I believe that in any 3 way friendship there is always two people who are besties and the third person who understands or doesn't understand their position
Even when the third wheel understands the two besties should not bring up talks that will keep the other wondering if they know she’s there or not or be whispering and giggling like…
The way some people lack the common sense and courtesy in 3rd party friendships. Personally, I’m not to the type to want to bind with a bestie’s besties (or set of other friends) one bit.. I’m always just polite when they try to come to me and that’s it. Dey your lane abeg
I think friendship of three works if the three people met each other at the same time. If two of them have already been friends for a long time, then if a third person joins most likely they are the third fiddle. But there are different dimensions to friendship so no one rule applies sha
I do have an amazing three wheel friendship, one thing we set as our priorities in the friendship is not expecting a lot from each other, I’m not saying my friends don’t pull up when we are in needs . Just be free,respect each other values and differences and be you. Another thing I personally don’t buy is “secret” if I cant tell both about my worries I’d rather keep it to myself.
I have been in a 3 way relationship I assumed I was the 3rd wheel… but they both share their personal concerns with me more than each other 😂 This is because I am the good listener, blunt and I wouldn’t tell on either of them to the other person. Anyway we broke up. But two of us are good, the other two are still besties. The one I am no longer friends with is actually the one who I thought was my ride or die. 😂 Funny
Being a very introverted individual, I love my alone time lol so for a three-way friendship it will be difficult for me to keep up. Close friendships take a lot of work and understanding to last. I also agree that three-way friendships might last longer if they all met at the same time in school even so it means they still have to create a balance to maintain the relationship.
This is suppose to common sense for people honestly, that’s why my closest friend and I have been friends for over 15yrs . We have other friends and that thing Nelo said about permission is on POINT!!!!!!! Jeezzzz I hate stressful friendships I can’t dealllllllllll at alllllllllll
Please may your next topic be about Nigerians who move to England and Canada, and start UA-cam channels 😭😭😭 title will be “don’t come to Canada” please i am tired.
My favorite rich aunties, you both shared so much wisdom in a very simple way in this video. I think the bottom line I drew from this conversation is jealousy and insecurity are the roots of issues like this. If you are secure, you know your place, not jealous and GENUINE, most of our friendships will be okay.
I so wish some people can understand that. I remember I'm varsity I was friends with this white girl and we were attending one lecture together that my other blck group of friends were not attending... Eish it was a problem... The way my friends would come, and fetch me when I'm with her oh my God and she even changed the course all together... It was not easy but as I grew older I love my space not easy at all to make friends and I'm really ok with this... I'm just friends with my siblings even though we are staying far from each other... But I'm high school I was so comfortable being friends with guys than girl because there was just no wahala there... When I'm with my group it was books, books books all the way and we were all working so hard to be in that top 5 and it was so amazing
Exactly, I tell people that my best friend have never quarrelled because I know what she likes and dislikes so why will I do what she dislikes? This life is not hard if we use our senses. Thank you, aunties ❤
I have 3 way friendships, I have 4 way friendships and even larger groups but as you said know your place, even within the 3 way friendships we all have different individual relationships with one another. Know your place and know peace. In one of my friendship group, someone once made a joke that the love me and a certain lady have is number one and the rest of them are coming behind 😂😂😂😂, we all laughed about it and that was it. There are others there too that I know that the level of their closeness is different from the rest of us
Waooh, this is very interesting. However, some friends will cause problems between two friends and want you to do away with your close friend and even want you to be enemies to whoever they are enemies with.
I love this friendship you both share. This video was really insightful❤❤ I once had a 3party friendship but it fell apart when I fell out with one, safe to say I'm not doing it again. I don't even do besties but I have good close friends 😊
Do I even have a bestie? My bestie used to be my only sister, now she is late. Most people I have around me now are competitors, jealous and envious human beings. Always trying to compare themselves with what I have. While I don't think that way and i do my things. Let me say my besties are my children and my husband. My sister continue to rest in peace Nelo and Adeeze, i so much admire your friendship. Please keep it, very difficult to get.
My favorite combo!! Most time the third party even tries to poison the mind of the order bestie just so they (the besties) fall apart and become closer friends with them(the 3rd party). I really enjoyed the video 😊
Hmmn I got a whole lot of points here👌👌👌 you don't force your likes and personality on anyone 🤣 Individual differences is one thing we need to put in place.
I’m friendly but I don’t have close friends; because I love being alone or just my husband and kids 😂😂😂😂. I am the one friends get mad @ for not wanting to hang out 😂😂or just cancel last minute. Great discussion guys , enjoyed.
