Ladies, please understand that I know these women weren't literally calling themselves " A Table". The point I am making is that many of us do not know how to answer the question, or think the correct answer is about material or financial support. It's not about that!! It's about knowing your worth, understanding the value that we add to their lives and making sure that he would never want to sit at that table without you. 🥰
Your correct isn't every one's.. Your different breed same on my end. How I would say or do. Many look at me as I'm weird. Most of this world follow trends. Not a lot individuals. Your fine doing this video. May touch few people. Like I said your different. Opposite attracts
Eva, I disagree when you say that if a woman is broke she should not be dating because I feel this is the perfect time. Why not date a man for his Resources. Real men have resources. The comment " The Table" is just a shorter version of all that you stated in your commentary. Men who have real money hardly ever ask this question about a table 😅
@@Harlem-ub3tn you're exactly right, mam. I reccomend Sheraseven to you. It is literally a man's JOB to have & provide resources! It's a woman's job to use those resources & make his life sweeter so he will go out & get them... I love Ms. Eva but some of this may be her abandonment issues from Daddy not being a reliable figure growing up & his lack of a presence leading to her assault by a 'relative' as a child. That will make you not trust men & feel like you must be self reliant. I'm not saying this out of critique or without heart 💓too many of us have been there. Ms. Eva still has some work to do on identifying the root cause of her distrust of men with a professional. The excess bottles of perfume (& other things) are compensating for something.... ijs
Over 50 years ago when I started dating, my father said to me "if you're in a relationship don't feel compelled to give men gifts, you are the gift." I relaxed that rule for my husband who I have been with for over 50 years. Xoxo
@@tinajoneswilliams4253 No, it is rather shocking that a grown ass woman like you still walks around saying "this is how I was brought up". Don't you have your own mind?? Can't you observe your surroundings and do better. I feel sorry for your kids and whatever you've taught them
What I bring to the table is making him want to keep something on the table… a part of his purpose and reason. But I ain’t explaining to no dude that ask me that crap. I’m gonna walk away.
So a woman should buy u something & u a whole man. My grandfather was a provider. We'd buy him shirts for Father's day & when he died we cleared out his closet & there those shirts were with the tags still on 'em. A MAN. sir, try to catch up...
@@wisegoddess8224 I think Antonio was referring to the comment on what women bring to the table, Not to speak for him and I think you are confusing that with the comment of don't ever buy a man something. I think people need to put that in context too. If you are in a serious relationship and or married, you better get than man something for his birthday and Father's day at least!
I was 13…walking to the store wearing jeans and a tshirt, not wearing sexy clothes, not being fast, minding my business and a 21 year old driving a car stopped and tried to talk to me. I told him how old I was and he drove off but that always stuck with me. I can’t even walk down the street without a grown man trying to get my number. But the girls are “fast”… no no no.
Wow this is the same thing that happened to me . I was 16 , walking to Walmart . No dressed like anything special just jeans and t shirt with sneakers and a grown 23 yr old man followed me in his car saying he could give me a ride and that he was a taxi driver and showed me his card . The store was far away and I didn’t have any one else to take me so I trusted him to drive me there . Long story short , we end up getting into a “relationship “ . I ended up pregnant at 18 and when I lost the baby half way into the pregnancy he became super abusive and one day I’m sleeping and he punches me in the face for no reason Causing me to have to get 7 stitches on my forehead and almost lost my life . These grown men be targeting young girls because they know their naive and will put up with anything . Then they abuse them from a young age damaging all trust they have in men . I really thought I would end up marrying him and being with him forever just because that’s what he made me believe from a young age . And then these men out here want to call a woman “fast” when she has a couple kids by a young age . These men really lie to you about loving you just to take advantage of you .
Its an ugly truth but this is the world we live in. U got harassed a young brotha got his brains blown out or beat up, don't victimize yaself so much. It could have been much worse. Not condoning it but no need to maximize it either
@@jasminexxx3911 Sorry that happened to you. Thats definitely something more substantial than being approached. As a man, I admit most older dude targeting younger females are predators. Not all but majority. Most good men wouldn't even consider jeopardizing freedom and reputation to pursue a young female
@@malikaustin9087 I’m not victimizing myself. I’m sharing my experience. I think we as a society need to learn how to let people speak their truth without trying to “one up” each other. Yes I was lucky in that moment but I’ve also had violence towards me for not wanting to give my number out multiple times.
U bogus as hell. Men get dragged EVERYDAY in society ESPECIALLY BLK MAN lmao you is ALL CAP for this comment. We hear Nickaz ain't shit a grip in song in conversation. Society dogs men who aren't doin their part.MEN hold shitty men accountable. Literally, EVERYBODY holds men accountable. Now when do women get held accountable....Poor mothers get help, poor dads go to jail. Lmmfao this is the funniest shit I heard all day. U would NEVER want to be in a man's shoes fr
@@BloglessBehavior Men have the right to asked whatever he sees fit ,, if she's being considered for marriage,,, same thing I would tell my son.. if she can't humble herself and politely answer she doesn't understand or respect you move on !!!!
None of the men I have dated asked what I bring to the table. When you’re serious with someone and they’re getting to know you, they know what you’re bringing to the table. My man knows what I bring into his life.
