My mum met one of my favourite high school teachers. The teacher said "oh you are Maggie's mum, we love Maggie" to which my mum replied "that makes one of us". I thought for years this was a funny story about my mums sense of humour. By that time, she had stopped going to my parent teacher interviews because she was sick of hearing how great I was. She taught me an eating disorder but still when dropping me off at uni student housing handed me a shopping bag full of lollies because the only way I would make friends was through bribery. Abuse, neglect, violence have no culture, but they do have cycles, and I think its a true sign of survival when we are able to break the cycle and focus on healing and loving instead of becoming abusers ourselves.
I’m in tears. You’re telling my story. I ran away at 16. I’m the second child of four (a brother and two sisters like you!). My stepdad did the same thing…I had the same worries about telling my mum about my stepdad…and yet she blamed me instead of him. My mother was also very abusive emotionally and physically. Whenever I told teachers what was going on they also went to my mum first…ruining my life further. And I couldn’t agree with you more! Our culture is not the same as our mother’s abuse! The only thing is my father is also abusive… so I can’t go to him. When I ran away I went into foster care / hostels and been homeless on the streets. But you reminded me at the beginning of your speech “I’m still writing my story” and the end of your speech “I’m unlearning so much of what I learned from my past”. I’m turning 23 in a couple of days, so I’m a little bit younger than you..I’m still healing ❤️🩹 May Allah protect you and grant you so much noor and barakah in your life Habibti, Allahumma Ameen.
I wanna share a quote from Victor Frankl, a psychologist who survived the holocaust, “As the day of his liberation came, when everything seemed to him like a beautiful dream, so too the day comes when all his camp experiences seem to him nothing but a nightmare”
Thank you for sharing. I got teary eyed reading that because the last line about it being a “nightmare”, as someone with PTSD, I really understand. However I can’t imagine the level utter pain and subsequent trauma that people in his circumstances were in 🙏🏼🥺
Unfortunately parents are people and among them there are sick individuals. Now you are healing and it is clear that you have a wonderful soul. God bless you
I came here to hear your story and I heard you telling mine. Irish Father/Italian Mother. The isolation and loss of a family I never knew because of the things that she did under the banner of being “a good Italian mother”. The times I sought help only to be sent straight back to my abuser. I left at 18, 26 years ago. My sister is now 43 & has never left. She has been imprisoned in what she believes is normal. I always thought I was the only one but because you shared your story I realised I am not alone.
Thanks for telling your story❤️. I have a story very similar to yours and I know extremely well what it feels like. I left home when I was 21, my family was extremely toxic, and like your family they hid behind the concept of culture and more. When I left I felt a relief and at the same time an absurd terror. I was alone, no family, at my side there was only my boyfriend. He couldn't help me financially because he was still studying. I worked hard and saved money, studied everything in order to get away. But when I left it was a very difficult time. They had manipulated me all my life, and they had built self-sabotage mechanisms into me. I cried and suffered to the point of thinking I was going to die. I felt heartbroken that I had abandoned my two sisters and younger brother. They told me that I had only thought about myself and that I had made life more difficult for them. I completely broke off ties with my two parents, I haven't talked to them since I left 3 and a half years ago. After the first difficult period I started to change slowly. I had begun to discover myself. Taking them out of my life was the best choice I've ever made. Now I am a free woman, I still suffer from depression but slowly I am making a lot of progress. Not having around people who constantly knock me down has made me discover many things about myself and the world. Listening to your story gave me courage and serenity. It's nice to hear the stories of other women who have found the courage to walk away. You can't choose parents, but you can choose to be happy.
