just want to add. saying "mmhhm" "yeah" "then" is actually part of a good therapeutic communication techniques. it is like accepting what the other person is saying and giving general leads to continue on what that person is saying. so ashley don't feel bad about it. it is really good because it shows you're following the conversation
agree completely! i understand why it bothers some people, especially in a podcast setting, but the person “mhmm”ing is most likely just trying to provide verbal affirmations rather than self-insert.
it's called 'backchanelling', or 'minimal response'! it's a topic management strategy and, like you said, it shows the speaker that other participants in the conversation are actively listening :))
This was actually the best podcast episode ever. Just real people talking about real things they’ve dealt with. Very relatable and comforting to hear you guys went through similar things ❤️
Ashley - pinching the nose is DEFINITELY an Asian thing! I'm Filipina and my mom and aunts did this to themselves, they did it to me and my sister growing up and have done it to my daughter as well! Having a flat nose is somehow considered less desirable than a pointier nose! 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Yeah I’m Latino but we still did it to “mold” our noses to look better, my mom would have a hot drink and her hands would get warm from the outside of the cup, and then she would and pinch our nose with her warm fingers.
I appreciate your efforts to continue sharing with us, despite all the negativity and pushback. I really enjoyed this raw and genuine episode. Thanks for sharing :)
nobody’s pushing back people are just saying it feels off without Annemarie. I’d say about half of Annemarie’s audience came from Elliot snd Kelly originally and then another chunk of that half from Ashley.
when ashley said she gets nervous about eating fried food, bread, french fries...i gasped out loud because that’s literally me and something im struggling with. i literally feel soooo shitty if i eat it.
You really should not fell like that at al!! All of those foods and ingredients have nutrients, and those nutrients are for your body and health, these type of foos are "bad" if you eat them constantly, remember; you don't eat for gaining or losing weight, you do eat for giving love, nutrients and health to yourself ♡
Ashley is speaking my language, for real.🤯 I don’t know if it’s because we have the same birthday/same star sign or what exactly BUT I completely agree with what she was saying about active listening. I do really love when people acknowledge what I’m saying otherwise I’m like did they even hear me or are they even paying attention... And I also have listened to y’all’s podcast before and noticed Ashley saying like a lot but I appreciated it because I do the same and it made her seem more human to me just knowing that someone who I look up to isn’t perfect ya know none of us are. Using filler words made her feel so much more relatable to me. And the whole feeling like you can express yourself better/more fluidly through writing, I also can totally relate to. I’ve always felt that way and I have also always wanted to write a novel haha spooky! Love Ashley and will always support her and ur mom’s house. You guys are all amazing and I’m so stoked to see what y’all have coming our way! Stay true!
I rly connected with this episode as a person that’s constantly battling w EDs. I appreciate you guys touching base on this topic and sharing past struggles. It really makes me feel like I’m not alone. ✨ Ps. choke undies
It's so wild that so many insecurities are birthed from kids saying the meanest things so casually not realizing that it sticks with the person for the rest of their lives.😩
This is my favorite episode so far! There really was no holding back and I was surprised how blunt everyone was. Your genuine honesty resonates, thanks guys.💗
As a wax specialist I’ve seen hair everywhere ! And honestly it is so normal for everyone i mean everyone to have hair in places we never thought it would be possible! So it’s completely okay 🤗 every body is unique in there own way. Hair or no hair
Just hearing that the people you see on screen have their own struggles, especially having a female voice, makes so much of a difference. Like we all know that everyone goes through their fair share of problems, but it makes you feel like you're not alone. I really appreciate y'all for bringing this to light. Also, as a female, I've not heard much about male insecurities, and listening to Kelly talk and share was very helpful. :)
When Ashley said, " when you find the right partner they are not gonna care" and Kelly started laughing I was also on the floor laughing. Gotta love Kelly 🤣🤣🤣
I’m so happy and proud of them to open up about the thing most people would rather hide, definitely as influencers. Normally most would just show their best moments and it’s awesome to share the good moments but the not so great stuff is what makes us human. This helps create a healthy environment and view for the people watching. LITERALLY AMAZING INFLUENCES
Mine was in middle school, when I realized my family couldn’t afford the nicer things, the brand name things, and often shopped at what the kids considered poor people store. I remember when converse shoes were the biggest hype in school and everyone had a pair. I wanted one so badly and my mom took me to Payless and we found something very similar called Airwalks which I’m sure people my age know exactly what I’m talking about. I wore them to school all excited and right away a girl called me out for having fake converses, I felt so ashamed and embarrassed I tried ripping off the logo, and just decided to never wear those shoes again... another incident at school when a girl complimented me on my lace top and asked me where I got it, when I told her I got it from TJ Max, her whole expression changed and she gave me a nasty pitiful look and just said “oh..”. I hated myself for the longest time because we couldn’t afford stores like Aeropostale and American eagle... which looking back at now is just so stupid and ridiculous. I just wish I respected myself more... like affordable clothes fucking rock!