Why not gift yourself things tho? Wrap 'em up with a bow & get excited & everything. Gotta start doing yourself better. Men don't need gifts. Your feminine presence is his present 🎁sis
I'm 62 and my soon to be husband is 49 and I love him so much and I'm going to spoil him to death death hes so good to yes by your man a gift they will love it I do massage to massage and so he gets his own personal Massage I love your channel..... I don't know anything about being a table but I am the reason hes smart he smiles when he comes home and hes happy to be there keep up the good work I love love the channel again
I’m 74 yrs old, divorced. Very, very much enjoy your videos. Your experiences and varied advice is on point. Hope it reaches you the right ears, I’m certainly soaking it in. Hope springs eternal. 🤔
No arguments from me I completely agrees with everything you said.Like you said,they know the ones they shouldn’t be buying anything for.I absolutely,despise the “table”question!If I have to explain my value as a woman,I won’t bother!✌🏾
I have no problem spoiling my boo in a healthy relationship that’s reciprocated and I am being treated right. Table nah I need to know what kind of table I am bringing anything to. My offerings are a custom fit not a one size fits all.
Tried and True Ma Eva . I bought my Sweetheart something that he refers to himself as. He was blown away that I was listening and knew that that meant something to him. I been winning every since. Never a table , we are definitely much more than that.
The confusion with this is woman think they are men and say things like they are men and says I am the table ‼️ I’m no table either all I’m bringing is my presence I’m a woman that’s good enough ‼️🆘🆘🆘 I’m not splitting no bills 💵 I’m bringing my presence period ‼️
2nd response. Before my companion died I loved, loved, loved, shopping for him. I had no signs and it was a joy to buy things for him. He treated me like a queen but he didn’t know how to shop for me 😂😂😂. If I saw something I wanted, he would buy it. Somethings we went 50-50 on, my God how I miss him.
Grown folks talk right here! Loved this video. My girlfriend and I were just yesterday having a conversation about what women bring to the table. We're both in our 40s...we both married young...our marriages lasted 20+ years... I'm now at 31 years. My mentality lines up with yours.... I am not a table... I am special.... she's more like...women need to bring something besides themselves...i.e.... job, money...etc.. I am not an never will be a feminist. Gentlemen like ladies and will do whatever it takes to keep her.
Love your answer for the table question. Also the topic of predators is so real, I feel all young girls have been through this. I remember being stalked, followed, harassed, and inappropriately touched by men 10-20 years older than me. My dad's friends, family member, random men, just everything. The worst thing was I didn't see anything wrong with it. I just knew it was weird and I should keep it to myself. It's not until I was a grown woman that I realized how wrong it all was. So disgusting. I remember I worked at filenes at 16, and this dam 40 plus year old insisted on driving me home. I used to take the city bus to work. Well on the 1 occasion I let him, he was a total creep. Touching on my legs while acting like he was reaching over. Hugging me all tight and trying to kiss me. Mind you he had a wife and kids! Smh don't blame the girls, blame that older man.
So true. I can agree to the older man trying to come on when I was younger girl NOT woman. It’s sad but they act like they wouldn’t and never did. Smdh. I think no one under 21 should be dating older man till they are a little older to understand a relationship.
It's not physical beauty that gets older men to go after young women, because women are beautiful at any age. It's because the young ones haven't gotten experience yet, they're vulnerable.
Right. They go after them because they know they aren’t mature mentally and easily impressionable. They in fact say they want younger women because they can mold and groom them.
The way you described what you bring to the table reminds me so much of my mother. My parents have been married for 36 years and I took me getting older to see how they balance each other. Love your wisdom 👍
I feel like what a woman brings to a table only matters to the man who values what she offers so it’s no need to state what you bring to a man. I’ll be honest for a long time I didn’t want to be in a relationship because I felt I didn’t bring anything to the table and I didn’t want to bring anything to the table. I didn’t want to deal with trying to prove myself to a man. But I think a man will date you and know you’re what they need. I notice that guys I date always want to elevate themselves because they’re dating me. Some how I motivate them, I’m feminine, I make a house a home. My current boyfriend always says I helped him with his communication skills and always credits me as making him a better person. He always says he’s grateful for me because of that. It’s funny because I never intentionally tried to prove myself, those were just things that the men who wanted me valued.
Eva, you are so right!!! People always blame the victim and not the predator. I am so thankful for your channel because you never know who you are helping with your valuable information. ❤
Eva, I am 2 sons and you are getting me fired up. We have addressed this issue. I preach to them to try to achieve your goals first and then seek to find a wife to enhance your potential and likewise hers. I agree the answers those women gave were awful. They really don't know their potential. By the way I love the way you deliver your content. 💙🙏
Love this video! 1) I think the women that called themselves tables didn't know how to answer the question. A lot of us don't know what we bring to the table. Or maybe we don't recognize it's worth. 2) I agree 100%! I had one of my stepfather's friends come after me while my parents were in the next room. 3) I really love this and I agree wholeheartedly!! Give a man a little something for no reason and he will be eating out of your hands.
I absolutely agree with you!! Absolutely!! I refuse to be a roommate and I am NOT an Inanimate object , I am not a piece of furniture. Shame on that guy for asking women that question!! My question is, why are so many males expecting women to be the man of the house? Isn't it the man that provides and protects? Eva, we said "Peace " simultaneously!! Grown men and women don't need this to be explained, because it's understood! Thank you for bringing soul food that supports black women and men an makes us think! Stay blessed, be encouraged always!
I think everything you have said rings true. My experience of dating a 37 year old when I was 19 was, perhaps, an exception. He was very polite, protective, and thoughtful. Such an improvement over the rude and ‘handsy’ guys my own age. He set a standard of how I expected to be treated there after.
