My Mom Gives Me Anxiety
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- My Mom Gives Me Anxiety
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So many many broken adults because of broken mothers. It’s a huge club. 😢
I’m in that club.
Yes I feel like my mom really Hurt me after the divorce it wasn’t really the divorce itself that affected me it was how my mom was I was in the house by myself with her and she would take all her anxiety and all her frustrations out on me and I didn’t even realize this but the age of 16 I took on this role of trying to be basically like a little therapist and now I feel so drained now I feel like she relies on me whenever she is going through some thing hard she constantly complains about jobs it doesn’t seem to matter what job she has she’ll find something to complain about it I’m 28 years old but I feel like a part of me doesn’t even want to be in a relationship with her because of her terrible temper it makes me afraid of her my whole life I’ve been this people pleaser trying to make everyone else happy and fix other people and I feel like I lost myself and I think it all relates back to my mother and even when I try to set a boundary with her it seems to just lead to an argument so I think my mind has been trying to avoid it and develop this codependent relationship
Very well said!!!👏👏👏
My step daughter says she has to go to therapy because her mom never went
@@emilyvay6369 I can tell that you probably don't have children and I'm not saying this as an excuse but I definitely understand a bit more about how anger even happens now that I have them. Before I had them, in my own head, I was a perfect innocent who didn't deserve the verbal abuse, and while it is true that I was innocent and I did not deserve it, I understand what happened. It is extremely difficult and I mean extremely to navigate all of your own emotions when you are constantly tending to the demands of children, especially young children (children whose survival depends on your ability to be present, to monitor their actions so they do not accidentally kill themselves.) Add any other life stressors to the mix and it's a recipe for a temper. There is no time to process your emotions; I mean zero time without a strong support system (someone you can call who will take over parenting for a day to allow you to sit with your introspection and decide the best course of action). And you can't just take time for yourself because your children's very survival depends on your immediate ability to react to them. You are probably not always patient but it is fairly inconsequential when you are not, correct? You don't have an innocent there absorbing your energy, taking your every reaction and internalizing it forever and ever. Add to that any unhealthy examples that were modeled to your own mother as a child and bam, repeat; as soon as the stress compiles, that old programming starts up again and it takes consistent effort and tremendous self-awareness to defy it. Now, does that make any of those old feelings go away (the ones that arose because of my own angry parent)? Hell no but at least, I understand it.
I’m so glad someone is asking this. My mom/family make me physically ill.
Same
Know that you are not obligated to talk to, visit, and/ or spend holidays with family who disturb your spirit. Sometimes being respectfully distant is the best option. Trust your spirit and intuition when it comes to toxic people, including relatives.
Amen
So true! Too many people play happy family for appearances. I have had to let some relationships go. Peace is priceless!
Or he could talk to his mom kindly, openly and honestly without coming to quick and harsh judgment. He may find out about her hurts and traumas that have caused her to pull away as she has. Then maybe they can both begin to heal. If he finds out she doesn’t want that then at least he’ll know for sure and tried before just cutting off the relationship completely.
@@DBushX2 No, some people have been raised by narcissists and abusers. Distance is necessary from people who are so toxic that they give you anxiety. This cult of “mother worship” has to stop. Some mothers are monsters. Not everyone got a mother who “really loves them deep down inside”.
@@Honeyfaced1 Not sure who you’re quoting because I never said we should worship mothers or that all mothers, or fathers, love their children deep down. I’m only speaking to this particular video of which we only heard one side of the story. Sorry for your obviously horrid upbringing. I hope you can find healing and wholeness so that it doesn’t get passed onto the next generation or negatively affect you for the rest of your life.
