The Difficult Moments Raising Quintuplets: Talking School Struggles
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- Опубліковано 20 чер 2024
- These are the difficult moments raising Quints. We were prepared by the doctors in talking about the future that there would be a chance they would possibly struggle in school. Today we had a meeting at their school that would lay out a path to helping one of our Daughters with the tools to overcome dyslexia. We are glad that we have an answer and a clear path to success now, but these moments are just really hard as parents. We have always tried to share the bad with the good in sharing our story with you guys. This is one of those times.
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01:33 Adam Talks about the meeting today
03:44 Quick ponytail fix on the way to school
05:08 Parents Sit down to chat
06:02 Danielle shares her thoughs
I had a child who I was told would never read, never succeed in school. Just want you to know that today she is a SPED teacher and working on her Masters degree in special education. The children in her classes thrive because she understands them. She patience and tolerance and loves them all. She has a special gift. I never gave up on her and she will never give up on her students. It all works out. You encourage them and they will thrive. Don’t worry your beautiful girls will succeed. You are their advocates. Stay strong and just gently push them through. They need your reassurance that they will succeed and you are behind them. Love to you all
1 in 5 students have dyslexia. I have triplets all 3 have ADHD and 1 has dyslexia. Your attitude is spot on. My trio are out of high school now. Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t let mom guilt get the best of you.
The Chief Financial Officer of our company had dyslexia. He was amazing at his job! Truly gifted! The sky is the limit for your child.
When I was 6 I was diagnosed with dyslexia, dyscalculia, adhd and reading comprehension problems and now I’m 35 and have 2 degrees and love reading and was a good student my whole life with the extra help I got at school and during a couple of summers. - my parents told me that I am the same as everyone else I just need a little more time and I learn differently to them. This never bothered me and I am a functional person in society so it will be fine and she will make everything she wants to happen with the supportive parents that she has.
As a 3rd grade teacher myself, take advantage of every resource you can. In California, we call them IEPs. They allow for so many accommodations and even carry into colleges. Teachers want to make it as easy as possible for children and their families with assignments and testing. Having allowable accommodations and family support is huge. Also, never forget that to truly be successful in society and maintain a career it really doesn’t matter how much you know. What matters is how well you can work with other people. Your videos may just be fun family outings, but the exposures and connections that you are providing for your children are what’s most important. I wish all children had parents as involved as you.
We need more Great Teachers like you in CA.
Unfortunately our class rooms are so over crowded in Ca.
If Parents aren’t involved your child will get ignored .
Yes, exactly that Shannon!
I totally agree. Please keep being involved and advocating for your kids. Love how generic you're being. You have wonderful kids and are great parents. Keep up the awesome job 👏 👍
I am a skating coach and you see a variety of struggles through that spectrum too. (We ask to know of school struggles just so we can be aware and know if a child may randomly have a moment of sad or anger or something). they also have code words if they need a break too we don’t know what they mean but it works for most part
My husband & I have 2 teenage sons. We also live here in CA and both our boys have had IEPs since 1st & 3rd grades. These help not only our boys, but the teachers and us, the parents, to all be able to help our boys learn at their rate needed and not just be pushed ahead to the next grade.
I wish everyone that had children with these needs had the access to IEPs like we do.❤
I am a dyslexia teacher in Texas and I understand the struggles your girls are having. I just want you to make sure that the girls know that being dyslexic is not something they should be ashamed of. Many famous people who have done amazing work are dyslexic. Celebrate their differences and encourage them to say dyslexia. It’s not a bad word. If your district offers any trainings for parents, I encourage you to attend. Also, dyslexia is an unexpectedness. That means they are good at something like sports, math, or art but they struggle with reading. Definitely encourage their strengths as well.
So Well said. My brother grew up with dyslexia and back then there was very little help available. Fortunately he worked hard and persevered, becoming a veterinarian! 😊
one of the most famous figures known to have dyslexia is Albert Einstein, a theoretical physicist who won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1921 and has become synonymous with intelligence and wit.
Being dyslexic, teaching dyslexic students .. it is wonderful to find something they enjoy ! So many are dyslexic and there are ways to help .. and IEP helps them with accommodations in a large class setting , tutors . It’s crazy getting our kids through school .. it is hard … YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB Momma! They all learn so differently!
Exactly. Dyslexia is not something to be ashame of....
Danielle looks exhausted. It is little wonder your children have learning difficulties. Five at once! I cannot imagine the level of stress.I also wonder about your oldest daughter. So much attention on the quints. Will she experience frustration and feel neglected?
My daughter was the same with struggling. It was hard for my husband and I to understand. We are both engineers and school was always so easy for us. She was diagnosed with dyslexia in 3rd grade in Oklahoma and shortly after we moved to the Houston area. She has thrived since going into special education program where she is getting the assistance and help she needs. She is now a 5th grader and in our ARD they talked about she will probably just be a monitor case going into 6th grade. She loves reading now and since 5th grade they go back to how we learned math she has thrived. Being able to do math the way that makes the most sense has made her soar. I promise their is hope. I know you don’t want to share but I hope you share with your friends and church family. The encouragement and success stories are what helped us as parents see the light at the end of the dark tunnel. We had serious conversations of what happens if college isn’t an option but now I know that college will be an option and a success. My prayers are with you in this struggle.
