You Are Not Your Career - Find True Confidence

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  • Опубліковано 29 лис 2024

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  • @ed2023first
    @ed2023first 11 місяців тому +3

    As someone who has suffered a serious period of burnout last year, i wish i had learned this lesson before. Thank you so much for spreading this message. Hoping this can prevent others from going through as much suffering as I did.

  • @markimel4947
    @markimel4947 3 роки тому +33

    Many corporations today use the term "Sense of urgency".
    The term is used to mean to complete a task in what they think is a "timely manner."
    Although challenging a manager on this concept would probably immediately lead to someone being ostracized. I've found it a sneaky way that our culture tries to leave us in a constant sense of TENSENESS.

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration 3 роки тому +36

    Brilliant topic, too many people focus on their career to define who they are

  • @obiwan3863
    @obiwan3863 3 роки тому +32

    I needed this. I mean I NEEDED THIS ❤ I've been struggling at work so bad over the past year, to the point where I daydream daily of just ending it all. I have been so incredibly stuck and lost. But this video here.....this is the message I need. Over and over and over. Noah you are a wonderfully beautiful human being. ❤ from Canada

    • @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE
      @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE 2 роки тому +3

      "Ending it all", the same thoughts that ran through my head the past 2 years, and now it's coming back, due to this damn corporate career!

  • @TheSkum
    @TheSkum Рік тому +1

    I am me not my job. LIFE CHANGING thanks Noah

  • @ahmadhelmy_
    @ahmadhelmy_ 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you🙏

  • @marek9081
    @marek9081 3 роки тому +8

    Sometimes I need that reminder.
    It's especially important if you hate your job and feel worse because of it.

  • @majid9723
    @majid9723 3 роки тому +18

    That's what I'm going through I don't make much money and I think I'm not worthy enough because of that
    thank you I needed this video

    • @INFPGamer
      @INFPGamer 3 роки тому +5

      Good point, it's easy to define ourselves based on how much we make especially compared to other family and friends.

    • @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE
      @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE 2 роки тому +3

      What I'm finding out later in my career is, you don't need too much at the expense of your happiness and health. You can stay with a decent paying job as long as you're happy everyday doing it, and see yourself doing it for a very long time! I'm in IT but I'm not happy, I'm stressed all day 24/7 even at home, but this is the only thing that I know doing, even if it pays high, I would rather go back a decade and start enrolling in a Master Builder course or being an animal vet, because I want the daily life of a house builder.

  • @petitsjoujoux5011
    @petitsjoujoux5011 3 роки тому +7

    This is incredible! I'm a violinist and I know that one day, my playing will deteriorate as I age and I'll be grieving the end of a career. So important to detach my identity with my career...

  • @genuineheart7070
    @genuineheart7070 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for the video 🌹

  • @helenastat3510
    @helenastat3510 3 роки тому +15

    If we are not our career then what are we? We spent most of our lives at work and modern society has put so much emphasis on achievement. Even the whole narrative around finding purpose and meaning through your career promotes that. I am struggling to understand what to focus on if it's not career. I feel people who might get promoted or favoured by colleagues are those who put all their eggs onto the career basket.

    • @luenanda4432
      @luenanda4432 3 роки тому +10

      I’m trying to understand that too, but the closest thing I can say is that we just are. We create these stories and meanings when we just are right now as we are. Weird to grasp and explain, since i’m struggling with goals too. Life is pretty damn weird

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  3 роки тому +9

      I will try to make a video that answers this part of it more clearly. Tough to answer in short reply. But I just want you to know that I totally understand your question.

    • @helenastat3510
      @helenastat3510 3 роки тому

      @@NoahElkrief Thank you Noah. Definitely feel heard here. Grateful for your time to make these videos on such important topics.

    • @helenastat3510
      @helenastat3510 3 роки тому +1

      @@luenanda4432 Such a lovely, soothing reply. Thank you!