I cried reading your comment. My heart breaks knowing there are other people out there who have had to, or even may still have to, go through the terrible experience of having to leave your own family; especially for such awful reasons. Power to you for having the strength to push through such circumstances, learning how to hold yourself above water, all by yourself. I cannot fathom how hard it must have been, without having family to turn to. Inspiring, to say the very least. Thank you so much for your kind words, I appreciate it and thank you too for having the courage to share part of your story here, too. I pray you’re enjoying life so much more now. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
Telling your story is not easy, you need to have a lot of awareness and courage, you are a strong woman. Keep moving forward slowly, believe in yourself and you will achieve the happiness you deserve. I wish you the best!!🩵💛🧡
Blaming a toxic behavior on a culture is so pathetic. I'm an Arab and have 2 step children that I raised them and call them my own children. I treat them as equally as my own biological children and they call me their mommy even though they have a bio mom but she isn't raising them, I am. They told me they are grateful and happy that I'm their parent but I must say that I am blessed to raise such great kids 🙏 I'm sorry you went through this 😓
This made me tear up. I’ve had pain with my mother as well but luckily we worked through it. Most aren’t so lucky. I’m so sorry that this ever happened to you. It shouldn’t happen to anyone. And that “step father” is pure grime
You're my hero Berna, and I don't say that lightly. I had a very abusive and chaotic upbringing as well. And unfortunately, a lot of what you shared not only resonated with me, but very similar things happened to me as well. And as I mentioned in one of your shorts, I have Complex PTSD and Enochlophobia because of everything that I endured. But thankfully, I've done quite a lot of therapy and I'm in recovery. And, just like you, I reverted back to my Catholic faith and it has been where I have found strength, courage, comfort, and healing. Thank you for living your life to the very best of your ability and for succeeding as well. Your life is the testimony that I needed to hear so that I know that there is more to life and many other countless possibilities. Thank you for sharing your story, it is a very powerful and inspiring testimony. Hugs 🫂✨ -Gaby
I acctually cried at the end. My own journey has been hard lately, and your strength hit me. Yes i believe I can be so much more than they thought I could be. Thank you, bless!
I’m sorry I made you cry and I’m so sorry your life journey is hard lately. Don’t lose hope; in time I believe life always ends up showing us its beautiful sides, too. You can be, whoever you work at becoming. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. No child, no human being deserves to be treated in such a disgusting manner. Alhamdulilah you’ve found your way out, I’m so happy for you. May Allah bless you♥️
You my love, You are such a beautiful strong soul. Thank you for sharing your story, your words will help so many other souls who need the guidance. 🙏🏻 May God bless you.
I just finished watching your live on instagram and came here. I've followed you for around 6-12 months and just have to say how sorry I am for your past, but also how happy I am for your current life and how far you have come ❤ the end of your story made me cry happy tears, talking about how you can choose who you want to be . I really needed to hear this after uprooting my life currently from a breakup and having to find a new home to live in (I'm on the Sunshine Coast qld and it's proving quite difficult!) Anyway. Thankyou so much berna for sharing your story and for having the strength to share ❤ we appreciate you and your beautiful message and kind soul. Much love ❤
You don’t have to be sorry but thank you so much. First of all, thank you for be here for so long already and second, thank you for the kind sentiments. I’m so glad I was able to provide something for you that you needed to hear and I hope, moving forward, life in Queensland becomes easier for you. Life has its moments where everything seems so dire but I promise you, eventually life always shows it’s beautiful side. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
It takes such great courage to open up about personal difficulties, especially one that is full of hurt. You deserve 👏 all the love, hope and kindness this world has to offer. Such a strong, bold, brave and wise soul.
I LOVED how the audience got more quite when you went deep into your story! Wow 🤩 I felt a sense of humanity and respect! I respect you for being brave to share this story!!’
Berna, I am really sorry for everything, but really glad you've started healing and hopefully feel a lot better now. Thank you for telling the story. I am sure there are people who need to hear this.