Stop beating yourself up. I know this is all so overwhelming right now, but it will all come together. You have six intelligent girls and two learn differently. It may take a couple of years before they learn how to make learning easier, but they'll be fine. I didn't know I had dyslexia until my son was diagnosed in the second grade by a teacher that taught dyslexia students at another school. I would put them in the correct school or get them the right tutors. They're both going to be very successful people, have faith.
Parents should not feel they have failed if their child doesn’t go to college. It’s not for everyone and that’s ok. There are plenty of vocations one can do without a college education.
@@EmilyTamarkin my child desperately wants to go to college to be an equine veterinarian not pushed by us her goal
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My daughter was put in special Ed in 4th grade. It was very hard for me to accept it even though we knew it was best for her. By 6th grade she was removed from special ed and did great in school. It gave her the tools and confidence in herself. She graduated from college with excellent grades. Keep up the good work.
As an elementary teacher for 34 years (and a mom!) bless you for saying that children need more in their lives than school! After a long day at school children need time to play outside, participate in sports, or take dance/art/drama lessons. There is so much more to life than school work! You are both awesome parents - keep following your gut and let them thrive as the individuals that they are. God bless you all!
as someone who is disabled thank you for opening up about this. i was in special education for anxiety and depression but also because i am disabled. thank you for being open with us and sharing your heart. love you all!
My daughter, 14, also has both anxiety and depression. I would be thankful if could share how you managed to cope with that. Thanks
We have a daughter who had a long list of learning disabilities until she was diagnosed with Autism (took 18 years). Have you looked into OT. Maybe since you are working with 5 you need to break up the traditional homework time. Maybe you, your hubby, and Blake can do it individually for 45 minutes a day, or let them play and have fun when they come home and wake up an hour early in the morning and work on it. You could also come up with a M/W, and T/Th schedule.
@@user-jh3mk9nk6banxiety meds changed everything for our daughter in high school.
@@user-jh3mk9nk6b I take it one day at at time. I do the best I can everyday. I see a psychiatrist and am on meds and that helps. therapy helps too.
My best friend is a multiple and her two brothers both have Dyslexia. One of the siblings went to a school designed specifically for children reading difficulties for two years and then re-entered our school. He ended up being the top of the class for mathematics. Then he excelled secondary school and was the only student to do applied Maths in my year. Also turns out he was classified as a natural genius for this area in school and he is now an engineer fixing aircrafts. Her other sibling is now finished his apprenticeship to be a mechanic.
Her brothers receiving the extra help really helped them to excel in what they are good at. It is a struggle but they will get there with your amazing support. Your girls are so lucky to have parents who are understanding and that care so much ❤
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I am a third grade teacher and also a mother of a third grader. My daughter is autistic and watching her struggle has been a heartbreaking road. Third grade is very challenging. You guys are wonderful parents. You’re doing a great job! You love them and support them and they can feel that. You’re definitely not alone on your journey. I know how much it breaks your heart to see your child struggle and not be able to fix it. I’ll keep you guys in my prayers.
Danielle and Adam, your concern and desire to help every one of your girls show what great parents you are. This also highlights what a phenomenal job teachers do too, who are faced with a huge classroom of kids of varying abilities every single day. Hats off to all of you!
As a retired Elementary school administrator in a neighboring district from CCISD, your girls are in great hands. ARD Admission Review and Dismissal
There are a lot of tools for dyslexia..ask for help from the school.
School should not overpower their lives.
Keep doing the kid things . It's important for them to have social skills and be well rounded.
Ask the teachers what you can do to help. They have many resources available in Creek.
You are doing a great job! Love your girls encourage them,don't put too much pressure on them or yourselves.
Absolutely It's all about GROWTH.
YOU are doing a great job.
Hugs
Busby Family,
Thank you for sharing these very relatable issues. Never give up and never ever, ever stop advocating. Love you all and God Bless you all always. 💙
Yall are amazing parents. I have 3 daughters (16, 13, and 6) but all are in school and this sounds a lot like my oldest daughter. Shes been held back ( in 3rd grade) and is on an IEP. She struggles, but I’ve learned to just stay consistent and praise them. It’s a struggle. What I have found that helps is to set up a certain amount of time per day for homework and let them be a kid after. We have to have a routine and it seems to help.
