I MOVED OUT AFTER LIVING TOGETHER FOR A YEAR - AND WE ARE STILL TOGETHER 3 YEARS LATER!!
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- Опубліковано 11 лис 2023
- I hope you watch this and can see how weird and new it is to discuss. We feel very different from all of our peers but ultimately although this was uncomfortable we have really enjoyed creating our own boundaries and timeline. I love my partner a lot and I'm really grateful that he's been so open minded - but I guess only time will tell to see if this experiment. I will say though that I have learned so much and have hugely relished the last 5 years so regardless of the outcome the process has been really good and oh so worth it.
I feel like a lot of people are going to watch this and judge us but this video isn’t for them. This is for anyone who just wants to see a slightly untraditional relationship working.
I’m also partly sharing this so that you can come along on the journey with us and support us because listen we will take the support and well-wishes. Let's hope that in 10 years we're looking back at this video chuffed that we did it our way and made it. This relationship format has felt isolating at times, but with some of you in our corner maybe that won’t be the case for much longer.
So much love always.. also please forgive us for some of the ramblings, this really was the first time that we had said some of these thoughts out loud leave alone to each other so I’m sure we’ve said lots of dumb shhtufff haha.
Xxxxx
Oh yeah and here is the link to the tiktok video mentioned:
www.tiktok.com/@misssmaiah/vi...
Timestamps
2.32 What is the backstory - How/ why?
4.27 How did I broach the subject initially?
8.38 What were your thoughts/ feelings on how to speak about this?
9.37 Do you not see living separately as a waste of money?
11.25 Were there difficulties in understanding eachothers wants and needs?
13.02 Steve's initial thoughts/ response to the change?
14.46 How did you make it work? What do you think is necessary to have in a relationship in order to have this arrangement?
15.16 Were you not scared of losing eachother?
16.32 What has been the most difficult thing about living separately?
18.31 How did you weigh up the decision - positive to negative?
18.56 How long do you see this lasting for & what are your future plans?
19.34 What have your families said about the arrangement?
19.44 Has living separately been a success?
20.16 Any advice looking for anyone looking to set up the same?
One thing I can clearly see is that this boy reaaaaallllly loves you Sav ❤
I love this! You can clearly see how respectful, in love and honest you both are with each other & yourselves. It's so easy to lose yourself in a relationship, which can often lead to downfall - so I really respect that you've implemented boundaries that work for you which in turn have definitely made your relationship healthier. Good luck with the 'experiment', excited to see where it goes (only onto bigger & better things I'm sure!) xx
appreciate this and you so so much xxx
Love your honesty. My therapist said a lot of successful relationships are where the couple live apart because you get your own independence but enjoy the time you share together. No petty arguments about chores etc.
I love this, fingers crossed it works for us xx
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Love this! After my last very intense relationship I think I’m HIGHLY interested in not rushing to move in with someone/having a long term relationship where I live separately from my partner. Many of my friends have discussed this same idea. Thanks for sharing your experience 💗
Hi this was so lovely, as are you. I really love your mindsets and the way you think about loving someone, and loving yourself, and how you are always kind, humble, and inclusive. I am honoured you would share something that will likely help so many people. Has really reassured me and also made me rethink the way I think about relationships, so thank you :) this is lovely
Sounds like a very healthy and mature choice ❤
Thank you for being open and honest.
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I have a similar relationship of five years + and we both live separately but near to each other. However this year we are now in an LDR (he's moved abroad due to work commitments). I don't know if we will ever live together but it works for us.
so interesting to hear the separation works for another couple. I don't know how this is even going to work for us in the future, but we're enjoying it in the now. I hope you and your partner are happy with your arrangement xxx
not living together is also something that solo polyamorists practice! I also have friends who live with their partners but sleep in separate bedrooms. I've learned that many "traditional" expectations for couples don't actually work for many.