It's very cool seeing you share meaningful messages Russell! It's sad how how our society glorifies and obsesses over celebrities, when most celebrities rarely do meaningful or inspiring things. Our culture is very backwards. Thanks for being a meaningful person and trying to do good in the world Russell. Keep at it. 👍😇
Indeed. Human society is in steep decline. When such vulgar creatures as the f**kin' Kardashians are followed by millions of un -thinking fools on Twitter/Instagram we are quite obviously in very sad times.
I had so many one night stands I couldn’t even count them when I was lost in drug and alcohol addiction, it’s just masturbating using another human as a glove . My karma was ending up feeling more alone and empty with each encounter . Being a lost soul sucks . 13 years sober and clean now and happily married 👌🏻better than any one night stand
Jeremy haven’t got a problem with it I just don’t think every person you’ve slept with leaves some sort of lingering emotional blueprint on you. Only the ones you had genuine feelings for I think
@@JeremyGalloway its not a problem unless the person throws themselves around without thinking what sort of people they are making those connections and getting that imprint with, and no its not just an emotional imprint, its also physical, people were taught that careless promiscuity is "adventurous" and "just a bit of fun" but its not true, it comes at a price and most people arent prepared to pay it. Depression, inability to form or hold relationships, low self-esteem and so on, thats what those people have to look forward to and nobody even acknowledges that they are related, that maybe a bunch of young people dealing with those things in increasing numbers and at a younger age may be related to their lifestyle choices, in the old days we called that "being jaded" and it was a bad thing, but today its the new norm.
In my experience one night stands were not the empowering experience I told myself they were. I never felt good about myself afterwards. I went into it thinking I was a strong woman who owned her sexuality but what was really going on was I was a lonely little girl that wanted daddy's love and approval. Since I was actually an adult and my father had died I realized that I couldn't continue being used and call it liberation. Everyone has their own battles to fight and dragons to slay so my story is my own and I'm in no way making any judgements.
Your next challenge is to understand that you were not being used; you were using others and allowing yourself to be used. Mistakes you made. Mistakes you can learn from. You will feel more and more empowered the less and less you see yourself in victim’s terms for the powerful choices you made. Because you are powerful. Capable of profound meaning.
I may be misunderstanding, but it sounds like what you are learning about yourself is: I used other people to provide for me the love I wanted from my father that I can only find in myself.
Great video, celibate two years after a very long term relationship. Had a one night stand, felt so crappy I decided to just be alone until I was emotionally available. Prefer the intimacy of talking and knowing someone. Much love people.☺
@@goldenstar9379 lord, much love sister. Good for you, it feels very lonely at times, I have my pillow 'Heathcliff'.... You give me strength, much love x
Competition and peer pressure within men is certainly a driver for hookup culture. As with woman, but more often with men if you haven’t had sex a certain number of times by a certain age you’re seen as lesser or weak. Basically every aspect of the hook up culture is damaging to both men and women
Matt Mayuiers That was me pretty much. A lot of my friends were hooking up on tinder and all that bullshit. I was the “late bloomer” losing my virginity at 19.
I felt instagram was damaging my life and always felt I could not live without it. When I eventually removed myself from it, I saw that I had so much mental space for more important things in life, things that gave me more meaning. I know this is not directly related to this video but it is correct that you never know how some things are affecting you until you move away from them..
I've never been a one night stand girl..for me the idea of it does not sit well with me. In fact the best thing I ever did was date my husband for 4 months without intimacy. It built a foundation of trust and let us get to know each other without what I call "Implied Obligation."That being said Russell..what you said here is invaluable. Stop doing what you are doing and see how you feel. I can think of other areas of my life I could apply this to..like overeating. Thank you.
Hard times I've had this month Russell. Your words and advice have guided me and kept me safe. Your recovery book and our chance encounter at one of your gigs had a deep psychological impact on me that only came to light recently. There was times I hated you, but in the end I realised it was a manifestation of my own problems being directed at the wrong people. Hopefully one day I'll be able to get my book signed by you and have a little chat about my recovery process thus far. Anyway whether that happens or not I just wanted you to know how big of a positive influence you have been to me during this time. Much love and respect will be getting your new book soon!
Speaking from experience, there is no better feeling than being in a relationship with someone compared to having one night stands after too many drinks in a pub. Finding someone you really connect with and love is a rare thing in my opinion, getting dates if you try is often easy enough, but finding the real thing is rare. If you do find that special person then dont take it for granted because it may just take you a long time to meet someone else again where you really have something amazing
Awwww. that's really sweet. You sound like you're in a lovely relationship right now. That's so lovely. In about three years, I can pretty much guarantee you'll be bored to death of each other and one of you - whichever one has the higher status in the sexual marketplace - will fuck someone else. Then you'll never see each other again. Enjoy it while it lasts, buddy!
it happens to all men eventually, unless they trade down. I have noticed that most men trade down these days, as it's the only way to keep a woman. Either way, men lose. Enjoy banging a mediocre bird for the rest of your life, being cucked, or being dumped.
@@StrangeAttractor I'm assuming you're MGTOW. That makes me sad, there are plenty of wonderful women in the world who would love you, just as you are. I'm sorry you had such a shitty experience.
@@StrangeAttractor I don't know if it's so much that you can't find them, I think that they might be around you already. But from your first comment, theres still that bitterness you are partly holding on to, acting almost as blinders on your eyes, like a negative confirmation bias. And I'm not blaming you, I can understand why you would feel that way. But the longer you hold onto that anger, the more it controls you and shields you from experiencing love again. There cannot be true love without vulnerability.
One night stands always felt a bit empty. When I was backpacking around the west coast occasionally I'd meet a girl and things would go down. Even if ya share info eventually the messages die out. I guess I'm a bit of an undercover romantic. I want a lasting connection. So no more one night stands for me.