Danielle, you are an absolutely amazing mom. Don’t feel like you are failing your children. You are super woman to be able to raise 6 girls like you do. I know you are struggling in this moment, but you are an inspiration. I love watching you and your family! Thank you for being open and showing us not just the good side but the real struggle with family life! My family loves to watch yall! 💜💚💛
First off, thank you for sharing y’all’s struggle. I can imagine the stress on y’all as parents and the girls as students. As an individual who was not diagnosed with dyslexia until college, you are 100 percent doing all that you can. It’s not an over night fix. Way to get involved early and not to shrug it off. Y’all are the kiddos advocates! With that being said, one thing I know that I thank my parents for is, not saying you have to perform perfectly. Doing my best was absolutely expected but it was not about the letter grade. It didn’t solve everything but it certainly helped me remember to love myself despite my struggles. I was a micro-premie and now have a masters degree. I have made my own way! It will be a journey but those sweet girls are so blessed to have parents that will do what they can to help them ❤
Hi Danielle and Adam, my heart goes out to you because I know how difficult reading that first diagnosis report is. I was diagnosed with dyslexia at university and yes it did feel like suddenly everything made so much sense but equally it was confirmation the difficulties would never just go away. Be patient with yourselves, it takes time to come to terms. Now I don't think of my dyslexia as a bad thing, it's a core part of who I am because it's literally how my brain is wired - and that includes being an incredible problem solver, lateral thinker and empathetic to others who struggle. WELL DONE to you both for pushing for the recognition and support your daughter needs to progress academically. Btw I also believe your kids will understand if you need to help one more than another, if not today then one day. My brother got more attention growing up and I'd be jealous, but deep down I always knew he needed it more. I think kids sometimes are more aware than we think, and it's clear you have good hearted girls. Good luck to you all x
Danielle you are not failing the girls in any way. I can remember feeling the same. As the girls grow with their new way of learning you will also learn along with them. Don’t be hard on yourself.
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I was someone who struggled A LOT in elementary and middle school. I was always getting extra help, and honestly, it made me feel self-conscious.
With time, I discovered that I sometimes just take a little longer to grasp some topics. By high school, I knew how to best learn for myself. I graduated in the top 10% and got a great scholarship to college. I graduated Suma Cum Laude from undergrad and then got a great job in the journalism field. Now applying for a my graduate degree.
My mom always says she’s shocked to see what her 8-year-old daughter became. Just know it’ll be hard, but as someone who experienced the hardships, it’s those struggles that made me determined to achieve what I have today.
I also come from a large family and get. But you got this and so does your little one. Just be there for her with love!
Would it be easier to hsve the girls in one class or two.
I struggled with school. Especially high school. Remember to celebrate all the achievements and accomplishments for the girls especially with school as it builds confidence.
The most important thing your girls are all beautiful kind hearted girls and that’s what matters most. They’ll learn these things in their own time. Don’t be hard on yourselves.
You are doing a great job as a mama to recognize them as individual learners. Don’t guilt yourself, you are caring and showing up for your kids which is exactly what they need.
As a third grade teacher, this is how teachers feel, daily. It is HARD work. But it is worth it. ❤
You guys are doing so amazing! I am dyslexic, and was diagnosed at aged 9 with very severe dyslexia. I used to be so ashamed of it and struggled so much throughout school and felt I couldn't do what all my classmates could. But it's something I've learned to live with, and I started to realise how important asking for help is. I think sometimes people over look it and I found that I had to constantly be asking my school for help, particularly in primary school. As I grew up I was given extra help and more resources in comparison to other students that really helped me.
I think dyslexia affects more than people think, so I think taking it really slow is important, and maybe some outside help could also be useful. Definitely encourage there other strengths as well and ensure they know that just because they may not be able to do things in the classroom or understand the work like her sisters or classmates that she is good at other things and that school isn't everything. But you guys are slaying!!! :)
I have dyselxia only diagnosed in adulthood. Told ill never go to college. Currently doing a PhD! The social aspect is the most important right now. Thats it there gifts is promoting their well-being giving them resilience to help support them struggling. Sounds crazy but promoting well-being will help soon much. Computers are so advanced I have stuff read to me and when do we write now that isn't computerised. Dyselxia is a superpower were creative out of the box thinkers cause we have to think outside the box to adapt to sucessed. My lecturers love my brain having barely passed school. You're doing great ❤
Yes, this! I am dyspraxic and autistic, we knew I found things hard in school but I behaved well and did well academically so noone really noticed or cared. I kept it all internally. Understanding myself better has been a huge process but now I can work to my strengths, I know why I think differently to other people and why I struggle in certain areas. There is so much power in knowing! The world needs different people who excel in different things. The quints will learn this and love each other for this. And love and appreciate you as parents for helping them to understand nurture it.
Don’t be afraid to ask their teachers for help on how to teach them at home. Also, these are all great questions and the school should tell you how to help them at home. Especially if they are getting and IEP. I was a teacher and even we struggle sometime when we have students at different levels in all subjects. Maybe at home, and you might be doing this, have a manidtory homework hour where everyone stays at the table. Even if they are done with theirs they can read or help each other out. When they get older you probably won’t have to help all of them at once and it will just naturally taper off. You guys are awesome parents and know you are doing everything you can for your daughters!
I love what you said about helping each other in school instead of a being competitive. Together they stand strong and they can help each other whether that is in school or socially or just in other aspects of life. And I am sure each one of them individually will thrive in their own unique way in whatever path they choose. God is watching over them all❤
I appreciate you sharing this so much. My son was diagnosed with autism and school has been difficult for him. I'm so thankful for the special Ed teachers and school resources. Im spending so much time in school meetings, too, trying to help him and learn what's going on. We got him an IEP meeting, and I'm hopeful this individual program will help him with the one on one time, but he is just starting school and has yet to make even one friend. I feel for you guys with 5 in the same grade. Thank you for sharing. ❤
When your kids are getting older they can help and support each other with homework and can learn together. It's a great advantage for them. You have wonderful and healthy kids. I know that you two will do anything to bring up your quintuplets to wonderful adults.❤
Thank you for talking about it. Please just be their voice and fight for them .❤❤
You are your child’s ONLY ADVOCATE!!!!!!! Keep pushing for the resources that each child needs. I understand where you are coming from however I was working with one child! I will be praying for you and Adam during this difficult time!!
