My hair is "too dark", my skin is "too pale", my nose is asymmetrical, and I'm tall but it's mostly in my torso and not my legs. I have mild rosacea and cellulite. I used to HATE myself more than most people could ever fathom. Today at 35 I'm a healthy, active, and beautiful human being. I can hike and run and paddleboard and bike for miles and miles. I'm smart and clever and I can either make people laugh or engage them in serious conversation, depending on what the situation calls for. I can play beautiful music on the violin, theremin, and lyre. I can paint beautiful portraits and botanical art. I can knit, crochet, nalbind, weave, and sew beautiful garments. I'm fucking awesome.
@@unblahyourself Thank you so much! I think my turning point was simply aging, but I had already cultivated my interests beforehand. I'd say to any young person - learn what you love to do and do it earnestly and without any hesitation. And don't be afraid to love so many things that it feels daunting to love them all; life might be short, but it's also long enough to pursue what matters to you.
@@missmayflowerDr Who companions! They’re all gorgeous because they’re chosen to be “something for the dads” as well as playing an important role in the show. They all look very different from the classic era until now. All the way from Kate Manning’s big smile to Millie Gibson’s thick eyebrows.
That occurred in a vacuum though. It was rarely women who were permitted to be imperfect under the public gaze or if they were, they’d already flouted conventional standards of beauty (butch, fat, older, POC, queer, etc.) and therefore, cast aside by the tastemakers as worthy of public attention. Little girls swarming Sephora are indicative of the hyperfeminine ideals foisted onto women, girls and femmes thrown into hyperdrive via the internet. I agree with the sentiments in this video, to be clear. As for your point, let’s not romanticize a very flawed past for the sake of providing contrast.
I'm a portrait artist, and I find this "same face" trend horrifying! I use the uniqueness of a face to capture someone. And I worry about the children born to these people when at some point they realize they have the nose or eyes etc. that their parent deemed unacceptable. How can you teach self acceptance when you didn't accept yourself?😪
What a cool comment! Your ethical dilemma is far more interesting than what I thought, but we know from Darwin, if you change your connotate during your lifetime, it doesn't transfer in your genetics. So imagine those kids possibly coming to the world and looking nothing like their parents. And then they find out, they actually did look like their parents, but the parents decided that those features were unacceptable and changed them.
A woman who's had cosmetic procedures can actually teach her daughter to love herself more than the mother did at her age. By admitting her insecurities and past actions, but instilling better beliefs in the child and being honest about these issues
"A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely." -Roald Dahl
I can attest to that. I’ve always been a person who smiles a lot, even as a toddler - which is why people would always respond really positively to me as a child and one acquaintance of my parents actually always joked he wanted to adopt me cause I was such a smiley happy child (which scared me cause as a kid I took it seriously lol). I still smile at people like that for no good reason but instinct and at 38, I still have the same effect on people: even grumpy, closed off people will let their guard down and open up to me - generally people like to be around me because I make them feel comfortable (unless of course they give me reason not to). I’d say I’m completely average in looks - I have a crooked, slightly bigger nose than the average European and i think my head is a little too small for my body. I also have hormonal problems that cause me to suffer from acne. Yet I never had a problem attracting people. Attractiveness is mostly how you present what nature has given you to the world - not just simply what nature has given to you. I don’t know why, but I quickly learnt that and stopped giving a flying f… about certain things that might be perceived as “ugly”, because in the end, I don’t care what others think about my looks. I look after my body and treat it well because I have to live with it for the rest of my life, and that’s all I need to do when it comes to my physical appearance. I do with it what I feel good about and that creates a sense of wellbeing and self confidence- and that’s what makes a person attractive. I’ve literally walked my dog looking like I’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards and still had men chat me up - it’s all about the aura!
@@CeliaTyreecall it a flaw if it causes some inconvenience like in case of teeth, sometimes it's just a gap but sometimes they are causing actual issues so that's a flaw. Face not being symmetrical isn't causing any issue. Nose being bumpy won't cause any problem, that's just genetics but crooked nose due to deviated septum does cause breathing problem so that's a flaw.
I'm surprised you saw asymmetry in your face. I can't see what you're talking about at all. Your eyes are big and the thirds of your face are proportional. That's what stands out. Seems pretty positive to me!
I love watching 80’s movies for this exact reason! I love how everyone looks so different from each other. Even the men are starting to look like each other now!
I love watching old music videos. Im a straight woman but I think the women look SO GOOD without big plastic butts and filler fish lips. Natural beauty always looks better and classier. Now all the women look like a wanna be p0rn star attempting to look classy.
Yes....i was noticing one 80s film...die hard from 1989... the men looked different from each other and was full of handsome men. Harry ellis was hot. Tony vresky was hot. Fritz was hot. And hans gruber he was the hotest for me. And all looked so different each other. Not the generic cute boy.
Omg even on smaller budget things like the Hallmark specials my mom is obsessed with. I’ll pass by as she’s watching one and think, “Which bland vanilla male love interest is it today?” 😂
I used to work with a South Korean lady who candidly discussed having a "surgery fund" for her daughter so her kid can have work done at 13 and pass off as a "natural" beauty who looks like her mom. The lady herself had a ton of work done (it was good tbh, nothing over the top but still different from her old face). When she looks at her kid, she sees her old face and she hates it. I cannot even imagine having a culture that passes down astringent standards and one's personal trauma on to their kids, but she claims its normal for them.
My mom got her nose done and every time she’d look at my nose it was like she thought it was ugly. She never said it but I could see it in her eyes. She’s had over 13 surgeries and puts her self loathing onto me every time she looks at my face or body I feel like she’s judging. I’ve fixed this by staying away sadly and working on my inner love. Beauty fades and I think that some people never worked on their self love internally ❤
Plastic surgery is very common in South Korea - in some communities, it's almost expected. Many of them have separate savings and funds for it. There's literal statistics that 1 in every 4 women ages 19-29 in South Korea have already undergone plastic surgery, and that's 4yr old data from 2020!
I used to hate my nose and wished I could afford a nose job. But now, at the age of 43, when I can actually afford one, I have grown to like it. I'm glad to see my father's big, round nose every day in the mirror. He passed away in 2021, and I'm his only child. Without him, I will not exist. And his existence is still here on earth as a part of me, in the shape of a big, round nose. It's a big nose of love. 😊❤
I’ve personally been embracing my big forehead lately. It makes me feel like a 15th century duchess with a fat dowry. These features we mock have so much elegance once you really look at them
I have a big forehead too! I love this perspective ❤ (And it seems I’ve passed it down to my daughter so I better get comfortable with it so I can make sure she is someday.)
Same, big forehead gang. I remember at a museum in DC reading about how West African cultures found beauty in and valued a big, high, round forehead and I instantly felt a sense of pride. Never forgot it and never disparaged my forehead after that.
I have a big forehead and notice they are coming back. I do not think my charles degaulle nose will be coming back anytime soon though, but I like it now.
At the height of full glam, 2016-ish, I saw an online article about a makeup artist who specialized in wedding makeup, with what had to be at least twenty or thirty before and after pictures. He managed to make all of these brides look identical. He used the exact same techniques on all of them. No bringing out their unique features, no variations on lipstick colors, just heavily contoured Kim K cut and paste. It haunts me to this day.
As a makeup artist myself, this is either what sells for him, or just a lack of versatility. If a makeup artist only has one look, that's very limiting!
It also always creeps me out. Look at actors in best Hollywood movies, all of them have some makeup on in every scene, but the artists are so good that they manage to still make them look very diverse, subtle, and usually like themselves. That's what makeup should be about, accenting each person's unique features, eventually correcting what you'd like to. I'm always stunned somebody calls themselves a "makeup artist" (and it's honestly majority of IG/UA-cam ones) and all they can do is copy paste the same look of whatever the current trend is. Even if it doesn't suit the person's face at all, but nah it's "trendy" so that's what you'll get.
As an Asian guy who hails from southern China, the rise of K-Pop stars and culture has given way to this “same face” phenomenon where slim, pale faces are desired. And yes, the eyelid surgery for eyes to become more Caucasian looking has started to take hold - it really really sucks, because when you’re adamant about not changing the way you look, but yet everyone around you is changing, it can feel like you’re doing something wrong.
@@unblahyourself- our society had agrarian roots so my guess is that by looking pale one can seem more within the nobility lol (cause they don’t need to work out in the sun too long). I just wished people took this video’s message of individuality into heart, they would have happier lives
@@XiangYu94 Isn't it interesting that the standard is the complete opposite in a lot of western countries? I'm from the U.S. and I'm so pale that even the awful racist kids in my school (who drew swastikas on every available surface) used to call me TOO white, and an ugly freak. My hair is almost black which makes my skin stand out even more. I started using tanning lotions and supplements just to stop the constant negative comments I would get.
@@natsinthebelfry ok but you know those kids are awful already, why are we counting what they say as legitimate? Do not be pressured into doing things by those who are lower than you.
I’m a 19 year old girl. When I started growing up and losing my baby face my features started showing theirselfs. I got my father’s big croocked nose, my grandma’s small chin, my mom’s not very curvy body. At first I didn’t even realise how big my nose was, cause you know, that wasn’t what a 7 year old had in mind all the time. Then people started teasing and bullying me because of the things I wasn’t responsible of. Strangers, relatives, even my own parents were making fun of my features. And I want to highlight, they were all adults. Not children. Because children don’t care about those things. But somehow, It was bothering every adult around me. When I would cry about it - which happened very often- everyone including my parents would say, don’t worry! The medical field is very developed now. Just wait untill you are 18, you can get plastic surgery then. It’s nothing to worry about, it’s fixable. You just have to resist till that time. When I was 10 my parents forced me to get braces. I never wanted them. But appaerentally, my chin was something that should have been fixed immediatelly. Don’t get me wrong, it was completely healthy, just ugly. I refused the braces, I didn’t take good care of it because I hated it. I hated that even my teeth were something that had to be fixed. Everything about me was wrong and had to be fixed. I had them for 4 years, around 14-15 they took them out. The doctor said, because I was refusing to use the rubbers and other stuff you have to do to get your jaw pretty, there was nothing left he could do. So he took it out. My parents till this day whine about how they paid for me to be pretty but I refused, how ungrateful I am. Last year I turned 18. Everyone is constantly telling me to get plastic surgery. For my nose, chin, boobs. My self confidence is nonexistent. Since the day I gained consciousness of my appearance, I hated myself in every single second. I don’t remember a moment when I felt not even pretty, but normal. Children grew up, started adulting and my appearance started bothering them as well. Right now, all I want is to just exist. To just be, without people having any thoughts about my appearance. Good or bad, I don’t care, I don’t want any of them. I just want to cover every inch of me, so people would have no choice but to see only my inside. Me. Not the body I didn’t chose. Thank you for the video, really. It makes me feel at peace that people like you are still existing. 🌷🫶🏻
Wow what a story and thank you so much for sharing! That is heartbreaking that your family simply could not let you be you. It's freeing to realize that we can just exist as long as we don't value validation. Unfortunately, some people love to give their un-asked-for opinions on all sorts of things... ❤
I'm horrified you've been treated that way. There is nothing wrong with you. Beauty goes much deeper than looks. You could look like these "same face" women and be a total witch. It's been my experience that the people I've considered to be the most attractive have been what would be considered "plain", but they're such wonderful people it makes them look beautiful to me. Nobody should EVER tell you your looks aren't good enough. Good enough for what? For who? It's meaningless, and it's nobody's right to criticise your appearance. I'd rather hang out with you than any of the people who put you down and laughed at you.
Sending love to you ❤ I have rather big nose too and not the best jaw. Plus my body type is reversed triangle, which is the least feminine. But it doesn't worry me that much, I can't spend my life for someone's expectations. And I can be happier than any beauty, because I learn it every day, no matter what 🫂
So sorry you've had to deal with this from the people around you. We all deserve to just exist and not have so much attention paid to and value placed on how we look.
It's more than that. Marketing can sell anything. Even diversity. You could have thousands of lines and products for each type of feature and make tons of money. It's this mass culture that makes us all want to be like the "it" girl or "it" man. It's our mentality as humans that when we see someone successful (in any aspect, money, dating, etc...) we all want to imitate them and be like them. This always used to happen, it's just worst now because we obviously evolve and there's always more and more that we can change/alter. Long time ago maybe only a hair colour would become trendy, then a specific haircut, then a treatment, then a hairline because now transplants are available, and so on and so forth
How does this video not pop up on every teen girl's feed? They need to watch this. I was born in 2005 and there is some toxic stuff people keep feeding girls my age. GAls, we've gotta save younger girls from falling into the nonsense of needing to fit a certain beauty standard. 🤞🤞
I think Korea might be the mother of god of this "same face" phenomenon. I'm a native Asian, I can tell different Asians apart, but 20 years ago, I was on a Korean Air flight. The appearance of the flight attendants absolutely stunned me: at a glance, they looked EXACTLY the same. It's only when I started to really pay attention to the subtleties on their faces, I started to notice some differences. It was absolutely WILD how uncannily similar they all looked. I didn't know Korea is the capital of plastic surgery, but after I learned about it, it no longer surprised me.