    • @anushagarimella2322
      @anushagarimella2322 Рік тому +1

      ​@@NoahElkrief Hi :), wanted to know if you got a chance to make a video on this? I have the same question. Thanks.

  • @stevesherrilliii8589
    @stevesherrilliii8589 3 роки тому +2

    I needed this and wasn’t even looking for it… I love how the universe works!!!

  • @mollyswan-sheeran2670
    @mollyswan-sheeran2670 Рік тому +1

    Thank you. I am in the process of retiring from my life's work. Its what I wanted to be since I was a child, and I am in my 70s now. I still think of myself as being what I have been doing. Thank you for this wisdom.

  • @fruitcupshawty
    @fruitcupshawty 3 роки тому +7

    I cant believe this doesn't have more views. This video has changed my life.

  • @prachiabhyankar2813
    @prachiabhyankar2813 3 роки тому +1

    Your voice is so comforting and empathetic.. 🙏

  • @1107861214ali
    @1107861214ali 3 роки тому +3

    I agree with the sentiment so much. I used to work in retail where I was performing really highly in doing 30% of the store sales and used to treated with so much respect and given self-esteem and self-worth and the manager and buy you coffee and offer you a drink but when your sales were down they will treat you like shit.I think is a good way of looking at how society treats us and gives us the wrong messages which we as men judge ourself based on a performance.

  • @yz4043
    @yz4043 2 роки тому +3

    Yeah after working in customer service like having to talk to people all day I realized I want a job where I can just detach from the work emotionally because I find talking to people to be exhausting. I want to work with data not people. And yes I want a job I'm not super passionate about but I'm good at so when I do screw up at work (because I will) I won't feel a personal attachment to it. Outside of work is who I am.

  • @berritandersen288
    @berritandersen288 3 роки тому +8

    I lost my ability to work and it hurt so much. It tok me a while to grasp it. I am not my performance. I had to suffer i order to understand on a deeper level that this is not me.

  • @industryliaison
    @industryliaison Рік тому +2

    Thank you! This was helpful

  • @utubemovies393
    @utubemovies393 3 роки тому +6

    This was very helpful for the feelings of unworthiness I have felt. What an excellent video.

  • @raiontheone
    @raiontheone 2 роки тому +2

    That exact thing you described about an activity getting heavy is exactly what happens to me when I play League of Legends ( a famous video game ). I don't find joy in the game anymore because I really care about performing well in it, even if there's no good reason for me to do that. I don't know if I need to change my perspective somehow or just fukin quit it entirely.

  • @walaaali9711
    @walaaali9711 2 роки тому +3

    Great to find you! In my case, I don’t struggle to tell myself this logically but I do still reject it emotionally 🧐 like I still feel small when I get criticised about my work

  • @SongsbyCharleneApril
    @SongsbyCharleneApril 3 роки тому +3

    I love this. I will be re-watching this with my 8-year-old Daughter later today. Thank you Noah!

  • @jackhubert
    @jackhubert 2 роки тому +1

    Needed this. Thank you.

  • @pezeron24
    @pezeron24 Рік тому +1

    Refreshing

  • @kinjalshah6265
    @kinjalshah6265 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you Noah.... I dont know in some way... like when you just talk..it feels like you are a friend right here.. patting my back and standing beside and talking and helping... or maybe the other person in me talking... like when u take short breaks of rfew seconds to breath... i breath too... as if i was talking in my brain... and i close my eyes and listen to you... it feels something like meditation... thank you so much being there Noah...

  • @soag87
    @soag87 3 роки тому +2

    We are conditioned to this mindset at a young age. Small talk almost always begins with "So, what do you do for a living?" The craft you performed defined the status you held in society, going all the way back to nobles and peasants. Breaking this unhealthy association will take time, but it is long overdue.
    A similar analogy I tell people revolves around the association with sports teams. "If you are relying on the to validate your existence, you are going to be extremely disappointed most of the time."

  • @Christina-wu6sx
    @Christina-wu6sx 3 роки тому +5

    I liked this... i drew the circle outside of my circle...... it feels good.

