My binge eating is BAD. I was on a good streak, I lost 5lbs, and then out of nowhere: cake, pizza, more pizza, cheese, coke, bread, fried chicken. Now im so close to my highest weight again. HORRIBLE!!! I STUFF my face until I feel sick and I don’t stop, I keep going through the stomach pain. Disgusted with myself.
So almost everyone I've heard/ everything I've read they say that eating regular and balanced meals, or eating breakfast especially with lots of protein, or eating regular healthy snacks, etc, will help prevent binges. My problem is that I overeat in the evenings, sometimes afternoons, REGARDLESS of whether or when or how much I ate during the day. So as a person who isn't typically hungry in the mornings (although if breakfast is provided for me I'll usually happily eat it... but it's not a thing I need to have) and i also tend to not be hungry until around 1-3pm, it's hard to make myself eat something until then, cause while I *could* eat, I'm not necessarily hungry, and also I'll most likely overeat in the evening no matter what, so then my thoughts go well why not just skip the meal(s) and save on calories during the morning and/or noon time?
I am a 'tomorrow I'll ....' person, not for things related to work or workouts, but for any difficult thing that requires change. But I didn't see it as an excuse to keep doing the bad habit today. Definitely interesting point of view ! Thank you Sarah!
1.stop tomorrow thinking ask what make you think that u will be able to make it tomorrow NOT today? 2. Stop trying to make the right choice Remeber nothing right nothing wrong Eat intuitively 3.stop viewing seeing it in linear processes from A to B
I RELATE SO MUCCCHHHH Stop trying to stop binge eating by trying to stop binge eating. That's one of the most helpful messages I've encountered. Thank you so much for your videos, I'm watching them on repeat.
Very interesting- I'm a nutritionist but still feel too fraudulent to practice being a nutritionist because I'm a binge eater. Its a shame because I could support people whilst coming from a place of experience - hopefully I will change my mindset one day. I'm looking forward to watching more of your work. I have ADHD and I think that is definitely related to my eating. The tomorrow concept works particularly well for my ADHD brain because I get an instant dopamine kick when I say to myself 'Yay, I'm gonna nail this tomorrow' Silly brain ;)
I also have ADHD and BED and didn’t realise that they were so related till recently. I’ve also discovered (unfortunately due to medication shortages and having to change my medication) that medication for adhd has really helped me. I’ve found that without the ability to focus my mind I am far more likely to go to food as a way to fill time. Have been doing really well but the medication change is making it much more challenging.
Yeah I totally think I'll get on with dieting/healthy eating tomorrow... The trouble is that I'll cram as much eating in that day but when tomorrow comes I fail again so I eat as much as I can thinking I'll start tomorrow... And on and on until Iv been majorly overeating for months and gone up a dress size. I am really seeing the logic in giving up the battle. I don't have the panic to get all the food as quick as possible because I'm not planning to diet tomorrow. I can't say I'm eating perfectly but there isn't the all or nothing approach and I'm not eating as much as I would be in the vicious binge cycle.
Very good said! It's not just about food... I see in me pattern, that i strugle with other "every day staff" too. If i don't do something that i planed day before, i feel very anxious with bad thoughts, that i can't managed even "little things" in life (ex. go outside for walk, cleaning, see friends...)
The tomorrow thinking has been a huge factor in my bonge eating. The idea of good and bad foods too. I feel so fortunate to.have found you Sarah. I'm actually addressing eati g in a much more mindful way. I feel more responsible and responsive and I have only been wstching your vids for a week now. Feeli g hopeful and more empowered.
