Forgiveness is vital for healing, but it doesn't mean to continue accepting bad,abusive,or neglectful behavior from the person you have forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift, but sometimes distancing oneself from people who continue to hurt you is also a gift.
Having had to deal with my narcissistic family all my life, and now being the resident watchful eye over them in their old age, this wisdom is spot right on time - thank you Nikki. I appreciate your time & effort.
I'm sure this will be very helpful to many people. Forgiveness dissolves karma. Forgiveness of others because of what they did to you/others and forgiveness of yourself for reacting the way you had to react to survive that toxic family dynamic. Funnily enough forgiveness of others is far easier than forgiveness and love of yourself. Both take practice and time.
I was told by one of my kids I should never have responded in fear there was no other way to respond cause I was in a highly charged traumatising situation where my kids father was brainwashing them both against me teaching them to hate me not to go to school to basically do the opposite to everything I said at that time he not me had all the power I'm still trying to get over it to this day one son understands the other doesn'ti did my best in a violent abusive situation and that's what I have to tell myself daily to try to cope with all I went thru
Everyone in my family always Always never forget to remind me that I am a black male and that things will always be harder for me to do only because of my skin color. I didn’t like the hate and self discomfort that resides behind those words so I always tried to forget those teachings, because if I had not had that teaching in grained and I didn’t get the job I wanted, then all I would have seen was that I just simply wasn’t chosen... I tried to explain to my mom and aunt but they only saw neglecting who you are and your ancestors in that sense. The experience up front was more greasy in their minds so I can’t blame them. But yes, it is very emotionally frustrating to see your parents hold on to limiting ideas.
I just saw your comment and I love black people they are outspoken smart handsome beautiful and specially their skin I love it.... So don't think bad about it. You yourself as a unique person makes you stand out and some people want to hide themselves and force it on to others too. Show yourself as you are.
I have to forgive my parents for being physically, psychologically and emotionally abusive towards me and my sister during all my life. The fisical abuse stopped when I was about 20 years old. However, the emotional abuse still occurs on a daily basis. It's a very difficult lesson to learn specially when all my ego wants now It's to cause them the same pain they've caused me.
It's interesting how what I'm asking about spiritually in my mind when I pray to the universe, you give those answers around the same time. I've noticed other people give me the answers too, but I can feel that yours are from a more pure source. Maybe it come in more clear through you because you're more spiritually evolved. I appreciate your advise and words of love
I'm a member of narcotics anonymous (I inherited addiction from my family) and working my forth and fifth step has truly opened my eyes to how my family upbringing affected my behaviors. I am working on forgiving myself and them. I have come a long way and have already experienced transformations. I feel this program helps dissolve karma with there methods. I am breaking the cycle! Thank you Nikki for your videos!
family karma i see as inherited trauma. It's pain conflicted to us, whiich we pass on because there's where we're hurting. Simply don't know how to come from a place of love there because there's darker energy at work there
At first I was thinking about my boyfriend and his family, his whole family is abusive and traumatic. Then I realised this stuff can apply to my family as well. Everyone is super kind and sweet, but the amount of anxiety and phobias in this family are pretty intense and it's definitely passed down for generations.
thank you Nicky, I really like your video. It is spot on. Although it only takes a few moments to see the pattern one has been involved in since early childhood, it takes a lifetime to live the new freedom.
