I think people should stop these conversations and work on themselves and go where they are appreciated. Don’t date someone you’re not attracted to but be realistic in your needs and not just eye candy. Don’t settle for qualities in men or women that you don’t want. If someone has values that don’t align with yours then leave them. Don’t stick around in situations you don’t want and hurt them.
I would also like to add that we should be kind and compassionate and understand other's lifestyle choices and stop referring to people as dusties because they choose to be a beach bum. I work. I take care of myself. I'm able to bath and wash my clothing. So what I live in a tent on the beach. I am a human being who has a Mind of his own, a Soul and a Spirit. And I am more kind hearted than most who do have a house/apartment and a car because most of those people think that they are better than people who choose to live as I do. The fact that people can fix their mouths to devalue man, a human being by calling them a dusty shows that they have no kindness in their heart. This is one of the main things that is destroying our black community. No kindness and compassion. We have yet to develop these two attributes.
How is a woman supposed to submit to a man that’s not in a posistion to lead her and cover her. She basically has to lie to herself and pretend to honor him. And whole time he’s resenting her for it 😂. Sir don’t even think about a woman until you can take care of her and children. … When will women understand these men really shouldn’t even have access to you unless he has Christlike character and provision. This should be an incentive for him to get his life together. He must earn everything in his life, including a wife and children. A woman is a precious gift to a man and so are children a gift from to their parents. And a man who is of God is a blessing to have in a home . A wife and children will honor him..
I agree with everything you said in this post. I believe women should just be patient and wait for the man God has for them. Instead of dating multiple men and playing Russian roulette. I couldn’t submit to a man that couldn’t lead me, it just wouldn’t work
And that's the truth the woman pretends to honor him while he resents her! Ugh that is an ugly ugly truth u know what u talking about that's all im a say smh
The thing is other men attack good stable men all the time. I saw this in school and growing up. They would prey on the perceived weak male and it was never one on one, it always the “good guy” vs a group of bullies. Unfortunately we as women witnessed this and may have loss interest in a man we “think” can be easily overpowered. Look at how men view Russell Williams.
The "Bullies" were in fact, eliminating future competition, because they know most guys are late bloomers! NBA player David Robinson had a 8" growth spurt from his sophomore year to his senior year. and gained 60 pounds...while @ the Naval Academy!!!!
No, broke men shouldn't date and women shouldn't be ride or dies for these men either. Being a ride or die for a broke man that cheats on you is the worst feeling. Like how dare I hold you down and you still cheat? Never again.
It is ludicrous that a man coaches women or a woman coaching men. That in itself is unnatural and not needed, especially in this day and age. Preachers, pastors, priests, bishops, cardinals, popes all hide in sheep clothing but are wolves, misleading, deceiving, controlling and doing all manner of evil, but yet are seen on earth as respectful, worthy, holy and righteous. Rappers are doing what they know best and are open and doing the best they can on the face of this earth, but are considered weak, dumb, uneducated, poor. So much deception that people say Rappers are the cause of the Black communities deteriorating. The truth of the Black communities deteriorating is because non-Blacks have undercover agendas targeting Blacks economically. Being blind to the truth is the demise of society.
Actually it would be good for Blacks not to date under the age of 25. Because most have not finish school or have a reliable income yet. this is a devastating issue in the Black community. having children at in early age. Single mother are up to 75 percent in the Black community.
What do you consider a reliable income? I'm curious to know because I hear these talks coming from people as if it's still the 90s or early 2000s. The economy has shifted and is still shifting to a drastically differetn economy than what many of us grew up with. Most people live paycheck to paycheck with very little savings. So I don't expect most 25 years olds to be in the same postion I was able to be in when I was 25 because it's a declining economy. I do agree with making sure not to have kids young.
And if the single mother rate is that high, you have just as many deadbeat “daddies”. The men are creating the problem and running from it at the same time. Our biggest problem is our men are boys far too long. It’s the Peter Pan syndrome.
@@ConsciousRebel85 you made excellent points. I think it depends on what kind of life style they want to live. and what do they want to give their children. I just watch a documentary saying a person needs to make 250.000 a year to servie . I think a individual least needs to make 100.000 a year.
Tony is speaking facts. God didn’t create all of us to just stay alone divided and suffering. There are good men out here. Its more important now than ever to be a person of morals in todays society.
To solve the problem of men not being able to get a woman is simple. They just need to understand that women are as human as they are and they need to talk to her with respect, treat her with dignity, and handle her with gentle loving care. Sort of how they would handle their dream car, for lack of a better analogy. I think?🤷😂 It's obviously more to understanding women than that, but as a woman, I think that's a good start. Feel free to add your input and suggestions below! 👇😂
Yes you can.. FIX TOUR HORMONES.. a receding hairline and balding is due to hormone issues. If your taking the right things for fixing the hormones and it’s not getting better with in 3 months then get rid of the parasites in your gut and the candida in your scalp, cuz you have them and then do a hormone reset. No, the doctors will not tell you this cuz they don’t know and there is too much money in hair surgery for men. Capitalism is a heck of a drug
The average person man or woman is not rich, If you looking for luxury then good luck to you. ONLY 15% of americans make over 100k. How ever you got folks who earn 500K who are broke, living pay check to pay check.
@@Jade_Hanson I doubt if he even spoken to any of those people. Does he even consider what mgtow is about? The most I’ve heard from those people are men who has been railroaded by family court, and I can understand how men in America feels after going through a divorce. Especially when he can’t get to see his children, even if he doesn’t have the money to fight for his rights. As much as I understand women who has had enough of men’s abuse and bs. Dude takes no time to understand people, but quick to claim they are blowing up America. That’s reckless endangerment . Argument from ignorance
HoBo sexual. I like how he touch on the root cause of the Broke ness. White supremacy socially engineer this situwaytion. I came up in the 70 when black men was useing their sexuality to HoBo female. The female would be getting welfare, so they would have a place to stay, food. a car. ETC. as I got older I was tripping how this work. but I understand now.
The Democrats did this, getting you folks on welfare, removing the black father/husband from the home. Yet the majority of thr Black vote -even though black Americans are the most traditional/religious- still goes to the Democrats, who called you guys "super predators". The welfare programs were set up all wrong, and I agree with you. God Bless.
