Today's Content: 00:00 Mother In Law Caused My Divorce And Now He Wants Back In 06:58 Mother In Law Caused My Divorce And Now He Wants Back In 11:50 Mother In Law Got My Baby's Ears Pierced 15:12 UPDATE 1: Mother In Law Got My Baby's Ears Pierced 17:08 UPDATE 2: Mother In Law Got My Baby's Ears Pierced Enjoy!!
Would probably of been a stop of point then to Europe later i'm guessing. Just long enough to get rid of their American IDs for some Mexican ones so they wouldn't get flagged on any Interpol systems for kidnapping.
Most people dont say racist stuff because they are actually racist. They are just looking for a way to insult or degrade someone and race is easy way to do it.
I don’t like thinking that people will never change but I do believe you shouldn’t give someone a another chance until they earn it. It’s not just forgiving and pretending no harm was ever done. A lot of people think and apology and promise is all that is needed. Words are easy, actions speak for themselves.
@@daydreamergirl03 Normally I’d be against denying father access for a douchey MIL, but if he’s shown he has no issues with mother poisoning the kid and he hasn’t shown any repetence.
I'm with you 💯%. In addition, the parents may sense that the well in that village is tainted, and will not allow the poison to be given to their child.
I don't understand why so many OPs in these stories need all the friends, relatives, and social media to takes sides. As parents, decisions about their child are THEIR decisions. They don't need to form a committee and take a vote.
Exactly! Like...what kind of idiotic psycho’s argument is, “I’ll happily hurt your 8 month old just to get what I want because I don’t mind hearing them scream in pain - in fact, you should be thanking me for it!” Just...WHAT?!?! That is not an argument to convince anyone you are responsible enough to care for a BABY.
1. NTA. Good lord. Glad the baby’s safe. 2. NTA. Never allow that MIL alone with your child again. I’m glad you’re going complete no contact, with a restraining order, because she sounds nuts.
First Story: I guess it was too much to hope that the Ex would be allowed no contact with the child, but it worries me. He has shown that he cannot be trusted to protect her from MiL and MiL has shown that she is a genuine danger to the child!
Agreed. This is the point where I'd talk to the boyfriend, consider moving to another state, and push for supervised visitation only. I'd also go public -- every family member, teacher, school, neighbor, day care worker, etc.
A restraining order because of pierced ears is... just SO American. Must be nice to have a justice system so idle you can make petty requests such as these.
@@karinefonte516It wasn’t for the piercing she just took it out. The restraining order was for the harassment the followed and calling the police on a man who was attracted to his 12 year old crush when he was 12
Story 1 OP's ex is a spineless jellyfish. If he is trying to alienate his daughter from OP then OP will have to consider either supervised visits or terminating his parental rights. The update was frightening, her ex is planning to kidnap the daughter. At least OP now has sole custody of their daughter. I hope OP an her daughter are safe. The mil who had her granddaughter's ear pierced was out of line. It's not the mil's place to get the baby's ears pierced especially when OP had already said no. That mil has cut herself out of her granddaughter's life with her insane behaviour.
When I read 'MIL pierced my daughter's ears' I expected that to mean the girl was like 10 or 12 and asked Grandma if she could get her ears pierced. You know, typical ages for a girl to want an ear piercing because her friends have them and OP was just against piercings. That would have been reasonable since the girl can make her own decisions about her body in that way by then. *But a BABY!?*
In the first story, that kind of "parent/child" relationship is what I call the master/minion partnership. A favorite of some malignant narcissistic mother in laws, to basically parentify and use their sons as their personal flying monkey enabler. People who marry guys like that call them "mamas boys", but omg, it's worse. NMama can "convince" these jelly spined penis owners of a lot of things, and get them to do a lot of fuckshit too.
So lemme get this straight...the ex MIL is racist towards her ex DIL for being Latina...but books tickets to run away to Mexico for salvation? Ok then...
This make me think of hearing about Nazis generals (or somthing simiar in chain of commaned ) after ww2 . hiding in countries with the people if they had won the war would be all dead or god knews what .
"I would never do anything to hurt her." Except, that's exactly what she did. She hurt her. I got my ears pierced at age 7, and it was MY idea. I still remember how much it hurt! I would NEVER put a baby through that! It makes me sick to think of doing that to someone without them understanding why it's happening and agreeing to it.
I remember the first time I gotten my ears pierced, I was about 12 or 13 at the time, I have a low tolerance for pain, and when it was over I was white as a sheet. The woman who did my ears, told me she had done a teenage girl's ears that morning, and that girl fainted XD
I got mine done when I was a baby. 100% recomend it. When I had my third piercing at age 16 it hurt like hell, and it healed much worse. However, my baby earings are as perfect as one can expect
You see, I feel like your parents made the right decision. They waited until you were old enough to say you wanted them. It's your body and you deserve autonomy over it. It's one of the few freedoms a child really has. It's the same with haircuts. A parent shouldn't force a child to get a certain haircut once they're old enough to hold an opinion on their hair.
I got mine when I was 2 days old at the hospital. The nurse asked my mom if she wanted it and my mom said yes. It was nice; baby me did not react to the piercing, and had a nice set of good quality gold earrings. That was decades ago. With my baby, I decided to wait even if it hurts her later on, but at the same time I thanked my mom for her decision hahah. Main reason was that babies were exclusively on milk only, which would result in speedy recovery and lower chance of infection. But anyway, it is NOT the decision of anyone else other than the parents (and kid, if old enough to know it).
I full on belly laughed lol. I assumed that the sister and her boyfriend were both kids when they started dating so I didn't think that JustNoMIL would go there. She did, she really did. Her ass must be jealous of all the shit the comes out of her mouth
My grandma told me that my mom got my ears pierced when I was a few months old but I am allergic to any earrings that are not gold or silver, my parents got pregnant with my sister at 18 and me 5 years later so they didn't have the money for real gold, so I have an allergic reaction but my mother doesn't take the earrings off because she worried more about appearing wealthy, it was until I got extremely sick mainly because I couldn't eat so they take me to this great pediatrician that scolds my mother so much that she takes the damn earrings off and the doctor gets me to be a fat happy and healthy baby in no time
When I was little, I had a bad reaction to anything not gold or sterling. It had to have a coat of clear nail varnish on it. So not worth it. Also, for some strange reason, the backings of earring kept getting sucked into my ears. It was soooo painful for my mom do have to extract then with tweezers. It happened too many times, so we just let the holes heal and I didn't pierce them again until I was a teenager. I don't even wear earrings anymore. Haven't for at least 15 years.
@@ZeniaRose Auch!! That really must hurt!! My mother has a thing for little hoop earrings so that's what she made me wear and I was a very clueless kid so they had to use super glue to keep the damn earrings in my head growing up The thing I hate the most now, I am 20 and I do like earrings, is that the holes aren't even centered
Also see about getting with your lawyer and drawing up a will preventing x and his mummy from getting her and seeing about someone else too. Like a godparent of sorts
Yes. BF and her should go file a police report that ex threatened to beat him up. Then file a restraining order, and then file for a change of custody that that visitation for supervised only at a third-party. I would also have your brother sue for the abuse allegations and then file a restraining order again her also. Get cameras, record every single call, and have friends (with cell phones recording) during any meeting with the ex. Go public with family, friends, school and neighbors that ex and MIL are a danger to your child and to call if the come near the child outside of arranged supervised visits. I would also look at moving -- if it is possible. Long term, you have a problem. Ideally, you want BF to adopt the kid so that there is no chance he will end up with custody if something happens to you. Ex likely won't agree, so have the lawyer looking for options to remove parental rights entirely. Record everything.
