Unpopular opinion but pretty privilege has nothing to do with it. Attractive and unattractive women get the exact same treatment if the man is not quality. This is not a pretty privilege conversation, it’s a relationship expectation conversation
Pretty privilege might make the abuse, mistreatment less and make the relationship in the eyes of the man and his family lasts longer but yeah same shit
@@Lonelylovelywestindianactually it can make it more . Look what happened to Marilyn monroe, Cassie, Kim porter etc. because the man wants to ruin her self esteem so she is too weak to leave and realize she can do better.
I think the pretty privilege angle comes in from the fact that she thought that she was better than the previous girl. She thought that she would have privileges the other woman did not have, like “i’m that girl, he wouldn’t leave me an unmarried baby mama like he did her”
That's why I think the saying," He will leave you for the woman he really wants." is truly not a flex. Some women believe if a man left his first family/ woman to be with her that's because he see her as the one, you know she thinking she is the woman he really wants. But being that woman does not equal better treatment or all of a sudden he's the best man he has ever been.
In my life, I either have a man like Russell Wilson or I have no man at all, but I promised myself to never Settle for scraps , Never settle for mediocre.
@@BlkOnyx0508 that’s true but by observing there’s a reason why their marriage is lasting, there’s a reason why Ciara is happy . Russell Wilson is a religious man. He didn’t have sex with her until he married her. He has Standards
@@Singleuntilmarried Some celebrities have better publicists than others. Don't believe everything that celebrities ALLOW the public to see- usually they are pushing some sort of agenda. In that Hollywood lifestyle nobody is "faithful" to their "marriage"
Otherwise, Tyler is being the typical lackadaisical, non committed man & Miracle stupidly thinks she's different & special from the previous baby mama.
Miracle played herself. Let me explain: I am not sure why she thought a man with two children under 10 would be a prize in the first place is laughable. He never married the women he created two children with and the timeline of your relationship is questionable. Not only is his character questionable, Miracle’s is too which is why she is in this situation.
I don’t know any of these people, but I do know this. If you give a man a marriage-level of access, give birth to his kids, and live with a man without that ring? Don’t be surprised this happens. Our elders weren’t right about everything, but they got this piece right.
If their behaviour is poor from the start marriage won’t change that. Some women got the ring and the wedding and they are now single mothers. Marriage will not change the poor behaviour, it doesn’t assure commitment , good intention or loyalty. .
A lot of modern men throw around marriage like they're ordering fries from the drive thru. It is no big thing and it's a minor transaction. They don't know ish about honor or commitment and treat it casually like they do with sex.
Ladies...sigh...I am 54 and I just want to say something. When my mother's generation started to gain rights in the 70's and the first wave of feminism hit, the men panicked. They turned up the heat. They bombarded my generation with love songs (80's and 90's love songs) rom coms (when Harry met Sally, You've got mail, Love and Basketball, etc...) then there were the Disney princesses along with all the baby dolls and kitchen toys, then when you became a teenager and turned 14 you started a hope chest (barf). What my generation should have done, was pick up the baton and do what this generation is doing now and for that, I apologize. But I'm going to be honest...I fear so much for the younger generation because I never EVER realized that a woman's freedom and happiness was such a threat to a man. Ladies, PLEASE get yourself some type of arsenal, because it's going to get worse if it ever gets better. I have NEVER seen so much disrespect and 8atred towards women, like I have in this day and age. Maybe it was always there, and it was hidden but whatever the reason, marriage is not the goal, it never was. It was manipulation into servitude. I am sure there are some awesome marriages out there and to the women that have one, YOU ARE truly blessed, but you are 5% compared to the rest of the women in the world.
Truth Proven Fact 💯 Point, this generation of females have really flipped the script on Man !! they hating more can't handle it. They are doing their best by any means that are necessary in between the lines to all of this even now government is involved into it to stop all of it . Whe they overturned Roe v Wade, along with going to try to attempt to Outlaw all contraceptives that are made available and sold including iuds females won't be able to get their tubes tied condoms . Just Sayin !
I promise you I see it now that I'm older. They're trying hard to lock women in. What makes the US different is that we have many levels of freedom that women world wide doesn't. You're never safe because married, single, a single mother a man's job is to rule over you and if they can't get that then they'll harm or unalive you.
I was early for once...but I do agree when you start "begging" for a ring, it's probably time to pack it up because if he wanted to, he would have on his own.
Pretty privilege is a curse in relationships, if anything. I'm not ashamed the say that my mother is prettier than I'll ever be, and she got together with a man who was a firefighter. He was prince charming. After their third child, me, he turned into an absolute monster and sucked every ounce of energy my mother had. She managed to escape, but it still took her years to fully recover. The same goes for a lot of beautiful women I've seen. Men will pretend to be prince charming for beautiful women and then switch when they think she can't escape. Being beautiful just attracts more entitled, insane people.
I honestly do not understand having kids with anyone you're not married to. It's so dangerous, so irresponsible. I've definitely made my share of stupid mistakes, but I never, ever entertained thoughts of having a kid with any of those mistakes. My stupidity has a limit✌️
I don’t see the point in marrying a BM. It looks like nothing but stress, drama & aggravation, regardless of his net worth. I’d rather be single 🤷🏽♀️.