Props to you both Danielle & Adam for maintaining privacy but for describing the issue well. This will help parents going through similar parenting issues to advocate for their kids & to not feel so alone if on a similar journey
How are they maintaining privacy when they are talking about their child’s problems on UA-cam?! Even if they don’t say which quint it is it’s still not something they need to talk about.
@@nancyfarkas3592 They didn't name any of the girls.The Busbys' have always tried to help others by using their public platform & being as open & honest as they can, that's been their mantra. They've achieved a good balance b4 , as they did with the way this was explained. Look at the info & positive discussion for all that's been created😊.
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Well except it was shown on Outdaughtered, of course. They always act like they care about privacy yet they tell it on the show.
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Who do you think you are?
Do they have to ask you!! What do they want to do or not to do?
Why do you think the BEAUTIFUL girls belong to you?
These PRETTY 6 girls have the MOST WONDERFUL parents in the world, and they know what is best for the girls and their family. Much BETTER than you and others.
Thanks for sharing this. You sharing how your life isn’t perfect will help so many families. It must be so hard having so many kiddos. You all are doing a great job!!🥰
I’m an elementary teacher. Thank you for being so supportive of your daughter! IEPs are very helpful and can provide lots of modifications and accommodations to best help her!
You have a 5x hard job Mom & Dad, your love and support make all the difference in the world. Keep up the great work Busbys.
You guys are doing the correct thing by being your children's advocate. My son was diagnosed with Auditory Processing Disorder. Along with some hearing loss, this was a constant struggle for him. But like you, we got him the help he needed. Once the tools were in place, he thrived. He was on the honor roll all through high school and graduated college with honors, You will face many obstacles and struggles but with proper help and your guidance, they will succeed in whatever road they choose.
Prayers for guidance, wisdom , understanding, and patience.
May God continue to bless you all!
Look back to see how faithful God has been to you both and the girls. Look at Hazel and how far God has brought her. Look how far God has brought Parker. He is faithful to you all. Take advantage of what the school has to offer and thank God the learning struggles have been revealed early. Each girl has different gifts given by the Lord🙏🙏
absolutely love this! God is always there with you
Advocating for your child is one of the most loving things you can do. As a mom to 2 sons, one with ADHD & the other autism, both grown men now, I remember all the IEP goals & meetings…the pushing for things…it pays off SO much! My sons are both thriving now in life…in their own unique ways…very non-traditional, but happy & successful humans! You both are doing GREAT!!!! Laster in life, when others who know your kids, but don’t know you, meet you & say your children are great people, THAT is when you GET the point of all these years of parenting…YOU RAISED wonderful people!! You’ll see!!! God bless you both. ❤
I’m sorry to hear the girls are struggling 😢. My (now) 27 yo son is a 30 week preemie and we went through all of the same types of struggles (but not dyslexia). It took pushing from me to finally get the school to test and in 3rd grade he was put back on an IEP (he had one in kindergarten because he came in from early intervention) and from that point on I was in mama bear mode until he graduated. I put some effort into getting him through school - but I did have him do the work so he is a functioning adult now. My heart goes out to you because you have more to monitor with 5 separate ones to monitor ❤❤❤
They are little girls and you will get through this season - it may seem rocky and scary, but stay strong and you will have 5 beautiful women on the other side!
As someone who is also neurodiverse, I really relate to your situation. I remember as a kid feeling really disempowered, especially when I found out that I was labeled as having a disability. I was frustrated at not being able to excel in subjects that others did. I wish the term neurodiversity had been around then and that my disability had been framed as a superpower. I get to see the world a different way, and have developed solutions for overcoming my challenges and technology has made it so much easier. My neurodiversity has made my better at my job of relating to struggling students because believe it or not, despite having hated school, I’m coming up to almost a decade of university teaching and am currently completing a second doctorate. I found my skills and utilized them and I’m sure your daughters will do the same. A positive perspective will help them along their journey. Their so-called disability is just part of what makes them who they are. ❤
First, thank you for sharing with us! I am a mom of twins with special needs who are sophomores in high school and their diagnosis are similar but they manifest differently. Homework is tough as they learn differently
All I can tell you is in some ways it gets easier and other ways it gets harder the higher they go in school but now that you know your daughter's diagnosis that is half the battle and lean on other parents for resources and advice . Knowledge is power so read and learn as much as you can about dyslexia. Also, I was told by another parent that you are the expert on your child so follow your gut and advocate, advocate advocate! God Bless you and your girls!
As someone who has a learning disability, I appreciate you opening up about this. At 31 almost 32, they're still things I struggle with, but I've learned to not be ashamed of it and know it does not characterize who I am, it is just something that is apart me. I know easier said than done. Get any and all resources you can for your child, because that is how they will get stronger and be their biggest advocate. Also do not be sad, for your child and just cheer her and try help her find the subject she enjoys most and start there! You guys are amazing parents and your children are great kids, from what I can tell from the television. Just keep cheering them and they will do great, in anything that they do!