  • @amrahmed5289
    @amrahmed5289 3 роки тому +3

    your videos changed my life Noah ... I'm so grateful brother

  • @burgundyknight6826
    @burgundyknight6826 3 роки тому +2

    Started at new company this week. I wanna be here for a while but I need to not put the pressure of success on myself. I have really improved my anxiety, working out, dieting, and taking healthy supplements, has helped, and im sure ill listen to your audio book agian while driving to different job sights. I Still working on myself and have a long way to go! Thanks Noah your point of view has helped a lot.

  • @Sharvin87
    @Sharvin87 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you... This is really helpful...

  • @Sarvankar_Nikkhil
    @Sarvankar_Nikkhil 11 місяців тому

    Feeling as if so much pressure is off my head after watching your video @noah thanks a ton for making this 🙌

  • @mirianarteaga5841
    @mirianarteaga5841 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you Noah! God Bless you

  • @coomartist
    @coomartist 3 роки тому +4

    Had a passing thought Noah - you ever thought about making a TikTok? Depression is so high nowadays among younger generations and the kind of videos you make, the information you're providing is practically unheard of on the rest of the Internet. It could be interesting to see shorter versions of videos like these on that platform. Wouldn't it be crazy if emotional release became trendy on TikTok? But it's your decision of course.
    Im really glad I got to run into your videos Noah, I feel so much lighter and freer with each passing day.

  • @sdsanayak
    @sdsanayak Рік тому

    Thank you, i dont know what else to say. This was necessary. Thank you for existing and making this video

  • @skillzzz
    @skillzzz 3 роки тому +1

    I need this. Going through a hard time with career and identity.

  • @billkliskey7496
    @billkliskey7496 3 роки тому +1

    So helpful, Noah. Thank you! Originally, the circle was about 80% of my 'you' circle. Shrunk it to 20% and moved it outside of my 'you' circle. I feel such a sense of relief. You may have saved my life.

  • @artamanda
    @artamanda 3 роки тому +1

    Hello Noah !
    Nice to see you again.
    Endlesslove & Happiness to you! 👋☺

  • @mehganbazemore2410
    @mehganbazemore2410 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for bringing me back to truth on this. Throughout the years of watching your videos, you have certainly made an impact on my life.
    Thanks Noah.

  • @statego
    @statego 3 роки тому +7

    Subbed for years. Watched many many many videos but this hits home.
    Thats my life’s problem i feel .
    I’v had so much pressure for so many years.
    Thank you for this 🙏🏻❤️

  • @rajravi8789
    @rajravi8789 3 роки тому +2

    Absolutely loved this video.. It took lot of weight off my shoulders.. Thank you!

  • @cairoweller8964
    @cairoweller8964 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Noah you inspire the way how I see life differently for the past 2mounths since I started watching your channel...You are amazing Thank you Again ...Life is Simple

  • @coomartist
    @coomartist 3 роки тому +4

    Interesting that we wrap our sense of identity around self worth, as if identity IS self worth

  • @ClydeJeffriesGaming
    @ClydeJeffriesGaming 3 роки тому +1

    Love this Noah. For whatever reason your words provide me with huge immediate relief. Thank you! 🙏

  • @maretabester9784
    @maretabester9784 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you Noah. This really hits home and made me think. My circle than went to the outside...so good. Your videos are amazing and have helped me through very dark times. Thank you.

  • @tommillitello4465
    @tommillitello4465 3 роки тому +1

    I really like this video. Its so hard to not get caught up with expecting a job to give me my self worth and to define me. There is so much pressure when a person has a career to be successful. Thank you Noah.