This is honestly so brave and amazing. I think people are afraid to talk about their insecurities but a lot of people are going to connect and relate to you guys because insecurities are something everyone has. Thank you for sharing your stories
So as a parent with 3 kids a bit older than you I can say this was an excellent episode full of wholesome honesty. I will say personally what you see as your greatest limitations can absolutely push you to overcome it - shyness, fear of water or being accepted, physical ability, work ethic, being interesting or empathetic - if you are not where you wish to be - make a plan and change; you are a human, not a tree - move on and reshape your world. I am pleased that our kids have seen us do this and know they always have our support - and that our insecurities didn't get passed down to them. Can't wait to see how you all continue to grow!
I actually really appreciate Ashley’s little comments in between conversations. I also do the same since it’s lowkey become a habit lol. And I recently just learned that it’s actually really good to show that you’re acknowledging what the other person is saying, to a certain extent at least.
I love how the guys are uncomfortable about talking their sizes buuutttt they talk about it because they know there is a standard out there and not everyone is meeting that standard, and a lot of people can relate to it and that it shouldn’t prevent people from getting out there and be confident with what they have
i think that the "mmm" and "like" just shows that it is a conversation among friends that listen eachother and it keeps it natural, btw i really enjoyed this podcast!! choke undies
I really enjoyed this episode! It’s very refreshing and it was a much needed reminder that having differences is okay. It was comforting to know that I’m not the only one with certain insecurities. Now that we are back to doing things in person, it’s really made me overthink and question my body and appearance again. Especially with taking off my mask for some reason. But yeah I’m definitely working on self love and accepting myself a bit more. Anyway, thank you guy’s for this episode. You don’t realize how many people you’ve helped. ❤️✨:> So proud of you guy’s!!❤️✨
yes pleaseeenendnshe i will always appreciate being in an asian household for this. especially like if u touched poop with ur hand u wouldn’t just use tissue to wipe it off, you’d wash it so imagine the poop sitting in ur ass 😭😭😭
I loooove how u say mhm!!! Keep saying it !! It’s not annoying !! Those ppl say that maybe because they also say it or they have ocd and everything annoys them ! Don’t worry about it girl !! I promissse it doesn’t matter. We love it !
Saying "uhm", "like", "mhmm" etc. is a mannerism. I also say it a lot during casual talks but in med school, my proctors always interrupt me and remind me to stop saying them when I'm presenting cases. I'm doing my best refraining from using them but because I've used them my whole life, it is hard af.
I'm so glad I grew up on an island with so many people looking like me, definitely helps with the way you think about yourself... I had insecurities growing up but certainly not as bad as another black kid who might be in a predominantly white country.
Maybe you should to a podcast about what’s it like to be a content creator? How you edit, weirdest brand deals and experiences with other UA-camrs? Maybe you can do duo interviews and have one person be the interviewer to see the dynamic between two people? :) love the pod and I can’t wait to see where this goes
omg i agree with Elliot! i clean my feet everyday in the shower 🤣 because i feel like if you don't clean your feet it's one of the reason the feet gonna smell and we walk & use our feet everyday so it's definitely need some cleaning 😂😂
My biggest insecurity was definitely my eczema. Moving from Australia (Dry) to Singapore (Humid), I went from just a bit around the ears to around my joints of my knees and elbows. It was terrible scratching until I bled, after a couple of years it got alot better until i didnt notice it. Until i stopped exercising (forced because of exams), and lockdown hit, I flared up bad to the point where it spread to %85 - %90 of my body. I have recently moved back to Australia and after a few months my skin is under control. I do get flair ups here and there, but it is manageable now. I never paid attention to my body other than my eczema until I was 18. As said above I stopped doing sports (Swimming). This was the first time I started noticing some fat around my belly. Me being a swimmer all my life, I was quite lean. This was the first change I have seen in my body, feeling slower and heavier. I have been getting back to exercise and find it frustrating that my body can't do what it used to be able to do. It is a slow process, but we are getting there. A lot of this stuff was a mental thing. Me feeling uncomfortable when my skin is weeping from scratching or how I see my self in the mirror.