The MIL who pieced the baby's ears OVER stepped big time! And I would. Take out the earrings and let them close. Then when she is older get them priced when SHE wants them
Difficulty with taking out the earrings and "letting them close", is that the ear has been scarred. There is now a circular scar which will never technically "close". That being said, if/when baby grows up and decides on pierced earrings, it may be a bit difficult to insert a pierced earring at first, but a new piercing is not needed. If baby decides never to get pierced earrings, well that is her choice. My granddaughter had her ears pierced (her request) but was unable to wear pierced earrings due to metal allergy! Found out the hard way. My very religious sister wanted me to "let my pierced ears close" after I did them myself (totally another story), because it was, according to her religious sect, a sin of some sort. Never mind that humans have been doing ear (and other) piercings to themselves for millennia, regardless of religious persuasion.
"I don't even LIKE chocolate" Hahahaha oh my how embarassing. That should have been something he knew by now. Edit: Oh wow... it does not get better does it. What a waste of a man. Edit 2: You do not want to prohibit a would-be kidnapper from being in close proximity to your daughter? He's not a father anymore, he's just the sperm donor at this point. He tried to weaponize your daughter against you, and planned to kidnap her.
"But...but...isn't that what chicks like? Flowers & chocolate? It always works in the movies!!" You can bring me gifts of video games, Ben & Jerry's, comfortable but not thick hoodies. And if we've been together for 10 FRICKING YEARS, you should already know what flavours & colors; I'd forgive not knowing exactly which games & accept a giftcard...though knowing I'm looking to replace my lost copy of FF3 for my GBA would go a LOOOOONG way towards showing you actually know & GAF about me. Jus' saying.... ;-) Re: Edit 2, I whole-heartedly agree; the term is 'Parental Alienation', & I'm so glad it's finally really starting to get recognition as to just how dangerous & damaging it is. I know families torn apart by lies one parent has spewed about the other to the kid(s) & it's heartbreaking. And in this case, PLUS trying to kidnap the kid??! Oh hell no...
“it also hurts me that you apparently think I’m not entitled to any say over my granddaughter.” you’re not? lemme yell for the people in the back: GRANDPARENTS HAVE 👏🏽NO👏🏽 SAY IN THE LIVES OF GRANDCHILDREN. GRANDPARENTS HAVE 👏🏽NO👏🏽CLAIM👏🏽 TO DECISION MAKING, CUSTODY, OR VISITATION AS LONG AS THERE IS A PARENT INVOLVED.
Grandmother of 5 here. Anytime I watch my babies, I ask my daughters what they’re allowed to eat, if they are allowed snacks, when bedtime is, etc. I cannot imagine feeling the need to control my adult children to that extent. You either raised your kids right, and you trust them to make good choices for their children, or you failed and they turned out well in spite of you, or...... they are complete screwups and you need to legally interfere. If the last isn’t the case, butt out, allow the parents to parent, and you enjoy simply loving the babies and being supportive of the parents.
Let's get this straight! The mil is an abuser by getting the baby's ears pierced without parental authority, and the piercer is also in trouble for performing the piercing without the same authority!
For the whole "you left your daughter in my care and there trusted the decision to me" bs is immediate "you will never get to see her again without supervision"
Omg, the MIL in the last story has lost her mind completely! I’m scared for OP and her daughter tbh, I don’t think she’ll stop with a restraining order, I’m afraid she’ll turn to literal stalking or even kidnapping the child, because I think it’s probable she actually believes her own lies and that she’s acting in the best interest of the little girl.
The only time MIL has any important say over baby, is if there is an emergency and MIL is the only "guardian" present. Otherwise, her biggest choices are what outfit to put on baby (after baby has soiled her clothes) and/or sweet potato or carrot mush for lunch. ☺
@Mark Branch Nah, they won't dude. There are no laws in the US against piercing babies ears, even if there should be. The police would tell you to file a civil complaint, because at best, it'd come down to whether the MIL had implied parental responsibility at the time. And even then, as the MIL would claim it was well-intentioned, the chances of proving such a case are slim. Not defending the crazy bitch, but that's the way it is. Either way, the cops aint arresting anyone for it.
If someone who is not my child’s legal guardian has holes punched through her ears without my permission, that is assault. It is the same as if someone gave my baby a tattoo.
@@auntdeen6314 Yeah, it's not the same though. It's illegal to tattoo a minor, ages vary 16 - 18 depending on the state. But ear piercing a baby is not illegal even if it should be. You can argue that it's assault if the aunt didn't have parental responsibility but the legal process would play out as I outlined above. The aunt would claim implied consent and the cops would advise a civil suit. Ultimately, whatever the case, no cop in the land is placing cuffs on some aunt and placing into a cell for having a baby's ears pierced. It's just not happening. You'd need to sue.
I've seen babies getting their ears pierced at the mall and I tell you, it is the most heartbreaking scene I have ever seen. It not just crying due to the pain. They are confused and terrified that someone is hurting them and their mommy, who should be stopping it, is the one holding them down to let the piercer do their job. They are crying in pain, fear, and betrayal. They do not have the ability to say no to someone altering their body.
@@fnjesusfreak I do get your sentiment, it's just that in my culture we have baby earrings, so minor get their ear pierced. 😅 I understand why people would against it since the culture isn't worldwide.
@@fnjesusfreak I think it's fine once the kid is old enough to understand and make the decision for themselves. But for a baby? I think that's gross. There is no need for it, and they have absolutely no choice in the matter.
Second story - move past it by taking the earrings out - Annie is young enough for the piercings to close entirely if you remove them before the scar tissue sets in. And make damn sure your MIL is NEVER allowed to be alone with Annie ever again.
Every dog has his day eventually. These days courtships are non-existent and marriage is the new dating. People aren't together long enough to witness the Jack in the Box surprise.
I had a pretty good m-i-l, but being human she had some flaws. So did my husband and I. So, we had a great relationship 95% of the time. 2.5% her fault and 2.5% my fault. Ain't life grand???!!!!!
@@Lioness_Es This newest generation has the lowest divorce rate in US history. You're statistically incorrect on 'these days' being worse than previously. People absolutely still rush into marriage but if you think it's as bad as the 70s and 80s? Yeah no.
That is an extremely good relationship. 8 years is a long time but since childhood? You can tell OP's sister and her boyfriend is a healthy and loving couple.
NOBODY should be dating at TWELVE YEARS OLD! Children should NOT be encouraged to 'hook up'; this is neither healthy nor safe. Boys & girls need excellent educations, decent, well-paying jobs & fun, interesting lives. They do NOT need to be paired up in ADOLESCENCE, lives locked down BEFORE they have any significant life experiences & then funnelled into early marriage & parenthood. What century do these people live?!
