Love these two but man listening to their reasoning on situations and life in general shows me that we need to cut the cable cord and throw social media in the creek. Melania, you are outgrowing this guy. I can see that in how quiet you got. Chicklet, please keep a strong pullout game bro cause 1 of you is enough. Love you both.
Oh god chicklet idk how you do it. Wtf are you really saying bro like what. JUST TELL MALENI WHAT YOU WANT FROM HER OMG. First you complain she does things for everyone next minute “I don’t want you to do anything for me” like ??????????
He said she only does things when he stops giving a fuck and doesn't even want it anymore because she's finally good and ready to do it. He communicates what he expects from her pretty clearly maybe not the nicest but definitely direct. 😂
@@visualreaction9738 but the thing is she is being open and saying hey what would you like me to do going forward ? And he’s literally saying nothing. That doesn’t help either.
I get so annoyed and mad about how much he complainds and just likes to argue. But i cant stop watching ! Lol malenie i dont know how you deal with this man
You can’t put God and religion in the same category. Religion divides people from a relationship with God. Also, I just felt the need to say this, God put it on my heart to say that he is the creator of the universe and when you realize he is the one in control of our lives and even when you can’t see him doesn’t mean he doesn’t exist, God is going to continue to show you what he’s doing in your life until you finally realize that he is trying to show you himself.
Nah Chicklet sounds kinda crazy..appreciating the little things DO matter it’s the little things that I put thought into ..paying a bill vs getting something I knew might make you smile or happy 10000000% should be appreciated. God bless her cause mannnn he’s just putting a dollar value on everything
Know I might be a little late to the comment section. Started watching the pod & I love it so much I started watching it backwards. Ngl my relationship is very similar… my bf thinks like chicklet sometimes so I get it. This is how I would put it: You each have your love language. In this video he says he doesn’t know what he would want her to do to have a “perfect relationship” but in other videos he speaks on how he likes quality time. Big ass baby like my man but you gotta love them lol. If he has expressed this to you, you have to do your part to fulfill that. Hers is acts of service; therefore, same goes for Chicklet. Just because this is her way of being, doesn’t mean she’s doing these acts for her benefit… but because she has you in mind and wants to treat you. Originally this conversation started because she wanted to feel appreciated for a small gesture. The reason for this IS (probably) BECAUSE SHE HAD YOU IN MIND & was most likely looking forward to the reaction. If you say I don’t care or question why you have to appreciate it, it rubs us woman in the wrong way. Imagine you buy her a purse thinking of her and she just don’t gaf, eh kind of an ungrateful move right? Anyways, my boyfriend and I always say, we too far into this relationship so even though you may “not care”, you have to ( especially if you two getting married soon, congrats btw!) because this is who you’re dealing with. I fuck with all 3 of you in this podcast, keep the great convos going!
I believe everybody is somewhat narcissistic, to be diagnosed with NPD , if im not mistaken is when you lack the ability to have empathy ,a good indication is someone who displays absolutely no consideration , confidently while being unaware even when you explain it in FACTUAL terms , they just wont accept it wrong unless they know that it impacts their reputation in a bad way. ( They go to far lengths to manipulate people to portray their reputation to be a great upstanding person/friend/ partner)
I been slacking on cooking i sometimes been cooking once a week but with working 40 plus hrs its been hard . Headed to the supermarket tonight to cook . I cook down though lol
I enjoyed this pod but the beginning wasn't sitting right with me. Chicklet you came off judgemental and just lacking the least bit of empathy when you speak to Maleni. Although it may be unintentional I hate to say it but I can't find a better word to describe you from my perspective other than being condescending. 😬 Although we share the same stance on religion and praying/believing in a higher power no matter what that may be. I can't get on board with societies idea of this God and following his commandments to not burn in hell for eternity🤷🏽♀️. Another thing you mentioned you "like negativity" I believe what you meant instead is the challenge and doubt from someone is a motivating factor for you. That's a great quality to have as long as it doesn't get to an unhealthy level because the average person would become discouraged. Nobodys perfect and even catching yourself and apologizing shows you are atleast putting the work in to try and change toxic ways. Maleni may be more open and receptive to communicating if maybe a different approach was used or waiting for an appropriate time for that conversation. Chicklet you was referring to a psychiatrist they're able to diagnose and if necessary offer medication where as therapist are to talk and offer emotional support. I've had anxiety for years until I finally got the meds that worked for me, then I couldn't understand why I suffered in silence for so long. My biggest issue that stemmed from anxiety was always being so over stimulated I become aggravated or just irritated often. I really hope you follow up it can only help don't push it to the side. Also, one last thing with the pillow talk segment I believe it seems targeted towards men, maybe keeping it neutral like offer advice for both men and women. I look forward to these pods especially since their longer we are getting spoiled.