Emma R. Shaffer “there is nothing more freeing than being loved for who you are and nothing more painful than being loved for who you’re not, but are pretending to be..” - Neil Pasricha, the happiness equation
THE VIDEO I NEVER KNEW I NEEDED. When Demi said she looks in the mirror and says "You're healthy and I accept you" I felt THAT. My skin crawled. SO Powerful
The best statement ever!! I love that those words came out of her mouth. And sticking up for people who don't look like society's unrealistic standards of beauty.
I really appreciate Ashley’s interviewing skills. She gives space for the other person to fully express themselves, doesn’t interrupt, she really listens and I feel like the whole interview flows so naturally. It feels like a conversation not an interview. And I’m here for it! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I love how Halsey, Demi and Selena have just gotten to the point where they really know who they are and are just themselves and answer things honestly
@@satsandUK I mean, we don't actually know what's going on, she hasn't been taking care of herself though, her friend called her out for her drinking after her surgery as well, it's a shame. Demi is the only one I like out of all three, I'm not a fan of Sel's music or Ashley's. I only dislike Ashley as a person, though
I love how Demi lights up when she talks about God and her religion. She seems genuinely excited and happy in those moments. She’s such a role model. That is what life and having a relationship with God is about. Not being perfect and not seeing ourselves as beautiful or important. But taking it day by day and learning that God loves is no matter what we go through. I just love her honesty.
I truly adore her, even more after watching this. She brought tears to my eyes because her life and her words have touched me so much. She’s so relatable, inspiring, and strong. ❤️
It’s really hard, isn’t it, when someone is sooo beautiful (inside & out of course, but it’s outside that we all obsess over unfortunately) but they truly don’t see it to the point where they hate themselves. I’m having this struggle with my daughter at the moment. It’s difficult to watch someone you love so much & see so much potential in hate themself to the point of tears.
MrsBungle78 This is how I was as a younger girl/woman. Everybody saw a Southern California Barbie doll and I just wanted to know I was good enough and that I was doing enough to be lovable. You have such power to hold a space for your daughter. Hold your ground and keep pouring words of love and truth over her in only the way you can as her mother. She will eventually see herself through your eyes.
Hence the issues that she struggles with daily. As do many people that struggle with mental health. They do not see what others do and yet, we ourselves, do the same. A Labyrinth of self perception or lack there of.
"I'm tired of running myself into the ground with workouts and extreme dieting which I thought for the past two years was me getting over an eating disorder but it was actually falling into it." THIS. IS. THE. TRUEST. STATEMENT. EVER!
@@Tmcsinger91 Is it though? I mean, she was recovering from an eating disorder with extreme diets and exercise...? That's the reverse of what most recovery plans for EDs look like. And when she explains how she talks to herself in the mirror around 20:00 she uses the word "you" rather than "I" (eg. "You are healthy" vs. "I am healthy") which is crucial in recovery because when you're in it...your body is kind of an "other" vs. when you're a healthy person or a recovering person your body is being put back as a "me." Don't get me wrong, I'm rooting for her and anyone else that is struggling with anything, but searching for self in Israel and having feelings about being better after being there...it's not how your find yourself - everyone who lives or visits there has those feelings. She seems to be distracting herself rather than focusing on herself. She puts her power into speaking out for others or to experiences rather than sitting with herself in her home comfort zone. You find yourself when you are at home home, not when you are seeking a home.
@Anne Day As someone with a ton of "mild" forms of various issues (depression, body image issues, low self esteem, etc.) who hasn't sought out professional help (yet...), I can definitely see that while she's aware of her issues and are acknowledging them (important first steps), she's definitely a long, long, long way from recovery. As much as I love her music and persona, she needs to step away from this industry (for more than just a year or so, maybe even forever) and just figure herself out. I'm several years older than her and only after losing an important job last year (due to company restructuring but it left me devastated and questioning my self worth like I've never done before). I'm only now finally figuring out the shit I need to do to improve my mental well being. And I finally realized all the problems I've encountered in my adult life are a result of my many unresolved "mild" issues. I've definitely grown and improved in certain areas, which took years of self reflection and self work to figure out, but I'll bet I could've gotten to this point a lot sooner if I just weren't in denial about it all and sought out professional help. But, you know what? There's a time and place for everything and hopefully she'll be ready to do the internal work that needs to be done to be truly happy and healthy.
Social media is the WORST for self esteem. Don't spend any more than 20 minutes on it!!! Also I am fit, not "overweight" by any definition yet my thighs are all cellulite. Social media is not reality. Keep going Demi!!!
Same! I've never been fat and I've been quite athletic my whole life, yet I still have a lot of cellulite regardless. It's normal and it has nothing to do with being fat, out of shape or unhealthy.
it’s actually really hard to realize when we watched her throw herself into jiu jitsu and workouts and her diets were actually her just diving into another addiction and going too hard to get away from something else, it hurts my heart that while we cheered her on bc we were just proud she moved on from her demons when she was actually still losing control of herself and her emotions.
Emily Cress yeah and ppl who themselves struggled with addiction or eating disorders looked at her with worrying eyes hoping she would realize that she s falling into something else again. or atleast i thought like that for the last few years i was very scared for her
I think until she confronts the deep pain in her soul, she will continue to be addicted to something the rest of her life (whatever that next addiction is). It's sad, but I think her tough childhood is going to stick with her the rest of her life; she's always going to have to battle to find peace and contentment. You can tell she always feels so lost and desperate to be happy. I hope she eventually finds peace, in her body and mind.
I guess throwing yourself into fitness and health is a better addiction than drugs tho currently going thru it. Sometimes you need something else to cling to
@@coquettebunniex obviously, it is. but its really unhealthy to be constantly (if not 24/7) thinking about working out. workout purpose is be in a better shape, more defined body and get slimmer. so basically it’s the same as when she throwed up and starve herself :( i am happy that she realized the issue and that now she is doing something about it.
I love when Demi tells her stories, it's so interesting when she doesn't get interrupted and can speak freely. Really love this conversation. Ashley is a great one.