Pretty privilege is just people being nicer to you in public settings. It doesn’t change a man or the true intentions of a person. I’ve started to have an issue with this ‘pretty privilege’. I feel like it gives ‘pick me’ behavior tbh. Adriana Lima gave her virginity to a man who then cheated on her… while Ina Garten (famous chef) has been married to her husband for over 50 years. Pretty privilege is for the birds.
Just because Ina has been married for 50 years doesn’t mean she hasn’t been getting dogged for 50 years. Anyone can be in a long term relationship or marriage but it doesn’t mean they’re happy or that the man is faithful.
Speak on it! So called pretty privilege has never benefitted me beyond being treated nicely in certain settings. Anything outside of that, it's irrelevant. Or maybe I'm just not that pretty but I don't see it when it comes to anything significant.
@ thewisdomdivatv girl, I actually agree with you. I was going to say how we won’t ever know what is truly happening behind closed doors of Ina’s marriage, BUT for 50 years, that man has supported her career (she was meant to be a housewife, but she was so bored, he helped her set up her famous store ‘The barefoot contessa’, and he had a lot of appearances in her TV show, never taking the spotlight either). At least we have never heard of any scandals, and there isn’t even a whiff of bad behavior. For 50 years, that’s an achievement for ANYONE (and they are a famous couple!). The point I was trying to make is that beauty doesn’t guarantee you a damn thing in this world. I think confidence goes further than beauty (and unlike beauty, confidence pushes away dusties and insecure people).
@lookatyou5809 girl, you’re right. Pretty privilege is a double edged sword bc I believe it attracts some of the worst people in society. I strive to be beautiful (because that’s just a personal goal of mine), but even more than that, I strive to be confident. Confidence will filter out all the bad eggs who come into your life. Beauty attract both good and bad (but the bad it attracts is enough to destroy your life). Also, I’m sure you’re beautiful girl! Keep shining and work on that confidence.
She embarrassed herself..girl he don’t like you like that 🙄 this is what happens when women think they different , girl you finna find out stop giving men this much access to you you’re not his wife
7:05 I like what this young sista said during her whole segment. The thing is, he’s staying with her b/c it’s convenient and comfortable for him. And she made it so by giving him access to those comforts without any real commitment or obligation from him.
I’ve seen too many women in this exact situation in my life. They ended up being baby mama #2,3,4 with no ring. If they do get one it’s that standard cluster “shut up ring”. I knew 4 women whose guys would propose just so they wouldn’t leave and he’ll make up a reason to break the engagement because he didn’t want to marry in the first place. This happened to each 3 or more times. They eventually left but had wasted years of their lives and are single moms in the harem the men rotates as a placeholders. I don’t get it. Not saying this is Miracle but male identified women always end up in this place because they think they’re “better” than the other women. Why would a man who left the woman he was with for a decade that had 2 kids under 3 when he met you be marriage material? Beauty doesn’t inspire morality. She should’ve kept him as a sneaky link until she found a man who was clear about marrying her imo.
How many of these women actually grew up in married homes- like, had a mother in their home that was married to their father? The Blk community is very disenfranchised and divided which is why these cycles repeat themselves. My parents have been married for 34 years but I give other people grace 'cause I know they don't even know what a marriage looks in order to replicate it.
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h 3 out of the 4, actually. I think their naivety about how it really is out here for many women plus being raised in strongly Christian homes influenced them to try and be understanding to the foolishness. Also the desperation of wanting to uphold the image of black love because they grew up with it played a part as well.
A lot of these people just have “yes men” around them. People who just agree with everything because they’re on their payroll. It’s why celebs/influencers are so entitled.
He doesn’t give me the marriage vibe not gonna lie and he looks like Drake if you know you know 😂 but if they break up I hope he visits someone who will love and marry her.BTW the actress Vanessa Hughes been with a guy for 10 years and he didn’t marry wasted her damn time and she dating a guy for 2 years and he put a ring on it married her and now there having a baby
I have family members this happened to and it was all just so devastating when everything came out. And the afterwards was not always so easy to handle. THIS is my biggest fear currently. And the worst part is you could do everything, go above and beyond, and still end up heart broken and alone.
That’s why women should do less. Don’t give a man ANY of your essence without COMMITMENT and I mean courtship not this cesspool of dating. Give NOTHING. Do NOTHING. The man of character who is for you will do what he needs to do, move mountains etc. The egg never goes after the sperm, just rests in the womb and waits patiently. The sperm has to sacrifice energy and its entire self to have ‘her. These men these days MUST be made to work to get a woman and even then they still have to be vetted for character. Because just working hard still doesn’t prove character all the way.
Miracle watts made 😅fun of the 1st ex wife with the same man bf she’s with now so this is karma right back at her & she kept gaslighting the ex wife with her current man it’s what she deserves lol 😂and bm will make u wait for 4-17 and 25 yrs for marriage
I dont care what miracle looks like. At all. Im annoyed that their appearance is even being discussed. Beautiful women are dragged by men too..pretty privilege just opens the door to benefits but thats about it..
