We Need to Talk | Cuffing Season Volume 2 | Part 10 I Samuel 25:4-35 She said then he said and due to the conversation he said I heard you. Now you can go home in peace. The pulse, the cardiovascular, the engine to connection is communication. Your words are currency. Are you spending them or investing them? When you’re spending them, there will be a lot of withdrawals but if they are investing them, over time there will be a deposit from what you invested. When you’re growing, certain outfits shouldn’t fit. Outside of outgrowing them, you can outgrow people. Relationships don’t die due to natural causes. They are murdered due to toxic behavior or toxic miscommunication. Unhealthy communication can be inherited. More is caught then is taught. They yelled as though it’s the thunder that grows the flowers. Be able to apologize as a parent. Some of us tolerate verbal abuse because we do it to ourself. Dysfunction has us in a house that’s on fire but instead of getting out, we suffer from the heat. It is not your job to detox a toxic person. It is your job & the job of the Holy Spirit to figure out the parts of you that is on the same page of their toxicity. Parental wounds lead to emotional tombs. Some of us are a trauma survivor. Because we were raised in dysfunction. Some people didn’t give affirmations but the need to be in therapy. If you can trace where it started, now you can go to war with it. Sometimes it’s not the sisters speaking to the King in them but the man who doesn’t know how to listen. The mouth of a woman is an activator. He is logic. He speaks direct. She is emotion. She speaks in detail. Matthew 19:5 A sign of manhood is when you’re off daddy’s wallet and off mommas breast. Logic & emotion come together can cause headway. FATHER, INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING, SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE, AND NOT DEATH. Biblical therapy Emotional prudence. We are under attack & it’s a war zone when you cannot communicate. Distort communication & tamper with intelligence. We don’t know how to ram or express what hurts. So the enemy tries to make our life bargain where we can’t produce fruit. Sometimes we call it a bad relationship when it was a spiritual attack. “Attacks are proof that the enemy believes in you.” ❤️ The enemy knows that you won. Good haters leave out the rest of the story. He knows he’s a defeated foe, you have the victory, no weapon prevailed against you will prosper. Even the devil knows you’re gonna win. The enemy traffics so much in relationships because it affects your heart. The odor of a stank attitude is because of a broken heart. The attitude stinks so much because there’s something in their heart is decaying. Could it be something is dying in my heart because of the sin I’m in love with? God molds us with our gift, destiny, and purpose in mind. Just stay on the potters wheel. Jesus molds in silence. He deals with our Jacob at night not at noon. It’s not a closed door. It’s a dressing room. What God is doing in your life, you cannot post. When I bless your life, you won’t have to talk about it. They can just tell. Communication is the ability to understand meaning. It’s not just talking. Communication takes skill. It takes training and teaching. The mind and heart have to be taught. Luke 6:45 The mouth speaks what the heart is full of. You’re trying to have a healthy conversation with an unhealthy heart. Whatever the heart is, it’ll manifest in the mouth. Communication is the understanding of meaning. Proverbs 18:22 Proverbs 17:27 I Peter 3:7 1.) What you mean to say 2.) What you actually say 3.) What the other person hears 4.) What the other person thinks they hear 5.) What the other person says about you said 6.) What you think the other person said about what you said You’re not raising him but helping him reach a place he has lost. Ephesians 4:29 Proverbs 12:18 1.) Listen To investigate & gather what they mean. Not respond or clap back. 2.) Understand - grasping their perspective 3.) Validate - acknowledging what they said The skill in wisdom & communication is when you can hear what they are not saying. ❤️
Paster Flowers!!! You really be knocking me in the head with EVERYTHING that I need to hear. I thank God for using you as his vessel to reach far and wide. I’m sure you already know, but you are truly a BLESSING to many.
THIS MESSAGE CAME FOR MY WHOLE SOUL!!!!!!! I'm the one that was raised in creative cussing lol. It's the hardest thing for me to work on!! I'm So grateful for this heavy message!!!!!!!
