yep! most people want to reach out to ease anxiety. LET IT GO. You will feel so much better. Cry/Scream/Cuss/Be angry/sad but GET IT OUT! then you will finally not care and move on. God has a plan. he saw conversations you didn’t see and things you didn’t see. It’s a blessing.
It hurts like hell, I literally feel like Im dying. But I won’t turn back. I just want to feel better and move on. I want nothing to do with him at all.
Me too, it hurts like hell but trust me in a while you will feel MUCH better. Maybe cutting soul ties could also help and watching some self love/respect affirmations/meditations🤔it helped me a lot while listening when I was sleeping.
I keep havin dreams of my ex that we're back together. Hurts me so much she was capable of doing this type of hurt. . Nerver saw it coming. I miss my ex
My ex has been breadcrumbing me since the breakup, a few weeks now. Thanks to the support of friends, my therapist, and your videos, I'm at the point of fully giving her the breakup. I know my mind can't handle the ups and downs emotionally, hopefully this changes the power dynamics and allows me to fully heal.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I followed through and told them that I'm stepping away from her and continuing my journey. I really don't care if I ever hear from her again...time for me.
You’re right! They’re not worth it They’re nothing but heartless monsters who left you when you needed them the most. Relationship isn’t a feeling It’s not supposed to be fun and happy happy times! It’s a commitment. Its searching for a soulmate who’s there for you, loves you even at your flaws (as long as you didn’t cheat on them or abuse them or hurt them in a way that’d drain them), they work together to solve problems with you and move mountains and swim the deepest sea. It is about understanding and having someone to grow old with. But unfortunately my generation is too fucked up. It’s full of idiots who know nothing about the concept of true love Relationship are a two way street takes two people to make and break a relationship. And if they’re not willing to work it out they’re NOT worth it
I hear you, but soulmates aren’t really a thing. That’s putting someone too far up on a pedestal. If you treat them like a celebrity they will only ever treat you like a fan. They’re not monsters for leaving. They feel how they feel. Just like you feel how you feel. Both are okay. I hope you feel better soon.
Even I did the same I haven't begged them to stop I just gave her the breakup she wanted. Coming to how I am copping with the loss it hurts and every one has a dark side I am using my dark side to not play mind games with ex or to hurt her in any way but to get over the breakup and work on myself.
Those emotions come with healing self love literally can take you through so much pain but that the reward when you get through it nothing else on this planet will ever be able to wound you again if you get wise from it. Unfortunately some continue to repeat the cycle
I think my ex was surprised. We had a mostly good four -year relationship. He is avoidant. He monkey branched after a long slow fade. He had planned to continue to date and be friends with me at the same time. I am sure that worked fine since he was seeing me and had a new love, also. That would have been ideal since she is indeed low hanging fruit. The situation was set up by her family and he went along with it. People pleasing ....I simply said "okay" when he finally told me and walked away without a tear. No friendship, no questions, nothing....It backfired, lol. NC forever for me. He is so immature.
Mine wanted to be friends as well, following a slow fade during which he was acting single behind my back, talking to multiple women, and continuing to lie about it to my face when I caught him. "Friends" indeed. Option, more like. I said no. I made a lot of very poor decisions when it came to him, but this is the first of a long series of smart ones.
Is this still useful if you've screwed it up so many times already? now 4 months apart and every time 0 contact has failed and added drama? does it still make sense now?
At the moment of being shockingly dumped with no warning I immediately gave hiim the breakup before I knew anything about breakups! But I always told him love is a choice and we choose each other until we don't. I Said I loved him but respected his decision and let him go. He looked bemused and upset...not upset enough to fix it though 😅
Can we get a video titled let them burn 🔥 my ex is my sons mother and is using the kids against me,you can never go back for the kids once she's had another man in thier life.
