My ex is black too we had a baby together. I went thru hell for him I got alot of crap from my family and his. But he kept cheating on me so we broke up after 9 years together. I was single for 3 years I was talking to some hmong guy and I tell them about my life to make sure they can accept my pass if they cant than i dont want to waste our time talking. until I met my husband he's hmong. You just need to find the right person that respect your past and accept you for who you are. There still nice respectful hmong guy out there.
@@Justin-q4w6d even Asians have different sizes. 🤷🏻♀️ if you’re small, you’re small. Who’s to say the one before you wasn’t a big one? If a girl loves you, no matter how big or small the past ones are, YOU are the best. 😂
Because I'm still a shaman and is not that bigger is better it's about loyalty and faithfulness, and the right person even some hmong guy are disrespectful like u. And you must be small that's why you are worry.
So many rude comments. She is telling her story because she learned something. Regardless of what the race is Hmong men never treat their wife with respect only newer generations does sadly it happen to her but she will find the right one when the time is right whether it’s a different race or Hmong if they truly accept you and love you then it is true love. As far as in law it depends on your husband if he truly love you or his family but never tell someone to stop going to their family it’s better to just tell them only you go since your family and I don’t have good open doors to each other.
@@cal3243 u right...when u say regardless of what race is Hmong men never treat their wife with respect only n newer generations does...I totally agree with u...I do see that too..true...about Hmong men..mistreat n no respect their gf or wife at all..it sadly
Dear sister, not all Hmong men think the same. The guy that you met is not the right one for you. Good thing he is out of your life. He only care about your beauty. Always know your self worth and pick someone who truly loves you. May God bless you 🙏
Honestly, this lady just makes poor decisions, who gives up their kids! Don't hide your past, especially when you have two beautiful black children that you were trying to hide!!! This has nothing to do with hmong men!
I agree with Kablia Niam Neej Vam. You should've been honest and upfront. If someone love you, they will look pass it, Hmong or not. You need to not be ashamed of your past and embrace your children above all things because that was the road that you picked and already walked it. Not all hmong men are the same. I am a hmong female and I am not even married to a hmong man. My husband is meska dawb and he loves me and my son dearly. I have a son from a previous relationship with another meska dawb guy, he was my high school sweet heart. Point is, all men are different. If that mev guy don't workout, come join my club. Whatever makes you happy.
If you love your ex like you said how come you left him? It doesn’t make sense. Once you go black you can’t go back. Honestly, you have made up your color from the beginning.
yeap! Life is all about making that executive decision. She didn't listen to her parents so be it. So, better off stick with other colors or else will not last long either. Her own kind is not worth to her from the start that's why she went outside. People can learn a lot from watching The Animal Kingdom such as one kind can't survive with other kind.
This is an example of a selfish person. Why did you ask Mab Vaj if your situation is fair, ncaj ncees? Before you asked that question, you should ask your parents first it was fair for them that you dishonored and disobeyed them. They warned you but you ignored their advices. They now have 2 grandchildren who father does not want to have the children seeing them. They have a daughter who life is ruined and now cannot find a good Hmong husband, instead marrying another race, mexican, again. Secondly, was it fair the Hmong boyfriend that you intentionally lied to him about your ex black husband. You wasted his precious time with you, you played game with his emotion, and you were hoping that he would be so in love with you in times so that he would not be hurted by your lies. Even your roommate advised that you should tell him about your black children, but you lied again to him. You shocked him and disappointed him. Do you know that you hurt him? So what if fairness? To you fairness is just on your side. You don't care about fairness to other people. Here, you make a general claim that all Hmong men are alike, this is not fair for us Hmong men. I think you were spoiled from the beginning in high school for not taking any advices from your own family, so now you continue to be selfish on fairness.