I have a similar story though my abusive evil parent was my father though my mother wasnt a saint either. took me a long time to realise that I'm not my father's shadow . I appreciate you sharing your story it shows you have immense strength be proud of that everyday moving forward . God bless
I'm only 5 minutes in and my heart goes out to you, Berna. In those few-second clips on TikTok, it's obviously impossible to understand what you were referring to. I've known a few women with similar family stories who are now older and eventually, they became mothers themselves, created families and friends of their own, and their own mothers were just strange, distant memories.
@roseandlavender901 She references her difficulties with her family very, very briefly in some of her previous TikTok videos, so most viewers weren't aware of the severity. There have been many messages from viewers about simply forgiving her family members which she's mentioned herself. Not that I can't follow along her clips.
Wow! Thank you for this! I agree with all you say. I have a similar story, my mother also Is abusive emotionally and my father too and they say "It's because we are egyptians" but this isn't true. I have 2 Brothers and they think like my parents... Now I'm 29 and I can't run away from my home because I don't have a job... I'm afraid. (Sorry for my disaster English)
You’re so strong.❤ I just subscribed and I already love your content, my mom has said and done lots throughout my life and it brings me comfort when I see others healing too❤ remember to never blame yourself 😊❤
Omg that is my story with both abusive arab parents, my mother hated me and told me always I am ugly and wished me died and would beat me and scratch my face with het nails and laugh after as I am bleeding and would tell me to go look in the mirror and see how she's called me while she's smiling ! She didn't even protect me when she should. I had to get married, really young to protect myself. I ended up with a selfish husband, and miserable controlling in-laws at age 17. After 10 years, I ended up with the divorce. Stayed single for 15 years and raised up my two daughters. Then I got married again, and got fooled with a narcissist who abused the heck out of me for years. I couldn't say nothing for seven years and was extremely scared to walk away and get a divorce because I'm afraid to be judged by our culture for the divorce especially a second Divorce even when the man is completely bad and on drugs and he even molested both of his daughters from previous marriage. Until I found out, he was molesting a little girl who is 12 years old in Jordan. He took me to Mexico and tried to kill me there. After that I ran away from my room for my life on the last day in Mexico, and this year in February I walked away, and I'm in the middle of a divorce from my abusive, narcissist, husband.... I think all what I've been through in my life is because of the abuse as a child, and my mother belittling me and loving her other older daughter. I am 47 now, and I still have painful feelings from my abusive childhood . And now on top my abusive husband that I am divorcing
i feel every word you say i am Egyptian .my mom isn't as abusive as yours but all arab moms are like your mum ... i am so happy that you have healed ... i wanted to get out too but i still can't ...
I am an American with foreign ingredients, too, given to my mother with sole custody. I too grew up with abuse...I also grew up trying to run away. I'm also diagnosed with PTSD...
You don’t deserve any of the things that happened to you. I am so sorry you went through that. When you heal you help others heal. I pray that you become a healer to others dear. May Allah shower you in his love and light always. ❤
Unlearning from your past such a Wise phase. Thank you for your life lessons and fun attitude to express it. Hope you continue and love the content!! Ps: your short clips are hilarious man x
I'm sonsorrybubwent through this such a nightmare. U leaving was the best decision. Would love an update, how does your mum feel about the story out? Has she apologised. 😪
Thank you so much. I haven’t spoken to my mum since I left so I have no idea how she feels about me sharing my story with the world, however I could guess how it might be being received. And so therefore no, she has also never apologised. 🙏🏼💚
Thank you for sharing. Obviously, it's nothing to do with culture but if it's narcissistic related issue may have something to do with the past. In all communities similar mechanisms do work. Famous self aware narcissist Prof. Sam(uel) Vaknin in his London lecture mentioned his nation is narcissistic, due to 700 years of slavery, etc. I disagree. I see only part of any community, some victims of trauma accepts or are so much broken that become abusive. Jesus called them: 'synagogue of satan' and of course didn't mean his friends, family, all good people from His nation. Now, because of narcs running His nation many people suffer a lot. Same is true about narcs running my nation, many institutions, communities. There are more of them after wars, waves of prosperity because child needs are not fulfilled in poverty and also when parents give children things instead of time, attention, care. It's interesting how narcs in our life try to take our full attention and try to be in the place of God. God help us! I hope you will find the way how to live as He wishes for you because there's nothing better:) Warm greetings from Ireland:))) It's so nice to see you prospering, blossoming) God bless you and your near and dear ones:)
Im sorry im getting so confused. So You're born in Australia but you don't really have an Aussie accent. I thought you were in Ireland. Anyway im so sorry you had to go through all that in your young life. I hope you are much better today and do the things you want to do with your life. ❤
Thank you so much. My siblings are ok, they have a very different life to me. Unfortunately I am not in contact with them as that was part of the issue of my leaving home. 🙏🏼💚
Your mother asked if you could not have told her what you told her about her husband at a better time and how that made her feel, what did she do to him after that? Is she still married to her 2nd husband? or did she divorce him?