I dnt care how he look long as he clean not over weight I’m tall I prefer a taller men but I’ll take a shorter one then me if he’s emotionally intelligent and make my life easier and likes to do romantic things with me lol
Should women date if their broke? I'll answer, yes, if their able to find someone to help them until their on their feet. This guy doesnt understand how this world works yet....
What do men say when they r choosing women? Are they picky too? Perhaps when we embrace Christ the Matchmaker, He will do the picking and we submit to His will.
Sorry...not Sorry. But can't nobody that ain't dated in the last 5+ years, tell me nothing, nathan, Nathaniel, about dealing with a woman out here in this day and age. I don't care what you think it's like or how it was in 2018, it ain't that now.
I gotta commend Tony Gaskins for this interview. He pretty much summed up as to what’s been happening to men in this country for the past 5 decades. And he’s right, the most dangerous man is an insecure man.
The most dangerous man or woman is an Ignorant one. This interview comes from the mind of someone who doesn't fully comprehend social engineering and the intentional destruction of black men from the day of birth. He fails to acknowledge so much that it's hard for me to take him seriously. However, he is young and well on his way. I pray that upon the realization of just how intentionally held back we are he finds even more energy and motivation to battle the many ills that we face in this society. There are No excuses for men; this society has Never excused us. However there are valid reasons for the our current dilemmas.
@@MoonLitFRANK uhmmm he said all of what you just stated😕. I fail to see how he’s ignorant in our plight as black men. Plus what does him being young have anything thing to do with his outlook on life??? Are you saying young blackmen/women have no say so in the matter??? You @MoonLitFRANK sound very ignorant for making a comment like that. Sound like a hippy negro with your comments. Also all of the talking points Tony was going over, I am living that right now!!! And I know goddamn well people are not making excuses for us blackmen. My answer to that is; so what🤷🏾♂️. Been made aware of this for the past 3 decades. What do you suggest we do?? Me per say, I’m gonna keep on pushing and living my life. To me, based on my experiences that I’m having daily, Tony Gaskins makes a lot of valid points that both blackmen and black women would be wise to pay attention too.
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God- 2Timothy 3:1-5
I remember my ex called me lame and boring and he was a man I guess he wanted a party girl but made my life hell for years I’m so happy that crazy man out my life
Tony made some Great points! But he's reaching with the contrast between street guys & non-street guys(I have a significant amount of experience on both sides of the track)...There are an equal amount of Cowards & Heroes on both ends,It's not a "lifestyle choice" it's simply the reality of human dynamics.*Side note the guys that are doing the lesser are actually immensely broken.
The worst still is that EVERY CHILD BORN OUTSIDE OF WEDLOCK is weakened by the 10 generational curse that follows these children. A double whammy. Lord help us!
The truth is...a guy can be stable but if he's not attractive to the woman then she won't want him. The attraction part has more to do with his face than it does height or weight. Women don't want to date men that they're not attracted to and it seems like everybody is tiptoeing around it. Men don't date women they're not attracted to...doesn't matter how good she is...
?? Why would anyone date someone they're not attracted to. Don't be ridiculous. But what does anyone being attracted to you have to do with taking care of yourself?
I would say women have ALWAYS “wanted” to be attracted to their partner. It’s really hard to even be sexually stimulated if you aren’t attracted to the persons face. So the sex life will struggle immensely. However, I would say, even if you’re not the most Handsome Man. If you have a great personality, character, funny, great hygiene, good income, you’ll honestly be JUST FINE. Some of my close girl friends are all married to people that aren’t conventionally attractive. But because they’re AMAZING men all around, it makes him that much more atttactive.
@@ladybluelotus I honestly don’t even know why OP’s comment was even said. The definition of a relationship is it’s between two people who have physical attraction for each other. I learned this in my psych class, and my professor said unless there is physical attraction there is no relationship.
@tiahnarodriguez3809 I said what I saud because even though attraction is the basis of a relationship for both parties, women get pressured by society to give chances to men they aren't attracted to. That is still happening so since its still happening...it needed to be said.
Or one I can’t stand women seem to not get the difference between cocky and obnoxious behavior vs confidence. They think hypermasculine expression is “confidence, manly” 😅
As a 5 foot even woman, I’d date someone your height. HOWEVER, it is true that you gotta be working with something. Muscles lol, not a meat head but some nice arms, nice back and developed legs are always a plus. Be as attractive as you can be. Meaning keep your hair cut or styled, smell good (that goes a long way!) and be interesting and funny. Tall guys sometimes lack personality (they don’t have to work as hard unfortunately) so eventually their height is the only thing they have going for them
We have a lens so deeply rooted on the low end fruit of our people, it's too many of us doing things the right way, raised the right way and raising the next generation the right way for these narratives to be so podcast dominate!! SMH
I am afraid it’s the reverse , if we all as a collective was doing the right thing this wouldn’t be a discussion but there are so many podcast and videos about our people it’s pathetic and as a group we need to clean it up because for those who are doing the right thing the minority are the lesser.
I don’t know. In my experience most women I know don’t mind dating men under 6 ft. I think the loudest women are the ones screaming that but I swear I just do not see it and I don’t know any woman who do. Actually I see a whole bunch of men who won’t date women because of their body figure. Like if you’re to skinny or if your to fat.
I can relate to what this Brother is saying. I can from the street. But got out the Game. older now. But when I was young and work a straight. Job So many females over look me for thugs.
You spent your younger years in the street being the “young thug” now you’re looking for those same kind of women to be interested in you. When those kind of women wanted thugs. Start looking for the Real women. With amazing personalities, morals and values.
1. Workout Daily Preferebly 15/45 minutes a days. 2. Read a book a week or learn a new skill/language 3. Go to school or learn a trade/ get a certificate. (Worst case scenario : go to the army)learn from a mentor or someone older with experience to go further in life 4. Spend time with family and friends. Plan out your months and days before hand. 5. Control your mind and you can conquer your body. Feed your mind positive things and don’t do drugs. Avoid drugs like the plague it’s a trap. 6. Do not date! It’s a trap fall in love with yourself first and don’t become a hobosexual. 7. Limit your screen time on UA-cam and do not watch porn. Have 5-10 interactions a day in person. 8. Don’t play video games. Study the ASVAB military test and fitness test. If you can complete both test you are a high value male. 9. THE MOST IMPORTANT OF THEM ALL: GET A JOB OR START A BUSINESS! 10. ALL MONEY YOU GET IS NOT YOURS! USE MONEY AS A TOOL AND DO NOT FALL INTO MATERIALISM. I WAS MAKING 2500 a week from 16-19. I wish I reinvested it into owning a sneaker store but I fell into the college industrial complex trap. SO NUMBER 10 is DO NOT MAKE LONGTERM DECISONS OFF OF SHORT TERM THINKING. YOUR 20’s & 30’s are a mere snapshot of your life and will pass you by if you are not active enough. Find a support group, create an accountability group, we can make a discord and help each other out. I wish you luck bro you are looking in the right direction , you are consuming content that will push you in the right direction.
