You made me feel so much better when you mentioned that everybody has said and done things that they regret. I grew up in a toxic family dynamic full of manipulators who criticize and bully me for the sake of it. Then when I started getting depressed, they accused me of “choosing” to be depressed. To add insult to injury, they act like COMPLETELY different people in public. People don’t understand just how much of a relief it is to be called “normal”. When you’re surrounded by manipulators who constantly accuse you of being “not normal”, it’s a beautiful compliment.
You are right, but why continue to be in a toxic relationship if you dont have to, both of them have money so neither will be homeless or go without and their children are grown. I can see Will in somebody's psych room pouring out his heart because he is trying g to hold on to Jada for what ever reason, and she is so disrespectful and controling.
Well said. I completely get you and understand exactly how you feel. My family is exactly the same way. I finally made the choice to love them from a distance. I can no longer be around people who think this way. Either have some empathy and try and understand what someone else is going through, or I choose to not have you in my life.
I sympathize with everyone for their traumas experienced young and old. But we have to stop giving ppl clutches for violent behaviors bc of life traumas ALOT of others also experience.
Thts not sympathizing,..we're not all the same. He just reacted from being fed up over the yrs. In my opinion. I dt think that was a "clutch" per say, but an unthinkable reaction to a situation.🤷🏼
I totally agree. However I think everyone is entitled to explain where they were coming from. It doesn't excuse the behavior, but understanding allows for growth. For them and for others. That's also very important. If consequences are to happen so be it. Understanding the why and where someone was at mentally and emotionally in a time of distress is important for people. It helps them to recognize those things in themselves to make a change. Acknowledgement is the first step in growth.
Crutches? Self reflection allows room to identify your own foolishness. And there are MANY WAYS to be violent- so emotional and spiritual terrorists should be held to task as much as physically violent ones... of course there's different consequences
But she has a husband who protect her n she said she Dnt need to b protected now she's saying she did not feel protected as a child she wants to be protected now
Many of us deal with childhood trauma that play out in our adult lives. I know that I do. Although Jada and Will is explaining causes and affects of their behaviors, etc does not justify or excuse. We still need to be held accountable and take ownership for our actions and reactions whether good or bad!! Check yourself because if you don’t others will. Taking my own advice as well. Lol
@Tee Burd Talks Never have Jada or Will NOT taken accountability nor have they ever used their childhood trauma to excuse or justify their wrong actions. Quite the contrary. Unlike most people they have both tried to dig deep and understand their actions and conscious and subconscious 'reactions', apologise, take accountability and WORK on their human imperfections. Together and individually. That is a hell of a lot more than some. I give them credit for that. So, I don't understand the content of your comment?
@@NickyM_0 I think they are just humans with old or new issues...their story is like all others ..rich or poor!..Sometimes we look at them as super humans they have the same problems. They are just people like us..prayers up for them
You’re so right! This might help them both heal from their childhood trauma. Everything happens for a reason. It’s up to us to find it’s purpose and heal. ❤️
Can we talk about Chris’ trauma of being jump and bullied!? He still conducted himself as a Professional Adult!! No excuses! We’ve all dealt with trauma!
Speak for yourself not them. Everyone deal with things differently. We all know Chris got bullied. This is new information. Just like other people who have been bullied would not have handled the slap like Chris.
@@BayouKitchenGuy this is Not new information… just because he’s dealt with Trauma doesn’t make it ok to put his hands on someone who didn’t touch him… when Will had the mic he could have addressed it verbally. NO EXCUSES… They’re All grown with A LOT to lose….think
they really just need to stop telling the world their business and handle it on their own in counseling or therapy. a public table talk isn’t gonna help them , it’s just gonna cause more assumptions.
No actually these are conversations people actually need to be having. This is how families can repair themselves, if they don’t do it-who’s gonna do it…. and when is it going to get done?? People like yourself are half of why people need therapy to begin with. You should work on your emotional and mental maturity.
@@freightcorner5740 why does people like yugen are the reason why people need therapy, that is @yugen opinion , the person did not say dont talk about it the person say dont tell the world. Not everything need to be public.
@@freightcorner5740 Really no people with serious issues need to address those in a private safe environment not by putting their personal troubles on display In addition if violence by Will to a clearly innocuous joke is the solution I’m scared of them It seems these are people who have not successfully addressed the issues from their past; making those issues public is not a solution for them or others I did not see hear anything of value to other broken folks except what not to do Too bad this only makes them weirder then they were before and Jada seems to only use these opportunities to lash out denigrate others and whine about her troubled existence Please go resolve your issues then talk about the journey This makes her seem like a bottomless pit and he seems like an insecure man who is still trying to find himself Not A GOODLOOK Tellimg your business is not therapy ( which seems not to be working) Their recent behavior clarifies that Also didn’t she announce she didn’t need protection??? Confused??? where is the healing???😺
Yeah, Grammy looks a lot younger than her actual age. She definitely made it a point to take care of herself through a healthy diet and regular exercise as part of her journey to recovery.
Everyone has been traumatized one way or another growing up… we have to seek therapy for understanding what may have happened to you. I loss my mom at thirteen which was traumatizing and for me therapy was important and helpful for me. Great topic to address with soo many ppl hurting and not getting therapy for healing.
These excuses gotta stop. At a certain point, your childhood isn’t their fault it’s yours because you won’t heal and let it go! Just because you were hurt doesn’t mean you treat people wrong 💯💔
Great information on childhood traumas and issues, as a counselor, I always start with people's childhood background. It sheds light on their actions. It helps to confront adulthood issues and helps with changing one's outlook on life and behaviors. I loved the infomercial! Great work Miss Candice! 💜
I was removed from the home I lived in at age 5, because the mother died. I was sent to my maternal grandmother's. The promise was I'd get to return when another mother was obtained. It never happened. I was growing up in a strange household. I was never safe or loved again, in the child's mind.
