel come from the fact that no matter how much surgery, or hormones, makeup or clothes, they will never have been born the gender they are striving for. They strive for that ultimate feeling of contentment, but can never truly reach the level they would feel if the dysphoria was part of the equation. Though some can be happy with the way things turn out, I believe ultimately those that have the worst time are the ones that think that all their efforts will make that circle complete, but can't cope with the reality that that one key detail will never be realized. Bless those that struggle with this issue daily.
On the topic of dating a trans person, im a cis male but i honestly don't see dating a trans person as a big deal, ive never met a trans person and ive never been in the position to date a trans person but i understand it and im accepting of it, i think if that situation ever came to be id be fine with dating a trans woman, i just don't personally think it's a big deal and it sucks that some people think it is.
Maya! I do encourage you to post videos about your opinions. I do 100% agree that the LGBT community has a SJW tint over it from outsiders perspectives and I would love to hear maybe your slight controversial thoughts. It would be awesome to have some more diverse points on UA-cam. I'm slowly trying to do the same. Cheers.
as a right wing trans woman, I'm just imagining her talking to Blaire White
I could imagine it too! Blaire does make a lot of points that I agree with!
NickCamryn
very handsome. I didn't even know you were a girl until I scrolled your video's.
but I question Every transgender: why are you trying so hard to be who you're not and not who You are?" why not be happy and contented with the way God and nature made you?
changing who you were biologically born as, injecting yourself with things that to not belong in you and mutilating your born parts, is like mocking yourself. telling yourself that you're not good enough the way you were born. be comfortable with who you REALLY are and not what you FEEL you are.
Janis Z I am very critical of both the SJW and anti SJW community. I think both sides are full of stupidity and hate. Don't flatter yourself
Janis Z Y'all have done nothing for me as a trans person. You've only made me look like an idiot.
The human society needs to be more together and loving in general. It definately is not just a trans issue. It's a human condition unfortunately. sending love your way
Hardcore Libertarian here. We fully support you and encourage you to just be you. You're an individual, never conform to the collective. Be who you are, and that's what you're doing. You're beautiful. Liberty For All.
I WISH I WAS BORN FEMALE NOT MALE.
Totally agree with your stance re born cis. I've learned so much through being trans and I wonder if I'd have been a less caring and empathetic character otherwise.
You are one of my favourite youtubers. You come from the same region as me and I find your voice, speech pattern, wording, and slang so calming to listen to. Aside from that I genuinely enjoy hearing what you have to say content wise. I've been living provinces away from home for the past couple years and your videos are my favourite thing for easing homesickness. The way you tell a story is just so familiar and that dry subtle humour paired with classic Canadian manners just gets me laughing.
God i love you for that answer about if you would want to be born as a biological woman! It was so true and my point of view about transition.
maya.. even if you were born a women. you still inspire some people to be who they want to be, or live that way. dont stop youtubing. i need this.
You’re so pretty!!
Do I wish I were born female? Sometimes, yeah; but if I were, I wouldn’t know how much I wanted to be a girl.
I'm a girl and I know how much I want to be a girl. Just from watching these kinds of videos.
I know its hard to have people the that they all wish to be born. But your cute to have a great journey like this. And you're a fine female looking women. As long as we all of us and all of your supporters still love you. Remember what does gigi says. She will always love who you really are, and we can still help you forever.
I don't think there is any issues with "passing" per say, as long as it is something you are personally needing, for yourself. The problem for a while was that a part of the community was making it be everything to the point where it becomes hypocritical. To say that a woman is someone that looks, acts, and even dresses a certain way takes away women's rights and is even sexist.
When people see at first glance that you were born as a human male (when you actually want to be a human female) then they treat u very different. So passing is quite important, i think.
i have always supported the lgbt+ community, but i have always felt ignorant when it comes to the trans community. thank you for teaching me so much about your life and journey. i have learned so much thru you, and it's helped a lot with my friend being his transition from f to m. thank you!
What some call privilege, I call being fortunate and/or lucky. One should not feel ashamed or guiity about being so blessed. One other thing, you are so beautiful!!!
There are two main reasons that people transition: 1) for external validation from others seeing a trans person as the correct gender, and 2) for internal validation, so that the person that we see in the mirror matches the person what we really truly are. I want to transition for the second reason. I don't care if anyone else thinks I'm a man or a woman, I just want my body to match who I am inside.
I like you Maya, you're cool.
So mature, gracious, insightful... and candid. Well done, Maya.
I really liked your comment...that people who surround themselves with people who all have the same outlook, the same opinions, the same political beliefs...and I think that can get unhealthy because they just form this echo chamber was very thoughtful and wise. What a better world this would be if everyone truly looked at all sides of an issue with an open mind.