Require marriage before any sex. Don’t live with a man and have sex and kids then wonder why he hasn’t married you. He doesn’t have much to gain by marrying him. She said it’s disrespectful but really she hasn’t fully respected herself
I agree. The consequences of sex are way too serious to be giving it out on demand. Women need to start believing that they are extremely valuable and absolutely worth the wait. A man of integrity will understand this.
Why is the one woman so hung up on pretty privileged. She's got some unresolved trauma for not being chosen. Because I'm confuses why she thinks that it's her story.
I had the same thoughts during her post. There was some gems but it was so lost in translation because she kept bringing up pretty privilege. Truthfully, this situation really only boils down to lack of morals and character, just like all of her cheating references. It’s sad to see that a beautiful woman like herself only feels the need to validate her worth by highlighting another’s beauty and misfortunes. However, I definitely agree, she needs some form of healing from her unresolved trauma.
Thank you! Unpopular opinion but I don't even think Miracle is all that- I come from the 90's era when BW were top tier beautiful. Miracle is around the way cute to me. That woman going on about 'Pretty privilege' like you said, clearly has her own issues cause she has unchosen status. She really projecting. This is more about the circumstance of WHO Miracle chose (ahem! stole) and HOW she got him. That man is a pretty boy- not husband material, and the ways she's behaved is not like a prospective wife either.
Anyone can talk about marriage... That doesn't mean he saw her as a wife, and she should've known the saying... The way you get him is the same way you will lose him. And staying that long with a child without marriage is WILD, but then again, it's the norm now. Also, we can't blame him. He's only doing what they allow him to do. I dont see anyone be held against their will. I hope she leaves and does what's best for her and her child.
If she’s twerking online why would he want to marry her ? Plus she stole him from his baby mama, so he doesn’t respect her ,Even if it’s hypocritical men ignore their mistakes and focuses on yours
I have no clue who any of these people are. I have 0 sympathy for this Miracle Watts person, though. She chose to create a baby with a guy that abandoned his girlfriend / fiancée & precious baby so he could cheat with her. It's never a good thing to be chosen by a lying cheater. She lacks basic common sense if she didn't have the foresight to realize that he would treat her the same way. The ones like Miracle Watts assume they are special, then they always get involved in messy relationships and then complain when they endure the same foolishness.
My only question for the people stating their opinions is: Why are you so worried about what she looks like? Why is her looks the only reason she deserves to be married? "Coveted black beauty", as if there is nothing other than her appearance that is praiseworthy, not even her personality. Don't put other people in a box, just because you put yourself there and want company. Be better than this, people. 🤦♂️
That's the whole point. Doesn't matter how amazing her personality is, if a man with loose morals can't recognize it, she might as well have no personality at all because clearly this man only cares about physical beauty, and that doesn't take people very far.
I think we need to stop thinking of marriage as a win or a necessity for everyone. I'm not saying that man doesn't want to be with her, I'm saying that he should express his intentions clearly to her in private. It's kinda like proposing in public when you ask a person or couple if they want to get married or when they will. People need to stop putting other people in that position because it will end badly.
It is the biggest crock ever devised. Fortunately, marriage itself is dying in the West, and I say good riddance. It is incompatible with women's rights. Men as a group will not do their share, and women need to realize there is nothing in it for them to get married. Trading sex for financial support is not the way to go.
I'm a pretty black woman (Togolese background), I get some compliments and a lot of side eyes. Pretty privilege rarely applies when you're black. And because my features are so Afrocentric, I get a lot of resentment, as if I am some sort of unfair anomaly. I'm not saying pretty privilege doesn't exist, it's just not the same for us.
Pretty Privilege has nothing to do with this- that one woman was just projecting because no one is choosing her. Miracle is aight- she's not stunningly beautiful. The issue is, she set up a low vibrational relationship. That pretty boy is not husband material and she hasn't acted like a wife either.
From one sister and with all respect to another, the sister with the Sade on her shirt is gorgeous! 👏🏾 BTW, this stuff makes me infinitely glad I’m a Christian and not in this scene. It’s scary! 😱 It seems we give men too much power, but hey, what do I know. 🤷🏾♀️🇨🇦
I really appreciate you making this video. My ex of 4 years cheated and gave me Herpes virus during our relationship and I was devastated. You've made me feel so much better #DrAdigba and seeing all these people share their stories……..😊😊
I wanna know if she got pregnant cuz he was dragging his feet 2 commit cuz as women we know! Now…she was ok until she got pregnant.She could’ve walked outta there childfree 2 got her commitment somewhere else.Then boom…he woulda really look like the man-child he is. Now, he done wasted her time, she enabled him 2 break her heart, he made things difficult for her to get to her next relationship cuz he might use that co-parenting mess to stop her from moving on, he made her look bad which I think is BS btw cuz he was single, his ex signed herself up to be a place holder/ barbara the builder.She wasn’t wrong to love the man yet it was her responsibility to make sure she was getting the commitment she also wanted before procreating with him Us women gotta understand how men are wired especially if we wanna deal with them.Most men are not compassionate by nature.What you allow is gonna continue If u walked in there as the special snowflake, keep acting that way until u get what u got with that man for!If it’s not coming, leave him.