Me ntxhai kuv hai rau koj tia hmoob ce feem ntau lawv yeej xyeej cov ntxhai uas mus yuav lwm haiv neeg tsi hai mekas dub ,mekas dawb nplog, nyablajj mev lis nawb. cov uas lawvtsi tshuam xyeej es lawv yuav tau ce tejzaum yog cov hmoob tuaj yug rau tebchaws mekas no xwb nawb dua lis ntawm ce tej zaum yuav muaj tus puav hnyuag yuav tsi xyeej thiab tiamsis yog koj coj ib cov me nyuam lwm haiv neeg los ce feem ntau koj tus txiv hmoob tsi hlub kiag lis nawb.kuv yeej paub lis no kuv twb qhia rau kuv cov me nyuam tas los lawv tsi care lis kuv tseem muaj 3 tus vauv mekas dawb thiab os.tiamsis lawv kuj sibsib hlub thiab os. Es lavliam mog.tiamsis nco ntsoov hai tia koj yuavtsum tau qhia ua ntej rau tus txiv neej uas koj yuav mus nrog nws ua txwjnkawm nawb yog nws lee rau koj tia nws tsi xyeej koj thiab koj cov me nyuam nws yuav koj nws yuav hlub koj thiab koj cov me nyuam mas koj mam yuav nws nawb.mog.
I had a kaydoo classmate, she has 6 half siblings, same father different women. All those women are single mom. That's the kaydoo life. 😂 I hope you learned your lesson and txhob ua ntxhais siab twm xeeb lawm.
Sorry to disappoint you but what that Hmong guy did and said to you, he was 💯 right and he was very honest. At least he didn’t use and lead you on. If I was him i would’ve done the same. Also, even you yourself knew you didn’t want to have your two son around you so people won’t know right away… even you were ashamed of it so what is so wrong about what the Hmong guy did to you? You need to go love your two son before they don’t care about you in the future. Dont worry about dating other race or chasing love…
It’s a preference darling, you can’t blame him for his preferences. He was straight forward and didn’t string you along. You weren’t honest and straightforward with him in the beginning. There are a lot of men out there who don’t care who you were with previously. You just haven’t found the right one. Start your new relationship with honesty and straightforwardness to avoid any misconceptions. Love comes in all colors, shape and form. Good luck!
Sister, to tell you the truth, majority of Hmoob men will not marry Hmoob women that are married outside the Hmoob race but Hmoob women will marry Hmoob men that married outside the Hmoob race! Btw, your ex-husband sounded like a good man but it was your fault for not getting along with his family just because they called you shorty which that’s normal for kaydub!
There are two kind of kaydo, the ghetto in da hood and those respectable well manner kaydo. Listening to this story it seems like she married to those ghetto kaydo.
I just feel so bad for the innocent kids. They didn’t ask to be born to be treated like that. They just experienced first hand racism at such a young age and they didn’t even have a clue what’s going on. I hope you always put your kids first when it comes to dating. Good luck to you.❤❤
Even I am with a Hmong man, it's still hard to find anyone GOOD and I am staying single now but it doesn'tt matter what if its PURPLE, BLACK, WHITE, ORANGE, BLUE, GREEN or GRAY, nobody still wants someone who is with a HMONG GUY... these men don't know it's not the color, it's the heart... My parent's don't care but I wish I married another race years ago, he was so into me and I still wonder "WHAT IF.. he was white mixed Korean... saw him one last time when I was married... sigh!!
This woman is funny😂. "Dub mas lawv hlub hlub yus ne" mag nrauj. Kuv tsis K K. Now she's like.."why hmong men are discriminate against her past?" Lawv tsis K K thiab ma 😂😂😂
Some of us thinks we know it all like this young hmong lady. When we think we know it all we don't pay attention to other's instruction. This lady in this story might have learned her lesson so she should be forgiven for her past.
Tus muam maiv ntxawm aw seb yog koj ho nco tus txiv qub to thaum hlawv teb tas ces koj nqa kau mom mus looj cov pob ntoo tom plawv teb es ho mus thau duab nrog ces yeej zoo li koj tus txiv qub lawm mam es txhob tus siab os tseem tshuav ntau yam yuav pab tau koj thiab
Both of my niece married black American and another married a white man, too. Both married got abused and cheated by their ex-husband. They got divorced and found a hmong man love her unconditional 💕 ❤️. You just haven't found the right one. Not all hmong men think the same.