In my Uni days, we were 3 friends that does everything together, just that two were always closer and d 3 person was just a third wheel. We survived d 4 years Sha. As at now, I barely talk with the 3rd wheel😂😭😭 You both are friendship goals for some people like me.
I think the important thing is know which role you play in whatever friendship you have and accept it. If you can’t accept it just carry your bags and go. Instead of being angry in a friendship or being bitter
Fact is that..never gossip about your friend or anybody....live a life free of gossip.. then your relationships would last.. the moment gossip comes in with or without your knowledge ... that friendship will crumble with time. No two way.. it's a fact
I feel like you both have a healthy friendship and a healthy idea on what friendship means. It’s sooo refreshing and beautiful to see. The video is full of sense love ittt!
Ive just discovered these 2 en this is my 1st watch..... beautiful. Im seeing the most recent post is over 7 months ago, is the channel still up? Thanks to Neze i found them
We had a friendship of 3 once where I worked. I met them there but they were so honest and straight with me and likewise. We were called a mafia then and it was a great one.
Friendship of 3 never works, 2 must be against 1, especially when one is having issue with the second person, the third person have to agree to one and team up against the other one
I really and truly can relate to this topic. I’m an ambivert but more on the introverted side, I have never had circle ⭕️ of friends, it has always been a triangle of friends ( that’s myself and the other two) any other person involve to me na extra. With 3way friendship I think the key problem is, when two are closer(which isn’t an issue) but will be when they tend to have side conversations in the presence of the third person. I mean, Nelo knowing you’re the third wheel and Adaeze and Nancy always bring up conversations they’ve had before that only them can relate to, can cause this triangle to be a straight end to end kinda friendship. Personal, if I find the other two bringing up conversations they’ve had in the past that I can relate to all the time, “am I a house girl?” I’d rather not hang out with them than feel left out. I think this is always the issue with the triangle aside this every other this na escalation of wahala 😂
Too much wisdom in one video, I've been wrong in some and felt bad in friends who will talk to someone they met through you and extras and don't even see anything bad and even tell you to your face when you mention
Take home:Have enough friends for different purposes.
It will lessen the burden of expecting a lot from one person 😇
I believe that in any 3 way friendship there is always two people who are besties and the third person who understands or doesn't understand their position
Even when the third wheel understands the two besties should not bring up talks that will keep the other wondering if they know she’s there or not or be whispering and giggling like…
Nelo the wise girl you inherited your wisdom from your mum
The way some people lack the common sense and courtesy in 3rd party friendships. Personally, I’m not to the type to want to bind with a bestie’s besties (or set of other friends) one bit.. I’m always just polite when they try to come to me and that’s it. Dey your lane abeg
One friend I don’t have talk more of third wheel 😅😢
I think friendship of three works if the three people met each other at the same time. If two of them have already been friends for a long time, then if a third person joins most likely they are the third fiddle. But there are different dimensions to friendship so no one rule applies sha
I do have an amazing three wheel friendship, one thing we set as our priorities in the friendship is not expecting a lot from each other, I’m not saying my friends don’t pull up when we are in needs . Just be free,respect each other values and differences and be you. Another thing I personally don’t buy is “secret” if I cant tell both about my worries I’d rather keep it to myself.
2 is company, 3 is Crowd! Simple and short!! 😅
The most important ingredients in a relationship is love and respect. Be genuinely happy for peoples success.
I have been in a 3 way relationship I assumed I was the 3rd wheel… but they both share their personal concerns with me more than each other 😂
This is because I am the good listener, blunt and I wouldn’t tell on either of them to the other person.
Anyway we broke up.
But two of us are good, the other two are still besties.
The one I am no longer friends with is actually the one who I thought was my ride or die. 😂
Funny
I understand you perfectly.. female friendship is not for the week
11:51 I understand what you are saying Nelo. We are territorial and sometimes you just need to acknowledge the other person 😂😂.
6:04 Your friendship works because you respect each other. I have seen people who constantly hound and tease their friends who don't drink.
See ehn, you people have sense.... You are smart.....
I was just saying "Exactly.... Exactly"
Simple
Being a very introverted individual, I love my alone time lol so for a three-way friendship it will be difficult for me to keep up. Close friendships take a lot of work and understanding to last. I also agree that three-way friendships might last longer if they all met at the same time in school even so it means they still have to create a balance to maintain the relationship.
Beautiful best girls, may your friendship be preserved and remain delightful forever.
This is suppose to common sense for people honestly, that’s why my closest friend and I have been friends for over 15yrs . We have other friends and that thing Nelo said about permission is on POINT!!!!!!! Jeezzzz I hate stressful friendships I can’t dealllllllllll at alllllllllll
Finally... A relevant conversation! My ladies are back!