I'm working my way through your videos and I've just purchased your book which, no exaggeration, speaks to my actual soul. You have an amazing way of sharing that makes me feel seen. I love your content and in the very early days of my recovery (that I anticipate will not be a linear journey), I'm super grateful to you :)
My bpd caused me to struggle with binge eating (Self harming behavior combined with the impulsivity and how bored and empty I feel :/ all the time) honestly it was a nightmare im happy im finally starting to get better
Everything you said resonated with me I'm so fixated on the outcome I'm overly focused. Funnily enough over the last few days I've been randomly telling myself that i need to not care because in the passed i didn't care and i wasn't gaining heaps of weight or struggling its like only now that i care its now a problem. Gosh I'd love to go back to my old self when i just ate aomething for breakfast because i was hungry and that was it no breakfast ocd or after breakfast guilt followed by planning lunch to make up for breakfast 😢 i also tell myself i need a new hobby to focus on so i can stop focusing of dam food, i use to be a foodie when i didnt care about food i loved it loved to bake an make stuff everyday now i hate food its a prison sentence
Tearing up here. A therapist who has been there themself is priceless. Always on the verge of A New Life, that delusional dangling carrot disguised as "hope" and "positive thinking" One day .... ✌️
Thank you for sharing this, a simple, easy to follow video that says so much. I am definitely guilty of saying to myself "I can't seem to stop myself today, so I'll just give in and do better tomorrow."
You nailded it Sarah! Loving the 3 tips!! Really helpful! Loving what you said about "Overthinking" and "calm ourselves to try to listen our wisdom". Wishing mental peace about food to all of us, all the community!! ❤❤❤❤
This idea of your future self is so helpful. At work people would take overtime and say they were regretting it when working but future them would be happy when paid. I like the idea of looking after your future self and not putting all that pressure on tomorrow. I do that a lot instead of living just now.
This is the first video I've watched from your or on this topic. I am definitely a tomorrow person! I eat when I am tired, I eat before I leave on some kind of irregular trip or drive if I know I won't be home in a few hours I eat when I'm stressed I eat when I'm bored I eat because I love food I eat because its a habit. I used to wrestle year round and it was always cut tons of weight then binge binge binge then cut and repeat and when wrestling ended for me I am still binging years later. I recently lost 60lb with the help of a trainer and I would say yes I am winning the war but I keep losing the battles that set me back big time. The trainer keeps saying it's simple just don't put things in your mouth and he keeps getting mad and threatening to drop me but I do it subconsciously sometimes too where I realize what I've done and panic trying to throw up or go running in the middle of the night. Sometimes my wife will yell at me and I will still eat mid-yelling and growing up my dad would always scream stop eating at the top of his lungs so much so that it's ingrained in my mind like PTSD of some kind. Yet even with all that I just can't stop eating until pain, I have lost a ton of weight but I am still binging I drink like 6 crystal lights a day and multiple zero-calorie sodas and I eat tons of pickles and other untrackable caloric items. I tried to go to therapy but as an adult, I can't just get "called out of school" for a 1pm appointment and there is never any outside of an 8-4 availability, I even tried to see a hypnotherapist as well. I will binge then get so stressed out immensely and I with pick off my entire beard on one side of my face in deep thought just to snap out of it and realize and have to shave to hide the disaster. A big mess of a story I know just thought I would share since I don't know anyone else with my problems and never shared them before.
You're strong enough that you lived all of that I know it's not easy but u are really not alone ,so much people struggle , you stopped this once which means that you can always do that again..recovery not about totally stopping but knowing how to deal with it
I have zero self control if any food I crave or tend to overeat is in my possession... my self control goes only as far as purchasing or not purchasing the food (and sometimes it does feel like there's very little control there, too. 😢) But once I have it, I will demolish it within hours or sooner. 🤔😕
I'm loving video. I feel that being on the verge of something (the I'll do it tomorrow thinking), can be an exciting feeling. Being addicted to excitement/frenzy can be where a person thrives. Also actually moving forward with that 'thing' can be terrifying (even if it's something I've wanted forever). What will that feel like? Will I struggle? Who will I be past this? We all know the old is painful but familiar, and the new isn't familiar, and that's scary. On the other hand, it could be really really fantastic! Second point you make: Analysis paralysis is a real thing for me. Perfectionistic thinking is like hitting a brick wall. Hearing (once again) that black and white thinking can sneak up everywhere, but taking a breath, stepping back and making the best choice for the moment for me, (not everyone in this community or society) is what the goal is. Making a decision that's away from a set way of eating is where I really have to dig to listen to what my gut is saying. Listen and be honest with myself and make a choice. The honesty applies to the two to five year old me who wants to get away with something in the name of doing the right thing and making the adult, thought out, honest, peaceful choice. It's like re-raising myself from the point in life where I became blocked/stunted. We've all heard of the inner child. I am raising my inner child, with kindness and love. Third point you mention: To me the meaning of "recovered" means there will no longer be a struggle. In life there are ebbs and tides, why would I think that the food would be different? (fantasy I guess) I am no longer bingeing, not really a struggle, the struggle is the thinking (I can mentally generate that bingeing frenzied feeling on a regular meal) That's where there's the peace or chaos for me. So knowing even "normal" people live lives of ups and downs, of pain and peace, and it's normal is comforting. Getting back to peace is coming faster and knowing that chaos will pass if I don't panic makes a difference. No success is made without setbacks and some failures. That's where we learn. So if I make a food choice that ends up putting me in a spiral, being kind to myself, picking up that little girl, kissing her on the forehead and telling her "that's ok", now we know what doesn't work for us, is a huge thing to have learned about myself. As always, I learn or am reminded of something I needed to hear. Thank you Sarah.