I had a Korean friend who aspired for a while to be a flight attendant. It is apparently INCREDIBLY competitive, and you really do have to have exactly the right look. She eventually gave up, but while she was still trying she actually got her jawline shaved down (had to drink through a straw for a few weeks) to fit the aesthetic. Can't even imagine.
I had a friend who was a flight attendant for a while and she was super creeped out by how identical the Korean flight attendants looked. She said it was extremely uncanny
Yeah SK might be an outlier on this one. Because their society is very competitive due to a small country with limited resources and a high population. So plastic surgery is seen as a status and you are forced to compare yourself with one another
Tbf... They are pretty similar already pre-surgery 😂 Racist??... Yeah shut tf up, Im asian too. Edit: anyway, I also think sk is the extreme of this phenomenon.
Wait til you find out what the beauty standards of the 1800s were. Or 1900s. Or 1990s when if you weren't stick thin you were ugly. Stop complaining and if you don't like the trends don't follow them. No one cares about you as much as you think
I think we will reach an over saturation point that will eventually cause natural features to be desirable. Just wait. It saves money and unnecessary complications too
I think we are kind of getting there, covid sort of opened the door because there was limited opportunity to go out and look like everyone else and be seen
Well hasn’t that happened already? I’m not a tiktok user, but I have heard and seen discourse regarding natural beauty and something called the ‘clean girl aesthetic’ (? I could be wrong about the name). But those people who do natural makeup looks still have perfect noses and eyes and hair and the same slim face shape. They still look copy and pasted to me, except they look more ‘natural’ compared to these kardashian clones
@@OceaniacNatural beauty tends to mean that instead of getting surgery, you already had that face. At least in my experience it still doesn't allow much imperfections
What a relief that someone else is talking about this. Not only celebrities, look around your community. The same-face look has empty eyes. There’s a cold hardness, no buoyancy of spirit, no natural sparkle. It’s terribly sad and people are becoming totally boring.
I thought it was because of my advanced age (a little over 70) that I can’t identify todays’s celebrities. I’m so glad to know they look the same to others as well!
There was a plastic surgery show on about 10 or 15 years ago. The Swan. Afterwards everyone looked the same. Became real creepy. A few years away from 70, but remember when stars all looked different.
one of the things that has always helped me is knowing that it took thousands and thousands of my ancestors in order to create how i look, so many stories, so many battles, so many love stories happened in order to create me :)
Awe 😭❤ We are the product of so many generations of the “most beautiful person in the world”. I think about how my Dad calls my Mom the most beautiful woman in the world and it’s the sweetest thing.
I don’t think it’s a phrase that’s very used, I’m French + lived in France for the most part of my life but I literally never heard that before haha (I’m 27)
I've noticed that everyone seems to also have the same hair!! How does these women all have such unnaturally perfectly straight "Barbie Doll" hair? I spent so much time trying to smooth and straighten my thin, frizzy hair. I only figured out a few months ago that I actually have curls when I use a good leave in conditioner. I said goodbye to the hairdryer and embraced my uncontrollable curls. I get some weird looks from other women, but now I love my messy curls.
One of the most beautiful women I ever knew had a big strawberry mark on her cheek and she never wore a lot of makeup. Just mascara, a little blush. Maybe lipstick. Zero foundation or contour. She had the bluest eyes!! Air dried wavy hair. The way she carried herself with class was just amazing. Sadly she passed away from breast cancer at only 52, just a year after diagnosed. But she was unforgettable in her kindness, sweet nature, interesting personality, and natural beauty. She was a school teacher, a paralegal, and sometimes a stay at home mom. She really represented all women! Ps. I was her young babysitter and as I got older, I was honored to be her friend. ❤
Yes! One of the sweetest and prettiest girls I knew had a large port wine birthmark that covered half her face. It was so unique and made her even more beautiful!
One influencer called it the 10x rule. We see our *perceived* flaws 10x more than anyone else would. In fact, if you mention a physical insecurity of your own to someone else, they will often go, I totally don’t see that flaw on you. I told my husband & he said that’s a great point; it’s not just women & girls who do that ❤
It was the same with my teeth. I have big gaps, not just in front teeth but everywhere but it's kinda evenly spaced and not just looks like there is one tooth missing and others are completely in place. But I have only 26 teeth at the age of 29, so that's the reason there are more gaps, the gaps in incisor and canine in lower jaw is more and probably size of 3/4 of a small tooth but I I have big lower lip so they are not visible even if I do full smile although the gap in upper front teeth is obviously visible. That's why I used to smile only with closed lips & I even got comfortable with full smile in perhaps last year , also just bcz I was genuinely happier and kept laughing and then was like why should I not laugh just to hide. Anyway my boyfriend once shared that she showed few pics of mine to his friends and one of them had me smiling and that gap was visible & I said "why did you show this one? " and he said "bcz I love this ond, you are smiling widely" but to probably comfort me he said don't worry I showed other ones too. At that moment I felt a bit bad that maybe it's not a big deal. I am still not 100% comfortable with my teeth but my gums are healthy and I don't want my healthy teeth to get damaged in any way that's why I don't want to get them changed bcz many ppl get different issues after treatment. They are perfectly functional and healthy.
Yes! I was just talking with a coworker two nights ago, who has been obsessing over her hair, which she says is thinning and is so upset about it. I had to laugh, because every time I look at her, I’ve always think, my gosh, she has the prettiest hair!!
It was liberating when I got to the age when I realised that what other people think of me is not my business. And I like my face. I have a crooked tooth which I think is cute and gives me character. I have a big Greek nose which is part of my heritage. Anybody with enough money can buy a cookie-cutter nose, but my ancestors going back centuries might have had mine. You have to remember as well that beauty standards change. I overplucked my eyebrows in the early 00's and they never grew back properly. Better to celebrate what you have!
Opa!! Amen sis!! I love unique noses! Actually- what I mean is I love the ones that are a little bigger and have a bump - the ones people always seem to feel a need to “fix.” I have seen women have surgery and exchange the beautiful family-strong-heritage-featured noses - for something way more common and un-extraordinary. They bought the world’s current idea of attractive over the timeless and privileged gift of unique beauty from our Creator. It is terribly sad, actually. Like an insult to God and family - a rejection of something so good. I love the way you said it - many people in your family have probably had that nose..! I used to teach sociology. Every culture has its ideas of beauty- but it unfortunately is becoming cookie cutter all over the world with our social media influences. I love the beauty our Creator has created-no one can improve it!!!
Gets even scarier when you see the research on how children are impacted by these faces, particularly the blunted emotional development as a result of limited emotional expression (shoutout to botox and fillers).
@@tessmoffett5512 Yep. As primates we rely on observational learning and our emotions are included in that. Anything that limits your ability to emote likewise limits your childs ability to feel.
I've noticed this in TV and movies. I always thought it was just because everyone is pumped so full of botox that their faces don't even move anymore. I miss people who act with their faces so much.
@@HumppaOrDeath The toxin itself also reduces the ability to empathize in people who have injected their faces. We have known this since 2011. Fairly well enumerated literature on these things. Its insane botox was ever approved to be perfectly honest.
And the craziest thing is almost the same thing with Angelina Jolie, the "most beautiful woman on earth" is a label gained because of a full plastic surgery face, i know its just a commercial thing but we cant deny that it impacts on us too (especially on girls)
@@marialeon7197 That, too. There are so many "celebrities" who have become famous on account of nepotism rather than their own merits. The Kardashians immediately come to mind, of course.
@@marialeon7197 Yes that definitely got her foot in the door but Bellas modelling career was flopping until she went under the knife, Gigi has also had a ton of work done which is definitely more subtle but neither of them would have their careers without their extreme surgical transformations.
It took me until seeing my great grandmother’s pic when she was young to finally accept my features. I resemble her so much and it always felt like I was searching for confirmation about my features my whole life . I have softer features like from the 1930’s and behold my great grandmother had the exact same features as well and she was born during that era herself. It was so healing for me.
About ten years ago I dated a man who kept telling me I should cover up the 'blemishes' on my face. I was alway perplexed whenever he said this because I had never noticed any 'blemishes'. Years later when I was studying my face in the mirror I realized what he was referring to. Around my mouth area I had a whitish mole that if you didn't know me could look like a pimple, a medium size flat brown mole, a small red patch of spider veins that was there since childhood and on the other side of my mouth two small brown flat moles. After 40 years I had never looked in the mirror and seen 'blemishes'. I had just seen my face with my moles and other marks as completely normal and completely natural. I had never ever thought of them as something that should be removed or covered up. I'm so glad that I never did either of those things. Today he's single and lonely and I still have all my so-called 'blemishes' and I'm as happy as pie.
That is the playboy magazine effect. I asked my husband why his one friend never married. He was looking for the perfect woman in the magazine. I saw an interview with one of the centerfolds. She said it was a good thing her name was on it as she would have never recognized herself. Funny, like most people, he was a good solid 5. Average. But he wanted a 15 out of 10.
Recently, I started to notice as well how almost all females are looking the same. Same blondish hair, same tanned skin, same latte makeup and filler lips and cheeks and eyes. All the funny stuff is when 25 years old is talking about wrinkles and botox and all the procedures they need to do to avoid those horrible wrinkles 😅 madness. Sometimes, I think people have lost their minds
Not it was not they all got surgery and do you know the 90s was the the decade people were people were starving the same self thanks to those super models everyone had body issues thanks to the those magazines and as kate moss said nothing tastes as good skinny feels the woman that promoted diet culture
I feel so fortunate to have been a teen in the 90s. Unique quirks have always been what attracts me to a person and the "same face" look makes me feel uncomfortable and I can't place why. Like an instant feeling of mistrust, as though the person is wearing a mask. It's odd.
Sure, being a teen in the 90s was great, if you were skinny. If you were fat, you were teased mercilessly. The eating disorder, heroin-chic decade, post every celebs cellulite on a magazine cover decade.
I call it same face too 😂 I feel for young girls, most of them are hiding their natural beauty. My daughter is 25 and at age 16 went through a stage of hating her nose. I told her not to look at her nose individually and to see her whole face and how beautiful she is. She never mentioned it again thank god
I am 26 and I also used to hate my nose! It's just big hehe :D now I agree with what's said in the video, our flaws make us unique and that's beautiful! :) But frankly it's been so hard to mentally get there, since our society pushes an extreme opposite towards us.
Seriously! I can’t tell who I’m looking at anymore. I actually cried when I saw what Renee Zellweger did to her face. She had the most unique, distinctive, gorgeous look. Now she looks anonymous.
This is honestly such a tragedy. Millions and millions of women are feeling bad and finding flaws in themselves just because our economy and social media landscape revolves around these ideas and ideals. I am 39 and feel so darn lucky to have grown up in a time before social media, selfies and influencers. It makes it easier to create a healthier distance to it, and just plug off and be myself, and look myself. Whatever that means.
I have a friend who injected tones of botox and fillers into her face and got breast augmentation surgery too. It saddens me. While it makes her look 'good' on social media it doesn't look good in everyday life. That's an important difference. When she moves her facial muscles and you see her speak in everyday life, it always seems as if there is something "off". I came to the conclusion that there are many ways to enhance your beauty in a natural way and learn more about your uniqueness at the same time. Instead of going to a surgeon, I started to look more into color theory and cuts for clothes. I've also brought a book about Carolyn Bessette recently and think she is the prime example for uniqueness. Maybe not the most beautiful but certainly interesting to look at.
Omg, completely. IG influencers all look identical: same eyes, nose, lips, face shape, same makeup style, same hair style. It's boring af. And to make it worse, there are plenty of vanity filters that give the illusion of those cookie cutter features. If I were a photographer I'd probably shoot myself (no pun intended) from the boredom.
This reminds me of an episode of “The Twilight Zone” called “Number 12 Looks Just Like You.” In it, each sex has two looks to choose from, and surgeries for people after 16 or 18 were mandatory. The surgeon explains that by making everybody equally beautiful, they’re able to get rid of things like job discriminations and the like, but our protagonist argues, “But if everybody is beautiful, than nobody is.” I highly recommend the episode, so I won’t spoil the ending.
There’s also a YA dystopian book series titled The Uglies by Scott Westerfeld. It’s great, and eerily mirrors what today’s screen generation is facing.