My mom was a narcissist,, she mentally abused me from the beginning,, I was devalued,, criticized,, insulted ,, triangulated with other siblings,, I spent my life trying to please her,, then years in counciling ,,and realized that there’s no fixing these people!,, I set up boundaries with her,, she defied them !,, but learning about narcissism and navigating through her passive aggressive nature , made me cope until her death last year,, life is a lot more peaceful now,, lots of praying and reflecting on the loss I suffered with,,,
First time I heard about narcissism, it was like someone put a name on all the wrong things I felt since I was little. I am still the black sheep, but also the first person to call to fix the mess, no mater the nature.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this 🤗🤗🤗. There will be people saying stupid things like: "we all have damage from our parents", but the truth is I only know one or two people in my life having this type of trauma. It is heartbreaking to go home and instead of the parent being happy to see you, you only receive disgust in their eyes and no matter what you do (especially if you were a good kid) you are not able to please them. I am so envious of other's people parents and every time someone does act like I wanted my mother to act (future mother in law, ex boyfriend's mother etc) it still breaks my heart.
@@iuliqt wow just like me....
Same here, but with my father, my mom is the enabler....my whole family is! I'm no contact atm and I feel so much peace amongst a lot of grieving the loss of who I thought they were. And excelling in who I know me to be. I love them dearly, but they will not be allowed to hurt me anymore. Nope!
Wish mine was like yours, gone. I lived through the same
You had the same mother I did.
Daughter=slave to her. I didn't get what a miserable woman she was until long after she passed. There were no boundaries. so she was boundlessly evil .
Glad we got out alive!
This was a very helpful call to listen to. For many of us, it takes becoming parents to realize what we went through was not okay
I can totally relate to this, it amazes me how people contribute so little to a relationship but expect so much
💯!!
Well said!!
So true!
Leaving at 18 and never speaking to my family again was the most loving decision I've ever made. Loving towards myself, because I know my worth. And loving towards my abusive parent for refusing to enable and engage in toxic behavior.
Who taught you and the learning to love yourself?
@@gloriamartens8300 I had a similar path, leaving at 19 and it took me a long long time to grasp this idea of self-love. Something I did that helped was to write down in an idealist sense the things that I think a parent should have to offer a child. Some of the things I came up with were expectations, accountability, but also support and encouragement, trust, forgiveness... etc... and if you are deciding to go at life alone then you need to figure out the right way to exercise all these principles on yourself. Figure out how to place expectations on yourself and hold yourself accountable (setting goals), trust yourself (confidence in your ability to reach your goals, and confidence in your thoughts and your individuality), also learn how to forgive yourself (like John always says don't say things to yourself that you wouldn't let someone else say to you)...acceptance... etc... this is how you develop a winning culture like an athlete does. I left home at 19 but did not completely cut off my mom until around 25. At some point you have to stop guilt-tripping yourself. You have to tell yourself, yes, you deserve whatever you want in this life no matter how someone else made you feel. And you visualize in your mind what a victory looks like for you, and on the other end consider what a loss looks like. Anticipate the positive emotions of victory. The definition of the victory will only be evident to you. You will have letter A to Z put together in your mind. That's your vision. Don't waste time asking permission or trying to convince people who aren't going to wrap their head around letter B... they can't see your vision... And at some point you are going to find yourself eye to eye with that victory and you decide that you are going to win no matter what. You are now a winner.
At 18??? Must've been really rough or you Must've made a decision too quick. Regardless, best of luck to you
Just because it hurts doesn't mean it's wrong. Thanks Doc.
Mothers are people, and many people are not perfect. I was so glad to hear when mine died. She stopped failing to be what we needed and simply could not be, and could no longer yank us around.
I've never been caught more off guard than your second sentence.
I wish my kids had grandparents to see all the time. It hurts as a parent to see what you wish your kids had.
Grand parents don't have to be blood related. We had an older lady who gave us cookies when i was a kid. We called her grand ma. She was kinder than any of my grand mothers who were blood related.
@@pompommania 💕 Lovely memory
Jeanette McCurdy’s new book “I’m glad my mom died” is such an incredible read and relevant to this subject. If you’re interesting in learning about how abusive moms can be and how they can brain wash their children you gotta check this book out
I doubt, thankfully, the vast majority of people can relate to the kind of mother she had.
@@DBushX2 I was absolutely shocked at how evil and manipulative she was
@@JordanEvansMusic Absolutely evil and manipulative for sure.
I'm scared to read that book but I feel like I need to....
