Has anyone else ever been daydreaming and then start doing something else and then think “what movie/video was I just watching” and realize their daydreaming was just so vivid it actually felt like they were watching a movie or something
I’m just so glad there’s other people who think the same way. Being an infp can be really lonely. I don’t think a lot of people understand the empathy infp have
Yeah it definitely can get lonely with that feeling of never seeming to be understood, but also another reason why I created this targeted channel. It's not just INFPs who watch, but generally it's ones who are like-minded which provides a safer outlet to let our stuff out without much judgment. Starting out on here I was SUPER nervous as I barely even used Facebook regarding social media 2 years ago. But I quickly noticed that it was a very exciting venture running back to make a video and just "let my hair down". It just gets old when you have to suppress things about yourself in daily life because the majority typically won't get it and you just don't want to hear it... Nice to meet you Kevin! Sean
@@creativestudiovvv No! INFPs are more effective in a non scheduling atmosphere and are not generally good managers of people.INFPs are not good at wearing a mask (being politically correct) because of INFPs Personal loyalty, Integrity and authenticity.
@@stevemiller887 I like to say we're the perfect "grey eminence" LOL. Take a strong and social leader, let them consult an INFP. Let the INFP build their team. Then let the INFP go into hiding and their safe working spaces in the back at their pace. Have the team and leader come by for consultation whenever they run into a dead end. Naturally, in a way that means they hand in their cause and then wait (best out of sight). We're great at leadership. We're just not prone to the typically and often expected "masculine" version of it. The archaic "feminine" leadership (which can be performed by men and women alike) is from "behind" a group, not "before" them. It's not pulling people but pushing at their back from a place in the back where we have a proper view on the situation. And it's social inspired. Since we're great at understanding people and social structures, we are capable of building a team that relies on backup and puts everyone exactly where they function best. In such a team a lack of consistency by the INFP is no problem. Plus, when in line with our passions it's the opposite. We need a team that'll frequently offer help and frequently grab us and drag us away for the much needed breaks 😂 Also funny: we're bad at pretending but we're fantastic at imagination and manipulation. Hence we just need to put ourselves into the right inner space and acting it out is no problem. There's no need to lie. There's a need to have a valid reason for why we need to say or not say something.
Nice to meet you Hyurno 🤙🏻. Yeah the problem with INFPs is that we typically prefer to deal with those emotions in private. That’s where we can fall into the trap of “no one understands me”, but it’s also just because we aren’t going to allow an outsider to assume they know our inner feelings just because that’s our Fi jam. Sean
I'm an infp and have a good intp friend and I feel like intp's can come across as all analytical and whatnot but you actually genuinely care about people. You just show your love in a way that most people interpret the wrong way but your actually really sweet😊
As an INFP, I found that Albert Ellis' ABC Model helped me to download a little INTP thinking into my head and run it like an app in my mind. The whole approach can be summed up in a quote by Ellis "There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well; you must treat me well; my life must be easy." I mention this because, if you can help your INFP friends to embrace a bit of your natural INTP logic, they will probably find it helpful when they are navigating daily life and when dealing with the deep existential crisis that we INFPs seem to feel pretty much all the time. Oh, and if your INFP friends write poetry, paint etc., and they show you some of their work ask them genuine questions about it. Your questions can help them see things their unconscious mind was trying to tell them and then open up a dialogue for you to showcase your more rational approach in areas they are struggling. After all, as an INFP, we feel misunderstood most of the time, so genuinely valuing our creative endeavours will make us feel understood and then you can help us be more practical and logical about day-to-day stuff. To be honest, I suspect some of your INFP friends probably feel their real self turns up in their art, music and writing, so if you want to a deeper understanding of them then engage with their work. As an INFP, I've found being in touch with my feelings, values, principles and ideals definitely feeds my art. Still, a good dose of logic helps me put much of life's challenges into perspective and helps me realise my most cherished goals such as setting up my own scholarship fund through investing in the stock market.
1. As an INFP I have often said that I have a lot of passion bottled up inside of me waiting to burst out 2. One of my highest love languages is giving, not so much on the receiving side but more the high that I get when I give someone a nice gift or thoughtful gift 3. While I may feel Empathy I often have no idea what to do with it or how to properly handle it, though I do relate to people based on personal experiences and try to help them out there 4. I daydream so often I have literally crashed into walls and very easily use my imagination, though I sometimes wish I could properly utilize some of it 5. I often go against the mold and am very individualistic much to some peoples confusion
same. i find myself being stared at all the time or having the way i say things be considered unorthodox. at times it's affirming but at others it can really make me upset
Passion is really important that why I hate deadlines and I always finish my work in the last minute without being satisfied with my work, and probably that why I have been procrastinating writing my book 😂.
Yeah Nourah I sooo will put off things not interesting to me (work stuff etc) for last min. I do still find that the quality of my work will still be there as I have high perfectionistic standards for myself that always like to creep in. But yeah, my passionate stuff usually takes...the passion stuff just doesn’t pay any bills so I have to share the procrastination with the work stuff like we all do 😔 Sean
INFP HD exactly my passion stuff don’t pay the bills, I’m still a student but I pay my phone bill with my college money (in my country the government give the college students a certain amount of money), that’s really what makes me work harder bc I know how expensive the bills can be 😖.
Same. I'm a video editor full time, and while that is my true passion in life, it still takes me until the ABSOLUTE last minute to start things! Once I start, I breeze through and still manage to do well somehow (still unsure how that works lol), but it can be absolute torture living this way when it's my daily job to meet deadlines. I wind up feeling like I can never enjoy any time off because I secretly know how far behind I am with everything...meanwhile, my friends and family all think I work too much, but they don't realize I mostly just browse youtube and research weird things that pop into my head all day long haha.
Eastman Editing 🤣. That’s pretty cool you are a full time editor! I just stumbled across video editing a couple years back and find it to be a very vast creative outlet for me which is essentially never endless with room to always grow / improve. Since COVID started my job has had me working from home (was 100% travel prior as an electro-mechanical technician), and they don’t know about my UA-cam channel but I do make videos for work (random training stuff / production line videos). So to keep me busy they turned me into a work video editing machine where it’s not my footage etc, but it’s just everyday making little videos - DEFINITELY not the same as making passionate / personal UA-cam videos. I figured that would be a cool job, but as you know... editing is “work” that many won’t appreciate what goes into a 2 min video.
As an Infp, I feel like people don’t understand that we can’t be bound to one person or thing, or our worlds can’t revolve around one person 24/7. We like boundaries and personal space and we get too drained if someone expects us to be with them every second of the day.
...also just the "randomness" that comes out of my mouth from the short travel from my mind (which is usually clear as day when it starts out) lol Sean
@@INFPHD That randomness and imagination is Ne. We INTPs do this too. Because INFPs tend to be dominant Fi, the imaginative thoughts tend to be more fantastical. For us Ti doms, we tend to be more pragmatic. In general, INxPs tend to be more abstract and theoretical compared to their INxJ counterparts that tend to be more concrete and applied. You want a work of fiction, ask an INFP. You want a paper on scientific possibilities, ask an INTP. Also, you want your car fixed ask an ISTP, because an INTP will end up complaining about how stupid a part is and spend forever designing and redesigning that part. The car will never get fixed. ha! Not Sean
Whenever i read or watch anything about INFPS i relate so hard that i feel like the persons spied on me or read my diary or mind or something 😂😂😂 Yay INFPS can't imagine ever being anything different 💖💖💖
The crime is we weren't given the psychological tools necessary to process and integrate emotional experiences as children. How the hell is it reasonable to expect people to become adults when emotions are suppressed in favor of an inflated ego and over identification with a superficial social persona? ie jobs, possessions, status. It's like being mentally ill is the normative state. It's one thing to experience the emotions, but another thing entirely for INFPs, who place great meaning on their ideals, and tend to over identify with the object of such projections. This makes the fall exponentially worse, particularly for the highly sensitive and/or insecure ones. I'm willing to bet INFPs are the type with the highest suicide rate.
Yeah Robert I totally agree! It’s really sad that the bulk of society is forcing kids to “all” conform to a few ways to fit into the “cog wheel”. Some kids sure, they get a great jumpstart for their lives because that’s how they are geared. However, for types like us it is even MORE confusing when getting older and needing to unravel all those lessons taught in schools, by parents, etc. Yeah and it’s said that INFPs have the highest rate of suicidal thoughts in the teenage / college years (...I was one of those). Sean
@@INFPHD"it’s said that INFPs have the highest rate of suicidal thoughts in the teenage / college years " I can relate. I've been left with an overwhelming sense of despair a number of times throughout my life with such an intensity you can't help but wonder if you'll be able to survive it. That's what led me to psychology and Jung's idea of acceptance, and integration of emotional content. We have to learn to avoid over identifying with what we're feeling, and instead allow ourselves to feel whatever comes without resistance, and without judgement, in order to properly process it. I think allowing ourselves to experience something fully like that is the only way to avoid the potential of reliving it, or continuing to suffer, and is the key to acquiring emotional maturity and growth. I imagine a lot of the highly sensitive INFPs would gravitate toward more spiritual modes of thought. Be it religion, new age, whatever. For me it's psychology because I'm logically minded, but as Jung said, "psychology is religion". They are tools to extrapolate deeper meaning from ones subjective experiences, and what experiences are more 'real' than their internal, subjective experiences for the INFP or highly sensitive type? Is it any wonder that an emotionally repressed culture, it's overly shallow societal values, and despite it's virtue signalling, see's virtually no value is such modes of thought? It's teaches us there's no objectivity in emotional experience, but we're human, and the human experience is an emotional one. Therefore, true human objectivity, as much as it's possible, has to include subjective experience in order to be holistic in our understandings and approaches to life, especially in terms of our values. Anything other than that requires the suppression of emotional content, and can only be seen as pathological in nature. You need only look to the 20th century to see how that suppression lead to the greatest atrocities in history with the pathological over identification with political ideologies, and excessive materialism and divisions that led to hundreds of millions dead, and a disturbing level of exploitation of peoples, resources, and ecological destruction. I believe this to be the cause and effect of the lack of collective, psychological development manifested, and I think Nietzsche summed up this lack of psychological development, and loss of genuine human values perfectly in the simple phrase, "God is dead".
I can relate. my family members are mostly ST. as a teenager I grew up slowly hating myself for being emotionally turbulent and not as productive as the rest of my siblings.
I have always thought about how dying would probably be easier. I have thought about suicide so much growing up and still do In rough times but I care about the ppl around me so much I know it would hurt them way worse. I lack the conviction for suicide is all
@@kylemutti2992 Well, it'll inevitably come, so no need to rush it I figure, and in the meantime we have the sum total of all human knowledge at our fingertips to help us make some sense of it all: ua-cam.com/video/814A3eKthj0/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/D1MYqi3dyr0/v-deo.html
I just recently found out that I'm an INFP first time I felt understood, I was almost thinking there was no way I would have that understanding., I'm very passionate, mostly my best ideas I keep to myself, I have a deep connection to social issues... Good to know there is other people like me so I feel less alone.
Welcome to the little club Giovanna - nice to meet you 🤙🏻🥳 Yeah I felt a large rush of comfort / validation when I stumbled across MBTI many years back. Just the idea of “I wasn’t doing anything wrong, and I’m not the only one acting / thinking the way I do” really helped forward momentum! Sean
With helping people, I feel I get so invested in their problems that I forget to look after myself... so knowing I do that, I try to avoid people, like I will try to avoid finding out peoples problems. That is not to say I would ignore their problems if I knew of them.
Yep totally agree and a BIG reason why I think I keep my circle soooooo small. When I help...it’s DEEP help where like you said - we can drain our own selfs! Like now...the world has so many hurtful stories of people going through traumatic times associated to the COVID stuff etc. What I would love to do is help everyone! However, I almost shut myself down even tighter so to better protect my selfless nature when I hear someone hurting within reach of me. It’s hard to describe where it’s not seen as someone who then doesn’t care about others because we protect ourselves so much, but the depth of what we give when helping others is just on another level where that part needs reserved... We have so much to sift through on a daily basis in our own heads / life that when we take on another’s problems it can drain our batteries so fast that puts us out for a long bit after. So yeah, I have a soft spot for other people’s problems and typically won’t ignore them either if they land on my doorstep which is the balancing act.... Sean
That is a big problem with infps. In fact a lot of them aren’t identifiable and come of as cold and stuck up when they are really overly caring and trying to protect themselves from everyone’s issues
I'm an INFP. I sing, I write stories, I draw, I play guitar, I don't act and dance, but I'll probably get into that since I love Musical Theathre. I studied film... I'm not good with camera's, but I'd love to write a script... Tbh, I don't really know what my dream is. Out of all of this, I'd love to be all: A musical actress, write scripts and direct animation movies, write comics, etc... When peple ask me what I want to be, to be honest I feel conflicted, cause my life is like a zig-zag and society doesn't like people zig zagging a lot. I feel like I must make only one choice :( But it feels empty if I choose only one
TOTALLY get ya Maria! Yeah don't fret too much on what "society says" we should do. The majority of what "society" is made up of are people who are unfulfilled etc. INFP's are natural exploratory types. I can't stand setting goals for myself, I've never been married (39 now), I have job boredom around the 4-5 year mark and move on, etc etc. All of these are HORRIBLE life decisions which make me a "bad society representative". The random critics come in all the time "what's wrong with you?". The simple answer is "absolutely nothing"!. I just look at life differently and feel the same way as you with not limiting myself to one thing / lifelong path as most do. I can not stand how the best life plan still rules; Go to school, get a job (*and do it for 30 years), get married, buy a house, have kids, retire, then die. It's super ridged, and a lot of those avenues "chain you" into going off any paths of your own due to debt, security of a 401k / benefits etc. I have played in all that for the past 20 years, and have been working extremely hard to free my ties with things like that. High paying jobs, materialistic things, one job climbing high up the ladder and feeling stuck ("I can't quit now because I've already put so much into this job" - which is someone else's vision / dream by the way). I essentially go through life pretty fluidly flowing in different directions. It would seem as though I should be homeless according to societies "life guidelines", but that is not the case. I'm doing fine, and just personally like the more staying open approach to life and the excitement of where will it bring me to next! I drank the Koolaid for a looong time and year after year I was just more and more miserable until I accepted not to stay imprisoned in what the majority around us (especially family / friends) are spouting off in our ears. Sean
I really felt that. I love writing, editing, art, crafts, cooking, and those are only my main interests. So I decided that I’m going to share my passions through my UA-cam channel.
@@INFPHD thank you a lot for that message, really. I read it and loved it. Didn't answer cause I thought I had nothing to point, but then, yesterday I was also getting anxious with this topic again and your message came to my mind and I relaxed a bit. Thank you so much :) Really. I think I'll remember those words for a long time :)
lol Maria I can appreciate the hesitant responses (not what happened for me the message just fell through the cracks and just found it today) as we commonly need time to process things. Outside in the real world that time is not generally understood, but in here feel free to take all the time you need! It's a common understanding I have going with many of the viewers where they or I may not respond for awhile or at times ever...but, it's understood and no worries..
i feel you.. me zig zagging a lot makes my parents choose my path and bc i can't say anthing to that (that day).. here i am feel empty inside.. and yeah, this is my fault.
INFP best express themselves in 1 of 5 different ways: 1. Writing Volumes, 2. Inventing/Designing/Creating/Fixing Things , 3. Exploring Many New Ideas, 4. Thinking Endlessly, 5. Helping The Impoverished & Unhappy Exceptionally. To summarize ...bringing new exciting things into the world (from their imagination into reality) is probably the epitome of personal satisfaction or fulfillment. Thank you
As an INFJ I really appreciate INFPs, by far my favourite personality type. Even tho we share a lot similarities, we are very different on how we deal and react with things. Especially regarding empathy and helping people INFPs and INFJs together can change a lot for other people in so many different ways, it's amazing. I have a INFP friend who can give really good emotional support to others, while I tend to give advices for growth. Together it's really easy for us to support another person on pretty much all necessary levels.
lol yeah I have actually come to find that INFJ's are my top as well! Most of my UA-cam creator buddies I've stumbled upon are actually INFJs. As you said, we are very much different due to not sharing any primary cognitive functions. Yeah I agree with you to where I do tend to stay away from the full advice part when I'm in empathy mode - I will give advice, but it's usually not very direct or I'll sprinkle it in overtime when I feel times are more open for the advice. It almost seems like the most confused type that people come to trying to figure out is "am I INFP..or INFJ?". Like for me, I've always found my home to be INFP from first starting to stumble across the info as well as prolonged studying it all over the past 11 years or so. However, there are just so many things I feel we can both "understand" amongst each other that we can get consumed on some weird vudu empathetic relating thing. lol. I love targeting INFPs just for more of that "like-minded" high percentage rate, but I'm also super intrigued by others very different than me - in step INFJ's... Nice to meet you! Sean
I really like your presentation style. Your speech is clear, your tapes are audible, you're very engaging and you make me proud of being an INFP. Thank you very much.
Thanks David and pleasure to meet you 🤙🏻 Yeah sometimes I worry about how my excitement / energy comes across which may not be so relatable to many of the “calmer / quiet” INFPs. I’m not like that all the time, but during “video time” I get ramped up 🤪...Video editing/ UA-cam has just recently become a “passion” of mine and where I’ve put the majority of my creative energy into over the last year and a half. I’m “trying” to help represent and stand up for INFPs the best I can...it just gets OLD with the majority not getting where we are coming from. *nice last name 😉 Sean
I can NOT count the many times where people either called me "quiet, shy," or way too "passive", I'll talk if I need or have to and communicate when the case is really necessary, just because I just want to read a book and/or listen to music and let my mind wander doesn't make me "weak" or "naive" (People and even including my parents [with good intentions] have called me that too).
