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Continue to build confidence in other areas and occasionally check in on what you are struggling with. You might find these books by Scott Adams helpful: How to fail at almost everything and still win big. Reframe your brain.
Like he says in the video self belief and confidence are different. You can have confidence that you're capable of doing hard things based on your experience doing other hard things, but there's going to be some level of discomfort or doubt around whether you can do something new until you actually do it. Of course there is a calculation you can make where if you fail enough times maybe you decide it's worth it to give up, but look at other difficult things in your life. Have you had a similar experience with something else? Have you had a time where you tried and failed multiple times but were patient and worked through it and it paid off? I think it's also a reason why it's not necessarily bad to have some blind faith in yourself that isn't evidence based. Unfortunately some of the most successful people are wildly overconfident. Generally though, over-confidence will serve you better than under-confidence.
Depends what it is, for complex things try breaking it down. Example, your struggling with long distance running, just can’t do it. Maybe your break point is inclines and hills kill you. Okay try flat terrain and build confidence and skill there, get comfortable then try the hills. I’d add if you really break it down everything is complex and you can always find a start point, even if it’s just wiggle your big toe XD
I would create visualisations in my mind of achieving the “thing”. Use insane detail, imagine the crowd or other person’s face, your joy and relief and amplify those feelings. Then repeat it over and over. Now, try the challenging thing - it’s already done, and successfully in your mind
I've always had zero confidence, I've just learnt not to fear *anything.* Although I must say having been around 9 stone, ever since I left school, and being a manual labourer, crane operator and forklift operator up until i retired, gave me much purpose, and respect from others, - considering my light weight and physical size. Being honest about my own doubts and being good natured also worked in my favour, - having no confidence, one soon learns how to polish the egos of others. First job I had when I left school was unloading between 4 to 5, 40' shipping containers over an 8 hour day, with each container filled to the brim with 50kg hessian sacks, each filled with ground nuts. Work like that builds character, I came out of that first job a completely different person, not so much physically, but mentally. -But, I only really started concentrating on "the self", after battling addictions to various substances. Still, left school at 14, retired at 40, no kids, I'm too immature for that hassle, but man enough to admit it. I built myself a personal, but completely professional studio for myself, filled with vintage synthesizers, samplers, outboard, etc. - I guess that was always my focus, even when I was doing stupid shite... I still don't have any confidence, - but I wouldn't change a thing... Not having any confidence is 100% what shaped me... But being mildly autistic, and a little matter of fact, I never felt the need to hide my own weaknesses, and ultimately, that behaviour, along with the weaknesses, became my strength. god bless
Thanks Chris great to see you talking to Ryan Holiday I’m feeling like a fanboy in 🔊 stereo 🔊. Very relatable I’m embarking on a scary journey through many obstacles and finding this is the way. ❤
I just so love this, so very much! I can't even begin to tell you how positively this impacted me. It may appear simple on surface but there is so much depth here, stuff I have been fundamentally misunderstanding and/or missing. Thank you for this, big time!
This was a very demoralizing video and proves what I've believed all along. Confidence and self-esteem are evidenced-based reality. The reason I have zero confidence/self-esteem is because I've failed at pretty much every thing despite trying my best. The average person is better than me at pretty much everything. I'm failure in career and relationships. I also lack any strengths and talents. Even my own mother was unable to come with any strengths for me when I asked her. Doesn't help that I have a perfect sibling whose everything I'm not. How do you develop "confidence" and "self-esteem" when you're a 35 year old, unmarried, relationshipless, virgin woman whose been laid off by 8 jobs and still lives at home working minimum wage with no hobbies, friendships, or talents?
The only comparison you should be having is with yourself(yesterday you). We’re all our own individuals, not a single person is identical so you shouldn’t compare yourself to someone else. We all have strengths, but it’s much easier to point out the fault. You seem to be good at writing, so I assume you read(there’s your hobby and strength). Back to the main point, incremental improvement is how you build confidence in yourself. You have to make those goals obtainable, if you fail, scale it back and try again. I’ll leave it at this, you only fail if you stop trying. Failure is part of the process of success.