The laughable part in all of this is this woman really thinks a marriage and a ring will change everything. The saddest part is she doesn’t know that she has an expiration date when it comes to him leaving.
3:30 I don’t know why but it feels a little icky to make the distinction “beautiful women”. Like why are we talking about these women in terms of their appearance rather than acknowledging that they are whole people? Yes, I do understand that being beautiful grants you certain advantages in dating and maybe makes it easier to find a partner in certain situations but it doesn’t prevent you from making poor choices. Miracle’s poor choice of man and wherever that stems from is more relevant to the conversation and beneficial to discuss than reducing her to her physical package and then saying “see! Pretty girls get cheated on too.” It’s not helpful, it’s reductive and kind of insulting. And who said looks would save you? I’ve never heard that. Most of the beautiful women I know have experienced lots of pain and hardship. Having a bad time in life isn’t exclusive to ugly people.
4:00 It's silly to tell folks of social media 'mind your business', on a topic when it's the person that raised that topic - post their dirty laundry or drama ON SOCIAL MEDIA! Smh. Also, 'pretty privilege' IS NOT A THING. It pre-supposes that the woman wants to be picked, cause she looks good on the outside. That may be the case, however, what TYPE of attention is key. Being good looking on the outside IS NOT A PRIVILAGE OR BADGE OF HONOR. LOOKING GOOD ON THE OUTSIDE MAY MAKE YOUR LIFE MORE MISERABLE THAN IF YOU DIDN'T LOOK GOOD ON THE OUTSIDE. People that look good on the outside, get a lot of attention from the opposite sex, and opens up their dating options. Where is the privilege there? LADIES...the privilege to me - IS NOT GETTING ATTENTION FROM MALES (as I want demons to leave me DF alone - all of them), because it's ALWAYS sexual attention. When you get with a male after he lusts after you, once you get physical with him and got what he wanted, he's done - he'll cheat on you, abuse you, subject you to S.A., D.V or un-alive you. Looking good on the outside doesn't mean that your character is good or that others around you will treat you good - know that!
He doesn't want to marry a woman that's scandales because if she was willing to do anything for attention why would he take her seriously and she stole him from his baby mama.🤦
💔Miracle walks around shaking her tail in the air whenever she gets a chance, whether famous or not… what man would possibly want his wife, the woman who is a reflection of him, shaking her tail in front of whom ever she’s around. She definitely needs to learn how to handle herself like a future wife before demanding that title. But as so many have stated.. Tyler is the “fun” guy, definitely not the type to settle down.. he works for a show called P-Valley.. like imagine the type of women he will constantly work with 🫠
That’s a lie, he was engaged to his previous baby mama. Plus they got together almost a year after the first baby mama. Ask the baby mama herself, they were not together when she had their last kid. Plus different people bring out different things in people. Just because he was with his first for 10 years doesn’t mean they were ready for marriage. Also who said that he just up and left the fiancé? Sometimes people still try to make the relationship work even after its been dead. It’s sad that y’all don’t even know the full situation and are judging miracle smh. However I do agree that you should watch how your partner treat others.
Unpopular opinion but pretty privilege has nothing to do with it. Attractive and unattractive women get the exact same treatment if the man is not quality. This is not a pretty privilege conversation, it’s a relationship expectation conversation
Pretty privilege might make the abuse, mistreatment less and make the relationship in the eyes of the man and his family lasts longer but yeah same shit
Word!
@@Lonelylovelywestindianactually it can make it more . Look what happened to Marilyn monroe, Cassie, Kim porter etc. because the man wants to ruin her self esteem so she is too weak to leave and realize she can do better.
@@Tatianarain that too, regardless still bad at every angles
I think the pretty privilege angle comes in from the fact that she thought that she was better than the previous girl. She thought that she would have privileges the other woman did not have, like “i’m that girl, he wouldn’t leave me an unmarried baby mama like he did her”
A house built on another woman's tears won't stand, that's a word.
That's why I think the saying," He will leave you for the woman he really wants." is truly not a flex. Some women believe if a man left his first family/ woman to be with her that's because he see her as the one, you know she thinking she is the woman he really wants. But being that woman does not equal better treatment or all of a sudden he's the best man he has ever been.
Yep!!! It’s like girl you can’t be certain you’re the final destination and not just another pit stop when he has that kind of history!
Its pick-me mentality.
Exactly 💯
@@SPMunnyyou put it perfectly *chefs kiss* lol!
let's not forget the woman he wants switches every couple months/years
Miracle was a pretty rebound! She messed up by having a baby and staying so long. Miracle just take this L.
Got on an actual TV show and then mixed business with pleasure smdh
In my life, I either have a man like Russell Wilson or I have no man at all, but I promised myself to never Settle for scraps , Never settle for mediocre.