@@esppupsnkits4560 Yes I understand the phrase. It was used by communist Clinton. And no, parents don't always need help. Otherwise families living alone on the frontiers would not have existed.
@@DaWhiteWolffie No wonder you have no clue what it means, you lose all sanity point when you go calling someone Communist..............you sound like that first MIL.
First story, full on no contact. Hell, it's time to change cities and put a restraining order against him and his MIL. He doesn't care about you or his daughter. He's just want you back because you moved on and he doesn't want that. Also, stop with the "my child needs their parent!" They don't and you need to move on from that mentality. Otherwise, you're putting your kid through hell for selfish reasons. Second story, never let that woman near your kid. She'll keep trying to override your decisions. Soon, she'll end up poisoning your kid and try to justify it.
MiL: “You didn’t see your daughter in pain, so you can’t be mad at me for piercing her ears.” Also MiL: “You know I would never do anything that would hurt her!”
Infant piercing story: NTA, OP. Cosmetic body modification of children to young to consent is questionable IMO, and to do it without the approval of the parents is beyond the pale. Doubly so at a cheap mall store with questionable cleanliness. And what she sent you was in no way an apology. Apologies involve some acceptance of fault, which was notably absent from her screed. She's lucky you're allowing her supervised visits. Edit: Okay, wow, after the updates? Yikes. MIL is unstable, keep her far away from your entire family.
1st Story: Mom's Rule number 1: never marry the same mistake twice. My rile number 1: Never date the same mistake twice. He is all about letting his family abuse them. Essential oils are not typically for ingestion. How is he happy that his mother tried to kill the kid and putting her into ICU? Apparently his mother thinks child free is better for him. There would be a request for no unsupervised visitation. Go back to court and change the custody arrangement. How can the mother find his abusing that daughter emotionally as acceptable because she doesn't want to protect her from her father? The toddler is at risk of being abducted. There is no way the court wouldn't see a reason to change to unsupervised visitation with a court officer present. The full custody should be permanent. OP needs to get some therapy herself to see how the emotional abuse was not okay for that kid and not keeping her away from daddy because she needs to be with her abuser is insane. 2nd Story: Didn't see her pain? So the infection and constant cleaning and maintaining of the piercings isn't real to mil unless she is there to see it? It does take a village to raise a child, but the village does not have the right to put wounds on them. And yes punching holes in her ears are wounds. And who says she will repierce her ears? I don't have my ears pierced. Has anyone asked about sexual abuse in mil's past? She sounds like someone who was abused as a child.
Yeah, some essential oils can be extremely dangerous if ingested. Lavender is a particularly nasty example. Ingesting concentrated lavender oil can *liquify your organs*. Others are harmless unless there's a large amount of it, such as peppermint or cinnamon oil (both of those mainly just have a really strong taste, but in excessive amounts can damage your digestive tract). But anybody with a GI issue should not be consuming concentrated peppermint or cinnamon anyways.
OP 1 needs to worry about her own safety besides her daughter's. I watch enough I.D to know they're the type of people to take it to the extreme by taking her out.
My DIL and I get along great! Probably because I let them (her and our son) live their own lives. When the grandkids(3 of them) were young they went to the elementary at the end of our block. I had them every day-our youngest so was two years older than oldest grandson. During summers we’d go to the beach, the zoo, or just hang out here. That was great! Alas, they’re all grown now
Who else thinks that final MIL’s reaction to next week’s restraining order is not going to be ‘take it seriously’? I shudder to think what she may try next!
Op’s ex from the first story doesn't deserve a second chance he shouldn't even have a chance with his kid he is hurting his kid because he's pissed his ex he didn't stand up for he doesn't deserve to be a dad he is disgusting Omg, he was planning to kidnap his kid seriously WTF?
MIL ear piercing story: 1. You did hurt her by getting her ears pierced. 2. Not being able to be alone with the baby is not the same as never seeing her. 3. Causing an infant pain for cosmetic reasons when they can't consent is child abuse. 4. You do not have a say over your granddaughter because you are not her parent. I wish I could say that to her face.
Just a thought on the little baby getting her ears pierced. The parents should also look into going after the store or the location that did the piercing because don't they need a signed consent and why are they doing anything to a child without a parent present? Or did grandma say she was mom? More evidence for the need of a restraining order.
Ugh story 2 had me heated. I have a daughter and my husband and I have agreed from day 1 we wouldn’t get her ears done until she was old enough to take care of them herself because we’ve both had issues with piercings in the past. Mother in law had no right whatsoever and if I were OP I would get out and post back saying that MIL pierced her baby’s ears against their wishes and it isn’t that she’s not letting MIL never see the baby again but just that they are not letting her be alone with the baby due to a massive breach in trust.
Finally someone said it, staying together for the sake of children is never good, do you think you can really hide family problems from people living in the same house as you, that they are kids means nothing. Adults don't know how much a child sees and hears even if you are trying to be quiet, but but things get heated and kids hear you, even in your silent fights, they know and you forget they there. So thank you, some common sense
The husband in the first story didn't care when his daughter went to hospital? Looks like the crazy apple didn't fall far from the tree. I dont agree that a child should be kept away from a parent after divorce but in this case i think there may be reason. Ex husband is too much of a mommys boy.
First OP needs to cut all contact with Ex and ExMIL. They legit tried to kidnap her daughter, they forfeited all rights to that child with that crap. The child's safety comes first and who knows what he will try next
OP really needs to watch this very closely and record every instance of what the ex-husband is saying to their daughter. It is parental alienation and she should to go back to court and give them the evidence if it keeps happening. They can take his visitation away, if they see that he is trying to turn their daughter against her Mother. That is vile behaviour from him and all because he didn’t get his own way, so his ex is moving on with her life. He needs to stop throwing a temper tantrum like a toddler!
These grandmas are crazy over their grand children. We are around 20 cousins in the family, and i can assure that our grandma would hide from 15 of them because of the noises😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
"My ex needs to be involved in his daughters life", not if he or his relatives are a danger to her daughter. Also if he's trying to get that child to hate her mother.
Story:Oh honey you can have a life without the biological father to your child he's already showing you that he's no good for her you already have full custody nix the visitation live a better life
“I can’t take away the father of my daughter” You actually can. Attempted parental alienation. He can go sit alone in his mommy’s house with nothing and nobody. He made his bed, his divorce is his own fault. Trying to alienate you from your child because you won’t get back with him should he treated like a capital offense and dealt with appropriately
on the daughter getting ears pierced by MIL i would be going to that mall and demanding to see the manager and demand to know how they let this happen as this woman had no legal right to authorize the piercing of 8 month old and that i would be suing them into bankruptcy
I honestly hate when parents pierce their babies ears, to me it seems like the parents aren’t seeing the kids as actual living beings but accessories for them to dress up and tote around.
If my MIL, or even my own mother, ever think they have ANY say in my children’s lives, they have another thing coming. You can buy presents, take them on fun outings, but don’t you dare make decisions like piercing their ears without parental consent.
Story 1: If it was me, the notion of getting back together would have been off the table to begin with, kind of in a "too little, too late" vein of thinking, but I'd be wanting to go scorched earth with ex-husband after the flimsy attempt at parental alienation and in all honesty, I'd use it as a basis to take away any rights he may still have to his daughter. And to OP, it would be better for your daughter to have no father at all than to have a father that only thinks of her as a pawn in his sick little game of chess.