Wisdom.. I love how God is using this ministry to speak profound truths to the body of Christ. It is very humbling to hear teaching that helps us to look inwardly at ourselves and gives use the compassion to see someone else hurt as well but address it in Gods way. The word cuts us but its gives us healing if we listen, understand it and allow God to help us apply it.
When you feel like a sermon was meant just for you! This was A WORD!!!!! The way he broke down communication blew me away! I am thankful I found Jerry Flowers!
I’m just so blessed that I have this teaching to help me be a better woman. I understand men on a whole different level now && there’s no way I can go back to my old way of treating/talking to men after this
Pastor Jerry this blessed my socks off!!!! I thank God for your connection with Holy Spirit...Im so here for this. Im right in the process of Holy Spirit working this out in me!!!!
I shouldn't be in my room at 1am cracking up this much! I'm too goofy for Jerry and Tanisha's goofiness haha!! Love it! This message is powerful and definitely something I needed to listen to! Thank you!
Wow what a message! This helped me greatly. Found you on IG and came hear to listen! So much biblical wisdom that can be applied to everyday life. Thanks!!
Thank you for the 6 steps of communication...it is nothing but truth. I remember taking a communication class in college and I learned so much...the big takeaway was 80% is non-verbal.
Great teaching. I would say woman today emotionally bury things as well. Hints why alot of woman cannot be soft! There is no man or woman who around to show her that softness bring healing and results.
This is so good it makes me look at my inward self. How communication and the tone and deliver I speak a message . I can honestly say I be spending my words and I was brought up in a dysfunctional environment and also I am a trauma survivor. If I knew how to talk healthy my sanity and marriage will still be intact and that I hate but god I’m learning you always speak to my soul
Father God, thank you. Help me keep silent when my spouse experiences various emotions. Father, forgive me when I force myself in a way that is beyond understanding and pressing past his personal space. Jesus helps me not use his vulnerability against him when he's honest. Let no corrupted talk come out against my spouse for the sake of his healing. Please, Holy Spirit, help me use my mouth for edifying only. HELP US TO BE SPIRIT LED INDIVIDUALS IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS. AMEN!!❤❤❤❤ 1. LISTEN TO INVESTIGATE WHAT THEY NEED. 2. GRASP THEIR MEANING. 3. VALIDATE WHAT YOU INTERPRET FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE. ❤
Thank you God for this Word! I am dealing with this now with my husband. I had to look inside me and ask God to heal me in the areas I needed. I have asked and pleaded with my husband to help me understand him to no avail. Now, marriage is dead. He does not want to return. I am praying and fasting for my peace and our marriage in terms of communication. What else do I do?
Keep Praying that God will speak deep to Your Husband. Sometimes there's nothing We can do because God wants to deal with the situation Himself. Give Him the space to. It's hard - I know - but God does work in Miracles. Like Pastor has said so many times, We can't change People - only God can. Don't lose Faith but keep Yourself focused on the fact that God DOES Love You both, whether You're Together or not. Believe. Keep Praying. Stay Strong. Praying for You Sister...seek His Face continuously. And Trust Him Alone.
@Calm Koi that is what is needed to help you heal. If you've never felt pain, how would you know you are hurting? Keep the faith. If they do not change, continue your journey with God. GOD put a word in my spirit and I can't help but stay grateful and prayerful. Everything will be alright. Praying for you.
Praying for the Most High to lead you according to His Holy Spirit. I have been where you have been & it is painful to keep praying knowing the situation is beyond your control. The Most High is a keeper in the name of Yeshua ( Hebrew for Jesus).
That’s not possible for born again Christians to be barren and not produce fruit. Jesus said a good tree produces good fruit and a bad tree can not produce Good fruit.
FATHER INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH!!!
GREAT TEACHING! Simple but profound. As a mental health professional this teaching is NEEDED!!
Amen.
You can’t detox a toxic person 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
I thought I had grew some... I've made progress but I have a long way to go... Thank you Pastor for keeping me in check .
“Communication is the ability to understand meaning” 🙌👏👏
FATHER INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING, SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Amen!
We Need to Talk | Cuffing Season Volume 2 | Part 10
I Samuel 25:4-35
She said then he said and due to the conversation he said I heard you. Now you can go home in peace.
