This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6 year relationship just 3 months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 6 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Madam host ,this is serious subjects , lawer is so sensible, sensitive, for you some joke is going on, you r laughing unnecessarily. Over confident....shallow host
This is one of the best ever heard in this space, this attorney is fabulous, very pragmatic, knowledgeable more importantly very witty, which rare in their profession. Thank you for bringing her .
All parents should ask their son after marriage to live separately with his wife. This will solve lot of future problems. They will be responsible for their own life.
Yeah toh Bilkul galat ho jata , isnae girl 200percent outsider ho jati, phir toh husband ko kabi kuch nahi pata lagta, aur 200percent conspiracy banti ,girls are abused more in differways, dirty allegations and whatever u donot imagine to think waahi allegations lagae aur boy Okkk din picture sae gayabhojata
We should start Prenups legally in India. It’s the insecurity that marriage will harm ppl more ( either sexes) than benefit is preventing ppl to get married. Also inspite of law all daughters don’t get equal share in father’s property. So she might be left in lurch from both sides. So she is happy earning and living single !
@@amulyalabschandigarh1009 income tax return dekh kar shaadi karo.You will see that groom will pay emi of house and house is in father in law's name .Yeh bahut ho raha hain.
@AdityaJape yes people both boys and girls are not behaving proper and neither are their parents.So it is required for our social structure.like the lawyer says mil and fil should not interfere in the girl's life.First listen to sango life sutras .If you can't be away from your parents ,Boys please don't marry.Your wife is not your parent's slave for doing free labour.My mil has a problem if I do online transactions.But I am doing only online transaction.Girls have a seperate bank account and your own money .My father transfers money online only for Diwali etc .After demonetisation I have taken advantage and I ask people only upi.Women should know about insurance etc.In fact my dhikhai etc bhi bahu ko online milna chahiye.Cash transaction need to be stopped completely.yes for some people government interference is definitely necessary.
Divorce case in my family where the girl was subjected to extreme mental torture,she wanted out ,but after a lot of mud slinging on her character by the boy and his parents,they finally agreed to sign divorce papers on the condition that she will not ask for alimony and not even her own jewellery,cash given by her parents.So she had to forego even what was rightfully hers to be free of the monster family.This is very common in our country
@@jp6838If you are told 24/7 that you are characterless by 3-4 people , you too will break mentally regardless. Please don't trivialise her suffering.
Marriage counselling centres are needed in every nook and corner so that importance of happiness is communicated.True discussion and very useful for young aspirants.
The interviewer had no constructive questions...kept laughing & agreeing to everything. Didn't raise pertinent questions. When the lawyer spoke not in favour of wife getting alimony, she completely missed out mentioning that more than often the wife was not allowed to go out & build a career after marriage. Itbis a common knowledge, with so much competition today, if you take a break for even having kids, it is a big setback to your career. If you don't have a support system to help with kids, wife usually takes a break for minimum 5-6yrs. When she thinks of resuming career, lot has changed, her knowledge skills need to be upgraded, women with kids are not preferred at workplaces even today, she is forced to work at a much lower pay scale...sometimes starting from scratch. If in such a situation a divorce happens, she is not wrong in asking for alimony. The husband has now grown up the career ladder & earning well at the cost of her sacrifices, he better compensate for it. The only case alimony can be questioned is if both have been working all along & the wife wasnt made to compromise on her career or where the wife has left the marriage for pursuing her own selfish interest.
You are absolutely correct for the case that you mentioned but what about the cases where she has left by her own will, what about cases where the marrige didn't even last a year. The moment the wife gets married (and in most cases the husband's home is in same state different district or even different state), automatically when the place is new, you don't get jobs on a flick, you build up, take time, get acquainted to the place.. all that takes time. And in all of that she still has if not all (like earlier women had) but some responsibilities towards the family.. in all of that if you term and think that marrying itself is a sacrifice and has been made so that an alimony is justifiable then it's not correct. It was in first place her choice and to her knowledge that she is getting married and leaving her own home. You need to consider each and every consequence, family background of both parties, their living needs, what locality they come from and what they are aiming for. Because as getting alimony as a compensation is a reality, so is the reality that many girls use this as a tactic for extorting money. And also the other scenario that the girl who deliberately dosent want to work after marrige, she doesn't want to take responsibility of family, nether want to have a career. She just wants to stay at home, enjoy luxuries and party and upon finding and contesting, she in return files a domestic violence and 498A cases of mental cruelty even as she was spending her time in all the luxury and shows as if she was being tortured ? How about that ? Will you pay alimony to such a woman? There are more legal remedies for women than a man. Indian law doesn't even recognize that a man can get abused mentally or physically unless you are a boy.
@@achaljain9167 Firstly, i completely agree that laws should be gender neutral. Every case should be verified & decision arrived at. If a girl herself has decided not to work, which mostly hapoens in upper class or upper middle class, then most definitely, she has no right to alimony, unless of course there are children involved, for which child support would be required & if there is cheating involved by the husband. However, in middle class families, very few educated girls today don't opt to work, unless forced by the husband's side. Even if she is working, once kids are born, it is expected of her to give up her job & look after home, kids. I know of husbands who don't tell the wife to give up working, but put all the responsibility of home & kids on the wife, over & above her job. In this frustration many women give up working, not able to cope up with so much responsibility. In that case after some yrs if either party files for divorce there should be alimony paid.. Honestly our cultural sensibilities need a major shift. Parents should let their daughters be financially independent before forcing them to marry. Don't force your child to marry as per your choice...give them time to interact & understand their compatibility. If girls are financially independent before marriage it will help a lot later. From the guy's side, don't think you are getting a unpaid bai at home to look after your parents. If you are not ready to stay away from your parents, don't expect a girl to leave hers. Both should start their journey by themselves & be there for their parents equally. Be prepared to share load at home equally...if you are going to marry someone with a job, you better know every bit of housework that you expect your wifebto know. That requires a shift in the way our boys are brought up...parents need to teach their daughters & sons all work around the house & outside. The biggest problem.is our imbalanced cultural upbringing. If both are brought up as equals, there would be less issues
@@mayak2676 in Netherlands there is a new law that even grandparents need to be paid whether father 's side or mom's side and they need to do a job properly.Sometimes elders spoil the kids by overpampering them and we cannot draw strict boundries . Actually elders watch more TV and media than us middle-aged and younger generation.I made sure that my kids watched the right kind of content.I don't want my in-laws to be taking care because they might feed them but psychologically they are bad for our mental well being.
She is not making sense on this issue at all. Alimony is gender neutral. Men can claim and get it too. And it is not automatic. The person claiming it has to prove that she/he is unable to maintain self.
Can you quote 5 examples of men who have got alimony in the country (eligible men) I'll give you 500 examples of women who have got alimony (in eligible women)... Are you up for the challenge? @@user-de5xy2rz4y
I asked people who are single. They said its ok if no kids. Life will decide and all of them said its better to remain single forever than having a ex wife.