I totally feel you on the inauthetic thing helping you be more authentic.
This vidio really makes you shine in that you are a deep thinking, sincere, genuine, real woman.
Thank you for sharing your life with us, you're helping some of us deal with our feelings.
Yes girl,I wish,I were born female too.
Green Apple you’re the worst kind of apple
Green apple,I hate no one,I want to make that clear. Why do I want to be a woman,has nothing to do with any one I have to be happy with my self,and I am not. I smile,having cerves,and breast development.I was the unwanted child,my mother hated me tried to end my life before I was born. I don't expect any one to understand. I have served two tours in the Persian Gulf,so I know what you are going through, I wish I could take you back home,were you belong,you are not safe there.
I would love to have been born a woman
Me too sis
Congratulations on graduating from college just being able to stand up on stage and accept your diploma is an honor but to realize what you went through during college something special. I currently attending Eastern Florida State College in Florida prosuing my Associates Degree in Business Administration and I could not ever imagine going through that process and attending college that must have been one hell of a journey in life congrats on your success and never stop prosuing you future. you should never half to hide who you are if someone loves you they will accept you from the beginning regardless. Then you never half to worry about getting hurt later if that person leaves and walks out that's totally on them.
I adore your personality and views/opinions. You are an awesome person! Wish I had more friends like you 💜
I also wish I was Born a Girl
I wish I was born female. I hate being trans and all of the negativity that comes with being one. I wish I had periods and the ability to give birth.
jakthebomb sometimes I wish I were a male....cause they don’t get judged as much
drinkbleach same..
drinkbleach wym
I wish i was a girl too:(
I agree on the ability to give birth but as a gal i don't understand why you would want periods but ok whatever
Do you ever experience prejudice looking the way you do? I live in a very friendly LGBT community but I'm afraid to venture out "all gussied up." Do most of the side effects come from the spirenolactone?
what ever happened to that colab you did with Stef, did it ever get put on youtube?
I love hearing civil discourse on Transgenders issues. I respect your views. I'm post op myself and like to hear others in the communities views. I don't approve of bullying in any form. We need civilized discussions not negativity and bashing.. Thank you for all your posts. Very information and I think extremely honest.
I thought your explanation about your feeling of being born as a woman instead and the reason you transitioned to begin with, can be helpful to others who are thinking about transitioning themselves.
I would have loved to be born female
Me too sis
I have made a number of "joking" comments on some of your videos. I hope they did not come across as mean or hateful, but I suspect that some, or perhaps all of them, are hurtful. If so, I want to apologize sincerely. I do very much appreciate this Q and A video - it addressed a lot of real questions that I have, and I appreciate you doing this. I wish you the best.
Be who you want not what others think just be you
Loved this video, thank you for all these awnsers
I agree with your feeling about the "goal of transitioning" and being "born a women". Totally.
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Agreed. The stigma and "taboo" around trans-dating is unfortunate. Personally, I would prefer upfront honesty because the LGBTQ+ community does not bother me. But understandable fear of abuse & hate prevents this any initial openness.
My gosh you are a beautiful girl! Your openness about your experiences must inspire so many trans people. You inspire me and I'm a straight gal. XO
He's a man
@@kaseyhyde6503 Well aren't you a nasty little troll Kasey. Bug off.
@@ruinsane100 , just stating facts. Truth is truth. God Almighty chose his gender.
Me too. I think the vast majority of girls like us do. The way I had always thought about things is that I was born with a birth defect down there that I had repaired. The dosages get much smaller after the bottom surgery.
You should talk politics! Everyone gets a certain amount of backlash when taking a moderate stanse, but all opinions that do not fall at the far ends of the political spectre are super valuable these days.
Thank you for sharing. I'm transitioning in my late 50's and you are a breath of fresh air. Hugs
You certainly have the heart, mind and soul of a woman.
Girl, please, speak your mind! Fuck the haters and use your voice!
Anyone man who would drop you because you're trans is not a man at all. You're a beautiful, smart, woman inside and out in all the ways that really matter.
.....what? Lmao
You look phenomenal, you pass better than many women do.
I wish I was born female 😢
Same
Your so awesome, I'm very proud of you. If it was me I would accept you totally.
Your so open and proud, I wish I could come out as Bisexual but that's the only sexuality that my family doesn't except. Stay positive your awesome!
FYI hrt doesn't give you additional risks over people who have those hormones you're taking naturally. Also if you had srs and your testicles are removed hrt is necessary for good health.
Cool video for the rest!
Maya, first, thanks for all the videos you make. Thanks to you, I know more about trans people than I would have otherwise. I'm a man, non-trans, and as such I end up wondering about things, but not asking. I always feel like asking a trans person questions about their life would be prying, as their life is theirs and really isn't any of my business. So then I end up just wondering. That's why your channel is so helpful. It makes it easier to understand more about what life is like for trans people. I find you to be very courageous to talk about this topic in a public forum like this.