When they both bonded over not wearing jeans I smiled so much. Legit all I can wear are leggings because of my weight fluctuations. I never fit in the jeans I own because they are always too big or too small. Love this!
I go between a size 2-4 so I have exactly 4 pairs of jeans, 2 in each size then tons of sweatpants and leggings 🤣🤣 I hateeee jeans and then my weight constantly going up and down jeans are just an extra annoyance!
I never understand the hype about leggings but this makes me appreciate they exist for those you feel more beautiful in them 🥰 thanks for sharing your perspective I can comprehend others better.
When she talked about not wearing jeans... so many people question me and ask me why I won't wear jeans. So this made me feel less crazy and shitty about it.
I haven’t worn jeans in like over a year lol I literally wear leggings everyday. I hate how jeans feel, I would constantly think about how uncomfortable I am all day
"I feel sexy when I'm showing my strenghts, when I'm showing intelligence, whem I'm able to sit across from someone at dinner and hold a great conversation with them and they can see you for the person that you are." Demi Loooooooove that!!
When she said she looks in the mirror and says “you’re healthy and I accept you,” I bawled my eyes out... I’m 31 years old and I needed to hear that. Thank you Demi for being such a strong, wonderful woman that you are. Girls and women of every age look up to you for your strength and beauty in who you are as a person. You are a wonderful woman. You are a beautiful person inside and out. ❤️
@A Person You missed the whole point. She's "Mentally" healthy. Better to be 180 lbs. and love everything about your life than be 120lbs. and want to kill yourself everyday.
My daughter has been a back up singer for Demi a few times, and she’s just as genuine in person. I wish her continued success in her career and especially her personal life.
vanessvacation I’m looking for professional background jobs. Do you know a company I can contact or how to find auditions for that? My agency doesn’t find me singing jobs
"I love blocking people I know. I love blocking people I don't know. It's just so great." I think this is the most relatable thing I’ve ever heard! 🤣🙋🏻♀️
First off Demi is absolutely amazing, obviously. But mostly I want to say HOLY SHIT Ashley is the BEST interviewer I have ever seen. Every question was extremely deliberate with so much thought and reasoning behind it. And I'm sure she spent so long preparing for the interview and had lists of questions but it felt easy, natural, and on the fly. She was present in the conversation and helped it flow but the attention was never on her. Her tone was polite and professional but still felt genuine and caring. So beautiful, you deserve all the props. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I loved it when Demi said Kelly Clarkson was her inspiration and how she admired her. Kelly is so true to herself and speaks her mind and hasn’t let anyone change her. I would love to see Kelly and Demi do a song together. They could do so much greatness. Climb that ladder Demi and don’t look down. I have watched the Grammy performance over and over. I never heard anything like it or felt so much compassion for someone
It's always amazed me so much that Demi looks at herself and doesn't see how beautiful she is. It really shows that anyone can have insecurities even if we don't personally see them.
@@1232-e7b my sister is beautiful, but my older sister would always call her ugly She is 22 and still single because deep down in her subconscious she really believed my sisters words to be true... I think low self esteem stems from childhood in most ppl 👀 Mostly girls tho, I was always bullied 😂 but it didnt really seem to faze me or my brother as much idk cant speak for all ppl
"You can't power through life. You just can't. You have to feel things, you have to process things, you have to grieve, and you have to learn and set boundaries." - Demi Lovato Yes girl so proud of you and the long way you've come.
I like to tell myself “you’re full not fat” when I get overwhelmed after eating then I pass a mirror of feel my stomach. Affirmations that are blunt are amazing I love “You’re healthy and I accept you”
Yesss! I hated myself for so many years and faked my confidence and I recently got to this point of realising no one will love me more than I love myself , because you gotta look out for you
If youre actually fat and unhealthy.. Get help. If youre not actually fat, then whatevsr who cares. Its only when it becomes a risk to your health that u should be converned. Otherwise youre obviously insecure about your body and you should just fix it then lying to yourself about acceptance to your body everytime u look in the mirror.
I love that curvy women are coming out and standing up and saying "hey! We are beautiful to!" Because we are everyone is beautiful and im glad im not the only one who feels like this!! These are beautiful women standing up for whats right! Were not all made to be a size 2. But if you are a size 2 its okay to! Theres room for us all!
I believe it’s an unhealthy mix of both. U can’t blame one gender. I also choose to think there are many women who choose to uplift other women and men who treat women the way they should. I think our world is on its way.
@@felipecarmo2662 Lmao this is a little defensive.. it's worth highlighting the groups involved so people start to think about how they behave towards others, man or woman - don't think Bobbie was making a political statement.
This makes me crazy!! You don't know how many women have put me down in the worst ways. I've always tried to lift everyone up, but it doesn't rub off on everyone.
It's crazy how I never was interested in her until this point. She always had a beautiful voice, but I think her being raw and unfiltered about everything makes her more relatable. And to see how much more you can be, when your true to yourself. People need this. She needed this.. Its healing.
I love what she was saying, it's not about body positivity it's about body acceptance. Acceptance is so important, realistic, and it is healthy. We change all the time, your weight will fluctuate, you will gain scars and marks all the time and we need to be able to accept our body in all its forms. This is the first video I've seen from Ashley Graham and I really enjoyed it, I loved how supportive the two are of each other.
This woman is so incredible and unique, she has such an adorable face and everything, how could she be bullied or how can she compare herself to anyone. I'm in my bottom vocal range in contrast to her, I'm dreaming off to become as talented as her
Tamils Sparrow, sorry 😐, I wasn’t talking about you. Your comment was great 😁. I saw another ugly comment here, but I don’t see it now, hopefully they took it down.
I love Demi... and the fact that she basically said the reason why her recent relationship didn’t work out makes me feel so proud of her!!!! BOUNDARIESSSSS
@bc lesaba 100% agree and also it's obvious, since Mike was pushing it with what he was saying to paparazzi, he was talking about their private conversations, while she was on a hiatus, like man wtf
wow. this is the second time i have watched Demi speaking for over 40 minutes straight (the first time was the stay strong documentary), and everything that she says is so authentic. i love how open she is about her body positivity, and that she is no longer ashamed of herself. so beautiful :) good job ashley i really enjoy this show
Demi doesn’t have to speak up about her struggles and how she overcame them...but she does. Demi thank you, you are inspiring me and so many people. We love you so much
I LOVE how Demi is talking about her faith! Literally gave me chills! I’ve never seen a person with her status that is genuinely her and has the courage to say the name of the Lord!