15:42 I love to ask this what does a short man do as far as romance because social media will have you believe they all will die alone or never get the lady they want. When you see in the streets all that’s false. I seen a man with one arm with a fine sista. So where’s the reality of it all.
From a woman perspective it’s all about a man’s confidence. Don’t walk around with little man syndrome. Walk with your head held high as if you have the height and be intentional. It’s a turn off when I can feel a mans inferiority
As a woman who is concerned on the taller scale 5’7” and I like to ware heels so that puts me at 5’9 with on. I’m not bothered by a Guy’s height if he has what call big D energy. Mean confident as hell! ❤ Just my thoughts as a 40 something woman who is a boss lady.
I dated a man that was into anime I didn’t get it but his personality was like mine jus into different things to watch on tv but he was spiritual connected with me
😂😂😂 Agreed. I live how I want. Simple. I don’t subscribe to ANY man or woman’s standards of what “success” should look like. He’s clearly pandering to the female audience. Meh…
Well I have two sons ones very tall handsome n nice he’ll b fine with ladies but I told him don’t pick a girl who dnt appreciate it and my younger one handsome but is more adventurous so the girls will flock
Though out history men never had a problem paying the issue arises in modern times is women requiring men to pay 100% whiles she brings little to nothing at all and many times another man kids.
I use to think a bad boy was exciting cus I’m a good laid back girl but that bad boy didn’t listen disrespected me cheated n partied all the time left me home alone I quickly b found I I need a man jus like me go to work n go home maybe do things outside together differently up bringn will find the fun
Tony's talking points align with BW narratives about BM. Please observe that he never talks about dysfunctional BW and the impact they have on Black culture, especially black children.
@@stepng4044 the more reason he needs to know the difference between a man and a father. 17 years out the single man life takes away his expertise when it comes to regualr men of today
I understand seeing what's real out there, but I will not be gaslighted into being with someone who is ugly to me. I want to be attracted to them physically, mentally, in as many ways as possible. If that's picky, then so be it I guess, lol. Plus, I thought women being picky/the pickier sex was normal and expected. You should be able to marry multiple people. And this sounds like it's from the lens of monogamy. Monogamy is cool. Polygamy can work too if not more so imo it just depends.
Thank you and best believe dating ugly/moderately unattractive men isn’t better like others will argue. They are insecure and have low self-esteem and will want to make sure you internalize their same pain and negative feelings. We honestly should date men who we are physically, mentally and emotionally attracted to.
lol i want the whole package and i dont want a old man im young and i dont llike men grandpa age because ik i waont be pleased when we do marry idc men get a nice lookn women and a good kind woman at the same time,
Women have to reject men because so many men come at us and we can only choose one.. well we’re supposed to choose one but even those who choose multiple could never choose all the men that approach her. We literally have to reject men just on numbers that approach women
I am laughing at this foolishness because as an experienced outdoorsman, I have been in relationships with a couple women since I have been down here in Florida (Orlando and Melbourne). This is the bullshit that I discussed with another UA-camr just a couple minutes ago. "Have your own place?" I have a place. I live in a tent on the beach. I have had great jobs where I was well able to take care of myself. One job which I LOVED was a landscaping job that was paying me $17 and hour. Another job was as a concrete laborer paying me $18 an hour. I like it as well. I have lived in the woods and got up and worked as an irrigation helper. So this claim that a man who doesn't have his own place isn't independent is a bunch of hogwash and this guy does not know what he is talking about and he should not speak on this subject especially if he hasn't lived this life. I have been an outdoorsman since 2018 and have been able to maintain a job to take care of myself. On the other hand, if you have a house and a car you are very dependent because in order to have a house and car, you have to have a driver's license, tags, insurance, mortgage, lights, gas, water, etc which you have to go to another company to obtain because if you do have those things you will not be driving and you will not be living in a house or apartment. The dependant rate for a man like me is very low compared to someone who has a house/apartment and car. I am a lot more independent than most people and my money stays in my pocket more than someone who has a house and car as well because I am not wasting it on all of the things that many have to spend to maintain a house/apartment and car. That alone makes me independent. I swear I just got through telling another individual here on UA-cam that most people do not think for themselves and this is a prime example of what I am talking about. When you live outdoors, you HAVE to think for yourself. I am at the best advantage AND unlike most people who have a house/apartment and car, I have a kind heart. You know, because I don't think that I am better than someone who doesn't have those things. Even if i was a millionare, i would still live outdoors because I just love this life! This is complete foolishness.
Most women, that want a family, which is mainly what is being discussed as the ideal outcome of relationships, don’t want to live in a tent on the beach. It doesn’t feel secure. But it’s great that you’re living the life you want to live!
@@CurlMeLotsagreed. However, the way things are going in this world they may have to adjust and furthermore, I may not even get a woman because of their unrealistic standards according to what Mr. Gaskins explained which I am not alright with, but I am okay with it meaning I accept it because this life I live is a great life and I like it. I would, however like to purchase a bus and make it into a mobile home to travel but other than that, I am the black beach bum and I believe that there is a black wiman out yhere who would live to live this life with me. Maybe I am fooling myself but I'm holding on to that. I seen a video of a couple with, I believe 7 children who live in a double deck bus and work from home making a lucrative living so i know that there is a black woman out there who is adventurous and would love to live this life and I'm here for her. Good day to ya brother or sister (I'm not sure if you're a male or femlae and I mean no disrespect).