Yes, online espcially, many have the same wig parting, white toe nails, bbl (some), tight clothes ,long nails, eyelashes, make up look and selfie pose. We can look at each race and pull out similar trends to be honest. Nothing compares to the 90s and before ❤️
@LisaF777 I think everyone is literally copying each other. Now I can't stand to see bbls, unless it's super natural ie not big. It seems from the female rapper look, that's what young girls think they need to emulate. I'm looking at myself and I really am toning down that kinda look. For example I've gone off lashes and no long nails. I want everything softer now. The spider eyelash trend esp needs to stop asap
I feel really disconnected from my generation because of this, I've been for years and years so pissed off by this weird phobia that society has for uniqueness and difference. I just find it so strange, why would you want to live in a world where everyone is the same? When did humanity get to this place? I really wish people could learn to appreciate beauty again😞
I really appreciate people talking about this, I have really 'puffy' eyelids, hooded eyes kinda like you pointed out on claudia schiffer, lately its been making me super annoyed and ashamed that I have this little voice telling me I should change that, when in honesty I really want to love my eyes, I really love the shape of my eyes, just 'beauty standards' I guess are getting a little further in to my head than I'd like them to, looks like I'm being influenced more than I was aware!! I really would like to talk more about this to the people in my life!
In Hollywood most aging people look ridiculous and insecure. I love how Jamie Curtis and Jodie Foster look GREAT, natural, and secure in themselves, confident. Changing with age is normal. "Fixing" yourself, removing your own natural face, in my opinion looks bad. I so agree with this vlog, make a decision to accept yourself and your uniqueness, also as you age. We decide what attitude to have to things, our brains have neuroplasticity. Choose attitudes that serve you.
kate winslet is another one who seems to be aging naturally. and she looks absolutely gorgeous EDIT upon another google search, it actually looks like she did get some fillers recently😢
I recently was looking at red carpet photos from the early 2000s & it was so refreshing because while everyone looked great, they all looked different. Everyone had makeup on, but none of it was perfect. The clothes were all uniquely styled and everyone looked REAL. Today, everyone aims for absolute perfection and they all end up looking the same.
My Nonna always said i was "Striking" like Lauren Bacall whenever i asked in my teen years. This helped me get through the teenage low self-esteem years, bullying and acne. I just turned 50 and I adore my body/beauty now. I've had full grey hair since my early 40's(my husband wanted me to stop coloring) and i love how i look. I am a mature woman with battle scars, wrinkles and all. Confidence in your individual beauty is beautiful in itself! ♥️♥️
They are just going to make us natural women stand out more, in a good way, and just wait until the trends change & their decisions, in many cases, are permanent.
Especially when there's a highly exaggerated trend on one end of the spectrum, the natural unfolding of human wants is for it to go to the opposite end ....exaggerated the other way. Curious to see how that will look like. (smirk)
@@emanueladadarlat3159 They will be paying the same doctors to reverse their choices to no avail. Their choices are, unfortunately, when it comes to surgery, permanent. I am holding on to me for as long as I can with good nutrition & skin care & embracing my future me. The surgeries they are having are making them look like older women trying to stop time.
I always hated people saying: "oh no my nose is too fat" or "my double chin is ugly". Like it made me boiling mad because considering a facial feature ugly is not a thing you're born with (babies aren't embarrassed of being chubby or different) but society plants these lies upon us and we believe them. If you believe a random opinion online of a stranger you don't even know, might as well just believe in your own. It's young years wasted in many girls and yet they know it but have this strong desire to fit in and let themselves knowingly be tricked by useless trend that change every few years. Their beauty is in chains and I can't help but be furious. Sorry for the strong reaction.
I wish all women would wake up and realize we're all more than our face and body. Our value is who we are as a person. If you put all of your everything into your outer appearance then what are you when it's gone?
You look natural, unique and beautiful, so cheers for exemplifying what you assert. 👏🏽👏🏽There were oodles of racially diverse models in the 1970s, 80s and 90s. Look at Yves Saint Laurent and Christian Lacroix catwalk images! There was Yasmin Le Bon (Parvenah) , Yasmeen Ghauri, Naomi Campbell, and this is rust a few, when I was young.
That makes me remember that once I saw an influencer saying that the most beautiful women called "unique" and "one of a kind" are often diminished for "big nose"(Gisele Bundchen) or "no curves" (Gigi Hadid) or "male features" (Gwendoline Christie) or "looking like an alien" (Tilda Swinton). They're constantly said to be above-average women and, at the same time, too fascinating to take your eyes off them to the point that media tries to find more flaws to nitpick on.
This is extremely evident when going on websites like SHEIN or TEMU. It’s like a dystopian nightmare hub that could cause people to develop a negative self body image. Everyone has the same face and the bodies are not so subtly airbrushed. It always rubbed me the wrong way and I felt that it was starting to affect the way I viewed myself. Silly as it sounds, but seeing something over and over again really affects the brain. I appreciate you drawing attention to this!
As someone with quite a unique and "interesting" face, i really appreciated this video. Id never get surgery but that doesnt mean seeing the same Instagram face everywhere doesnt affect my self esteem
Funny, how you noticed the negligible asymmetries, there is really nothing that sticks out at all! Lips and teeth don't align perfectly in most people, I wouldn't even think of calling your mouth crooked! Your face looks very well put together actually!
I absolutely abhor that ‘same face’, and the look and that style. I’m finding myself increasingly considering that ‘same face’ as ugly so much so if I ever find myself almost achieving that ‘look’, I’m unhappy and confused. I like looking like myself, just not unhealthy self. I also absolutely abhor the plastic surgery look most of all. I’m so glad others are bringing this topic up. I loved growing up in a culture that celebrated the unique beauty of people united with their personality first. We used to have a collection of beauty standards. And you’re right, only having one ideal erases the value of it entirely.
This is a great video. I’m 54 and have had some insecurities about how much my face has changed in the last 5 years. But it’s mine. No fillers, Botox, etc. I’ve also noticed how much everyone looks alike these days and sometimes I’ve had to take a minute to realize who I’m looking at in a magazine or on TV. And I’ve been sad to see some of my favorite actresses that are a bit older than I am plumping up their faces with cheek fillers, lip plumpers and anything else that takes away from how beautiful they truly are. They just look weird. I just wish as a society, we would just embrace how unique we all are and embrace that as opposed to trying to either all look the same and stop demonize aging.
You are so right! They tried to get Barbra Streisand to “fix” her nose. Thank goodness she knew better. Unfortunately, Jennifer Grey did not. She lost her following because she looked like everyone else. I don’t see asymmetry in your face but I do hear it - just a tiny lisp. It’s wonderful and softens your presentation. For most of my life, I described myself as “not blonde.” I’m a brunette, but most everyone around me had light hair. It has taken me years to celebrate my dark hair.
I was going to mention Jennifer Grey, but you beat me to it! When she got her nose done, she went from interesting and unique to boring clone. Such a shame in someone with her talent.
Instagram is to blame. Some pages even warp some beautiful famous women's features and put those fake Kylie Jenner lips.. on MF Angelina Jolie ?? It's sickening
"Start to see yourself as an iconic in the making" - Diana, UnBlah Yourself, 10 May'24 I have noted this in my journal rn, will stay with me forever 💕🌍💫
Ok just want to say how stunning you are. You remind me of Marion Cotillard. Also I relate to seeing all of my flaws after being on camera. But I love myself for who I am. After having kids I realized just how perfect we all are. Like, we are walking miracles yall!
I’m so bored with celebrities and movies now and this is part of the reason. Why would I see a Nicole Kidman movie anymore when she’s become an alien who can’t act because she can’t make expressions? Remember curly, freckly, strawberry blonde, small eyes Nicole Kidman? I loved her and her spunk. I don’t know this current one, she looks like everyone else and can be replaced by anyone else.
i saw the trailer for the ryan gosling / emily blunt movie and i could not figure out who i was looking at! had to google it to find out it was emily blunt. and i also notice how many male celebrities have clearly gotten a lot of surgery/filler. its tragic that so many people feel the need to do this. i believe age is something to be proud of
I totally agree with this. Women have big lips, pillow faces and the cat eye look. I was in Italy recently and a lot of the women there looked really natural. Some had long noses and distinctive faces and not what you would call enhanced. Looking at some of the tourists they had the large lips and obvious face fillers etc. They all look the same .
I loved your video so much. You look so pretty and unique with your lovely short hair and flattering makeup. Iam over 70 and I despair at the way many young (and some older) women want to look the same, with long blonde hair extensions, false lashes, loads of makeup and plumped up lips. When I was young my curly hair was unfashionable and I wanted a long straight style. I was slightly overweight and I cut down in order to be slim. Needless to say, Mother Nature wasn't having any of it. I now love my curly hair and accept that I will never be slim. I like to see women who have an individual look and know what suits them. I have never seen anyone else address this subject, so thank you ❤
Thank you for sharing, Jane! I'm glad you liked this video and thank you for hanging out with me. I'm so happy to hear that you have embraced your uniqueness.😘
Oh I really loved this one. When my girls started school, I told them they could wear anything they wanted so long as they didn't look like everybody else. I wanted the teachers to see them, in hopes they have opportunities I never had had. The ironic thing is that I encourage that don't look like everybody else as a stepping stone, but they fully embraced it as a value all of its own. Now that they're adults, the careers that they have chosen and the way they live out of periods are not like anyone else. When has figured out how to be a Heritage breed organic chicken Farmer on a half acre of land, and the other one, with her husband, but 10 acres of land that is absolutely useless along the river. They however use it as a lab. He is an internationally recognized conservation photographer, a master naturalist who prizes conservation and protecting the land in the critters that live on it. I am so proud of them. And your point is very true--those who look like everybody else are not seen
Hear hear Diana! I absolutely abhor same face! It doesn't help that I don't find the current same face attractive at all. It's blah, fake and vacuous. I too miss the variety that used to be prevalent in years gone by. I'm constantly attracted by faces that are a little quirky. A crooked grin, a lopsided eyebrow, a scar, a strong nose... Those faces have character and individuality. And they are beautiful!
I had to look up what snaggletooth was. First result back on Google was "What is a snaggletooth and how to fix it" 🙄 What a sad commentary of our society!
I had to look up what a snaggletooth was and the first Google result was "What is a snaggletooth and how to fix it" 🙄 What a sad commentary of our current society!
My heart goes out to young girls and women today! Be strong! Don’t let anyone tell you your looks aren’t good enough. That’s so bizarre. Any messaging that belittles you - run from it! Be defiant and defend your beautiful self. I became aware of this terrible trend watching the “cottage fairy” on UA-cam. She said her social media feed gave her videos and ads about nose surgery- completely nuts. Be proud of your familial traits they represent a long line of matriarchal powerhouses and they believe in you!
I love that you said they were a box of supermodel chocolates, that is the perfect example of how they looked in that picture. And how humans are in general. Also you are absolutely gorgeous!
I always felt like a misfit because of how different I looked from my family and friends. Growing up, everyone around me was fair, had straight hair and thin, shapely lips while I was dark skinned, had dark curly hair and thick lips, which were all uncommon and undervalued in the region I grew up in. A lot of bullying and teasing later, I use these same features as a confidence booster because I know they make me stand out in any crowd. For once, I feel blessed to be a misfit. Thank you for making this video!❤
It's a vicious cycle when evey couple of months or years trends change again, and everyone panicks because suddenly there's a new "flaw" they need to fix, and a new standard they need to fit in. It's a never ending battle that we can never win, and we just pour a lot of money and time into something that is unachievable
Yeah exactly. I hate the word flaw describing feautures of our looks so much. In actuality there cannot be a flaw, just a different look.. and that's coming around to always trying to adjust yourself to a current trend, right? So early this year a friend of my daughter's asked about a part of her body if that's "supposed" to look like that, and I didn't even understand the question. Did she mean is it healthy or is something medically wrong? No, she meant like according to beautystandards. So first of all I don't know a lot about that topic, and additionally I was confused how she brought it up in our conversation, so I probably didn't answer wisely right off the bat. But since then we try to talk openly about our childrens' worries regarding that topic, and it seems they are especially influenced by social media and k-pop, so that's obviously a global trend across different cultures.
My teeth are not perfect but my smile is unique and adds character and I get compliments on having a beautiful smile and I am 52 yrs old! Beauty is from within!!
I have saved this video because I think it is CRUCIAL to show to my granddaughters who both become teens this year (my other two granddaughters will be shown it in a few more years as they are still very young). Your message should be included in the curriculum of every school……. those dots were when I realized that my grandsons are also being pelted with these messages, just less so. Thank you for recording this video; I truly fear what psychological damage has been inflicted upon today’s young people! I turn sixty in three more days, so I KNOW that I grew up in a different time but I clearly remember how I felt when my mom constantly compared me unfavourably to my sister’s looks. Even to this day, some of her digs stay with me and I have to catch myself before I let those memories have power. If society today continues to idolize the uni-face movement, where will that leave people who cannot conform? Will there be a caste system for the ‘repaired’ and one for the ‘flawed’? This could get very dangerous before it gets better.