Yeah I think the people around her were enabling her even if their intentions were good. I’m so glad she’s better now though, it’s heart warming to see
I think she's difficult to work with and immature. I don't mean that as an insult because I know she has mental health issues. But I imagine her team has to dance around her: will she be in a good mood? Will she snap? Will she stick to the schedule? Like they don't know what to expect working with her because she varies so much day to day and is incosistent. I can't imagine having to work with a "boss" like her. It must be exhausting and hard for everyone, including her. I hope she eventually finds the peace she's looking for.
Cbop77 actually she’s doing amazing now! She’s engaged! She has a good support system now. I’ve never heard anything about her being hard to work with, though I’ve never looked into the topic. It’s nice seeing all views of something even our views are different. I read your comment without hearing any nastiness and that’s something you don’t see often anymore
He’s very real girl!! I promise He is and He loves you so much!!!! He’s giving you signs(like those chills), He’s trying to tell you.. just listen ☺️🙏🏼
I love when she accepts compliments and says "thank you" ...I find myself never accepting them and never saying thank you. She is such an icon. I love her
Stacey Smith hey love. I’m a bit younger than you but when I was 8 years old I started dealing w anorexia and now I’m 22, completely over it. Now I’m WANTING to gain weight and have a very great relationship with food. I promise you it gets better :) one step at a time
You got this. And look into EFT. Its a therapy that can massively help with that follow gala darling on insta. She use to have an eating disorder and healed herself COMPLETELY with EFT (tapping). I believe in you 😘😘
Its so nice to hear demis laugh.. to know that shes alive.. i took this Interview just to apreciate you both as powerful women that you are.. shes sooo beautiful, im crying..
I wanna talk about what demi said - " You're healthy and I accept you". 2020 has been terrible for me in terms of health, both mental and physical I've had to fight w depression and corona virus. Now that I'm better, I've started being happy without any materialistic reason of being happy. I'm happy BECAUSE I'm healthy. That's it. And that's more than enough. That's why I love this line because it puts in words exactly what I've been feeling.
Until your mind and your body are on the same page, it will always be like that. It's part of growing up...for a long time we want to be everything we aren't which is what drives us to do things but eventually, with growing, our mind and our body meet and we finally recognize ourselves and see ourselves in others rather than seeing the differences between ourselves and others. I know this sounds super weird but it literally just one day happens in your late 20s...I didn't even realize it until I was at an airport last month and saw how many people had the same physical "flaws" I had been killing myself over for years and I recognized that it turns out my ankles are normal, my knees are normal. 60% of the women I saw had similar ankles and knees. Things I've been self-conscious about for years.
Beck Cetera well said so true I’ve overcome my eating disorder and addiction and stuff like that and have good self worth and self love when it comes to myself and self care I think there comes a point in your late 20s where you are finally tired of pleasing people and worrying about what they think
She has a bright light in her eyes. Her energy is so positive here. You can tell she’s taken in so much from therapy and is genuinely healing. So proud
There is a huge difference between being fat and being unhealthy...being unhealthy is not good and you can suggest/help a person to get out from that situation via losing/gaining weight and being happier too. You can be fat/thin and be healthy.. because it's your body, and it's you, and there's no reason to fight against who you are, so eat what you need and feel, but stay healthy. Thee perfect body is not a thin body, nor a fat body, nor a curve body... it's an health body. Period.
The way Demi says not knowing how much they weigh was so powerful and has helped me to not weigh myself for months and I couldn’t tell you either! I went from weighing myself several times a day and constantly rechecking what I’ve eaten that day/week, to now I couldn’t tell you how much I might weigh and I eat what I want when I’m hungry. I love these people, such good role models🙃
this made me look at demi in a completely different light. i cant wait to see where this year takes her. so proud of her and who shes growing into. what an inspiration on so many levels !!!!!!
I sincerely hope that she means all this. It's so hard to change those habits of self loathing to self love or acceptance. She is such a talented singer, actress and activist. She touches so many people through her talents in a positive way. I really want her to be okay from now on. Losing her would be such a tragedy.
Pretty sure it's a life long battle and she's doing the internal/self work to get to a better place. I don't think she's 100% there. Nobody gets to that point that quickly with self love and acceptance (speaking from my own experience only). But, she's aware of herself and that's a big part of the change. And she's acknowledging the things that were problematic before. Wishing her all the best.
I watched the interview demi Lovato had with Dr. Phill in 2018 and one of the things she said in that video was that she encouraged her self through that idea of fake it till you make it, feeling like she would achieve that wellness she was faking. And in this video she made us understand that should not be the case. That has showed me how far she has come and much her mindset has changed for good.
The “Are You Ready” story is super relatable for me. Just like Ashley said I am a person who prays and I believe in signs and have always tried to look out for them. And trust me there is a difference between coincidence and a sign that your looking for. But yeah I love that she shared that story.
Her whole life and body journey has helped so many of us accept our bigger bodies without twisting and turning ourselves into something we are not. She has inspired us all to become the best versions of ourelves
She truly is a Pretty Big Deal! To see Demi become so happy and accepting of herself gives me such a positive feeling. I don't tend to become emotionally attached to celebrities but I've always had a soft spot for Demi Lovato. She's such a relate-able soul for me. Great interview.
Honestly yes she’s honestly so amazing and talented and beautiful and so just down to earth and real and sooooo funny omg I’m here at like 1:30 am crying😂 but really apart from family obviously, she is my favorite human to have ever walked this Earth
“I’d rather be rejected for being authentic, than loved for something I’m not.” - Demi Lovato, 2020
Emma R. Shaffer QUOTE OF THE YEAR
Emma R. Shaffer “there is nothing more freeing than being loved for who you are and nothing more painful than being loved for who you’re not, but are pretending to be..” - Neil Pasricha, the happiness equation
Emma R. Shaffer jesus could make her authentic
Wow, that's really deep. I'm trying to live by this
@tha kyd thanks! was gonna google this myself as I have long heard this before. but apparently kids need to hear it time and time again.