@@CurlMeLotsexactly… like what is he even talking about ?? If it doesn’t apply let it fly . He’s living a totally different lifestyle compared to what’s considered “normal”. He’s basically living off grid under a rock and nothings wrong with that. But Tony is talking to people who want a traditional family / relationship situation. People who want/have kids don’t want to live outside and im sure the kids don’t either. SMH 🤦🏾♀️ . If you want a regular normal life you do need a place to lay your head at night , transportation to get around and food to keep you nourished… it’s literally common sense but all the dusties and no ambition boys are in the comments hooping and hollering.
@@CoreyFerguson-qx9wl the standards, especially American standards, were unfortunately not created by “us”, so in order to have some sense of normalcy the bare minimum would be having a traditional home, and unfortunately that does come with paying for things you’re unwilling to pay for at the moment. Life here is not easy, by any means. So I understand the frustration. But the fact of the matter is, there are black men out here meeting the basic standards. This is why it’s important to note wealth isn’t the end all be all, it’s just discipline and sacrifice. I married my husband on a very humble military salary. He’s retired now and we are not where we used to be. We worked together and strategically to get to where we are now. And we still aren’t wealthy by American standards but we are doing fine. I pray you do find the woman you desire for your lifestyle! I can’t imagine her wanting children, though. And I’ll say also, women change their minds. I didn’t think I wanted children until I had an accidental pregnancy (which was fine because I was married) that ended in a miscarriage. I didn’t have my first until I was 29. I’m 37 now, in my 2nd trimester with my third. You’ve got to be ready for all of the ebbs and flows. It’s hard work being in a relationship.
Once you agree to this Babylon system .. your Dependent , just think about it .... If the Government , were to shutdown tomorrow , most men , wud be scared little pussy cats .... bcuz there dependent on the Government for every FUKING thing , light, water, food, shelter etc etc .......... The Real Independent Man , knows how to survive , without that piece of paper (money) .... Money is Our Slavery !!
Im sure this guy is super wise but its a waste of time listening to this. "What women want", " what women say", they had the garden of Eden & they screwed that up. Besides who gives a flip want a 40 year old woman wants? if she was smart, she'd take whatever she can get.
@@HSBsoulsurfer because of a word called FACTORS. In most states unless the father is married to the father he has no rights if he does not take her to court. Once he do, most mothers fight back making harder for that father to see their kids, place on child support asap.. the real question is "why are so many single moms not letting their child see the father"?
@@alexisc7565 They should marry if they have a great relationship, too many women marry abusive men, too many men marry abusivewomen. People should get therapy before marriage. Marriage without therapy is the biggest problem in the black community. Too many babies are born out of sexual desires and not genuine love😇 I get your point though
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I think people should stop these conversations and work on themselves and go where they are appreciated. Don’t date someone you’re not attracted to but be realistic in your needs and not just eye candy. Don’t settle for qualities in men or women that you don’t want. If someone has values that don’t align with yours then leave them. Don’t stick around in situations you don’t want and hurt them.
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We need conversation exactly like these!!!
I would also like to add that we should be kind and compassionate and understand other's lifestyle choices and stop referring to people as dusties because they choose to be a beach bum. I work. I take care of myself. I'm able to bath and wash my clothing. So what I live in a tent on the beach. I am a human being who has a Mind of his own, a Soul and a Spirit. And I am more kind hearted than most who do have a house/apartment and a car because most of those people think that they are better than people who choose to live as I do. The fact that people can fix their mouths to devalue man, a human being by calling them a dusty shows that they have no kindness in their heart. This is one of the main things that is destroying our black community. No kindness and compassion. We have yet to develop these two attributes.
Conversations like these are necessary but unfortunately it doesn’t change the masses as a whole
@@CoreyFerguson-qx9wl now this is the one. I agree with this 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 have to Eliminate harmful language
How is a woman supposed to submit to a man that’s not in a posistion to lead her and cover her. She basically has to lie to herself and pretend to honor him. And whole time he’s resenting her for it 😂.
Sir don’t even think about a woman until you can take care of her and children. …
When will women understand these men really shouldn’t even have access to you unless he has Christlike character and provision. This should be an incentive for him to get his life together. He must earn everything in his life, including a wife and children. A woman is a precious gift to a man and so are children a gift from to their parents. And a man who is of God is a blessing to have in a home . A wife and children will honor him..
I agree with everything you said in this post. I believe women should just be patient and wait for the man God has for them. Instead of dating multiple men and playing Russian roulette. I couldn’t submit to a man that couldn’t lead me, it just wouldn’t work
And that's the truth the woman pretends to honor him while he resents her! Ugh that is an ugly ugly truth u know what u talking about that's all im a say smh
The thing is other men attack good stable men all the time. I saw this in school and growing up. They would prey on the perceived weak male and it was never one on one, it always the “good guy” vs a group of bullies. Unfortunately we as women witnessed this and may have loss interest in a man we “think” can be easily overpowered. Look at how men view Russell Williams.
The "Bullies" were in fact, eliminating future competition, because they know most guys are late bloomers! NBA player David Robinson had a 8" growth spurt from his sophomore year to his senior year. and gained 60 pounds...while @ the Naval Academy!!!!
You are bringing up examples from school-aged kids. More woman mature after college and are actually interested in the geek or nerd.
Yessss hurting their own brothers
🆘The most dangerous force on the planet is a man with nothing to lose.
Yep
No, broke men shouldn't date and women shouldn't be ride or dies for these men either. Being a ride or die for a broke man that cheats on you is the worst feeling. Like how dare I hold you down and you still cheat? Never again.
Amen! The phrase Ride or Dies means exactly that. You can loose a lot even life.
Who hurt you ..@@wandak1889
But don't change who you are... just know everyone doesn't deserve you.
It is ludicrous that a man coaches women or a woman coaching men. That in itself is unnatural and not needed, especially in this day and age. Preachers, pastors, priests, bishops, cardinals, popes all hide in sheep clothing but are wolves, misleading, deceiving, controlling and doing all manner of evil, but yet are seen on earth as respectful, worthy, holy and righteous. Rappers are doing what they know best and are open and doing the best they can on the face of this earth, but are considered weak, dumb, uneducated, poor. So much deception that people say Rappers are the cause of the Black communities deteriorating. The truth of the Black communities deteriorating is because non-Blacks have undercover agendas targeting Blacks economically. Being blind to the truth is the demise of society.
how old were you the first time you held a man down?