@@CookWithStephh I recommend it!! She did an amazing job writing it and overcoming her trauma
My mother needed to devalue even with ultimate outcomes. Arrive early?: "Oh, I was so worried about you!" "Don't tell your sister you've lost weight, it would make her feel bad about herself." "I bought you this because it reminded me of your (deceased) brother." "I'm so worried about (ex's) business" as the business was a wild success. Always trying to insert negative expectations and self-doubt. She was angry when I had successes, still at it as she was dying.
I hear you. I could never let my mum know I was happy or something was ok, I had to always trash my life. She would always add something negative. The only compliments I would get was if I first belittled myself. And she tells me she has absolutely no regrets in her life.
Any narcissistic person in your life the best thing I found is go no contact. It took me forty some years to figure out to cut out my narc father. It was bliss
for five years.
I forgave my "walk away" mom when I became a mother. Trying to understand her perspective and her childhood issues has helped out a lot but we're still not close. She a good grandma and it feels great having her help, until she starts giving me unwarranted parenting advice. I probably need to seek my own therapy because it still unhinges me every time. Glad he's seeking help too.
I needed this call as well. I love my mom, but she plays favorites between kids AND grandkids, causes drama, starts gossip and will straight up lie about it. I’ve learned not to share much with her and I visit about twice a month (we live 3 min away). She doesn’t know my kids, but claims she’s so involved in their lives on social media.
Growing up she was a great mom! I have 6 siblings (2 sets of twins) she made home cooked meals for every meal, she was at every extra-curricular event for all of us, she sewed our clothes, and did it without much family support. She moved to the US when my parents got married (the rest of her family still lives in her home country) and she got her US citizenship when I was in High School.
It breaks my heart because she was so involved & supportive growing up, but now, I don’t know how to have a relationship with her.
Oh my goodness, this hit home. 😔
I NEEDED this today. Thank you Dr. John
Letting go of my mother was the best thing I have done in my life, and also the hardest. After the grief, I have felt so much peace that I didn’t know existed it is crazy. Wishing Chris and everyone out there with similar parents the best. ♥️
I have the same issue...but with an added element...my mom is ill...so there's a ton of guilt. Despite all of the negativity and narcissism. Even when i made the decision for low-contact, the guilt haunts my dreams.
Ooooof. Going through this with my parents/some of my family. I feel better about myself when I don't talk to them, don't see them. It sucks. I don't want it to be this way, but it is 🤷🏻♀️😞
I love them so much but I'm tired of getting emotionally clobbered and then if I bring up my feelings, I get excuses, deflection and "you're too sensitive". No, I'm the perfect amount of sensitive and I love that about me!
Luckily, I'm surrounded by people who see me clearly, see that I'm different than I used to be, and who delight so much in who I am. ❤
Everyone deserves this from family but sometimes we don't get it, and that sucks. Find people who will appreciate all that you are. Adopt your own family members that you can pour into and who will do the same. It should be both ways, not one sided.
Good luck to this caller! I have a feeling there was more to this story...I hope he realizes that he is worth being loved, called, supported, encouraged, spent time with~ and if your parents don't do this, that's on THEM. Find those who will ❤
No contact is key, you have only one life, IT IS impossible to a mother who gives you anxiety boundaries - not fair to push him to see an abusive parent
This caller must know he is not alone most adults have some sort of damage in their relationship with their parent from the most mild to the most extreme. It's because people aren't perfect and this cycle of having children being in control of molding the minds and lives of children while they are blank slates continues despite of that fact. The truth is his trauma in some way will be passed along to his kids in some fashion as well. Its the reality most parents do not want to recognize and shed light on.
💯 One of a couple of reasons why i have no kids. I‘ve not been able to break through that family circle in our family, i‘m working on it, though. But i‘m refusing to give that trauma to a next generation 🛑
I love hearing from a man who has such deep feelings and who wishes that he had the type of relationships that his wife has with her family. I love that he is so open and honest about this. I also love that he is a military man and is still open about wanting these types of relationships. I thank him so much for his call.
I also thank Dr. John for openly admitting that he grew up in the same neighborhood so sometimes he gets nervous about a change in scenery. I think that is such a beautiful admission and I so appreciate him saying that! Especially as a man! I really admire his desire to be open and honest and to connect with others.
