Live for Yourself! | Chetan Bhagat | TEDxGraphicEraUniversity
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- Опубліковано 21 сер 2022
- You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. We all have techniques we depend on to lift our spirits when we’re feeling down about ourselves or our lives. Getting help from others is only one part of the equation. We also need to be able to validate, support, and help ourselves. Odds are, you aren’t always looking for someone’s advice or opinion when you come to them with a painful story. You’re looking for them to confirm you didn’t do anything wrong-or if you did, that you’re not a bad person for it. When you’re looking for that warm, fuzzy feeling that emerges when someone you trust tells you, “Everything is going to be okay,” imagine yourself saying it to your younger self. Essentially, you’re looking for someone else to see the best in you and believe in you. Give yourself what you’re seeking from them before making that call. Then by all means, make it if you want to. The goal isn’t to stop reaching out to others. It’s to be there for yourself. The words you want to hear from someone else will be far more powerful if you fully believe what they’re saying.
Chetan Bhagat is a celebrated Best-selling author, a columnist, motivational speaker as well as a UA-camr, just to name a few. With the talk titled, ‘Live for Yourself’, he pressed the need to love yourself before loving others as none of those very people are gonna pay your bills, thus eradicating the need to impress others. Relating with his personal experiences, he has shown how switching a high-paying, lucrative job following one’s passion is still considered a taboo in India, that too in the (advanced) 21st century. He has effectively ditched the term ‘Selfish’ for ‘Self-care’. Mr. Chetan’s talk has every spice in the right amount as he hasn’t shied away from sharing his life’s journey including severe weight fluctuations in the COVID times, societal taunts directed for his unconventional life-path - altogether punched with a distinctive sense of humour!
Author, Writer & Entrepreneur This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I agree. We always include others in our decisions and thinking and we feel guilty if we do not. So what Chetan is saying makes a lot of sense. Thanks.
I was fortunate enough to witness him live
Wow
Mujh b lay jate 😏
I also wanted to join the same graphic era university 🎓
I love that ann location 📍
Ghhc
I got distraction at 9:07
Good message, especially for Indians who get recruited into roles that we are not old enough to comprehend but feel entrapped for life, because our parents, preachers and pundits decree the purpose of your life. You hardly have a say in how you want to spend life or if you have an alternative dream for your life. So you are right, that the majority cog Indians are raised to live for others. It takes an immense will power and courage to follow your heart. But you are right, in asserting and claiming at least some part of your life for yourself. In the old Indian tradition, men walked away from it all in Vanprasthan age ( post working life) women retired and focus on spiritual growth once the kids got married and brought others to takeover the responsibility. Not so now. Elderly parents now have to devote their so called Golden years in raising their grandchildren in service of the dual income family where husband and wife work! So unless one musters courage to say ‘no’ you could be spending your whole life to please others! Good speech!
So so true...The time I was married before we ended the alliance of matrimony with each other and decided to retain the alliance as a family, I was living for everyone else and dying inside, not just emotionally and mentally but physically as well...and though I was in the best shape of my life from outside, just like how the speaker , Mr Bhagat's life looked from the outside, it looked amazing from outside because I was physically running from my insides. I was taking pain killers injectables and orals, even running towards people who were unhealthy for me, trying to escape me, my reality.
Finally when I decided to breath for myself, to preserve myself and my sanity, ofcourse I faced both external and internal resistance...and I tried a few escape mechanisms again...but realised whatever we resist will and does persist...till I decided to not resist it, listen to myself, I was able to breathe, to connect better with myself and ppl I call my inner circle.
Thank you for this amazing talk.
Right 👍
Mam...ur words...r happening and going to happen in most of the home makers...both working and home makers especially..thing is u expressed it...tq
Such a lovely expression of what's inside 💛🔥 , thank you so much ma'am
Well described... How r u now?
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I get to live for myself finally.
I lived to please my parents.
I lived to please husbands.
I lived for my daughter.