Tony Gaskins, Wise words again… Thank You!!
Actually it would be good for Blacks not to date under the age of 25. Because most have not finish school or have a reliable income yet. this is a devastating issue in the Black community. having children at in early age. Single mother are up to 75 percent in the Black community.
What do you consider a reliable income? I'm curious to know because I hear these talks coming from people as if it's still the 90s or early 2000s. The economy has shifted and is still shifting to a drastically differetn economy than what many of us grew up with. Most people live paycheck to paycheck with very little savings. So I don't expect most 25 years olds to be in the same postion I was able to be in when I was 25 because it's a declining economy. I do agree with making sure not to have kids young.
And if the single mother rate is that high, you have just as many deadbeat “daddies”. The men are creating the problem and running from it at the same time. Our biggest problem is our men are boys far too long. It’s the Peter Pan syndrome.
@@ConsciousRebel85 you made excellent points. I think it depends on what kind of life style they want to live. and what do they want to give their children. I just watch a documentary saying a person needs to make 250.000 a year to servie . I think a individual least needs to make 100.000 a year.
Tony is speaking facts. God didn’t create all of us to just stay alone divided and suffering. There are good men out here. Its more important now than ever to be a person of morals in todays society.
To solve the problem of men not being able to get a woman is simple. They just need to understand that women are as human as they are and they need to talk to her with respect, treat her with dignity, and handle her with gentle loving care. Sort of how they would handle their dream car, for lack of a better analogy. I think?🤷😂 It's obviously more to understanding women than that, but as a woman, I think that's a good start. Feel free to add your input and suggestions below! 👇😂
Absolutely right. Some men seem to forget that women are people just like them.
@@jackiesword101there u have it 👏🏽
There u have it 👏🏽
Go ahead Tony!❤
Lots of Truth bombs dropped in this session!🙏🏾
I can’t help my hairline. That’s from my mom and dad. I’m not bald 😂
Yes you can.. FIX TOUR HORMONES.. a receding hairline and balding is due to hormone issues. If your taking the right things for fixing the hormones and it’s not getting better with in 3 months then get rid of the parasites in your gut and the candida in your scalp, cuz you have them and then do a hormone reset. No, the doctors will not tell you this cuz they don’t know and there is too much money in hair surgery for men. Capitalism is a heck of a drug
For me an easier answer to that questions would be: sure, if he can find a woman who can put up with a broke man.
Listen too these very intelligent information interviews. Grasp and take hold of knowledgeable #wise.
Thank you God. 🙏🏿🤲🏾🌍🌎🌏✊🏾👍🏾
The average person man or woman is not rich, If you looking for luxury then good luck to you. ONLY 15% of americans make over 100k.
How ever you got folks who earn 500K who are broke, living pay check to pay check.
So on point
Boys hustle real men get jobs.
Nothing wrong with dating when broke. As long as you on your purpose. Stay focused kings.
Yesss! This is awesome
Not just rappers. But also street dudes, white supremacy and bullies are also scary.
I would like to know his take on the woman's role on making money for the house along with the man..
Check his UA-cam it’s his name
Good points. But ve we forgot what it was when was younger.
That's not what the Red Pill is. Just saying.
Dude villainized an entire group of people. Just to sell his talking points
@@Nkosi766 yeah, he could have made his point without creating an imaginary villain.
@@Jade_Hanson I doubt if he even spoken to any of those people. Does he even consider what mgtow is about? The most I’ve heard from those people are men who has been railroaded by family court, and I can understand how men in America feels after going through a divorce. Especially when he can’t get to see his children, even if he doesn’t have the money to fight for his rights. As much as I understand women who has had enough of men’s abuse and bs. Dude takes no time to understand people, but quick to claim they are blowing up America. That’s reckless endangerment . Argument from ignorance
Nah he right don’t get in ya feelings now lol
@@Thatgirl782 saying you agree with him doesn’t make him correct. Where the evidence? Candace Owens?
22:23 we are too busy shooting one another
We have noticed that and that's we we move the hell away from the urban areas to the suburbs. You understand why we do it. We're afraid.
HoBo sexual. I like how he touch on the root cause of the Broke ness. White supremacy socially engineer this situwaytion. I came up in the 70 when black men was useing their sexuality to HoBo female. The female would be getting welfare, so they would have a place to stay, food. a car. ETC. as I got older I was tripping how this work. but I understand now.
The Democrats did this, getting you folks on welfare, removing the black father/husband from the home. Yet the majority of thr Black vote -even though black Americans are the most traditional/religious- still goes to the Democrats, who called you guys "super predators". The welfare programs were set up all wrong, and I agree with you. God Bless.
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I was with you until you said the woman made the man unwanted and insecure.
I dnt care how he look long as he clean not over weight I’m tall I prefer a taller men but I’ll take a shorter one then me if he’s emotionally intelligent and make my life easier and likes to do romantic things with me lol
Should women date if their broke? I'll answer, yes, if their able to find someone to help them until their on their feet. This guy doesnt understand how this world works yet....
What do men say when they r choosing women? Are they picky too? Perhaps when we embrace Christ the Matchmaker, He will do the picking and we submit to His will.
Soft as tissue😂😂😂
Kindly define "Broke Men!?"...START THERE!!!!!
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Sorry...not Sorry. But can't nobody that ain't dated in the last 5+ years, tell me nothing, nathan, Nathaniel, about dealing with a woman out here in this day and age. I don't care what you think it's like or how it was in 2018, it ain't that now.
Who’s fueling that risk? Who’s downplaying working me? Women! they cut throat and talk down about what men do for living. This interview is flawed!
Y'all sound like y'all hating on the hustlers 😅
I gotta commend Tony Gaskins for this interview. He pretty much summed up as to what’s been happening to men in this country for the past 5 decades. And he’s right, the most dangerous man is an insecure man.
The most dangerous man or woman is an Ignorant one. This interview comes from the mind of someone who doesn't fully comprehend social engineering and the intentional destruction of black men from the day of birth. He fails to acknowledge so much that it's hard for me to take him seriously. However, he is young and well on his way. I pray that upon the realization of just how intentionally held back we are he finds even more energy and motivation to battle the many ills that we face in this society. There are No excuses for men; this society has Never excused us. However there are valid reasons for the our current dilemmas.
