Self validation is the root to confidence and peace for ourselves. I used to feel so anxious and judgement towards myself. Like you I’ve been working on myself for a while and I’ve just started to recognize how good it feels to love and validate myself.
Thank you for this topic. Your explanation was so needed. I relate to your childhood as I never felt seen or validated by my parents, which led to low self-worth on top of other insecurities. I still catch myself seeking external validation at times mostly from those close to me. The only difference is I am aware of my triggers and able to remind myself that I am worthy, deserving and validate myself. It is not always easy, however, I notice a big difference in how I speak to myself. Nurturing my inner child has been so key through my healing journey. I have a picture of little me by my bedside and speak positive words of praise and love.
Christine Louis-Jacques this is so wonderful, I am so proud of you for your awareness and growth. I too have a framed photo of my little girl on my nightstand and speak to her daily. It’s a really powerful practice of meeting as truly seeing ourselves at time when we needed feel recognized, we are bridging that gap. Love to you beloved! ♥️♥️
thank you for sharing! nurturing my inner child has also be so key in shifting my relationship to myself as an adult. having a picture of younger versions of ourselves and speaking words of love and kindness into them is such a loving daily practice that I’m going to implement into my life.
Omg, I’ve never related to someone more..I grew up with a single mom who was emotionally aloof at times. She meant well and was a good person but it did it’s damage. My dad wasn’t around which made me seek attention mainly from men to reassure my inner child that she was good enough, pretty enough, funny enough, etc. I even found myself changing parts of my authentic self (music taste, likes/dislikes) just so I could appear likable to them..when you’re starved of this parental love, you have no choice but to build this false sense of self which is always fluctuating on who you are with. It’s a really sad way to live. With that being said, I’m going to therapy & binge watching videos like this so I can end these patterns. ❤️ Thanks so much for your service to this world!
I am learning how to validate myself. I love using good true affirmations. I try not to get into expressing or being out of reality when it comes to my capacities. Being learning disabled, I wonder if I used to be a miserable narcissist. I learned that to feel better is to feel empathy and do good things for others. I just stay away from people who make me feel unsafe. Sometimes I feel like people only want bad things for me which makes it hard for me to be nice to others because I am always angry at the current abuse in my life. I have anger issues. I feel like telling those People who call me delusional, “Heh! You just insulted me. You don’t seem to have a good short term memory because you act like you just forgot.” Since I know the abuser won’t change, I feel that it’s not worth trying so I must say good bye
Keeping promises to yourself also improves self worth. For eg - if we have set a goal to be achieved at the end of 2 years, and this requires us to take few baby steps everyday, at the end of each day, it feels so good.
Thank you so much for this video. It really helped me. What I would add is that when you tell yourself what you are proud of, also list what quality that action shows. For example, I am proud of my self for doing well in school today - this shows that I am intelligent I am proud of having a good conversation with someone - this shows that I am sociable etc.
I'm currently exploring self validation and determined to release the need for outside validation. While this video is incredibly helpful, more videos on this subject would be greatly appreciated! Great authentic, content as always! Thank you!
Great video! Thank you for sharing! I struggle so much with my self worth because it was pretty much destroyed by trauma. You mentioned that one should treat themselves like a best friend and be kind to themselves. That made me think of the multiple times my parents have told me that I need to start treating myself with the same kindness I treat others with. I don’t know where or how to start, though.
Yes this is easier said then done! A place to start would be to tell yourself something you want another to say to you. See how this feels and what comes up :)
I really need this at the current moment...just felt so good & calm..One suggestion ,can you plz upload weekly..I would love to watch you & listen you.....& Girl you matter for us atleast (chuckle) ♥️🙃
Yay! I am in the process of launching a podcast, so stay tuned for more amazing content coming in that format. Get on my newsletter list to get the update when it's launched. Yessss, I will still make videos here; however, my energy is devoted to the pod! You matter to me as well! x
Just did the Human Design sign-up, I am a Manifesting Generator with Sacral Authority! This is very interesting thank you for sharing that with us. And thank you for what you do; I don't comment often but I feel such a sense of calm when I watch and when you post. You inspire me!