This woman deserved to be hosted by someone better. Such a sensible, unbiased experienced women while the host is smiling like as if a comedy show is on. Would love to hear this woman more on other channels.
Correction: it’s in laws. Most times mother in laws are communicating what father in laws feed to them. These men are cowards who put their wives ahead with their personal agenda instead of coming in front. If daughter in law works then it’s a problem, who doesn’t work that’s a problem. In laws make working women’s life hell. Taking her kids responsibility is also mother’s job as if their son is walking in the park. Nuclear families are the only option. No one should be forced to live with someone else’s family and continue being their baby whereas younger wife is expected to be mature n grown up. All of a sudden someone else’s kid who is more pampered at home is treated so badly in someone else’s house. Spooner Indians learn that better social structure will be. Son’s parents should stop interfering in their son’s family and raise good values sons. They are the one causing all gandagi in the society/
Fact you are saying every word right but more of this mother-in-law are so badly behaviour for her. Doughterinlaw they try all their things to pressure her to behaviour her tantrums or she try to get her out from house she always try that my son and my daughter in law is always apart they don't happyly live with eachother 😢
Indians being emotional and see only sad old hags getting deserted but they don't realise these mil buddies are so toxic they dont want their son to be in peace , they just want constant ego boost and dominance
Good value son won't give a flying f*ck to a girl with such an attitude... No, its people like you who actually are the "gandagi" in every household now days. What an irony...a father and a mother sacrifice their personal happiness to collect resources and invest their time and those saved resources to educate their son to stand on his legs so that a girl gets with him. Then those parents are expected to walk away as per your idea of life with no understanding that for those parents their son is their only world.. you better teach yourself some "good values" first of all rather asking others as I can understand what values your parents have imparted in you. Woman with these attitudes "in laws and blah blah" is nothing but a waste (pumped and dumped) who despite trying her best effort was rejected by the boy she wanted to be with.... so she compromise and settle with the next best option and that's why she rather focusing on how to make husband's and in-laws life easier and gain acceptance in a family is more focused on nuclear families and in laws and gandagi....due to her own insecurity because she never fell in love with the option she picked and will never know what love actually is and what she calls love and experience is "lust".
You sound like a sh*t...hopefully your parents should have taught you some "good values" because you married the man either due to his looks or lifestyle he is offering but not the man....that's the subtle difference means your marriage is nothing but a compromise or an agreement or maybe after being rejected plan B.... 😆😆😆😆
Mother in law bas bahana h. This men just want to enjoy patriarchy benefits. Mom just is spokeperson for sons. Sabko lagta pati bhola bhala h aur uski maa vilan. But pati hi hote h jo stand nhi lete kyuki they gain most from your abuse
@09937vickydicky5565 agree it's result of patriarchy. If women are equally educated ,get equal no of jobs and property is equally distributed I doubt any need for them
@@09937vickydicky5565 In our country men taking dowry is more than men giving alimony. Only 5% divorce happens in India but in 60% marriages dowry is given to men. Marriage is bad for women. In developed countries men dont take dowry and they dont live with his parents. Here women has to cook for his parents too. but men has no responsibility towards wifes parents.
Why do you marry a man who is earning more than you. You women always want patriarchy benefits but never accept but never accept that. What about those men who supported their unemployed wives and later on they ditch them and women say men don't support us in their career.
As a man, I loved the gender neutral approach of the lady expert. She is neither a feminist or a male rights activist. She believes in kindness and compassion and shows both the qualities herself also.
Very sensible lawyer. I appreciate that she is not biased and especially regarding protecting kids from the mess and keeping it all clean. Respect for ma'am.
Absolutely fantastic Lady LAWYER ...Wish there were more women like her who understand things in the right perspective.....Beautifully explained all aspects of life ....
Men who have monitory and emotional dues to his parents should not marry. He should be 100 percent give all to the parents first and get rid of all debt before getting marrued. All financial difficulties that parenst went thro or emotional issue sthey had should be resolved first. Dont marry to get social status and kids
How will you give back the debt of their upbringing/ care. By caring for them because now they are getting old too? Or would you rather say.. - OK you sacrificed a lot. You got your life savings, got me educated and married regardless of the circumstances, But now time has changed, you need to suffer more mentally and physically and try taking your own care because me and my spouse want to live our life the way we want... right ? And is this really justice to all that they have done ? As per your thinking I think that 2nd option is what you will mostly say upfront regardless of gender.
@@achaljain9167 Nowadays most Women don't want to take care of Parents (In laws) They will say they are not my Parents But If we ask them are they taking care of there Biological Parents In most cases No & Its not Possible to take care of other Person from Different House Rarely you can do things but not Daily For that Your brother & his wife should take care of those Parents Today's Women want Right on Property, Money, Rights but doesn't want to take care of Parents (In law's) If we go by this System Almost everybody Parents will become helpless Specially in Old Age or in Illness
Parents sacrificed their life. Parents are raising their kids not based on genders. A wife shall not be given any privileges because she shall run away with any valuables. Same rule applies to man's gold digger parents who are looting a married couple and passing valuables to their daughter. Are married couples destroyed marriage is the repayment to parents? Then this payment shall be made to girls patents also. Why should only man's family be allowed for this destruction?
I think She teach us not only legal advice but also life lessons too. her thought was so amazing. such a wonderful person I saw. So inspiring mam.😊 I salute her
The host isn't matured enough to interview on this topic. The questions she is asking is scripted (already prepared by someone else). Thanks to the lawyer to highlight so many important points and guiding everyone in present life. She was on point.
Simple truth is that there is no right or wrong. There is someone for everyone. But we are not honest with ourselves, and with what we need because people tell us what we should want. Parents tell, relatives tell, friends tell. Don't listen to others. Think of what you want and find someone who complements you. Be upfront before marriage. Make sure the person you are marrying is not under any pressure. Beyond this, if someone really wants to fool you, take your money, then there is nothing you can do. Consider it your karma, and move on.
17:15 is spot on. However I would like to add that many times it is mothers themselves who are responsible for keeping things this way, because they want their boys to remain dependent on them for as long as possible. For their own emotional security.
And the mothers of daughter are no better . They interfere in everything nd those days they were living away but today they are part of every day life .
@@aishabavani8789 2 house can Never be Same Brothers can Live Jointly If they are Little Wise Because in case of fight whatever they say to eachother it can hurt but in Core there Parents are same Even if Brother is Cousin Then also 2 - 4 Generation ago Parents were Same, Village were Same They will still Unite with Little bit of Wiseness But for Joint Living of Biological Parents & Parents (In-laws) All Members should be Wise Small tussle can become a big issue One More thing is Population is too much Because of this Land Price's have Increased & everybody can't Make a Big House Because of this Mother & Daughter in Law constantly Clashes in a day They should eat food Jointly & do basic Work Together But other things can be done Separately Education also plays a Major Role here Our System was Oriented towards money because of this Most People doesn't have Hobby Like Sport, Dance, Music, Singing, Art, etc They don't know how to enjoy Life Because of this they are Frustrated with Life & It's also creates more Clash
I salute you lady lawyer !! You are the most grounded , intelligent ,sensible and practical lady I have come across !! I love your way of looking at relationship issue!!