“I’m not willing to destroy my mental health to look a certain way anymore” *- Demi 2020*
demi 2019*
She is grown so much during this past year. I hope she is going to write a book about it. These past 45 minutes were golden!
That's what happened to me too
@@hanabanana8028 hey what happened to demi
Hello lovatic.kiss baby.Is me Gringo.kk.kiss for Demi Lovato .ED.
THE VIDEO I NEVER KNEW I NEEDED. When Demi said she looks in the mirror and says "You're healthy and I accept you" I felt THAT. My skin crawled. SO Powerful
"youre healthy and I accept you" That right there, was my favorite quote from this interview.
I felt an overwhelming vibration...WOW
“I’m not willing to destroy my mental health to look a certain way” THIS 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
The best statement ever!! I love that those words came out of her mouth. And sticking up for people who don't look like society's unrealistic standards of beauty.
Yesss
Loved that line
Lauren C 🙌🙌🙌
@Larry Enticer what's wrong witchu?
I really appreciate Ashley’s interviewing skills. She gives space for the other person to fully express themselves, doesn’t interrupt, she really listens and I feel like the whole interview flows so naturally. It feels like a conversation not an interview. And I’m here for it! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Yes!!!!
Yesss I loved this was so organic and natural! This wasn’t an interview This was 2 powerful women having a conversation! Loved it and your comment 💜
These two women are INCREDIBLE.
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I love how Halsey, Demi and Selena have just gotten to the point where they really know who they are and are just themselves and answer things honestly
YES
Demi and Halsey are actually real but thatsnoneofmybusiness ☕️
just read all about it at exposingsmg.com
Me too : )
@@satsandUK I mean, we don't actually know what's going on, she hasn't been taking care of herself though, her friend called her out for her drinking after her surgery as well, it's a shame. Demi is the only one I like out of all three, I'm not a fan of Sel's music or Ashley's. I only dislike Ashley as a person, though
"I feel sexy when I'm showing my strength, showing intelligence..." YES.
M BI shut up
She owns up to her weaknesses and struggles. That’s real strength.
@@nc7182 Amen!!!
@@mbi9005 don't talk like that. as if you actually know her
This got me.
demi's laugh is such a beautiful noise
shineefive and Ashley I love both of their laughs they make me crack up. Sooo beautiful
shineefive yesssss!!!!
Larry Enticer then why are you watching
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I love how Demi lights up when she talks about God and her religion. She seems genuinely excited and happy in those moments. She’s such a role model. That is what life and having a relationship with God is about. Not being perfect and not seeing ourselves as beautiful or important. But taking it day by day and learning that God loves is no matter what we go through. I just love her honesty.
@Who Dat Stop putting people down. Delete this unnecessary comment.
Who Dat I’ll pray for you instead. May Jesus deliver your troubled soul. Amen.
❤️❤️❤️
Who Dat Do you think Demi would want a Lovatic to put others down to lift her up?
@ImaNewOrleansSaintsFan you may be saved, doesn't mean your delievered
Seeing her like this makes me so happy. She is an inspiration to everyone and so incredibly strong. We love this woman.
truly we lovee this women
Just because she's laughing and smiling doesn't mean she's happy 🤦🏻♀️ She looked "happy" just before she relapsed last time.
I truly adore her, even more after watching this. She brought tears to my eyes because her life and her words have touched me so much. She’s so relatable, inspiring, and strong. ❤️
@@samiatheresa don't do drugs
Jahzeal JR yeah, I definitely don’t.. not sure what you’re trying to say here lol
Demi talks about herself as if she has no idea how extremely gorgeous she looks and that bothers me. I wish Demi could see what we see
It’s really hard, isn’t it, when someone is sooo beautiful (inside & out of course, but it’s outside that we all obsess over unfortunately) but they truly don’t see it to the point where they hate themselves. I’m having this struggle with my daughter at the moment. It’s difficult to watch someone you love so much & see so much potential in hate themself to the point of tears.
MrsBungle78 This is how I was as a younger girl/woman. Everybody saw a Southern California Barbie doll and I just wanted to know I was good enough and that I was doing enough to be lovable. You have such power to hold a space for your daughter. Hold your ground and keep pouring words of love and truth over her in only the way you can as her mother. She will eventually see herself through your eyes.
Hence the issues that she struggles with daily. As do many people that struggle with mental health. They do not see what others do and yet, we ourselves, do the same. A Labyrinth of self perception or lack there of.
one million percent
What a weak Male
I love the fact that this is more like a conversation than an interview
Which makes it better 👍
Demi Lovato: talking about singers coming together and camping.
My brain: A Camp Rock, if you will.
Brittan Candela 😂 love this comment
Brittan Candela amazing 😂😂
Brittan Candela BEST comment 🤣🤣🤣
Or maybe fat camp? Just saying...
I don't keep up with what's going on with celebrities but damn! What happened to her?
@@uabir8338 fuck you, and fuck you forever.
I honestly just wanna be Demi’s friend.
U read my mind.
Me too af!
Me too😭😭😭😭
IKR I WOULD LOVE 2 BE HER FRIEND. SHE'S AN AMAZING BEAUTIFUL PERSON AND YOUNG WOMAN #STAY STRONG
Me too😭
Huge respect for Demi, everything she says is a fact.
"I'm tired of running myself into the ground with workouts and extreme dieting which I thought for the past two years was me getting over an eating disorder but it was actually falling into it." THIS. IS. THE. TRUEST. STATEMENT. EVER!
Megan Doris yes I can relate to that too
@@Tmcsinger91 Is it though? I mean, she was recovering from an eating disorder with extreme diets and exercise...? That's the reverse of what most recovery plans for EDs look like. And when she explains how she talks to herself in the mirror around 20:00 she uses the word "you" rather than "I" (eg. "You are healthy" vs. "I am healthy") which is crucial in recovery because when you're in it...your body is kind of an "other" vs. when you're a healthy person or a recovering person your body is being put back as a "me."