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Same. My ex’s in-laws forced our divorce. When they found out I made far more money than their weak son, they tried to have me killed to have their daughter assume my identity. I evicted them from the homes they lived rent free. But now that they (ex in-law) passed away, my ex won’t leave me alone.
Piercing ears at 8 months? When my sister got her ears pierced one side became infected. From what she said the actual piercing doesn't hurt that much but I would be hesitant to give a child pierced ears when they have no immune system yet.
The first story the OP is right in not getting back with her ex. 1) she doesn't love him anymore so it's not fair to him if she goes with him when it could prevent him from meeting someone who actually loves him. 2) it could lead to a toxic tense environment which could effect the child's mental health. 3) he could fall back under his mothers thumb in which she leaves again and causes further instability for the child. 4) he's clearly not matured if he's putting things like ' mummy loves her boyfriend more' into the little girls head.
@@jgraaay18 more like MIL MIL couldn't bear to cut the cord and became some kind of Silent Hill like parasite that controls him like a little womb puppet.
To be fair, letting her ears be pierced by a cheap place can cause a lot of problems. A cousin of mine did that and she had a BAD infection in her ears. Poor baby was crying nonstop from the pain.
Who the hell puts earrings on a baby!? They can't even have LEGO because it's a choking hazard, now we have to put the same warnings on all jewelry... sheesh. Next she'll send the kid home with Elmo tattooed on her face! That will be fun to go through life with, huh?
First story; NTA. You did the right thing. Ex mil and ex husband are crazy af. Second story; NTA. Your mil is TA. Get a restraining order and go no contact.
My niece asked for a haircut for years. Birthday, Christmas, ect When she was 9 she asked me to taker her. I did! Cut from but to shoulder. Everyone was mad!!! I accepted that might happen. She was having headaches & I had same issues w long hair They called 3 weeks later cuz needed a babysitter. It was worth. She was happy
Okay .. I gotta say this about the first storys ex and exmil ... Ya'll going to lose a fight ... Cause op has every right to block your sorry excuses of human waste and as for the second.... NC and RESTRAINING ORDER ..
On that last story. Surely the MIL IS an abuser. Piercing an 8mph old child's ears is assault. Certainly is in my book, ESPECIALLY without the parents' permission. If my MIL or Mother tried that stunt with my kids, they'd be scraping what's left of them off the walls!
That last mother in law just went so hilariously nuts. Even you nearly called her what she is, witch with a b, in your video. That just made me laugh more.
Story 2 First of all, cheap mall piercers use piercing guns which are HIGHLY unsanitary. Second no professional piercer will pierce a child’s ears unless they are old enough to understand how to care for them and can consent usually about age 9-10 with a parent/guardian present. Also if I remember correctly (it’s been awhile) you are REQUIRED BY LAW to be the parent/guardian to sign off on consent form for those shops so she’s already broken the law. That’s not even accounting for the damage that could have done to the baby’s ear if the earring rejected which has happened to me. It causes the lobe to split which requires stitches to fix. Imagine how much that poor baby would have had to suffer with stitches b/c grandma thought earrings would be cute 😖😖😖
Eight months is too young to pierce the ears. Not only that, but pierced ears need a lot of daily care in order to not get infected for several weeks afterward. It hurts more than the mother in law said. The ears hurt for quite awhile. So this is inappropriate to do to a baby by someone other than the parents, the primary care givers.
The stupid ex and his mil won’t stop trying to take your child away from you. You need to stop her from seeing him. Every time she’s with him she is in danger.
Today's Content:
00:00 Mother In Law Caused My Divorce And Now He Wants Back In
06:58 Mother In Law Caused My Divorce And Now He Wants Back In
11:50 Mother In Law Got My Baby's Ears Pierced
15:12 UPDATE 1: Mother In Law Got My Baby's Ears Pierced
17:08 UPDATE 2: Mother In Law Got My Baby's Ears Pierced
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MIL in the last story NEEDS MEDICATION no questions asked
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Would it make you feel better or worse when the police say they have seen crazier??? lol.
How weird that ex-MIL hated her former DIL for being Mexican American, but then ex-MIL and ex-H were planning on taking the daughter to Mexico.
Would probably of been a stop of point then to Europe later i'm guessing. Just long enough to get rid of their American IDs for some Mexican ones so they wouldn't get flagged on any Interpol systems for kidnapping.
Well Vr Salcedo racists douchebags don't tend to be the smartest
Most people dont say racist stuff because they are actually racist. They are just looking for a way to insult or degrade someone and race is easy way to do it.
Maybe its a nice place to visit, but you wouldn't want to live there lol (i mean in their minds)
@@Mytelefe its hard to ever be certain of that, but yes that appears to usually be the case...
The first story the wife was very smart not to get back together with her husband he obviously is a mama’s boy and will never change.
I'm happy she didn't. Plus I'm sure she sees too much bullshit coming from him she would never go back to him
I don’t like thinking that people will never change but I do believe you shouldn’t give someone a another chance until they earn it. It’s not just forgiving and pretending no harm was ever done. A lot of people think and apology and promise is all that is needed. Words are easy, actions speak for themselves.
If she was REALLY smart she'd deny him all access to her kid. He and exMIL clearly are a danger to her and her kid
Yeah that mother in law is a HUGE red flag
@@daydreamergirl03 Normally I’d be against denying father access for a douchey MIL, but if he’s shown he has no issues with mother poisoning the kid and he hasn’t shown any repetence.
"It takes a village to raise a child." Yeah, but the parents have final say on what village can or can't do with the child.
I'm with you 💯%. In addition, the parents may sense that the well in that village is tainted, and will not allow the poison to be given to their child.
It takes a emotionally healthy village to raise a child.
It takes a strong protective parent to raise a child in an emotionally unhealthy village.
I don't understand why so many OPs in these stories need all the friends, relatives, and social media to takes sides. As parents, decisions about their child are THEIR decisions. They don't need to form a committee and take a vote.
@@justine8387 That's right.
Exactly! Like...what kind of idiotic psycho’s argument is, “I’ll happily hurt your 8 month old just to get what I want because I don’t mind hearing them scream in pain - in fact, you should be thanking me for it!” Just...WHAT?!?! That is not an argument to convince anyone you are responsible enough to care for a BABY.
The people who are advocating that the OP (in the first story) get back together with her spineless ex - those people are the WORST.
Pierced ears: The narrator said exactly what I was thinking - grandparents do NOT have any say in their grandkids’ upbringing.
1. NTA. Good lord. Glad the baby’s safe.
2. NTA. Never allow that MIL alone with your child again. I’m glad you’re going complete no contact, with a restraining order, because she sounds nuts.
Lol they aren’t AITA posts
@@chocalatebearcub2485 Thanks, for that. They sound so much the same. I guess they’re just venting and are about relationships.
@@chocalatebearcub2485 They still deserved it.
If your husband is gaslighting you through your child, you may need to demand supervised visitation.
First Story: I guess it was too much to hope that the Ex would be allowed no contact with the child, but it worries me. He has shown that he cannot be trusted to protect her from MiL and MiL has shown that she is a genuine danger to the child!
