This had me in tears. I initially watched this video because I want to be a foster parent - and not the kind that has been described here, I want to know how best to support children in the welfare system. This comes from a memory when I was a child, I was in a bereavement group after losing my mum. Two twin girls and their baby sister were in the group, they were separated from their baby sister and the foster parents weren't looking after them, they were coming to us for breakfast and occasionally dinner too. I don't know what happened to them, we mentioned what was going on to our social worker, they went to another foster family - and I never heard from them again. I have never forgotten them and always wonder how they are doing today. In secondary school I had a friend who had been moved between families 6 times in two years - I always wonder why, she was such a sweet girl, never any trouble. I want to prevent this from happening if I can.
I wish I was standing in front of this man right now. I want to give him a tight hug. For being this person who is working to change the system, so that the children are truly cared for. And also, kinda of comfort and acknowledgement of what he went through, in his time in care. This man is a beautiful person
Rarely do I find something I completely agree with. This change in strategy will impact the foster care system in a positive way. Good job to this young man. Best wishes to all those looking for a new chance. A family. May you all be blessed.
This message is simple and powerful. Look for kin to be of assistance first. The family impact for all involved internally is immeasurable. Many blessings to this young man and the positive impact he is having on at risk youth.
I was a foster parent long ago in my 20’s. The first baby placed with me 8 months old I fell in love, as did my husband. I had patience with her tiny slow eating. I talked and played , looking into her eyes get each spoonful as she was ready. One day a social called. They were placed her in an adoption home. Pain ( emotional) ripped my heart. We had been told if she was ever free my her family we could. I went to a national convention. Learned of languages of Native Americans we not allowed- moved to white families. These a short of long stories. Money given doesn’t pay for all they need. I did emergency care- got a few teens. I set rules , homework and listened to them. Grades all went up. I learned about PTSD then 1973-. I so love this young man’s talk! Thank you. I love my kids so much it hurts about the homelessness due to lack of life skills. I hope you stay strong change is long overdue. ❤😊❤
Kin is not the panacea that he makes it out to be. Kin are also more likely to allow the parents the kids were taken from to continue to be involved with these kids. I am aware of a case that had 5 kids taken from mom and places in decent non-kin homes. The judge decided to remove all 5 and put them with great-grandmother. This was overwhelming for great-grandma so she let mom come and stay to help. When CPS learned of this, they sent the worker down to check on the kids. Mom grabbed all 5 kids, took them into her bedroom and stabbed all 5, killing the 3 oldest. I wish this was an isolated case, and Kim can be a GREAT solution for some, and a TERRIBLE solution for others. What we need is competent child advocates that will visit kids in homes and remove them from a bad one and we need good, loving, and caring people to seek to be foster and adoptive parents.
We all understand there will still be cases like this, sadly. But for the majority, this is best! Nothing is ever 100%! We will always have those that slip through the cracks!
Yeah, unfortunately most child abusers were themselves abused as children, i.e., kin have a high risk of having the same problems as the parent had. Kin need to be scrutinised just as thoroughly as any other potential adopters.
Love this ❤. Our foster care system has been broken for far too long, and what you said simple yet huge. We need to do everything we can to keep kids out of the foster system and just asking a child who they think they should live with shouldn't be a mind-boggling question.
I know nothing of foster care or the system. Are you saying that if the kid does go to a family member. That the family member doesn't get any kind of financial help, but if they go to a stranger, they get that extra financial help.
Bound2thefloor, no they get the financial help as well but the social workers make the decision that the kids will "thrive" better in a "non-kin" family.
This is why I want to foster older kids. No one wants to have older kids (10+), i want to give them a place where they feel safe and loved. Somewhere they could call home.
I feel like this illustrates that the foster system wasn't created to fulfill the needs of the children, but to remove them from "disadvantaged" (eg poor and minority) communities.