😂❤ Edit: Maleni I am patiently waiting on some new pottery on the website so I can continue support cause the leopard ashtray has been my favorite 🔥🔥💯
I notice since the pod started chicklet has been saying that Maleni never show up for him & the relationship, Maleni just do more acts of service for the both of you do things without being asked just show more love and love offerings
I definitely understand what Chicklet is saying cause I dealt with the same thing. Unfortunately I ended up divorced because a big part of any relationship is showing up for each other. I don’t understand when people say I am an acts of service person when they can’t service their own relationship. Hope you guys can figure it out cause don’t want later on down the line this small crack becomes a crater and separates you two.
Sorry about your divorce brotha. But in the pod according to Chicklet his girl showed up after the fact. She appears to want to show up now and looks distraught and lost as to what to do next since he’s so put off about the situation. My question I guess is since you’ve been in a similar situation is would you appreciate that now the other person is trying to show up and makin an effort to change? Because I can understand Chicklet being annoyed and just having little to no expectation at all in order to not get hurt. But the point I want to make is you’re going to get married and if you’re not willing to let go of the past or work towards bettering the future then what was the point of proposing? Thanks
I Don't Think Our Death Is Set In Stone. It Says In The Bible That Your Already Dead. That's Why We Groan Every Morning, And Feel Down At Times. God Said As Long As He's Alive We Are Alive Also. So, Whether You Choose To Have Him There, Determines Whether Or Not Your Alive Too. The Bible Also Says God Doesn't Like Time Because It Isn't Real, And Also Says You Should Stay Away From Woman That Keep Time. That Was For Caba. Maleni Doesn't Keep Time Judging By Watching The Both Of You, Since I Got With My Wife 8 Years Ago On The 10th. We've Been Married For A Year And I See The Same Love In You Two. Communication Is 🗝️
Look ya getting married . But all that shit aside . If she wanna cook for you that day just let her fk it enjoy it ! Secondly she needs to appreciate her man more , from every esp i seen she not ready to be a wife or a mother . She needs cook clean wash . Once you have kids it's your life tbh
These things are discussed before u move in with someone. If u know what each person does before. It wont be an issue and cause an argument. Some men do complain the woman don't cook. A man should share the chores. If both work it should be taking turns. And the things u do before relationship get serious should continue. Keep the relationship fresh. When he says he dont care shows he's tired and shouldn't have to ask for someone to do things for him. This why relationships get violent with words.
The movie he is talking about with the chef and the customer that didn’t like anything he cooked and wanted a cheeseburger is called “The Menu” I’ve watched it 2 times before
I think honestly you answered your question. who said we SHOULD do these little things? understand everyone relationship dynamic is different and some people don't even get the luxury of saying "oh my partner buys me flowers, my partner cooks, my partner etc.." i think as humans in general we forget things things people do for us, the things we have, could easily not be catered to us and done for us or be accessible. im not saying maleni feels anyway because this convo can make yall dynamic strong while break most. im just saying dont be so arrogant and and insensitive. either way, love yall
Damn i usually feel like maleni gets attacked but he made some solid ass points this time around. Idk if its just a guy thing where we feel we need something at a certain time, and eventually, we are forced to bottle it up and move on. Only to receive what we wanted at a later time, but at that point, we've moved on, so we no longer want or need it, but it still seems like you're doing us a favor. It makes it worse for us tbh because then it's used against us in an argument a big difference between most men and women is we don't bring it up unless it's used against us in an argument I believe most reasonable healthy men can eventually move on from the situation on their own it's what most of us are raised to do.