@@jamesnguyen7385 I don't think the ability to use proper English grammar should be considered a strength and I don't read. I'm a loser who spends most of her time on the internet and playing video gaming. You're right that the majority of people have strengths, but I'm not a part of that majority. Like I said in my original post, even my own mother couldn't think of any strengths/talents for me when I pressed her. No, she is not abusive. As for the last part of your comment I've been making self-improvement attempts for a couple years. I'm still in the exact same spot I've always been. Some people are born with lots of potential and others are born losers.
A big part of stoicism is realising that things which seem extreme are actually quite normal. That they are things you need to accept, and learn to live with
Anything that you have done will not be equally viewed as the way you view it. 10 people will see 10 different versions of your “success.” I’ll give you an example. 2 women are sitting in a room. 1 loves cats the 2nd is deathly allergic to cats. A cat enters the room. One woman screams with joy the other screams in terror. Who’s right about the cat? Well? Both of them and none of them. Basic stoic philosophy can stand up to more than 1 angle of attack; so this video gets a thumbs down 👎
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I don’t think anything has changed my life more than stoicism
We ofter suffer more in imagination than in reality... I was on the front row that Friday night in Manchester. You were great, Christopher.
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Belief is handled by the mind, knowing is handled by the heart ♥
Sophistry
What if you've tried something. Keep failing and have no evidence you can do it.
How can you build self belief and confidence in it then?
Continue to build confidence in other areas and occasionally check in on what you are struggling with. You might find these books by Scott Adams helpful: How to fail at almost everything and still win big. Reframe your brain.
@@lomotil3370 I'll have a look. There's only one area I struggle with atm though, most other things I do pretty well above average
Like he says in the video self belief and confidence are different. You can have confidence that you're capable of doing hard things based on your experience doing other hard things, but there's going to be some level of discomfort or doubt around whether you can do something new until you actually do it.
Of course there is a calculation you can make where if you fail enough times maybe you decide it's worth it to give up, but look at other difficult things in your life. Have you had a similar experience with something else? Have you had a time where you tried and failed multiple times but were patient and worked through it and it paid off?
I think it's also a reason why it's not necessarily bad to have some blind faith in yourself that isn't evidence based. Unfortunately some of the most successful people are wildly overconfident. Generally though, over-confidence will serve you better than under-confidence.
Depends what it is, for complex things try breaking it down.
Example, your struggling with long distance running, just can’t do it. Maybe your break point is inclines and hills kill you. Okay try flat terrain and build confidence and skill there, get comfortable then try the hills.
I’d add if you really break it down everything is complex and you can always find a start point, even if it’s just wiggle your big toe XD
I would create visualisations in my mind of achieving the “thing”. Use insane detail, imagine the crowd or other person’s face, your joy and relief and amplify those feelings. Then repeat it over and over.
Now, try the challenging thing - it’s already done, and successfully in your mind
One's emotional elasticity is key to a good life
How was this video created? Is it green screen or did you use virtual production / projector background?? This looks CRISP 🔥 I must know!
What really looks crisp is those CROCS my guy Chris is rocking
I've always had zero confidence, I've just learnt not to fear *anything.*
Although I must say having been around 9 stone, ever since I left school, and being a manual labourer, crane operator and forklift operator up until i retired, gave me much purpose, and respect from others,
- considering my light weight and physical size.
Being honest about my own doubts and being good natured also worked in my favour,
- having no confidence, one soon learns how to polish the egos of others.
First job I had when I left school was unloading between 4 to 5, 40' shipping containers over an 8 hour day, with each container filled to the brim with 50kg hessian sacks, each filled with ground nuts.
Work like that builds character, I came out of that first job a completely different person, not so much physically, but mentally.
-But, I only really started concentrating on "the self", after battling addictions to various substances.
Still, left school at 14, retired at 40, no kids, I'm too immature for that hassle, but man enough to admit it.
I built myself a personal, but completely professional studio for myself, filled with vintage synthesizers, samplers, outboard, etc.