Kudos to the host.. for making this video light hearted. It wasn’t loud, yes it’s a serious topic but that doesn’t mean the conversation had to be boring. They both laughed and kept it palatable. B
Very objective discussion and the guest is too good. Clear on her thought process. Has touched all common place issues and given a very unbiased opinion on all matters with complete sensitivity and decorum. Must watch for all youngsters who plan to enter a relationship and others too. It is never too late to mend. :)
What if the girl earns but doesn't want to work in household & not spending a single penny on household/husband from her earning. Her earned money is only hers& not for betterment of family.(husband &kids).
Her money belongs to her husband and her kids not for inlaws brother in law nd sister in law. If husband wants to give money to mother in law nobody will give your family is your responsibility not her
Women's salary is her own , there is no court law saying woman has to hand over salary to in laws and husband. If husband is dependent on wife's income then he should think before marriage
@@inspiringyou5642 which law jn constitution says that? And what about sharing household work if sharing salary from wife is expected then how many men share house work please tell that also
Reality is woman is expected to be educated, working, good homemaker and capable to fulfill all the duties and then serve to his husband also with good looks. This is very hard to manage and male dominated society fail to accept this fact so they tend to accuse woman when things goes beyond then at the end divorce
Yes madam you have actually said correct.... Hamari sas sasur se sare Ghar ke kaam karwati hai.... But agar mai wohi apne pati se expect Karu to sas ko bahut problem hai....
Role of Toxic Father in Law is always hidden behind his Son n Mother in Law's behaviour, Most of time Order n Guidance come from there, n they Stay Neutral.
1:17:21 Incredible podcast! I loved how Pritha Dave Ma'am shared her perspective-so straightforward, practical, and refreshingly honest. Thank you, @Meri Saheli, for making this happen. Keep them coming! 😊
Divorce can be very easy, and there shouldn't be any problem with it. But it's not about compatibility; it's about the economic benefits for both the advocates and the wife. That's why cases are prolonged, so the money keeps coming in. If a wife marries a rich man, even if they aren't happy together, she can still receive maintenance and alimony. In this flowing river, advocates also benefit. Actually, it has become a trend for women: either they find a good partner or at least secure good maintenance and alimony.
So wrong explanation. Why lady should be compensated with the lifestyle of her father when her father prepared her by giving good education, to cope with people living luxurious lifestyle. If she would have continued her job she would have reached certain heights in her career/profession. Wasting years like housewife brings her professional market value down to more than even a freshly graduated one. Do you think that girl, emotionally broken after divorce, aged and having a huge gap in career will be able to restart her career (earning) from the same point she would have reached without the break? For this reason the law gives her the privilege to get as alimony/maintenance as much amount as her husband's lifestyle requires.
38:00 onwards she stopped making sense. If a son has bought property before marriage, put on anyone’s name but after marriage wife’s name has to be there. She is forgetting that in Indian society divorced woman is a big taboo and she cannot lead a normal life. Men buying homes with the assumption that wife will take half of it is wrong, if you can’t trust your partner why to get married? Women getting married to a rich family, adjust based on the family. After divorce they deserve everything that belongs to the husband. This woman is full of BS, she wants to have man as clients that’s it.
Why wife's name should be there ? My father advised me never to put my husband's name in any property I purchase with my funds because these will become headaches should it go wrong. I advise the same to my son as well. Keep finances and emotions separate. 😂
Think about the opposite. If the girl owns a property before marriage, do you want her to add her husband’s name in the registration? Understand the fact that - when a woman has/earns money, it is her money but when a guy has/earns money, it is everybody’s money. Who who should protect the guy’s money? If he doesn’t, who will? Law definitely doesn’t.
The mother in laws just sit in one place all day and expect her educated and working daughter in law to feed her, pick up her plate and do everything and the husband is okay with this behaviour. And I don’t know why the girls are made villains when they demand to live separately why can’t a guy leave his parents when she has left her own parents after marriage.
Very nice podcast ..loved the host who tried her best to ask relevant questions while keeping a light hearted vibe since the topic is a serious one ❤ of course the lawyer us very articulate sensible n intelligent..Great answers to the thought provoking questions❤congratulations team
If avoiding the divorce cones at the cost of suppressing women, then let it be. Marriage is a 50-50 partnership. Men must surrender also and participate. They are equally responsible for a broken marriage.
As a therapist ....I always suggest to the parents...please do not poison your child's mind....give the child peace and patience....show respect to your ex spouse so that the child feels safe and secure in both places
Guest is a real life genius. Respect mam. Covered all aspects, 360° analysis. Marriage with biased laws is a punishment for men, these days if gone wrong. Women gain either ways.
When once we go through divorce Proceedings, believe me you become way strong than you could ever imagine. You will be trained to face any situation single-handedly. Bcoz everyone deceives you during the process .. even your own parents and family. You realise everyone’s true face.
Respect ma'am 🙏, feels good to know that there are people like you in the intellectual domain with such a clarity. love to hear more more talk from you.. thank you for your precious advice ❣️🌻
No. 1 Reason is Women. In USA divorce rate : Men vs Men is 28% , Men vs Women is 46% and Women vs Women is 72% . Not everyone has guts to speak about this to avoid getting labeled as misogynist!
The host is thinking that this is comedy nights with kapil, making fun of a serious issue and laughing like swaroopnakha doesn't makes it funny 🙏🙏 secondly I wish this Iron lady Lawyer should be promoted as Judge, which will eventually reduce Divorce cases to atleast 50% 🙏
Ma'am, Why the concept of alimony was even made? This made Female such a villain. In reality it's an ALM. Why don't we have MONEY for female while they are married? 1- If they are working professional - She is going to manage her money herself. 2- If they are not working professional - Why not husband giving his half salary to wife from day one! Why no laws are being made on this subject. A female keeping herself inside the marriage is also entitled for financial freedom. Throughout the married life whole money goes to Man in marriage- A- his salary goes to his account. B- her salary goes to his account. C- Streedhan (Gifts and Jewelry) goes to his mother. WHAT'S THE WAY LEFT FOR MARRIED FEMALE TO SURVIVE.
Notice her age and missing wedding ring. Likely divorced at least once and sitting on millions minted from that divorce. That’s why she may be so casual and shallow about the topic.
Simple truths of life and society put in a very convincing and humorous way by Dave ma'am. Would definitely like to listen more. Host was struggling to keep up with the intellectual guest though.
This is very complex subject, there may be many reasons. Before going to court , Respective parents should sit with their respective elders and try to resolve their issues. I am sure most of the cases will be solved out of court.