I first watched your Facebook reels before coming here. A lot of stuff that said your mom's answer to everything was "when you get married". I don't understand how a divorced person can place that much emphasis on marriage. Her first marriage apparently led to great unhappyness so.... Why have so much emphasis and pressure on it?
Trying to understand abusive logic will drive us mad. They will drag you into their own world, where what they say is not supposed to be questioned and holes like that aren’t supposed to be poked at. So sad
I am so so sorry you went through all of that 🥲 i wish you the best in life to come to you and a journey of healing and self love, you are an amazing person, i wish you all the best 😊
My mum met one of my favourite high school teachers. The teacher said "oh you are Maggie's mum, we love Maggie" to which my mum replied "that makes one of us". I thought for years this was a funny story about my mums sense of humour. By that time, she had stopped going to my parent teacher interviews because she was sick of hearing how great I was. She taught me an eating disorder but still when dropping me off at uni student housing handed me a shopping bag full of lollies because the only way I would make friends was through bribery. Abuse, neglect, violence have no culture, but they do have cycles, and I think its a true sign of survival when we are able to break the cycle and focus on healing and loving instead of becoming abusers ourselves.
I’m in tears. You’re telling my story. I ran away at 16. I’m the second child of four (a brother and two sisters like you!). My stepdad did the same thing…I had the same worries about telling my mum about my stepdad…and yet she blamed me instead of him. My mother was also very abusive emotionally and physically. Whenever I told teachers what was going on they also went to my mum first…ruining my life further. And I couldn’t agree with you more! Our culture is not the same as our mother’s abuse! The only thing is my father is also abusive… so I can’t go to him. When I ran away I went into foster care / hostels and been homeless on the streets. But you reminded me at the beginning of your speech “I’m still writing my story” and the end of your speech “I’m unlearning so much of what I learned from my past”. I’m turning 23 in a couple of days, so I’m a little bit younger than you..I’m still healing ❤️🩹 May Allah protect you and grant you so much noor and barakah in your life Habibti, Allahumma Ameen.
you are so strong. God bless you❤
You are one strong human being, I am glad you are well
Ameen
💞🫂🖖🦋💃🕊🕯🕯
Insallah.
" I learned to unlearn from my past"
So wise! It will be my motto.
It truly does help to re-wire any of the negatives, learnt in life 🙏🏼💚
@@bernadette.kirwani also abuse by my neighbour's son..now going through PTSD 😢
Watching your "arab mom vs irish dad" sort of light hearted videos and being curious about the details... this turned dark really fast
I wanna share a quote from Victor Frankl, a psychologist who survived the holocaust, “As the day of his liberation came, when everything seemed to him like a beautiful dream, so too the day comes when all his camp experiences seem to him nothing but a nightmare”
Thank you for sharing. I got teary eyed reading that because the last line about it being a “nightmare”, as someone with PTSD, I really understand. However I can’t imagine the level utter pain and subsequent trauma that people in his circumstances were in 🙏🏼🥺
How could a mother do this to her child….