I just wanted to say that you guys are awesome parents. It's really hard, but you're doing absolutely the right thing getting them all tested and adapting to each kid's needs. As you said, when you know more you can do more!
Dyslexia isn't a life sentence: it's just a different way of processing and learning and seeing the world. Same with autism and other learning difficulties. It's super hard when these don't always align with the school system or others their age, but with the right support they'll learn to find their strengths and work with rather than against their differences.
I can't even imagine how hard it it managing all of this with five! But they will learn to adapt to each other and accept themselves for who they are. Understanding the 'why' (please do tell them!) will help this, and help you to help them. They'll grow up to be all the more kind, compassionate and understanding of differences. They'll learn that while X struggles with reading, they are awesome at sport and music, and that while you spend more time helping Y with maths, you'll always be there to take them to basketball practice too!
This is super long so I'll stop. But in short, you guys are awesome. You'll work it all out, you have so far and will continue to. Keep doing what you're doing ❤
I have been a high school teacher for 23 years.
My daughter has struggled since she was 4, I knew at that time she had dyslexia. However, her school would not listen to me. It was 3rd grade before they tested her. Then she struggled up to 6th grade. I cried, she cried, and we just could not get the help she needed. In Arkansas there is one program they use for dyslexia and it never worked for her. In 6th grade a lady moved to our school and started helping her on her own time and within 6 months we saw a turn around.
She is now in 10th grade and is keeping an A B average with an occasional C. She does still struggle but she has learned to cope with the issues.
I say all of this to say one day you will see a change for the better.
The young years were by far the hardest and I will never forget those. However, by the Grace of God she is an Overcomer and so will you baby. Hang in there momma and daddy and don’t stop advocating for your girls.
"For I know the plans I have for you..plans of HOPE and a FUTURE"
Remember that God loves ur girls more than you ever could.
He is going to work ALL THINGS for their good....every experience good or bad is what will make their story incredible. Each one of them are in His Hands.
...and He will grant you Danielle and Adam wisdom and grace for every road in this journey, every chapter in the story.
ALL THINGS POSSIBLE!
You are doing an amazing job❤
You are definitely not alone in any of these feelings. It can be a frustrating experience and so so hard to balance it all. We have 4 kids, from 13 years old down to 4, and one is autistic, one possibly has AdHD, it's so difficult to fight for everything our kids require to thrive, and it can be discouraging as a mom. Knowing how to tap into all the resources can be overwhelming, and I'm still learning. A lot.of us are right there with you guys. Thanks for making us feel not so alone in this parenting thing. ❤
I received extra help starting around 3rd grade. You two advocating for your girls is the best thing you can do for them. I got the help and ended up not using it junior and senior year in high school and graduated without any assistance. Things started to click for me in high school as you change subjects and use different parts of the brain. I found my passion in the arts and your girls will find their place too. Y’all are doing amazing. You are helping them by advocating for them.
Your latest upload was phenomenal! Your consistency is truly impressive Keep up the awesome work, you're phenomenal
Myself and my three siblings have discalculia, dysgraphia, n dyslexia along w my mom. I struggled in middle and high school a lot with math and science but rlly excelled in other subjects. it is something that affects u in many areas of ur life but i promise it does not diminish anything of intelligence. i graduated summa cum laude in college after rlly struggling in high school. youre doing amazing mom and dad. reading, writing, math, it can be discouraging when youre not doing as well as others. the thing that helped me THE MOST was being removed from a peer environment. i did my college entirely online and really succeeded. every kid is different just keep encouraging her and supporting her on the things she is great at
as mom and dad youre doing amazing i promise. it is incredibly challenging but this is a very real struggle a lot of kids have
Thanks for sharing. I like the way you presented it. You can and you will get through this. You will learn and adapt and overcome. Prayers for the family. YOU GOT THIS.
❤ I love hearing stories like these because then I don't feel alone in my parent struggles. Thank you for sharing. We'll get through this 🙏🌈
My now 18 yo says 3rd was a lot. Thats where the fun ended according to her and the real work began. Its hard now to work with our children because everything is taught differently. If they are giving one of your children an ARD there's extra help there and reaources. Aides, etc. My son is on ARD and rhe extra help and reaources are amazing.
I know this seems a lot right now. Work with them and tell them what you think your child needs and speak up which I know you will and donr back down if you feel your child needs something. You and Adam are strong parents. I know you guys will navigate this great!
As a teacher, the resources and accommodations are so so beneficial for reluctant learners and those who struggle. I’ve seen so many of my kids who receive services become so confident in their own learning. It’s also so great having supportive parents like you guys who want to do whatever they can for their child to strive.
I'm not a mom, but I am a special education teacher. The raw and honest discussion here warms my heart. I wish every one of my parents put even a fraction of the effort you guys are putting in. Communication between parents and teachers is SO important, but especially important with our students who need extra support. I see how hard it is for parents with one child receiving special education services, I couldn't imagine having multiple in the same grade needing different individualized plans to succeed. You are doing AMAZING with advocating for your girls' needs and helping them succeed. You both go above and beyond and those girls will have every opportunity to do whatever their heart desires, even with disabilities.
Also thank you sooo much for sharing. It is great to know there arenother parents and kids in the same boat. It is soo stressful and you feel alone.