I really liked the part where you guys talked about body image and sex in a very real and vulnerable way. I kind of miss that in your personal channels, since we are all adults here and sex is a big part of adult life. You should bring that subject more often to the podcast (if you are all comfortable with that, of course).
I loved this episode! I love that you guys are using the platform that you have to speak up and normalize things that most people feel like they are alone with. It's crazy how much it helps to know that even people brave enough to appear on millions of screens around the world every day feel insecure about their bodies, the way they speak or what they do. This episode made me think about my own securities (like my nose or the fact that I always feel like an annoying intruder in social settings) but put it into a different perspective. If you guys have insecurities and still put yourself out there for the world to see, then I can go out there as well, maybe not on UA-cam but into the world outside my home, with confidence ❤ Last, but not least: choke undies 😋
about elliot’s chin story, literally the same thing happened to me 😭😭 except I was 7 and flipped over the handlebars on my bike lol I still have the scar from the stitches on my chin
I recently started watching Ashley, and the entire time i was like wow she’s so pretty, and I’d kill for a nose like hers. I also thought it would be impossible for someone with a nose like that to be insecure about it. Comes to show things ur insecure about r generally not what people think at all
yay for new upload! I love that i get to watch all the roommates’ videos for the week and then this is like the perfect way to end it. Just chilling and talking with friends! ❤️
I really enjoy watching your podcast and each of your channels individually as well. Being a sophomore in college, I do relate to the topics you talk about. Keep up the grind! Also Kelly and Ashley you guys are so cute together:)
I had a business speech class where the professor threw candy at us when we used um, like or any other filler words during our presentations. It was funny, but really stuck with me and I use them so much less...even in life 😆
the whole idea of having a podcast is just so cool and tells us a lot about ur moms house but i just love how they’re so attentive and react so well to each other like at 36:51
one of my biggest insecurities has always been my stomach. growing up, i've always had this slight belly pouch, and no matter how healthy i ate or how much i exercised, that pouch never went away. for a long time it bothered me, mainly because the media i grew up watching was bollywood and kollywood movies where the main girl would have a toned stomach. my favorite actress is deepika padukone, so her body was the one i aspired to have. and then i started expanding into older movies and different languages, and i realized that the indian beauty standard used to be my body. actresses like anushka and rekha were praised to be some of the prettiest people ever, and their bodies looked like mine. it's a somewhat indian trait to have a soft tummy and soft features, and i didn't realize that because the indian media market has since become so westernized. so i think that brought me some solace. i also used to hate that i have hip dips until someone told me that god made hip dips so your future partner could have a place to hold you... and that's cute as hell. also, choke on deez -
Ashley I also have a flat face and it’s one of my biggest insecurities. I always wear glasses and I’m afraid to wear contacts because my small eyes and flat face will be more noticeable 🥲
I LOVED LOVED LOVED LOVED THIS PODCAST keep going guys i fucking love you guys so much AND I KNOW THAT YOU GUYS DONT LISTEN TO HATE BUT ILL STILL REMIND YOU. you guys are arguably the best content creators right now in my opinion. You never fail to entertain and you guys have such amazing energy. STAY ZESTY ❤❤ oh and do what excited ofcourse😁🤘
an insecurity i have is my head. it’s kind of flat in the back. I used to notice it from a really young age. I remember being 5 and crying because the pony tail didn’t look right and honestly it’s still something I struggle with
I could relate so much to this podcast. Insecurities really holds me back on many things even today. 2 of my biggest insecurities were my height and my voice. They were pointed out to me by almost everybody i ever met and although i try to not let it effect me but it still have an effect. I am also shorter than most at my age which also have an effect on me, I really like this podcast which I can connect and relate to.
choke undies - such a great relatable video! I have so many insecurities but thing school year has helped me be more confident. I was talking to another girl and told me she'd rather look how I look which surprised me, ( I'm overweight and not the best looking ) and she is a little skinny blonde girl. Her saying that made me appreciate my look more because I may not want to look the way I look but there are other people struggling, wishing they looked like me and I've started to keep that in the back of my mind.