How safe was the grandmother’s house when the grandmother taught Jada to self please herself at the year of 9? This was Jada’s word at her table talk. There is nothing normal about that. This could have caused sex addiction.
I just want to cry for her. I pray they get constant counseling. Jada is a beautiful person, inside and out. She’s not the monster people make her out to be. This explains her friendship with Tupac. He probably made her feel safe. My heart and prayers go out to the Smith family. Praying for healing.
I'm disappointed in myself for watching this. I don't want to give them or the Kardashians any clout. These people have tons of excuses for why. They never apologize. Jada seems to think talking will heal her situation clearly it's not. She needs to hold herself accountable. This whole family is weird.
@ JLambo I Agree with You 100 % but u see the replies tht Daytime 💋 … asked us to reply but there’s No 💋 for our comments Why ??? Its Not abt Agreeing to Disagree either It’s abt Damage Control, and Pivoting. Shaping a Narrative Period !!!
@@CameliaKay9804 yes they are people that need to hold themselves accountable. Jada constantly seeks healing, but fails to reach the next step. The only way to heal is to admit you are wrong and change your behavior, not come on television and seek attention. They suffer from pride, vanity, and narcissism. They are not exempt from the truth because of celebrity status.
@@dianemcnear2119 yes I agree with the damage control. Jada seeks healing yet she has done none. She has reasons why, but theres never remorse or changed behavior. She just seeks pity.
Hey Candice, I understand where they are coming from not to mention being pulled apart by the critics for years and trying to have a functioning relationship. I also have childhood trauma that I am healing from and I am glad each year it seems I am being opened to even more past traumas that I didn't recognize before. Seeing physical abuse in the household, alcoholics, verbal and mental abuse was tough but things are way better now. I am courageously moving forward to the life the little girl in me desperately wants to have.😄
All of this protection thing for her is bs to me, she didnt want to marry the man, then she keeps throwing tupac in his face, then she sleeps with their sons friend and acts as it was nothing. I dont think neither of them are happy and i think its a money thing for Will if they divorce because Jada will come out on top because Will has so many people not wanting to deal with him after the slap situation.
We alllllll have that little child inside us who was once scared, confused, happy sad, angry, alone….pick a word……who “shows up,” on different levels, as we try to navigate the complexities of an adult life.
This was good. I Always Love Jada's transparency. People Always wanna judge her and try to blame her for sh*t that we don't even know for sure...but Jada Always been real. I love it and respect it.
Too bad her being “real” didn’t stop her from inventing a supposed love relationship w/Tupac and throwing that in Will’s face In addition she also indoctrinated her children into her fantasies to the extent of looking down on Will and his role as their father (writing a letter to Tupac? excuse me ☝️ Jada is TOXIC) She needs to get with herself and Jesus and focus on how to address her own issues without dragging everyone down around her That would be the beginning of her actually “keeping it real” 😺
People on an everyday basis goes through worse they rise above through whatever means and take accountability of their mess up and move on learning .Even in these hard times people with less resources than them where they can afford therapy poorer people have these struggles everyday but they keep pushing without always making excuses for bad behaviour .
As a survivor of domestic violence, sexual abuse, bullying, poverty, clinical depression & anxiety... And one who doesn't care much for the frivolities of celebrity and all that jazz. I hope I can urge you to look a little deeper. In the same way that giving a child more material things [in lieu of real attention, support and connection] does not compensate for the resulting lack of love and well-being, fame and monetary wealth also do not equal wellness. To your point, the Smith family have been very open about how therapy has aided in their endeavors [and struggle], individually + collectively, to heal. Their show, that this UA-camr is referencing, actually dives into how psychotherapy and other methods have been a saving grace for their own family and how it can help the wider community. It's a journey, and it's one they've chosen to take -publicly. That is noteworthy to say the least, especially considering it launched years before they even had this scandal. Celebrity or not, that's quite remarkable. Also, while you may not owe them an ounce of compassion, it would perhaps be more worthwhile to note the similarities between their stories and your own- without judgement. I don't know you or what you've been, or are going through, but I'm sorry; your comment shows that you too might do well with some much needed therapy. Take care of yourself.
Jada and Will are total opposites to me they were not healthy together. I just feel Jada wanted a rough dude, and he wanted a princess to worship the ground he walks. That’s not her at all.
Hmmm, Trauma or not. I still don't understand why they are out there rationalizing their actions other than publicly apologizing to Chris Rock. It's rude what they are doing, and that's not cool. Either way, I wish the best for everyone involved.
We all have gone thru these things in similar ways but it still doesn’t excuse the physical attack. I see a lot of explaining but no accountability and that’s the most important part of self analyzation and growth
I said the same thing! I believe Will and Jada is soon to divorce but Will doesn't want to look like the bad guy( look Dwayne and Tishina). So, Jada is making herself look toxic and damaged.
it wasn't his responsibility to protect his mother... He thinks he is supposed to do certain things as a man but protecting his mother is not his job neither is slapping a man over words. His mother never said son why didn't you protect me.. Jada never said go defend my honor. Will got to understand the true meaning of protection.
This was a very insightful and thoughtful interpretation. I appreciate you sharing this and hope folks lead with love and grace toward them both. Attacking folks is not conducive for any of the affected parties.
THANK YOU for being sound, we ALL lose it somewhere in our life, and sometimes don't know why,. We don't need mess on top of mess but answers, healing, and solutions
IF HOLLYWEIRD CAN FORGIVE ACTORS LIKE ROBERT DOWNEY JR., CHARLIE SHEEN & ROB LOWE, SURELY THEY CAN FORGIVE THE WILL SMITH SLAP! He has already apologized, has taken accountability and I'm sure very embarrassed and regretful of his actions. I am sure he has beaten himself up over this more than anyone.