You catch the video I just posted Anahi a couple days ago about “things to not say to an INFP”? I got too talky, but do plan to add more things in another video and the Naive one is going to be in there. Yeah I’m not a fan either of people and their unthought out judgments towards us. I know that I go on the mantra of “to each their own” respect, but rarely do I get that in return...instead my own is judged 🙄 Sean
Or playing a game on your phone at a bar because whatever people are talking about bores you and ppl are talking that's there thing, I'm playing my game that's my thing, then ppl have to make a comment about how your on your phone or don't socialize, sorry if you don't vibe with me idk just not interested in small convos anymore, we don't vibe I really don't want to extend myself out, I want to talk about super deep stuff and most ppl want to gossip, (yawn) can we talk about something cool, or a passion or art project thing you're working on, not news, politics, or things like that. I wanna get inspired yo, instead I get blamed for not wanting to talk anymore, I feel most comfortable away from ppl currently unless someone peaks my interest and I don't feel like I have to be "dumped on" I'm more in a shutdown stage I feel, shutting alot of the world out til I decide to move back and be more independent again and start my life up better again, it's alot being an infp, especially when you're soaking up energies left and right and not the full amount of support you need. I need so much time to myself and so many ppl just don't get this, I like ppl but only when I don't feel I have to put so much of my guard up, and feel defensive, ☯️
A loud infp! You seem like a very balanced person, extro- and introverted wise! Also, infp's are often described as meek and quiet so I felt like, even as an infp, I didn't quite fit in. So I'm glad that I'm (apparently) not the only one lol
Lol hi Chiara! 🤗 Yeah UA-cam is something I came to be passionate about in the past couple years annnnnnd when an INFP finds passion and/or inspiration it can get a little loud / talky 🙌🏻🥳. I’ve also read that it’s said INFPs are one of the most extroverted of the introvert types. I’m obviously not always as open and animated like I am on my short videos, but I do like to sprinkle subtle cheer amongst people I daily interact with (not in a loud obnoxious way). My jobs have always required I high level of socializing and essentially doing things out of my INFP comfort zones for the past 20 years. A lot of stress etc has filled my life trying to navigate all that overtime, but yeah I do also feel that I am a more balanced individual because of the stuff I have endured...and how I am today is kinda my prize for going through all that. Nice to meet you 🤙🏻 Sean
I, too, may be a loud INFP. Used to think I might be an INFJ or INTP.. (who knows? Maybe I am) but my story is that I was super shy until college. I just sort of decided that being shy wasn't working anymore. People today think I am extroverted not realizing (until I tell them) that "My personality is the result of my own social experimentation... Unfortunately, it wasn't ready for human testing."
Awesome glad you enjoyed Kia 🤙🏻. Oh I’m quiet too...UA-cam videos however ramp me up so I can get a little loud etc (my pit bull thing at the moment)🤪🤗🥳 Hope all is well - nice to meet you 👍🏻 Sean
Sean, your point abous us INFPs' ability to sit with our feelings made me question how well are we in sitting with uncomfortable feelings. My UA-cam video this week was about negative feelings being predictor of Procrastination. It was based off of a study that came out ealier this year. Given how much us INFPs can procrastinate, I wonder if we're as comfortable sitting with or being with uncomfortable feelings without wanting to fix them 🤔 What have you noticed about INFPs, do we try to understand our feelings and behavior to fix or to just be with them?
Yeah Dory I can see it both ways. I feel no matter how you look at it INFPs are going to “understand” feeling to a great depth. Like I said in the video, I do like to “sit in the zone” with whatever feeling / experience I need to process through until I’m fully done with it. This could be 1 hour or 1 week+. Life however, creeps back in right after and hits us with different stuff we have to process deeply so essentially it’s just a feelings processing palooza for types like us in this chaotic world. But yes, depending on the “healthy level” of a specific individual they will either process that one experience to the end, take the learnings and move forward to the next OR just sit in a pity party with that one thing for months/ years letting it hold them down. But this is to go towards you and I’s back and forth with “everyone” needing a therapist. For me, I feel I am very productive/ efficient with my life struggles. If I really got stuck for months on end with things, then yes, I would go look to get assistance with those lingering issues I couldn’t shake / or have any slow momentum with. For me I don’t procrastinate getting to my feelings because the voices just won’t shut off until I do - I WILL put off chores and surface stuff to give myself that internal time. So it’s really not getting too specific in nature, but more so that as INFPs we generally “understand” feelings whether we deal with them or not is of an individual matter. Not dealing with them can still lead to decent Empathy skills etc. Sean
Hi Dory, good question. Maybe it can be both. I think a lot of the time it is to sit with them. And over time that helps us, as we have seen this before and we know how to deal with I. So when it comes around again it's easier to move forward through. We may not want to move out of that emotion straight away, out of some sort of nostalgia. For myself I find a lot of beauty and something poetic in those places. And I realise that this can be of use for others later. I can use it help others. "It's just a feeling, you are allowed to feel it, there is nothing wrong with it. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. It's an imaginary fear. Fear can't hurt you, but you are allowed to feel it. You are supposed to feel it as a human being." It's when you don't learn from it, or stagnate in it where it becomes problematic. Negative self talk, combined with believing your doubters. I'm not sure this answers your questions, just musing. You would have a far greater understanding of human behaviour than me. I guess I just know how I use it. An anecdotal story that happened to me yesterday. One of many in the life of an INFP. By accident I misread a gesture from an old lady across the street from where I was working. It looked like she was calling for assistance waving with mail in her hand, but she was just waving. I went over to her anyway just to make sure. I explained sorry I wasn't sure if you were waving me over or just waving to say hello. It turned out to be quite a serendipitous moment of sorts. She started to ask me a couple of questions, I could sense straight away that she was lonely. And glad that I came to say hello. I would guess she was in her late 80s, early 90s. Fighting back the tears, trying to stay staunch and not lose face, she proceeded to tell me of the passing of her husband a year or two ago, how hard it is for her. In real time I could see myself slipping into infp mode. Taking away the awkwardness for her, finding words of comfort, empathising with her, giving her that unthreatening, non judging space to open up without fear. Though I'm half her age and the opposite gender. Dipping into my Si bank, with words of wisdom. I found myself giving her instructions in a didactic way. Asking her questions, finding those moments where she was struggling, and hitting them right on the head. Everything she does, everything she sees is a painful reminder of the loss of her life's companion. Long story shortend, she was thankful for my presence, for talking and listening. Bouyed by my words, and stronger for them. Able to face another long and lonely day ahead, with some small tasks I set her, and a few dreams and goals to chase. I left her with a warmth of happiness, and an ever so slender slither of vest for life. It's not over till its over. You still have more to give and more to experience. Never stop dreaming.
@@INFPHD these are great insights, and I agree, as INFPs we are empathetic in nature. I think there's value in having the ability to sit with or be with negative feelings and being an observer of them rather than identifying with them to the point of being overcome by them, which if I'm understanding correctly, is the distinction you were making 👌🏾
@@Burtifly wow, what a beautiful moment you had with the elderly lady. I felt like you were taking me through it all. I could almost imagine how the moment unfolded. I completely understand the point you made about INFPs and being in and with difficult emotions. I tell you, I paint the best when I'm melancholic 🤷🏿♀️ I can't explain it. But it seems like I go to this creative space that I don't seem to tap into any other times. So there certainly is value in and through all emotions.
I was an INFP and I'm a musician, song writter (My passion) I was currently working at a Company as an HR "Human Resource " As I listen to those traits that you've said I was enlighten , I realize that the very thing that I need to pursue was my passion which is Music, but that doesn't mean that I don't like my Job anymore it's my source of income for my family but I'm not planning to stay long.. I was doing my baby steps now If I start earning with music I probably leave my Job as soon as possible Thanks man I really apreciate this..
Its Strange because I love dancing, painting/ drawing, playing music, writing songs and sometimes poetry but I also have a thing for Technology and programming. I’m not sure but most INFP’s loving learning new things and Technology changes and becomes more advanced so you keep on learning more even after you get out of college and get a job. The only downside to this is deadlines!!! I am a true procrastinator and I still am. Yet, I still never understood how I was still decent in school... but working in tech program can be tough if you are a procrastinator because you have to meet certain deadlines or they’ll get on you about it. I think that’s the only concern i’m having and also I am very sensitive. Since there’s not a lot of Black people in Tech, in some places they treat you totally different from others.
that is how i also think about myself. i dont like calling people and join in the group for chit chat but whenever they need someone to talk to and they ask me to listen for them then i will be there, stay with them, the whole nigh, day, or whatever until they feel better. by it means, if they need a help from me then i will be there for them but don't expect me to ask things for you first lol
Wow, this just came at the perfect time! And it's all so true. Everytime I heard, INFPs are just thinking about themselves, I just couldn't relate to that. I don't care about myself being miserable ( because I am for as long as I can think.... ) - I just can't stand when other living beings ( people, animals...) suffer. This makes me sick and sad and I have to do something! I always thought, ok I am not a typical INFP in this trait. But hearing you talk about this opened my eyes. Other types sometimes just don't seem to understand how some types ( especially INFJs and INFPs ) can be so altruistic that they act "weird" for them. This is hard to explain.....like always hehe.... but I hope you understand what I mean! Again, sorry for my English 😅 Greetings from Bonn, Germany! Oh, and sorry for not commenting for a longer time! I am going through some hard times right now....I just didn't care for myself for too long it seems, and my body and mind set the boundaries now 🥴
Hey girl!...I see you changed your circle picture thingy - what is that? Sooo I would say you "should" care also about your own "misery"! I do completely understand what you essentially mean by it, as I can appreciate understanding / being in touch with those dark elements. However, to basically accept that is not the best outcome. It's a SUPER daily struggle to not fall into our spiraling ways without much notice - but it is worth it to fight that spiral getting better and better at it. I've been there (still obviously fight it all) to where the extreme of myself (debt, stress, low confidence / self esteem, etc.) all ran my life BUT I kept falling for the energy of "helping others out FIRST". It was always just a revolving door to "my unhappiness" which is 100% the MOST important happiness, and I don't care what anyone else takes from that methodology which is typically "you're selfish". Absolutely I will be selfish if that revolving door of wrong energy shifting is required. When I get "my stuff" together with a better balance then I will focus more for others. I do believe that we should as humans make attempts to make other peoples lives better (whatever that avenue may be), but not at the cost of us first like I said. It's hard because you want to avoid that judgment from others thinking you are a selfish person but that I feel is just the first mental step to overcome. It gets better and better when you break that life hurdle for us. Yeah and I will obviously always understand if I don't hear from you for long durations (glad you came back though!) because I understand all the concepts above. I would rather have "balanced Karin" than "miserable Karin" brightening up the comments section.... Hope all is well with the Fam! Sean
I smile knowing how similar we are...I cry knowing how similar we are. I now have a superpower developed recently in my ability to tell if someone is an INFP...
Wow. The timing of your upload is sublime. I was having a weird, sad day (for no reason at all:') and felt dispirited when right enough i see your video and it genuinely brightened me up. Thank you for that.💙 The individualistic-ness😂 you spoke of holds so true for me and is something im learning to embrace, as I'm aware that as INFPs we feel so damn left-out & 'different' that we either distance ourselves totally or somehow squeeze ourselves unhappily into social frames which really don't serve us well. Thanks for reminding us of our gifts.😇 Its so comforting (and also fun) watching you rant out stuff that's always on my mind :)
Glad to hear Jemma - yeah you never really know when something you do can have a “perfect timing” thing going on with it. ...are you making fun of the words I seem to make up in each video!?!??🤔🤔🤣. Yeeeeah I think I need to start compiling my own dictionary - stuff just spews out in a mess often times lol. Glad you enjoyed and hope all is good 🤙🏻 Sean
@@INFPHD 😂😂omg noo I'm in NO WAY making fun of the words you make up, cuz i myself tend to do that so often! It was just amusing to see you do that too, its really just overall fun to watch and identify :)
Wow! Sean, this video is REALLY GOOD!! 🤩👍 I think every INFP should watch this video... like when someone's MBTI test result is INFP, this should be required watching, INFP 101! Your message was very encouraging & inspiring! I like the way you filmed & edited the video as well! Bravo! 👏❤🌟✨ I love your shirt too... it made me smile! 😄🦏🦄💖
Thanks Emoji Queen Ciera 🤗 Just good to sometimes reflect on what we do well instead of how we all to commonly can get pulled down into negative land, and feel we can’t make positive impacts in the world... Sean
Totally agree on how our imagination are being frown upon by society when in adulthood. It always make me feel like I'm different from others. But again, I love being different. Just wish people would understand infps more.
Yeah Laura there is just a lot of things we typically do that are frowned upon. However, when we frown against what the majorities are doing it’s not the same. There is no reason why they can’t do their things and we can’t do ours... that is honestly a balance the world needs instead of the bully group suppression that is all too common. Just keep on beating to your own drum as that’s our best path...even if it’s a little harder than the easier approach of “giving in”. Sean
Glad to see a fellow INFP who shows awesome side of INFP. I personally think weakness and strength is very narrow concept. It's a socially constructed paradigm that doesn't actually mean much but certainly has negative impact on our way of thinking and living. Weak/strong to what?(to be secure or to success in the society?pff) It's associated with the idea 'one's gotta survive' which is based on fear of death and dieing. Once we can detach ourselve a bit and seeing the process of life and death in the universe and drop the negative association and the concept of survival being the most important, it is not really scary. Anyway good to discover your channel, it is impressive how many contents you can squeeze out of INFP topic. I've seen many channel made few vids on INFP but moved on to other subject. I made one INFP video for side tracking and use INFP as a tag for few of my videos but that's about it, ha!
Thank you so much for adding that POV on altruism. I've been wreaking myself so much because I don't see myself as selfish at all and it actually physically hurts that people see us that way.
Speaking as an INFP man, I think it might be useful to do a video that helps INFPs to develop a life strategy that helps us overcome the life challenges common to everyone, but that many INFPs may not manage to navigate as smoothly as other personalities. For example, as idealists with a tendency to pursue the creative arts, it's very hard for us to make a living out of what we are passionate about whether that be writing, music or art. Of course, that doesn't stop us, does it? But as courageous as it is to pursue your dreams and passions in the face of the cold indifference of others, there are some basic realities we INFPs face like everyone else. You know, earning enough to cover our living costs and saving for major life events like getting married, becoming a parent and so on. My point for mentioning this is that I read somewhere that we INFPs tend to be the personality type that is most often poorly paid and dissatisfied by the kind of work we feel we have to do to pay the bills. Therefore, might it be worth looking at things like The Financial Independence Retire Early Movement to see if the journey towards financial freedom might help many of us quit the job we hate and live the life we've imagined in our head? I mean, as an INFP, I used what I learned from F.I.R.E to pay my mortgage off early. And now I invest in the stock market to achieve one of my most cherished dreams which is to set up my own scholarship fund to promote the values and principles of community education.. Perhaps an understanding of how to use money as a tool that can breathe life into our ideas and make our values, principles and ideals concrete in the real world might help other INFPs achieve the kind of life goals that inspire them to get up in the morning and make a difference in the world. Of course, money isn't the only thing here. We could do a whole spiel on how we feel misunderstood by others yet seem to be the most tolerant of people towards the opinions of others. Or how about our natural tendency to seek harmony and minimise conflict being at odds to the kind of flirtatious behaviour and banter we need to engage in as INFP men to attract women. After all, for a lot of INFP men, putting a woman on the spot and qualifying her while also sexualising the conversation and paying attention to her body language to see if she seems interested in being kissed is a lot to focus on at once and requires us to flip large chunks of our personality on its head, don't you think? The one saving grace for us in the whole dating thing is that when we are being flirtatious etc we can channel our idealistic/romantic streak into giving the woman we date the Holywood movie moment. You know, try to channel our inner Mr Darcy even though we are probably a lot more like a character from a Tim Burton movie, say Edward Scissorhands.
I'm an infp and we don't want to infringe on people and that's why we are not aggressive about contacting people. We think we're bothering you. Good video.
So much truth! I will not reach out to others to ask (re: bother) them if they need anything, but I will drop things like work to my own detriment to go help someone if they reach out to me. I've gotten better about saying "no" to helping people when I truly do not have the capacity, but it's a constant learning experience and struggle for me. I think because of my lack of "direct charity," people don't see me as warm and generous unless they've personally needed something from me. Then I am described as selfless and loyal haha. But I have been called "selfish" by more than one person...it used to bother me, but now I'm learning to be proud of it and flip it around. I'm not "selfish," I'm confident, independent, spontaneous, and I know what I want." All of which can come across as "selfish" to codependent, insecure, indecisive, people.
Yeeeeeeah so something I would write lol - fun to relate! I agree that most of the words thrown at us most likely come from people who are more co-dependent on others and also just over compensating their “helpful nature” which if anyone does a lot of that it’s not “the best” help. I do honestly feel that I have the ability to deeply help others when I’m called upon to do so, but that’s also because I have reserved that energy to help more on a deeper / less surface level approach. I’m not the best at “oh don’t worry, just hang in there, things will get better”. I am almost incapable of spouting things off like that, and would rather not say anything at all when those times present themselves. May get awkward during that listening time, but I’m interested in truly fixing stuff - not just comfort surface talk... Pleasure to meet you!!🤙🏻 Sean
Hi Sean, beautiful job with the editing on this one, it was seamless. Thanks for making Fi look so good. You are right, I would do anything for someone I care about BUT I never make random calls to check on them🤷♀️. Empathy was always comes up high when I do a “strength” finder, oddly I’m not so good at sympathy. Meredith ps I remembered to “Like” this one😊🌸
INFP HD Hey Sean, thanks for the message l have been wondering if you were OK since you have been quiet for a while. Work has been crazy as it always is in Spring so I have been driving all over the state looking at wheat trials. Ellie and I went to dog school yesterday, she was awesome 😊 We have been working on an obstacle class and she loves it. She also had a birthday and is now 6. Zeke turns 1 this week. He has finally stopped chewing and digging 🤗 and is still a clown so he makes me laugh a lot. He is also quite smoochy and very obedient but maybe not as smart as Ellie-girl or maybe just smart enough to know that he should just follow Ellie. He will go back to school in intermediate class soon, he also loves it. I wish I could attach a pic of them. How are things with you? Enjoying your break from UA-cam?
You got the busy work stuff down girl!! 🙌🏻 Glad those two are keeping you happy especially with their different personalities you get to pick from. I still have hopes Zeke will chew one of your shoes 🥳 (...ok you can de-subscribe now lol).