You're so right! That's what I don't like about a lot of women who aim to look good - they try to look exactly a certain way in both face and body. It's so... dull, in my opinion. And sad. Also, I just have to say that I love your hairstyle. Your hair and earings frame your face exquisitely. It's such an example of how a person can be beautiful by using their unique features. I hope it encourages women to look for hairstyles / colours / clothes / jewelry etc that enhance the beauty they already have, instead of trying to look like the someone else.
I was a teenager in the 90s. Even the models back then had their own unique look. Cindy Crawford looks so much different than Linda Evangelista. We only had one Claudia Schiffer. Only one Kate Moss! I must admit that not many of us teenage girls were insecure as much as girls are now. It's sad.
We were not able to buy our looks at that time, many of the models from that time were indeed natural beauties. Naomi, Kate Moss, Christy Turlington just to name a few, absolutely gorgeous. Not to mention totally opposite but just as stunning beauty of Grace Jones. Those were simpler times too. There’s too much pressure on younger people to look like their filtered self all the time. It’s absolutely easy to spot who’s had work done because they look too perfect. Absolute perfection looks eerie and odd to the observers eye. Kind of like people changing their eye color with surgery, they look freakishly unnatural, like a robot, like the eyes don’t belong. The best types of procedures are done so subtly that you can’t tell anyone has had anything done.
But the 90s supermodels were out of this world attractive and had incredible bodies that were unattainable for 99% of the population. Let’s not pretend they had a positive impact on young girls. Also “heroin chic” was an aesthetic. And this was positive?!
i don’t fit this beauty standard but i would never dream of changing my face. it’s a combination of all of my ancestors and family, i wouldn’t trade that for anything
Gone are the days of Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, Elizabeth Taylor or Sophia Loren. Today it is duck lips, Botox, breast implants and everything nip/ tuck one can afford. I agree with you, today women don't embrace uniqueness.
Many old Hollywood actresses had plastic surgery and makeovers in order to fit into the beauty standards of that time.This is not a new phenomenon,it’s just that we are more exposed to plastic surgery because of social media and celebrities being on social media(it was more secretive back then).For example:Rita Hayworth had to change her name (because she was half Spaniard and half Irish and executive changed her original name(Margarita Carmen Cansino)because it was too ‘ethnic’ and having an ‘ethnic’ name will drive away audiences at that time) and also alter her features to make her look more ‘waspy’(electrolysis to make her have a higher hairline and dying her natural hair from black to red and nose job).People from those days have to change their names and looks (uniqueness)in order to fit into stardom.
@@snehaphilip5481 Yeah, so many people latch onto this idea that most celebs were natural before 2000. Monroe had work done and some intensely heavy makeup. Her famous lip shape was created with several lipsticks of different shades.
These women not only had many surgeries but their faces weren’t really that unique from each other. They all had the same basal face features that we’re and still are considered the beauty standard 🤷🏾♀️
All of those starlets had to be palatable to the american audience. People always like to look at life before the modern day with rose-colored glasses but that's far from the truth. The beauty standards of today had to come from somewhere.
This starts from people pointing out a "flaw." Men are rarely criticized for their looks. It's mostly women. Ergo, this problem. I've never liked the Kardashians, but I don't hate them. They are a mirror of society. They are geared towards what people reward with attention, influence, and money. I'm lucky to be living in a country where it is rude to comment on appearance, so you rarely see anybody who has had any cosmetic procedure done.
If you look at pre-plastic surgery pics of them, the Ks all looked good! I’d understand them doing anti-aging tweaks when they were older for wrinkles, but the stuff they did to change their young faces was criminal!
I can’t believe i haven’t heard this before - “same face” - and it’s so so so right! I’m around your age because i used to LOVE all of those supermodels you show in your video BECAUSE they were really beautiful, they were human. I see my nieces who do their makeup in this “same face” way, and i didn’t even realize that is what it is until i watched this video. Great content, i am happy i found your channel. Keep up the great work! ❤🙏🏼
@@unblahyourself Thanks for hipping me to your channel the other day, it's great! I fully understand why this video got such a response. Great writing + personal vulnerability = easy to connect to, even for a man :)
Most of the women on American tv do look like they’re made from plastic. If you watch the news readers and some celebs in England they look so much more natural. Love Hannah Waddingham and Isabella Rossellini.
Isabella Rossellini lost her contract with Lancome in the mid-'90s when she started aging. She was deemed too old to model cosmetics at 43. How ridiculous. America has always been a youth-obsessed society in my lifetime.
@lindacurtis7267 Why are older women relegated to anti-aging products, though? Can't they advertise anything? I buy much more than anti-aging skin care and would like to see more women 45+ without overdone faces, like Drew Barrymore, etc.
That’s a great point! And also shouldn’t we be “pro” aging not “anti”. I do find it difficult to find great makeup for my skin since it definitely changes .
@lindacurtis7267 I think the beauty industry needs to just use the term "mature skin" or something like that, even if it's just semantics. I'd rather be in that category. I use Rx Retin-A for "anti-aging" via my doc, and nearly everything else I buy in the skin care aisle is just for sensitive skin. That anti-aging term just turns me off. I don't find that any of it really works anyway, and I'm amazed at all the young women now who are spending hundreds on this stuff in hopes of never aging. That's impossible, even with great skin care, a healthy diet, exercise, not smoking, sun avoidance, etc. If all that had worked like I thought back in the '90s, I'd still look 21! Good luck with the makeup. I just focus on my dark, patchy brows and use a bright blush to look alive. I miss mascara, but it burns my severely dry eyes. The wonderful Prescriptives concealer I've used for 29 years is gone, as is the entire brand, and with my eczema, unique skin tone, and mature skin now, I have little faith I'll ever find a replacement when my last tube is gone. It is frustrating that the beauty industry is designed for 20-year-olds who don't have allergic skin.
It's not just celebrities though. Imo non-celeberities, wannabe-onfliencers, more often than not are the ones who take these trends to a whole nother level.
Not sure how you ended up on my feed but the title intrigued me, so I watched. This is such a wonderful perspective. Every woman and girl of any age needs to hear this. Bravo 👏
Uniqueness makes life more interesting. We weren't put here to all be the same. Same face, same style, same hair, same makeup. What's inspiring about that?
this video really cheered me up! recently i had a breakdown because i just couldn’t look at myself in the mirror without crying because of my flaws.. i do know that these insecurities never existed until i started comparing myself to the girls i see on social media and i really have to stop being on my phone so much! i am still struggling to accept some of my features though..
Love how you state supermodels of the past would be taken to plastic surgeons today! I particularly dislike that famous models get plastic surgery, like we aren't even celebrating natural beauty anymore and even the "most attractive" people on the planet are no longer permitted to have "flaws". Also how shortsighted it is to change one feature trying to look like someone else when a lot of attractiveness comes down to how features fit together and someone's attitude and mannerisms. And that different things appeal to different people. Also you ARE gorgeous Diana!
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My hair is "too dark", my skin is "too pale", my nose is asymmetrical, and I'm tall but it's mostly in my torso and not my legs. I have mild rosacea and cellulite. I used to HATE myself more than most people could ever fathom. Today at 35 I'm a healthy, active, and beautiful human being. I can hike and run and paddleboard and bike for miles and miles. I'm smart and clever and I can either make people laugh or engage them in serious conversation, depending on what the situation calls for. I can play beautiful music on the violin, theremin, and lyre. I can paint beautiful portraits and botanical art. I can knit, crochet, nalbind, weave, and sew beautiful garments. I'm fucking awesome.
This is incredible! What would you say was a turning point for you? You sound like a fascinating and fun person!
@@unblahyourself Thank you so much! I think my turning point was simply aging, but I had already cultivated my interests beforehand. I'd say to any young person - learn what you love to do and do it earnestly and without any hesitation. And don't be afraid to love so many things that it feels daunting to love them all; life might be short, but it's also long enough to pursue what matters to you.
@@natsinthebelfry Aahhh I love you so much! Perfectly said!
You sound like great friend material in my book. It's wild how long it can take us to see ourselves as beautiful
Show off!!
😂 jk. Glad you have come to recognize what makes you beautiful and what makes you, you!
I love seeing old music videos when people had crooked teeth and acne scars and dodgy haircuts. People looked so real. 😂
I love that term, "dodgy"! I always have a dodgy haircut! 😅
Yes! I watched Ground Hog Day recently and Andy McDowell had normal, not blinding white teeth and fine lines etc. It was so refreshing!
And I love British tv shows cause they’re filled with real people.
@@missmayflowerDr Who companions! They’re all gorgeous because they’re chosen to be “something for the dads” as well as playing an important role in the show. They all look very different from the classic era until now. All the way from Kate Manning’s big smile to Millie Gibson’s thick eyebrows.
That occurred in a vacuum though. It was rarely women who were permitted to be imperfect under the public gaze or if they were, they’d already flouted conventional standards of beauty (butch, fat, older, POC, queer, etc.) and therefore, cast aside by the tastemakers as worthy of public attention. Little girls swarming Sephora are indicative of the hyperfeminine ideals foisted onto women, girls and femmes thrown into hyperdrive via the internet.
I agree with the sentiments in this video, to be clear. As for your point, let’s not romanticize a very flawed past for the sake of providing contrast.
I'm a portrait artist, and I find this "same face" trend horrifying! I use the uniqueness of a face to capture someone. And I worry about the children born to these people when at some point they realize they have the nose or eyes etc. that their parent deemed unacceptable. How can you teach self acceptance when you didn't accept yourself?😪
Wow, what a thought. Thanks for bringing this up! Ugh!
What a cool comment! Your ethical dilemma is far more interesting than what I thought, but we know from Darwin, if you change your connotate during your lifetime, it doesn't transfer in your genetics. So imagine those kids possibly coming to the world and looking nothing like their parents. And then they find out, they actually did look like their parents, but the parents decided that those features were unacceptable and changed them.
@@emanuelebabici That is what is happening in Korea , then teenage ask their parents to pay for plastic surgeries with 16 -18 years old ...
That’s why I can’t get plastic surgery. What message does that send to my babies?
A woman who's had cosmetic procedures can actually teach her daughter to love herself more than the mother did at her age. By admitting her insecurities and past actions, but instilling better beliefs in the child and being honest about these issues
"A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely." -Roald Dahl
I can attest to that. I’ve always been a person who smiles a lot, even as a toddler - which is why people would always respond really positively to me as a child and one acquaintance of my parents actually always joked he wanted to adopt me cause I was such a smiley happy child (which scared me cause as a kid I took it seriously lol).
I still smile at people like that for no good reason but instinct and at 38, I still have the same effect on people: even grumpy, closed off people will let their guard down and open up to me - generally people like to be around me because I make them feel comfortable (unless of course they give me reason not to). I’d say I’m completely average in looks - I have a crooked, slightly bigger nose than the average European and i think my head is a little too small for my body. I also have hormonal problems that cause me to suffer from acne. Yet I never had a problem attracting people. Attractiveness is mostly how you present what nature has given you to the world - not just simply what nature has given to you.
I don’t know why, but I quickly learnt that and stopped giving a flying f… about certain things that might be perceived as “ugly”, because in the end, I don’t care what others think about my looks. I look after my body and treat it well because I have to live with it for the rest of my life, and that’s all I need to do when it comes to my physical appearance. I do with it what I feel good about and that creates a sense of wellbeing and self confidence- and that’s what makes a person attractive. I’ve literally walked my dog looking like I’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards and still had men chat me up - it’s all about the aura!
❤️❤️❤️✨✨✨ love this!
This..This is just blatant bs lmao
@@annabanananaaaaYou're so right. Your energy is everything.
It’s not totally true but it is partially true that a smile and kindness will make others perceive you as more attractive
I would love if people stopped calling distinguishing characteristics flaws.
Gosh you're so right! We need to change the language! I'll start right now! Thanks for this!
What is a flaw then? Is it impossible to have physical flaws, in your opinion?
@@CeliaTyreecall it a flaw if it causes some inconvenience like in case of teeth, sometimes it's just a gap but sometimes they are causing actual issues so that's a flaw. Face not being symmetrical isn't causing any issue. Nose being bumpy won't cause any problem, that's just genetics but crooked nose due to deviated septum does cause breathing problem so that's a flaw.
Or calling people with visibly botched surgeries “an unattainable standard of beauty” just because I’ve heard dozens of people state the same opinion.
Totally because it buys into the notion its a flaw....
"There is no great beauty without some strangeness in the proportion"
~Edgar Allan Poe,
From the short story "Ligea"
Absolutely true.
I miss it…
i love this short story so much
I'm surprised you saw asymmetry in your face. I can't see what you're talking about at all. Your eyes are big and the thirds of your face are proportional. That's what stands out. Seems pretty positive to me!
Exquisite beauty*
I love watching 80’s movies for this exact reason! I love how everyone looks so different from each other. Even the men are starting to look like each other now!
Yes! Me too!!!
