Nutnfancy Philosophy: How to Deal with Difficult Family
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- Mrs Nutnfancy and I are going to comfort her Dad who's brother just died. On this eventful ride you'll see heavy rain, a deer jump out in front of us, and some useless highway patrol harassing people. Amidst all this the conversation gets real as I address, mostly, mending relationships with difficult family members. I don't pull punches in this talk and it gets hard sometimes but in the end you might find a glowing true message of how to achieve a higher level of happiness. Another Nutnfancy Life video, this time on the BMW K1600GTL.
"You never know when your time is up..." Nutn as he's going 90 in a 65 on a bike in the rain
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F'n classic
I was actually hired by UHP 6 years ago, but changed my mind when I found out they were sorting us in the hiring process to be jack boots and not constitutional law enforcement. I had a 25 year UHP veteran tell me as “father to son” it’s not a place for a good righteous person to work.
He said I was the most qualified hire he had ever seen and he asked me not to join.
My wife is also from Richfield, it is a lovely small town.
I’m one of those that has been watching your channel since I was a young teenager in High School. Thank you for all you have done, not just with the reviews, but with all your life philosophy vids like this one. It has definitely contributed to who I am today.
“Live to impress yourself.”
Probably the best video you've done so far. Thanks for taking us on that ride. Death truly is a horrible thing.
Maybe not. Look into NDE’s
I totally felt for you with your brother, dude… it takes a REAL man to allow that exposure to happen, and have the true balls to NOT edit out that entire part. God Bless you!
Love the video! Been watching you off and on for years! Great topic! Thank you😊
I haven’t seen or talked to my so called “parents” in 31 years now. When I was in 6th grade I said to myself I never want to grow up and be like them. One week after graduation my dad said if you don’t like it GET OUT! I threw what little I had in trash bags and never looked back. One thing I’ve learned in life is to eliminate the toxic people. I have the best wife in the world and try to surround myself around positive people. Life is good!
Good for you!!!
It’s very weird to me on how so many kids grow up and disrespect their own family. They go no contact, call their parents toxic or narcissistic and think nothing of the pain they cause their entire family. I’ll bet you have no contact with any of your relatives do you? They all seem to have zero empathy and think everything in the world revolves around them. This isn’t cool to me at all, it’s a damn shame that as an adult you chose ruin over counseling. I hope your children don’t do the same to you. You totally missed the good message of this video.
@@heystarfish100sometimes no contact is the only option. My wife’s parents refused to believe that she was sexually assaulted by her stepbrother for years as a child. My wife finally stood up for herself and cut off her parents and anyone else who agreed with them. Why force a relationship with someone who thinks you are a liar? Her parents don’t deserve her.
@@boomerbri That is a valid situation if true which I am not denying. What I wrote was about when no abuse has occurred which is why I did not mention that. Thanks for adding your perspective.
@@heystarfish100 You can't put the responsibility to maintain a good family relationship completely on the child. Some people are horrible parents and drive their children away with consistent selfish and inappropriate behavior. You shouldn't have to suffer because the people who gave birth to you are jerks.
Praying for you, your wife, and her family. I’m 34 now and I’ve been tuning in since I was about 19 or so. Your videos have helped me in more ways than I even know. You inspire me to get out and go on my own adventures, run and gun, stay prepared for dark days when they come, and you’ve even helped me in my career with videos like “workers are few” which you posted at the absolute perfect time for me during my sophomore year in college. I keep your tnp blue spyderco endura in my pocket everyday as a reminder of some of those lessons. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much.
My first video of his was the sog Trident, around 2006 ish. And got it when I was 16 or 17.
I am thankful for people like you and like nunt.
As we age we lose people and that is the nature of things. The key is appreciating them while they're here.
I remember first watching some of your videos back when I was 12 or 13, probably gun videos related to the video games I played then. I'm almost 24 now, and I'm glad I've stuck around with your channel. The gear reviews are always great, but now I look forward to the adventure/life/philosophy videos the most.
Your videos provided me with moments of relief in 2011-2015 when I ended up being a single Dad with 4 kids and no family, other than my church, around. Thank you.
Please accept my sympathies for the loss of your family member, Mrs Nutn.
Nutn as you were going down the list of deaths in your family it reminded me of how almost all of my friends
that I grew up with are gone, all of the friends I hung out with in the AF are gone. So many from my high school
class of 585 grads are gone. I'm only 58. None of those were particularly recent losses either so I don't suspect
the injected poison of the last few years. Lost my dad back in 2007 to lung cancer as well. We too had rough patches
from time to time but I realized in his last few days that all that didn't matter, it was gone as far as I was concerned and
I believe it was the same for him. Nice different kind of video. Your point of view is appreciated. 👍
Nutn this is such an amazing video. I have been estranged from my only brother for close to 6 years after growing up with a very close relationship. I often wish we could just move beyond everything that has happened between us, but it feels like things have become so complicated and painful that there is no viable path forward towards having a happy and healthy relationship together.
Wise words as always sir. Long time viewer here (since 2010). Thank you for the years of excellent content. TNP'er for life!