When I was in 3rd grade I was put into a resource class for Math and Reading. The classes, while I didn't like them at the time, really helped. In math, I felt the same as your daughter with dyslexia. I did get myself out of these classes by 12th grade, by myself. While they may not like school now, they will eventually get there. They will all get through this.
I promise it will get better overall! 😁❤️
As a teacher in Texas I can tell you third grade is really hard because it’s the start of STAAR and so they drill them way too hard. I agree 100 that you should try and help them in all areas. You’re doing amazing where I’m from we never did any testing and I was free from this pressure. You’re doing great they will grow just keep in mind 3 rd is really hard. I have 3 kids and I won’t be playing into the staar game I can already tell your an amazing mom from just caring but I’m telling you those girls will be amazing don’t let the staar crazy hit you.
The teacher and principal are getting pressure from the state testing and they pass that onto you and I’ve seen it a million times. As someone who was never as smart as my brother and still make 5 times more than him a grade is just a grade. General comprehension is always more important.
I work as a para at an elementary school helping 3rd and 4th graders and kindergarteners. I also used to do preschool and younger. It can be difficult, but it definitely has its rewarding moments. Your girls have done amazing things in their life and are going to achieve more than they know. Being a paraprofessional has been really fun and it’s awesome to see the kids start to thrive and grasp concepts and skills that they didn’t have before. I help students around your kids ages and help them in the classroom to learn better and to help them understand their schoolwork. It’s definitely challenging but we all get there in the end and I know your girls will do great things.
Super thankful for this video as it’s making me feel better about my own 3rd graders struggles. Her school recently had an assembly for all the 3rd graders who had all As and all Bs and she has a C in math and struggles hard. It broke my heart to see all the kids sit there and not get recognized. Especially when it’s just one certain subject and for kids who really work so hard but can’t grasp it.
We live in the UK and I have 2 daughters who’ve been diagnosed with dyslexia or processing disorders. Although I’ve only had to deal with one child at a time, what you’ve shared has been exactly our story. I often have said to them both “ I don’t have a mum guide, I’m doing the best I can and am making it up as I go!” You’ve been immensely brave and real to share this with everyone, and we appreciate that. At the end of the day we want happy healthy well - rounded children with parents who love them and I got that in abundance, even if the journey is a stop/start one at times. You’ve got this 💕
Thank you so much! We are with you mama!❤️
Bless you guys , it’s never easy helping your children go through life . Just be there as much as you can and listen always , even if what they are talking about sounds stupid to you it doesn’t to them , but I’m sure you know that anyway . Good luck all ❤❤
Love you guys ❤ I know this can be so hard. I struggled with this having ONE sister, I can’t imagine having five!
I also really appreciate you guys sharing some of this hard stuff. It’s raw and real, which is hard to come across in the world today. Keep sharing you guys are awesome!! God bless ❤❤you
I’m glad you’re not sharing who is struggling. Good for you! It’s hard for singleton siblings to not be compared, so I can only imagine when they’re the same age. You are great parents❤Just continue to encourage them to support one another, teaching them that everyone has areas they struggle in and we’re a team etc, and take all the help you can get from school (which I know you will!) 🙏🥰❤
Homework should be a rare thing not an every day thing. It’s too much pressure on kids and families. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are doing an amazing job.
I get it. I only have twins boys and struggle everyday. Lots of love to your whole family. You guys are doing great! Just know you have a whole support team behind you here also.
I struggled in school, especially with math. Even now at 41, i still struggle. I wish my teachers had of taken notice and pushed for me to get extra help and to talk to my parents about it. What you are doing, advocating for all your children,not just the one who i struggling, is amazing. And recognizing that everyone learns differently is a great thing. And never compare. I was compared to my older sisters by teachers and some family members, self esteem killer. Keep being thr amazing parents that you are!
Your girls are lovely articulate girls that you have every right to be very proud of. Thank you for sharing them with us. You will do everything you need to do to assist with any issues they struggle with.❤
My son struggled with dyslexia in school. Unfortunately we didn't know it was dyslexia because our school system didn't test for it. He was always lumped into the ADD category with his IEP. It wasn't until middle school and it was him researching and explaining to me that he had the symptoms of dyslexia. I have seen with my son, that people with dyslexia may struggle in areas of reading and writing, but they excel so much in other areas that others can't. He is now a successful diesel mechanic. Your girls will thrive in whatever they decide they want to do when they get older. I am glad you guys were able to catch this early on in her education.
The sooner you know, the sooner a child can get help. My Grandson was diagnosed Dyslexic in his later years of elementary school. He is now in high school and excelling! The help is there once the diagnosis is made…that is the hard part, getting answers. You both are great parents!
IEP’s are a wonderful tool for your child’s learning. My son from grade 6 through high school did a wonderful job with his learning and feeling confident in himself. He would read but not understand and that was everything he had to do, he got extra time on tests could ask questions, he would be able to go to guidance office to do tests, homework help in the guidance office. So proud of him and he is of himself graduating with a 84. You two are wonderful parents and keep doing what your doing.
Sorry to hear about the struggles! Been there. Use your resources, advocate for them. Give each other hugs and encouragement, you know your kids better than anyone. Ask for everything!