Wow - my mom gave me the exact same advice as Ashley's on pinching your nose to make it appear smaller. That's obviously not a thing but I realized I kept doing it for years - even sometimes now. Another one is to not get too much sun in order no to get too dark. That goes to say how much a parent can have an impact on an insecurity - it validates it even more (like, my mom gave me that advice, so that must be right, my nose is actually big). If she actually told me "your nose is completely fine" things would have been different. I know parents mean no harm (they want their children to be accepted) but I think we should think more about what advice we give to children. It can create an insecurity that had no business being there.
This is such a great episode, I really appreciate all of y’all’s vulnerability here. It also made me realize just how early mine started and how bad they still are. Allowing me to take a look at myself and what I need to work on some more.
I love it😉! - kelly Got really connected with the experiences you guys faced considering we are the same age. Loved this pod so much. Keep it up guys love from INDIA. #dowhatexcites
Ashley love the way you laugh and, also be so much confident about putting yourself on social media. Kelly is the 2 name for confidence This man really does what he thinks is exciting for him
Honestly I can have conversations with girls about feelings emotions thoughts 💭 about people finding out about I’m addicted to the things I shouldn’t touch
just want to add. saying "mmhhm" "yeah" "then" is actually part of a good therapeutic communication techniques. it is like accepting what the other person is saying and giving general leads to continue on what that person is saying. so ashley don't feel bad about it. it is really good because it shows you're following the conversation
agree completely! i understand why it bothers some people, especially in a podcast setting, but the person “mhmm”ing is most likely just trying to provide verbal affirmations rather than self-insert.
it's called 'backchanelling', or 'minimal response'! it's a topic management strategy and, like you said, it shows the speaker that other participants in the conversation are actively listening :))
jackieewhackie exactly, like they want the listeners who are listening to just the podcast audio to know that they’re listening to whoever is talking
Absolutely 💯
This was actually the best podcast episode ever. Just real people talking about real things they’ve dealt with. Very relatable and comforting to hear you guys went through similar things ❤️
Ashley - pinching the nose is DEFINITELY an Asian thing! I'm Filipina and my mom and aunts did this to themselves, they did it to me and my sister growing up and have done it to my daughter as well! Having a flat nose is somehow considered less desirable than a pointier nose! 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Yeah I’m Latino but we still did it to “mold” our noses to look better, my mom would have a hot drink and her hands would get warm from the outside of the cup, and then she would and pinch our nose with her warm fingers.
West Africans do the nose pinching too
We’re doing the same in Senegal too !!
Yah same in malaysia. My grandma and my aunt would pinch our noses
as a psychologist student i can confirm that "mhmmm" and nodding is a great sign of active listening while having conversation!
I appreciate your efforts to continue sharing with us, despite all the negativity and pushback. I really enjoyed this raw and genuine episode. Thanks for sharing :)
we love our community!!
nobody’s pushing back people are just saying it feels off without Annemarie. I’d say about half of Annemarie’s audience came from Elliot snd Kelly originally and then another chunk of that half from Ashley.
@@Jensen-C that’s like. factually untrue. a ton of people have been sending them awful hate comments.
when ashley said she gets nervous about eating fried food, bread, french fries...i gasped out loud because that’s literally me and something im struggling with. i literally feel soooo shitty if i eat it.
You really should not fell like that at al!! All of those foods and ingredients have nutrients, and those nutrients are for your body and health, these type of foos are "bad" if you eat them constantly, remember; you don't eat for gaining or losing weight, you do eat for giving love, nutrients and health to yourself ♡
Ashley is speaking my language, for real.🤯 I don’t know if it’s because we have the same birthday/same star sign or what exactly BUT I completely agree with what she was saying about active listening. I do really love when people acknowledge what I’m saying otherwise I’m like did they even hear me or are they even paying attention... And I also have listened to y’all’s podcast before and noticed Ashley saying like a lot but I appreciated it because I do the same and it made her seem more human to me just knowing that someone who I look up to isn’t perfect ya know none of us are. Using filler words made her feel so much more relatable to me. And the whole feeling like you can express yourself better/more fluidly through writing, I also can totally relate to. I’ve always felt that way and I have also always wanted to write a novel haha spooky! Love Ashley and will always support her and ur mom’s house. You guys are all amazing and I’m so stoked to see what y’all have coming our way! Stay true!
