We are in the same âge and you just sum up and miserable isolated existence, I still didn't figure out life yet , no friends no love , just silence and solitude, what I'm trying to do is to survive my days and try to find meaning inside this sinking meaningless life
@Rain-ec4jj 0 seconds ago @assiakessai I thought you're not lonely because you're a woman. I heard women have it easy in terms of social life. People seems to care about loneliness of women but if you're a man barely anybody cares. It seems that way.
@Rain-ec4jj 0 seconds ago I thought you're not lonely because you're a woman. I heard women have it easy in terms of social life. People seems to care about loneliness of women but if you're a man barely anybody cares. It seems that way.
I think the loneliness we feel stems more from the comparisons we do every day with other people's lives. Back then when everything was analogue there was no 'window' into the lives of others, so naturally our benchmarks were more real, less perfect, and I guess we would only compare ourself (if even) with people we actually knew. So yes, I can fully relate to how this all went in a downward spiral after covid. Thanks for making content.
The problem with pubs is, it's not just to do with costs, more of the younger generation as well as all generations are realising the impact of alcohol and how bad it is for you. Night clubs are also facing similar crisis as pubs. Most of the younger crowd would rather hang out in the Gym with friends, which isn't a bad choice if i'm honest. I'm lucky to have lived through the night club, pubs era so I'm glad I made the most of it! 92 born here.
Interesting, seems like the younger guys in the UK haven't lost their interest in drinking but maybe it's different in other countries. Definitely glad to be part of the pub culture, drinking or not.
I agree. I stopped drinking in July 2023 (1993 born) as I turned 30 and something clicked and I realised that I felt as though I was wasting my time drinking as it made me feel so shit to be honest, hangovers lasted longer, I felt more anxious and I kept breaking promises to myself. Eg couldn’t keep new habits up. Since I stopped I rarely go to a pub and if I do, it’s not for long and I drive home. I go to the gym a lot more, I’ve kept it up since I stopped drinking, I started journalling since I stopped and kept it up. I feel soo much better. The community I now pursue is not the pub community, nothing against it, I would just rather be part of a gym community. I did enjoy my youth drinking pub/club vibe but I feel like I’ve outgrown it mentally.
I went to social anxiety meetup in Berlin for the same purpose. But I met very difficult people over there, they were younger and not at all respectful towards my culture or me. I never liked it and didnt know how to deal with that situation as I was already not in top of my forms.
Gracias, tus videos me ayudan mucho porque es bueno saber que no estoy solo, hay más personas como tú que atraviesan los mismos problemas que yo. Actualmente estoy tratando de poner en marcha de nuevo mi vida y empezar de a poco a conocer gente nueva. Veremos cómo nos va en este proceso. Saludos desde 🇲🇽
Similar age to you. Really resonate with your experience at boxing. Have done MMA, BJJ etc over the years and never really formed any deeper bonds during it. Always found myself on the outside of things. People act like they are an easy way to make new friends but I’ve never found it to be like that (having been to many gyms). Unless you are in the inner circle who trains twice a day, you are just a random face
I am so lonely but I cannot show this outside. At work, people think I am positive and outgoing but I am so lonely and have no friends. I have no hobbies, I just wake up go to work come back home, sleep, go to work. At a dead end job but too scared to quit and need to pay mortgage and bills. I feel like I am stuck in a rut - how can I come out of this?
Can I ask you something? Not shade at all, I’m just in the same situation years now and every time I post similar stories on my social media I delete them a few hours after because I feel ashamed, that people will be sorry for me and call me a loser and I don’t want other people to know that I feel all the things that you say in your videos because I feel more failure that way. How you deal with that feeling (if you have it of course) ;
Honestly I hope technology keeps getting worse and worse for us (to a degree ofcourse). But now with AI, and the fear how it will replace us in so many areas of life, people are finally being fed up with being *connected* through technology. I think, and hope, that we are at a 'darkest before the dawn' type of place in history regarding technology.
Well first of all there is no way to reach out to you to begin with. sometimes when you are searching for connections you gotta make yourself accessible ;) gl
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One young mate from czechia thanks you. He says that this video helped him a lot and he needed to hear these advices. Thank you
We are in the same âge and you just sum up and miserable isolated existence, I still didn't figure out life yet , no friends no love , just silence and solitude, what I'm trying to do is to survive my days and try to find meaning inside this sinking meaningless life
Well hopefully you can use some of the advice in this video. Humans needs connection, without it I think we all feel lost.