In California, Assembly Bill 403, also known as the Continuum of Care Reform bill became state law in 2015. However, it was not implemented in Los Angeles County until approximately 5 years ago. The reform has made it easier for relatives of children who come into care to be approved as Resource/Foster parents. CPS has a specialized unit where they actively search for the relatives of children who come into care. Relatives are given resources to prepare for the children coming into their care (beds, dressers, basically anything they need to assist in passing the home inspection), they are assigned someone to help them navigate the process of getting approved as a Resource/Foster Parent, training, and receive a monthly stipend for every child they are caring for. It's the darn system that is broken and not the children...this bill should have passed in ALL states DECADES ago!!
Hi Cynthia, I am doing research in this topic and would love to chat about that. Please let me know if you and I could talk! (My name is Gabriela and I am based in NYC)
Awe-inspiring talk! It is about adult's basic attention and care towards their child as real or foster parents! Lion is inspirational movie based on same.
I have parents, but due to China's family planning, I was fostered in a relative's home. My adoptive mother has mental problems and beats me at every turn. As a result, I am 35 years old, have difficulty communicating with people, and have a bad personality.
I've seen the foster system inside out form the UK, I have to agree that kin is everything, parental guardianship rights can wipe away any kin that accepts the children if parents unapproved
Fostercare systems are often social services rackets. Instead of making these kids the responsibility of a family member, they would much rather pay a social case worker, psychologist, supervisor and care home worker.
I'm a foster kid and what he is saying somehow takes my concerns and makes it into something platatable. We get abused more than we should. Sadly, Im Canadian and I can't fight here. I am fighting in my country daily. We have a terrible statistic SOLELY because we have we struggle. Foster children like adoption are a big concern.
My mom was a big foster kid fight. She died from OD. I want to help more like me. My mom and dad died from suicide OD. I want life to exist for anyone who asks.
Several things said about the current foster care system in this video shocked me. Placing children with strangers is a first resort, and not a last one? A woman adopted that man when he was small, only to abuse him? Why are there so few foster families who do love the children as their own? The more I learn about foster care, the more disturbed I become. Surely, we can do better than this!
Foster Parent's get a bad wrap...why does everyone hate on people who open their homes and brave sometimes the near impossible so that a child can have a stable environment to thrive? What is the deal... everyone talks about the stipend...its really not what everyone thinks....you wont get rich, heck you wont even get by in some cities ...the work is more than that...its a calling, for some a mission and others a giving back to a community that so desperately needs them. Give Foster Parents a break...its not an easy thing. If it were, no child anywhere would be without a home ...
As a former foster kid and a veteran, it's my experience that being a foster kid is much, much harder and much more damaging than being in the military.
Placing a child with kin im sure they lose money, it's like trading money isn't made without investors. X raised in care, when u try tell truth of what I go threw ur treated like ur acting up just wanting to go home.
Yeah that's right I think the best way is to invest with a professional, at least it saves the trauma of too much losses This just surprised me because I also invest with Mrs Chloe Scarlett
I had a bad experience investing on my own until I met Chloe Scarlett,I got to change a couple of things and my kid now goes to a great school. You only have to stick with his strategies
5:28 The simplicity of that question broke my heart! I would love to see our foster care system change in the ways this speaker advocates!
Me too. The foster care system has been lacking in the goal..to Take Care of the Children.
This had me in tears.
I initially watched this video because I want to be a foster parent - and not the kind that has been described here, I want to know how best to support children in the welfare system.
This comes from a memory when I was a child, I was in a bereavement group after losing my mum. Two twin girls and their baby sister were in the group, they were separated from their baby sister and the foster parents weren't looking after them, they were coming to us for breakfast and occasionally dinner too. I don't know what happened to them, we mentioned what was going on to our social worker, they went to another foster family - and I never heard from them again. I have never forgotten them and always wonder how they are doing today.
In secondary school I had a friend who had been moved between families 6 times in two years - I always wonder why, she was such a sweet girl, never any trouble.
I want to prevent this from happening if I can.