Amazing and helpful video! I have been wondering how to break the cycle of the family karma and I found the answer and the tactical steps to do it easily. Thank you so much
My mom had horrible people that did hortible things in her history, and she suffers from pain and emotional pain every day, I really think my family is being affected by ancestral karma. Hopefully healing this for my family will releave some of the effects
Nikki I think this is a beautiful way to handle family karma. Our families got a big way to go and I hope it’s not too late. Your heart is so big and I feel it in your words
I agree with everything you say. I'm one of 7 and that's a big family. I can honestly say that I had good parents who supported all of us although some of my siblings might not agree with me. I felt loved always without someone running after me saying I love you all the time I just knew. Later in live I married a control freak and that was very distressing and almost landed me in a psychiatric clinic. I have 2 boys both adults now and I'm immensely proud of them because I think they ended up being decent human beings. One of the boys is a dad and the amazing thing is that he is a very good dad, very loving to his kids without taking any shit and the kids are wonderful. That's really my point inspite of having a very bad role model he turned things around. I'm not sure how he is spiritually because we don't talk about it. I just find it better not to ramm my stuff down his throat. So to recap, I had a good childhood, a crap marriage and out of that came 2 good and decent adults
How come the boys didn't end up being like the dad I can't understand it I had two sons one ended up same as the father it was parent alienation he taught them to go against me to hate me basically and do wrong and not do right I lost so much because of it
Thank you for helping me awaken to the true nature of reality your channel is the biggest inspiration in my life I love all your work ✨Greetings from Turkey 💐
I like you soo much! I'm a scientist by profession who learnt this through my life experiences and came to the same page. I'm hoping to find a life partner of the same ethos! That I may or may not be finding but that's okay. At least I'm reaching my best version . You have given an amazing summary that makes a great positive impact on ppl's lives. Thank you. Forgiveness is key, I love it! Thanks dear. Balaji Virassamy from Melbourne Australia.
I really really needed to hear this because I was goinf through a family karma situatiom where no one is breaking it and treating eaxhother the way they say they dont want to be treated..
If there's one thing I learned in life is I'll never subject a child to neglect the way I have been. I wonder if that means I mistreated a child in my last life. I suppose that's the case... any thoughts?
Thank you so much for sharing my family are dysfunctional and I was abused from en early age and was made a scapegoat for all my family I’m so glad I was able to forgive them and come to my own inner understanding so thank you so much for sharing as it helped me find clarity to know I did the right thing ❤️🔥
I hope it's ok to put this up Nicky, but there is a wonderful American lady on UA-cam called Lisa A. Romano. She is a spiritually aware life coach who and I quote 'specialises in helping people heal from codependency, narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect psychological invisibility and the like'.She is amazing.
Lisa Romano kicked me out of her group because I posted that the feelings coming up for me were suicidal. I didn’t say I was suicidal, I said I wasn’t going to do anything but as a child I felt suicidal a lot as I was sexually abused. She kicked me out of her group, didn’t ask me any questions, seemed more like she was protecting herself against a “problem”. So beware. There was something inauthentic about that as she never even followed up to see how I was or anything!
It seems to me that a lot of so called Spiritual" people are seriously lacking in EMPATHY. So many people are in Crisis now... Severe depression and anxiety and assorted stuff going on.. It is overwhelming to say the least. A lot of spiritual people see this as negative.. and will sideline you.. Abandon you in your hour of need. It teaches us to Grow strong roots, that maybe we have what it takes within us... Spirit is LOVE and it WILL see us through Jessica. I know what it is like.. the suffering and anguish... But it is important to Identify What it is that is making us suffer so. Victim programming.. and Overanalysing..Mind..self punishment and what not... See if you can practise ALLOWING yourself to let go of that by the by.. It is a state we are used to... A LOT of people are.. Look around and notice. It is 3D consciousness of Fear and Survival in a brutal world and after Childhood abuse and severe trauma it is how we learned to cope. But we have basically been our own worst enemy. Compassion and empathy from others is important, but only WE can decide to say NO to this shadow mind trying to resist the natural flow of SURRENDER. All my love to you, you are not alone, and you are stronger then you feel!
kismet valk I really appreciate your comment. I take it day by day but I am getting better. There are a lot of things I have to do to feel well and if I don’t do them I fall down again. Thanks for your love and compassion. You are right about some spiritual people. A lot are quick to judge. I believe in spirit too, I believe we are guided and those who have been the most hurt will not be forgotten. Love and blessings to you 💖
Thank you my dear teacher, it’s time to take action. This should be the final steps to transmute these blocks within me. To get to the core of it all and making new imprints. I will try the guided meditation to cut emotional cords. From my heart to your heart. Blessings
There's a fine line between changing your behaviors toward a dysfunctional father (family member) and being a doormat. When my attitudes disassociated from the family paradigm, I was ostracized and criminalized. Some parents eat their young.