You were not honest .. you even seem ashamed of your kids. You also don’t need anyone who isn’t accepting of you or your children. Hope you take care of yourself and your kids first you don’t need a man right now
Hmong maybe ok to marry other’s races but too new for Hmong to accept at this time. Maybe the next couple of generations. But eventually it will change.
Every Hmong women I know who marry khej dub end up divorce single mother and a baby mama. I have three cousins who date and marry khej dub all are now single momma. 🤦♂️
Nope, i will not date a woman who dated and married man out of races unless i loves her 70% and she love me 30% otherwise she's a turns of for us Hmong guys.
Mus yuav lwm haiv neeg los yog neeg Asian ces tsis luaj twg tiam sis yog mus yuav lwm hom lawm ces feem ntau raug txais kev tib li no ntag hos. Vim tsis muaj kev sov siab saum txaj saum chaw ces kev sib tib yuav tshwm tuaj naw.
Its kind of your fault. When they call you shorty thats just how they talk if you dont understand that marrying into a black family maybe you shouldn't have married into their family in the first place. Plus trying to cut him off from his family that will never work no matter what race.🙄
Tsis hais tus me tub los tus me ntxhais twg, yog nws tsis mloog niam thiab txiv tej lus qhuab qhia no ces nws yeej tsis lam tsheej haj taus ib zaug. Yog nws ho lam tsheej haj taus, ntshe yog nws poob saum ntuj los ua neeg ham niam thiab txiv tsis nco saib zoo lawm xwb. Hundred percent yog lus li koj tus hluas nraug Xeeb hais kawg nkaus li lawm. Tus ho tsis xav li Xeeb hais no ces yog nws dag nkaus xwb.
Cov dub es zoo tsis txawv li cov pob ntoo kub nyhiab tom plawv teb xwb ho muaj dab tsi zoo na qhov zoo nraug ces yog cov kaus hniav thiab lub qhov muag xwb sav ntshe koj tsis muaj qhov muag lawm koj tsuas nyiam dub yav nram hav xwb yom
It was your fault for hiding your history. If you were honest from the beginning, it would've prevented the heartaches. There are good hmong men out there. Just make sure you're honest from day one. What is your take on being married to another race? How different was life?
Why you keep it in secret? I don’t understand why you shy. My husband twb Yog meskas thiab tab sis Kuv tsi txaj muag li as tus neeg nws hlub koj lawm lawv yeej tsi care li os. I think your boyfriend is not nice ua tsaug rau nws xwb os
It be sounding like Xeeb is your typical toxic masculinity type who wants his woman to know less than him. It’s funny how he doesn’t see a woman as an equal human being. Sis, your story is inspiring. I understand your shame about your past, and it’s not your fault that our tradition is still socially behind others. I’m very surprised that your ex husband was willing to pay the dowry. I have not met a non-Hmong guy who is willing to follow that tradition. Thanks for sharing your story.
😂 idk about Black men, but lots of white men have paid dowry and do a hmong weddings. I'm talking about good, educated people, both bride and groom, not the ghetto ones.
I did married a hmong guy a my first marriage he came ask my hand from my dad like old Hmong tradition and the end he cheated on me and never know the words sorry! So im married different now not Hmong anymore ok so don’t feel bad ❤
Sounds like you made some pior decisions and tjan became a deas beat mother. You lost hope ans has no mptivatipn to be a mother ans just dropped them off fo your x husbands in laws? When the court five custody fo your husbans.. usually they sude with the mother ..that tells me alot already about you. Why does it sound like youre ashame if you're ashames if your kids? Hope you leaen from your lesson.
Can't blame the city that you live in saying there is no hmong i came from a city with zero hmong but still married a hmong guy it's you who chose others race ....