men really do have it harder then woman im not going in to details but nora vincent a feminist's lady turned into a man for science and later in the doco killed herself cause she couldn't believe how lonely a mans world is and other things i think every woman should watch it to take awareness to the struggles that men go through
meleni u needa listen to ur man he needs that respect. making up things in ur head and manipulate is a trait of narcist if the traits are common and acure when u dont get ur way. i think chicklet has alota patient and he trys to talk but you shut him down 5 times outa 10. we are all not perfect but we all need to realise our faults and be happy from both parties
I’m afraid of love. Since my son was born in November 2019. My son is now four and I can’t imagine reconnecting with my son in such a long timeframe. Maleni, you keep my spirits high. Just give me best spirits if you can :)
I can be honest I get how Chicklet can feel how he feels because honestly I kinda put my girl through the same thing, I tend to ask if she wants things versus just doing it, I do believe it comes off more thoughtful when you just take the initiative and just do something for your partner regardless if that thing you did goes to waste I know I also sometimes wait till its kinda to late to do my part and it does drive the other person to give up expecting something from us. My wife has those natural traits of being caring and thoughtful towards her family, she cooks for me and the kids all the time, she is always thinking about us no matter where ever she is at, I know I had to learn to be more thoughtful, caring and romantic that doesnt come to me naturally I know I am a very selfish person. I know for some people it comes natural to be a certain way and others have to work at it more. High key men tend to be more stoic and less thoughtfully and caring in my eyes but doesnt mean we cant learn to be that way all though it kinda seems Cheeks might be more caring than he comes off. The way Cheeks was explaining it, it sounds like Melanie probably is a bit oblivious on the relationship when certain issues arise, I feel like she has a hard time putting her self in Chicklets shoes when he has a concern about the way shes is moving and how it can be a problem, not to say she probably has similar feelings, but then again what do I know, I know we only get small pieces of the 8 year relationship.
Best episode ever they addressed real shit that goes on In relationships and I admire that they stay together despite that well said, guys keep it up keep doing that good work, and keep working that relationship it takes guts to do that
Every relationship has different dynamics there's nothing wrong with communicating what he would like or expect from his fiance be as long as he is doing his part too and not one sided 🤔😒
No no no!!! Just because you pay the bills doesn’t mean you should discredit your other.
Unless there is no partnership wether it be physical or emotional .. that leaves little to keep holding onto at a certain point. 🤷🏽♀️
You talk a bit in riddles Chicklet.
Love these two but man listening to their reasoning on situations and life in general shows me that we need to cut the cable cord and throw social media in the creek. Melania, you are outgrowing this guy. I can see that in how quiet you got. Chicklet, please keep a strong pullout game bro cause 1 of you is enough.
Love you both.
Oh god chicklet idk how you do it. Wtf are you really saying bro like what. JUST TELL MALENI WHAT YOU WANT FROM HER OMG. First you complain she does things for everyone next minute “I don’t want you to do anything for me” like ??????????
He said she only does things when he stops giving a fuck and doesn't even want it anymore because she's finally good and ready to do it. He communicates what he expects from her pretty clearly maybe not the nicest but definitely direct. 😂
Right?? Like wth
Because he doesn’t wanna ask. It’s like a girl asking for flowers it’s not the same when you get them without her asking.
@@visualreaction9738EXACTLY idk how this so hard to see
@@visualreaction9738 but the thing is she is being open and saying hey what would you like me to do going forward ? And he’s literally saying nothing. That doesn’t help either.
I get so annoyed and mad about how much he complainds and just likes to argue. But i cant stop watching ! Lol malenie i dont know how you deal with this man
You can’t put God and religion in the same category. Religion divides people from a relationship with God.