I lived for my grandchild.
I lived for my boyfriend.
Now I live alone!
So finally, I live for me!
Two books that I read 400 days and half girlfriend these books are amazing and gives the value not only love but also related to life experience
I feel this so much❤. Let it go! Says my mother after a lifetime pleasing people. Past year she almost died en now she is another woman. She live and laugh and is not busy with other people lifes. Thank you🦋
Loved ur last line stole the show if u are happy n start living for urself people won't run away they will come to u that's essence happy going people have different vibes n aura __sumptuous way to lift motivation avid admirer of urs sir
What an amazing lines of Chetan sir ...live first urself than care others 😊😊
True like in airplanes, it is usually said first mask up yourself !
Honest. Such an honest TedTalk. I don't know this speaker, however, his message has me wanting to hear more of his helpful discussion: "Live for Yourself"...then I will be happy and really (I know this)..."happy draws happy"...Thank you Chetan Bhagat. peace.
One of the famous author in India❤
He is very famous personality in India since my childhood. Shocking that even this influencing personality wasn't happy with his life decisions. Very inspiring talk indeed.
Famous writer in India
Uncompromisingly forthright speech 💛
*BIG FAN CHETAN SIR! YOUR AUDIENCE WANTS MORE SUCH TED TALKS SIR❤💯*
Yes, Live for yourself but don't forget to keep balance to take care of yours.
Best ever speech for making yourself better.
Definitely at 4:10 you are talking for me, from my heart. Heart💕
If we attach our self worth to much with our work, status , when things don't go right we feel miserable, depression kicks inn... Self independent is very imp ... But we must love unconditional cause when things Trumble,we don't drag into depression..
The need of the hour is to live for your self.Thank you so much for this amazing talk.
Lovely speech...Pandemic has taught me to live for yourself and in last year I did 3 high altitude treks as a long time procastninated long term passion....its changed my attitude towards life...Till 5 yrs back was totally dedicated to my career and wellbeing of my family and an centurion FIL to now
co-leading treks the journey is satisfying Absolutely 💯 agree with your views. Have read all of your articles too...A great fan of yours Mr Chetan Bhagat.👍🙏💐
Great to hear...what all you have trekked btw?
Straight clear n brief ! Value life to find your purpose 👍👍👍👏🙏
This is soo true, thank you for this 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for this amazing talk Sir. I will live for myself now!
Very true... Lovely speech
Sir.. what you said is quite right..bcos most people care about what others say about them nd not caring their own ambitions or aspirations.,.means even their small wishes or dreams. Such people are not living actually they are simply sacrificing this one time life in this earth. We have to live for ourself as no one can satisfy our own needs nd deeds. It was a nice nd thought provoking speech. Congrats 👍
Hey there! As someone who values happiness and inner fulfilment, I completely agree with the message you've shared. It's easy to get caught up in seeking validation from others or chasing external markers of success, but ultimately, it's important to stay true to ourselves and prioritize our own unique identities and happiness. Living for ourselves is key to leading a happy and empowered life, as Chetan ji wisely said. So let's all strive to find contentment in the present moment and embrace our true selves.
You always tells something great sir.
Lovely Dear Respected Mr Bhagat .You ROCK THE WORLD Genuinely...SHARING ALL THIS WAY ON PLATFORM ..LOVE YOU FOR YOUR DARING TALK
A great writer and his insight are very deep and clear.
Thank you so much Chetan Ji for sharing your wonderful journey 🙏💞💐🙏
Best speech ever CB Sir💞
Thank you sir for giving a wonderful talk.
Very inspiring Sir. Live for yourself.
Just loved it.... every words.... ❤️
Thank you..Awesome ..
Genuine guidance 🙏 💐
thank you sir for an eye-opening speech
I'm very inspiring by this person.