Y u come back trying to marry Hmong guy u knoe from the start not all but 90% of Hmong men have not want u pls go marry other race they will accept u more your ex bf is straight up u should be happy he told u the truth🤣
You should’ve been honest in the first place with any relationship. Let them decide if they are willing to accept your past. But in all honestly, idky you would abandon your own children because of their skin. It was a decision you made to marry your ex, don’t be ashamed of it. And truthfully many Hmong men mindset is not yet open up internet-racial relationships. Their ego is very SMALL.
So many rude comments. She is telling her story because she learned something. Regardless of what the race is Hmong men never treat their wife with respect only newer generations does sadly it happen to her but she will find the right one when the time is right whether it’s a different race or Hmong if they truly accept you and love you then it is true love. As far as in law it depends on your husband if he truly love you or his family but never tell someone to stop going to their family it’s better to just tell them only you go since your family and I don’t have good open doors to each other.
My ex is black too we had a baby together. I went thru hell for him I got alot of crap from my family and his. But he kept cheating on me so we broke up after 9 years together. I was single for 3 years I was talking to some hmong guy and I tell them about my life to make sure they can accept my pass if they cant than i dont want to waste our time talking. until I met my husband he's hmong. You just need to find the right person that respect your past and accept you for who you are. There still nice respectful hmong guy out there.
Why you decided to come back to Hmong ? Isn’t bigger better 😂😂😂😂..it won’t be satisfying no more right 😂😂😂
@@Justin-q4w6d even Asians have different sizes. 🤷🏻♀️ if you’re small, you’re small. Who’s to say the one before you wasn’t a big one? If a girl loves you, no matter how big or small the past ones are, YOU are the best. 😂
Because I'm still a shaman and is not that bigger is better it's about loyalty and faithfulness, and the right person even some hmong guy are disrespectful like u. And you must be small that's why you are worry.
@@maitvang1haha lol not worried at all ..want to come try me 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@maitvang1I have a question tho..since you been married to a kaydoo..when you fart does all hell comes out hahahahahahahaahhahaaha
So many rude comments. She is telling her story because she learned something. Regardless of what the race is Hmong men never treat their wife with respect only newer generations does sadly it happen to her but she will find the right one when the time is right whether it’s a different race or Hmong if they truly accept you and love you then it is true love. As far as in law it depends on your husband if he truly love you or his family but never tell someone to stop going to their family it’s better to just tell them only you go since your family and I don’t have good open doors to each other.
@@cal3243 u right...when u say regardless of what race is Hmong men never treat their wife with respect only n newer generations does...I totally agree with u...I do see that too..true...about Hmong men..mistreat n no respect their gf or wife at all..it sadly
@@cal3243 yes our ego are too big lol plus I rather not drive a broken down use car lol
@@KathyLee-p8i broken down use car.. I’ll pass lol
Dear sister, not all Hmong men think the same. The guy that you met is not the right one for you. Good thing he is out of your life. He only care about your beauty.
Always know your self worth and pick someone who truly loves you. May God bless you 🙏
Honestly, this lady just makes poor decisions, who gives up their kids! Don't hide your past, especially when you have two beautiful black children that you were trying to hide!!! This has nothing to do with hmong men!
Yog mus yuav lwm haiv neeg lawm ces txhob rov qab los yuav hmoob nawb mog....kuv agree.
Why do Hmong think n don’t want to date Hmong women??
When you are used to driving a semi truck and now you want to drive a Corolla? Ain’t gonna happen. Got it?