Thanks for speaking on this topic Eva. I have never been asked this question, but I know it's a trending topic. As someone who has struggled with thinking highly of myself for most of my life, I wasn't sure how I would answer that question if asked. Listening to you answer that question so elegantly and honestly helped to put things into perspective for me, and also gave me a framework for my own story. Now after listening to you, I don't think women should run away or fear men asking them this question because like you said, it's about knowing your worth and understanding your value, which then becomes like a super power that a woman can have without being arrogant or boastful. A quiet confidence when you know who you are. You've inspired me Ms. Monroe, thank you.
Women make everything better. Men would be in their drawers and eating out of cans with a mattress on the floor if it wasn't for us... and we do more than that. I'm just saying.
I'm the same way. I love giving *gifts*. I like to get people things that let's them know that I pay attention to them. And, I love shopping for him just bcus. ❤😊🎁
Oh yes. I know EXACTLY the video you are referring to... I'll sit back and learn what you have to say . Love you lots from Cali 💋🙏🏽✝️🖤💜💋 EDIT: Gift-giver for my man...that is SO ME! ✔✔ You've mentioned the card or letter with a spray of the perfume he likes on it in the past. I took your advice and sure enough...he reacted to that...in a good way😉😝.
Yes! She is absolutely Gorgeous! I always tell my husband, look at her. Isn't she just so Beautiful! He said, yes. Maria you show me her. Everytime you watch her!
Well said 👏🏽. I love giving gifts. Nothing too extravagant but just alittle something nice for that special someone and some other women will state that they are the ones who should be receiving gifts only. I disagree we both should feel appreciated. I love your channel! Btw I'm plus size so calling myself a table is out of the question 🤣🤣
Same. I have no social media accts outside of YT and I'm so content with not being in the know. And I'm not a dayum table but okay with sitting at one in my own company.
When I met my man we were long distance. I’m from NYC and he is from Jersey but he was living in Texas. One time he told me how much he loved Juniors cheesecake and how he hadn’t had it for so long. When I went to visit him I surprised him with a whole Juniors cheesecake. I’m his wife now 🤣. Good men are used to taking care of other people and sometimes they need to be shown that while they are taking care of everyone else that you’ll be there to take care of him. Emphasis on the “good” man though.
Eva, those that did not comprehend what you stated of calling themselves THE Table! They usually will be discarded! What is your take on wearing bonnets outdoors!? As for me NO WAY!
...58 year old BF here, THEEVAMONROE..."I AIN'T NO TABLE"👏👏👏. I love the way you speak on these topics. Some of us truly do not know our worth. Thank you for sharing your perspective.😁
Great topic! I truly don't like that question and I don't think I would answer that question if a man asked. The reason is, he is trying to get to something. And what he's trying to get too is not genuine. In my opinion, men who know their worth, can recognize a woman of worth so that sort of man is not going to ask that question. But just for conversations sake, I'm not a table as you say I don't bring anything to the table. I bring the table. Let me explain, my table comes with love, understanding, grace, peace, patience, support and much more. The table that I bring is the support system that is required to have a healthy happy relationship.
This was absolutely amazing..thank you for this I knew what I brought as a wife but I didn’t know how to put it into words ❤️ you look stunning, the lip color is 🔥
Hi Eva, I think women who refer to themselves as the table feel they are expressing their value. I get it, but knowing your value should express everything or most things that make you you. No one is you and to be able to express your individualism is most empowering. I bought my husband, now of 39 years, s very nice watch and athletic shoes when we were dating. I bought it because I could and wanted to let him I valued him. At the time he was not employed and I was. Different time, I know., but I could see at 19 years old that he wasn't truly valued by his family. I cared for him as a person first. Today, there is nothing he would not buy me if I ssked, but this is my story. Use discretion before buying any one anything.
Eva, wisedom and compassion is a gift in itself. I agree, there is nothing wrong with giving a special gift to a special man. They love it, especially when it's unexpected.
I’ve never had any classy, respectfully man I was dating ask me that. If you can’t see or feel my love or value…. Then we don’t belong together. And I love giving gifts! And they’re never crazy extravagant but it’s important for your partner to know you care about them and think about them 💜
If you ask me what I bring to the table, this presupposes a man has a table - and not an end table or one with broken legs. Often people (men & women) don’t bring anything but a knife and fork. I have a very nice table of my own, together we could have a banquet hall. I will decorate it beautifully, gaze at you adoringly as you open the champagne bottle, and treat you to scintillating conversation.
I think this whole conversation is like an interview. Part of courtship is discovering new things about a peer overtime, through experiences. I also love giving thoughtful gifts and doing kind gestures to show my love and appreciation.
I needed to hear this. I thank you so much for the reminders. I'm with/was with a guy that keeps his hands in my pockets. At the present time, he owes me $300 of $500 for a loan if borrowed back in October (yes, from last year) he totally destroyed a phone that cost over $1100 and have not attempted to pay me back for any of it.. .I have been such a fool for this man. I appreciate hearing you talk various subjects being that I didn't have that mother or that auntie to get much needed advice from
Ms Eva! This was good! #1 I am not a table, I am all that you described which is the "virtuous woman ",& the blessings & favor are with me.i totally agree about the young lady, everybody's got a story & even in that, HE knows/knew better! #3 yes, you know who deserves or not, & kindness & love shown to one deserves appreciation/thoughtfulness every now & again. Dont be casting Pearls before swine trying to show you're "that" one or being so self sufficient that you lack wisdom to know the difference. ❣
I ain't no object in the house once you put that out there, a man will treat you any way. But what you said really resonates with me; my opinion on gift giving is the same. I treat and buy for my man because he deserves it. If he man treats you well and honour you there's nothing wrong with reciprocating. Lots of 💘 from London Eva.