Thank you Sarah, point 3 is very relevant, I've had around 6 weeks in a much more calm state, no binging. Then last 3 days have been back into the chaos. 4 days ago was my dads funeral, so no coincidence there. Learning how to get back to the other state is what is important here. I can now see that rather than this being a set back, it's an important and required part of the process. Thank you Do you have any control over the ads that show? I try to watch them as I know it helps, but there is often noom and today it was for a binge eating coach, when clicking on link it promises weight loss and that "all my clients lose weight"
I’m sad to hear you lost your dad. Grief is such a messy complex one which can affect you in all sorts of ways. My bulimia was at it’s very worst after my mum died and at the time I was convinced there was no correlation. Hindsight is a different story of course. Be kind to yourself at this time ❤️❤️ Sadly I don’t have any control or influence over what adverts UA-cam puts on my videos. I know the coach you mean. I try to be open minded but I struggle with the idea you can just tap the binge away and of course the heavy focus on weight loss
Thanks for this video, it was very interesting. You mentioned people feeling like not eating in the hot weather, but I’m actually the opposite. The hot weather makes me feel stressed and uncomfortable, and I just feel like eating constantly. I think I should keep an eye on how I’m feeling today and notice what’s going on when I just feel like eating. Any advice please Sarah?
As I said in the video, people (that’s you too!) are wiser than they think 🙂 What you just said about keeping an eye on what you’re feeling and noticing what’s going on sounds like very sound advice to me. I usually feel less hungry during the heat, but for some reason in this heatwave I am also feeling hungrier and eating more. I don’t know why and I too am just noticing, letting go of automatic judgements and trusting ❤️❤️
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thanks for the reply Sarah. You’re right about not judging yourself; I need to keep that in mind, and just be kinder to myself. Thank you 🥰
Depends. The answer to most things are pretty nuanced. If you want to know the ins and outs of how I think about it, you can listen/watch here: ua-cam.com/video/XGSR0eF3ifo/v-deo.html
Ooops! Editing slip at 03:02 ! Imma leave it in...
😁 a sneaky peak behind the wizard's curtain. Thanks for another great video 👍
I can’t find the link for the video that expounds on the pitfalls of linear thinking.
My binge eating is BAD. I was on a good streak, I lost 5lbs, and then out of nowhere: cake, pizza, more pizza, cheese, coke, bread, fried chicken. Now im so close to my highest weight again. HORRIBLE!!! I STUFF my face until I feel sick and I don’t stop, I keep going through the stomach pain. Disgusted with myself.
I can relate
I hear ya. I weighed myself a week ago and my weight is nearly at my highest again. Bingeing is how I got here. 😢
Me too
I understand, I’ve been there! Good luck! ❤
Me too nightly
So almost everyone I've heard/ everything I've read they say that eating regular and balanced meals, or eating breakfast especially with lots of protein, or eating regular healthy snacks, etc, will help prevent binges. My problem is that I overeat in the evenings, sometimes afternoons, REGARDLESS of whether or when or how much I ate during the day. So as a person who isn't typically hungry in the mornings (although if breakfast is provided for me I'll usually happily eat it... but it's not a thing I need to have) and i also tend to not be hungry until around 1-3pm, it's hard to make myself eat something until then, cause while I *could* eat, I'm not necessarily hungry, and also I'll most likely overeat in the evening no matter what, so then my thoughts go well why not just skip the meal(s) and save on calories during the morning and/or noon time?