I am so sorry this happened to you, I’m so glad you’re better now💕🥺
I ask myself this, all the time. 🥺 And thank you so much. 🙏🏼💕💚
Unfortunately parents are people and among them there are sick individuals.
Now you are healing and it is clear that you have a wonderful soul. God bless you
I came here to hear your story and I heard you telling mine. Irish Father/Italian Mother. The isolation and loss of a family I never knew because of the things that she did under the banner of being “a good Italian mother”. The times I sought help only to be sent straight back to my abuser. I left at 18, 26 years ago. My sister is now 43 & has never left. She has been imprisoned in what she believes is normal.
I always thought I was the only one but because you shared your story I realised I am not alone.
You deserve all the love ...i also had to go through all that..abused by my neighbour's son when i was 14😢wish for healing
Thanks for telling your story❤️. I have a story very similar to yours and I know extremely well what it feels like. I left home when I was 21, my family was extremely toxic, and like your family they hid behind the concept of culture and more. When I left I felt a relief and at the same time an absurd terror. I was alone, no family, at my side there was only my boyfriend. He couldn't help me financially because he was still studying. I worked hard and saved money, studied everything in order to get away. But when I left it was a very difficult time. They had manipulated me all my life, and they had built self-sabotage mechanisms into me. I cried and suffered to the point of thinking I was going to die. I felt heartbroken that I had abandoned my two sisters and younger brother. They told me that I had only thought about myself and that I had made life more difficult for them. I completely broke off ties with my two parents, I haven't talked to them since I left 3 and a half years ago. After the first difficult period I started to change slowly. I had begun to discover myself. Taking them out of my life was the best choice I've ever made. Now I am a free woman, I still suffer from depression but slowly I am making a lot of progress. Not having around people who constantly knock me down has made me discover many things about myself and the world. Listening to your story gave me courage and serenity. It's nice to hear the stories of other women who have found the courage to walk away.
You can't choose parents, but you can choose to be happy.
I cried reading your comment. My heart breaks knowing there are other people out there who have had to, or even may still have to, go through the terrible experience of having to leave your own family; especially for such awful reasons. Power to you for having the strength to push through such circumstances, learning how to hold yourself above water, all by yourself. I cannot fathom how hard it must have been, without having family to turn to. Inspiring, to say the very least. Thank you so much for your kind words, I appreciate it and thank you too for having the courage to share part of your story here, too. I pray you’re enjoying life so much more now. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
Telling your story is not easy, you need to have a lot of awareness and courage, you are a strong woman. Keep moving forward slowly, believe in yourself and you will achieve the happiness you deserve. I wish you the best!!🩵💛🧡
God bless you both...I am sorry you have suffered. I went through some hard times myself and I am still working on my mental health
Blaming a toxic behavior on a culture is so pathetic. I'm an Arab and have 2 step children that I raised them and call them my own children. I treat them as equally as my own biological children and they call me their mommy even though they have a bio mom but she isn't raising them, I am. They told me they are grateful and happy that I'm their parent but I must say that I am blessed to raise such great kids 🙏 I'm sorry you went through this 😓
This made me tear up. I’ve had pain with my mother as well but luckily we worked through it. Most aren’t so lucky. I’m so sorry that this ever happened to you. It shouldn’t happen to anyone. And that “step father” is pure grime
You're my hero Berna, and I don't say that lightly. I had a very abusive and chaotic upbringing as well. And unfortunately, a lot of what you shared not only resonated with me, but very similar things happened to me as well. And as I mentioned in one of your shorts, I have Complex PTSD and Enochlophobia because of everything that I endured. But thankfully, I've done quite a lot of therapy and I'm in recovery. And, just like you, I reverted back to my Catholic faith and it has been where I have found strength, courage, comfort, and healing. Thank you for living your life to the very best of your ability and for succeeding as well. Your life is the testimony that I needed to hear so that I know that there is more to life and many other countless possibilities. Thank you for sharing your story, it is a very powerful and inspiring testimony. Hugs 🫂✨ -Gaby
I acctually cried at the end. My own journey has been hard lately, and your strength hit me. Yes i believe I can be so much more than they thought I could be. Thank you, bless!