I LOVE how you present your content 💚 I knew there was something deeper behind the slap and felt like it would surface eventually. I’ve always been a fan of Will Smith and related to him growing up. I knew I could listen to his music around my mother since he didn’t cuss. I even tried to make people laugh like he did. People saw me as soft and felt like I wouldn’t do anything. I’ve lashed out a couple of times because of it. It’s not a surprise that Will and Jada attracted each other. This is the case for EVERYONE in all types of relationships. Thanks for putting this together 😃💚🤗
I'm sorry but Jada ruined Will! She's so damn toxic and doesn't deserve him. She ruined his career and rep. She didn't even have his back after all that happened. I use to be such a huge fan of Jada and now I can't stand to look at her. 🙄🤦🏾♀️ There's always an excuse with her. Manipulation at it's best. Messed Will up first, then her kids and then August who's next 🙄 It's not that I don't have sympathy for what she went through, but let's be real. Ppl have been cracking jokes on them for yrs. This was not that. They're just now using that to "defend" those bad choices. Imo.
Me too. It's not me trying to be childish. It's just a term of affection. Like how I call my husband baby. Or my friends bestie. Something about adding the "e" sound at the end feels more affectionate. lol
I will not care about Will and Jada’s childhood trauma until Will Smith PUBLICLY apologizes TO Chris Rock. Having childhood trauma does not make it any more acceptable or understandable that you inflicted trauma on another person as a grown adult. They are not children anymore. They need to learn to cope with their issues in healthy ways. I do feel some sympathy towards them for what they have gone through but I also think Will needs to put in the work and apologize to the person he assaulted. I need to see growth and maturity, and then I will be able to see the full picture.
He did apologize. Too bad people like George Floyd can't apologize to the pregnant black woman he held a gun to and caused her to lose her child. Y'all get so caught up in the little s***.
I don’t mean no harm but at what point do we start taking accountability. Those people have way too much money to not find a good therapist. If they have done therapy then their therapist wasn’t good. I say they need to talk to Ms. Iyanla Vanzant to get them together.
Childhood trauma is the worst thing I’m in therapy for three years now,because. I’m a mom and wants my kids to experience the healthiest childhood as possible and for me also I deserve better to be happy.
Yes, trauma is a complex issue many of us deal with. But it's not fair to attack others and blame it on childhood trauma. That's not how it works; be accountable for your actions and get help.
🤔 I knew there were DEEP underlying issues to their pain that had nothing to do with AA. Even though they've shared this vital piece of information with the public, all those PERFECT A$$ people out there will still ridicule them. Everyone has flaws and some type of baggage. Difference is, some of us have addressed and dealt with our issues and some have not
Exactly and these two seem to be people with the best resources to address their issues.Yet they seem more messed up then ever By the way if folks didn’t make the gory details of their unresolved problems public no one could judge anything By the was we can and should judgeBEHAVIOR And as a couple their behavior was reprehensible 😺No love lost here
People be so hungry for a scandal that they'll bite at anything... This episode of Red Table Talk was about helping mothers and daughters recognize and heal from broken bonds in their relationships. Candace @Daytime Tea Time just decided to use the opportunity to shed some light on a perspective of a -surprisingly- still ongoing discussion -the relevance of which is prolongs only inasmuch as y'all obsession with malicious cynicism. I know it's a foreign concept to some, but you can absolutely hold people accountable whilst holding room for empathy.
I'm not judging them. In order to heal one must change the behavior. We all know why they have issues. But what are they doing to correct the behavior. They still haven't apologize.
Acknowledgment is not the same as acceptation just as awareness does not equate to healing. Both their traumas got them this far. Now they actually have to heal their traumas to become who they actually want to be not who theyve had to be.
Many layers. There is much forgiveness that needs to be found on the journey to heal. My parents did what they could; yet, had multiple traumatic experinces between them both. Those moments left impressions upon us growing. Not knowing what love is, having a voice, and not being aware of your worth spiraled out of control. Thank goodness for therapy and strong guidance. It took some much needed time to adjust associations, what I read, listened to, and to allow clarity in my spirit. Though such darkness developed, the light found its way to my soul. I don't regret anything. This is a human experience. We are here to develop. No one is equipped with all thats needed on our journey. Experience life, adjust, learn, growth, and forgive yourself.
But you hit the nail on the head with that last part though! See my story is so unique I am going to put it on paper soon or later. I'm patient with the process.
This family for all the time I knew about them, I always thought The Smiths had “The Perfect Family” but I can see they are just human with flaws. Jada has A LOT of issues that I can understand her better however, I think she should focus on her own healing, help her family heal, and start to take accountability for her actions…Will does too. Accountability and self acknowledging of flaws, self reflection, and getting therapy for their trauma is the beginning of the healing process. They need to heal.
Excellent reporting Candice. You delivered it with so much compassion. I hope this helps many to look within themselves. We are all wounded in some ways.
This is why I totally couldn’t get mad at Will for what he did for Jada. Wills just trying to give her that. Chris didn’t deserve the wrath. But it helps us get it.
I'm not in no way shape or form trying to antagonize you, it's just concerning when just watching Will on the David Letterman show. The narrative they are pushing, is concerning.
We knew he needed help. Thats why he apologized and explained his actions. Jada we have also known for a while has needed and even sought assistance. The point though is that you can heal those traumas. This is an example of what it looks like when you are enabling each other. Trauma bonds are real people.
And once again it's all about her and because she's damaged everyone around her has to pay for her childhood trauma? She wants to feel protected so she has some idea what being protected looks like. Why can't she offer that same protection to her husband? She exploits her trauma to get others to make her feel good. Personally, I'm tired of her wanting pity and sympathy. She won't get any from me.
Violence is never the answer. However I think everyone is entitled to explain where they were coming from. It doesn't excuse the behavior, but understanding allows for growth, for them and for others. That's also very important. If consequences are to happen so be it. But understanding the why and where someone was at mentally and emotionally in a time of distress is important for people. It helps them to recognize those things in themselves to make a change. Acknowledgement is the first step in growth.