Speaking historically, I was so love-starved, attention-starved and dealing with a very serious mental illness, that I would go to night clubs five days a week, looking for "love." I didn't know how to demonstrate it or make real connections so I would trade my body for these really ugly, empty "connections." The guilt-shame cycle made me feel worse, so more one-night stands occurred. I'm lucky to be alive in many respects. Although I don't engage in that behavior anymore I am still finding my way of how to have deep, meaningful connections. Working on my food issues now. It's been a very long road to arresting multiple addictions.
@Di Ane they sure do. I call them a distraction, in the greatest sense of the word. My daily meditation practice is helping me to reconnect with myself. An app was suggested to me in my refuge recovery meeting and I'm so glad it was. I start out my mornings meditating and setting my intention instead of immediately jumping on social media. More days than not I have joy that is sustained throughout the entire day. I never get that from social media.
@@Purplenpinkk yes. When I was in my early twenties my older sister made me sit down and watch it with her. It didn't resonate with me at that point because I hadn't lost enough through my sexual addiction yet.
@@Purplenpinkk it's one of her best roles in my opinion. It was so well done in explaining why she had a sexual addiction. If you remember, it's because she had scoliosis and was super self-conscious about it, not to mention the physical pain it caused her growing up. Her family's opinion on it certainly didn't help either!
I think one night stands are on the animal's spectrum end (no offence). It's basicly fullfiling a very simple predatory instinct. Long term relationship requieres tolerance, acceptance, forgiveness, loyalty & its a hard grind sometimes.
this is what hes getting across, one night stands are fine but if they are being used to help deal with loneliness and self worth then its an issue, everything in moderation
They're only on the animal spectrum of things if your intention during one night stands is to impregnate the person you're having the one night stand with. If that's not your intention, then they have little to nothing to do with instinctual behavior.
Russell you are the bomb. Literally one of my favorite celebrities... so down to earth and a breath of fresh air with your honesty about your life and sober living. You have always touched me with your words. Truly an amazing inspiration to me...
It's crazy how you just randomly come across videos like these right at the time where you literally start thinking about a topic and then Russell Brand of all people is giving me relatable advice of the topic... Thank you Universe.
I love every single one of these videos. Even though i may not relate to them, learning a new perspective or energy about things really interests me and places me in a spot that I feel most comfortble.
As someone who has been through mental health counseling and seen truth in my life... I absolutely love that you say to stop doing something if you think it's problematic and see what feelings come up. I can't stress enough how important I've found this to be. What you will find is if you stop doing something and those feelings come up, that its probably something from deep in your past, likely childhood, that you've hidden from yourself and do things to cover up the pain. in reality your pain needs felt and expressed or it will never diminish. you can usually tell someone's level of pain with the drug they're using to cover it. honestly im just really appreciating the truth in what you're saying.
Mr. Brand, you have been an inspiration, insight and otherwise a habitual overseer of individual and mass stability. You give a face and voice to thoughts others try to project and encompass with futility. With much gratitude, thank you for being you, an individual, and expressing logical opinions. You are more than a breathe of fresh air, you are tidings to the garden of oxygen and have been so for a great many years to those open-minded. Thank you again, sir. Much love.
Not something I think we should be doing. The energy exchange is profound. Would prefer not to share that with someone who regularly does have one night stands, can't imagine what's energies are 'collected'... And then shared with you. Hence the flat empty feeling in the days that follow. Extremely draining. Really not worth it..
hollywood is high school prom on steroids, it's all a big superficial show of ego driven people craving attention. Russell must have seen the danger in those circles. His Katy Perry days are over. Now he perhaps has more fulfilling relationships with women he truly connects with.
You are the first person I've heard give actually good insight as to why one shouldn't sleep around. I came to this conclusion last year as I realized I didn't know how to comfort myself and deal with my feelings of fear and grief. Since then I've been doing my best to create new reactions when I'm feeling triggered, consciously trying to feel feelings and self soothe. Before I felt like I was starving myself of emotional connection and intimacy when I wouldn't have a lover but now I can see I was missing intimacy with myself.
I think a lot of people who have turned to pick up artistry as a way to cope with their emotional issues really need to see this. I'm kinda guilty of it myself and man, I really don't think it helps much. It has its place at certain times in your life, especially if you aren't ready for a real relationship, but it just isn't any kind of substitute for real intimacy.
Honestly, I feel as though the more pervasive problem these days is that many people don't have any connections at all. Loneliness and isolation seem more prevalent than meaningless sex.
Why? Stop thinking you're suppose to live your life a certain way. Focus on what makes you a better human being and reach your potential. If it doesn't add to that principle (like one night stands) then don't even think about it. You're really not missing out by the way.
Hahaha actually, shit, you just made me realize I'm concerned about that too! Actually in all seriousness, I just realized right now, reading this, I have been celibate for exactly one entire year....not by choice, not on purpose, not cuz I'm better than anyone else...just cuz...hell I dunno how it even happened! Should I be concerned about that too lol Please tell me I'm gonna get some kind of revelation cookie after this or something haha... again, seriously tho, know what...I didn't even "feel" it (my God I'm handing you people the stick by putting it this way here ain't I!!!)...i had legit not even realized this until right now. Oh fuckin well. I don't know when the next time I'll spread my legs will be but, hopefully, it won't be like I used to do in my early 20s (...shit, I really AM handing you the stick, it's not even a stick, it's a baseball bat at this point lol)!
I am 28 and going through a Paradigm Shift. I am thoroughly grateful for your teachings. You, Owen from RSD, Elliott Hulse, and many others have made this...man, it's been crazy...this......experience? so much more smooth than it could've been. Transition! Should've said transition. Anyway. Thanks!
What a smooth way to have us think about the subject. Thanks Russel. I really enjoying getting the morning notification about your new videos. Thank you
Finally some common sense on this issue! People tend to go from one extreme to the other on this topic, especially on youtube, and neither is a healthy approach. I, personally, was never into one night stands, but judging it never seemed justified either..
You are being heard, Russell. You're helping a lot of people to awaken to these concepts with a sense of purity that others can sense and trust. The universe is responding to you and elevating your platform to many hearts in need of an awakening. It's really cool to watch your mission unfolding.