Right
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You have no idea how Russell Wilson is behind closed doors. Be careful what you wish for
@@BlkOnyx0508 that’s true but by observing there’s a reason why their marriage is lasting, there’s a reason why Ciara is happy . Russell Wilson is a religious man. He didn’t have sex with her until he married her. He has Standards
@@Singleuntilmarried Some celebrities have better publicists than others. Don't believe everything that celebrities ALLOW the public to see- usually they are pushing some sort of agenda. In that Hollywood lifestyle nobody is "faithful" to their "marriage"
Otherwise, Tyler is being the typical lackadaisical, non committed man & Miracle stupidly thinks she's different & special from the previous baby mama.
Miracle played herself. Let me explain: I am not sure why she thought a man with two children under 10 would be a prize in the first place is laughable. He never married the women he created two children with and the timeline of your relationship is questionable. Not only is his character questionable, Miracle’s is too which is why she is in this situation.
I don’t know any of these people, but I do know this. If you give a man a marriage-level of access, give birth to his kids, and live with a man without that ring? Don’t be surprised this happens. Our elders weren’t right about everything, but they got this piece right.
Who are these people.
She is a model, entrepreneur, influencer etc and he is an actor.
Lol!😂 the guy playing on The have and have nots and p-valley
I'm with you on this one. I have no idea who these people are...
@@Priscilla_Boye thank you kindly 😊. I'm clueless about certain people online
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If their behaviour is poor from the start marriage won’t change that.
Some women got the ring and the wedding and they are now single mothers. Marriage will not change the poor behaviour, it doesn’t assure commitment , good intention or loyalty. .
A lot of modern men throw around marriage like they're ordering fries from the drive thru. It is no big thing and it's a minor transaction. They don't know ish about honor or commitment and treat it casually like they do with sex.
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Ladies...sigh...I am 54 and I just want to say something. When my mother's generation started to gain rights in the 70's and the first wave of feminism hit, the men panicked. They turned up the heat. They bombarded my generation with love songs (80's and 90's love songs) rom coms (when Harry met Sally, You've got mail, Love and Basketball, etc...) then there were the Disney princesses along with all the baby dolls and kitchen toys, then when you became a teenager and turned 14 you started a hope chest (barf). What my generation should have done, was pick up the baton and do what this generation is doing now and for that, I apologize. But I'm going to be honest...I fear so much for the younger generation because I never EVER realized that a woman's freedom and happiness was such a threat to a man. Ladies, PLEASE get yourself some type of arsenal, because it's going to get worse if it ever gets better. I have NEVER seen so much disrespect and 8atred towards women, like I have in this day and age. Maybe it was always there, and it was hidden but whatever the reason, marriage is not the goal, it never was. It was manipulation into servitude. I am sure there are some awesome marriages out there and to the women that have one, YOU ARE truly blessed, but you are 5% compared to the rest of the women in the world.
Thank you very much for your unique insight!❤
WERD UP!!!
Truth Proven Fact 💯 Point, this generation of females have really flipped the script on Man !! they hating more can't handle it. They are doing their best by any means that are necessary in between the lines to all of this even now government is involved into it to stop all of it . Whe they overturned Roe v Wade, along with going to try to attempt to Outlaw all contraceptives that are made available and sold including iuds females won't be able to get their tubes tied condoms . Just Sayin !
Fantastic insight! Thank you!!!❤
I promise you I see it now that I'm older. They're trying hard to lock women in. What makes the US different is that we have many levels of freedom that women world wide doesn't. You're never safe because married, single, a single mother a man's job is to rule over you and if they can't get that then they'll harm or unalive you.
I was early for once...but I do agree when you start "begging" for a ring, it's probably time to pack it up because if he wanted to, he would have on his own.
Pretty privilege is a curse in relationships, if anything. I'm not ashamed the say that my mother is prettier than I'll ever be, and she got together with a man who was a firefighter. He was prince charming. After their third child, me, he turned into an absolute monster and sucked every ounce of energy my mother had. She managed to escape, but it still took her years to fully recover.
The same goes for a lot of beautiful women I've seen. Men will pretend to be prince charming for beautiful women and then switch when they think she can't escape. Being beautiful just attracts more entitled, insane people.
i would have never had a baby with that guy....as someone said, he is for fun!!!!!!! nothing more, nothing less lol
Right
You better preach!
He looks like he’s only for fun
I honestly do not understand having kids with anyone you're not married to. It's so dangerous, so irresponsible. I've definitely made my share of stupid mistakes, but I never, ever entertained thoughts of having a kid with any of those mistakes. My stupidity has a limit✌️
Another baby mama, they never learn... NEXT!
I don’t see the point in marrying a BM. It looks like nothing but stress, drama & aggravation, regardless of his net worth. I’d rather be single 🤷🏽♀️.
Sis. Marrying at all at this point lol
Like hello?! lol
Ask ur mother
Facts 💯🚫🚫🚫
And financial struggle
Pretty privilege is just people being nicer to you in public settings. It doesn’t change a man or the true intentions of a person. I’ve started to have an issue with this ‘pretty privilege’. I feel like it gives ‘pick me’ behavior tbh. Adriana Lima gave her virginity to a man who then cheated on her… while Ina Garten (famous chef) has been married to her husband for over 50 years. Pretty privilege is for the birds.