I think he and his mom are crazy enough to try to get rid of her so they could have custody. 😳
Agreed. This is the point where I'd talk to the boyfriend, consider moving to another state, and push for supervised visitation only. I'd also go public -- every family member, teacher, school, neighbor, day care worker, etc.
I love the contrasts of the two stories: one son kowtows to his crazy mother; the other gets a restraining order against his.
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A restraining order because of pierced ears is... just SO American. Must be nice to have a justice system so idle you can make petty requests such as these.
@@karinefonte516It wasn’t for the piercing she just took it out. The restraining order was for the harassment the followed and calling the police on a man who was attracted to his 12 year old crush when he was 12
Story 1 OP's ex is a spineless jellyfish. If he is trying to alienate his daughter from OP then OP will have to consider either supervised visits or terminating his parental rights.
The update was frightening, her ex is planning to kidnap the daughter. At least OP now has sole custody of their daughter. I hope OP an her daughter are safe.
The mil who had her granddaughter's ear pierced was out of line. It's not the mil's place to get the baby's ears pierced especially when OP had already said no. That mil has cut herself out of her granddaughter's life with her insane behaviour.
I'm sure the vindictive MIL was behind all this.
That's an insult to jellyfish
When I read 'MIL pierced my daughter's ears' I expected that to mean the girl was like 10 or 12 and asked Grandma if she could get her ears pierced. You know, typical ages for a girl to want an ear piercing because her friends have them and OP was just against piercings. That would have been reasonable since the girl can make her own decisions about her body in that way by then.
*But a BABY!?*
In the first story, that kind of "parent/child" relationship is what I call the master/minion partnership. A favorite of some malignant narcissistic mother in laws, to basically parentify and use their sons as their personal flying monkey enabler. People who marry guys like that call them "mamas boys", but omg, it's worse. NMama can "convince" these jelly spined penis owners of a lot of things, and get them to do a lot of fuckshit too.
So lemme get this straight...the ex MIL is racist towards her ex DIL for being Latina...but books tickets to run away to Mexico for salvation? Ok then...
Well their 'principles' don't hold up in face of benefits like no extradition
Because convenience
Well, then they'd have a whole country to feel superior to.
Probably because of their lax extradition....
This make me think of hearing about Nazis generals (or somthing simiar in chain of commaned ) after ww2 . hiding in countries with the people if they had won the war would be all dead or god knews what .
"I would never do anything to hurt her." Except, that's exactly what she did. She hurt her. I got my ears pierced at age 7, and it was MY idea. I still remember how much it hurt! I would NEVER put a baby through that! It makes me sick to think of doing that to someone without them understanding why it's happening and agreeing to it.
I remember the first time I gotten my ears pierced, I was about 12 or 13 at the time, I have a low tolerance for pain, and when it was over I was white as a sheet. The woman who did my ears, told me she had done a teenage girl's ears that morning, and that girl fainted XD
I got mine done when I was a baby. 100% recomend it. When I had my third piercing at age 16 it hurt like hell, and it healed much worse. However, my baby earings are as perfect as one can expect
You see, I feel like your parents made the right decision. They waited until you were old enough to say you wanted them. It's your body and you deserve autonomy over it. It's one of the few freedoms a child really has. It's the same with haircuts. A parent shouldn't force a child to get a certain haircut once they're old enough to hold an opinion on their hair.
I got mine when I was 2 days old at the hospital. The nurse asked my mom if she wanted it and my mom said yes. It was nice; baby me did not react to the piercing, and had a nice set of good quality gold earrings. That was decades ago. With my baby, I decided to wait even if it hurts her later on, but at the same time I thanked my mom for her decision hahah.
Main reason was that babies were exclusively on milk only, which would result in speedy recovery and lower chance of infection. But anyway, it is NOT the decision of anyone else other than the parents (and kid, if old enough to know it).
@@limitlessbianca Wow, my mother also got my ears pierced after she gave birth to me in the hospital so that I wouldn't remember it, lol.
1st story: Ex is weak and him alienating his daughter from his own mother shows that he will never change and will continue to be weak
"He was also 12" I don't know why but that just got me, I cackled.
I full on belly laughed lol. I assumed that the sister and her boyfriend were both kids when they started dating so I didn't think that JustNoMIL would go there. She did, she really did. Her ass must be jealous of all the shit the comes out of her mouth
My grandma told me that my mom got my ears pierced when I was a few months old but I am allergic to any earrings that are not gold or silver, my parents got pregnant with my sister at 18 and me 5 years later so they didn't have the money for real gold, so I have an allergic reaction but my mother doesn't take the earrings off because she worried more about appearing wealthy, it was until I got extremely sick mainly because I couldn't eat so they take me to this great pediatrician that scolds my mother so much that she takes the damn earrings off and the doctor gets me to be a fat happy and healthy baby in no time
When I was little, I had a bad reaction to anything not gold or sterling. It had to have a coat of clear nail varnish on it. So not worth it. Also, for some strange reason, the backings of earring kept getting sucked into my ears. It was soooo painful for my mom do have to extract then with tweezers. It happened too many times, so we just let the holes heal and I didn't pierce them again until I was a teenager. I don't even wear earrings anymore. Haven't for at least 15 years.
@@ZeniaRose Auch!! That really must hurt!! My mother has a thing for little hoop earrings so that's what she made me wear and I was a very clueless kid so they had to use super glue to keep the damn earrings in my head growing up
The thing I hate the most now, I am 20 and I do like earrings, is that the holes aren't even centered
@@ZeniaRose Ugh, I had that happen once with the backing for my earrings.
The wirdest thing about that is that in the UK piercing a baby is a sign of a poor background. Shows how things change around the world.
@@mortisrat oh yeah, I also have a gold bracelet that my mom made me wear when I was a baby and she had to tie it to my fat baby arm
Get the police involved for your ex husband for stalking you & get a restraining order against him & your ex mother in law
Also see about getting with your lawyer and drawing up a will preventing x and his mummy from getting her and seeing about someone else too. Like a godparent of sorts
Yes. BF and her should go file a police report that ex threatened to beat him up. Then file a restraining order, and then file for a change of custody that that visitation for supervised only at a third-party. I would also have your brother sue for the abuse allegations and then file a restraining order again her also. Get cameras, record every single call, and have friends (with cell phones recording) during any meeting with the ex. Go public with family, friends, school and neighbors that ex and MIL are a danger to your child and to call if the come near the child outside of arranged supervised visits. I would also look at moving -- if it is possible.
Long term, you have a problem. Ideally, you want BF to adopt the kid so that there is no chance he will end up with custody if something happens to you. Ex likely won't agree, so have the lawyer looking for options to remove parental rights entirely. Record everything.
The MIL who pieced the baby's ears OVER stepped big time! And I would. Take out the earrings and let them close. Then when she is older get them priced when SHE wants them
pierced
Difficulty with taking out the earrings and "letting them close", is that the ear has been scarred. There is now a circular scar which will never technically "close". That being said, if/when baby grows up and decides on pierced earrings, it may be a bit difficult to insert a pierced earring at first, but a new piercing is not needed. If baby decides never to get pierced earrings, well that is her choice. My granddaughter had her ears pierced (her request) but was unable to wear pierced earrings due to metal allergy! Found out the hard way. My very religious sister wanted me to "let my pierced ears close" after I did them myself (totally another story), because it was, according to her religious sect, a sin of some sort. Never mind that humans have been doing ear (and other) piercings to themselves for millennia, regardless of religious persuasion.