i have to add you simple advice you have to show them in sometimes reflection of the dark energy they posses and show to you instead of that reflect it in them in order to see the effect they make in people and get shocked
Nicky, Thank you for this, as I am listening to it as my partner has requested I move out. It has been a Twin flame relationship for sure, and due to a relapse in drug use on my part, had resulted in this very painful parting. I am trying to stay in a place of light and that for some reason, I felt need to not heed his warnings. We are both more enlightened souls than this, but I've learned there is so much more work on me to do Thank you
I can't imagine what my soul was thinking if it thought I needed all the crap I've been through. I always wonder why, considering our higher selves are supposed to be so intelligent and understanding and generally what we'd think of as perfect, they can't think of a way to teach the same lessons without the horror. I'm at a loss as to why I seem to be someone who thinks about all the things Nicki talks about, but all the understanding in the world doesn't make me feel better. I also wonder if I'm the only person who feels like, in many cases, that "learning X isn't worth going through Y" People in my family are beyond learning anything they don't already think, unfortunately. They are fixated on the ideas of "should, must, and have to". My family never learns to "accept" things they think are literally evil, but that idea almost always includes anything they don't do. I would give anything for a permanent separation from my family, but it won't happen due to their belief that they have a divine absolute right to run my life and the ability to enforce it upon me no matter what I want or how old I get. I have a problem with forgiveness because I don't know how to get past the idea that a person needs to be sorry for what they've done to deserve forgiveness. If someone is unrepentant, so to speak, it might be meant to help me more than them, but I just have a visceral response to the idea of forgiving those who won't or can't change themselves to be worthy of it.
you CAN permanently separate from them. It is your choice. I don't talk to my parents, or siblings, anymore. It is so NICE. It is liberating. You CHOSE to stay in their dysfunction.
How can my mom, sister and i stop suffering from my narcissistic manipulative dad ? I just hate it no matter what we do no matter how lovely and caring we are, he is just extremely toxic ! And i don’t want anything happening to my mom because she is truly a good person 🥹🥹 i feel like we would be truly relieved if he is not with us but this only possible when he dies😊
You can't change someone who refuse to change themselves... Your mum have 2 choices... One is to stay with him and suffer the pain till the end OR she can end the relationship and start a new life without him... The choice is for your mum to make... There is always a way out... Your mum need to have faith and stay strong she can make those changes
So we have this karma where my mom is constantly going towards her mom (my grandmother) desperately trying to give her love to her mom but my grandmother is constantly cold and not interested and she is only watching for herself and her needs. My mom is not that much of a warm person and she knows to yell like all of a sadden for some not important thing and I think that all of that is coming from the love she is lacking from her mom. Sadly I do that too towards my mom.. I tried so many times to tell her and explain and give her unconditional love other times I've tried to brake the pattern and not feel neglected and brake the bond but I've failed.. My mom constantly is talking to her mom and she's making plans for cooking or to go grocery shopping and I'm feeling so left out like a black sheep. No matter what I say or how I say it it never changes. If I'm arguing with Grandma, my mom is always against me, and to be honest I really feel that my grandmother hates me because I can feel it, she can't look me into my eyes without hers to shake sooo much she can't keep them still like a guilt from within, every day she finds something to do or say so she could get me mad and I can't help it I can't keep it calm I'm trying every day so that and the fact that I see like a wall between me and my mom is not helping to the feelings towards her too..
Hi I am the black sheep of the family cause the culture and religious beliefs were not to my liking If I had followed their lifestyle there would have been huge reward But that's ok I have peace.
Heredity can also extend to an entire race of people. A race is basically an extended family that shares similar genetic, physical, and mental traits. The different races of mankind evolved in different parts of the world in different environments. There's no way everyone is the same. Different races developed certain mental faculties and higher intelligence that served them well in certain environments that required "thinking outside the box" in order for them to survive, while other races simply didn't need to evolve such intelligence and relied more on their physical capacities. This explains why, for example, different races on average differ in I.Q. and athletic performances. Not only do we have to deal with the Karmic heredity of our family members, but our race as well. And if you decide to reincarnate into another race in your next lifetime, you'll probably pass on that Karmic heredity that you had from your previous life as another race.