@@MoonLitFRANK uhmmm he said all of what you just stated😕. I fail to see how he’s ignorant in our plight as black men. Plus what does him being young have anything thing to do with his outlook on life??? Are you saying young blackmen/women have no say so in the matter???
You @MoonLitFRANK sound very ignorant for making a comment like that. Sound like a hippy negro with your comments. Also all of the talking points Tony was going over, I am living that right now!!! And I know goddamn well people are not making excuses for us blackmen. My answer to that is; so what🤷🏾♂️. Been made aware of this for the past 3 decades. What do you suggest we do?? Me per say, I’m gonna keep on pushing and living my life.
To me, based on my experiences that I’m having daily, Tony Gaskins makes a lot of valid points that both blackmen and black women would be wise to pay attention too.
@@MoonLitFRANKI bet YOU can’t give one clear example of how YOU are being held back. The only one holding yourself back is YOU.
Definitely. It’s the insecurity that turned them into radical red pill consumers.
@@fruitsarelife7073 yeah it has
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God- 2Timothy 3:1-5
I remember my ex called me lame and boring and he was a man I guess he wanted a party girl but made my life hell for years I’m so happy that crazy man out my life
Some women really aren't worthy of a Good Man,People tend to choose in their league (water will always reach it's level) Vice Versa.
Tony made some Great points!
But he's reaching with the contrast between street guys & non-street guys(I have a significant amount of experience on both sides of the track)...There are an equal amount of Cowards & Heroes on both ends,It's not a "lifestyle choice" it's simply the reality of human dynamics.*Side note the guys that are doing the lesser are actually immensely broken.
You need a Black full custody father like myself on your show, this is nothing but a major spin game.. He not once spoke about fathers at all
This man got two sons. This evidently has multiple parts. I’m sure he’s only gonna speak on what’s asked or what comes to mind
He has a wife and two sons and he comes from a TWO parent household and talks about his father ALL the time.
I mean he answered the questions he was asked 🤷🏽♀️😒
The worst still is that EVERY CHILD BORN OUTSIDE OF WEDLOCK is weakened by the 10 generational curse that follows these children. A double whammy. Lord help us!
Love u uncle Tony he always share gems he all the ppl need 💎 ❤❤❤
Not uncle Tony lmaoooo
The truth is...a guy can be stable but if he's not attractive to the woman then she won't want him. The attraction part has more to do with his face than it does height or weight. Women don't want to date men that they're not attracted to and it seems like everybody is tiptoeing around it. Men don't date women they're not attracted to...doesn't matter how good she is...
I agree. Women today want the physical attraction just as much as men, especially when they're young.
?? Why would anyone date someone they're not attracted to. Don't be ridiculous. But what does anyone being attracted to you have to do with taking care of yourself?
I would say women have ALWAYS “wanted” to be attracted to their partner. It’s really hard to even be sexually stimulated if you aren’t attracted to the persons face. So the sex life will struggle immensely.
However, I would say, even if you’re not the most Handsome Man. If you have a great personality, character, funny, great hygiene, good income, you’ll honestly be JUST FINE.
Some of my close girl friends are all married to people that aren’t conventionally attractive. But because they’re AMAZING men all around, it makes him that much more atttactive.
@@ladybluelotus I honestly don’t even know why OP’s comment was even said. The definition of a relationship is it’s between two people who have physical attraction for each other. I learned this in my psych class, and my professor said unless there is physical attraction there is no relationship.
@tiahnarodriguez3809 I said what I saud because even though attraction is the basis of a relationship for both parties, women get pressured by society to give chances to men they aren't attracted to. That is still happening so since its still happening...it needed to be said.
Dr. Peterson explains how young women mistake bravado for competence.
Or one I can’t stand women seem to not get the difference between cocky and obnoxious behavior vs confidence. They think hypermasculine expression is “confidence, manly” 😅
Thank you so much for sharing this Beautiful Message!!!
Short king here @ 5'4 it's a struggle out here of your my height! It is what it is💪
Even with short women?
As a 5 foot even woman, I’d date someone your height. HOWEVER, it is true that you gotta be working with something. Muscles lol, not a meat head but some nice arms, nice back and developed legs are always a plus. Be as attractive as you can be. Meaning keep your hair cut or styled, smell good (that goes a long way!) and be interesting and funny. Tall guys sometimes lack personality (they don’t have to work as hard unfortunately) so eventually their height is the only thing they have going for them
Anyone else notice that Tony barely blinks. Lol
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We have a lens so deeply rooted on the low end fruit of our people, it's too many of us doing things the right way, raised the right way and raising the next generation the right way for these narratives to be so podcast dominate!! SMH
Truth
I am afraid it’s the reverse , if we all as a collective was doing the right thing this wouldn’t be a discussion but there are so many podcast and videos about our people it’s pathetic and as a group we need to clean it up because for those who are doing the right thing the minority are the lesser.
Content creators don't want to be upliftment agents they just want enough internet traffic and the negative is a positive flow of clicks for them!
Facts!
It’s not too many good ones. It’s the reverse. But these conversations are just all talk and no action. What are we going to do to become better?
guy is stewing in concepts. Humans make up so much nonsense.
Yup, he talking about men not fathers. Fathers have it harder, that part he aint talking about😂😂😂
So do you I’m sure what’s your point?
I don’t know. In my experience most women I know don’t mind dating men under 6 ft. I think the loudest women are the ones screaming that but I swear I just do not see it and I don’t know any woman who do. Actually I see a whole bunch of men who won’t date women because of their body figure. Like if you’re to skinny or if your to fat.
I can relate to what this Brother is saying. I can from the street. But got out the Game. older now. But when I was young and work a straight. Job So many females over look me for thugs.
You spent your younger years in the street being the “young thug” now you’re looking for those same kind of women to be interested in you. When those kind of women wanted thugs. Start looking for the Real women.
With amazing personalities, morals and values.
Can Tony speaks about habits young men can learn to prepare for the modern society
Bless! He does speak about it in the full interview.
1. Workout Daily Preferebly 15/45 minutes a days.
2. Read a book a week or learn a new skill/language
3. Go to school or learn a trade/ get a certificate. (Worst case scenario : go to the army)learn from a mentor or someone older with experience to go further in life
4. Spend time with family and friends. Plan out your months and days before hand.
5. Control your mind and you can conquer your body. Feed your mind positive things and don’t do drugs. Avoid drugs like the plague it’s a trap.