Omg i liked katy perry once and despised this guy. After they marry im like ,whaaat, but after divorce this guy seems to start learning and growing from his former self and katy just gone completaly insane.. :D
We should empathize with both of them. Russell used to be that guy before but has grown a lot. Let's root for Katy's growth as well. Everyone is on a journey. :)
Crazy to watch - he becomes spiritual while she has gone from a gospel singer to making satanic themed videos for her music. Poor girls brain seems to have gone awol. Have you seen her in conversation with Neil De Grasse Tyson? To quote "are maths and science linked?" 🤔
Russel, you, Ackhart tolle and Jordan Peterson have really helped me lately. Don’t stop what you are doing people in general need this type of advice in life.
I've been abstinent for a year and a half while I'm in a recovery program. It has opened my eyes so much about my co-dependency. Also its so much less work not trying to seduce people into my bed.
completely untrue. My one ONS experiences have come from women on dating apps who feel lonely, especially around christmas time. They weren't drunk but instead needed affection and were probably in the mood. Personally I don't do ONS's any more. Makes me feel bad, both morally and hygienically ,after.
This video came at the exact time I needed it. It feels as if you know the answers to all my worries. Your mind is brilliant, it's truly a force to be reckoned with, in the best way possible.
Nothing wrong with that, I'd never have one myself. Isn't it better to pursue a real and meaningful relationship instead? Or come to terms with that we don't really need sex to live a meaningful life.
@@troxnysrefuge6727 Absolutely could not agree more. The most important relationship you will ever have during your life time is with Self! There is more to life than just Sex! (spiritually speaking) Let's not forget to mention looking after your health etc. Believe me you haven't missed anything its completely overrated than being in a meaningful relationship.
@UA-cam Account What about feminism, me too movement false rape allegations and 4th wave that hates men and the laws that screw them in the court, male suicide ect.?
@UA-cam Account mgtow just acknowledge female nature and behaviour and the laws concerning family court and basically the damages decades of feminism has caused, in return it also serves as a self actualisation and a refocus on oneself Mgtow men can still have a girlfriend, one night stand etc, but will never get married or cohabitate with a women at least not in this western world and with a western/westernized woman, that's the core of mgtow. Now people like yourself who are naturally against mgtow can only come up with the frustration and anger that some mgtow express online, mgtow is not perfect and not for every man but the teaching and information it gives are for all men
Wow to be honest I saw the title and I thought oh here we go , I subscribed a while ago and have not been watching your videos for a bit. But I clicked on on this video and I'm glad it did. Your message was simple and clear , very profound. Thank you .
Russy old boy keep the love coming!💚❤️ Your such a beautiful soul. So grateful for you and these videos you do. There extremely valuable and helpful to people.😁 Please never stop making them mate👏💚
I think some people just like different partners, or just sex in general, me personally hate 1 night stands , I just like a good old fashioned heterosexual relationship xxx
lol everybody here talking about one night stands like its just a normal thing everyone experiences . "oh just try not to have a one night stand for a while" haha does hooking up really come that easily to you people? Well my self esteem has just been significantly lowered. I knew i shouldnt have clicked on this video haa
Hey brother dont say that shit. Hold your head high. There is absolutely nothing of value to be found in a one night. You are a beautiful human being who has value in this world. You dont need to use or be used be someone to know that. Save yourself for the right one. They will admire your patience and willpower. The only reason anyone says anything positive about a one night stand is to cope with their regret.
don't put this as an standard for high self esteem that is bound to be failure. most of people aren't succsesful in these things. People should have high self esteem as a norm always no matter what happenings come and go or don't come. If your happiness depends on something so specific you'll be moping around and bringing yourself and others down.
I believe in the system of chakras and here's how I see it. Yes, maybe as you said it happens because you are not available for emotional intimacy. _Or_ it is actually just a connection on the sexual chakra. Certain environments, culture, alcohol, and other factors could produce a connection only in this chakra. So I agree with your advice: see what happens when you change your lifestyle and notice if you are now connecting to people in a more holistic way.
There may be some of you like me who have had a one night stand and to be honest enjoyed it but from experience having this lifestyle does not bring happiness and it is far more fulfilling to have a relationship that the temporary brief satisfaction of the chase. Thanks Russel for you mentioning that is it to fill a void re approval, loneliness both of which I suffer.
Russell Russell Russell, let's be a bit more honest and try to not over- intellectualise things by use of big words. The reason you used to be inclined to indulge in all those one night stands not so very long ago wasn't because you were not "available for intimate, emotional and psychological relationships" , but because you were a right randy bugger who wanted to shag his way through all the crumpet which were offering it up to you on a plate. 🎩
you’re so awesome Russell.... your short little messages are powerful, and calm (: i don’t follow any celebrities or mainstream stuff because it’s all so fake... but seeing that you’ve changed and your spreading these messages they give me so much hope! real > fake 🙌🏼💓
That's great advice here. Not necessarily only about one night stands but also, truly, it works with any kind of behaviour, that is if you are ready to see its repercussions on your life and are willing to find out and face the reasons causing said behaviour. Sometimes, some of those behaviours i think are definitely harder to face than others, like in the case of drugs for example (I'll out myself here and say I speak from experience as a recovering heroin addict...) All I can say is....again, it's truly great advice here that everyone should take a real listen to because besides just pointing at what's wrong with you it tells you the cause of it which in turn helps you get into the right direction when it comes to fixing yourself. And that, dear folk, is the best kind of input you can get.
I read many years ago that every time one has sex with a stranger that the stranger takes a little bit of one's soul away with him/her. So, I want to be very careful who I give away "part of me".
In a way I think that's true but it mightn't be a bad thing. When I fall on hard times I often find myself reminiscing about times with certain people. I think it has helped me grow as a person. I like to think of it more like sharing the souls of each other.
I've never heard anyone say that actually but weirdly, that is pretty much how I feel about it. I just feel sex requires sharing and giving so much of your energy with someone. It's like sharing a part of yourself. That is why I've never done the one night stand thing and don't understand (but never judge) how ppl are capable of doing it so often and feel alright and thrive even. Maybe they're just saying they are? I know I'd feel so depleted & torn up.