Also I dated my boyfriend from when I was 13 and he 14 I've been married for 51years this year and I still love him to bits
and where are the bits stored ? ;-)
"I don't even LIKE chocolate"
Hahahaha oh my how embarassing. That should have been something he knew by now.
Edit: Oh wow... it does not get better does it. What a waste of a man.
Edit 2: You do not want to prohibit a would-be kidnapper from being in close proximity to your daughter? He's not a father anymore, he's just the sperm donor at this point. He tried to weaponize your daughter against you, and planned to kidnap her.
I mean think about it they were together 10 years married for 5 and he didn't know this?
"But...but...isn't that what chicks like? Flowers & chocolate? It always works in the movies!!"
You can bring me gifts of video games, Ben & Jerry's, comfortable but not thick hoodies. And if we've been together for 10 FRICKING YEARS, you should already know what flavours & colors; I'd forgive not knowing exactly which games & accept a giftcard...though knowing I'm looking to replace my lost copy of FF3 for my GBA would go a LOOOOONG way towards showing you actually know & GAF about me. Jus' saying.... ;-)
Re: Edit 2, I whole-heartedly agree; the term is 'Parental Alienation', & I'm so glad it's finally really starting to get recognition as to just how dangerous & damaging it is. I know families torn apart by lies one parent has spewed about the other to the kid(s) & it's heartbreaking. And in this case, PLUS trying to kidnap the kid??! Oh hell no...
@@brendaleelydon I buy my sister pretty flowers she can plant because cut roses are dead roses.
The father has supervised visitation because his daughter still wants to see him
A young man in his 20's who is willing to change his future neice's diapers is a keeper. That guy will make a good family man.
Why do we expect so little of men…?
@@stephanien6237 Because most suck
I can confirm this my husband loved helping me with my baby cousins when we were dating and he is an amazing dad and super involved in parenting.
That’s like, bare minimum. The bar is in hell.
“it also hurts me that you apparently think I’m not entitled to any say over my granddaughter.”
you’re not? lemme yell for the people in the back: GRANDPARENTS HAVE 👏🏽NO👏🏽 SAY IN THE LIVES OF GRANDCHILDREN. GRANDPARENTS HAVE 👏🏽NO👏🏽CLAIM👏🏽 TO DECISION MAKING, CUSTODY, OR VISITATION AS LONG AS THERE IS A PARENT INVOLVED.
Grandmother of 5 here. Anytime I watch my babies, I ask my daughters what they’re allowed to eat, if they are allowed snacks, when bedtime is, etc. I cannot imagine feeling the need to control my adult children to that extent. You either raised your kids right, and you trust them to make good choices for their children, or you failed and they turned out well in spite of you, or...... they are complete screwups and you need to legally interfere. If the last isn’t the case, butt out, allow the parents to parent, and you enjoy simply loving the babies and being supportive of the parents.
@@4beachpeaches You're the grandma that every parent wants.
@@4beachpeaches Sounds like you're a good grandma.
BamaBean 70 can you be my grandma, too?
Let's get this straight! The mil is an abuser by getting the baby's ears pierced without parental authority, and the piercer is also in trouble for performing the piercing without the same authority!
For the whole "you left your daughter in my care and there trusted the decision to me" bs is immediate "you will never get to see her again without supervision"
Omg, the MIL in the last story has lost her mind completely! I’m scared for OP and her daughter tbh, I don’t think she’ll stop with a restraining order, I’m afraid she’ll turn to literal stalking or even kidnapping the child, because I think it’s probable she actually believes her own lies and that she’s acting in the best interest of the little girl.
The only time MIL has any important say over baby, is if there is an emergency and MIL is the only "guardian" present.
Otherwise, her biggest choices are what outfit to put on baby (after baby has soiled her clothes) and/or sweet potato or carrot mush for lunch. ☺
MIL causes dangerous allergic reaction and then wants OP to lose custody? Oh dear!
I would have anyone who pierced my baby’s ears arrested for assault and prosecuted. That is absolutely inexcusable.
Are you kidding? The police aren't going to arrest anybody for that.
@Mark Branch Nah, they won't dude. There are no laws in the US against piercing babies ears, even if there should be. The police would tell you to file a civil complaint, because at best, it'd come down to whether the MIL had implied parental responsibility at the time. And even then, as the MIL would claim it was well-intentioned, the chances of proving such a case are slim. Not defending the crazy bitch, but that's the way it is.
Either way, the cops aint arresting anyone for it.
@Mark Branch Proof? I see no law in AL against it.
If someone who is not my child’s legal guardian has holes punched through her ears without my permission, that is assault. It is the same as if someone gave my baby a tattoo.
@@auntdeen6314 Yeah, it's not the same though. It's illegal to tattoo a minor, ages vary 16 - 18 depending on the state. But ear piercing a baby is not illegal even if it should be.
You can argue that it's assault if the aunt didn't have parental responsibility but the legal process would play out as I outlined above. The aunt would claim implied consent and the cops would advise a civil suit. Ultimately, whatever the case, no cop in the land is placing cuffs on some aunt and placing into a cell for having a baby's ears pierced. It's just not happening. You'd need to sue.
First story: She definitely could have her ex only have supervised visits, which would prevent him from taking her anywhere without permission.
I've seen babies getting their ears pierced at the mall and I tell you, it is the most heartbreaking scene I have ever seen. It not just crying due to the pain. They are confused and terrified that someone is hurting them and their mommy, who should be stopping it, is the one holding them down to let the piercer do their job. They are crying in pain, fear, and betrayal.
They do not have the ability to say no to someone altering their body.
Far as I'm concerned, piercing a baby is abuse.
Tbh, I think it depends??? Since in my culture it's usual for girl to get ear piercing.
@@cestalia I was raised around it. I just personally don't like the idea of minors getting pierced.
@@fnjesusfreak I do get your sentiment, it's just that in my culture we have baby earrings, so minor get their ear pierced. 😅
I understand why people would against it since the culture isn't worldwide.
@@fnjesusfreak I think it's fine once the kid is old enough to understand and make the decision for themselves. But for a baby? I think that's gross. There is no need for it, and they have absolutely no choice in the matter.
Second story - move past it by taking the earrings out - Annie is young enough for the piercings to close entirely if you remove them before the scar tissue sets in. And make damn sure your MIL is NEVER allowed to be alone with Annie ever again.
Love how they got mad at OP for stopping them from kidnapping her daughter.
I never understand why women still marry these kinds of guys. Why would they put up with this crap? MILs like these are deal breakers in my book.
During courtship people are on their best behavior. It is hard to tell sometimes what a person is like before marriage.
Every dog has his day eventually. These days courtships are non-existent and marriage is the new dating. People aren't together long enough to witness the Jack in the Box surprise.
Sadly, they don't see the bullcrap behind the farmer.