Just because Ina has been married for 50 years doesn’t mean she hasn’t been getting dogged for 50 years. Anyone can be in a long term relationship or marriage but it doesn’t mean they’re happy or that the man is faithful.
Speak on it! So called pretty privilege has never benefitted me beyond being treated nicely in certain settings. Anything outside of that, it's irrelevant. Or maybe I'm just not that pretty but I don't see it when it comes to anything significant.
@@thewisdomdivatv well Ina seems happy! And I see alot of attractive women being dragged through the mud the same way the basic ones are, go figure.
@ thewisdomdivatv girl, I actually agree with you. I was going to say how we won’t ever know what is truly happening behind closed doors of Ina’s marriage, BUT for 50 years, that man has supported her career (she was meant to be a housewife, but she was so bored, he helped her set up her famous store ‘The barefoot contessa’, and he had a lot of appearances in her TV show, never taking the spotlight either). At least we have never heard of any scandals, and there isn’t even a whiff of bad behavior. For 50 years, that’s an achievement for ANYONE (and they are a famous couple!). The point I was trying to make is that beauty doesn’t guarantee you a damn thing in this world. I think confidence goes further than beauty (and unlike beauty, confidence pushes away dusties and insecure people).
@lookatyou5809 girl, you’re right. Pretty privilege is a double edged sword bc I believe it attracts some of the worst people in society. I strive to be beautiful (because that’s just a personal goal of mine), but even more than that, I strive to be confident. Confidence will filter out all the bad eggs who come into your life. Beauty attract both good and bad (but the bad it attracts is enough to destroy your life).
Also, I’m sure you’re beautiful girl! Keep shining and work on that confidence.
She embarrassed herself..girl he don’t like you like that 🙄 this is what happens when women think they different , girl you finna find out stop giving men this much access to you you’re not his wife
That " shut up" 💍 might come next. Wait for it, ladies.🤔🤔🤔
It’s coming! It always does, after 2years max
If he did it to her, he will do it to you
7:05 I like what this young sista said during her whole segment. The thing is, he’s staying with her b/c it’s convenient and comfortable for him. And she made it so by giving him access to those comforts without any real commitment or obligation from him.
I’ve seen too many women in this exact situation in my life. They ended up being baby mama #2,3,4 with no ring. If they do get one it’s that standard cluster “shut up ring”. I knew 4 women whose guys would propose just so they wouldn’t leave and he’ll make up a reason to break the engagement because he didn’t want to marry in the first place. This happened to each 3 or more times. They eventually left but had wasted years of their lives and are single moms in the harem the men rotates as a placeholders.
I don’t get it. Not saying this is Miracle but male identified women always end up in this place because they think they’re “better” than the other women. Why would a man who left the woman he was with for a decade that had 2 kids under 3 when he met you be marriage material? Beauty doesn’t inspire morality. She should’ve kept him as a sneaky link until she found a man who was clear about marrying her imo.
How many of these women actually grew up in married homes- like, had a mother in their home that was married to their father? The Blk community is very disenfranchised and divided which is why these cycles repeat themselves. My parents have been married for 34 years but I give other people grace 'cause I know they don't even know what a marriage looks in order to replicate it.
@@user-dv3kq3rm4h 3 out of the 4, actually. I think their naivety about how it really is out here for many women plus being raised in strongly Christian homes influenced them to try and be understanding to the foolishness. Also the desperation of wanting to uphold the image of black love because they grew up with it played a part as well.
😮💨😮💨“A house built on another woman’s tears will not stand” ‼️‼️🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
She should’ve just let him be the piece of candy that he is and leave it there. Why have a baby? 😊
The second lady's point "He's breadcrumbing you"......say less🎯💯💯💯🚩
😂🤣😅🤣😂😭😆🤪😜😛😝 the jokes on her. "Be careful what you ask for you just might get it."
She got EXACTLY what she wanted a Pass around.
5:26 why are you telling us to mind our business?? She brought it to the internet. We didn't run up in her house.
As much money and access as she has…, you’d think she’d have a therapist or a mentor to have guided her better than that
That was her father's job. He failed her.
A lot of these people just have “yes men” around them. People who just agree with everything because they’re on their payroll. It’s why celebs/influencers are so entitled.
She was lose him exactly how she got him 🤦🏾♀️
Didn't she have his baby already?? I believe i heard that a couple years ago, if so, sis, you lost your leverage. 🤷🏽♀️
He doesn’t give me the marriage vibe not gonna lie and he looks like Drake if you know you know 😂 but if they break up I hope he visits someone who will love and marry her.BTW the actress Vanessa Hughes been with a guy for 10 years and he didn’t marry wasted her damn time and she dating a guy for 2 years and he put a ring on it married her and now there having a baby
He think he looks too good to settle down.
I have family members this happened to and it was all just so devastating when everything came out. And the afterwards was not always so easy to handle. THIS is my biggest fear currently. And the worst part is you could do everything, go above and beyond, and still end up heart broken and alone.