All the Healing❤️🩹, and Counseling in the World don’t replace wen u don’t Genuinely Love, and Care abt Sum1. Jada’s been revealing , and healing, Confessing she hadn’t felt Good in a long time with the August (Entanglement). All the time getting on a Platform tht she’s Not Qualified for Claiming to be Healed, and Healing others !!! 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
All this is exhausting. Will and Jada are both prisoners of their own relationship. No matter how much they tried to liberate each other in their marriage they had to keep so many components a secret in order to have public approval. That's not freedom that's enslavement. First they were Hollywood couple royalty, then give out all this advice since we are envied even though we are not complete behind closed doors, then it's we have issues and traumas please don't judge if we act out and our side affairs come out. Just get off all these public platforms trying explain to us why you have issues while still trying to "educate." Get the therapy you need in a safe place and stop trying to capitalize on it when there's so much work to be done. Work on your relationship, get remarried or get divorced who cares. Just stop this circus please.
Sounds like she's making excuses and is looking for sympathy.That might explain the why, but it doesn't excuse narcissistic tendencies. Her and her mama crazy and I feel bad for Willow. How do you justify teaching a 9 YEAR OLD girl how to sexually please herself? (The Grandma) and Jada how do you not know that your daughter was cutting herself??? Jaden wanted to be emancipated at 16 and they allowed it. It's like where was the parenting? Trey seems like the only normal one and that's because he has Sheree. Jada doing all this woe is me shit, but still hasn't came to her husband's defense. They should just divorce and call it a day. 🤷🏾♀️
You look fab first and foremost. I’m glad these discussions are being presented. There is always a root to why we act respond and become who we are. As these parts of us heal we become more of the authentic version of ourselves. I have seen Jada evolve and I pray beyond the drama and layered trauma her and her family is able to find peace within themselves. Love this In all our getting Let’s get understanding
Looking beautiful as always Candice 😍! I have never liked Jada's vibe honestly.....she comes across as very condescending, and her energy is just really heavy compared to Will. This all makes a lot of sense.
Stop twisting things around when you clearly know that Jada wasn’t the least bit scared of Chris Rock. Just annoyed. Will Smith was wrong. Jada is still healing from her childhood traumas but she clearly stated she didn’t need no protection from a mere silly joke. Kmt
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One cannot heal if they don't change there behavior. Jada seems to want sympathy and attention not healing.
You made me feel so much better when you mentioned that everybody has said and done things that they regret.
I grew up in a toxic family dynamic full of manipulators who criticize and bully me for the sake of it. Then when I started getting depressed, they accused me of “choosing” to be depressed. To add insult to injury, they act like COMPLETELY different people in public.
People don’t understand just how much of a relief it is to be called “normal”. When you’re surrounded by manipulators who constantly accuse you of being “not normal”, it’s a beautiful compliment.
You are right, but why continue to be in a toxic relationship if you dont have to, both of them have money so neither will be homeless or go without and their children are grown. I can see Will in somebody's psych room pouring out his heart because he is trying g to hold on to Jada for what ever reason, and she is so disrespectful and controling.
That comment just hit home. You put words on how I’ve felt all my life. Bullied by my own family…
Well said. I completely get you and understand exactly how you feel. My family is exactly the same way. I finally made the choice to love them from a distance. I can no longer be around people who think this way. Either have some empathy and try and understand what someone else is going through, or I choose to not have you in my life.
It’s a blessing when so many people experience similar things. It shows us that we’re not alone
I sympathize with everyone for their traumas experienced young and old. But we have to stop giving ppl clutches for violent behaviors bc of life traumas ALOT of others also experience.
Preach
Thts not sympathizing,..we're not all the same. He just reacted from being fed up over the yrs. In my opinion. I dt think that was a "clutch" per say, but an unthinkable reaction to a situation.🤷🏼
Excuses and Crutches to get over Jada aka master manipulator
I totally agree. However I think everyone is entitled to explain where they were coming from. It doesn't excuse the behavior, but understanding allows for growth. For them and for others. That's also very important.
If consequences are to happen so be it. Understanding the why and where someone was at mentally and emotionally in a time of distress is important for people. It helps them to recognize those things in themselves to make a change. Acknowledgement is the first step in growth.
Crutches? Self reflection allows room to identify your own foolishness. And there are MANY WAYS to be violent- so emotional and spiritual terrorists should be held to task as much as physically violent ones... of course there's different consequences
She has a great PR person. They knew exactly how to spin it.
Exactly
Not really judging by the comments most people aren't buying her bullcrap
For real 💯💯💯
Exactly. PR stunt ..
But she has a husband who protect her n she said she Dnt need to b protected now she's saying she did not feel protected as a child she wants to be protected now
🤷🏻♀️🙆🏻♀️🤯
She's a woman. You know women say stupid s*** to appease especially men.
I cannot lie, I was thinking that very same thing. Great point!
Right! Pretty damn confusing!
Exactly
Many of us deal with childhood trauma that play out in our adult lives. I know that I do. Although Jada and Will is explaining causes and affects of their behaviors, etc does not justify or excuse. We still need to be held accountable and take ownership for our actions and reactions whether good or bad!! Check yourself because if you don’t others will. Taking my own advice as well. Lol
@Tee Burd Talks Never have Jada or Will NOT taken accountability nor have they ever used their childhood trauma to excuse or justify their wrong actions. Quite the contrary. Unlike most people they have both tried to dig deep and understand their actions and conscious and subconscious 'reactions', apologise, take accountability and WORK on their human imperfections. Together and individually. That is a hell of a lot more than some. I give them credit for that. So, I don't understand the content of your comment?
