Fixing the conversation before you respond definitely works. I've been telling my nephew for months now in arguments that I know damn well you understand what I'm saying. All this time I never knew that he was purposely not understanding in order to rattle me. Thanks for the info.
Thanks. Your videos have been so helpful. I am going through work harassment by one, now a group of hostile coworkers. They gaslight a lot. Along with other demeaning disgusting things they do.
There’s no magic formula for the time, unfortunately. If its a supervisor doing it, your best course of action (longterm) is to change your work arrangements - either change supervisor or change jobs entirely.
@Narcissistectomy Thanks. It's not a supervisor. It started with a toxic coworker who is female. Then the misery spread its negativity to others who decided to join in. The interesting thing is I don't know her or the others as this is new job. As I practice low to no contact, their insecurities becomes more apparent as they try to project on me. What remarkable is how quickly they create lies about me so they can fit into a toxic group. This experience is teaching me how desperate people are to find belonging in groups, no matter how negative. A shame, really.
In moment of huge confusion through things that were said then denied,i said ...."NO...my memory is keen,you said exactly this,and i know because i was flattered twice". She didnt pursue that gaslight
Fixing the conversation before you respond definitely works. I've been telling my nephew for months now in arguments that I know damn well you understand what I'm saying. All this time I never knew that he was purposely not understanding in order to rattle me. Thanks for the info.
Thanks. Your videos have been so helpful. I am going through work harassment by one, now a group of hostile coworkers. They gaslight a lot. Along with other demeaning disgusting things they do.
My question is how much time, as these toxic creatures seem to want to keep continuing their destruction at the expense of others.
There’s no magic formula for the time, unfortunately. If its a supervisor doing it, your best course of action (longterm) is to change your work arrangements - either change supervisor or change jobs entirely.
@Narcissistectomy Thanks. It's not a supervisor. It started with a toxic coworker who is female. Then the misery spread its negativity to others who decided to join in. The interesting thing is I don't know her or the others as this is new job. As I practice low to no contact, their insecurities becomes more apparent as they try to project on me.
What remarkable is how quickly they create lies about me so they can fit into a toxic group. This experience is teaching me how desperate people are to find belonging in groups, no matter how negative. A shame, really.
In moment of huge confusion through things that were said then denied,i said ...."NO...my memory is keen,you said exactly this,and i know because i was flattered twice". She didnt pursue that gaslight