I had a pretty good m-i-l, but being human she had some flaws. So did my husband and I. So, we had a great relationship 95% of the time. 2.5% her fault and 2.5% my fault. Ain't life grand???!!!!!
@@Lioness_Es This newest generation has the lowest divorce rate in US history. You're statistically incorrect on 'these days' being worse than previously. People absolutely still rush into marriage but if you think it's as bad as the 70s and 80s? Yeah no.
Last story: OP's sister is dating her boyfriend for 8 years since they were 12. Wow, that's awesome 😲
That is an extremely good relationship. 8 years is a long time but since childhood? You can tell OP's sister and her boyfriend is a healthy and loving couple.
NOBODY should be dating at TWELVE YEARS OLD! Children should NOT be encouraged to 'hook up'; this is neither healthy nor safe. Boys & girls need excellent educations, decent, well-paying jobs & fun, interesting lives. They do NOT need to be paired up in ADOLESCENCE, lives locked down BEFORE they have any significant life experiences & then funnelled into early marriage & parenthood. What century do these people live?!
I HATE that saying "It takes a village to raise a child". NO. IT DOESN'T. It takes PARENTS to raise a child.
But parents always need help? Do you actually understand the phrase
@@esppupsnkits4560 Yes I understand the phrase. It was used by communist Clinton. And no, parents don't always need help. Otherwise families living alone on the frontiers would not have existed.
@@DaWhiteWolffie No wonder you have no clue what it means, you lose all sanity point when you go calling someone Communist..............you sound like that first MIL.
That last MIL could've gotten OP's sister's boyfriend in serious trouble with accusations
Why would you let your daughter near the man that tried to kidnap her?!?! It doesn't matter that he's her father!
First story, full on no contact. Hell, it's time to change cities and put a restraining order against him and his MIL. He doesn't care about you or his daughter. He's just want you back because you moved on and he doesn't want that. Also, stop with the "my child needs their parent!" They don't and you need to move on from that mentality. Otherwise, you're putting your kid through hell for selfish reasons.
Second story, never let that woman near your kid. She'll keep trying to override your decisions. Soon, she'll end up poisoning your kid and try to justify it.
"You dumb.... *whispers* I can't say that..."
I laughed really hard at that 😂😂😂😂
At least the second OP has a competent husband
What kind of place does such a procedure on an infant without the parent there?
I hope op in the First story gets full custody of her daughter.and her ex and his mother get what they deserve
MiL: “You didn’t see your daughter in pain, so you can’t be mad at me for piercing her ears.”
Also MiL: “You know I would never do anything that would hurt her!”
Infant piercing story: NTA, OP. Cosmetic body modification of children to young to consent is questionable IMO, and to do it without the approval of the parents is beyond the pale. Doubly so at a cheap mall store with questionable cleanliness. And what she sent you was in no way an apology. Apologies involve some acceptance of fault, which was notably absent from her screed. She's lucky you're allowing her supervised visits.
Edit: Okay, wow, after the updates? Yikes. MIL is unstable, keep her far away from your entire family.
1st Story: Mom's Rule number 1: never marry the same mistake twice. My rile number 1: Never date the same mistake twice. He is all about letting his family abuse them. Essential oils are not typically for ingestion. How is he happy that his mother tried to kill the kid and putting her into ICU? Apparently his mother thinks child free is better for him. There would be a request for no unsupervised visitation. Go back to court and change the custody arrangement. How can the mother find his abusing that daughter emotionally as acceptable because she doesn't want to protect her from her father? The toddler is at risk of being abducted. There is no way the court wouldn't see a reason to change to unsupervised visitation with a court officer present. The full custody should be permanent. OP needs to get some therapy herself to see how the emotional abuse was not okay for that kid and not keeping her away from daddy because she needs to be with her abuser is insane.
2nd Story: Didn't see her pain? So the infection and constant cleaning and maintaining of the piercings isn't real to mil unless she is there to see it? It does take a village to raise a child, but the village does not have the right to put wounds on them. And yes punching holes in her ears are wounds. And who says she will repierce her ears? I don't have my ears pierced.
Has anyone asked about sexual abuse in mil's past? She sounds like someone who was abused as a child.
I have to wonder if MIL in that story was a Young Living/Doterra hun or just a crunchy girl.
Yeah, some essential oils can be extremely dangerous if ingested. Lavender is a particularly nasty example. Ingesting concentrated lavender oil can *liquify your organs*. Others are harmless unless there's a large amount of it, such as peppermint or cinnamon oil (both of those mainly just have a really strong taste, but in excessive amounts can damage your digestive tract). But anybody with a GI issue should not be consuming concentrated peppermint or cinnamon anyways.
OP 1 needs to worry about her own safety besides her daughter's. I watch enough I.D to know they're the type of people to take it to the extreme by taking her out.
My DIL and I get along great! Probably because I let them (her and our son) live their own lives. When the grandkids(3 of them) were young they went to the elementary at the end of our block. I had them every day-our youngest so was two years older than oldest grandson. During summers we’d go to the beach, the zoo, or just hang out here. That was great! Alas, they’re all grown now
Who else thinks that final MIL’s reaction to next week’s restraining order is not going to be ‘take it seriously’? I shudder to think what she may try next!
No place should be able to pierce a babys ears.
That MIL in the second story REALLY earned that restraining order.
Op’s ex from the first story doesn't deserve a second chance he shouldn't even have a chance with his kid he is hurting his kid because he's pissed his ex he didn't stand up for he doesn't deserve to be a dad he is disgusting
Omg, he was planning to kidnap his kid seriously WTF?
H no!! Grandmother crossed a major line. Keep her away from daughter
The last update of post 2 is hilarious.... I am laughing so hard for the 1st time in days.
They started dating when sister was 12 * throws flag*
He was 12 too * picks flag back up*
The pierced baby ears. MIL is lucky the police did not get involved with an assault charge.
MIL ear piercing story: 1. You did hurt her by getting her ears pierced. 2. Not being able to be alone with the baby is not the same as never seeing her. 3. Causing an infant pain for cosmetic reasons when they can't consent is child abuse. 4. You do not have a say over your granddaughter because you are not her parent.
I wish I could say that to her face.
That “He was attracted to her when she was 12 years old” and then the “When he was also 12” really had me in the first half not gonna lie.
Just a thought on the little baby getting her ears pierced. The parents should also look into going after the store or the location that did the piercing because don't they need a signed consent and why are they doing anything to a child without a parent present? Or did grandma say she was mom? More evidence for the need of a restraining order.
Ugh story 2 had me heated. I have a daughter and my husband and I have agreed from day 1 we wouldn’t get her ears done until she was old enough to take care of them herself because we’ve both had issues with piercings in the past. Mother in law had no right whatsoever and if I were OP I would get out and post back saying that MIL pierced her baby’s ears against their wishes and it isn’t that she’s not letting MIL never see the baby again but just that they are not letting her be alone with the baby due to a massive breach in trust.
Finally someone said it, staying together for the sake of children is never good, do you think you can really hide family problems from people living in the same house as you, that they are kids means nothing. Adults don't know how much a child sees and hears even if you are trying to be quiet, but but things get heated and kids hear you, even in your silent fights, they know and you forget they there. So thank you, some common sense
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The first story made me think the ex mother in law was like “I hate Mexican, where shall we run to? I know, Mexico!”