I don't have a man but when I do, I love to buy my man a just because gift, and I love receiving gifts as well. I don't care for receiving cards alone.
I love the way you explain your worth to your husband. You given me a new perspective on how I see myself. I been with my husband for over 30 yrs and he has advanced more than me. I felt like I wasn’t on his level anymore. Thanks for this change of mindset. 😉😇
The thing is you learn a person to find out what they "bring to the table". On another note, when you are a Black American girl/teenager (especially significantly darker than a stick of butter) you don't get protected.... you get blamed!
I love giving gifts as well as receiving them I think it's fine if you are dating him for awhile. I love that you hit on the topic that it is not the child's fault when a predator is preying on them!
OMG Mrs. Monroe, I wish I could I press the thumbs up button 4 or 5 times! First such a good job on describing "what you bring to the table" for me the short answer (which includes everything you said) is "Me"! and if that perplexes him, then we are not compatible. Second, "fas" or "fast" oooo, I think that is one of the words that our elders just need to let go and just not use anymore. Thank you so much for blaming the predator and letting the victim know that its not her(or his) fault. I also agree about gifts, everyone loves getting a gift. I mean, no dont shower him with gifts, but birthdays and such, its appropriate and shows you like to see him smile.
I like the watch idea for sure. The table is all how you look at it. I believe that when women says I am the table, i believe that they are saying just what you said in the video, being a man’s piece and happy place that you describe they just aren’t breaking it down as you have. Of coarse men know that you are not a piece of furniture and trust and believe they know what it means when women say they are the table. Some men ask that question trying to be smart and thats the response they get as they should... Great Video...
It should never be it’s an excuse because of a young lady dress or acts a way.... They should be a man to acknowledge she is young and her mind isn’t the same as there and not give in.
So what if you are the one who makes more money and wants to do things , like vacation or going out to dinner etc . This is with the same man for over 20 years. A one point he made more than we made the same now I make more. So I buy things pay for vacation. ( I give God the glory) God has provided for me.
Ladies, please understand that I know these women weren't literally calling themselves " A Table". The point I am making is that many of us do not know how to answer the question, or think the correct answer is about material or financial support. It's not about that!! It's about knowing your worth, understanding the value that we add to their lives and making sure that he would never want to sit at that table without you. 🥰
That was nice of you to give a further breakdown of what you meant.
It’s still gonna 🛫 over some people’s
heads though🤷🏾♀️
Your correct isn't every one's.. Your different breed same on my end. How I would say or do. Many look at me as I'm weird. Most of this world follow trends. Not a lot individuals. Your fine doing this video. May touch few people. Like I said your different. Opposite attracts
Thank you for breaking down the meaning of what a person should be focused on. Eloquently stated...
Eva, I disagree when you say that if a woman is broke she should not be dating because I feel this is the perfect time. Why not date a man for his Resources. Real men have resources. The comment " The Table" is just a shorter version of all that you stated in your commentary. Men who have real money hardly ever ask this question about a table 😅
@@Harlem-ub3tn you're exactly right, mam. I reccomend Sheraseven to you. It is literally a man's JOB to have & provide resources! It's a woman's job to use those resources & make his life sweeter so he will go out & get them... I love Ms. Eva but some of this may be her abandonment issues from Daddy not being a reliable figure growing up & his lack of a presence leading to her assault by a 'relative' as a child. That will make you not trust men & feel like you must be self reliant. I'm not saying this out of critique or without heart 💓too many of us have been there. Ms. Eva still has some work to do on identifying the root cause of her distrust of men with a professional. The excess bottles of perfume (& other things) are compensating for something.... ijs
Over 50 years ago when I started dating, my father said to me "if you're in a relationship don't feel compelled to give men gifts, you are the gift." I relaxed that rule for my husband who I have been with for over 50 years. Xoxo
You were doing it because you father told you. Don't you have your own brains to decide for yourself?
@@kojoboateng6755 Your question is beneath contempt. Blessings.
@@tinajoneswilliams4253 I love your grace
@@tinajoneswilliams4253 No, it is rather shocking that a grown ass woman like you still walks around saying "this is how I was brought up". Don't you have your own mind?? Can't you observe your surroundings and do better. I feel sorry for your kids and whatever you've taught them
@@kojoboateng6755 this woman celebrating 50 years. Try to catch up...
This is so on point...I don't wanna be the macho one in the relationship. I want to be the feminine one. Let these men play their parts.
What I bring to the table is making him want to keep something on the table… a part of his purpose and reason. But I ain’t explaining to no dude that ask me that crap. I’m gonna walk away.
I love it!
Gonna have to borrow this one!
Love this
I've NEVER heard a response so "perfect" to the "table question." Only thee Eva Monroe could respond so perfectly
So a woman should buy u something & u a whole man. My grandfather was a provider. We'd buy him shirts for Father's day & when he died we cleared out his closet & there those shirts were with the tags still on 'em. A MAN. sir, try to catch up...
@@wisegoddess8224 you seem confused. I'm complimenting Eva. So your gripe is with her, not me.