TheFryedIScream Hello MG! Asking yourself yes and no (gut responses) questions is a sure way to know what’s true for you as a sacral authority! I love Human Design as an addition to my coaching work. Thank you love, sending you love right back ♥️♥️
Thanks Kajal! You had some amazing points! I heard many of those points before, but it somehow feels very soothing to hear them explained again by another person. :)
I love you and your video thank you for this so much! I’m starting to do the work on this during this year. Recovering codependent and outside validation seeker wanting to journey within and do the work.
Thank you soooooo much for sharing your point of view and your story it really helped me a lottt I now understand why I was acting in a certain way. :)💞🌿
I personally have experienced relief when I speak kindness and loving words to myself, it feels soothing. It's not really about getting the mind to agree with you, it's noticing how you're body is responding and how it's making you feel. That shift will help know that kindess/love feel good.
Self validation is the root to confidence and peace for ourselves. I used to feel so anxious and judgement towards myself. Like you I’ve been working on myself for a while and I’ve just started to recognize how good it feels to love and validate myself.
Beautiful awareness! x
Exercising can boost self esteem too.
Thank you for this topic. Your explanation was so needed. I relate to your childhood as I never felt seen or validated by my parents, which led to low self-worth on top of other insecurities. I still catch myself seeking external validation at times mostly from those close to me. The only difference is I am aware of my triggers and able to remind myself that I am worthy, deserving and validate myself. It is not always easy, however, I notice a big difference in how I speak to myself. Nurturing my inner child has been so key through my healing journey. I have a picture of little me by my bedside and speak positive words of praise and love.
Christine Louis-Jacques this is so wonderful, I am so proud of you for your awareness and growth. I too have a framed photo of my little girl on my nightstand and speak to her daily. It’s a really powerful practice of meeting as truly seeing ourselves at time when we needed feel recognized, we are bridging that gap. Love to you beloved! ♥️♥️
thank you for sharing! nurturing my inner child has also be so key in shifting my relationship to myself as an adult. having a picture of younger versions of ourselves and speaking words of love and kindness into them is such a loving daily practice that I’m going to implement into my life.
MKMANU yes it’s been soo healing for me. ♥️♥️ sending you love ✨
Omg, I’ve never related to someone more..I grew up with a single mom who was emotionally aloof at times. She meant well and was a good person but it did it’s damage. My dad wasn’t around which made me seek attention mainly from men to reassure my inner child that she was good enough, pretty enough, funny enough, etc. I even found myself changing parts of my authentic self (music taste, likes/dislikes) just so I could appear likable to them..when you’re starved of this parental love, you have no choice but to build this false sense of self which is always fluctuating on who you are with. It’s a really sad way to live. With that being said, I’m going to therapy & binge watching videos like this so I can end these patterns. ❤️ Thanks so much for your service to this world!
I feel like you're speaking about my life. Wow. How are you doing with therapy and the work on your inner self?
How are you doing now?
I am learning how to validate myself. I love using good true affirmations. I try not to get into expressing or being out of reality when it comes to my capacities. Being learning disabled, I wonder if I used to be a miserable narcissist. I learned that to feel better is to feel empathy and do good things for others. I just stay away from people who make me feel unsafe. Sometimes I feel like people only want bad things for me which makes it hard for me to be nice to others because I am always angry at the current abuse in my life. I have anger issues. I feel like telling those
People who call me delusional, “Heh! You just insulted me. You don’t seem to have a good short term memory because you act like you just forgot.” Since I know the abuser won’t change, I feel that it’s not worth trying so I must say good bye
Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe. ......