6. Do not date! It’s a trap fall in love with yourself first and don’t become a hobosexual.
7. Limit your screen time on UA-cam and do not watch porn. Have 5-10 interactions a day in person.
8. Don’t play video games. Study the ASVAB military test and fitness test. If you can complete both test you are a high value male.
9. THE MOST IMPORTANT OF THEM ALL: GET A JOB OR START A BUSINESS!
10. ALL MONEY YOU GET IS NOT YOURS! USE MONEY AS A TOOL AND DO NOT FALL INTO MATERIALISM. I WAS MAKING 2500 a week from 16-19. I wish I reinvested it into owning a sneaker store but I fell into the college industrial complex trap. SO NUMBER 10 is DO NOT MAKE LONGTERM DECISONS OFF OF SHORT TERM THINKING. YOUR 20’s & 30’s are a mere snapshot of your life and will pass you by if you are not active enough. Find a support group, create an accountability group, we can make a discord and help each other out. I wish you luck bro you are looking in the right direction , you are consuming content that will push you in the right direction.
Damn bro, we need u and Georgeous Dre on the panel!
@@INEVERKNEWTV where can we see the full interview 🥲
15:42 I love to ask this what does a short man do as far as romance because social media will have you believe they all will die alone or never get the lady they want. When you see in the streets all that’s false. I seen a man with one arm with a fine sista. So where’s the reality of it all.
From a woman perspective it’s all about a man’s confidence. Don’t walk around with little man syndrome. Walk with your head held high as if you have the height and be intentional. It’s a turn off when I can feel a mans inferiority
@@porshiahinds6408facts my brother is 5’2 and NEVER had a problem getting a woman ! His fiancé now is taller and beautiful
As a woman who is concerned on the taller scale 5’7” and I like to ware heels so that puts me at 5’9 with on.
I’m not bothered by a Guy’s height if he has what call big D energy. Mean confident as hell! ❤
Just my thoughts as a 40 something woman who is a boss lady.
Great conversation 💪🏽
The sad truth is us as so called blk people don't know who are as a nation and dont follow GOD LAWS...
I dated a man that was into anime I didn’t get it but his personality was like mine jus into different things to watch on tv but he was spiritual connected with me
Clown world, Everybody's an expert on everything...
😂😂😂 Agreed. I live how I want. Simple. I don’t subscribe to ANY man or woman’s standards of what “success” should look like. He’s clearly pandering to the female audience. Meh…
he never claims to be an expert.
@@Thatgirl782 yet he charge a bag of money 😂🤣
Well I have two sons ones very tall handsome n nice he’ll b fine with ladies but I told him don’t pick a girl who dnt appreciate it and my younger one handsome but is more adventurous so the girls will flock
Though out history men never had a problem paying the issue arises in modern times is women requiring men to pay 100% whiles she brings little to nothing at all and many times another man kids.
I use to think a bad boy was exciting cus I’m a good laid back girl but that bad boy didn’t listen disrespected me cheated n partied all the time left me home alone I quickly b found I I need a man jus like me go to work n go home maybe do things outside together differently up bringn will find the fun
He must have a strong hairline 😂😂😂
Hollering the nerve
Facts!
Define broke? Is it just in wealth?
I can’t believe he said that 😂
Wow! The 6-6-6, 6 figures, 6 ft, and above average of 6 in looks. That's crazy. I didn't know the women over 40 think like that of a 20 year old.
The talking business is where it’s at. Blah blah blah. Money for nothing.
You asked some great questions ❤… Great interview
The women need to give men a chance as well. Unrealistic expectations on both sides.
Do those ladies that demand these things actually get them?
Tony's talking points align with BW narratives about BM. Please observe that he never talks about dysfunctional BW and the impact they have on Black culture, especially black children.
His own wife is from Jamaica so he hasn't even married a woman from the United States to know what BMs are talking about
He literally has a plethora os videos holding black women accountable. Literally a ton.
@@unpredictable244 lol probably love taps
I'm cracking up over the hairline comment....really?😅😅😅
Why the camera so close in his face bro
Awesome interview!!!
❤❤❤❤❤❤Tony
These men don’t find these women. These women are willingly dating and getting in a relationship with these men. These women aren’t victims.
Yeah he definitely reaching. You got chumps on both sides.
16:48 whenever this comes up why is there such vitriol for this or against this. It seems more of a genetics debate than reality.
Facts!
What if he is asking for money and have a place to stay
Well said my brother 💯💯💯
This was so powerful! 😢
Thanks for sharing.
Tony Gaskin women gaslight far more than men
Tony 😂 My man hear me out You are very intelligent...Now I don't mean to put a Black eye in your game..But you're pandering.
Baby face, I’ll give good love , pay your bills, cook your dinner as so as I get home from work
Steve Harvey bs. But it works, women buy that ish up
How? Because he said a responsible adult needs to have food shelter and transportation?? Especially if you want a woman to bare your kids ..
He looking for a woman with good credit😂😂
@@dipesnwipesgang9404 Tony has been married for almost 17 years. Happily and faithfully married is what he says and displays.
@@stepng4044 the more reason he needs to know the difference between a man and a father. 17 years out the single man life takes away his expertise when it comes to regualr men of today
I understand seeing what's real out there, but I will not be gaslighted into being with someone who is ugly to me. I want to be attracted to them physically, mentally, in as many ways as possible. If that's picky, then so be it I guess, lol. Plus, I thought women being picky/the pickier sex was normal and expected. You should be able to marry multiple people. And this sounds like it's from the lens of monogamy. Monogamy is cool. Polygamy can work too if not more so imo it just depends.
Thank you and best believe dating ugly/moderately unattractive men isn’t better like others will argue. They are insecure and have low self-esteem and will want to make sure you internalize their same pain and negative feelings. We honestly should date men who we are physically, mentally and emotionally attracted to.
lol i want the whole package and i dont want a old man im young and i dont llike men grandpa age because ik i waont be pleased when we do marry idc men get a nice lookn women and a good kind woman at the same time,
Working man will never win simple
Win what is the question?
Stay out those IG models inboxes and you will
A lot of these females get a kick out of rejecting guys or feel in power. But usually end up with poor choices in guy. 😊
Kinda sick actually. Keep is moving
No they don’t lol 😂 most ends up with the poor choices bc they’re afraid of rejecting them!