Please may your next topic be about Nigerians who move to England and Canada, and start UA-cam channels 😭😭😭 title will be “don’t come to Canada” please i am tired.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I thought that's a click bait. 😂😂😂😂😂
My favorite rich aunties, you both shared so much wisdom in a very simple way in this video. I think the bottom line I drew from this conversation is jealousy and insecurity are the roots of issues like this. If you are secure, you know your place, not jealous and GENUINE, most of our friendships will be okay.
I have a bestie and she is the Nelo and I am the Adaeze! And we understand each other so well.
The most important thing I learnt is know where you stand in any friendship
You ladies have said it all. This is how adult friendships should be. Nelo your glow is blinding. Give us a bodycare routine video.
For me it can work and it is all about understanding one another and especially if there is true love in the friendship yes 😊
The problem is being a 3rd wheel but trying to elevate yourself as a bestie to one of the other two 😂😂. Trying so hard to join their inner circle 😂😂😂😂
I am the Nelo in all my friendship. Life of the party and the most fun 😂
Three wheel friendship has never really worked for me. I am happy for both of you for maintaining your friendship in these challenging times.
Having friends for different purpose ,my husband says it alot know everybody character and appreciate their differences. Nice Ada and Nelo uncut.
I so wish some people can understand that. I remember I'm varsity I was friends with this white girl and we were attending one lecture together that my other blck group of friends were not attending... Eish it was a problem... The way my friends would come, and fetch me when I'm with her oh my God and she even changed the course all together... It was not easy but as I grew older I love my space not easy at all to make friends and I'm really ok with this... I'm just friends with my siblings even though we are staying far from each other... But I'm high school I was so comfortable being friends with guys than girl because there was just no wahala there... When I'm with my group it was books, books books all the way and we were all working so hard to be in that top 5 and it was so amazing
You people, are on point, know your place always, and don't control people or force yourself on people.
Friendship has to do with maturity and understanding but a lot of person dont see it that way. You guy's have said it all😊
Exactly, I tell people that my best friend have never quarrelled because I know what she likes and dislikes so why will I do what she dislikes?
This life is not hard if we use our senses.
Thank you, aunties ❤
Tailend is to have friendships with people that have sense and are mature
I have 3 way friendships, I have 4 way friendships and even larger groups but as you said know your place, even within the 3 way friendships we all have different individual relationships with one another. Know your place and know peace. In one of my friendship group, someone once made a joke that the love me and a certain lady have is number one and the rest of them are coming behind 😂😂😂😂, we all laughed about it and that was it. There are others there too that I know that the level of their closeness is different from the rest of us
Waooh, this is very interesting. However, some friends will cause problems between two friends and want you to do away with your close friend and even want you to be enemies to whoever they are enemies with.
Y'all channel is a learning field. A place to be.
I love this friendship you both share.
This video was really insightful❤❤
I once had a 3party friendship but it fell apart when I fell out with one, safe to say I'm not doing it again.
I don't even do besties but I have good close friends 😊
Do I even have a bestie? My bestie used to be my only sister, now she is late. Most people I have around me now are competitors, jealous and envious human beings. Always trying to compare themselves with what I have. While I don't think that way and i do my things. Let me say my besties are my children and my husband.
My sister continue to rest in peace
Nelo and Adeeze, i so much admire your friendship. Please keep it, very difficult to get.
Understanding and respect is key in a friendship.
As a lady called Ihuoma, I am honored to be mentioned in your video . Keep up the great work!
My favorite combo!! Most time the third party even tries to poison the mind of the order bestie just so they (the besties) fall apart and become closer friends with them(the 3rd party). I really enjoyed the video 😊
Yeah, it boils down to respect.
Hmmn I got a whole lot of points here👌👌👌 you don't force your likes and personality on anyone 🤣
Individual differences is one thing we need to put in place.
This was so lovely, especially the part Nelo you said something in your head to avoid argument.
I’m friendly but I don’t have close friends; because I love being alone or just my husband and kids 😂😂😂😂. I am the one friends get mad @ for not wanting to hang out 😂😂or just cancel last minute.
Great discussion guys , enjoyed.
In my Uni days, we were 3 friends that does everything together, just that two were always closer and d 3 person was just a third wheel. We survived d 4 years Sha. As at now, I barely talk with the 3rd wheel😂😭😭
You both are friendship goals for some people like me.
First 5mins and have gained a lot, this is pure word of wisdom 😍.
