I was hit with numbness pretty hard right now, the sixth month without my mom. I am overwhelmed with guilt. In a trippy way, I'm grieving the first months of acute grief; as for me, it was the only logical response to losing the person I loved the most in my life so early. I am terrified I'm letting her go. It's so reassuring to know this is not only normal but somewhat expected. Numbness does feel like a reactive response indeed. Like a mechanism to stop overheating. But It does feel like it pushes my mom further and further away from me. I'm always looking at the review mirror of my life to catch a glimpse of her, and I dread the day she won't be there anymore.
That's OK. Getting overwhelmed is part of it. It sucks, but fighting only makes it worse long-term. Letting myself be overwhelmed was hard, and though it feels like I'll be destroyed by it... I won't. I'll be OK. You'll be OK.
Numbness can hit anyone experiencing Post Traumatic Stress. Sometimes we need to let the hind brain process, even if we're not consciously aware of that internal process.
I fluctuate between grief and trying to move forward. Then I feel guilty that I’m not grieving. This is the first holiday season without my husband of 54 years and I’m all over the map. Will it ever get better.
Bless your heart, I’m very sorry for your devastating loss. Oh the dreadful first holiday season after a spouse’s passing. IT’S HORRIBLE!!! This will be my 4th holiday without my husband. I’d prefer to hibernate from thanksgiving thru new years to avoid the pain. Do what you think will be best for “you”. Take care……
Society is so broken in how it puts these expectations on us and makes us feel guilty because we're not meeting the expectations. However you experience grief is valid.
I was hit with numbness pretty hard right now, the sixth month without my mom. I am overwhelmed with guilt. In a trippy way, I'm grieving the first months of acute grief; as for me, it was the only logical response to losing the person I loved the most in my life so early. I am terrified I'm letting her go.
It's so reassuring to know this is not only normal but somewhat expected. Numbness does feel like a reactive response indeed. Like a mechanism to stop overheating. But It does feel like it pushes my mom further and further away from me. I'm always looking at the review mirror of my life to catch a glimpse of her, and I dread the day she won't be there anymore.
What is extremely difficult for me, is when feelings start coming back, they are hard to deal with, I get overwhelmed by them.
That's OK. Getting overwhelmed is part of it. It sucks, but fighting only makes it worse long-term. Letting myself be overwhelmed was hard, and though it feels like I'll be destroyed by it... I won't. I'll be OK. You'll be OK.
After the initial tsunami of grief, I went numb and have been there for about three years. I don't feel joy or sadness or anything.
Numbness can hit anyone experiencing Post Traumatic Stress. Sometimes we need to let the hind brain process, even if we're not consciously aware of that internal process.
I fluctuate between grief and trying to move forward. Then I feel guilty that I’m not grieving. This is the first holiday season without my husband of 54 years and I’m all over the map. Will it ever get better.
Bless your heart, I’m very sorry for your devastating loss. Oh the dreadful first holiday season after a spouse’s passing. IT’S HORRIBLE!!! This will be my 4th holiday without my husband. I’d prefer to hibernate from thanksgiving thru new years to avoid the pain. Do what you think will be best for “you”. Take care……
@ I’m so sorry to hear that. Please know my prayers are for you and others going through difficult times.
Society is so broken in how it puts these expectations on us and makes us feel guilty because we're not meeting the expectations.
However you experience grief is valid.
Will you talk about boundaries sometime please?❤
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