As a kid, there was this show on MTV where gnarly injuries were the bases of the show, I think it was called scarred. I could never understand why my brother could watch it without cringing or wincing, and meanwhile I’m over there whimpering like I’m in actual pain. My empathy is so strong, I stay away from some movies and videos because it physically hurts
lol I remember that show! Jacoby Shaddix from Papa Roach (one of my favorite bands) hosted that. Yeah, human nature is drawn to gore etc (why people rubber neck at crash sites, or go to a Nascar race - to see a wreck). But yeah, I hear ya - I'm totally not into horror movies etc. Sean
This was AWESOME!!! I wanted to let you know b/c, there have to be multitudes of others out there saying, "Heck, yeah!!" in agreement to everything you just said. But 90% (just threw that figure out there for ya'.....but it's probably right) were most likely nodding their heads and saying, "Yup." So thanks for this video. First time viewer & I'm more than happy to find you!! Have a good one! :)
Whoaaaa you've got many subscribers right now.. i think i still remember when you've made video to celebrate having 1000 subscibers. Thankyou to facilitate us INFPs to have like minded environment in this youtube world! As always i'm liking the content that you've made 👍👍
I recently saw a video by another guy, a funny one, that was about INFP, I had no idea why the YT algorithms had served it up. As I watched it I started to realise this was like me so I went and researched it and soon understand that it was part of this Myers Briggs system thing based on Jung's ideas, and now it really intrigued me why every single joke in the video related to me. So I went and did the test on some other site and lo and behold... INFP. So since then I started watchin more INFP stuff. Everything you say on this is totally like me also. You describe it well. Thanks.
I came back here because I seemed to have remembered something about being naturally good at writing and imagination, it used to be me, but now I've been in physical pain for so long every time I try to think of something to imagine I can't, I don't know if my physical pain is hampering my ability to imagine and generate ideas for songs and stories but I just feel so lost at this moment, I think I'm actually ENFP, the more I've researched these past months the more ENFP makes more sense for me but it still doesn't take away how relatable your videos have been Sean, that ability to think of lyrics or think of a story or even think of an anime plot on the spot while being alone with my thoughts was the best and now that it's gone I miss it, I am not trying to write this comment to call attention to myself, I'm writing so that if there is even the slightest possibly I'll finally be free from this leg pain prison, that I may have a reminder of what I naturally have inside me that was taken by the pain, the phrase 'You never know what you have until it's gone' has been so relateable these past few months first my ability to run left me and then my ability to imagine also left. Dear future me if you ever get across the hell you currently face and make it to the other side a better and stronger person, never and I repeat NEVER take your ability to sleep, run, and imagine for granted ever again
Yeah I feel you on the taking stuff for granted till it's gone. I was 100% healthy up till 27 to where I got Type 1 Diabetes. This type is typically diagnosed in juveniles and Diabetes was something I didn't even know what it was. So for the last 13 years now with it I have also got side effect stuff from it year after year that a 39 year old should not be dealing with rather it's stuff 60 year old's start getting. It's not easy to deal with things that we don't see coming, but I just tell myself that it could be worse. Diabetes is something that can be "managed" so it's not like cancer or something. You ever heard of Nic Vujicic? He (among many others) helps inspire me when my mind starts trying to tear me down and hold me into the darkness... ua-cam.com/video/nknzSWDcUgA/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/mgmVOuLgFB0/v-deo.html Sean
Lol yeah the pit bull part / idea cracked me up when I was editing through my timeline. I should just make a video of me editing a video cracking myself up with all the dumb ideas that come into my head while doing it all...
I have INTP friend and yeah she's so great and kind to me. She always said to me I need to brave to say no to certain things. Put myself first before others to avoid me getting stress out.
You are adorable and quick and snappy enough that I smiled & laughed all through this! You’re as charming as a chubby unicorn haha! your tee shirt rhino! whole video is so fun on a serious subject! Thx
Lol thanks Eskay. Yeah I get a little excited during video making. Most of the time it’s hard to keep to the point, but I was happy that the message came across good. Nice to meet you 🤙🏻 Sean
Hi Sean, How are you? I hope you’re having a wonderful July 4th holiday!! I loved this video, all your points mentioned are very accurate for me as well. And I’m positive that they are for you, mainly because I’ve experienced the receiving end from your great advice!! Thanks so much as always for hearing me out and being the person you are! Have a wonderful evening Sean!! 🥰
Doing well Ana - thanks! Yeah the kid was down in Florida for the last couple weeks so my 4th just consisted of being at home and trying to sleep through all the neighborhood fireworks that have been going off for the last week. Hopefully you are finding some "you time" down there with everything that is going on for ya... Sean
Me too 👍🏻 Yeah the comments sections are FILLED with relatable stuff / cool people so do make yourself comfortable. I know the overall vibe of the channel and it’s “safe” to let your hair down. I just wanted a place that likeminded people could relax opposed to what we go through in the “real world”...
Sean especially reaching out to people I sometime does and write a long paragaph or i just play the entire convo in my head only to delete it and choose not say anything and keep my distance. Anyone else??
Yes, prior to creating content on UA-cam I never engaged “once”. I loved watching relatable content etc but I had a fear of being judged etc. obviously now going from 0 to 1000% in like a short time frame I have found that it’s actually safer than you would think - especially when it’s a “targeted INFP” channel. INFPs are generally going to shy away from giving you harsh criticism etc and not to say there aren’t unhealthy ones out there or other types watching the channel (there are), but I have been hyper tuned in to what goes on as I see the comments that roll in everyday (through all my videos). I’m obviously the biggest target as I’m the one sitting myself in the spotlight, but even with that I’ve only deleted two comments in my 1.5 years of making content. One of those people I blocked. I made a video awhile back “Keeping this channel safe for INFPs”, and I’m still fully onboard with that. I know personally what it is like to feel suppressed due to the harsh world not understanding us. This is a passion of mine, and I am very sensitive to anyone bullying others. I also made a “Lurker” video which also explains my understanding of what you are facing as I was no different.. But yes, I get people writing me long comments and then deleting them all the time. The thing is that those comments have the ability to help so many people that it’s an unfortunate thing... Safe place vid: ua-cam.com/video/UPRWpwWXE5k/v-deo.html Lurker vid: ua-cam.com/video/2vSo5xKcYnc/v-deo.html
So I'm a male INFP. This guy is most relatable INFP I've ever seen on a youtube video. I think we grow out of a lot of the more stereotypical INFP traits and get a bit tougher and more grounded with age. *Edited to clarify- I think we become more assertive and confident in being who we are and we learn how to better articulate our insights - and this video kind of demonstrates that.
Pleasure to meet you Jay 🤙🏻 Appreciate the cool comment and you taking the time to drop it. This is something I do mentally struggle with from time to time because even though I am simply just being myself on the videos (extremely small portion of my day, I’m not like that for 24hrs) I worry that it may not be so relatable (helpful) to most just due to my age and where I’m at in “my” life. I have started to really come into my own very heavily over the past few years which is just a LOT of self reflection time etc. over MANY years where I was finally ready to let go. UA-cam was an extreme social media jump for me where I came from only using Facebook about once a year on my birthday. This platform for me is a creative outlet with video editing, a place to potentially help others, and also where I can just vent out my lifetime of learnings/ reflections. I am big on “breaking the negative stereotypes” regarding typology to where many will assume INFPs can “only” be this, talk like this, look like this etc. In the early stages, sure, I fit more into INFP stereotype stuff, but if one is to focus on developing those negatives you can round yourself out better as a “human being”. You gain a higher self confidence, and can articulate all the abstract inner stuff like you said much better. In doing all that you don’t take away the ever important classification you feel the need to be INFP (some unfortunately use the MBTI tool as an extreme, so when they find the “INFP home base” they then limit their growth by staying confined to that box 🥴)...you just learn to make your preferences navigating the world work more efficiently. I still daily struggle to fight off my comfort zone, but everyone does - at any age. The more you win those battles by painting on that canvas, writing pages in that book, making music, etc etc when you don’t want to the better chance you have at the world being able to see our creative gifts opposed to us hiding out in the shadows over fear of criticism and just wanting to fully protect our inner world at all costs (meaning no one except you gets to enjoy). I did all that - I’m 39 now - I want to try something different, and I will say the more I just open up / be vulnerable - the better my life is getting with each day....no BS! Thanks again man, hope all is well 😎 Sean
@@INFPHD Thank you for that really thoughtful reply- i'm pretty much going to agree with. you for the rest of this comment, if you'd like to skim. Haha. I don't know if it's INFPs or male INFPs or just me...but I didn't really grow into my own skin until my mid-30s. There are aspects that will always just be who I am- i'm gonna march to the beat of my own drum and i'm going to have a rebellious streak and a sometimes inconvenient tendency to empathize, but as I've gotten older, I've learned how to incorporate those aspects into my life and stay true to who I am without feeling the need to assert *this is who i am!* Turns out you are I are very close to the same age- which is probably one big aspect of why I connected to your videos in a way I generally haven't with others. So yes- I find what you're sharing in these videos very relatable and helpful- and there is a real value in that, ya know? So thank you. I look forward to watching more of them. (BTW- i literally post on facebook once a year- a "thanks everyone" post on my birthday. Funny stuff)
Yeah soooo crazy! I do enjoy relating to all commenters, but the age demographics are more of the 20’s crowd. I do feel that sharing our wisdoms can help the younger crowd, but at the same time I try to navigate it softly as I remember when I was a younger age “I want to experience it for myself - thanks old dude who doesn’t get it”. So when I do get random ones around my age and older there is an obvious deeper connection just due to that extra time / experiences we have gained to then form that coming into our own. I have had a good bit of conversations where other INFPs (women ones too) had that mid thirty/ early 40 light switch turn on. Like honestly for me...I’m looking more forward to my 40’s than any other past decade. Just all that sifting through information for so long to then have that better overall life clarity / self confident validation is empowering! I will say though that comments along these lines help me mentally to just keep doing “my thing” and being myself - at my age. I did all those teenager, 20’s, 30’s INFP things so I feel I can still provide a soft insight to my learnings and what I wish I would have done sooner, but with also understanding an “INFP majority audience” I have to tread cautiously with my “you guys GOT to do this” Lol. ...I’m just happy that I don’t have to make that birthday reply for like another 6 months 🙌🏻 Sean
About "Altruism", i´ve struggle a lot in my life trying to toughen up, be more assertive, even more agresive, since i was little my dad would encourage me to fight back the bullies defend my little sister, but it was so hard and i hate violence, my atempts to be more agressive never were agressive enough, if that makes sense. As an adolescent i tried to portray myself as less friendly and unninterested, but because of this socialize became harder and i also developed social anxiety at the time. I actually think my personality changed, i became more bitter and pesimistic. Is sad, but i think is true that you can´t be too nice because people take advantage of you, and not only kids, adults do the same, i´m 26 now, and i'm trying to find balance between making people take me serious and still be able to socialize beacuse i've isolated myself for too much time, ironicly now i'm trying to be a little more like i used to.
Yeah I think INFPs in general (especially early on) struggle with a lot of the things society and the majority of those around us (especially family / friends) deem as stuff we NEED to be doing. I agree that there is something to be said for strengthening our personal boundaries and getting better at saying "no" for example - otherwise you will get beat up a good bit. I was heavily bullied early on all through highschool, and that is my top thing I despise now-a-days - not when it happens to me (I'm VERY good at processing through that stuff now - years of practice), but when others are being bullied. That is something which for me personally (everyone has their own things) will put me into an out of character aggressive state. But yeah, I've been in "one" physical fight my entire life which was me stepping in the middle of a guy beating up a girl at a bar (to my surprise I won...nice to know I can defend myself if it comes to that...) and that was around age 30. I have just never understood the need for aggression, and typically when I do try to bark it comes out more like a yap from a small dog (especially if the people really know me). I stumbled across MBTI a couple years after your age and that really helped me feel validated regarding the things I was doing were not "wrong", just "different", from what the majority around me was doing. This validation really started my 30's (39 now) as the path towards self-acceptance and not caring / doing what I thought others expected from me. It's not like I'm 100% non-caring to what people think of me, BUT I'm a lot more forgiving with it all which that then creates a self confidence vibe to which people respect in that light. THEN - naturally they will take you more seriously based on that. TRUST ME....I did it for sooooo long - you do what people want you to do because you feel it will limit conflict and increase their happiness with you....it doesn't. *and you may very well have to go through the motions more yourself to get that "experience", it's just something I wish I could go back and tell young Sean about... It's been a looooong road and still I have my daily struggles to overcome, but it's honestly just the faster you accept yourself and the things you do is when your "INFP life" really awakens!! Nice to meet you Lorena! Sean
For a year I was heavily isolated because of what my job was. Essentially stuck in a box with about 10 others and we all got along and understood each other. But I was able to be alone and at times I would be saying maybe 100 sentences in that whole day. When I came back from that and joined the larger part of my work. I was freaking out inside, I didn’t know anyone except for a couple people and I had essentially forgot how to handle people. Still don’t but I know more.
@@firewing1319 that sucks, at my job i would have no problem dealing with costumers, but it was pretty hard for me to get along with my coworkers, we had a very nice polite relationship but i didn't know how to interact with them in a more friendly way, and most of them were really close with each other but i couldn't really open up and comfortable although i work there for more than 3 years. Actually a few months of therapy helped me.
Yeah Firewing I personally like to work alone or in small groups (as most viewers on here probably do). However, to find that while also needing to mingle in society to “pay the bills” it’s not always going to be that way. The jobs I have held essentially were very extroverted type jobs where good verbal skills were basically required. It’s not ideal, but the more you just keep taking it day by day things do get easier for you to navigate through all those people - you just more and more get an idea of what to expect which lowers anxiety the more you hack away at trying to figure it out (goes with anything in life obviously). So yeah, the early stages of being amongst a large group are extremely stressful...just takes time. Sean
Yes to all of them! I LOVE that "silver platter" image you used. I tend to describe it as myself often running through simulations with various outcomes and hence having a massive library not just on thoughts but also on the emotional scape! Solutions, the workings of thongs, connections! It's all there. And I love how you speak about the aspect of how it's all there but we're not prone to go out with it (unless it happens to follow our passion and path). But if someone (with the um.... correct "authorisation" 😂) opens a door for us to go through or comes in for help, we're completely there. And that's also a crucial aspect: being fully there when we are in service of another person. It's crazy. On a lot of things we're pretty much all which people idolise. But "strangely" (obviously 🙄) people tend to shun everything that comes as a price and consequence of nurturing these very skills. Even though it's simple logic! - High social skills require a lot of reflection. - High creativity requires a lot of retreat for the intake, processing and rearrangement/recombination of information - high empathy requires high sensing and processing skills. They naturally lead to a shortage of intake time before the storage is full X'D - high grade if integrity - as you said - requires to leave group dynamics or switch between many. Naturally consumes a lot of energy and strains endurance. All these "No"s and "Don't"s on our ways....... It's SO helpful when you get a "I don't get it but if it's what you need, then go for it! Can I help in any way?" - all that naturally consumes a lot of time One of the nice pictures I like to usr is that of wine. If you want a really good one you need to wait out the right weather conditions, give it the right treatment, give it the space it needa, give it the time it needs. That's when you get to enjoy a wonderful result. There's no forcing it (without quality loss). Great video!
I work very hard to keep is safe down here on a daily basis and I can assure you the vibe down here across all my videos is a relaxing comfortable one. My video I’m gonna post in the AM goes into my comments section and the high value I hold for it. As well the “novel commenters” which I feel you will be fitting into that category (I throw my share of novels down here as you will find) and that I sometimes struggle getting to those comments because they take so much time to process and really do justice on a quality reply to where I can get easily burnt out by all the little ones. So yeah tomorrow’s video goes into all that, but yes prior to me making content 2 years back I didn’t engage a single bit on social media. Now since I realized I didn’t die I try to lightly encourage the viewers to also do the same because it’s a super helpful thing down here especially when someone like you takes the time to drop the comments you just have. Forget about me....it helps future viewers!!
@@INFPHD We're so in tune! I let replies sit for up to a month. And then I have days where I go through them all and am gushing with the passion to reply deeply and in an "individual cut" way. 😊 I've learnt to teach my friends about it. Now they're used to it and even form good habits. Such as running on instant reaction pressure or reply pressure at all. They all have my encouragement and permission to not touch our conversations before they're ready no matter the time. I love them either way and urgent matters will be communicated in different ways. 😁 Here I thought I'm the only person who always has in mind how forming a well considered comment always makes sense. If not for the person we reply to, then for the people who follow and read along even years later. 👀 Have we just spotted another (non-exclusive) "INFP thing"? Who knows! I'll be enjoying to look through your channel (as my pace allows me to 😂)
Yeah it’s my favorite thing is to “relate” and also I started using that phrase recently. Yeah I just get a lot of people who are new to my channel who delete their comments (great comments) before I get to them. I would typically always reply very fast so I could soothe their minds of a piece of them being out in the world and...well, what our minds can do. But with the channel getting bigger I burnt out a little more trying to sustain all comments because I just know the bravery it takes for us to put things out there that I want to appreciate ALL of them...just can’t always do that as I’m not some special person and need my downtime like everyone else does. It’s just the viewers can easily lose site of that so that’s really what tomorrow’s explanation is so people stay encouraged to engage and not lurk. My longtime viewers we definitely have that “understanding” you mention above, but people who don’t know me yet runaway. I assume I’ll make a video like this every 6 months or so lol
GUILLERMO!...sorry I’ve been meaning to hunt down one of your older comments BUT now that you are here... I’ve watched the first 3 episodes of Anne with an E throughout this week. Good stuff👍🏻👍🏻 Sean
@@INFPHD sorry for jumping in this conversation but YOU WATCHED ANNE WITH AN E? I'm such a huge fan. I thought she's an INFP, but she seems extroverted... maybe ENFP? Or just a very passionate INFP lol.
Yeah Misty I watched a few episodes. Guillermo sent me that way a while back. I do see many think of her as an ENFP, but yeah like you said - INFPs when they are excited about something come off very extroverted/ chatty (I know I do!). Sean
Have you noticed Sean that these strong personality characteristics also make for the perfect 'religious' revolutionary 'nut job' cult leader LIKE... Jesus or Joan of Arc or Kylo Ren ;-)
Oh for sure. All things, even in good light, can be turned into positive cult like stuff OR really "nut job" type stuff. BUT I also see the other cult (the majority / society) side of things where those words are heavily missing...