I rly connected with this episode as a person that’s constantly battling w EDs. I appreciate you guys touching base on this topic and sharing past struggles. It really makes me feel like I’m not alone. ✨
Ps. choke undies
this is the goal of the pod❤feel like you're just sitting on the couch w some friends :) glad u could relate!!!
It's so wild that so many insecurities are birthed from kids saying the meanest things so casually not realizing that it sticks with the person for the rest of their lives.😩
This is my favorite episode so far! There really was no holding back and I was surprised how blunt everyone was. Your genuine honesty resonates, thanks guys.💗
As a wax specialist I’ve seen hair everywhere ! And honestly it is so normal for everyone i mean everyone to have hair in places we never thought it would be possible! So it’s completely okay 🤗 every body is unique in there own way. Hair or no hair
bro I have hair on my biceps. Didn't even know it was possible up until a year ago
I shave them
@@lucidgames2580 me too mate, hairy ass biceps broders!
Just hearing that the people you see on screen have their own struggles, especially having a female voice, makes so much of a difference. Like we all know that everyone goes through their fair share of problems, but it makes you feel like you're not alone. I really appreciate y'all for bringing this to light. Also, as a female, I've not heard much about male insecurities, and listening to Kelly talk and share was very helpful. :)
literally getting shivers listening to elliot’s hand emergency story. i’m so sorry you had to go thru that fjdkdksl
When Ashley said, " when you find the right partner they are not gonna care" and Kelly started laughing I was also on the floor laughing. Gotta love Kelly 🤣🤣🤣
I’m so happy and proud of them to open up about the thing most people would rather hide, definitely as influencers. Normally most would just show their best moments and it’s awesome to share the good moments but the not so great stuff is what makes us human. This helps create a healthy environment and view for the people watching. LITERALLY AMAZING INFLUENCES
“fuck please don’t be fully grown” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 so relatable kelly
This podcast felt really personal! Really loved it! Btw I really enjoy Ashley’s communication it feels more normal!
CHOKE UNDIES
You guys picked a highly important subject, and you did a great job with sharing and being open
Appreciate and love ❤️ your work
Mine was in middle school, when I realized my family couldn’t afford the nicer things, the brand name things, and often shopped at what the kids considered poor people store. I remember when converse shoes were the biggest hype in school and everyone had a pair. I wanted one so badly and my mom took me to Payless and we found something very similar called Airwalks which I’m sure people my age know exactly what I’m talking about. I wore them to school all excited and right away a girl called me out for having fake converses, I felt so ashamed and embarrassed I tried ripping off the logo, and just decided to never wear those shoes again... another incident at school when a girl complimented me on my lace top and asked me where I got it, when I told her I got it from TJ Max, her whole expression changed and she gave me a nasty pitiful look and just said “oh..”. I hated myself for the longest time because we couldn’t afford stores like Aeropostale and American eagle... which looking back at now is just so stupid and ridiculous. I just wish I respected myself more... like affordable clothes fucking rock!
This is honestly so brave and amazing. I think people are afraid to talk about their insecurities but a lot of people are going to connect and relate to you guys because insecurities are something everyone has. Thank you for sharing your stories
I truly appreciate how vulnerable and real you all are this episode. Let’s normalize talking about our bodies and sex!
So as a parent with 3 kids a bit older than you I can say this was an excellent episode full of wholesome honesty. I will say personally what you see as your greatest limitations can absolutely push you to overcome it - shyness, fear of water or being accepted, physical ability, work ethic, being interesting or empathetic - if you are not where you wish to be - make a plan and change; you are a human, not a tree - move on and reshape your world. I am pleased that our kids have seen us do this and know they always have our support - and that our insecurities didn't get passed down to them. Can't wait to see how you all continue to grow!
I actually really appreciate Ashley’s little comments in between conversations. I also do the same since it’s lowkey become a habit lol. And I recently just learned that it’s actually really good to show that you’re acknowledging what the other person is saying, to a certain extent at least.
I'm honestly just glad how raw and real y'all can be. Feels like such a safe place and podcast.
damnnnn I GET YOU SO MUCH ASHLEY! I can write really good but when it comes to speaking I kinda feel so shy and nervous.