You do realize that trying to tie intelligence to race, which is basically an imaginary construct when you get down to it on a biological level, is a bigoted idea, right?
Hi there! I'm wondering if you (or anyone viewing) happens to have insights on how Family Karma is passed when closed record (if that matters) adoption occurs? Does the Karma patterns stem from the biological family or the adoptive family, or perhaps both? Thanks so much for the insight!
Nicky I grew up in a family that never expressed love to others. Nicknames weren't used either. I don't feel comfortable saying 'luv, darling, sweetie' etc & can never hug & kiss unless it's my husband. We all get on ok but This was only a thing we'd do to Grandma cos she was old & sick ?? How can I change this? I luv helping, giving gifts & luv chatting but feel guilty when I can't physically & mentally complete the task. Any ideas?
Work on yourself more. It will come....just takes time, and work. Try other youtube videos: Mooji, Sadhguru, Bryon Katie, Eckhart Tolle, etc. so many out there....you will get there. My family was/is awful. No love either.
See my problem is… I understand why she is the way she is and I want to help her & give her advice , but I know that would go bad Bc of the way my mother is. She wouldn’t even take my advice even if I tried just bc I’m her daughter and am younger than her. She thinks I know nothing, but she doesn’t know the wisdom, knowledge, & love I hold. But I want nothing more than to just help her heal. And yes I do want it to stop with me… I’m the oldest I want to stop my sisters from enduring the trauma I want them to have a healed & happy mama.
I don't think many people in the comments understand generational karma. Generational karma has nothing to do with abuse or mistreatment. Generational karma is: My Grandma was poor because she gave too much, Granddad too, Mom was poor because she she was always bailing big sis and big bro out of jail. Dad was poor because he didn't put his foot down at work and allowed his boss to pay him peanuts when he was worth more. So the theme here is the family needs to set boundaries, have self confidence, and quit giving so much to others. Then you break the karma by not making the same mistakes as them. Only give what you can afford to lose and speak up for yourself. That's generational karma. Has nothing to do with you being the black sheep or outcasted.
Take away all the talk of karma and what you really have is a pretty practical guide to healing and forgiveness. I think the karma part probably turns a lot of people away which is sad.
This is what I’m doing now, taking space from family. It’s not easy. As they are making it seem like I’m the problem.
Forgiveness is vital for healing, but it doesn't mean to continue accepting bad,abusive,or neglectful behavior from the person you have forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift, but sometimes distancing oneself from people who continue to hurt you is also a gift.
I struggle with this
Sometimes people can't forgive you for forgiving them. They're addicted to hate and blame.
Don't forgive anyone. Just letting them go carelessly
Having had to deal with my narcissistic family all my life, and now being the resident watchful eye over them in their old age, this wisdom is spot right on time - thank you Nikki. I appreciate your time & effort.
Noc Miner Please make sure you are taking care of YOU in the process.💗2U
I'm sure this will be very helpful to many people. Forgiveness dissolves karma. Forgiveness of others because of what they did to you/others and forgiveness of yourself for reacting the way you had to react to survive that toxic family dynamic. Funnily enough forgiveness of others is far easier than forgiveness and love of yourself. Both take practice and time.
I was told by one of my kids I should never have responded in fear there was no other way to respond cause I was in a highly charged traumatising situation where my kids father was brainwashing them both against me teaching them to hate me not to go to school to basically do the opposite to everything I said at that time he not me had all the power I'm still trying to get over it to this day one son understands the other doesn'ti did my best in a violent abusive situation and that's what I have to tell myself daily to try to cope with all I went thru
Everyone in my family always Always never forget to remind me that I am a black male and that things will always be harder for me to do only because of my skin color. I didn’t like the hate and self discomfort that resides behind those words so I always tried to forget those teachings, because if I had not had that teaching in grained and I didn’t get the job I wanted, then all I would have seen was that I just simply wasn’t chosen... I tried to explain to my mom and aunt but they only saw neglecting who you are and your ancestors in that sense. The experience up front was more greasy in their minds so I can’t blame them. But yes, it is very emotionally frustrating to see your parents hold on to limiting ideas.
I completely understand because I've been there also.