Indeed thay would be a brilliant idea. Sensible and sensitive parents would correct themselves in case they had erred. And pray for the younger generation to live their lives.
U have forgotten completely that in the houses where husbands are doing house works to share the house keeping, cooking, laundry, cleaning utensils etc. wife is constantly disliking the style of husband and fighting with husband popelling husband towards depression and suicide.
Why did you married her & made her housewife?? If u can't provide her?? U wanna become provider protector in patriarchy, why complaining??? Why your wife isn't financially independent???
Very interesting conversation but some points raised by the host are outright silly. She claims women get half of husband's property on divorce? The lawyer doesnt correct her that no such law exists in India! Alimony is gender neutral and is hard fought in courts. It is not automatic. The lady or the man seeking alimony has to prove that she/he is incapable of maintaining self. Child support is different from alimony. Don't confuse the two.
Madam you said a girl should want the statues of her parents living as alimony and not of her husbands. My own case, i am a single mother, upper middle class, spent beyond my means to conduct the wedding, because there was no dowry demand ,but they wanted a wedding ceremony befitting their statues. Boy is a close relative, super wealthy family, very average looking, entire family pleaded for my daugter hand in marriage , mainly because of her looks. She agreed and belived looks are only superficial and one should not be evaluated on what God has given. 11 months daughter wants divorce, reason they concealed boy is a drug addict. They are only offering 1 cr as alimony , that is lesser than cost of the wedding. 2 times he aborted the baby without her or my knowledge, again selfish reason, wanted her to be attaraction of every party. Should she fight for parent standard or husband standard now ? Basically in mother house, she had lots of peace and happiness and with that materialsist things mattered lesser. Now in 11 months , she has lost her happiness and peace, what is wrong in wanting materialistic things to compensate that ?
No mom in law gave her something on the pretext of health supplement. Pain started, then took her to Dr who advised abortion. Since it repeated again, my daughter is sure, mom in law is involved in abortion
Why get ur daughter married in a super wealthy family in the first place....why the greed... n why to conduct grand wedding beyond means. Why not go for a simple middle class decent human being who's respectful without the flashy lifestyle.
@@sripriyarao7238 yup . Spending 1 crore and marrying off daughter to an ugly man because he is rich was no good. Could’ve married good looking working man from ordinary family.
Great points were raised by the lawyer. The host needs to listen without laughing too much because all the points she is raising are very valid and actually happen.
Outstanding podcast for awareness i love the way you salute the homemakers they too are humans & Lastly apni company ko enjoy kijiye agar kisi ke sath aisa ho b jata h again us kichad mai nhi jana chahiye & Host is looking alike simar in sasural Simar ka & Advocate looks alike ayi in serial pavita rishta manav ki ayi
Before , having Marriage always have a registered affidavits clearly indicating all point , what gift exchanged,what boy and girl earns, what are expectations of girls and boys ..... Though it may not be legal evidence it will help u a lot when police complaint is filed
Good content , specifically for new in laws in the making.. They can use this knowledge shared by this lady lawyer and get themselves updated about the modern generation mother in law and -daughter in law relationship for the benefit of their son's married life.. Superb Guest and Host, who has a great sense of humour ..
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6 year relationship just 3 months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 6 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online.
Producer cud not check the anchor how to behave ? So annoying . Guest is so nice .
who is this IRON lady in white saree... salute to your guts n maturity with practical analysis.
Bombay High Court's senior advocate Pritha Dave
The lawyer has poured her life experiences into it.... Very beautiful and eye opening perspective
This lady lawyer is a GEM. Very straightforward. Salute to her. Very rational thinking. I totally agree with her.
She might be progressive but is of collectivising mentality of have your freedoms as per our modern resource control agenda
LAWYER IS TOXIC .. PREMANAND JI MAHARAJ KO SUNO SABHI
Madam host ,this is serious subjects , lawer is so sensible, sensitive, for you some joke is going on, you r laughing unnecessarily. Over confident....shallow host
I m sorry but people who can resonate the things can laugh y to cry n be serious ❤
I think she just has a very pleasant personality !
Yes she is very present mind host..appreciate her
This is one of the best ever heard in this space, this attorney is fabulous, very pragmatic, knowledgeable more importantly very witty, which rare in their profession. Thank you for bringing her .
All parents should ask their son after marriage to live separately with his wife. This will solve lot of future problems. They will be responsible for their own life.
Correct
Paisa pad me uug raha hai? Esha hai to wife ko bhi job karna padega or nhi to ladki walo ko half Money dena padega New house ke liye
Yeah toh Bilkul galat ho jata , isnae girl 200percent outsider ho jati, phir toh husband ko kabi kuch nahi pata lagta, aur 200percent conspiracy banti ,girls are abused more in differways, dirty allegations and whatever u donot imagine to think waahi allegations lagae aur boy Okkk din picture sae gayabhojata
Doesn’t help if in laws brainwash their sons on daily basis and do video calls daily to check what they’re eating and what they’re spending on
Ok then no alomony.
We should start Prenups legally in India. It’s the insecurity that marriage will harm ppl more ( either sexes) than benefit is preventing ppl to get married. Also inspite of law all daughters don’t get equal share in father’s property. So she might be left in lurch from both sides. So she is happy earning and living single !
@@amulyalabschandigarh1009 income tax return dekh kar shaadi karo.You will see that groom will pay emi of house and house is in father in law's name .Yeh bahut ho raha hain.
we should stop having marriage registration
@AdityaJape marriage registration is the most important document.No wedding function is needed.But marriage registration is definitely needed
@Apar-1-2 it's about government interference into everything
@AdityaJape yes people both boys and girls are not behaving proper and neither are their parents.So it is required for our social structure.like the lawyer says mil and fil should not interfere in the girl's life.First listen to sango life sutras .If you can't be away from your parents ,Boys please don't marry.Your wife is not your parent's slave for doing free labour.My mil has a problem if I do online transactions.But I am doing only online transaction.Girls have a seperate bank account and your own money .My father transfers money online only for Diwali etc .After demonetisation I have taken advantage and I ask people only upi.Women should know about insurance etc.In fact my dhikhai etc bhi bahu ko online milna chahiye.Cash transaction need to be stopped completely.yes for some people government interference is definitely necessary.
Divorce case in my family where the girl was subjected to extreme mental torture,she wanted out ,but after a lot of mud slinging on her character by the boy and his parents,they finally agreed to sign divorce papers on the condition that she will not ask for alimony and not even her own jewellery,cash given by her parents.So she had to forego even what was rightfully hers to be free of the monster family.This is very common in our country
She should’ve chosen mud slinging over this nonsense. They used tactics and succeeded. And she got a bad deal
If her character was true, then how any level of mudslinging will effect her ? What proof they had ?
@@jp6838If you are told 24/7 that you are characterless by 3-4 people , you too will break mentally regardless. Please don't trivialise her suffering.