Also, I just felt the need to say this, God put it on my heart to say that he is the creator of the universe and when you realize he is the one in control of our lives and even when you can’t see him doesn’t mean he doesn’t exist, God is going to continue to show you what he’s doing in your life until you finally realize that he is trying to show you himself.
My respect for Maleni is crazy. He is difficult difficult damn. Crazy
Nah Chicklet sounds kinda crazy..appreciating the little things DO matter it’s the little things that I put thought into ..paying a bill vs getting something I knew might make you smile or happy 10000000% should be appreciated. God bless her cause mannnn he’s just putting a dollar value on everything
Stop saying he's right Melanie!! He's not. Men love to hear themselves and make no damn sense 😂
When are you guys going to use your platform to come to Christ? He loves you guys and is waiting! Jesus is the way! ❤
Know I might be a little late to the comment section. Started watching the pod & I love it so much I started watching it backwards. Ngl my relationship is very similar… my bf thinks like chicklet sometimes so I get it. This is how I would put it: You each have your love language. In this video he says he doesn’t know what he would want her to do to have a “perfect relationship” but in other videos he speaks on how he likes quality time. Big ass baby like my man but you gotta love them lol. If he has expressed this to you, you have to do your part to fulfill that. Hers is acts of service; therefore, same goes for Chicklet. Just because this is her way of being, doesn’t mean she’s doing these acts for her benefit… but because she has you in mind and wants to treat you.
Originally this conversation started because she wanted to feel appreciated for a small gesture. The reason for this IS (probably) BECAUSE SHE HAD YOU IN MIND & was most likely looking forward to the reaction. If you say I don’t care or question why you have to appreciate it, it rubs us woman in the wrong way. Imagine you buy her a purse thinking of her and she just don’t gaf, eh kind of an ungrateful move right? Anyways, my boyfriend and I always say, we too far into this relationship so even though you may “not care”, you have to ( especially if you two getting married soon, congrats btw!) because this is who you’re dealing with.
I fuck with all 3 of you in this podcast, keep the great convos going!
I believe everybody is somewhat narcissistic, to be diagnosed with NPD , if im not mistaken is when you lack the ability to have empathy ,a good indication is someone who displays absolutely no consideration , confidently while being unaware even when you explain it in FACTUAL terms , they just wont accept it wrong unless they know that it impacts their reputation in a bad way. ( They go to far lengths to manipulate people to portray their reputation to be a great upstanding person/friend/ partner)
I been slacking on cooking i sometimes been cooking once a week but with working 40 plus hrs its been hard . Headed to the supermarket tonight to cook . I cook down though lol
I enjoyed this pod but the beginning wasn't sitting right with me. Chicklet you came off judgemental and just lacking the least bit of empathy when you speak to Maleni. Although it may be unintentional I hate to say it but I can't find a better word to describe you from my perspective other than being condescending. 😬 Although we share the same stance on religion and praying/believing in a higher power no matter what that may be. I can't get on board with societies idea of this God and following his commandments to not burn in hell for eternity🤷🏽♀️. Another thing you mentioned you "like negativity" I believe what you meant instead is the challenge and doubt from someone is a motivating factor for you. That's a great quality to have as long as it doesn't get to an unhealthy level because the average person would become discouraged. Nobodys perfect and even catching yourself and apologizing shows you are atleast putting the work in to try and change toxic ways. Maleni may be more open and receptive to communicating if maybe a different approach was used or waiting for an appropriate time for that conversation. Chicklet you was referring to a psychiatrist they're able to diagnose and if necessary offer medication where as therapist are to talk and offer emotional support. I've had anxiety for years until I finally got the meds that worked for me, then I couldn't understand why I suffered in silence for so long. My biggest issue that stemmed from anxiety was always being so over stimulated I become aggravated or just irritated often. I really hope you follow up it can only help don't push it to the side. Also, one last thing with the pillow talk segment I believe it seems targeted towards men, maybe keeping it neutral like offer advice for both men and women. I look forward to these pods especially since their longer we are getting spoiled.😂❤
Edit: Maleni I am patiently waiting on some new pottery on the website so I can continue support cause the leopard ashtray has been my favorite 🔥🔥💯
The biggest indicator to know if someone has NPD is if one or both parents have it.