The pulse, the cardiovascular, the engine to connection is communication.
Your words are currency. Are you spending them or investing them?
When you’re spending them, there will be a lot of withdrawals but if they are investing them, over time there will be a deposit from what you invested.
When you’re growing, certain outfits shouldn’t fit.
Outside of outgrowing them, you can outgrow people. Relationships don’t die due to natural causes. They are murdered due to toxic behavior or toxic miscommunication. Unhealthy communication can be inherited. More is caught then is taught. They yelled as though it’s the thunder that grows the flowers. Be able to apologize as a parent.
Some of us tolerate verbal abuse because we do it to ourself. Dysfunction has us in a house that’s on fire but instead of getting out, we suffer from the heat.
It is not your job to detox a toxic person.
It is your job & the job of the Holy Spirit to figure out the parts of you that is on the same page of their toxicity. Parental wounds lead to emotional tombs. Some of us are a trauma survivor. Because we were raised in dysfunction.
Some people didn’t give affirmations but the need to be in therapy.
If you can trace where it started, now you can go to war with it.
Sometimes it’s not the sisters speaking to the King in them but the man who doesn’t know how to listen. The mouth of a woman is an activator.
He is logic. He speaks direct.
She is emotion. She speaks in detail.
Matthew 19:5
A sign of manhood is when you’re off daddy’s wallet and off mommas breast.
Logic & emotion come together can cause headway.
FATHER, INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING, SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE, AND NOT DEATH.
Biblical therapy
Emotional prudence.
We are under attack & it’s a war zone when you cannot communicate.
Distort communication & tamper with intelligence.
We don’t know how to ram or express what hurts.
So the enemy tries to make our life bargain where we can’t produce fruit.
Sometimes we call it a bad relationship when it was a spiritual attack.
“Attacks are proof that the enemy believes in you.”
❤️
The enemy knows that you won.
Good haters leave out the rest of the story.
He knows he’s a defeated foe, you have the victory, no weapon prevailed against you will prosper. Even the devil knows you’re gonna win.
The enemy traffics so much in relationships because it affects your heart.
The odor of a stank attitude is because of a broken heart. The attitude stinks so much because there’s something in their heart is decaying.
Could it be something is dying in my heart because of the sin I’m in love with?
God molds us with our gift, destiny, and purpose in mind.
Just stay on the potters wheel.
Jesus molds in silence. He deals with our Jacob at night not at noon. It’s not a closed door. It’s a dressing room. What God is doing in your life, you cannot post.
When I bless your life, you won’t have to talk about it. They can just tell.
Communication is the ability to understand meaning. It’s not just talking. Communication takes skill.
It takes training and teaching. The mind and heart have to be taught.
Luke 6:45
The mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
You’re trying to have a healthy conversation with an unhealthy heart.
Whatever the heart is, it’ll manifest in the mouth.
Communication is the understanding of meaning.
Proverbs 18:22
Proverbs 17:27
I Peter 3:7
1.) What you mean to say
2.) What you actually say
3.) What the other person hears
4.) What the other person thinks they hear
5.) What the other person says about you said
6.) What you think the other person said about what you said
You’re not raising him but helping him reach a place he has lost.
Ephesians 4:29
Proverbs 12:18
1.) Listen
To investigate & gather what they mean. Not respond or clap back.
2.) Understand - grasping their perspective
3.) Validate - acknowledging what they said
The skill in wisdom & communication is when you can hear what they are not saying. ❤️
Thank you for sharing this. May GOD bless you
Listen, understand, and validate.❤
I pray God bless this man his family and his ministry
FATHER INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING SO THAT MY WORDS. PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH 🙏🏿
FATHER INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH.
Biblical Therapy for sure!!! Soulcare
FATHER, INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING, SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH !
Paster Flowers!!! You really be knocking me in the head with EVERYTHING that I need to hear. I thank God for using you as his vessel to reach far and wide. I’m sure you already know, but you are truly a BLESSING to many.
"FATHER, INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING, SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH!!"