Made that video ages ago 😈 As for her using the kids, that’s beyond my scope. Might be worth consulting an expert in that field. ua-cam.com/video/csJYmnRqJ8M/v-deo.html
Nick how would you respond to ex who you met by accident during an event and they gave you back (after 11 months) something of value for you, not financial, you thought you lost? So they are giving this thing to you, bit nervous and then they say "was good to see you" 🤷♀️ not "nice to see you" or "how are you?" Could you give me a tip on how I should respond?
I would personally try to stay on my centre, be polite, match their energy and not overthink what the did or didn’t say. They said what they said and it is what it is. 😊
This came up at the perfect time, last night her mother called me with my ex in the room. They wanted to see "How I was". It's amazing how seven months of grief can end in a single moment, I can't stand her and for the first time I'm finally ready to move on.
Hey what about if it was a messy breakup, and you did beg and plead, does that ruin it completely, or is there still a chance, I am working on myself alot, but its been an incredibly hard two moths without her, and been absolutely NC for 38 days now, with the exception of seeing her walking one day where we exchanged waves?
@revised mercury, does it ruin it completely? Not necessarily, but i would advise you to get your intentions behind no contact in order. If your intention behind no contact is purely to get her back, then you’ll probably make it a lot harder. If your intention is to get you back and level up, you’ll have an easier time.
When I got dumped I just said ok. We was together a year. My youngest child kept trying to call him and he was ignoring her. I didn’t even know. But even getting dumped I feel sad but I feel relief bc I feel as if I lowered my standards dating this person who begged me too. Than I get dumped I honestly feel like the audacity. I was blocked on every single thing by this person. Like I said I’m more so sad this is affecting my children than me. That’s the only thing working in his favor but I know soon the memory will fade frontier kitties minds lol
I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds rough. I think it’s always important to keep in our minds “that’s just who they are. That’s okay but it’s not for me” That behaviour was always within him.
I dont know if she's a narcissist, she's happy on hurting me. I gave her a freedom she wanted. Now she's on a rebound but darn. We need to see and talk to each other for kids and sometimes meet at home. It's hard to handle, tell me what to do 🥺 Notice this i'll subscribe.
That sounds rough Aldric. The only thing I can suggest is you keep strictly business when it comes to your kids. You discus your kids only with her. Stay on your centre, be polite but hold boundaries. You’re going to be fine.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thankyou so much! You earned a subscriber. I'll update you to comment section on your future videos on happen to us. No matter what happens i'll be fine for our kids ❤️
You know the most hurtful part is that i am the dumper, i feel better for weeks and then relapse other weeks and it goes on and on like this forever. Its been 7 months since i broke up with her, i tried to reconcile after 2 months but then found out that she started drincking, smoking, and fucking around with people in collage. The thing is, i wanted to break up with her for 1 year. And deep down i know she was very bad for me. But i work on myself, get in a good spot, then try to date, see that no woman that meet my (really not that big) standards, and then proceed to thunk of her again for weeks.... (I am 19, male, and i've had a 1,5 - 2 y relationship)
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Yeah i have to remind myself that. But (almost) every coach speaks about how much power the dumpee has and i get why. And also it maybe is because it was my first at everything, relationships sex etc... It is a very long story (as all are) but i wish i could just fucking delete my mind or something. I still hurt, i still listen everyday to either you, mehran dadbeth, or others, and i still miss her. But as mehran put it "When you are young you act more by infatuation and bluntly sex. When you had the sex you still chose to leave, so stick with your choise..."
I seriously wanted to apply this, to fully let her go once she broke it off. But she said some really hurtful, daring and untrue things that I just couldn’t resist giving her a piece of my mind as well. Not to mention she had to pick up her stuff from my house a couple of weeks later so communication couldn’t stop no matter how much I wanted to. Now it’s been more than 6 months from the breakup, 4 months of no contact.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick... Really nothing 2 elaborate on. I made a decision and cut her from the team. People will always show you who they are. Either now or later and its up 2 you/me to pay attention and not become complacent, especially if ur gut is telling you something is off. After a few communication about issues and no adjustments. She was cut from the team ‼️
@@Kopite19877Yes indeed I am . Had to look up that one. Chuffed 😅. I like it. Realizing ones tru potential and purpose, you make decisions better and easier. It seems you might not understand your place/lane in life. And its okay , one day you 2 will become "chuffed" with confidence and notariaty. When u get there u will understand. That we all are not the same and not equal in every fascist of life. Its a beautiful revelation.