I am a senior in High School and I was diagnosed with severe dyslexia about 7 years ago, I was immediately placed a 504 plan for my struggle of comprehension and spelling. In Colorado a 504 plan is something that fallows you everywhere (school, work, college, etc). It is a set and stone of all kinds of different accommodation based off your needs. But the cool part about it is that by law teachers and higher up have to fallow it as it is state issued.
But as I have grown older I have learned the importance of advocating for my self for the needs I need to succeed to do my best in and out of school. It has helped me become more independent as I am going off to college knowing I won’t always have my parents on my side advocating for me.
I thing of having dyslexia as a cool advantage to the world because my mind doesn’t think in side the box, I see everything as a challenge and I just take it one step at a time.
And your writing and way of expressing yourself is as clear as can be ❤
I like that Danielle touched on the competitiveness of the girls and how it's important that they never tease or berate others for not being as quick to learn things, and especially not to brag about how much "smarter" they are than one or more of their other siblings, classmates or friends. While she didn't say it in those words, that's what I gleaned from it. So important to teach kids to lift each other up when they're having difficulties, and not tear them down. This will aid them in becoming more tolerant, helpful and kind adults.
You guys are such amazing parents! ❤I love how real you are, thanks for the vlog! Things will improve, my youngest child that had the school issues graduates this year, she still hates reading but managed to get through it somehow! We are proud of her!😊
I’ve been through the worries and anxieties and guilt of raising my three. All had IEP’s. I noticed how lucky my twins were to have each other it’s a gift they help each other along. It works out. My kids are adults now and I told myself I wish I didn’t worry so much. I love God and always leaned on him and I know he was working behind the scenes. I will pray for your family. Your right show up to the meetings and work a little bit everyday. You’re very blessed. You have resources and a family that will support you. ❤
This is why many schools are moving away from so much homework or homework in general. They should be able to learn and grow with what they need in the day that they are in school. Theres nothing wrong with some homework SOME times but my hope is more and more districts move away from sending so much homework home...especially at the elementary level
Agreed
AMEN! I taught high school history for 33 wonderful years, and I seldom gave homework! I can see having a few math problems to reinforce the day’s learning or a bit when they take a foreign language, but let them be kids and enjoy and get fresh air when they’re home! Sometimes teachers fail to realize that their class in only a small part of their students life. Homework in 3rd grade seems ludicrous to me. ❤️
Charter schools have the opposite philosophy, homework out the waazoo that results in late nights.
Respect you for guarding your children’s privacy. So many times you see bloggers who video a child having a meltdown or struggling if their special needs and post on their page.
I remember that we didn't get homework until 7th grade. We were told after elementary that Jr. high would be and adjustment, but we were older and could handle it better. I think that was so much better, we had a great elementary expeience without all the pressures.
Hazel’s hair is so thick and beautiful! They all are absolutely gorgeous young ladies!
As a person who does have a learning disability you guys are the their best advocate.
Sounds like you're learning what the situation is and you have a game plan to help them succeed! I'm positive things will start looking up for them. Best of luck to all of you for a successful school year!
Don’t let the schools and their tests dictate how your children are doing. Y’all are the best parents they’re going to grow up to be the best kids and bright futures. 💗💗💗💗💗💗
The montessori school built confidence because they learn at their own pace and in their own way and they help each other.
I was diagnosed with dyspraxia on a young age as I was already in speciale education, and I wouldn't be where I am today, without it. For me it felt like a relief to get more help and understanding. For once I was the best of the class! Danielle and Adam you are already doing and giving her all she needs. Love her and remaind her all the time that she is okay just as she's is. Make home her safe place that's okay to try again and ask for help. My parents did all that for me and it made a real difference for me. Make her feel equal to everyone to her sisters by loving her. It's okay if it's scary and difficult but you both are doing the best you can already. It's okay all this confusing is going to go away, you'll find tools to help you
I love how supportive you guys are being and that you respect your daughter’s privacy, i recommend maybe trying to watch some tv shows with dyslexic characters to both inform yourselves as parents and to show her that she’s not alone, shake it up is a good one because not only does the character cece have it but the actress does too, another good idea is just looking up people who have dyslexia and what they can accomplish to show both her and yourselves that just because you have a learning disability you can still live a happy and successful life.
Hey guys, I have a daughter in law who is a teacher and she has told me that 3rd grade is the hardest for children in her opinion. All the girls are different in some kind of way and that’s perfectly normal. I agree that when the kids have been at school for 8 hours they are worn out. They need special fun activities that they enjoy. My children are grown and if I can give you any little piece of advice it would be. First you and Adam are doing a great job. To even look at my grandchildren’s homework it’s unbelievable. It’s hard and they don’t learn things the way we did in school. When we were in school kindergarten is where you learned to write your name, your colors, etc. But now they are expected to know everything before even starting school. I’ve always had a good career and learned quickly how to do things but when my granddaughter showed me her 7th grade homework I was totally confused and couldn’t help her at all. I was so grateful that her mother is a teacher and knows this new way of learning. Remember to fight for your child to get the help and resources available to her. I will definitely keep you guys in my prayers and I know that you will do the best for your little ones that may have a struggle in one thing or another. By the grace of god you will get through this and she will come out stronger. God Bless! We love the Busby family!