I’m sorry I made you cry and I’m so sorry your life journey is hard lately. Don’t lose hope; in time I believe life always ends up showing us its beautiful sides, too. You can be, whoever you work at becoming. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. No child, no human being deserves to be treated in such a disgusting manner. Alhamdulilah you’ve found your way out, I’m so happy for you. May Allah bless you♥️
Thank you so much, alhamdulillah! Much love and God bless to you too! 🙏🏼💕💚
This is so powerful. You are so strong. Truly an inspiration ❤️
Aww thank you so much, I really appreciate it. 🥺 Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
It’s hard so you’ve got to be stronger than the waves that relentlessly pouring down and crash against you
You my love,
You are such a beautiful strong soul.
Thank you for sharing your story, your words will help so many other souls who need the guidance. 🙏🏻
May God bless you.
Aww how sweet, thank you so much! I really do hope that I’m sharing my story, it helps others people alike. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
masha'allah you are a very strong women and inspiring
Thank you so much! Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💚
Your strong and I am sorry and thank you.
What an amazing woman that you are!!!!
Aww thank you so much! 🙏🏼💚🥹
You go girl … all the best in your life.
Ahh thank you so much! 🙏🏼💕💚
I just finished watching your live on instagram and came here. I've followed you for around 6-12 months and just have to say how sorry I am for your past, but also how happy I am for your current life and how far you have come ❤ the end of your story made me cry happy tears, talking about how you can choose who you want to be . I really needed to hear this after uprooting my life currently from a breakup and having to find a new home to live in (I'm on the Sunshine Coast qld and it's proving quite difficult!)
Anyway. Thankyou so much berna for sharing your story and for having the strength to share ❤ we appreciate you and your beautiful message and kind soul. Much love ❤
You don’t have to be sorry but thank you so much. First of all, thank you for be here for so long already and second, thank you for the kind sentiments. I’m so glad I was able to provide something for you that you needed to hear and I hope, moving forward, life in Queensland becomes easier for you. Life has its moments where everything seems so dire but I promise you, eventually life always shows it’s beautiful side. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
Amazing, strong, brave women. May God bless you in every step you take.❤️
Aww thank you so much and same to you, may God bless you always 🙏🏼💕💚
It takes such great courage to open up about personal difficulties, especially one that is full of hurt. You deserve 👏 all the love, hope and kindness this world has to offer. Such a strong, bold, brave and wise soul.
I LOVED how the audience got more quite when you went deep into your story! Wow 🤩 I felt a sense of humanity and respect!
I respect you for being brave to share this story!!’
Congratulations on sharing your story 👏
Thank you so much! 🙏🏼💚
Proud of you!! Thank you for sharing🤧🤧
Aww thank you so much! 🙏🏼💕💚
Berna, I am really sorry for everything, but really glad you've started healing and hopefully feel a lot better now. Thank you for telling the story. I am sure there are people who need to hear this.
You are amazing. Thank you for having the courage to share your story 💜💜 sending you so much love.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚
I’m so glad you’re doing better now ❤️❤️
Aww thank you so much! 🙏🏼💕💚
I have a similar story though my abusive evil parent was my father though my mother wasnt a saint either. took me a long time to realise that I'm not my father's shadow . I appreciate you sharing your story it shows you have immense strength be proud of that everyday moving forward . God bless
My heart hurts for all the things you went through. I hope Allah grants you all good in life. May the almighty ease your pain.
I'm only 5 minutes in and my heart goes out to you, Berna. In those few-second clips on TikTok, it's obviously impossible to understand what you were referring to. I've known a few women with similar family stories who are now older and eventually, they became mothers themselves, created families and friends of their own, and their own mothers were just strange, distant memories.