- I guess that was always my focus, even when I was doing stupid shite...
I still don't have any confidence,
- but I wouldn't change a thing...
Not having any confidence is 100% what shaped me...
But being mildly autistic, and a little matter of fact, I never felt the need to hide my own weaknesses, and ultimately, that behaviour, along with the weaknesses, became my strength.
god bless
Thanks Chris great to see you talking to Ryan Holiday I’m feeling like a fanboy in 🔊 stereo 🔊. Very relatable I’m embarking on a scary journey through many obstacles and finding this is the way. ❤
"Confidence derives from competence"
I just so love this, so very much! I can't even begin to tell you how positively this impacted me. It may appear simple on surface but there is so much depth here, stuff I have been fundamentally misunderstanding and/or missing. Thank you for this, big time!
This was a very demoralizing video and proves what I've believed all along. Confidence and self-esteem are evidenced-based reality. The reason I have zero confidence/self-esteem is because I've failed at pretty much every thing despite trying my best. The average person is better than me at pretty much everything. I'm failure in career and relationships. I also lack any strengths and talents. Even my own mother was unable to come with any strengths for me when I asked her. Doesn't help that I have a perfect sibling whose everything I'm not. How do you develop "confidence" and "self-esteem" when you're a 35 year old, unmarried, relationshipless, virgin woman whose been laid off by 8 jobs and still lives at home working minimum wage with no hobbies, friendships, or talents?
The only comparison you should be having is with yourself(yesterday you). We’re all our own individuals, not a single person is identical so you shouldn’t compare yourself to someone else. We all have strengths, but it’s much easier to point out the fault. You seem to be good at writing, so I assume you read(there’s your hobby and strength). Back to the main point, incremental improvement is how you build confidence in yourself. You have to make those goals obtainable, if you fail, scale it back and try again.
I’ll leave it at this, you only fail if you stop trying. Failure is part of the process of success.
Quit doing the same thing= different realities. 1% a day adds up. Where you are at now in life is the sum of micro choices made up to this very day.
@@jamesnguyen7385 I don't think the ability to use proper English grammar should be considered a strength and I don't read. I'm a loser who spends most of her time on the internet and playing video gaming. You're right that the majority of people have strengths, but I'm not a part of that majority. Like I said in my original post, even my own mother couldn't think of any strengths/talents for me when I pressed her. No, she is not abusive. As for the last part of your comment I've been making self-improvement attempts for a couple years. I'm still in the exact same spot I've always been. Some people are born with lots of potential and others are born losers.
Anyone know where @ChrisWillx shirt is from?
I dont believe in myself, and most evidence ia hazy and ubclear at best. Reality is muddy and what to do is almost always unclear.
1 like = 1 push up
He looks and kinda sounds like seinfeld
Sounds more like normalcy bias than stoicism.
How?
A big part of stoicism is realising that things which seem extreme are actually quite normal. That they are things you need to accept, and learn to live with
The warrior mentality ❤🎉😊
This humble/cocky guy always finds a way to sneak his own self-grandiosity into the answers of his guests, grow up dude!
"Stoic principles for unstoppable confidence", the fundamental idea essentially being "Oh no! Anyways..."
This guy is a scam artist. He showed us his true face during COVID.
Exactly, he also supported BLM.
❤
Two intellectual fassio's. End of.
Boo boo, hee hee. Halp.
Second
Anything that you have done will not be equally viewed as the way you view it. 10 people will see 10 different versions of your “success.”
I’ll give you an example.
2 women are sitting in a room. 1 loves cats the 2nd is deathly allergic to cats. A cat enters the room. One woman screams with joy the other screams in terror.
Who’s right about the cat?
Well? Both of them and none of them.
Basic stoic philosophy can stand up to more than 1 angle of attack; so this video gets a thumbs down 👎
chris willx podcast style is ask boring obvious questions and utter exerpt from books or utter famous profound quotes.😅😅😅😅
First
Be proud, my son, be proud....You have life by the balls.
Great clip but he has a superficial, naive view of faith - to be sure.