I love watching old music videos. Im a straight woman but I think the women look SO GOOD without big plastic butts and filler fish lips. Natural beauty always looks better and classier. Now all the women look like a wanna be p0rn star attempting to look classy.
Yes....i was noticing one 80s film...die hard from 1989... the men looked different from each other and was full of handsome men. Harry ellis was hot. Tony vresky was hot. Fritz was hot. And hans gruber he was the hotest for me. And all looked so different each other. Not the generic cute boy.
Omg even on smaller budget things like the Hallmark specials my mom is obsessed with. I’ll pass by as she’s watching one and think, “Which bland vanilla male love interest is it today?” 😂
Agree!!❤
I used to work with a South Korean lady who candidly discussed having a "surgery fund" for her daughter so her kid can have work done at 13 and pass off as a "natural" beauty who looks like her mom. The lady herself had a ton of work done (it was good tbh, nothing over the top but still different from her old face). When she looks at her kid, she sees her old face and she hates it.
I cannot even imagine having a culture that passes down astringent standards and one's personal trauma on to their kids, but she claims its normal for them.
My mom got her nose done and every time she’d look at my nose it was like she thought it was ugly. She never said it but I could see it in her eyes. She’s had over 13 surgeries and puts her self loathing onto me every time she looks at my face or body I feel like she’s judging. I’ve fixed this by staying away sadly and working on my inner love. Beauty fades and I think that some people never worked on their self love internally ❤
plastic surgery done at 13?? 😭 that’s wild
Plastic surgery is very common in South Korea - in some communities, it's almost expected. Many of them have separate savings and funds for it. There's literal statistics that 1 in every 4 women ages 19-29 in South Korea have already undergone plastic surgery, and that's 4yr old data from 2020!
It's not much different in Bollywood circles in India
@@deeplyhappy-go-luckyI’m sure ur beautiful !! Just love yourself n judging is for the ones who can’t really deal with their own BS!! God bless
A lot of women in my family have passed. I cherish seeing their features in the mirror every day.
This is beautiful ❤
Wonderfully said
I used to hate my nose and wished I could afford a nose job. But now, at the age of 43, when I can actually afford one, I have grown to like it. I'm glad to see my father's big, round nose every day in the mirror. He passed away in 2021, and I'm his only child. Without him, I will not exist. And his existence is still here on earth as a part of me, in the shape of a big, round nose. It's a big nose of love. 😊❤
I’ve personally been embracing my big forehead lately. It makes me feel like a 15th century duchess with a fat dowry. These features we mock have so much elegance once you really look at them
I love this so much
I have a big forehead too! I love this perspective ❤ (And it seems I’ve passed it down to my daughter so I better get comfortable with it so I can make sure she is someday.)
Same, big forehead gang. I remember at a museum in DC reading about how West African cultures found beauty in and valued a big, high, round forehead and I instantly felt a sense of pride. Never forgot it and never disparaged my forehead after that.
I have a big forehead and notice they are coming back. I do not think my charles degaulle nose will be coming back anytime soon though, but I like it now.
Big forehead equal big brains !
At the height of full glam, 2016-ish, I saw an online article about a makeup artist who specialized in wedding makeup, with what had to be at least twenty or thirty before and after pictures. He managed to make all of these brides look identical. He used the exact same techniques on all of them. No bringing out their unique features, no variations on lipstick colors, just heavily contoured Kim K cut and paste. It haunts me to this day.
that sounds horrific
i notice a lot of makeup artists on insta did this for prom girls makeup like they do one look and it makes everyone look the same
As a makeup artist myself, this is either what sells for him, or just a lack of versatility. If a makeup artist only has one look, that's very limiting!
It also always creeps me out. Look at actors in best Hollywood movies, all of them have some makeup on in every scene, but the artists are so good that they manage to still make them look very diverse, subtle, and usually like themselves. That's what makeup should be about, accenting each person's unique features, eventually correcting what you'd like to. I'm always stunned somebody calls themselves a "makeup artist" (and it's honestly majority of IG/UA-cam ones) and all they can do is copy paste the same look of whatever the current trend is. Even if it doesn't suit the person's face at all, but nah it's "trendy" so that's what you'll get.
It's probably what his clients asked for, and it's really sad that so many people think there's only 1 way to look beautiful.
As an Asian guy who hails from southern China, the rise of K-Pop stars and culture has given way to this “same face” phenomenon where slim, pale faces are desired. And yes, the eyelid surgery for eyes to become more Caucasian looking has started to take hold - it really really sucks, because when you’re adamant about not changing the way you look, but yet everyone around you is changing, it can feel like you’re doing something wrong.
Hugs to you! It's purely awful when the standard is surgically necessary.
@@unblahyourself- our society had agrarian roots so my guess is that by looking pale one can seem more within the nobility lol (cause they don’t need to work out in the sun too long). I just wished people took this video’s message of individuality into heart, they would have happier lives
@@XiangYu94 Isn't it interesting that the standard is the complete opposite in a lot of western countries? I'm from the U.S. and I'm so pale that even the awful racist kids in my school (who drew swastikas on every available surface) used to call me TOO white, and an ugly freak. My hair is almost black which makes my skin stand out even more. I started using tanning lotions and supplements just to stop the constant negative comments I would get.
@@natsinthebelfry ok but you know those kids are awful already, why are we counting what they say as legitimate? Do not be pressured into doing things by those who are lower than you.
Meanwhile so many caucasians wished they looked Asian and attempt to adopt/replicate their features
I’m a 19 year old girl. When I started growing up and losing my baby face my features started showing theirselfs. I got my father’s big croocked nose, my grandma’s small chin, my mom’s not very curvy body. At first I didn’t even realise how big my nose was, cause you know, that wasn’t what a 7 year old had in mind all the time. Then people started teasing and bullying me because of the things I wasn’t responsible of. Strangers, relatives, even my own parents were making fun of my features. And I want to highlight, they were all adults. Not children. Because children don’t care about those things. But somehow, It was bothering every adult around me.
When I would cry about it - which happened very often- everyone including my parents would say, don’t worry! The medical field is very developed now. Just wait untill you are 18, you can get plastic surgery then. It’s nothing to worry about, it’s fixable. You just have to resist till that time.
When I was 10 my parents forced me to get braces. I never wanted them. But appaerentally, my chin was something that should have been fixed immediatelly. Don’t get me wrong, it was completely healthy, just ugly. I refused the braces, I didn’t take good care of it because I hated it. I hated that even my teeth were something that had to be fixed. Everything about me was wrong and had to be fixed.
I had them for 4 years, around 14-15 they took them out. The doctor said, because I was refusing to use the rubbers and other stuff you have to do to get your jaw pretty, there was nothing left he could do. So he took it out. My parents till this day whine about how they paid for me to be pretty but I refused, how ungrateful I am.
Last year I turned 18. Everyone is constantly telling me to get plastic surgery. For my nose, chin, boobs. My self confidence is nonexistent. Since the day I gained consciousness of my appearance, I hated myself in every single second. I don’t remember a moment when I felt not even pretty, but normal.
Children grew up, started adulting and my appearance started bothering them as well.
Right now, all I want is to just exist. To just be, without people having any thoughts about my appearance. Good or bad, I don’t care, I don’t want any of them. I just want to cover every inch of me, so people would have no choice but to see only my inside. Me. Not the body I didn’t chose.
Thank you for the video, really. It makes me feel at peace that people like you are still existing. 🌷🫶🏻
Wow what a story and thank you so much for sharing! That is heartbreaking that your family simply could not let you be you. It's freeing to realize that we can just exist as long as we don't value validation. Unfortunately, some people love to give their un-asked-for opinions on all sorts of things... ❤
I'm horrified you've been treated that way. There is nothing wrong with you. Beauty goes much deeper than looks. You could look like these "same face" women and be a total witch. It's been my experience that the people I've considered to be the most attractive have been what would be considered "plain", but they're such wonderful people it makes them look beautiful to me. Nobody should EVER tell you your looks aren't good enough. Good enough for what? For who? It's meaningless, and it's nobody's right to criticise your appearance. I'd rather hang out with you than any of the people who put you down and laughed at you.
Sending love to you ❤ I have rather big nose too and not the best jaw. Plus my body type is reversed triangle, which is the least feminine. But it doesn't worry me that much, I can't spend my life for someone's expectations. And I can be happier than any beauty, because I learn it every day, no matter what 🫂
So sorry you've had to deal with this from the people around you. We all deserve to just exist and not have so much attention paid to and value placed on how we look.
You are not ugly. ❤
It’s kinda hard to sell products when you embrace your natural features
Isn't that the TRUTH!
It's more than that.
Marketing can sell anything. Even diversity. You could have thousands of lines and products for each type of feature and make tons of money.
It's this mass culture that makes us all want to be like the "it" girl or "it" man. It's our mentality as humans that when we see someone successful (in any aspect, money, dating, etc...) we all want to imitate them and be like them.
This always used to happen, it's just worst now because we obviously evolve and there's always more and more that we can change/alter.
Long time ago maybe only a hair colour would become trendy, then a specific haircut, then a treatment, then a hairline because now transplants are available, and so on and so forth
You freaking said it!
I’m seeing more honouring of diversity in younger generations.
Maybe American Culture is in the duplicate trend.
That's the problem for the beauty or plastic surgery industry
How does this video not pop up on every teen girl's feed?
They need to watch this.
I was born in 2005 and there is some toxic stuff people keep feeding girls my age.
GAls, we've gotta save younger girls from falling into the nonsense of needing to fit a certain beauty standard.
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Thank you! I'm so happy to hear that others feel the same way!
2005 buddies :]
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Ayee I’m 19 too
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I think Korea might be the mother of god of this "same face" phenomenon. I'm a native Asian, I can tell different Asians apart, but 20 years ago, I was on a Korean Air flight. The appearance of the flight attendants absolutely stunned me: at a glance, they looked EXACTLY the same. It's only when I started to really pay attention to the subtleties on their faces, I started to notice some differences. It was absolutely WILD how uncannily similar they all looked. I didn't know Korea is the capital of plastic surgery, but after I learned about it, it no longer surprised me.
I had a Korean friend who aspired for a while to be a flight attendant. It is apparently INCREDIBLY competitive, and you really do have to have exactly the right look. She eventually gave up, but while she was still trying she actually got her jawline shaved down (had to drink through a straw for a few weeks) to fit the aesthetic. Can't even imagine.
I had a friend who was a flight attendant for a while and she was super creeped out by how identical the Korean flight attendants looked. She said it was extremely uncanny
Yeah SK might be an outlier on this one. Because their society is very competitive due to a small country with limited resources and a high population. So plastic surgery is seen as a status and you are forced to compare yourself with one another
No disrespect
However I Lived in Korea ❤but kinda creepy at the same time .. even korean women told me so ..
Tbf... They are pretty similar already pre-surgery 😂
Racist??... Yeah shut tf up, Im asian too.
Edit: anyway, I also think sk is the extreme of this phenomenon.
The beauty standards of today are just awful. We’ve lost what makes us interesting and individually beautiful
Platic surgery is making woman into monsters
I’m fine with them ruining themselves tbh 😂their body their choice
Wait til you find out what the beauty standards of the 1800s were. Or 1900s. Or 1990s when if you weren't stick thin you were ugly. Stop complaining and if you don't like the trends don't follow them. No one cares about you as much as you think
Agree. The bratz doll look is overrated.
@iklijkwelgekmetmijneigennaam back in the day you could be unique and plastic and still look like you ,not anymore...
I think we will reach an over saturation point that will eventually cause natural features to be desirable. Just wait. It saves money and unnecessary complications too
Yes. Other beauty trends go in and out of style. I’m hoping this one will also.
Let's hope!
I think we are kind of getting there, covid sort of opened the door because there was limited opportunity to go out and look like everyone else and be seen
Well hasn’t that happened already? I’m not a tiktok user, but I have heard and seen discourse regarding natural beauty and something called the ‘clean girl aesthetic’ (? I could be wrong about the name). But those people who do natural makeup looks still have perfect noses and eyes and hair and the same slim face shape. They still look copy and pasted to me, except they look more ‘natural’ compared to these kardashian clones
@@OceaniacNatural beauty tends to mean that instead of getting surgery, you already had that face. At least in my experience it still doesn't allow much imperfections
I will never ever ever change my face. Embracing the beauty of who I am is an act of rebellion.
As Andy Frisella said, “personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion.” Exceed in being you :)
@@Scribble.Scribble i feel the same way about refusing to have a facelift despite aging :)
Same!
I agree. It is sad that it should feel like rebellion when it should just be normal.
Same for me, I don't always feel the prettiest but I do NOT want to look like everybody else and succumb to the ridiculous beauty standards of today
What a relief that someone else is talking about this. Not only celebrities, look around your community. The same-face look has empty eyes. There’s a cold hardness, no buoyancy of spirit, no natural sparkle. It’s terribly sad and people are becoming totally boring.