Time will come where I will stop watching these kinds of videos
If you been listening longer than 3 months, it’s to listen to something else. Listen to the self help content on my channel and other channels.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Almost 5 months post BU.. I look in to your other videos. Thanks
Me too😜 keep healing🤗loads of love💜
7 months 😢
2 years going strong 😂😂😂 I really need to move on!!
yep! most people want to reach out to ease anxiety. LET IT GO. You will feel so much better. Cry/Scream/Cuss/Be angry/sad but GET IT OUT! then you will finally not care and move on. God has a plan. he saw conversations you didn’t see and things you didn’t see. It’s a blessing.
It hurts like hell, I literally feel like Im dying. But I won’t turn back. I just want to feel better and move on. I want nothing to do with him at all.
Why did you leave?
Me too, it hurts like hell but trust me in a while you will feel MUCH better. Maybe cutting soul ties could also help and watching some self love/respect affirmations/meditations🤔it helped me a lot while listening when I was sleeping.
I didn't fight at all. Don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya
I keep havin dreams of my ex that we're back together. Hurts me so much she was capable of doing this type of hurt. . Nerver saw it coming. I miss my ex
My ex has been breadcrumbing me since the breakup, a few weeks now. Thanks to the support of friends, my therapist, and your videos, I'm at the point of fully giving her the breakup. I know my mind can't handle the ups and downs emotionally, hopefully this changes the power dynamics and allows me to fully heal.
Well done buddy. Take the power back 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I followed through and told them that I'm stepping away from her and continuing my journey. I really don't care if I ever hear from her again...time for me.
My ex wife did not expect me the have the confidence and power to actually walk away. Its so magnective to her for all the wrong reasons.
You’re right!
They’re not worth it
They’re nothing but heartless monsters who left you when you needed them the most.
Relationship isn’t a feeling
It’s not supposed to be fun and happy happy times!
It’s a commitment. Its searching for a soulmate who’s there for you, loves you even at your flaws (as long as you didn’t cheat on them or abuse them or hurt them in a way that’d drain them), they work together to solve problems with you and move mountains and swim the deepest sea. It is about understanding and having someone to grow old with.
But unfortunately my generation is too fucked up. It’s full of idiots who know nothing about the concept of true love
Relationship are a two way street takes two people to make and break a relationship. And if they’re not willing to work it out they’re NOT worth it
I hear you, but soulmates aren’t really a thing. That’s putting someone too far up on a pedestal.
If you treat them like a celebrity they will only ever treat you like a fan.
They’re not monsters for leaving. They feel how they feel. Just like you feel how you feel. Both are okay.
I hope you feel better soon.
Even I did the same I haven't begged them to stop I just gave her the breakup she wanted. Coming to how I am copping with the loss it hurts and every one has a dark side I am using my dark side to not play mind games with ex or to hurt her in any way but to get over the breakup and work on myself.
Good attitude buddy 💪💪💪
Thank you Nick ❤
self love means cutting people out . I am in control 💯💯
I messed the relationship up. She forgave me. But then she decided she couldn’t get past it 9 months later. I’m full of shame. Regret. Guilt. Etc.
I’m sorry to hear that, buddy.
It’s indeed a nasty feeling.
Be kind to yourself, heal, and fix the parts of you that need to improve.
Did she try to be friends with you after the break up?