I am a 'tomorrow I'll ....' person, not for things related to work or workouts, but for any difficult thing that requires change. But I didn't see it as an excuse to keep doing the bad habit today. Definitely interesting point of view ! Thank you Sarah!
1.stop tomorrow thinking
ask what make you think that u will be able to make it tomorrow NOT today?
2. Stop trying to make the right choice
Remeber nothing right nothing wrong
Eat intuitively
3.stop viewing seeing it in linear
processes from A to B
I RELATE SO MUCCCHHHH
Stop trying to stop binge eating by trying to stop binge eating. That's one of the most helpful messages I've encountered.
Thank you so much for your videos, I'm watching them on repeat.
Very interesting- I'm a nutritionist but still feel too fraudulent to practice being a nutritionist because I'm a binge eater. Its a shame because I could support people whilst coming from a place of experience - hopefully I will change my mindset one day. I'm looking forward to watching more of your work. I have ADHD and I think that is definitely related to my eating. The tomorrow concept works particularly well for my ADHD brain because I get an instant dopamine kick when I say to myself 'Yay, I'm gonna nail this tomorrow' Silly brain ;)
I also have ADHD and BED and didn’t realise that they were so related till recently. I’ve also discovered (unfortunately due to medication shortages and having to change my medication) that medication for adhd has really helped me. I’ve found that without the ability to focus my mind I am far more likely to go to food as a way to fill time. Have been doing really well but the medication change is making it much more challenging.
Yeah I totally think I'll get on with dieting/healthy eating tomorrow... The trouble is that I'll cram as much eating in that day but when tomorrow comes I fail again so I eat as much as I can thinking I'll start tomorrow... And on and on until Iv been majorly overeating for months and gone up a dress size. I am really seeing the logic in giving up the battle. I don't have the panic to get all the food as quick as possible because I'm not planning to diet tomorrow. I can't say I'm eating perfectly but there isn't the all or nothing approach and I'm not eating as much as I would be in the vicious binge cycle.
Very good said! It's not just about food... I see in me pattern, that i strugle with other "every day staff" too. If i don't do something that i planed day before, i feel very anxious with bad thoughts, that i can't managed even "little things" in life (ex. go outside for walk, cleaning, see friends...)
The tomorrow thinking has been a huge factor in my bonge eating. The idea of good and bad foods too. I feel so fortunate to.have found you Sarah. I'm actually addressing eati g in a much more mindful way. I feel more responsible and responsive and I have only been wstching your vids for a week now. Feeli g hopeful and more empowered.
I'm working my way through your videos and I've just purchased your book which, no exaggeration, speaks to my actual soul. You have an amazing way of sharing that makes me feel seen. I love your content and in the very early days of my recovery (that I anticipate will not be a linear journey), I'm super grateful to you :)
Sarah I am taking master classes with you. You've helped me to recognize and become aware. The content is resonating. Thank you.
My bpd caused me to struggle with binge eating
(Self harming behavior combined with the impulsivity and how bored and empty I feel :/ all the time) honestly it was a nightmare im happy im finally starting to get better
how did you manage to get better? really happy for you btw!
Everything you said resonated with me I'm so fixated on the outcome I'm overly focused. Funnily enough over the last few days I've been randomly telling myself that i need to not care because in the passed i didn't care and i wasn't gaining heaps of weight or struggling its like only now that i care its now a problem. Gosh I'd love to go back to my old self when i just ate aomething for breakfast because i was hungry and that was it no breakfast ocd or after breakfast guilt followed by planning lunch to make up for breakfast 😢 i also tell myself i need a new hobby to focus on so i can stop focusing of dam food, i use to be a foodie when i didnt care about food i loved it loved to bake an make stuff everyday now i hate food its a prison sentence
Tearing up here.
A therapist who has been there themself is priceless.
Always on the verge of A New Life, that delusional dangling carrot disguised as "hope" and "positive thinking"
One day ....