Emotions are a GOOD thing. You will need emotions when dealing with your family, etc.
THIS MESSAGE CAME FOR MY WHOLE SOUL!!!!!!! I'm the one that was raised in creative cussing lol. It's the hardest thing for me to work on!! I'm So grateful for this heavy message!!!!!!!
Wisdom.. I love how God is using this ministry to speak profound truths to the body of Christ. It is very humbling to hear teaching that helps us to look inwardly at ourselves and gives use the compassion to see someone else hurt as well but address it in Gods way. The word cuts us but its gives us healing if we listen, understand it and allow God to help us apply it.
AMEN. THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR COMMENT. IT WAS NEEDED. MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOURS IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN. ❤❤❤
FATHER INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH!
I rebuke the devils puppets and assignments in Jesus name
When you feel like a sermon was meant just for you! This was A WORD!!!!! The way he broke down communication blew me away! I am thankful I found Jerry Flowers!
Father,
Increase my wisdom and understanding so that my words produce LIFE & NOT DEATH
FATHER, INCREASE MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING; SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH
Good cross between a sermon and Therapy Thursday! Communication is key and solves a lot of problems if we just get out our own way.
Praise. Your helping him meet a place they lost. Hallelujah ❤
Amen 🙌🏽✝️🙌🏽
The condition of the heart will be reflective in the mouth
This was a powerful message 🙌🏾
One of the best sermons I ever heard !! This one hit me in the soul !
AMEN!!
Father , increase my wisdom and understanding so that my words produce life and not death!! AMEN?!
Getting dragged a Friday morning isn't what I was expecting 😩😩😩😩 but highly needed
"And be joined to his side chick" nooo, I can't stop laughing.
THANK YOU FATHER FOR INCREASING MY WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING SO THAT MY WORDS PRODUCE LIFE AND NOT DEATH IN JESUS NAME!
I’m just so blessed that I have this teaching to help me be a better woman. I understand men on a whole different level now && there’s no way I can go back to my old way of treating/talking to men after this
Dysfunction. THANK YOU, HOLY SPIRIT.
Father, increase my wisdom and understanding so that my words produce life and not death. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Much needed teaching right on time just in time !!!!! Hit home every single segment!
So many gems! Thanks for taking the Bible’s teaching and making it applicable to real life.
Powerful!
Come on JERRY !!!!!!! you bettta preach !!! You oily man !
I'm not even done watching the VIDEO, and WHEW!!!!!🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Whatever the condition of the heart is it would affect the mouth..🔥🔥🔥💯
I am a trauma survivor. Thank God for healing me.
Gem, after gem, after gem... This was really good! Effective communication is truly a lost art form.
Father increase my wisdom and understanding so that my words produce life and not death in Yashuas Holy name I pray 🙏🏾❤🙌🏾
The servant was telling EVERYTHING. LOL.
Awesome teaching, especially around the 50:00 minute mark. This is getting saved to the favorites.🙌
Excellent teaching
I cried watching this one it hit home
Feel like I just got a few free therapy sections lol thank you! 🙏🏽
AMEN AMEN AMEN
Pastor Jerry this blessed my socks off!!!! I thank God for your connection with Holy Spirit...Im so here for this. Im right in the process of Holy Spirit working this out in me!!!!
Amen🙏🏻🙏🏻More Wisdom Pastor Jerry Flowers 🙏🏻
Words don’t express how good this message is!! So thankful I have redefined tv!!
Lord have mercy! He spoke a word!!!
I shouldn't be in my room at 1am cracking up this much! I'm too goofy for Jerry and Tanisha's goofiness haha!! Love it! This message is powerful and definitely something I needed to listen to! Thank you!
Wow what a message! This helped me greatly. Found you on IG and came hear to listen! So much biblical wisdom that can be applied to everyday life. Thanks!!
Thank you for the 6 steps of communication...it is nothing but truth. I remember taking a communication class in college and I learned so much...the big takeaway was 80% is non-verbal.
Great teaching. I would say woman today emotionally bury things as well. Hints why alot of woman cannot be soft! There is no man or woman who around to show her that softness bring healing and results.