Those emotions come with healing self love literally can take you through so much pain but that the reward when you get through it nothing else on this planet will ever be able to wound you again if you get wise from it. Unfortunately some continue to repeat the cycle
I think my ex was surprised. We had a mostly good four -year relationship. He is avoidant. He monkey branched after a long slow fade. He had planned to continue to date and be friends with me at the same time. I am sure that worked fine since he was seeing me and had a new love, also. That would have been ideal since she is indeed low hanging fruit. The situation was set up by her family and he went along with it. People pleasing ....I simply said "okay" when he finally told me and walked away without a tear. No friendship, no questions, nothing....It backfired, lol. NC forever for me. He is so immature.
Mine wanted to be friends as well, following a slow fade during which he was acting single behind my back, talking to multiple women, and continuing to lie about it to my face when I caught him. "Friends" indeed. Option, more like. I said no. I made a lot of very poor decisions when it came to him, but this is the first of a long series of smart ones.
Is this still useful if you've screwed it up so many times already? now 4 months apart and every time 0 contact has failed and added drama? does it still make sense now?
No contact is to get you back, my friend. It is not a tactic to get an ex back.
Thanks for the video Nick I needed to hear this again, im in NC , I know what you mean I have good days and bad days, God bless you
My pleasure Alex, I hope you’re well.
Updates ?
At the moment of being shockingly dumped with no warning I immediately gave hiim the breakup before I knew anything about breakups! But I always told him love is a choice and we choose each other until we don't. I Said I loved him but respected his decision and let him go. He looked bemused and upset...not upset enough to fix it though 😅
Sadly, most think love is a feeling. Only one outcome to that kind of thinking. A breakup!
Can we get a video titled let them burn 🔥 my ex is my sons mother and is using the kids against me,you can never go back for the kids once she's had another man in thier life.
Made that video ages ago 😈
As for her using the kids, that’s beyond my scope. Might be worth consulting an expert in that field.
ua-cam.com/video/csJYmnRqJ8M/v-deo.html
Correct...let them go👏👏👏
I really needed this. Thank you!!
My please, i hope you’re well.
Love Nicks videos
Nick how would you respond to ex who you met by accident during an event and they gave you back (after 11 months) something of value for you, not financial, you thought you lost? So they are giving this thing to you, bit nervous and then they say "was good to see you" 🤷♀️ not "nice to see you" or "how are you?" Could you give me a tip on how I should respond?
I would personally try to stay on my centre, be polite, match their energy and not overthink what the did or didn’t say. They said what they said and it is what it is. 😊
How do I find that saucy backing track?
It’s one of UA-cams finest. Can only download it from their approved music list for videos I believe.
Saucy...sounds like supermarket music😅
6:02 idk. I’ve never been “missed”. Women move on and then don’t care. And think bad things about you in hindsight. It always happens.
Just because someone doesn’t reach out, doesn’t mean they don’t miss you sometimes my friend.
I'd like to believe this but i begged and pleaded and she's hella avoidant 🤦♂️ lol
Avoidants play by a different rule book, buddy.
This came up at the perfect time, last night her mother called me with my ex in the room. They wanted to see "How I was".
It's amazing how seven months of grief can end in a single moment, I can't stand her and for the first time I'm finally ready to move on.
Glad you’re doing well Mark. Stay strong 💪
Hey what about if it was a messy breakup, and you did beg and plead, does that ruin it completely, or is there still a chance, I am working on myself alot, but its been an incredibly hard two moths without her, and been absolutely NC for 38 days now, with the exception of seeing her walking one day where we exchanged waves?
Yeah I did all the stupid shit too...
@@mariacanfly6027 sorry to hear that, hope things work out the way you want them too
@revised mercury, does it ruin it completely? Not necessarily, but i would advise you to get your intentions behind no contact in order. If your intention behind no contact is purely to get her back, then you’ll probably make it a lot harder. If your intention is to get you back and level up, you’ll have an easier time.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you I am trying very hard to do so
You’re doing fine buddy. Forward is forward.