@@JayWallace I find always comfort in your words like listening to a therapist, thank you so much
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@assiakessai I thought you're not lonely because you're a woman. I heard women have it easy in terms of social life. People seems to care about loneliness of women but if you're a man barely anybody cares. It seems that way.
@Rain-ec4jj
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I thought you're not lonely because you're a woman. I heard women have it easy in terms of social life. People seems to care about loneliness of women but if you're a man barely anybody cares. It seems that way.
I think the loneliness we feel stems more from the comparisons we do every day with other people's lives. Back then when everything was analogue there was no 'window' into the lives of others, so naturally our benchmarks were more real, less perfect, and I guess we would only compare ourself (if even) with people we actually knew. So yes, I can fully relate to how this all went in a downward spiral after covid. Thanks for making content.
Like our childhood.
The problem with pubs is, it's not just to do with costs, more of the younger generation as well as all generations are realising the impact of alcohol and how bad it is for you. Night clubs are also facing similar crisis as pubs.
Most of the younger crowd would rather hang out in the Gym with friends, which isn't a bad choice if i'm honest.
I'm lucky to have lived through the night club, pubs era so I'm glad I made the most of it! 92 born here.
Interesting, seems like the younger guys in the UK haven't lost their interest in drinking but maybe it's different in other countries.
Definitely glad to be part of the pub culture, drinking or not.
I agree. I stopped drinking in July 2023 (1993 born) as I turned 30 and something clicked and I realised that I felt as though I was wasting my time drinking as it made me feel so shit to be honest, hangovers lasted longer, I felt more anxious and I kept breaking promises to myself. Eg couldn’t keep new habits up. Since I stopped I rarely go to a pub and if I do, it’s not for long and I drive home. I go to the gym a lot more, I’ve kept it up since I stopped drinking, I started journalling since I stopped and kept it up. I feel soo much better. The community I now pursue is not the pub community, nothing against it, I would just rather be part of a gym community. I did enjoy my youth drinking pub/club vibe but I feel like I’ve outgrown it mentally.
You look like a more happy guys than before. Congrats on your success and thanks for documenting your journey for us !
I went to social anxiety meetup in Berlin for the same purpose. But I met very difficult people over there, they were younger and not at all respectful towards my culture or me. I never liked it and didnt know how to deal with that situation as I was already not in top of my forms.
Gracias, tus videos me ayudan mucho porque es bueno saber que no estoy solo, hay más personas como tú que atraviesan los mismos problemas que yo. Actualmente estoy tratando de poner en marcha de nuevo mi vida y empezar de a poco a conocer gente nueva. Veremos cómo nos va en este proceso. Saludos desde 🇲🇽
Similar age to you. Really resonate with your experience at boxing. Have done MMA, BJJ etc over the years and never really formed any deeper bonds during it. Always found myself on the outside of things. People act like they are an easy way to make new friends but I’ve never found it to be like that (having been to many gyms). Unless you are in the inner circle who trains twice a day, you are just a random face
Thx for advice ❤ i can guarantee this works- i am member of a local cyclists group and it really helps not to feel alone
Great to hear it's worked for you too
I am so lonely but I cannot show this outside. At work, people think I am positive and outgoing but I am so lonely and have no friends. I have no hobbies, I just wake up go to work come back home, sleep, go to work. At a dead end job but too scared to quit and need to pay mortgage and bills. I feel like I am stuck in a rut - how can I come out of this?
Can I ask you something? Not shade at all, I’m just in the same situation years now and every time I post similar stories on my social media I delete them a few hours after because I feel ashamed, that people will be sorry for me and call me a loser and I don’t want other people to know that I feel all the things that you say in your videos because I feel more failure that way. How you deal with that feeling (if you have it of course) ;
Smoking update?!
Honestly I hope technology keeps getting worse and worse for us (to a degree ofcourse). But now with AI, and the fear how it will replace us in so many areas of life, people are finally being fed up with being *connected* through technology. I think, and hope, that we are at a 'darkest before the dawn' type of place in history regarding technology.
😢 no friends for long time, no gf never had
Hey bro how are you doing now?😍
Well first of all there is no way to reach out to you to begin with. sometimes when you are searching for connections you gotta make yourself accessible ;) gl