Im an INFP and whenever I hear peoples struggles I feel selfish and like im victimizing myself whenever I get really anxious and held up on their struggles
That’s awesome James!👍🏻 I totally admire those who have put books out into the world. I myself don’t see writing a book in my personal deck of cards, but editing videos very much feels like writing in many ways as it allows time for us to process our thoughts and get it into something that makes better sense for others. Not always easy to put out that vibrant internal side of us without the needed time... Pleasure to meet you 🤙🏻 Sean
Yeah everyone is a mess Melanny! We have sucky things that we must navigate to a higher extent than other types, but just the same as other types have things we can do with less effort. The only problem where it seems like we are a mess more is just because society (especially western society) is built more naturally for types a good bit opposite to us. So yeah....we all suck the same - society just enhances our issues and makes them look worse which then can make INFPs feel worse cause of it. **I don't like stereotypes / societies pressures to all fit in "their designed box"! Sean
I found out I was INFP about a year ago and it kinda helped me understand myself better. However, I think I've been in the dark state for so long. People kept insisting that I utilize the skills I have in things that I really don't want to do and it kinda brought me to this confused state of who I am. Because of so much pressure from people, it's like I'm half-cut to fit a mold so now I'm struggling to relive my actual passion. I used to be VERY passionate in language and arts but because people were focused in my skills in math and science, it was just awful. Now, that passion is half-dead. Though there are moments when I get the urge to relive it, i'm also currently dead inside overall. I just dont have the drive to do anything at all because i'm so afraid of undergoing the same pressure. It was like I just shutdown due to the extreme need to feel less pressured. I can't even tell anyone because of the fear of being misunderstood or the fear of the image I have already printed in their minds.
Yeah I totally feel ya on this comment! For a large part of my life I was constantly trying to figure out where I fit in and how I can contribute stuff I'm into out in society. However, the strong fear of criticism, judgment, etc from anything I pull out of my inner world was always too heavily something I protected - plus it's just "easier". Why would someone do something knowing it is going to make their life harder due to criticism etc. In reality I have found the saying "Do what is easy, your life will be hard. Do what is hard, your life will be easy." to have some truth to it. I'm 39 now and up until about 5 years ago or so I was still just brain fogged and held back by my fears of those around me (which are generally non-like minded types) and their opinions. So essentially when everything started coming together and I was able to better see through the fog my self confidence began to grow as well as I evaluated everything in a way that "well, I've been doing it this way for soooo long and I'm consistently unhappy....what if I do the opposite and embrace those little voices that randomly whisper to me coming back to the creative side of things??". It's definitely not the easier path to make your passionate inner stuff for the world to then step all over (which they will no matter how good it is..), but I have found that when you start to embrace that stuff it essentially starts pulling you out of the mud that we can easily set ourselves into. I have a constant pressure feeling on my shoulders to create a video in a consistent manner which is not ideal because I'm not always in the mood and I have plenty of my low low days to navigate through like the rest of us, but when I do actually get things creatively moving I feel better each time. At first it's going to be super difficult because the slightest judgment from someone else is going to have you second guess your value, but it's just something that INFP's have to work on to reach personal happiness in my opinion. This is a big reason why I made those Famous INFP videos as I was one who used them as examples to help motivate me to brave storm "if they can do cool stuff and endure the heat....then why can't I?!". So not saying you or I are gonna be some super famous person, but I do really believe that for creative types like us we have to keep chipping away at those creative things..... Sean
Awesome that’s the hope to always inspire another. The video I’ve been working on this week is literally just that “Creative motivation video”.... Wanna early screen it right now since you’re in the zone....? Sean
if you thought up this list, GREAT job man. i'm not good at much, in a competitive sense; especally regarding stuff like school work or manual labor job work. i'm way slow and i don't seem to do well at giving middle management what they want out of me. i can't fit that role of being squeezed and exploited by some douch bag middle manager (which, for some reason, this job attracts aholes) (the 5% of middle managers who are good, are really really awesome people though). but the things you listed, i bet we, as infps, can easily be wortld class competitors in.
When I am among others especially at work I am 100% team oriented, all for the group and i cant understand why others arent. I'm also an empath. I can relate to the need to process things alone. lol at "our imagination is pretty good" lol at "is that a word?" Def 100% passion here BUT that is often repressed. One thing that I am unrelating to with depictions of INFP is their attire. I am more normal and nice in my dress. The other thing I am struggling with is that I am afraid to be who I am around others. Whereas INFP are depicted as authentic towards others and in their surroundings. I have felt that I am suppressed and acting my whole life.... UNTIL I am able to be alone and in my own space. This makes for a very uncomfortable life especially ontop of a personally hard life in comparison to many. Lastly, I have a struggle at mid age. I am turning 45. Im a woman. I am about to do something career wise that I doubt my capability in. Im going to be a water treatment operator in training. This requires independence thank god. But, the mechanics and math will be hard for me. To add to this, I want to pursue school on some level. And, get this... I am interested in physics. I want to take an intro to physics class. I like to watch Helen Czerski and Neil Degrasse Tyson.... If I could wave a magic wand and create abilities and a position that I dont have or in...Id become an environmental engineer. Previously though I grew up wanting to be a writer and an artist. I have people telling me that I dont have the upper level thinking capacity for the subjects that interest me. And, this makes me feel bad about myself even more. But, where I want to arrive at is some place in the middle that speaks passionately about a topic of interest. For a while I wondered or even hoped that maybe im infj because i have infj tendencies at times... but also because they are thought to have higher thinking capacity. But i think all the online tests are faulty. I can type everyone else but somehow dont type myself well. But most likely I am infp. It is a contradiction though that the infp are considered intelligent yet said to be good for careers youtube asmr or massage therapist... or artist... its very hard when everyone thinks the worst that you already think of yourself. But then low and behold... the INFP courage and strength comes forth rather bold at times and does its own thing anyway... without allowing everyones opinion to navigate their destination. Whether 20 years old or 60 yrs old... I say... never give up. We cant anyway as long as we are alive.
I tend to merge words together in many of my videos as the words are awkwardly flowing out of my mouth while filming myself. Long time viewers have just accepted my word vomit as have I lol. Thanks and nice to meet you 🤙 Sean
I always have this inner fire that has been burning in me but can't seem to come out, every time I show a glimpse of my capabilities to people I feel trapped and feel like there isn't really anyone I come across who really appreciates or tries to understand. I feel like the more I show the world the more I insult my values. It's almost pointless at times trying to let people know that I am not as dumb and clueless as you all take me for. I have something big to offer if only you give me a chance.
Yeah I feel ya 100%. For me I just came to a point in my life where I was extremely frustrated from being suppressed all the time from the way I acted or the things I would say. After I stumbled upon the fact that I enjoyed the creative outlet side of video editing and was just so determined to find more likeminded people that’s where a targeted INFP channel fell in line. Prior though I only had Facebook that I used once a year on my birthday (no other social media) and would never be caught dead on a video (pics where even pretty rare for me). So after many years (bout to turn 40) of letting “others keep me down” I just decided to face the music and let things out. It’s not easy and being vulnerably open is very hard for types like us especially to strangers, but in my opinion it’s MUCH better than going back to letting myself be held down. We have some cool stuff inside and I do try “softly” to encourage that out of INFPs (or other types that checkout my channel). Sean
@@INFPHD I am so glad I stumbled upon your channel, it feels amazing to be surrounded by a community of like minded people :) Thank you for letting me know about your experience. Still in my teens and got alot to see of the world but I guess it's only normal for people with our type to be so eager, I think we all have passion from a very young age and it only needs to be implemented in the right way in order for us to shine. Thank you for taking the time to reply, I'll try to come out of my shell more often now. Thank you and good day!
Hi, u made my day. Thank you. feeling less wrong. I feel I match all points but the fifth. I kind of feel I'm broken on that side. cuz I get my uniqueness and really respect all others but at the same time I can't see what is right for me like you said "this I don't want anymore" but I'm more prone to repeat errrant path/behaviour over and over and be hard on my because of that...like how can I be so stupid to do it again. Any idea how is that?
So I have obviously has the pleasure to talk with many INFPs on here over the past two years. I have found a little pattern which was even something true for myself (everyone is going to be different), but I have heard that many older INFPs felt like this switch happen around mid 30's to early 40's. For myself it happened around 37 (turning 40 next month). What I think this is is that for us INFPs we spend soooo many years trying to figure things out, figure us out, figure society out, etc etc that all that time of searching / confusion leads up to a point where a switch happens. This meaning everything sorta finally makes more sense through all the chatter of what society expects from us, the "American dream" (if living in US) of a big house, fancy car, high paying job, etc is not an "INFP dream" then you are able to finally accept that what we are doing in life is "OK" and not bad like many make us feel. When you get to that honest state of mind with yourself then it kinda feels like a big weight is lifted off our shoulders and the second half of our lives begin to turn in a positive direction. I almost look at it as for INFPs we kinda trade our first half with crazy confusion and the more preferred society types who fit the mold better trade their second half of life with more unhappiness of never understanding who they really were because they were too busy trying to climb a corporate ladder and get all those things we don't generally care a bout as much. So yeah I feel that the pressures of society are going to get us to do things that aren't fully aligned with what we "want" to do. I don't think that part ever really goes away, but I just see it as at some point mid life for you it gets easier to not do those things and do more of what we want without fear of peoples judgments etc.. Sean
@@INFPHD thank you. I'm 32 from Switzerland but I believe Society disgusting judging model spreads around Europe as well as in US . Because people I live with are really closed minded eating up all the bs they heard on the local news. Follow blindly what was done in the past and considered to be right for their past generation and all the silly trends that came from who moves the masses. A lot of non sense to me and misfits feeling. I only started working on myself this year. I know. I paused my life around my 20s and to make an example I felt really embarassed to find out so late that I'm not alone with this type. It was less painful finding you all. Knowing to be understood for once it IS a big thing that started the revolution inside me. My individualism it's there then. only kind of need to be awaken through acceptance. Maybe I struggle because now I try to erase "common duty and structure" completely and that is not possible. I'm going to dig further (as u know). Thank you. I hope to come back here soon with that clarity. Thanks, thanks and thanks again. I knew it was right to step out and ask. not so bad after all ;)
I felt the same as you when discovering MBTI...I always felt so different from others and I never felt like I was understood. Now that I know I'm not crazy and there are others just as weird as I am...I feel empowered and it's a relief knowing I'm not broken...just extremely unique💛 I relate to almost everything you say. INFP is a thing! INFP lives matter!🤭
Lol yeah that’s essentially why I created this little space. I’ve never been a big social media person (still not except of course this), but always found myself digging through relatable INFP videos prior to creating myself. A lot of those creators have since long gone, but I also see why they would after being on this side of things now. However, I figured why not pay it back and just throw my weird (...yes Mindy we ARE weird and crazy - it’s great 🤗🤪) perspective out there for the hopes someone out there could get the same feels as I got. For me, it also lets me keep developing my new video editing skills up as that’s my new creative outlet I’m digging - lot of work - but full of creativity options to explore in the privacy of your own quiet recliner 🙌🏻🙌🏻.
@@INFPHD I love your videos. You make me laugh and everything you say resonates with my very soul. 🤠🤡😎👏 We are weird! In the greatest, quirky, unique and FUNNY way! Keep making the vids cuz you are great at it. 👌
Thanks for the motivation - not as easy as it looks especially navigating “social media” in general as I’m the spotlight person whereas my goal is always to generally avoid that scenario 🤗😎. So yeah random comments like these help keep me going.. Think I’m gonna make a video coming up “5 things to NEVER say to an INFP!” Lol which could be fun... First couple in my head is “don’t take it so personal” and “you need to smile more”... any choice ones you can think of?? 🙃
HEY BUD, You did great at explain the wow side of being INFP, yeah we are awesome and we have gone through a world of hurt and come out the other side full of self awareness and strength, and we are so willing to share our experiences to help someone anyone in their hour of need......but fuck right off if you think we are selfish just because we don't go round people pleasing doesn't make us selfish it makes us more evlode than the rest of ye,lol, so stop hating and just ask for our support and we will give it without strings attached, but we are not going to carry you, we have enough to carry ourselves....brill ved, my young son is an INTP, I drive him crazy but we get each other and makes for the most beautiful relationship, though he can wreak my head too,lol
@@INFPHD very insightful video.....sorry about the bad language in my comment....just sick of the selfish label.......oh how we know that people pleasing role, trying our best to be all things to all man, soul destroying, exhausting, personally i didn't just have the energy anymore if you know what i mean, it wasn't until i was brought to my knees for the millionth time did i realize and come into awareness of the fact I'm not here to save anyone, I am here to find me and have the best life doing that......and hey if i can help someone along the way id be honoured, but as long as you know i have nothing to offer anyone other than my own experiences and it's not my job to go running around looking for someone who needs my help, i discovered I'm not God, my purpose is to experience the Devine power within me and live through that period. thanks again
@@INFPHD I hope I didn't offend. I was just trying to be funny since the music seemed pretty energetic and reminds me of promotional material. I was just trying to play off the stereotype of infps not liking business as a light-hearted joke
No it’s all good and hard to pick up proper context in comments. A big part of my channel is breaking the stereotypes whereas INFPs can only do this, like that, talk one way, listen to ASMR music, etc. Video editing/ UA-cam is a creative personal passion for “me” so for a stereotypical thing - generally when INFPs find something they are into they get “excited”. I can purposefully dull / quiet everything down to not scare of the quiet INFPs who aren’t particularly passionate about videos, but then I wouldn’t be bringing my most authentic self to the table and that defeats the point of my excitement towards this one creative outlet I have for myself at this time in my life... Sean
Totally agree Patrick! I've talk to a handful of older INFPs while running this channel and like with me there was a switch of acceptance / clarity in the mid thirties - early forties from "where do I fit in and what do I do" to more of a self-confident type thing. I think it just comes from needing to explore soooo much with our Ne and logging that info in combination with Fi and Si that after we get a huge bulk of data for what works for us and what doesn't that we eventually have enough logged that we can rest a bit easier and again, be more confident of who we are is OK... I turn 40 in two months and I'm actually more excited about this decade than any other so far.... Sean
When I read the title , I immediately think " Hmm. I suck at most things and not really good at doing anything " After watching the whole video I was like " Oh these things ". Tbh I used to think people around me have the same mindset, empathetic and can put themselves into other shoes easily. But after discovering things like Personalities,Brigg Myers and others, I thought that oh that's why people kept calling me weird.
Lol yeah I just thought it was good to “remind” us likeminded types that we “do” have things we do well where the majority can come to appreciate. It’s easy for us to fall into our pits of depression etc, where we feel we suck at everything because society just seems to be doing everything we don’t feel like doing, but that’s the thing - those people who think we are weird aren’t generally doing the things we can do. Sooooo if we don’t do them and stay in hiding - the world is more one sided which is not good... Sean
Has anyone else ever been daydreaming and then start doing something else and then think “what movie/video was I just watching” and realize their daydreaming was just so vivid it actually felt like they were watching a movie or something
All.the.time! 😂
I’m just so glad there’s other people who think the same way. Being an infp can be really lonely. I don’t think a lot of people understand the empathy infp have
Yeah it definitely can get lonely with that feeling of never seeming to be understood, but also another reason why I created this targeted channel. It's not just INFPs who watch, but generally it's ones who are like-minded which provides a safer outlet to let our stuff out without much judgment. Starting out on here I was SUPER nervous as I barely even used Facebook regarding social media 2 years ago. But I quickly noticed that it was a very exciting venture running back to make a video and just "let my hair down". It just gets old when you have to suppress things about yourself in daily life because the majority typically won't get it and you just don't want to hear it...
Nice to meet you Kevin!
Sean
Um does the US ever had an INFP President?
@@creativestudiovvv No! INFPs are more effective in a non scheduling atmosphere and are not generally good managers of people.INFPs are not good at wearing a mask (being politically correct) because of INFPs Personal loyalty, Integrity and authenticity.
@@stevemiller887 I like to say we're the perfect "grey eminence" LOL. Take a strong and social leader, let them consult an INFP. Let the INFP build their team. Then let the INFP go into hiding and their safe working spaces in the back at their pace. Have the team and leader come by for consultation whenever they run into a dead end. Naturally, in a way that means they hand in their cause and then wait (best out of sight).
We're great at leadership. We're just not prone to the typically and often expected "masculine" version of it. The archaic "feminine" leadership (which can be performed by men and women alike) is from "behind" a group, not "before" them. It's not pulling people but pushing at their back from a place in the back where we have a proper view on the situation. And it's social inspired.
Since we're great at understanding people and social structures, we are capable of building a team that relies on backup and puts everyone exactly where they function best. In such a team a lack of consistency by the INFP is no problem. Plus, when in line with our passions it's the opposite. We need a team that'll frequently offer help and frequently grab us and drag us away for the much needed breaks 😂
Also funny: we're bad at pretending but we're fantastic at imagination and manipulation. Hence we just need to put ourselves into the right inner space and acting it out is no problem. There's no need to lie. There's a need to have a valid reason for why we need to say or not say something.
I'm INTP and I love my INFP friends, I just want to hug them and help them not feel anxious or sad, but it's hard ):
Nice to meet you Hyurno 🤙🏻. Yeah the problem with INFPs is that we typically prefer to deal with those emotions in private. That’s where we can fall into the trap of “no one understands me”, but it’s also just because we aren’t going to allow an outsider to assume they know our inner feelings just because that’s our Fi jam.
Sean
I'm an infp and have a good intp friend and I feel like intp's can come across as all analytical and whatnot but you actually genuinely care about people. You just show your love in a way that most people interpret the wrong way but your actually really sweet😊
Although we are far from each other, after reading your sweet words, I felt that we were hugging hard
I felt warm after reading your words uwu u so sweet
As an INFP, I found that Albert Ellis' ABC Model helped me to download a little INTP thinking into my head and run it like an app in my mind. The whole approach can be summed up in a quote by Ellis "There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well; you must treat me well; my life must be easy." I mention this because, if you can help your INFP friends to embrace a bit of your natural INTP logic, they will probably find it helpful when they are navigating daily life and when dealing with the deep existential crisis that we INFPs seem to feel pretty much all the time. Oh, and if your INFP friends write poetry, paint etc., and they show you some of their work ask them genuine questions about it. Your questions can help them see things their unconscious mind was trying to tell them and then open up a dialogue for you to showcase your more rational approach in areas they are struggling. After all, as an INFP, we feel misunderstood most of the time, so genuinely valuing our creative endeavours will make us feel understood and then you can help us be more practical and logical about day-to-day stuff. To be honest, I suspect some of your INFP friends probably feel their real self turns up in their art, music and writing, so if you want to a deeper understanding of them then engage with their work.
