Design for the end of life | Elaine Fong | TEDxSanFrancisco
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Elaine Fong shares a riveting personal story to argue that we should consider thinking about the end of life as a design challenge." This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Christine was a wonderful and a brave woman, the bravest person I have ever known. I know Christine would be so happy about the beautiful tribute her daughter Elaine gave her. Thank you Elaine for sharing her story.
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You can add author to your list of abilities now as well! I bet you would write a beautiful book..I live in Washington state, I do belive that Oregon passed the law before we did if I remember correctly. Thank you, for loving your sweet, stubborn mother enough to see past your own feelings on the matter, to be selfless enough to realize her suffering, and the heart to be able to help see her through till her final design was created. I won't assume to know how faith, but I believe you're mother is with you and your family every day, in the stories you share, you guarantee that her memory will live on. And of course you only need look to your heart and there she'll be. Your a beautiful women, body and soul. I bet she was so very proud of you. God bless
That was beautiful. Much respect to your mom and all of you. 💜🙏🏻💜
Great story. It should be made into a movie for everyone to watch. I hope that law will change for the better.
She’s a beautiful speaker with a beautiful story! I believe we should all be granted dignity when we’re dying. I’m in GA so I don’t believe it’ll ever be an option here like legalizing marijuana...we’re in the Bible Belt and I just don’t see either of those being legal!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Peace be with you and your family.
Elaine Fong is too charitable to the oncologist for refusing her mother's request for end to her pain, "fire, my whole body on fire", she said when asked how her cancer felt like. He let her suffered for 4 more months. His excuse that he was new to California as he would have been aware of ' death with dignity'. My personal opinion is that he was more concerned with losing a patient as he is new in California , collecting clients numbers.
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@@malindaallen718 there is no sane reason for this doctor. I totally disagree with doctor and don’t know how the family could deal with him. There is no way I could. The reason the law is there is to be used when needed and this case was totally needed. So sorry for this family.
Very poignant. Thank you for sharing. Love to you and your family.
It’s sad, only 11 states have any die with dignity statutes on the books.
Thank you for sharing your story. Well done
This makes it clear.
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صدقت ياسيدي يارسول الله كل ما اخبرتنا به يتحقق أمام أعيننا كثر الزنا والقتل وتبرج وسفور النساء واستحلال الغناء وتمرد الأبناء على آبائهم وكثرت اللعن وغيرها كلها تجعلنا نتمسك بديننا ونعلم أنا ديننا هو الدين الحق ونبتعد عن هذي الفتن حتى نلقى ربنا وهو راضي عنا
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Thank you Elaine, for this beautiful and touching story. It's disgraceful that people at the end of their life, cannot be allowed to make a decision to go with dignity, far easier than they currently can.
Your mother, like my daughter, was brave! You are a proud daughter. I am a proud mother. Thank you for speaking up even if you thought your voice would shake. Big hugs to you Elaine.
That was a difficult, but fantastic monologue!
Thank you for normalizing the passage. Your story resonates deeply.
Thank you Elaine, for sharing such a difficult and yet beautiful story. We should all have the right to leave this word with dignity. How your mother treated the final chapter of her life should be an inspiration to us all.
‘Dominos Tuesday’ is a great little novel I picked up on Amazon about a group of senior citizens on their last legs who throw caution to the wind and take a dangerous sea voyage on a small craft in the name of “going down swinging.” It’s one of those books that I know I’ll reread one day.
Thank you and your brave mother for the great inspiration to this world.
How not to b touched when the end was near?
This is an exquisitely told story, thank you for sharing it. I was with my mother when she was in hospice care over 4 years ago, she had a great deal of pain at the end of her life with cancer. As someone who is embarking onto a new path as an end of life doula, your story has touched my soul. 💕 Blessings.
Thank you so much for this beautiful share of family time. Austria has only just decided to design its laws for legal assisted suicide as it is called here and as a hospice companion I was dreading to see this happen. Your experience gives me much hope! Thank you and blessings to you and your family. 🙏🏼🌈🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing your family story…my father and I are in talks regarding life as it will be going forward as well. It isn’t easy for sure and I’m the only child left to handle everything. Wow here I grow!❤
In this TedTalk, Elaine Fong tells the story of her mother’s passing and her choice of death. This talk was quite impactful, as I have never heard a physician assisted death story be told by the child of the patient. While Elaine makes a very heartfelt plea for legalization of physician assisted death nationwide, I wonder if we need to take a moment to ponder this from a different aspect.
The essence of physician assisted death, is fundamentally incompatible with the oath that physicians take. The Hippocratic Oath is an oath of ethics taken by all physicians. It requires physicians to swear to uphold many ethical principles, including medical confidentiality and non-maleficence. The concept of non-maleficence is one that needs to be evaluated when discussing the topic of physician assisted death.