✌️
Thank you for sharing this, a simple, easy to follow video that says so much. I am definitely guilty of saying to myself "I can't seem to stop myself today, so I'll just give in and do better tomorrow."
You can’t trust future you. Has a proven record of unreliability.
You nailded it Sarah! Loving the 3 tips!! Really helpful! Loving what you said about "Overthinking" and "calm ourselves to try to listen our wisdom".
Wishing mental peace about food to all of us, all the community!! ❤❤❤❤
Please keep talking about bingeing, I watch all your stuff and I am sure you help many others too
Oh wow! You hit the nail on the head! I’ve been struggling with these. Time to have a second look at things! 😃
Most logically, tomorrow will be worse than today. As you get older, your body isn’t as good. All problems get worse on average in the future.
This idea of your future self is so helpful. At work people would take overtime and say they were regretting it when working but future them would be happy when paid. I like the idea of looking after your future self and not putting all that pressure on tomorrow. I do that a lot instead of living just now.
Excellent, & so helpful! Thinking about each of these 3 things was helpful for me.
This is the first video I've watched from your or on this topic. I am definitely a tomorrow person! I eat when I am tired, I eat before I leave on some kind of irregular trip or drive if I know I won't be home in a few hours I eat when I'm stressed I eat when I'm bored I eat because I love food I eat because its a habit. I used to wrestle year round and it was always cut tons of weight then binge binge binge then cut and repeat and when wrestling ended for me I am still binging years later. I recently lost 60lb with the help of a trainer and I would say yes I am winning the war but I keep losing the battles that set me back big time. The trainer keeps saying it's simple just don't put things in your mouth and he keeps getting mad and threatening to drop me but I do it subconsciously sometimes too where I realize what I've done and panic trying to throw up or go running in the middle of the night. Sometimes my wife will yell at me and I will still eat mid-yelling and growing up my dad would always scream stop eating at the top of his lungs so much so that it's ingrained in my mind like PTSD of some kind. Yet even with all that I just can't stop eating until pain, I have lost a ton of weight but I am still binging I drink like 6 crystal lights a day and multiple zero-calorie sodas and I eat tons of pickles and other untrackable caloric items. I tried to go to therapy but as an adult, I can't just get "called out of school" for a 1pm appointment and there is never any outside of an 8-4 availability, I even tried to see a hypnotherapist as well. I will binge then get so stressed out immensely and I with pick off my entire beard on one side of my face in deep thought just to snap out of it and realize and have to shave to hide the disaster.
A big mess of a story I know just thought I would share since I don't know anyone else with my problems and never shared them before.
🍀🍀🍀🤗🍀🍀🍀
You're strong enough that you lived all of that I know it's not easy but u are really not alone ,so much people struggle , you stopped this once which means that you can always do that again..recovery not about totally stopping but knowing how to deal with it
I just found you on UA-cam, and I am trying to watch every video of yours. Love it! Just ordered your book as well. Keep up the great work!
Tomorrow i will eat my Chocolate 😊. Sometimes this helps me not to do it today
I have zero self control if any food I crave or tend to overeat is in my possession... my self control goes only as far as purchasing or not purchasing the food (and sometimes it does feel like there's very little control there, too. 😢) But once I have it, I will demolish it within hours or sooner. 🤔😕
I'm loving video.
I feel that being on the verge of something (the I'll do it tomorrow thinking), can be an exciting feeling. Being addicted to excitement/frenzy can be where a person thrives. Also actually moving forward with that 'thing' can be terrifying (even if it's something I've wanted forever). What will that feel like? Will I struggle? Who will I be past this? We all know the old is painful but familiar, and the new isn't familiar, and that's scary. On the other hand, it could be really really fantastic!
Second point you make: Analysis paralysis is a real thing for me. Perfectionistic thinking is like hitting a brick wall. Hearing (once again) that black and white thinking can sneak up everywhere, but taking a breath, stepping back and making the best choice for the moment for me, (not everyone in this community or society) is what the goal is. Making a decision that's away from a set way of eating is where I really have to dig to listen to what my gut is saying. Listen and be honest with myself and make a choice. The honesty applies to the two to five year old me who wants to get away with something in the name of doing the right thing and making the adult, thought out, honest, peaceful choice. It's like re-raising myself from the point in life where I became blocked/stunted. We've all heard of the inner child. I am raising my inner child, with kindness and love.