I like how the podcast gives me a more chill vibe and a more relatable side of you guys. Yt is lovely but this is golden ❤️
Good start of the day watching y'all podcast 🫶
let's gooooo
What time is it where you’re from?
@@ariela_ 10am
@@ManilasVeryOwn oh nice, i was just wondering cause it’s 10pm here so when you said start of the day I was interested to ask.
I honestly feel so bad for Kelly because from the photos he’s shown, he was never fat. I wouldn’t even call him chubby. He just wasn’t skinny.
I love how the guys are uncomfortable about talking their sizes buuutttt they talk about it because they know there is a standard out there and not everyone is meeting that standard, and a lot of people can relate to it and that it shouldn’t prevent people from getting out there and be confident with what they have
yeah it’s like they’re talking about how they’re motivated because they don’t want their bodies to look how a lot of peoples bodies look.
40:43 you are not crazy girl, it is the bare minimum to do while talking to people (and not only to women)
i think that the "mmm" and "like" just shows that it is a conversation among friends that listen eachother and it keeps it natural, btw i really enjoyed this podcast!!
choke undies
I really enjoyed this episode! It’s very refreshing and it was a much needed reminder that having differences is okay. It was comforting to know that I’m not the only one with certain insecurities. Now that we are back to doing things in person, it’s really made me overthink and question my body and appearance again. Especially with taking off my mask for some reason. But yeah I’m definitely working on self love and accepting myself a bit more. Anyway, thank you guy’s for this episode. You don’t realize how many people you’ve helped. ❤️✨:> So proud of you guy’s!!❤️✨
Glad to see you all coming back strong with another episode.. okay back to watching the pod
OMG y’all need to clean your feet LMAO i agree with elliot. also not the non ass cleaning 😭😭
Yes please clean all your nooks and crannies! 😂😭
yes pleaseeenendnshe i will always appreciate being in an asian household for this. especially like if u touched poop with ur hand u wouldn’t just use tissue to wipe it off, you’d wash it so imagine the poop sitting in ur ass 😭😭😭
I loooove how u say mhm!!! Keep saying it !! It’s not annoying !! Those ppl say that maybe because they also say it or they have ocd and everything annoys them ! Don’t worry about it girl !! I promissse it doesn’t matter. We love it !
This is a very beautiful episode, very relatable and refreshing as well. I feel so proud of you guys 😘 CHOKEUNDIES!!
Ashley being so honest about her body hair is just what i needed since i myself have a lot of body hair
Saying "uhm", "like", "mhmm" etc. is a mannerism. I also say it a lot during casual talks but in med school, my proctors always interrupt me and remind me to stop saying them when I'm presenting cases. I'm doing my best refraining from using them but because I've used them my whole life, it is hard af.
Great Topics. Props guys… you guys are great on the inside and outside👏👏👏
I'm so glad I grew up on an island with so many people looking like me, definitely helps with the way you think about yourself...
I had insecurities growing up but certainly not as bad as another black kid who might be in a predominantly white country.
Elliot's voice is so smooth and soothing. It's so smoothing.
Maybe you should to a podcast about what’s it like to be a content creator? How you edit, weirdest brand deals and experiences with other UA-camrs? Maybe you can do duo interviews and have one person be the interviewer to see the dynamic between two people? :) love the pod and I can’t wait to see where this goes
I’m in so much better mood just listening to this. Love you all, hope you’re feeling great
All of u are looking stunning, love u guys💗💗
thank uuuuu
That was the best episode yet - loved it! Thanks for being so honest and vulnerable guys
what ashley communicate is soooo important, continue!
omg i agree with Elliot! i clean my feet everyday in the shower 🤣 because i feel like if you don't clean your feet it's one of the reason the feet gonna smell and we walk & use our feet everyday so it's definitely need some cleaning 😂😂
My biggest insecurity was definitely my eczema. Moving from Australia (Dry) to Singapore (Humid), I went from just a bit around the ears to around my joints of my knees and elbows. It was terrible scratching until I bled, after a couple of years it got alot better until i didnt notice it. Until i stopped exercising (forced because of exams), and lockdown hit, I flared up bad to the point where it spread to %85 - %90 of my body. I have recently moved back to Australia and after a few months my skin is under control. I do get flair ups here and there, but it is manageable now.