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I wish I was standing in front of this man right now. I want to give him a tight hug. For being this person who is working to change the system, so that the children are truly cared for. And also, kinda of comfort and acknowledgement of what he went through, in his time in care. This man is a beautiful person
Rarely do I find something I completely agree with. This change in strategy will impact the foster care system in a positive way. Good job to this young man. Best wishes to all those looking for a new chance. A family. May you all be blessed.
Astonishingly simple. How has this not already been implemented...
This message is simple and powerful. Look for kin to be of assistance first. The family impact for all involved internally is immeasurable. Many blessings to this young man and the positive impact he is having on at risk youth.
Man, I wish I was at this event! Dude almost made me break down crying. Powerful...POWERFUL speech and message.
I was a foster parent long ago in my 20’s. The first baby placed with me 8 months old I fell in love, as did my husband. I had patience with her tiny slow eating. I talked and played , looking into her eyes get each spoonful as she was ready. One day a social called. They were placed her in an adoption home. Pain ( emotional) ripped my heart. We had been told if she was ever free my her family we could.
I went to a national convention. Learned of languages of Native Americans we not allowed- moved to white families.
These a short of long stories.
Money given doesn’t pay for all they need. I did emergency care- got a few teens. I set rules , homework and listened to them. Grades all went up. I learned about PTSD then 1973-.
I so love this young man’s talk! Thank you. I love my kids so much it hurts about the homelessness due to lack of life skills.
I hope you stay strong change is long overdue. ❤😊❤
Absolutely love to see kinship care uplifted in this way. Amazing work!!
Kin is not the panacea that he makes it out to be. Kin are also more likely to allow the parents the kids were taken from to continue to be involved with these kids.
I am aware of a case that had 5 kids taken from mom and places in decent non-kin homes. The judge decided to remove all 5 and put them with great-grandmother. This was overwhelming for great-grandma so she let mom come and stay to help. When CPS learned of this, they sent the worker down to check on the kids. Mom grabbed all 5 kids, took them into her bedroom and stabbed all 5, killing the 3 oldest.
I wish this was an isolated case, and Kim can be a GREAT solution for some, and a TERRIBLE solution for others. What we need is competent child advocates that will visit kids in homes and remove them from a bad one and we need good, loving, and caring people to seek to be foster and adoptive parents.
We all understand there will still be cases like this, sadly. But for the majority, this is best! Nothing is ever 100%! We will always have those that slip through the cracks!
Yeah, unfortunately most child abusers were themselves abused as children, i.e., kin have a high risk of having the same problems as the parent had. Kin need to be scrutinised just as thoroughly as any other potential adopters.
Love this ❤. Our foster care system has been broken for far too long, and what you said simple yet huge. We need to do everything we can to keep kids out of the foster system and just asking a child who they think they should live with shouldn't be a mind-boggling question.
If we're going to pay foster parents stipends to care for children, why can't we pay that towards the child's relatives/kin? It's so frustrating.
I know nothing of foster care or the system. Are you saying that if the kid does go to a family member. That the family member doesn't get any kind of financial help, but if they go to a stranger, they get that extra financial help.
Bound2thefloor, no they get the financial help as well but the social workers make the decision that the kids will "thrive" better in a "non-kin" family.
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That is not a good way to take care of a child.
Good point.
In my state of Texas they have a kinship program and they receive a stipend.
Your an inspiration how wise of you at 15 years to see past your bad times and search for a solution ✌🏻
This is why I want to foster older kids. No one wants to have older kids (10+), i want to give them a place where they feel safe and loved. Somewhere they could call home.
I feel like this illustrates that the foster system wasn't created to fulfill the needs of the children, but to remove them from "disadvantaged" (eg poor and minority) communities.
Knowing first hand what they do is not to the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILDREN. FAMILY FIRST AND STOP ALIENATING THEM FROM PARENTS.
Great content. Very powerful, so glad you met your family.
Kinship care doesn't always work either. It should be the first option,yes. But not all relatives can handle it.