Right sis..amen
@@NickyM_0 I think they are just humans with old or new issues...their story is like all others ..rich or poor!..Sometimes we look at them as super humans they have the same problems. They are just people like us..prayers up for them
You’re so right! This might help them both heal from their childhood trauma. Everything happens for a reason. It’s up to us to find it’s purpose and heal. ❤️
@@NickyM_0 Exactly. Idk what this person above is talking about. SMH
Can we talk about Chris’ trauma of being jump and bullied!? He still conducted himself as a Professional Adult!! No excuses! We’ve all dealt with trauma!
Exactly come on with the excuses. Really
Speak for yourself not them. Everyone deal with things differently. We all know Chris got bullied. This is new information. Just like other people who have been bullied would not have handled the slap like Chris.
So he bullies others, especially black women, under the guise of comedy.🤷🏽♀️
@@thewanjiru8380 he’s traumatized 🤷🏾♀️
@@BayouKitchenGuy this is Not new information… just because he’s dealt with Trauma doesn’t make it ok to put his hands on someone who didn’t touch him… when Will had the mic he could have addressed it verbally. NO EXCUSES… They’re All grown with A LOT to lose….think
they really just need to stop telling the world their business and handle it on their own in counseling or therapy. a public table talk isn’t gonna help them , it’s just gonna cause more assumptions.
No actually these are conversations people actually need to be having. This is how families can repair themselves, if they don’t do it-who’s gonna do it…. and when is it going to get done?? People like yourself are half of why people need therapy to begin with. You should work on your emotional and mental maturity.
@@freightcorner5740 why does people like yugen are the reason why people need therapy, that is @yugen opinion , the person did not say dont talk about it the person say dont tell the world. Not everything need to be public.
@@freightcorner5740 Really no people with serious issues need to address those in a private safe environment not by putting their personal troubles on display In addition if violence by Will to a clearly innocuous joke is the solution I’m scared of them It seems these are people who have not successfully addressed the issues from their past; making those issues public is not a solution for them or others I did not see hear anything of value to other broken folks except what not to do Too bad this only makes them weirder then they were before and Jada seems to only use these opportunities to lash out denigrate others and whine about her troubled existence Please go resolve your issues then talk about the journey This makes her seem like a bottomless pit and he seems like an insecure man who is still trying to find himself Not A GOODLOOK Tellimg your business is not therapy ( which seems not to be working) Their recent behavior clarifies that Also didn’t she announce she didn’t need protection??? Confused??? where is the healing???😺
Amen 🙏
Exactly!
Side note I can’t believe her mom was a heron addict for 20 years, she looks tf Good
@Pizza Steve....I agree but then again I'm no expert🤷♀️
@@313GodIsMyBestie just type it on UA-cam you will GAG! The transformations are sad to see.
Wow… I have to listen
Yeah, Grammy looks a lot younger than her actual age. She definitely made it a point to take care of herself through a healthy diet and regular exercise as part of her journey to recovery.
Everyone has been traumatized one way or another growing up… we have to seek therapy for understanding what may have happened to you. I loss my mom at thirteen which was traumatizing and for me therapy was important and helpful for me. Great topic to address with soo many ppl hurting and not getting therapy for healing.
Praying for them...we all have issues
These excuses gotta stop. At a certain point, your childhood isn’t their fault it’s yours because you won’t heal and let it go! Just because you were hurt doesn’t mean you treat people wrong 💯💔
Great information on childhood traumas and issues, as a counselor, I always start with people's childhood background. It sheds light on their actions. It helps to confront adulthood issues and helps with changing one's outlook on life and behaviors. I loved the infomercial! Great work Miss Candice! 💜
Facts!
Well said! I'm thinking about myself. Major childhood traumas in my past.
Totally agree with you but that childhood trauma didn't walk him on that stage to slap Chris Rock. There is no getting around "how" this happened.
I don’t buy it. When people are always looking for ideas to blame instead of owning your own mishaps.
Exactly! I'm done with these two. Nobody is interested in their "trauma" anymore.
I was removed from the home I lived in at age 5, because the mother died. I was sent to my maternal grandmother's. The promise was I'd get to return when another mother was obtained. It never happened. I was growing up in a strange household. I was never safe or loved again, in the child's mind.
How safe was the grandmother’s house when the grandmother taught Jada to self please herself at the year of 9? This was Jada’s word at her table talk. There is nothing normal about that. This could have caused sex addiction.
Factz
She actually admitted when grown she was addicted to porn movies so she developed an addiction for sure 😳😳
I agree
Exactly sounds like child abuse .
Exactly!!!!!.. nasty ole woman!! Disgusting!
I just want to cry for her. I pray they get constant counseling. Jada is a beautiful person, inside and out. She’s not the monster people make her out to be. This explains her friendship with Tupac. He probably made her feel safe. My heart and prayers go out to the Smith family. Praying for healing.
THIS!!!!!!! 🙏🏾
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Exactly
Exactly.
I'm disappointed in myself for watching this. I don't want to give them or the Kardashians any clout.
These people have tons of excuses for why. They never apologize. Jada seems to think talking will heal her situation clearly it's not. She needs to hold herself accountable.
This whole family is weird.
Thank you!!!
They are people too and please remember no human being is perfect
@ JLambo I Agree with You 100 % but u see the replies tht Daytime 💋 … asked us to reply but there’s No 💋 for our comments Why ??? Its Not abt Agreeing to Disagree either
It’s abt Damage Control, and Pivoting. Shaping a Narrative Period !!!
@@CameliaKay9804 yes they are people that need to hold themselves accountable. Jada constantly seeks healing, but fails to reach the next step. The only way to heal is to admit you are wrong and change your behavior, not come on television and seek attention. They suffer from pride, vanity, and narcissism. They are not exempt from the truth because of celebrity status.
@@dianemcnear2119 yes I agree with the damage control. Jada seeks healing yet she has done none. She has reasons why, but theres never remorse or changed behavior. She just seeks pity.