I never paid attention to my body other than my eczema until I was 18. As said above I stopped doing sports (Swimming). This was the first time I started noticing some fat around my belly. Me being a swimmer all my life, I was quite lean. This was the first change I have seen in my body, feeling slower and heavier. I have been getting back to exercise and find it frustrating that my body can't do what it used to be able to do. It is a slow process, but we are getting there.
A lot of this stuff was a mental thing. Me feeling uncomfortable when my skin is weeping from scratching or how I see my self in the mirror.
I really liked the part where you guys talked about body image and sex in a very real and vulnerable way. I kind of miss that in your personal channels, since we are all adults here and sex is a big part of adult life. You should bring that subject more often to the podcast (if you are all comfortable with that, of course).
I loved this episode! I love that you guys are using the platform that you have to speak up and normalize things that most people feel like they are alone with.
It's crazy how much it helps to know that even people brave enough to appear on millions of screens around the world every day feel insecure about their bodies, the way they speak or what they do. This episode made me think about my own securities (like my nose or the fact that I always feel like an annoying intruder in social settings) but put it into a different perspective. If you guys have insecurities and still put yourself out there for the world to see, then I can go out there as well, maybe not on UA-cam but into the world outside my home, with confidence ❤
Last, but not least: choke undies 😋
I love Kelly. So unapologetically open about deep things, things that others are afraid to talk about. Props to you Kelly.
about elliot’s chin story, literally the same thing happened to me 😭😭 except I was 7 and flipped over the handlebars on my bike lol I still have the scar from the stitches on my chin
i got pushed off a slide 😭🤣🫡
that touch of reassurance at 9:11. oh, gosh, so sweet.
Ashley's insecurities were sooo on point for me. Especially, not able to verbally express and using written format. And that shame around food 😩😩😩
I recently started watching Ashley, and the entire time i was like wow she’s so pretty, and I’d kill for a nose like hers. I also thought it would be impossible for someone with a nose like that to be insecure about it. Comes to show things ur insecure about r generally not what people think at all
no one's talking about the "my sister and her boyfriend" part 👀👀
LMAOO I WAS THINKING THE SAME, happy for her yeee c:
omg time stamp pls :0
they’ve been dating for a long time now!!! she just doesn’t talk about it
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@@Shegirlbossonmy wdym by they?
I can totally relate to what ashley said about active listening and being better at expressing in written language!
yay for new upload! I love that i get to watch all the roommates’ videos for the week and then this is like the perfect way to end it. Just chilling and talking with friends! ❤️
Loved this one! Also Ashley's ponytail looks adorable 💚
I really enjoy watching your podcast and each of your channels individually as well. Being a sophomore in college, I do relate to the topics you talk about. Keep up the grind! Also Kelly and Ashley you guys are so cute together:)
Out of context but I can't ignore it, I really like & love the butterfly on the wall. Anyways, this episode is so relatable. Thanks for your time ❤️
omg i was born & raised in socal and dipping fries in wendy’s frosties existed here!!! not an east coast thing LMAO
Agree it’s a thing in the bay too!
this podcast always sets the mood of my monday morning - i rly loved this episode
choke undies~~
I had a business speech class where the professor threw candy at us when we used um, like or any other filler words during our presentations. It was funny, but really stuck with me and I use them so much less...even in life 😆
the whole idea of having a podcast is just so cool and tells us a lot about ur moms house but i just love how they’re so attentive and react so well to each other like at 36:51
one of my biggest insecurities has always been my stomach. growing up, i've always had this slight belly pouch, and no matter how healthy i ate or how much i exercised, that pouch never went away. for a long time it bothered me, mainly because the media i grew up watching was bollywood and kollywood movies where the main girl would have a toned stomach. my favorite actress is deepika padukone, so her body was the one i aspired to have. and then i started expanding into older movies and different languages, and i realized that the indian beauty standard used to be my body. actresses like anushka and rekha were praised to be some of the prettiest people ever, and their bodies looked like mine. it's a somewhat indian trait to have a soft tummy and soft features, and i didn't realize that because the indian media market has since become so westernized. so i think that brought me some solace. i also used to hate that i have hip dips until someone told me that god made hip dips so your future partner could have a place to hold you... and that's cute as hell.
also, choke on deez -
This made me feel a lot better about my own struggles and insecurities knowing that other people experience similar things.