As an INFP, I've found being in touch with my feelings, values, principles and ideals definitely feeds my art. Still, a good dose of logic helps me put much of life's challenges into perspective and helps me realise my most cherished goals such as setting up my own scholarship fund through investing in the stock market.
1. As an INFP I have often said that I have a lot of passion bottled up inside of me waiting to burst out
2. One of my highest love languages is giving, not so much on the receiving side but more the high that I get when I give someone a nice gift or thoughtful gift
3. While I may feel Empathy I often have no idea what to do with it or how to properly handle it, though I do relate to people based on personal experiences and try to help them out there
4. I daydream so often I have literally crashed into walls and very easily use my imagination, though I sometimes wish I could properly utilize some of it
5. I often go against the mold and am very individualistic much to some peoples confusion
I relate with 3 so much
same. i find myself being stared at all the time or having the way i say things be considered unorthodox. at times it's affirming but at others it can really make me upset
omg 1-5 👀
Literally me
Music By Nctrnm oml that happens to me too- especially my dad
Passion is really important that why I hate deadlines and I always finish my work in the last minute without being satisfied with my work, and probably that why I have been procrastinating writing my book 😂.
Yeah Nourah I sooo will put off things not interesting to me (work stuff etc) for last min. I do still find that the quality of my work will still be there as I have high perfectionistic standards for myself that always like to creep in. But yeah, my passionate stuff usually takes...the passion stuff just doesn’t pay any bills so I have to share the procrastination with the work stuff like we all do 😔
Sean
INFP HD exactly my passion stuff don’t pay the bills, I’m still a student but I pay my phone bill with my college money (in my country the government give the college students a certain amount of money), that’s really what makes me work harder bc I know how expensive the bills can be 😖.
Same. I'm a video editor full time, and while that is my true passion in life, it still takes me until the ABSOLUTE last minute to start things! Once I start, I breeze through and still manage to do well somehow (still unsure how that works lol), but it can be absolute torture living this way when it's my daily job to meet deadlines. I wind up feeling like I can never enjoy any time off because I secretly know how far behind I am with everything...meanwhile, my friends and family all think I work too much, but they don't realize I mostly just browse youtube and research weird things that pop into my head all day long haha.
Eastman Editing 🤣. That’s pretty cool you are a full time editor! I just stumbled across video editing a couple years back and find it to be a very vast creative outlet for me which is essentially never endless with room to always grow / improve. Since COVID started my job has had me working from home (was 100% travel prior as an electro-mechanical technician), and they don’t know about my UA-cam channel but I do make videos for work (random training stuff / production line videos). So to keep me busy they turned me into a work video editing machine where it’s not my footage etc, but it’s just everyday making little videos - DEFINITELY not the same as making passionate / personal UA-cam videos. I figured that would be a cool job, but as you know... editing is “work” that many won’t appreciate what goes into a 2 min video.
Aha same. I’m 14 and I’m actually planning on writing a book too. But I keep putting it off😃😃
As an Infp, I feel like people don’t understand that we can’t be bound to one person or thing, or our worlds can’t revolve around one person 24/7. We like boundaries and personal space and we get too drained if someone expects us to be with them every second of the day.
The word "individualisticness" is imaginative and that's how INFP's work.
...also just the "randomness" that comes out of my mouth from the short travel from my mind (which is usually clear as day when it starts out) lol
Sean
@@INFPHD That randomness and imagination is Ne. We INTPs do this too. Because INFPs tend to be dominant Fi, the imaginative thoughts tend to be more fantastical. For us Ti doms, we tend to be more pragmatic. In general, INxPs tend to be more abstract and theoretical compared to their INxJ counterparts that tend to be more concrete and applied.
You want a work of fiction, ask an INFP. You want a paper on scientific possibilities, ask an INTP. Also, you want your car fixed ask an ISTP, because an INTP will end up complaining about how stupid a part is and spend forever designing and redesigning that part. The car will never get fixed. ha!
Not Sean
Whenever i read or watch anything about INFPS i relate so hard that i feel like the persons spied on me or read my diary or mind or something 😂😂😂 Yay INFPS can't imagine ever being anything different 💖💖💖
Yeah the relating stuff is SUPER creepy sometimes, BUT...also pretty cool!
Love your UA-cam name!!
Sean
I agree with you & also with Sean... I love your UA-cam name as well! 💖🍎🍓
The crime is we weren't given the psychological tools necessary to process and integrate emotional experiences as children. How the hell is it reasonable to expect people to become adults when emotions are suppressed in favor of an inflated ego and over identification with a superficial social persona? ie jobs, possessions, status. It's like being mentally ill is the normative state.
It's one thing to experience the emotions, but another thing entirely for INFPs, who place great meaning on their ideals, and tend to over identify with the object of such projections. This makes the fall exponentially worse, particularly for the highly sensitive and/or insecure ones. I'm willing to bet INFPs are the type with the highest suicide rate.
Yeah Robert I totally agree! It’s really sad that the bulk of society is forcing kids to “all” conform to a few ways to fit into the “cog wheel”. Some kids sure, they get a great jumpstart for their lives because that’s how they are geared. However, for types like us it is even MORE confusing when getting older and needing to unravel all those lessons taught in schools, by parents, etc. Yeah and it’s said that INFPs have the highest rate of suicidal thoughts in the teenage / college years (...I was one of those).
Sean
@@INFPHD"it’s said that INFPs have the highest rate of suicidal thoughts in the teenage / college years "
I can relate. I've been left with an overwhelming sense of despair a number of times throughout my life with such an intensity you can't help but wonder if you'll be able to survive it. That's what led me to psychology and Jung's idea of acceptance, and integration of emotional content. We have to learn to avoid over identifying with what we're feeling, and instead allow ourselves to feel whatever comes without resistance, and without judgement, in order to properly process it. I think allowing ourselves to experience something fully like that is the only way to avoid the potential of reliving it, or continuing to suffer, and is the key to acquiring emotional maturity and growth.
I imagine a lot of the highly sensitive INFPs would gravitate toward more spiritual modes of thought. Be it religion, new age, whatever. For me it's psychology because I'm logically minded, but as Jung said, "psychology is religion". They are tools to extrapolate deeper meaning from ones subjective experiences, and what experiences are more 'real' than their internal, subjective experiences for the INFP or highly sensitive type?
Is it any wonder that an emotionally repressed culture, it's overly shallow societal values, and despite it's virtue signalling, see's virtually no value is such modes of thought? It's teaches us there's no objectivity in emotional experience, but we're human, and the human experience is an emotional one. Therefore, true human objectivity, as much as it's possible, has to include subjective experience in order to be holistic in our understandings and approaches to life, especially in terms of our values. Anything other than that requires the suppression of emotional content, and can only be seen as pathological in nature. You need only look to the 20th century to see how that suppression lead to the greatest atrocities in history with the pathological over identification with political ideologies, and excessive materialism and divisions that led to hundreds of millions dead, and a disturbing level of exploitation of peoples, resources, and ecological destruction.
I believe this to be the cause and effect of the lack of collective, psychological development manifested, and I think Nietzsche summed up this lack of psychological development, and loss of genuine human values perfectly in the simple phrase, "God is dead".
I can relate. my family members are mostly ST. as a teenager I grew up slowly hating myself for being emotionally turbulent and not as productive as the rest of my siblings.
I have always thought about how dying would probably be easier. I have thought about suicide so much growing up and still do In rough times but I care about the ppl around me so much I know it would hurt them way worse. I lack the conviction for suicide is all
@@kylemutti2992 Well, it'll inevitably come, so no need to rush it I figure, and in the meantime we have the sum total of all human knowledge at our fingertips to help us make some sense of it all:
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I just recently found out that I'm an INFP first time I felt understood, I was almost thinking there was no way I would have that understanding., I'm very passionate, mostly my best ideas I keep to myself, I have a deep connection to social issues... Good to know there is other people like me so I feel less alone.
Welcome to the little club Giovanna - nice to meet you 🤙🏻🥳 Yeah I felt a large rush of comfort / validation when I stumbled across MBTI many years back. Just the idea of “I wasn’t doing anything wrong, and I’m not the only one acting / thinking the way I do” really helped forward momentum!
Sean
With helping people, I feel I get so invested in their problems that I forget to look after myself... so knowing I do that, I try to avoid people, like I will try to avoid finding out peoples problems. That is not to say I would ignore their problems if I knew of them.
Yep totally agree and a BIG reason why I think I keep my circle soooooo small. When I help...it’s DEEP help where like you said - we can drain our own selfs! Like now...the world has so many hurtful stories of people going through traumatic times associated to the COVID stuff etc. What I would love to do is help everyone! However, I almost shut myself down even tighter so to better protect my selfless nature when I hear someone hurting within reach of me. It’s hard to describe where it’s not seen as someone who then doesn’t care about others because we protect ourselves so much, but the depth of what we give when helping others is just on another level where that part needs reserved... We have so much to sift through on a daily basis in our own heads / life that when we take on another’s problems it can drain our batteries so fast that puts us out for a long bit after.
So yeah, I have a soft spot for other people’s problems and typically won’t ignore them either if they land on my doorstep which is the balancing act....
Sean
That is a big problem with infps. In fact a lot of them aren’t identifiable and come of as cold and stuck up when they are really overly caring and trying to protect themselves from everyone’s issues
@@Dancincrazzin that is so true. People have told me that I appear snobby. In fact I am the least snobbiest person I know.
Because they know they have hit the jackpot with a person to vent to and they will usually take advantage of that
I'm an INFP.
I sing, I write stories, I draw, I play guitar, I don't act and dance, but I'll probably get into that since I love Musical Theathre. I studied film... I'm not good with camera's, but I'd love to write a script...
Tbh, I don't really know what my dream is. Out of all of this, I'd love to be all: A musical actress, write scripts and direct animation movies, write comics, etc... When peple ask me what I want to be, to be honest I feel conflicted, cause my life is like a zig-zag and society doesn't like people zig zagging a lot. I feel like I must make only one choice :( But it feels empty if I choose only one
TOTALLY get ya Maria! Yeah don't fret too much on what "society says" we should do. The majority of what "society" is made up of are people who are unfulfilled etc. INFP's are natural exploratory types. I can't stand setting goals for myself, I've never been married (39 now), I have job boredom around the 4-5 year mark and move on, etc etc. All of these are HORRIBLE life decisions which make me a "bad society representative". The random critics come in all the time "what's wrong with you?". The simple answer is "absolutely nothing"!. I just look at life differently and feel the same way as you with not limiting myself to one thing / lifelong path as most do. I can not stand how the best life plan still rules; Go to school, get a job (*and do it for 30 years), get married, buy a house, have kids, retire, then die. It's super ridged, and a lot of those avenues "chain you" into going off any paths of your own due to debt, security of a 401k / benefits etc.
I have played in all that for the past 20 years, and have been working extremely hard to free my ties with things like that. High paying jobs, materialistic things, one job climbing high up the ladder and feeling stuck ("I can't quit now because I've already put so much into this job" - which is someone else's vision / dream by the way). I essentially go through life pretty fluidly flowing in different directions. It would seem as though I should be homeless according to societies "life guidelines", but that is not the case. I'm doing fine, and just personally like the more staying open approach to life and the excitement of where will it bring me to next! I drank the Koolaid for a looong time and year after year I was just more and more miserable until I accepted not to stay imprisoned in what the majority around us (especially family / friends) are spouting off in our ears.
Sean
I really felt that. I love writing, editing, art, crafts, cooking, and those are only my main interests. So I decided that I’m going to share my passions through my UA-cam channel.
@@INFPHD thank you a lot for that message, really. I read it and loved it. Didn't answer cause I thought I had nothing to point, but then, yesterday I was also getting anxious with this topic again and your message came to my mind and I relaxed a bit. Thank you so much :) Really. I think I'll remember those words for a long time :)
lol Maria I can appreciate the hesitant responses (not what happened for me the message just fell through the cracks and just found it today) as we commonly need time to process things. Outside in the real world that time is not generally understood, but in here feel free to take all the time you need! It's a common understanding I have going with many of the viewers where they or I may not respond for awhile or at times ever...but, it's understood and no worries..
i feel you.. me zig zagging a lot makes my parents choose my path and bc i can't say anthing to that (that day).. here i am feel empty inside.. and yeah, this is my fault.
INFP best express themselves in 1 of 5 different ways: 1. Writing Volumes, 2. Inventing/Designing/Creating/Fixing Things , 3. Exploring Many New Ideas, 4. Thinking Endlessly, 5. Helping The Impoverished & Unhappy Exceptionally.
To summarize ...bringing new exciting things into the world (from their imagination into reality) is probably the epitome of personal satisfaction or fulfillment.
Thank you
As an INFJ I really appreciate INFPs, by far my favourite personality type. Even tho we share a lot similarities, we are very different on how we deal and react with things. Especially regarding empathy and helping people INFPs and INFJs together can change a lot for other people in so many different ways, it's amazing. I have a INFP friend who can give really good emotional support to others, while I tend to give advices for growth. Together it's really easy for us to support another person on pretty much all necessary levels.
lol yeah I have actually come to find that INFJ's are my top as well! Most of my UA-cam creator buddies I've stumbled upon are actually INFJs. As you said, we are very much different due to not sharing any primary cognitive functions. Yeah I agree with you to where I do tend to stay away from the full advice part when I'm in empathy mode - I will give advice, but it's usually not very direct or I'll sprinkle it in overtime when I feel times are more open for the advice. It almost seems like the most confused type that people come to trying to figure out is "am I INFP..or INFJ?". Like for me, I've always found my home to be INFP from first starting to stumble across the info as well as prolonged studying it all over the past 11 years or so. However, there are just so many things I feel we can both "understand" amongst each other that we can get consumed on some weird vudu empathetic relating thing. lol. I love targeting INFPs just for more of that "like-minded" high percentage rate, but I'm also super intrigued by others very different than me - in step INFJ's...
Nice to meet you!
Sean
Passionate, Altruism, Empathy, Imagination, Individualistic
I really like your presentation style. Your speech is clear, your tapes are audible, you're very engaging and you make me proud of being an INFP. Thank you very much.
Thanks David and pleasure to meet you 🤙🏻 Yeah sometimes I worry about how my excitement / energy comes across which may not be so relatable to many of the “calmer / quiet” INFPs. I’m not like that all the time, but during “video time” I get ramped up 🤪...Video editing/ UA-cam has just recently become a “passion” of mine and where I’ve put the majority of my creative energy into over the last year and a half. I’m “trying” to help represent and stand up for INFPs the best I can...it just gets OLD with the majority not getting where we are coming from.
*nice last name 😉
Sean
I can NOT count the many times where people either called me "quiet, shy," or way too "passive",
I'll talk if I need or have to and communicate when the case is really necessary, just because I just want to read a book and/or listen to music and let my mind wander doesn't make me "weak" or "naive"
(People and even including my parents [with good intentions] have called me that too).
You catch the video I just posted Anahi a couple days ago about “things to not say to an INFP”? I got too talky, but do plan to add more things in another video and the Naive one is going to be in there. Yeah I’m not a fan either of people and their unthought out judgments towards us. I know that I go on the mantra of “to each their own” respect, but rarely do I get that in return...instead my own is judged 🙄
Sean
@@INFPHD Hey there! I'll check it out, I'm new suscriber but I love your videos😁
Me too hun.
Or playing a game on your phone at a bar because whatever people are talking about bores you and ppl are talking that's there thing, I'm playing my game that's my thing, then ppl have to make a comment about how your on your phone or don't socialize, sorry if you don't vibe with me idk just not interested in small convos anymore, we don't vibe I really don't want to extend myself out, I want to talk about super deep stuff and most ppl want to gossip, (yawn) can we talk about something cool, or a passion or art project thing you're working on, not news, politics, or things like that. I wanna get inspired yo, instead I get blamed for not wanting to talk anymore, I feel most comfortable away from ppl currently unless someone peaks my interest and I don't feel like I have to be "dumped on" I'm more in a shutdown stage I feel, shutting alot of the world out til I decide to move back and be more independent again and start my life up better again, it's alot being an infp, especially when you're soaking up energies left and right and not the full amount of support you need. I need so much time to myself and so many ppl just don't get this, I like ppl but only when I don't feel I have to put so much of my guard up, and feel defensive, ☯️
Imagination, Morality, Individual, creativity. . My top4 most important virtues concerning my personality.
A loud infp! You seem like a very balanced person, extro- and introverted wise!
Also, infp's are often described as meek and quiet so I felt like, even as an infp, I didn't quite fit in. So I'm glad that I'm (apparently) not the only one lol
Lol hi Chiara! 🤗 Yeah UA-cam is something I came to be passionate about in the past couple years annnnnnd when an INFP finds passion and/or inspiration it can get a little loud / talky 🙌🏻🥳. I’ve also read that it’s said INFPs are one of the most extroverted of the introvert types. I’m obviously not always as open and animated like I am on my short videos, but I do like to sprinkle subtle cheer amongst people I daily interact with (not in a loud obnoxious way).
My jobs have always required I high level of socializing and essentially doing things out of my INFP comfort zones for the past 20 years. A lot of stress etc has filled my life trying to navigate all that overtime, but yeah I do also feel that I am a more balanced individual because of the stuff I have endured...and how I am today is kinda my prize for going through all that.
Nice to meet you 🤙🏻
Sean
I, too, may be a loud INFP. Used to think I might be an INFJ or INTP.. (who knows? Maybe I am) but my story is that I was super shy until college. I just sort of decided that being shy wasn't working anymore. People today think I am extroverted not realizing (until I tell them) that "My personality is the result of my own social experimentation...
Unfortunately, it wasn't ready for human testing."
Thank you. I've replayed this video a few times now. It's nice to hear reminders of our strengths. I'm one of those quiet INFP's. 😊
Awesome glad you enjoyed Kia 🤙🏻. Oh I’m quiet too...UA-cam videos however ramp me up so I can get a little loud etc (my pit bull thing at the moment)🤪🤗🥳
Hope all is well - nice to meet you 👍🏻
Sean
Sean, your point abous us INFPs' ability to sit with our feelings made me question how well are we in sitting with uncomfortable feelings. My UA-cam video this week was about negative feelings being predictor of Procrastination. It was based off of a study that came out ealier this year. Given how much us INFPs can procrastinate, I wonder if we're as comfortable sitting with or being with uncomfortable feelings without wanting to fix them 🤔 What have you noticed about INFPs, do we try to understand our feelings and behavior to fix or to just be with them?