I will live for myself
Thanks Chetan..needed this
One of the best tedx talks👍👍
“Live first yourself then care others”
me first
Amazing . I can totally relate
Such an Inspiring words that can change life in a beautiful way❤✨
Learned this at my mid 20's... Since then have been doing "for myself"
Thank you so much sir... It was really fervent speech.. We enjoyed a lot and would implement in our lives 🧡
Fabulous, jai Bharat ❤❤
He is a legend 💙chetan sir
One of my best 👍
Grate video sir....
Don't sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them . Thank You Chetan sir 🏆
Superb, superb, superb👌👌👌👏👏👏👏absolutely veritable!!!👍
Happiness, inner fulfilment & contentment is what matters the most, irrespective!
This is best understood by people who are creative, genuinely talented, artistic & believe in themselves. And people pleasers who seek approval & validation from others or chase money lose their own unique identity & happiness & deplete their soul power eventually. Hence 'Live for yourself' is the key to leading a happy & empowered life as aptly quoted by Chetan ji.
Kudos & hat's off to him for leading by example.
Such a great Talk
Awesome it makes me feel what is life
I'm 30 years now this was me. I care so much on what other's will think.
Best Ted Talk I have ever seen❤
Makes a lot of sense.
Thank you Chetan sir ❤️
Very insightful message Chetan ji. Tq🎉
Thank you sir for motivate us 🙏
Sooo trueee..
Excellent speech 💐
Great video, eye opening video 👏👏👏👍
Very well said
Excellent👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Awesome sir 🙏
Thank you
Great Sir, this is an eye-opener to many..
who would work their entire life,living for others,as in autopilot mode, everyday spending their time,energy, resources, everything for their family or for the lovedones not even thinking about their health or their needs.....As you rightly said, first put your oxygen mask, then only you can help others....nice Sir, Thank you.....
Awesome and worth realising talk .we do lot of things in our life but unfortunately we don't live for ourself ..truly an eye opener session.Thanks for inspiring us and many
Awesome
Most needed session
Great speech chethan
Hello Chetan sir I just had dinner at South Indian Vibes pure vegetarian restaurant Rajpur road dehradun, and manager told us about celebrities visit at restaurant. I felt so happy after watching your picture there. And clicked selfie there.
Actually I am from haryana staying in Delhi and on a business trip in Dehradun so I searched pure vegetarian restaurant and got a chance to create a beautiful experience.
Beautiful video Short but Sweet.
SO TRUE
Yes first we have to be happy....To make others happy
Inspiring man 💝
Best speaker on youtube 👏
THANK U SIR
Thank you Chetan.....you never fail to inspire us.....wishing you and everyone around a great life just the one we want...'Live for yourself'...I am implementing this theory now on 👍🙏🥳
He's a brilliant author ❤❤❤❤❤
I love you're books 😍🥰🤩
Loved it. Chetan down to earth guy, no non-sense guy
Thanks for such a deep thinking and awesome presentation
I like the way you are presenting the session
good point
loved it.
thanku for amazing talk , you are really talk about of reality of life , if i am not happy , how i can make others happy , it's really true, so i tell thank you again , i have learnt to you , that give life for yourself then others .
Live with yourself
I read your book ''three mistakes of my life '' amazing man .👌👌
I am so happy, Not Alone !
Wonderful speech sir 😀🔥🔥🔥
Great Chetan👍👍
Somewhere we should also accept we are living on borrowed culture.. we have moved away from our core cultural values . It’s best to identify root cause . Loved this TEd Talk let’s hope more people become happier.
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Overall message of Mr Chetan Bhagat speech is that 'charity begins at home'so first of all we should leave for ourself then only we can understand other.
Such a great informative speech n experience dear ❤
Just wanted to hear it from the right thank you sir
this is finally the chetan bhagat that i like
One I will come at this platform to tell my story..❤❤🙏
First make yourself happy only and only than you can make other person happy.🐥🧘🙏
Super sir, good thoughts
Gem 💎❣️💎
Thank you ☺️ so much sir 🙏❤️🥰
This man is great author
I read this author books 📚
Thanks sir