It's wonderful to hear you talk Russell, you are amazing, I'm glad you found yourself. When you talk, besides the amazing knowledge you shower us with, we get a glimpse at how your mind works ... Just brilliant, much love and ☮️
@Chief Sunnah "How about finding a good woman for *yourself* instead" That right there... You shouldn't focus on having something or someone. Accept that relationships come and go and hopefully, they make you wiser before they dissolve. Our main focus should be to better ourselves and express our uniqueness through the burning passion that everybody posses. Focusing on romance, makes us needy. No one can fill that void, it has to come within. You are welcome to hit me up, if you have more questions and want to elaborate further.
He said it in a way that makes everybody feel better. If I had a daughter I would tell her not to allow a man to open the gift until Christmas. She probably wouldn't listen as many dont but then after she does what she does then the consequences come. Hurt feelings, being used, etc. Hey, do as you wish but I definitely know what is right and wrong. Our bodies are saved for that special someone. I wont go any further. I feel like I'm preaching from my own mistakes.
Missed you Russell.. am starting a video series on fatherhood soon which I would love to think you’d engage with and maybe even enjoy! You’re one of the people who inspire me and I’m very grateful for that inspiration cos I have managed to have and continue to have an awesome life. Thanks for sharing your energy with the world! All the best
My girlfriend and I broke up 3 months ago, she's been going off with lots of guys and I asked her about how she could do that ( we were together for 5 years at this point) because I felt like I meant nothing to her ? She told me she needed to fill a void that wasn't there but with that I saw huge issues
I don't know why you make me laugh out loud even though I find what you say so thoughtful and heartfelt. I guess life is funny to me. Love all of you thumbs uppers
I promise UA-cam LOVES you, barely watched any of your videos for the lest few weeks but still get notifications for literally every video but no notifications from youtubers that i watch constistantly
It's very cool seeing you share meaningful messages Russell! It's sad how how our society glorifies and obsesses over celebrities, when most celebrities rarely do meaningful or inspiring things. Our culture is very backwards. Thanks for being a meaningful person and trying to do good in the world Russell. Keep at it. 👍😇
Are you still on NoFap?
Well said
Indeed. Human society is in steep decline. When such vulgar creatures as the f**kin' Kardashians are followed by millions of un -thinking fools on Twitter/Instagram we are quite obviously in very sad times.
a truer word was never spoken.
Tanveer Gill ‘slayed’ ‘chicks’ - you’re a classy man.
I had so many one night stands I couldn’t even count them when I was lost in drug and alcohol addiction, it’s just masturbating using another human as a glove . My karma was ending up feeling more alone and empty with each encounter . Being a lost soul sucks . 13 years sober and clean now and happily married 👌🏻better than any one night stand
Jamie D congratulations!
Wow
Fantastic Jamie, well done to you!
Marriage is boring
Every person you get that close to affects you permanently and you do the same to them, you might not even notice it but you imprint on each-other.
BigChiefWiggles V this is straight bullshit
What’s the problem with that? Sounds kinda beautiful tbh, haha
Jeremy haven’t got a problem with it I just don’t think every person you’ve slept with leaves some sort of lingering emotional blueprint on you. Only the ones you had genuine feelings for I think
@@JeremyGalloway its not a problem unless the person throws themselves around without thinking what sort of people they are making those connections and getting that imprint with, and no its not just an emotional imprint, its also physical, people were taught that careless promiscuity is "adventurous" and "just a bit of fun" but its not true, it comes at a price and most people arent prepared to pay it. Depression, inability to form or hold relationships, low self-esteem and so on, thats what those people have to look forward to and nobody even acknowledges that they are related, that maybe a bunch of young people dealing with those things in increasing numbers and at a younger age may be related to their lifestyle choices, in the old days we called that "being jaded" and it was a bad thing, but today its the new norm.
Fuck. This comment has seriously seriously resonated with me
In my experience one night stands were not the empowering experience I told myself they were. I never felt good about myself afterwards. I went into it thinking I was a strong woman who owned her sexuality but what was really going on was I was a lonely little girl that wanted daddy's love and approval. Since I was actually an adult and my father had died I realized that I couldn't continue being used and call it liberation. Everyone has their own battles to fight and dragons to slay so my story is my own and I'm in no way making any judgements.
Bobina?!!!!
You say you were being used, while you were using them.
Your next challenge is to understand that you were not being used; you were using others and allowing yourself to be used.
Mistakes you made.
Mistakes you can learn from.
You will feel more and more empowered the less and less you see yourself in victim’s terms for the powerful choices you made.
Because you are powerful. Capable of profound meaning.
I may be misunderstanding, but it sounds like what you are learning about yourself is:
I used other people to provide for me the love I wanted from my father that I can only find in myself.
TheSwoleBroscientist lol piss off
Great video, celibate two years after a very long term relationship. Had a one night stand, felt so crappy I decided to just be alone until I was emotionally available. Prefer the intimacy of talking and knowing someone. Much love people.☺
So do I
Six years now ...
80/20 It's will get better in time and it's going to hurt while it heals .
@@goldenstar9379 lord, much love sister. Good for you, it feels very lonely at times, I have my pillow 'Heathcliff'....
You give me strength, much love x
You just after resources, attention and status like the rest and that alone.
Competition and peer pressure within men is certainly a driver for hookup culture. As with woman, but more often with men if you haven’t had sex a certain number of times by a certain age you’re seen as lesser or weak. Basically every aspect of the hook up culture is damaging to both men and women
Matt Mayuiers That was me pretty much. A lot of my friends were hooking up on tinder and all that bullshit. I was the “late bloomer” losing my virginity at 19.
Someone said once if you in your twenties and haven't fucked twenty+ ppl yet you are a weirdo.
Ranin Zadviylet It happens when it happens you know
@@nefelibata4190 I'm 23m, coming 24 soon and I'm still a virgin:(
I felt instagram was damaging my life and always felt I could not live without it. When I eventually removed myself from it, I saw that I had so much mental space for more important things in life, things that gave me more meaning. I know this is not directly related to this video but it is correct that you never know how some things are affecting you until you move away from them..