I just saw your comment and I love black people they are outspoken smart handsome beautiful and specially their skin I love it.... So don't think bad about it. You yourself as a unique person makes you stand out and some people want to hide themselves and force it on to others too. Show yourself as you are.
This is such a mature thought you've expressed. Anyone who thinks this way is bound to succeed and fulfill their soul mission.
@@aarkmish8087 Whoa, Thank you :) haha that was amazing.
@@M32_722 I can understand your experience. It also causes a degree of lower ambition, intelligence development and low self esteem/value 😢 ❤
There is something so calming about you. Thanks for this Nicky 🙏❤️
i feel that she is a spokesperson for someone ,
I have to forgive my parents for being physically, psychologically and emotionally abusive towards me and my sister during all my life. The fisical abuse stopped when I was about 20 years old. However, the emotional abuse still occurs on a daily basis. It's a very difficult lesson to learn specially when all my ego wants now It's to cause them the same pain they've caused me.
It's interesting how what I'm asking about spiritually in my mind when I pray to the universe, you give those answers around the same time. I've noticed other people give me the answers too, but I can feel that yours are from a more pure source. Maybe it come in more clear through you because you're more spiritually evolved. I appreciate your advise and words of love
Thankyou for this video Nicky😘 this is so difficult, but im determined to break the cycle and lead by example 🐛🦋
I'm a member of narcotics anonymous (I inherited addiction from my family) and working my forth and fifth step has truly opened my eyes to how my family upbringing affected my behaviors. I am working on forgiving myself and them. I have come a long way and have already experienced transformations. I feel this program helps dissolve karma with there methods. I am breaking the cycle! Thank you Nikki for your videos!
family karma i see as inherited trauma. It's pain conflicted to us, whiich we pass on because there's where we're hurting. Simply don't know how to come from a place of love there because there's darker energy at work there
At first I was thinking about my boyfriend and his family, his whole family is abusive and traumatic. Then I realised this stuff can apply to my family as well. Everyone is super kind and sweet, but the amount of anxiety and phobias in this family are pretty intense and it's definitely passed down for generations.
thank you Nicky, I really like your video. It is spot on. Although it only takes a few moments to see the pattern one has been involved in since early childhood, it takes a lifetime to live the new freedom.
Perfect timing. Love and forgiveness is key. Distance is needed to protect ourselves. 💗2U
Everyone loves you Nicky keep it up
Amazing and helpful video! I have been wondering how to break the cycle of the family karma and I found the answer and the tactical steps to do it easily. Thank you so much
Your beautiful and intuition is blessed
My mom had horrible people that did hortible things in her history, and she suffers from pain and emotional pain every day, I really think my family is being affected by ancestral karma. Hopefully healing this for my family will releave some of the effects
Nikki I think this is a beautiful way to handle family karma. Our families got a big way to go and I hope it’s not too late. Your heart is so big and I feel it in your words
Thank you for this information. Very useful.
Thanks Nicky. You just made me compare my old ways with those of my father and you are spot on.
I agree with everything you say. I'm one of 7 and that's a big family. I can honestly say that I had good parents who supported all of us although some of my siblings might not agree with me. I felt loved always without someone running after me saying I love you all the time I just knew. Later in live I married a control freak and that was very distressing and almost landed me in a psychiatric clinic. I have 2 boys both adults now and I'm immensely proud of them because I think they ended up being decent human beings. One of the boys is a dad and the amazing thing is that he is a very good dad, very loving to his kids without taking any shit and the kids are wonderful. That's really my point inspite of having a very bad role model he turned things around. I'm not sure how he is spiritually because we don't talk about it. I just find it better not to ramm my stuff down his throat. So to recap, I had a good childhood, a crap marriage and out of that came 2 good and decent adults
How come the boys didn't end up being like the dad I can't understand it I had two sons one ended up same as the father it was parent alienation he taught them to go against me to hate me basically and do wrong and not do right I lost so much because of it
Thank you for helping me awaken to the true nature of reality your channel is the biggest inspiration in my life I love all your work ✨Greetings from Turkey 💐
Thank You ~~~~EVERYBODY should hear this!!!