The Bible talks about how Christians can find the type of relationships they need within the Christian community. Maybe that is a place the caller can look for the time being if he is interested in being a follower of Jesus?
I’m any event, I pray for healing, peace and blessings for him, for all of the viewers on here and for Dr. John in Jesus’s Holy Name, Amen!
I stopped talking to my parents because they were too toxic. My mom would never call except she would tell me that she was about to call whenever I called her as if I was a psychic who was reading her mind. Hearing my dad’s voice caused so much anxiety and angry that I would be in a bad mood for days after it which also made me moody with my own family. I do admit that it was not easy ending the relationship. However, I am in a better place mentally. I have learned to be more understanding with my kids and be more patient. I do not want to be in a situation causing them to be unhappy. I’m in peace and not feeling resentful. Not everyone is equipped to be parents
Being ghosted by family is the worst .
I'm so happy I found this channel. I want my freedom 😢
Imagine if he’s going through that what his mom is going through….how could it be expected that the mom (or the dad who divorced her) to suddenly act like a healed, whole person when she was broken at many points herself???
No ones expecting her to act healed. She’ll have to seal help and go through that process herself.
Its not the kids job to regulate the moms emotions :)
@@AlannahGardener I never said it was. People just tend to blame someone/everyone else for their issues without considering the issues of the one they’re blaming.
@@maiaheiss2991 Yes, agreed. But it will be very difficult for her to be the mom or grandma her son wishes she’d be without first getting help/healing herself.
@@DBushX2 I think thats the whole point. Shes choosing to not get help to make her relationship better with her son and his family. Its not his job to fix her or force a relationship he feels she doesnt want BUT he should communicate that with her.
My mom has zero interest in my daughter. It’s very hurtful but I’ve just accepted it’s not about me, it’s her. She’s too into her. I’ve stopped expecting anything from it. No bday cards, no asking how she is. Nothing
That’s the beauty of being a parent you can have the relationship you never had with your mother with your daughter you can build amazing memories
I’m sorry. My husband and I have the same issue with our moms. It is definitely grief that we feel. As a mom, I’m also bewildered by it. For my husband, he’s at acceptance. I know it bothers him but he knows there’s nothing that can be done. He’s tried. I send Christmas cards with pictures from throughout the year every Christmas. Nothing. And I won’t stop sending cards because I don’t want them to say it’s my fault… because they will say it’s my fault. I want them to know it’s on them.
My partner’s mother is a nightmare and yet, my partner’s loyalty to her…
The stories here I’ve listen too. This man’s story is so close to me.
When he said
"That brick has been in my back pack for years...."
I felt that
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I’m so lucky to have had great parents I’m going to offer something from the mother’s side. Her son was in a terrible accident. She coped with pills. Her son died from an overdose. Divorced after 40 years after being married to a man who wasn’t present for life during the week. She will never get over these things. Son, reach out to her and invite her to your house. Have a conversation with her. She feels like a failure as a mother and could use some grace.
Grace and understanding goes a long way. I was disappointed that the son chose to stay away. The mom had a hard life. Then to read people saying she is a narc. She just sounds like she is hurting and has no hope. Puts on social media what she can to hid the hurt.
Yes I feel there wasn't enough time to get the full story n the son may have even more reasons. Clearly he feels very let down by his mother. Being a father himself if anything he's probably even more aware that parents don't get it right all the time or even most of the time. I've been accused of not understanding by my mother since I never married n had kids but she said it in her usual snarky, defensive n rude way. And the point I often tried to make back when we at least saw each other occasionally n sometimes did try to work things out was that I am sure I would have made mistakes as a parent and like she always said "No parent is perfect" but I damn well would have had the humility n care to apologize to my kid or grown kid for mistakes I was making even then n hurting them with rude judgemental n passive aggressive comments all under the guise of caring about me loving me then letting my brother n sister get in on the act as well as the gaslighting n Scapegoating that was done. That is not a mistake n if every one recognizes that no parent is perfect n everyone makes mistakes why are you refusing to ever admit yours? Hmm..sad situations
@@brandykapologies can be so healing. And not the ones that start with “I’m sorry if I…” because that’s not owning it. I hope for healing love in your family. Time is fleeting.