That’s why women should do less. Don’t give a man ANY of your essence without COMMITMENT and I mean courtship not this cesspool of dating. Give NOTHING. Do NOTHING. The man of character who is for you will do what he needs to do, move mountains etc. The egg never goes after the sperm, just rests in the womb and waits patiently. The sperm has to sacrifice energy and its entire self to have ‘her. These men these days MUST be made to work to get a woman and even then they still have to be vetted for character. Because just working hard still doesn’t prove character all the way.
Miracle watts made 😅fun of the 1st ex wife with the same man bf she’s with now so this is karma right back at her & she kept gaslighting the ex wife with her current man it’s what she deserves lol 😂and bm will make u wait for 4-17 and 25 yrs for marriage
I dont care what miracle looks like. At all. Im annoyed that their appearance is even being discussed. Beautiful women are dragged by men too..pretty privilege just opens the door to benefits but thats about it..
Require marriage before any sex. Don’t live with a man and have sex and kids then wonder why he hasn’t married you. He doesn’t have much to gain by marrying him.
She said it’s disrespectful but really she hasn’t fully respected herself
I agree. The consequences of sex are way too serious to be giving it out on demand. Women need to start believing that they are extremely valuable and absolutely worth the wait. A man of integrity will understand this.
@@cobaltblue26this I agree with.
Marriage is a complete crock. Why don't women see the obvious about it? It was created by men for men. Women need to ditch the brainwashing about it.
@@cobaltblue26 Oh, please.
@@ValleyoftheRogue so what do u think women have to do ?
Why is the one woman so hung up on pretty privileged. She's got some unresolved trauma for not being chosen. Because I'm confuses why she thinks that it's her story.
I had the same thoughts during her post. There was some gems but it was so lost in translation because she kept bringing up pretty privilege. Truthfully, this situation really only boils down to lack of morals and character, just like all of her cheating references. It’s sad to see that a beautiful woman like herself only feels the need to validate her worth by highlighting another’s beauty and misfortunes. However, I definitely agree, she needs some form of healing from her unresolved trauma.
You said it better than me because I don’t know what pretty privilege had to do with anything!
@@Carma2010 lol. Right! Her pretty privilege didn't get her a cheating man. Lust did. Lol
Thank you! Unpopular opinion but I don't even think Miracle is all that- I come from the 90's era when BW were top tier beautiful. Miracle is around the way cute to me. That woman going on about 'Pretty privilege' like you said, clearly has her own issues cause she has unchosen status. She really projecting. This is more about the circumstance of WHO Miracle chose (ahem! stole) and HOW she got him. That man is a pretty boy- not husband material, and the ways she's behaved is not like a prospective wife either.
Anyone can talk about marriage... That doesn't mean he saw her as a wife, and she should've known the saying... The way you get him is the same way you will lose him. And staying that long with a child without marriage is WILD, but then again, it's the norm now.
Also, we can't blame him. He's only doing what they allow him to do. I dont see anyone be held against their will. I hope she leaves and does what's best for her and her child.
🤣🤣🤣😭 she's getting COOKED and i just can't like everyone's take.
Miracle is annoying
Very much not giving coveted beauty. Who is coveting Miracle. No mature grown woman😅
Yikes 😳 there’s a looooooooot of projection going on …
From who?
A ton. From both sides.
If she’s twerking online why would he want to marry her ? Plus she stole him from his baby mama, so he doesn’t respect her ,Even if it’s hypocritical men ignore their mistakes and focuses on yours
Thank you for your content. It has been helping me to unveil the masks people wear.
Where have I been? I don’t know these people😑
I have no clue who any of these people are. I have 0 sympathy for this Miracle Watts person, though. She chose to create a baby with a guy that abandoned his girlfriend / fiancée & precious baby so he could cheat with her. It's never a good thing to be chosen by a lying cheater. She lacks basic common sense if she didn't have the foresight to realize that he would treat her the same way. The ones like Miracle Watts assume they are special, then they always get involved in messy relationships and then complain when they endure the same foolishness.
My only question for the people stating their opinions is: Why are you so worried about what she looks like? Why is her looks the only reason she deserves to be married? "Coveted black beauty", as if there is nothing other than her appearance that is praiseworthy, not even her personality.
Don't put other people in a box, just because you put yourself there and want company. Be better than this, people. 🤦♂️
That's the whole point. Doesn't matter how amazing her personality is, if a man with loose morals can't recognize it, she might as well have no personality at all because clearly this man only cares about physical beauty, and that doesn't take people very far.
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I think we need to stop thinking of marriage as a win or a necessity for everyone. I'm not saying that man doesn't want to be with her, I'm saying that he should express his intentions clearly to her in private. It's kinda like proposing in public when you ask a person or couple if they want to get married or when they will. People need to stop putting other people in that position because it will end badly.
It is the biggest crock ever devised. Fortunately, marriage itself is dying in the West, and I say good riddance. It is incompatible with women's rights. Men as a group will not do their share, and women need to realize there is nothing in it for them to get married. Trading sex for financial support is not the way to go.
I'm a pretty black woman (Togolese background), I get some compliments and a lot of side eyes. Pretty privilege rarely applies when you're black. And because my features are so Afrocentric, I get a lot of resentment, as if I am some sort of unfair anomaly.
I'm not saying pretty privilege doesn't exist, it's just not the same for us.