If someone told me when I was younger that by the time I turned 54 years old that so many of my loved ones, Family and Friends, would be on the other side, I wouldn’t have believed them. I also don’t know that I would have been happy in general.
Just a wonderful Vlog Nutn. Great seeing the raw human side of you. Death is such a painful and powerful thing. May you find comfort. God bless you and your family.
Always believed your channel reflected real life in real people. Good to have yet another confirmation.
26:15 God bless ya Nutn. You’re a great man. Anyone near you is blessed.
He wasn’t the only one crying.
I love you Nutn, stay strong, you’ve been an inspiration for me these past 15 years.
Thanks for taking us along. Great message. More people need to hear messages like this. Sorry for your loss.
I love this video! Really appreciate your honesty. Please do more, love the philosophy.
I am grateful for this video and conversation. It's such a heartfelt and personal message. Thank you for all you do to make the world a better place.
As a former prosecutor, now a defense attorney, you are so right, do not consent to a search!
I always enjoy the philosophy vids…good for the soul. Thanks for sharing, Nutn✌🏼
I’m sorry for your loss.. I’ve watched your videos for at least 12-15 years .. keep up the great content..
Nutn is the epitome of a good family man , and his voice is needed and appreciated in a world of lost souls . Love you man
Sorry to hear Nut. Been following for a long time and you are one of my favorites vloggers
Thank you nutn. Youre a good man. And you have instilled some of your good in me. The things you talked about here will be going into great consideration as i continue to walk through my life.
My brother died about 20 years ago. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him. I've lost a lot of people. I miss them all so much. I try to live a life that is worthy of them.
Good to hear a talk to keep people centered.
You rock! Your videos always cover all the bases from gear reviews, family, real life, and everything. I really appreciate it! Been watching since like 2010
Idk man. I cut my toxic parents out. It weighs heavily on me, but I have to shield my own family wife/daughter from the manipulation and abuse. The cycle of abuse/addiction/mental illness has to end somewhere. I'd rather carry that weight than have them deal with it...
Glad you're strong enough to make that choice.
mostly always look forward to checking out your philosophy observations..... but this one hit hard.
wish your wife, you and both families good thoughts... during these time....
I love your videos and lessons.... Please keep your videos rollin! God Bless you Nutn and your family! May Peace and Adventures always be with all of us!! My Dad is a bad Narcissist. My kids don't like him, my wife hates him. He hates my wife. Separation is best from narcissists, I have told him what would be needed to improve the relationships but with no success. I keep in touch with him, but let my family stay away for their peace.
Simple for those fishers. I do not consent to searches. If it gets rough, I do not answer questions without an attorney present. I exercise my right to remain silent.
I watch for krv's but this video......I'm gonna fix things with my little brother because of this video and im dead serious...it's been weighing on me lately bigtime. Thanks nutnfancy, truly.
Great video Nutn'. You always seem to know what I need to hear.
A couple of years ago a dude on a motorcycle was cruising I-95 between Jacksonville and St. Augustine and got hit in the helmet by lightning.
Duval!
Excellent video Nut n. Sending good vibes and prayers for you and family. We are all only promised today , and nobody is gaurnteed tomorrow. Loved this video
Be the kind of man that when you pass you leave a big hole in the lives of those around you.
I swear the gov has it all down to a science how family members are fighting one another, etc.
So sorry for your loss. I lost my little brother at just 47 years of age last September. 🙏
Sorry for your loss nutn. I lost 2 friends in the last 2 years, both to suicide:(. Back problems suck too. I’m almost 41 and my body is feeling the motorcycle crashes and all the labor I’ve done lol. Life is good! Enjoy it as much as possible. You never know.
Thank you Nutn. Blessings to you and your family.
I feel ya, nutn. I lost my Grandpa a bit ago. He was special. I’m sure you don’t me to tell you, you can’t let yourself despair.
Thank you nutn for everything
We’re at that age. I knew it would be this way. Knowing didn’t make it any easier.
Heavy, but important talk and words.
Thanks nutn. I know philosophy vids aren't your moneymakers but these videos really touch is
Thank you for sharing these timeless thoughts. Always good to keep these things in mind.
My mom was always negative, did drugs leave me alone for weeks as a kid. Then I moved her out of California to Alabama found out she had severe dementia and a laundry list of issues, by then it got so bad I forgave her then less then a year she withered away I didnt even get a chance to say good bye, during then plandemic at the nursing home. In forever closer to my father, found out my mom lied alot about my father and years later I confirmed it not true. So now I'm closer to my dad although hes on home dialysis in wendover, and I learned alot and became born again and it's great and your so right about loving everyone since seeking out the lord, and I too made tons of mistakes.
Great video and topic! Been watching you off and on for years! Thank you😊
My condolences, peace to you & yours.
My family sends condolences to your family.
Thank you for sharing, Nutn.
With my family, I've tried to drive home that we're only on this Earth for a limited time.
It hasn't worked...
Therefore, I live a few states away. Works wonders!
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You can throw money away on vehicles fixing them up but at least you aren’t doing drugs and you are learning a skill that 95% of people can’t do. I replaced the motor in my truck thankfully I had some guidance from my father. He’s far from perfect but he was at least supportive.