@@wisegoddess8224 I think Antonio was referring to the comment on what women bring to the table, Not to speak for him and I think you are confusing that with the comment of don't ever buy a man something. I think people need to put that in context too. If you are in a serious relationship and or married, you better get than man something for his birthday and Father's day at least!
I was 13…walking to the store wearing jeans and a tshirt, not wearing sexy clothes, not being fast, minding my business and a 21 year old driving a car stopped and tried to talk to me. I told him how old I was and he drove off but that always stuck with me. I can’t even walk down the street without a grown man trying to get my number. But the girls are “fast”… no no no.
Wow this is the same thing that happened to me . I was 16 , walking to Walmart . No dressed like anything special just jeans and t shirt with sneakers and a grown 23 yr old man followed me in his car saying he could give me a ride and that he was a taxi driver and showed me his card . The store was far away and I didn’t have any one else to take me so I trusted him to drive me there . Long story short , we end up getting into a “relationship “ . I ended up pregnant at 18 and when I lost the baby half way into the pregnancy he became super abusive and one day I’m sleeping and he punches me in the face for no reason Causing me to have to get 7 stitches on my forehead and almost lost my life . These grown men be targeting young girls because they know their naive and will put up with anything . Then they abuse them from a young age damaging all trust they have in men . I really thought I would end up marrying him and being with him forever just because that’s what he made me believe from a young age . And then these men out here want to call a woman “fast” when she has a couple kids by a young age . These men really lie to you about loving you just to take advantage of you .
Its an ugly truth but this is the world we live in. U got harassed a young brotha got his brains blown out or beat up, don't victimize yaself so much. It could have been much worse. Not condoning it but no need to maximize it either
@@jasminexxx3911 Sorry that happened to you. Thats definitely something more substantial than being approached. As a man, I admit most older dude targeting younger females are predators. Not all but majority. Most good men wouldn't even consider jeopardizing freedom and reputation to pursue a young female
@@malikaustin9087 I’m not victimizing myself. I’m sharing my experience. I think we as a society need to learn how to let people speak their truth without trying to “one up” each other. Yes I was lucky in that moment but I’ve also had violence towards me for not wanting to give my number out multiple times.
So glad you are having this conversation. The men never seem to be held accountable or chastised for their behavior
U bogus as hell. Men get dragged EVERYDAY in society ESPECIALLY BLK MAN lmao you is ALL CAP for this comment. We hear Nickaz ain't shit a grip in song in conversation. Society dogs men who aren't doin their part.MEN hold shitty men accountable. Literally, EVERYBODY holds men accountable. Now when do women get held accountable....Poor mothers get help, poor dads go to jail. Lmmfao this is the funniest shit I heard all day. U would NEVER want to be in a man's shoes fr
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@@corey1time897 did you even watch the video?
@@BloglessBehavior Men have the right to asked whatever he sees fit ,, if she's being considered for marriage,,, same thing I would tell my son.. if she can't humble herself and politely answer she doesn't understand or respect you move on !!!!
@@corey1time897 You Got It… 😂🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
How’s someone going to shame the CHILD in that situation 🤦♀️
None of the men I have dated asked what I bring to the table. When you’re serious with someone and they’re getting to know you, they know what you’re bringing to the table. My man knows what I bring into his life.
Men never make sure their 'tables' are sturdy or worthy of a woman bringing something to it. I mean is it a strong table or a card table? LOL 😂
Lol if u don't like men be a LESBIAN ez fix
@@malikaustin9087 I didn't say anything about not liking men. I said they need to work on themselves before making the same demands of women.
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@@makeupunlimited Sounds like he has a card table🤭
@@nursegaines3519 😉
I love these woman-to-woman chats. Please keep these videos coming.
me too
Me three. Wisdom from older women.
First things first, your skin , that glow ,child it’s goals , I too like giving gifts to people I value and the man in your life is no exception
Thank You Jacqueline and Thank You for watching🥰
Right!
Why not gift yourself things tho? Wrap 'em up with a bow & get excited & everything. Gotta start doing yourself better. Men don't need gifts. Your feminine presence is his present 🎁sis
@@wisegoddess8224 Everyone needs a gift , giving to anyone not just a man is gratifying
Watch her skincare video! Very helpful. ua-cam.com/video/2rbwOH9HR0k/v-deo.html
Thank you for speaking up about pedophiles. I constantly correct the excuses for this predatory or soft pedal in regard to these men and "situations."
I'm 62 and my soon to be husband is 49 and I love him so much and I'm going to spoil him to death death hes so good to yes by your man a gift they will love it I do massage to massage and so he gets his own personal Massage I love your channel..... I don't know anything about being a table but I am the reason hes smart he smiles when he comes home and hes happy to be there keep up the good work I love love the channel again
I’m 74 yrs old, divorced. Very, very much enjoy your videos. Your experiences and varied advice is on point. Hope it reaches you the right ears, I’m certainly soaking it in. Hope springs eternal. 🤔
Thank you!!! Too many men and sadly too many women blame the "girl" for the actions of these grown azz men who VICTIMIZE girls.
No arguments from me I completely agrees with everything you said.Like you said,they know the ones they shouldn’t be buying anything for.I absolutely,despise the “table”question!If I have to explain my value as a woman,I won’t bother!✌🏾
I have no problem spoiling my boo in a healthy relationship that’s reciprocated and I am being treated right. Table nah I need to know what kind of table I am bringing anything to. My offerings are a custom fit not a one size fits all.