  • @ElieElKhoury19
    @ElieElKhoury19 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Noah! Your videos actually got me through a lot 6 years ago, so I thank you for that. And now that life has a whole new set of challenges, it’s really nice to see that I can still benefit from videos like this one. You’re awesome, I wish you all the best 😊

  • @soficatz4466
    @soficatz4466 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for the video. You actually explained on of the concept of Yoga. I wonder if you, yourself are able to not identify with your work and to watch the games that your ego plays. Does number of subscribers mean anything to you, do positive comments make you happy and negative make you sad? and so one. Great job, my friend!!!!

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  3 роки тому +5

      The journey for me seems to be that I notice some tension around the success of my work, then I deal with it, and feel super light about it. Then, weeks or months later, I notice another piece of tension that may be different or just a subtler layer. Then, I let go of that, and feel lighter. And it goes on and on like this. As I get more sensitive, my capacity to sense tension increases, which allows me to notice subtler tensions, which supports me to live with more lightness, calmness, and authenticity.

  • @rickyc859
    @rickyc859 3 роки тому +2

    Your videos have helped me so much. Thank you!!!

  • @jazdelamor
    @jazdelamor 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you! ♥️🙏🏽
    ..damn you made me cry lol
    This whole time is was trying to identify myself to what I love doing as my career.
    I’ve been jumping around a lot throughout my career. This whole time I thought I was supposed to be a healer. ..back to the drawing board lol
    Thank you for your time ♥️🙏🏽 much appreciated! Namaste 😌

  • @INFPGamer
    @INFPGamer 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this wonderful reminder.

  • @sanchiacharles3877
    @sanchiacharles3877 3 роки тому +3

    This is like... I want to just work in a shop or something and do music for fun but my ego is like NO you have to get a degree and earn lots of money and people will look down on me blah blah blah 😂 I'm gonna do it anyway

    • @saphone9758
      @saphone9758 2 роки тому +3

      I went the other way, and I regret it. Money didn't do anything for me. Don't lose your soul....

  • @KSudS_
    @KSudS_ Рік тому

    Great content Noah. keep encouraging people.

  • @bmanjj2
    @bmanjj2 3 роки тому +1

    I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much man 😊

  • @karmarising144
    @karmarising144 3 роки тому +1

    You are a 🌟. As usual very helpful, relatable and critical to happiness/balance. Namaste 🙏🌈🌄💕⭐🌌💎✨

  • @bink865
    @bink865 3 роки тому +2

    I'm very bad at my current job. I have resigned, but I still have to work there for three more months.

    • @polreamonn
      @polreamonn 3 роки тому +2

      Better to say that you and your current job/company are not a good fit.

  • @WillWriteForTea
    @WillWriteForTea 3 роки тому +1

    Love it, thanks Noah!

  • @wenxiuning7278
    @wenxiuning7278 3 роки тому

    Exactly what I need to hear now

  • @charityl7981
    @charityl7981 2 роки тому

    Your hair is just gorgeous

  • @meaghan8740
    @meaghan8740 3 роки тому +9

    Thanks Noah. I think for me, I tend to define myself by my relationships as opposed to career. I have noticed now that I am single, I often feel less than or a failure or like something is missing. Could i apply the same logic you presented here?

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  3 роки тому +6

      Yes, definitely. Thanks for sharing. I may make a video about this. That's super common.

    • @meaghan8740
      @meaghan8740 3 роки тому +2

      @@NoahElkrief that would be great! Thank you!

  • @stareye8
    @stareye8 3 роки тому

    This blew my mind. Thank you Noah.

  • @hodayapeles9276
    @hodayapeles9276 3 роки тому

    So true and so easy to confuse. But it makes me wonder- what makes you you?

  • @luenanda4432
    @luenanda4432 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for your videos, most helpful I’ve ever found honestly.
    Could you do a video on achieving goals while being present? It’s hard to find a balance, and feels like i’m always running away to the future in my mind. Maybe dealing with pain is the root cause? Thank you!

  • @yz4043
    @yz4043 2 роки тому

    Wow this video got me really emotional!

  • @valeriejoyce5407
    @valeriejoyce5407 3 роки тому +1

    Thank You ✨💜✨

  • @zimtot
    @zimtot 3 роки тому

    Thank you Noah!