I thought it was because of my advanced age (a little over 70) that I can’t identify todays’s celebrities. I’m so glad to know they look the same to others as well!
I'm always like, who are all these people??
Imagine the existential crisis the same-faces must have when you go “who tf are you again?”
There was a plastic surgery show on about 10 or 15 years ago. The Swan. Afterwards everyone looked the same. Became real creepy.
A few years away from 70, but remember when stars all looked different.
Not at all. You’re right, and of course I find myself wanting changes 😢
one of the things that has always helped me is knowing that it took thousands and thousands of my ancestors in order to create how i look, so many stories, so many battles, so many love stories happened in order to create me :)
I love your comment.
Awe 😭❤ We are the product of so many generations of the “most beautiful person in the world”. I think about how my Dad calls my Mom the most beautiful woman in the world and it’s the sweetest thing.
This is such a beautiful comment ❤
That is well worth remembering and taking to heart. ♥
BEAUTIFUL Louise!!!!!
“If everybody looked the same, we’d be tired of looking at each other” Groove Armada! ❤
Agree. It gets tiring seeing similar faces.
I am already tired of looking at people in Hollywood and influencers because they all look the same 😂
The french have a phrase "jolie laide" beautiful ugy - embracing the unique character of ones appearance and making it the feature.
Ooh I like that. Gonna look into it....
There is a video made by Stephanie Lange. And she basically called being borderline ugly. It's a good video that talks about the same topic.😊
Apparently, Edith Piaf said "use your faults, use your defects...then you're gonna be a star" 🌟
I don’t think it’s a phrase that’s very used, I’m French + lived in France for the most part of my life but I literally never heard that before haha (I’m 27)
only white ppl can be french 🙃
Many supermodels in the past had hooded eyes, it made me embrace mine
Did anyone even know hooded eyes were a "thing" until recently? I didn't!! and I have at least one hooded eye.
I habe hooded eyes as well. I think itbis beautiful!
Same. I adore my hooded eyes.
I have double eyelids, but hooded eyes are so beautiful to me... I like that sharp look
Right? Jennifer Lawrence has hooded eyes and I hope they stay that way
I've noticed that everyone seems to also have the same hair!! How does these women all have such unnaturally perfectly straight "Barbie Doll" hair? I spent so much time trying to smooth and straighten my thin, frizzy hair. I only figured out a few months ago that I actually have curls when I use a good leave in conditioner. I said goodbye to the hairdryer and embraced my uncontrollable curls. I get some weird looks from other women, but now I love my messy curls.
One of the most beautiful women I ever knew had a big strawberry mark on her cheek and she never wore a lot of makeup. Just mascara, a little blush. Maybe lipstick. Zero foundation or contour. She had the bluest eyes!! Air dried wavy hair.
The way she carried herself with class was just amazing.
Sadly she passed away from breast cancer at only 52, just a year after diagnosed. But she was unforgettable in her kindness, sweet nature, interesting personality, and natural beauty. She was a school teacher, a paralegal, and sometimes a stay at home mom. She really represented all women!
Ps. I was her young babysitter and as I got older, I was honored to be her friend. ❤
Thank you for sharing! That's a really sweet tribute to your friend!
That's beautiful ❤️
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This sounds like my friend Steph. She's goooorgeous, and has a strawberry mark. Her eyes are like translucent, pale sapphires.
Yes! One of the sweetest and prettiest girls I knew had a large port wine birthmark that covered half her face. It was so unique and made her even more beautiful!
One influencer called it the 10x rule. We see our *perceived* flaws 10x more than anyone else would. In fact, if you mention a physical insecurity of your own to someone else, they will often go, I totally don’t see that flaw on you. I told my husband & he said that’s a great point; it’s not just women & girls who do that ❤
“It’s not just women and girls who do it.” Yes! I have two young adult sons and I can vouch for this.
It was the same with my teeth. I have big gaps, not just in front teeth but everywhere but it's kinda evenly spaced and not just looks like there is one tooth missing and others are completely in place. But I have only 26 teeth at the age of 29, so that's the reason there are more gaps, the gaps in incisor and canine in lower jaw is more and probably size of 3/4 of a small tooth but I I have big lower lip so they are not visible even if I do full smile although the gap in upper front teeth is obviously visible. That's why I used to smile only with closed lips & I even got comfortable with full smile in perhaps last year , also just bcz I was genuinely happier and kept laughing and then was like why should I not laugh just to hide. Anyway my boyfriend once shared that she showed few pics of mine to his friends and one of them had me smiling and that gap was visible & I said "why did you show this one? " and he said "bcz I love this ond, you are smiling widely" but to probably comfort me he said don't worry I showed other ones too. At that moment I felt a bit bad that maybe it's not a big deal. I am still not 100% comfortable with my teeth but my gums are healthy and I don't want my healthy teeth to get damaged in any way that's why I don't want to get them changed bcz many ppl get different issues after treatment. They are perfectly functional and healthy.
Yes! I was just talking with a coworker two nights ago, who has been obsessing over her hair, which she says is thinning and is so upset about it. I had to laugh, because every time I look at her, I’ve always think, my gosh, she has the prettiest hair!!
And other times we are not aware at all of our "flaw", until everyone starts pointing it out, they do see it 😅😅
True! I didn't even notice her crooked mouth, and even after she mentioned it I had to really look.
It was liberating when I got to the age when I realised that what other people think of me is not my business. And I like my face. I have a crooked tooth which I think is cute and gives me character. I have a big Greek nose which is part of my heritage. Anybody with enough money can buy a cookie-cutter nose, but my ancestors going back centuries might have had mine. You have to remember as well that beauty standards change. I overplucked my eyebrows in the early 00's and they never grew back properly. Better to celebrate what you have!
Opa!! Amen sis!! I love unique noses! Actually- what I mean is I love the ones that are a little bigger and have a bump - the ones people always seem to feel a need to “fix.” I have seen women have surgery and exchange the beautiful family-strong-heritage-featured
noses - for something way more common and un-extraordinary. They bought the world’s current idea of attractive over the timeless and privileged gift of unique beauty from our Creator. It is terribly sad, actually. Like an insult to God and family - a rejection of something so good. I love the way you said it - many people in your family have probably had that nose..!
I used to teach sociology. Every culture has its ideas of beauty- but it unfortunately is becoming cookie cutter all over the world with our social media influences. I love the beauty our Creator has created-no one can improve it!!!
@michellelee6260 wow, just beautifully put! :)
Gets even scarier when you see the research on how children are impacted by these faces, particularly the blunted emotional development as a result of limited emotional expression (shoutout to botox and fillers).
That’s crazy. You mean kids are stunted because their parents don’t emote enough to them?
@@tessmoffett5512 Yep. As primates we rely on observational learning and our emotions are included in that. Anything that limits your ability to emote likewise limits your childs ability to feel.
I've noticed this in TV and movies. I always thought it was just because everyone is pumped so full of botox that their faces don't even move anymore. I miss people who act with their faces so much.
@@HumppaOrDeath The toxin itself also reduces the ability to empathize in people who have injected their faces. We have known this since 2011. Fairly well enumerated literature on these things. Its insane botox was ever approved to be perfectly honest.
@@muirgirl that is absolutely insane and horrifying. I hate it here.
The only reason why Bella Hadid has a modeling career is because she's undergone so much work that she looks nothing like her real self.
And the craziest thing is almost the same thing with Angelina Jolie, the "most beautiful woman on earth" is a label gained because of a full plastic surgery face, i know its just a commercial thing but we cant deny that it impacts on us too (especially on girls)
Nah, it is because her parents are famous
@@marialeon7197 That, too. There are so many "celebrities" who have become famous on account of nepotism rather than their own merits. The Kardashians immediately come to mind, of course.
@@marialeon7197 Yes that definitely got her foot in the door but Bellas modelling career was flopping until she went under the knife, Gigi has also had a ton of work done which is definitely more subtle but neither of them would have their careers without their extreme surgical transformations.
Even model Giselle had a nose job, like 80% of female celebrities
It took me until seeing my great grandmother’s pic when she was young to finally accept my features. I resemble her so much and it always felt like I was searching for confirmation about my features my whole life . I have softer features like from the 1930’s and behold my great grandmother had the exact same features as well and she was born during that era herself. It was so healing for me.
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A box of supermodel chocolate. Wow! I miss those days.
Such a good analogy, I love it!
About ten years ago I dated a man who kept telling me I should cover up the 'blemishes' on my face. I was alway perplexed whenever he said this because I had never noticed any 'blemishes'. Years later when I was studying my face in the mirror I realized what he was referring to. Around my mouth area I had a whitish mole that if you didn't know me could look like a pimple, a medium size flat brown mole, a small red patch of spider veins that was there since childhood and on the other side of my mouth two small brown flat moles. After 40 years I had never looked in the mirror and seen 'blemishes'. I had just seen my face with my moles and other marks as completely normal and completely natural. I had never ever thought of them as something that should be removed or covered up. I'm so glad that I never did either of those things. Today he's single and lonely and I still have all my so-called 'blemishes' and I'm as happy as pie.
Lololol I love this. ❤
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That is the playboy magazine effect. I asked my husband why his one friend never married. He was looking for the perfect woman in the magazine. I saw an interview with one of the centerfolds.
She said it was a good thing her name was on it as she would have never recognized herself.
Funny, like most people, he was a good solid 5. Average. But he wanted a 15 out of 10.
That partner just wanted a trophée to make his ego shine.
Never stay with people that want you to change.ä
Your true potential is inside you.
I notice that you gave up on him. He didn’t realize his personality had so many blemishes :-)
Recently, I started to notice as well how almost all females are looking the same. Same blondish hair, same tanned skin, same latte makeup and filler lips and cheeks and eyes. All the funny stuff is when 25 years old is talking about wrinkles and botox and all the procedures they need to do to avoid those horrible wrinkles 😅 madness. Sometimes, I think people have lost their minds
The 90’s were such an iconic time of beauty.
You are such a beauty.✨🌸✨
Thanks so much!
You said your mouth is crooked, but I can't tell. I love your 50s glam style!
Not a good time for body positivity though. Everyone wants to be a heroine chic back then.
Not it was not they all got surgery and do you know the 90s was the the decade people were people were starving the same self thanks to those super models everyone had body issues thanks to the those magazines and as kate moss said nothing tastes as good skinny feels the woman that promoted diet culture
I feel so fortunate to have been a teen in the 90s. Unique quirks have always been what attracts me to a person and the "same face" look makes me feel uncomfortable and I can't place why. Like an instant feeling of mistrust, as though the person is wearing a mask. It's odd.
Perfectly put!
Sure, being a teen in the 90s was great, if you were skinny. If you were fat, you were teased mercilessly. The eating disorder, heroin-chic decade, post every celebs cellulite on a magazine cover decade.
Why? Diet culture was so popular in the 90s there was not one person i knew that did not have body issues i say its a toxic time same as the 2000s
I call it same face too 😂 I feel for young girls, most of them are hiding their natural beauty. My daughter is 25 and at age 16 went through a stage of hating her nose. I told her not to look at her nose individually and to see her whole face and how beautiful she is. She never mentioned it again thank god
I am 26 and I also used to hate my nose! It's just big hehe :D now I agree with what's said in the video, our flaws make us unique and that's beautiful! :) But frankly it's been so hard to mentally get there, since our society pushes an extreme opposite towards us.
Seriously! I can’t tell who I’m looking at anymore. I actually cried when I saw what Renee Zellweger did to her face. She had the most unique, distinctive, gorgeous look. Now she looks anonymous.
Like Jennifer Grey
@@Sadune85 Yes! That was shocking and sad.
So true! I loved her in Empire Records (one of her earliest films) so seeing her today was truly shocking!
Kate Beckinsale was the one that got me. She was so gorgeous I couldn't believe how much plastic surgery she underwent
I heard Renée Zellweger had an accident that damaged her face, so some reconstruction was needed. I'm not sure if it's true, though.
This is honestly such a tragedy. Millions and millions of women are feeling bad and finding flaws in themselves just because our economy and social media landscape revolves around these ideas and ideals. I am 39 and feel so darn lucky to have grown up in a time before social media, selfies and influencers. It makes it easier to create a healthier distance to it, and just plug off and be myself, and look myself. Whatever that means.
I would be horrified to be a teenager now. The shallow pressure 😢, I worry so much for my son. Its such a crazy world now.
That is a wonderful perspective thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
I have a friend who injected tones of botox and fillers into her face and got breast augmentation surgery too. It saddens me. While it makes her look 'good' on social media it doesn't look good in everyday life. That's an important difference. When she moves her facial muscles and you see her speak in everyday life, it always seems as if there is something "off". I came to the conclusion that there are many ways to enhance your beauty in a natural way and learn more about your uniqueness at the same time. Instead of going to a surgeon, I started to look more into color theory and cuts for clothes. I've also brought a book about Carolyn Bessette recently and think she is the prime example for uniqueness. Maybe not the most beautiful but certainly interesting to look at.