@roseandlavender901 She references her difficulties with her family very, very briefly in some of her previous TikTok videos, so most viewers weren't aware of the severity. There have been many messages from viewers about simply forgiving her family members which she's mentioned herself. Not that I can't follow along her clips.
Wow! Thank you for this! I agree with all you say. I have a similar story, my mother also Is abusive emotionally and my father too and they say "It's because we are egyptians" but this isn't true. I have 2 Brothers and they think like my parents... Now I'm 29 and I can't run away from my home because I don't have a job... I'm afraid. (Sorry for my disaster English)
I hope things are better now❤
My godness, I cried!😢
You are so brave!!!!!!
You’re so strong.❤ I just subscribed and I already love your content, my mom has said and done lots throughout my life and it brings me comfort when I see others healing too❤ remember to never blame yourself 😊❤
Omg that is my story with both abusive arab parents, my mother hated me and told me always I am ugly and wished me died and would beat me and scratch my face with het nails and laugh after as I am bleeding and would tell me to go look in the mirror and see how she's called me while she's smiling ! She didn't even protect me when she should. I had to get married, really young to protect myself. I ended up with a selfish husband, and miserable controlling in-laws at age 17. After 10 years, I ended up with the divorce.
Stayed single for 15 years and raised up my two daughters. Then I got married again, and got fooled with a narcissist who abused the heck out of me for years. I couldn't say nothing for seven years and was extremely scared to walk away and get a divorce because I'm afraid to be judged by our culture for the divorce especially a second Divorce even when the man is completely bad and on drugs and he even molested both of his daughters from previous marriage. Until I found out, he was molesting a little girl who is 12 years old in Jordan. He took me to Mexico and tried to kill me there. After that I ran away from my room for my life on the last day in Mexico, and this year in February I walked away, and I'm in the middle of a divorce from my abusive, narcissist, husband....
I think all what I've been through in my life is because of the abuse as a child, and my mother belittling me and loving her other older daughter.
I am 47 now, and I still have painful feelings from my abusive childhood . And now on top my abusive husband that I am divorcing
💓💓💓💓sending love you did amazing!!!
Aww thank you so much! 🙏🏼💕💚💚
i feel every word you say i am Egyptian .my mom isn't as abusive as yours but all arab moms are like your mum ... i am so happy that you have healed ... i wanted to get out too but i still can't ...
I am an American with foreign ingredients, too, given to my mother with sole custody. I too grew up with abuse...I also grew up trying to run away. I'm also diagnosed with PTSD...
You don’t deserve any of the things that happened to you. I am so sorry you went through that. When you heal you help others heal. I pray that you become a healer to others dear. May Allah shower you in his love and light always. ❤
You are amazing truly!
Ganz viel Liebe ❤ du bist was ganz besonderes ❤️
I'm sorry you went through that. I'm sorry for all the pain that you had to go through as a child🥺
Unlearning from your past such a Wise phase. Thank you for your life lessons and fun attitude to express it. Hope you continue and love the content!!
Ps: your short clips are hilarious man x
I wish you healing and a wonderful life ahead.
I'm sonsorrybubwent through this such a nightmare. U leaving was the best decision. Would love an update, how does your mum feel about the story out? Has she apologised. 😪
Thank you so much. I haven’t spoken to my mum since I left so I have no idea how she feels about me sharing my story with the world, however I could guess how it might be being received. And so therefore no, she has also never apologised. 🙏🏼💚
I was blamed as a Child to be my fathers daughter, to look and be like them. My Mother forgat that it was her who chosen a father for her children.
Wauw, thank you for sharing. Wishing you all the best. ❤️
Sry if it’s too much to ask, did you get to see your siblings again?