This Video!!! 10/10!!
A lot of female friendships breakdown o
Nancy is now our friend😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You women are very knowledgeable and so mature
You are doing amazing❤
I think the important thing is know which role you play in whatever friendship you have and accept it. If you can’t accept it just carry your bags and go. Instead of being angry in a friendship or being bitter
It's very simple everyone should just know your role in the friendship.
Adaeze is me I hardly ever call my bestie Bestie or Bestfriend.😂😂
It’s really funny because I’ve always thought you both are sisters o 😂…. But I enjoyed this conversation a lot 🥰 Love you guys❤❤
😂😂😂😂say make i go make them start that gossip....its so funny. Nelo see ehh u are always very frank in your words 😂
Fact is that..never gossip about your friend or anybody....live a life free of gossip.. then your relationships would last.. the moment gossip comes in with or without your knowledge ... that friendship will crumble with time. No two way.. it's a fact
You guys just explained what mature friendships should be
I feel like you both have a healthy friendship and a healthy idea on what friendship means. It’s sooo refreshing and beautiful to see.
The video is full of sense love ittt!
Respect people and respect their personality and individual differences.
Chai too much points in this video ooooo
Ive just discovered these 2 en this is my 1st watch..... beautiful. Im seeing the most recent post is over 7 months ago, is the channel still up?
Thanks to Neze i found them
This was a sweet, fun conversation.😁❤
Wahala for who dey carry friendship matter for head😂😂
I am in a last situation. friends with a big group.
So much wisdom. Nelo nailed it
Maturity is the main thing
The sense in this video sha!!!
Everything makes so much sense.
This just showed me that I need friends lol
Three way friendships definitely work but each person has their Favorite.
For me it can work and especially if there is true love among them and a good understanding 😊❤❤
Beautiful Nelo and Ada
Wait 😭😭 I thought Adaeze and Nelo were sisters? 😩
We had a friendship of 3 once where I worked. I met them there but they were so honest and straight with me and likewise. We were called a mafia then and it was a great one.
Beautiful and insightful conversation ❤❤❤
What do you guys now think about beauty,doyin and modella bbn friendship?
More of friendship videos pls, especially about yourselves cos it’s very relatable ❤❤❤
Friendship of 3 never works, 2 must be against 1, especially when one is having issue with the second person, the third person have to agree to one and team up against the other one
It works for me and my friends.🎉
It does work, I have that right now but what happens is that at different times two are usually closer and it changes
Such an enlighting conversation
This is a very interesting topic!
Maturity is always needed in friendship
Nelo please how can I get the microphone an you help me🙏🙏🙏
This video is gold❤️
I really and truly can relate to this topic.
I’m an ambivert but more on the introverted side, I have never had circle ⭕️ of friends, it has always been a triangle of friends ( that’s myself and the other two) any other person involve to me na extra.
With 3way friendship I think the key problem is, when two are closer(which isn’t an issue) but will be when they tend to have side conversations in the presence of the third person.
I mean, Nelo knowing you’re the third wheel and Adaeze and Nancy always bring up conversations they’ve had before that only them can relate to, can cause this triangle to be a straight end to end kinda friendship.
Personal, if I find the other two bringing up conversations they’ve had in the past that I can relate to all the time, “am I a house girl?” I’d rather not hang out with them than feel left out.
I think this is always the issue with the triangle aside this every other this na escalation of wahala 😂
Good conversation.
How about people like us that don't have friends talk less of knowing your place as the 3rd party 😅
Knowing how to navigate friendship 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌
Take them for who they are
This topic is very important and educative. i wish our fellow ladies will watch and learn .
Add numbers never work. Even is perfect, is equal . With add 1 is always left out!!!
Nelo u are a good friend. L can feel ur thought 😊
I just love you both ❤.. I love seeing you guys together 🥰
Matured thinking
Nice conversation 👍
it doesn’t i agree, i’ve been part of them, & always 2 is closer to each other than the odd one out (aka me 😅)
I loved this video, I learnt some things 😊
Loved this ! Well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾‼️ All the points you mentioned are SPOT ON!.
I just love you guys keep up the good work. I always enjoy your videos. Watching you from USA.
This is one beautiful and insight vlog I have watched this morning
Thank you 😊❤️
I just love you both!! Thanks for sharing this amazing video my queens ❤❤
Too much wisdom in one video, I've been wrong in some and felt bad in friends who will talk to someone they met through you and extras and don't even see anything bad and even tell you to your face when you mention
Nelo is looking very fresh 😍
Also, I have a random question. Do you guys tell each other I love you frequently?
My girls love you too and the wisdom