Choke undies 🤣
That joke at the end got me
LOL yeah i def remember amber saying that choke undies joke in a video
I love the podcast. Thank you all for sharing your stories
Choke undies.
actually we aren't the first people to ever hear about the choke undies (amber already used it on andrew 4 months ago haha)
Ashley I also have a flat face and it’s one of my biggest insecurities. I always wear glasses and I’m afraid to wear contacts because my small eyes and flat face will be more noticeable 🥲
CHOKE ON DEEZ hahaha yeah, I watched till the end. What a fun genuine podcast.
I LOVED LOVED LOVED LOVED THIS PODCAST keep going guys i fucking love you guys so much AND I KNOW THAT YOU GUYS DONT LISTEN TO HATE BUT ILL STILL REMIND YOU. you guys are arguably the best content creators right now in my opinion. You never fail to entertain and you guys have such amazing energy. STAY ZESTY ❤❤ oh and do what excited ofcourse😁🤘
I'm enjoying every podcast and everything y'all said is very relatable
an insecurity i have is my head. it’s kind of flat in the back. I used to notice it from a really young age. I remember being 5 and crying because the pony tail didn’t look right and honestly it’s still something I struggle with
I could relate so much to this podcast. Insecurities really holds me back on many things even today. 2 of my biggest insecurities were my height and my voice. They were pointed out to me by almost everybody i ever met and although i try to not let it effect me but it still have an effect. I am also shorter than most at my age which also have an effect on me, I really like this podcast which I can connect and relate to.
Thank you for talking about insecurities and this is the best episode by far .. keep it up guys ❤️
Just when I needed y’all 🥰🥰
we here 🥰
choke undies - such a great relatable video! I have so many insecurities but thing school year has helped me be more confident. I was talking to another girl and told me she'd rather look how I look which surprised me, ( I'm overweight and not the best looking ) and she is a little skinny blonde girl. Her saying that made me appreciate my look more because I may not want to look the way I look but there are other people struggling, wishing they looked like me and I've started to keep that in the back of my mind.
Wow - my mom gave me the exact same advice as Ashley's on pinching your nose to make it appear smaller. That's obviously not a thing but I realized I kept doing it for years - even sometimes now. Another one is to not get too much sun in order no to get too dark. That goes to say how much a parent can have an impact on an insecurity - it validates it even more (like, my mom gave me that advice, so that must be right, my nose is actually big). If she actually told me "your nose is completely fine" things would have been different. I know parents mean no harm (they want their children to be accepted) but I think we should think more about what advice we give to children. It can create an insecurity that had no business being there.
Absolutely love this type of raw conversations, makes me feel less alone, thanks for this
Ps: choke undies
Love listening to a pod from yall, keep it up
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This is such a great episode, I really appreciate all of y’all’s vulnerability here. It also made me realize just how early mine started and how bad they still are. Allowing me to take a look at myself and what I need to work on some more.
i love the discussion on body image both for guys and girls!! feels like ive gotten to know you guys better💗
Seeing new uploads makes my day!
YAYAYAY
Kelly are you kidding? Fries in shakes is an every coast thing *face palm*
I love it😉! - kelly
Got really connected with the experiences you guys faced considering we are the same age. Loved this pod so much. Keep it up guys
love from INDIA. #dowhatexcites
Ashley love the way you laugh and, also be so much confident about putting yourself on social media.
Kelly is the 2 name for confidence This man really does what he thinks is exciting for him
people really be out there not cleaning their shit hole... i see kelly in a whole different light now...
Love this episode! Definitely relatable.
The choke undies joke is absolutely incredible
Love how they're so open to us..... This makes me love and respect them more... No cap
Honestly I can have conversations with girls about feelings emotions thoughts 💭 about people finding out about I’m addicted to the things I shouldn’t touch
41:19 I gotcha Elliot, I knew what you were referencing hahah, especially when you looked into the distance and started nodding hahahaha
I really love listening to your podcast while doing my work. Wonderfull podcast ✨CHOKEUNDIES
Warriors game and podcast episode- best combo
lol same - kelly
I loved the topic, insecurities is a very huge thing and deserves an episode
38:48 Elliott says to Ashley “You don’t have to be scared of getting cut off” but he wants to cut her 0% equity of the house, yikes.
It was great passing time with you guys!! ❤Thanks for sharing ^^
best episode yet! more like this one please :)