Absolutely great information!!! So happy to learn this finally!! I will share with everyone I can!!! Thankful and Grateful 🙏🏻
Thank you very much for this incredible information it’s going to be very helpful for me to clear more karma Light and love to you many thanks.
Beautiful! Thanks Nicky!!
I like you soo much! I'm a scientist by profession who learnt this through my life experiences and came to the same page. I'm hoping to find a life partner of the same ethos! That I may or may not be finding but that's okay. At least I'm reaching my best version . You have given an amazing summary that makes a great positive impact on ppl's lives. Thank you. Forgiveness is key, I love it! Thanks dear. Balaji Virassamy from Melbourne Australia.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom.
Beautiful I'm on the right track😁
This really speaks about what im currently going through
Just on time. Thank you so much it really helps.
Thank you Nicky, very helpful!
Thank you nicky love love love your channel it's so helpful 💕💕🌹🌼🌸🍀
I really really needed to hear this because I was goinf through a family karma situatiom where no one is breaking it and treating eaxhother the way they say they dont want to be treated..
If there's one thing I learned in life is I'll never subject a child to neglect the way I have been. I wonder if that means I mistreated a child in my last life. I suppose that's the case... any thoughts?
You are so informative and helpful! I love your videos so much ❤️
Thank you very much this information is a revalation!
Hi.this is the most short cut video i watched about healing family karma
Nicky, you always have a video about just what I’m looking for. 🖤
That’s a great video!
Thank you so much for sharing my family are dysfunctional and I was abused from en early age and was made a scapegoat for all my family I’m so glad I was able to forgive them and come to my own inner understanding so thank you so much for sharing as it helped me find clarity to know I did the right thing ❤️🔥
I hope it's ok to put this up Nicky, but there is a wonderful American lady on UA-cam called Lisa A. Romano. She is a spiritually aware life coach who and I quote 'specialises in helping people heal from codependency, narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect psychological invisibility and the like'.She is amazing.
Autumn Sky I love her videos on narcissist mothers and how daughters can heal🙏
Lisa Romano kicked me out of her group because I posted that the feelings coming up for me were suicidal. I didn’t say I was suicidal, I said I wasn’t going to do anything but as a child I felt suicidal a lot as I was sexually abused. She kicked me out of her group, didn’t ask me any questions, seemed more like she was protecting herself against a “problem”. So beware. There was something inauthentic about that as she never even followed up to see how I was or anything!
Luckily, I wasn’t actually suicidal or else who knows what would have happened!
It seems to me that a lot of so called Spiritual" people are seriously lacking in EMPATHY. So many people are in Crisis now... Severe depression and anxiety and assorted stuff going on.. It is overwhelming to say the least. A lot of spiritual people see this as negative.. and will sideline you.. Abandon you in your hour of need. It teaches us to Grow strong roots, that maybe we have what it takes within us... Spirit is LOVE and it WILL see us through Jessica. I know what it is like.. the suffering and anguish... But it is important to Identify What it is that is making us suffer so. Victim programming.. and Overanalysing..Mind..self punishment and what not... See if you can practise ALLOWING yourself to let go of that by the by.. It is a state we are used to... A LOT of people are.. Look around and notice. It is 3D consciousness of Fear and Survival in a brutal world and after Childhood abuse and severe trauma it is how we learned to cope. But we have basically been our own worst enemy. Compassion and empathy from others is important, but only WE can decide to say NO to this shadow mind trying to resist the natural flow of SURRENDER. All my love to you, you are not alone, and you are stronger then you feel!
kismet valk I really appreciate your comment. I take it day by day but I am getting better. There are a lot of things I have to do to feel well and if I don’t do them I fall down again. Thanks for your love and compassion. You are right about some spiritual people. A lot are quick to judge. I believe in spirit too, I believe we are guided and those who have been the most hurt will not be forgotten. Love and blessings to you 💖
Thank you so much for what you do.
Thank you my dear teacher, it’s time to take action. This should be the final steps to transmute these blocks within me. To get to the core of it all and making new imprints. I will try the guided meditation to cut emotional cords. From my heart to your heart. Blessings
There's a fine line between changing your behaviors toward a dysfunctional father (family member) and being a doormat. When my attitudes disassociated from the family paradigm, I was ostracized and criminalized. Some parents eat their young.