Don’t abandon their children for a man. Be more present in their lives please lady
Dub ces tsuas dag nej cov ntxhais mhoob coj mus tsuav ntsuag yav thaum hluas xwb os nkauj mhoob aw. Lawv yeej tsis yuav nej txog hnub kawg os
I agree with Kablia Niam Neej Vam. You should've been honest and upfront. If someone love you, they will look pass it, Hmong or not. You need to not be ashamed of your past and embrace your children above all things because that was the road that you picked and already walked it. Not all hmong men are the same. I am a hmong female and I am not even married to a hmong man. My husband is meska dawb and he loves me and my son dearly. I have a son from a previous relationship with another meska dawb guy, he was my high school sweet heart. Point is, all men are different. If that mev guy don't workout, come join my club. Whatever makes you happy.
If you love your ex like you said how come you left him? It doesn’t make sense. Once you go black you can’t go back. Honestly, you have made up your color from the beginning.
Well the guy is right about one thing, once we tasted bigger and better lover, you’re damn right, why would we be satisfied with a little one?
Kuv los ib yam yog mus yuav lwm haiv neeg lawm ces. Tseev zoo nkauj kuv yeej tsis yuav lawm thiab
I know many Hmong women married to kaydu and come back single mothers! 😅
Ain’t that the culture
Once u go black, u end up being a single mother...lmao
It’s funny because it’s TRUE to the next galaxy and back to Earth 😊
yeap! Life is all about making that executive decision. She didn't listen to her parents so be it. So, better off stick with other colors or else will not last long either. Her own kind is not worth to her from the start that's why she went outside. People can learn a lot from watching The Animal Kingdom such as one kind can't survive with other kind.
This is an example of a selfish person. Why did you ask Mab Vaj if your situation is fair, ncaj ncees? Before you asked that question, you should ask your parents first it was fair for them that you dishonored and disobeyed them. They warned you but you ignored their advices. They now have 2 grandchildren who father does not want to have the children seeing them. They have a daughter who life is ruined and now cannot find a good Hmong husband, instead marrying another race, mexican, again. Secondly, was it fair the Hmong boyfriend that you intentionally lied to him about your ex black husband. You wasted his precious time with you, you played game with his emotion, and you were hoping that he would be so in love with you in times so that he would not be hurted by your lies. Even your roommate advised that you should tell him about your black children, but you lied again to him. You shocked him and disappointed him. Do you know that you hurt him? So what if fairness? To you fairness is just on your side. You don't care about fairness to other people. Here, you make a general claim that all Hmong men are alike, this is not fair for us Hmong men. I think you were spoiled from the beginning in high school for not taking any advices from your own family, so now you continue to be selfish on fairness.
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Koj yuam kev loj....qhia kiag koj lub neej tu neeg hlub koj tiag koj thiaj li paub....yog koj zais npog thaum kawg ces tau kev mob siab
Paub lawm lov koj txhob xav tias lawv yuav nyiam2 koj no luag tej laus hais npaum li cas los tsis mloog na paub lawm lov
Me ntxhai kuv hai rau koj tia hmoob ce feem ntau lawv yeej xyeej cov ntxhai uas mus yuav lwm haiv neeg tsi hai mekas dub ,mekas dawb nplog, nyablajj mev lis nawb. cov uas lawvtsi tshuam xyeej es lawv yuav tau ce tejzaum yog cov hmoob tuaj yug rau tebchaws mekas no xwb nawb dua lis ntawm ce tej zaum yuav muaj tus puav hnyuag yuav tsi xyeej thiab tiamsis yog koj coj ib cov me nyuam lwm haiv neeg los ce feem ntau koj tus txiv hmoob tsi hlub kiag lis nawb.kuv yeej paub lis no kuv twb qhia rau kuv cov me nyuam tas los lawv tsi care lis kuv tseem muaj 3 tus vauv mekas dawb thiab os.tiamsis lawv kuj sibsib hlub thiab os. Es lavliam mog.tiamsis nco ntsoov hai tia koj yuavtsum tau qhia ua ntej rau tus txiv neej uas koj yuav mus nrog nws ua txwjnkawm nawb yog nws lee rau koj tia nws tsi xyeej koj thiab koj cov me nyuam nws yuav koj nws yuav hlub koj thiab koj cov me nyuam mas koj mam yuav nws nawb.mog.