She wants to do something and you say no because it makes you feel good doing something for me 😂 what in the actual fuck 😳
In a relationship things change if she wants to cook now let her why are you fighting about someone who changed
I notice since the pod started chicklet has been saying that Maleni never show up for him & the relationship, Maleni just do more acts of service for the both of you do things without being asked just show more love and love offerings
Stop talking over her!!
I definitely understand what Chicklet is saying cause I dealt with the same thing. Unfortunately I ended up divorced because a big part of any relationship is showing up for each other. I don’t understand when people say I am an acts of service person when they can’t service their own relationship. Hope you guys can figure it out cause don’t want later on down the line this small crack becomes a crater and separates you two.
Sorry about your divorce brotha. But in the pod according to Chicklet his girl showed up after the fact.
She appears to want to show up now and looks distraught and lost as to what to do next since he’s so put off about the situation.
My question I guess is since you’ve been in a similar situation is would you appreciate that now the other person is trying to show up and makin an effort to change?
Because I can understand Chicklet being annoyed and just having little to no expectation at all in order to not get hurt. But the point I want to make is you’re going to get married and if you’re not willing to let go of the past or work towards bettering the future then what was the point of proposing?
Thanks
I'd love to see a therapist on the Pod when you guys have these relationship conversations.
Why are they even planning a wedding? He needs to be alone !
Chicklet is so manipulative! The reason why he didn’t want to go on dates with her is insane! And he’s definitely hiding something
This is what I’m saying! He’s full of shit and she loves him so she puts up with it. I’m sorry but she needs to give that ring back and walk away.
I Don't Think Our Death Is Set In Stone. It Says In The Bible That Your Already Dead. That's Why We Groan Every Morning, And Feel Down At Times. God Said As Long As He's Alive We Are Alive Also. So, Whether You Choose To Have Him There, Determines Whether Or Not Your Alive Too. The Bible Also Says God Doesn't Like Time Because It Isn't Real, And Also Says You Should Stay Away From Woman That Keep Time. That Was For Caba.
Maleni Doesn't Keep Time Judging By Watching The Both Of You, Since I Got With My Wife 8 Years Ago On The 10th. We've Been Married For A Year And I See The Same Love In You Two. Communication Is 🗝️
Look ya getting married . But all that shit aside . If she wanna cook for you that day just let her fk it enjoy it ! Secondly she needs to appreciate her man more , from every esp i seen she not ready to be a wife or a mother . She needs cook clean wash . Once you have kids it's your life tbh
Neither one seems ready for marriage.
These things are discussed before u move in with someone. If u know what each person does before. It wont be an issue and cause an argument. Some men do complain the woman don't cook. A man should share the chores. If both work it should be taking turns. And the things u do before relationship get serious should continue. Keep the relationship fresh. When he says he dont care shows he's tired and shouldn't have to ask for someone to do things for him. This why relationships get violent with words.
I agree with Maleni on her perspective of “manifestion”👏🏽🌻
The movie he is talking about with the chef and the customer that didn’t like anything he cooked and wanted a cheeseburger is called “The Menu” I’ve watched it 2 times before
Shut up y’all I can’t hear it (jk it’s working now)
I just bought a Ps1 recently to take me down memory lane.
I think honestly you answered your question. who said we SHOULD do these little things? understand everyone relationship dynamic is different and some people don't even get the luxury of saying "oh my partner buys me flowers, my partner cooks, my partner etc.." i think as humans in general we forget things things people do for us, the things we have, could easily not be catered to us and done for us or be accessible. im not saying maleni feels anyway because this convo can make yall dynamic strong while break most. im just saying dont be so arrogant and and insensitive. either way, love yall
CHIKLET YOU GREW ON ME ifwy
The entire video has no sound how does thus happen?