As a former military kid having to move and not have stability is a sacrifice. Being away from family and not able to build long relationships is a sacrifice. That in itself can breed anxiety on top of the relationship with his parent. So unfortunately there is an unfortunately there and having grown up in a stable home I’m not really sure why you were telling him how he should feel when it comes to that. I hope @DrjohnDeloney doesn’t invalidate all callers like in this way.
Make peace with your choice is the best advice I could possibly give someone in life. Great video.
Imagine having a mother and stepmother to deal with. I couldn’t even join the military because of the depression and anxiety. Co parenting is horrible
I resent both of my grandmas. (The grandpas were great, but they died young). Each had a lot of grandchildren and they just... didn't care about me. I have a lot of crafty hobbies in common with both of them and I wish I'd had a grandma relationship, but neither was interested. They already had their favorite grandkids. Grandma Rose, who I always wished I'd been named after, didn't even bother to come to my wedding. My aunt had a ride lined up for her, there was no excuse, she just didn't want to. (also, I don't really care about the money, but it further drove the point home. Her favorite grandson got married the same year as me. She gave him a hefty check. She sent me a really ugly picture frame she got at a garage sale. It still had the 50¢ sticker on it.) Since then, I finally gave up wishing. I'm pregnant now, and I still love her name, but I can't use it.
His mother is a narcissist that’s why he gets anxiety
Couldnt possible his guilt treating his hurting, lonely, likely limited budget single mom so shabby, could it? This caller sounds like his dad, likely a very selfish neglectful weekend Dad. The left behind younger brother and mom got the shaft.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you ❤
Bro, you helped me see things clearly. thank you!
Thank you! ❤
😢 I can relate so much!
thank you DR Johnny
One day, his kids will give an evaluation of his parental performance. We won't be around to hear it, but I'm almost certain he will have demerits.
Damn good convo
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Stop expecting so much. You’re good as long as you don’t have family members forcing their opinions on you, telling you what to do, how to feel, dictating how you spend your holidays. Why do you want to be forced or force others into a situation?
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I've never clicked on a video this quick 😢
Idk this ones...not like some intense situation I don't feel. I'm sure your mom could be closer but like...what invites are you giving her to be in your lives regularly? I'm naturally close with my parents and we luckily just have a great time together
You and her family could go to a resort for Christmas or new years that way everyone could see each other still and have a good time away from that environment.
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Genuine question is it johns ADHD that’s the reason why he jumps in and tells people how they should feel when they mention something that he’s gone through himself but where he reacted differently?Genuinely in retested in why he struggles to hold space for them in those instances.
Huh?
Oh how thankful I was when it wasn't "Meg from Chicago". Our youngest. :( Parents make mistakes (esp. ME)....we have no idea how it effects our babies.
True, and it’s sad how little grace was given to the mother- since we don’t know her side of the story like past traumas…
@@DBushX2children don't owe grace to parents who didn't deal with their traumas
I'm very confused by this call. Seriously, very confused. He says it's a problem that his mom is around for holidays but doesn't jump through all the hoops he thinks she should jump through outside of that as if she could read his mind. But then he didn't say anything about his dad. Does his dad only come around on holidays or not at all or is he around all the time? And then he said his parents just got divorced a couple years ago and he never said once that he was there for either of them through THEIR pain.
Help me out here, someone. Sounds to me like he's very self centered and is projecting his wife's super close family ties on his own family as if all families are supposed to talk multiple times a day. That doesn't happen, man. I just don't understand this call at all.
He even said SHE went through trauma with her youngest son dying and he didn't say he did anything to be there for HER. I mean, he sounds like the ass in this situation. What am I missing??
I also didn’t really understand what the mom actually did wrong g, other than not call on his birthday.
Woah I don't think there is enough info given here to warrant cutting his mom out of his life, and its not like he is calling everyone up trying to plan the family reunion...
If he felt it was in his best interest then it was warranted. Nobody owes their parents a relationship.
😢 moms always damned if she does and damned if she don’t. Would you go where you were told everyone hates you???
Probably reflect within and figure out WHY people hate me.