Amen and Amen... powerful sermon Pastor J.
👏👏👏👏Awesome Word Pastor Jerry! Perfect timing! God bless 🙏❤
Omg this hurts so much. I am guilty of several of these. I'll do better next time. I feel really sorry right now.
Pastorrrrr Jerry This oneeee right here!!🔥🔥🔥🔥
This is gooddd!!👍Got me shouting and Amen' in my car on the way to work!! #replay
That was a timely word! 🙏🔥
Thank you Pastor Flowers! 💕
THEY CAN JUST TELLL💯💟
So good, pastor Jerry!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Mercy God, Thank God that he is removing those default templates and replacing them with kingdom templates.🙌🏾
W o w 🙏🏽
This right here 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
What a word! 🙏🏾
Wow, that was powerful
This is so good it makes me look at my inward self. How communication and the tone and deliver I speak a message . I can honestly say I be spending my words and I was brought up in a dysfunctional environment and also I am a trauma survivor. If I knew how to talk healthy my sanity and marriage will still be intact and that I hate but god I’m learning you always speak to my soul
An eye opening teaching
Wow I glad I heard this thank you pastor flowers. From 🇹🇹
Thank you pastor Jerry for teaching us the word of God.
👏🏾👏🏾🥰🥰 love it
Come on now Pastor J let them know what is a “ Helpmate “
Powerful message 🙌🏽
Attacks are proof the enemy believes in me
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Father God, thank you. Help me keep silent when my spouse experiences various emotions. Father, forgive me when I force myself in a way that is beyond understanding and pressing past his personal space. Jesus helps me not use his vulnerability against him when he's honest. Let no corrupted talk come out against my spouse for the sake of his healing. Please, Holy Spirit, help me use my mouth for edifying only. HELP US TO BE SPIRIT LED INDIVIDUALS IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS. AMEN!!❤❤❤❤
1. LISTEN TO INVESTIGATE WHAT THEY NEED. 2. GRASP THEIR MEANING. 3. VALIDATE WHAT YOU INTERPRET FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE. ❤
Thank you God for this Word! I am dealing with this now with my husband. I had to look inside me and ask God to heal me in the areas I needed. I have asked and pleaded with my husband to help me understand him to no avail. Now, marriage is dead. He does not want to return. I am praying and fasting for my peace and our marriage in terms of communication. What else do I do?
Keep Praying that God will speak deep to Your Husband. Sometimes there's nothing We can do because God wants to deal with the situation Himself. Give Him the space to. It's hard - I know - but God does work in Miracles. Like Pastor has said so many times, We can't change People - only God can. Don't lose Faith but keep Yourself focused on the fact that God DOES Love You both, whether You're Together or not. Believe. Keep Praying. Stay Strong. Praying for You Sister...seek His Face continuously. And Trust Him Alone.
@Calm Koi that is what is needed to help you heal. If you've never felt pain, how would you know you are hurting? Keep the faith. If they do not change, continue your journey with God. GOD put a word in my spirit and I can't help but stay grateful and prayerful. Everything will be alright. Praying for you.
Praying for the Most High to lead you according to His Holy Spirit. I have been where you have been & it is painful to keep praying knowing the situation is beyond your control. The Most High is a keeper in the name of Yeshua ( Hebrew for Jesus).
🔥❤️🙏
Bad relationship was a spiritual attack
COMEEE ONNNN
7:29 is where it starts after bible reading, but I suggest you actually follow along the reading coz it's gooood
A healthy conversation with an unhealthy heart 🤯🤯🤯🤯
Hello, can anyone tell me where this church is located??
Houston, TX 😊
@@miacee thank you love
I had to get a towel to throw... Come on nah......
They can just tell
That’s not possible for born again Christians to be barren and not produce fruit. Jesus said a good tree produces good fruit and a bad tree can not produce Good fruit.
It is your not job to detox a toxic person
😂😂😂
I’m I’m p
You have too many yes men. I’m the only one to give constructive criticism and I’ve been suffering a lot lately.