The husband in the first story didn't care when his daughter went to hospital? Looks like the crazy apple didn't fall far from the tree. I dont agree that a child should be kept away from a parent after divorce but in this case i think there may be reason. Ex husband is too much of a mommys boy.
First OP needs to cut all contact with Ex and ExMIL. They legit tried to kidnap her daughter, they forfeited all rights to that child with that crap. The child's safety comes first and who knows what he will try next
OP really needs to watch this very closely and record every instance of what the ex-husband is saying to their daughter. It is parental alienation and she should to go back to court and give them the evidence if it keeps happening. They can take his visitation away, if they see that he is trying to turn their daughter against her Mother. That is vile behaviour from him and all because he didn’t get his own way, so his ex is moving on with her life. He needs to stop throwing a temper tantrum like a toddler!
After update: what a psycho! Glad that OP got full custody of her daughter!
These grandmas are crazy over their grand children.
We are around 20 cousins in the family, and i can assure that our grandma would hide from 15 of them because of the noises😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Your commentary is great!
"My ex needs to be involved in his daughters life", not if he or his relatives are a danger to her daughter. Also if he's trying to get that child to hate her mother.
Story:Oh honey you can have a life without the biological father to your child he's already showing you that he's no good for her you already have full custody nix the visitation live a better life
My sister and my mom want to pierce my nieces ears, but they respect that my sister and brother in law don’t want her ears pierced.
lmao I made a weird noise when I heard the "proof" of that crazy MIL. Yeah, being attracted to a peer when you are a kid is wrong now? loooooooool
You NEVER let anyone disrespect you. You are sick. Love yours first not the outsider
“I can’t take away the father of my daughter”
You actually can. Attempted parental alienation. He can go sit alone in his mommy’s house with nothing and nobody. He made his bed, his divorce is his own fault. Trying to alienate you from your child because you won’t get back with him should he treated like a capital offense and dealt with appropriately
on the daughter getting ears pierced by MIL i would be going to that mall and demanding to see the manager and demand to know how they let this happen as this woman had no legal right to authorize the piercing of 8 month old and that i would be suing them into bankruptcy
Op call the police. That's not legal. It's Battery.
I honestly hate when parents pierce their babies ears, to me it seems like the parents aren’t seeing the kids as actual living beings but accessories for them to dress up and tote around.
If my MIL, or even my own mother, ever think they have ANY say in my children’s lives, they have another thing coming. You can buy presents, take them on fun outings, but don’t you dare make decisions like piercing their ears without parental consent.
I got my ears pierced when I was little, but it was my decision and my parents decision to let me. MIL was absolutely in the wrong.
Story 1: If it was me, the notion of getting back together would have been off the table to begin with, kind of in a "too little, too late" vein of thinking, but I'd be wanting to go scorched earth with ex-husband after the flimsy attempt at parental alienation and in all honesty, I'd use it as a basis to take away any rights he may still have to his daughter. And to OP, it would be better for your daughter to have no father at all than to have a father that only thinks of her as a pawn in his sick little game of chess.
"I'd never do anything to hurt my grandchild" -proceeds to pierce her ears and admit she was in pain.
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Same. My ex’s in-laws forced our divorce. When they found out I made far more money than their weak son, they tried to have me killed to have their daughter assume my identity. I evicted them from the homes they lived rent free. But now that they (ex in-law) passed away, my ex won’t leave me alone.
Piercing ears at 8 months? When my sister got her ears pierced one side became infected. From what she said the actual piercing doesn't hurt that much but I would be hesitant to give a child pierced ears when they have no immune system yet.
The first story the OP is right in not getting back with her ex. 1) she doesn't love him anymore so it's not fair to him if she goes with him when it could prevent him from meeting someone who actually loves him. 2) it could lead to a toxic tense environment which could effect the child's mental health. 3) he could fall back under his mothers thumb in which she leaves again and causes further instability for the child. 4) he's clearly not matured if he's putting things like ' mummy loves her boyfriend more' into the little girls head.
MIL. You already did something to hurt her. Protect your daughter.
It does take a village, but the parents are the mayor's.
Story 1. Perhaps the ex can marry his mother.
By the sounds of it he's still firmly clamped onto the boob at 36 so he may as well be.
@@jgraaay18 more like MIL MIL couldn't bear to cut the cord and became some kind of Silent Hill like parasite that controls him like a little womb puppet.
To be fair, letting her ears be pierced by a cheap place can cause a lot of problems. A cousin of mine did that and she had a BAD infection in her ears. Poor baby was crying nonstop from the pain.
Who the hell puts earrings on a baby!? They can't even have LEGO because it's a choking hazard, now we have to put the same warnings on all jewelry... sheesh. Next she'll send the kid home with Elmo tattooed on her face! That will be fun to go through life with, huh?
both stories hit me so hard... with story 1 is actually my biggest fear with my exhusband and my daugther.
Pierce my kids ears without my permission you will be talking to the cops and a judge .
First story; NTA. You did the right thing.
Ex mil and ex husband are crazy af.
Second story; NTA. Your mil is TA. Get a restraining order and go no contact.
My niece asked for a haircut for years. Birthday, Christmas, ect
When she was 9 she asked me to taker her.
I did! Cut from but to shoulder. Everyone was mad!!!
I accepted that might happen. She was having headaches & I had same issues w long hair
They called 3 weeks later cuz needed a babysitter. It was worth. She was happy
Okay .. I gotta say this about the first storys ex and exmil ... Ya'll going to lose a fight ... Cause op has every right to block your sorry excuses of human waste and as for the second.... NC and RESTRAINING ORDER ..
Piercing a child's ears is a form of child abuse IMO, and the grandmother definitely has NO say in any part of her grand-daughters life
On that last story. Surely the MIL IS an abuser. Piercing an 8mph old child's ears is assault. Certainly is in my book, ESPECIALLY without the parents' permission.
If my MIL or Mother tried that stunt with my kids, they'd be scraping what's left of them off the walls!
That last mother in law just went so hilariously nuts. Even you nearly called her what she is, witch with a b, in your video. That just made me laugh more.
when it comes to your child's health the thought most certainly does not count.
Story 2 First of all, cheap mall piercers use piercing guns which are HIGHLY unsanitary. Second no professional piercer will pierce a child’s ears unless they are old enough to understand how to care for them and can consent usually about age 9-10 with a parent/guardian present. Also if I remember correctly (it’s been awhile) you are REQUIRED BY LAW to be the parent/guardian to sign off on consent form for those shops so she’s already broken the law. That’s not even accounting for the damage that could have done to the baby’s ear if the earring rejected which has happened to me. It causes the lobe to split which requires stitches to fix. Imagine how much that poor baby would have had to suffer with stitches b/c grandma thought earrings would be cute 😖😖😖
Eight months is too young to pierce the ears. Not only that, but pierced ears need a lot of daily care in order to not get infected for several weeks afterward. It hurts more than the mother in law said. The ears hurt for quite awhile. So this is inappropriate to do to a baby by someone other than the parents, the primary care givers.
The stupid ex and his mil won’t stop trying to take your child away from you. You need to stop her from seeing him. Every time she’s with him she is in danger.