  • @lampurnas
    @lampurnas 3 роки тому

    Very helpful content. Thank you so much Noah!

  • @andresraave3323
    @andresraave3323 3 роки тому

    Thank You for this content Noah!

  • @toota_
    @toota_ 3 роки тому

    What a great video!!! Thanks a lot!!!

  • @robbiemalcolm
    @robbiemalcolm 3 роки тому

    Noah, you are amazing (and your videos are great too). Thank you for everything

  • @sanaamoledina5669
    @sanaamoledina5669 3 роки тому

    I felt lighter instantly!

  • @temisdisciple
    @temisdisciple Рік тому

    Great vid.

  • @Peripatetic45
    @Peripatetic45 3 роки тому

    I needed to hear this - thank you.

  • @louieatkins-turkish1349
    @louieatkins-turkish1349 3 роки тому

    This is very reminiscant of your older content (observation, not a judgement)

  • @l3a3n31
    @l3a3n31 3 роки тому

    Could you please make a video like this but baout love and relationships? I would greatly appreciate it

  • @adrianajoseph7423
    @adrianajoseph7423 3 роки тому

    I love your videos

  • @minniemadonmakeup
    @minniemadonmakeup 3 роки тому

    Excellent 🙂

  • @Daneiladams555
    @Daneiladams555 Рік тому

    This just happened to me
    My business took a big hit and I'm depressed

  • @ten-ub4xd
    @ten-ub4xd Рік тому

    this all sounds good, but how am i meant to 'feel great' when i cant afford food or a roof over my head due to not being able to find a job no matter how many new skills i learn or jobs i apply for. Its pretty hard to feel good when you cant financially give or provide anything. You can be alot more generous with your time once you know you dont need to be devoting it to finding work..

  • @cairoweller8964
    @cairoweller8964 3 роки тому +1

    Hey Noah

  • @j.pdoyle7171
    @j.pdoyle7171 3 роки тому

    I would like to talk to you about an unusual topic for my obsessive compulsive disorder. Do you still do one on one?

  • @thejillykilly
    @thejillykilly 3 роки тому +1

    I have trouble losing even when we play card games. Help please!

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  3 роки тому +3

      This can be because we identify as smart or capable in some way. Alternatively, it can be programming about how winning equals happiness. Or, perhaps, something else.

  • @firstnamelastname4705
    @firstnamelastname4705 3 роки тому +1

    I don’t have a career nor want one

  • @mzshasta
    @mzshasta 3 роки тому

    ✍ Shrink work circle ✍

  • @marcelosilveira7079
    @marcelosilveira7079 3 роки тому +1

    Noah. How work practically separating your career from your own you? If we do that what this other "you" would be waiting for you? How to feel fulfilled with this new "you"?

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  3 роки тому +4

      Will make a video about this.

  • @Vinodreddy1612
    @Vinodreddy1612 3 роки тому

    Sir I'm a big fan of you.I want to educate my local people in my native language.Can I use ur content??[WITH YOUR PERMISSION]

  • @MrSdsok
    @MrSdsok 3 роки тому

    Wow my man hitting home runs, shame on UA-cam you don't have a million subscribers

  • @HeavenSevenWorld
    @HeavenSevenWorld 3 роки тому +1

    It's a good lecture for people paralyzed by anxiety, but it's gonna hurt underachievers who can and should improve.

  • @berritandersen288
    @berritandersen288 3 роки тому

    🙏

  • @sandbar3000
    @sandbar3000 6 місяців тому

    Good work Does not mean I'm good it. No, you got it all wrong. Having a job makes you good. Having a job makes you worthy of being alive. People that have no job. They are worthless and I believe it. I'm not talking about people that are children. I'm not talking about people that are retired? And I'm not talking about people that are disabled. That cannot work. I'm talking about everybody else. If you're not senior if you're not retired, if you're not a child in school. And you're not. I don't know, mentally ill or something like that. And you are capable, then what are you? I'm worthless because I'm not working. I need a job to have worth, and I need a job now. I'm going cuckoo I am going cockoo because I don't have purpose

  • @ddneq677
    @ddneq677 3 роки тому

    Are you a Cancer ♋?