Thank you this helps a lot thank you
You're a lot of fun to watch. On my quite time I listen to you. :D
Thank you for this! ❤️
i have to add you simple advice
you have to show them in sometimes reflection of the dark energy they posses and show to you
instead of that reflect it in them in order to see the effect they make in people and get shocked
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Best Squad! 😂
Michael Wilson same!!! Love getting the little ding updates from nicky!!✌🏽💛
Nicky, Thank you for this, as I am listening to it as my partner has requested I move out. It has been a Twin flame relationship for sure, and due to a relapse in drug use on my part, had resulted in this very painful parting.
I am trying to stay in a place of light and that for some reason, I felt need to not heed his warnings. We are both more enlightened souls than this, but I've learned there is so much more work on me to do
Thank you
I live your accent and sound if your voice so much
Thanx nicky
War karma destroyed my family. I will never get out of therapy.
Thank you
Excellent video!
❤️💡 Thank You Nicky
I can't imagine what my soul was thinking if it thought I needed all the crap I've been through. I always wonder why, considering our higher selves are supposed to be so intelligent and understanding and generally what we'd think of as perfect, they can't think of a way to teach the same lessons without the horror. I'm at a loss as to why I seem to be someone who thinks about all the things Nicki talks about, but all the understanding in the world doesn't make me feel better. I also wonder if I'm the only person who feels like, in many cases, that "learning X isn't worth going through Y" People in my family are beyond learning anything they don't already think, unfortunately. They are fixated on the ideas of "should, must, and have to". My family never learns to "accept" things they think are literally evil, but that idea almost always includes anything they don't do. I would give anything for a permanent separation from my family, but it won't happen due to their belief that they have a divine absolute right to run my life and the ability to enforce it upon me no matter what I want or how old I get. I have a problem with forgiveness because I don't know how to get past the idea that a person needs to be sorry for what they've done to deserve forgiveness. If someone is unrepentant, so to speak, it might be meant to help me more than them, but I just have a visceral response to the idea of forgiving those who won't or can't change themselves to be worthy of it.
you CAN permanently separate from them. It is your choice. I don't talk to my parents, or siblings, anymore. It is so NICE. It is liberating. You CHOSE to stay in their dysfunction.
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Perfectly said
Thank you 😊
How can my mom, sister and i stop suffering from my narcissistic manipulative dad ? I just hate it no matter what we do no matter how lovely and caring we are, he is just extremely toxic ! And i don’t want anything happening to my mom because she is truly a good person 🥹🥹 i feel like we would be truly relieved if he is not with us but this only possible when he dies😊
You can't change someone who refuse to change themselves... Your mum have 2 choices... One is to stay with him and suffer the pain till the end OR she can end the relationship and start a new life without him... The choice is for your mum to make... There is always a way out... Your mum need to have faith and stay strong she can make those changes
So we have this karma where my mom is constantly going towards her mom (my grandmother) desperately trying to give her love to her mom but my grandmother is constantly cold and not interested and she is only watching for herself and her needs. My mom is not that much of a warm person and she knows to yell like all of a sadden for some not important thing and I think that all of that is coming from the love she is lacking from her mom. Sadly I do that too towards my mom.. I tried so many times to tell her and explain and give her unconditional love other times I've tried to brake the pattern and not feel neglected and brake the bond but I've failed.. My mom constantly is talking to her mom and she's making plans for cooking or to go grocery shopping and I'm feeling so left out like a black sheep. No matter what I say or how I say it it never changes. If I'm arguing with Grandma, my mom is always against me, and to be honest I really feel that my grandmother hates me because I can feel it, she can't look me into my eyes without hers to shake sooo much she can't keep them still like a guilt from within, every day she finds something to do or say so she could get me mad and I can't help it I can't keep it calm I'm trying every day so that and the fact that I see like a wall between me and my mom is not helping to the feelings towards her too..
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I am the black sheep of the family cause the culture and religious beliefs were not to my liking
If I had followed their lifestyle there would have been huge reward
But that's ok
I have peace.