I do have a question, which you may answer if you wish to, but certainly are not obligated to. I've experienced when a trans person comes out and lets people know that they're trans. I've seen it both when the born-male person is still male and plans a transition to female and tells his coworkers. I've also experienced when a born-male woman has already transitioned and then she tells people. Each time it's been a big surprise. I've had no idea that that's what was going on until the person tells me. In the one case, the person was still in male form. In the other case, she had already transitioned and was very convincing as female. The result: surprise. Is it okay to admit the truth, in other words, "I'm very surprised; I had no idea"? That was the absolute truth each time, but I could see how that could be taken as a put-down. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I don't see surprise as necessarily a bad thing. I only mean that I did not know, and was not expecting that. However, ultimately I'm willing to accept people the way that they are. If needing to change to another gender is what the person needs, I'm good with that. It's their life. I want others to accept me the way that I am, and so I want to extend that same courtesy to others, including trans people. My concern with a surprised reaction is that they might interpret that as not accepting them, and that's not what I would want. I want them to feel accepted.
If you wish to reply with any insight, I would really respect your view. Thanks.
Well done Maya for being who you want to be.
Your soo beautiful and smart ❤️ I wish you the best on your career endeavors 🍀
I am biologically female and not trans, but people are continuously mistaking me as male. Hate it.
I too wish I was born a female
My favorite cuisine is torn between Mexican and Chinese. Both are delicious and I love them! China Star and Elranchero are a couple of my favorite Restaurants! ♥️
Such intelligent and nuanced answers so difficult questions! Thanks Maya =)
being trans is amazing and It's made me who I am but honestly I would want a completely working female body like I wouldn't want my life to be different tho cause at the end of the day I love my life and all the people in it and wouldn't change that.
Always wish that i was a girl not a boy
@@DavidMartine you are a boi?
@@marianamaganda8937 yes
@@DavidMartine am on my another account but am a gal and i have always wished i was a guy though:(i guess we all want what we can't have
@@samuelssenkayi3979 yea
I really enjoyed watching your Q&A. I share your thoughts about being transgender in so many ways. I almost wanted to get a bit political in this post explaining all the ways that I agree with you, but I think I'll just limit myself to saying that I agree with you on pretty much everything you said in this video. You are far younger than I am, but your courage truly inspires me and I actually love your beauty videos too. I wish you only the best Maya, and I hope you have an awesome time in Iceland.
if i realise that the person i am on a date with is a trans woman should i let them
bring it up or would it save them a lot of worry as i am bi i tend to be more aware of
trans people than a straight guy would
YOUR GONNA GET A BIG ONE SOON
I have never been on hormones but I have had plenty of experience with medication. In my case namely for anxiety, depression, schizophrenia, autism and more recently high blood pressure. Side affects I had experienced are insomnia, chronic fatigue, weight gain and the like.
I so wish I was born female. It would have solved alot of problems i had / have
I'd love nothing more than to be a real woman periods,babies and all. I get that women complain about all of this like omg we are the one that endures the pain of child birth and cramps from periods and having to wear stupid bras blah blah blah. Yeah well maybe I want to be able to complain about it all also! Maybe stop acting like it a course and embrace it somewhere there is someone out there that would switch you bodies in a blink of an eye.
Sorry I started something and my rant got out of hand I'm stopping now
So it doesn't matter whether trans, normal, black or white. Privileged people will always tell you to not talk about privilege, because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Kind of good to know, how normal you are at this point.
Btw. I don't think that the question about "passing as a woman" was meant as negatively as you understood it. The person just asked, whether you're thankful or happy about your privilege.
you are so gorgeous!!
Well...am I the only straight guy here who loves listening to Maya's trans journey and her daily life experience and also fallin flat for her because she's beautiful,smart and so charming.
Anyone else??? Or is just me??
Maya what do you think of "autogynephilia"...I greatly look up to your videos, they have helped me in my self discovery, ty
Love the way you look!!!! Sorry for the difficulty your transition presented. I love you the way you are!!
ppl say I'm passable but I feel like I sound and act masculine . I hate it. I'm mid transition living both genders for now 4-5 months on hrt. having a hard time making the jump and living my life as I know I should. any suggestions. ? much love and peace . xoxo
I am still having problems in transitioning, people and in being in fully as a woman,I have wondered why thing's sometimes just don't work?.
In high school I came out as gay and it wasn't until college I figured out that I was transgender. Really surprised at the amount of bias against transgender individuals from the other parts of the LGBTQ rainbow. Dammit people we need to stick together!