Don't get me wrong, I'm rooting for her and anyone else that is struggling with anything, but searching for self in Israel and having feelings about being better after being there...it's not how your find yourself - everyone who lives or visits there has those feelings. She seems to be distracting herself rather than focusing on herself. She puts her power into speaking out for others or to experiences rather than sitting with herself in her home comfort zone. You find yourself when you are at home home, not when you are seeking a home.
Beck Cetera yes that’s true that’s a fair point I see what you’re trying to say so no worries 😉
@Anne Day As someone with a ton of "mild" forms of various issues (depression, body image issues, low self esteem, etc.) who hasn't sought out professional help (yet...), I can definitely see that while she's aware of her issues and are acknowledging them (important first steps), she's definitely a long, long, long way from recovery. As much as I love her music and persona, she needs to step away from this industry (for more than just a year or so, maybe even forever) and just figure herself out. I'm several years older than her and only after losing an important job last year (due to company restructuring but it left me devastated and questioning my self worth like I've never done before). I'm only now finally figuring out the shit I need to do to improve my mental well being. And I finally realized all the problems I've encountered in my adult life are a result of my many unresolved "mild" issues. I've definitely grown and improved in certain areas, which took years of self reflection and self work to figure out, but I'll bet I could've gotten to this point a lot sooner if I just weren't in denial about it all and sought out professional help. But, you know what? There's a time and place for everything and hopefully she'll be ready to do the internal work that needs to be done to be truly happy and healthy.
Social media is the WORST for self esteem. Don't spend any more than 20 minutes on it!!! Also I am fit, not "overweight" by any definition yet my thighs are all cellulite. Social media is not reality. Keep going Demi!!!
aimeechas yes exactly!! Cellulite is normal and I’ve learned to love my dimples lol
no more than 20 minutes at a time I like that
Lana Yessss I feel it. I only spend a very limited time on it each day.
Same! I've never been fat and I've been quite athletic my whole life, yet I still have a lot of cellulite regardless. It's normal and it has nothing to do with being fat, out of shape or unhealthy.
@lexi shaw way to go.
it’s actually really hard to realize when we watched her throw herself into jiu jitsu and workouts and her diets were actually her just diving into another addiction and going too hard to get away from something else, it hurts my heart that while we cheered her on bc we were just proud she moved on from her demons when she was actually still losing control of herself and her emotions.
Emily Cress yeah and ppl who themselves struggled with addiction or eating disorders looked at her with worrying eyes hoping she would realize that she s falling into something else again. or atleast i thought like that for the last few years i was very scared for her
Personal growth isn't always easy.
I think until she confronts the deep pain in her soul, she will continue to be addicted to something the rest of her life (whatever that next addiction is). It's sad, but I think her tough childhood is going to stick with her the rest of her life; she's always going to have to battle to find peace and contentment. You can tell she always feels so lost and desperate to be happy. I hope she eventually finds peace, in her body and mind.
I guess throwing yourself into fitness and health is a better addiction than drugs tho currently going thru it. Sometimes you need something else to cling to
@@coquettebunniex obviously, it is. but its really unhealthy to be constantly (if not 24/7) thinking about working out. workout purpose is be in a better shape, more defined body and get slimmer. so basically it’s the same as when she throwed up and starve herself :( i am happy that she realized the issue and that now she is doing something about it.
I don't want to stan someone who acts like she's perfect. I want to stan someone who's honest about her imperfections and that's Demi.
@Epic Quintessence like a hardcore fan
@Epic Quintessence to support. to be a huge fan.
I love when Demi tells her stories, it's so interesting when she doesn't get interrupted and can speak freely. Really love this conversation. Ashley is a great one.
This was the heavily edited version.
When they both bonded over not wearing jeans I smiled so much. Legit all I can wear are leggings because of my weight fluctuations. I never fit in the jeans I own because they are always too big or too small. Love this!
Me too!! greetings from greece btw
I go between a size 2-4 so I have exactly 4 pairs of jeans, 2 in each size then tons of sweatpants and leggings 🤣🤣 I hateeee jeans and then my weight constantly going up and down jeans are just an extra annoyance!
I never understand the hype about leggings but this makes me appreciate they exist for those you feel more beautiful in them 🥰 thanks for sharing your perspective I can comprehend others better.
@@jessicawilson4655 Agreed 💯
When she talked about not wearing jeans... so many people question me and ask me why I won't wear jeans. So this made me feel less crazy and shitty about it.
I haven't owned or worn jeans since 2012!!! fuck that noise.
sameeeee
I haven’t worn jeans in like over a year lol I literally wear leggings everyday. I hate how jeans feel, I would constantly think about how uncomfortable I am all day
I had to wear skirts only till my 20th birthday
Janna3101 why ??
"I feel sexy when I'm showing my strenghts, when I'm showing intelligence, whem I'm able to sit across from someone at dinner and hold a great conversation with them and they can see you for the person that you are." Demi
Loooooooove that!!
I love their chemistry. They can speak openly to each other without judgement. ❤️
When she said she looks in the mirror and says “you’re healthy and I accept you,” I bawled my eyes out... I’m 31 years old and I needed to hear that. Thank you Demi for being such a strong, wonderful woman that you are. Girls and women of every age look up to you for your strength and beauty in who you are as a person. You are a wonderful woman. You are a beautiful person inside and out. ❤️
I'll make you feel wanted, for five minutes.
@Eric Ryan Boy bye, captain save a...
Lol
@A Person You missed the whole point. She's "Mentally" healthy. Better to be 180 lbs. and love everything about your life than be 120lbs. and want to kill yourself everyday.
Mike Johnson I think she’s hotter now too.. not all women are crazy!
Demi saying how God spoke to her got me crying!
girl yes!! I was grinning from ear to ear, that was truly amazing, God is good!