Hey Candice, I understand where they are coming from not to mention being pulled apart by the critics for years and trying to have a functioning relationship. I also have childhood trauma that I am healing from and I am glad each year it seems I am being opened to even more past traumas that I didn't recognize before. Seeing physical abuse in the household, alcoholics, verbal and mental abuse was tough but things are way better now. I am courageously moving forward to the life the little girl in me desperately wants to have.😄
This was done before the Oscars we can definitely stop trying to have them say something about the Oscar’s lol.
All of this protection thing for her is bs to me, she didnt want to marry the man, then she keeps throwing tupac in his face, then she sleeps with their sons friend and acts as it was nothing. I dont think neither of them are happy and i think its a money thing for Will if they divorce because Jada will come out on top because Will has so many people not wanting to deal with him after the slap situation.
🗣🗣🗣🗣SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE FOLKS IN THE BACK
We alllllll have that little child inside us who was once scared, confused, happy sad, angry, alone….pick a word……who “shows up,” on different levels, as we try to navigate the complexities of an adult life.
This was good. I Always Love Jada's transparency. People Always wanna judge her and try to blame her for sh*t that we don't even know for sure...but Jada Always been real. I love it and respect it.
Too bad her being “real” didn’t stop her from inventing a supposed love relationship w/Tupac and throwing that in Will’s face In addition she also indoctrinated her children into her fantasies to the extent of looking down on Will and his role as their father (writing a letter to Tupac? excuse me ☝️ Jada is TOXIC) She needs to get with herself and Jesus and focus on how to address her own issues without dragging everyone down around her That would be the beginning of her actually “keeping it real” 😺
People on an everyday basis goes through worse they rise above through whatever means and take accountability of their mess up and move on learning .Even in these hard times people with less resources than them where they can afford therapy poorer people have these struggles everyday but they keep pushing without always making excuses for bad behaviour .
As a survivor of domestic violence, sexual abuse, bullying, poverty, clinical depression & anxiety... And one who doesn't care much for the frivolities of celebrity and all that jazz. I hope I can urge you to look a little deeper. In the same way that giving a child more material things [in lieu of real attention, support and connection] does not compensate for the resulting lack of love and well-being, fame and monetary wealth also do not equal wellness. To your point, the Smith family have been very open about how therapy has aided in their endeavors [and struggle], individually + collectively, to heal. Their show, that this UA-camr is referencing, actually dives into how psychotherapy and other methods have been a saving grace for their own family and how it can help the wider community. It's a journey, and it's one they've chosen to take -publicly. That is noteworthy to say the least, especially considering it launched years before they even had this scandal. Celebrity or not, that's quite remarkable. Also, while you may not owe them an ounce of compassion, it would perhaps be more worthwhile to note the similarities between their stories and your own- without judgement. I don't know you or what you've been, or are going through, but I'm sorry; your comment shows that you too might do well with some much needed therapy. Take care of yourself.
Jada and Will are total opposites to me they were not healthy together. I just feel Jada wanted a rough dude, and he wanted a princess to worship the ground he walks. That’s not her at all.
Hmmm, Trauma or not. I still don't understand why they are out there rationalizing their actions other than publicly apologizing to Chris Rock.
It's rude what they are doing, and that's not cool. Either way, I wish the best for everyone involved.
They didn't do anything. Will did and he apologized.
We all have gone thru these things in similar ways but it still doesn’t excuse the physical attack. I see a lot of explaining but no accountability and that’s the most important part of self analyzation and growth
I don’t buy it. Why do some people always look for a way out by blaming others or ideas instead of owning their own mess.
You nailed it!! I don't buy it either.
What exactly is she looking for a "way out" of? Oh, maybe you're referring to Will... I'm typing as I watch...
She's now an adult grow up
Her mother says yeah to everything
Exactly 💯
This family is full of it😒
Why did Will slap Chris..because that's what Jada wanted.
Power and Control simply as that!!!
Trauma doesn’t give you a pass to cheat on your spouse or smack people. Period. Imma mind my business though.
Na... This was a cover for wills actions.
I said the same thing! I believe Will and Jada is soon to divorce but Will doesn't want to look like the bad guy( look Dwayne and Tishina). So, Jada is making herself look toxic and damaged.
Will talked about witnessing his Mom's abuse and how it made him feel way before the slap when he was writing his book the doc was on UA-cam.
it wasn't his responsibility to protect his mother... He thinks he is supposed to do certain things as a man but protecting his mother is not his job neither is slapping a man over words. His mother never said son why didn't you protect me.. Jada never said go defend my honor. Will got to understand the true meaning of protection.
This was a very insightful and thoughtful interpretation. I appreciate you sharing this and hope folks lead with love and grace toward them both. Attacking folks is not conducive for any of the affected parties.
THANK YOU for being sound, we ALL lose it somewhere in our life, and sometimes don't know why,. We don't need mess on top of mess but answers, healing, and solutions
IF HOLLYWEIRD CAN FORGIVE ACTORS LIKE ROBERT DOWNEY JR., CHARLIE SHEEN & ROB LOWE, SURELY THEY CAN FORGIVE THE WILL SMITH SLAP! He has already apologized, has taken accountability and I'm sure very embarrassed and regretful of his actions. I am sure he has beaten himself up over this more than anyone.
Totally agree 💯
Great video documentation. Amazing job well down. Be blessed
I LOVE how you present your content 💚 I knew there was something deeper behind the slap and felt like it would surface eventually. I’ve always been a fan of Will Smith and related to him growing up. I knew I could listen to his music around my mother since he didn’t cuss. I even tried to make people laugh like he did. People saw me as soft and felt like I wouldn’t do anything. I’ve lashed out a couple of times because of it. It’s not a surprise that Will and Jada attracted each other. This is the case for EVERYONE in all types of relationships. Thanks for putting this together 😃💚🤗
I'm sorry but Jada ruined Will! She's so damn toxic and doesn't deserve him. She ruined his career and rep. She didn't even have his back after all that happened. I use to be such a huge fan of Jada and now I can't stand to look at her. 🙄🤦🏾♀️
There's always an excuse with her. Manipulation at it's best. Messed Will up first, then her kids and then August who's next 🙄
It's not that I don't have sympathy for what she went through, but let's be real. Ppl have been cracking jokes on them for yrs. This was not that. They're just now using that to "defend" those bad choices. Imo.