That's weird his trying to force a picture perfect mom. Most people would be had that she didn't abuse them.
I get cutting off toxic family, but to me it just sounds like his mom is not living up to the expectations of what he wants her to be. Well, welcome to life, buddy. As a parent, I’ll tell you that kids usually never live up to all the expectations we had either. Unconditional love let’s us love anyway. If he really wanted a close relationship with her, he could have talked to her about it, or tried to initiate family therapy to repair the relational damage.
Having expectations for people you force onto existence is weird AF
Beam me up Scotty….💋
His mom is 70! And single, and had trauma d lux. He is breaking him mom further. This guy has chosen his wifes family cause the are perfect. Hope he stays married, geeze. You have chosen others. Poor woman, lige gave his mom a chit sandwich, and he thinks it is ok to throw one on her front door. Guy is problematic. And dishonest, and just so shallow it hurts. What if his son or daughter grows up to reveal they we not " all in" and hated being drug away from their schools and friends and home and ptrfers a future wifes stability to the non stable military life? The military has a very high divorce rate and very few wives actually tolerate and embrace it for a lifetime. Maybe her family is close to their daughter for a reason, ie she is solo a good bit of the time? Dudes karma may be coming, he just doesn't see it. Poor his mom, se has suffered enough, maybe through no real fault of her own. Likely this son is being a selfish jerk, just like his dad. Ugh
70 at 40, mine are nearly 70 and I'm 23 😔
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It’s so surprising how bad the Baby Boomer generation was as parents. It’s just staggering. You are under zero obligation to enter the presence of an abusive person. Send her a Christmas card if it’s that important to you. She chose this, not you.
Isn’t it though? My kids have three grandmothers and they don’t care to ask. I send my mom pics bc she likes those, more as a way to show off. My husband’s mom and stepmom haven’t called to ask about the new baby at all (he’s 6 months old). As a mom myself, I’m totally bewildered.
When my husband’s father was alive, our oldest was a newborn. Even though he was ill, he wanted to see his grandson and called us many times.
Also, his father was the ONLY person that called my husband on his birthday. He has an aunt and grandma that expect HIM to call them on his birthday. His own mom won’t even call him or send a card. I can’t wrap my head around any of that. I don’t know if it’s selfishness, pride, or if they’re just cold-blooded. Not even a text. I just don’t get it.
Oh stop saying all us boomers are the same. I’m sure your children will have their own issues. Every generation does.
First, John, please don’t downplay the immense sacrifice and difficulties that military kids experience. You have no idea. Second, the caller needs therapy and maturity. Absolutely nothing in the information given calls for cutting his mother out of his life. John is NOT a psychiatrist or a psychologist. Please take his advice with caution. Just terrible advice in this video.
This kid is just too needy. I feel like what he’s dealing with is something the majority of us go through in our lives. Could be a lot worse! At least your parents are still alive!
A lot of people feel relieved when their parents die.
Guy ..get to the point!
This mother lost a son. She developed depression. She suffered. Also when a son marries the mother becomes second. She doesn't want to interfere. Shes trying to respect their marriage and not overstep the line. Shes 70. Shes going to forget things. I just missed my sons birthday. I thought about it all week but life happened and i called the next day. Also if we weren't invited over were not going to show up on your doorstep. Does she have to drive in the city to get to your place. She may not feel comfortable. A son is a son until he takes a wife a daughter is a daughter for all of her life. Its an old saying for a reason. Give her a break.
I think this guy is just selfish and controlling. His mom isn’t perfect and made some mistakes but he uses that to be a victim. He wants to control her to be exactly how he imagines she should be but I think even if she did do exactly what he’s thinking in his mind then he still wouldn’t be happy and would blame her for something. Some people love to be a victim.
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You are no Ricky Bobby
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Accept your mother with all her faults, no one can be a perfect parent.
I agree that there is no perfect parent. But it’s a long spectrum of abuse that a parent can subject a child and saying you have to deal because she’s your mom is adding insult to injury.
@@kw3113 I agree
@@kw3113 Agreed.
Oh my goodness 🤦🏿♀️please don’t give advice
Are you the toxic parent?