@@dollargeek4016 mental peace is greater than material things. The faster one gets out of a toxic environment, the better it is
Marriage counselling centres are needed in every nook and corner so that importance of happiness is communicated.True discussion and very useful for young aspirants.
The interviewer had no constructive questions...kept laughing & agreeing to everything. Didn't raise pertinent questions.
When the lawyer spoke not in favour of wife getting alimony, she completely missed out mentioning that more than often the wife was not allowed to go out & build a career after marriage. Itbis a common knowledge, with so much competition today, if you take a break for even having kids, it is a big setback to your career. If you don't have a support system to help with kids, wife usually takes a break for minimum 5-6yrs. When she thinks of resuming career, lot has changed, her knowledge skills need to be upgraded, women with kids are not preferred at workplaces even today, she is forced to work at a much lower pay scale...sometimes starting from scratch. If in such a situation a divorce happens, she is not wrong in asking for alimony. The husband has now grown up the career ladder & earning well at the cost of her sacrifices, he better compensate for it.
The only case alimony can be questioned is if both have been working all along & the wife wasnt made to compromise on her career or where the wife has left the marriage for pursuing her own selfish interest.
You are absolutely correct for the case that you mentioned but what about the cases where she has left by her own will, what about cases where the marrige didn't even last a year. The moment the wife gets married (and in most cases the husband's home is in same state different district or even different state), automatically when the place is new, you don't get jobs on a flick, you build up, take time, get acquainted to the place.. all that takes time. And in all of that she still has if not all (like earlier women had) but some responsibilities towards the family.. in all of that if you term and think that marrying itself is a sacrifice and has been made so that an alimony is justifiable then it's not correct. It was in first place her choice and to her knowledge that she is getting married and leaving her own home. You need to consider each and every consequence, family background of both parties, their living needs, what locality they come from and what they are aiming for.
Because as getting alimony as a compensation is a reality, so is the reality that many girls use this as a tactic for extorting money.
And also the other scenario that the girl who deliberately dosent want to work after marrige, she doesn't want to take responsibility of family, nether want to have a career. She just wants to stay at home, enjoy luxuries and party and upon finding and contesting, she in return files a domestic violence and 498A cases of mental cruelty even as she was spending her time in all the luxury and shows as if she was being tortured ? How about that ? Will you pay alimony to such a woman?
There are more legal remedies for women than a man. Indian law doesn't even recognize that a man can get abused mentally or physically unless you are a boy.
@@achaljain9167 Firstly, i completely agree that laws should be gender neutral.
Every case should be verified & decision arrived at. If a girl herself has decided not to work, which mostly hapoens in upper class or upper middle class, then most definitely, she has no right to alimony, unless of course there are children involved, for which child support would be required & if there is cheating involved by the husband. However, in middle class families, very few educated girls today don't opt to work, unless forced by the husband's side. Even if she is working, once kids are born, it is expected of her to give up her job & look after home, kids. I know of husbands who don't tell the wife to give up working, but put all the responsibility of home & kids on the wife, over & above her job. In this frustration many women give up working, not able to cope up with so much responsibility. In that case after some yrs if either party files for divorce there should be alimony paid..
Honestly our cultural sensibilities need a major shift. Parents should let their daughters be financially independent before forcing them to marry. Don't force your child to marry as per your choice...give them time to interact & understand their compatibility. If girls are financially independent before marriage it will help a lot later. From the guy's side, don't think you are getting a unpaid bai at home to look after your parents. If you are not ready to stay away from your parents, don't expect a girl to leave hers. Both should start their journey by themselves & be there for their parents equally. Be prepared to share load at home equally...if you are going to marry someone with a job, you better know every bit of housework that you expect your wifebto know. That requires a shift in the way our boys are brought up...parents need to teach their daughters & sons all work around the house & outside.
The biggest problem.is our imbalanced cultural upbringing. If both are brought up as equals, there would be less issues
@@achaljain9167the requirement and quantum of alimony has to be PROVED in court. So get a better lawyer. Also alimony is a gender neutral law
@@mayak2676 in Netherlands there is a new law that even grandparents need to be paid whether father 's side or mom's side and they need to do a job properly.Sometimes elders spoil the kids by overpampering them and we cannot draw strict boundries . Actually elders watch more TV and media than us middle-aged and younger generation.I made sure that my kids watched the right kind of content.I don't want my in-laws to be taking care because they might feed them but psychologically they are bad for our mental well being.
I completely agreed...Most of the time she is out of context...she is going everywhere in the world trying to be a life coach
This lady lawyer is talking SENSE I totally agree with her …. ALIMONY is certainly one way TRADE
She is not making sense on this issue at all. Alimony is gender neutral. Men can claim and get it too. And it is not automatic. The person claiming it has to prove that she/he is unable to maintain self.
@@user-de5xy2rz4yjhooth mardo ko kabhi alimony nahi milti, bahut rare case hota hai.
Can you quote 5 examples of men who have got alimony in the country (eligible men) I'll give you 500 examples of women who have got alimony (in eligible women)... Are you up for the challenge? @@user-de5xy2rz4y
I asked people who are single. They said its ok if no kids. Life will decide and all of them said its better to remain single forever than having a ex wife.
Good. Less population
ye its all ok a stoday all having multiple partners with time frame
Why the host is laughing on serious issue. She still has to learn how to host the podcast.
Exactly what I was thinking too.
ya her laugh is so irritating , there is no need to laugh on such serious topics.
Yes
Agree!!!
पागल है
Yeah the host is crazy , discussing it so casually, just laughing unnecessarily, mad woman
This advocate lady is more sensitive n very intellectual ❤❤❤
The host is not controlling her laughing, it's better to be calm with such topic, the lawyer is very nice
This woman deserved to be hosted by someone better. Such a sensible, unbiased experienced women while the host is smiling like as if a comedy show is on. Would love to hear this woman more on other channels.
Correction: it’s in laws. Most times mother in laws are communicating what father in laws feed to them. These men are cowards who put their wives ahead with their personal agenda instead of coming in front. If daughter in law works then it’s a problem, who doesn’t work that’s a problem. In laws make working women’s life hell. Taking her kids responsibility is also mother’s job as if their son is walking in the park. Nuclear families are the only option. No one should be forced to live with someone else’s family and continue being their baby whereas younger wife is expected to be mature n grown up. All of a sudden someone else’s kid who is more pampered at home is treated so badly in someone else’s house. Spooner Indians learn that better social structure will be. Son’s parents should stop interfering in their son’s family and raise good values sons. They are the one causing all gandagi in the society/
Fact you are saying every word right but more of this mother-in-law are so badly behaviour for her. Doughterinlaw they try all their things to pressure her to behaviour her tantrums or she try to get her out from house she always try that my son and my daughter in law is always apart they don't happyly live with eachother 😢
Indians being emotional and see only sad old hags getting deserted but they don't realise these mil buddies are so toxic they dont want their son to be in peace , they just want constant ego boost and dominance
Good value son won't give a flying f*ck to a girl with such an attitude...