Tried and True Ma Eva . I bought my Sweetheart something that he refers to himself as. He was blown away that I was listening and knew that that meant something to him. I been winning every since. Never a table , we are definitely much more than that.
They were answering probably in the tone of "Pick Me" or over gloating.
Auntie (with the most love and respect) always comes thru with the real. Love all of this❤❤❤
The confusion with this is woman think they are men and say things like they are men and says I am the table ‼️ I’m no table either all I’m bringing is my presence I’m a woman that’s good enough ‼️🆘🆘🆘 I’m not splitting no bills 💵 I’m bringing my presence period ‼️
Preach.
2nd response. Before my companion died I loved, loved, loved, shopping for him. I had no signs and it was a joy to buy things for him. He treated me like a queen but he didn’t know how to shop for me 😂😂😂. If I saw something I wanted, he would buy it. Somethings we went 50-50 on, my God how I miss him.
Hope you had life insurance
I pray for a love so great with a man!!! God bless you!!!
Grown folks talk right here! Loved this video. My girlfriend and I were just yesterday having a conversation about what women bring to the table. We're both in our 40s...we both married young...our marriages lasted 20+ years... I'm now at 31 years. My mentality lines up with yours.... I am not a table... I am special.... she's more like...women need to bring something besides themselves...i.e.... job, money...etc.. I am not an never will be a feminist. Gentlemen like ladies and will do whatever it takes to keep her.
They sell mahogany greeting cards at the dollar tree now
Love your answer for the table question. Also the topic of predators is so real, I feel all young girls have been through this. I remember being stalked, followed, harassed, and inappropriately touched by men 10-20 years older than me. My dad's friends, family member, random men, just everything. The worst thing was I didn't see anything wrong with it. I just knew it was weird and I should keep it to myself. It's not until I was a grown woman that I realized how wrong it all was. So disgusting. I remember I worked at filenes at 16, and this dam 40 plus year old insisted on driving me home. I used to take the city bus to work. Well on the 1 occasion I let him, he was a total creep. Touching on my legs while acting like he was reaching over. Hugging me all tight and trying to kiss me. Mind you he had a wife and kids! Smh don't blame the girls, blame that older man.
So true. I can agree to the older man trying to come on when I was younger girl NOT woman. It’s sad but they act like they wouldn’t and never did. Smdh. I think no one under 21 should be dating older man till they are a little older to understand a relationship.
Venus-November, I agree.
It's not physical beauty that gets older men to go after young women, because women are beautiful at any age. It's because the young ones haven't gotten experience yet, they're vulnerable.
@@kirstenvogel9620 I agree. It is also easier for them to try to manipulate a younger person over a older.
Right. They go after them because they know they aren’t mature mentally and easily impressionable. They in fact say they want younger women because they can mold and groom them.
The way you described what you bring to the table reminds me so much of my mother. My parents have been married for 36 years and I took me getting older to see how they balance each other. Love your wisdom 👍
My fave!!!!!!!! You always bring the real topics!!!
I feel like what a woman brings to a table only matters to the man who values what she offers so it’s no need to state what you bring to a man. I’ll be honest for a long time I didn’t want to be in a relationship because I felt I didn’t bring anything to the table and I didn’t want to bring anything to the table. I didn’t want to deal with trying to prove myself to a man. But I think a man will date you and know you’re what they need. I notice that guys I date always want to elevate themselves because they’re dating me. Some how I motivate them, I’m feminine, I make a house a home. My current boyfriend always says I helped him with his communication skills and always credits me as making him a better person. He always says he’s grateful for me because of that. It’s funny because I never intentionally tried to prove myself, those were just things that the men who wanted me valued.
Eva, you are so right!!! People always blame the victim and not the predator. I am so thankful for your channel because you never know who you are helping with your valuable information. ❤
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Eva, I am 2 sons and you are getting me fired up. We have addressed this issue. I preach to them to try to achieve your goals first and then seek to find a wife to enhance your potential and likewise hers. I agree the answers those women gave were awful. They really don't know their potential. By the way I love the way you deliver your content. 💙🙏
My husband prefers not to receive gifts. Fine with me, more money for me to spend. 🤩
*more money to save or invest
@@antonioking2602 no more money to spend!
@@antonioking2602 males in women's spaces telling them how to live... somebody didn't have no daddy growing up...
@@wisegoddess8224 respectfully, I think your comment says a lot more about you than it does about me. Have a great day ma'am
@@wisegoddess8224 ps, your daddy comment is a double negative... quite unwise😉
You are so right ..If your smart you know when to buy a gift for your man.
That lipstick looks lovely on you Eva ❤️
Thank YOu Shiro Nganga🥰
I agree with everything 100 percent 👍🏽
That table stuff must be coming from the younger women!!
It's very refreshing to hear a woman who knows men keep it up my sista
Yes, let them go fight them wars and l will be waiting to clean my husband wounds and a hot meal waiting while looking beautiful.
Every woman needs to listen/watch this video. This is so accurate! 💯
Love this video! 1) I think the women that called themselves tables didn't know how to answer the question. A lot of us don't know what we bring to the table. Or maybe we don't recognize it's worth. 2) I agree 100%! I had one of my stepfather's friends come after me while my parents were in the next room. 3) I really love this and I agree wholeheartedly!! Give a man a little something for no reason and he will be eating out of your hands.