Sorry UA-cam did that for whatever reason It should be good now
Damn i usually feel like maleni gets attacked but he made some solid ass points this time around. Idk if its just a guy thing where we feel we need something at a certain time, and eventually, we are forced to bottle it up and move on. Only to receive what we wanted at a later time, but at that point, we've moved on, so we no longer want or need it, but it still seems like you're doing us a favor. It makes it worse for us tbh because then it's used against us in an argument a big difference between most men and women is we don't bring it up unless it's used against us in an argument I believe most reasonable healthy men can eventually move on from the situation on their own it's what most of us are raised to do.
Maleni started giving the sauce but caught herself 😂😂😂
No sound. Come on caba the creator
Sorry UA-cam did that for whatever reason It should be good now
First of all how u sitting like that chiklet 😂😂😂
No sound mic check
Sorry UA-cam did that for whatever reason It should be good now
not being appreciated for your hard work is very sad.
i duno i dont think chicklet should apreciate anything if u dont apreciate him on the daily man i feel bad commenting but im not bias
men really do have it harder then woman im not going in to details but nora vincent a feminist's lady turned into a man for science and later in the doco killed herself cause she couldn't believe how lonely a mans world is and other things i think every woman should watch it to take awareness to the struggles that men go through
This was a good conversation and maybe will have other people talking about it
meleni u needa listen to ur man he needs that respect. making up things in ur head and manipulate is a trait of narcist if the traits are common and acure when u dont get ur way. i think chicklet has alota patient and he trys to talk but you shut him down 5 times outa 10. we are all not perfect but we all need to realise our faults and be happy from both parties
nah cas if she plays someone else as the dad it mean that she dead cheated on ha man 😂😭
I see the mental growth chicklet , had me stuck on screen for a cool hour
I’m afraid of love. Since my son was born in November 2019. My son is now four and I can’t imagine reconnecting with my son in such a long timeframe. Maleni, you keep my spirits high. Just give me best spirits if you can :)
Let's get into it!! #Happy Wednesday yall. 😎🩷
I be loving the aesthetic you guys be having. The scenery in the back, the fits. It's always a vibe ❤️🔥
56:00 exactly.
I can be honest I get how Chicklet can feel how he feels because honestly I kinda put my girl through the same thing, I tend to ask if she wants things versus just doing it, I do believe it comes off more thoughtful when you just take the initiative and just do something for your partner regardless if that thing you did goes to waste I know I also sometimes wait till its kinda to late to do my part and it does drive the other person to give up expecting something from us. My wife has those natural traits of being caring and thoughtful towards her family, she cooks for me and the kids all the time, she is always thinking about us no matter where ever she is at, I know I had to learn to be more thoughtful, caring and romantic that doesnt come to me naturally I know I am a very selfish person. I know for some people it comes natural to be a certain way and others have to work at it more. High key men tend to be more stoic and less thoughtfully and caring in my eyes but doesnt mean we cant learn to be that way all though it kinda seems Cheeks might be more caring than he comes off. The way Cheeks was explaining it, it sounds like Melanie probably is a bit oblivious on the relationship when certain issues arise, I feel like she has a hard time putting her self in Chicklets shoes when he has a concern about the way shes is moving and how it can be a problem, not to say she probably has similar feelings, but then again what do I know, I know we only get small pieces of the 8 year relationship.
I’LL KNOCK YA TEEF OUTTTTT
Yessssss to these new thumbnails !! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Those other ones were below you’re caliber lol
Best episode ever they addressed real shit that goes on In relationships and I admire that they stay together despite that well said, guys keep it up keep doing that good work, and keep working that relationship it takes guts to do that
Really good podcast
Sound works now guys btw
The whole food thing I just won’t wait for someone to cook for me unless we plan on eating together so I’ll just cook my own food or buy it
Every relationship has different dynamics there's nothing wrong with communicating what he would like or expect from his fiance be as long as he is doing his part too and not one sided 🤔😒
Lmaoooooo
I don't see ya lasting much even if ya go through with the marriage... let's see