I had a kaydoo classmate, she has 6 half siblings, same father different women. All those women are single mom. That's the kaydoo life. 😂 I hope you learned your lesson and txhob ua ntxhais siab twm xeeb lawm.
Should’ve been honest with your ex in the first place to prevent heart aches. Your mom was right but you didn’t listened.
I agree with Mab, if he truly loves you he wouldn't have made it a big deal. Leave the children out, they are innocent.
Good story!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 like the Hmong guy said.. she’ll never be full eating shrimp instead of lobster lol
@@mileslee6426 those are his insecurities. I respect that, lol. Size doesn't matter to some women.:)
@ some.. like 5% .. like the Hmong guy said.. she will not be full lol
Sorry to disappoint you but what that Hmong guy did and said to you, he was 💯 right and he was very honest. At least he didn’t use and lead you on. If I was him i would’ve done the same. Also, even you yourself knew you didn’t want to have your two son around you so people won’t know right away… even you were ashamed of it so what is so wrong about what the Hmong guy did to you?
You need to go love your two son before they don’t care about you in the future. Dont worry about dating other race or chasing love…
Mab your advice is 100%. You can't control people's opinion, and she should have been honest to begin with.
Qhov peb cov txiv neej hmoob feem coob peb tsis kas yuav nej cov poj niam hmoob uas mus yuav lwm haiv neeg lawm no mas tsis yog txiv neej hmoob siab me los yog peb qias nej saum txaj saum chaw os. Vim peb txiv neej hmoob feem coob peb tseem ua neeg nrog kwv nrog tij nrog neej nrog tsav nrog teb nrog chaw ces peb tsis xav kom luag kev neej kev tsav taw tes thiab taw ncauj lub koob npe tsis zoo rau peb os. Yog hnub twg peb txiv neej hmoob ua neej kaw rooj nti nyias nyob nyias vaj nyias tsev lawm xwb ces hnub ntawv teb zaum txiv neej hmoob yuav rov qab yuav tau nej cov poj niam ua mus yuav lwm haiv neeg os.
Agree with you on this 💯.
It’s a preference darling, you can’t blame him for his preferences. He was straight forward and didn’t string you along. You weren’t honest and straightforward with him in the beginning. There are a lot of men out there who don’t care who you were with previously. You just haven’t found the right one. Start your new relationship with honesty and straightforwardness to avoid any misconceptions. Love comes in all colors, shape and form. Good luck!
Well of course your 2 kids are naughty..they are the usual suspects 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I’m dead. Hahahs
Girl….people will judge no matter what. It’s life and life goes on. You’re beautiful and kind. Someone will be so lucky to have you.
Sister, to tell you the truth, majority of Hmoob men will not marry Hmoob women that are married outside the Hmoob race but Hmoob women will marry Hmoob men that married outside the Hmoob race! Btw, your ex-husband sounded like a good man but it was your fault for not getting along with his family just because they called you shorty which that’s normal for kaydub!
There are two kind of kaydo, the ghetto in da hood and those respectable well manner kaydo. Listening to this story it seems like she married to those ghetto kaydo.
I just feel so bad for the innocent kids. They didn’t ask to be born to be treated like that. They just experienced first hand racism at such a young age and they didn’t even have a clue what’s going on. I hope you always put your kids first when it comes to dating. Good luck to you.❤❤
Even I am with a Hmong man, it's still hard to find anyone GOOD and I am staying single now but it doesn'tt matter what if its PURPLE, BLACK, WHITE, ORANGE, BLUE, GREEN or GRAY, nobody still wants someone who is with a HMONG GUY... these men don't know it's not the color, it's the heart...
My parent's don't care but I wish I married another race years ago, he was so into me and I still wonder "WHAT IF.. he was white mixed Korean... saw him one last time when I was married... sigh!!