Same! I just walked away. It is so awesome to have peace and happiness.
“Even our parents we need to validate them “ 😒😒😒😒💀💀💀💀
Hello..i am suffering from a disease..which is not healings..how can i heal it in family field or constellation .pls
Heredity can also extend to an entire race of people. A race is basically an extended family that shares similar genetic, physical, and mental traits. The different races of mankind evolved in different parts of the world in different environments. There's no way everyone is the same. Different races developed certain mental faculties and higher intelligence that served them well in certain environments that required "thinking outside the box" in order for them to survive, while other races simply didn't need to evolve such intelligence and relied more on their physical capacities. This explains why, for example, different races on average differ in I.Q. and athletic performances.
Not only do we have to deal with the Karmic heredity of our family members, but our race as well. And if you decide to reincarnate into another race in your next lifetime, you'll probably pass on that Karmic heredity that you had from your previous life as another race.
You do realize that trying to tie intelligence to race, which is basically an imaginary construct when you get down to it on a biological level, is a bigoted idea, right?
You can't treat your Narcissist Father with love & care!
What about those who are in witchcraft ,u have avoided them how do u go about with this.
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Hi there! I'm wondering if you (or anyone viewing) happens to have insights on how Family Karma is passed when closed record (if that matters) adoption occurs? Does the Karma patterns stem from the biological family or the adoptive family, or perhaps both? Thanks so much for the insight!
Nicky I grew up in a family that never expressed love to others. Nicknames weren't used either. I don't feel comfortable saying 'luv, darling, sweetie' etc & can never hug & kiss unless it's my husband. We all get on ok but This was only a thing we'd do to Grandma cos she was old & sick ?? How can I change this? I luv helping, giving gifts & luv chatting but feel guilty when I can't physically & mentally complete the task. Any ideas?
Work on yourself more. It will come....just takes time, and work. Try other youtube videos: Mooji, Sadhguru, Bryon Katie, Eckhart Tolle, etc. so many out there....you will get there. My family was/is awful. No love either.
Mental Disorder & Negativity have been passed down on me lol
What about abuse in every sense from both parents . Neglected and starved . How can you forgive that . I broke the cycle but I still get karma.
Nikki is there a hell?
Can I say, I love you?
See my problem is… I understand why she is the way she is and I want to help her & give her advice , but I know that would go bad Bc of the way my mother is. She wouldn’t even take my advice even if I tried just bc I’m her daughter and am younger than her. She thinks I know nothing, but she doesn’t know the wisdom, knowledge, & love I hold. But I want nothing more than to just help her heal. And yes I do want it to stop with me… I’m the oldest I want to stop my sisters from enduring the trauma I want them to have a healed & happy mama.
Or if your parents are toxic you can distance yourself from them therefore break the karma.
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I don't think many people in the comments understand generational karma. Generational karma has nothing to do with abuse or mistreatment. Generational karma is: My Grandma was poor because she gave too much, Granddad too, Mom was poor because she she was always bailing big sis and big bro out of jail. Dad was poor because he didn't put his foot down at work and allowed his boss to pay him peanuts when he was worth more.
So the theme here is the family needs to set boundaries, have self confidence, and quit giving so much to others. Then you break the karma by not making the same mistakes as them. Only give what you can afford to lose and speak up for yourself. That's generational karma. Has nothing to do with you being the black sheep or outcasted.
Eating meat is also one
any one knows if i take enough sleeping pills, like a lot, i wont wake up and die?
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Take away all the talk of karma and what you really have is a pretty practical guide to healing and forgiveness. I think the karma part probably turns a lot of people away which is sad.
I’m just the opposite of my family.
Yeah but if the sarcasm really effects your mental and emotional health then best to cut ties. If they are very toxic.
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Lol forgiveness is a lot 💀💀💀💀
I stopped watching this after she mentioned forgiveness.
Too much. Not healable.
How the hell did this end up in my recommended?
This lady sounds like she has a hard time speaking am I missing something? Or perhaps she is.
Hard time speaking ? 🙄
Thank you so much
Thank u.u so mutch for your humility and sharing this infoo that is superr viital!