Two REALLY plush bath sheets! Even men with money often have thrown together bath linens. Watch what happens when you come over Friday night!
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so how long in should you give sheets as a gift without giving the wrong impression?
I absolutely agree with you!! Absolutely!! I refuse to be a roommate and I am NOT an Inanimate object , I am not a piece of furniture. Shame on that guy for asking women that question!! My question is, why are so many males expecting women to be the man of the house? Isn't it the man that provides and protects? Eva, we said "Peace " simultaneously!! Grown men and women don't need this to be explained, because it's understood! Thank you for bringing soul food that supports black women and men an makes us think! Stay blessed, be encouraged always!
I think everything you have said rings true. My experience of dating a 37 year old when I was 19 was, perhaps, an exception. He was very polite, protective, and thoughtful. Such an improvement over the rude and ‘handsy’ guys my own age. He set a standard of how I expected to be treated there after.
Yes I do spend my husband's money on him. 🤣
I really enjoyed and learned from this video. I won’t be calling myself a table… that’s for sure.
Did you find any nuance?
I think you were talking about the other guy who used to talk about fragrances.
I love you Eva, sisterly. It's a pleasure listening to a grown and mature woman.
Thanks for speaking on this topic Eva. I have never been asked this question, but I know it's a trending topic. As someone who has struggled with thinking highly of myself for most of my life, I wasn't sure how I would answer that question if asked. Listening to you answer that question so elegantly and honestly helped to put things into perspective for me, and also gave me a framework for my own story. Now after listening to you, I don't think women should run away or fear men asking them this question because like you said, it's about knowing your worth and understanding your value, which then becomes like a super power that a woman can have without being arrogant or boastful. A quiet confidence when you know who you are. You've inspired me Ms. Monroe, thank you.
Women make everything better. Men would be in their drawers and eating out of cans with a mattress on the floor if it wasn't for us... and we do more than that. I'm just saying.
I'm the same way. I love giving *gifts*. I like to get people things that let's them know that I pay attention to them. And, I love shopping for him just bcus. ❤😊🎁
I agree with you a 100%. Giving a nice gift out of the blue every once in a while really goes a long way, another great video, Eva! 💕
This popped up for me today and I'm so glad I did! I'm married to a man of a more mature age and I'm headed to store! Thanks #spoiledwife
So glad to have come across your channel. A channel that speaks DIRECTLY to my age, and concerns from an experienced woman’s point of view.
Yesss this question is soo dusty for a man to ask . Women don’t take care of men financially
A table, I don't know what to say. You put quite, to the point and gave it much clarity.
Oh yes. I know EXACTLY the video you are referring to... I'll sit back and learn what you have to say .
Love you lots from Cali 💋🙏🏽✝️🖤💜💋
EDIT: Gift-giver for my man...that is SO ME! ✔✔
You've mentioned the card or letter with a spray of the perfume he likes on it in the past. I took your advice and sure enough...he reacted to that...in a good way😉😝.
I need to know what this glow is. The makeup is stunning
Yes! She is absolutely Gorgeous! I always tell my husband, look at her. Isn't she just so Beautiful! He said, yes. Maria you show me her. Everytime you watch her!
Well said 👏🏽. I love giving gifts. Nothing too extravagant but just alittle something nice for that special someone and some other women will state that they are the ones who should be receiving gifts only. I disagree we both should feel appreciated. I love your channel! Btw I'm plus size so calling myself a table is out of the question 🤣🤣
Same. I have no social media accts outside of YT and I'm so content with not being in the know. And I'm not a dayum table but okay with sitting at one in my own company.
When I met my man we were long distance. I’m from NYC and he is from Jersey but he was living in Texas. One time he told me how much he loved Juniors cheesecake and how he hadn’t had it for so long. When I went to visit him I surprised him with a whole Juniors cheesecake. I’m his wife now 🤣. Good men are used to taking care of other people and sometimes they need to be shown that while they are taking care of everyone else that you’ll be there to take care of him. Emphasis on the “good” man though.
Eva, those that did not comprehend what you stated of calling themselves THE Table! They usually will be discarded! What is your take on wearing bonnets outdoors!? As for me NO WAY!
...58 year old BF here, THEEVAMONROE..."I AIN'T NO TABLE"👏👏👏. I love the way you speak on these topics. Some of us truly do not know our worth. Thank you for sharing your perspective.😁
I agree with you…💕💕💕👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
This is so timely
Ohhhh my goodness!!!!!! AMEN!!!! You said it all for ME! Validated Sister here👍🏼whew this is my language. Thank you Eva!!!! Mmmm,,,mmmm such truth.
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Great topic! I truly don't like that question and I don't think I would answer that question if a man asked. The reason is, he is trying to get to something. And what he's trying to get too is not genuine. In my opinion, men who know their worth, can recognize a woman of worth so that sort of man is not going to ask that question. But just for conversations sake, I'm not a table as you say I don't bring anything to the table. I bring the table. Let me explain, my table comes with love, understanding, grace, peace, patience, support and much more. The table that I bring is the support system that is required to have a healthy happy relationship.
This was absolutely amazing..thank you for this I knew what I brought as a wife but I didn’t know how to put it into words ❤️ you look stunning, the lip color is 🔥
Hi Eva, I think women who refer to themselves as the table feel they are expressing their value. I get it, but knowing your value should express everything or most things that make you you. No one is you and to be able to express your individualism is most empowering. I bought my husband, now of 39 years, s very nice watch and athletic shoes when we were dating. I bought it because I could and wanted to let him I valued him. At the time he was not employed and I was. Different time, I know., but I could see at 19 years old that he wasn't truly valued by his family. I cared for him as a person first. Today, there is nothing he would not buy me if I ssked, but this is my story. Use discretion before buying any one anything.