Willow saying “Aaww Mommy” was so sweet and precious to me. I am 40 years old and STILL call my Parents “Mommy” and “Daddy”.
Me too. It's not me trying to be childish. It's just a term of affection. Like how I call my husband baby. Or my friends bestie. Something about adding the "e" sound at the end feels more affectionate. lol
Will Smith trauma, Jada Pinkett Smith trauma equal toxic family
I will not care about Will and Jada’s childhood trauma until Will Smith PUBLICLY apologizes TO Chris Rock. Having childhood trauma does not make it any more acceptable or understandable that you inflicted trauma on another person as a grown adult. They are not children anymore. They need to learn to cope with their issues in healthy ways. I do feel some sympathy towards them for what they have gone through but I also think Will needs to put in the work and apologize to the person he assaulted. I need to see growth and maturity, and then I will be able to see the full picture.
He did apologize. Too bad people like George Floyd can't apologize to the pregnant black woman he held a gun to and caused her to lose her child. Y'all get so caught up in the little s***.
It’s not up to you to care about anything. The entitlement of you, you weren’t slapped
@@Brifearless5 That’s why I said he needs to apologize TO Chris Rock. Reading is key.
@@signalfire15 well said 👏🏾
I don’t mean no harm but at what point do we start taking accountability. Those people have way too much money to not find a good therapist. If they have done therapy then their therapist wasn’t good. I say they need to talk to Ms. Iyanla Vanzant to get them together.
They do not need to speak with iyanla Vanzant. 🙄
Relate to what. Girl u know she lyin
Thank you for breaking it down this way. It was fairly and sensitively done.
You're very pretty Candice.. happy you're still giving us the tea here. Thanks
I cried after watching this. It opened the wounds of my own childhood trauma.
Amen @Jenny J I feel exactly the same way.
Childhood trauma is the worst thing I’m in therapy for three years now,because.
I’m a mom and wants my kids to experience the healthiest childhood as possible and for me also I deserve better to be happy.
Yes, trauma is a complex issue many of us deal with. But it's not fair to attack others and blame it on childhood trauma. That's not how it works; be accountable for your actions and get help.
🤔 I knew there were DEEP underlying issues to their pain that had nothing to do with AA. Even though they've shared this vital piece of information with the public, all those PERFECT A$$ people out there will still ridicule them. Everyone has flaws and some type of baggage. Difference is, some of us have addressed and dealt with our issues and some have not
Exactly and these two seem to be people with the best resources to address their issues.Yet they seem more messed up then ever By the way if folks didn’t make the gory details of their unresolved problems public no one could judge anything By the was we can and should judgeBEHAVIOR And as a couple their behavior was reprehensible 😺No love lost here
People be so hungry for a scandal that they'll bite at anything... This episode of Red Table Talk was about helping mothers and daughters recognize and heal from broken bonds in their relationships. Candace @Daytime Tea Time just decided to use the opportunity to shed some light on a perspective of a -surprisingly- still ongoing discussion -the relevance of which is prolongs only inasmuch as y'all obsession with malicious cynicism. I know it's a foreign concept to some, but you can absolutely hold people accountable whilst holding room for empathy.
I’m sure everyone empathizes but Empathy isn’t a pass for bad behavior.
People need to stop judging other people you don’t know what that person been through
I'm not judging them. In order to heal one must change the behavior. We all know why they have issues. But what are they doing to correct the behavior. They still haven't apologize.
Exactly what I was saying above.
Acknowledgment is not the same as acceptation just as awareness does not equate to healing.
Both their traumas got them this far. Now they actually have to heal their traumas to become who they actually want to be not who theyve had to be.
Many layers. There is much forgiveness that needs to be found on the journey to heal. My parents did what they could; yet, had multiple traumatic experinces between them both. Those moments left impressions upon us growing. Not knowing what love is, having a voice, and not being aware of your worth spiraled out of control. Thank goodness for therapy and strong guidance. It took some much needed time to adjust associations, what I read, listened to, and to allow clarity in my spirit. Though such darkness developed, the light found its way to my soul. I don't regret anything. This is a human experience. We are here to develop. No one is equipped with all thats needed on our journey. Experience life, adjust, learn, growth, and forgive yourself.
Beautifully said.
@@shandahughes2886 Thank you Shanda.
i love you!!! this video was everything. i agree with 1000%
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Thank you for this video. This was reflective 😔
Great video babe 💜 I loved this
It CMTFU how if you don’t like someone you’ll find any way to not care what or how they feel.🤦🏽♂️
This is why you don’t trauma bond with people. They remind me of my parents.
So Jada is a master manipulator? That's all I got from this video.
That was Very Real and honest what Jada said. I can relate.
clicked soooo damn fast! 👍
I am tired of it.
But you hit the nail on the head with that last part though! See my story is so unique I am going to put it on paper soon or later. I'm patient with the process.
This family for all the time I knew about them, I always thought The Smiths had “The Perfect Family” but I can see they are just human with flaws. Jada has A LOT of issues that I can understand her better however, I think she should focus on her own healing, help her family heal, and start to take accountability for her actions…Will does too. Accountability and self acknowledging of flaws, self reflection, and getting therapy for their trauma is the beginning of the healing process. They need to heal.
Don't have children if you haven't healed your trauma. Bad mistake and by example here, it passes down gen 2 gen.