Yeah Dory I can see it both ways. I feel no matter how you look at it INFPs are going to “understand” feeling to a great depth. Like I said in the video, I do like to “sit in the zone” with whatever feeling / experience I need to process through until I’m fully done with it. This could be 1 hour or 1 week+. Life however, creeps back in right after and hits us with different stuff we have to process deeply so essentially it’s just a feelings processing palooza for types like us in this chaotic world. But yes, depending on the “healthy level” of a specific individual they will either process that one experience to the end, take the learnings and move forward to the next OR just sit in a pity party with that one thing for months/ years letting it hold them down. But this is to go towards you and I’s back and forth with “everyone” needing a therapist. For me, I feel I am very productive/ efficient with my life struggles. If I really got stuck for months on end with things, then yes, I would go look to get assistance with those lingering issues I couldn’t shake / or have any slow momentum with. For me I don’t procrastinate getting to my feelings because the voices just won’t shut off until I do - I WILL put off chores and surface stuff to give myself that internal time.
So it’s really not getting too specific in nature, but more so that as INFPs we generally “understand” feelings whether we deal with them or not is of an individual matter. Not dealing with them can still lead to decent Empathy skills etc.
Sean
Hi Dory, good question. Maybe it can be both. I think a lot of the time it is to sit with them. And over time that helps us, as we have seen this before and we know how to deal with I. So when it comes around again it's easier to move forward through. We may not want to move out of that emotion straight away, out of some sort of nostalgia. For myself I find a lot of beauty and something poetic in those places. And I realise that this can be of use for others later. I can use it help others. "It's just a feeling, you are allowed to feel it, there is nothing wrong with it. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. It's an imaginary fear. Fear can't hurt you, but you are allowed to feel it. You are supposed to feel it as a human being."
It's when you don't learn from it, or stagnate in it where it becomes problematic. Negative self talk, combined with believing your doubters.
I'm not sure this answers your questions, just musing. You would have a far greater understanding of human behaviour than me. I guess I just know how I use it.
An anecdotal story that happened to me yesterday. One of many in the life of an INFP. By accident I misread a gesture from an old lady across the street from where I was working. It looked like she was calling for assistance waving with mail in her hand, but she was just waving. I went over to her anyway just to make sure. I explained sorry I wasn't sure if you were waving me over or just waving to say hello.
It turned out to be quite a serendipitous moment of sorts. She started to ask me a couple of questions, I could sense straight away that she was lonely. And glad that I came to say hello. I would guess she was in her late 80s, early 90s. Fighting back the tears, trying to stay staunch and not lose face, she proceeded to tell me of the passing of her husband a year or two ago, how hard it is for her. In real time I could see myself slipping into infp mode. Taking away the awkwardness for her, finding words of comfort, empathising with her, giving her that unthreatening, non judging space to open up without fear. Though I'm half her age and the opposite gender. Dipping into my Si bank, with words of wisdom. I found myself giving her instructions in a didactic way. Asking her questions, finding those moments where she was struggling, and hitting them right on the head. Everything she does, everything she sees is a painful reminder of the loss of her life's companion.
Long story shortend, she was thankful for my presence, for talking and listening. Bouyed by my words, and stronger for them. Able to face another long and lonely day ahead, with some small tasks I set her, and a few dreams and goals to chase. I left her with a warmth of happiness, and an ever so slender slither of vest for life.
It's not over till its over. You still have more to give and more to experience. Never stop dreaming.
@@INFPHD these are great insights, and I agree, as INFPs we are empathetic in nature. I think there's value in having the ability to sit with or be with negative feelings and being an observer of them rather than identifying with them to the point of being overcome by them, which if I'm understanding correctly, is the distinction you were making 👌🏾
@@Burtifly wow, what a beautiful moment you had with the elderly lady. I felt like you were taking me through it all. I could almost imagine how the moment unfolded.
I completely understand the point you made about INFPs and being in and with difficult emotions. I tell you, I paint the best when I'm melancholic 🤷🏿♀️ I can't explain it. But it seems like I go to this creative space that I don't seem to tap into any other times. So there certainly is value in and through all emotions.
Ms Dory Linda - that’s what I was trying to convey - yes ma’am🤗
I was an INFP and I'm a musician, song writter (My passion)
I was currently working at a Company as an HR "Human Resource "
As I listen to those traits that you've said I was enlighten , I realize that the very thing that I need to pursue was my passion which is Music, but that doesn't mean that I don't like my Job anymore it's my source of income for my family but I'm not planning to stay long..
I was doing my baby steps now
If I start earning with music I probably leave my Job as soon as possible
Thanks man I really apreciate this..
Its Strange because I love dancing, painting/ drawing, playing music, writing songs and sometimes poetry but I also have a thing for Technology and programming. I’m not sure but most INFP’s loving learning new things and Technology changes and becomes more advanced so you keep on learning more even after you get out of college and get a job. The only downside to this is deadlines!!! I am a true procrastinator and I still am. Yet, I still never understood how I was still decent in school... but working in tech program can be tough if you are a procrastinator because you have to meet certain deadlines or they’ll get on you about it.
I think that’s the only concern i’m having and also I am very sensitive. Since there’s not a lot of Black people in Tech, in some places they treat you totally different from others.
Fellow 😅INFP here!! So glad yt algorithm recommended your channel!! Subscribed
Authenticity is one of the top characteristics of an infp so be your authentic self. Dont put on pretense just to be cool.
I can tell you're an INFP because of your awesome shirt.
that is how i also think about myself. i dont like calling people and join in the group for chit chat but whenever they need someone to talk to and they ask me to listen for them then i will be there, stay with them, the whole nigh, day, or whatever until they feel better. by it means, if they need a help from me then i will be there for them but don't expect me to ask things for you first lol
A lot of nodding going on over here. Haha
Lol - glad you related Harmony 🤪
Lol same
Wow, this just came at the perfect time!
And it's all so true. Everytime I heard, INFPs are just thinking about themselves, I just couldn't relate to that. I don't care about myself being miserable ( because I am for as long as I can think.... ) - I just can't stand when other living beings ( people, animals...) suffer. This makes me sick and sad and I have to do something! I always thought, ok I am not a typical INFP in this trait. But hearing you talk about this opened my eyes. Other types sometimes just don't seem to understand how some types ( especially INFJs and INFPs ) can be so altruistic that they act "weird" for them.
This is hard to explain.....like always hehe.... but I hope you understand what I mean!
Again, sorry for my English 😅 Greetings from Bonn, Germany!
Oh, and sorry for not commenting for a longer time! I am going through some hard times right now....I just didn't care for myself for too long it seems, and my body and mind set the boundaries now 🥴
Hey girl!...I see you changed your circle picture thingy - what is that?
Sooo I would say you "should" care also about your own "misery"! I do completely understand what you essentially mean by it, as I can appreciate understanding / being in touch with those dark elements. However, to basically accept that is not the best outcome. It's a SUPER daily struggle to not fall into our spiraling ways without much notice - but it is worth it to fight that spiral getting better and better at it. I've been there (still obviously fight it all) to where the extreme of myself (debt, stress, low confidence / self esteem, etc.) all ran my life BUT I kept falling for the energy of "helping others out FIRST". It was always just a revolving door to "my unhappiness" which is 100% the MOST important happiness, and I don't care what anyone else takes from that methodology which is typically "you're selfish". Absolutely I will be selfish if that revolving door of wrong energy shifting is required. When I get "my stuff" together with a better balance then I will focus more for others. I do believe that we should as humans make attempts to make other peoples lives better (whatever that avenue may be), but not at the cost of us first like I said. It's hard because you want to avoid that judgment from others thinking you are a selfish person but that I feel is just the first mental step to overcome. It gets better and better when you break that life hurdle for us.
Yeah and I will obviously always understand if I don't hear from you for long durations (glad you came back though!) because I understand all the concepts above. I would rather have "balanced Karin" than "miserable Karin" brightening up the comments section....
Hope all is well with the Fam!
Sean
I smile knowing how similar we are...I cry knowing how similar we are. I now have a superpower developed recently in my ability to tell if someone is an INFP...
What’s the superpower Robert?? 💫
Wow. The timing of your upload is sublime. I was having a weird, sad day (for no reason at all:') and felt dispirited when right enough i see your video and it genuinely brightened me up. Thank you for that.💙
The individualistic-ness😂 you spoke of holds so true for me and is something im learning to embrace, as I'm aware that as INFPs we feel so damn left-out & 'different' that we either distance ourselves totally or somehow squeeze ourselves unhappily into social frames which really don't serve us well. Thanks for reminding us of our gifts.😇 Its so comforting (and also fun) watching you rant out stuff that's always on my mind :)
I hope you feel better and have a wonderful day!! 🤗💖🌈☀️🦋
Glad to hear Jemma - yeah you never really know when something you do can have a “perfect timing” thing going on with it.
...are you making fun of the words I seem to make up in each video!?!??🤔🤔🤣. Yeeeeah I think I need to start compiling my own dictionary - stuff just spews out in a mess often times lol.
Glad you enjoyed and hope all is good 🤙🏻
Sean
@@INFPHD 😂😂omg noo I'm in NO WAY making fun of the words you make up, cuz i myself tend to do that so often! It was just amusing to see you do that too, its really just overall fun to watch and identify :)
@@cierahayes aww, thank you so much! 💙
Hope you have a great day too✨
@@jemmac5433 Thank you so much, Jemma! 💖 You have a very pretty name! 👑
Wow! Sean, this video is REALLY GOOD!! 🤩👍 I think every INFP should watch this video... like when someone's MBTI test result is INFP, this should be required watching, INFP 101! Your message was very encouraging & inspiring! I like the way you filmed & edited the video as well! Bravo! 👏❤🌟✨ I love your shirt too... it made me smile! 😄🦏🦄💖
Thanks Emoji Queen Ciera 🤗 Just good to sometimes reflect on what we do well instead of how we all to commonly can get pulled down into negative land, and feel we can’t make positive impacts in the world...
Sean
@@INFPHD Well said, my friend! 👍 Now where can I find a t-shirt that says "Emoji Queen"??? I would LOVE that!! 🤩💖😍❤🥰🧡🙃💛🥳 Lol! 😂💁♀️👑😊
Oh I’m sure they are out there...
@@INFPHD Well, I'll be on the lookout! 🧐😂
cool vid! INFPs are among the most selfless, helpful and kind people in the world. Very often get taken advantage of....
Totally agree on how our imagination are being frown upon by society when in adulthood. It always make me feel like I'm different from others. But again, I love being different. Just wish people would understand infps more.
Yeah Laura there is just a lot of things we typically do that are frowned upon. However, when we frown against what the majorities are doing it’s not the same. There is no reason why they can’t do their things and we can’t do ours... that is honestly a balance the world needs instead of the bully group suppression that is all too common.
Just keep on beating to your own drum as that’s our best path...even if it’s a little harder than the easier approach of “giving in”.
Sean
This is so relatable... I was feeling very lost these days. Loved the channel 💞
Glad to see a fellow INFP who shows awesome side of INFP. I personally think weakness and strength is very narrow concept. It's a socially constructed paradigm that doesn't actually mean much but certainly has negative impact on our way of thinking and living. Weak/strong to what?(to be secure or to success in the society?pff) It's associated with the idea 'one's gotta survive' which is based on fear of death and dieing. Once we can detach ourselve a bit and seeing the process of life and death in the universe and drop the negative association and the concept of survival being the most important, it is not really scary.
Anyway good to discover your channel, it is impressive how many contents you can squeeze out of INFP topic. I've seen many channel made few vids on INFP but moved on to other subject. I made one INFP video for side tracking and use INFP as a tag for few of my videos but that's about it, ha!
Hey let's go shimmy over this way.🤣 The best! Somehow I missed this one, love it.
I needed that. Thanks dude.
Thank you so much for adding that POV on altruism. I've been wreaking myself so much because I don't see myself as selfish at all and it actually physically hurts that people see us that way.
Speaking as an INFP man, I think it might be useful to do a video that helps INFPs to develop a life strategy that helps us overcome the life challenges common to everyone, but that many INFPs may not manage to navigate as smoothly as other personalities. For example, as idealists with a tendency to pursue the creative arts, it's very hard for us to make a living out of what we are passionate about whether that be writing, music or art. Of course, that doesn't stop us, does it? But as courageous as it is to pursue your dreams and passions in the face of the cold indifference of others, there are some basic realities we INFPs face like everyone else. You know, earning enough to cover our living costs and saving for major life events like getting married, becoming a parent and so on. My point for mentioning this is that I read somewhere that we INFPs tend to be the personality type that is most often poorly paid and dissatisfied by the kind of work we feel we have to do to pay the bills. Therefore, might it be worth looking at things like The Financial Independence Retire Early Movement to see if the journey towards financial freedom might help many of us quit the job we hate and live the life we've imagined in our head? I mean, as an INFP, I used what I learned from F.I.R.E to pay my mortgage off early. And now I invest in the stock market to achieve one of my most cherished dreams which is to set up my own scholarship fund to promote the values and principles of community education.. Perhaps an understanding of how to use money as a tool that can breathe life into our ideas and make our values, principles and ideals concrete in the real world might help other INFPs achieve the kind of life goals that inspire them to get up in the morning and make a difference in the world. Of course, money isn't the only thing here. We could do a whole spiel on how we feel misunderstood by others yet seem to be the most tolerant of people towards the opinions of others. Or how about our natural tendency to seek harmony and minimise conflict being at odds to the kind of flirtatious behaviour and banter we need to engage in as INFP men to attract women. After all, for a lot of INFP men, putting a woman on the spot and qualifying her while also sexualising the conversation and paying attention to her body language to see if she seems interested in being kissed is a lot to focus on at once and requires us to flip large chunks of our personality on its head, don't you think? The one saving grace for us in the whole dating thing is that when we are being flirtatious etc we can channel our idealistic/romantic streak into giving the woman we date the Holywood movie moment. You know, try to channel our inner Mr Darcy even though we are probably a lot more like a character from a Tim Burton movie, say Edward Scissorhands.
I'm an infp and we don't want to infringe on people and that's why we are not aggressive about contacting people. We think we're bothering you. Good video.
So much truth! I will not reach out to others to ask (re: bother) them if they need anything, but I will drop things like work to my own detriment to go help someone if they reach out to me. I've gotten better about saying "no" to helping people when I truly do not have the capacity, but it's a constant learning experience and struggle for me. I think because of my lack of "direct charity," people don't see me as warm and generous unless they've personally needed something from me. Then I am described as selfless and loyal haha. But I have been called "selfish" by more than one person...it used to bother me, but now I'm learning to be proud of it and flip it around. I'm not "selfish," I'm confident, independent, spontaneous, and I know what I want." All of which can come across as "selfish" to codependent, insecure, indecisive, people.
Yeeeeeeah so something I would write lol - fun to relate! I agree that most of the words thrown at us most likely come from people who are more co-dependent on others and also just over compensating their “helpful nature” which if anyone does a lot of that it’s not “the best” help. I do honestly feel that I have the ability to deeply help others when I’m called upon to do so, but that’s also because I have reserved that energy to help more on a deeper / less surface level approach. I’m not the best at “oh don’t worry, just hang in there, things will get better”. I am almost incapable of spouting things off like that, and would rather not say anything at all when those times present themselves. May get awkward during that listening time, but I’m interested in truly fixing stuff - not just comfort surface talk...
Pleasure to meet you!!🤙🏻
Sean
That intro was AMAZING !!!
Sincere thank you for helping me feel like I don’t suck👍
Hi Sean, beautiful job with the editing on this one, it was seamless. Thanks for making Fi look so good. You are right, I would do anything for someone I care about BUT I never make random calls to check on them🤷♀️. Empathy was always comes up high when I do a “strength” finder, oddly I’m not so good at sympathy. Meredith ps I remembered to “Like” this one😊🌸
Thanks Meredith 🤙🏻...also thanks for “liking” the video lol. *Give Zeke & Ellie a treat on my behalf..
Sean
INFP HD will do, Zeke rocked at puppy school today so he deserves it🐕🦺🦮
Been taking a long “Sean time” socializing break from the Internet. How you and the pups doing lady!?!?!
INFP HD Hey Sean, thanks for the message l have been wondering if you were OK since you have been quiet for a while. Work has been crazy as it always is in Spring so I have been driving all over the state looking at wheat trials. Ellie and I went to dog school yesterday, she was awesome 😊 We have been working on an obstacle class and she loves it. She also had a birthday and is now 6. Zeke turns 1 this week. He has finally stopped chewing and digging 🤗 and is still a clown so he makes me laugh a lot. He is also quite smoochy and very obedient but maybe not as smart as Ellie-girl or maybe just smart enough to know that he should just follow Ellie. He will go back to school in intermediate class soon, he also loves it. I wish I could attach a pic of them. How are things with you? Enjoying your break from UA-cam?
You got the busy work stuff down girl!! 🙌🏻
Glad those two are keeping you happy especially with their different personalities you get to pick from. I still have hopes Zeke will chew one of your shoes 🥳 (...ok you can de-subscribe now lol).
As a kid, there was this show on MTV where gnarly injuries were the bases of the show, I think it was called scarred. I could never understand why my brother could watch it without cringing or wincing, and meanwhile I’m over there whimpering like I’m in actual pain. My empathy is so strong, I stay away from some movies and videos because it physically hurts
lol I remember that show! Jacoby Shaddix from Papa Roach (one of my favorite bands) hosted that. Yeah, human nature is drawn to gore etc (why people rubber neck at crash sites, or go to a Nascar race - to see a wreck). But yeah, I hear ya - I'm totally not into horror movies etc.
Sean
This was AWESOME!!! I wanted to let you know b/c, there have to be multitudes of others out there saying, "Heck, yeah!!" in agreement to everything you just said. But 90% (just threw that figure out there for ya'.....but it's probably right) were most likely nodding their heads and saying, "Yup."
So thanks for this video. First time viewer & I'm more than happy to find you!!
Have a good one! :)
Thanks Melinda 🤙🏻
Sean
Ya putting aside our work for others ... N taken for granted 😕 ... Ppl can't understand our kindness
I'm happy I found your videos and channel.