I'm so bored of the lack of variety in modern beauty ideals
Omg, completely. IG influencers all look identical: same eyes, nose, lips, face shape, same makeup style, same hair style. It's boring af. And to make it worse, there are plenty of vanity filters that give the illusion of those cookie cutter features. If I were a photographer I'd probably shoot myself (no pun intended) from the boredom.
What is even a beauty ”flaw”? Who decided what beauty is and what it is not? There is no such thing. There is beauty in everything. 🦋
This reminds me of an episode of “The Twilight Zone” called “Number 12 Looks Just Like You.”
In it, each sex has two looks to choose from, and surgeries for people after 16 or 18 were mandatory. The surgeon explains that by making everybody equally beautiful, they’re able to get rid of things like job discriminations and the like, but our protagonist argues, “But if everybody is beautiful, than nobody is.”
I highly recommend the episode, so I won’t spoil the ending.
I actually saw that one. The ending made me sad but it was still a good episode.
Wow I really need to see this! Thanks for the hot tip! Sounds totally timely.
It made me think of that episode too. It’s so sad to think about what society has become.
There’s also a YA dystopian book series titled The Uglies by Scott Westerfeld. It’s great, and eerily mirrors what today’s screen generation is facing.
You remembered it better than me, I saw it when it first came out and it was very creepy...never forgot it...
😂😂I thought I was the only one that noticed. I'm black and I noticed it in our community as well.
Yep the 'baddie' / 'hot girl summer' aesthetic! Everyone looks like clones now
Yes, online espcially, many have the same wig parting, white toe nails, bbl (some), tight clothes ,long nails, eyelashes, make up look and selfie pose. We can look at each race and pull out similar trends to be honest. Nothing compares to the 90s and before ❤️
@@LisaF777 😅😅
@LisaF777 I think everyone is literally copying each other. Now I can't stand to see bbls, unless it's super natural ie not big. It seems from the female rapper look, that's what young girls think they need to emulate. I'm looking at myself and I really am toning down that kinda look. For example I've gone off lashes and no long nails. I want everything softer now. The spider eyelash trend esp needs to stop asap
@@cammyt9030Instagram literally has versions of the same thing
I find the popular beauty look right now too plain. It’s so common that I’ve become numb to it.
Makes me think of Barbara Streisand's nose, Lauren Hutton's gap, Cheryl Tieg's thinner lips. All beauties but so unique and fun to look at.
I feel really disconnected from my generation because of this, I've been for years and years so pissed off by this weird phobia that society has for uniqueness and difference. I just find it so strange, why would you want to live in a world where everyone is the same? When did humanity get to this place? I really wish people could learn to appreciate beauty again😞
I really appreciate people talking about this, I have really 'puffy' eyelids, hooded eyes kinda like you pointed out on claudia schiffer, lately its been making me super annoyed and ashamed that I have this little voice telling me I should change that, when in honesty I really want to love my eyes, I really love the shape of my eyes, just 'beauty standards' I guess are getting a little further in to my head than I'd like them to, looks like I'm being influenced more than I was aware!! I really would like to talk more about this to the people in my life!
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In Hollywood most aging people look ridiculous and insecure. I love how Jamie Curtis and Jodie Foster look GREAT, natural, and secure in themselves, confident. Changing with age is normal. "Fixing" yourself, removing your own natural face, in my opinion looks bad. I so agree with this vlog, make a decision to accept yourself and your uniqueness, also as you age. We decide what attitude to have to things, our brains have neuroplasticity. Choose attitudes that serve you.
kate winslet is another one who seems to be aging naturally. and she looks absolutely gorgeous EDIT upon another google search, it actually looks like she did get some fillers recently😢
@@redheadedstepchildatwalmartshe used to be the most beautiful woman in the world in titanic people think she lost her beauty when she become blonde
I recently was looking at red carpet photos from the early 2000s & it was so refreshing because while everyone looked great, they all looked different. Everyone had makeup on, but none of it was perfect. The clothes were all uniquely styled and everyone looked REAL. Today, everyone aims for absolute perfection and they all end up looking the same.
My Nonna always said i was "Striking" like Lauren Bacall whenever i asked in my teen years. This helped me get through the teenage low self-esteem years, bullying and acne. I just turned 50 and I adore my body/beauty now. I've had full grey hair since my early 40's(my husband wanted me to stop coloring) and i love how i look. I am a mature woman with battle scars, wrinkles and all. Confidence in your individual beauty is beautiful in itself! ♥️♥️
They are just going to make us natural women stand out more, in a good way, and just wait until the trends change & their decisions, in many cases, are permanent.
ABSOLUTELY!!
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Especially when there's a highly exaggerated trend on one end of the spectrum, the natural unfolding of human wants is for it to go to the opposite end ....exaggerated the other way. Curious to see how that will look like. (smirk)
@@emanueladadarlat3159
They will be paying the same doctors to reverse their choices to no avail. Their choices are, unfortunately, when it comes to surgery, permanent. I am holding on to me for as long as I can with good nutrition & skin care & embracing my future me. The surgeries they are having are making them look like older women trying to stop time.
@@emanueladadarlat3159 Calling other women "plastics" for using coloured lipbalm (I'll be there no matter what)
I always hated people saying: "oh no my nose is too fat" or "my double chin is ugly". Like it made me boiling mad because considering a facial feature ugly is not a thing you're born with (babies aren't embarrassed of being chubby or different) but society plants these lies upon us and we believe them. If you believe a random opinion online of a stranger you don't even know, might as well just believe in your own.
It's young years wasted in many girls and yet they know it but have this strong desire to fit in and let themselves knowingly be tricked by useless trend that change every few years. Their beauty is in chains and I can't help but be furious.
Sorry for the strong reaction.
I wish all women would wake up and realize we're all more than our face and body. Our value is who we are as a person. If you put all of your everything into your outer appearance then what are you when it's gone?
Stephanie Lange is a most exellent channel for the young women on this topic.
Oh yes! I like her!
She is such a treasure!
You look natural, unique and beautiful, so cheers for exemplifying what you assert. 👏🏽👏🏽There were oodles of racially diverse models in the 1970s, 80s and 90s. Look at Yves Saint Laurent and Christian Lacroix catwalk images! There was Yasmin Le Bon (Parvenah) , Yasmeen Ghauri, Naomi Campbell, and this is rust a few, when I was young.
That makes me remember that once I saw an influencer saying that the most beautiful women called "unique" and "one of a kind" are often diminished for "big nose"(Gisele Bundchen) or "no curves" (Gigi Hadid) or "male features" (Gwendoline Christie) or "looking like an alien" (Tilda Swinton). They're constantly said to be above-average women and, at the same time, too fascinating to take your eyes off them to the point that media tries to find more flaws to nitpick on.
Audrey Hepburn is a good example of unique beauty. She didn’t have work done. She was just beautifully her ❤
and now we have ariana grande showing audrey's picture to her doctor
Cry about it@@redheadedstepchildatwalmart
This is extremely evident when going on websites like SHEIN or TEMU. It’s like a dystopian nightmare hub that could cause people to develop a negative self body image. Everyone has the same face and the bodies are not so subtly airbrushed. It always rubbed me the wrong way and I felt that it was starting to affect the way I viewed myself. Silly as it sounds, but seeing something over and over again really affects the brain. I appreciate you drawing attention to this!
As someone with quite a unique and "interesting" face, i really appreciated this video. Id never get surgery but that doesnt mean seeing the same Instagram face everywhere doesnt affect my self esteem
Funny, how you noticed the negligible asymmetries, there is really nothing that sticks out at all! Lips and teeth don't align perfectly in most people, I wouldn't even think of calling your mouth crooked! Your face looks very well put together actually!
Well thank you for saying that! I actually had someone email me to call me a crooked mouth hillbilly. Sometimes one just has to laugh about it! 😅
I absolutely abhor that ‘same face’, and the look and that style. I’m finding myself increasingly considering that ‘same face’ as ugly so much so if I ever find myself almost achieving that ‘look’, I’m unhappy and confused. I like looking like myself, just not unhealthy self.
I also absolutely abhor the plastic surgery look most of all. I’m so glad others are bringing this topic up. I loved growing up in a culture that celebrated the unique beauty of people united with their personality first. We used to have a collection of beauty standards. And you’re right, only having one ideal erases the value of it entirely.
I'm glad u talked about it. I thought it was only me who sees everyone look identical these days
Same
And with everyone dressed in gray and nude, to distinguish is an impossible mission
It's definitely a neutral world right now!
This is a great video. I’m 54 and have had some insecurities about how much my face has changed in the last 5 years. But it’s mine. No fillers, Botox, etc. I’ve also noticed how much everyone looks alike these days and sometimes I’ve had to take a minute to realize who I’m looking at in a magazine or on TV. And I’ve been sad to see some of my favorite actresses that are a bit older than I am plumping up their faces with cheek fillers, lip plumpers and anything else that takes away from how beautiful they truly are. They just look weird. I just wish as a society, we would just embrace how unique we all are and embrace that as opposed to trying to either all look the same and stop demonize aging.
You are so right! They tried to get Barbra Streisand to “fix” her nose. Thank goodness she knew better. Unfortunately, Jennifer Grey did not. She lost her following because she looked like everyone else. I don’t see asymmetry in your face but I do hear it - just a tiny lisp. It’s wonderful and softens your presentation.
For most of my life, I described myself as “not blonde.” I’m a brunette, but most everyone around me had light hair. It has taken me years to celebrate my dark hair.
I was going to mention Jennifer Grey, but you beat me to it! When she got her nose done, she went from interesting and unique to boring clone. Such a shame in someone with her talent.
Even though I don't know Jennifer Grey personally, I was also very sad to see her fix her nose to fit in.
“The rise of same face” is wild. 😂
Those eyelashe extensions give people the lazy eye look.
Instagram is to blame. Some pages even warp some beautiful famous women's features and put those fake Kylie Jenner lips.. on MF Angelina Jolie ?? It's sickening
"Start to see yourself as an iconic in the making"
- Diana, UnBlah Yourself, 10 May'24
I have noted this in my journal rn, will stay with me forever 💕🌍💫
I'm so glad you enjoyed this! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Ok just want to say how stunning you are. You remind me of Marion Cotillard.
Also I relate to seeing all of my flaws after being on camera. But I love myself for who I am.
After having kids I realized just how perfect we all are. Like, we are walking miracles yall!
Absolutely! Babies really change your perspective on lots of things. Thank you!
Omg she does!!
I’m so bored with celebrities and movies now and this is part of the reason. Why would I see a Nicole Kidman movie anymore when she’s become an alien who can’t act because she can’t make expressions? Remember curly, freckly, strawberry blonde, small eyes Nicole Kidman? I loved her and her spunk. I don’t know this current one, she looks like everyone else and can be replaced by anyone else.
Oh yes and she used to have eyelids!!
She finally became one of the Stepford Wives fr
Easier to clone like that…
Cloning centres abound.
i saw the trailer for the ryan gosling / emily blunt movie and i could not figure out who i was looking at! had to google it to find out it was emily blunt. and i also notice how many male celebrities have clearly gotten a lot of surgery/filler. its tragic that so many people feel the need to do this. i believe age is something to be proud of
I totally agree with this. Women have big lips, pillow faces and the cat eye look. I was in Italy recently and a lot of the women there looked really natural. Some had long noses and distinctive faces and not what you would call enhanced. Looking at some of the tourists they had the large lips and obvious face fillers etc. They all look the same .
I loved your video so much. You look so pretty and unique with your lovely short hair and flattering makeup. Iam over 70 and I despair at the way many young (and some older) women want to look the same, with long blonde hair extensions, false lashes, loads of makeup and plumped up lips. When I was young my curly hair was unfashionable and I wanted a long straight style. I was slightly overweight and I cut down in order to be slim. Needless to say, Mother Nature wasn't having any of it. I now love my curly hair and accept that I will never be slim. I like to see women who have an individual look and know what suits them. I have never seen anyone else address this subject, so thank you ❤
Thank you for sharing, Jane! I'm glad you liked this video and thank you for hanging out with me. I'm so happy to hear that you have embraced your uniqueness.😘
The same face trend reminds me of the twilight zone episode "number 12 looks just like you"
I was just about to say! Rod has an uncanny way of being right, in his writing at least.
I definitely need to watch this!
I just wrote a paragraph on this episode for my english class. It was so scary omg
I just added that to my comment too!! I think a re-release of that episode is due. I wonder what Rod Serling would think if he saw this now?
I was just thinking of this episode! Rod Serling was always a man ahead of his time!