It honestly just sounds like rich people deflection..all of us non-millionaires have to do the self work and keep our hands to ourselves🤷🏿♂️🤷🏿♂️
Excellent reporting Candice. You delivered it with so much compassion. I hope this helps many to look within themselves. We are all wounded in some ways.
This is why I totally couldn’t get mad at Will for what he did for Jada. Wills just trying to give her that. Chris didn’t deserve the wrath. But it helps us get it.
Yeah absolutely agree with how where being brought up or vice versa reflects on how your life may go tread lightly especially if u have lil ones...
Yes Candice come thru with the info. I FEEL WHAT Jada is saying though.
Yes, it's just too convenient, at this moment in time
@@MrCoreyTate Well I can't say, all I can do is go by what she is saying im just glad she said something about it.
I'm not in no way shape or form trying to antagonize you, it's just concerning when just watching Will on the David Letterman show. The narrative they are pushing, is concerning.
@@MrCoreyTate I respect that and I totally agree
Oh poor jada
This is all calculated... like you said "it makes sense"
Exactly.
Here they go again 😔
We knew he needed help. Thats why he apologized and explained his actions.
Jada we have also known for a while has needed and even sought assistance.
The point though is that you can heal those traumas. This is an example of what it looks like when you are enabling each other.
Trauma bonds are real people.
And once again it's all about her and because she's damaged everyone around her has to pay for her childhood trauma? She wants to feel protected so she has some idea what being protected looks like. Why can't she offer that same protection to her husband? She exploits her trauma to get others to make her feel good. Personally, I'm tired of her wanting pity and sympathy. She won't get any from me.
But you're still here watching & commenting. So she still has your attention
@@queensamara5898 not anymore! Just unsubscribed
@@ivyd5485 Girl bye you already supported the channel by commenting twice & watching the video 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@queensamara5898 she doesn’t make any Adsense from comments sweetie - it’s views. Keep on amusing yourself tho
Did you unsubscribe because Candace said something you didn’t agree with or just sick of internet gossip?
Trauma on top of trauma. Mann.
Prayers for All Parties Involved
Violence is never the answer. However I think everyone is entitled to explain where they were coming from. It doesn't excuse the behavior, but understanding allows for growth, for them and for others. That's also very important.
If consequences are to happen so be it. But understanding the why and where someone was at mentally and emotionally in a time of distress is important for people. It helps them to recognize those things in themselves to make a change. Acknowledgement is the first step in growth.
All the Healing❤️🩹, and Counseling in the World don’t replace wen u don’t Genuinely Love, and Care abt Sum1.
Jada’s been revealing , and healing, Confessing she hadn’t felt Good in a long time with the August (Entanglement).
All the time getting on a Platform tht she’s Not Qualified for Claiming to be Healed, and
Healing others !!!
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Iv'e been telling many of you, that when Jada was young, a lot went on! I knew her from a small child and know's the back story of her life!
I am from B'more, don't know Jada's history. I can relate esp. with the mother. ❤❤Home girl always..❤❤
So because he has trauma he's allowed to cause trauma to others ignorance at its best
Fantastic observation!
This was my conclusion immediately after it all happened.
Knowing her husband's trauma, why did she put him in a position where he shamed his career and his masculinity?
All this is exhausting. Will and Jada are both prisoners of their own relationship. No matter how much they tried to liberate each other in their marriage they had to keep so many components a secret in order to have public approval. That's not freedom that's enslavement. First they were Hollywood couple royalty, then give out all this advice since we are envied even though we are not complete behind closed doors, then it's we have issues and traumas please don't judge if we act out and our side affairs come out. Just get off all these public platforms trying explain to us why you have issues while still trying to "educate." Get the therapy you need in a safe place and stop trying to capitalize on it when there's so much work to be done. Work on your relationship, get remarried or get divorced who cares. Just stop this circus please.
all that head bobbin and goofy faces she did doesn't excuse yall's toxic behavior, address that, address how to apologize
I get it now!
Sounds like she's making excuses and is looking for sympathy.That might explain the why, but it doesn't excuse narcissistic tendencies. Her and her mama crazy and I feel bad for Willow. How do you justify teaching a 9 YEAR OLD girl how to sexually please herself? (The Grandma) and Jada how do you not know that your daughter was cutting herself??? Jaden wanted to be emancipated at 16 and they allowed it. It's like where was the parenting? Trey seems like the only normal one and that's because he has Sheree. Jada doing all this woe is me shit, but still hasn't came to her husband's defense. They should just divorce and call it a day. 🤷🏾♀️
Bunch of bs… one has to be responsible for their own security all the time! Nobody can live our life for us.
You look fab first and foremost.
I’m glad these discussions are being presented. There is always a root to why we act respond and become who we are. As these parts of us heal we become more of the authentic version of ourselves. I have seen Jada evolve and I pray beyond the drama and layered trauma her and her family is able to find peace within themselves. Love this
In all our getting Let’s get understanding
I just feel like their family dynamic is weird.....Will, Jada, Willow, Jaden.
I'm sure it's true, it's too ubiquitous to be untrue, however, I do think this is a bit of damage control
Looking beautiful as always Candice 😍! I have never liked Jada's vibe honestly.....she comes across as very condescending, and her energy is just really heavy compared to Will. This all makes a lot of sense.
I understand both of them period.
Seems like they were designed for each other 😌
wow Candice you look so different, you look good though! was it the diet only? that why you didn't do face on cam videos? you look great!!!
Oh god this family is humiliating
Childhood trauma has been my middle name...
The white lady didn't look like she understood.
Stop twisting things around when you clearly know that Jada wasn’t the least bit scared of Chris Rock. Just annoyed.
Will Smith was wrong. Jada is still healing from her childhood traumas but she clearly stated she didn’t need no protection from a mere silly joke. Kmt
We all had to deal with stuff growing up