No, its people like you who actually are the "gandagi" in every household now days. What an irony...a father and a mother sacrifice their personal happiness to collect resources and invest their time and those saved resources to educate their son to stand on his legs so that a girl gets with him. Then those parents are expected to walk away as per your idea of life with no understanding that for those parents their son is their only world.. you better teach yourself some "good values" first of all rather asking others as I can understand what values your parents have imparted in you.
Woman with these attitudes "in laws and blah blah" is nothing but a waste (pumped and dumped) who despite trying her best effort was rejected by the boy she wanted to be with.... so she compromise and settle with the next best option and that's why she rather focusing on how to make husband's and in-laws life easier and gain acceptance in a family is more focused on nuclear families and in laws and gandagi....due to her own insecurity because she never fell in love with the option she picked and will never know what love actually is and what she calls love and experience is "lust".
Everything you said is true.
You sound like a sh*t...hopefully your parents should have taught you some "good values" because you married the man either due to his looks or lifestyle he is offering but not the man....that's the subtle difference means your marriage is nothing but a compromise or an agreement or maybe after being rejected plan B.... 😆😆😆😆
Mother in law bas bahana h. This men just want to enjoy patriarchy benefits. Mom just is spokeperson for sons.
Sabko lagta pati bhola bhala h aur uski maa vilan. But pati hi hote h jo stand nhi lete kyuki they gain most from your abuse
Marriage itself is patriarchy, men giving maintenance /alimony to wife is patriarchy.
@09937vickydicky5565 agree it's result of patriarchy. If women are equally educated ,get equal no of jobs and property is equally distributed I doubt any need for them
@@09937vickydicky5565 dowry rate 95%
Indian divorce rate 1%
Still men are crying on alimony, hypocrite
@@09937vickydicky5565 In our country men taking dowry is more than men giving alimony. Only 5% divorce happens in India but in 60% marriages dowry is given to men. Marriage is bad for women. In developed countries men dont take dowry and they dont live with his parents. Here women has to cook for his parents too. but men has no responsibility towards wifes parents.
Why do you marry a man who is earning more than you. You women always want patriarchy benefits but never accept but never accept that. What about those men who supported their unemployed wives and later on they ditch them and women say men don't support us in their career.
As a man, I loved the gender neutral approach of the lady expert. She is neither a feminist or a male rights activist. She believes in kindness and compassion and shows both the qualities herself also.
Agree 💯 Respect to ma'am
Very sensible lawyer. I appreciate that she is not biased and especially regarding protecting kids from the mess and keeping it all clean. Respect for ma'am.
Mother i law may be one of the factors but not always. These days criminals are posing as bride / groom for your money, property etc. Please be aware.
Absolutely fantastic Lady LAWYER ...Wish there were more women like her who understand things in the right perspective.....Beautifully explained all aspects of life ....
This lawyer is a gem of a person... very genuine . Loved her thoughts
Men who have monitory and emotional dues to his parents should not marry. He should be 100 percent give all to the parents first and get rid of all debt before getting marrued. All financial difficulties that parenst went thro or emotional issue sthey had should be resolved first. Dont marry to get social status and kids
How will you give back the debt of their upbringing/ care. By caring for them because now they are getting old too?
Or would you rather say.. - OK you sacrificed a lot. You got your life savings, got me educated and married regardless of the circumstances, But now time has changed, you need to suffer more mentally and physically and try taking your own care because me and my spouse want to live our life the way we want... right ? And is this really justice to all that they have done ?
As per your thinking I think that 2nd option is what you will mostly say upfront regardless of gender.
@@achaljain9167
Nowadays most Women don't want to take care of Parents (In laws)
They will say they are not my Parents
But If we ask them are they taking care of there Biological Parents
In most cases No
& Its not Possible to take care of other Person from Different House
Rarely you can do things but not Daily
For that Your brother & his wife should take care of those Parents
Today's Women want Right on Property, Money, Rights but doesn't want to take care of Parents (In law's)
If we go by this System
Almost everybody Parents will become helpless Specially in Old Age or in Illness
Parents sacrificed their life. Parents are raising their kids not based on genders.
A wife shall not be given any privileges because she shall run away with any valuables.
Same rule applies to man's gold digger parents who are looting a married couple and passing valuables to their daughter.
Are married couples destroyed marriage is the repayment to parents? Then this payment shall be made to girls patents also.
Why should only man's family be allowed for this destruction?
Sahi bola
@@achaljain9167excellent 👍
I think She teach us not only legal advice but also life lessons too.
her thought was so amazing.
such a wonderful person I saw.
So inspiring mam.😊 I salute her
Absolutely ☑️
The host isn't matured enough to interview on this topic. The questions she is asking is scripted (already prepared by someone else).
Thanks to the lawyer to highlight so many important points and guiding everyone in present life. She was on point.
This lawyer guest is fabulous and very informative. Liked listening to her. Thankyou Ma'am.
Simple truth is that there is no right or wrong. There is someone for everyone. But we are not honest with ourselves, and with what we need because people tell us what we should want. Parents tell, relatives tell, friends tell. Don't listen to others. Think of what you want and find someone who complements you. Be upfront before marriage. Make sure the person you are marrying is not under any pressure. Beyond this, if someone really wants to fool you, take your money, then there is nothing you can do. Consider it your karma, and move on.
17:15 is spot on. However I would like to add that many times it is mothers themselves who are responsible for keeping things this way, because they want their boys to remain dependent on them for as long as possible. For their own emotional security.
And the mothers of daughter are no better . They interfere in everything nd those days they were living away but today they are part of every day life .
I disagree
@@Athirahindustaniboys ki mother sath mai hi rehti hai. 😂girl ki to sirf phone pe. Dono mother ko interfere nahi karna chahiye phir to. 😂
@@aishabavani8789 ya fir toh dono ko hi interfere karna chaiyei ?
@@aishabavani8789
2 house can Never be Same
Brothers can Live Jointly
If they are Little Wise
Because in case of fight whatever they say to eachother it can hurt but in Core there Parents are same
Even if Brother is Cousin
Then also 2 - 4 Generation ago Parents were Same, Village were Same
They will still Unite with Little bit of Wiseness
But for Joint Living of Biological Parents & Parents (In-laws) All Members should be Wise
Small tussle can become a big issue
One More thing is Population is too much
Because of this Land Price's have Increased & everybody can't Make a Big House
Because of this Mother & Daughter in Law constantly Clashes in a day
They should eat food Jointly & do basic Work Together
But other things can be done Separately
Education also plays a Major Role here
Our System was Oriented towards money because of this Most People doesn't have Hobby
Like Sport, Dance, Music, Singing, Art, etc
They don't know how to enjoy Life
Because of this they are Frustrated with Life
& It's also creates more Clash
I salute you lady lawyer !! You are the most grounded , intelligent ,sensible and practical lady I have come across !! I love your way of looking at relationship issue!!