Pretty Privilege has nothing to do with this- that one woman was just projecting because no one is choosing her. Miracle is aight- she's not stunningly beautiful. The issue is, she set up a low vibrational relationship. That pretty boy is not husband material and she hasn't acted like a wife either.
I have no earthly idea of who these two are.🤷🏾♀️
Well!!!
From one sister and with all respect to another, the sister with the Sade on her shirt is gorgeous! 👏🏾 BTW, this stuff makes me infinitely glad I’m a Christian and not in this scene. It’s scary! 😱 It seems we give men too much power, but hey, what do I know. 🤷🏾♀️🇨🇦
I really appreciate you making this video. My ex of 4 years cheated and gave me Herpes virus during our relationship and I was devastated. You've made me feel so much better #DrAdigba and seeing all these people share their stories……..😊😊
I wanna know if she got pregnant cuz he was dragging his feet 2 commit cuz as women we know!
Now…she was ok until she got pregnant.She could’ve walked outta there childfree 2 got her commitment somewhere else.Then boom…he woulda really look like the man-child he is.
Now, he done wasted her time, she enabled him 2 break her heart, he made things difficult for her to get to her next relationship cuz he might use that co-parenting mess to stop her from moving on, he made her look bad which I think is BS btw cuz he was single, his ex signed herself up to be a place holder/ barbara the builder.She wasn’t wrong to love the man yet it was her responsibility to make sure she was getting the commitment she also wanted before procreating with him
Us women gotta understand how men are wired especially if we wanna deal with them.Most men are not compassionate by nature.What you allow is gonna continue
If u walked in there as the special snowflake, keep acting that way until u get what u got with that man for!If it’s not coming, leave him.
He can want marriage but not necessarily with her!
The laughable part in all of this is this woman really thinks a marriage and a ring will change everything.
The saddest part is she doesn’t know that she has an expiration date when it comes to him leaving.
3:30 I don’t know why but it feels a little icky to make the distinction “beautiful women”. Like why are we talking about these women in terms of their appearance rather than acknowledging that they are whole people? Yes, I do understand that being beautiful grants you certain advantages in dating and maybe makes it easier to find a partner in certain situations but it doesn’t prevent you from making poor choices. Miracle’s poor choice of man and wherever that stems from is more relevant to the conversation and beneficial to discuss than reducing her to her physical package and then saying “see! Pretty girls get cheated on too.” It’s not helpful, it’s reductive and kind of insulting.
And who said looks would save you? I’ve never heard that. Most of the beautiful women I know have experienced lots of pain and hardship. Having a bad time in life isn’t exclusive to ugly people.
…you disrespect YOURSELF by waiting around that long. Getting online to pressure the father of your baby to marry you is embarrassing.
I wanna get married too but how you gonna call someone disrespectful for that 😂 can’t force shit
4:00 It's silly to tell folks of social media 'mind your business', on a topic when it's the person that raised that topic - post their dirty laundry or drama ON SOCIAL MEDIA! Smh. Also, 'pretty privilege' IS NOT A THING. It pre-supposes that the woman wants to be picked, cause she looks good on the outside. That may be the case, however, what TYPE of attention is key. Being good looking on the outside IS NOT A PRIVILAGE OR BADGE OF HONOR. LOOKING GOOD ON THE OUTSIDE MAY MAKE YOUR LIFE MORE MISERABLE THAN IF YOU DIDN'T LOOK GOOD ON THE OUTSIDE. People that look good on the outside, get a lot of attention from the opposite sex, and opens up their dating options. Where is the privilege there? LADIES...the privilege to me - IS NOT GETTING ATTENTION FROM MALES (as I want demons to leave me DF alone - all of them), because it's ALWAYS sexual attention. When you get with a male after he lusts after you, once you get physical with him and got what he wanted, he's done - he'll cheat on you, abuse you, subject you to S.A., D.V or un-alive you. Looking good on the outside doesn't mean that your character is good or that others around you will treat you good - know that!
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He doesn't want to marry a woman that's scandales because if she was willing to do anything for attention why would he take her seriously and she stole him from his baby mama.🤦
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Single females is this your future ?
ROFL
💔Miracle walks around shaking her tail in the air whenever she gets a chance, whether famous or not… what man would possibly want his wife, the woman who is a reflection of him, shaking her tail in front of whom ever she’s around. She definitely needs to learn how to handle herself like a future wife before demanding that title.
But as so many have stated.. Tyler is the “fun” guy, definitely not the type to settle down.. he works for a show called P-Valley.. like imagine the type of women he will constantly work with 🫠
That’s a lie, he was engaged to his previous baby mama. Plus they got together almost a year after the first baby mama. Ask the baby mama herself, they were not together when she had their last kid. Plus different people bring out different things in people. Just because he was with his first for 10 years doesn’t mean they were ready for marriage. Also who said that he just up and left the fiancé? Sometimes people still try to make the relationship work even after its been dead. It’s sad that y’all don’t even know the full situation and are judging miracle smh. However I do agree that you should watch how your partner treat others.
How do you tell people to mind their business then speak on their life???!🙄🥱