Now you replaced insta with youtube
I've never been a one night stand girl..for me the idea of it does not sit well with me. In fact the best thing I ever did was date my husband for 4 months without intimacy. It built a foundation of trust and let us get to know each other without what I call "Implied Obligation."That being said Russell..what you said here is invaluable. Stop doing what you are doing and see how you feel. I can think of other areas of my life I could apply this to..like overeating. Thank you.
Well I don't have a choice, the only way I can get laid with a lady is via a serious relationship. I am not Russel Brand.
Women like you are rare and of the highest quality and deserving of much love
Wifey material 🙌
Thank you for always having subtitles on your videos! It makes a big difference with your hearing-impaired viewers!
You can turn captions on settings on UA-cam aswell :)
Russell I hope you realize what a positive force you are in the world!! Thank you for these educational videos.
Lol he had been a drug addled raving nutter for most of it
groan!
Hes turning into a wizard. Suddenly it all makes sense.
"You're a wizard Russell" "I'm a what?"
What exactly?
Hard times I've had this month Russell. Your words and advice have guided me and kept me safe. Your recovery book and our chance encounter at one of your gigs had a deep psychological impact on me that only came to light recently. There was times I hated you, but in the end I realised it was a manifestation of my own problems being directed at the wrong people. Hopefully one day I'll be able to get my book signed by you and have a little chat about my recovery process thus far. Anyway whether that happens or not I just wanted you to know how big of a positive influence you have been to me during this time. Much love and respect will be getting your new book soon!
No such thing as chance.. It was to be for you to grow. Blessings in your journey.
Lol stalker alert 🚨
Jamie Oliver nuh uh
HOPE LAUREL thank you so much
Harold BeaumontFinns - Well done! Real positive steps
Speaking from experience, there is no better feeling than being in a relationship with someone compared to having one night stands after too many drinks in a pub. Finding someone you really connect with and love is a rare thing in my opinion, getting dates if you try is often easy enough, but finding the real thing is rare. If you do find that special person then dont take it for granted because it may just take you a long time to meet someone else again where you really have something amazing
Awwww. that's really sweet. You sound like you're in a lovely relationship right now. That's so lovely.
In about three years, I can pretty much guarantee you'll be bored to death of each other and one of you - whichever one has the higher status in the sexual marketplace - will fuck someone else. Then you'll never see each other again.
Enjoy it while it lasts, buddy!
it happens to all men eventually, unless they trade down. I have noticed that most men trade down these days, as it's the only way to keep a woman. Either way, men lose. Enjoy banging a mediocre bird for the rest of your life, being cucked, or being dumped.
@@StrangeAttractor I'm assuming you're MGTOW. That makes me sad, there are plenty of wonderful women in the world who would love you, just as you are. I'm sorry you had such a shitty experience.
well where are they all hiding? I think I've found, like 3 in 25 years of looking...
@@StrangeAttractor I don't know if it's so much that you can't find them, I think that they might be around you already. But from your first comment, theres still that bitterness you are partly holding on to, acting almost as blinders on your eyes, like a negative confirmation bias. And I'm not blaming you, I can understand why you would feel that way. But the longer you hold onto that anger, the more it controls you and shields you from experiencing love again. There cannot be true love without vulnerability.
How I would love to sit in a pub and have a conversation with this man. Wow, thank you for your positive vibes and videos.
You are very helpful. Thank you for taking your time making these video's I think you're a very genuine person and a great example of a human being.
One night stands always felt a bit empty. When I was backpacking around the west coast occasionally I'd meet a girl and things would go down. Even if ya share info eventually the messages die out. I guess I'm a bit of an undercover romantic. I want a lasting connection. So no more one night stands for me.
Really enjoying these short informational videos well done Russell
Speaking historically, I was so love-starved, attention-starved and dealing with a very serious mental illness, that I would go to night clubs five days a week, looking for "love." I didn't know how to demonstrate it or make real connections so I would trade my body for these really ugly, empty "connections." The guilt-shame cycle made me feel worse, so more one-night stands occurred. I'm lucky to be alive in many respects. Although I don't engage in that behavior anymore I am still finding my way of how to have deep, meaningful connections. Working on my food issues now. It's been a very long road to arresting multiple addictions.
@Di Ane they sure do. I call them a distraction, in the greatest sense of the word. My daily meditation practice is helping me to reconnect with myself. An app was suggested to me in my refuge recovery meeting and I'm so glad it was. I start out my mornings meditating and setting my intention instead of immediately jumping on social media. More days than not I have joy that is sustained throughout the entire day. I never get that from social media.
@@katjames7601 what was the app?
@@Purplenpinkk yes. When I was in my early twenties my older sister made me sit down and watch it with her. It didn't resonate with me at that point because I hadn't lost enough through my sexual addiction yet.
@@kratos.8151 it's called Insight Timer. Amazing. Please let me know if you download it and use it😊.
@@Purplenpinkk it's one of her best roles in my opinion. It was so well done in explaining why she had a sexual addiction. If you remember, it's because she had scoliosis and was super self-conscious about it, not to mention the physical pain it caused her growing up. Her family's opinion on it certainly didn't help either!
You're looking very well. The way you carry yourself says 'strength and confidence.'
Very proud, sir.
I think one night stands are on the animal's spectrum end (no offence). It's basicly fullfiling a very simple predatory instinct. Long term relationship requieres tolerance, acceptance, forgiveness, loyalty & its a hard grind sometimes.
Agree.
Amen 🙏
this is what hes getting across, one night stands are fine but if they are being used to help deal with loneliness and self worth then its an issue, everything in moderation
Many men don’t have time or patience for long term relationships, especially with the postmodern western women and their demands lmao
They're only on the animal spectrum of things if your intention during one night stands is to impregnate the person you're having the one night stand with. If that's not your intention, then they have little to nothing to do with instinctual behavior.