  • @amerigo37
    @amerigo37 3 роки тому +4

    This doesn't feel practical. The modern workplace does not allow for low-performers it resoundingly disagreees with you, Noah. In fact it demands high performance, it demands you be your career. You're only as good as your last task, your last campaign, your last sale, and ad infinitum. Sure I can convince myself that I am not how I perform and I am not my career but I can assure you, I will be out of career options very shortly! Don't get me wrong, I love the sentiment in what you're saying but if you want to afford to live in this expensive modern world you will surely be punished for your non-conformity with this way of thinking. This is especially true if you work in a very toxic workplace under very toxic management like many of us do. Wish they all thought like you, Noah.

    • @Rancid_Ziggy
      @Rancid_Ziggy 3 роки тому +2

      You totally missed the point.

    • @NoahElkrief
      @NoahElkrief  3 роки тому +3

      I hear you. My perspective is that it's possible to perform well, and put in a lot of energy towards your work, without believing that your worth is based on your performance. Moreover, it's possible the quality of your work would improve because you could be more fully present with what you're doing. I'm sorry that you're working in environments that you perceive to be toxic.

    • @jay.jay.
      @jay.jay. 3 роки тому +2

      @@NoahElkrief I swear I started thinking this way after hearing your video and although I put in a lot of energy towards what I work I am now detached from it to prove my worthiness. My self-concepte is not attached anymore to how I perform or how I look like or how much money do I make. I exactly feel as you said - being more relaxed helps my brain to work better and my spirit at peace. Thank you so much for the video

  • @Daneiladams555
    @Daneiladams555 Рік тому

    People commit suicide over this issue

  • @sandbar3000
    @sandbar3000 6 місяців тому

    God doesn't love me. This God is mean, because if this start loved me. I would be working and I would be making 25 to $30 an hour, and that's what I need to live in southern California. And I'm a single woman and nobody's gonna tell me that I'm worth $20 an hour. When I know g****** good and well I am worse more than $20 an hour. Kitty, boppers make $20 in our egg McDonald's. Why should I make twenty dollars an hour when i'm worth thirty I am worth so much more and this god does not love me because this god makes me grow and beg for a job and I still can't find one I still can't find a job

  • @sandbar3000
    @sandbar3000 6 місяців тому

    You are what you do and if you're unemployed, then you're worthless. And that's what I believe.
    I need a job but because of my master's degree. You think I'm a good fit for doing? Why don't you work at Amazon? I'm not going to work at Amazon. That was a disaster when I did that when I was desperate. Oh AA year before the pandemic started. Yeah, that was a big disaster and then I don't know. A year or 2 after the pandemic started. I went to fast food because my landlord told me. Why don't you work in fast food? Our daughter does it well. That's great, mister landlord. Your 30-year-old daughter works in fast food. Does she have a master's degree in business administration like I do? Does she enjoy the job? And what's her skill set? Because my skill set is very different than what her skill set is. And I'm not going to do well in a fast food job. And I'm not going to do well in customer service job? Because I hate working with the public and the public is stupid

    • @surakshaguragain5538
      @surakshaguragain5538 7 днів тому

      Bro, a job is a job. That's what pays your bills. I also have a masters degree and work menial jobs because I am not in my country. I refuse to put my self worth on what I do. You my friend are very insecure. You put other people down for not having a masters degree. So many do work customer service jobs too. With the mindset you have, you'll put yourself in difficulties.

  • @yasirquershi3070
    @yasirquershi3070 Рік тому

    I request you to suggest some books which shed more light on the same....which would help me in creating a disconnect between my career and my self worth....which will make this concept more coherent and profound.....some philosophical and psychological underpinnings.....Please reply, I need it badly....