Non-maleficence is the obligation that physicians have to their patients to not inflict harm on their patients. Harm is something that causes physical injury to a person that is deliberately inflicted. Returning to the concept of physician assisted death, death is the upmost form of harm. A physician willingly supporting and enabling the act of purposefully dying is a deliberate action of harming a patient. This seems to contradict the ethical concept of non-maleficence at its core.
While there are many arguments for physician assisted death, many of them tug at our heart strings. These arguments are typically founded on the ability for patients to dictate their own care. While there are certain patient cases that appear that death is a welcomed gift, we cannot forget that a physician must be involved in the process of the patient proceeding with death. Requesting this of a physician is asking them to violate the principle of non-maleficence which they swore to uphold. This is a very challenging concept as stories like Elaine’s mother are so full of pain, and death is considered a release from their suffering. However, it is negligent to forget about the involvement of physicians in these situations.
In conclusion, physician assisted suicide violates one of the fundamental concepts of the Hippocratic Oath taken by physicians. If the United States of America proceeds to make this nationally legal, physicians will be placed in positions of violating the oath they swore to uphold.
2017 was my first (and to date my only) TEDx event I've attended. And this talk was by far and away the most memorable one of the entire day. No slides, no stimulus, no photos. Just straight from the heart and delivered with passion and empathy and dignity. Elaine's talk was so moving and practically everyone in the audience was tearing up or crying by the end of it. Thank you Elaine for this incredibly inspiring and moving talk. It's the only one I really remember to this day, and I've told many of my friends and family about it.
4000 $ for one pill?
"Health care" is a business with profitability being #1 concern.
I could not and would not sign a DNR (do not resuscitate) while my mom was in the hospital, she died soon after at home in less than a day. I miss her so much.
The most basic of human rights. How can others see themselves as god over our own lives? My body. My choice.
One well ago today I heard the doctor say he was sorry I have recurrent lung cancer. It was my eighth cancer diagnosed. It was the first to EVER RECUR. I am dying. I have felt I am dying all year and I've lost 40 pounds and can't get it back. My hip started burning and now it's so many other places. Thank you for this I was mortified to hear the doctor said no. I hope my doctors don't say no.
I wish you peace and love
God bless you, Tigger. My father also died of terminal lung cancer. He was fortunate - without any "Death with Dignity" laws in Singapore, where we live, he died, age 70, exactly 3 months after his cancer was diagnosed. His brain was still as sharp as a bell, and he was lucid till a few moments before he died. He was a psychiatrist and he was also someone who believed in God with all his being; perhaps he willed himself to die.
When my time comes, I only hope I go this way too.
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I'm very sorry. Thank you for sharing this openly. I truly hope you have loving support around you as you deal with life and transitions whatever they may be. You are loved.
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Thank you for this. Thank you.
I appreciate this. I'm 59 with a progressive illness and trying to figure how to help my kids not worry about my end of life. I will figure it out and glad you brought this out in the open.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Your mom is lucky to have you for a daughter.
Oncologist makes more $$ if they drag you through hopeless painful treatments. Never ask an oncologist.
one of the best talk ive seen and heeard..it was touching...it came from the heart of a loving daugther...
Great message
Thank you for sharing your experience
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Great example of endurance
The speaker great
Thank you for telling and sharing
it should be everywhere x
Pretty damn good.
Thank you for sharing this! I like your mothers decision, I hope you help others to make decisions and more states to listen to patients!
If my family finds this, listen well because this is what I want! Only without the burning part!😍
I am foraging through the death doula, end of life planner, how can I help people who need to go through this? How do I prepare for myself, that is the first way and direction. I have been through the planning and execution of 2 grand-parents viewing and home health care and death because of age. I want my parents’ wishes to come true. But mine is the last resort, I finally will allow myself a street drug. Street drugs can almost guarantee an overdose. Then, it’s accidental death via overdose. Check your insurance policies. Check for fentanyl, unless you want to only spend $25? On an end of life drug. What does it cost to end your life? I have no idea because street drugs were never an option And aren’t an option now!
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Well, for heaven's sake, just change the damn doctor! She could sue him for preventing her her legal right to terminate as she wished.
Thanks for sharing that beautiful story! I’m crying‼️ 😭
I think that's what Doug Stanhope did with his mother.
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Just Great talk.
Blessings
Ya all that sounds good but they're not God and He Could Heal Them.
Really?
@@najaahamari4199 Yes Really!
Yes, God can heal, but it seems that He doesn't do it all the time. I am a Christian. I am in chronic pain. I have prayed for and have a lot of people praying for me. I am not being healed. When I was healthy, I was against M.A.i.D., but I have definitely changed my mind. I am not sure I could do it, but I sure learned a lesson about judging people who choose to die with dignity. You can't possibly know what another person is going through. I am also rethinking about M.A.i.D. being available to people with mental health problems. I am not so sure they should be denied.