Russell you are the bomb. Literally one of my favorite celebrities... so down to earth and a breath of fresh air with your honesty about your life and sober living. You have always touched me with your words. Truly an amazing inspiration to me...
It's crazy how you just randomly come across videos like these right at the time where you literally start thinking about a topic and then Russell Brand of all people is giving me relatable advice of the topic... Thank you Universe.
I love every single one of these videos. Even though i may not relate to them, learning a new perspective or energy about things really interests me and places me in a spot that I feel most comfortble.
I love these little wisdom-filled videos!
As someone who has been through mental health counseling and seen truth in my life... I absolutely love that you say to stop doing something if you think it's problematic and see what feelings come up. I can't stress enough how important I've found this to be. What you will find is if you stop doing something and those feelings come up, that its probably something from deep in your past, likely childhood, that you've hidden from yourself and do things to cover up the pain. in reality your pain needs felt and expressed or it will never diminish. you can usually tell someone's level of pain with the drug they're using to cover it. honestly im just really appreciating the truth in what you're saying.
Mr. Brand, you have been an inspiration, insight and otherwise a habitual overseer of individual and mass stability. You give a face and voice to thoughts others try to project and encompass with futility. With much gratitude, thank you for being you, an individual, and expressing logical opinions. You are more than a breathe of fresh air, you are tidings to the garden of oxygen and have been so for a great many years to those open-minded. Thank you again, sir. Much love.
Russell, you're a timeless gem that just keeps on giving. So much love x
Not something I think we should be doing. The energy exchange is profound. Would prefer not to share that with someone who regularly does have one night stands, can't imagine what's energies are 'collected'... And then shared with you. Hence the flat empty feeling in the days that follow. Extremely draining. Really not worth it..
That's just you feeling like a used where.... thats all that is
Forget what energy is collected.
What diseases have these people collected.
I relate to this. I’ve been staying away from them and trying to form more deep meaningful connections. Thank you for this video.
What a turnaround from how you used to be. You’re really quite helpful now.
hollywood is high school prom on steroids, it's all a big superficial show of ego driven people craving attention. Russell must have seen the danger in those circles. His Katy Perry days are over. Now he perhaps has more fulfilling relationships with women he truly connects with.
You are the first person I've heard give actually good insight as to why one shouldn't sleep around. I came to this conclusion last year as I realized I didn't know how to comfort myself and deal with my feelings of fear and grief. Since then I've been doing my best to create new reactions when I'm feeling triggered, consciously trying to feel feelings and self soothe. Before I felt like I was starving myself of emotional connection and intimacy when I wouldn't have a lover but now I can see I was missing intimacy with myself.
I think a lot of people who have turned to pick up artistry as a way to cope with their emotional issues really need to see this. I'm kinda guilty of it myself and man, I really don't think it helps much. It has its place at certain times in your life, especially if you aren't ready for a real relationship, but it just isn't any kind of substitute for real intimacy.
I think a lot more scrutiny will come of this in light of recent acussations of 16 year old school girl and taxi collection from school?
No one night stands, and feeling like I just can’t connect with anyone for something meaningful. Anybody else?
One of the most fascinating persons on Earth. I like how he literally just plays himself in everything.
i thank the universe for your existence and you making these videos every day :) much love!
Ah yes... One night stands... Totally underrated & mainly for people who know the difference between love & sex.
Hes slowly transforming into Alan Watts
Nope he wishes he was
Wow awful comparison - youre a tool
1 divorce down, 3 to go ...
(Only joking)
He wishes!!
Lol, thanks for the laugh
Dude, I seriously love the information you share in your videos! Thanks so much Russell🙏
What a great blessing you are. Thank God for your recovery. 🙏
Honestly, I feel as though the more pervasive problem these days is that many people don't have any connections at all. Loneliness and isolation seem more prevalent than meaningless sex.
I'm not having one night stands and I'm concerned about that!
Oisin Murray I want him to shave.
Hahaha
Why? Stop thinking you're suppose to live your life a certain way. Focus on what makes you a better human being and reach your potential. If it doesn't add to that principle (like one night stands) then don't even think about it. You're really not missing out by the way.
I don’t have any night stands.
Hahaha actually, shit, you just made me realize I'm concerned about that too! Actually in all seriousness, I just realized right now, reading this, I have been celibate for exactly one entire year....not by choice, not on purpose, not cuz I'm better than anyone else...just cuz...hell I dunno how it even happened! Should I be concerned about that too lol Please tell me I'm gonna get some kind of revelation cookie after this or something haha... again, seriously tho, know what...I didn't even "feel" it (my God I'm handing you people the stick by putting it this way here ain't I!!!)...i had legit not even realized this until right now. Oh fuckin well. I don't know when the next time I'll spread my legs will be but, hopefully, it won't be like I used to do in my early 20s (...shit, I really AM handing you the stick, it's not even a stick, it's a baseball bat at this point lol)!
Thank you for creating this video and all the work you do!!Your way of expressing matters is just brilliant!!
I am 28 and going through a Paradigm Shift. I am thoroughly grateful for your teachings. You, Owen from RSD, Elliott Hulse, and many others have made this...man, it's been crazy...this......experience? so much more smooth than it could've been. Transition! Should've said transition. Anyway. Thanks!
When you see other people as casual sexual prospects you are simultaneously doing the same to yourself.
Jordan Peterson
*Fernando Serico* ~ Yes bro👌
I’m cool with that
That't because you're a degenerate
@@WJstudios04 have fun getting an STD
How about those who are tired of getting hurt in relationships but are not ready to totally give up on sex just yet? What is your advice to them?
What a smooth way to have us think about the subject. Thanks Russel. I really enjoying getting the morning notification about your new videos. Thank you
This needs to be a longer one. Lots of juicy wisdom here, thanks, Russell
Finally some common sense on this issue!
People tend to go from one extreme to the other on this topic, especially on youtube, and neither is a healthy approach.
I, personally, was never into one night stands, but judging it never seemed justified either..
I had a one night stand once. Now there is a guy that looks like me always following me around asking for money.