Why host is laughing so much?
Loosing control over herself completely. Unnecessarily loud laughter. It's a serious topic not comedy nights with Kapil.
She’s an idiot
Yeah her reaction(loud laughter )is very annoying...
Her laugh is showing immaturity & decreased guest opinion's importance on such a serious topic
Please straighten your hair 😂😂😂😂😂
There are many very bad father in laws too. There are people who enjoys destroying other family and couples. This is a reality of life anywhere.
Kudos to the host.. for making this video light hearted. It wasn’t loud, yes it’s a serious topic but that doesn’t mean the conversation had to be boring. They both laughed and kept it palatable. B
Very objective discussion and the guest is too good. Clear on her thought process. Has touched all common place issues and given a very unbiased opinion on all matters with complete sensitivity and decorum.
Must watch for all youngsters who plan to enter a relationship and others too. It is never too late to mend. :)
What a lawyer ! Thanks mam , such a relief to know people like you exist
The lady lawyer in white is awesome. Pure and intelligent.
We want this knowledge to be spread out in toxic India.Indian society needs it
Pritha Dave is very sensible and a great analyst of Indian culture and changing values. Bohot accha kaha!
What if the girl earns but doesn't want to work in household & not spending a single penny on household/husband from her earning. Her earned money is only hers& not for betterment of family.(husband &kids).
Her money belongs to her husband and her kids not for inlaws brother in law nd sister in law. If husband wants to give money to mother in law nobody will give your family is your responsibility not her
Women's salary is her own , there is no court law saying woman has to hand over salary to in laws and husband. If husband is dependent on wife's income then he should think before marriage
It's wrong,,,Couple is earning for the family,
@@chummidixit6433no that’s not correct either
@@inspiringyou5642 which law jn constitution says that? And what about sharing household work if sharing salary from wife is expected then how many men share house work please tell that also
Reality is woman is expected to be educated, working, good homemaker and capable to fulfill all the duties and then serve to his husband also with good looks. This is very hard to manage and male dominated society fail to accept this fact so they tend to accuse woman when things goes beyond then at the end divorce
Madam lawer thank you for your perspective.For you both the man and woman in a relationship are equal. No biased thought.Thank you ❤
Indian men should start having a backbone. Most are mummys boy.
Yes madam you have actually said correct.... Hamari sas sasur se sare Ghar ke kaam karwati hai.... But agar mai wohi apne pati se expect Karu to sas ko bahut problem hai....
Exactly
I don't understand why host is laughing so much on very sensitive issues. She is just laughing at other's emotions and feelings. Not at all serious.
Role of Toxic Father in Law is always hidden behind his Son n Mother in Law's behaviour,
Most of time Order n Guidance come from there, n they Stay Neutral.
An eye opening podcast for our society
Loved it...the lady is very practical and genuine
I just like the sane answers she is giving . Very nice
1:17:21 Incredible podcast! I loved how Pritha Dave Ma'am shared her perspective-so straightforward, practical, and refreshingly honest. Thank you, @Meri Saheli, for making this happen. Keep them coming! 😊
I am here after watching 1.5hrs video of Atul Subhash's painful last confession, hearing Dave mam's wise words are really consolatory.
Madam advocate is very sensible and mature..Hats off to her..🙏
Divorce can be very easy, and there shouldn't be any problem with it. But it's not about compatibility; it's about the economic benefits for both the advocates and the wife. That's why cases are prolonged, so the money keeps coming in. If a wife marries a rich man, even if they aren't happy together, she can still receive maintenance and alimony. In this flowing river, advocates also benefit.
Actually, it has become a trend for women: either they find a good partner or at least secure good maintenance and alimony.
The cases where there is no alimony requirement do they end in 2-3 months ?
So wrong explanation. Why lady should be compensated with the lifestyle of her father when her father prepared her by giving good education, to cope with people living luxurious lifestyle. If she would have continued her job she would have reached certain heights in her career/profession. Wasting years like housewife brings her professional market value down to more than even a freshly graduated one. Do you think that girl, emotionally broken after divorce, aged and having a huge gap in career will be able to restart her career (earning) from the same point she would have reached without the break? For this reason the law gives her the privilege to get as alimony/maintenance as much amount as her husband's lifestyle requires.
38:00 onwards she stopped making sense. If a son has bought property before marriage, put on anyone’s name but after marriage wife’s name has to be there. She is forgetting that in Indian society divorced woman is a big taboo and she cannot lead a normal life. Men buying homes with the assumption that wife will take half of it is wrong, if you can’t trust your partner why to get married? Women getting married to a rich family, adjust based on the family. After divorce they deserve everything that belongs to the husband. This woman is full of BS, she wants to have man as clients that’s it.
True👍👏🙏
Why wife's name should be there ? My father advised me never to put my husband's name in any property I purchase with my funds because these will become headaches should it go wrong. I advise the same to my son as well. Keep finances and emotions separate. 😂
Whoever pays for the property has every right to buy it in anyone’s name they want
Think about the opposite. If the girl owns a property before marriage, do you want her to add her husband’s name in the registration? Understand the fact that - when a woman has/earns money, it is her money but when a guy has/earns money, it is everybody’s money. Who who should protect the guy’s money? If he doesn’t, who will? Law definitely doesn’t.
The mother in laws just sit in one place all day and expect her educated and working daughter in law to feed her, pick up her plate and do everything and the husband is okay with this behaviour. And I don’t know why the girls are made villains when they demand to live separately why can’t a guy leave his parents when she has left her own parents after marriage.
Echoing thoughts of the yester generation girls who are now women in middle age. Ofcourse those of the current genre too....
Maam youre so straight forward, loved hearing you❤
The bestest podcast I heard by a divorce lawyer ❤
Perfect surgery
A lady with a class and what an intelligent arguments she made.. Absolute no non sense and very sharpe. Humko aisi Judge chahiye !!
Very nice podcast ..loved the host who tried her best to ask relevant questions while keeping a light hearted vibe since the topic is a serious one ❤ of course the lawyer us very articulate sensible n intelligent..Great answers to the thought provoking questions❤congratulations team
I love her. she is so much practical ❤❤❤ most needed podcast 💯
If avoiding the divorce cones at the cost of suppressing women, then let it be. Marriage is a 50-50 partnership. Men must surrender also and participate. They are equally responsible for a broken marriage.
As a therapist ....I always suggest to the parents...please do not poison your child's mind....give the child peace and patience....show respect to your ex spouse so that the child feels safe and secure in both places
Host is totally disconnected with the topic..... And guest ur words are soo true..... respect...
True
Host is enjoying very painful issue.
Very very clear thoughts from your Side Mam
She is an excellent lawyer and a very honest COUNSELLOR also. Hats off.
Guest is a real life genius. Respect mam. Covered all aspects, 360° analysis. Marriage with biased laws is a punishment for men, these days if gone wrong. Women gain either ways.