In California, Assembly Bill 403, also known as the Continuum of Care Reform bill became state law in 2015. However, it was not implemented in Los Angeles County until approximately 5 years ago. The reform has made it easier for relatives of children who come into care to be approved as Resource/Foster parents. CPS has a specialized unit where they actively search for the relatives of children who come into care. Relatives are given resources to prepare for the children coming into their care (beds, dressers, basically anything they need to assist in passing the home inspection), they are assigned someone to help them navigate the process of getting approved as a Resource/Foster Parent, training, and receive a monthly stipend for every child they are caring for. It's the darn system that is broken and not the children...this bill should have passed in ALL states DECADES ago!!
Hi Cynthia, I am doing research in this topic and would love to chat about that. Please let me know if you and I could talk! (My name is Gabriela and I am based in NYC)
Awe-inspiring talk! It is about adult's basic attention and care towards their child as real or foster parents! Lion is inspirational movie based on same.
Let’s make kinship care normal.
God Bless this Man. ❤
I have parents, but due to China's family planning, I was fostered in a relative's home. My adoptive mother has mental problems and beats me at every turn. As a result, I am 35 years old, have difficulty communicating with people, and have a bad personality.
Fantastic lecture. Keep up the good work!
I've seen the foster system inside out form the UK, I have to agree that kin is everything, parental guardianship rights can wipe away any kin that accepts the children if parents unapproved
Fostercare systems are often social services rackets. Instead of making these kids the responsibility of a family member, they would much rather pay a social case worker, psychologist, supervisor and care home worker.
Thank you 💞🙏
I'm a foster kid and what he is saying somehow takes my concerns and makes it into something platatable. We get abused more than we should.
Sadly, Im Canadian and I can't fight here. I am fighting in my country daily. We have a terrible statistic SOLELY because we have we struggle.
Foster children like adoption are a big concern.
My mom was a big foster kid fight. She died from OD. I want to help more like me.
My mom and dad died from suicide OD.
I want life to exist for anyone who asks.
If anyone reads this and relates to this fear, please reply.
Excellent!
Several things said about the current foster care system in this video shocked me. Placing children with strangers is a first resort, and not a last one? A woman adopted that man when he was small, only to abuse him? Why are there so few foster families who do love the children as their own?
The more I learn about foster care, the more disturbed I become. Surely, we can do better than this!
Amazing talk
8:10 wow ❤
Does anyone know if there are ways to support his plan and the federal bill he discussed?
Good as always
The foster care system for dogs is amazing, so why isn’t it the same for humans?
Many are put down.
Foster Parent's get a bad wrap...why does everyone hate on people who open their homes and brave sometimes the near impossible so that a child can have a stable environment to thrive? What is the deal... everyone talks about the stipend...its really not what everyone thinks....you wont get rich, heck you wont even get by in some cities ...the work is more than that...its a calling, for some a mission and others a giving back to a community that so desperately needs them. Give Foster Parents a break...its not an easy thing. If it were, no child anywhere would be without a home ...
Yes 👏🏿👏🏿
I have a hard time believing that foster youth are 2x more to experience & suffer from PTSD 🤨
As a former foster kid and a veteran, it's my experience that being a foster kid is much, much harder and much more damaging than being in the military.
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Placing a child with kin im sure they lose money, it's like trading money isn't made without investors. X raised in care, when u try tell truth of what I go threw ur treated like ur acting up just wanting to go home.
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Foster kids are "ghetto useless"
You miss opportunity by ignoring the help.
Ill always be advocate. Foster kids are circumstantial to truth. Hopefully you have no agenda.
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Yeah that's right I think the best way is to invest with a professional, at least it saves the trauma of too much losses This just surprised me because I also invest with Mrs Chloe Scarlett
Wow! I made a lot of money last year trading with her. Damn....She's really a professional with her new strategies
I had a bad experience investing on my own until I met Chloe Scarlett,I got to change a couple of things and my kid now goes to a great school. You only have to stick with his strategies
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The foster care system for dogs is amazing, so why isn’t it the same for humans?
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