This woman is funny😂. "Dub mas lawv hlub hlub yus ne" mag nrauj. Kuv tsis K K. Now she's like.."why hmong men are discriminate against her past?" Lawv tsis K K thiab ma 😂😂😂
This my exact comment when i heard tat!😂😂😂
Pab tu siab txiv neej hmoob 99% xav tib yam nkaus li tus txiv neej no
Hahahaha vim nws paub tias nws yam noob neej me2 xwb nws thiaj tsis kab yuav tus mus noj yam loj li nws hais hahahaha
Some of us thinks we know it all like this young hmong lady. When we think we know it all we don't pay attention to other's instruction.
This lady in this story might have learned her lesson so she should be forgiven for her past.
Cas TxivNeej Hmoob xuv siab txog pojniam hmoob yuav & nrog dub abtsi na..?
Tus muam maiv ntxawm aw seb yog koj ho nco tus txiv qub to thaum hlawv teb tas ces koj nqa kau mom mus looj cov pob ntoo tom plawv teb es ho mus thau duab nrog ces yeej zoo li koj tus txiv qub lawm mam es txhob tus siab os tseem tshuav ntau yam yuav pab tau koj thiab
It's a good thing he is straightforward with you. Most hmong will think like your ex bf.
Wow, finally a hmomg guy who isn't afraid to speak his mind....
Both of my niece married black American and another married a white man, too. Both married got abused and cheated by their ex-husband. They got divorced and found a hmong man love her unconditional 💕 ❤️. You just haven't found the right one. Not all hmong men think the same.
Seng was honest! It’s the fact! Is he can’t handle the truth!
We have to live with the decisions we made. Not everyone will accept and they are entitled to feel that way. Move on.
What an insecure man 😂 he knows he can’t measure to your ex so he rather dump you to save his ego only.
What a funny story 😂 Can’t even imagine how shock Seng was when he first met the kids. Once you go black, you never go back.
You were not honest .. you even seem ashamed of your kids. You also don’t need anyone who isn’t accepting of you or your children. Hope you take care of yourself and your kids first you don’t need a man right now
You don’t need a prejudice dude like him. Don’t be sad, you will find better man.
Mus yuav lwm haib hmoob rov los yuav tsi neej hmoob lawv siab me vim lawv pub lawv qau me lawv ntshai tsam yus mloog tau lawv tus qau me me .. haha
Hmong maybe ok to marry other’s races but too new for Hmong to accept at this time. Maybe the next couple of generations. But eventually it will change.
Every Hmong women I know who marry khej dub end up divorce single mother and a baby mama. I have three cousins who date and marry khej dub all are now single momma. 🤦♂️
Niam hlua mab kuv xav tau koj tus fb es kuv xav muab neej neeg kj pab hai
Nope, i will not date a woman who dated and married man out of races unless i loves her 70% and she love me 30% otherwise she's a turns of for us Hmong guys.
Mus yuav lwm haiv neeg los yog neeg Asian ces tsis luaj twg tiam sis yog mus yuav lwm hom lawm ces feem ntau raug txais kev tib li no ntag hos. Vim tsis muaj kev sov siab saum txaj saum chaw ces kev sib tib yuav tshwm tuaj naw.
Sister it’s not your fault his eagle is small or is not confident. It’s his lost. 😂
Its kind of your fault. When they call you shorty thats just how they talk if you dont understand that marrying into a black family maybe you shouldn't have married into their family in the first place. Plus trying to cut him off from his family that will never work no matter what race.🙄
Tsis hais tus me tub los tus me ntxhais twg, yog nws tsis mloog niam thiab txiv tej lus qhuab qhia no ces nws yeej tsis lam tsheej haj taus ib zaug. Yog nws ho lam tsheej haj taus, ntshe yog nws poob saum ntuj los ua neeg ham niam thiab txiv tsis nco saib zoo lawm xwb. Hundred percent yog lus li koj tus hluas nraug Xeeb hais kawg nkaus li lawm. Tus ho tsis xav li Xeeb hais no ces yog nws dag nkaus xwb.