You are one thing for sure very interesting person and a great spokesperson for the cause..thank you for being open!~
I would be afraid for you if you ever had a live debate with Blair white. She can be very mean in her debates and comments on other trans people. But would still love to see you go one on one with Blair white on a live chat talking about trans issues.
Bernie Flores She's not mean omg she's just very blunt
Blaire isnt mean..
Bernie Flores Exactlyy omg
She fully admits to being mean. She revels in it. Anyone with a brain can see she's a bully.
Maya is very intelligent. I'm sure she could hold her own against blaire but she said it herself: she doesn't know a lot about politics. Blaire's whole channel and existence is dedicated to that stuff.
Same here i wish i was born female
Me too
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I have been watching you for a couple of months on UA-cam you are wonderful I'm just starting to come out I am 46 years old I am a truck driver I do flatbed work it is so hard for me to do what you're doing would you have any Commons to help me come out while I'm working I am pretty feminine and I have a very very deep voice and I'm trying to change it so hard to pass for a female
Just in case you didn't know, some trans girls/women DO get vocal surgery.
Some say it's kind of risky but if you search online you can find a lot of really good before/after results to listen to!
This is another trans UA-camr with really great videos AND a comprehensive transitioning manual for just $8!
Really indispensable if you're even considering it!
Best of luck! :)
Regarding passing, some folks say that shouldn't be the goal because of the rise in gender nonconforming identities. Some would say prioritizing passing reinforces the tyranny of the binary. They also say there are as many genders as there are different fingerprints. From that perspective gender begins to unravel the more we think about it as it applies to us, we gender nonconforming folks.
The most common trans narrative to make it into the mainstream's consciousness is the one where someone is born in the wrong body but transitions and feels whole agaiin. And (as a transfemme author I recently read put it) it was with a lot of blood and tears that that narrative got to where it is today which is why even if that doesn't apply to us we still support those folks 100%. You all are still our trans syblings and we'd fight by your side all the same. However, new narratives are emerging in which folks (I am one of them) say, "I no longer identify with the gender assigned to me at birth, but I don't quite feel like the opposite gender either. No, I am somewhere comfortably in the middle."
Since we no longer identify with the gender assigned to us at birth we are still TRANS. (I identify as transfemme, pronouns: they/them/their.) Gender nonconforming folks just want to be their authentic selves too. They don't feel the need to be either/or, man/woman. But again, if our trans brothers and sisters do want to be a man or a woman we support that!! That's why folks are "mehing" when it comes to the notion of passing.
Drop the "privileged" false mindset. You are here because only you can perform the task/s that are before you. Hold your head up and don't apologize for what life has handed you.
Related 2 question 2. If someone does not want srs orvcant afford it for a very long time or whatever your reasoning but wants off of spiro(I mean who doesnt) look into an orchiectomy. It's the surgical removal of the testicles. So you'll no longer need spiro. I know I intend on getting it haha
Εκανα αλλαγη φυλου οτι καλυτερο μου εχει συμβει.
I think you have the potential to be the most successful and well known unique girl. Go for it.
As I get older, (mid-30's) I find myself not caring at all anymore about cis/trans. Frankly, I'm into the feminine form in general, but the actual parts involved don't matter to me anymore. I used to be strictly cis attracted but I've come to find with age and experience in relationships that if you provide the companionship, support, loyalty and love every single person on this earth wants to have (though some deny themselves that), then you're more of a woman to me than some onlyfans girl selling her body to the lowest bidder through her internet connection who has a shallow and meaningless lifestyle that will only last until their beauty inevitably fades away with age.
Not simping at all, it's just an honest fact. Maya is a great example of why I just don't care anymore about cis/trans. Again, not trying to profess some unrequited love here, she's just a great example of why I stopped giving a shit. And she's far from the only example I could use... Pre-op/Post-op, Maya's someone I would TOTALLY date based on her personality and point of view in these videos. She's got better perspective, more experience with serious life decisions and more maturity than most cis girls her age and I'm FAR more attracted to those qualities than just the surface beauty. Though that's not any sort of issue in any way with her either... She's the total package. Okay, maybe there was a tiny simp in there somewhere, but I'm just sayin, if I found a girl cis or trans with her qualities who was single and closer than 6,000mi. away, I'd be working HARD to get with her.
I like Blaire White, I don't agree with everything she says, but I'm glad you took the time to check her out. Some other transgender UA-camrs who cover political issues that would be considered to be right leaning are Theryn Mayer, Danica Lee and Melissa Karlee. Theryn and Danica are both Canadian and Melissa is American.
There's an ex-Jehovah's Witness transwoman who does some political content as well, her name is Laura Engram and goes by JWTgirl. I'm an ex-Jehovah's Witness and find her content interesting.