Same! I just passed that part and I have tears streaming down my face.
me too☺☺ im so happy for our sister. and you guys too 😊
The Lord works in mysterious ways 🖤
What time
"Our power is taken away when we are distracted by what we look like". I felt that. Such a great well articulated interview.
Demi’s laugh is my favorite thing. So pure. So much life in that laugh.
My daughter has been a back up singer for Demi a few times, and she’s just as genuine in person. I wish her continued success in her career and especially her personal life.
vanessvacation I’m looking for professional background jobs. Do you know a company I can contact or how to find auditions for that? My agency doesn’t find me singing jobs
"I love blocking people I know. I love blocking people I don't know. It's just so great." I think this is the most relatable thing I’ve ever heard! 🤣🙋🏻♀️
I agree.
"I wish people would be more gentle with themselves." 🥺✊🏾
gorda depresiva
Jaslyn Aders it's tough
what time did she say it
she said it at 22:56
Bitch why are you using a black hand emoji when you’re not even black. Stop it.
"youre healthy and I accept you" That right there, was my favorite quote from this interview.
You see how God spoke a prophetic word. That’s why she’s still here. That touched me. I really love her .
She’s the cutest person in this world she deserves the whole universe ❤️
How she feels about Kelly Clarkson is how I feel about HER.
EJ RIGHT!!
Absolutely I feel the same about both of them
Yesssssss ❤❤❤
Me too! Same way here ❤❤🙌
SAME it's how I feel about both of them
“Are you ready?” I got chills & cried because I’ve ignored my signs.. 💯 I’ll listen to the next one ✨
I hope you’re okay now, wish you all of the best 🤗
i'm so happy this happened! two very inspiring women talking for 45 minutes. i'm down.
First off Demi is absolutely amazing, obviously.
But mostly I want to say HOLY SHIT Ashley is the BEST interviewer I have ever seen. Every question was extremely deliberate with so much thought and reasoning behind it. And I'm sure she spent so long preparing for the interview and had lists of questions but it felt easy, natural, and on the fly. She was present in the conversation and helped it flow but the attention was never on her. Her tone was polite and professional but still felt genuine and caring. So beautiful, you deserve all the props. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Demi: *I’m not going to elaborate*
Also Demi: *elaborates on every question*
I love her 🤣😍❤️
I loved it when Demi said Kelly Clarkson was her inspiration and how she admired her. Kelly is so true to herself and speaks her mind and hasn’t let anyone change her. I would love to see Kelly and Demi do a song together. They could do so much greatness. Climb that ladder Demi and don’t look down. I have watched the Grammy performance over and over. I never heard anything like it or felt so much compassion for someone
It's always amazed me so much that Demi looks at herself and doesn't see how beautiful she is. It really shows that anyone can have insecurities even if we don't personally see them.
Totally. It's people who are physically beautiful but think otherwise that don't actually realise how pretty or handsome they are in society.
Adbella R
There’s pretty and handsome people that do recognize they are attractive
@@1232-e7b my sister is beautiful, but my older sister would always call her ugly
She is 22 and still single because deep down in her subconscious she really believed my sisters words to be true...
I think low self esteem stems from childhood in most ppl 👀
Mostly girls tho, I was always bullied 😂 but it didnt really seem to faze me or my brother as much idk cant speak for all ppl
I say that all the time. She is so beautiful
"You can't power through life. You just can't. You have to feel things, you have to process things, you have to grieve, and you have to learn and set boundaries." - Demi Lovato
Yes girl so proud of you and the long way you've come.
what time she did say?
21:50
So true. I "sucked it up, & played it out..." until I physically & mentally tore myself to shreds. SUCH an important message
I like to tell myself “you’re full not fat” when I get overwhelmed after eating then I pass a mirror of feel my stomach. Affirmations that are blunt are amazing I love “You’re healthy and I accept you”
Tati Dee also, fat is not a bad word 💙
I like better use I am than You are, I feel it's more powerful to me
Yesss! I hated myself for so many years and faked my confidence and I recently got to this point of realising no one will love me more than I love myself , because you gotta look out for you
If youre actually fat and unhealthy.. Get help. If youre not actually fat, then whatevsr who cares. Its only when it becomes a risk to your health that u should be converned. Otherwise youre obviously insecure about your body and you should just fix it then lying to yourself about acceptance to your body everytime u look in the mirror.
I feel the same way about my weight! And on top of that, I'm 21 years old and I still have face acne so I'm insecure about that as well. 😭
I love that curvy women are coming out and standing up and saying "hey! We are beautiful to!" Because we are everyone is beautiful and im glad im not the only one who feels like this!! These are beautiful women standing up for whats right! Were not all made to be a size 2. But if you are a size 2 its okay to! Theres room for us all!
I’m late but when she told the story about her faith being renewed made me tear up.. the whole segment was refreshing to hear 🥺
The sad truth is, that most of the times it's actually not the men, but women bodyshaming other women
BobbieBrownie So true.
I believe it’s an unhealthy mix of both. U can’t blame one gender. I also choose to think there are many women who choose to uplift other women and men who treat women the way they should. I think our world is on its way.
When has it became a competition? Who the F** cares?! -.-
@@felipecarmo2662 Lmao this is a little defensive.. it's worth highlighting the groups involved so people start to think about how they behave towards others, man or woman - don't think Bobbie was making a political statement.
This makes me crazy!! You don't know how many women have put me down in the worst ways. I've always tried to lift everyone up, but it doesn't rub off on everyone.
Demi's vulnerability is saving lives.
This 👏
She really is she’s saved mine I’m in recovery and she’s inspiring to me I love her ❤️
This is such a beautiful comment. Glad i came across it. Hope she sees this.
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Constance 💯! If more people were like Demi this world would be a better place!
It's crazy how I never was interested in her until this point. She always had a beautiful voice, but I think her being raw and unfiltered about everything makes her more relatable. And to see how much more you can be, when your true to yourself. People need this. She needed this.. Its healing.
I love what she was saying, it's not about body positivity it's about body acceptance. Acceptance is so important, realistic, and it is healthy. We change all the time, your weight will fluctuate, you will gain scars and marks all the time and we need to be able to accept our body in all its forms.