Cov dub es zoo tsis txawv li cov pob ntoo kub nyhiab tom plawv teb xwb ho muaj dab tsi zoo na qhov zoo nraug ces yog cov kaus hniav thiab lub qhov muag xwb sav ntshe koj tsis muaj qhov muag lawm koj tsuas nyiam dub yav nram hav xwb yom
It was your fault for hiding your history. If you were honest from the beginning, it would've prevented the heartaches.
There are good hmong men out there. Just make sure you're honest from day one.
What is your take on being married to another race? How different was life?
I don't mind about Hmong woman date khej dub and come back to Hmong man. I'll take her.
Why you keep it in secret? I don’t understand why you shy. My husband twb Yog meskas thiab tab sis Kuv tsi txaj muag li as tus neeg nws hlub koj lawm lawv yeej tsi care li os. I think your boyfriend is not nice ua tsaug rau nws xwb os
It be sounding like Xeeb is your typical toxic masculinity type who wants his woman to know less than him. It’s funny how he doesn’t see a woman as an equal human being.
Sis, your story is inspiring. I understand your shame about your past, and it’s not your fault that our tradition is still socially behind others. I’m very surprised that your ex husband was willing to pay the dowry. I have not met a non-Hmong guy who is willing to follow that tradition. Thanks for sharing your story.
😂 idk about Black men, but lots of white men have paid dowry and do a hmong weddings. I'm talking about good, educated people, both bride and groom, not the ghetto ones.
I did married a hmong guy a my first marriage he came ask my hand from my dad like old Hmong tradition and the end he cheated on me and never know the words sorry! So im married different now not Hmong anymore ok so don’t feel bad ❤
I’m sure not ALL Hmong men think like that. It’s just the little ones that may think like that only. 😂😂😂. Good luck on your love search in life.
This story sounds kinda fake. Shorty is an endearing term for black people.
After being with a black man, why why do Hmong men don’t date Hmong woman????
Sounds like you made some pior decisions and tjan became a deas beat mother. You lost hope ans has no mptivatipn to be a mother ans just dropped them off fo your x husbands in laws?
When the court five custody fo your husbans.. usually they sude with the mother ..that tells me alot already about you. Why does it sound like youre ashame if you're ashames if your kids?
Hope you leaen from your lesson.
At least he was straightforward to you. You can’t be mad at someone’s preferences just like you at the beginning. Your preferences was black.
Couldn't agreed more. 👏 is 🙌
But I thought when u go black u don’t come back..why u come back anyways 😂😂😂
More like when they go black they come back single mother!! 😅
😂 she proved that theory wrong
If you go black you’ll be a single mother 🤣🤣🤣
Yog yuav dub lawm ces, tiam no hmoob tsis yuav lawm laub..
Can't blame the city that you live in saying there is no hmong i came from a city with zero hmong but still married a hmong guy it's you who chose others race ....
Y u come back trying to marry Hmong guy u knoe from the start not all but 90% of Hmong men have not want u pls go marry other race they will accept u more your ex bf is straight up u should be happy he told u the truth🤣
Rov yuav dub xwb ces teeb meem tiav mas
😮😮😮😮😅😅😅
Black all the way! Coming back to Hmong is no option.
You should’ve been honest in the first place with any relationship. Let them decide if they are willing to accept your past.
But in all honestly, idky you would abandon your own children because of their skin. It was a decision you made to marry your ex, don’t be ashamed of it. And truthfully many Hmong men mindset is not yet open up internet-racial relationships. Their ego is very SMALL.
you had been stretched lol
So many rude comments. She is telling her story because she learned something. Regardless of what the race is Hmong men never treat their wife with respect only newer generations does sadly it happen to her but she will find the right one when the time is right whether it’s a different race or Hmong if they truly accept you and love you then it is true love. As far as in law it depends on your husband if he truly love you or his family but never tell someone to stop going to their family it’s better to just tell them only you go since your family and I don’t have good open doors to each other.