When once we go through divorce Proceedings, believe me you become way strong than you could ever imagine. You will be trained to face any situation single-handedly. Bcoz everyone deceives you during the process .. even your own parents and family. You realise everyone’s true face.
Excellent arguments given by the guest lawyer. 👌 Hope people understand and realize.
Respect ma'am 🙏, feels good to know that there are people like you in the intellectual domain with such a clarity. love to hear more more talk from you.. thank you for your precious advice ❣️🌻
Very inspiring segment both of you, very realistic views priya ma'am👍 What a content you have prepared👍👍👍
best lawyer ..i learnt many things from her
No. 1 Reason is Women. In USA divorce rate : Men vs Men is 28% , Men vs Women is 46% and Women vs Women is 72% . Not everyone has guts to speak about this to avoid getting labeled as misogynist!
Message and advice of Advocate is very nice. Thank you. Namaskar Madam.
The host is thinking that this is comedy nights with kapil, making fun of a serious issue and laughing like swaroopnakha doesn't makes it funny 🙏🙏 secondly I wish this Iron lady Lawyer should be promoted as Judge, which will eventually reduce Divorce cases to atleast 50% 🙏
Ma'am, Why the concept of alimony was even made? This made Female such a villain. In reality it's an ALM. Why don't we have MONEY for female while they are married? 1- If they are working professional - She is going to manage her money herself. 2- If they are not working professional - Why not husband giving his half salary to wife from day one! Why no laws are being made on this subject. A female keeping herself inside the marriage is also entitled for financial freedom. Throughout the married life whole money goes to Man in marriage- A- his salary goes to his account. B- her salary goes to his account. C- Streedhan (Gifts and Jewelry) goes to his mother. WHAT'S THE WAY LEFT FOR MARRIED FEMALE TO SURVIVE.
Being a single parent is a great thing
Pritha mam is just superb.very straight forward. Very eye opener podcast. Only thing i didn't like is host is laughing too much.
Excellent conversation.... Thanks mam 👌👌
TRUE ...FAMILY MEMBERS ARE MAJOR REASON FOR TWO PEOPLE DIVORCE ...😢😢😢😢😢
Woderfullyy explained
But young people should understand and follow your advice to live peacefully
The host is highly immature - laughing on the serious issues!
Exactly very irritating
Notice her age and missing wedding ring. Likely divorced at least once and sitting on millions minted from that divorce. That’s why she may be so casual and shallow about the topic.
The host does not deserve to be host chutiye aurat hai😅
Simple truths of life and society put in a very convincing and humorous way by Dave ma'am. Would definitely like to listen more. Host was struggling to keep up with the intellectual guest though.
Don't laugh and trivialize the conversation. It is a traumatic experience for most people to undergo divorce.
Lawer is such a geniune human being.
Madam guest...you are so sensible and knowledgble..🙏🙏
Mam ka bat krne ka samjhane ka tareeka bahut acha tha, thank you mam
Very nice program . She has put forth very important points
This is very complex subject, there may be many reasons. Before going to court , Respective parents should sit with their respective elders and try to resolve their issues. I am sure most of the cases will be solved out of court.
Indeed thay would be a brilliant idea. Sensible and sensitive parents would correct themselves in case they had erred. And pray for the younger generation to live their lives.
U have forgotten completely that in the houses where husbands are doing house works to share the house keeping, cooking, laundry, cleaning utensils etc. wife is constantly disliking the style of husband and fighting with husband popelling husband towards depression and suicide.
Why did you married her & made her housewife?? If u can't provide her?? U wanna become provider protector in patriarchy, why complaining???
Why your wife isn't financially independent???
Very interesting conversation but some points raised by the host are outright silly. She claims women get half of husband's property on divorce? The lawyer doesnt correct her that no such law exists in India!
Alimony is gender neutral and is hard fought in courts. It is not automatic. The lady or the man seeking alimony has to prove that she/he is incapable of maintaining self.
Child support is different from alimony. Don't confuse the two.
Who says, alimony is gender neutral, husband ki property me 50% right hota hai, inlaws ki property me nahi hota.
Respect to the lady lawyer
38:21 I appreciate the thoughts of the madam who dare to expose the flaws in legislation.
Ma'm you are so graceful ..you are really beauty with brains....and the way you are opening our eyes...God should bless you for life...
Madam you said a girl should want the statues of her parents living as alimony and not of her husbands.
My own case, i am a single mother, upper middle class, spent beyond my means to conduct the wedding, because there was no dowry demand ,but they wanted a wedding ceremony befitting their statues.
Boy is a close relative, super wealthy family, very average looking, entire family pleaded for my daugter hand in marriage , mainly because of her looks. She agreed and belived looks are only superficial and one should not be evaluated on what God has given.
11 months daughter wants divorce, reason they concealed boy is a drug addict.
They are only offering 1 cr as alimony , that is lesser than cost of the wedding.
2 times he aborted the baby without her or my knowledge, again selfish reason, wanted her to be attaraction of every party.
Should she fight for parent standard or husband standard now ?
Basically in mother house, she had lots of peace and happiness and with that materialsist things mattered lesser.
Now in 11 months , she has lost her happiness and peace, what is wrong in wanting materialistic things to compensate that ?
Aborted the child with her knowledge? File a strong case against that nonsense addict man.
No mom in law gave her something on the pretext of health supplement. Pain started, then took her to Dr who advised abortion. Since it repeated again, my daughter is sure, mom in law is involved in abortion
Why get ur daughter married in a super wealthy family in the first place....why the greed... n why to conduct grand wedding beyond means. Why not go for a simple middle class decent human being who's respectful without the flashy lifestyle.
@@sripriyarao7238 yup . Spending 1 crore and marrying off daughter to an ugly man because he is rich was no good. Could’ve married good looking working man from ordinary family.
Materialistic things don’t bring happiness. Indian people will never understand this.
Great points were raised by the lawyer. The host needs to listen without laughing too much because all the points she is raising are very valid and actually happen.
Outstanding podcast for awareness i love the way you salute the homemakers they too are humans
& Lastly apni company ko enjoy kijiye agar kisi ke sath aisa ho b jata h again us kichad mai nhi jana chahiye
& Host is looking alike simar in sasural Simar ka
& Advocate looks alike ayi in serial pavita rishta manav ki ayi
y not men controll their emotions , Anger , abusive with wife , lack of respect , stop interference of parents ,
Before , having Marriage always have a registered affidavits clearly indicating all point , what gift exchanged,what boy and girl earns, what are expectations of girls and boys .....
Though it may not be legal evidence it will help u a lot when police complaint is filed
Good content , specifically for new in laws in the making.. They can use this knowledge shared by this lady lawyer and get themselves updated about the modern generation mother in law and -daughter in law relationship for the benefit of their son's married life..
Superb Guest and Host, who has a great sense of humour ..