I'm a 70 year old Grandma and appreciate your hearts for your girls❤ Use the resources available. It will boost their confidence knowing they CAN learn. It will just be in a different way at a different pace. 😊
You are amazing parents just for having this amount of concern and drive for your children’s learning differences. Getting an IEP is an amazing resource if needed! My sister had one and now she has a masters degree, her IEP accommodations followed her into college!
We hundred percent understand and respect you for protecting your child’s privacy.
Good on you, mom and dad.❤️❤️❤️
God bless you all! My son was diagnosed with Aspergers just weeks before he turned 18 years old. He did get his driver's license when he was 16. He only had help until he turned 18 and graduated high school, but he did it. I completely supported him and encouraged him as I am sure you are doing for your girls. Hang in there. God has you.
I have dyslexia I’ve gone to college and became a nurse, but I still have a hard time with the spelling but I try my best every day
Your spelling in this comment seems fine 😊
@@Kloetenhennefrom what I understand about dyslexia it’s more about an issue reading words correctly because your brain makes the words look weird and letters that look similar commonly get mistaken (d,p,q,g and j are commonly mixed up) My best friend in high school has dyslexia and she never had an issue with spelling (or reading) she just had to take a few extra minutes to double check sometimes. But also there is different levels/severity of dyslexia and my friend had therapy for it her whole life (we met at like 14 so she didn’t struggle with it a lot by the time I met her). Also they could just be using voice to text lmao.
@@kaiaswrld a former colleague has dislexia and he had issues with his spelling.. the same as my first boyfriend.
@@Kloetenhenne I guess it just differs case by case then, I’ve met a few dyslexic people and they can spell and read just like anybody else (but they all took therapy/classes for it as a kid)
Dear Busby's. Watching your beautiful daughters growing up has been a treat. My middle granddaughter was a 2 pound preemie. It wasnt until 7th grade that my daughter finally acknowledged my poor Reagan was diagnosed with some learning disabilities. She's now 18 in college, still struggling but trying hard
First I want to say you are doing an amazing job of raising beautiful girls! To share this side of life is harder for sure. Coming from someone who is neurodivergent with the struggles of dyslexia, ADHD, and autism. My parents did not ever tell me that I did have any disability and made it seem really embarrassing. Now I do not want to put that on the web for everyone. It would be good to share with the girls both sides the ones that do have the struggles and how you are all going to work together to help them. The other girls need to understand how to show compassion and learn how their other sisters learn differently. It's great that you are already learning and discovering this at a younger age and that they can get accommodations in school like having an IEP plan. I struggled through school my entire life yet I was able to see with some extra help I can still do things. Now I have 3 AS degrees and am closing in on my BS. I never thought It was possible but with some understanding and help and my own what I do have and learning how to advocate as well, it made it better. Your wonderful girls are so special and each in their own way. They will all do great things and they have a great family that is always there for them.!!!! This video may help others who are on the same road as you guys and hopefully the comments are encouraging to you all as you travel this road as well.
Hi, i'm a teen who was just diagnosed with dislexia. From what I am hearing you are doing absolutly amazing. the thing that they compare them to one another and say stuff that they don't fully understand what it means, try to actually talk to them. they probably understand more then you think. also dislexia, which i assume you already know, is just that they have to work twice as hard to get the same result which does impact the child(ren) confidence, so for that (those) kid(s) a thing that they are really good at will give them that confidence back.
also take every single resours you can get. it will help! i am not from USA so don't know fully what can be offered. and it will be okay! they will be okay!
I am a special education teacher and a special needs mama of multiples. You will get through this. This is the worst part, the initial conversations and assessment plan reviews. From here an individualized plan will help close the gaps and empower you all as parents to get the support that they need. The emotional part is just honestly painful and I have sat on both sides of the table but you can do this! His grace is sufficient!
Such a positive and comforting comment ❤
I truly believe you're going on the right direction. There's not an universal solution for raising kids, specially ones with learning disabilities, and by recognizing that fact you're on the right track to support them as each one of them needs. And as you said-learning is important but so is playing, resting and having fun! Being autistic I feel like our society focus more on the differences as something to be corrected instead of something to be embraced. They'll thrive with their dyslexia, not “despite” it. I'm 100% sure you'll figure thing out for all of them!
I totally feel you on this subject. I only have one child and I struggled with helping him with homework when he was in elementary school. You sound like you are on top of it and doing your best. I will say, that once my child got to high school, it did get better. Hang in there.
Dear DiDi & Adam, Your experience with these little BEAUTIFUL little ladies is very unique. Thanks that you explained it to us.
My son struggled immensely in elementary school, and his school evaluated him for an IEP plan. If you have not been told about it, please look into it. It's technically a Individualized Education Program. It is special education. My son thrived after getting it. He graduated in the top 10 in his high school and graduated with a 4.2 GPA and is now at a major university studying electrical engineering. All kids learn differently. I highly recommend an IEP plan to any parent of a child struggling with school.
In Texas they call IEPs “ARD” - two of the girls have ARDs so they have been evaluated and are receiving special education.
You’re doing amazing! Children definitely need more than just school. Hobbies and finding their strengths will set them up with their lives ahead and develop their own individual personalities
Oh, Daniel & Adam...you''re getting the proper resources to help the girls & plus you're awesome parents!!
Much love & smiles to you all!!XO