This is the first video I've seen from Ashley Graham and I really enjoyed it, I loved how supportive the two are of each other.
Hannah so true
♥️♥️♥️
This woman is so incredible and unique, she has such an adorable face and everything, how could she be bullied or how can she compare herself to anyone. I'm in my bottom vocal range in contrast to her, I'm dreaming off to become as talented as her
Wow!!!!!! You need think before you make a comment!!!! Words hurt people! Have you not learned that!!! BE KIND!!
@@TamilaSparrow she's talking about Zk
@@buse5593 oh I just realised someone else wrote here. Well....
Tamils Sparrow, sorry 😐, I wasn’t talking about you. Your comment was great 😁. I saw another ugly comment here, but I don’t see it now, hopefully they took it down.
@@sheilapotter9308 yeah, I understood it afterwards, I even didnt see that, I'm also sorry about that.
She's learning and growing. Flaws and all, Demi Lovato is beautiful.
I love Demi... and the fact that she basically said the reason why her recent relationship didn’t work out makes me feel so proud of her!!!! BOUNDARIESSSSS
@bc lesaba was it filled last year ?
But when u say lady year, u mean 2019 obviously?
Olwyn Glover it was filmed in October. Demi talked about her "Halloween party last night" or something along those lines
@bc lesaba 100% agree and also it's obvious, since Mike was pushing it with what he was saying to paparazzi, he was talking about their private conversations, while she was on a hiatus, like man wtf
B C L true! But regardless she put her foot down! That is enough ! I love it and her!
Ashley is so well educated and eloquent, she's an amazing interviewer, she's really followed her calling.
“You’re healthy and I accept you.” -life changing ❤️🙏🏻
wow. this is the second time i have watched Demi speaking for over 40 minutes straight (the first time was the stay strong documentary), and everything that she says is so authentic. i love how open she is about her body positivity, and that she is no longer ashamed of herself. so beautiful :) good job ashley i really enjoy this show
You didn't watch simply complicated
Demi doesn’t have to speak up about her struggles and how she overcame them...but she does. Demi thank you, you are inspiring me and so many people. We love you so much
“Why dont I look I look like that?” girl I’m thinking that about you luv u Demi
You are beautiful the way u r
I LOVE how Demi is talking about her faith! Literally gave me chills! I’ve never seen a person with her status that is genuinely her and has the courage to say the name of the Lord!
Alexia Aldebol RIGHT???
Justin Bieber, Kanye West...
I e been enjoying justin bieber NOT being ashamed of his Faith also!👍🏻
Yeah right she needs to learn the name of the place right first witch is Palestine 🇵🇸
The "are u ready" story gave me chills. God has a plan for her life.
The more I hear the story the more I realize that her “support system “ before her overdose was super toxic
Sydney Noe exactly the more she digs into it the more I can see they didn’t want her to have help, they wanted her in a box. Damn.
Yeah I think the people around her were enabling her even if their intentions were good. I’m so glad she’s better now though, it’s heart warming to see
I think she's difficult to work with and immature. I don't mean that as an insult because I know she has mental health issues. But I imagine her team has to dance around her: will she be in a good mood? Will she snap? Will she stick to the schedule? Like they don't know what to expect working with her because she varies so much day to day and is incosistent. I can't imagine having to work with a "boss" like her. It must be exhausting and hard for everyone, including her. I hope she eventually finds the peace she's looking for.
And also she seems very lonely. She clearly doesn't have anyone to keeo her grounded and loved in her life (like family or even a few close friends).
Cbop77 actually she’s doing amazing now! She’s engaged! She has a good support system now. I’ve never heard anything about her being hard to work with, though I’ve never looked into the topic. It’s nice seeing all views of something even our views are different. I read your comment without hearing any nastiness and that’s something you don’t see often anymore
Could you make an interview with Christina Aguilera? She is a huge influence on a lot of people.
Agreed
Omg yes she's such an authentic kween
Omg yes , please Ashley, this would be so cool !
Yasss Queen Xtina!!! Inspiration and idol to so many 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
YES PLEASE
Two down to Earth women discussing body acceptance🥰 Why can’t there be more people like this in the world?
I got chills when she talked about the sign from God, and I'm not even a believer so..
can I ask y not
Or maybe you are and don't know it..
He’s very real girl!! I promise He is and He loves you so much!!!! He’s giving you signs(like those chills), He’s trying to tell you.. just listen ☺️🙏🏼
Those chills was the Holy Spirit , that was your sign❤️
Damn that makes me so happy to read. You cant see him but you can feel him. That’s all it takes. I hope those chills never stop for you.
I love when she accepts compliments and says "thank you" ...I find myself never accepting them and never saying thank you. She is such an icon. I love her
“Your healthy and I accept you” -Demi
Demi Lovato is really a real person, nothing fake, so down to earth. Such a wonderfully, vulnerable person. ♥️♥️♥️
I’m 29 going on 30 and I’m trying to get through this body acceptance after dealing with anorexia in my early 20’s ☺️ one step at a time
Stacey Smith hey love. I’m a bit younger than you but when I was 8 years old I started dealing w anorexia and now I’m 22, completely over it. Now I’m WANTING to gain weight and have a very great relationship with food. I promise you it gets better :) one step at a time
Stef Amber I wish you the best of luck gorgeous! You’ll get there, I promise!
@@stefcupp4854 good luck to both of you:))
You got this. And look into EFT. Its a therapy that can massively help with that follow gala darling on insta. She use to have an eating disorder and healed herself COMPLETELY with EFT (tapping). I believe in you 😘😘
You've got this Honey 💓
Its so nice to hear demis laugh.. to know that shes alive.. i took this Interview just to apreciate you both as powerful women that you are.. shes sooo beautiful, im crying..
I wanna talk about what demi said - " You're healthy and I accept you".
2020 has been terrible for me in terms of health, both mental and physical
I've had to fight w depression and corona virus.
Now that I'm better, I've started being happy without any materialistic reason of being happy.
I'm happy BECAUSE I'm healthy. That's it. And that's more than enough.