Oh I really loved this one. When my girls started school, I told them they could wear anything they wanted so long as they didn't look like everybody else. I wanted the teachers to see them, in hopes they have opportunities I never had had. The ironic thing is that I encourage that don't look like everybody else as a stepping stone, but they fully embraced it as a value all of its own. Now that they're adults, the careers that they have chosen and the way they live out of periods are not like anyone else. When has figured out how to be a Heritage breed organic chicken Farmer on a half acre of land, and the other one, with her husband, but 10 acres of land that is absolutely useless along the river. They however use it as a lab. He is an internationally recognized conservation photographer, a master naturalist who prizes conservation and protecting the land in the critters that live on it. I am so proud of them. And your point is very true--those who look like everybody else are not seen
Wow so cool! Thanks for sharing!
Hear hear Diana!
I absolutely abhor same face! It doesn't help that I don't find the current same face attractive at all. It's blah, fake and vacuous.
I too miss the variety that used to be prevalent in years gone by.
I'm constantly attracted by faces that are a little quirky. A crooked grin, a lopsided eyebrow, a scar, a strong nose... Those faces have character and individuality. And they are beautiful!
Absolutely! 💯
A strong nose is my
My second favourite after a snaggletooth!
I had to look up what snaggletooth was. First result back on Google was "What is a snaggletooth and how to fix it" 🙄
What a sad commentary of our society!
I had to look up what a snaggletooth was and the first Google result was "What is a snaggletooth and how to fix it" 🙄
What a sad commentary of our current society!
I have a beautiful friend with a bit of a snaggletooth and her husband adoringly calls it her "apple tester tooth". Lol She's very pretty!
I'm totally with you about this
Ppl are boring today Inside and out
My heart goes out to young girls and women today! Be strong! Don’t let anyone tell you your looks aren’t good enough. That’s so bizarre. Any messaging that belittles you - run from it! Be defiant and defend your beautiful self. I became aware of this terrible trend watching the “cottage fairy” on UA-cam. She said her social media feed gave her videos and ads about nose surgery- completely nuts. Be proud of your familial traits they represent a long line of matriarchal powerhouses and they believe in you!
Same face syndrome is such a strange thing
I love that you said they were a box of supermodel chocolates, that is the perfect example of how they looked in that picture. And how humans are in general. Also you are absolutely gorgeous!
I always felt like a misfit because of how different I looked from my family and friends. Growing up, everyone around me was fair, had straight hair and thin, shapely lips while I was dark skinned, had dark curly hair and thick lips, which were all uncommon and undervalued in the region I grew up in.
A lot of bullying and teasing later, I use these same features as a confidence booster because I know they make me stand out in any crowd. For once, I feel blessed to be a misfit.
Thank you for making this video!❤
It's a vicious cycle when evey couple of months or years trends change again, and everyone panicks because suddenly there's a new "flaw" they need to fix, and a new standard they need to fit in. It's a never ending battle that we can never win, and we just pour a lot of money and time into something that is unachievable
Yeah exactly. I hate the word flaw describing feautures of our looks so much. In actuality there cannot be a flaw, just a different look.. and that's coming around to always trying to adjust yourself to a current trend, right? So early this year a friend of my daughter's asked about a part of her body if that's "supposed" to look like that, and I didn't even understand the question. Did she mean is it healthy or is something medically wrong? No, she meant like according to beautystandards. So first of all I don't know a lot about that topic, and additionally I was confused how she brought it up in our conversation, so I probably didn't answer wisely right off the bat. But since then we try to talk openly about our childrens' worries regarding that topic, and it seems they are especially influenced by social media and k-pop, so that's obviously a global trend across different cultures.
My teeth are not perfect but my smile is unique and adds character and I get compliments on having a beautiful smile and I am 52 yrs old! Beauty is from within!!
Teeth relate to your health, not beauty. If you have serious problems, it will affect your headaches and jaws down the line.
I have saved this video because I think it is CRUCIAL to show to my granddaughters who both become teens this year (my other two granddaughters will be shown it in a few more years as they are still very young). Your message should be included in the curriculum of every school……. those dots were when I realized that my grandsons are also being pelted with these messages, just less so. Thank you for recording this video; I truly fear what psychological damage has been inflicted upon today’s young people! I turn sixty in three more days, so I KNOW that I grew up in a different time but I clearly remember how I felt when my mom constantly compared me unfavourably to my sister’s looks. Even to this day, some of her digs stay with me and I have to catch myself before I let those memories have power. If society today continues to idolize the uni-face movement, where will that leave people who cannot conform? Will there be a caste system for the ‘repaired’ and one for the ‘flawed’? This could get very dangerous before it gets better.
You're so right! That's what I don't like about a lot of women who aim to look good - they try to look exactly a certain way in both face and body. It's so... dull, in my opinion. And sad. Also, I just have to say that I love your hairstyle. Your hair and earings frame your face exquisitely. It's such an example of how a person can be beautiful by using their unique features. I hope it encourages women to look for hairstyles / colours / clothes / jewelry etc that enhance the beauty they already have, instead of trying to look like the someone else.
Thank you! That pretty much sums up what I'm trying to help women do! Just be ourselves!
I was a teenager in the 90s. Even the models back then had their own unique look. Cindy Crawford looks so much different than Linda Evangelista. We only had one Claudia Schiffer. Only one Kate Moss! I must admit that not many of us teenage girls were insecure as much as girls are now. It's sad.
All truth!
We were not able to buy our looks at that time, many of the models from that time were indeed natural beauties. Naomi, Kate Moss, Christy Turlington just to name a few, absolutely gorgeous. Not to mention totally opposite but just as stunning beauty of Grace Jones. Those were simpler times too. There’s too much pressure on younger people to look like their filtered self all the time. It’s absolutely easy to spot who’s had work done because they look too perfect. Absolute perfection looks eerie and odd to the observers eye. Kind of like people changing their eye color with surgery, they look freakishly unnatural, like a robot, like the eyes don’t belong. The best types of procedures are done so subtly that you can’t tell anyone has had anything done.
That's a lie. Many girls at that time got an ED. And if you were black it was worse with the big lips and butt.
@@Baby_ghost__b not my friends
But the 90s supermodels were out of this world attractive and had incredible bodies that were unattainable for 99% of the population. Let’s not pretend they had a positive impact on young girls. Also “heroin chic” was an aesthetic. And this was positive?!
i don’t fit this beauty standard but i would never dream of changing my face. it’s a combination of all of my ancestors and family, i wouldn’t trade that for anything
Gone are the days of Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, Elizabeth Taylor or Sophia Loren. Today it is duck lips, Botox, breast implants and everything nip/ tuck one can afford. I agree with you, today women don't embrace uniqueness.
Many old Hollywood actresses had plastic surgery and makeovers in order to fit into the beauty standards of that time.This is not a new phenomenon,it’s just that we are more exposed to plastic surgery because of social media and celebrities being on social media(it was more secretive back then).For example:Rita Hayworth had to change her name (because she was half Spaniard and half Irish and executive changed her original name(Margarita Carmen Cansino)because it was too ‘ethnic’ and having an ‘ethnic’ name will drive away audiences at that time)
and also alter her features to make her look more ‘waspy’(electrolysis to make her have a higher hairline and dying her natural hair from black to red and nose job).People from those days have to change their names and looks (uniqueness)in order to fit into stardom.
@@snehaphilip5481 Yeah, so many people latch onto this idea that most celebs were natural before 2000. Monroe had work done and some intensely heavy makeup. Her famous lip shape was created with several lipsticks of different shades.
These women not only had many surgeries but their faces weren’t really that unique from each other. They all had the same basal face features that we’re and still are considered the beauty standard 🤷🏾♀️
All of those starlets had to be palatable to the american audience. People always like to look at life before the modern day with rose-colored glasses but that's far from the truth. The beauty standards of today had to come from somewhere.
@@veronicajata3121Modern beauty standards come from porn and drag culture. Same thing happened in the early 2000s with Playboy magazine worship.
This starts from people pointing out a "flaw." Men are rarely criticized for their looks. It's mostly women. Ergo, this problem. I've never liked the Kardashians, but I don't hate them. They are a mirror of society. They are geared towards what people reward with attention, influence, and money. I'm lucky to be living in a country where it is rude to comment on appearance, so you rarely see anybody who has had any cosmetic procedure done.
Interesting! Where do you live?
Men are criticised for their looks!!!
If you look at pre-plastic surgery pics of them, the Ks all looked good! I’d understand them doing anti-aging tweaks when they were older for wrinkles, but the stuff they did to change their young faces was criminal!
I can’t believe i haven’t heard this before - “same face” - and it’s so so so right! I’m around your age because i used to LOVE all of those supermodels you show in your video BECAUSE they were really beautiful, they were human. I see my nieces who do their makeup in this “same face” way, and i didn’t even realize that is what it is until i watched this video. Great content, i am happy i found your channel. Keep up the great work! ❤🙏🏼
Thank you! I'm glad you're here!
@@unblahyourself Thanks for hipping me to your channel the other day, it's great! I fully understand why this video got such a response. Great writing + personal vulnerability = easy to connect to, even for a man :)
Most of the women on American tv do look like they’re made from plastic. If you watch the news readers and some celebs in England they look so much more natural. Love Hannah Waddingham and Isabella Rossellini.
Isabella Rossellini lost her contract with Lancome in the mid-'90s when she started aging. She was deemed too old to model cosmetics at 43. How ridiculous. America has always been a youth-obsessed society in my lifetime.
It’s good to see Helen Mirren in ads for cosmetics, although there are still lots of ads for “wrinkle “ creams being shown on twenty somethings!
@lindacurtis7267 Why are older women relegated to anti-aging products, though? Can't they advertise anything? I buy much more than anti-aging skin care and would like to see more women 45+ without overdone faces, like Drew Barrymore, etc.
That’s a great point! And also shouldn’t we be “pro” aging not “anti”. I do find it difficult to find great makeup for my skin since it definitely changes .
@lindacurtis7267 I think the beauty industry needs to just use the term "mature skin" or something like that, even if it's just semantics. I'd rather be in that category. I use Rx Retin-A for "anti-aging" via my doc, and nearly everything else I buy in the skin care aisle is just for sensitive skin. That anti-aging term just turns me off. I don't find that any of it really works anyway, and I'm amazed at all the young women now who are spending hundreds on this stuff in hopes of never aging. That's impossible, even with great skin care, a healthy diet, exercise, not smoking, sun avoidance, etc. If all that had worked like I thought back in the '90s, I'd still look 21! Good luck with the makeup. I just focus on my dark, patchy brows and use a bright blush to look alive. I miss mascara, but it burns my severely dry eyes. The wonderful Prescriptives concealer I've used for 29 years is gone, as is the entire brand, and with my eczema, unique skin tone, and mature skin now, I have little faith I'll ever find a replacement when my last tube is gone. It is frustrating that the beauty industry is designed for 20-year-olds who don't have allergic skin.
Honestly I hope we shut celebrity culture down before giving up unique faces bc I know which of the two I prefer…
It's not just celebrities though. Imo non-celeberities, wannabe-onfliencers, more often than not are the ones who take these trends to a whole nother level.
Not sure how you ended up on my feed but the title intrigued me, so I watched. This is such a wonderful perspective. Every woman and girl of any age needs to hear this. Bravo 👏
i accept my unique features, i just wish it were easier to believe that they can be perceived as beautiful by others, especially nowadays :/
Get over yourself. They are beautiful!
Uniqueness makes life more interesting. We weren't put here to all be the same. Same face, same style, same hair, same makeup. What's inspiring about that?
this video really cheered me up! recently i had a breakdown because i just couldn’t look at myself in the mirror without crying because of my flaws.. i do know that these insecurities never existed until i started comparing myself to the girls i see on social media and i really have to stop being on my phone so much! i am still struggling to accept some of my features though..
@enjatro6408 hugs to you!!
Do people not realize that big, fake lips are not attractive? If you're aging and your lips begin to thin out, LEAVE THEM.
Yes! They don’t look younger or more voluptuous: they just look as if they are having an allergic reaction.
@@stillhere1425 as an EMT, I can confirm that you are correct!
The celebrities are never happy with their money and looks.
That’s the irony of it
Love how you state supermodels of the past would be taken to plastic surgeons today!
I particularly dislike that famous models get plastic surgery, like we aren't even celebrating natural beauty anymore and even the "most attractive" people on the planet are no longer permitted to have "flaws". Also how shortsighted it is to change one feature trying to look like someone else when a lot of attractiveness comes down to how features fit together and someone's attitude and mannerisms. And that different things appeal to different people.
Also you ARE gorgeous Diana!
Thank you! 🥰
I have said this for years- “where have all the real faces gone?”
(In my * Paula Cole singing voice)
Haha, I just saw Shania’s same face…why, seriously she was so beautiful before 😂
Wait are you referencing the song “where have all the Cowboys gone?” Cause that’s by Paula Cole not Shania lol
@@saras_jeansyep! Thank you