Thank you for being such an inspiration ❤️❤️❤️
No that’s alright! Unfortunately I have not seen my siblings, since leaving home. And thank you so much, you’re too kind 🙏🏼💚💚💚
I feel sorry for you. I have toxic mother and daughter relationship. But my dad is great
Ayyyy this is just so brave 👏
Oh my god i cant believe what she said to you 😢 ❤
Thank you for sharing. 🥰
Thank you for sharing. Obviously, it's nothing to do with culture but if it's narcissistic related issue may have something to do with the past. In all communities similar mechanisms do work.
Famous self aware narcissist Prof. Sam(uel) Vaknin in his London lecture mentioned his nation is narcissistic, due to 700 years of slavery, etc. I disagree. I see only part of any community, some victims of trauma accepts or are so much broken that become abusive. Jesus called them: 'synagogue of satan' and of course didn't mean his friends, family, all good people from His nation. Now, because of narcs running His nation many people suffer a lot. Same is true about narcs running my nation, many institutions, communities. There are more of them after wars, waves of prosperity because child needs are not fulfilled in poverty and also when parents give children things instead of time, attention, care.
It's interesting how narcs in our life try to take our full attention and try to be in the place of God. God help us! I hope you will find the way how to live as He wishes for you because there's nothing better:) Warm greetings from Ireland:))) It's so nice to see you prospering, blossoming) God bless you and your near and dear ones:)
You are beautiful and brave ❤
Im sorry im getting so confused. So You're born in Australia but you don't really have an Aussie accent. I thought you were in Ireland. Anyway im so sorry you had to go through all that in your young life. I hope you are much better today and do the things you want to do with your life. ❤
GO QUEENN❤️❤️
Awwww 🙏🏼💕💚🥰😘
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I cut off all ties with my mother's sperm donor when I was 17. Best decision i ever made
I was married off at 17. He was 26. Yupp.... so much love to everyone.
So courageous to share this difficult story. May I ask what happened to your siblings? Are they OK? Are you still in contact with them?
Thank you so much. My siblings are ok, they have a very different life to me. Unfortunately I am not in contact with them as that was part of the issue of my leaving home. 🙏🏼💚
I love you Bernadette
Ahh much love, right back at ya! 💚
Your mother asked if you could not have told her what you told her about her husband at a better time and how that made her feel, what did she do to him after that? Is she still married to her 2nd husband? or did she divorce him?
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I first watched your Facebook reels before coming here. A lot of stuff that said your mom's answer to everything was "when you get married". I don't understand how a divorced person can place that much emphasis on marriage. Her first marriage apparently led to great unhappyness so.... Why have so much emphasis and pressure on it?
Trying to understand abusive logic will drive us mad. They will drag you into their own world, where what they say is not supposed to be questioned and holes like that aren’t supposed to be poked at. So sad
You r soo brave and your mind is soo strong and you know how to gain complete control of your emotions and mind ❤️
How?
Aww thank you so much. That’s so kind of you. I’m not sure how to answer your question really, other than to say that time is a great teacher 💕💚🥹
You are so beautiful
Ahh thank you! 🙏🏼💕💚
Haqq
I see my past in what your saying. go mbeannaí Dia thú
How can l get christian Arabic teachers from your country please to teach Arabic language in my country, Nigeria in a school
Classic narcissistic parents. Disgusting of them. Poor woman
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Does she have siblings?
Yeah, she talks about them. They're younger. She even says that she was like a mother to them.
Its disgusting what your mother did and said. I am so sorry for you. I was S A ' d at 15 y/o. I wish you all the best and happniness.❤
I am so so sorry you went through all of that 🥲 i wish you the best in life to come to you and a journey of healing and self love, you are an amazing person, i wish you all the best 😊
How could a mother do this to her child….
I am so sorry this happened to you, I’m so glad you’re better now💕🥺
I ask myself that, all the time. It’s ok and thank you so much. Much love and God bless 🙏🏼💕💚