Hey Nutn... longtime viewer. I never comment but you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Thanks for the video.
I am sorry for your loss. Time is health. Best regards.
I like your content always have. Thanks for doing what you do
They're out there writing tickets for seatbelts while you ride by on your bike.
Deer always look bigger when on a bike.
Been following the channel since the beginning, but have to respectfully disagree about one thing. Very few things in life exist without conditions including love.
Thanks for sharing your vulnerability and very sorry to hear about your pain over the loss of your brother.
I agree with the above comments this is the best ❤
Man, putting this out as I am dealing with difficult family. Though they will be moving away soon.
Thanks for sharing sir
My uncle just died. He ignored me for the past 15 years. I was nothing but nice to him but… I was in a car accident and got a back injury and I gained a bunch of weight and that disgusted him and he said I was an embarrassment. I looked up to him my whole life. So… it hurt/s.🤷♂️
I once picked him up at the airport and the whole ride home he ignored me, like I wasn’t even there. I spent my gas and time to pick him up and he acted like I was an Uber driver, hell most people say “hi” to their Uber driver. He didn’t even do that. 3 hour drive and he just spoke to his daughter (even she didn’t want to spend her gas or drive to the airport so she just hitched a ride with me) and made calls. Again… it hurt.
That's rough I'm sorry.
@@ethanking4954 Thank You. He was a drunk, only cared about drinking. Oh well 🤷♂️
Love ya Nutn
I’m sorry for your loss.
My brother lives in Richfield. It’s a nice medium sized town. If you like the ATV/UTV world Richfield is the place for you
Please explain why (assuming your family member isn't going to hell) would it matter how much time you spend with them on this earth if you're going to have eternity? It feels like if you moved into a resort with your family and everyone you knew, but you regretted not spending time with them in the waiting room.
I'm not being sarcastic. I'm genuinely asking.
Not christian, but just because you will spend eternity with them, doesn't mean you can't do that on earth as well. Make sure they are doing alright, help them go the christian route if they aren't already. You don't have to let yourself and them be miserable.
A great message! Thank you!
Sorry for your loss .
What a great ride
Love y'all, Thumbs-up ~John
Raising my wife’s children from another marriage was difficult enough , and dealing with death is a whole different story
Do you recommend general aviation after your dad's death? It's always been a passion of mine (working up the finances). I'd love to know your thoughts!
Thanks for doing this video. Been following you for many years on and off all the way from scandinavia, Im 43 y o.
This video hit hard, been going through a difficult divorce, lost my brother (24 years old) august last year. My dad died about 20 years ago, so much other close family and friends died.
Tired of the numbness, when bad stuff happens I feel like I have nothing left in me to react with anymore. Trying to work through it doing stuff for me and my loved ones and not make my inner numbness and sadness reflect on my son.
My worst fear riding a motorcycle is a deer leaping out in front of me. 😳
I had Plantar Warts on both feet, very painful, Docs said go see Dermatologists, their method was to use a razor blade to take off the Callus, usually with Bleeding resulting, and then apply Liquid Nitrogen, which is VERY painful. Can't hardly walk for 2 or 3 days after. Total shit show. Endured it a long time, no help. Finally went to a Spa that did Pedicures, and holy shit! Warts all gone, no more foot pain! Amazing and I'm so thankful for Hannah! OMG.
sometimes all avenues have get exhausted, and its just better to go your own way. i don't miss anyone.
Don’t sweat it nutn. I balled my eyes out for an hour twice a day before.
If you have plantar fascitis; stretching your calves might help.
Long distance hikers figure this out at calves grow from exercise, they contract. This causes problems in the feet.
Lost Mom & Dad last year. Life goes on but it's hard.
When death surrounds us, we must be the light in the darkness until we see another up ahead.
Condolences to the missus and your good self
In Kieth’s defense , not everyone works well in our society really
Sorry to hear about your loss
I’m a retired CA cop. I find today’s officers to be disgusting. Sure there are some good people in law enforcement but they are now the exception.
*How do your loved ones want you to feel when they're gone?.................Do that!*
*They go on living eternally well..........We're the ones stuck in these mortal bodies, taking the test of life.*
*Don't be bummed, that's somewhat selfish, be glad for the time you had with loved ones, it should make you happy to think of them, they are aware of your feelings, why burden them with trying to mend your sorrow?*
*You'll be with them in due time, LOVE is the common denominator that will insure this.*
*Stay Good, Live Well, and vibe high......pass the test!* 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
My condolences to yea and tu esposa Nut n fancy
I just don't talk to them when it gets too much to handle.
Death should make us appreciate life. The fact that it usually doesn't says everything about us, not about death.
I get this eternal life after death, but I'm going to regret some 10 year span on earth where I didn't do something. Does that mean we don't continue to gain experiences after death? I did enjoy the video, thank you.
I’m so sorry brother :(
why ride the bike when you have the vette brahbrah
Nice video nutn. Have a blessed day
Hugs Mrs nutn.
Excellent video about reflection. How many people took the C19 jab and died shortly after from a variety of health issues?
Bret, is that you?
No good hell just like there ant no good chain gang
Srry about your brother nutn