Welcome to the show David - nice to meet you sir, and thank you for making yourself known!
Sean
Whoaaaa you've got many subscribers right now.. i think i still remember when you've made video to celebrate having 1000 subscibers.
Thankyou to facilitate us INFPs to have like minded environment in this youtube world!
As always i'm liking the content that you've made 👍👍
Yeah that video was actually 9 months ago now.. time flys by!
Thanks Anganti - hope all is well 👍🏻🤙🏻
Sean
I recently saw a video by another guy, a funny one, that was about INFP, I had no idea why the YT algorithms had served it up. As I watched it I started to realise this was like me so I went and researched it and soon understand that it was part of this Myers Briggs system thing based on Jung's ideas, and now it really intrigued me why every single joke in the video related to me. So I went and did the test on some other site and lo and behold... INFP. So since then I started watchin more INFP stuff. Everything you say on this is totally like me also. You describe it well. Thanks.
Awesome to hear and pleasure to meet you!
Happy Thanksgiving! 🤙
Sean
Thanks. Happy Thanksgiving to you too!
I came back here because I seemed to have remembered something about being naturally good at writing and imagination, it used to be me, but now I've been in physical pain for so long every time I try to think of something to imagine I can't, I don't know if my physical pain is hampering my ability to imagine and generate ideas for songs and stories but I just feel so lost at this moment, I think I'm actually ENFP, the more I've researched these past months the more ENFP makes more sense for me but it still doesn't take away how relatable your videos have been Sean, that ability to think of lyrics or think of a story or even think of an anime plot on the spot while being alone with my thoughts was the best and now that it's gone I miss it, I am not trying to write this comment to call attention to myself, I'm writing so that if there is even the slightest possibly I'll finally be free from this leg pain prison, that I may have a reminder of what I naturally have inside me that was taken by the pain, the phrase 'You never know what you have until it's gone' has been so relateable these past few months first my ability to run left me and then my ability to imagine also left.
Dear future me if you ever get across the hell you currently face and make it to the other side a better and stronger person, never and I repeat NEVER take your ability to sleep, run, and imagine for granted ever again
Yeah I feel you on the taking stuff for granted till it's gone. I was 100% healthy up till 27 to where I got Type 1 Diabetes. This type is typically diagnosed in juveniles and Diabetes was something I didn't even know what it was. So for the last 13 years now with it I have also got side effect stuff from it year after year that a 39 year old should not be dealing with rather it's stuff 60 year old's start getting. It's not easy to deal with things that we don't see coming, but I just tell myself that it could be worse. Diabetes is something that can be "managed" so it's not like cancer or something.
You ever heard of Nic Vujicic? He (among many others) helps inspire me when my mind starts trying to tear me down and hold me into the darkness...
ua-cam.com/video/nknzSWDcUgA/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/mgmVOuLgFB0/v-deo.html
Sean
the room behind you is soooo cool, i love it!
Loving the t-shirt 😍 and pitbull chew toy ☺️
Lol yeah the pit bull part / idea cracked me up when I was editing through my timeline. I should just make a video of me editing a video cracking myself up with all the dumb ideas that come into my head while doing it all...
I have INTP friend and yeah she's so great and kind to me. She always said to me I need to brave to say no to certain things. Put myself first before others to avoid me getting stress out.
You are adorable and quick and snappy enough that I smiled & laughed all through this! You’re as charming as a chubby unicorn haha! your tee shirt rhino! whole video is so fun on a serious subject! Thx
Lol thanks Eskay. Yeah I get a little excited during video making. Most of the time it’s hard to keep to the point, but I was happy that the message came across good.
Nice to meet you 🤙🏻
Sean
I am also an INFP, you are right!! I try by best to follow my dreams
Hi Sean, How are you? I hope you’re having a wonderful July 4th holiday!! I loved this video, all your points mentioned are very accurate for me as well. And I’m positive that they are for you, mainly because I’ve experienced the receiving end from your great advice!! Thanks so much as always for hearing me out and being the person you are! Have a wonderful evening Sean!! 🥰
Doing well Ana - thanks! Yeah the kid was down in Florida for the last couple weeks so my 4th just consisted of being at home and trying to sleep through all the neighborhood fireworks that have been going off for the last week. Hopefully you are finding some "you time" down there with everything that is going on for ya...
Sean
I even cry in my world of imagination.
Thank you so much for making this video
No problemo - pleasure to meet you 🤙🏻
Sean
@@INFPHD Me too 🥰🥰🥰
When listen to a stranger telling your story so well is creepy but relief knowing Im not alone here.
Btw I love your Tee 'Save The Chubby
Nice to meet you Zira 🥳. Yeah it’s weird isn’t it, but totally agree that it provides a level of validation that we aren’t some crazy person 🤪
Sean
@@INFPHD the pleassure is all mine just glad I found your channel 😀
Me too 👍🏻 Yeah the comments sections are FILLED with relatable stuff / cool people so do make yourself comfortable. I know the overall vibe of the channel and it’s “safe” to let your hair down. I just wanted a place that likeminded people could relax opposed to what we go through in the “real world”...
Sean especially reaching out to people I sometime does and write a long paragaph or i just play the entire convo in my head only to delete it and choose not say anything and keep my distance. Anyone else??
Yes, prior to creating content on UA-cam I never engaged “once”. I loved watching relatable content etc but I had a fear of being judged etc. obviously now going from 0 to 1000% in like a short time frame I have found that it’s actually safer than you would think - especially when it’s a “targeted INFP” channel. INFPs are generally going to shy away from giving you harsh criticism etc and not to say there aren’t unhealthy ones out there or other types watching the channel (there are), but I have been hyper tuned in to what goes on as I see the comments that roll in everyday (through all my videos). I’m obviously the biggest target as I’m the one sitting myself in the spotlight, but even with that I’ve only deleted two comments in my 1.5 years of making content. One of those people I blocked. I made a video awhile back “Keeping this channel safe for INFPs”, and I’m still fully onboard with that. I know personally what it is like to feel suppressed due to the harsh world not understanding us. This is a passion of mine, and I am very sensitive to anyone bullying others. I also made a “Lurker” video which also explains my understanding of what you are facing as I was no different.. But yes, I get people writing me long comments and then deleting them all the time. The thing is that those comments have the ability to help so many people that it’s an unfortunate thing...
Safe place vid:
ua-cam.com/video/UPRWpwWXE5k/v-deo.html
Lurker vid:
ua-cam.com/video/2vSo5xKcYnc/v-deo.html
As an infp, i know that the t shirt that you are wearing, really means something. With unicorn some more.
So I'm a male INFP. This guy is most relatable INFP I've ever seen on a youtube video. I think we grow out of a lot of the more stereotypical INFP traits and get a bit tougher and more grounded with age.
*Edited to clarify- I think we become more assertive and confident in being who we are and we learn how to better articulate our insights - and this video kind of demonstrates that.
Pleasure to meet you Jay 🤙🏻 Appreciate the cool comment and you taking the time to drop it.
This is something I do mentally struggle with from time to time because even though I am simply just being myself on the videos (extremely small portion of my day, I’m not like that for 24hrs) I worry that it may not be so relatable (helpful) to most just due to my age and where I’m at in “my” life. I have started to really come into my own very heavily over the past few years which is just a LOT of self reflection time etc. over MANY years where I was finally ready to let go.
UA-cam was an extreme social media jump for me where I came from only using Facebook about once a year on my birthday. This platform for me is a creative outlet with video editing, a place to potentially help others, and also where I can just vent out my lifetime of learnings/ reflections. I am big on “breaking the negative stereotypes” regarding typology to where many will assume INFPs can “only” be this, talk like this, look like this etc. In the early stages, sure, I fit more into INFP stereotype stuff, but if one is to focus on developing those negatives you can round yourself out better as a “human being”. You gain a higher self confidence, and can articulate all the abstract inner stuff like you said much better. In doing all that you don’t take away the ever important classification you feel the need to be INFP (some unfortunately use the MBTI tool as an extreme, so when they find the “INFP home base” they then limit their growth by staying confined to that box 🥴)...you just learn to make your preferences navigating the world work more efficiently. I still daily struggle to fight off my comfort zone, but everyone does - at any age. The more you win those battles by painting on that canvas, writing pages in that book, making music, etc etc when you don’t want to the better chance you have at the world being able to see our creative gifts opposed to us hiding out in the shadows over fear of criticism and just wanting to fully protect our inner world at all costs (meaning no one except you gets to enjoy). I did all that - I’m 39 now - I want to try something different, and I will say the more I just open up / be vulnerable - the better my life is getting with each day....no BS!
Thanks again man, hope all is well 😎
Sean
@@INFPHD Thank you for that really thoughtful reply- i'm pretty much going to agree with. you for the rest of this comment, if you'd like to skim. Haha. I don't know if it's INFPs or male INFPs or just me...but I didn't really grow into my own skin until my mid-30s. There are aspects that will always just be who I am- i'm gonna march to the beat of my own drum and i'm going to have a rebellious streak and a sometimes inconvenient tendency to empathize, but as I've gotten older, I've learned how to incorporate those aspects into my life and stay true to who I am without feeling the need to assert *this is who i am!* Turns out you are I are very close to the same age- which is probably one big aspect of why I connected to your videos in a way I generally haven't with others. So yes- I find what you're sharing in these videos very relatable and helpful- and there is a real value in that, ya know? So thank you. I look forward to watching more of them. (BTW- i literally post on facebook once a year- a "thanks everyone" post on my birthday. Funny stuff)
Yeah soooo crazy! I do enjoy relating to all commenters, but the age demographics are more of the 20’s crowd. I do feel that sharing our wisdoms can help the younger crowd, but at the same time I try to navigate it softly as I remember when I was a younger age “I want to experience it for myself - thanks old dude who doesn’t get it”. So when I do get random ones around my age and older there is an obvious deeper connection just due to that extra time / experiences we have gained to then form that coming into our own. I have had a good bit of conversations where other INFPs (women ones too) had that mid thirty/ early 40 light switch turn on. Like honestly for me...I’m looking more forward to my 40’s than any other past decade. Just all that sifting through information for so long to then have that better overall life clarity / self confident validation is empowering! I will say though that comments along these lines help me mentally to just keep doing “my thing” and being myself - at my age. I did all those teenager, 20’s, 30’s INFP things so I feel I can still provide a soft insight to my learnings and what I wish I would have done sooner, but with also understanding an “INFP majority audience” I have to tread cautiously with my “you guys GOT to do this” Lol.
...I’m just happy that I don’t have to make that birthday reply for like another 6 months 🙌🏻
Sean
@@INFPHD this is such an infp response ^_^ i couldnt stop smiling in self-recognition too hearing u talk!
About "Altruism", i´ve struggle a lot in my life trying to toughen up, be more assertive, even more agresive, since i was little my dad would encourage me to fight back the bullies defend my little sister, but it was so hard and i hate violence, my atempts to be more agressive never were agressive enough, if that makes sense. As an adolescent i tried to portray myself as less friendly and unninterested, but because of this socialize became harder and i also developed social anxiety at the time. I actually think my personality changed, i became more bitter and pesimistic. Is sad, but i think is true that you can´t be too nice because people take advantage of you, and not only kids, adults do the same, i´m 26 now, and i'm trying to find balance between making people take me serious and still be able to socialize beacuse i've isolated myself for too much time, ironicly now i'm trying to be a little more like i used to.
Yeah I think INFPs in general (especially early on) struggle with a lot of the things society and the majority of those around us (especially family / friends) deem as stuff we NEED to be doing. I agree that there is something to be said for strengthening our personal boundaries and getting better at saying "no" for example - otherwise you will get beat up a good bit.
I was heavily bullied early on all through highschool, and that is my top thing I despise now-a-days - not when it happens to me (I'm VERY good at processing through that stuff now - years of practice), but when others are being bullied. That is something which for me personally (everyone has their own things) will put me into an out of character aggressive state. But yeah, I've been in "one" physical fight my entire life which was me stepping in the middle of a guy beating up a girl at a bar (to my surprise I won...nice to know I can defend myself if it comes to that...) and that was around age 30. I have just never understood the need for aggression, and typically when I do try to bark it comes out more like a yap from a small dog (especially if the people really know me).
I stumbled across MBTI a couple years after your age and that really helped me feel validated regarding the things I was doing were not "wrong", just "different", from what the majority around me was doing. This validation really started my 30's (39 now) as the path towards self-acceptance and not caring / doing what I thought others expected from me. It's not like I'm 100% non-caring to what people think of me, BUT I'm a lot more forgiving with it all which that then creates a self confidence vibe to which people respect in that light. THEN - naturally they will take you more seriously based on that. TRUST ME....I did it for sooooo long - you do what people want you to do because you feel it will limit conflict and increase their happiness with you....it doesn't. *and you may very well have to go through the motions more yourself to get that "experience", it's just something I wish I could go back and tell young Sean about...
It's been a looooong road and still I have my daily struggles to overcome, but it's honestly just the faster you accept yourself and the things you do is when your "INFP life" really awakens!!
Nice to meet you Lorena!
Sean
@@INFPHD thanks for sharing your experience.
For a year I was heavily isolated because of what my job was. Essentially stuck in a box with about 10 others and we all got along and understood each other. But I was able to be alone and at times I would be saying maybe 100 sentences in that whole day. When I came back from that and joined the larger part of my work. I was freaking out inside, I didn’t know anyone except for a couple people and I had essentially forgot how to handle people. Still don’t but I know more.
@@firewing1319 that sucks, at my job i would have no problem dealing with costumers, but it was pretty hard for me to get along with my coworkers, we had a very nice polite relationship but i didn't know how to interact with them in a more friendly way, and most of them were really close with each other but i couldn't really open up and comfortable although i work there for more than 3 years. Actually a few months of therapy helped me.
Yeah Firewing I personally like to work alone or in small groups (as most viewers on here probably do). However, to find that while also needing to mingle in society to “pay the bills” it’s not always going to be that way. The jobs I have held essentially were very extroverted type jobs where good verbal skills were basically required. It’s not ideal, but the more you just keep taking it day by day things do get easier for you to navigate through all those people - you just more and more get an idea of what to expect which lowers anxiety the more you hack away at trying to figure it out (goes with anything in life obviously). So yeah, the early stages of being amongst a large group are extremely stressful...just takes time.
Sean
I love the edits, especially the pitbull 😂👍
Lol yeah that one cracked me up while editing 🤗
Thank you, you're an inspiration and this is awesome!
Thanks Kam - pleasure to meet you sir! 🤙🏻
Sean
Yes to all of them!
I LOVE that "silver platter" image you used.
I tend to describe it as myself often running through simulations with various outcomes and hence having a massive library not just on thoughts but also on the emotional scape! Solutions, the workings of thongs, connections! It's all there.
And I love how you speak about the aspect of how it's all there but we're not prone to go out with it (unless it happens to follow our passion and path). But if someone (with the um.... correct "authorisation" 😂) opens a door for us to go through or comes in for help, we're completely there. And that's also a crucial aspect: being fully there when we are in service of another person.
It's crazy. On a lot of things we're pretty much all which people idolise. But "strangely" (obviously 🙄) people tend to shun everything that comes as a price and consequence of nurturing these very skills. Even though it's simple logic!
- High social skills require a lot of reflection.
- High creativity requires a lot of retreat for the intake, processing and rearrangement/recombination of information
- high empathy requires high sensing and processing skills. They naturally lead to a shortage of intake time before the storage is full X'D
- high grade if integrity - as you said - requires to leave group dynamics or switch between many. Naturally consumes a lot of energy and strains endurance. All these "No"s and "Don't"s on our ways....... It's SO helpful when you get a "I don't get it but if it's what you need, then go for it! Can I help in any way?"
- all that naturally consumes a lot of time
One of the nice pictures I like to usr is that of wine. If you want a really good one you need to wait out the right weather conditions, give it the right treatment, give it the space it needa, give it the time it needs. That's when you get to enjoy a wonderful result. There's no forcing it (without quality loss).
Great video!
Oooooooooo I like your style Kat 🤗 Welcome to the little party and great to meet you! 🤙
Sean
@@INFPHD XD Yaaay! For once a party I feel really really comfortable with 🤭😋
I work very hard to keep is safe down here on a daily basis and I can assure you the vibe down here across all my videos is a relaxing comfortable one. My video I’m gonna post in the AM goes into my comments section and the high value I hold for it. As well the “novel commenters” which I feel you will be fitting into that category (I throw my share of novels down here as you will find) and that I sometimes struggle getting to those comments because they take so much time to process and really do justice on a quality reply to where I can get easily burnt out by all the little ones. So yeah tomorrow’s video goes into all that, but yes prior to me making content 2 years back I didn’t engage a single bit on social media. Now since I realized I didn’t die I try to lightly encourage the viewers to also do the same because it’s a super helpful thing down here especially when someone like you takes the time to drop the comments you just have. Forget about me....it helps future viewers!!
@@INFPHD We're so in tune! I let replies sit for up to a month. And then I have days where I go through them all and am gushing with the passion to reply deeply and in an "individual cut" way. 😊 I've learnt to teach my friends about it. Now they're used to it and even form good habits. Such as running on instant reaction pressure or reply pressure at all. They all have my encouragement and permission to not touch our conversations before they're ready no matter the time. I love them either way and urgent matters will be communicated in different ways. 😁
Here I thought I'm the only person who always has in mind how forming a well considered comment always makes sense. If not for the person we reply to, then for the people who follow and read along even years later. 👀 Have we just spotted another (non-exclusive) "INFP thing"? Who knows! I'll be enjoying to look through your channel (as my pace allows me to 😂)
Yeah it’s my favorite thing is to “relate” and also I started using that phrase recently. Yeah I just get a lot of people who are new to my channel who delete their comments (great comments) before I get to them. I would typically always reply very fast so I could soothe their minds of a piece of them being out in the world and...well, what our minds can do. But with the channel getting bigger I burnt out a little more trying to sustain all comments because I just know the bravery it takes for us to put things out there that I want to appreciate ALL of them...just can’t always do that as I’m not some special person and need my downtime like everyone else does. It’s just the viewers can easily lose site of that so that’s really what tomorrow’s explanation is so people stay encouraged to engage and not lurk. My longtime viewers we definitely have that “understanding” you mention above, but people who don’t know me yet runaway. I assume I’ll make a video like this every 6 months or so lol
i love your channel and vids, you are awesome!