😂😂😂
You was hoping for more likes weren’t you
@@WizzWins I was always hoping that OverWank would reply to my comment but instead I got you. ☹️
You are being heard, Russell. You're helping a lot of people to awaken to these concepts with a sense of purity that others can sense and trust. The universe is responding to you and elevating your platform to many hearts in need of an awakening. It's really cool to watch your mission unfolding.
Great advice, and without casting judgement (which is so easy to do when talking about this subject). Thanks Russell xx
I consider him to be one of the wisest, and most well-spoken man that we have in public service.
Lots of love and Respect for you Mr. Brand~
Omg i liked katy perry once and despised this guy. After they marry im like ,whaaat, but after divorce this guy seems to start learning and growing from his former self and katy just gone completaly insane.. :D
We should empathize with both of them. Russell used to be that guy before but has grown a lot. Let's root for Katy's growth as well. Everyone is on a journey. :)
Crazy to watch - he becomes spiritual while she has gone from a gospel singer to making satanic themed videos for her music.
Poor girls brain seems to have gone awol.
Have you seen her in conversation with Neil De Grasse Tyson?
To quote "are maths and science linked?" 🤔
He was always very smart, but a bit uncontrolled in life (addictive personality). Very interesting man.
That's usually the case, we only learn after we fall...the thing is, it's toi late then, no one really gives a crap as they've fallen too
I’m really enjoying this mature and calmer Russell Brand. Your thoughts resonates me in some ways. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽
Russel, you, Ackhart tolle and Jordan Peterson have really helped me lately. Don’t stop what you are doing people in general need this type of advice in life.
I've been abstinent for a year and a half while I'm in a recovery program. It has opened my eyes so much about my co-dependency. Also its so much less work not trying to seduce people into my bed.
Tia Bez Congratulations also every person we are intimate with they bring those spirits in us literally 👹it adds up
@@lovewhitey2027 i believe you.
I doubt you had to seduce anybody . One come phuck me text does it for most men.
@@teddythickness7734 LMAO right
remove alcohol from the equation and it does not happen
True
That’s quite a generalisation
Viagra?
Theres a lot of other drugs that can get me by in the mean time lol
completely untrue. My one ONS experiences have come from women on dating apps who feel lonely, especially around christmas time. They weren't drunk but instead needed affection and were probably in the mood. Personally I don't do ONS's any more. Makes me feel bad, both morally and hygienically ,after.
Love these new videos! Great advice.
This video came at the exact time I needed it. It feels as if you know the answers to all my worries. Your mind is brilliant, it's truly a force to be reckoned with, in the best way possible.
I am incapable of having a one night stand. Wish i could.
Nothing wrong with that, I'd never have one myself. Isn't it better to pursue a real and meaningful relationship instead? Or come to terms with that we don't really need sex to live a meaningful life.
Why? So you can be another "sheep" following debauchery lifestyle?
@@troxnysrefuge6727 Absolutely could not agree more. The most important relationship you will ever have during your life time is with Self! There is more to life than just Sex! (spiritually speaking) Let's not forget to mention looking after your health etc. Believe me you haven't missed anything its completely overrated than being in a meaningful relationship.
Elizabeth Ayres
STD clinics are often visited by people who wish they hadn't!
Oh boy I think youve summoned all the people who feel sexually inadequate but can't express it properly lol
Whats your thought on MGTOW.
@UA-cam Account What about feminism, me too movement false rape allegations and 4th wave that hates men and the laws that screw them in the court, male suicide ect.?
@UA-cam Account So where do you see it all ending up because its growing.
@UA-cam Account Men are also considering bots instead of humans for there needs.
@UA-cam Account mgtow just acknowledge female nature and behaviour and the laws concerning family court and basically the damages decades of feminism has caused, in return it also serves as a self actualisation and a refocus on oneself Mgtow men can still have a girlfriend, one night stand etc, but will never get married or cohabitate with a women at least not in this western world and with a western/westernized woman, that's the core of mgtow. Now people like yourself who are naturally against mgtow can only come up with the frustration and anger that some mgtow express online, mgtow is not perfect and not for every man but the teaching and information it gives are for all men
Wow to be honest I saw the title and I thought oh here we go , I subscribed a while ago and have not been watching your videos for a bit. But I clicked on on this video and I'm glad it did. Your message was simple and clear , very profound. Thank you .
Russy old boy keep the love coming!💚❤️ Your such a beautiful soul. So grateful for you and these videos you do. There extremely valuable and helpful to people.😁 Please never stop making them mate👏💚
I think some people just like different partners, or just sex in general, me personally hate 1 night stands , I just like a good old fashioned heterosexual relationship xxx
lol everybody here talking about one night stands like its just a normal thing everyone experiences . "oh just try not to have a one night stand for a while" haha does hooking up really come that easily to you people? Well my self esteem has just been significantly lowered. I knew i shouldnt have clicked on this video haa
It does too women. Just reality man.
Hey brother dont say that shit. Hold your head high. There is absolutely nothing of value to be found in a one night.
You are a beautiful human being who has value in this world. You dont need to use or be used be someone to know that. Save yourself for the right one. They will admire your patience and willpower.
The only reason anyone says anything positive about a one night stand is to cope with their regret.
don't put this as an standard for high self esteem that is bound to be failure. most of people aren't succsesful in these things. People should have high self esteem as a norm always no matter what happenings come and go or don't come. If your happiness depends on something so specific you'll be moping around and bringing yourself and others down.
I believe in the system of chakras and here's how I see it. Yes, maybe as you said it happens because you are not available for emotional intimacy. _Or_ it is actually just a connection on the sexual chakra. Certain environments, culture, alcohol, and other factors could produce a connection only in this chakra. So I agree with your advice: see what happens when you change your lifestyle and notice if you are now connecting to people in a more holistic way.
There may be some of you like me who have had a one night stand and to be honest enjoyed it but from experience having this lifestyle does not bring happiness and it is far more fulfilling to have a relationship that the temporary brief satisfaction of the chase. Thanks Russel for you mentioning that is it to fill a void re approval, loneliness both of which I suffer.