I completely agree. You explained it perfectly. 👍❤️💐
Eva, wisedom and compassion is a gift in itself.
I agree, there is nothing wrong with giving a special gift to a special man. They love it, especially when it's unexpected.
I’ve never had any classy, respectfully man I was dating ask me that. If you can’t see or feel my love or value…. Then we don’t belong together.
And I love giving gifts! And they’re never crazy extravagant but it’s important for your partner to know you care about them and think about them 💜
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She answered this question so good 😊
Sooo much good advice!! And thanks for the game about gift giving! 😁
If you ask me what I bring to the table, this presupposes a man has a table - and not an end table or one with broken legs. Often people (men & women) don’t bring anything but a knife and fork. I have a very nice table of my own, together we could have a banquet hall. I will decorate it beautifully, gaze at you adoringly as you open the champagne bottle, and treat you to scintillating conversation.
I think this whole conversation is like an interview. Part of courtship is discovering new things about a peer overtime, through experiences.
I also love giving thoughtful gifts and doing kind gestures to show my love and appreciation.
I needed to hear this. I thank you so much for the reminders. I'm with/was with a guy that keeps his hands in my pockets. At the present time, he owes me $300 of $500 for a loan if borrowed back in October (yes, from last year) he totally destroyed a phone that cost over $1100 and have not attempted to pay me back for any of it.. .I have been such a fool for this man. I appreciate hearing you talk various subjects being that I didn't have that mother or that auntie to get much needed advice from
You are so wonderful and wise. I don’t agree with the table comment, and i like the idea of getting something for a man that deserves it.
So true! I got my man a organizer just cuz i knew he would like. I could see in his face he was blown back. I just love showing love! 😍💯🤩
Ms Eva! This was good! #1 I am not a table, I am all that you described which is the "virtuous woman ",& the blessings & favor are with me.i totally agree about the young lady, everybody's got a story & even in that, HE knows/knew better! #3 yes, you know who deserves or not, & kindness & love shown to one deserves appreciation/thoughtfulness every now & again. Dont be casting Pearls before swine trying to show you're "that" one or being so self sufficient that you lack wisdom to know the difference. ❣
Oh my GAHD, your skin! I just ordered my derm roller, girl. Love your informative videos.
4:38 that’s one bad ass statement in a good way.
Yes I am a gift giver and I like to buy gifts that people need. I’ve done this for years, it’s just my way. 💕
You are one classy,awesome, truthful, and down to earth lady. I admire you.
This is gonna be gooooood👍🏾
women bring zero to the table but demands and complaints
I ain't no object in the house once you put that out there, a man will treat you any way. But what you said really resonates with me; my opinion on gift giving is the same. I treat and buy for my man because he deserves it. If he man treats you well and honour you there's nothing wrong with reciprocating. Lots of 💘 from London Eva.
I don't have a man but when I do, I love to buy my man a just because gift, and I love receiving gifts as well. I don't care for receiving cards alone.
I love the way you explain your worth to your husband. You given me a new perspective on how I see myself. I been with my husband for over 30 yrs and he has advanced more than me. I felt like I wasn’t on his level anymore. Thanks for this change of mindset. 😉😇
The thing is you learn a person to find out what they "bring to the table".
On another note, when you are a Black American girl/teenager (especially significantly darker than a stick of butter) you don't get protected.... you get blamed!
Lets talk about dating and spending money for both men and women.
Preach,! Answer the question right Diva
I love giving gifts as well as receiving them I think it's fine if you are dating him for awhile. I love that you hit on the topic that it is not the child's fault when a predator is preying on them!
I wasn't gone watch this video but I'm glad I did. Thank you for sharing.
OMG Mrs. Monroe, I wish I could I press the thumbs up button 4 or 5 times! First such a good job on describing "what you bring to the table" for me the short answer (which includes everything you said) is "Me"! and if that perplexes him, then we are not compatible. Second, "fas" or "fast" oooo, I think that is one of the words that our elders just need to let go and just not use anymore. Thank you so much for blaming the predator and letting the victim know that its not her(or his) fault. I also agree about gifts, everyone loves getting a gift. I mean, no dont shower him with gifts, but birthdays and such, its appropriate and shows you like to see him smile.
He provides.. but I make it happen... that's me xxx
I like the watch idea for sure. The table is all how you look at it. I believe that when women says I am the table, i believe that they are saying just what you said in the video, being a man’s piece and happy place that you describe they just aren’t breaking it down as you have. Of coarse men know that you are not a piece of furniture and trust and believe they know what it means when women say they are the table. Some men ask that question trying to be smart and thats the response they get as they should... Great Video...
It should never be it’s an excuse because of a young lady dress or acts a way.... They should be a man to acknowledge she is young and her mind isn’t the same as there and not give in.
So what if you are the one who makes more money and wants to do things , like vacation or going out to dinner etc . This is with the same man for over 20 years. A one point he made more than we made the same now I make more. So I buy things pay for vacation. ( I give God the glory) God has provided for me.
I saw that video “what do women bring to the table “
I like your answer
Love your perspective! Agreed on all of it. The end was GAME! Listen up ladies! 💯.