Keeping promises to yourself also improves self worth. For eg - if we have set a goal to be achieved at the end of 2 years, and this requires us to take few baby steps everyday, at the end of each day, it feels so good.
Thank you so much for this video. It really helped me.
What I would add is that when you tell yourself what you are proud of, also list what quality that action shows.
For example, I am proud of my self for doing well in school today - this shows that I am intelligent
I am proud of having a good conversation with someone - this shows that I am sociable etc.
I'm currently exploring self validation and determined to release the need for outside validation. While this video is incredibly helpful, more videos on this subject would be greatly appreciated! Great authentic, content as always! Thank you!
I have a video coming up diving into the subject of external validation. Stay tuned :)
@@sat.shikha Yay!! Thanks for letting me know :)
M M Did you see the new video on validation?
Great video! Thank you for sharing! I struggle so much with my self worth because it was pretty much destroyed by trauma. You mentioned that one should treat themselves like a best friend and be kind to themselves. That made me think of the multiple times my parents have told me that I need to start treating myself with the same kindness I treat others with. I don’t know where or how to start, though.
Yes this is easier said then done! A place to start would be to tell yourself something you want another to say to you. See how this feels and what comes up :)
Thank you so much,
I really needed to see and here this today! Thank you so much! I’m so grateful to have stumbled across your channel! 💖
You are so welcome!
I really need this at the current moment...just felt so good & calm..One suggestion ,can you plz upload weekly..I would love to watch you & listen you.....& Girl you matter for us atleast (chuckle) ♥️🙃
Yay! I am in the process of launching a podcast, so stay tuned for more amazing content coming in that format. Get on my newsletter list to get the update when it's launched. Yessss, I will still make videos here; however, my energy is devoted to the pod! You matter to me as well! x
Just did the Human Design sign-up, I am a Manifesting Generator with Sacral Authority! This is very interesting thank you for sharing that with us. And thank you for what you do; I don't comment often but I feel such a sense of calm when I watch and when you post. You inspire me!
TheFryedIScream Hello MG! Asking yourself yes and no (gut responses) questions is a sure way to know what’s true for you as a sacral authority! I love Human Design as an addition to my coaching work. Thank you love, sending you love right back ♥️♥️
Just found you today!! Love your content!! Please keep doing these!
Thank you...so much
You saved my day .....I really needed this
Great vid 👏
This literally is exactly how I am feeling
Thanks Kajal! You had some amazing points! I heard many of those points before, but it somehow feels very soothing to hear them explained again by another person. :)
I feel you. 👌 Loved your video. Really great content. 🙌 Keep inspiring others! 🥰
Thank you for this. It’s amazing ♥️
Glad you like it!
I love you and your video thank you for this so much! I’m starting to do the work on this during this year. Recovering codependent and outside validation seeker wanting to journey within and do the work.
Yes, it's time to come home to yourself. x
@@sat.shikha thank you beautiful soul!!✨⭐️
This'really good.. thanks for the help.
I would love to see/hear more great beautiful self affirmations
@@lalchhanchhuahibawitlung2004 Tune in to this: ua-cam.com/video/FLveQ7ze7Ek/v-deo.html&lc=UgwVwqHZF5otqFcCw2F4AaABAg
Thank you soooooo much for sharing your point of view and your story it really helped me a lottt I now understand why I was acting in a certain way. :)💞🌿
Kajal I appreciate your videos
Justkiki20 love to you ♥️
KajalPandey thank you and love to you as well!
You're enough , you have been enough ...........
Who saw the orb flying downwards in the video?
KajalPandey can you explain further what an orb is? It’s light energy?
@@Reallythere54321 Yes orbs are light energy, our nonphysical self is an orb of light.
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What is the secret to believing yourself when you affirm or validate yourself?
I personally have experienced relief when I speak kindness and loving words to myself, it feels soothing. It's not really about getting the mind to agree with you, it's noticing how you're body is responding and how it's making you feel. That shift will help know that kindess/love feel good.