Third point you mention: To me the meaning of "recovered" means there will no longer be a struggle. In life there are ebbs and tides, why would I think that the food would be different? (fantasy I guess) I am no longer bingeing, not really a struggle, the struggle is the thinking (I can mentally generate that bingeing frenzied feeling on a regular meal) That's where there's the peace or chaos for me. So knowing even "normal" people live lives of ups and downs, of pain and peace, and it's normal is comforting. Getting back to peace is coming faster and knowing that chaos will pass if I don't panic makes a difference. No success is made without setbacks and some failures. That's where we learn. So if I make a food choice that ends up putting me in a spiral, being kind to myself, picking up that little girl, kissing her on the forehead and telling her "that's ok", now we know what doesn't work for us, is a huge thing to have learned about myself.
As always, I learn or am reminded of something I needed to hear. Thank you Sarah.
Very good and helpful! I’m going to try this. Thank you, Sarah❤️
Thank you Sarah, point 3 is very relevant, I've had around 6 weeks in a much more calm state, no binging. Then last 3 days have been back into the chaos. 4 days ago was my dads funeral, so no coincidence there. Learning how to get back to the other state is what is important here. I can now see that rather than this being a set back, it's an important and required part of the process. Thank you
Do you have any control over the ads that show? I try to watch them as I know it helps, but there is often noom and today it was for a binge eating coach, when clicking on link it promises weight loss and that "all my clients lose weight"
I’m sad to hear you lost your dad. Grief is such a messy complex one which can affect you in all sorts of ways. My bulimia was at it’s very worst after my mum died and at the time I was convinced there was no correlation. Hindsight is a different story of course. Be kind to yourself at this time ❤️❤️
Sadly I don’t have any control or influence over what adverts UA-cam puts on my videos. I know the coach you mean. I try to be open minded but I struggle with the idea you can just tap the binge away and of course the heavy focus on weight loss
Thanks!
Did you just tip her 50 dollars?
Thank you! That's incredibly generous of you 🙏🏻❤️
@@maryam7161 I did. Content is very good and has helped me.
Another great video struggled with all 3 things today xx
Thanks for this video, it was very interesting. You mentioned people feeling like not eating in the hot weather, but I’m actually the opposite. The hot weather makes me feel stressed and uncomfortable, and I just feel like eating constantly. I think I should keep an eye on how I’m feeling today and notice what’s going on when I just feel like eating. Any advice please Sarah?
As I said in the video, people (that’s you too!) are wiser than they think 🙂 What you just said about keeping an eye on what you’re feeling and noticing what’s going on sounds like very sound advice to me.
I usually feel less hungry during the heat, but for some reason in this heatwave I am also feeling hungrier and eating more. I don’t know why and I too am just noticing, letting go of automatic judgements and trusting ❤️❤️
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thanks for the reply Sarah. You’re right about not judging yourself; I need to keep that in mind, and just be kinder to myself. Thank you 🥰
Another brilliant video - this one was so helpful. Thank you for your constant support and wisdom Sarah ❤️
Love this video, exactly what I needs to hear 💕
This video is so helpful!! Thank you!!
Thank you for the content! ❤❤❤
Thank you I love your clarity !
Omg this is me
Thank you.
THIS IS SOOO HELPFUL!! THANKYOU!!! I am doing all this but so glad to have it connected/explained
Thanks so much ❤️❤️❤️
thank you so much for this video.
thanks mam🐨
So many Monday starts….
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Is the therapy group still active?
Yep. I run several. thebingeeatingtherapist.com/group-therapy/
What are your thoughts on weighing yourself?
Depends. The answer to most things are pretty nuanced. If you want to know the ins and outs of how I think about it, you can listen/watch here: ua-cam.com/video/XGSR0eF3ifo/v-deo.html
As if a food addict could stop something
What a load of unmitigating BS! Stating obvious! Or, rather, SPEWING obvious. Just like any other self helping crap preaching.