That's why I love this line because it puts in words exactly what I've been feeling.
"Why fake it 'til you make it?" - Ashley Graham
The message is so strong! I admire Ashley for this!
7:21
“Even seeing my friends, I’d be like ugh why dont I look like that?” I hate when my mind does that
Kyla Hearts same
Until your mind and your body are on the same page, it will always be like that. It's part of growing up...for a long time we want to be everything we aren't which is what drives us to do things but eventually, with growing, our mind and our body meet and we finally recognize ourselves and see ourselves in others rather than seeing the differences between ourselves and others. I know this sounds super weird but it literally just one day happens in your late 20s...I didn't even realize it until I was at an airport last month and saw how many people had the same physical "flaws" I had been killing myself over for years and I recognized that it turns out my ankles are normal, my knees are normal. 60% of the women I saw had similar ankles and knees. Things I've been self-conscious about for years.
Beck Cetera well said so true I’ve overcome my eating disorder and addiction and stuff like that and have good self worth and self love when it comes to myself and self care I think there comes a point in your late 20s where you are finally tired of pleasing people and worrying about what they think
2 people with the best laughters met in one room damn, how beautiful
She has a bright light in her eyes. Her energy is so positive here. You can tell she’s taken in so much from therapy and is genuinely healing. So proud
Shes gets so blushy when people compliment her its so cute 🥰 She deserves all the love that comes her way. We love you demi 💗
When she said: “ I just wish people could be more gentle with themselves”
There is a huge difference between being fat and being unhealthy...being unhealthy is not good and you can suggest/help a person to get out from that situation via losing/gaining weight and being happier too. You can be fat/thin and be healthy.. because it's your body, and it's you, and there's no reason to fight against who you are, so eat what you need and feel, but stay healthy.
Thee perfect body is not a thin body, nor a fat body, nor a curve body... it's an health body. Period.
I love how Ashley gives her guests the opportunity to express themselves in a different way than a typical interview...it truly inspiring
It’s literally like every interview ever
The way Demi says not knowing how much they weigh was so powerful and has helped me to not weigh myself for months and I couldn’t tell you either! I went from weighing myself several times a day and constantly rechecking what I’ve eaten that day/week, to now I couldn’t tell you how much I might weigh and I eat what I want when I’m hungry.
I love these people, such good role models🙃
“You’re healthy and I accept you.” I love that. I love Demi so much forever!! ❤️
I LOVE the "you're healthy, I accept you" mantra.
this made me look at demi in a completely different light. i cant wait to see where this year takes her. so proud of her and who shes growing into. what an inspiration on so many levels !!!!!!
“I’m not willing to destroy my mental health to look a certain way” this hit so hard!!!! 💜
"with gratitude comes humility" right on Demi! so glad we didn't lose u!
I sincerely hope that she means all this. It's so hard to change those habits of self loathing to self love or acceptance. She is such a talented singer, actress and activist. She touches so many people through her talents in a positive way. I really want her to be okay from now on. Losing her would be such a tragedy.
Pretty sure it's a life long battle and she's doing the internal/self work to get to a better place. I don't think she's 100% there. Nobody gets to that point that quickly with self love and acceptance (speaking from my own experience only). But, she's aware of herself and that's a big part of the change. And she's acknowledging the things that were problematic before. Wishing her all the best.
WHAT A INTERVIEW. THIS LITERALLY CHANGE MY LIFE AT THIS MOMENT. Thank you so much girls, you're amazing and empowering.
“Are you ready” THE FIRST LINE OF CONFIDENT
they both look so gorgeous brooo
I LOVE THIS WOMAN. There's way too many things I agree with but most importantly: boundaries and body acceptance. GET IT.
Thuy Doan yaaaasssssss🙌🏾
I watched the interview demi Lovato had with Dr. Phill in 2018 and one of the things she said in that video was that she encouraged her self through that idea of fake it till you make it, feeling like she would achieve that wellness she was faking. And in this video she made us understand that should not be the case. That has showed me how far she has come and much her mindset has changed for good.
Who else lives for Ashley’s affirmative « Mmhh » when she agrees with something? Lmao
Gabriella Bezeau that and her repeating quotes the other person says 😂🙏🏼
Gabriella Bezeau yes! Love that!
I did it at the same time! 😂😂
Demi has earned icon status, long time ago, gurl can and deserves to live and look however way she want ❤️
I love when Demi said she walks past the mirror and just accepts her body and doesn’t force herself to love it
The “Are You Ready” story is super relatable for me. Just like Ashley said I am a person who prays and I believe in signs and have always tried to look out for them. And trust me there is a difference between coincidence and a sign that your looking for. But yeah I love that she shared that story.
This has been a therapeutic experience.
"I just decided not to live that lie anymore" wow
Demi has saved my life so many times, I have tattoos for her. She's amazing. I got sober because of this woman . This was a great interview!
Caitlyn Bassett congratulations on getting sober 💗 what tattoos do you have?
congratulations!!! keep it up :)
❤️
Im so glad you are with us and sober, what a strong woman you are.
props to you for getting sober! so proud of you.. that takes a lot of strength🤍
Her whole life and body journey has helped so many of us accept our bigger bodies without twisting and turning ourselves into something we are not. She has inspired us all to become the best versions of ourelves
She truly is a Pretty Big Deal! To see Demi become so happy and accepting of herself gives me such a positive feeling. I don't tend to become emotionally attached to celebrities but I've always had a soft spot for Demi Lovato. She's such a relate-able soul for me. Great interview.
Not to be dramatic but she is my favorite human being ever 💕
J Zorro me too!!!
Same!!! Such a fan girl here. ❤
Honestly yes she’s honestly so amazing and talented and beautiful and so just down to earth and real and sooooo funny omg I’m here at like 1:30 am crying😂 but really apart from family obviously, she is my favorite human to have ever walked this Earth
QUEEN 95 mine too🥰
Man I really wish I knew her. I see a lot of myself in her to a certain extent. It actually makes me emotional.
Sydney Stephens same, she’s the most inspirational celebrity I’ve ever seen in my life.😍
Same.