Thanks NuNu - means a lot 👍🏻🙃
Sean
I laughed way too hard at 12:12 😂
Just loved that video. I felt comprehended hahah your content is amazing, Sean. Thank you for this video. Awesome T-shirt, btw heheh
GUILLERMO!...sorry I’ve been meaning to hunt down one of your older comments BUT now that you are here... I’ve watched the first 3 episodes of Anne with an E throughout this week. Good stuff👍🏻👍🏻
Sean
You are simply surreal, man! Hahah thank you for minding to reply (think it's correct like that). You're the best!
...yeah who knows - I seem to make up my own language as I go. I find that it’s kinda “understood” on this channel lol.
@@INFPHD sorry for jumping in this conversation but YOU WATCHED ANNE WITH AN E? I'm such a huge fan. I thought she's an INFP, but she seems extroverted... maybe ENFP? Or just a very passionate INFP lol.
Yeah Misty I watched a few episodes. Guillermo sent me that way a while back. I do see many think of her as an ENFP, but yeah like you said - INFPs when they are excited about something come off very extroverted/ chatty (I know I do!).
Sean
Have you noticed Sean that these strong personality characteristics also make for the perfect 'religious' revolutionary 'nut job' cult leader LIKE... Jesus or Joan of Arc or Kylo Ren ;-)
Oh for sure. All things, even in good light, can be turned into positive cult like stuff OR really "nut job" type stuff. BUT I also see the other cult (the majority / society) side of things where those words are heavily missing...
@@INFPHD well said my friend! have a great weekend!
There was a jump, Jesus to Kylo Ren. Hahahaha love it
Jesus wasn’t a cult leader. He didn’t make his disciples do weird stuff or love bomb people etc....
Jesus was an INFP
Im an INFP and whenever I hear peoples struggles I feel selfish and like im victimizing myself whenever I get really anxious and held up on their struggles
I am Infp, I published 5 books, take photos, love writing, and I am also a scare actor had a haunted house which is so fun scaring people!!
That’s awesome James!👍🏻 I totally admire those who have put books out into the world. I myself don’t see writing a book in my personal deck of cards, but editing videos very much feels like writing in many ways as it allows time for us to process our thoughts and get it into something that makes better sense for others. Not always easy to put out that vibrant internal side of us without the needed time...
Pleasure to meet you 🤙🏻
Sean
AAAH I have never feel more flattered in my life as an INFP.
usually people only focus in that we are a mess. hahahha
Yeah everyone is a mess Melanny! We have sucky things that we must navigate to a higher extent than other types, but just the same as other types have things we can do with less effort. The only problem where it seems like we are a mess more is just because society (especially western society) is built more naturally for types a good bit opposite to us. So yeah....we all suck the same - society just enhances our issues and makes them look worse which then can make INFPs feel worse cause of it. **I don't like stereotypes / societies pressures to all fit in "their designed box"!
Sean
I found out I was INFP about a year ago and it kinda helped me understand myself better. However, I think I've been in the dark state for so long. People kept insisting that I utilize the skills I have in things that I really don't want to do and it kinda brought me to this confused state of who I am. Because of so much pressure from people, it's like I'm half-cut to fit a mold so now I'm struggling to relive my actual passion. I used to be VERY passionate in language and arts but because people were focused in my skills in math and science, it was just awful. Now, that passion is half-dead. Though there are moments when I get the urge to relive it, i'm also currently dead inside overall. I just dont have the drive to do anything at all because i'm so afraid of undergoing the same pressure. It was like I just shutdown due to the extreme need to feel less pressured. I can't even tell anyone because of the fear of being misunderstood or the fear of the image I have already printed in their minds.
Yeah I totally feel ya on this comment! For a large part of my life I was constantly trying to figure out where I fit in and how I can contribute stuff I'm into out in society. However, the strong fear of criticism, judgment, etc from anything I pull out of my inner world was always too heavily something I protected - plus it's just "easier". Why would someone do something knowing it is going to make their life harder due to criticism etc. In reality I have found the saying "Do what is easy, your life will be hard. Do what is hard, your life will be easy." to have some truth to it. I'm 39 now and up until about 5 years ago or so I was still just brain fogged and held back by my fears of those around me (which are generally non-like minded types) and their opinions. So essentially when everything started coming together and I was able to better see through the fog my self confidence began to grow as well as I evaluated everything in a way that "well, I've been doing it this way for soooo long and I'm consistently unhappy....what if I do the opposite and embrace those little voices that randomly whisper to me coming back to the creative side of things??". It's definitely not the easier path to make your passionate inner stuff for the world to then step all over (which they will no matter how good it is..), but I have found that when you start to embrace that stuff it essentially starts pulling you out of the mud that we can easily set ourselves into. I have a constant pressure feeling on my shoulders to create a video in a consistent manner which is not ideal because I'm not always in the mood and I have plenty of my low low days to navigate through like the rest of us, but when I do actually get things creatively moving I feel better each time. At first it's going to be super difficult because the slightest judgment from someone else is going to have you second guess your value, but it's just something that INFP's have to work on to reach personal happiness in my opinion. This is a big reason why I made those Famous INFP videos as I was one who used them as examples to help motivate me to brave storm "if they can do cool stuff and endure the heat....then why can't I?!". So not saying you or I are gonna be some super famous person, but I do really believe that for creative types like us we have to keep chipping away at those creative things.....
Sean
Ok, this is it. You've inspired me. I have to take the proverbial leap. TODAY! Oh god, I'm scared. Ok, no. No chickensh*t. TODAY!
Awesome that’s the hope to always inspire another. The video I’ve been working on this week is literally just that “Creative motivation video”....
Wanna early screen it right now since you’re in the zone....?
Sean
if you thought up this list, GREAT job man.
i'm not good at much, in a competitive sense; especally regarding stuff like school work or manual labor job work. i'm way slow and i don't seem to do well at giving middle management what they want out of me. i can't fit that role of being squeezed and exploited by some douch bag middle manager (which, for some reason, this job attracts aholes) (the 5% of middle managers who are good, are really really awesome people though).
but the things you listed, i bet we, as infps, can easily be wortld class competitors in.
I'm here for a confidence boost
You are my INFP savior!
Lol naaa - just someone dude trying to help us all feel not so alone in this world...
Sean
As an infp I often times questions if im an infp because people describe infps as special and rare and I don't see myself that way.
Sick video bro
When I am among others especially at work I am 100% team oriented, all for the group and i cant understand why others arent. I'm also an empath. I can relate to the need to process things alone. lol at "our imagination is pretty good" lol at "is that a word?" Def 100% passion here BUT that is often repressed. One thing that I am unrelating to with depictions of INFP is their attire. I am more normal and nice in my dress. The other thing I am struggling with is that I am afraid to be who I am around others. Whereas INFP are depicted as authentic towards others and in their surroundings. I have felt that I am suppressed and acting my whole life.... UNTIL I am able to be alone and in my own space. This makes for a very uncomfortable life especially ontop of a personally hard life in comparison to many. Lastly, I have a struggle at mid age. I am turning 45. Im a woman. I am about to do something career wise that I doubt my capability in. Im going to be a water treatment operator in training. This requires independence thank god. But, the mechanics and math will be hard for me. To add to this, I want to pursue school on some level. And, get this... I am interested in physics. I want to take an intro to physics class. I like to watch Helen Czerski and Neil Degrasse Tyson.... If I could wave a magic wand and create abilities and a position that I dont have or in...Id become an environmental engineer. Previously though I grew up wanting to be a writer and an artist. I have people telling me that I dont have the upper level thinking capacity for the subjects that interest me. And, this makes me feel bad about myself even more. But, where I want to arrive at is some place in the middle that speaks passionately about a topic of interest. For a while I wondered or even hoped that maybe im infj because i have infj tendencies at times... but also because they are thought to have higher thinking capacity. But i think all the online tests are faulty. I can type everyone else but somehow dont type myself well. But most likely I am infp. It is a contradiction though that the infp are considered intelligent yet said to be good for careers youtube asmr or massage therapist... or artist... its very hard when everyone thinks the worst that you already think of yourself. But then low and behold... the INFP courage and strength comes forth rather bold at times and does its own thing anyway... without allowing everyones opinion to navigate their destination. Whether 20 years old or 60 yrs old... I say... never give up. We cant anyway as long as we are alive.
Individualisticness? No. It's individuality. Loved your video.
I tend to merge words together in many of my videos as the words are awkwardly flowing out of my mouth while filming myself. Long time viewers have just accepted my word vomit as have I lol.
Thanks and nice to meet you 🤙
Sean
I'm dang sure that u r an INFP cuz u liked every single comment in the comment section n even replied to some of them which no utuber does...
👏👏👏👏👏
Explained like a true infp...😁
I always have this inner fire that has been burning in me but can't seem to come out, every time I show a glimpse of my capabilities to people I feel trapped and feel like there isn't really anyone I come across who really appreciates or tries to understand. I feel like the more I show the world the more I insult my values. It's almost pointless at times trying to let people know that I am not as dumb and clueless as you all take me for. I have something big to offer if only you give me a chance.
Yeah I feel ya 100%. For me I just came to a point in my life where I was extremely frustrated from being suppressed all the time from the way I acted or the things I would say. After I stumbled upon the fact that I enjoyed the creative outlet side of video editing and was just so determined to find more likeminded people that’s where a targeted INFP channel fell in line. Prior though I only had Facebook that I used once a year on my birthday (no other social media) and would never be caught dead on a video (pics where even pretty rare for me). So after many years (bout to turn 40) of letting “others keep me down” I just decided to face the music and let things out. It’s not easy and being vulnerably open is very hard for types like us especially to strangers, but in my opinion it’s MUCH better than going back to letting myself be held down. We have some cool stuff inside and I do try “softly” to encourage that out of INFPs (or other types that checkout my channel).
Sean
@@INFPHD I am so glad I stumbled upon your channel, it feels amazing to be surrounded by a community of like minded people :)
Thank you for letting me know about your experience. Still in my teens and got alot to see of the world but I guess it's only normal for people with our type to be so eager, I think we all have passion from a very young age and it only needs to be implemented in the right way in order for us to shine. Thank you for taking the time to reply, I'll try to come out of my shell more often now. Thank you and good day!
Hi, u made my day. Thank you. feeling less wrong.
I feel I match all points but the fifth. I kind of feel I'm broken on that side. cuz I get my uniqueness and really respect all others but at the same time I can't see what is right for me like you said "this I don't want anymore" but I'm more prone to repeat errrant path/behaviour over and over and be hard on my because of that...like how can I be so stupid to do it again. Any idea how is that?
So I have obviously has the pleasure to talk with many INFPs on here over the past two years. I have found a little pattern which was even something true for myself (everyone is going to be different), but I have heard that many older INFPs felt like this switch happen around mid 30's to early 40's. For myself it happened around 37 (turning 40 next month). What I think this is is that for us INFPs we spend soooo many years trying to figure things out, figure us out, figure society out, etc etc that all that time of searching / confusion leads up to a point where a switch happens. This meaning everything sorta finally makes more sense through all the chatter of what society expects from us, the "American dream" (if living in US) of a big house, fancy car, high paying job, etc is not an "INFP dream" then you are able to finally accept that what we are doing in life is "OK" and not bad like many make us feel. When you get to that honest state of mind with yourself then it kinda feels like a big weight is lifted off our shoulders and the second half of our lives begin to turn in a positive direction. I almost look at it as for INFPs we kinda trade our first half with crazy confusion and the more preferred society types who fit the mold better trade their second half of life with more unhappiness of never understanding who they really were because they were too busy trying to climb a corporate ladder and get all those things we don't generally care a bout as much.
So yeah I feel that the pressures of society are going to get us to do things that aren't fully aligned with what we "want" to do. I don't think that part ever really goes away, but I just see it as at some point mid life for you it gets easier to not do those things and do more of what we want without fear of peoples judgments etc..
Sean
@@INFPHD thank you. I'm 32 from Switzerland but I believe Society disgusting judging model spreads around Europe as well as in US . Because people I live with are really closed minded eating up all the bs they heard on the local news. Follow blindly what was done in the past and considered to be right for their past generation and all the silly trends that came from who moves the masses. A lot of non sense to me and misfits feeling.
I only started working on myself this year. I know. I paused my life around my 20s and to make an example I felt really embarassed to find out so late that I'm not alone with this type. It was less painful finding you all. Knowing to be understood for once it IS a big thing that started the revolution inside me.
My individualism it's there then. only kind of need to be awaken through acceptance. Maybe I struggle because now I try to erase "common duty and structure" completely and that is not possible.
I'm going to dig further (as u know). Thank you. I hope to come back here soon with that clarity. Thanks, thanks and thanks again.
I knew it was right to step out and ask. not so bad after all ;)
Having passion is our passion I believe! I love your videos! INFP through and through! 😬💪🙅
Thanks Mindy 🤗 Pleasure to meet you 🤙🏻
Sean
I felt the same as you when discovering MBTI...I always felt so different from others and I never felt like I was understood. Now that I know I'm not crazy and there are others just as weird as I am...I feel empowered and it's a relief knowing I'm not broken...just extremely unique💛 I relate to almost everything you say. INFP is a thing! INFP lives matter!🤭
Lol yeah that’s essentially why I created this little space. I’ve never been a big social media person (still not except of course this), but always found myself digging through relatable INFP videos prior to creating myself. A lot of those creators have since long gone, but I also see why they would after being on this side of things now. However, I figured why not pay it back and just throw my weird (...yes Mindy we ARE weird and crazy - it’s great 🤗🤪) perspective out there for the hopes someone out there could get the same feels as I got. For me, it also lets me keep developing my new video editing skills up as that’s my new creative outlet I’m digging - lot of work - but full of creativity options to explore in the privacy of your own quiet recliner 🙌🏻🙌🏻.
@@INFPHD I love your videos. You make me laugh and everything you say resonates with my very soul. 🤠🤡😎👏 We are weird! In the greatest, quirky, unique and FUNNY way! Keep making the vids cuz you are great at it. 👌
Thanks for the motivation - not as easy as it looks especially navigating “social media” in general as I’m the spotlight person whereas my goal is always to generally avoid that scenario 🤗😎. So yeah random comments like these help keep me going..
Think I’m gonna make a video coming up “5 things to NEVER say to an INFP!” Lol which could be fun... First couple in my head is “don’t take it so personal” and “you need to smile more”... any choice ones you can think of?? 🙃
Oh wow! Didn’t realize until now this was made 3 years ago 😂
This is spot on ;-)
Idk but as an INFP I’ll get really obsessed with a character from some form of media then I’ll dedicate the next 4 months towards them
HEY BUD, You did great at explain the wow side of being INFP, yeah we are awesome and we have gone through a world of hurt and come out the other side full of self awareness and strength, and we are so willing to share our experiences to help someone anyone in their hour of need......but fuck right off if you think we are selfish just because we don't go round people pleasing doesn't make us selfish it makes us more evlode than the rest of ye,lol, so stop hating and just ask for our support and we will give it without strings attached, but we are not going to carry you, we have enough to carry ourselves....brill ved, my young son is an INTP, I drive him crazy but we get each other and makes for the most beautiful relationship, though he can wreak my head too,lol
Nice to meet you Deirdre 🤙
Sean
@@INFPHD very insightful video.....sorry about the bad language in my comment....just sick of the selfish label.......oh how we know that people pleasing role, trying our best to be all things to all man, soul destroying, exhausting, personally i didn't just have the energy anymore if you know what i mean, it wasn't until i was brought to my knees for the millionth time did i realize and come into awareness of the fact I'm not here to save anyone, I am here to find me and have the best life doing that......and hey if i can help someone along the way id be honoured, but as long as you know i have nothing to offer anyone other than my own experiences and it's not my job to go running around looking for someone who needs my help, i discovered I'm not God, my purpose is to experience the Devine power within me and live through that period. thanks again
It's funny to see all the infp words during the intro, where the exciting, marketing-like music was clearly not intended for infps, lol
So for an INFP geared channel what words / music would “all” INFPs like to see and hear?
@@INFPHD I hope I didn't offend. I was just trying to be funny since the music seemed pretty energetic and reminds me of promotional material. I was just trying to play off the stereotype of infps not liking business as a light-hearted joke
No it’s all good and hard to pick up proper context in comments. A big part of my channel is breaking the stereotypes whereas INFPs can only do this, like that, talk one way, listen to ASMR music, etc. Video editing/ UA-cam is a creative personal passion for “me” so for a stereotypical thing - generally when INFPs find something they are into they get “excited”. I can purposefully dull / quiet everything down to not scare of the quiet INFPs who aren’t particularly passionate about videos, but then I wouldn’t be bringing my most authentic self to the table and that defeats the point of my excitement towards this one creative outlet I have for myself at this time in my life...
Sean
Wow congrats on the views
Yeah someone must’ve shared that one on some site as it exploded quickly out of the gate.
I really enjoy being INFP .Our level of coolness & kindness is sweet . But it takes time to get used to being INFP.
Totally agree Patrick! I've talk to a handful of older INFPs while running this channel and like with me there was a switch of acceptance / clarity in the mid thirties - early forties from "where do I fit in and what do I do" to more of a self-confident type thing. I think it just comes from needing to explore soooo much with our Ne and logging that info in combination with Fi and Si that after we get a huge bulk of data for what works for us and what doesn't that we eventually have enough logged that we can rest a bit easier and again, be more confident of who we are is OK...
I turn 40 in two months and I'm actually more excited about this decade than any other so far....
Sean
We are people of many talents
I can feel the Ne is strong in you :D
As an INFP I am good only at hating myself constantly
Infp here n I like helping ppl
Exactly 💯
When I read the title , I immediately think " Hmm. I suck at most things and not really good at doing anything "
After watching the whole video I was like " Oh these things ". Tbh I used to think people around me have the same mindset, empathetic and can put themselves into other shoes easily. But after discovering things like Personalities,Brigg Myers and others, I thought that oh that's why people kept calling me weird.
Lol yeah I just thought it was good to “remind” us likeminded types that we “do” have things we do well where the majority can come to appreciate. It’s easy for us to fall into our pits of depression etc, where we feel we suck at everything because society just seems to be doing everything we don’t feel like doing, but that’s the thing - those people who think we are weird aren’t generally doing the things we can do. Sooooo if we don’t do them and stay in hiding - the world is more one sided which is not good...
Sean