When I got dumped I just said ok. We was together a year. My youngest child kept trying to call him and he was ignoring her. I didn’t even know. But even getting dumped I feel sad but I feel relief bc I feel as if I lowered my standards dating this person who begged me too. Than I get dumped I honestly feel like the audacity. I was blocked on every single thing by this person. Like I said I’m more so sad this is affecting my children than me. That’s the only thing working in his favor but I know soon the memory will fade frontier kitties minds lol
From their little minds
I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds rough.
I think it’s always important to keep in our minds “that’s just who they are. That’s okay but it’s not for me”
That behaviour was always within him.
I dont know if she's a narcissist, she's happy on hurting me. I gave her a freedom she wanted. Now she's on a rebound but darn. We need to see and talk to each other for kids and sometimes meet at home. It's hard to handle, tell me what to do 🥺
Notice this i'll subscribe.
That sounds rough Aldric.
The only thing I can suggest is you keep strictly business when it comes to your kids. You discus your kids only with her. Stay on your centre, be polite but hold boundaries. You’re going to be fine.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thankyou so much! You earned a subscriber.
I'll update you to comment section on your future videos on happen to us.
No matter what happens i'll be fine for our kids ❤️
Appreciate your support.
I hope you feel better.
I gave my ex the breakup but found out she moneky branched. She wanted me back before she told me about the other guy.
They all
Money branch
What if they monkey branches , can they miss you still ?
It’s always possibility.
Legendary!!! 😎
My ex instantly blocked me after I gave him the breakup, I already regret doing it. It’s so painful.
Never regret choosing yourself
Thank you Nick ❤
My pleasure.
You know the most hurtful part is that i am the dumper, i feel better for weeks and then relapse other weeks and it goes on and on like this forever. Its been 7 months since i broke up with her, i tried to reconcile after 2 months but then found out that she started drincking, smoking, and fucking around with people in collage.
The thing is, i wanted to break up with her for 1 year. And deep down i know she was very bad for me. But i work on myself, get in a good spot, then try to date, see that no woman that meet my (really not that big) standards, and then proceed to thunk of her again for weeks....
(I am 19, male, and i've had a 1,5 - 2 y relationship)
Sounds like you made the right choice buddy.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Yeah i have to remind myself that. But (almost) every coach speaks about how much power the dumpee has and i get why.
And also it maybe is because it was my first at everything, relationships sex etc...
It is a very long story (as all are) but i wish i could just fucking delete my mind or something. I still hurt, i still listen everyday to either you, mehran dadbeth, or others, and i still miss her. But as mehran put it "When you are young you act more by infatuation and bluntly sex. When you had the sex you still chose to leave, so stick with your choise..."
If you could delete your mind, you’d never improve my man. Pain leads to growth leads to happiness.
I seriously wanted to apply this, to fully let her go once she broke it off. But she said some really hurtful, daring and untrue things that I just couldn’t resist giving her a piece of my mind as well. Not to mention she had to pick up her stuff from my house a couple of weeks later so communication couldn’t stop no matter how much I wanted to. Now it’s been more than 6 months from the breakup, 4 months of no contact.
I hope you’re feeling better Remy.
Nope im the dumper 👍‼️
Care to expand on your comment?
You seem chuffed with yourself? Im sure the dumpee is in a better place 👍🏻
@@TheLoveFix-Nick... Really nothing 2 elaborate on. I made a decision and cut her from the team. People will always show you who they are. Either now or later and its up 2 you/me to pay attention and not become complacent, especially if ur gut is telling you something is off. After a few communication about issues and no adjustments. She was cut from the team ‼️
@@Kopite19877Yes indeed I am . Had to look up that one. Chuffed 😅. I like it. Realizing ones tru potential and purpose, you make decisions better and easier. It seems you might not understand your place/lane in life. And its okay , one day you 2 will become "chuffed" with confidence and notariaty. When u get there u will understand. That we all are not the same and not equal in every fascist of life. Its a beautiful revelation.