Russell Russell Russell, let's be a bit more honest and try to not over- intellectualise things by use of big words. The reason you used to be inclined to indulge in all those one night stands not so very long ago wasn't because you were not "available for intimate, emotional and psychological relationships" , but because you were a right randy bugger who wanted to shag his way through all the crumpet which were offering it up to you on a plate. 🎩
Yes. Russell was addicted to pussy!
Yeah like most men if they had been in his position....
Alice Mc
....precisely.🎩
Vagatarian I think it's called
Except that he had that problem long before he had money and fame. Those factors only exacerbated it.
Judging is not helpful, or needed. This was all very well said. Good advice, clear, fair and well said.
“Judging is not helpful or needed.” - perhaps the stupidest thing that has ever been said.
These are great, keep it up please, very helpful
Thank you for these videos Russell.
I was lost in drugs.
This video saved my life.
Thank you Russell
I wish I could have more one night stands. I find those pretty impossible to get and they look so great.
you’re so awesome Russell.... your short little messages are powerful, and calm (: i don’t follow any celebrities or mainstream stuff because it’s all so fake... but seeing that you’ve changed and your spreading these messages they give me so much hope! real > fake 🙌🏼💓
Once again, I'm loving these little truth nuggets! Keep them coming
One night stands hurt women every time, without fail. It ruins their ability to pairbond
No it doesn't
Sure seems that way I only encounter egocentric women these days it's sad.
It fucks males also
This dude has the vocal mannerisms of someone whomst has abused a lot of low quality acid
Well, he was an addict at one point. So, you're not wrong.
I just love his looks
That's great advice here. Not necessarily only about one night stands but also, truly, it works with any kind of behaviour, that is if you are ready to see its repercussions on your life and are willing to find out and face the reasons causing said behaviour. Sometimes, some of those behaviours i think are definitely harder to face than others, like in the case of drugs for example (I'll out myself here and say I speak from experience as a recovering heroin addict...)
All I can say is....again, it's truly great advice here that everyone should take a real listen to because besides just pointing at what's wrong with you it tells you the cause of it which in turn helps you get into the right direction when it comes to fixing yourself. And that, dear folk, is the best kind of input you can get.
Good comment, and congratulations on your recovery. I hope this next chapter is a bright one for you.
Pretty easy for most guys to not have one night stands, lol
I read many years ago that every time one has sex with a stranger that the stranger takes a little bit of one's soul away with him/her. So, I want to be very careful who I give away "part of me".
I have thought and said many many years now possibly at least 15 up to 20 years.Just not one stands either.
I heard Lady Gaga say something like that haha
@Karan I'm not even a fan I just remembered hearing her saying that. Chill, I'm not a feminist either, Karan.
In a way I think that's true but it mightn't be a bad thing. When I fall on hard times I often find myself reminiscing about times with certain people. I think it has helped me grow as a person. I like to think of it more like sharing the souls of each other.
I've never heard anyone say that actually but weirdly, that is pretty much how I feel about it. I just feel sex requires sharing and giving so much of your energy with someone. It's like sharing a part of yourself. That is why I've never done the one night stand thing and don't understand (but never judge) how ppl are capable of doing it so often and feel alright and thrive even. Maybe they're just saying they are? I know I'd feel so depleted & torn up.
Very insightful
It's wonderful to hear you talk Russell, you are amazing, I'm glad you found yourself. When you talk, besides the amazing knowledge you shower us with, we get a glimpse at how your mind works ... Just brilliant, much love and ☮️
*Better to have several friends with benefits. At least that is more mentally rewarding. Chemistry matters.*
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me but what about if you stopped?!!
@@Ariesgrigio Stopped what?
So do you have several friends with benifits?
O'SSEIN...You need to clarify "mentally rewarding".
@Chief Sunnah "How about finding a good woman for *yourself* instead"
That right there... You shouldn't focus on having something or someone.
Accept that relationships come and go and hopefully, they make you wiser before they dissolve.
Our main focus should be to better ourselves and express our uniqueness through the burning passion that everybody posses.
Focusing on romance, makes us needy. No one can fill that void, it has to come within. You are welcome to hit me up, if you have more questions and want to elaborate further.
He said it in a way that makes everybody feel better. If I had a daughter I would tell her not to allow a man to open the gift until Christmas. She probably wouldn't listen as many dont but then after she does what she does then the consequences come. Hurt feelings, being used, etc. Hey, do as you wish but I definitely know what is right and wrong. Our bodies are saved for that special someone. I wont go any further. I feel like I'm preaching from my own mistakes.
Thanks Russell for coming to CGL and your advice on the 12 steps was much appreciated
Videos are so short but so sweet. Bell has been chosen sir russels!
I really like these videos, keep it up!
I LOVE your enlightened messages!!!!!!!!!!!!
Missed you Russell.. am starting a video series on fatherhood soon which I would love to think you’d engage with and maybe even enjoy! You’re one of the people who inspire me and I’m very grateful for that inspiration cos I have managed to have and continue to have an awesome life. Thanks for sharing your energy with the world! All the best
Can someone advise me on how to address the underlying issues?
Thank you so much. Very insightful.
My girlfriend and I broke up 3 months ago, she's been going off with lots of guys and I asked her about how she could do that ( we were together for 5 years at this point) because I felt like I meant nothing to her ? She told me she needed to fill a void that wasn't there but with that I saw huge issues
Thanks for sharing this.
guru brand. I loved this..in fact, I feel we need to feel ok being alone.feeling complete has to come from us first.namaste
I don't know why you make me laugh out loud even though I find what you say so thoughtful and heartfelt. I guess life is funny to me. Love all of you thumbs uppers
I gain so much from these videos. Even when it doesn't necessarily pertain to me, the wisdom is universal
Amazing, and thank you beautiful soul.
I promise UA-cam LOVES you, barely watched any of your videos for the lest few weeks but still get notifications for literally every video but no notifications from youtubers that i watch constistantly