Women have to reject men because so many men come at us and we can only choose one.. well we’re supposed to choose one but even those who choose multiple could never choose all the men that approach her. We literally have to reject men just on numbers that approach women
Another pander bear. NEXT
I am laughing at this foolishness because as an experienced outdoorsman, I have been in relationships with a couple women since I have been down here in Florida (Orlando and Melbourne). This is the bullshit that I discussed with another UA-camr just a couple minutes ago. "Have your own place?" I have a place. I live in a tent on the beach. I have had great jobs where I was well able to take care of myself. One job which I LOVED was a landscaping job that was paying me $17 and hour. Another job was as a concrete laborer paying me $18 an hour. I like it as well. I have lived in the woods and got up and worked as an irrigation helper. So this claim that a man who doesn't have his own place isn't independent is a bunch of hogwash and this guy does not know what he is talking about and he should not speak on this subject especially if he hasn't lived this life. I have been an outdoorsman since 2018 and have been able to maintain a job to take care of myself. On the other hand, if you have a house and a car you are very dependent because in order to have a house and car, you have to have a driver's license, tags, insurance, mortgage, lights, gas, water, etc which you have to go to another company to obtain because if you do have those things you will not be driving and you will not be living in a house or apartment. The dependant rate for a man like me is very low compared to someone who has a house/apartment and car. I am a lot more independent than most people and my money stays in my pocket more than someone who has a house and car as well because I am not wasting it on all of the things that many have to spend to maintain a house/apartment and car. That alone makes me independent. I swear I just got through telling another individual here on UA-cam that most people do not think for themselves and this is a prime example of what I am talking about. When you live outdoors, you HAVE to think for yourself. I am at the best advantage AND unlike most people who have a house/apartment and car, I have a kind heart. You know, because I don't think that I am better than someone who doesn't have those things. Even if i was a millionare, i would still live outdoors because I just love this life! This is complete foolishness.
Most women, that want a family, which is mainly what is being discussed as the ideal outcome of relationships, don’t want to live in a tent on the beach. It doesn’t feel secure. But it’s great that you’re living the life you want to live!
@@CurlMeLotsagreed. However, the way things are going in this world they may have to adjust and furthermore, I may not even get a woman because of their unrealistic standards according to what Mr. Gaskins explained which I am not alright with, but I am okay with it meaning I accept it because this life I live is a great life and I like it. I would, however like to purchase a bus and make it into a mobile home to travel but other than that, I am the black beach bum and I believe that there is a black wiman out yhere who would live to live this life with me. Maybe I am fooling myself but I'm holding on to that. I seen a video of a couple with, I believe 7 children who live in a double deck bus and work from home making a lucrative living so i know that there is a black woman out there who is adventurous and would love to live this life and I'm here for her. Good day to ya brother or sister (I'm not sure if you're a male or femlae and I mean no disrespect).
@@CurlMeLotsexactly… like what is he even talking about ?? If it doesn’t apply let it fly . He’s living a totally different lifestyle compared to what’s considered “normal”. He’s basically living off grid under a rock and nothings wrong with that. But Tony is talking to people who want a traditional family / relationship situation. People who want/have kids don’t want to live outside and im sure the kids don’t either. SMH 🤦🏾♀️ . If you want a regular normal life you do need a place to lay your head at night , transportation to get around and food to keep you nourished… it’s literally common sense but all the dusties and no ambition boys are in the comments hooping and hollering.
@@CoreyFerguson-qx9wl the standards, especially American standards, were unfortunately not created by “us”, so in order to have some sense of normalcy the bare minimum would be having a traditional home, and unfortunately that does come with paying for things you’re unwilling to pay for at the moment. Life here is not easy, by any means. So I understand the frustration. But the fact of the matter is, there are black men out here meeting the basic standards. This is why it’s important to note wealth isn’t the end all be all, it’s just discipline and sacrifice. I married my husband on a very humble military salary. He’s retired now and we are not where we used to be. We worked together and strategically to get to where we are now. And we still aren’t wealthy by American standards but we are doing fine. I pray you do find the woman you desire for your lifestyle! I can’t imagine her wanting children, though. And I’ll say also, women change their minds. I didn’t think I wanted children until I had an accidental pregnancy (which was fine because I was married) that ended in a miscarriage. I didn’t have my first until I was 29. I’m 37 now, in my 2nd trimester with my third. You’ve got to be ready for all of the ebbs and flows. It’s hard work being in a relationship.
Once you agree to this Babylon system .. your Dependent , just think about it .... If the Government , were to shutdown tomorrow , most men , wud be scared little pussy cats .... bcuz there dependent on the Government for every FUKING thing , light, water, food, shelter etc etc .......... The Real Independent Man , knows how to survive , without that piece of paper (money) .... Money is Our Slavery !!
Nice 👍 video My brothers. Peace love and happiness to everyone on here ❤️🙏
Im sure this guy is super wise but its a waste of time listening to this. "What women want", " what women say", they had the garden of Eden & they screwed that up. Besides who gives a flip want a 40 year old woman wants? if she was smart, she'd take whatever she can get.
Dayum!!! 💯
I’m embarrassed for you.
@@durhamrise6207facts sound slap crazy 🤪😂
Black boys need FATHER FIGURE not mentors like Mr. TONY🤔🤫🫣😶🌫️🫡🫡🫡
Then WHY aren't the fathers there? They have to take personal responsibility.
@@HSBsoulsurfer because of a word called FACTORS. In most states unless the father is married to the father he has no rights if he does not take her to court. Once he do, most mothers fight back making harder for that father to see their kids, place on child support asap.. the real question is "why are so many single moms not letting their child see the father"?
This guy 🐼 doesn't do any research and he BASHES BM to please the SISTER HOOD... 🤔
@@dipesnwipesgang9404 Logic would tell you that those fathers should marry throthet of those kids...but that would be too much like right lol
@@alexisc7565 They should marry if they have a great relationship, too many women marry abusive men, too many men marry abusivewomen. People should get therapy before marriage. Marriage without therapy is the biggest problem in the black community. Too many babies are born out of sexual desires and not genuine love😇 I get your point though
I’m 27 got a few more months to get it together lol